Let’s Talk Porn | Maria Ahlin | TEDxGöteborg

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  • čas přidán 20. 06. 2019
  • We have to talk about porn! We have to talk about what message porn is sending and what it teaches our children! More and more extreme content found in mainstream porn, making people less sensitive to sexual aggression. Despite these alarming facts, porn is still one of our biggest taboos. Today, most children are first exposed to pornography at a worryingly young age, in fact, porn is the number one sex educator among young teenagers. Porn is a drug, but why isn’t it treated as an addiction?
    In addition to being a public speaker, author and educator Maria is also head of youth organization 'Changing attitudes'. As an expert on issues concerning pornography and sex-buying she has given more than 400 public talks. In her research, she has met with more than 500 people in prostitution, as well as thousands of sex-offenders. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 11K

  • @kamilsaifi7974
    @kamilsaifi7974 Před 3 lety +16195

    U Never really know u r addicted until u try to quit...

  • @vircervoteksisto5038
    @vircervoteksisto5038 Před 4 lety +15546

    "Wanting something without liking it" is the most succinct definition I have ever heard for addiction.

    • @wreathlings
      @wreathlings Před 4 lety +59

      Hart Weber Yes! That was very well said!

    • @daranester5449
      @daranester5449 Před 4 lety +92

      In a lot of cases near the end of peoples addiction they tend to not like the life they're living hence what they are doing but cant stop do to addiction...

    • @brucecaldwell6701
      @brucecaldwell6701 Před 4 lety +15

      Yep, just to be able to be able to half way function & feel "normal".

    • @owenivins6378
      @owenivins6378 Před 4 lety +14

      Jacob Alanheimer and also find a woman that doesn’t judge u by looks or money Which is IMPOSSIBLE!

    • @IKeepItHyper
      @IKeepItHyper Před 4 lety +8

      literally me with the juul.... hate it so much but can't stop craving it... very confusing feeling

  • @MrTskull99
    @MrTskull99 Před rokem +2589

    Jesus how calmly can she talk about a sensitive subject....that's what I call confidence.

    • @carlnestor1476
      @carlnestor1476 Před rokem +62

      Atm is not the money machine 😂

    • @nickpenaranda725
      @nickpenaranda725 Před rokem +23

      You people over compliment bare minimum, just because it comes from a woman🙄🙄🙄

    • @captainmerc2018
      @captainmerc2018 Před rokem +28

      Nah she’s actually a very good speaker her cadence is extremely educated and easy to listen to , especially when it comes to something this sensitive and because it’s a women she deserves more praise because they don’t have the same speaking talents men usually do the aggression and strong tone

    • @krisgopi_8
      @krisgopi_8 Před rokem +4

      So no one has balls to stop this p rn
      Very sickening 🤮

    • @carlnestor1476
      @carlnestor1476 Před rokem +34

      @@nickpenaranda725 do you know what the odds are of a sentence ending intelligently when starting with “you people”?

  • @jaxbarnettprice
    @jaxbarnettprice Před 2 lety +868

    I know it’s good seeing men talk about this, but seeing a FEMALE talk about this topic makes me even happier. I love it! Because I feel like really no women out there stand up to this and talk about what’s wrong with it. I respect this lady right here!

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Před rokem +10

      i wonder how much money she makes to talk rubbish

    • @jjkv2686
      @jjkv2686 Před rokem +39

      @@ivorjones6618 Some people like you just don't understand.

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Před rokem +2

      @@jjkv2686 what dont we understand tell me

    • @jjkv2686
      @jjkv2686 Před rokem +18

      @@ivorjones6618Even if you don't appreciate her for what she's doing, don't comment nonsense

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Před rokem +3

      @@jjkv2686 not nonsence you need to get a life and do what you want to do not what the bible says you should do

  • @kingfckncole9340
    @kingfckncole9340 Před 4 lety +9949

    The people in the crowd all deleting their search histories

  • @yeee3602
    @yeee3602 Před 4 lety +9519

    In my recommended list? lol I guess incognito mode has failed me

  • @kingvirgo5624
    @kingvirgo5624 Před 2 lety +529

    This should be talked about in schools

    • @mwamsonge
      @mwamsonge Před 2 lety +15

      We also need to talk about the dangers of marriage too where half of your assets can be seized by the gynocentrism

    • @philipyates3194
      @philipyates3194 Před 2 lety +45

      No, it should be talked about by parents. Why does everyone think schools should be raising children, their job is to educate them in primarily academic subjects.

    • @alexgrubb1057
      @alexgrubb1057 Před 2 lety +5

      @@philipyates3194 Absolutely damn right

    • @piermarcosechi8054
      @piermarcosechi8054 Před rokem +4

      @@philipyates3194 i agree with you but you cannot make sure every family Is doing a good job or Is teaching these things.
      Having It teached in schools May Be a safer way for many people to have access to this kind of education

    • @robertwilber1909
      @robertwilber1909 Před rokem +1

      School is no place to discuss these matters. Home is where this belongs.

  • @gargi-thevocalist3634
    @gargi-thevocalist3634 Před 2 lety +1942

    I'm 14 , and I'm really happy that I'm getting this education much earlier , and I'm learning to control myself 💜

    • @4651adri
      @4651adri Před 2 lety +49

      I applaud you for this. Your love and s3x life are going to benefit a lot from this effort!

    • @allanfolsom9474
      @allanfolsom9474 Před 2 lety +15

      Blessings to you. Stay strong.

    • @znlaft
      @znlaft Před 2 lety +8

      i'am so happy for you

    • @jin6000
      @jin6000 Před 2 lety +5

      Respect!

    • @noah_75856
      @noah_75856 Před rokem +5

      Never forget

  • @Resanessa
    @Resanessa Před 3 lety +2405

    "Chains of habits are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken"

  • @a1autobuild112
    @a1autobuild112 Před 3 lety +2614

    6 years old wtf I’m so glad I grew up before internet

    • @danielfecklessness2796
      @danielfecklessness2796 Před 3 lety +16

      Same, fam.

    • @akrammakmouk6795
      @akrammakmouk6795 Před 3 lety +43

      Same. Though I was born in 2000 I live in lebanon. We didn't know about the internet until 2008. And it didn't get popular until 2012

    • @knowledgeman86
      @knowledgeman86 Před 3 lety +17

      I think alot of this has to do with your up bringing and what u expose yourself too.. im 34 n some of the things she is talking about is new to me..🤷🏾‍♂️ don't get me wrong I've herd of some but, she taught me something new..

    • @a1autobuild112
      @a1autobuild112 Před 3 lety +20

      Donald Ford absolutely but it’s just crazy to see what the future generation will evolve to and what’s the norm and what’s not. Especially this online fans page thing, girls go online to get donations from their viewers and these viewers actually pay. They don’t know how to interact with one another in real life but online there’s no boundaries.

    • @adaon2282
      @adaon2282 Před 3 lety +5

      Haha 8 for me :)

  • @gabriellafabiyi7399
    @gabriellafabiyi7399 Před 2 lety +827

    I love her bravery. It is not easy to talk about it infront of an audience even though the audience was silent.

    • @jimmyolsenschannel6263
      @jimmyolsenschannel6263 Před rokem +8

      She's Swedish, i.e brought up differently than you seem to be.

    • @gabriellafabiyi7399
      @gabriellafabiyi7399 Před rokem +1

      @@jimmyolsenschannel6263 oh...ok

    • @yuppiemobile69
      @yuppiemobile69 Před rokem

      She's making money out of it one way or another. Doesn't seem to be honest or more than all negativist...I'm never eating swedish meatballs again!! Rots the brain!!!!!

    • @gabriellafabiyi7399
      @gabriellafabiyi7399 Před rokem

      @@yuppiemobile69 bot

    • @marvingproductions
      @marvingproductions Před rokem +5

      You know the crowd is very much in tune when they are silent=listen

  • @kingsleyudeagha
    @kingsleyudeagha Před rokem +68

    This delivery is Topclass.

  • @bvanbanan
    @bvanbanan Před 3 lety +8264

    Watching random youtube videos is the same addiction. We don’t realise this problem at all.

  • @PHARAOHLOVECHILD1
    @PHARAOHLOVECHILD1 Před 3 lety +6059

    “When something is free, that means you’re the product”. Your attention and presence should always be properly compensated. Protect your energy kings.

    • @AnaS-hy6kt
      @AnaS-hy6kt Před 3 lety +100

      And Queens

    • @augustrhodes7478
      @augustrhodes7478 Před 3 lety +18

      Kings? LULZ HAHAHAA!!

    • @BigZac12
      @BigZac12 Před 3 lety +31

      protect your energy worms

    • @st4ne4rmthevill63
      @st4ne4rmthevill63 Před 3 lety +31

      This just blew my mind rn. It's so obvious but I've never once thought about it.

    • @GnosticSeeker369
      @GnosticSeeker369 Před 3 lety +8

      Kings? Energy- kings ??, that hurt my frontal lobe dude, wtf did your last two words relate to?

  • @sarah-dq5rl
    @sarah-dq5rl Před rokem +80

    this is so eye-opening. I didn't realize how normalized all of this is becoming until she pointed it out

  • @ebenezeronuche9536
    @ebenezeronuche9536 Před rokem +242

    This is a very sensitive topic. It takes great courage to be able to carry out this kind of research (without getting addicted to it yourself) and give this kind of presentation publicly. Welldone.. keep up the good work. Your work will transform countless lives positively...

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Right on brother. And women deserve to be respected and elevated for the queens we are. And men should be protectors, not perpetrators. peace to you.

    • @luckystoller6171
      @luckystoller6171 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@rachelgoodkind6545 So true.❤

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 Před 2 měsíci

      @@luckystoller6171 The world has been manipulated to be backwards. However we all have to work tegether to make a kind loving compassionate world for all.

    • @luckystoller6171
      @luckystoller6171 Před 2 měsíci

      @@rachelgoodkind6545 ❤You are so right!

    • @Dragonlord13
      @Dragonlord13 Před 4 dny

      ​@@rachelgoodkind6545 I don't like how you said that but at least you didn't leave men out of the picture

  • @halibuthero
    @halibuthero Před 4 lety +9708

    How do you explain Ass2Mouth to a room-full of people with a straight face...

    • @SoupBrigade
      @SoupBrigade Před 4 lety +414

      Start with explaining how it is not an ATM so you don't have to touch it

    • @TheChadPad
      @TheChadPad Před 4 lety +125

      I mean, 3:56 says it all xD

    • @danielvanemmerik9823
      @danielvanemmerik9823 Před 4 lety +72

      On stage demo !

    • @healthdios
      @healthdios Před 4 lety +161

      How about DP or choking...? and not even a peep from the audience...

    • @deng1188
      @deng1188 Před 4 lety +31

      😂🤣😂🤣

  • @danielmoore62
    @danielmoore62 Před 4 lety +12041

    Prostitution is illegal unless you film it and sell it.

    • @apuuvah
      @apuuvah Před 4 lety +179

      @@muhammedovezmuradov2910 Nothing, if it's not forced.

    • @SuperSufiSaint
      @SuperSufiSaint Před 4 lety +47

      Muhammed Ovezmuradov shame on you for such comments

    • @hyliahero
      @hyliahero Před 4 lety +274

      The shame is the government regulating people’s bodies and folks shaming people who think differently or feed themselves differently than you.

    • @ThisIsTurnerr
      @ThisIsTurnerr Před 4 lety +36

      Taxation

    • @qossii
      @qossii Před 4 lety +6

      So true....

  • @anthonygonzalez5953
    @anthonygonzalez5953 Před rokem +314

    I've seen funerals with a more cheerful audience...but she did a great job addressing such an uncomfortable issue! Although I feel a little sorry for her, since I'm guessing most crowds she talks to are too awkward by the topic to give a laugh at any of her jokes, kind of like this one

    • @seantill9505
      @seantill9505 Před rokem

      unfortunately their faces were that way because most of them probably watch p***

    • @ladyzhenska
      @ladyzhenska Před rokem +7

      I have a guess why this happened. I am living myself in Gothenburg for a few years now and have to admit that Scandinavian audience is a bit cold. Not because they don’t enjoy it but that’s a part of mentality 😊 They less expressive.

    • @Xarfax321
      @Xarfax321 Před rokem +1

      What is funny here?

    • @arpudli8962
      @arpudli8962 Před rokem +1

      Sweedish are good listeners, love göteborg 😊

    • @alex2jz140
      @alex2jz140 Před 8 měsíci +2

      To be fair it’s very surface level and boring (porn=bad) Everyone understands and knows all of this already.

  • @hamhead2765
    @hamhead2765 Před rokem +78

    We also need to stop the insanity of sexualizing women. It's all over social media and advertising.

  • @vazeerkhan4838
    @vazeerkhan4838 Před 3 lety +5441

    Me : why is this in my recommendation?
    CZcams : hmm wonder how that happened?
    google search history : I told them everything.

    • @elite_mittens9483
      @elite_mittens9483 Před 3 lety +77

      That why you delete your history😂

    • @W42P
      @W42P Před 3 lety +111

      @@elite_mittens9483 that literally does nothing

    • @twilight8475
      @twilight8475 Před 3 lety +93

      Your FBI agent is trying to tell u something

    • @tiagosilv248
      @tiagosilv248 Před 3 lety +7

      Damn ! Lol

    • @pkandrew22
      @pkandrew22 Před 3 lety +27

      It’s all coming together now

  • @successzone2024
    @successzone2024 Před 3 lety +7876

    To anyone who is fighting this addiction, I hope you succeed. Stay strong and never give up the fight!

  • @aungphyooo3584
    @aungphyooo3584 Před rokem +22

    Brilliant talks about this major hidden issues. It’s a quick quit for sure. Everything is about mentality and how strong you can divert your focus to other positive things like healthy hobbies. Thank you, Maria x

  • @BlueSky-vb5ih
    @BlueSky-vb5ih Před 2 lety +41

    The most amazing speech ever… I normally don’t write comments unless the speech touches me for its content and has an impact for critical societies unspoken topics. This lady is a gem 💎 for all the globe 🌎. I liked her elaboration on the subject, her confidence and she seemed that she absorbed and understood the topic from the A to Z. As a coach and scientist I understood her very well and understood my coachees who come to ask for help. God bless her

  • @mathsdebater
    @mathsdebater Před 3 lety +5471

    0.5 seconds clean. Wish me luck.

  • @mozesmusik8718
    @mozesmusik8718 Před 3 lety +5946

    Leaving your kid alone with a computer without proper restrictions can be just as dangerous as leaving them with a stranger.

    • @hmp01
      @hmp01 Před 3 lety +130

      no

    • @EnkiMMXII
      @EnkiMMXII Před 3 lety +70

      True... they may figure out that god isn't real. Lmao. FREAK. Restricted access to information is literally the cause of all the world problems.

    • @korajanel
      @korajanel Před 3 lety +109

      @@EnkiMMXII it's like you didn't even watch the video......

    • @yuu5974
      @yuu5974 Před 3 lety +452

      No, restricting your children will only make them become liars and go behind your back. Instead, teach them the bad about it. And talk about it with them. Especially in there teen years.

    • @punkabillybetty6851
      @punkabillybetty6851 Před 3 lety +50

      It's not just about kids... This applies to adults too.

  • @cattleprods911
    @cattleprods911 Před rokem +13

    This is excellent, this video needs to go viral. God bless the presenter and her work.

  • @bjorn3847
    @bjorn3847 Před 2 lety +49

    “Wanting something with out liking it” a great definition of addiction when you want to stop. Doesn’t work so well for addicts that don’t see a problem with their addiction and both like it and want it.

    • @gatanegra8815
      @gatanegra8815 Před rokem +2

      If they are happy and not harming anybody, there is no problem.

  • @stevenconnors9198
    @stevenconnors9198 Před 4 lety +3416

    It's hilarious how uncomfortable the audience looks.

    • @podvig
      @podvig Před 4 lety +27

      Side splitting...

    • @geoffoakland
      @geoffoakland Před 4 lety +132

      well, the audience is Swedish in general they are reserved and shy in public spaces, unless they've had a few drinks! Skal!

    • @zan3zan344
      @zan3zan344 Před 4 lety +74

      It's also hilarious how she's oblivious to it all.

    • @GH-do9ke
      @GH-do9ke Před 4 lety +16

      🤣🤣🤣 kills me everytime

    • @melkor3496
      @melkor3496 Před 4 lety +2

      Mjolnir G. Skål

  • @IOxyrinchus
    @IOxyrinchus Před 4 lety +1412

    The fact that this was on my recommended feed scares me

    • @zephilde
      @zephilde Před 4 lety +73

      Do you think Google Chrome Incognito mode is hiding you?

    • @hellamv
      @hellamv Před 4 lety +1

      Xddd same

    • @kennethvekima
      @kennethvekima Před 4 lety +1

      Back Country Pastimes the NSA got your back...just trying to help you get better..

    • @marksr8784
      @marksr8784 Před 4 lety

      Oh oh

    • @bestof4227
      @bestof4227 Před 4 lety +3

      Probably because you have watched self improvement videos or other Ted talk vids

  • @martinc6987
    @martinc6987 Před 2 lety +63

    thanks for showing that its possible to actually talk about it in front of others without feeling embarassed !If a woman talks about it its much different than when a man tries to do so !

  • @user-ys5ve3mw8k
    @user-ys5ve3mw8k Před 2 měsíci +1

    You're really making a wave as regards this... this lecture is gradually upscaling my social life fr🎉

  • @mrdondada1
    @mrdondada1 Před 4 lety +3611

    I knew this comment section was going to be lit

  • @Clutterlicious
    @Clutterlicious Před 4 lety +3317

    A whole audience of people acting like this is the first time they've heard of these things :p

    • @georgehouston6327
      @georgehouston6327 Před 4 lety +64

      Clutterlicious; keep in mind that this was in Sweden and for many in the audience English may be there second or third language

    • @prajupraju3312
      @prajupraju3312 Před 4 lety +1

      Thanks

    • @luminous6969
      @luminous6969 Před 4 lety +45

      You'd be surprised. There are still people out there that wince if they hear an F bomb.

    • @georgehouston6327
      @georgehouston6327 Před 4 lety +12

      @@luminous6969 True, depends on your upbringing/environment in my opinion.

    • @entertain7us148
      @entertain7us148 Před 4 lety +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣💀

  • @davidtoledo2323
    @davidtoledo2323 Před 3 měsíci

    Great topic. Class in session! TY FOR EDUCATING!👏🏽❤️

  • @central3425
    @central3425 Před 2 lety +226

    Glad to see more people talking about this.
    Young men are being taught this is normal to do but it is slowly changing how they act and treat women.

  • @jaredjensen4558
    @jaredjensen4558 Před 3 lety +4672

    Currently on day 68 going strong! Feeling better then ever!

    • @sarcastictamalito4316
      @sarcastictamalito4316 Před 3 lety +123

      keep it up!!

    • @harshaljadhav4338
      @harshaljadhav4338 Před 3 lety +66

      Keep going

    • @TheGerminator350
      @TheGerminator350 Před 3 lety +83

      Congrats! I'm hoping to get there soon too. Keep up the good fight. You got this!

    • @kyleisom962
      @kyleisom962 Před 3 lety +24

      How long did it take to notice a change?

    • @jaredjensen4558
      @jaredjensen4558 Před 3 lety +97

      @@kyleisom962 For me personally around day 7 I started to feel a bit better then around day 20 I could really start to feel a difference and then day after day continued to feel better some days not always but yeah definitely worth it.

  • @spencernelson1560
    @spencernelson1560 Před 4 lety +5174

    All the guys in the audience be sweating just like the Key and Peal skit

  • @xXKittyDollXx
    @xXKittyDollXx Před rokem +3

    She is such a role model in the way she speaks and approaches this topic.

  • @IrfanKhan-xu4ri
    @IrfanKhan-xu4ri Před 8 dny +2

    Appreciated to discuss this topic You're absolutely right. Media and culture play crucial roles in shaping society and influencing people's perspectives. Controlling or managing these influences can indeed be challenging due to their pervasive nature and impact on our daily lives.

  • @Alienbrain23
    @Alienbrain23 Před 3 lety +5673

    Uhhh here’s a solution, stop giving your kids tablets and smartphones at age 2

    • @alcik_palcik
      @alcik_palcik Před 3 lety +59

      I'm just wondering why you're comenting that twice

    • @huh5087
      @huh5087 Před 3 lety +172

      Fax tho, i seen a 5yr old kid w the newest iphone

    • @codydembo4257
      @codydembo4257 Před 3 lety +133

      I agree, kids need to read more books fr

    • @enlightenmentdoesntcomeeas5337
      @enlightenmentdoesntcomeeas5337 Před 3 lety +109

      If I ever have kids I actually plan on giving them a playstation or an Xbox to keep them distracted from the internet or phones.

    • @expressyourselfab6285
      @expressyourselfab6285 Před 3 lety +56

      Read more books? Lol.
      I say more life experience.
      You’re disconnected from reality when you got an iPad shoved up your face.

  • @masongregory2
    @masongregory2 Před 3 lety +2076

    First step to overcoming addiction is realizing you have a problem 💪🏽

    • @gameplaykingz9545
      @gameplaykingz9545 Před 3 lety +5

      Preach sir

    • @thenextbondvillainklaussch3266
      @thenextbondvillainklaussch3266 Před 3 lety +19

      So.... a massive bicep on one arm ? 🤷 😉
      Thats why you included that emoji right? lol

    • @kevc21
      @kevc21 Před 3 lety +7

      I love it. No problem. Can't get a disease with it. Can't impregnate a chick. Saves time and money. I love it.

    • @fabmc8816
      @fabmc8816 Před 3 lety

      I have a problem

    • @crashraynor
      @crashraynor Před 3 lety +5

      ...technically the first step to overcoming addiction is becoming addicted

  • @nealschieberl9601
    @nealschieberl9601 Před 2 lety +25

    I love you for exposing the truth about this subject! I have tried and tried for years. Having no science or anything to back me up. Just the innate knowledge that it was causing problems and on a downward spiral. Thank you so much 😉

  • @abdelrahmanmohsen8184
    @abdelrahmanmohsen8184 Před rokem +7

    That was spectacular. Massively important topic. I hope all people and especially teenagers get to watch it!

  • @marvinmandela948
    @marvinmandela948 Před 3 lety +3629

    I stopped a few years ago. Best decision ever made. My social life improved 100%.

  • @noahtabacchi3451
    @noahtabacchi3451 Před 3 lety +3723

    Notice how expressionless the audience is. You know they were uncomfortable, and they knew exactly what she was talking about. It's not always easy to be called out.

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t Před 3 lety +40

      What do you expect from them man?

    • @christianwood8328
      @christianwood8328 Před 3 lety +15

      @@anshik.k.t what do you expect from them?

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t Před 3 lety +64

      @@christianwood8328 i expect that silence that they are having.

    • @meenakshi.v7385
      @meenakshi.v7385 Před 3 lety +63

      @@anshik.k.t I must say that some of the things she said were worthy of applause or sign of acknowledgement at the least. They, as you can see, are as cold as ice.

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t Před 3 lety +7

      @@meenakshi.v7385 it's confirmation. Initially it was awkward, then no one gathered courage to start it. Nothing to bother.

  • @bigo_637
    @bigo_637 Před rokem +13

    Thank you for the details. You opened my eyes as a parent and the potentials of what my kids have seen. This needs to be discussed.

  • @nitishkshirasagar6416
    @nitishkshirasagar6416 Před rokem +10

    Thank to this girl for talking one of the most bad addiction courageously

  • @ericalmao7051
    @ericalmao7051 Před 4 lety +4832

    its actually sad the amount of people that will laugh this off because they themselves are addicted

    • @danjokic860
      @danjokic860 Před 4 lety +239

      and aren't able to admit it

    • @fn9six
      @fn9six Před 4 lety +213

      The first part is admitting that you are addicted. I used to give any reason other than addiction for quitting, I then used to say that I was kind of addicted but not that bad but now I am strong enough say that I am addicted. 10 days without so far.

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox Před 4 lety +62

      @@fn9six Stay my brother. We both know you got this!

    • @fn9six
      @fn9six Před 4 lety +40

      @@mshbeatbox thanks bro. You gave me that little extra strength I needed to get through this evening
      Will sub you too

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox Před 4 lety +48

      @@fn9six No subs needed. Just understand that you are better than this addiction!

  • @newtonbridges2574
    @newtonbridges2574 Před 4 lety +2089

    i was an everyday "consumer" for about 12 years. i was able to stop and been off it now for almost 4 years.

    • @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu
      @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu Před 4 lety +15

      Nice

    • @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu
      @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu Před 4 lety +32

      How'd you do it?

    • @iandres2394
      @iandres2394 Před 4 lety +8

      @Newton Bridges noticed any change?

    • @newtonbridges2574
      @newtonbridges2574 Před 4 lety +251

      @@iandres2394 Yes. Tons of changes. I stopped lusting over women. I Felt calmer all around. I slept better. I had more time because I didn't have to do that every single night for an hour after work. I loved having that extra hour! I used that hour for meditation and exercise instead. Thank you for your comment.

    • @newtonbridges2574
      @newtonbridges2574 Před 4 lety +136

      @@WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu Honestly, sometimes, I don't know. I wouldn't recommend this but I happened to move states. From California to Colorado. Maybe it was the mountain air although the air quality actually is not that good after all in Colorado. I got here and on my first night here pulled up my laptop per the usual but just decided at the moment not to. Then decided the next day I would continue trying that. In a way I believe it to be some type of spiritual experience. Ever since that day I have not returned to it.

  • @sumatinair
    @sumatinair Před rokem +1

    Comparison to touch on cheek is just superb.. Beautiful talk..

  • @MOHDFAISAL-qw8mz
    @MOHDFAISAL-qw8mz Před 2 lety +1

    she and ran gavrieli changed my mindset. Thanks to you guys and special thanks to TEDx.

  • @youtubingbabs
    @youtubingbabs Před 4 lety +2029

    Anybody gonna mention every title says stepmom, stepbrother, dad, etc... It's like what in the actual...????

    • @limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913
      @limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913 Před 4 lety +61

      You bad boy

    • @styler19721
      @styler19721 Před 3 lety +166

      when i read the statistics on that i was disgusted.. it wasnt like that 10 years ago.

    • @youtubingbabs
      @youtubingbabs Před 3 lety +11

      @@limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913 who's a bad boy?

    • @dankay7982
      @dankay7982 Před 3 lety +16

      Right? But without a valid passport to prove it's legit it's all nothing and just blah.

    • @jazz4dayz543
      @jazz4dayz543 Před 3 lety +90

      What are you doing stepbro?!

  • @satoshigerbil8789
    @satoshigerbil8789 Před 3 lety +551

    I wonder if there is an audience member sitting next to their parents

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Před rokem +34

    Educating the younger generation is key. Welldone Sis. Interesting insights

  • @suhaibalazzeh3255
    @suhaibalazzeh3255 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Good job spreading the awareness to the people, thank you .

  • @ladragodamultus6815
    @ladragodamultus6815 Před 4 lety +1371

    You never really know you are addicted until you try to quit
    And then the relapses kills you

    • @AO-qv5hl
      @AO-qv5hl Před 4 lety +42

      When they addict a customer, they have a customer for life.

    • @Anonymous-uw4sr
      @Anonymous-uw4sr Před 4 lety +15

      @@AO-qv5hl NO

    • @AO-qv5hl
      @AO-qv5hl Před 4 lety +4

      @@Anonymous-uw4sr yes

    • @ladragodamultus6815
      @ladragodamultus6815 Před 4 lety +34

      @thegrandfinale2 if it was as easy as that people wouldn't be struggling.
      Everyone has their Q you have to find yours maybe going to gym or maybe reading novels, going to church etc

    • @khustlin34
      @khustlin34 Před 4 lety +3

      🤣🤣

  • @dhaninel7902
    @dhaninel7902 Před 3 lety +4320

    I’m so glad more people are starting to talk about this. She did a fantastic job.

    • @joelraphael4838
      @joelraphael4838 Před 3 lety +45

      @@gedazcrew Not the focus of the video...

    • @brendanfloyd4033
      @brendanfloyd4033 Před 3 lety +17

      @@gedazcrew yes she is a beautiful person, but that’s not what you should’ve gotten out of this video.

    • @austriandeathmachine8829
      @austriandeathmachine8829 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeah I fapped with this video.

    • @muhammadisaac07
      @muhammadisaac07 Před rokem

      Absolutely

    • @epaminon6196
      @epaminon6196 Před rokem +8

      I'm sure she could perform a fantastic job elsewhere as well. One where she won't have to talk so much but should still moisten her lips regularly.
      She could be a great flute player in a Grand Band.

  • @bluspirit5456
    @bluspirit5456 Před 2 lety +1

    Amazing speaker, amazing message and really important aswell.

  • @aaronb369
    @aaronb369 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I stopped about 6 months ago and it's so good to not be caught in that cycle

  • @ZhenRizen
    @ZhenRizen Před 4 lety +4899

    Girls locker room : this vid
    Boys locker room : the comment section

  • @shamanthkashyap4805
    @shamanthkashyap4805 Před 3 lety +1580

    The balls u have to have to explain atm and gagging to an auditorium

  • @iftstv9814
    @iftstv9814 Před 2 lety +2

    She is such a positive energy to be around.

  • @AbhishekRai-qo2fj
    @AbhishekRai-qo2fj Před rokem +3

    This is a great initiative for everyone especially youngsters

  • @deeluvsu4l
    @deeluvsu4l Před 3 lety +3322

    I'm stopping on the 1st of October. wish me luck.

    • @nitishroy153
      @nitishroy153 Před 3 lety +108

      Good luck brother

    • @Dani-lk3ed
      @Dani-lk3ed Před 3 lety +52

      Same

    • @nonasenpai
      @nonasenpai Před 3 lety +52

      Good luck mah dude (not meant in a sarcastic way, will be hard for me to stop completely too tbh)

    • @deeluvsu4l
      @deeluvsu4l Před 3 lety +238

      I'm doing good so far boys. I'm craving it but i can control it and divert that energy into other things

    • @nitishroy153
      @nitishroy153 Před 3 lety +14

      @@deeluvsu4l great

  • @jagadishgospat2548
    @jagadishgospat2548 Před 3 lety +784

    *Openly admitting you got a problem is the first step to recovery.*
    -Gumball waterson

    • @mikefin8847
      @mikefin8847 Před 3 lety +20

      Why gumball lmfao

    • @jagadishgospat2548
      @jagadishgospat2548 Před 3 lety +12

      @@mikefin8847 watch the Darwin potato episode

    • @Doomemdtrader
      @Doomemdtrader Před 3 lety +9

      I have a problem. I just can't help myself doing it over and over again. I just can't stop eating food. Each time when I stop, I get that craving inside, that it wants food again. I can't resist it.

    • @jagadishgospat2548
      @jagadishgospat2548 Před 3 lety +7

      @@Doomemdtrader firstly if you can try to have a mirror in the kitchen. Second, it's not only the taste that we're after but also full tummy feeling and the process of eating itself. So find out which one you're after and do this.
      Taste: try eating some candy or some very small alternative.
      Eating: chewing gum.
      Full tummy: soup or drink or something in those lines.
      All of these are just quick fixes, but if you want to stop eating more, try a 24 hrs fasting your stomach will shrink and eating one plate feels full and be more discipline you know? . Tell your friends that you're eating less. And please avoid junk food, fast food, they numb your brain making you feel dizzy ALL THE TIME. this should get you through.

    • @crashraynor
      @crashraynor Před 3 lety +6

      ...the first step to getting out of a hole is being in a hole
      -Crash Raynor

  • @michelleruizcalle
    @michelleruizcalle Před rokem +1

    i´m 15 and i´m so thankful for this informational video, also I try to watch another ones to educate myself of what I don´t have to do, and how I can overcome that thoughts.

  • @jbapparel10
    @jbapparel10 Před rokem +2

    Great talk, We need more awareness like this....

  • @zachdurocher1166
    @zachdurocher1166 Před 4 lety +890

    So this is what they meant by "for research purposes"

    • @recoilzriot6211
      @recoilzriot6211 Před 4 lety +15

      I hope everyone understanding this comment will Like it , It's 10 likes now, I will see later

    • @simba4572
      @simba4572 Před 4 lety +1

      @@recoilzriot6211 😂😂😂😂

    • @Jay2423M
      @Jay2423M Před 4 lety +3

      Yes that’s exactly what we mean

    • @zachdurocher1166
      @zachdurocher1166 Před 4 lety +9

      @@recoilzriot6211 Ah the investor

    • @andykharisma99
      @andykharisma99 Před 4 lety +2

      Underrated

  • @youngsuit
    @youngsuit Před 4 lety +6298

    My brain: this is decently informative.
    My other brain: she's so pretty!

  • @mrnoob3789
    @mrnoob3789 Před 2 lety +6

    I was 334 days strong, but failed on that day. I’m currently one day strong rn.

    • @nulldotorg1612
      @nulldotorg1612 Před 2 lety +2

      Never discredit the fact that you were 334 days strong, my freind I know you can and will keep going. Go until you don’t even count your days. You will do it my freind, I know it.

    • @L_aurora_X
      @L_aurora_X Před 2 měsíci

      I saw him far off in the distance, fading but fell("that day") and then through the dust the great survivors whispered to him, "...i know you can, and will keep going..." and he stood up between the dust, far off and slowly but surely he was so far away from the dust i couldn't see him again. Now me, still in the building trying to go, i make up my mind today, and I'm going into the dust. To my brothers still in, hope to see you all in the other side, and to those out of the dust...I'm coming brothers, I'm coming.

  • @Javashtv
    @Javashtv Před rokem +4

    This woman has got to be the best speaker of an uncomfortable topic in history. 😄…Great Job‼️

  • @Pastorella_COD_Mobile
    @Pastorella_COD_Mobile Před 3 lety +1270

    I am seriously stopping tomorrow. Wish me luck.

  • @reubenbroussard6955
    @reubenbroussard6955 Před 3 lety +270

    That part “no longer contributing to an offensive and obnoxious industry” hit hard.

    • @tommiethrash
      @tommiethrash Před 3 lety +1

      Sarcasm?

    • @simonphoenix3789
      @simonphoenix3789 Před 3 lety +2

      that rammed the point home?

    • @justbecause9645
      @justbecause9645 Před 2 lety +1

      religion?

    • @NoFretBrettCSSMBFF
      @NoFretBrettCSSMBFF Před 2 lety

      16:00... but listen well before so that you get the context better...

    • @user-du4kw9tt3f
      @user-du4kw9tt3f Před 2 lety +4

      I find it both silly and morally wrong to pay for people to be pretending and prostituting their bodies - all the while plentiful amateurs are eager to share online their much more normal (physically and psychologically) adventures.

  • @jisooya7878
    @jisooya7878 Před rokem +3

    we are really lucky to be able to hear these kinds of conversations for free, Time to Change!!

  • @lukebercel6492
    @lukebercel6492 Před 2 lety +3

    The analogy to smoking just really makes you realize how bad it is.

  • @codacreator6162
    @codacreator6162 Před 4 lety +2713

    Sounds like she's done plenty of research.

  • @Iconiquemusique
    @Iconiquemusique Před 3 lety +891

    I started when I was 9. I am 23 now and I stopped counting my No cap Streak. I stopped sometime last year. I Will not relapse I strongly believe. From Nigeria.

    • @Luke-xt6jr
      @Luke-xt6jr Před 3 lety +18

      I’m proud

    • @nicolosari4912
      @nicolosari4912 Před 3 lety +9

      Stay strong my friend

    • @JohnFlessas
      @JohnFlessas Před 3 lety +10

      9???

    • @Marc-wj3sx
      @Marc-wj3sx Před 3 lety +10

      Hey man, I don't understand the topic completely. It's about stop watching it, not stopping to mast*rb*te?

    • @crusher6589
      @crusher6589 Před 3 lety +4

      @@JohnFlessas i started at 7

  • @Hypnusrecords
    @Hypnusrecords Před 2 lety +1

    A very important topic. Thank you for a fantastic talk.

  • @thicarpel
    @thicarpel Před 2 měsíci +2

    I am so glad I could understand most of her speech, even though I'm not a native English speaker! 😊

  • @72151
    @72151 Před 3 lety +2215

    She speaks about a serious issue with the expectations of intimacy, or I should say the sacrifice of intimacy between people. I applaud her for her efforts.

  • @shereeh175
    @shereeh175 Před 3 lety +525

    I feel like the industry is going to get even bigger with the internet being our only connection to be with people

    • @eviljesus6111
      @eviljesus6111 Před 3 lety +34

      That's what they want

    • @dddila
      @dddila Před 3 lety +48

      Its horrifying

    • @eviljesus6111
      @eviljesus6111 Před 3 lety +8

      @@hopewonder why would anyone consider it charity
      it ain't a necessity
      At the same time it can be your best friend and an enemy

    • @christien6230
      @christien6230 Před 3 lety +23

      It will get worse with virtual reality and the new gadgets there making

    • @Ad-Ac
      @Ad-Ac Před 3 lety +3

      @@hopewonder It wasn't free acess, it was free acces to *premium content* . Normally, this site is free access all the time.

  • @user-xp7co7ym5j
    @user-xp7co7ym5j Před 17 dny +1

    My life is just splitted into two, before and after finding this Chanel

  • @timtravasos2742
    @timtravasos2742 Před 2 lety +26

    I agree. I've never been comfortable with those acts. It is dangerous and damaging to men, but more so, for women.

  • @zyzzuschrist3410
    @zyzzuschrist3410 Před 4 lety +275

    "Pimpin' ain't dead it just moved to the web" - Pimp C

    • @Calferr
      @Calferr Před 4 lety +1

      Zyzzus Christ foreal 👍🏽

    • @blade7506
      @blade7506 Před 4 lety +2

      was pimp c around to see it on the web or am i tripping

    • @VicSaidThat
      @VicSaidThat Před 4 lety +3

      @@blade7506 He passed away 2004, so he was around almost a decade

    • @saprijean
      @saprijean Před 4 lety

      RIP the pimp.

    • @thomasblondeau6862
      @thomasblondeau6862 Před 4 lety

      UGK!

  • @tessascarlett5367
    @tessascarlett5367 Před 3 lety +1508

    majority of these comments prove her point.. props to the men/women speaking out and acknowledging this issue.

    • @scooby6147
      @scooby6147 Před 3 lety +24

      comments are jokes mostly dont take it too seriously :)

    • @tessascarlett5367
      @tessascarlett5367 Před 3 lety +76

      @@scooby6147 not all comments are jokes.. and this isn’t something to be joked about anyways.

    • @johnsilver8480
      @johnsilver8480 Před 3 lety +15

      @@scooby6147 need to say it- the most people making jokes about that I know working for a motel.
      Coincedence?
      I am sad that those people do not think about their own daughter. This problem is somethning every girl and woman face eaxh day - and the big majority of their husbands, brothers and and fathers just looking the other direction.
      Dont joke. Blame the joker. Let them feel what tjey give their girls.
      That is the only way this will not happen to your own daughter or granddaughter.

    • @DS-lk3tx
      @DS-lk3tx Před 3 lety +6

      Nice rack.

    • @afrodrummajors4lovepeacech508
      @afrodrummajors4lovepeacech508 Před 3 lety +8

      Your pic is apart of the problem

  • @asifislam4276
    @asifislam4276 Před rokem +4

    one of the finest ted talks.

  • @adrianac.mariespejo
    @adrianac.mariespejo Před 2 lety +3

    Amazing speech. Thank you for this.

  • @OutlandishOW
    @OutlandishOW Před 4 lety +177

    This makes me feel like the only one who doesn’t like the abusive and weird stuff.

  • @Keither1977
    @Keither1977 Před 4 lety +364

    Pretty sure I saw one guy in the front row taking notes furiously lol

  • @tugumisirizechrispas4116
    @tugumisirizechrispas4116 Před rokem +63

    The that someone always gets after quitting the addiction is always awesome . Thank you and I pray we all overcome it🙏🙏🙏

  • @ZazooEel57
    @ZazooEel57 Před rokem +10

    I enjoyed this. Much needed talk. It's too normalized and affects us only in a negative way.

  • @LookAroundMore
    @LookAroundMore Před 3 lety +453

    It's heartening to see so many men in the comments addressing this addiction in their own life. I'm sure it's not easy but I hope that this addiction will be replaced with joyous and fulfilling relationships in your life with real partners. I'm nobody to you, but for what it's worth, and in case no one else says it, I'M PROUD OF YOU. ✌🙌👏

  • @dh5874
    @dh5874 Před 4 lety +751

    audience sitting there like: 😐🤭🤫😐😐

  • @pierrejoubert7195
    @pierrejoubert7195 Před rokem +1

    Very important that this message becomes more wide spread! So true.

  • @dilluxion9
    @dilluxion9 Před rokem +16

    She said her favorite show was friends and I almost quit watching

  • @CaseLogsTrades
    @CaseLogsTrades Před 4 lety +2245

    She has taught this for over 10 years! how old is she? she looks 25 lol

    • @Thesussysuscat
      @Thesussysuscat Před 4 lety +324

      Them Scandinavian countries bud

    • @MdnightOne
      @MdnightOne Před 4 lety +45

      She included her own experiences pre-teaching, I guess

    • @cmk1964
      @cmk1964 Před 4 lety +58

      IntescyAvenger she started her talks at 12

    • @sonicsoftly
      @sonicsoftly Před 4 lety +1

      Give it 5 years

    • @jeherulislam6903
      @jeherulislam6903 Před 4 lety +1

      @Übermensch i thought she was using other nicknames in her fb profile but i found already ,, anyway thanks

  • @ashleycampos8839
    @ashleycampos8839 Před 3 lety +312

    Everyone looked so guilty in the audience lol

    • @chrisgould101
      @chrisgould101 Před 3 lety +14

      We know your an atm girl Ashley come on now

    • @greybush919
      @greybush919 Před 3 lety +28

      I was in the audience and I didn't look guilty... of course I wasn't paying much attention, too busy rubbing one out

    • @k.k.9011
      @k.k.9011 Před 3 lety

      😀😀😀😀

    • @user-ej3jn5zh2v
      @user-ej3jn5zh2v Před 2 lety

      😂😂😂😂

    • @ericam9768
      @ericam9768 Před 2 lety +2

      right their dead silence gives it away

  • @matinkeramat2245
    @matinkeramat2245 Před rokem

    That was awesome 👌
    Thanks for sharing this with us❤️

  • @user-uy2os5gj7x
    @user-uy2os5gj7x Před 3 měsíci +2

    I really surprised her confidence, even she talked about the most sensitive subject in front of the audience
    Well done lady ❤