Concerning #7, when I was dating my wife we went to a baseball game and we were seated beyond the net. A foul ball came our direction very close to us. I instinctively stood up in front of her and the ball went just out of my reach and hit a seat behind us and bounced back toward her from behind. I reached over and caught the ball with my bare hand. All this happened in the flash of a second. I sat back down and handed her the ball and said getting a baseball at the game was good luck (not true, I just made that up, lol!) She was obviously horrified at what had just transpired and she just stared at me speechless. I was as calm as a cucumber. (I was a baseball catcher in HS.) After she was able to compose herself she told me no one she has ever known in the past would have risked themselves as I did to protect her. Maybe that’s why she married me?
Being an old fashioned (well old anyway) guy it appalls me that men don't protect women whether they know them or not. It's instinct, or so I think, so it had to be ground out of "men" so they don't think to do it. Any culture that does that won't last much longer.
I am sure she cared about you before this incident, BUT if there was any doubt at all, I am sure this solidified it for her! A man that protects others without hesitation (especially the woman he loves and his family but really just anyone) is a huge quality to admire…..and a big turn on! (Not gonna lie) 😂 and I especially love that you made it extra special by giving her the ball and telling her it was ‘lucky’. Not a macho flex but just what you do….awwww I love that. Good job! I am sure your wife’s version of the story is pretty interesting….I can hear it now….and he leapt over with super human strength…..and with his bare hands….. ❤
@@neilreynolds3858 Men stopped protecting women when women started making false accusations again the for it, and getting men arrested, fired, socially isolated for protecting those women. There was a case not long ago where a woman filed a sxual assault case against a man for saving her life using CPR. That one made big headlines, but many others like it never even made it into local news. A woman filed charges against a man who helped her change a flat tire, and the only reason he's not in jail right now is because of his dash camera. There are also many cases of men getting dirt napped by the man they tried to protect a woman from, and then that woman slanders the deceased man on social media, and/or lies to the cops and claims he was actually the assailant. Men are tired of having all the responsibility but getting no respect, and having their rights trampled for women.
Yes! But that needs honesty and pure intentions. Very rare those days when most have long list of demands cos feminists told them they are all queens and "prize".
Yesterday I read a story about a symposium about the English language where they were discussing the difference between complete and finished. Then a guy came with this example: When you marry the RIGHT woman, you can say you are COMPLETE. When you marry the WRONG woman, you can say you are FINISHED. When the RIGHT one catches you with the WRONG one, you are COMPLETELY FINISHED.
So spot on Emily! In regards to #5, it always blows my mind how hard my husband is willing to work in order for me to be a SAHM. His work ethic has made it possible for me to witness all of our kids' milestones & be present at every school event. I feel so thankful & humbled that he would do this for me. It motivates me to do all I can for him in return. He also never downplays what I do at home. For him we're both working together for the benefit of our family, just in two different roles.
You have a great husband. Being a stay at home mom is a huge job and it's the best way to raise a family. Good choices by both of you to make that a priority in your lives!
Ex-wife never appreciated anything. I was mowing the yard with a push mower one day. Hotter than hell. I stopped for a drink, and she took over. After 5 minutes of her mowing, she'd gotten the mower stuck under the low end of the deck, and broke something trying to remove it. Then, yelled me, asking if I was going to "make her mow" all day. I told her get the hell out of the way. And, once while chopping ice out of the driveway, she came up to me and asked why it was taking me so long? I handed her the pick-axe. She took two or three swings and handed it back. Don't criticize, if you can't do shit yourself.
In all my failed relationships, there was one common denominator. A man cannot have a successful relationship with a woman that is still stuck on a prior guy that she had given her heart to and then was dumped. Doesn’t matter how much time has passed, she’s never going to bond with you the way she did with the other guy, so it’s a waste of your time to pursue her.
@@floridaman5125exactly, not “a” woman but all women. Every married man is (at best) a consolation prize. Primal instincts for something better,Women Evolutionary gift to men,lol.
I've had women try to compete with me physically. It was very cute. I often ended up finishing their work load for them and I did it with a smile. Some of them were VERY appreciative. Some, not so much. I love being a strong, confident, capable man and I thank God for it every single day.
I like the positive approach of this video presentation. Emily is not picking at what NOT to do, but instead listing 10 things YES to do. To make a good relationship. I have seen a ton of videos tearing down people with bad behavior. There is some use to realizing what are the behavioral mistakes. But this video is more constructive. It lays out the good things as a roadmap.
I do the majority of the work around my house, and my wife has finally learned that I always give the same answer when she asks how I learned to do something. "I watched professionals do it earlier."
My exwife would constantly complain about me not making enough money at my self owned mobile mechanic business but then when I spent more time going to more jobs to earn more she complained that I cared more about the customers than her and the kids.she told the children and her friends (as well as me) that I cared about all my customers and their problems more than the problems at home.the competition even became between the customers and family yet she refused to give up her Starbucks every morning or the McDonald's for her and the kids every day after school
Women want you to sacrifice... She wants only the benefits that come from that... Most women could care less about your pain or stress she just cares about her own needs that's all there is to it been in this game for 30 years most women are all like this.
These stories are almost intolerable to hear. Just keep acting with integrity. I think it's worth leaving the western world. I have done this. The women are not insane.
A classic example on an emotionally (psychologically) immature women. Learn testing skills while dating, communicate your values and boundaries and those that are triggered by that or disrespectful can go - this way to trash will take itself out.
In all my life (late 40’s), I’ve never met a woman with any of these traits. They always seem to be in competition or trying to put you down. Creating arguments for no reason at all. With zero respect or appreciation for anything you do because their day has been harder!
They've been taught that relationships are about power and they have to fight to get respect. That does not make a healthy relationship unless you're the same kind of person.
men and women both are smacked with lies that unfortunately ricochet back and forth in relationship. it's so nice when people can lift each other up celebrating strengths with no insecurities dominating. I see that type of put-down mentality and competition in groups but it's not as bad in smaller groups or connections. you're right though, women are worse, but I will never choose to put up with it. 😂 It takes patience and I only have So much of that but i try. 😅😭
As a single lady- I really do appreciate #8 - I was seriously fighting with a jar lid this week. I actually had to have my friend’s husband open it. I was really grateful for his help. #7 is my absolute favorite thing about good men and I really look forward to finding someone who will be exactly that for me some day.
Yeah, I have to use rubber bands open jars sometimes. Are used to have more strength in my hands but since I sprained my finger last year and develop some arthritis, my hand strength is not what it used to be, so I have to get a little creative with white rubber bands, wrapped around the lid or a rubberized oven mitt. I would rather have a man do it. It’s kind of a turn on..
1. I will figure it out! 2. Admire other guys success. 3. Admire ability help problem solve. 4. Playing with kids. Child like. 5. Work ethic. 6. Ability to romance. 7. Awareness of surroundings. 8. Physical strength. 9. Man’s lack of dressing up. Clothes etc. 10. Man’s voice.
My wife and I made an agreement when we first got married to never “low rate” what the other one does or contributes to the partnership, the relationship, and later (after kids were born) the family. Division of labor throughout, each one with their own tasks, divided by interest and skillset, with some tasks shared. One of the best things we ever did. Never had an argument about it. Appreciate the other one always. Say thanks. That said, thanks for mentioning item #1, figuring it out or getting it done as a figurative last line of defense. I never really realized that one was on me, but it is. You just do it. Don’t even think about it really. Because you love them, and that’s your job. Great list!
The very few times I have mentioned to my wife, what I am paying attention to as far as safety, surroundings, and people interactions in the world, she has called me paranoid, and crazy. So I just stopped telling her what I’m looking at or thinking. There’s nothing wrong with general awareness and observing potential problems. You can do that without being crazy or paranoid. I have told my child a few times when you walk out of a store look left and right casually just to make sure things are OK.
Opening up and being vulnerable even with a wife is absolutely a very bad thing to do. I did that once and it cost my marriage. I am a Combat Veteran and looked up to by everyone. A lot of what I went through is unimaginable and stirs up A LOT of uncontrollable emotions. When I expose it, it will destroy anyone view of myself. My therapist is the only person who can witness that part of me... no one else.
Some vets will understand. What used to appall me was when people demanded that I tell them how I felt and when I did they condemned me for not feeling the way they wanted. It's a trap with most people who have no idea what combat is like and what you've seen and done and what it's done to you but that's on them not you. It's been over 50 years but there's still a lot that even the people who are supportive of veterans will never understand and that they've been lied to about. Just trying to tell them the truth can start them on a mental breakdown and trigger layers and layers of defenses. That can happen even to other veterans who had to edit their memories to survive afterwards. It's never going to be easy but you learn to live with it.
I concur. I opened up to my wife one day(after her constant nagging) . That was the day she lost any respect she had for me. And yes it has been used against me multiple times
I love listening to you. Spot on with your advice. The reason my wife and I have been married for 43 years is because we love, nurture and respect each other.
Thanks for your videos, I have been divorced and destroyed by an X. I was not respected in my marriage and in the end financially taken advantage of. Your videos are like therapy.
Thank you, Emily for sharing. Appreciate you putting this out there. Positive thoughts for you and those close to you. Merry Christmas and I hope you have a wonderful 2024.
Right. I love it when my husband brings home burgers for us when he comes home from work. I feel loved because he thought of me! And he loves it when I buy him candy or cakes when I grocery shop. We are simple like that. Been married for 10 years now!
at age 55, God brought me back together with my original love - my 9th grade girlfriend. We were both divorced with no natural children. it is now 15 years later - of blissful existence - we celebrated our 14th year anniversary a few weeks ago. These ideas completely align with our life together - and my instincts to work every day to become a better husband. Thank you.
Great list !! #3 was a big contention between the wifey and I for a while. We now have a handle on it. When she just wants me to listen (not problem solve) she says “just a vent”.
It's really difficult to comment since all of your summations make sense and more often than not on the money. You have a nice voice and easy way of presenting. It makes me feel good when I can rings the bells. Had I been armed with all this intuitive information I wonder would I have found/picked the same woman that I have been married to for 49 years.
As a middle-age man that had experienced some life lessons, you are spot on and I love that you are promoting these ideas. This is the backbone of a well rounded society and I feel we are sadly lacking this thinking in modern society. Kudos for saying it out loud.
EMILY!!! Great to see You here on CZcams I used to follow you on tik tok but no longer have til tok anymore so glad to see you here!! Look forward to your videos… I spoke with you via email a couple times love what your doing!!! God bless 🙏🏼
I think Emily described her relationship with "her man".She is good woman who looks after her man and he cares for her. She admires the little and large things Tom does for her. She does describe her actions but I think she reciprocates by doing things for Tom. This is a win win situation. Have a great Christmas and fruitful New Year, Emily Tom and the kiddos.
#8 My 100 lb or so, teenage, 5 ft 1/2 inch niece was shocked that I pushed their manual push mower across their yard at a brisk walking pace where she grunted through it at less than half my speed. I had to explain to her that I’m 11 inches taller than her, nearly twice her mass; so pushing that mower is proportionately lighter for me. 12 years of private schooling and they never taught girls that men are usually bigger and stronger than them is basic biology proven by sports from golf (tees are closer to the greens) and tennis (a male pro seeded between 170-200 slaughtered both Williams sisters in back to back sets. Serena herself said she can’t win against pro men).
It's not just size either, stronger bones, more fast twitch muscles fibres and bunch of other things. Short kings are physically more capable than tall ladies, beautiful thing is men don't (generally) make it a problem. No man will mind helping out with heavy lifting, as long as you don't nag them for light stuff out of laziness or entitlement. And if you're the kind of women that's capable of excelling and want to, you still can.
Schools are run by feminasty broads. I know several teachers who are married (to my friends or family members), and they're pretty unhappy about how schools are basically female supremacist indoctrination camps now. Luckily for them, they're all close to retiring. But that's bad for the students. Schools teach "girls can so anything boys can do, but better, and while wearing high heels" kind of crap. I've seen some schools where they have all kinds of "girl power" posters on the walls (and this was 20-30 years ago). Some of those schools have had those posters replaced with the rainbow flag and now those have been replaced with the new trans flag. There are now even medical schools teaching the "social construct" gender garbage. And that's why we have so many violent women these days. They've been taught all their lives that they are just as capable as a man at doing anything, including physically demanding heavy tasks, but men have been told since we were little to never harm a woman. So women now just beat men without repercussions, and if a man defends himself, then he goes to jail. The cops, lawyers, and judges are now all indoctrinated into the Duluth Model during training/university, so it's always the man's fault.
Watching your videos makes me think that you are one of very rare unicorns :D I hope there are some more like you out there. I've already broken up with several women because of recurrent unacceptable behavior. Some of them told me they will love me forever, because I was the first man that constantly stuck to his plans and shew them what boundaries are. Well, this does not help much, when I've lost feelings because of her nonsense-behavior. Life would be much easier if people wouldn't even start to behave inappriopiately.
you are a gem Emily. As a 59 yr/old male who is not a Chad or Ken, every one of your points is so spot on. When my sister calls me because she can't start her car or the lawn mower, I don't drive the 15 mile round trip to show off, I'm simply happy to help.. #1 - it drives females crazy, but when posed with a problem with no immediate solution, I will say, "let me have a think about it..". As I said, it drives women crazy !!
you are awesome! I love your enthusiastic appreciation for men, and think you are one of a scant few social media people who give coherent analysis of women's misunderstandings about men, wonderful to behold. It seems to me that your sympathetic and empathetic understanding of men is only possible because you are powerful, in your self.
# 8 I'm kind of on the fence, because in my job I see women doing same work I do, work with the same equipment I do and I have to give these ladies much respect. Our job is not simple it takes both mental and physical tolls on you. We're heavy truck drivers.
Yes thanks to modern trucks with automatic transmission and power steering back in the day not too many men could handle it not complaining I'm older now I can keep on trucking for many more years lol.
Love the channel. I think some animated graphics would be nice for these countdown episodes. I do motion graphics for a living, let me know if you ever want some help to beef up the production value!
I’m not looking for a woman -I like living alone and I don’t think any woman would replace my late wife of 39 years in my heart. That said, I think you are a total gem! You really ‘get’ men, and know how we can dovetail with your life and needs. What a rare person you are! Do you have brothers. Is that how you came to know so much about what’s under the hood of a man? It’s not academic study that taught you all that, surely
Authentic character, yes. Showing vulnerability (as requested by most women) is a big mistake men often make thus ruining her attraction to him. Once that is gone, its all downhill from there.
When a woman takes care of her physical health/diet which reflects in mental health, but also emotional maturity and even spiritual clarity, all these qualities reflect on the outside and make a woman more beautiful than any kind of product they use.
Half of the things you just listed are reasons why my wife is now my ex-wife. I don't know if she changed or if I started seeing her differently. But you hit the nail on the head.
For men, problem solving, is simply about connecting the dots, with a straight line. For women, it's involving things that rarely have anything to do with a solution but somehow still need to be considered.
You are a kindhearted and fair lady. Man will take a woman and they will become one. Simple. Tried. Very old design. With right kind of care it runs forever. Carry each other’s crosses happily.😊
Emily, you clearly appreciate the qualities you want/like in a man. I believe you clearly understand how to catch the attention of any man you may want. How is their no ring on your finger?
#7 is so true, I’m happy when I’m out with my girlfriend and she is relaxed and comfortable. Meanwhile I’m on the lookout for all the dangers and threats around us-lol. Some times giving sketchy characters, a this is not going to be easy, try someone else looks.
And number one is, also a woman's voice! As a man I always notice a woman's voice. And I really like your voice Emily. It's very female and quite unique. You've probably heard this before but thought I would let you know.
It is so nice to hear a woman say that you actually LIKE what men are! Most of these are things men like in other men, and want in the men we associate with. Admiration of these traits, whether by men or women is basically admiration of aspects of manliness and the results of masculine competence. Several of the traits you mention resonate with classical Stoicism and other ancient traditions that define manly ways of moving in the world. There is an exception for being romantic and partial exceptions for the deep voice and being childlike. (Men do not care that another guy's voice is deep. However, a high voice in a man can be a little bit off-putting, but is balanced by extreme competence like that of Mike Tyson. The childlike thing translates to the ability to just relax and be fun.) The “right type of woman” simply acknowledges that she, like the rest of the world, needs strong, competent, zestful manhood.
Thank you for this information, 35 year relationship ended 1 year ago and much self doubt in this new world, all of these 10 I recognise within myself so it does give me some hope and a little more confidence
Concerning #7, when I was dating my wife we went to a baseball game and we were seated beyond the net. A foul ball came our direction very close to us. I instinctively stood up in front of her and the ball went just out of my reach and hit a seat behind us and bounced back toward her from behind. I reached over and caught the ball with my bare hand. All this happened in the flash of a second. I sat back down and handed her the ball and said getting a baseball at the game was good luck (not true, I just made that up, lol!) She was obviously horrified at what had just transpired and she just stared at me speechless. I was as calm as a cucumber. (I was a baseball catcher in HS.) After she was able to compose herself she told me no one she has ever known in the past would have risked themselves as I did to protect her. Maybe that’s why she married me?
Being an old fashioned (well old anyway) guy it appalls me that men don't protect women whether they know them or not. It's instinct, or so I think, so it had to be ground out of "men" so they don't think to do it. Any culture that does that won't last much longer.
Nobody 'ground it out' of anyone.@@neilreynolds3858
I am sure she cared about you before this incident, BUT if there was any doubt at all, I am sure this solidified it for her! A man that protects others without hesitation (especially the woman he loves and his family but really just anyone) is a huge quality to admire…..and a big turn on! (Not gonna lie) 😂 and I especially love that you made it extra special by giving her the ball and telling her it was ‘lucky’. Not a macho flex but just what you do….awwww I love that. Good job! I am sure your wife’s version of the story is pretty interesting….I can hear it now….and he leapt over with super human strength…..and with his bare hands….. ❤
@@neilreynolds3858 Men stopped protecting women when women started making false accusations again the for it, and getting men arrested, fired, socially isolated for protecting those women. There was a case not long ago where a woman filed a sxual assault case against a man for saving her life using CPR. That one made big headlines, but many others like it never even made it into local news. A woman filed charges against a man who helped her change a flat tire, and the only reason he's not in jail right now is because of his dash camera. There are also many cases of men getting dirt napped by the man they tried to protect a woman from, and then that woman slanders the deceased man on social media, and/or lies to the cops and claims he was actually the assailant. Men are tired of having all the responsibility but getting no respect, and having their rights trampled for women.
@@neilreynolds3858 Tbh when women treat men like shit constantly, it makes men not want to protect them.
It all boils down to genuine appreciation. For the right person we will move heaven and earth
Yes!
But that needs honesty and pure intentions. Very rare those days when most have long list of demands cos feminists told them they are all queens and "prize".
Women have lost there feminine.
@ghammond3132 Which one of the guys are you?
@ghammond3132 taking advice? Or just watching and commenting?
And how exactly is she manipulating her audience now?
Yesterday I read a story about a symposium about the English language where they were discussing the difference between complete and finished.
Then a guy came with this example:
When you marry the RIGHT woman, you can say you are COMPLETE.
When you marry the WRONG woman, you can say you are FINISHED.
When the RIGHT one catches you with the WRONG one, you are COMPLETELY FINISHED.
So spot on Emily! In regards to #5, it always blows my mind how hard my husband is willing to work in order for me to be a SAHM. His work ethic has made it possible for me to witness all of our kids' milestones & be present at every school event. I feel so thankful & humbled that he would do this for me. It motivates me to do all I can for him in return. He also never downplays what I do at home. For him we're both working together for the benefit of our family, just in two different roles.
You have a great husband. Being a stay at home mom is a huge job and it's the best way to raise a family. Good choices by both of you to make that a priority in your lives!
you sound like the right kind of woman!
Men just want the 3 R's: Respect, Recognition, and Reciprication.
You forgot R'clapdemcheeks
Or perhaps "Ruinherlife" or "Rearrangeherinsides" 🤣@@ZipMapp
How about R'un Away!
And a bit of Rs ❤
I say, respect, loyalty and understanding.
Three things women are incapable of delivering
Ex-wife never appreciated anything. I was mowing the yard with a push mower one day. Hotter than hell. I stopped for a drink, and she took over. After 5 minutes of her mowing, she'd gotten the mower stuck under the low end of the deck, and broke something trying to remove it. Then, yelled me, asking if I was going to "make her mow" all day. I told her get the hell out of the way. And, once while chopping ice out of the driveway, she came up to me and asked why it was taking me so long? I handed her the pick-axe. She took two or three swings and handed it back. Don't criticize, if you can't do shit yourself.
Women want slaves nowadays, not husbands.
In all my failed relationships, there was one common denominator. A man cannot have a successful relationship with a woman that is still stuck on a prior guy that she had given her heart to and then was dumped. Doesn’t matter how much time has passed, she’s never going to bond with you the way she did with the other guy, so it’s a waste of your time to pursue her.
Alpha widow
@@floridaman5125exactly, not “a” woman but all women. Every married man is (at best) a consolation prize. Primal instincts for something better,Women Evolutionary gift to men,lol.
Sorry but that's just down to you
@@free_gold4467 nope she’s an alpha widow, will never connect with another male for life, she’s screwed up forever.
@@floridaman5125facts Biology
I've had women try to compete with me physically. It was very cute. I often ended up finishing their work load for them and I did it with a smile. Some of them were VERY appreciative. Some, not so much. I love being a strong, confident, capable man and I thank God for it every single day.
I like the positive approach of this video presentation. Emily is not picking at what NOT to do, but instead listing 10 things YES to do. To make a good relationship. I have seen a ton of videos tearing down people with bad behavior. There is some use to realizing what are the behavioral mistakes. But this video is more constructive. It lays out the good things as a roadmap.
I do the majority of the work around my house, and my wife has finally learned that I always give the same answer when she asks how I learned to do something. "I watched professionals do it earlier."
My exwife would constantly complain about me not making enough money at my self owned mobile mechanic business but then when I spent more time going to more jobs to earn more she complained that I cared more about the customers than her and the kids.she told the children and her friends (as well as me) that I cared about all my customers and their problems more than the problems at home.the competition even became between the customers and family yet she refused to give up her Starbucks every morning or the McDonald's for her and the kids every day after school
Women want you to sacrifice... She wants only the benefits that come from that... Most women could care less about your pain or stress she just cares about her own needs that's all there is to it been in this game for 30 years most women are all like this.
Run forest run😂
SHAME on her.
These stories are almost intolerable to hear. Just keep acting with integrity. I think it's worth leaving the western world. I have done this. The women are not insane.
A classic example on an emotionally (psychologically) immature women. Learn testing skills while dating, communicate your values and boundaries and those that are triggered by that or disrespectful can go - this way to trash will take itself out.
In all my life (late 40’s), I’ve never met a woman with any of these traits.
They always seem to be in competition or trying to put you down. Creating arguments for no reason at all. With zero respect or appreciation for anything you do because their day has been harder!
They've been taught that relationships are about power and they have to fight to get respect. That does not make a healthy relationship unless you're the same kind of person.
men and women both are smacked with lies that unfortunately ricochet back and forth in relationship.
it's so nice when people can lift each other up celebrating strengths with no insecurities dominating.
I see that type of put-down mentality and competition in groups but it's not as bad in smaller groups or connections. you're right though, women are worse, but I will never choose to put up with it. 😂
It takes patience and I only have So much of that but i try. 😅😭
As a single lady- I really do appreciate #8 - I was seriously fighting with a jar lid this week. I actually had to have my friend’s husband open it. I was really grateful for his help. #7 is my absolute favorite thing about good men and I really look forward to finding someone who will be exactly that for me some day.
#8, get a strap wrench to open jars. They are cheap and easy to use.
Thanks! I had no idea what that was so I had to Google it. 😅 That does look like it would be very useful. I appreciate the suggestion !
Yeah, I have to use rubber bands open jars sometimes. Are used to have more strength in my hands but since I sprained my finger last year and develop some arthritis, my hand strength is not what it used to be, so I have to get a little creative with white rubber bands, wrapped around the lid or a rubberized oven mitt. I would rather have a man do it. It’s kind of a turn on..
I never sit with my back to a door. I just cant . It makes me uncomfortable
Ditto.
1. I will figure it out!
2. Admire other guys success.
3. Admire ability help problem solve.
4. Playing with kids. Child like.
5. Work ethic.
6. Ability to romance.
7. Awareness of surroundings.
8. Physical strength.
9. Man’s lack of dressing up. Clothes etc.
10. Man’s voice.
My wife and I made an agreement when we first got married to never “low rate” what the other one does or contributes to the partnership, the relationship, and later (after kids were born) the family. Division of labor throughout, each one with their own tasks, divided by interest and skillset, with some tasks shared. One of the best things we ever did. Never had an argument about it. Appreciate the other one always. Say thanks.
That said, thanks for mentioning item #1, figuring it out or getting it done as a figurative last line of defense. I never really realized that one was on me, but it is. You just do it. Don’t even think about it really. Because you love them, and that’s your job.
Great list!
That's amazing that you never argued over division of labour. You sound like a great team.
I'm an older guy and what you espouse in your videos is a breath of fresh air! I hope more people take notice of what you're doing. It's important!
@_Te-legrem-EmilyWking1. Sure!
The very few times I have mentioned to my wife, what I am paying attention to as far as safety, surroundings, and people interactions in the world, she has called me paranoid, and crazy. So I just stopped telling her what I’m looking at or thinking.
There’s nothing wrong with general awareness and observing potential problems. You can do that without being crazy or paranoid. I have told my child a few times when you walk out of a store look left and right casually just to make sure things are OK.
Opening up and being vulnerable even with a wife is absolutely a very bad thing to do. I did that once and it cost my marriage. I am a Combat Veteran and looked up to by everyone. A lot of what I went through is unimaginable and stirs up A LOT of uncontrollable emotions. When I expose it, it will destroy anyone view of myself. My therapist is the only person who can witness that part of me... no one else.
Have you tried to talk about those things with people that have similar experiences?
Did you kill children? You must've killed children.
Some vets will understand. What used to appall me was when people demanded that I tell them how I felt and when I did they condemned me for not feeling the way they wanted. It's a trap with most people who have no idea what combat is like and what you've seen and done and what it's done to you but that's on them not you. It's been over 50 years but there's still a lot that even the people who are supportive of veterans will never understand and that they've been lied to about. Just trying to tell them the truth can start them on a mental breakdown and trigger layers and layers of defenses. That can happen even to other veterans who had to edit their memories to survive afterwards. It's never going to be easy but you learn to live with it.
I concur. I opened up to my wife one day(after her constant nagging) . That was the day she lost any respect she had for me. And yes it has been used against me multiple times
@@lalaa555 NO!!! After what happened with my wife, I will not expose that part of me to anyone other than my psychiatric therapist.
I love listening to you. Spot on with your advice. The reason my wife and I have been married for 43 years is because we love, nurture and respect each other.
That's your side of the story.
Thanks for your videos, I have been divorced and destroyed by an X. I was not respected in my marriage and in the end financially taken advantage of. Your videos are like therapy.
Thank you, Emily. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for all that you do Emily. Exceptional one this time. Merry Christmas!
I really appreciate your videos❤❤ Keep it up
Spot on. Love your common sense and your ability to read men. Carry on young lady.
What I love about Emily is that she always seems to be spot on with her analysis. well done and keep it up!
This is your best video Emily. Thanks for sharing, its quite endearing
Another good info filled video.
I really enjoyed today's reality forum.
Thank you, Emily for sharing. Appreciate you putting this out there. Positive thoughts for you and those close to you. Merry Christmas and I hope you have a wonderful 2024.
Blessed yule miss king. 🎄
As for your list...
Im thinkin you nailed it 10 for 10. 👍
#8 “Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Right. I love it when my husband brings home burgers for us when he comes home from work. I feel loved because he thought of me! And he loves it when I buy him candy or cakes when I grocery shop. We are simple like that. Been married for 10 years now!
You sound like awesome women. Your husband is a lucky man. Good luck on the next 60 years!
@@JaM68-vz9hr Thank you! I respect my husband just like God says to.
Thanks Emily for your great content and I hope you and your family have a wonderful and blessed New Year.😊
Thank you, Emily, for everything you do.
at age 55, God brought me back together with my original love - my 9th grade girlfriend. We were both divorced with no natural children. it is now 15 years later - of blissful existence - we celebrated our 14th year anniversary a few weeks ago. These ideas completely align with our life together - and my instincts to work every day to become a better husband. Thank you.
Great list !!
#3 was a big contention between the wifey and I for a while. We now have a handle on it. When she just wants me to listen (not problem solve) she says “just a vent”.
Emily thanks so much for your brilliant authentic, positive and wise videos 😊
Thanks Emily merry Christmas
It's really difficult to comment since all of your summations make sense and more often than not on the money. You have a nice voice and easy way of presenting. It makes me feel good when I can rings the bells. Had I been armed with all this intuitive information I wonder would I have found/picked the same woman that I have been married to for 49 years.
I appreciate your videos, and the fact that you have reminded me that good women are still out there.
As a middle-age man that had experienced some life lessons, you are spot on and I love that you are promoting these ideas. This is the backbone of a well rounded society and I feel we are sadly lacking this thinking in modern society. Kudos for saying it out loud.
Within every man is a poet, it does take inspiration to pull it out of him.
I appreciate your content so very much. Please keep it up. ❤
I agree with your list.
EMILY!!! Great to see
You here on CZcams I used to follow you on tik tok but no longer have til tok anymore so glad to see you here!! Look forward to your videos… I spoke with you via email a couple times love what your doing!!! God bless 🙏🏼
I think Emily described her relationship with "her man".She is good woman who looks after her man and he cares for her. She admires the little and large things Tom does for her. She does describe her actions but I think she reciprocates by doing things for Tom. This is a win win situation.
Have a great Christmas and fruitful New Year, Emily Tom and the kiddos.
Thank you for your video and for the 10 things
Thank you Emily you are a breath of fresh air.. God bless Kiddo
#8 My 100 lb or so, teenage, 5 ft 1/2 inch niece was shocked that I pushed their manual push mower across their yard at a brisk walking pace where she grunted through it at less than half my speed. I had to explain to her that I’m 11 inches taller than her, nearly twice her mass; so pushing that mower is proportionately lighter for me. 12 years of private schooling and they never taught girls that men are usually bigger and stronger than them is basic biology proven by sports from golf (tees are closer to the greens) and tennis (a male pro seeded between 170-200 slaughtered both Williams sisters in back to back sets. Serena herself said she can’t win against pro men).
It's not just size either, stronger bones, more fast twitch muscles fibres and bunch of other things. Short kings are physically more capable than tall ladies, beautiful thing is men don't (generally) make it a problem. No man will mind helping out with heavy lifting, as long as you don't nag them for light stuff out of laziness or entitlement. And if you're the kind of women that's capable of excelling and want to, you still can.
Schools are run by feminasty broads. I know several teachers who are married (to my friends or family members), and they're pretty unhappy about how schools are basically female supremacist indoctrination camps now. Luckily for them, they're all close to retiring. But that's bad for the students. Schools teach "girls can so anything boys can do, but better, and while wearing high heels" kind of crap. I've seen some schools where they have all kinds of "girl power" posters on the walls (and this was 20-30 years ago). Some of those schools have had those posters replaced with the rainbow flag and now those have been replaced with the new trans flag. There are now even medical schools teaching the "social construct" gender garbage. And that's why we have so many violent women these days. They've been taught all their lives that they are just as capable as a man at doing anything, including physically demanding heavy tasks, but men have been told since we were little to never harm a woman. So women now just beat men without repercussions, and if a man defends himself, then he goes to jail. The cops, lawyers, and judges are now all indoctrinated into the Duluth Model during training/university, so it's always the man's fault.
Women would just have to look at world records eg. in athletics to see the truth, but most don´t.
EDIT: the difference is about 15% in averrage.
Wow Emily that was incredible you left me in tears I didn't think any woman understood those things are a man!
Thank you! That was nice!
Watching your videos makes me think that you are one of very rare unicorns :D I hope there are some more like you out there. I've already broken up with several women because of recurrent unacceptable behavior. Some of them told me they will love me forever, because I was the first man that constantly stuck to his plans and shew them what boundaries are. Well, this does not help much, when I've lost feelings because of her nonsense-behavior. Life would be much easier if people wouldn't even start to behave inappriopiately.
Great video!
Thanks.
love your insight, please keep up the good work
All great points, Emily
It's easy to overlook a woman's flaws when she displays these qualities
you are a gem Emily. As a 59 yr/old male who is not a Chad or Ken, every one of your points is so spot on. When my sister calls me because she can't start her car or the lawn mower, I don't drive the 15 mile round trip to show off, I'm simply happy to help..
#1 - it drives females crazy, but when posed with a problem with no immediate solution, I will say, "let me have a think about it..". As I said, it drives women crazy !!
Yes... good to hear.
Man, you are spot on. Thank you.
you are awesome! I love your enthusiastic appreciation for men, and think you are one of a scant few social media people who give coherent analysis of women's misunderstandings about men, wonderful to behold. It seems to me that your sympathetic and empathetic understanding of men is only possible because you are powerful, in your self.
# 8 I'm kind of on the fence, because in my job I see women doing same work I do, work with the same equipment I do and I have to give these ladies much respect. Our job is not simple it takes both mental and physical tolls on you. We're heavy truck drivers.
You can’t seriously be trying to tell us that men and women possess the same levels of physical strength? Basic science disagrees with you.
@@americandissident9062 Are you calling him a liar? He didn't say they were hauling rocks, he said they were driving trucks.
Yes thanks to modern trucks with automatic transmission and power steering back in the day not too many men could handle it not complaining I'm older now I can keep on trucking for many more years lol.
Don’t waste ur time with Sarah. She comes here to troll
@@sarahrobertson634lol no one cares… about what u say troll lol
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It all comes down to a woman with a good heart and character. She is appreciative, unselfish and Loyal !
Wonderful video!! I have always been a man who figures it out, no matter what or how difficult!!
Love your channel ❤️🙏🏼♾️
YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!!
Love the channel. I think some animated graphics would be nice for these countdown episodes. I do motion graphics for a living, let me know if you ever want some help to beef up the production value!
Very interesting video I'm sure that there is more to it than this video! Happy New Year too you and your new family member!🌹🙏
Thank You.
Really love your content. It reminds me of all the things my husband does for our life together.
I will make sure to keep practicing these 😊
Love uplifts. Everything’s else is detail.
I’m not looking for a woman -I like living alone and I don’t think any woman would replace my late wife of 39 years in my heart. That said, I think you are a total gem! You really ‘get’ men, and know how we can dovetail with your life and needs. What a rare person you are! Do you have brothers. Is that how you came to know so much about what’s under the hood of a man? It’s not academic study that taught you all that, surely
Thank you, you are awesome
Totally agree with these. I would add ability to be authentic and vulnerable. This does take an environment of trust that we as women need to create.
Authentic character, yes. Showing vulnerability (as requested by most women) is a big mistake men often make thus ruining her attraction to him. Once that is gone, its all downhill from there.
We need more young women like you !!!
When a woman takes care of her physical health/diet which reflects in mental health, but also emotional maturity and even spiritual clarity, all these qualities reflect on the outside and make a woman more beautiful than any kind of product they use.
Good on ya Emily. From NZ 😊
Mutual respect 👍
Really Appreciate Emily your femininity. Like a breath of fresh air.
You are correct. What you are saying is that the right kind of woman is admiring his high quality standards.
Half of the things you just listed are reasons why my wife is now my ex-wife. I don't know if she changed or if I started seeing her differently. But you hit the nail on the head.
For men, problem solving, is simply about connecting the dots, with a straight line. For women, it's involving things that rarely have anything to do with a solution but somehow still need to be considered.
You are a kindhearted and fair lady. Man will take a woman and they will become one. Simple. Tried. Very old design. With right kind of care it runs forever. Carry each other’s crosses happily.😊
Emily, you clearly appreciate the qualities you want/like in a man. I believe you clearly understand how to catch the attention of any man you may want. How is their no ring on your finger?
Thanks.
Thanks Emily, 10 things you mentioned were so true, that I found on my girlfriend.
Merry Christmas to you ❤
Holy high value woman! Emily you are awesome!
Gold thoughts.
Emily always hits the nail on the head😊
#7 is so true, I’m happy when I’m out with my girlfriend and she is relaxed and comfortable. Meanwhile I’m on the lookout for all the dangers and threats around us-lol. Some times giving sketchy characters, a this is not going to be easy, try someone else looks.
I can't remember a time when I did not despise shopping for clothes.
than you... everything you said I have spent my life becoming....a good honest,fun tough male.
Well done very nice
And number one is, also a woman's voice! As a man I always notice a woman's voice. And I really like your voice Emily. It's very female and quite unique. You've probably heard this before but thought I would let you know.
You are an amazing young lady.
It is so nice to hear a woman say that you actually LIKE what men are!
Most of these are things men like in other men, and want in the men we associate with. Admiration of these traits, whether by men or women is basically admiration of aspects of manliness and the results of masculine competence.
Several of the traits you mention resonate with classical Stoicism and other ancient traditions that define manly ways of moving in the world.
There is an exception for being romantic and partial exceptions for the deep voice and being childlike. (Men do not care that another guy's voice is deep. However, a high voice in a man can be a little bit off-putting, but is balanced by extreme competence like that of Mike Tyson. The childlike thing translates to the ability to just relax and be fun.)
The “right type of woman” simply acknowledges that she, like the rest of the world, needs strong, competent, zestful manhood.
I buy mostly black. Nice shirts are colored anything but pink. I do have a magenta dress shirt i wear with a black jacket
Dang 2 wives. Both cheated. all I was raised to do is take care and provide/protect mine. When kids came along, stay at home Moms. Worked to much.
Thank you for this information, 35 year relationship ended 1 year ago and much self doubt in this new world, all of these 10 I recognise within myself so it does give me some hope and a little more confidence