Self-Hatred & Anxiety
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- The reason we may feel more anxious than we should lies in an unusual place: Self-hatred. If we think of ourselves as 'bad', then surely bad things must happen to bad people. One of the ways of calming down is to learn to unpack the origins of our self-suspicion and lay the ground for a more self-loving and compassionate future.
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"The temptation, with dealing with anxiety, is always and invariably to focus on the ostensible cause of our worry: the journey to the airport, the forthcoming speech, the letter one is waiting for, the presentation one has to hand in… But if we proceed more psychologically, we might begin in a different place. With great kindness and no disrespect, we may step past the objective content of anxiety and look instead at something else: how the anxious person feels about themselves…"
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I find that rationalising that anything directly out of your control isn't worth worrying about is useful
a gun, new year no me
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I started introspecting what cud be my cause since my anxiety started in teen. So I understood a lot had to do w my family, their negative and encouraging words and to top that bad company. Some ppl have atleast someone to help them change wen u show destructive pattern i din have any, so I had to learn the tough way and eventually rediscovered wat hobby i liked and slowly started (very difficult) saying positive things to myself though i couldn't believe a word but i eventually started taking care of wat i eat and had a routine for skin care. This might sound silly but it helped. I was ignorant of how i carried myself nd did not take care if myself coz i felt i was not important. Once i started caring there's so much positivity, i also started meditation tho very difficult at first. That too helped. I started dancing coz i like not coz im good. Simple things make me happy and lot of other major changes. I have bad days but i remind myself all that i have overcome and achieved. Little things, one by one.
@@Jim_Underscore I hear you. I feel much the same. I hope you don't though because you are amazing and I, for one, think this world would be less without you. I don't even know you, how could I know that? I just do. I've decided to keep living because in the back of my exhausted and tortured mind, I know it's possible for life to be good and if it's possible I'd like to see it. So I'm going to endure another day and then hopefully, the next. I hope you do too friend. Good Luck. Best, L.
I’m literally crying over this video. I just can’t seem to accept myself.
It’s my second time watching this. I’m still crying at how accurate this is. I despise my existence so much
same. and i have no one to talk about it to. all the fucking time i'll get the answer "you should be grateful", as if i'm not. i know others have it easier, or worst then me, but it still doesn't change my fucked up ugly ass genes.
@@bigup9567 exactly, this is why i’m hesitant to open up because they just don’t understand. i’m so tired of being misunderstood and invalidated. I hate how they turn our sufferings as competitions. hhhhh life is meh.
Me too. I'm sorry to know there are others like me out there.
@@_daki exactlyyy.
For some odd reason when someone is rude to me I always blame myself
Wrong, when someone is rude to you. You have to stand up for yourself, automatically you will respect yourself and others will respect you.
Watch that feeling and that thought process closely, and the next time it happens remember that you've got another choice. It takes some practice.
@@lisaschuster9305 that's beautiful, I will try remember that, thank you Lisa!
Ive realized that I do that all the time too, if someone is rude or rejects me or ignores me im always first to put the blame on myself, like maybe what I said wasnt good enough, rather than consider that maybe the other person isnt in a good mood or theyre just an unpleasant person.
When someone is rude to you it only has to do with them and their internal issues.
“If things are going well this must just be a calm period”. Couldn’t explain my life any better. I am constantly looking for what’s going to destroy me next instead of enjoying life. It’s not a good life to live.
Edit: so many supportive comments have been left for me. I would like to thank all of you for helping me and others in the comments. I feel much better and am still working on feeling hopeful for the future.
😢
Same here 💔
Same here.
Damn thiss was helpful as helllll
You are most definitely not alone on that.
It is not a good way to lead life at all. The last time I ever felt really good was last year, sometime before holiday season; after that... I don't know what being okay is like anymore. (As of this comment.)
Thank heavens for this channel.
I’ve hated myself since I was very young and I’ve struggled with severe social anxiety through my teenage years and I had no idea they could be connected
Can you tell me more your story? Because you are very relatable to me, self hatred from very young and extreme void, anxiety, loneliness
Same here
Nicolas Cage hates himself. Well he has done well with it.
I need help
I love you all. We may be a bit damaged but we will come out of this stronger 💪
"2. People should be relatively grateful to have me in their lives."
I instinctively laughed.
Marco Caloi lol same. I’m the one who should be grateful people tolerate me in their lives 😂
Sorry bud. But for what it's worth I'm sure somebody is very grateful for you and is right to be.
@@jacksont9455 at least you have people in your life
I'm not gonna push it when comes to people being grateful for my existence. So, "Disagree".
cosmogonic machine honestly me too i literally scoffed out loud 😞
Ah yes. Just in time for Christmas.
Don't forget New Years. I get crippling anxiety whenever I think about family gatherings
@@user-fq1od6sc5i the best opportunity to see ur cousins and nieces and do some petting 🥴
Kaz facts
Kaz It doesn’t get any better! It never does!
Hail, Satan
If you're reading this please remember, confidence doesn't come from being loud, extroverted, and talkitive. It comes from being comfortable with yourself. That's one thing I've learnt and its helped me a lot in life. At the end of the day, you're gonna find people like you much more when you're being real.
I used to believe that once. I was so stupid. I envy people who are lucky enough to learn how to love themselves and dont tolerate people disrespecting you.
Thanks mate
Spot on.
Totally agree, thank you. As an introvert, it's taken me many years and lots of self work to realise this, and to no longer give a crap about societal constructs.
thank you. I used to be so jealous of people who were naturally extroverted because they seemed more comfortable with themselves, had an easier time making friends, and so on. But being comfortable with yourself doesn't mean that you have to be a certain way at all. It's about accepting yourself for the way you are, knowing that you are worthy and deserving of love, and if that means that you want to grow and change then that is wonderful too, but it should be for yourself. I also feel like there are stigmas around quieter people, or introverts. I remember a few times when people would make fun of me for being reserved when I was younger, or just be mean. And of course this just made it worse, made me feel like there was something wrong with me and that I should hide even more. But now I see that those people might have been dealing with their own insecurities, their own desperation to feel accepted and liked. And if that meant picking on other people, then they would do it because it gained them validation. People like that were also probably very insecure, and took it out on other people like I notice some people do. I honestly sometimes feel really bad for people like that, because they may have been taught to believe that that is normal growing up, not been shown love. I hope that everyone, including myself can love themselves more. It is not easy, but not impossible. And you can try to help others to love themselves by telling them kind words, letting that be the thing that grows and blossoms in their mind instead of negative thoughts, and anxiety. I wish that those kind things were said to me by my parent when I was a kid, because it's hard now to think that I _don't_ deserve terrible things said and done to me, and I am trying to learn to be aware that I _do_ deserve and am worthy unconditional love. -So sorry for ranting,- it all just came out lol:) anyways be kind to others, and most importantly be kind to yourself.
I’ve always have this crippling fear from making any mistakes or get humiliated because of them.
I’m 35 y/o and still get terrified of people humiliating me and I don’t know how to defend myself.
I feel like a child who’s constantly apologise to get people forgiveness.
It hurts me so much .. I want to learn how to love and stand up for myself more, and accept my mistakes as part of me.
I understand. Wish you all the best. Remember that you are worthy and have the right to make mistakes. Nobody and nothing is perfect and nobody can make you feel humiliated unless you let them. You have that power. Don't give it away. Stand up for yourself. You deserve it! Blessings 💕
@@takeinpositivity6972 Thank you so much for your sweet words. I can’t appreciate you enough
It means a lot. ❤️🙏🏼
@@Hmy87 Hey I hope all is well with you. Thank you so much! I don't know if you saw my comment. It was really long but I still feel like I'm not doing anything meaningful and that also stems from this false idea that we need to earn our worth. And I'm a little down right now. Seeing your reply, I'm happy to know that I may have made a tiny difference. I meant every word and you seem like a beautiful soul. Love and blessings. 🙏 ❤
@@takeinpositivity6972 I’m sorry 😣 about that. Yes, I read your reply. I hope you’ll feel better soon ❤️. I’m sure can go through this ❤️.
Take care. 😘
@@Hmy87 Hey friend! I hope you're doing great! Thank you so much. I don't normally use this account so I just checked and saw your reply. You know we all have those days. I'm alright now, thanks. I wish you happiness, peace and love ❤
Nothing gets me more in the festive spirit than hatred and anxiety
Hail, Satan.
How so?
@@ki-td5yb salakem salam
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To everyone watching this video: I sincerely pray that you find the answer you’re looking for.
Edit: It's been two years since this comment and I'm still alive. There are still times when I wish I wasn't but they are becoming less frequent. It seems that things do get better. It warms my heart that I'm not alone in this journey as this comment section proves. I appreciate you all. Thank you so much and I hope that things continue to get better for all of us.
Reyner Calayo thanks man I felt that ❤️👍
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thank you Reyner
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U too
I started crying when he mentioned that we just need love
@@MrVignesh028 the shelter I've found was in witchcraft and paganism after all. But thank you!
That all we need.
LMAO same😭
God is the source of true life. Our life is from God. We can find life to God, real life not just life without life. The reason why we live of full of darkness here in earth becausw satan came in and eve and adam disobey God but God give His one and only Son to save and get us from the hands of satan, and its demons. God already won the battle against the enemy because of the cross, He defeated the curse, payment because of our sins. Instead we are the ones who will pay it, He already pay it in His blood. He washes our sins and freed us from anything but we have a choice if we are going to accept it and His salvation that He gave to us. He already knocking to you if you read this, invite Him to your life, heart and mind. Read His truth which is the Word in the bible. You will know the truth behind those lies from demons and satan. God will be coming againt to His second coming to get His sons and daughters, He will end this fully, this battle against the enemy but since we already get the victory and there is a promise we still to fight everyday with God, with Jesus. And in Jesus name, there is power. He is powerful and at the same time kind and loving God. He will frogive your sins if you ask for forgiveness. God loves you,, everyone of us
"I genuinely hate myself"
Literally everyone: "Good."
I'm aware this is a joke.
But my cynicism and morbid humor brain is curious if 'everyone' saying good is say out compensation for their worth?
U know if people said "Good" i will be upset and of they cared and tried to help me i will push them away, what is wrong with me? .... oh wait☺, its just everything is wrong with me.
@@ashmax3228 x'D
Learn to let go
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Absolutely spot on. As someone with bad anxiety, the constant fear of my impending, justified punishment for existing was something I had no idea wasn't normal. Once you recognize it, you start to feel better.
I felt the same for such a long time. I thought it was normal, and how everyone felt.
Same! Had a freak out when I misplace a phone because I "knew" something bad would happen; I was having a good time.
I never thought of it as certain, impending punishment for existing, but that nails it.
I didn't even have an idea I hate myself but one day I was putting myself down as usual and i was like wait a min and I realised. First you need to accept you do then comes the cure
You mean punishment from God?
Knowing that I cause my anxiety with self hate only makes me dislike myself more. This hit too close to home. lol not feeling confident makes me avoid social situations all together bc I will be uncomfortable the entire time. Merry Christmas! 🤗
John Smith as if. Both genders have their own struggles
sure you cause your own anxiety but that's not going deep enough. is the cause logical (something you must fix) or illogical (thoughts you should discard). you need to isolate your self hating thoughts to analyze them.
John Smith What did you get out of telling her that???? The job? The house? The girl you’ve always wanted?
Donald Trumps Snorts Adderall There is no reasoning with incels. Don’t waste your time.
John Smith why’d you have to be that guy? just say you don’t like women and keep it moving
I can't even remember a time when I liked or loved myself. I often feel like the world would be a much better place without me.
Me too. It's really hard some days.
Same. I can't remember ever not hating myself and I guess that hatred has just grown and grown over time
If only I could just stay asleep all the time
Self love is bigger mistery than death to me
How are you now? Hope things are better
@@klarasavli1248 I'm generally better, still have bad days. Thanks for checking in, I appreciate you :)
I don't think I was negelected as a kid in any way, but I still hate myself more than I could hate anyone ever. And this fact makes me hate myself even MORE because even with all the love of the people in my life, I still ended up like this...
This is exactly how I feel I haven’t been neglected or abandoned but I hate myself and I don’t think I ever will get over that self hatred no matter what I try and I’m still trying I can’t believe that anyone genuinely loves me I keep thinking everyone will leave me and that I’ll be alone but I also feel I deserve to be abandoned it’s a push pull that happens every day it’s a pain
Same boat ⛵
God did not wants us to hate ourselves but to love ourselves that is according to His love, in His word. We cannot able to love people and even ourselves without God's love. God wants to live a real life for us, we will be find a life that is full love, joy, and peace through God. God will set us free through His word, promises through the truth that He speak in His Word in the bible. God is powerful and nothing is impossible to God. Ge can do the impossible, possible. God died for you and He rose again. He will fight your battle. Surrender it to Him. God will coming back, repent and be baptised with the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit will help us to obey and read God's word. He will help us to live for God
There's probably something that caused it, for a long time I overlooked the bullying that happened to me, and the easily-frustrated angry nature of some adults that made me indirectly feel like a burden. Anyway, I want to say that the pain and shame of hating ourselves is a very real feeling and experience, but the belief is an illusion, no matter how ingrained in our subconscious it is, whenever it pops up (and I realised recently that it pops up daily for me, i'll shame myself if I do as little as be indecisive) respond with love to yourself, the instinct is to shame and confirm that we are indeed unworthy, catch that thought and correct it with a compassionate response, as if speaking to someone else, i hope we all heal in time
Why is there no podcast for School of life??? I would love to listen to these things on the go without having to pay for CZcams Premium
Yessssss podcast would be good
call me old fashioned, but you can my friend, just play the video swipe down into your notification center & let it play in the background from your pocket just don’t lock your phone
@@GOODGOON but you can’t listen offline that’s the problem 😟
Try youtube vanced if you have Android
seconding CZcams Vanced!
So, the weird thing is, I like myself, yet I'm almost convinced no one else could. Like, the only person who could like being around me is me. I know that's logically probably not true, but I can't kill the thought from my subconscious anyway.
Aman Haris this is EXACLTY how i feel! It is like feeling that you are unworthy of others' affection. Thinking about this in my situation, i feel in a way that this still hits to a problem of self esteem/appreciation because, when it comes to comparing myself to other people, i feel like i'm not as "good" or "worthy" as them.
Haha, same. Do you have parents who can't stand to be around you, too?
Yess yes yes you guys
Yeah same! There’s stuff about me that I don’t feel is good enough for other people but I also knows there’s things about me that are unique and nice and I wish someone would give me the chance to prove myself
Same. I like a lot about myself but the fact that I don't have a ton of friends or ppl in general who take interest in me makes me feel like I'm the only one who could like myself.
I have a hard time loving myself, mostly because how narcassistic I feel when I even take a compliment about myself; I am almost always not proud about the things I do, and if I do, I end up feeling guilty cause I think I'm being to prideful or something....
It is healthy to like yourself, actually its neccessary to survive. Narcisst are people who think themselves deserving best while everyone else does not. If i am for example happy for succeeding its healthy. If i am angry about people doing better than me claiming that should be me its narcisstic.
@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500 thanks :)
i really feel you, hope you're doing ok over there 💛
Whenever I feel anxious and insignificant (mostly as a result of anxiety attacks) I would remind myself of my favorite line in the Desiderata poem:
"You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here." We're worthy.
Yes that's nice but the trees and stars don't go round doing bad things. Well, trees might fall and kill people but not on purpose.
We have agency and a sense of right and wrong. We may have done things we regret which cause shame. Maybe we did these things because we were not brought up properly, with enough love?
Connecting to the universe and relating to myself in that way helps me too I’ve found 🙂 you deserve to be here because you exist, end of. It’s nice and simple, no noise.
You are important to God, God loves you. He died for you and He rose again. He loves you and cares for you. Surrender to Him your life and you will never be disappointed. Give everything to God and He will take care you.
I want to share this verse whenever I feel insecure. It is the Word of God
Psalm 139:13-14 NIV
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
“You is kind
You is smart
You is important”
Yous is correct
BlessedSoul🌟 are
Isa Melissa you didn’t get the reference
It's been a long time since I've seen that film referenced and seeing it here made me smile💕💕
Magi V glad it did I have this quote stuck in my brain ever since :)
I've suffered from anxiety for a long time now and while I have learned to cope better with it, my main problem really is my low self-esteem. I wouldn't say I hate myself but when faced with other people, responsibilities and expectations, I constantly think I'm not able/skilled enough to do it and that other people will be disappointed and angry. It get's real old real fast, but I can't seem to shake this ingrained belief (yet)
sorry for replying a year later, but you literally just described me 🥲
@@nbcommiedyke sorry that you're in the same boat. But I'm glad you felt understood by my comment
This is me. And when I do push through but don’t get the kind of feedback I was hoping for (even when it is positive, just not in the way I wanted it to make myself feel better), I crumble within myself. Basically hardening the thought of I’m not good enough, not able to, not skilled enough even more
I feel exactly like you
"I wouldn't say I hate myself but when faced with other people, responsibilities and expectations, I constantly think I'm not able/skilled enough to do it and that other people will be disappointed and angry."
I 100% resonate with this. I thought that by developing social skills, becoming charismatic and having a nonchalant attitude would help, but no, it was just a façade to cover up my internal insecurities of not being good enough. It succeeded in self-deception but now the mask is fracturing bit by bit. It doesn't help that your parents and your younger sister are extremely skilled and successful and you're struggling to stay afloat. Now that I'm aware of this issue, I need to find the baby steps needed to combat it. It's not healthy and it can cause bouts of envy, inaction and self-victimising, facets of my ugly side that I don't want anybody to see.
I dislike myself because other peoole get angry with me, annoyed at me, yell at me, reject me, abandom me. I can't manage my every day life and other people excpect me to. I don't find the help I need and people expect me to. The key for me is guilt and coping with stress.
First of all.. throw away the word -cope- second of all... Stress isn't even a way of managing life in anyway shape or form it demolishes your daily thinking and overall living..
I'm so confused as to why my self-hatred and anxiety can be so severe at times, and yet I never experienced any childhood trauma or neglect. So many of these types of videos suggest that this type of thing is rooted in childhood, and yet I just can't see the connection for me.
Same, girl.
Because these videos don't cater to everybody. That's why I don't understand all the comments saying that they 100% relate. It doesn't make sense
Same I’ll never understand how I ended up this way when I had a good childhood
For me it comes from my childhood..I don't think I like it changing one school to another got me avoiding people
It had to stem from something.. it was neglect even just emotional? I had a great childhood except for a few key aspects that fundamentally changed my personality
Christmas is bad time for those people who have a social anxiety
Christmas gathering was crap 🤦🏽♂️
rap101ism I have social anxiety and it is very crippling and debilitating. Christmas and New Year celebrations are really horrible for me because they are all socially based. I’m always happier and relieved once it is all over.
Don't forget Valentines Day.
Christmas is aweful
Christmas time, that squidward time of year.
(>'-')> I would like to extend a virtual hug to everybody struggling out there.
That's awesome! You can do it in the real world (consensually) - there are anxious people everywhere.
😊👍💕
OMG this made me happy😂💘
Looks like Kirby and that makes me extra happy
I never admited I dislike myself until now , now understanding I never loved myself, I manipulated myself into thinking I did while silently judging myself
I just want to cry when people hug me for too long or say things like you are great don’t be guilty it’s not you fault. (Then hate myself even more for being this pathetic)sign.Hope you all find peace with yourself
I've found peace in drugs, though i cant get any right now,i love how my mind can be free during this condition, because my sober life is shitty and pointless
@@scarsviadeath real this is, i fear, my destiny
There needs to be another selection for the quiz, "Disagree so strongly that you nearly vomit." Yeah, I hate myself pretty badly. I am so filled with Toxic Shame that I constantly hear the phrase "You should be killed" running through my mind. Nevertheless, I persist. I really do believe this can't be all there is.
I'm so proud of you! You're right. This isn't all there is. You're truly on your way to a better life.
How old are you
You are a great and strong person for sharing these difficult thoughts your having and You deserve to love yourself
Merry christmas
Try gratitude journaling
Same thought here, there must be something else out there, this shitty life with shitty people and shitty situations can't be all that is...
I suffer from crippling anxiety but this video reminds me more of when I used to have social anxiety because it's that overwhelming self-consciousness that makes you think that people are out to get you, think you're a freak, or talk behind your back. I just feel that that self-hatred is more present in that form of anxiety.
Can I ask how you overcame your social anxiety
My mother often said hated me and used to really be horrid to me. She taught me to hate myself over the years. It had a terrible impact on my life from which I still suffer today. Luckily I have no contact to her although she lives nearby.
That sucks man. Sorry to hear that.
Mine used to regularly tell me that I'm "going to be no-good, just like my father.." and that I'm stupid. I realize now that I've always believed her, even though she's dead. "
I suck at life pretty heavy but both of my parents love me to death while the world hates me. The reason I don't care because I have my parents. I can't imagine your mother not loving you. I would not survive without my mothers love
I was an extremely anxious child. Couldn’t even look people in the face . Started to come out of the anxiety when I started doing hobbies I liked , over my parents objections . Realized as a teen that a lot of the anxiety was due to the constant over controlling , physical , verbal and emotional abuse I was continually subjected to.
Social anxiety controls my whole life, and it has for a very long time. I’m only 19 but I can’t help but feel like I’ve failed at life already and that I will never go anywhere or be anything more than what I already am. Where I was a few years ago seems so much lower than where I am now yet it still feels exactly the same or even better because the more time goes by the more guilty I feel that I’m standing still and never moving forward. I feel so guilty that my family has to put up with me, mostly because they don’t know how I feel and I’m scared they think all the negative things I think about myself because of how I act. I can’t imagine ever being happy because I can’t imagine ever liking myself or not being terrified of things that should be simple. I know its not all true because I know my family and my one friend really love me. I’m so lucky to have my best friend because she lifts me up everyday but still I feel like a burden to her as well as my family.
I don’t know if anyone will even read this but I hope one day I’ll come back here and be able to say I did it. I got a job, I found a passion, I talked to people and made friends, I stopped pushing everyone away, I started enjoying life, I started to like myself. I hope that I can prove myself wrong in every negative thing that I believe and I hope that when I come back and share what happened after today someone who feels the same way that I do now, completely hopeless and hating themselves more for it, will get some hope that it will get better and that they can be happy.
It’s okay , you are not alone . Always remember Jesus is always w/ you. You will get a job & you will find a passion . You are destined for greatness . You WILL OVER COME Anxiety . I’m praying for you.
@@therealprettynyny2064 Thank you❤️ You made my day today
I think what I've noticed that I stopped having dreams or even socializing causs of my low self worth. I felt unworthy and if it did happen I was just lucky and it was a matter of time until that happy period ends. I notice I get scared when I catch myself being happy or proud of myself.
I realized that instead of me being sad and hating myself why don't I confront these issues and actively go against them like affirmations that I love myself or worthy or I forgive myself. My self hatred makes fun of me for telling myself "delusions" but my hateful thoughts are delusions themselves. So why don't I get to pick the delusions I tell myself and believe in my own worth.
I hope this flip of script helps you.
I wish you the very best. You can do it. You are not alone. There are many people like you (including me). Learn to care less about people, thoughts, ideas, that prevent you from growing. Ive heard all the successful people were failing a lot (and stil are) but they made it because they didnt give up. And i believe you can do it, too. I hope you will be reading this and learn to trust in yourself.
Somebody that you use...
Amen ❤️
"I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me." - Stuart Smalley
Drew Fridley read it in his voice
Hail, Satan.
@@ki-td5yb Nah hail god
@@MrCool-vu1nr um it's Christmas. Hail these gifts I bought.
@@ki-td5yb hail lucifer
I hope more people reject the pressure of being in a company of people, during holidays.
Many end up feeling miserable and worthless, just because the don't fit into the tradition.
Fair enough but being rejected is another story all together.
That's so true!
@Reggie Cyde smh I wish thy could stop but nah
been hospitalized several times for depression.(as well as anxiety) All the hospitals encouraged coloring and art. Thanks to the 'adult coloring' craze a few years back, I bought myself some books. I color every day. To me, it's one of the only things that keep me focused and calm.
I am happy that you are okay now. But I want to share and I ask God to guide me on what I am going to share. God loves you and He did not want us to think evil in ourselves. HE LOVES US AND DIED FOR US IN THE CROSS. The enemy just want to destroy what God wants to give and He already give to us. Demons and satan has a plan and wants to destroy our life, family, health and wealth and that starts satan came in on the Garden of eden when he tempted the 1st person God made which is eve and adam so they get tempted by satan abd the sin came in and still comes in today but Jesus died for us because God the Father give Jesus for us to save and get us back to God, God loves us. He wants us to live but according to God's will and that is for our good. He will coming back again not to crucified but to get His sons and daughters whom obey Him and really love Him. God will finish and already won the battle against satan and darkness. There is a promise to all of us wit God in the heaven but there will be also consequence to those people who did not choose and Him and instead living the life that they want to live. God loves you that is why if you read this, not just you but to everyone; accept Christ as your God and savior and father and obey His word and live for HIM, you will be saved and not going to hell. Hell is real and so as heaven and God and satan. The battle is in the spiritual realm. Mental sickness is spiritual attack from demons and satan. Satan is the father of lies.
My father made my mother and I hate ourselves with the language he used towards us . I never realized how much it affected me until later in life. I would allow others to take advantage of me because of my low self worth.
When about 14, was doing my homework in the afternoon across the dining room table from Dad. I looked up from writing to see him glaring at me with an expression of hate or disgust and said to me 3 words only: "Christ you're ugly". Out of the blue for no reason, completely out of character, as if he'd just found out I wasn't his own kid or something. I didn't know what to say or do so just froze and kept doing my homework. Never told Mum, only told my closest sister after he died. Pretty sure she didn't believe me at the time. Just makes me join a few dots between much lesser behaviour on his behalf that points to him resenting or hating me all along. When I'm in top gear of self hating, I always end up with that memory foremost in my mind.
Just got the video notification in the middle of an anxiety attack.
Hang on! You'll be ok. Breathe. All the best. L.
Hail, Satan!
@@ki-td5yb hail lucifer
Do you mind sharing what caused the anxiety?
Same
From a Lacanian point of view, anxiety comes from not knowing if one is what the Big Other expects us to be, I.e. we are not fulfilling the expectation we have that other people expect from us. In other words, we don't feel like we are good enough, but we don't even know good in what or for what and who expects what from us. And not knowing that is very frighteningly vague. Which takes us to hate ourselves for no clear reasons
Ender Wiggin I hate it that we are considered selfish too. I feel so much guilt about that.
@@asies660 well it is because we measure ourselves with standards based on what society says we should strive for, and if you don't they resent/shame you so you align.
@@vidividivicious do we really care what people think? kind of. many of us don't give a fuck and have a me against the world mentality. do we care what we think of ourselves? much more so. if you have logical reasons to hate yourself that is the main cause of anxiety. the mind produces anxiety as a catalyst for change. if we don't start to create change it it will advance to feelings of hopelessness (depression). someone might tell me I'm an asshole and I won't care, unless I believe it for myself.
Chris Hayes I feel we all could have “logical” reasons to dislike ourselves if we all thought hard enough (even healthy minded people considering we all have regrets in life). Anxiety can amplify “illogical” reasons and that’s what makes anxiety so difficult to overcome. We can’t tell what is logical or illogical to dislike so a good change may be difficult to see without help of course.
I've never cried this much from a video.
I felt I was unworthy watching this video, then I came by this sentence: "...because if one doesn't think one is worthy, it must follow that the world is permenantly and imminently at high risk of punishing one in the way one suspects one deserves."
spot on!
No coincidence that this is a Christmas day release
Hail, Satan.
@@ki-td5yb hail lucifer
@@ki-td5yb Hail Hydra
ARARA , It's Helel ben Shahar
Hail santa
Needed this STRONGLY.
Deserved it STRONGLY.
You deserve anything you PIECE of shit
@Koome you missed the joke you self hating piece of shit
Meditation helps me..i sense the energy in my hands and feet which prevents thinking taking over and allows Peace to rise...resistance caused me so much pain and anxiety... faith in life's benevolence has healed my fear...
Learnt self hated since I was born. Told she wished I'd never be born, that I'm useless and good for nothing. So hated myself from the get go. Trying to unlearn it for my mental wellbeing. Love to you all, we can do this ❤️❤️❤️
The holidays is unfortunately a time where anxiety runs rampant and that can transition into self- resentment when it isn't addressed properly. I'm glad you chose today to post this. Thank you.
Alex Clementine
Be safe ☘ keep it in the day🙂
@@davemorrissey9133 Thank you 🙏🏾 Your timing couldn't have been better. Be well
Thank u🙂
Jesus is the prince of peace. God wants to have peace. Read His truth in the bible and it will transform our mind life
"Memory loss treats all psychological disorders."
True it’s our past causing us all this pain in the present
wouldn't help ASD
So do decapitations 😉
And create another one called Alzheimer’s
I’m losing my memory at 20 years old and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone
2 years ago I used to have a very distorted image of myself. I had low self esteem and the unwanted negative attention I used to get from some people in my school really made it worse. I was so insecure, that even going to school became a burden. I was judged and felt so lonely. Time passed, and I have a better image of myself. I’m finally comfortable with the way I look and I’m really confident in my actions now…and in the end..I only grew tougher. It was a very fragile period of my life, and the bullying I’ve experienced made it even harder for me. I fortunately had the right people by my side to help me get out of this pool of sadness and show me that life is more than that. No one deserves to go through this.
I’m glad I’ve found this video, I do think that my social anxiety is one of the reasons I hate myself because I can’t manage to make connections with anyone and I feel like I’m losing it with the ones I already have. I’m self sabotaging myself and too lazy to take action and stop
The timing of this is, as often, perfect.
M 😊
I always think the bully is the sick one, dont care what the world will say, like my self, should be greatful , i agree and taught my kids to love them selfs then they can give love to others and they do
Should be grateful of what?
That's a good point, I teach my kids the same. I dont just show them love I am love. I drown them in it. And its affected them so much and how they treat others.
And I believe bessy bessy means to be grateful in general. There's a lot to be grateful for. And teaching them to be grateful as children they will carry that mentality through adulthood instead of focusing on what they don't have, they will be grateful for what they do, and life in general.
@@MrCool-vu1nr Love from greece, should be greatful for life for time its all a gift, dont spend it on low thoughts ,
I've come to the realization recently that I'm not special. I'm not some brave and handsome protagonist of a film, and people don't see me the way I see myself, so it's been hard not to feel a failure and to love myself even after all of the backlash the real world gave me... This video helped me to start the journey of understanding myself and loving those parts I never thought I would accept, so thank you
"..because if one doesn't think one is worthy, it must follow that the world is permanently and imminently at high risk of punishing one in the way one suspects one deserves."
This is so wonderfully articulated. My appreciation for this channel is growing towards gratitude.
You nailed it and unfortunately it's the exact same thing that's been happening with my mom!!! She doesn't love herself, she was never taught to love herself, and it shatters my heart to see that!!! It shattered my heart when she said to me today that she deserves to suffer, I was like "wait, no, you don't deserve to suffer, what hell are you talking about???"
Yeah, the struggle is real!!! 😢😢😢😢😔😔😔
I've never heard my day to day thoughts so perfectly explained. I've never had the words to explain what I'm going through on a daily basis in my mind, this just painted a picture and brought to light so many things I had questions about!
I love myself but once I doubt myself once it’s over my confidence turn into a self destructive weakness such as sport if I doubt my ability to play with everyone it stop me from playing at my best and it doesn’t help that every little thing I reflect on how I could do it better instead of bring happy that I achieve something
You know what's crazy?
He freakin' predicted my answers to the questionnaire.
Someone's not having a great Christmas
Hello fellow Indian, good to see you here
ARARA , you two should start a new civilization
Family gathering 🙄
Hi
I was crying while i read this comment,mid-mental breakdown i watched this video and found your comment,thanks for the laugh mid-sorrow
On one hand, it’s comforting to see that so many other people in this comment section also hate themselves. Like I’m not this isolated instance/event that is fundamentally different from everyone one else.
But on the other hand, it’s so heartbreaking to think just how many people walk through life not feeling like they deserve to be for themselves. Imagine the countless grey faces you walk by on a daily basis. How many of them also can’t walk to school/work/whatever else without their negative thoughts swarming their headspace? How many of them are so used to it that they feel like they deserve that constant “I’m keeping you in check so you don’t prove to others that you’re the failure you are.” Etc. etc.
This is so profoundly true. The missing piece in so many approaches to anxiety.
I realized when I have really bad anxiety is normally attached to my company.
Same
@ThatBadGuy I did
@ThatBadGuy shut the fuck up
It's TRUE, and may mean that you are a sensitive.. meaning that you absorb the energies of others. So of you wanna hang out with those same people develop and anchor. Like prayer beads, or a stress stone, something to that affect. Its help to keep their negative energy inside them and not enter yourself causing anxiety
He said “one” or “one self” 25 times.
In love with just his voice, it’s so soothing like he understands everything about you
This makes so much sense. My anxieties are usually about my lacking ability in different areas and I have tried to fill that void with work, things, externalities to give myself worth. To have worth for being human is so foreign to me… and to love myself with mental illness is so impossible to accept, but it feeds the vicious cycle. I love this video
Its never enough , no one will give you enough validation
Only comes from within
For 30 years I had the WORST self talk and anxiety. One day… my whole mind was blown open and life changed. Someone asked me if I knew my dad’s great grandfather…. I didn’t. And I realized that we all will be that great grandfather. We all die. And not long after we are forgotten about for eternity. Nothing matters. Go out and live your life how you want. Who cares what mistakes you make or who doesn’t like you. In the end it all fades to dust.
'Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom'
Who said that?
Nice
this was the best christmas gift I could ever ask for
same here
I used to hate myself, as I slowly started to love myself and change my inner world, I feel more comfortable with myself. I did something like you mentioned take an inventory of myself.
I sat and accepted my anxiety, it was very hard but it has now become manageable. I have started looking after myself, changed my hair style, enjoy my company. I feel more able to socialise now. I work with my psychologist and do my homework. Your channel is one of them.
Now I know I don't need to be perfect to have a steady life with its ups and downs.
I've grown up with a lot of self-hatred to the point I've started to repress my emotions and feeling disgust everytime I look in the mirror. I've lost confidence both towards me and towards others and now I feel empty everyday, I don't have enough energy to do anything not even the simpler tasks and I always have a pessimistic view on the world. I wonder when is this going to end
Anxiety is something that I used to deal with heavily for many years, and like the video describes, it was due to self-hatred. Once I began appreciating myself and changing that inner monologue to one of positivity, the anxiety slowly began to disappear. Now anxiety is truly a rare occurrence, and when it does come up, it goes away very quickly. No lingering like in the past.
Isn't it interesting that we are all in this together? We all experience anxiety and other unpleasant emotions to some degree. This thought helps me to feel a bit better because i don't feel so lonely with this shit anymore
This makes actual sense, no joke. Thank you. I struggle with all of this, no confidence, self-hatred, anxiety, depression. I feel like this makes perfect sense because I was not shown much affection as a child, couple that with using hardcore drugs at an early age and opiates/heroin for the last twenty years (I’m 36 now). I’m just ready for this trip to be over. I’m done and over it all.
I think this 4 minute video just answered my life
Mr. Triangle headass is sad😞
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I actually Never comment on Videos But seeing in the comment section How Many People struggle with Self hatred and suicidal thoughts: you will get through this! For sure! There are people out there who care deeply for you even if you may Not be Able to believe it right now. Help is out there, and you dont have to be alone with this. To everyone who struggles: i Hope you are feeling better soon. Never lose Hope, everything can change so fast and one day you will look back and be happy that you gave yourself the chance you deserve
When things start to become ok in my life I literally feel like I don’t deserve it and something bad is gonna happen soon, relating back to the “calm period” statement. I just can feel comfortable in my own skin. I just feel like I want/need something that will give me what I need.
I literally broke into tears big time at 2:31 and I strongly shaked my head. Sometimes, knowing yourself more than anyone is not a good thing. No matter what good things or nice words others may say to me, I just couldn't let myself believe in them because I know myself more than them. I may be good in some things, but not all the time. And believe me when I say I can't, because I am not a humble peraon. That's why I just always put myself in silent whenever people around me talks about these kinds of things. I'm just always listening to them, and sometimes envy them of how amazing they are because I can never be like them. I know my abilities and limitations are. And knowing this sometimes, I mean always, makes me sad.
Family gathering at my house.
I just stayed in my room the whole time. Leaving me room for like 10 seconds to either pee or get food.
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Me too..🙁.
The last 3 months I've been suffering from something that I can't explain. I have subconscious anxiety and my body is showing that to me. High blood pressure and tinnitus. This is turning me mental. I think my situation is explained in this video.
You should go and see a therapist or find a close friend to talk about it. Take care of your mental healthy :)
Yea it might be some where in your childhood u might have been mistreated thus it's manifesting into your body thru panic attacks
Same, but with headaches and vision blurriness
The worst part is I’m always aware of the irrationality behind my own self-hatred. I would never judge nor hate anyone who looked/behaved/thought/and felt like me, but because it’s ME… I hate it. I’m also aware that the amount of shame I hold is simply because I have the desire to be loved, which is a perfectly normal human need. But I just! can’t! shake! this! feeling! Anxiety, shame, doubt, and low self-esteem completely dictate my everyday life and it is soooooo exhausting.
I'm so sick of myself. I'm sick of sabotaging myself and hurting myself over and over and over again without ever learning from any of my mistakes. I wish I could be someone else, someone functioning.
I remember reading this essay the first time on a bus, and crying
Very insightful and helpful as always, thank you so much
what essay?
Fantastic video and very informative. The most important relationship we have in life is the one we have with ourselves
Oh god. That last sentence struck me the most. I just cried cause it is true. ll i can do is to take a deep breath. :(
This was literally me for a few years, until two years ago, when I was able to get over some things and heal. I suffered from low self esteem most of my life. Looking back, I realized that I had many irrational fears. I wish I had known back then that I was perfectly OK :) One of the positive outcomes of going through so much pain and then healing was that I now care way less about what people might think of me, because you realize that people are not worth your pain. One of the ways that I healed my anxiety was actually taking care of myself and nourishing myself better.
Im gonna show this video to my therapist
Good idea, maybe I'll do that too
After your therapist see’s said video; She/he starts realizing her/his past and starts balling on the ground.
What if I got an extreme anxiety and self hatred while people around me have always been so supportive? Now I accept this anxiety and depression as a part of myself which I should carry with me until the day I die, but I still have no idea how to handle with this current situation - can’t even get a single step out of anxiety even when nice people embrace me the way I am 🙄
Yeah, I feel terrible thinking that my mom has been kind to me, but I still keep hating myself. I try to explain, but she can't understand it either, which I'm sure makes sense because this mindset is pretty weird and stupid. But I can't shake it off. I've always had it for some reason.
Yah agree I kinda felt suck I have to carry it my whole life and now already felt like hell..but we're truly a warrior
have u guys tried EMDR therapy ?
talking to psychologists and EMDR will help
I know exactly how that feels. Maybe you should concentrate on a project that you connect with your passion. (Do you like animals?sports?plants?art?music?) Maybe you could look for likeminded people working with you together. When you building on that project you got a great experience
Try a good therapist or psychologist. Sometimes friends and family get fed up with their close ones being this way. Just telling you from experience. Think about this tho, when they ask you what's wrong next time, you have every right to not explain yourself. A lot of times people want you feeling whatever they want you to feel.
I remember my mom telling me multiple times throughout childhood. "Look at how carefree your aunt is without children." Didn't think it would impact me so much.
Damn...
It's not that I believe myself unworthy, it's the world's actions that made me believe I'm unworthy.
Get this, I have incredibly high self-esteem, as in I love myself and think everyone would enjoy me and think I bring value to the lives of those who know me...but I have diagnosed anxiety because brains aren't always foolproof hardware.
What helps me cope is knowing what anxiety looks like when it presents itself to me so that I can acknowledge and then ignore the inner perfectionist critic, and in moments of extreme anxiety, a muscle relaxant to help reduce the physical struggle of simply bearing through an anxiety attack.
Wow. This is great insight. It really seems to make a lot of sense. Today's society is always told they are inadequate by advertising. They need to look like the person in the ad or have this product to be happy. They push our emotional buttons to sell us stuff we really don't need.
Rebel against your will to hate yourself. Biggest takeaway from this!
You have no idea how much this page helped me
I’ve always had high levels self hatred. However, it’s also fueled me making many improvements in my life. Now I’m afraid if I stop, my drive to improve will lessen. It’s a double edged sword.
I hear you bro. I feel similar.
As someone who only recently shrugged off a big chunk of my self-hatred and gained confidence in some aspects of myself, this hit right on the bitter notes of the way I used to think all the time. I can now say I’m no longer feeling that way or addicted to feeling that sorry about myself. Having some confidence (however little) a huge difference in unexpected parts of my life.
Of all your videos, this one struck a chord with me the most. I’ve always struggled with feelings of worthlessness and anxiety, though my anxiety is connected to my PTSD, which was caused when I was a year and a half old due to witnessing the domestic violence of my father towards my mother.
I usually only randomly cry because of emotional shows, but this one did it for me. Thank you so much for sharing this analysis with the world. It seems I really needed it
I’m not sure... but it would seem that I could definitely like myself more. Thank you for opening my eyes to this!
its good isnt it? :)
Tom Scryleus absolutely! Xoxox
This has worked. I've tried to "love myself" by telling myself that I'm not perfect and that I'm learning. Also that God loves me no matter what. I try to think "how would God treat me if I was having low-self-esteem?" Hed probably be encouraging and tell me what good qualities I have but still expect a lot out of me.
wow, great advice ty
It's not a joke, most people just got better with coping it but some unlucky ones will have to deal with it for the rest of their lives. Part of the problem is the environment, when there's no one there to guide and support you, it all comes down to you and you have to rely on yourself.
I beat myself up every day because I’m over-aware of all the stupid things I’ve done in my life. As someone with autism and severe anger issues, I’m genuinely ashamed of who I am and I struggle to take care of myself because I feel like everyone else is more important. I feel like I was born broken, and I hate myself for the stress I’ve put so many people through simply because of my anger issues and lack of communication skills.
Thanks to videos like these, however, I’m more willing than ever to try my hardest to push away that self hatred, and to love myself more. Wish me luck, and more importantly, take care of yourselves as well. ❤️