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@alexandergrace5350 Hey Alexander, your video: "Woman Slowly Realizes That It’s HER Fault" isn't loading, I dont know if its something on your end, my end or CZcams?
@@42NORRIS If you have an Ad Blocker, turn it off or switch to one that works.
Women are like a bucket with a hole in the bottom. You can poor all the world's oceans into that bucket and it will still remain dry. I'll let your mind explore this analogy further - I can feel mine's about to get me in trouble. 🤷♂😂
Wonderful video on YT by The Stilvi Show, How to get the Ring .
"Don't try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other"
Al Bundy.
Know the enemy as you know yourself
That is without doubt one of the deepest comments of Al's many gem comments.
Thank you. I remember that and had not heard that quote in a long time. truly appreciated.
Al Bundy the man the legend
@@johnvencill1511 Did you know Al bundy once scored FOUR (4) touchdowns for Polk High, versus Andrew Johnson High? he really is a legend!
Anyone who doubts women are adult children needs to watch this on loop
I swear, the Women’s Lib Movement destroyed the mental development of women. The longer it’s gone on the more mentally unstable women have gotten.
Find a woman who is anti women’s lib.
Everyone is an adult child, most people age but they don't grow up
@@bluebutterfly5062 Yeah and it's mostly women 😊
@@salus1231 I'm sure I could find some videos of men acting like children.
@@doesitmatterwhoiam8838 the world wouldnt run if men were adult children
The rub here is that not giving women attention only works if you’re on their radar. Otherwise you’re just the tree falling in the forest when no one is around to hear you fall.
Which is also fine.
Yep.
Yup.
Im 63. Dont think thats going to work for me anymore on 30 yo women. They dont even look at me, so wont notice im ignoring them, bc they beat me to it.
Yes the trick of course only works on women, that find you attractive, so they wonder why you dont give back as mucha attention or make them your priority.
i mean it's the exact same for guys. most guys have probably been given signs from women but they didn't notice it or acknowledge it because the girl wasn't "on his radar". nothing wrong with that, but i mean stop with the victim narrative like we're all saints
Think what you want about _pick up artists_ but this is something they've understood for a long time. I'm not a fan, let alone one of them but for a moment, I watched some of their videos and I remember a guy called _Mystery_ saying that if you're interested in a girl sitting at a table with friends in a bar, that you should go to them, talk with her friends and kinda ignore her. At first, I felt this as counterintuitive but then I got it.
And once you get her, all of her friends are jealous and want you too. The PUA surely knew how to hijack the female software. But they also had rather dirty tricks, like making a girl attached to you by banging her first. Because it's a survival instinct to make her sure she won't be left alone and pregnant.
the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss does this justice too. Or just the Mistery's book - behind all that obsolete peackocking fluff - there's much wisdom betweem the lines
I used to frequent nightclubs in my younger years, I would grab a drink and go to a corner with a friend, ignoring women. before you know it they would come and ask If I liked to dance with them. I’m only 5.9 , consider myself a 5. Later on when
I asked them why they didn’t consider dancing with other guys, they replied that since I wasn’t running around chasing woman I looked more interesting to them. I met a lot of nice women in Southern California.
Fresh & Fit are offshoots of PUAs. I don't care for PUAs but they have a better understanding of female behavior.
The PUA learned from the p¡mps! This knowledge is very old, perhaps as old as the oldest profession in the world.😂
Once i became aware of this constant, almost pathological need for attention it became a major turn off and i can't unsee it. The slightest sign of neediness and i'm out. It's definitely hindering my ability to pair bond because it's such a universal trait in women
It’s not totally universal but it does run deep.
2 things:
1: There are alot of woman who are not in the constant ned for attention. But those are seldom the best looking ones but more the ones who look ok and natural. In number not 8-10 but mor the 5-7. this are the ones who have developed other sources to biold up their self esteem.
2: when you look ozut for a Gf, there are some places where you defintly will find more of those attention junkies and then there are places wher you might meet more of those who dont need that attention. For example a taking dancing classes you will more find attention junkies but at hobby choir you will not meet much of those. Same with animal shelter and theatre group. And a club or high scale bar is definitly more on the attetion junky side.
@@rapsack7058you are correct, sir.
In general, a woman's need for attention is equivalent to a man's need for sex.
It's pretty strong and not something always done consciously. The ones that are more mature can learn to control themselves and not be governed by this persistent desire
@@bluebutterfly5062 No, it is sayed often this way but it is not true, or it does not have to be that way. THe need for attention is not instinctual. It is just because we lack to teach woman other ways to build up self esteem . SO simple.
And beside some men are exactly the same....
WHat is bull crap. with out any scientific foundation.
This makes me sick because I actually want to treat women as equals but apparently that makes me undesirable
Basically, you can't. The old scriptures are correct, sadly. It's also why every major religion imposed severe restrictions on women's lives. There's a lot I could say about men should treat women if he wants to keep her around but I'd have the comment reported and deleted - I've already had one this week and face an account deletion.
You can only think of them as people with an incomplete or fragmented consciousness. As such are they that human or a biological program designed solely for breeding and nurturing the man's child?
Unfortunately it’s very difficult to treat all women the same. The pretty young women get more attention. The friendly and feminine get more attention. The ones we want and the ones that can do something for us get more attention.
It is on me to be as fair,polite and equal to all people as much as I can. Be a caring, decent human being who is kind towards others and you’ll be so different from others and so attractive.
Just do that, and whatever happens happens. That's what I do. I'm good at having female friends but not girlfriends. But it doesn't matter. You have to do what's right for you
Exactly my problem with women as well. I cannot unsee it and so I lost all respect for them. The more I treat them like equals, the less they like me. Acting like an asshole and they shower me with attention, gifts, sex.... It really is disgusting.
Women want to be with men they look up to. And how can they look up to you if you're both on the same level?
These stupid games are a waste of time.
And that is how you get women to crave you. Just do not play the game. Congrats you won the game.
This.
@@baswenmakers6846Women find out rapidly that I don't play them, don't have time for them, and they're gone out of my life, and depending on how I know them, I notice they then start the same games on other men who seem to enjoy playing it back with them, while she plays them like a violin.
What a relief
But they want you to play...
"The only way to win, is not to play the game." - Wargames
Play the games, get the girl. Now what? She'll drain your bank account before she gets bored and moves on.
Men should not play games like this. They should maintain their moral standards. A girl can accept him or not. I realised long ago that I could either maintain my high moral standards, or try to get a girlfriend. Not both. And I have chosen the former without ever looking back. I will stay on Virgin Mobile forever, if you see what I mean. And be proud to not treat girls differently to guys purely because of their gender. Which tbh is the only way I could get a girlfriend - I would have to put up with all sorts of behaviours that would severely undermine my friendship with the person if a guy did that. Of course, women exploit basic biology and their essential role in reproduction to gain additional concessions from men. There is no equality between men and women. But since I would like to treat people based on their character rather than immutable biological characteristics fixed before they were born, I will need to stay single.
She can't drain your bank account without your permission. Don't be a sucker my brotha.
@@user-mq1od7fx5l But divorces do not need your permission.
The women Alex uses in the videos are examples of women not to date. I know smart, mature women that don't play games.
I dated a woman who would constantly remind me that I'm bald. I asked her why she would constantly try to me feel bad knowing how sensitive she is. Her response was, "because you're not insecure."
Tell her it's good that she had to develop her intellect to make up for her looks.
@@user-zv8md9xv8c ROFLMAO, with the right frame that would be legendary.
As she is attempting to stick a pre-salted blade in to a vulnerable place, hoping it goes in so she can twist.
@@user-zv8md9xv8c"ooooooooof" on max
@@user-zv8md9xv8cdamnnnnnnn! 😂😂😂
All the men who say they don’t like to play these games don’t realize that this isn’t a game. If you have had your heart broken enough then you should have learnt your lesson and not over pursue woman. The ones you pursue will dismiss you or eventually hurt you. You eventually learn that woman are not any more special than you are and they only deserve what they give. You have just as much value as they do so start acting like it.
A lot of men I've met in my life actually understand this. It's the simps that help ruin women. Simps + modern feminism are the real problems of modern dating.
We have GREATER value than most women. This is a societal expectation of men. Women do NOT want a man who is her equal, in spite of her lies!
It absolutely is a game. And I refuse to participate. Behave like an adult or get away from me.
Very well said. Give no one your power.
@@jj1322 It's one and the same thing. Leftism is intentionally pushing males to be more feminine, and females to be more masculine.
I had this exact conversation with a girl yesterday. She liked the fact that I didn't chase her.... but she craves the attention. So NOT chasing her is what made her want to reach out. It's totally opposite what guys THINK women want. Same goes for DK pix. Women are NOT interested!
Wait, what about dick pics? Are you saying they like them or don't like them?
You should date women not girls who want games
@@PaulWolfe1 Sadly, they almost all play games, even the ones that "don't play games". Some are just better at it than others.
Shakespeare had a woman proclaim the following, and it's a deep secret of the feminine: "Sweet youth, I pray you chide a year together. I had rather hear you chide than this man woo. Sweet youth, please keep scorning me all year long. I would rather hear your scolding than this man's wooing."
@@lucasfabisiak9586 the fact that so many men think this way now days shows us how bad the dating market is. Leave your city, leave your blue state, and watch as women changed dramatically.
I’ve seen this happen many times where a girl literally finds a guy extremely creepy or weird but as soon as that guy does something toxic she’s all of a sudden in love with him……my ex was terrible to me (but I was too weak to leave) but I found a very attractive friend. I spent more time with the friend and my ex (my gf at the time) got jealous and started acting better in every way. As soon as I got rid of the friend, my ex cheated on me and left.
I wonder if we're talking about several layers, here. Let me compare it to what I've learned as a father of three.
With kids, they are the most enjoyable to be around when you give them the _right kind_ of attention.
But the truth is, they would rather have _many_ kinds of attention than the absence of ._any_ attention.
They're constantly doing things and then looking towards you to see if you're noticing.
If you ignore them and give your attention elsewhere, they will start trying lots of things to get your attention back. At an immature and ignorant level, when they feel your attention slipping away, they'll do destructive or stupid things in order to get you to re-engage in the relationship. I never understood this, but once I did it made so much sense. They'd rather receive HARSH CRITICISM that has some connection to the truth than be ignored.
If you don't reward bad behavior with attention, they start figuring out that there is an actual way for them to behave that is good for them AND good for you. You have to learn how to lovingly but very firmly inform them, "This behavior sucks, I don't like it when you behave this way. If you want my attention, or the attention of any good teachers, friends, or love interest, try this behavior instead." Then when they do take specific positive steps forward, you praise them very specifically for the behavior.
Endlessly telling them that whatever they do is their best, saying "good job!" when they are not doing a good job... children detect empty praise as much as they detect dismissive contempt. And I think that at least with dismissive contempt, they might stumble upon the proper behavior and find themselves rewarded for it.
All this to say: yes, it works to show your woman that you have value when you can attract other women. But in my current relationship, things are going even better because I'm very clear with my partner what I like, what I don't like, and she is feeling more and more like she's capable of learning how to completely ring my bell.
I'm still a mystery to her and she loves experimenting on me with _positive_ behaviors. I am not harsh with her when she fails but I am clear with what she could do better.
In my previous relationships, I never brought any attention to poor behavior. This made them sitting ducks for other men who WERE willing to give her a bit of discipline (i.e., corrective attention). The only correction I might have was too harsh because I didn't know how to calmly enjoy my life, creating a campfire of happiness without her, so that she felt cold outside and wanted back in.
And the right way back in is figuring out what makes me happy.
It's really that simple.
My conclusion is that yes, giving attention to other girls and disengaging WILL spark a woman's competitiveness if she feels highly enough about you in other areas. But, I've found the superior way is being very willing to be CLEAR (not HARSH) about when she does things you don't like, and leading her with bread crumbs to the kind of behavior you do like.
Society needs more men who are willing to do this with women. It's a huge reason why we are suffering because women are running amok and the men are either too harsh and dominate her in a hurtful way, or they're too passive and they put up with truly terrible behavior because they have no self-respect.
@@robhulson I agree 100% but that’s the problem. That might have worked before and with older women potentially. Nowadays women know unless there’s an immediate threat that she can have whatever she wants. Iy also massively depends on your value as a man, u don’t necessarily have to be the most attractive but it plays a large part. Your way works if she’s already committed, find u highly attractive and has a large fear of losing you. And that mainly depends on you
Also the thousands if not millions of women who react to that negative harshness rather than maturity. There are many ways to skin a cat
whenever I do date I always date more than one and let a couple keep me as orbiters so I can use them as leverage on other girls. Even when I was in my last long term relationship things only really went down hill when I stopped hanging out with my random girl friends
@@raffpants618 might be a bad relationship but I been on both ends of the equation and I’ve heard more terrible stories from “good women” than shitty ones
@@BouncingTribbles exactly, always have options
Male attention is only a proxy for status in most cases. If a man whose status is unknown gives a woman attention, she will use that information to assume his status is low (because a high status man would be busy with other women, making money, improving himself, etc.). If his status is already known to be high (like in the case of celebrities), then she enjoys his attention because she perceives it as a scarce resource, which makes her feel special. This can, to some extent, be hacked. If a woman finds a man physically attractive and he's charismatic enough, she can be made to assume that his status is high (basically that he's desirable by many women), so she will enjoy attention from him.
wise words. wise words
The attention a woman got from that man need to be deserved first. Giving too much attention to an unknown woman, that could be a b-tch, proves your needy lower status.
But once this attention is deserved and proportionate to her proven qualities, then it is ok.
There is some truth in it. But i think there is another idea that helps.
A higher status man invites a owman to join his life and he is not making to much changes just for her. She can by it or leave. A lower status man "joins" her life. He is changing his life style for her. He makes the big sacrifices. He bends to her will.
And it is amazing how much we radiate this mind set right from the first contact on. Woman see if you will serve her or she has more or less to serve you or "fight" for any litle change you do for her.
SO when you give a woman spome attention, then there is that moment when you get judged in what category you fit. In this moent she will judge how confident you are, how you tace her reaction, maybe rejection. If you have humor and style. etc... allone your body language tells alot. It shows if you feel comfortable who you are or if you radiate insecurity. She will aslo judge you by how you be treated by your firends. For axample do the turn to you when you speak or are you turning towards them. etc..There is alot we unkowingly use to determin the staus of people.
@@rapsack7058 Nope, what he said was ALL truth! All you did was add onto what he said. Nothing wrong with that, as truth isnt finite, only our understanding of it is. But everything he said was correct
@@inconnu4961 My point is only because you make the first contact, are the first one who give attention as an unknown person, you show NOT that you are low status. That not how it works. She will definitly judge you in the first minutes, and she will most likely be correct. We radiate our status. How we act how we speak, how we react. etc..
Anxiety is stimulating to women. It’s depleting to men.
This analysis makes so much sense. Insecurity rules a woman's mind and then they panic. My girlfriend shows interest when I don't text or call, especially when I'm out doing something fun without her. Guys, just find your path and don't look back. Women literally will chase you when you move on with your life.
My core lesson would be that you don't want the attention of those women starting to chasing you.
That the power dynamic shifted does not make the resulting relationship any better.
Invest in women who reciprocate your efforts.
Don't mistake their attention for effort. Its not the same thing.
@@AliothAncalagonNailed it! 💯🎯
You are correct!@@AliothAncalagon
My guy dropping hard truths right there…
I’ve had the George Costanza experience “I tried that (ignoring women), you never seen women so happy!”
LMAO I hear ys, this is me too!
Women tell men the opposite of what they want and are unable to realize men hear just what you are saying and wont ever assume you meant the opposite. My ex-wife drove me nuts with it. Not just she did that, all do that.
Yep been with current gf all of 4 years .this will be my last time ever living with a woman passed sex
Not everyone is the same. There are honest and dishonest people, regardless of sex. Honest people have normal psychic and dishonest people have reverse one.
@@bshthrasher: I don't know that it's a matter of dishonesty. I think women think they want what they say they want, but it isn't what they respond to, positively.
this is why i quit dating. spent over a decade as the " loser" and after i got fed up ; i literally wrote a BOOK about the interactions/actions/words men would use around women , then i separated what " worked" versus what "didnt". THEN i " forced myself to change" to BE the kind of guy women WANTED. then after literally HATING MYSELF due to the " monster" i had to ACT like to get a little attention for myself = i quit. sure , it was AMAZING having a woman initiate physical contact with me in a seductive manner. it was AMAZING having women WANT and SEEK sex with me. but i couldnt even look at myself in the mirror afterwards.
" they dont like YOU! they are just falling for a SCRIPT of a typical F-BOY/player/A-HOLE/ETC..."
throwing judgement i.e. "monster" on the kind of guy who garners attention from women really just says that you have a problem with society.
Your dad figured out how to reconcile the f-boy he needed to be with the person he wanted to be; I'm sure you will too.
“Just be yourself”
Patrice O'Neal once said, he would make a great p¡mp, but his heart is too good, so he became a comedian. RIP, big boy!
I became that guy too... it made you look at fembots as discusting creatures, so easily played, weak.... I hated the guy I had to become just to get a woman's attention.... yes it worked, but it was purely manipulation.... a man simply wants to be wanted because "he's worth it".... sadly, this is never hoping to happen.... love is dead
I am a married man (28 years) in my 50. I had the unique chance to meet and marry a high quality woman from a high qualiy family (it goes often together). Her family was not the richest of the block but had a rich and long history of good education, hard work and values. My wife went to a selective business school, worked 7 years then stoped to raise our three children after she delivered the third one.
I can only recommend what is said here: find a girl who deserve to be found and dont let her go but dont expect that she will be interested by an ocean of attention: she will be attracted by your values so focus on them.
This is what makes marriage so difficult. Women are attracted to men with boundaries. The kinds of men who can afford to walk away and not care too much. But once a couple is married, he can no longer afford to walk away given the nature of family court. His boundaries vanish and she can walk all over him if she wants to. She'll begin testing him, nagging and shaming him, just to see what he can do about it. As he fails these tests, which is inevitable, she'll lose interest and that's when the doomsday clock starts ticking.
Really? My experience and that of other men I know is that if you display to a woman you have boundaries, it drives them away before dating, either immediately after an explosive tantrum or over a few days after a sulk. They're attracted to men with weak or no boundaries and they assume it of all men - because that's all they've experienced, right - until they discover someone like me who looks to be the first to have asserted himself calmly but firmly.
There are three women I know who aren't like this, but they're in a tiny minority. They pick up quickly what my boundaries are and have respected them over several years and I don't need to remind them.
But other than that, yes, I agree that the pushing continues into the relationship and nearly all men fail because nearly all men have been trampled all over.
One practical solution is to put your wealth in an anonymous trust and protect yourself in similar ways so you can be at peace. Then just lay down the law and do not budge an inch from your frame.
My ex used to tell me and her friends I'm like a mountain and she can't affect me.
They are permanently broken. What sane man wants to play these games? No thanks.
What I have found out the hard way: give a woman attention, respect, interest, effort, loyalty, commitment, romance, honesty, intention and she / they will shiate on you on the regular - ghost you, ditch you, avoid you, lie to you, leave you, cheat on you and if you were stupid enough to marry her - she will divorce your dumb azz to go and jump to the Bad Boy that is toxic, irresponsible, unreliable, unresponsive, quite possibly abusive, criminal, thuggish, felon, drug dealer, gun runner, gangsta
I’m a married (40 years)
woman in my 60’s. Having the ability to look back at my life and contemplate my past behaviors has been eye opening.
I now recognize just how prevalent the affectation of the Women’s Lib Movement has been on my thinking. And I’ve never bought into the feminist agenda.
I’ve always been anti-feminist.
That said, I’m now old enough to look back and see how pernicious it was. It seeped in here and there without my recognizing it.
So how do you raise girls to recognize this danger? Is it possible?
I was raised in a home that was anti-feminist but even then, I wasn’t immune to it’s influence.
This is a great comment, and thank you for saying outloud that most of us sense, but it isnt Politically correct to voice! Rollo Tomassi has said many, many times: we are ALL feminist, whether we know it or not. Every man, woman and child! it will take a herculean effort to do so, but unless we want to all live through the worst of female nature (because the pendulum is always pushed to the extremes; it can never simply exist in balance), we all best start pushing against it.
My only idea to share is: Use critical thinking to pick apart what they claim. Most women understand things emotionally, and I doubt this will solve it. But also, most people at least PAY LIP Service to reason and critical thinking. You may be far more suited than i on how to address women on an emotional level. but thanks for sharing this. My respect to you!
The purpose of any totalitarian system is precisely to be inescapable - "Everything within the state. Nothing outside the state. Nothing against the state." I mention this because feminism is fundamentally just another branch of marxism and while it hasn't fully reached its totalitarian form it was, like you pointed out, barely avoidable in the past, let alone today. As an ideology it is the same as all others of its kind - It is a cabin of truth surrounded by skyscrapers of half-truths, manipulation, gaslighting, outright lies and malice. The problem as such is that young people lack knowledge and wisdom of the world in order to separate the wheat from the chaff. If there is any hope, from what I can tell, it's in older and wiser people who can help the youth sort through the whole mess. Someone who can accurately say and prove: That claim is true. This other claim is partly true and partly isn't. That claim is nonsense. Etc. That sort of person should then pave the way for a younger person to engage their own critical thinking and start to look at the world around them in a less naive and more cautious manner.
@@GeneralProfessor The 'wheat & the chaff' eh? Thats a uniquely Christianese saying, are you a Believer too? Thanks for your comment and filling in the necessary details I glossed over. i tend to be too wordy, so always trying to mind being as pithy as possible.
Kids are "raised" not only by their parents but by their peer group, people of authority like teachers and other external influences like media as well.
Self-aware women such as yourself are rare indeed. You should be proud of yourself!
I've met quite a few women who go with the "Treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen" way of thinking. Without exception, the love lives of EVERY one of them were utter train-wrecks.
If anyone gets self esteem from anyone they've already failed it comes from within same as confidence
Yes but it’s also nice to have a companion and feel desired which would improve your self esteem
I've been married to a woman like this, a covert narcissist who has kept me and encouraged me to increase my medication (legal) to a hire and hire dose, I am disabled for 26 years, for the past 6 6ears my disability got worse due to more falls due to weak joints. I was so dosed up I had bad brain fog and couldn't drive with them. I must admit I wasn't in pain but I was a prisoner and she isolated me on purpose, having an affair with a female colleague, covert narcissistic can get the attention they need from either sex. Yes, I am in therapy and yes, I am divorcing her. These women are toxic and to be avoided, never play their silly games.
I'm not in therapy because of the hurt, no, it was to get it straight in my head what I didn't want, I wanted a wife not a HOE.
"If a woman were to..."
I'm already out.
I was the designated driver for a few friends at a club, they were acting like typical guys and I was on my phone not paying attention to anyone. I kept having girls try to talk to me when I clearly wasn't there to be bothered...this makes sense to me now.
The issue is that this is just feeding into mental illness on a large scale, this gets conflated with human nature because of social media and a poor family system. If we play these games epigenetic shifts will occur for the worse
Right, the last we need is men validating these ridiculous behaviours from women.
You nailed it imho.
future (nxt gen, that is) appears to be canceled. and for those pricks it should look bleak, tbh.
I'm so glad you cleared things up at the end like that. Goes to show how deeply you understand the psychology of people. The push pull only works on the kind of women you wouldn't want a real, long lasting relationship with.
These spoiled princess wannabes still think *they* are the "prize." Bless their little hearts.
Even TV shows showed this, the nerdy guy always got the girl once he stopped giving her attention. Robert Greene calls it “giving them space to fall” in the art of seduction.
Underrated book. That's how the brains do it to other brains in this zoo.
@@user-zv8md9xv8c Have you seen his videos on CZcams? He is such a Mac daddy, aint he! LOL
Great book I adhere by this philosophy all the time without fail
Every woman that ever did that to me ended up back in the dating pool. I didn't play that game then and if my wife died, I wouldn't play that game now.
Simple psychology of the casino. Guys, there's a reason why the slot machine is called the "one armed bandit." If she's using the same tactics, take the hint. Similar in reflection - if your attention annoys her, again, take the hint - assuming you're not the guy sending 80 messages because she didn't respond for 20 minutes. No one with self-respect and respect for others will treat you that poorly. You're looking for your person, not your turn.
I've done all these things that these women have suggested and all I've gotten is nothing due to not being a 10/10 Tyrone Chadington Thunderstroke III
Plenty of average at best guys do ok
@@simontmn well I need some coaching or something because I'm done at this point.... dating apps, cold approaching, through friends, they all go nowhere. All the girl friends I have I ask what the problem is with me? They say "a girl would be lucky to have you", yet here I am 10 years after my last relationship wondering what it is I do wrong and wishing someone would just be straight up with me.
A girl....not me!😅
@@joebidensfixationonlittlegirls I find my best friend gives me useful advice, if you have a male friend who's fairly successful with women maybe ask him
@@cv6176 I haven't jerked or watched the spicy content in over 6 years. It's a huge waste of time, energy, and motivation. So that's not the problem
I don't play games or do drama. What a turnoff.
My experience in the late 1980s when I was in High school there were outgoing girls that were quite attractive that had a hand full of guys constantly hitting on them. I did not think I had a chance or that the competition was too much. I liked the shy girls that were kept to them self's. ten years later I had 3 different girls that I knew (same ones mentioned very outgoing, all very attractive tell Me they were annoyed or mad that I did not try to go out with them, and that they had wanted to date Me then. I thought this has hilarious that they did not bother to tell Me this when I was younger. A I assume If I had shown interest it would not have been reciprocated.
Exactly, if you had shown interest it wouldn't have been reciprocated.
But don't feel that you "missed out" on something good though, when they tell you later they found you interesting or even wanted to date you.
You only missed out on low quality, insecure girls who didn't know what they want and who surely would've hurt you if you had been with them.
If a girl truly likes you, she should be straightforward and know how to communicate her desires, you shouldn't have to decipher her hints and innuendo or apply PUA psychological tricks to get her attention or hold her affection.
Had the same.
They told me they liked me in highschool.
I did not even know them in highschool.
I literally tell them "well good job telling me about it back then".
Men should realize it's not the actions that women see makes you attractive, but the message that it sends.
They don't want you to hook up with their ex.
But they want you to show you're in control.
Women don't look rationally at things. They don't think 'oh, he just chatted with another girl after talking with me'. They think 'wow, I have competition, better show some cleavage'.
The behaviors persist into middle age. As a man that has seen their torment one too many times, I am torn between (a) not wanting to cause distress on their end so I affirm them and (b) being so annoyed by their need for affirmation that I don't care about their distress and purposely don't affirm them.
The struggle is real! Just remember: they are NEVER happy, and I doubt they ever want to be happy! they love the distress!
at least you respond to them - even worse than purposely not affirming would be true indifference to them
If she isn't attracted to you, you ignoring her won't matter.
In fact, she will definitely walk away. 😂
This is why you need multiple women. While you're spending time with one the others are ignored gaining attraction to you but you deny them attention😅
To make this (withdrawing attention/not showing interest in her) work, you need to get into a position of higher priority for her first. When she has so many options and you are nothing of "value", to put it in those terms, then she will not pursue you. There needs to be something of interest/"value" about you to make this work.
And if that's the case and you made it that far, congratulations. You're in the game...
I usually take time to read every comment on Alex’s uploads. This is one of the best already. Loads of gems right off the bat the bat. This is an amazing piece of social critique. Alex gets it.
Maybe this is a big reason why the world is going to shyt, with more women placed into positions of power artificially, to make things "equal".
I was having a conversation with another guy about the same thing, that this artificiality ruins the whole dynamic. I added I think most women also dont know how to raise kids bc theyre always working which is also a turn off for men.
@@watamutha I use the term "maybe", but its so damned obvious that it has become politically incorrect to even discuss this reality. The market drives this type of free fall and so it won't end until collapse, imo.
@@eQuariuzYes obvious to men. I think women are still trying to have their cake and eat it too. Every time I bring up this point I'm invariably met with a "well the solution cant be women stepping back," or a "men just need to step up!" or a dismissive "well women work also." The guy I was talking to is in his 70s with wife, kids, grandkids, and he sees the same dynamic going on.
100%
THE SINGLE BEST CHANNEL IN THE WORLD. PLEASE DONT STOP OR AT LEAST, DONT DELETE. YOU HONESTLY DONT KNOW HOW MANY MILLIONS OF MEN YOU ARE HELPING. Thank you.
Brilliant analysis. Thank you.
it's called dread game
This is a powerful message. In the past when I'd gotten to the "push" part of interacting with a woman I liked, I really *had* lost interest in her emotionally, and any chase mechanism the withdraw generated in her was just a potential ticket to a sex-only situation. It seems best for men to be able to withdraw before any emotional attachment ends. This way he can measure her interest by whether she comes back.
I find interacting with a woman from a objective perspective. Only cue up your emotions to her level when she shows how interested in you she is
I think the thing that bothered my ex-wife the most when we were in a relationship was me giving her the silent treatment after an unreasonable fight. Doing my own thing like she didn't exist.
Alex, you truly are a masterclass 🙌🙏
1:28 I literally sent a coworker I thought I was friends with a text message asking how she was doing, and she responded that if I kept bothering her, she'd go to HR.
I think this comes naturally to most men once you have established yourself. For younger guys it sucks
Learned something today. Saw the pieces all along, but never put them together until now.
If women don't show they want me, they have to go out on the street again
If a women doesn't like it when you give her attention then she is either low quality or she is not that into you. It is really that simple. I understand that women do not like unwanted attention but if Chad pulls up then she is going to want his attention.
Anytime someone says "its really that simple", run like hell from him! he either is lying or has NO clue what he is talking about! LMAO
It is NEVER 'really that simple" because unlike objects we can control, humans & animals have MANY, MANY variables that influence them. I imagine you were trying to keep things basic and generalized, and thats perfectly fine. No need to write a scholarly textbook. But choose better wording, such as this is a 'basic sense', a generalized sense' or 'to put it simply'. But dont say its this simple, because we ALL got exceptions to the rules! LOL Thanks for hearing my rant!
@@inconnu4961it’s so simple bro, tactical soap will make you a magnet
If you can find the one rare woman that doesn't act this way, she's the one you want to marry. The rest are garbage anyway. Personally, I would use this behavior as elimination criteria for a lasting relationship - SWIPE LEFT. Don't play that game guys, you will just get used by vipers.
Lmao you actually think there are women that aren't like this 😂
@@MidnightPolaris800 Oh believe me, there are.
Absolutely remarkable
The last minute of the video is important! All the way through I was thinking - "Why would I ever be interested in a woman I have to threat like this?" and he seems to agree.
Usually when I drop the attention towards a woman they just forget about me completely.
Can you do a video about transitioning from PUA interactions to a healthy relationship? A lot of the stuff you teach makes sense in initial dating, but there's no way ignoring your wife or long-term partner is healthy or desirable.
that's your man think. in fact the very moment you start to '"respect" her as you undertsnd respect as a man = means you stop gaming your woman hence stop applying pickup techniques, this moment your relationshiT goes south.
You need to game your woman for all your life. They are inherently fickle and disloyal. It doesn't require a lot of work, but it needs to be a constant in your life.
the game never ends, you're just behind enemy lines
@@dominikvonlavante6113 I learned this from "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." And it's been true every time I try it.
Women treat every positive interaction (even proper criticism) as a +1.
Did you buy her one flower? +1.
Did you buy her a dozen flowers? +1.
Did you take her to an expensive restaurant? +1
Did you pick up a particular candy at a gas station on your way home because you heard her say she liked them? +1
Gentlemen, I suggest we all start understanding that no matter what you do, it's just a +1. And one of the key elements of a woman staying attracted to you is your ability to make these little +1's appear above her head like a game of The Sims.
Stop the flow of +1's, and it doesn't matter that you took her to Europe two months ago. Or whatever you might consider a +100.
In a woman's instruction manual, one of the first questions you must ask yourself when troubleshooting a relationship with a woman is: _what have you done for me lately?_
Embrace this and learn how to dance with it, it's actually a lot of fun. A good woman doesn't require expensive events or things in order to feel a +1. The ones who do? IGNORE THEM AND FIND A WORTHY WOMAN whose standards of a +1 are reasonable, then don't stop the +1's.
@@BouncingTribblesOf which there is no Geneva Convention.
Showing too much interest is the biggest problem in the beginning when she doesn’t know much about you if you are a high quality man. Once she accepts you are, you can show a lot more interest and attention if you are truthful and say why. If you say sweet things with no justification, it’s fake and she knows. If you mean them and she thinks you are quality, all you have to do is not smother her. Play it slightly warm in the beginning, increase as she discovers how good you are and always, always avoid BS praise or attention, she can smell it.
She has to value your praise, so treat it as something worthy of giving.
This is Casey Zander school.
I honestly thought for a long time that guy is 50% correct and 50% BS until I saw in reality how right he is. He does however sometimes take it to extremes and often speaks in absolutes.
You could read this stuff on redpill subreddit like 10-15 years ago straight from Rollo Tomato. These new age grifters just parroting what was said long time ago.
@@Laurius57 Tomato? You're a funny guy.
@@teok8855lmao extremes? Your joking right? He's about as mild as it gets
This doesn’t work for me. Being aloof only works if you’re good looking.
As an older man, I wonder if this is the same for older women. Do most women in their 50's an up continue to get overwhelmed with male attention? If not, would giving them attention be more successful?
Even higher quality women are turned off by excessive attention, but yes the dynamics are different.
She would never see me again and doesn't matter what she did she would never get another chance.
Alexander, you are an absolute god send man
I can relate to this as a man. I've been "talking" to a lady for like 6 months and barely answer her texts, yet when I asked her u wanna end things cause im hella busy she ws like nah...Its crazy.. she even told me she's willing to wait (im building my business)
Holy crap! This explains why when I went back to college for a career change, after getting married, I had so many co-eds flirt with me. I was totally ignoring them. When in school the first time I pursued and was the one ignored.
You're also older. That's huge. I didn't realize how big of a factor that was until recently, in my mid-30s. "Daddy energy".
I started college at 23… after 4 years in the Navy. I really didn’t have much interest in the women in most of my entry level classes… they seemed so young and naive. I met a grad student 3 years my senior and married her about a year later. As soon as I started wearing a wedding ring it seemed like EVERY hot woman in my classes sat next to me and initiated conversations and several outrageously flirted with me. I loved the attention but stayed true to my awesome wife… it was strange to get so much attention from the hottest women. More than one would tell me they sat next to me because I was ‘married and safe’… they wouldn’t be hit on by me.
You have to talk them up a little bit, make them laugh. Then walk away and make them want more. Then you take your own time. Boom. That easy.
They advance towards that which retreats from them
Years ago the song Break Apart her Heart by Good Charlotte came out, and at the time emotionally I didn't understand how being cruel or dismissive to a woman like that would actually work, because I wasn't raised that way. Nowadays. I understand, and wish I put that all into practice. Life would probably be alot different now.
We have ALL been conditioned to believe what women SAY over watching what they DO! it aint just you, Andrew, its most of us!
Sadly I always knew about that, but I am just to nice to push and pull. Sad but true.
Isn't this narcism at it's best?
the three girls at the beginning of the video were refreshingly self-aware and honest
In regards to Alexander’s opening questions about if a man would ‘like it’ if a woman hooked up with their EX in front of you….when ever I think of courting a woman…I just do the opposite of what I would like….and it works….they Don’t call it ‘Opposites Attract’ for nothing.
The part that sucks about this is that we can’t do opposites forever
It's George Costanza.
I used to tell a girl's friends I liked her, and then take a step back to see if she chases me. If she didn't, oh well, if she did, win win.
This “ignore them” technique falls into the poetry category: IF she already likes you then it works, but IF she doesn’t like you yet, ignoring her will just give her relief from being perused, just as not reciting poetry will just let her not hate you. She won’t give you a second thought, she just won’t have feelings of hatred toward you.
From a different perspective on this presentation: the thousand guys pursuing her don’t actually know her but only how she looks. THAT’S why all the attention bothers her. She wants somebody that actually likes HER, but she doesn’t know how that’s going to happen. YOU have to figure out how to speak to HER rather than her image, and she isn’t going to make that easy because she doesn’t know how.
Having made that caveat, this presentation is excellent and insightful.
Your rejection🤣 of needing social media affirmation, got me to subscribe 😁
If she doesn’t already find you physically attractive in the first few minutes, then this advice is useless.
The problem I've always had with that technique, is that when I showered her with praise and attention, she soaked it all in, but then when I ghosted her, she never even noticed.
If other women are really like this that's completely insane! I've never responded to any man that would do this!
This used to do my head in. I genuinely thought they were all insane.
This makes my head ache.
When you deal with people (men or women) and they have something you want, you have to act like you don't want it, are indifferent to it, or don't need it.
In most cases, they give you what you want with far less resistance. This is a textbook method to use.
WOW. I thought that I was insecure.
I've apparently have had a good life.
I never really gave a damn what people thought about me.
I've heard it said "He who cares the least, wins". LOL.
Watching these young women was like an education in social games they play.
you stand out by not bothering...
find your focus, faith and purpose boys. have your hobbies and meet ups with your squad, and leave everything else behind.
Stop giving them attention
Maybe things would be better if all man stopped giving free attention and stuff without being in a relationship first, it would improve things on many levels.
"A self-sufficient ego. Nothing else matters."
This is where the old advice for men of "once you stop looking is when you'll find it/her" comes from.
I had once one woman who worked with me. She was a 6, not my type at all. So I had no interest at all. But because I had not even slight interest, she was obsessed to get me.
I had a much younger woman stalk and physically chase me for 18 months. She had a huge obsession for me, especially my underarm hair for some reason. I kept myself to myself. She ramped up the pressure and ramped up the physicality and communication, and sexual suggestivity. When she started getting touchy feely with me I started to reciprocate by engaging a bit, and that was it, she stopped overnight.
@@EE12CSVT Wow that is crazy. Yeah as long the dont break any bounderies its fine. I mean at work, with all the accusation is difficult. But your story was outside the work. I dated once a chick and I met her for the first time and she went 100% as we would been together for months. That was really weird experience
@@quebono100 That chick you dated was likely a narcissist love bombing you. I had that in the past. Just be grateful you didn't marry her 4 months after meeting her for the first time as a guy I know did to one covert narc.
@@EE12CSVT Thank you for your stories, I appreciate you've shared those
9:59 hahaha!!!
What I don't understand. If i approach a girl or group of girls in bar that's showing interest. But the moment i do that makes me look like im needy. Then it turns her off. How does one get this balance right?
The way you word it.
HOW is the attention and validation DIFFERENT to a drug OR an addiction?
HOW are women NOT junkies to social media, could they cope with the withdrawal symptoms?
Are women becoming overly dependant on the validation and attention that social media gives them?
Can they come down and withdraw themselves from their social media feeds?
Because I see this as bad as I see and hear how Heroin addicts battle to overcome their addictions, it gives them so much dopamine REWARDS, while clearly rotting their souls.
That's why GUYS need to stop going on ONLY FANS. You are paying these girls so they can have money for the non-working CHAD and TYRONE who is wanted due to popularity.
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It took me awhile to understand the difference between Ego and Confidence. Ego feels good, it's a high but it fragile needs constant reinforcement and can't stand if other get it. Confidence is hard won, it's really hard to build confidence and until you have had it you can't understand it. Confidence is a like a rock once it is built through years of pressure it's hard to Crack.
Young people, young women especially have the 24/7 ego machine called social media.