Is Modern Feminism starting to undermine Itself? | Jess Butcher | TEDxAstonUniversity
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- Entrepreneur, Non-Exec Director and Angel investor. Co-Founder of Blippar, one of Britain’s best-funded technology scale-ups and one of the world’s leading computer vision and augmented reality technology platforms. She is the recipient of numerous female entrepreneur and tech awards including BBC’s Top 100 Women and Fortune’s Most Powerful female entrepreneurs and is a passionate start-up mentor, public speaker and writer on subjects as diverse as women in technology, female entrepreneurialism, digital innovation, digital detox and work-life balance. She received an MBE in the 2018 New Years Honours List for her services to technology and entrepreneurship. Entrepreneur, Non-Exec Director and Angel investor. Co-Founder of Blippar, one of Britain’s best-funded technology scale-ups and one of the world’s leading computer vision and augmented reality technology platforms. She is the recipient of numerous female entrepreneur and tech awards including BBC’s Top 100 Women and Fortune’s Most Powerful female entrepreneurs and is a passionate start-up mentor, public speaker and writer on subjects as diverse as women in technology, female entrepreneurialism, digital innovation, digital detox and work-life balance. She received an MBE in the 2018 New Years Honours List for her services to technology and entrepreneurship. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
When I make these exact points, I’m mansplaining. Thanks feminism
Womansplaining smashes the patriarchy, so it's ok.
The patriarchy boogeyman is real! Real as the wage gap I tell you! You can trust me, I'm a woman...
Ideas hold different weight depending on which genitals or skin color the speaker has.
*Get WOKE*
Mansplaining aka using logic.
-slpaining means saying anything, while being associated with an identity category someone doesn't like.
“Women, Children and Dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he has something to provide”
- Chris Rock.
Being warm is a good quality
Random User If you’re talking about warmth as in kindness- then I’d say everyone should possess it. If you’re talking about actual body heat, think about that for a second. It’s good for you, less good if someone else is sapping it from you.
@@deangreen2567 warmth begets warmth. Giving is receiving.
mgw622 Tell that to Jack after the Titanic went under
@@randomuser5443 provide warm yes
I stood up on the bus and offered my seat to a young pregnant woman to sit down.
She angrily said " I'm pregnant..I'm not _ucking disabled"
As a father of 3 and a grandfather I sat back down looked straight ahead and worried about the future.
You are good human being I am sorry you have to go through that humiliation
Welcome to 2022. You're dammed if you do. She should have had the good grace to thank you and say no.
I held a door open for a group of people behind me at work, the first in line was a woman who looked down at the floor like I was insulting her. So I kept the door open and let the men through and once they had finished I closed the door on her, in which case she forgot her id card and had to wait outside for 5 minutes before someone opened the door for her.
It's madness but it's real.
"Does power exist solely in the boardroom and at the highest levels of politics and business? Or is there the possibility that it exists in choice? And arguably, don't women have more of that? Does the equality of opportunity have to equal the equality of outcome?"
I had to stop at this. This is my thoughts in words! So well said!
Yep!
There are bad abusive men, and there are bad abusive women. Women however, almost always get away with it.
Jake Dean unless they use a weapon or manipulate someone to do it for them
@@jwolf1125 that doesn't stop there being an exponential difference in how many times it goes from abuse to murder, not even for big things either. there's plenty to complain about with feminism, but men need to work with us and not constantly fight us. too many people assume and jump the gun that EVERY woman hates men and EVERY woman wants to control them, but that's not true. but when you look at social media, you see hundreds of thousands of men who seem very willing to put women in their "place" constantly. women also need to stop minimizing the issues men experience or mocking them for their circumstances. we really do have to sit and hold hands and listen to each other properly and understand neither side are good nor totally bad.
Jay Evans I understand that and your right all I was saying is that women could hurt a man by other means and it sometimes hard for some men to work with some women because some women only talk about subjects of how Men are wronged but they only do this because they want to make money off those men they sometimes don’t even really care about men problems just themselves so it’s tough to see who really trying to work with men
@@jwolf1125 no no i got what you were saying. and yes theres a few women out there ready to capitalize on the suffering of men and other folk, but these people typically get denounced (and if they aren't, denounce anyone who supports them). but nobody listens to the women who talk about how men are abused and hurt, and men in general don't seem to want to stand together to work with feminism about how to treat the issue, instead they bully each other over it and it's horrible (see: toxic masculinity). theres a lot of issues that effect both men AND women equally, but nobody can ever go over it or discuss it without being shut down and it's a huge problem, and we can't afford that to keep happening at this time.
Jay Evans ok that’s cool but I don’t think they want to work with feminisms because of what is feminism doing today which is mostly only helping women I mean if look up feminism it’s the advocacy women rights for equality why would men work with something that would only benefit women when their trying to fix both genders and the main problem with feminism is that they think everybody is equal but we are not men have their strengths and weaknesses and women have their strength and weaknesses it’s always been like that
“Its actually not my daughter I’m worried about bringing up in this brave new world, it’s my son.” Exactly.
I am with you.
Just goes to show her care & concern is not for/on about ALL men, but just her own spoiled brats. Bias confirmed. 😒
She's just using that known Chameleon Syndrome that we heard about from Esther Vilar's book. 😏
@@davidbolha no
@@davidbolha You completely missed the point. She outlined how society is harming men and putting women on a pedestal. She's not concerned about her daughters because she knows society will grant them massive amounts of support whereas there is almost no support (or negative support depending on the context, e.g. education) for boys.
me too...about your kids.
You can't have womens rights without womens responsibilities.
Examples please ?? I want to understand this comment ..
@@user-yn3vy3sn8n just go and watch Dr Shaym videos
And then, the monstrosity called "Believe All Women" came, what about fair justice? Innocence until proven guilty?
@@user-yn3vy3sn8n For example women argue for abortion with "my body my choice" but the man always has to face the consequences even though he got no say. If women can opt out of parenthood post pregnancy then equality says men should be able to too. My body my choice? Your choice your responsibility.
@@-bubby9633 exactly!
I was at an eye clinic the other day and I seriously saw at least 15 of their staff. From the receptionist to the doctors, assistens, cleaners etc. They were ALL women. I mentioned it to the doctor and said that can hardly be a coincidence. And she was really smiling and being like ''yea.. they get it back you know'' I was shocked. Like who gets what back? I have never been discriminating towards women and so has 95% of men. And here you are admitting that you only hire woman to get some kind of revenge on men? And she was even proud of it. Like ''we don't want men here'' . Imagine it would be the other way round? Many women have completely lost it in this area if you ask me..
Narcissistic behavior is female nature.
I would have reported them to some kind of equal opportunity body
95% of nurses are women... despite men getting 1/3 of nursing degrees. No bias though...
@ Interesting. But I bet you feminists will look as long as they can to find excuses for this instead of just admitting men get discriminated when they apply for a nursing job. While at the same time when women statistically earn less than men it MUST be because and only because they get discriminated for being a woman.
@@Dani-it5sy Yep, seen some try to claim all those men went on to be doctors. And the funny part about the wage gap is it's more than explained by overtime alone. Meaning men are a little underpaid compared to. Even more comically, Berkeley of all places found women performed on piecemeal work at a 98 for men's 100. So a little less value for the same pay.
"Feminism has become obsessed with female victimhood." Spot on. Excellent talk all around.
ALWAYS has been.
Personally, I feel empowered by feminism, especially modern intersectional feminism that understands that the patriarchy affects me in a different way than other men do.
@George Bush Correction! white women not other races. Asians and middle eastern women still struggle
@George Bush WHITE women.
GuppyPal. Feminism ain't about women, buddy.
On Facebook, I ran across a post that simply read, "The future is female!". My comment drew a ton of criticism, but I still think it's true, to this day: "No, the future needs to be an equal, collaborative effort. If it isn't, we don't deserve a future, as a people."
@Entrenched Mgtow Let's pretend men were objectively worse than women at everything except for their unique part in reproduction. They are still roughly half of the human population on earth and necessary for reproduction therefore being immensely important to the future of humanity. So men could be worse than women at pretty much everything and still be important. The future being female and men being important is not mutually exclusive. I'm guessing that's what they're thinking.
@@tarkamlokar9709 - The push to elect a female into every political position there is based solely on the fact that they are female, ignoring important things such as qualifications and political platforms, suggests a different line of thinking...
sexism with its polarity reversed is still sexism
That is a great comment, and words to live by.
@@omfglongbeach Exactly.
Women see the 1% of male CEO's doing exceptionally well and want that lifestyle without working 90 hour weeks and sacrificing a family life. The other 99% of men struggle massively and are frequently left in poverty while women marry out of it, men cant do this as women don't share their wealth with men of a lower financial class
Facts..
MKD33 Please address your complaints to the management, which is composed, overwhelmingly, of... er, men. Oops!
@@danzel1157 that’s because men are for the most part hard working, more rational and more ambitious. It’s just how it is. Sorry if it hurts your feelings but that’s what’s up. Funny how most people who ask to see the manager are temperamental women though huh 😂😂
@@mkd3351 I don't think I've ever seen a case of a point being missed in quite such a blatant manner. It appears that you have no idea how society works.
@@danzel1157 😂😂 ok champ.
This woman is speaking the absolute truth and I wish more of this could be shared . But few would hear it
I, A WOMAN, AM HEARING IT! I SAY, try just TRY to listen to me. Sure WOMEN AND LITTLE GIRLS EXPRESS ANGER AT PARTISAN MEN IN US SENATE VOTING AGAINST ALLOWING US , AFTER 100 YEARS OF STRUGGLING TO BE ADDED TO THE US CONSTITUTION VIA AMENDMENT #28 ALREADY MEETING ALL TOUGH REQUIREMENTS FOR ITS ADDITION TO THE US CONSTITUTION, THE NATIONAL CONTRACT, THAT MOSTLY MEN IN US SENATE STOPPING OUR CONSTITUTIONALLY REQUIRED ADDITION VIA #28, TO THE NATIONAL CONTRACT--THE US CONSTITUTION. WE REMAIN CONSTITUTIONALLY UNPROTECTED AS OUR FINE MEN HAVE ALWAYS BEEN.
WOULD MEN BE ANGRY IF IT HAD ALWAYS BEEN SO FOR THEM? SURE.
DON'T BELIEVE ME? IF YOU HAVE AN OPEN MIND NOW, PLEASE CALL AS MANY US SENATORS OF "THE OTHER PARTY" AND URGE THEM TO VOTE TO PASS THE FAIR, AND GDP HELPFUL , EQUAL RIGHTS AMENDMENT FOR WOMEN AND MEN, THO WOMEN ARE IN DIRE NEED NOW BY ERA BEING EXCLUDED FOR 100 YEARS! PLEASE. TELL THOSE SENATORS: THOSE WHO VOTE FOR S J R 1, WILL BESIEGE THE VOTING BOOTHS TO VOTE FOR THEM! THANKS SO SO MUCH FOR HELPING US UP OUT OF 2ND CLASS. YOU will Will WILL be gratefully rewarded in your relationships with real women!
@Sandy Oestreich Wat?
@@SandyERA4all Lol you left your caps on.
@@SandyERA4all learn how to type. also women throughout history have been given more than they even deserve. it was men who built everything, who fought all the wars, who built our entire world. this is why it has been tough for women to gain the right to vote or whatever youre talking about. it cannot be the same for men because it was the men who did everything. be grateful that men have been so generous to give women more than equal rights today
@@aradhyajain2064 Men gave women "equal" rights grudgingly and only because women got tired of being considered property by sexist, elitist bastards. The same sexist, elitist bastards, I might add, who want to take away rights for anyone but themselves. REAL men are not threatened by the idea that women are people too, and should be treated as such.
The ultimate irony here is: it doesn't matter how right Jess Butcher is; confirmation bias will drown her out.
I can't even share this video with my female friends or wife, because if I do, I (and the video) will be automatically dismissed as hostile. It's the ideological equivalent of sticking fingers in your ears and humming. Until people are willing to listen on BOTH SIDES of the discussion, there will be no actual progress.
If you cant share it, that means you MUST share it!
True
Yeah, I’m in the same boat and I want to share because I feel it’s wrong I should be afraid to share it. At the same time I don’t want to be ganged up on.
You need to get divorced, man.
Find a good woman with traditional family values that sees the world as clear as you do.
Not to be harsh but it'd be for the best if you hadnt had a kid yet. If you have, my condolences.
@@arai6147 It's not really that simple. The brightest, strongest women are caught in a whirlwind of sociopolitical punditry. Marriage isn't about "finding someone that agrees with you," or someone with "traditional values." Marriage is about being with the person you love, and who loves you back, and accepting that you won't always agree.
It's depressing that these concepts needs to be explained to anyone.
I know, but at least some people are actually bothering to do it. Not that it'll make much difference anyway since society is starting to wake up far too late.
It's not to late at all ... Society as a whole is in the best place it's ever been. It can just be worlds better.
Technologically, yes. Socially, I'm not sure. It really seems like it's about to drop off a cliff. Maybe it's not too late though.
+Peter Fields have a look at something called demographic projections, that is, if your country makes those kind of stats available... It's over and the only thing left to do is sit tight and enjoy watching the world burn.
hasn't every concept been explained to you at one time? when we are born we know nothing.
This is so true. People keep lying to women telling them that they are being mistreated but they're not. They in fact have the same opportunities and sometimes even more. I grateful that someone had the guts to say this out loud
I think this all boils down to Both genders dont Trust each other anymore. The relationships have been damaged.
How are you not getting top comment for this?😭
My sisters told me it was fairly common knowledge to them and their friends that men were more trustworthy. I wondered why.
Nothing to do with trust. Its a war, women are throwing stones as men retreat and walk away. It's not that we don't trust, its that we don't care anymore. Women have blamed men for everything. As a man, a ladies movements have no effect on my path. If she is kind, she will be allowed to tag along. There just are not many kind women left and mankind is not made of kind man.
@@jhonperegrino5636 i heard it from a female colleague about this point in specific.
You're right. I don't trust you.
She got some balls talking about this on stage..... I wonder how many women attacked her on social media.. I wonder how many women friends she lost standing up for what she believed in... We need more REAL STRONG WOMEN like this....
Don't say "We need people like her/him"
Say that "I will be like her"
Then only we will progress for the sake of mankind....
If they attack her, it just shows how "pro women" they are.
Berders_WillBurn. Have you ever wondered how many women die from male violence though?
She never lost a women friend. However I'm very certain she lost numerous female "friends"
@@stevecook413 Why, whatever do you mean?
This speaker is saying exactly what I feel but as a student in college I see modern-day feminism firsthand & it's revolting. I want zero parts of it.
well then start telling them that, go against the stream.
🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
April Harmony. there are other career options, stay at home mom for one. Hard work, no pay. .... No college debt, instant gratification. Oh, let's not forget God's blessings.
Zero parts, but the rewards.
It’s not conservatism, but nonconformists, free thinkers.
This TedxTalk should have way more views.
This is what a strong and independent woman looks like. She wasn't calling out, discrediting, and slandering people, like many feminists do. She instead addressed the facts and issues and encouraged those listening to think for themselves rather than conform to the dangerous mindset that's regrettably become the face of feminism.
That was always the true face of feminism.
In other words, you agree with her. 🤣
I just shared this video with someone else, they immediately started misquoting the speaker. Misinterpreting what the speaker said. As if hearing what they wanted to hear (or didn't want to hear). I had to share certain parts of it again and say "she didn't say that though, listen again carefully".
We obviously live in a time when logic and truth are subordinate to emotion and political agenda. People twist the truth or ignore it completely if it doesn't fit with what they already believe. Very sad.
He/She said, she heard.Everything is ran through their own personal filter where facts and evidence are erased by feelings and opinions.
"As I mentioned before, exposure to true information does not matter anymore. A person who was demoralized is unable to assess true information. The facts tell nothing to him, even if I shower him with information, with authentic proof, with documents and pictures. ...he will refuse to believe it.... That's the tragedy of the situation of demoralization."
-Yuri Bezmenov, KGB propagandist for RIA Novosti, speaking about ideological subversion
Sounds like you shared it with a woman. What reaction did you expect? A rational one? Ha!
The problem as I have come to understand is due to all of our beliefs are emotionally reinforced. Every belief I hold on to is emotionally reinforced and would probably meet with resistance upon being challenged. Being open to change that can be different factor
That's always happened. We don't teach students to study opposing viewpoints, evaluate the logical validity of the arguments, weigh the evidence, and then come to a provisional conclusion.
No. We teach them one point of view, one which they must memorize and regurgitate.
It was very noticeable how uncomfortable she was delivering that speech. A sign of the times that to simply get up and voice an empirical truth would have the potential to leave you open to vilification if the audience was populated with the progressive modern feminists of today. Bless her for having the courage to speak up for the men in her life.
This was very brave of her. She did this with clear knowledge of the backlash she would face.
Look up Esther Vilar's "The Manipulated Man" book. There's a chapter in there on the Chameleon Syndrome. You can find it online via PDF. 80 pages or so. You won't regret it. 🤔😉
The other book is from Lawrence Shannon - The Predatory Female. This one is a bit longer (350 pages ?), but still worth it.
This is all virtue signalling basically. She's biased because she has children. She doesn't care about men. Just about her daughters (who won't be able to find husbands). 😉👉
Chameleons are all around us. Open your eyes. They can only hold that facade of colors for certain period of time. After that, their true color will show.
@@davidbolha Exactly
@@davidbolha Uhm she has a son too
Equality of opportunity? Anyone would support it, most peope would agree we've achieved it. Equality of outcome? How, with the infinite amount of ways we can categorise people, can we achieve that if not with tyrannical control over all variables?
HELLO: PLEASE TALK TO SOME EDUCATED WOMEN OR ANYONE WHO KNOWS THAT OUR ROAD TO FREEDOM , TO BE PROTECTED AND HONORED BY OUR NATION;S CONSTITUTION HAS BEEN BLOCKED SINCE IT WAS VOTED ON BY MEN SOO LONG AGO. WE WOMEN'S RIGHTS HAVE NEVER BEEN ADDED THERE: THE EQUAL RIGHTS AMENDMENT FOR MEN AND WOMEN PROTECT BOTH OF US. WHY NOT ADD WOMEN AND LITTLE GIRLS AFTER 100 YEARS OF OUR STRUGGLES THAT PROVE THAT WE BELONG THERE. SURE WE ARE CRANKY, WOULDN;T YOU MEN BE, TOO, IF LEFT OUT AS 2ND CLASS CITIZENS? WAIT AND SEE HOW THAT WILL WORK MIRACLES IF IF IF YOU WOULD CALL AS MANY US SENATORS ASAP TO URGE THEIR VITE YES ON S J R 1, SO IT CAN HAPPEN! WAIT UNTIL WOMEN CAN EXPRESS GRATITUDE. 94% OF ALL AMERICANS SAY, 'DO IT! YOU'LL BE GLAD YOU DID.
Tyrannical control is what they want.
Because with simple equality of opportunity, most boys will still opt for engineering and most girls will still opt for people-oriented jobs like nursing or social work. That's why they have become obsessed with this tyrannical equality of outcome. I think, ultimately, this is going to result in a very dysfunctional society.
Equality of outcome is impossible they can't get that in their heads. To have an equal outcome everyone has to make the same choices, have the same skills, have the same goals. Humans won't achieve that and why would we want to?
Men don't have half the opportunity due to funding back end. Not on average.
"Should we ban flirting in the campus and in the work place?"
Theyve already done that. No flirting by men. Flirting by women is A OK!
If you say anything youre an incel! 😊
you right I think the incel part is a bit harsh tho
No you can flirt, but only if your in the 10%....
@@ricb123 and if you ain't the same level of handsome as an actor then why would you even think about approaching a female in the work place
It's only ok to flirt if your hot.
@@ricb123 say what¿? Mate, i was hoping to be in the 20% club within couple of years and now you’re telling us it’s 10%? I gotta need another life to live to get in there.
FINALLY! This woman has perfectly articulated everything that I’ve been trying to tell my friends for the last few years.
That's because logic and reason means nothing to the emotional mind...😒
That means you're sane! Please can we go on a date? :P hahaha
Allow me to invite you to a picnic. I would love to get to know a woman that can think.
Men appreciate women like yourself but, most women can only see the problem when it starts affecting them. By that time, we have a real societal problem,and one that isn't easily rectified. I realize that I'm preaching to the choir but, maybe a smart lady like you can figure a way to disseminate common sense. As it turns out, common sense isn't all that "common".
Sarcasm sucks and so do you.
Thank you for speaking up at a time when men cannot.
Who says you can't, Don't act oppressed because men aren't and neither are women. There are isolated incidents of humans being indecent towards each other it happens no matter what because people are unpredictable and are going to make bad choices sometimes. But if you feel there is a problem speak up nothing to be afraid of just be understanding towards the people you are trying to get too and share a rational point. This is a misguided assumption that men can't talk about this much like how white people can't talk about slavery for example Its seen as taboo or insensitive BUT. You can talk about it you may get laughed at or yelled at buts that not scary a bit of conflict is needed on occasion to get the point across. And if that happens then you shared your opinion to a person that was being irrational or is just misinformed or a product of who they hang around and what they see in modern media etc.
@@oknotyet9630 you have no idea
@@rhadaze2509 Tell me about it
MGTOW it's like Atlas Shrugged just walk away from everything. In Japan it's the herbivore men minimizing any interaction with society.
We men and women have been thrown under the bus.
OK NOTYET Find one men said the same as the women in the video and didn’t ended up being called a fascist, alt-right and sexist. One.
Feminists take notes, this is how a actual strong and independent women looks like
No this is NOT.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 yes it IS
@@carldavies4776 that's what an easily manipulated woman looks like
@@wyleecoyotee4252 She has the proof to back it up. Why do you think she was a business leader?
@@wyleecoyotee4252
Every woman who disagree with modern feminism is "manipulated" or she don't know what feminism is
And
Every man who disagree with modern feminism is "misogynist" or "sexist"
Feminism designed to solve both gender's issues so we can finally be equal . Modern feminism designed and funded 10-15 years ago by Soros , the same guy who funded Antifa to divide the whole US
Sry , you've been disinformed . Old Feminism was respected by everyone . Modern feminism is hated by almost everyone .
Much love and respect to this woman, as she looked a bit nervous and uncomfortable doing the presentation. She kept it together and powered all the way to the end. Thank you for that info, very informative.
My sister is against modern feminism and I'm honestly kinda proud of her.
Support her in every way you can the more women like her have children the more the battle doesnt seem lost.
@@childishumehara9890 Women don't need more support! What we need is less simps who put women on a pedestal.
She can get easily brainwashed though. So be sure to keep that in mind and be careful.
Eh a lot of women are kind of doing this now since men are really starting to hate on feminism. Every time I hear a woman say that, I just think of them as attention seeking or validating seeking from men.
Kind of? Lol.
They needed to turn up her microphone. She’s not loud enough.
Oh I guarantee that was no accident.
I don’t think she has one.
Front row full of ultra feminists! She was more nervous than it being a technical issue. Women have become scared of their own gender
Just like truth these days.
It won't make - and it has not made - any difference. This video was posted Sept, 2018. And it has only gotten worse!
YES YES YES. Thank you!!! Thanks for your courage to talk about this. As a woman myself, I feel empowered!
This is simply brilliant. There are no easy solutions, only tough discussions. But that is all we have, open, respectful, honest, and compassionate discussions about this topic. We admire Jess Butcher for speaking to this matter and more importantly being the change. What an example of a woman of strength and courage. As she stated, we need more confident girls AND boys. Children that can become strong protagonists in questioning cognitive narratives and flawed social norms.
The self-fulfilling prophecy part is HUGELY important. If you teach girls that they are oppressed and victimised, they grow up into women who will see that everywhere they look, regardless of whether it's actually there.
Who's teaching them that? You guys have a warped view of the movement. If you study the field you realise it's so much stronger and sure of itself than relaying victimization. Twitter feminism isn't feminism.
+Kazziemg. ok, here's a question then. if twitter feminism isn't feminism, then why haven't i seen any "real" feminists push back against it?
Kazziemg Ah yes, the same feminism that teaches “women can do anything” yet screams at any sign of a hurdle. Remember there was a campaign to ban the word “bossy” because it was “sexist”? All it’s teaching women is to be insecure. Someone makes a fair criticism against a woman? Well they’re just misogynistic!
@@mrshmuga9 My thougths to, if you can't take being called bossy then maybe you're in the wrong position.
As a baby boomer in my mid sixties I have waited decades for this kind of discussion to come even close to going mainstream. You younger people are giving me hope for the future of society.
thats so great to hear. those constant disputes between generations makes me sad. we should work together instead of against each other
As a millenial, i salute you!!
It is nice to be granted faith by my elders for once. Istead of being called the worst. Thank you.
Decades? Has this even been an issue for so long?
Well I am a millennial and I have lost hope on the future of society... Things will only change if they get bad enough... And they are not nearly bad enough for change...
The problem is as it gets worse it might eradicate civilization as we know it... Women will have kids with no men and have robots raise their kids in their pursuit of power and dominance over men... Men will choose robots over women, and will feel worthless as they will lose their sense of purpose ... And both gender will kill themselves as the suicide rate rise higher than cancer and cardiovascular deaths...
Only then men and women will start realizing that they are meant to compliment each other and continue the eternal dance of masculine and feminine energy...
Amazingly insightful message in the times where hatred between men and women is promoted so heavily.
Wow!! I so appreciate her perspective and open Fairness, we need more of this really! Our world will be a lot better place. I could not agreed with her more! This is kind of person who would be a great leader, well done
If a male talked about these issues, he will get laughed at.
Yup 😡
Vanessa A I fully agree with this!
Thank goodness there are women such as this one speaking against the ideology of modern feminism.
Or constantly ridiculed and attacked, best example is Professor Jordan Peterson imo
Surely, feminism will attack her, but I think she'll be okay.
I was starting to fear I was the only mother afraid to raise my boy in this new “progressive” world we are living in! Thank you infinitely for your bravery in a time such as this!
I have 3 boys I'm with ya girl
I'm a father and even I am afraid of what will become of him in this new world
@@fenrir_thorsson7103 They'll be just fine with a dad like you 😉
@@charity6372 geez I hope so 😂
@@fenrir_thorsson7103 observe and record pay attention to what they mother does. Even if she's the best mother she may keep the tracker on you.
*TRUTH*
I need a wingmam
Thank you for having some compassion for men and boys.
It really does seem like people lost the real meaning of Feminism, and turned Feminism into misandry, this woman restored some of my faith in humanity as she has shown me not all feminists, are so far gone.
"Competitive Victimhood"
Well said
that is all the left has
So telling that a woman has to make these points in order for them to be heard.
magmax76 You talk as if what she says is is being heard.
The toxic feminism(2nd wave) was in new zealand in the 90's and the principal of a boys school(early 2000's) said that it was a damming statment that they needed to get a woman to front for their "building boys confidence" program as the media would refuse to take the program seriously, and would in fact only portray the program in a negative light.
Have you heard of Jordan Peterson for instance? I am sure he has been heard much (too much I think) more than this woman.
@@mishaangelo926 I don't know that guy, but just curious, why do you think he has been heard too much(again just curious)?
@@mishaangelo926 And just look at how he's treated by the mainstream. He is heard, certainly, but only to those directly affected by his messages, chiefly young males, while media outlets and various progressive groups do everything they can to stamp him out of the discourse. He has managed to get the exposure he has gotten through sheer force of merit in how he articulates and delivers his insights, along with a hefty dose of unwarranted controversy that he miraculously managed to use in his favor.
Peterson is the result of a perfect storm of factors coming together at the right time, so he is certainly not the rule, but a very notable exception. I think OP's point still stands pretty well.
a rare example of a different approach- and also super important to communicate it
This is very close to what I’ve been trying to get across for decades. Thank you.
Alas many women speaking in this way tend to be attached without the attackers stopping to listen to the message they are sending
"it's actually not my daughter I'm concerned with in this new world, it's my sons". I'm father to a young boy and I understand exactly what she means.
Yeah it’s pretty hard for me a Gen Z and The other Gen Zers and millennials to be masculine men but also the constant threat of feminism trying to crush masculinity and call it toxic is annoying and frustrating
i think this is a misunderstanding of the situation. maybe in the short term the world is a playground for western women, but that will not last. chances are, your kids or their grandkids might end up in a very dangerous world full of *genuine* misogyny. i mean... i would never let my daughter walk around London
@@manfrombritain6816 I won’t never let my future children out around home town alone with out all their siblings
2 young boys, 6 and 9. I know they're gifted and handsome and they're gonna be tall and strong like their daddy. They crush in academics and athletics already. Girls like them and they like girls. But after discovering what young women who attended college have largely become, I'm very worried there is going to be a precipitous population drop. Overpopulation is a concern, but if we decrease our population so drastically and so quickly, society will break down because there won't be anyone to take care of our old backsides in what we were hoping to be our own golden years.
@@loki1033how can they be decent looking, if they took from you? 😮
Women who speak on this are are so few, they really need to join together and fight against what they know is false with modern feminism.
This speech is for women, men already know this.
TheMostGodless SinfulBastard true. Never met a man in my life who stands behind feminism
@@GinoNL They exists...unfortunately, most of this guys are overly nice guys who are simps to the point they get convince to be part of the "supportive men" of feminism... This is akward
Women have banded together for men's rights & privilieges. They call themselves The Honey Badgers, and they're right here on the Tube for everyone's consumption.
@Entrenched Mgtow Anyone who supports Modern Feminism is a traitor to the whole human race: we must each play our part, men & women.
Look up Esther Vilar's "The Manipulated Man" book. There's a chapter in there on the Chameleon Syndrome. 🤔😉
Thank you. Yours is the first compromise position that makes fundamental sense as a way to move forward to a better world.
Wonderful, and courageous woman! Thank you so much!
I love it that she states ~5:30 that *she* decided to cut back on her hours to spend more time with her family. Must be nice. How many men do you think have that option? Tell me again how this *equality* stuff works.
AttilaThe Hun ... that’s precisely her point. She’s highlighting that she gets preferential treatment because of the modern brand of feminism instead of feminism’s original intent (whether you believe this was ever the goal or not): equality. Men don’t have this opportunity as often as women do, and she is troubled by this.
Guy, she's her own boss. Any man in her position could choose to do this as well
lots of men do. it’s because she’s in an upper management position, not because she’s a woman. anyone of any gender lower in a company’s structure is going to have less freedom to make that choice.
Pichicha123 No, the wife would never let him.
@@tetrahedron_in_space that was never the goal of feminism
It NEEDS to be 50/50 in high paying jobs. It’s fine if 98% of sewer workers are men.
Nobody is screaming for that kind of percentage to change.
@@re1644 I hear you. Same in Austria. Every man has to do 6 month military service (or 8 month civil service) and women don't.
Furthermore the age for pension is 60 for woman and 65 for man.
That will be adepted, the law was signed in 1992 and it will finally be changed by 2032. So it takes 40 years for something everybody sees as a clear legal discrimination in gender ;-)
That's a lie. I dare you to show us those 2% of female sewer workers actually working in the sewers with their bare hands. They do not exist.
@@re1644 omg I m a woman and that's so fuckin unrespectful... Like..."we can't do war cause we bear children...but we must work even if we bear children and get paid as much as men cause it is not my problem if your company loses an important component of its engine, I want it all!"....I m embarrassed for the hypocrisy of all this. ((Sorry if my English is bad I m not a native speaker))
Yea they never fight to go work as salmon fishermen. If the job is in a comfy office with a high paying salary, and a computer to shop for shoes with and maternity they get concerned about being under represented. You never see them complaining about having to hold the stop sign on a construction site while the men are digging a hole either.
Like the eternal 16 year old girls they are, they pick and choose.
As the old saying goes: You give an inch, they take a mile!
Why is it it that you're "giving" them an inch? Are these freedoms not everyone's birthright?
You feel you are given short-shrift? I am eager for you to explain that "old saying". what do we steal from you exactly? Are you in a failing relationship? I am sad for you.
It's a metaphor. People really need to pick up a book once in a while. They tend to miss obvious things like that because their minds have atrophied.
Imagine living in 2021 ans still thinking that something is true just because "it's an old saying". Bruh.
You know what else is an old saying? "All is fair in love and war." I hope you understand how incorrect that is.
Tis "saying" you're so proudly quoting is wrong. Take a mile? Bro please. Men didn't 'give' women anything. It is a woman's birthright they took away. And women deserve evey right men have and visa - versa.
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. My mom allways kept on saying these statistics to me and my brother and didn't really hold a positive view on men in general. That really diminished our childhood.
Is it STARTING to? That ship has sailed, it has thoroughly undermined itself. How can you be strong and independent, but at the same time demanding a leg-up so you can compete with people who are better than you?
Women are so strong they need the welfare state.
I came here just to comment exacttly this lol
Kicking at someone who is seeing a wrong path won't help. Stay rational, we can't make them an ally if we insult them.
@@shadowria4569 they declared war on us. We don't want them as allies...
@@Gromulan Fair enough, but at that point war will wage on until one side is defeated. What's the end game?
I'm surprised TED allowed this talk. Has this woman received threats for not towing the party line?
Surprisingly TED actually allows a lot of talks. Though most of the "rebellious" ones are majorly interviewed. Even Warren Farrell a major MRA has held one. TED is surprisingly free in allowing things.
Don't forget Cassie Jaye
This is a TEDx talk, not a TED talk, though.
That's right. TEDx are locally run and managed. As much as I appreciate her talk, I don't believe TED would have ever allowed it at the main event.
TEDx you have to pay to give. It's advertising.
thank you so much for this speech ! from everybody, not just men !
Thank you very much for this wonderfull speech. This planet needs more people like you.
Good effort sister. If only more women were like you. Bravo 👏
I bet she only started thinking like this after she had a son
Unnefable, whatever it takes. That's Girl Writes's What's motivation as well.
Sure if you believe in this cultural marxists equality, diversity social engineering bullcrap. But that's for people with weak minds that can easily be subverted!
+Natasel she's doing more than me and it takes time for things to change. Have to respect and be grateful for the efforts of such people and support them in what little way we can.
Most women agree with her. The other side of the side is perpetuated by those who were not contradicted meaningfully from a young age.
End identity politics and focus on the individual. Have been saying this for years but feminists just call that sexist and misogynistic....
Thank you Jess for saying what many of us reasonable people knew but were either shouted down or could not say ourselves.
I thought we lived in a meritocracy...but clearly that is going out the window.
Hands down 1 of the best videos I have watched on YT.
Great talk - I am so heartened to see and hear this. Thank you for being brave enough to go there.
Lillian Ziegler. Bravery is when you go on hunger strike in prison and they force a tube down your throat to force feed you. This is not bravery.
Personally I feel like feminism is one of the most damaging aspects of modern society. I think everyone should abandon it and realise that individualism is better than identity politics.
Sad Libertarian can’t be done we are a collective society, today days Individualism is a pure illusion, and that why feminism exists.
bit Ger In order for those days to come again society must experience a collapse.
Feminism is a problem for civilized society in the same way that racism, socialism and fascism are. They're the same damn thing.
@@DrCruel Its just another front for Marxism
@@Prometheus7272 Civilization doesn't have to endure a collapse. We finally figured out what to do with National Socialists. All we have to do is apply the same solution to all the other socialist factions.
Sad part is the people who need to hear this will not listen
Well: Thank you! This is the right rational approach to quality.
This talk gave me hope to keep living.
Thank you for saying these things. Men are shouted down when they speak these things even in the most respectful and even timid ways.
Try not to take it personally. Most of us are responding from a place of past trauma and oppression.
@@J.Moyine attacking someone isn't validated by your personal story.
@@J.Moyine Men have pasts colored by trauma and oppression too, it doesn't make it okay when they belittle women.
@@sean3533 I am not saying that it is justified. I am explaining where it is coming from. That is all.
don´t speak, ACT! go MGTOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm surprised TED actually posted up this video.
The chameleon strategy
They cut the video @ 5:45
It's TEDx
Why?
@@pesamesagisum because this speech breaks the narrative that women are oppressed and men are oppressors, as the far-left would have you believe.TED has proven time and again to be very left leaning, only allowing conservative voices very recently.
Listen to the applause at the end, you hear the sound of offended people, and scared people. Great and brave speech.
I believe she is, a real strong woman, giving in to misandry like as seen so often today is not.
Equal opportunities =/= equal outcomes
Is this video far too quiet for anyone else? I'm having difficulty with the clarity.
yeah I had to turn my volume up all the way, it was fine then. But then got to remember to turn it way back down before you reach the end.
yes
It's almost as if t is muted, had to put the volume all the way up.
"Silence the non-believer with the worst audio quality of any Ted video. We can't handle them handling the truth!"
-TEDx
Sadly, the production values of the video are abysmal -- in stark contrast to the importance of its message.
Serena Williams is the prime example of toxic feminism. What men don't talk about is the crazy meltdowns some of these "independent" women have when things start to fall apart. It blows my mind that women think mental break downs are empowering, they destroy your credibility, especially in the workforce. If the job didn't get done or it's all screwed up, it's your fault, take personal responsibility and stop yelling and screaming at everyone.
Best part? Serena says she didn't cheat....the coach? Says "I'm an honest man, I was coaching her".
"Meltdowns" , you mean like John McEnroe was famous for? Bit of a double standard.
My memory of the reporting when he was doing those tantrums was that they were described as exactly that - tantrums unbecoming a player of his talent. His attacks on umpires with the whole 'You cannot be serious!' yelling was almost universally disapproved of.
Personal responsibility is Kryptonite to feminists.
Thierry Dewindt Hardly a double standard, McEnroe was known as superbrat, and rightly so. It's only the arrogant who would respect the behaviour of such a person.
You go, girl! Finally, an objective outlook...
Thank you for speaking up for our men ❤
Who else watched this whole thing expecting the fire alarm to go off...
Joe Gibbs - literally! I’m only 2:40 in and am waiting for the first heckle
how could anyone disagree with her. 100% factual and logical.
Feminists will just call her an Uncle Tomissa.
Well worth listening to. Have heard similar ideas postulated by male speakers but it is so good to hear it delivered with authority by a balanced intelligent female voice.
Whay a great speech. I subscribe 100% with everything she said. In an age where toxic feminism is seeping into politics and workplaces, hearing this message is more important than ever.
Well said. Glad a woman said it. When I said even a fraction of this, I got called out for being a monster.
We can't get along if we assume that it is men vs women, as opposed to men and women.
A monster?
More likely would be labelled as a misogynist or, in worse case, a fascist.
So if a man say it your a monster. If a woman says it it's ok. Isn't that what's the word. Prejudice/sexist against men.
I guess men have all the power and the money. So it doesn't matter if they lose every argument in their life.
Look up Esther Vilar's "The Manipulated Man" book. There's a chapter in there on the Chameleon Syndrome. You can find it online via PDF. 80 pages or so. You won't regret it. 🤔😉
The other book is from Lawrence Shannon - The Predatory Female. This one is a bit longer (350 pages ?), but still worth it.
This is all virtue signalling basically. She's biased because she has children.
Starting? Modern feminism is synonymous with sexism.
Exactly, Feminism movement is turning into superiority and not equality.
Just an awesome speech - and I love the message about raising our children for individual confidence over group identity : ) - a great example of a strong person irrelevant of gender.
Women: I don’t need a man, I just need 80% of his money from alimony
@Wren Linnet divorce rates are dropping.. so are marriage rates..
@Wren Linnet ...actually divorce rates are escalating
@Wren Linnet In a few decades, Masculism will be a thing instead of femisim and its waves will begin. Because women have more rights than men nowadays.
@@scorpionkobra I can’t wait to join the revolution of masculinism and us men protest
@@Superbatmanbro , hurrah the revolution, if things go too bad, we do need such a thing. WE are with you.
As a woman, I am terrified to live in a society where men are treated like no matter what they do, it's wrong. Everything they are and do is wrong. I am a stay at home mom of a daughter and I don't have many worries for her. She'll have lots of opportunity. I'm scared for my next child to be a boy and have to live with the burden of society treating him like a mental/emotional reject. I'm the only girl, outside my mother obvs, in my family. My brothers' children are all men. I see how this directly impacts them and it breaks my heart... When a man pays me a compliment on the street, it's prefaced with, "I don't mean to be creepy, don't take this the wrong way," or some kind of apology. Men's mental health support--doesn't really exist and men make up a majority of the suicides, nationally. It's horrifying and it's a world I fear living in.
Tell your local anti-male bitchgroup.
5:45 did they cut her in the middle of something?
Good catch. This should have more thumbs ups
I'm sure they did. I'm shocked the recording even made it out of that building though.
good catch damn
Something was cut!
I think it was more than once.
this is absolutely brilliant!
Shows the intelligence and strength which is what all women have the opportunity to have and show . And congratulate her on her willingness to address the true reality of struggle in both men and women and hate never helps anyone
"Women and children can be careless. But not men"
Don Corleone
Wheres your evidence?
Wise words from perhaps the greatest film ever made.
@@tessajames2460 You need evidence, really? Isn't life proving it everyday?
Arch Stanton true if a man does it he is judged a lot more than if a child and a women.
@@tessajames2460 men can't be careless because people look at them as irresponsible and not deserving a a woman. There's no evidence needed for that
A speech focusing on empowerment, open-mindedness and kindess for all. Thank you.
Look up Esther Vilar's "The Manipulated Man" book. There's a chapter in there on the Chameleon Syndrome. You can find it online via PDF. 80 pages or so. You won't regret it. 🤔😉
The other book is from Lawrence Shannon - The Predatory Female. This one is a bit longer (350 pages ?), but still worth it.
This is all virtue signalling basically. She's biased because she has children.
This is the kind of feminism I believe in. Amazing talk. Kudos ❤️❤️
she is not talking bout FEMINISM. Shes talking about EQUALITY
@@ahuman5440 That's what actual feminism is though.
@@ahuman5440 feminism search an END of the differences and prejudice that diminish woman in society.
"Femism", however, is the promotion of a misandrist idea of man.
Feminism in its core do not desire to diminish man, but to make woman a respected equal.
Jess Butcher is such an intelligent and talented public speaker. Brilliant.
As an honest, open minded, non-judgmental white man, I do sometimes weary of hearing how oppressive I am. I haven't changed my views on promoting (and only allowing) a fair playing field in interactions with all people (regardless of race, gender, gender identity etc.), but I have to admit, when folk start complaining about generalized "inequality in society", I often tune them out. It's counter productive at this point. If someone in my personal life has a specific instance of perceived unfairness they want to discuss with me, I'm always ready to listen. But general complaints get tuned out. It's not that I don't care, it's just numbness.
I'm honestly more concerned with issues such as the accepted level of violence in our society, police, educational, and medical misconduct and the bureaucracies that brush those issues under the rug. Political gerrymandering, corruption, the infantilization of television programming, etcetera.
Well, congratz, you look like a decent human being with a clue about the life he's living. No sarcasm, it's more than most nowadays. Too bad it's all a predictive social agenda to push globalism, immigration and tolerance down our throats so our so-called leaders can rule over one divided world nation of lazy slaves. None of these issues will ever be fixed, they will however be addressed publicly to normalize community wars so the people are too busy pulling the blanket and fighting for their social rights, they won't realize it's being taken away from them as a whole. Through free speech, through technology, through laws, through security, through society itself, to "protect" us from ourselves with censorship and media mind control. The sad part is that complaining about it, makes it even worse for society's balance and dividing the people even more. We're trapped, this was planned for more than 50 years and it's too late for us to wake up now. I just hope with all my heart that all those missing children that are abducted for satanic traffic purposes are going down with society at this point.
MrVvulf
Well said.
lol
"As an honest, open minded, non-judgmental white man, I do sometimes weary of hearing how oppressive I am"
You have not heard that in your life. Perhaps turn off social media.
@@HeIs580
Trumpers love socialism.
Oops.
Facts over feelings
Yeah, men have no feelings, most women can't have an opinion because they have too much feelings, that's why men leaded for centuries and that was better that way! Society need to be leaded by intelectual people, women would destroy society. Facts over feelings.
Wow, she has guts to talk that straight. That's a piece of no-nonsense talk. Thanks!
Extremely brave, thank you so much.
Great talk! How can young woman be optimistic and happy when they are being teach victim hood and that the society is against them.
Says way blacks handle it......play the race card every chance they get, violently riot and protest until someone gives them free stuff.
Flashback to my teen years man... took me 10 years to unlearn.
This message will only be heard if a woman articulates it. Men will not be listened to.
Exactly!
I agree, I had heard men make similar points but was skeptic until I saw this video. It is like I needed someone who I tought was like me, an ambassador of sorts, to deliver these arguments. A mistake I will never make again.
Omg..
You'd think that men would take this moment to ponder, 'whoa.. this feeling of being disenfranchised for less than a small fraction of the period that women have felt this way, already really sucks.. i cant imagine how they put up with it FROM US for centuries..'.. you'd think this sort of empathy would occur to them.. but it doesnt.. its just, 'poor me.. feel bad for me..no one has been persecuted or exploited like me-a white man'..unbelieveable..
I wont refute that men do and have suffered in few number of facets in society that i can count on my fingers.. but to contend your suffering with women's overall? So much as to even question the validity of feminism?? BWHAAA!! You havent known oppression THAT much.. but do you have grievances? Sure..
@Rafael Mendonça Queiroz what?
@Rafael Mendonça Queiroz eh, i wrote that when i was inebriated.. I meant to write 'anti-feminists' (not 'men') such as the speaker in the vid..
Your point about needing to have personally lived through thousands of years of suffering inflicted against women to have any idea of what im saying is just ridiculous..
Im not here to 'compete' for a trophy of 'biggest victim'.. Youre talking about refraining from invalidating another person's or group of persons' experiences with suffering.. i really dont see how that negates from what i wrote.. or how what i wrote is a bid for winning the 'biggest victim' contest.. We are essentially speaking about the same thing.. I wanted it to be asserted at the same time that women and men have been mistreated by larger society.. I felt this vid meant to downplay feminism's plight so coverage was lent to men's issues.. But as you have described, this isnt a zero sum game..
What an intelligent and well-spoken person
Thank you. This was wonderful to hear.
Great speech. Modern version of feminism is totally ridiculous and doesn't help anyone, regardless of their gender
Congratulations on audio quality, TEDx. I'm waiting for the scream scare scene. Any minute now.
Yeah, volume turned all the way up. Sounds like I'm trying to listen to a frightened mouse. If she does have something worth saying, then please re-upload with better audio, so people can actually hear it.
I had to hold my tablet to my ear. It’s a good video but I’ll bet a lot of people couldn’t hear it, gave up and turned it off.
@@jonisilk - I've heard frightened mice louder than this vid for sure
WHAT
Thanks to your comment, I remembered to turn my volume down before I blew my speakers out.
I find no point of disagreement. Everything I had thought of during the talk, she addressed. This is spot on. I didn't know about this woman before today, but I certainly admire her.
Really eye-opening and informative!