I went on a date with a woman and the whole time she complained about how bad men are and how we are worthless. I ate my meal, paid for my meal and she looked at me like I was an ahole for splitting the check. I told her I'm not paying for your food because you sat here all night telling me how much you hate all men. I'm not paying for someone who hates me.
and definitely wouldn't want such a fiend to be involved in raising children - just look at the utterly evil things these horrid creatures do to their male offspring much better to get a wife from a traditionalist culture that has mental sanity
Even young boys are held more accountable than adult women. There have been instances of young boys being graped by their female teacher and forced to pay their grapist child support. They don't want *_any_* accountability.
I lived with a feminist in a share house for 3 years. It was exhausting every conversation or argument came down to male VS female as if we are competing. Eventually I stopped negotiating my point and I just started saying what I really thought even if it hurt her feelings. In hindsight I am better for it though 👍
When they get ratchety, I just shut them down with the stern gaze and not letting them continue with their rant. They aren't used to someone standing up to them. Raise your voice with more bass, close distance, and lock eyes. Be direct and tell them they can express an opinion but they aren't going to rant and lecture you. They get quiet and sullen pretty quickly. Don't let them steamroller you. The more accommodating you become the less respect they will have for you and even take advantage of you.
I was married to a feminist for 10 very unhappy years. Never again. The single thing she did that damaged our relationship the most was told me how I felt and what I was feeling. Even when she was 100% wrong, she insisted she knew better than me what was going on in my head... and punished me for it.
Ahh yes, the "woman knows everything better" symptom of being a bad woman/feminist. It is a symptom of "not being able to let go and ALWAYS having the last word in any decision".
The old "women are more emotionally intelligent" but also "you are X star sign, which means you are like this" and "all men are super organised and secretly control the world." A really good basis to assume you can read a man's mind...
@@Muck006 Yeah I think theres a big difference between saying 'hey we can do this stuff too!' vs saying 'we can do it better than men, men are rubbish etc.' The first one is standalone and doesnt destroy men and is the correct and healthy way to do feminism imo
I find it hard to believe she didn't display the feminist red flags long before you tied the knot. Most feminists have low levels of self awareness and poor relationship skills. I doubt she was capable of a sweet and submissive role in the beginning only to show her true colors once you were under the same roof. As a man, you should have had more self respect and dumped her after the first or second date.
@@fjockey1 You're correct. I saw the flags, I just didn't know how bad it would be. My mom was a less-toxic feminist, and I thought my wife would be more like her.
The social media thing is huge for A LOT of men. We dont want our girlfriends and wives making TikTok videos and broadcasting our lives online to a bunch of strangers. Its a HUGE liability and just flat out childish. The attention seeking behavior is on another level these days.
I'm at this point where I am realizing there's basically just so much of a breach between me and other people that there's "irreconcilable differences" between me and women that use tiktok, IG, OF, tinder, twitter, and FB and who are active participants in modern culture. Which I feel so much pity for some of these people because they just don't know what they're doing wrong and meanwhile all of society is paving their path to hell for them, without actually realizing what they did wrong til it's too late. I feel like for me, as a guy, I had that happening too with various things when previously all I wanted was marriage and a family, but I am now at the point where the average white girl is just so undateable for so many reasons I pretty much gave up until realizing I can just go to other cultures/communities. Women born in the 90s or later or not even worth the effort. THe whole touchphone culture is so toxic and fucked up, like I keep forgetting half these people read and post YT comments off their phones, not a desktop computer. Social media is one of the biggest red flags there is to me now. Tattoos are one thing. If you are online all the time on IG, tiktok, etc. it's more concerning than tattoos by a mile. Still not as bad as booze, but that's literally just because I was an alcoholic so I can't have alcohol or tobacco in my life period. It's one of those things like obesity that just says so many other things about you I don't find it worthwhile considering.
Tell me about it, I have a feminist collegue that always find a way to complain about what I do. One day I was sick so I missed work, she said I was lazy. Another day I was also sick but not enough to miss work so I powered through the day, she said I was too prideful and that was toxic masculinity xD.
yep i have a few young ones at my work. Specially where they believe men care about what they do in life and that she needs to do the 50/50. But i know for a fact they will not be doing it all the time and wish their man pays for everything and treat them at nice places.
I have worked with 2 different feminist before (that i know of), but never had any issues with them, not even when we didn't agree on something. They stated their opinion in a respectful manner, and so did i. Maybe i have just been lucky.
the irony is they say they dont need a man and then complain that men dont want to date them. Im totally all for womens equal rights and being respected, but I really dislike the whole 'man bashing' brand of feminism. Men and women are equally great and should be treated as such. Just because some men have treated women badly doesnt mean that ALL men should be demonised. There are so many lovely men out there!
I have been treated bad by women. Does that give me an out-of-jail card for how I sometimes feel to treat nasty women? Not that I would do it, just as a case study.
Five minutes into a date with a feminist I had a great idea. I asked her do you consider yourself a feminist. Yes. Then i wouldn't dream of insulting you by paying for you. It went downhill from there. Engaged to a woman who lived with me. She expected me to come home and help her. She would do nothing all day until I came home. Yea I'm single.
I've heard that the #1 cause of divorce is contempt. Not cheating, not financial problems, but contempt, and it's almost always done by the wife, but for some reason, when a woman does it, she's praised by her peers, and told "You go, girl!", but if a man does it, he's a controlling monster.
No, you’re both wrong! The #1 cause of divorce is MARRIAGE in the first place. Why invite the corrupted government into our personal and intimate relationships with women??? No thank you! There’s absolutely ZERO positive and logical reason for a man to do that. Marriage is a social construct that only benefits women and incentivizes them to break their word/change their minds. In my opinion, that’s the very definition of a liar. If you want to exercise your right to change your mind and lie to me whenever you feel like it, I have the right to exercise my freedom whenever I feel like it.
There's a feminist at work who has a crush on me. She is cute, but she is constantly calling men trash, bragging about beating boys in soccer and never takes accountability when she messes up. (Which she does alot) Feeling the need to compete with us, disrespecting other men and never taking accountability. Those are my top reasons to not date a feminist. And it's interesting, because when women have pleasant attitudes, take accountability when they're wrong and are a joy to be around, they are often the most attractive people in the room.
The only way to "free" them is to ask a question (NOT directly to her, to a co-worker/"the universe" [talking to yourself]) and then WALK AWAY. Examples: - "IF the gender PAY gap was real (as Obama stated) ... why would there be unemployed women?" - "IF women were paid less than men ... why isnt there a single whistleblower across the entire western world that holds up the paper detailing the rules? Loads of women work in the salary departments of corporations and bureaucracies." The point is that she needs to "figure it out herself" ... [There is a movie with Leonardo DiCaprio ... "what is the most persistent virus? ... An idea!"] Just in case you MIGHT want to "play around" with fixing her.
Same situation with me at my job. From what I can tell a hardcore feminist woman seems to be very attracted to me. She asked me on a date, I got to know her. At first I thought she was beautiful, but then she became ugly as soon as I got to know her for a few weeks. She got very offended at my beliefs and values, then refused to talk to me to me for a month. Then after a month she talked to me again and apologized for being offended. She invited me to have a conversation and talked about how a "nice, respectful gentleman with a very strong aggressive personality" (her words) can believe such "horrible" things, she cried about how this was the case, and she looked sad and wanted to hug me. It seems like after she went on a date with me she started to look sad everyday from then on. It's clearly a strange dilemma for her. Her strong feminism views do not align at all with my beliefs and general way of living, and apparently that seems to hurt her deeply, because she told me before that all the men who she has dated or are family and acquaintances who believe in feminism are not "masculine provider" type men. I just ignore her mostly and have small talk, but I refuse to have deep conversations with her, and she doesn't seem to like it when I refuse.
My Mom and Dad were born in the 1920's, and lived through both the Dirty 30's, and Dad and all of Mom's brothers were WW2 Vets. Dad explained their relationship as "He will make the Living - but MOM Makes the Living WORTHWHILE." Men and women are different - They don't COMPETE, they COMPLIMENT each other. The Human Species (or any other sexual species for that matter) Can NOT SURVIVE without BOTH.
But men fight back against tyranny, whereas women normally comply, unless their babies are at risk. So, this is why the elite had to take the babies from the women, and now they make the women hate & reject the men. We men will be culled off until the Elite have a society of mostly docile, subservient women!
You're right. Men and women shouldn't compete with each other, they should complete each other. Both genders are fundamentally integral to humanity's continued survival, whether it be in relation to gender roles or even basic biological needs like reproduction.
Wow, someone gets it besides me! Yes, absolutely men and women were somehow made to complement each other. Each gender fills in the blanks the other doesn't. It's pretty simple, then again I was married to just one woman in my life for 29 years. I hit the jackpot and got it right the first and only time and I'm not looking ever again. Every woman I meet will be judged against my late wife. It wasn't all smooth and t.v.-ish. We had our ups and downs, but, we worked things out - together.
As a man I'm not going to try and find out that the feminist I'm dealing with is the good or bad type. The moment I hear 'I am a feminist" is the moment I'm gone. Life is too short to waste trying to figure someone out. And there are also plenty of women out there who don't identify as feminists. I am in a wonderful relationship with a non-feminist woman for the past 4 years and life couldn't be any better.
i would have to agree with you completely. i am engaged to a women who is extremely feminine but not a feminist. so much of a better relationship then my previous one. i have peace at home and an unbeatable support from my partner.
I dated a feminist, didn't really understand just how radical she was when we got together. She would bash me and men in general constantly. A few years later, I took my stuff and left. Being in a relationship with a man hater is not healthy.
@REALEMILYWKING. My ex is a liberal feminist, believes in equality when it suits women, it is just the classical stereotype really. She would say that men and women should have equal outcomes not equal opportunities. Which is hard for me to understand. I guess hate is a heavy word, she despises men is fair to say. She would talk down to me like I am a lesser person, which is very hurtful.
For number 2, it blows my mind how this isn't more obvious to more people. A man doesn't want to date someone who hates him and all men, anymore than a woman would want to date a man who abuses and hates women. As for number 4, this is huge. The relationship can thrive if each one takes on tasks and helps the other. Too many times, people post online about how much they hate doing things for their partner. But why? Don't you love them? I would think that the effort would come naturally when it's someone you care about.
Totally! The man I love is great at cooking and loves it, so I like the fact that he could look after me that way. But I would reciprocate by doing the dishes, helping him chop the veg, cleaning his bathroom etc. I would do it because I love him and want to make his life easier and thank him for all the lovely things he would do for me.
It's not about who hates who. Your partner can hate entire world. Doesn't matter. It's about WE is more important than I. Once your partner puts himself higher than WE it's time to go away. Because WE are happy and I am more important than u.
@@evos469 mine doesn't hate. I was trying to say.... Let's say she hates something that u don't care about. It doesn't harm your relationships. Unless you think she hates humans or male.
@@exothermal.sprocket I agree. But step one is getting out of that wrong type of relationship. And probably a pause is needed before starting another relationship to assess how one let that self destructive relationship happen. "Why did I allow it to progress? Why didn't I set boundaries from the beginning? What does a good relationship look like (I might need to ask others, spend time thinking outside my experience, engage in self criticism, explore things that weren't right in my grow up years)?"
What messes me up is my ex called you a "pick me girl" and completely wrote everything you say off just because you stand up for men's feelings and value.
It's almost like some women are entitled assholes who feel like they should be put on a pedestal and treated like princesses with nothing expected in return. It's almost like these girls have a sad future ahead. This Emily has kind eyes. It's like listening to the last of the sane people in this country.
It's just as ridiculous to call a woman looking to attract a man a _pick me,_ as to call a guy looking for a woman a _simp._ Nothing more manly than a married guy standing his ground, or more feminine than a woman holding her family together.
@@Vickzq It's because they're basically just bitter not getting what they want to have. Though at the same time, simpery is pretty retarded, mostly because a lot of the worst behaviors out there are being enabled. Like women just go out for free drinks and free meals every night because idiots keep enabling it, although part of that is needing to both be a good judge of character and holding your ground and saying no.
@@pandemicneetbux2110 I agree. I give real simps more benefit of doubt when young, because propaganda is rigged versus men... but when older... or male fminists... no excuse for that.
Feminists believe the types of femininity that men like and respond to are "oppressive," so therefore they think women who portray the types of femininity that men desire are somehow betraying feminism and inhibiting the proliferation of their ideology. It's just a shaming tactic.
My gosh, such good stuff. I had an awful relationship before where she would just HATE seeing me sit down after I got back from work. Would find some chore or something for me to do. I was just never at peace in that relationship, nor did she care to be my peace, or let me be at peace. It was just constant high stakes. Dealt with that for 6 years. I stuck it out for a long time until I was finally done. Staying single until I meet someone worth it who actually cares about what im feeling.
Yeah I heard about someone who really really wanted kids and adopted someone who is quite difficult. So when the husband comes home after a long day of work she just dumps the kids on him. I get that she needs a break, but this guy is now very unhappy
I do get the impression that with some women its all 'me, me me, the man is here to do my bidding because Im a spoilt princess,' with absolutely no thought whatsoever to what he wants and his happiness. Its like 'You have to give up watching the FA cup final because I want you to come on some tedious shopping trip to try on 100 shoes. ' No wonder men are depressed! But they cant say anything negative otherwise they get called sexist. Dont get me wrong, I hate mysogyny and I hate seeing guys make nasty sweeping comments about women in general. But we also need to be able to call out the bad behaviour of that sub group of women who arent nice to men. If we cant do that then things wont get better. But we also need to be careful not to let these bad experiences cloud the view of women in general because there are great and lovely women out there too! (Like Emily in this video for example!)
@@superfreakmusic7681 I think you put all of that very well. There are bad actors on both sides. And there always will be those who have poor behavior and unrealistic expectations. We all have to learn to be better and grow to be worthy of someone's love while prioritizing ourselves, but willing to compromise for someone who truly cares. Its a very delicate balance because vulnerability is intimacy. We need to know that person won't take advantage of us at our weakest. Feminism has caused an enormous portion of women to take advantage of the movement and to downplay everything men do, and it has created a lot of salt. I experienced it, and I did everything I could to support the movement, even hurting myself in the process. In general, my belief is the world is just very depressed and angry right now. Both men and women who aren't emotionally mature enough to pin-point the root cause. It will be okay, just keep our eyes peeled for the good ones.
@@rob9999 Yeah, the sad thing is that feminism should never have had to take that ugly turn. Women do deserve to be treated with the respect they deserve, but some of the bad apples have ruined it for the good women and the toxic feminist movement has actually made mysogyny worse IMO, so theyve actually shot themselves in the foot by being all angry and man hating. No one would want to support and champion women like that, let alone date them!
@@rob9999 Stop mansplaining, bro! LOL we shouldnt have to qualify ALL our statements by saying 'both sides are guilty' every time we ask women to take some personal responsibility! Men have HAD to take personal responsibility AT LEAST since we were 18 yo, but often much before that! Only women seem to enjoy the 'Pretty Pass' into adulthood.
I'm 55 and I had never heard of this phenomenon. What is happening in the woman's mind to get angry when a man rests or gets sick? I have a neighbor who said to me and her husband that a man will never do yard work or fix things unless the woman makes him. I thought that it was really a weird comment and that she must have had a bad childhood. But I also wondered if there was a feminist angle... I do yard work, alone, all the time, making it all the stranger for her to say that. Her husband left her...
As a woman, I'm SHOCKED (& disgusted) that there are women who DON'T care for their man when he's sick./recovering from illness. I don't get it1 I gue3ss I'm a DIFFERENT sort of feminist. It's never occurred to me to NOT nurture my partner: isn't that what LOVING your partner is all about???
What feminists don't realize is if they cherish a man they are with, then 99% of the time, the man will do EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING to make her safe and please her any way he can!!!
I think that most men believe that women should have equal rights and equal pay for equal work. But modern feminism isn’t about that. It’s just basically trying to create an environment where women have a winning situation no matter what happens. Men are still required to maintain the traditional role. Even more so because we have to be perfect and not have an off day. We don’t have to just be the alpha dog at work, but now we have to compete for that at home. There is no actual human respect for men anymore. Men are now supposed to be submissive when she wants to be in charge and dominant when she doesn’t. And then later said men will get left and/or deal with disrespect for allowing her to dominate ever in the first place. It’s just thoroughly exhausting. It’s a very emotionally unsafe environment for a man. Men are not as emotional as women are in general but we still don’t need to be in a home that minimizes the feelings that we do have. It’s not pleasant. Not to mention that the fact that we still have to argue about personal hygiene and shaving with feminists that think it’s fine that they can ignore their own fitness and appearance and health while they require their men to be in the fittest shape with the perfect beard and haircut and level of body hair they so desire. Men aren’t stupid. We know that women make sure they look good for the man they care about. If a woman really wants a man she’s gonna shave and stay fit for him instead of acting like any effort whatsoever is a problem.
Along with this, the argument that feminists make imply that we males don't have to work at all to obtain what we do which is completely false. We do not get anything just "handed" to us. We have to grind every single day to make our way in the world and even more so now than ever while they whine their way to the top. In my father's words, "they walk around in life thinking they hit a grand slam when they got intentionally walked."
Yeah Ive never understood that whole 'now you're married you can let yourself go' thinking. Surely you'd want to make even more effort because youve got someone to be sexy for?
For me it’s because GENERALLY you can’t have a conversation or tell a joke or any real moment without the woman turning it into a battle. They get combative and need a fight to win. They seem to be always “on” ready to fight and never seem happy because there is always a problem with SOMETHING.
It's the entitlement, the hypcrisy, and the supremacism. Case in point, I literally sat down somewhere after work and this woman (feminist) starts laughing in my face and I ask what. She tells me it's because I'd gotten so fat my buttons were stretching out on my shirt. So I said "oh yeah I know I need to lose weight." This triggered a fucking 15 minute lecture by this woman on how "you don't NEED to lose weight though" and morphed into this deranged body positivity thing, literally right after she laughed in my face for calling me fat. That's why I don't like feminism. That's why I don't respect anything feminists have to say, and I am unwilling to date a toxic person who I don't respect. Legbeards need to deal with the fact they are the mirror image of MRAs and entitled incels.
The literal number 1 problem universally true of real feminists is arguing. Arguing and hypocrisy. They also have no problem with lying and exaggerating.
@@Mani67899 lol "I'm just gonna put some words in your mouth you never said so I can try and turn this into a battle just like OP said" I just found out the other day apparently modern girls legitimately think that being argumentative is a good thing. Some of them are that devoid of empathy or ability to put themselves in other's shoes that they apparently don't even ask the question "is my man not getting off on the drama and chaos and my bullshit arguing? What if the arguing that I enjoy doing so much is NOT what my boy likes, and he is just *barely* tolerating me because he's a stubborn fuck who likes me and is trying to make it work?" Nobody likes an argumentative woman. Not even me, and I like a stubborn woman who's confident and internally strong. Being argumentative is a sign of immaturity, selfishness, and weakness. A really strong woman doesn't even need to argue, she can just glance at you. Arguing is shit children do.
My first wife HAD to have her way in EVERYTHING, even costing me jobs. I finally just gave up. I have (for the past 27 years) been married to a lady (and I MEAN A LADY). Real love is caring more about the other person than you do yourself, without losing who you are. We have found ways to combine our interests, share the positives with each other and to value each other. I support and value her feminity, and she values and supports my masculinity.
My now X girlfriend joined a feminist corporate group three months ago. We broke up two months ago. The amount of brainwashing in a short amount of time was astounding. When we met, she was a very balanced, almost conservative leaning and that shifted insanely fast and then I turned into I'm the enemy.
That's why in the Garden, the serpent approached Eve, not Adam. Corporate women (especially HR) are a big red flag. They belong at home nurturing children, not in board rooms where they are easily deceived.
She became a victim of feminism. Now she's just another sucker out of millions for the government to exploit her beliefs for their own gain and agendas.
*_"...brainwashing in a short amount of time was astounding."_* *NO - WHAT WAS REVEALED WAS PREVIOUSLY CONCEALED.* Feminism is indoctrinated into a woman's thinking over a good deal of time.
It’s the same thing with sororities too, best advice I can give if she was foolish enough to believe in a group that made her qualities as a person dwindle then she was never worth your time to begin with, stay strong bro
Good stuff. I dated a lot of feminists in the United States over the years before settling down with a gal from the Philippines. (I'm an American btw) A big reason why I eventually gave up on dating feminists was we just wanted different things. They wanted short term relationships and/or casual sex, whereas I cannot have sex with someone unless I completely trust them and have a deep emotional connection with them. They were hesitant to get married, if they wanted a long term relationship at all, marriage was something in the far off future, not something they wanted to consider in their 20s. In addition, many of them were not willing to change their names even if they were interested in marriage. That was a deal breaker for me, my wife needs to change her last name so that she really becomes part of the family. It is symbolic, but the symbolism is important to me. Furthermore, a lot of feminists have very toxic attitudes towards sex, they use sex as a weapon, and they think that they can use sex to get what they want. They also view sex as a "chore" or a "favor", which is not exactly conducive to a healthy sexual relationship. Lastly, and I think this is most important, a lot of these women don't want kids. That is an absolute deal breaker for me.
@GamingGalore64 There's nothing wrong with casual sex...as long as all people involved are happy with that. Neither is there anything wrong with not wanting casual sex either. From personal experience I can say that one-night stands are fun for as long as they last, but having sex with a woman I actually care about is definetly more satisfying for me.
@@HH-hd7nd Maybe there is nothing with casual sex, to you! Please keep YOUR religious views (or lack there of) to yourself! Many of us think its low-class, and hedonistic! The fact that you thought you had to defend casual sex when my guy was stating his personal opinions, tells us you seem to be seeking validation for your behavior! Why? Just do your thing, and let others do theirs! But good luck to you trying to find a good one! it aint easy!
@@inconnu4961 Ah - and just because I have a different opinion than you I'm not allowed to voice my opinion? Are you serious? Not to mention that people like you really need to keep THEIR religious beliefs to themselves instead of trying to force them on others. You have no right to judge anyone, not on the internet and not in person. "But good luck to you trying to find a good one!" Dude I'm 49 years old and happily married for 17 years (my 18th wedding anniversary coming in 2 months) - I already found a good one! If it's hard for you then maybe YOU need to reconsider your behaviour and views because people with realistic views and non-judgemental behaviour tend to have a lot more luck than you.
Without seeing the video I can say: - I do not want to be with someone who hates me. - I do not want to be with someone who sees me as the enemy. - I do not want to be with someone who does not need me.
7:16 This describes my wife and I perfectly. We're at 28 years of marriage and 23 of those years I was the single income provider. During that time my wife was a Stay-At-Home Mom who actively raised and homeschooled our children. After our youngest left home for the Marine Corps, my wife returned to the workforce as I continued working full time. Her return to work was four days per week so that on the fifth she could care for the home - this was her idea. This resulted in bringing in additional income + giving us weekends with one another because she bears the responsibility of household chores (dusting, vacuuming, laundry, bathrooms, errands, etc.). This is the ebb and flow Emily is referring to. It is the 100/100 effort from each person. It is both partners rowing in the same direction for the collective benefit of the household. 50/50 will result in 100% failure. Imagine doing an oil change...does he jack up the car and she puts the jack stands in place? Does he release the oil plug and she manages catching the oil? Truly consider 50/50....it doesn't make sense folks. 100/100 effort moves the needle of your relationship long-term.
The "cherry picking" is so true. Also, the excuses for the cherry picking. Back in the 1950's, when women didn't have jobs that paid much compared to the men who asked them out, it was wholly reasonable for a "man pays" attitude. However, if the woman has income that is approximately equal to that of the man with whom she's going out on a date, then they should each pay their own way.
I think an other important thing to note is we have a pride thing, and so while it is no big deal to some women to be sugar momma tier, it absolutely is going to drive a guy crazy because we base our whole value and self worth directly on the ability to pay for things and physically or otherwise protect females. So if you are taking money from your wife, and not spending it on your daughter, it devalues you as a man. Most guys won't admit it but they'll feel emasculated. So even so much as splitting the bill is seen as a slight to male egos.
@@jessiwolfe1818 At the very least, if you expect to be treated, find out what the other person is ordering and you order something no more expensive than that.
Top 1 reason: I don’t want to have a constant stick measuring contest about “who’s the man.” The last girl I talked to, it felt like it was everything, bc she didn’t need her life “mansplained to her” (actual words spoke….)
I LOVE your content. We need kind and understanding women like you in this world more than words can say. My mother was an angry feminist type who made hostile comments about men and me for being a male all the time while raising me. That gave me a terrible sense of self-loathing about being a male that used to make me fantasize about a sex change as a boy. I could never be with an extreme feminist. I hate it when women are okay with unfair double standards that show poor morality and when women have anger issues.
Angry feminism seems like man hating but is actually woman hating, hating of what is greatest in woman's nature: nuturing care. Sometimes angry man-hating is related to mistreatment by men that that woman has received and the only solution is kindness, healing and correct behavior, not concessions to her anger.
Me I'm just glad I live alone. No wife no girlfriend. I'm a lot happier. My house is my house. It's payed for .my jeep is payed for .no one to answer to just my cat .lol .and she's cheap. I have a good life. 👍 thanks for your time .I like what you said .Emily
What a breath of ocean breeze you are. Listening to you actually makes me very grateful to be single again ( widower who was married just shy 25 years to an angel) i would much reather remain in a free peaceful single life than spend one second with a cold blooded man hater. No thanks. And btw I have always been for equal pay for equal effort.
Most guys would! the only reason why it wasnt so for a long time is: because society KNEW that men were completely supporting himself, a wife and kids. men were compensated better because they knew men would get married and SUPPORT A FAMILY! because a woman's money is still her money, but a man's money is the families money! We assume people were stupid many years ago! such hubris on our parts; maybe WE are the stupid one's?
I read some of these stories and I am so happy that I'm single. I never been in a serious relationship, only the on and off kind. I never met the girl of my dreams and probably never will because they don't exist. I'm old now but free from any obligations to a wife and kid(s). I do whatever I want whenever I want spend my money on whatever I want.
So once i marched with a feminist friend of mine on a women's rights meeting. I was wearing a sign "women had enough". I was thinking "i had enough". Later on i asked her to a date, she tapped me on the shoulder which is in mans eyes the biggest rejection you can face. She would put put guys into the friend zone like it was a punishment for them for not being "man enough". One time a couple of us were on a drink. So i got my chair and went to get me a drink, she came to the table with our friends and put her bag on my chair. As a gentleman i took another chair brought it to the table for her and put her stuff on her chair and sat on my chair. Other lady friends reacted like i did something weird. When she came and realized that i moved her stuff from MY chair she said " you do not do that to a lady". Do what ? Bring you a chair you can sit on? Do not worry i wont anymore. A lady would have said thank you, a feminist would get her own chair. Maybe she did not know someone was sitting there , she should have asked or someone should have told her. She left a boyfriend because he liked other girls Instagram while later on she was talking about how she is going to post picture of her but on Instagram to make money - a sign of a true lady.... So its ok if 10 000 people like her but on insta but if her boyfriend likes someone else its not ok. She was 30 then and no she was fairly mild with her feminism. Now i read this and think how old are these people 16? No its the 30's for both of them. This shit is real. I feel exausted from life from this bullshit double standards and i don't even have kids yet. The biggest thing is when a man sees this kind of behavior he basically looses respect for that person and her fight. I mean how can i support feminism if feminism tried to take away the chair i was supporting it from. I support the underdog, i support the troubled and the wounded , not some self absorbed, inconsistent , self proclaimed queen which is neither a lady nor a feminist (equality). I feel bad for myself for being disappointed in women in general... I think you ladies are great, the strongest person i knew was my late aunty. But ladies these days have filled their head with bullshit that will ultimately have a negative effect on themselves. All in all dodged a bullet there....
@@NoahMDub the march had its place, there were alot of women who were abused, supposedly every 5th women had an attempted rape. Look the worst thing that happens to us guys from ladies on a night out is we get blow off , the worst thing they have get is some creeper guy assaulting her, and they are smaller then us.
@@ThePhysics1234 LMAO! Every fifth woman, huh? I had a thing for a South African lady, and the stuff she had been through would put the average coddled american girl to shame. A date grape where she willfully sleeps with a dude, then has 2nd thoughts is NOT grape! Sorry lady! Men make them bad choices too, and we NEVER get to call it grape!
@@ThePhysics1234 "Look the worst thing that happens to us guys from ladies on a night out is we get blow off" Tell that to the boys raped by their teachers and are now stuck paying child support. This shit happens much more often now than people want to admit and women assaults men all the time; men just blow it off most of the time. But just stop the BS narrative of women always being the victims. It's bullshit.
My ex blasted men a lot. It got exhausting. There's times I'd ask her, why do you even want me? I don't know. Not sure she ever had a good answer. That dislike of men got dumped on me a lot. It's part of what poisoned our relationship. It's tough to be around that constant negative attitude.
Proper boundaries mean that it shouldn't have been tolerated even the first time. I want to teach my son 15 and daughter 13: don't accept mistreatment even as it's happening. Push back in real time and if it remains unresolved, back away. Look for sincerity and kindness, people who rejoice in others' happiness and wellbeing.
Dated a feminist once. Only once. She felt Father's Day wasn't something that should be celebrated because fathers were not needed, and when we had a pregnancy scare she said she would consider keeping the baby... if it was a girl. After further discussion, I found out she felt she had every right to abort any boys she might get pregnant with, because it was "Her body". Needless to say, we didn't last very long after that.
Bruh as a woman. Bruh no words. The world has gone mad. When I read comments I realized why I’m scared to go out there and participate a lot in the dating world. Sickening what that woman would say. Woman and Man are important. We need each other. This evilness is from the devil. I am 100 against abortion.
I just don’t want to date in general. I don’t like how are dating society is, less stress in life being single, don’t have to pay a bunch of money for a wedding, don’t have to worry about being cheated on, and don’t have to get approval for anything I want to do. Also seeing of y’all share your experiences and seeing a couple of my friends getting screwed over by girls rn, think I’m making the right choice
Its not JUST dating culture, its the total culture altogether! the fact we must 2nd guess our upbringing when it comes to holding a door open for a woman, lest she scream like a child ( a completely non-sexual human encounter) tells us just how pathological our society is becoming. My momma raised me to be courteous to everyone! Dont make me disappoint my momma just because you are a nutter of a woman! LOL
You are making the right choice. I socialise with women now and again, but they are not ever going to live with me. I have to have my own space to which I can escape.
@@danielmar4532 There is nothing wrong with wanting what we are designed to do, but I suggest reading Aaron Clarey's Book of Numbers to see what your chances are. It is quite sobering.
@@danielmar4532 I just want to add, danielmar4532, that the better women are in conservative rural areas, certainly not in the liberal cities. Also, I find East European women - although not as attractive as the Western ones - far more traditional and based. I think most Western women these days represent little more than pump-and-dump material, sad to say. Good luck.
Yes!!! I have been saying that relationships are not 50/50. Relationships are 100/100. Because if all you’re putting in is 50% and you expect the other person to match you with 50% that still means both of you are not putting the other 50% into the relationship for each other.
The sick thing hit home. If I got the flu, she'd leave a gallon jug of water and a box of crackers in the nightstand and leave town for a week. Once she put me outside for the day in 100 degree heat. I thought I was gonna die. I found her texts later. She and all her friends thought it was hilarious and wished I'd die for daring to be around where she might get sick.
@@supersentaifanboy It's all good. I lived. And I learned to never put myself in a position to depend on anyone ever again. Next time I get hurt or sick, I'll just pay someone to take care of me. All men should learn this lesson. Most women only love you for what you can provide. If you get sick or hurt, you'll find out really quick that they don't love you the same way men love them. It's all transactional for them.
How HORRIBLE. As a woman (& a feminist--but, NOT whatever this "modern" version is), it would never occur to me to NOT nurture my partner when he's sick!!! That's what LOVING your partner is all about.
I spent some time as one of those fools who dated a man hating, though more and more I realize I was just simping on her. For personal reasons I could understand a lot of where she was coming from and the more extreme bits I guess I brushed off to hyperbole. There was a lot of me having to separate myself from what she was saying since she was with me. I worked landscaping and this rich client was making me do a job that required heights and I have a fear. I went on a little rant in a text about rich people at my lunch to her. Her family is wealthy. She got upset with me for generalizing a group that she was a part of and informed me so fairly vehemently. I responded with Babe I'm not including you or your family but on the whole rich people suck and one of their jobs is going to get me killed. I then said I don't hit you with not all men everytime you talk about how all men are evil and worthless. She put us on a break, and after a little bit of time I deepened the break saying we shouldn't talk for a month to figure things out. at the end of the month I said i didn't want to get back together. I moved into a trailer in the mountains outside of Santa Fe had no car went for groceries once a month, made 400 bucks a month, gardened and took care of dogs. Found a peace I'd forgotten possible while I was with her
I genuinely believe when I say it, that when I see my partner succeed in her life, that's the greatest joy I can have. Seeing her grow, into a productive, happy person in the world, is nothing but happiness in my eyes. After all, she is happy, has something for herself, we can both share our stuff and feel accomplished, and that is healthy. That being said, I pity the women that just outright hate men. I am not talking about sexual attractions or anything, just the pure unfiltered hatred that men should all die. Those types of crazies bug us. Not the women that just want to be a part of the world, and have a job they like and be responsible and equal to us. That's ok. Empty hatred just because I was born with a penis, is unnatural and unnecessary.
My dating days are over and gone a long time ago, Emily! But I have 2 adult sons who have been dating - the youngest has recently found a special lady, thank God - and what you are saying is absolutely true! Thank God for women who think like you!
While my ex wife had a huge double standard when it came to being sick. When she was sick, she was the most helpless human above the age of 3 but when I had a migraine I got attitude about how long was I going to be in bed trying to sleep that off or it figures you'd finally get up about the time I'm going to bed. Interestingly my migraines went from multiple a week to when weather changes come through a few weeks after she left for the last time. The stress of never being good enough or making enough money was crazy with her.
I'm 40 and from India. My mother's generation were the first to go to work (born in the 50s/60s). None of them women in my family ever behaved as if they were better than the men. My mother and her sisters and my father and his sisters all worked and still adhered to their gender roles. Even today after retirement, my mom cooks most of the time and of course my dad helps in the kitchen everyday and he does the shopping, paying utilities and all the physical work. Of course my father also cooks once a week just to give my mother a break. My uncles are the same. Modern women have lost the plot. They think they can do all on their own. This whole "strong independent woman" charade is unbearable to be honest. I am single cos I refuse to deal with modern women BS and the laws/court will screw me over. I am now firmly on the MGTOW way of life. And you think it is bad in the West? It is insane in India. Here women are increasingly using false dowry cases, harrassment, marital rape etc to swindle men for shit ton of money. Also we have an absolutely insane law which says that it is rape if a man "promises" marriage and gets physically intimate. It is just pathetic. I urge people to watch the documentary "Martyrs of Marriage" available on youtube.
I haven't heard about modern feminism infecting India. That's terrible. Unfortunately I don't see things getting better as a whole anytime soon, but I think there are some women who are listening and understanding, and hopefully that small number will continue to grow. I'm kind of an old school feminist in that I believe in equal opportunity and equal pay for equal work(the same job), but not( all the crazy modern feminist stuff. I was born in the 60s and grew up in the 70s in the US to conservative parents. I remember back in the 80s, after 2nd wave feminism, when there was a lot of talk about sex roles, a college professor I had said "there is nothing wrong with sex roles, it's sex role stereotypes that are the problem". I think that 8s true, but modern feminists would say sex roles are a problem.
@@veggiegurl06 Indian situation is insane right now. Only problem is majority people don't know about what's happening due to no one speaking about it in mainstream media and we also dont have RP content creators like in western countries. Women are being given free money to win elections, free services like bus travel (irrespective of ecomonic status), free quotas in government offices, diversity hire in private companies are starting. I'd encourage all to watch "Martyrs of Marriage" and "India Sons", documentaries showcasing the plight of men in India. Fortuantely made by a woman named Deepika Bharadwaj, who's men's rights activist.
Start at 1:50 Nr. 1 = Men don't want women who want 'equality' without being equal. Nr. 2 = Belittling or harassing men, even the BF. (Men need to agree) Nr. 3 = I don't get this one and don't agree with what she says. See for yourself Minute 4, something like men want to work and not raise their kid and she has to agree. Nr. 4 = Men want partners not competitors, you do something nice I do too without keeping a count or expecting something from both sides. Nr. 5 extra = No nagging, men want to have real conversations over problems.
@@deanthroop8054 Don't know, felt like it. Wouldn't have done it if she has had added time stamps with the content. Maybe it annoyed me at the time that she needed 2 minutes to start a close to 10 minutes video, one that could have been summed up in 2. Why did you ask?
I know this seems like a matter of semantics, yet for me this distinction has helped immensely in wrapping my mind around the current trend and expressing how I feel about this double standard. As you said I feel that "feminist" refers to those who support and work for the rights of women and celebrate those marvelous and miraculous attributes of females in our world. Regardless of how it starts, if the bias is skewed in the direction of negativity towards, prejudice against and hatred for men, this is no longer feminism. It is "misandry" and those that hold these negative attitudes, angers, and prejudices against men are "misandrists," exactly as men who hate women are "misogynists." I think what I find most telling and horrifying regarding this recent trend is that "misogynist" is a common word in our culture and yet "misandry" is all but unknown. The balance of having both of these words to describe the tragedy of gender bias should exist and, in my opinion is necessary. Yet "misandrist" is rarely taught, as if a large portion of our social culture wishes to remain blind to it while man-haters hide behind the more positive sounding description of "feminists." Hate is hate. Perhaps if people were taught the correct word for the hate and how to recognize the difference it would expose the truth, although I doubt it would help the haters recognize themselves for what they are and how their hate affects those around them.
I am going to agree with you and disagree with you. You make mostly great points that i dont want to contradict. but as I have heard it, egalitarian feminism has accomplished 95% of its goals towards egalitarianism. feminism isnt NEEDED any more, neither are feminists! the vast majority of men have been raised in the egalitarian mindset and are perfectly fine with it. So any feminist will either be a female supremacist and/or misandrist (they seem to go hand-in-hand)! so i label those people feminists, and normal, sane women as egalitarians. so when I say I 'hate' feminists, I mean the supremacist/misandrist types, specifically. but like I said, i have no other bones to pick with your comment. You are on target!
I think your reasons are spot on, especially when you talked about competing vs. partnering. In a marriage/relationship, you have to work WITH your partner, not against them. If you're constantly worried about whether the other person is doing enough, the relationship isn't going to last.
These points are 100% correct! 1.) If you don't "need a man," don't pursue one. Live your life alone and happy. It's your chosen path. Embrace it. 2.) If you want to compete or keep tallie. Being with a man isn't gir you. You can call it "roles" or "a niche." But, people have to acknowledge they have different duties to split and take responsibility and accountability by actively making a choice. 3.) Acknowledging our different strengths and capabilities is not to diminish or admonition anyone. It's simply a fact of life, and working as a team completes this "circle." 4.) I would never accept a woman who remained on social media platforms. (If I were to consider her for a long-term relationship) I'm not talking about what you (Emily) do on social media. These are important messages and need more coverage. As for your 6-year old. You are correct. You need to support his healthy view of himself at this stage. You can explain the different ways that boys and girls are strong, when you think he will be receptive to it. Teaching healthy gender roles is not confusing. Especially if you allow for variation and not make the structure super ridgid. Thank you!
Very vocal feminists have been known to date guys that fit the machismo stereotype. I can't tell if they preach what they preach because they hate the fact that they are dating such a guy or if it is a defense mechanism such as a mate guarding tactic. If other women are afraid of men, especially the sexually arousing muscular hunks, then she doesn't have to worry as much that another woman will steal her man away. The problem is that the "dangerous" guys is also the viscerally sexually arousing guy. Because he has the capacity to be dangerous he has the capacity to make her feel safe. So in a sense she is effectively promoting to other women to chase after her man. But a part of the message is to not make long term relationships out of such men. So these sloots might sleep with her man, but hopefully wont attempt to have any kind of long term relationship. I think people who are not confident in themselves and their ability to communicate with or keep the attention of someone of the opposite sex engage in mate guarding tactics where they shame others for being sexually appealing. And so with women its why they tell women to be the opposite of feminine, fit and friendly. I think that is why the more feminist a woman is the more masculine, fat and confrontational she is. She has been trained, by less confident women, to be unappealing to men so that those unattractive women can have a better shot with the men they desire. I think guys do a similar thing when they tell guys not to be the vain jerk. What is this guy? He is good looking because he eats well, goes to the gym and cares about his presentation so he doesn't dress like a 2 yo. Also he has probably practiced talking with other people so he is likely socially competent as well as potentially competent in his life in general and such that confidence leaks into other things. This is practically everything that every woman wants and so for the loser men to get more female attention they need less men to be like this so they instead tell men to not do these things. To not get money or muscles, or to practice frame or game. Why? Because to be appealing to women is to manipulate them. Or so they say.
It's because they can't escape their biological programming, no matter how hard they try. That's what feminism does. It tells women that they need to ignore their natural tendencies and needs in favor of a false narrative of bitterness and contention.
This whole thing is one big shit test. They have collectively implemented a new mating strategy to find the most masculine of men. If you demonize masculinity, only the truly masculine will stand firm against it. Then they stick out like sore thumbs, making it easier to find what they are actually looking for.
The really funny thing, is that the only men they're attracted to are Chads, who are guaranteed to treat them like absolute crap. It's like a self-fulfilling victim prophecy.
You know, the more I listen to your content? The more I like what I hear. You make sense and you're being fair and balanced in your assessments and your statements; you're not saying anything that's not true. I'm sure there's lots of angry MRA types out there who are calling you a "chameleon" and angry feminazi types calling you all the horrid names they reserve for women who don't toe their party line, and they're blinding themselves to what you're saying. I couldn't agree more with what you said in this video, especially #2. When I was dating "feminist" women? I felt horrible all the time, like I was an inch tall, and to be brutally honest? They're not any better in bed--in fact, most all of them are false advertising in that realm. Trust me, I know. I don't date because if I can't find someone who is a good partner as opposed to a competitor who is out to tear me down, I can't be bothered. Simple as that.
I do believe in equality. I'm a male nurse and a father. I shared child raising duties as my daughter was growing up. I cook, I clean, I do laundry, used to change diapers, etc. I loved dating in Europe, where usually each person would pay their own way or we took turns paying. However, if a woman makes less than I do, I will happily pay more because I enjoy her company. I do not expect anything in return. Though some women have hated me. I have been known to say: A woman expects me to ask her out, pick her up, bring her flowers, open the door for her, pay her way and then say, "Yes, we're equal." In what way? BTW, my ex split up with me because she wanted to be with someone "more manly". Funny. The guy she married seems to be afraid of me, though he's much larger. Define more manly. I have saved over 1000 lives, trained alongside (but wasn't in) special forces, have driven explosives, trained in martial arts. Plus I was an Army mechanic and I'm certified as a chef. I'd be happy to find a woman who gives as much as I do emotionally in a relationship. That seems to be too much to ask.
I've been thinking, and granted I haven't thought it through thoroughly, but all the military stuff you mentioned, women get in by achieving lower standards than men...wouldn't equality of outcome mean that male nurses would get a pass with lower grades?
I appreciate your nuanced look at male and female relationships. As an lesbian woman who considers myself a feminist, I often find myself jaded at behaviors of both sexes. I hate the vitriol and misogynistic comments I read from, what I assume to be, straight men. I'm beginning to see that bad behavior exists on both spectrums, and that many women alienate good men with cruelty and double standards. I'm starting to appreciate that it's not always men being shitty, but that many women give them unnecessary grief.
Nice video, you're always very acurate with this stuff :) Number four really spoke to me and being 100/100 all in the relationship. I was married twice and now single for years. I like it but I'm also realizing this may go on for a long time, I was out running recently and shifted my eyes around to see my surroundings and got looks from someone cause they thought I was checking them out. Anywhere I go it's as if I almost feel attacked by the opposite sex.
Re: When a guy is sick... My ex would consciously or subconsciously, get sick or injured worse than I was, within ~4-12 hours of me becoming sick or injured. I am very sure that she couldn't handle the idea of being the one to caretake, and her only 'solution' was to be sick or injured _worse_, so that I was the more functional, and thus immediately the caretaker again. All sorts of toxic and abusive crap in that relationship, but this is one that pops up from time to time. Knowing that my partner is willing and able to caretake when needed is massive to me. Knowing that she can't or won't only makes me more cautious and afraid to get sick or injured.
That's awful.. I was born with bad health issues, and when my ex (still best friend 9 years post-breakup) and I were together we'd step up and take care of eachother, and pick up the slack when the other was sick. I'd be stuck in bed, unable to breathe, o she'd handle my chores and whatnot. Then when her periods had her on the bed doubled over in pain, I would pick up the slack for her and help her where I could. I couldn't even imagine trying to be worse-off just to push more responsibility on the other peron. Disgusting..
My ex who is a feminist, once said to me ‘what is even the point of masculinity?’ I’m glad it’s over. No one should be discriminated for their gender or made to feel shit or pointless
I love the point that you make of letting a man rest and take care of him. People heal QUICKER with care and men get back to the fight sooner if done properly. So, if a woman wants a man to get back at it, TAKE CARE OF HIM AND SHOW HIM YOU HAVE HIS BACK!!! He will be deathly loyal to you for this 😎👍
It doesn't even have to be extreme feminism. I married a relatively conservative woman 10 years ago. I watched her change into a masculine, bitter, combative, sexless NPC. We are going through a divorce right now. Luckily, I convinced her to let our son live with me. He needs his masculine father, not a mother who is going to demean and belittle him for being male.
They are easily susceptible to outside influences! I married a woman who i thought was Christian (the story changed as the weather changed), and I am Christian. We attended a smaller church, because we are both reserved people. The Pastor said they were new, because a schism had erupted and he was there to fix it. Well, i met one of those who caused it. An angry old feminist bitty. We locked horns early on, and after a few years of being in my wife's ear, my wife started to change and be distant. The bitty was also working on some other wives, and before I got out of there, the Pastor and his wife were counseling 4 other couples besides us, about marriage issues! She was a demon there to wreck the church and she had a field day! All the couples ended up splitting, i heard after the fact!
The wisest commentary I read from a woman (concerning women and feminist dogma) is this: "Most women are influenced by feminism to some degree. Including anti-feminist".
Equal opportunity isn''t feminism. Its the law. And feminism has been so effective and pervasive that effectively everyone born after 1960 is defacto a feminist. The question isn't if someone is a feminist, but to what degree.
_" And feminism has been so effective and pervasive _*_that effectively everyone born after 1960 is defacto a feminist_*_ ."_ Men *cannot* be feminists. _"The question isn't if someone is a feminist, but to what degree."_ You mean what degree have she been *influenced* .
My wife is handicapped. When we were raising our daughters and both worked, we worked different shifts. I made more money but her money allowed us the extras we wanted. There was no my money or her money it was our money. I watched the kids on my shift and was almost as good as she was. This was a partnership not a feminist dictatorship.
I love dating an Equalist, even a fair feminist, but not a feminazi who is angry at the whole male half of the species. My best partners love men, love my male body and masculine side as i love their female and feminine, and i celebrate their strength and ability to be independent and do tough things even when i am away with my work and can't be there to help. I am mostly attracted to strong women who don't tolerate chauvinism or misogyny, but who are still into men and celebrate our strengths and our beauty. And i have a fully developed feminine side, and it's amazing when women let me show emotions and not be an Ubermensch all the time.
My Lady isn't much of a feminist, she is what she is and I don't want to change any of that. She prefers me being the Manly Man that I am that gets the bills paid, gets the job done, and protect her. She's can go wherever she wants, do whatever she wants but she willingly chooses to be at home with me as I do with her. She's not subjective, she'll speak her mind freely and with no shame and damnit I love her 🥴
My sisters are both "modern feminists". One of my sisters is also a violent malignant narcissist who brutally physically abused me until I went full no-contact with her in 1994. Then she stalked me. For the next fifteen years. My other sister blamed the violence of which I was the victim on me. It was only after she exploded at me and then pretended that I was the one who had lost my temper that I realised she had brought her kids up to villianise me. So, my main reason for not only not wanting to date a modern feminist, but also to never even talk with one, is the violence and abuse. I'm all for equal rights and opportunities. I'm in favour of equal pay for equal work. But I'm also in favour of abusive women being held responsible for their behaviour
What I don't like is when a woman has a victim mentality, lack of accountability, and an attitude that is more entitled than grateful. We're seeing a push back on this stuff because of the increasing number of former feminists that didn't like the results a career focused mindset brought.
Scrolling on dating apps, I tend to avoid those claiming to be a feminist. To be honest, I support the original belief of feminism. The problem is I will never know how radical or what kind of feminism is on her mind. I think P! nk should be the perfect example of feminist. She might have a masculine appearance, but she is nurturing and cares about the weaker side in the society. She proposed to her husband. She could stand up for herself, but most of the time, not in an arrogant, rude way. I would not mind to date someone like that(even without that talent, fame and wealth). Not every self-claimed feminists are like that. I know too many female friends who have no problem putting men down and siding with modern feminism. I would rather not risk my inner peace on dating a feminist.
The "original belief" of feminism? You mean the stupid dictionary definition? *Look at ACTIONS not at WORDS!* What was the FIRST THING feminism did? They told women to "get a CAREER" (not a job, a CAREER!) and to make women do this they DEMONISED HOUSEWIVES! This turned the *_SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP between man and woman into a COMPETITION!_* tl;dr You are WRONG! Feminism is and has always been EVIL/DESTRUCTIVE, even from the beginning!
@@Eluderatnight I don't think she actively "transing" her children, she just didn't restrict/fixed her kids. That still didn't cross my line. The only concern is she might not intervene if some f-up teachers are transing her kids.
I went on a date with a woman and the whole time she complained about how bad men are and how we are worthless. I ate my meal, paid for my meal and she looked at me like I was an ahole for splitting the check. I told her I'm not paying for your food because you sat here all night telling me how much you hate all men. I'm not paying for someone who hates me.
😂YES! Perfect.
Power to the King
Good job, Bro!
If she didn't learn her lesson, I hope she gets her cats from the local Rescue Shelter.
Her mom did a terrible job raising her...
Oh, gotta add this: "The best thing she makes for dinner is reservations!"
I hope she got her own ride home, too.
Oh, it’s quite simple, no self-respecting man would want to be with someone that views them as an enemy
And never values or respects anything he does for her... thinking he would have handouts because of patriarchy anyway... and how oppressed she is...
"Um, excuse me. Did you just hold the door open for me?! I can hold the door open for myself, thank you very much!" Just combative for no reason.
@@barondystopia I have never seen this happen IRL.
and definitely wouldn't want such a fiend to be involved in raising children - just look at the utterly evil things these horrid creatures do to their male offspring
much better to get a wife from a traditionalist culture that has mental sanity
It sounds like you've never met a feminist.
The three “A’s” that ALL modern feminists want:
1. The authority of a man
2. The advantages of a woman
3. The accountability of a child
bingo feminist dna.
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Truer words were never spoken....
Even young boys are held more accountable than adult women. There have been instances of young boys being graped by their female teacher and forced to pay their grapist child support. They don't want *_any_* accountability.
@@latt.qcd9221 It's worse. Women have no idea what men want or need, and they have been taught by feminazis in college it does not matter.
I lived with a feminist in a share house for 3 years. It was exhausting every conversation or argument came down to male VS female as if we are competing. Eventually I stopped negotiating my point and I just started saying what I really thought even if it hurt her feelings. In hindsight I am better for it though 👍
For leaving? I gotta agree with you there.
When they get ratchety, I just shut them down with the stern gaze and not letting them continue with their rant. They aren't used to someone standing up to them. Raise your voice with more bass, close distance, and lock eyes. Be direct and tell them they can express an opinion but they aren't going to rant and lecture you. They get quiet and sullen pretty quickly. Don't let them steamroller you. The more accommodating you become the less respect they will have for you and even take advantage of you.
Women only respect men willing to put them in their place.
@@fakshen1973or, just leave…and let crazy alone.
Oh-so YOU’RE the controlling bully in your relationship? That’s not the answer either!
I was married to a feminist for 10 very unhappy years. Never again. The single thing she did that damaged our relationship the most was told me how I felt and what I was feeling. Even when she was 100% wrong, she insisted she knew better than me what was going on in my head... and punished me for it.
Ahh yes, the "woman knows everything better" symptom of being a bad woman/feminist. It is a symptom of "not being able to let go and ALWAYS having the last word in any decision".
The old "women are more emotionally intelligent" but also "you are X star sign, which means you are like this" and "all men are super organised and secretly control the world."
A really good basis to assume you can read a man's mind...
@@Muck006 Yeah I think theres a big difference between saying 'hey we can do this stuff too!' vs saying 'we can do it better than men, men are rubbish etc.' The first one is standalone and doesnt destroy men and is the correct and healthy way to do feminism imo
I find it hard to believe she didn't display the feminist red flags long before you tied the knot. Most feminists have low levels of self awareness and poor relationship skills. I doubt she was capable of a sweet and submissive role in the beginning only to show her true colors once you were under the same roof. As a man, you should have had more self respect and dumped her after the first or second date.
@@fjockey1 You're correct. I saw the flags, I just didn't know how bad it would be. My mom was a less-toxic feminist, and I thought my wife would be more like her.
The social media thing is huge for A LOT of men. We dont want our girlfriends and wives making TikTok videos and broadcasting our lives online to a bunch of strangers. Its a HUGE liability and just flat out childish. The attention seeking behavior is on another level these days.
I'm at this point where I am realizing there's basically just so much of a breach between me and other people that there's "irreconcilable differences" between me and women that use tiktok, IG, OF, tinder, twitter, and FB and who are active participants in modern culture. Which I feel so much pity for some of these people because they just don't know what they're doing wrong and meanwhile all of society is paving their path to hell for them, without actually realizing what they did wrong til it's too late. I feel like for me, as a guy, I had that happening too with various things when previously all I wanted was marriage and a family, but I am now at the point where the average white girl is just so undateable for so many reasons I pretty much gave up until realizing I can just go to other cultures/communities. Women born in the 90s or later or not even worth the effort. THe whole touchphone culture is so toxic and fucked up, like I keep forgetting half these people read and post YT comments off their phones, not a desktop computer.
Social media is one of the biggest red flags there is to me now. Tattoos are one thing. If you are online all the time on IG, tiktok, etc. it's more concerning than tattoos by a mile. Still not as bad as booze, but that's literally just because I was an alcoholic so I can't have alcohol or tobacco in my life period. It's one of those things like obesity that just says so many other things about you I don't find it worthwhile considering.
TikTok should be banned today.
Not to mention a way for China to collect your info and data
This
Agreed. FTS
Never date a feminist! Just working with them is enough. Why'd you want to come home to something like that is beyond me!
Tell me about it, I have a feminist collegue that always find a way to complain about what I do. One day I was sick so I missed work, she said I was lazy. Another day I was also sick but not enough to miss work so I powered through the day, she said I was too prideful and that was toxic masculinity xD.
@@maitrefromage7474 She doesn't actually sound like a feminist. But after your reaction here, I can see why she didn't like you.
yep i have a few young ones at my work. Specially where they believe men care about what they do in life and that she needs to do the 50/50. But i know for a fact they will not be doing it all the time and wish their man pays for everything and treat them at nice places.
I have worked with 2 different feminist before (that i know of), but never had any issues with them, not even when we didn't agree on something. They stated their opinion in a respectful manner, and so did i. Maybe i have just been lucky.
@@mysticstrikeforce5957 For a fact? Did you directly ask them about their plans? Or is this just bias.
Why in the world would I ever want to come home to somebody that views me as an oppressor and competitor? I'm totally not a masochist.
There are more than four reasons. 😂
💯
Tattoos, short haircuts, not acting/dressing feminine, excess piercings, double standards, no accountability, man hating. Yeah theres more than four
@@chrisschultz6129 Hell, not *smiling*.
She's just listing the main four not that that's the whole list.
How about they all hate men?!
the irony is they say they dont need a man and then complain that men dont want to date them. Im totally all for womens equal rights and being respected, but I really dislike the whole 'man bashing' brand of feminism. Men and women are equally great and should be treated as such. Just because some men have treated women badly doesnt mean that ALL men should be demonised. There are so many lovely men out there!
You sound to be a vary nice lady .I want to say something else you have a beautiful ❤️
Men and women are meant to compliment each other, not compete with each other.
I have been treated bad by women. Does that give me an out-of-jail card for how I sometimes feel to treat nasty women?
Not that I would do it, just as a case study.
Moral of the story: You get out what you put in. Feminists did this to themselves with their actions, behavior and tendencies.
@@Necrolord76 Tell that to men!!
Five minutes into a date with a feminist I had a great idea. I asked her do you consider yourself a feminist. Yes. Then i wouldn't dream of insulting you by paying for you. It went downhill from there. Engaged to a woman who lived with me. She expected me to come home and help her. She would do nothing all day until I came home. Yea I'm single.
I've heard that the #1 cause of divorce is contempt. Not cheating, not financial problems, but contempt, and it's almost always done by the wife, but for some reason, when a woman does it, she's praised by her peers, and told "You go, girl!", but if a man does it, he's a controlling monster.
Nah. #1 reason is financial issues. Which of course is often caused by women because they're the biggest spenders in the world.
No, you’re both wrong! The #1 cause of divorce is MARRIAGE in the first place. Why invite the corrupted government into our personal and intimate relationships with women??? No thank you! There’s absolutely ZERO positive and logical reason for a man to do that.
Marriage is a social construct that only benefits women and incentivizes them to break their word/change their minds. In my opinion, that’s the very definition of a liar. If you want to exercise your right to change your mind and lie to me whenever you feel like it, I have the right to exercise my freedom whenever I feel like it.
@@Laughing_Individualboth are weird if women initiate most divorces
Resentment, more so than contempt.
There's a feminist at work who has a crush on me. She is cute, but she is constantly calling men trash, bragging about beating boys in soccer and never takes accountability when she messes up. (Which she does alot)
Feeling the need to compete with us, disrespecting other men and never taking accountability. Those are my top reasons to not date a feminist.
And it's interesting, because when women have pleasant attitudes, take accountability when they're wrong and are a joy to be around, they are often the most attractive people in the room.
The only way to "free" them is to ask a question (NOT directly to her, to a co-worker/"the universe" [talking to yourself]) and then WALK AWAY. Examples:
- "IF the gender PAY gap was real (as Obama stated) ... why would there be unemployed women?"
- "IF women were paid less than men ... why isnt there a single whistleblower across the entire western world that holds up the paper detailing the rules? Loads of women work in the salary departments of corporations and bureaucracies."
The point is that she needs to "figure it out herself" ...
[There is a movie with Leonardo DiCaprio ... "what is the most persistent virus? ... An idea!"]
Just in case you MIGHT want to "play around" with fixing her.
Great comment.
Same situation with me at my job. From what I can tell a hardcore feminist woman seems to be very attracted to me. She asked me on a date, I got to know her. At first I thought she was beautiful, but then she became ugly as soon as I got to know her for a few weeks. She got very offended at my beliefs and values, then refused to talk to me to me for a month. Then after a month she talked to me again and apologized for being offended. She invited me to have a conversation and talked about how a "nice, respectful gentleman with a very strong aggressive personality" (her words) can believe such "horrible" things, she cried about how this was the case, and she looked sad and wanted to hug me. It seems like after she went on a date with me she started to look sad everyday from then on. It's clearly a strange dilemma for her. Her strong feminism views do not align at all with my beliefs and general way of living, and apparently that seems to hurt her deeply, because she told me before that all the men who she has dated or are family and acquaintances who believe in feminism are not "masculine provider" type men. I just ignore her mostly and have small talk, but I refuse to have deep conversations with her, and she doesn't seem to like it when I refuse.
@@Muck006 This is excellent advice, and possibly the only way to circumvent her feminist body armor! Good post, man, thank you!
That’s not just a feminist, The lack of accountability goes way past feminist, she has some serious personal issues.
My Mom and Dad were born in the 1920's, and lived through both the Dirty 30's, and Dad and all of Mom's brothers were WW2 Vets. Dad explained their relationship as "He will make the Living - but MOM Makes the Living WORTHWHILE."
Men and women are different - They don't COMPETE, they COMPLIMENT each other. The Human Species (or any other sexual species for that matter) Can NOT SURVIVE without BOTH.
But men fight back against tyranny, whereas women normally comply, unless their babies are at risk. So, this is why the elite had to take the babies from the women, and now they make the women hate & reject the men. We men will be culled off until the Elite have a society of mostly docile, subservient women!
Ladies and gentlemen pay attention to what this person just said
You're right. Men and women shouldn't compete with each other, they should complete each other. Both genders are fundamentally integral to humanity's continued survival, whether it be in relation to gender roles or even basic biological needs like reproduction.
Wow, someone gets it besides me! Yes, absolutely men and women were somehow made to complement each other. Each gender fills in the blanks the other doesn't. It's pretty simple, then again I was married to just one woman in my life for 29 years. I hit the jackpot and got it right the first and only time and I'm not looking ever again. Every woman I meet will be judged against my late wife. It wasn't all smooth and t.v.-ish. We had our ups and downs, but, we worked things out - together.
As a man I'm not going to try and find out that the feminist I'm dealing with is the good or bad type. The moment I hear 'I am a feminist" is the moment I'm gone. Life is too short to waste trying to figure someone out. And there are also plenty of women out there who don't identify as feminists. I am in a wonderful relationship with a non-feminist woman for the past 4 years and life couldn't be any better.
i would have to agree with you completely. i am engaged to a women who is extremely feminine but not a feminist. so much of a better relationship then my previous one. i have peace at home and an unbeatable support from my partner.
I dated a feminist, didn't really understand just how radical she was when we got together. She would bash me and men in general constantly. A few years later, I took my stuff and left. Being in a relationship with a man hater is not healthy.
@REALEMILYWKING. My ex is a liberal feminist, believes in equality when it suits women, it is just the classical stereotype really. She would say that men and women should have equal outcomes not equal opportunities. Which is hard for me to understand. I guess hate is a heavy word, she despises men is fair to say. She would talk down to me like I am a lesser person, which is very hurtful.
It should not have taken you a couple of years to figure that out.
@@SupremeOverlord10
That’s what I was thinking.
I refer to this form of toxic feminism as "equal as I wanna be"
Want their cake and eat it too
Want all the privileges without the burden of having to lead
All feminism is TOXIC.
Give the feminist what they ask for them they'll complain how men did what they asked but not what they wanted.
"All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others."
- Excerpt from Animal farm, by George Orwell
For number 2, it blows my mind how this isn't more obvious to more people. A man doesn't want to date someone who hates him and all men, anymore than a woman would want to date a man who abuses and hates women. As for number 4, this is huge. The relationship can thrive if each one takes on tasks and helps the other. Too many times, people post online about how much they hate doing things for their partner. But why? Don't you love them? I would think that the effort would come naturally when it's someone you care about.
Totally! The man I love is great at cooking and loves it, so I like the fact that he could look after me that way. But I would reciprocate by doing the dishes, helping him chop the veg, cleaning his bathroom etc. I would do it because I love him and want to make his life easier and thank him for all the lovely things he would do for me.
It's the soy boys that will date them. They can't get any other women
It's not about who hates who. Your partner can hate entire world. Doesn't matter.
It's about WE is more important than I. Once your partner puts himself higher than WE it's time to go away.
Because WE are happy and I am more important than u.
@@Asura2kI got to call bs. If your significant other has hate for something that is part of you then the respect they have for you doesn't exist.
@@evos469 mine doesn't hate. I was trying to say.... Let's say she hates something that u don't care about. It doesn't harm your relationships.
Unless you think she hates humans or male.
It's better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't value you or hates you.
Correct bro.
And it's better to be with a loving partner than be alone.
@@exothermal.sprocket I agree. But step one is getting out of that wrong type of relationship. And probably a pause is needed before starting another relationship to assess how one let that self destructive relationship happen. "Why did I allow it to progress? Why didn't I set boundaries from the beginning? What does a good relationship look like (I might need to ask others, spend time thinking outside my experience, engage in self criticism, explore things that weren't right in my grow up years)?"
@@charlesiragui2473 Yes. Too many people jump out of one prison cell right into another adjacent prison cell without self introspection.
What messes me up is my ex called you a "pick me girl" and completely wrote everything you say off just because you stand up for men's feelings and value.
It's almost like some women are entitled assholes who feel like they should be put on a pedestal and treated like princesses with nothing expected in return.
It's almost like these girls have a sad future ahead. This Emily has kind eyes. It's like listening to the last of the sane people in this country.
It's just as ridiculous to call a woman looking to attract a man a _pick me,_ as to call a guy looking for a woman a _simp._
Nothing more manly than a married guy standing his ground, or more feminine than a woman holding her family together.
@@Vickzq It's because they're basically just bitter not getting what they want to have. Though at the same time, simpery is pretty retarded, mostly because a lot of the worst behaviors out there are being enabled. Like women just go out for free drinks and free meals every night because idiots keep enabling it, although part of that is needing to both be a good judge of character and holding your ground and saying no.
@@pandemicneetbux2110
I agree. I give real simps more benefit of doubt when young, because propaganda is rigged versus men... but when older... or male fminists... no excuse for that.
Feminists believe the types of femininity that men like and respond to are "oppressive," so therefore they think women who portray the types of femininity that men desire are somehow betraying feminism and inhibiting the proliferation of their ideology. It's just a shaming tactic.
The absurdity of men wanting peace in their lives and to be left alone to work hard and protect their families…
Those evil bastards ... tsk tsk tsk ...
We are just out of our minds, arent we! The nerve of us! LOL
yeh...absurd ha ha...
"How DARE you !! "
My gosh, such good stuff. I had an awful relationship before where she would just HATE seeing me sit down after I got back from work. Would find some chore or something for me to do. I was just never at peace in that relationship, nor did she care to be my peace, or let me be at peace. It was just constant high stakes. Dealt with that for 6 years. I stuck it out for a long time until I was finally done. Staying single until I meet someone worth it who actually cares about what im feeling.
Yeah I heard about someone who really really wanted kids and adopted someone who is quite difficult. So when the husband comes home after a long day of work she just dumps the kids on him. I get that she needs a break, but this guy is now very unhappy
I do get the impression that with some women its all 'me, me me, the man is here to do my bidding because Im a spoilt princess,' with absolutely no thought whatsoever to what he wants and his happiness. Its like 'You have to give up watching the FA cup final because I want you to come on some tedious shopping trip to try on 100 shoes. ' No wonder men are depressed! But they cant say anything negative otherwise they get called sexist. Dont get me wrong, I hate mysogyny and I hate seeing guys make nasty sweeping comments about women in general. But we also need to be able to call out the bad behaviour of that sub group of women who arent nice to men. If we cant do that then things wont get better. But we also need to be careful not to let these bad experiences cloud the view of women in general because there are great and lovely women out there too! (Like Emily in this video for example!)
@@superfreakmusic7681 I think you put all of that very well. There are bad actors on both sides. And there always will be those who have poor behavior and unrealistic expectations. We all have to learn to be better and grow to be worthy of someone's love while prioritizing ourselves, but willing to compromise for someone who truly cares. Its a very delicate balance because vulnerability is intimacy. We need to know that person won't take advantage of us at our weakest. Feminism has caused an enormous portion of women to take advantage of the movement and to downplay everything men do, and it has created a lot of salt. I experienced it, and I did everything I could to support the movement, even hurting myself in the process. In general, my belief is the world is just very depressed and angry right now. Both men and women who aren't emotionally mature enough to pin-point the root cause. It will be okay, just keep our eyes peeled for the good ones.
@@rob9999 Yeah, the sad thing is that feminism should never have had to take that ugly turn. Women do deserve to be treated with the respect they deserve, but some of the bad apples have ruined it for the good women and the toxic feminist movement has actually made mysogyny worse IMO, so theyve actually shot themselves in the foot by being all angry and man hating. No one would want to support and champion women like that, let alone date them!
@@rob9999 Stop mansplaining, bro! LOL we shouldnt have to qualify ALL our statements by saying 'both sides are guilty' every time we ask women to take some personal responsibility! Men have HAD to take personal responsibility AT LEAST since we were 18 yo, but often much before that! Only women seem to enjoy the 'Pretty Pass' into adulthood.
Women getting mad at you for resting/recovering from an illness has perplexed me over the years. I’m looking for a woman who will let me take a nap.
I'm 55 and I had never heard of this phenomenon. What is happening in the woman's mind to get angry when a man rests or gets sick? I have a neighbor who said to me and her husband that a man will never do yard work or fix things unless the woman makes him. I thought that it was really a weird comment and that she must have had a bad childhood. But I also wondered if there was a feminist angle... I do yard work, alone, all the time, making it all the stranger for her to say that. Her husband left her...
As a woman, I'm SHOCKED (& disgusted) that there are women who DON'T care for their man when he's sick./recovering from illness. I don't get it1 I gue3ss I'm a DIFFERENT sort of feminist. It's never occurred to me to NOT nurture my partner: isn't that what LOVING your partner is all about???
What feminists don't realize is if they cherish a man they are with, then 99% of the time, the man will do EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING to make her safe and please her any way he can!!!
No feminist EVER “cherished” a man.
That's just not true...
@@mp-hs7ky - yeah, it is!
@@mp-hs7ky - after all the ugly sh*t feminists have said about men over the last fifty plus years …. No feminist EVER cherished ANY man.
I think that most men believe that women should have equal rights and equal pay for equal work. But modern feminism isn’t about that. It’s just basically trying to create an environment where women have a winning situation no matter what happens. Men are still required to maintain the traditional role. Even more so because we have to be perfect and not have an off day. We don’t have to just be the alpha dog at work, but now we have to compete for that at home. There is no actual human respect for men anymore. Men are now supposed to be submissive when she wants to be in charge and dominant when she doesn’t. And then later said men will get left and/or deal with disrespect for allowing her to dominate ever in the first place. It’s just thoroughly exhausting. It’s a very emotionally unsafe environment for a man. Men are not as emotional as women are in general but we still don’t need to be in a home that minimizes the feelings that we do have. It’s not pleasant. Not to mention that the fact that we still have to argue about personal hygiene and shaving with feminists that think it’s fine that they can ignore their own fitness and appearance and health while they require their men to be in the fittest shape with the perfect beard and haircut and level of body hair they so desire. Men aren’t stupid. We know that women make sure they look good for the man they care about. If a woman really wants a man she’s gonna shave and stay fit for him instead of acting like any effort whatsoever is a problem.
Along with this, the argument that feminists make imply that we males don't have to work at all to obtain what we do which is completely false. We do not get anything just "handed" to us. We have to grind every single day to make our way in the world and even more so now than ever while they whine their way to the top. In my father's words, "they walk around in life thinking they hit a grand slam when they got intentionally walked."
Yeah Ive never understood that whole 'now you're married you can let yourself go' thinking. Surely you'd want to make even more effort because youve got someone to be sexy for?
Why do you think you deserve respect for just being a man?
A person... sure...but what makes you special compared to everyone ?
sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder
WOW, sexist. Women do. It is NOT easy. And he should do the same then!!
For me it’s because GENERALLY you can’t have a conversation or tell a joke or any real moment without the woman turning it into a battle. They get combative and need a fight to win. They seem to be always “on” ready to fight and never seem happy because there is always a problem with SOMETHING.
There is a problem with THEM! but since they can admit that publicly, they are left to blame shift instead.
It's the entitlement, the hypcrisy, and the supremacism. Case in point, I literally sat down somewhere after work and this woman (feminist) starts laughing in my face and I ask what. She tells me it's because I'd gotten so fat my buttons were stretching out on my shirt. So I said "oh yeah I know I need to lose weight." This triggered a fucking 15 minute lecture by this woman on how "you don't NEED to lose weight though" and morphed into this deranged body positivity thing, literally right after she laughed in my face for calling me fat.
That's why I don't like feminism. That's why I don't respect anything feminists have to say, and I am unwilling to date a toxic person who I don't respect.
Legbeards need to deal with the fact they are the mirror image of MRAs and entitled incels.
The literal number 1 problem universally true of real feminists is arguing. Arguing and hypocrisy. They also have no problem with lying and exaggerating.
Maybe try not telling sexist jokes
@@Mani67899 lol "I'm just gonna put some words in your mouth you never said so I can try and turn this into a battle just like OP said"
I just found out the other day apparently modern girls legitimately think that being argumentative is a good thing. Some of them are that devoid of empathy or ability to put themselves in other's shoes that they apparently don't even ask the question "is my man not getting off on the drama and chaos and my bullshit arguing? What if the arguing that I enjoy doing so much is NOT what my boy likes, and he is just *barely* tolerating me because he's a stubborn fuck who likes me and is trying to make it work?"
Nobody likes an argumentative woman. Not even me, and I like a stubborn woman who's confident and internally strong. Being argumentative is a sign of immaturity, selfishness, and weakness. A really strong woman doesn't even need to argue, she can just glance at you. Arguing is shit children do.
My first wife HAD to have her way in EVERYTHING, even costing me jobs. I finally just gave up. I have (for the past 27 years) been married to a lady (and I MEAN A LADY). Real love is caring more about the other person than you do yourself, without losing who you are. We have found ways to combine our interests, share the positives with each other and to value each other. I support and value her feminity, and she values and supports my masculinity.
My now X girlfriend joined a feminist corporate group three months ago. We broke up two months ago. The amount of brainwashing in a short amount of time was astounding. When we met, she was a very balanced, almost conservative leaning and that shifted insanely fast and then I turned into I'm the enemy.
Good to find out when getting away from her is easy.
That's why in the Garden, the serpent approached Eve, not Adam. Corporate women (especially HR) are a big red flag. They belong at home nurturing children, not in board rooms where they are easily deceived.
She became a victim of feminism. Now she's just another sucker out of millions for the government to exploit her beliefs for their own gain and agendas.
*_"...brainwashing in a short amount of time was astounding."_*
*NO - WHAT WAS REVEALED WAS PREVIOUSLY CONCEALED.*
Feminism is indoctrinated into a woman's thinking over a good deal of time.
It’s the same thing with sororities too, best advice I can give if she was foolish enough to believe in a group that made her qualities as a person dwindle then she was never worth your time to begin with, stay strong bro
Good stuff. I dated a lot of feminists in the United States over the years before settling down with a gal from the Philippines. (I'm an American btw)
A big reason why I eventually gave up on dating feminists was we just wanted different things. They wanted short term relationships and/or casual sex, whereas I cannot have sex with someone unless I completely trust them and have a deep emotional connection with them. They were hesitant to get married, if they wanted a long term relationship at all, marriage was something in the far off future, not something they wanted to consider in their 20s. In addition, many of them were not willing to change their names even if they were interested in marriage. That was a deal breaker for me, my wife needs to change her last name so that she really becomes part of the family. It is symbolic, but the symbolism is important to me. Furthermore, a lot of feminists have very toxic attitudes towards sex, they use sex as a weapon, and they think that they can use sex to get what they want. They also view sex as a "chore" or a "favor", which is not exactly conducive to a healthy sexual relationship. Lastly, and I think this is most important, a lot of these women don't want kids. That is an absolute deal breaker for me.
I haven’t dated a feminist since 2011. In fact, I check early on about their views of feminism. Luckily, there are many women who hate feminism.
@GamingGalore64 There's nothing wrong with casual sex...as long as all people involved are happy with that.
Neither is there anything wrong with not wanting casual sex either.
From personal experience I can say that one-night stands are fun for as long as they last, but having sex with a woman I actually care about is definetly more satisfying for me.
@@HH-hd7nd Maybe there is nothing with casual sex, to you! Please keep YOUR religious views (or lack there of) to yourself! Many of us think its low-class, and hedonistic! The fact that you thought you had to defend casual sex when my guy was stating his personal opinions, tells us you seem to be seeking validation for your behavior! Why? Just do your thing, and let others do theirs! But good luck to you trying to find a good one! it aint easy!
@@inconnu4961 Ah - and just because I have a different opinion than you I'm not allowed to voice my opinion? Are you serious?
Not to mention that people like you really need to keep THEIR religious beliefs to themselves instead of trying to force them on others. You have no right to judge anyone, not on the internet and not in person.
"But good luck to you trying to find a good one!" Dude I'm 49 years old and happily married for 17 years (my 18th wedding anniversary coming in 2 months) - I already found a good one! If it's hard for you then maybe YOU need to reconsider your behaviour and views because people with realistic views and non-judgemental behaviour tend to have a lot more luck than you.
@@HH-hd7nd promiscuity is nasty.
Without seeing the video I can say:
- I do not want to be with someone who hates me.
- I do not want to be with someone who sees me as the enemy.
- I do not want to be with someone who does not need me.
7:16 This describes my wife and I perfectly. We're at 28 years of marriage and 23 of those years I was the single income provider. During that time my wife was a Stay-At-Home Mom who actively raised and homeschooled our children. After our youngest left home for the Marine Corps, my wife returned to the workforce as I continued working full time. Her return to work was four days per week so that on the fifth she could care for the home - this was her idea. This resulted in bringing in additional income + giving us weekends with one another because she bears the responsibility of household chores (dusting, vacuuming, laundry, bathrooms, errands, etc.). This is the ebb and flow Emily is referring to. It is the 100/100 effort from each person. It is both partners rowing in the same direction for the collective benefit of the household. 50/50 will result in 100% failure. Imagine doing an oil change...does he jack up the car and she puts the jack stands in place? Does he release the oil plug and she manages catching the oil? Truly consider 50/50....it doesn't make sense folks. 100/100 effort moves the needle of your relationship long-term.
The "cherry picking" is so true. Also, the excuses for the cherry picking. Back in the 1950's, when women didn't have jobs that paid much compared to the men who asked them out, it was wholly reasonable for a "man pays" attitude. However, if the woman has income that is approximately equal to that of the man with whom she's going out on a date, then they should each pay their own way.
I think an other important thing to note is we have a pride thing, and so while it is no big deal to some women to be sugar momma tier, it absolutely is going to drive a guy crazy because we base our whole value and self worth directly on the ability to pay for things and physically or otherwise protect females. So if you are taking money from your wife, and not spending it on your daughter, it devalues you as a man. Most guys won't admit it but they'll feel emasculated. So even so much as splitting the bill is seen as a slight to male egos.
This is true. Plus it frees the woman of any obligations if she pays for her own stuff. Usually buying a woman a meal is just a down payment for sex.
@@jessiwolfe1818 At the very least, if you expect to be treated, find out what the other person is ordering and you order something no more expensive than that.
Appreciate your content Emily. Positive thoughts for you and your growing female viewership.
Top 1 reason: I don’t want to have a constant stick measuring contest about “who’s the man.” The last girl I talked to, it felt like it was everything, bc she didn’t need her life “mansplained to her” (actual words spoke….)
I LOVE your content. We need kind and understanding women like you in this world more than words can say. My mother was an angry feminist type who made hostile comments about men and me for being a male all the time while raising me. That gave me a terrible sense of self-loathing about being a male that used to make me fantasize about a sex change as a boy. I could never be with an extreme feminist. I hate it when women are okay with unfair double standards that show poor morality and when women have anger issues.
Angry feminism seems like man hating but is actually woman hating, hating of what is greatest in woman's nature: nuturing care. Sometimes angry man-hating is related to mistreatment by men that that woman has received and the only solution is kindness, healing and correct behavior, not concessions to her anger.
Me I'm just glad I live alone. No wife no girlfriend. I'm a lot happier. My house is my house. It's payed for .my jeep is payed for .no one to answer to just my cat .lol .and she's cheap. I have a good life. 👍 thanks for your time .I like what you said .Emily
What a breath of ocean breeze you are. Listening to you actually makes me very grateful to be single again ( widower who was married just shy 25 years to an angel) i would much reather remain in a free peaceful single life than spend one second with a cold blooded man hater. No thanks. And btw I have always been for equal pay for equal effort.
Most guys would! the only reason why it wasnt so for a long time is: because society KNEW that men were completely supporting himself, a wife and kids. men were compensated better because they knew men would get married and SUPPORT A FAMILY! because a woman's money is still her money, but a man's money is the families money! We assume people were stupid many years ago! such hubris on our parts; maybe WE are the stupid one's?
Yeah that happened to me a lot. I usually work very hard at work and at home. But as soon as I take a rest. Omg! It hits the fan.
I read some of these stories and I am so happy that I'm single. I never been in a serious relationship, only the on and off kind. I never met the girl of my dreams and probably never will because they don't exist. I'm old now but free from any obligations to a wife and kid(s). I do whatever I want whenever I want spend my money on whatever I want.
All those "strong, independent women who don't need no man" will grow old and alone without a man, and have no one to blame but themselves.
@@samp925 Wait, didn't they kill FDS? Although, I had heard they made their own website...
We can only hope! LOL Somehow i think many of these will break down, and try to trap one to support her.
Yep, we call them future "Cat Ladies".
So once i marched with a feminist friend of mine on a women's rights meeting. I was wearing a sign "women had enough". I was thinking "i had enough".
Later on i asked her to a date, she tapped me on the shoulder which is in mans eyes the biggest rejection you can face. She would put put guys into the friend zone like it was a punishment for them for not being "man enough".
One time a couple of us were on a drink. So i got my chair and went to get me a drink, she came to the table with our friends and put her bag on my chair. As a gentleman i took another chair brought it to the table for her and put her stuff on her chair and sat on my chair. Other lady friends reacted like i did something weird. When she came and realized that i moved her stuff from MY chair she said " you do not do that to a lady". Do what ? Bring you a chair you can sit on? Do not worry i wont anymore.
A lady would have said thank you, a feminist would get her own chair.
Maybe she did not know someone was sitting there , she should have asked or someone should have told her. She left a boyfriend because he liked other girls Instagram while later on she was talking about how she is going to post picture of her but on Instagram to make money - a sign of a true lady.... So its ok if 10 000 people like her but on insta but if her boyfriend likes someone else its not ok. She was 30 then and no she was fairly mild with her feminism.
Now i read this and think how old are these people 16? No its the 30's for both of them. This shit is real. I feel exausted from life from this bullshit double standards and i don't even have kids yet.
The biggest thing is when a man sees this kind of behavior he basically looses respect for that person and her fight. I mean how can i support feminism if feminism tried to take away the chair i was supporting it from. I support the underdog, i support the troubled and the wounded , not some self absorbed, inconsistent , self proclaimed queen which is neither a lady nor a feminist (equality). I feel bad for myself for being disappointed in women in general... I think you ladies are great, the strongest person i knew was my late aunty. But ladies these days have filled their head with bullshit that will ultimately have a negative effect on themselves.
All in all dodged a bullet there....
I’m actually surprised they let you join the women’s rights march in the first place! But yes, this is exactly what I want to avoid.
Toxic feminity is a thing, hence the mean girl trope is absolutely true.
@@NoahMDub the march had its place, there were alot of women who were abused, supposedly every 5th women had an attempted rape. Look the worst thing that happens to us guys from ladies on a night out is we get blow off , the worst thing they have get is some creeper guy assaulting her, and they are smaller then us.
@@ThePhysics1234 LMAO! Every fifth woman, huh? I had a thing for a South African lady, and the stuff she had been through would put the average coddled american girl to shame. A date grape where she willfully sleeps with a dude, then has 2nd thoughts is NOT grape! Sorry lady! Men make them bad choices too, and we NEVER get to call it grape!
@@ThePhysics1234 "Look the worst thing that happens to us guys from ladies on a night out is we get blow off"
Tell that to the boys raped by their teachers and are now stuck paying child support. This shit happens much more often now than people want to admit and women assaults men all the time; men just blow it off most of the time. But just stop the BS narrative of women always being the victims. It's bullshit.
My ex blasted men a lot. It got exhausting. There's times I'd ask her, why do you even want me? I don't know. Not sure she ever had a good answer. That dislike of men got dumped on me a lot. It's part of what poisoned our relationship. It's tough to be around that constant negative attitude.
Proper boundaries mean that it shouldn't have been tolerated even the first time. I want to teach my son 15 and daughter 13: don't accept mistreatment even as it's happening. Push back in real time and if it remains unresolved, back away. Look for sincerity and kindness, people who rejoice in others' happiness and wellbeing.
Dated a feminist once. Only once. She felt Father's Day wasn't something that should be celebrated because fathers were not needed, and when we had a pregnancy scare she said she would consider keeping the baby... if it was a girl. After further discussion, I found out she felt she had every right to abort any boys she might get pregnant with, because it was "Her body".
Needless to say, we didn't last very long after that.
That’s some sick nasty evil behavior. She’s straight up evil
Bruh as a woman. Bruh no words. The world has gone mad. When I read comments I realized why I’m scared to go out there and participate a lot in the dating world. Sickening what that woman would say. Woman and Man are important. We need each other. This evilness is from the devil. I am 100 against abortion.
you should have told her 'don't expect me to stay around or try to swindle money,' because you know...father's aren't needed.
I just don’t want to date in general. I don’t like how are dating society is, less stress in life being single, don’t have to pay a bunch of money for a wedding, don’t have to worry about being cheated on, and don’t have to get approval for anything I want to do. Also seeing of y’all share your experiences and seeing a couple of my friends getting screwed over by girls rn, think I’m making the right choice
Its not JUST dating culture, its the total culture altogether! the fact we must 2nd guess our upbringing when it comes to holding a door open for a woman, lest she scream like a child ( a completely non-sexual human encounter) tells us just how pathological our society is becoming. My momma raised me to be courteous to everyone! Dont make me disappoint my momma just because you are a nutter of a woman! LOL
You are making the right choice. I socialise with women now and again, but they are not ever going to live with me. I have to have my own space to which I can escape.
I'm red pill but I still wanna get married and have a few kids. Not giving up yet
@@danielmar4532 There is nothing wrong with wanting what we are designed to do, but I suggest reading Aaron Clarey's Book of Numbers to see what your chances are. It is quite sobering.
@@danielmar4532 I just want to add, danielmar4532, that the better women are in conservative rural areas, certainly not in the liberal cities. Also, I find East European women - although not as attractive as the Western ones - far more traditional and based. I think most Western women these days represent little more than pump-and-dump material, sad to say. Good luck.
Yes!!! I have been saying that relationships are not 50/50. Relationships are 100/100. Because if all you’re putting in is 50% and you expect the other person to match you with 50% that still means both of you are not putting the other 50% into the relationship for each other.
People are 'spinning plates' on the side, if you know what i mean. relationships are SO transactional these days, like doing business.
Well said!
The sick thing hit home.
If I got the flu, she'd leave a gallon jug of water and a box of crackers in the nightstand and leave town for a week.
Once she put me outside for the day in 100 degree heat. I thought I was gonna die.
I found her texts later. She and all her friends thought it was hilarious and wished I'd die for daring to be around where she might get sick.
W…T…F dude…that’s not just a feminist, that’s a demon in a woman’s body. Get out get out!
@@supersentaifanboy
It's all good. I lived. And I learned to never put myself in a position to depend on anyone ever again.
Next time I get hurt or sick, I'll just pay someone to take care of me.
All men should learn this lesson.
Most women only love you for what you can provide. If you get sick or hurt, you'll find out really quick that they don't love you the same way men love them. It's all transactional for them.
How HORRIBLE. As a woman (& a feminist--but, NOT whatever this "modern" version is), it would never occur to me to NOT nurture my partner when he's sick!!! That's what LOVING your partner is all about.
I spent some time as one of those fools who dated a man hating, though more and more I realize I was just simping on her. For personal reasons I could understand a lot of where she was coming from and the more extreme bits I guess I brushed off to hyperbole. There was a lot of me having to separate myself from what she was saying since she was with me. I worked landscaping and this rich client was making me do a job that required heights and I have a fear. I went on a little rant in a text about rich people at my lunch to her. Her family is wealthy. She got upset with me for generalizing a group that she was a part of and informed me so fairly vehemently. I responded with Babe I'm not including you or your family but on the whole rich people suck and one of their jobs is going to get me killed. I then said I don't hit you with not all men everytime you talk about how all men are evil and worthless. She put us on a break, and after a little bit of time I deepened the break saying we shouldn't talk for a month to figure things out. at the end of the month I said i didn't want to get back together. I moved into a trailer in the mountains outside of Santa Fe had no car went for groceries once a month, made 400 bucks a month, gardened and took care of dogs. Found a peace I'd forgotten possible while I was with her
I lived this!! Glad I’m single now n decided to stay that way.
Ditto. I used to be sad about being single at first, but now it no longer phases me anymore.
I had enough of my mum and sister telling me I was useless, I got rid of them, so WHY would I want another 🚩 in my life???
Siblings should butt out. Your mum as well though? I don't know the situation, I just hope you are not just misreading tough love.
I drive around all day I truly enjoy hearing you smile in your videos…thank you!
I genuinely believe when I say it, that when I see my partner succeed in her life, that's the greatest joy I can have. Seeing her grow, into a productive, happy person in the world, is nothing but happiness in my eyes. After all, she is happy, has something for herself, we can both share our stuff and feel accomplished, and that is healthy.
That being said, I pity the women that just outright hate men. I am not talking about sexual attractions or anything, just the pure unfiltered hatred that men should all die. Those types of crazies bug us. Not the women that just want to be a part of the world, and have a job they like and be responsible and equal to us. That's ok. Empty hatred just because I was born with a penis, is unnatural and unnecessary.
Next episode should be why mice do not hang out with cats.
LOL
Some do and become friends with the cat
Why date someone that bashes you all the time?
Great points, enjoyable video watch as well. Thanks!
My dating days are over and gone a long time ago, Emily! But I have 2 adult sons who have been dating - the youngest has recently found a special lady, thank God - and what you are saying is absolutely true! Thank God for women who think like you!
Feminist means, "i will lie, accuse you of abuse, and take everything from you. Im an empowered woman."
While my ex wife had a huge double standard when it came to being sick. When she was sick, she was the most helpless human above the age of 3 but when I had a migraine I got attitude about how long was I going to be in bed trying to sleep that off or it figures you'd finally get up about the time I'm going to bed. Interestingly my migraines went from multiple a week to when weather changes come through a few weeks after she left for the last time. The stress of never being good enough or making enough money was crazy with her.
Keep it up Emily. Great information in your videos. Subscribed.
I'm 40 and from India. My mother's generation were the first to go to work (born in the 50s/60s). None of them women in my family ever behaved as if they were better than the men. My mother and her sisters and my father and his sisters all worked and still adhered to their gender roles. Even today after retirement, my mom cooks most of the time and of course my dad helps in the kitchen everyday and he does the shopping, paying utilities and all the physical work. Of course my father also cooks once a week just to give my mother a break. My uncles are the same.
Modern women have lost the plot. They think they can do all on their own. This whole "strong independent woman" charade is unbearable to be honest. I am single cos I refuse to deal with modern women BS and the laws/court will screw me over. I am now firmly on the MGTOW way of life.
And you think it is bad in the West? It is insane in India. Here women are increasingly using false dowry cases, harrassment, marital rape etc to swindle men for shit ton of money. Also we have an absolutely insane law which says that it is rape if a man "promises" marriage and gets physically intimate. It is just pathetic. I urge people to watch the documentary "Martyrs of Marriage" available on youtube.
This should have 1k likes.
I haven't heard about modern feminism infecting India. That's terrible. Unfortunately I don't see things getting better as a whole anytime soon, but I think there are some women who are listening and understanding, and hopefully that small number will continue to grow. I'm kind of an old school feminist in that I believe in equal opportunity and equal pay for equal work(the same job), but not( all the crazy modern feminist stuff. I was born in the 60s and grew up in the 70s in the US to conservative parents. I remember back in the 80s, after 2nd wave feminism, when there was a lot of talk about sex roles, a college professor I had said "there is nothing wrong with sex roles, it's sex role stereotypes that are the problem". I think that 8s true, but modern feminists would say sex roles are a problem.
@@veggiegurl06 Indian situation is insane right now. Only problem is majority people don't know about what's happening due to no one speaking about it in mainstream media and we also dont have RP content creators like in western countries.
Women are being given free money to win elections, free services like bus travel (irrespective of ecomonic status), free quotas in government offices, diversity hire in private companies are starting.
I'd encourage all to watch "Martyrs of Marriage" and "India Sons", documentaries showcasing the plight of men in India. Fortuantely made by a woman named Deepika Bharadwaj, who's men's rights activist.
Start at 1:50
Nr. 1 = Men don't want women who want 'equality' without being equal.
Nr. 2 = Belittling or harassing men, even the BF. (Men need to agree)
Nr. 3 = I don't get this one and don't agree with what she says. See for yourself Minute 4, something like men want to work and not raise their kid and she has to agree.
Nr. 4 = Men want partners not competitors, you do something nice I do too without keeping a count or expecting something from both sides.
Nr. 5 extra = No nagging, men want to have real conversations over problems.
Why do this?
@@deanthroop8054 Don't know, felt like it. Wouldn't have done it if she has had added time stamps with the content.
Maybe it annoyed me at the time that she needed 2 minutes to start a close to 10 minutes video, one that could have been summed up in 2.
Why did you ask?
@@Kestix1234 do not see it on most people's videos and I did not want to make any assumptions.
@@deanthroop8054 I see it plenty on videos with lists. But I watch a fair amount of 'self-help'-styled videos, so that maybe why?
I know this seems like a matter of semantics, yet for me this distinction has helped immensely in wrapping my mind around the current trend and expressing how I feel about this double standard. As you said I feel that "feminist" refers to those who support and work for the rights of women and celebrate those marvelous and miraculous attributes of females in our world. Regardless of how it starts, if the bias is skewed in the direction of negativity towards, prejudice against and hatred for men, this is no longer feminism. It is "misandry" and those that hold these negative attitudes, angers, and prejudices against men are "misandrists," exactly as men who hate women are "misogynists."
I think what I find most telling and horrifying regarding this recent trend is that "misogynist" is a common word in our culture and yet "misandry" is all but unknown. The balance of having both of these words to describe the tragedy of gender bias should exist and, in my opinion is necessary. Yet "misandrist" is rarely taught, as if a large portion of our social culture wishes to remain blind to it while man-haters hide behind the more positive sounding description of "feminists." Hate is hate. Perhaps if people were taught the correct word for the hate and how to recognize the difference it would expose the truth, although I doubt it would help the haters recognize themselves for what they are and how their hate affects those around them.
I am going to agree with you and disagree with you. You make mostly great points that i dont want to contradict. but as I have heard it, egalitarian feminism has accomplished 95% of its goals towards egalitarianism. feminism isnt NEEDED any more, neither are feminists! the vast majority of men have been raised in the egalitarian mindset and are perfectly fine with it. So any feminist will either be a female supremacist and/or misandrist (they seem to go hand-in-hand)! so i label those people feminists, and normal, sane women as egalitarians. so when I say I 'hate' feminists, I mean the supremacist/misandrist types, specifically. but like I said, i have no other bones to pick with your comment. You are on target!
It was a bad idea then. It's a bad idea now.
The vast overwhelming majority of feminists are rabid misandrists. Misandry and feminism walk hand in hand and frankly always have.
Women being angry at you because you're sick, seriously injured, etc. is depressingly common.
You are able to put into words what we often cannot or haven't been able to clearly put into words . We thank you .
Alternate headline: "Why men don't want to date people who hate men"
Still not enough: "Why Men Don't Want to Date People who Hate Them" . . .
Our differences complement each other and strengthen each other.
I think your reasons are spot on, especially when you talked about competing vs. partnering. In a marriage/relationship, you have to work WITH your partner, not against them. If you're constantly worried about whether the other person is doing enough, the relationship isn't going to last.
These points are 100% correct!
1.)
If you don't "need a man," don't pursue one. Live your life alone and happy. It's your chosen path. Embrace it.
2.)
If you want to compete or keep tallie. Being with a man isn't gir you. You can call it "roles" or "a niche." But, people have to acknowledge they have different duties to split and take responsibility and accountability by actively making a choice.
3.)
Acknowledging our different strengths and capabilities is not to diminish or admonition anyone. It's simply a fact of life, and working as a team completes this "circle."
4.)
I would never accept a woman who remained on social media platforms. (If I were to consider her for a long-term relationship)
I'm not talking about what you (Emily) do on social media.
These are important messages and need more coverage.
As for your 6-year old. You are correct. You need to support his healthy view of himself at this stage. You can explain the different ways that boys and girls are strong, when you think he will be receptive to it.
Teaching healthy gender roles is not confusing. Especially if you allow for variation and not make the structure super ridgid.
Thank you!
Very vocal feminists have been known to date guys that fit the machismo stereotype. I can't tell if they preach what they preach because they hate the fact that they are dating such a guy or if it is a defense mechanism such as a mate guarding tactic. If other women are afraid of men, especially the sexually arousing muscular hunks, then she doesn't have to worry as much that another woman will steal her man away. The problem is that the "dangerous" guys is also the viscerally sexually arousing guy. Because he has the capacity to be dangerous he has the capacity to make her feel safe. So in a sense she is effectively promoting to other women to chase after her man. But a part of the message is to not make long term relationships out of such men. So these sloots might sleep with her man, but hopefully wont attempt to have any kind of long term relationship.
I think people who are not confident in themselves and their ability to communicate with or keep the attention of someone of the opposite sex engage in mate guarding tactics where they shame others for being sexually appealing. And so with women its why they tell women to be the opposite of feminine, fit and friendly. I think that is why the more feminist a woman is the more masculine, fat and confrontational she is. She has been trained, by less confident women, to be unappealing to men so that those unattractive women can have a better shot with the men they desire.
I think guys do a similar thing when they tell guys not to be the vain jerk. What is this guy? He is good looking because he eats well, goes to the gym and cares about his presentation so he doesn't dress like a 2 yo. Also he has probably practiced talking with other people so he is likely socially competent as well as potentially competent in his life in general and such that confidence leaks into other things. This is practically everything that every woman wants and so for the loser men to get more female attention they need less men to be like this so they instead tell men to not do these things. To not get money or muscles, or to practice frame or game. Why? Because to be appealing to women is to manipulate them. Or so they say.
Women also tend to make other women in the group to cut their hair short. Its the first indicator(besides crazy color hair) of toxic feminism.
It's because they can't escape their biological programming, no matter how hard they try. That's what feminism does. It tells women that they need to ignore their natural tendencies and needs in favor of a false narrative of bitterness and contention.
This whole thing is one big shit test. They have collectively implemented a new mating strategy to find the most masculine of men. If you demonize masculinity, only the truly masculine will stand firm against it. Then they stick out like sore thumbs, making it easier to find what they are actually looking for.
Some people calling themselves feminists actually do un-ironically hate men.
The really funny thing, is that the only men they're attracted to are Chads, who are guaranteed to treat them like absolute crap.
It's like a self-fulfilling victim prophecy.
Some? Each one in some _notable leading role_ in that cult does...
MOST.
That is one little boy who is on the right track. Legend Beginner Kit
Excellent video, new subscriber.
You know, the more I listen to your content? The more I like what I hear. You make sense and you're being fair and balanced in your assessments and your statements; you're not saying anything that's not true. I'm sure there's lots of angry MRA types out there who are calling you a "chameleon" and angry feminazi types calling you all the horrid names they reserve for women who don't toe their party line, and they're blinding themselves to what you're saying.
I couldn't agree more with what you said in this video, especially #2. When I was dating "feminist" women? I felt horrible all the time, like I was an inch tall, and to be brutally honest? They're not any better in bed--in fact, most all of them are false advertising in that realm. Trust me, I know. I don't date because if I can't find someone who is a good partner as opposed to a competitor who is out to tear me down, I can't be bothered. Simple as that.
I was under the impression that extreme feminists didn't want men to date them.
Thank you. Thank you for making this video. It was incredibly validating and is helping me heal
100% spot on with everything on this one! 👌🏼
I do believe in equality. I'm a male nurse and a father. I shared child raising duties as my daughter was growing up. I cook, I clean, I do laundry, used to change diapers, etc.
I loved dating in Europe, where usually each person would pay their own way or we took turns paying. However, if a woman makes less than I do, I will happily pay more because I enjoy her company. I do not expect anything in return.
Though some women have hated me. I have been known to say: A woman expects me to ask her out, pick her up, bring her flowers, open the door for her, pay her way and then say, "Yes, we're equal." In what way?
BTW, my ex split up with me because she wanted to be with someone "more manly". Funny. The guy she married seems to be afraid of me, though he's much larger. Define more manly. I have saved over 1000 lives, trained alongside (but wasn't in) special forces, have driven explosives, trained in martial arts. Plus I was an Army mechanic and I'm certified as a chef.
I'd be happy to find a woman who gives as much as I do emotionally in a relationship. That seems to be too much to ask.
I've been thinking, and granted I haven't thought it through thoroughly, but all the military stuff you mentioned, women get in by achieving lower standards than men...wouldn't equality of outcome mean that male nurses would get a pass with lower grades?
I appreciate your nuanced look at male and female relationships. As an lesbian woman who considers myself a feminist, I often find myself jaded at behaviors of both sexes. I hate the vitriol and misogynistic comments I read from, what I assume to be, straight men. I'm beginning to see that bad behavior exists on both spectrums, and that many women alienate good men with cruelty and double standards. I'm starting to appreciate that it's not always men being shitty, but that many women give them unnecessary grief.
First learn to respect men
Nice video, you're always very acurate with this stuff :) Number four really spoke to me and being 100/100 all in the relationship. I was married twice and now single for years. I like it but I'm also realizing this may go on for a long time, I was out running recently and shifted my eyes around to see my surroundings and got looks from someone cause they thought I was checking them out. Anywhere I go it's as if I almost feel attacked by the opposite sex.
I appreciate this video. Than you for posting it.
Re: When a guy is sick... My ex would consciously or subconsciously, get sick or injured worse than I was, within ~4-12 hours of me becoming sick or injured. I am very sure that she couldn't handle the idea of being the one to caretake, and her only 'solution' was to be sick or injured _worse_, so that I was the more functional, and thus immediately the caretaker again.
All sorts of toxic and abusive crap in that relationship, but this is one that pops up from time to time. Knowing that my partner is willing and able to caretake when needed is massive to me. Knowing that she can't or won't only makes me more cautious and afraid to get sick or injured.
That's awful.. I was born with bad health issues, and when my ex (still best friend 9 years post-breakup) and I were together we'd step up and take care of eachother, and pick up the slack when the other was sick. I'd be stuck in bed, unable to breathe, o she'd handle my chores and whatnot. Then when her periods had her on the bed doubled over in pain, I would pick up the slack for her and help her where I could. I couldn't even imagine trying to be worse-off just to push more responsibility on the other peron. Disgusting..
Yeah dating someone who dosent need me?
NOT APPEALING.
And that is why my last big relationship tanked--I felt unneeded.
Always tell him, his strength is for doing good.
My ex who is a feminist, once said to me ‘what is even the point of masculinity?’ I’m glad it’s over. No one should be discriminated for their gender or made to feel shit or pointless
I love the point that you make of letting a man rest and take care of him. People heal QUICKER with care and men get back to the fight sooner if done properly. So, if a woman wants a man to get back at it, TAKE CARE OF HIM AND SHOW HIM YOU HAVE HIS BACK!!! He will be deathly loyal to you for this 😎👍
It doesn't even have to be extreme feminism. I married a relatively conservative woman 10 years ago. I watched her change into a masculine, bitter, combative, sexless NPC. We are going through a divorce right now. Luckily, I convinced her to let our son live with me. He needs his masculine father, not a mother who is going to demean and belittle him for being male.
They are easily susceptible to outside influences! I married a woman who i thought was Christian (the story changed as the weather changed), and I am Christian. We attended a smaller church, because we are both reserved people. The Pastor said they were new, because a schism had erupted and he was there to fix it. Well, i met one of those who caused it. An angry old feminist bitty. We locked horns early on, and after a few years of being in my wife's ear, my wife started to change and be distant. The bitty was also working on some other wives, and before I got out of there, the Pastor and his wife were counseling 4 other couples besides us, about marriage issues! She was a demon there to wreck the church and she had a field day! All the couples ended up splitting, i heard after the fact!
The wisest commentary I read from a woman (concerning women and feminist dogma) is this:
"Most women are influenced by feminism to some degree. Including anti-feminist".
Your man is fortunate to have you. Respect
Emily absolutely great video,God Bless you 🙏
Having to do all the work and assuming all the risk are the reasons I've given up on relationships.
Equal opportunity isn''t feminism. Its the law. And feminism has been so effective and pervasive that effectively everyone born after 1960 is defacto a feminist. The question isn't if someone is a feminist, but to what degree.
Bingo! Rollo says this ALL the time! we are all feminist now.
_" And feminism has been so effective and pervasive _*_that effectively everyone born after 1960 is defacto a feminist_*_ ."_
Men *cannot* be feminists.
_"The question isn't if someone is a feminist, but to what degree."_
You mean what degree have she been *influenced* .
That first one hits home really hard. so sick of the outright double standards.
My wife is handicapped. When we were raising our daughters and both worked, we worked different shifts. I made more money but her money allowed us the extras we wanted. There was no my money or her money it was our money. I watched the kids on my shift and was almost as good as she was. This was a partnership not a feminist dictatorship.
I love dating an Equalist, even a fair feminist, but not a feminazi who is angry at the whole male half of the species. My best partners love men, love my male body and masculine side as i love their female and feminine, and i celebrate their strength and ability to be independent and do tough things even when i am away with my work and can't be there to help. I am mostly attracted to strong women who don't tolerate chauvinism or misogyny, but who are still into men and celebrate our strengths and our beauty. And i have a fully developed feminine side, and it's amazing when women let me show emotions and not be an Ubermensch all the time.
My Lady isn't much of a feminist, she is what she is and I don't want to change any of that. She prefers me being the Manly Man that I am that gets the bills paid, gets the job done, and protect her. She's can go wherever she wants, do whatever she wants but she willingly chooses to be at home with me as I do with her. She's not subjective, she'll speak her mind freely and with no shame and damnit I love her 🥴
My sisters are both "modern feminists". One of my sisters is also a violent malignant narcissist who brutally physically abused me until I went full no-contact with her in 1994.
Then she stalked me. For the next fifteen years.
My other sister blamed the violence of which I was the victim on me. It was only after she exploded at me and then pretended that I was the one who had lost my temper that I realised she had brought her kids up to villianise me.
So, my main reason for not only not wanting to date a modern feminist, but also to never even talk with one, is the violence and abuse.
I'm all for equal rights and opportunities. I'm in favour of equal pay for equal work. But I'm also in favour of abusive women being held responsible for their behaviour
The more I see your videos the more I like the way you think. Thanks for being an advocate for men. Please keep producing your great videos.❤
Need more women like you in the world. Love it.
What I don't like is when a woman has a victim mentality, lack of accountability, and an attitude that is more entitled than grateful. We're seeing a push back on this stuff because of the increasing number of former feminists that didn't like the results a career focused mindset brought.
this is refreshing. thank you for making these type of videos.
Your content is spot on.
Scrolling on dating apps, I tend to avoid those claiming to be a feminist.
To be honest, I support the original belief of feminism. The problem is I will never know how radical or what kind of feminism is on her mind. I think P! nk should be the perfect example of feminist. She might have a masculine appearance, but she is nurturing and cares about the weaker side in the society. She proposed to her husband. She could stand up for herself, but most of the time, not in an arrogant, rude way. I would not mind to date someone like that(even without that talent, fame and wealth). Not every self-claimed feminists are like that.
I know too many female friends who have no problem putting men down and siding with modern feminism. I would rather not risk my inner peace on dating a feminist.
The "original belief" of feminism? You mean the stupid dictionary definition?
*Look at ACTIONS not at WORDS!* What was the FIRST THING feminism did? They told women to "get a CAREER" (not a job, a CAREER!) and to make women do this they DEMONISED HOUSEWIVES! This turned the *_SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP between man and woman into a COMPETITION!_*
tl;dr You are WRONG! Feminism is and has always been EVIL/DESTRUCTIVE, even from the beginning!
I suspect (though have never used "dating apps") it woukd be a good indicator of more likely to hook up.
So it presumably is a filter mechanism.
Iirc pink is transing her kids...
@@Eluderatnight I don't think she actively "transing" her children, she just didn't restrict/fixed her kids. That still didn't cross my line. The only concern is she might not intervene if some f-up teachers are transing her kids.
@@Eluderatnight No, really? them poor kids! Child abuse