r/Trueoff My Little Bro is Stealing My Lingerie
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:10 Underwear thief
2:15 Wise comment
2:39 No luck
5:40 Slapped
9:00 Critical condition
12:27 Funny comment
12:35 Always late
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
Daughter: "mom, my little brother is stealing my underwear!"
Mother: "buy him dirty magazine or something..."
... Mother of the year material ...
Then she introduces her brother to rule34 and porn art. Let the mother deal with what comes next.
She should take some of mom's undies and place them into little brother's room. See how they both like that.
should give him her mom's underwear
If he sold them thats a solid business model
@@BadassHater1 I doubt the brother has not already looked at that. Porn can mess with a kids mind.
"Why did he have to hit me SO hard" Those are the words of a person who has been in an abusive relationship from the get-go and is just now starting to see it. Hopefully, she can get herself and the kid away before he does something worse.
definitely. i can say that it never gets better from there
To the poor girl with the pervy brother, if your mom sticks the the "boys will be boys" garbage, give him HER lingerie and underwear. Then let her deal with the therapy needed here.
You do realize we would have another Chris-chan on our hands do you?
He might be wearing them.
I mean that's still not okay, but its better then the alternative.
Yeah! See how SHE would like it! Because “ Boys will be boys, right? “ I’m sure she won’t care if her precious baby boy is stealing ( and doing whatever it is he’s doing with them ) HER undies, right?
I hate when entilted bitches say " boys will be boys"
Unless she has granny panties
Story 3: PSA: if this ever happens to any of you. Take pictures, go to the police. Domestic violence is domestic violence. It's abuse. He would hit the kids too. Run
Story 3: “My husband slapped me hard enough to make my nose bleed.”
Me: “Nope. Get out.”
That was before the drunk driving and emotional abuse to the kid. Seriously, OP. Start forming an escape plan. Reach out to a DV shelter if you have to, if nothing else, to get help leaving.
Personally, I say expose that monster to his parents. Then get gone.
@@seabass819 - That could backfire horrendously, depending on the family. Her first priority needs to be getting herself and her child to safety.
@@lmj2k exactly
Those stupid DV shelters force you to house with "trans" women, who are men, I don't think she'll be safe there.
@@akumabazooka9169 i hope you realize that rslash is fully supportive of trans people and so is most of his community.. this is not the place for this type of negativity
Story 3: Honestly, this is an olympic jump deep into divorce territory (and maybe some jail too). His response to not being promoted is to take his anger out on other people through violence and harassment.
He is immature, and he needs a wake-up call, because if this is how he behaves at home, what would happen if he was promoted and was inconvenienced? Would he abuse the workers too?
My cousin is this way, and it only does get worse before it gets better, and even if it gets better. He has multiple assault and domestic violence charges because of this, so i know exactly how this situation is, it never ends well. she needs to run, and run FAST
Being hit by a significant other is 100% a deal breaker. No amount of abuse is acceptable. If your partner hit you once, they can and will hit you again.
@@skylaheartbeat2986 Yeap this 100%
I think not being promoted was the wakeup call, he doubled down instead.
The slap should be the wakeup call for OP 💔
She can't understand why he hit her THAT hard, like he normally doesn't hit her as hard? Horrifying.
I really HATE the excuse "bOyS wIlL bE bOys" I really do.
It's a disgusting, misogynistic excuse. The mother is gonna learn the hard way why her daughter doesn't stay in contact with their family.
Also the brother needs SERIOUS talking to.
It is lazy parenting.
I think a reasonable response to the "boys will be boys" excuse would be "but what do you want him to be?" Surely no parent wants their kid to be an immature, impuls-driven bum without the ability to consider the ramifications of their actions. That's why _parenting_ is a thing.
Ya it is severally miss used 99.9% of the time. It was meant as an explanation for rough housing and smashing toys together, not sexual harassment and perry shit.
Edit: I meant pervy, not perry
@@patriksvensson2360 bravo 👏👏👏👏
@@stunfire that's true
story 3: DIVORCE. he’s extremely abusive. leave him NOW.
Agreed! Girl, RUN!!! Give him the divorce/straining order papers, block him, don’t tell him where you’re going… just RUN!
@@tawnyacosta9091 I’m not sure if it was a typo instead of “restraining”, but “straining order” made me laugh. I think that man DOES deserve to be pushed through a strainer.
@@the_rachel_sam Oh, whoops! I just noticed lol Thanks 😅 Yeah, I meant restraining order.
@@tawnyacosta9091 thank you for not correcting your spelling mistake. 😂 really made me laugh
CALL THE COPS! Tell them he forced you to share your location OMG!
That last story isn’t just about lateness, it’s about the utter lack of respect OP’s wife showed to him. My mom would make my brother and me wait 20-40 minutes a day after school for her to “finish up” at work (which meant chatting idly with coworkers) and I still remember how unimportant I felt in my own mother’s life. Their poor son.
My husband's mom did that to him when he was growing up.
I also feel like there may be some undiagnosed Autism/ADHD. I have a lot of the same problems at times, even when I'm on my meds.
Not mentioning it as an excuse, but as a possible explanation. Rather than simply being lazy.
@@TheSh1nyZoroark Look, I get that, I struggle with it, too, but you're very right, it's not an excuse for the level she's reached. I don't even want to own her as one of us because she just doesn't want to be bothered. If she's so self-absorbed that she doesn't see the effect it has on him and even screams at him if he mentions it, and can manage to be early to something she wants to do, then I'm less inclined to cut her a break. If I make someone late through my inability to manage time, I feel bad about it. I certainly don't screech at them for asking me politely if I'll be getting ready soon. The fact that she was able to be early to her event may not indicate she's not on the spectrum (since a struggle with time management could result in overcompensating and being there way too early as she was) but it does show that when it actually matters to her, she'll make the effort, no matter what is causing her to struggle in the first place.
I can sympathize with the struggle, but if she's undiagnosed (and not just using this as a means of control) then she's just making the rest of us look bad by association. She's got to recognize there's a problem and she doesn't care enough to even try to understand that. Spectrum or not, that's just selfishness.
@@TheSh1nyZoroark just from what little we were told, i'd never call her lazy. it all sounds malicious to me.
As a child of a chronically late mother, I related to that story so bad. I was never early to any school events or friend hangouts, family reunion dinners or any after school classes. Being late to everything just puts me in a permanent state of shame and irritation. I hate the fact that now as an adult I'm starting to be late to things as well. When it's my own mother's events she wants to go to she gets mad at everyone for making her late but gets mad at us when we tell her to hurry up when we are running late to our own events
Not only is the mom in the first story ignoring gross sexual behavior, it's gross sexual behavior done by her BROTHER. How does the mother not even clear that bar?
like, my little brother got caught stealing our eldest sister's underwear and our mom shut it right down. and like, we had caught him storing his poop in the toy box a month beforehand and our mom was all "boys will be boys" and "its a phase, don't tease your brother" about that, so you know, she wasn't really that strict. thats how big a deal stealing underwear is
Actually, it's really common for young boys to develop crushes on older sisters. She's the female that the boy knows best - and has best access to - that isn't their mother, and they aren't aware of the incest taboo yet. When they get older and more knowledagable, that usually fades away. It does not imply a future incest kink.
That said, I would NEVER agree with the whole "boys will be boys" concept. When "boys will be boys," that's when a parent should respond by PARENTING. Maybe mom doesn't punish them fiercely the first time he does something in the "boys will be boys" trope, but mom should absolutely make him fess up and apologize. >.
It sounds like your mom was too stupid to realize that behavipur in children escalates. She thought her dismissing his previous behaviour wouldnt lead to what it dud. Tell her to read a book on child psychology dude
for the first story: unfortunately my parents are the exact same when I caught my younger brother and his friends going through my clothes
luckily they had only just opened the underwear drawer when I came in the room
my mother said "he's just a teenage boy" when I told her the first time, then when he kept doing it she tried to gaslight me by saying I never told her.
Joy.
Luckily I wear mostly boxers and masculine clothing, so there wasn't much for them to find/steal.
Gotta love family amirite
Your family is creepy..your mom is concerning as well! Who protects creepy behavior!
@@Milk-ck1wv mmmmmmhm
and he's still the favourite for "no reason" (we all know it's because I'm 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️)
@@poisoned_rock damn I hope you can get a refund for that family. Get you a new one
Then I guess it should be alright for him & friends to go through mum's underwear....
@@poisoned_rock tell her he can look through her underwear then
S3
"He told our son to get away from him."
Sounds like pretty solid advice for you _both,_ OP.
Feels like she's becoming used to the physical, emotional and mental abuse that this creature is inflicting upon the family. I think someone needs to remind her, if she doesn't care for her own safety, that traditionally it's only a matter of time before he starts laying hands on the child, too.
That last story...we've heard from this guy before!! I remember a aita story about a chronically late wife being left in a clothing store bc they were going to be late for a movie. Guess he finally got fed up!
i thought that too!!
Same
Also,@@Imjustkendall, I dig the name 😂
Glad to see Rslash is becoming even more happy and going back to his old ways, just wait for treelaw and stories about Kevin to return
He really should dip back into those. I could hear those all week, man.
@@BeeWhistler I've never heard a bad treelaw story I'm always eager for those
Story 2: it feels like OP’s daughter getting told to move a patient without proper equipment and subsequently injuring herself is grounds for a lawsuit alone
Getting fired due to sick leave from an employer caused accident is actually the prefect thing to turn her luck around. Imo make sure you document everything and take all the time off you need. If they fire her then it’s a huge lawsuit win.
What that level of negligence, she might even get to retire early! Screw crap bosses and companies that abuse their workers and fire them to keep them quiet. They deserve the lawsuit.
@@Playingwithproxies Oooh, what a silver lining! She may not want the early retirement mentioned above, but maybe she might have enough to move to a city with a better hospital.
@@Playingwithproxies document everything, and do not put anything on social media. Do not allow any friends or relatives to tag you in social media.
As well as getting hit by a driver running a red light. She’s suffering because of other people being selfish and stupid
First Story: Overreacting?! Wtf is up with OP's mom to excuse this as "boys will be boys"?! If he is "at that age" he should be watching porn, NOT stealing...his sister's underwear....
Comment: Perfect
Second Story: Damn, life is trying really hard to take away Vicky's life. She had breast cancer, a patient fell on her causing her wounds to open up, her employers try to get her to quit because they think she is lying about her sick leaves, and THEN she gets into a car accident. Life is doing Vicky insanely filthy right now
Third Story: OP needs to run, not walk from this marriage. Stress and frustration is no excuse to be abusive and OP's husband is exactly that to both his son and OP. Imagine slapping someone so hard their nose bleed.
Fourth Story: This relationship shouldn’t exist. Yeah, what OP said was horrible but I’m more on OP's side than OP's bf. OP lost her grandma and has put her grief aside to be there for her bf and all she got in return is insult after insult. What he said about OP's grandma dying pissed me off because while his son is in critical, he has a chance to live; OP is never going to see her grandma again outside of a tombstone
Comment: Facts
Fifth Story: Once ok, maybe two or three times ok but the fact OP's ex is consistently late for everything and loses her shit the moment OP brings up the fact they are going to be late, yeah I don’t blame OP for getting fed up with her
Should sick him on the mom's room if she doesn't think its an issue and if this continues move out, who knows if he'll escalate. For the second story I think if i was able to afford it and my child was so unlucky id make a vacation for the both of us so they could have a break because i don't think after 3 awful things like that is something you should have to push through. Or even have them work at a less toxic job would be enough.
He shouldn't even be watching prn! That's how addictions start
@@Milk-ck1wvpuberty is such a wonderful thing isn’t it. Its better than....what he is currently doing. Or he needs to learn about healthy ways to deal with urges
@@xKCAZxLEADER he needs to learn about healthy ways
Im shocked how the mother is basically enabling her little brother's incest(ly or ic) behaviour...
Treelaw. I need treelaw.
I second this
*YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSS*
We all need tree law
Tree law! I miss it!
We need new subreddits yes The videos are getting stagnant
Last story reminds me of my mother. As a kid, any time my mother was the one who had to bring me somewhere (like school), I knew we would be late.
I was late to class, late to school events, etc. My whole class expected me to be late for every school trip during elementary school... and they were right everytime. This felt really humiliating.
The worst part is that she was the one putting pressure on us to be ready for things in time. When I was a teenager, she was nagging about us still not having packed for a trip we were about to go to.
Yet, somehow, we were still ready in time, and she was the one we were waiting for.
The only time I remember her not being late was for a school event in elementary, and that's because I lied to her and pretended the event was 1 hour earlier.
Story 3 update for those that need it:
OP responded three days later that she is fine and she just doesn't have the energy to reply. No account activity after that on the burner account. This was three weeks ago.
I really hope she's safe
@@sarahserenityqueen117 me too. She needs to run, get a court order to keep him away from both her and her son. It sounds like the man is escalating and it’s only going to get worse. I sooooo hope she and her son are safe.
I hope she's busy planning her escape.
OP needs a restraining order against this guy. He isn't fit to even be a father. He even THREATENED OP when she says she's staying at moms! RUN OP, this guy is dangerous and would 100% do worse thing than give you that slap.
i feel that. my bf was just like that. i left (snuck out) last night. i slept maybe one hour last night and had one meal (hotel breakfast) and not much water in the last 24 hr. i'm so exhausted. i rly hope her and her son made it out ok. it's such a f'd and confusing situation to be in
Third story makes you realize how delusional you can get when you are abused. She was hit and thought that she should apologize. Man that is terifying you could be this much of an abusive asshole that you think someone trying to escape would be humiliating but abusing them is fine. Man.
Fourth story: op was harsh but man her hopefully ex was such a piece of shit it was worth it. Also true.
It's no delusion, it's self-preservation. You feel like if you can soothe and placate your abuser enough they'll either stop hurting you or they'll hurt you less.
ya, it's a lot like my bf. i left (snuck out) last night. :(
@@maris7457 i hope things go well for you, stay safe
@@CrookiNari so true, it's not like people are too delusional or stupid to realize what's going on, they've either been gaslit into believing all this is normal by their partner or people around them, or they think if they just placate them they'll be better, it's one of the fear responses in fact (fight, flight, freeze or fawn, people often leave the last one out but it's what this is)
i hate when people call abuse victims "delusional", or when people are like "why were you so nice if you didn't want that? why didn't you just leave/say no?" because it kind of puts the blame on the victim, as if it's their fault for not leaving and not the abuser's for hurting them
@@jasperjazzie thank you
If anyone remembers, that last OP actually posted the same story rslash read of his wife sitting in a clothing store and he went in to see the movie without her so he didn't miss it, now he posts again saying he's divorcing her, it all comes full circle
I _thought_ he sounded familiar!
@@luvondarox I do remember that story and I was thinking it was the same guy too.
Wait, is this the same guy?
He should have done that much earlier.
Yep it's the same dude 😎
First story: I would just dump all my mum's lingere into his room if her response was 'boys will be boys'
Second story: need to search for vodoo dolls and grudges. Also sue the hospital if they terminate because the first injury was their fault.
Third story: Anyone else catch that she said "how could he hit me that hard" and not "how could he hit me?"
Last story: unmedicated ADHD?
There's no proof of the order, so all her boss has to do is say they told her to use the lift, and since there's no evidence to the contrary, it's just hearsay and the court will throw out the case, or possibly even rule in the hospital's favour. Given her severe history of bad luck, she would probably get an extremely misogynistic judge who will intentionally rule against her as severely as possible.
Yeah I think we have the same idea.... This wasn't the first time he hit her... It is just the first time he hit her this hard 😒 She spoke about it like it is a regular thing
Don’t you dare try to blame her being a shitty person on ADHD.
I agree with CST667 they was a hour EARLY for what SHE whated to do but gave no flips for the what he or her son whated to do ADHD my tail end
My adhd is unmedicated currently. It's pretty bad, but I'd never be like this lady because of it.
Story #1 - Easy
1. OP installs lock on her bedroom door.
2. OP raids her mother's lingerie, takes EVERY PIECE and places it in younger brother's bedroom.
probably not every piece bc that'd be suspicious but genius idea
Story#4: OP is trying harder than I would. Her bf deserves nothing. He is a horrible person and is blaming because he doesn't care about anyone but himself. What a AH. She needs to pack and leave
Story 3: She needs to get out of there now. It's clear that he sees her more as a possession than a wife (or even as a person); something to use to stroke his ego. It's only gonna get worse for her and her son the more she lets this go on.
She needs to get out of there, if not for her own sake, then for her son's.
Ugh I feel so bad for all the OP’s in this video. Especially the girl that’s getting abused and the girl that life seems to hate. I hope all of them find happiness and better situations soon.
Story 1: I grew up with 3 brothers, all definite ages and not once did any of them steal my underwear. I don't know this is a normal thing that happened to some people but it is not okay, I don't know what's going on with your mom but she should be stopping this, if not for her daughter then that leaves for her son. This is not typical boy behavior, and at the first sign of sadistic pervert that doesn't have any respect for women. She should explain everything to her brother and then move out, because your mom at the biggest problem with all of this.
I would bet you that if it was her underwear missing, she wouldn't be so careless. Mom is likely to be a hypocrite, she would definitely flip out if she found out her boy was doing who knows what with her underwear and socks lol. Best solution, dump some of her underwear into the brother's room, and watch the aftermath. And even if the real culprit is found out, so what? What's the big deal yea? Just return the same energy and words exactly back to her. So what if you took some underwear and socks, what's the big deal? And if she flips out, expose her hypocrisy to her face...
my little brother got caught stealing underwear, but our mom shut that shit down hard. she had a talk with him and it never happened again. idk why he did it cause we don't talk about it and he was 8 at the time, but yeah, that shit is so not right.
This is not normal
My first reaction to the lingerie story was to, in classic big sister fashion, to ask the brother if he wants his own pair if he wants to wear my stuff. In front of his friends.
Classic big sis move. Inflicting lifelong emotional traumas.
Great but do we know if he has any friends?
@@FromDkWithLove classic little bro move: being pervy towards your big sister by stealing her underwear
@@pageclayton6850 Yeah, everyone's just playing their part. :D
story 2: god i feel so bad. props to the papa for sticking by his daughter every step of the way, and infinitely more props to vicky for always bouncing back. i truly hope the best for them both.
That Is so creepy
Like……that’s your damn sister! TF?!
Edit: oh hell no, no no no no. That wife has to get out, NOW. She has to take her son and RUN.
And this is why we see so many Amber alerts issued for kids being kidnapped for reasons like this. While i agree, she needs to absolutely RUN. Legally, if he is the father then there are certain proceedings that have to happen first unfortunately.
@@THEtechknight she should get to a shelter or to a friend and call the cops, “run” generally means “get out of dodge as quick as humanly possible and report that bastard to the cops”
You don’t have to live in the same space as someone to divorce them, it can be done from a distance especially if there’s proof of abuse.
Get a restraining order too.
How could he hit you that hard..? OP… how could he hit you at all? How long until he starts hitting your son?! Get out get out get out. Any way you can. This man needs serious help
Yeah first she should GTFO immediately. Then she should tell his father exactly why she left.
She should have left first. She made a huge mistake in telling him what she was going to do. Now he knows and it’ll be even harder to get away. 😞
Story 3. Girl you need to run. Go to the cops and get a restraining order. It will get worse. As a person who was kidnapped for 10 years by an ex and forced into marriage and force into having 5 kids. It always gets worse. He tortured me mentality and physically for 10 years before i could escape.
I see a lot of comments about story 1, but story 3 is what got me. The abuse and controlling. That whole thing screamed run, go to your moms and have police on speed dial. If he has hit her that far there is no telling how far he would go. I lost a SIL due to that kind of shit and she needs to get away.
sometimes I think I need to put myself back out there in the dating world.. Then I listen to a seemingly never ending supply of reddit stories about terrible partners, and that takes care of that thought
r/Tinder does the trick for me
Same tho. This shit has scared me too much to put myself out there…
Yea I think this too. Dated a girl for 3 years. It ended by her because she wasn’t ready for marriage like okay that was in the plans but down the line.
Now I own a condo. My son and I go out to the park like daily and have a blast. I would love a girlfriend and eventually a wife but the likely hood of that happening seems lower and lower with the way people act now.
@@maieen2665 I have not gone on r/tinder and I am curious but scared.
There are some good people left out there for sure .. but who has the energy to weed through the crappy ones. Maybe some day. For now I'm perfectly content not wondering what kind of shady bs my partner is gonna pull
2:15 I think there's 2 ways this could end up and how you should deal with it...
1. her brother is a perv that steals her undies for his pleasure, a strict wording is necessary...
he is NOT to go near your wardrobe, he is NOT to take anything from you without asking first and he needs to learn to respect you and your belongings... also ask him where this is coming from and see how much your mother is involved in this behaviour... I think she might be an enabler and worst she did something to him and this is just him lashing out
or 2. her brother is discovering something about himself and that he likes fantasizing being a girl...
you should still be strict towards him and tell him off from taking your stuff... but also ask him how he feels about other boys and if he feels more himself if he dresses like a girl... promise to keep it a secret until he feels courageous enough to share to others
either way, he is in the age of self discovery and he needs to learn not to steal other people's stuff and not to be deceitful
8:40 yupp... girl run, take your kids and run... never look back! get divorce papers and restraining order for that excuse of a man
12:36 let me get this straight... you married her for 12 years, had kids with her, raised them together... and all this while she has been late to a lot of events and planned meetings? have you ever sat her down and asked her what's going on? why it's difficult for her to be timely? 12 years is a lot of time to get to the bottom of her issue with time and to try and fix it so she'll become more punctual... but I guess after 12 years, you're too late to finding a solution... seeing that you're divorcing her
Don't encourage disgusting behavior by giving that pervert an "out"
@@WizBunny3- The boy is 15. That’s the age for course correction, not “throw the whole man out”.
@WizBunny if it's not corrected then it will spiral into worse stuff. It's not an out, hes gonna be told off and op is probably gonna leave anyways since I feel the mother is making things worse.
To be fair with the last story, he said every time he would mention being late she would get super angry, and I took it as meaning even if they weren't going anywhere bringing it up would make her angry
Find the boy a man to talk to. Imagine having no one but mom and sister for an adolescent boy to discuss his alone time with. Give him a firm lecture about boundariesand theft, but find him a guy geez
Heres how you handle this "Jake, if I find you stealing my underwear again, here is whats going to happen... your friends are going to learn about your proclivities. You understand?"
I saw someone else suggest asking him if he wants a pair of panties for Christmas since he likes to steal hers
In front of his friends
Story 3: Slap him back, with a crowbar.
Reminds me of the story of the woman with an abusive husband who one day finally had enough and smashed his head with a cast iron skillet only to leave his unconscious ass on the floor for two days and go about business as usual. When he finally woke up she just told him if he ever laid his hands on her again, he wouldn't be getting up next time. OP then said they were happily married for another 40+ years and never had another incident.
@@darkmask5933I remember that!
@darkmask5933 that lady is a straight up gangsta..
That is on fire. Several times.
@@darkmask5933 why would you stay?!?!
Story 1: take your brother to Victoria's Secret for his own panties and lingerie. LOL
You posted this as a joke, but I agree with it. Yes, help him get what he wants without stealing. There's nothing wrong with it!
@@undrhil Totally agreed. If he wants lacy panties and lingerie, get the boy lacy panties and lingerie. Personally, I prefer jock straps and leather, but to each his own and that's fine.
@@undrhil yeah, I knew some people a long time ago where the husband was wearing the wife's panties and lingerie, so she got fed up and told him to buy his own. LOL
@@evilmotorsports5076 I kinda remember that story
Yeah! My first thought is that he’s cross dressing or experimenting w gender
Story 5: She does not sound fun to have around. Always being late to stuff that isn't what she wanted to do, blaming everyone and everything else with excuses, and then getting upset when told to hurry up.
She is not mentally an adult, that's for sure.
Or maybe she just has time blindness from undiagnosed adhd?
@@notaseat5934 nah, she's not blind when it was something she wanted to do, so she's just an A-hole.
@@notaseat5934 The fact that she's never late to something that she wants to do to me sounds like even if there is some undiagnosed stuff she has no respect for the partnership she's in.
That is disrespectful as all hell. I’m on OP’s side.
@Khrishp a lot of times, people with ADHD may not be late to things they really want to do. It's not meant as a disrespect to others, it's hyperfocus. However, if she's undiagnosed, then she likely doesn't even realize it's happening. People who actively treat their adhd do become more aware of other people's wants and needs because they are actively treating their own symptoms. The situation really sucks because therapy and an adhd diagnosis/ treatment would fix a lot of the problems in this story. It wouldn't be perfect, but it would be a lot better
Story 1 WTH OP's mom don't use the phrase *BoYs WiLl Be BoYs* to justify the fact that your oldest son steals his older sister's underwear that child could get problems in the future because of that
the only time I saw that phrase being used somewhat good was in the cuphead show and that was obviously a joke
Boys will be boys for me sound more like "my son came back inside full of dirt' or " this boy [lightly] injured himself while doing something fun but stupid (something like going down the stairs in a laundry basket)"
They're not things only boys can do of course but I've always seen that sentence as a "My brother/friend/son/etc did a little silly goofy thing." and not as a serious thing.
"Boys will be boys" is for harmless shit lil kids do, not teens stealing underwear or other sexual harassments
He's not a boy anymore in that sense
i am not a doctor, but the always late,bursts of rage at the smallest hint, and literally starting doing random stuff gives me huge untreated adhd vibes
The story about op's abuser husband is she needs to take their kid and herself and leave and file for divorce and get a protective order and change her phone number and change her name and change her son name too
Ok with the 'BoYs WiLl Be BoYs ' comment that is NORMALLY about how stupid we act when we are either with a group of friends [ IE recreating stunts form wrestling or the old JackA$$ show ] or when we do stuff stupidly by our selfs [ IE jumping off the roof of a house into a pool and recording it ]
Story 2 : This is some final destination kinda stuff...
Story 3 : LEAVE ..before it turns into something worse..aka murder..
Story 4 : a human being can only take so much verbal abuse before snapping back at their abuser.. op leave this toxic BS "relationship " for your own mental wellbeing..
Story 5 : no op your not divorcing her for her just being late your divorcing her for her being a selfish petty disrespectful b word..
I think she should fall asleep in a closed garage with a running car before her terrible luck kills her in an actually painful way. I know someone with chronic bad luck, and it never gets better. Last I heard, she was sexually assaulted (by a human man) and bitten by a coyote in the same day.
@@agentzapdos4960yikes..that's just awful..
@@agentzapdos4960 get help bro
I don't blame the OP for snapping in the fourth story, a person can only take so much abuse before losing it. I would berate him the moment he called me fat and my grandma's death doesn't matter. Hell, I would even give him a backhand across the face for basically bullying me.
@dracko158 yup.. exactly why I disagreed with op calling herself the a hole in this situation.. someone had to slap him into reality..dude was a b word
Oh I remember last OP's cinema story where he just left her trying on jeans and went to see the movie. She's not always late, she always doesn't care.
Absolutely. If it was just chance she wouldn't *always* be late. Dude has lived with over a decade of pure disrespect!
Yeah, I thought I remembered an AITA story about that! He was asking if he was the ahole because she flipped on him. Glad he’s getting out!
I came to the comments to make sure I wasn't the only one who caught that! I'm surprised that rslash didn't mention it. Not a surprise though at the conclusion the husband came to. I hope that him and his son make it through
I was thinking the same thing. If it hasnt gotten better after all this time I dont blame him for being upset.
Glad Im not the only one who caught that he made a post before
I am betting she's really pretty so someone always put up with shit, including parents that spoiled her.
Oh my God the SO in the last story is JUST like my mother! Being late for everything without consideration for anyone! She'll even be an hour late for an appointment and then call and cancel the session. If she's told to hurry up by anyone in my family she gets super pissed! Me and my sister would constantly be in trouble at school because she wouldn't drop us off on time. It was so humiliating.
Everything resulted in me having anxiety attacks whenever I think I'm going to be late to something, no matter how big or small. I'll arrive places an hour to an hour and a half early just so I know I won't be late. I'm in therapy for other reasons, but the anxiety when being late is something we work on there. This last story just set me off when I heard it.
Please try to be on time for things. You don't know how much it may affect some people in your life. I hope OP's kid doesn't end up like me.
for the first story, i will say, my younger “brother” ended up stealing my moms things, (a dress, skirts, and a thong) turned out they were questioning their sexuality and she’s now transitioning. i think the best thing, is to ease into the conversation.
obviously, if it isn’t that and it does happen to be yucky feelings towards his sister, then the conversation doesn’t have to be light. but i suppose what i’m trying to say, is it isn’t always the worst case scenario...
yeah I was wondering if he might've been stealing the lingerie to wear for himself, not for some creepy incestuous reason. Even if the kid isn't trans, it's fairly normal to be curious about expression. Still shouldn't take his sister's stuff though
That was my first thought too. I hope it's that and not the other thing.
@@Giganotus i agree completely!
I really think he's just using it as a fantasy prop, but not of his sister.
Story 4: The boyfriend needs to grow the fk up. Namecalling, belittling on superficial, uncontrollable things and being a douchebag because his little boy got himself hurt by his own idiocy?
OP needs to pull the ripchord on that relationship because if this is how he is as a boyfriend, imagine how bad it'd get if they married.
Edit: spellings
Yeah, BF is an ungrateful self centered jackass. Who needs that in their life!?
Who's idiocy? I didn't see anywhere in the story that suggested the father was fine with drinking and driving. I think both OP and the BF are extremely immature and are not fit for each other.
@@dr3wbisNot that he’s fine with it, but OP meant that he didn’t teach his son that it wasn’t okay
@@Nobleheir did the BF tell you that?
Girl really needs to just go home, cause it sounds like Colorado hasn't been kind to her :/
Story one: I'm aware my experiences aren't universal and it could be the worst case scenario. But my younger sibling did the same exact thing around that age to both my mother and my underwear. They would use it to dress up dolls and had a "nest" in their bed (they're Autistic and the silky material brought them comfort) but it turns out that they're Trans and were sometimes putting them on because they're a woman and they only had boys clothes. I only tell this story because I felt the same way as OP, but once I learned the truth I had a better understanding of my sibling and was able to have a talk with them about it to which they felt safe enough to come out to me. Things are not always as they seem, and I honestly hope it's something similar to my experience and not….the other option.
This is the first thing that came to mind. if OP is similar in size to the brother it would make more sense.
As a cross dresser my first thought when hearing about him stealing her clothes is that he is just simply wanting to dress up. My second thought is, "wait, no. this is going to be a really creepy story".
usually its a pervball kid... not saying your situation can't happen I'm just saying those are the odds.
No he's likely looking for props.
That was my thought as well! I think I might’ve questioned the kid’s motivation before assuming he was being creepy. If he IS trying them on, it’s absolutely believable that he’d lie about it out of embarrassment, but if he’s not, like, *sniffing* them or mast**bating on them or anything, it might just be a case of, “Okay, little bro, you really need to ask before you go rummaging through my stuff.” Regardless of the kid’s motivation, though, the mother’s response was the absolute worst.
I hope that's the case 😬
Otherwise.....
🎶 Sweet Home Alabama 🎶
That's why I like the suggestion that reddit gave. Lay it out, have the talk. If it really is something along the lines of gender non conformation then perhaps it can be dealt with and big sis can find other ways to support her sibling that doesn't involve underwear theft.
"Boys will be boys"
At no point growing up did I steal my sister's underwear. And if one of my friends had told me they did that I would have called him a fucking weirdo.
Edit: She should instruct the brother to only steal their mom's underwear if she's so okay with it.
The “always late” story really annoyed me to no end. People who are always chronically late drive me nuts.
It's so incredibly disrespectful to be habitually late AND expect the world to wait for you! wtaf? I have a fried who is often late. He knows we ain't gonna hold things up for him. If he's 15 minutes late to dinner we start without him. If he's late to a movie we go in and catch him after if he's too late to find us in the theater. We make his lateness a him problem.
@@fdm2155 I agree with that. I had a friend in high school who was always habitually late and would throw a absolute fit if myself and my other friends didn’t waste our time waiting for them and they knew we were waiting for them and would use that to there advantage to annoy us.
Agreed, being late is one thing, but it's the complete lack of respect for others that's the bigger issue here
@@WolfgangDoW exactly
Last story: Wait, is this the same OP who made the AITA post about going to see a movie with his wife and the wife was blowing him off to try on jeans even though they were already late, so he went to the movie and she just sat on the bench outside pouting because by the time she realized he was gone the movie was already started?
I had the exact same thought and went straight to the comments looking for this
Very coincidental if it isn't.
YES!!! Someone else remembers it!!! I do think it’s the same guy from that AITA post years ago. Rslash did cover it
That last story I empathize with heavily. Probably common for a lot of other guys to do too I'm estimating. My first gf took HOURS to get ready for EVERYTHING. She spent at least an hour everytime she had to use the bathroom. She once was so late to get going to my own fucking birthday dinner with my family and friends and I was the one who got yelled at for it because I was driving 😒
Story 1: that kind of behaviour is not something to ignore. My brother did the same to me, and my parents told me to ignore it - I was moving out soon anyway, so it would stop then and there was no need to make a fuss.
It didn't stop. He moved on to our younger sisters (I'm the oldest of 5 sisters and 3 brothers; he's the 2nd oldest brother, 3rd oldest overall). At first it was stealing their underwear, but it progressed to sexually harassing them via text or sometimes even in person. The oldest of them was just 12 at the time, and it continued for years. My parents kept giving bullshit excuses - "boys will be boys", "it's just underwear", "it's just text messages, it's not like he's actually doing anything to you", "he's just drunk, ignore him", "it's just a crush and you're not really related anyway" (to our stepsister - never mind that she has been raised as our sister since she was 4 and that it's predatory for a guy several years older to pursue a preteen/early teens girl regardless).
Even after the police and social services were finally involved and told my parents he must not be in the house at any time, they let him come back and live there despite my sisters' protests and him being a legal adult by then. He was eventually arrested in a police sting operation for trying to solicit contact with what he thought was a 15 year old girl.
This kind of thing doesn't stop on its own, and it's far from harmless.
I mean, the best case scenario for the first story is that the brother is experimenting with cross dressing and trying to find himself.
Even if that's the case, it's still not okay to take people's stuff without asking.
Agreed. Another good reason why the sister should have a chat with him. Figure out why he is doing this. If it's because he wants to experiment with clothes, help him buy some of his own. If it's because he finds lingerie arousing, then, well, still probably help him buy some of his own. And in both cases also teach him to do his own laundry.
Even if that is so it's weird and gross to steal your sisters UNDERWEAR. If he was trying to find himself steal a skirt or something not UNDERWEAR
that's a good point but he should still at least ask, and even then not underwear that's so gross 😭
holy heck that third story. That woman need not walk not run but to take the care and drive away with her son as far as possible, that dude is major toxic. holy heck. hope she gets to a safer place quick.
To the OP who get slapped by her husband:
GET OUT! Get your kid, leave the house, don't look back, call the police. This is abuse and you did nothing to deserve it.
R/ is just out here jinxing that poor girl in Story 2.
That’s just tempting fate, man.
I wouldn’t be surprised if she was late for her own labor when she was giving birth😂😂
Nah, she won't because she wants to do it. I will be more surprised if she didn't go to labor early
You know that mom in the first story is gonna drop the “boys will be boys” bs and freak out once Jake moves onto her 🤣
the sister be like "oh mom, the problem with brother is worked out! turns it wasn't MY underthings he was taking, it was YOURS. god i'm so relieved! i got mad for nothing! thanks for helping me"
S1
Brother is being really creepy, but Mom's reaction is just ... Holy *what* Batman?
"it's fiiiiiiiine he's ur brother, just help explore his sexual feelings and buy him some good porn! :)" G R O S S
3rd story: OP needs to run. NOW. And take the kid. That guy is a menace
Last story: OP ain't divorcing because she is late, he is divorcing her because he got enough of her disrespect. Good on OP for dumping her.❤
let's be honest, in that first story we all knew why he had those items of clothing in his room.
3rd Story: OP needs to get out of there YESTERDAY. The longer she stays, the more likely she will start to make excuses for this man and that CAN NOT HAPPEN. Abusers like him physically threaten their victims into complacency to make sure they never leave. It starts with anger, then damage to objects, then people. If she doesn't bail now, then he will break her down until her brain tries to find an excuse to justify why she's still there!
i can attest to this. there's love bombing, then verbal abuse and manipulation, then violence/physical, then they back off and say they'll change blah blah, then just aggression/yelling, knowing that you are remembering the past violence and are afraid of them. just threatening to get physical to put someone in their place. i just escaped this last night
Slapped: I suggest malicious compliance. Husband said get the son away from him? A divorce, no custody and a restraining order would get the son far, far away from him. And be sure to let FIL know what is going on! You want all the resources on your side you can get.
Something my dad told me - being a cop for 15+ years. Once the arguing turns into violence there’s no going back. Once they get that first slap punch what have you in and you shut up. That’s what seals it. They’ll keep it up and only escalate it.
Once they slap it’s time to vacate. get out. It’s only going to get worse.
And if s*x is literally described as he forces onto you that’s assault. Even married couples can still do r.
What’s with people either showing toxic masculinity or femininity, why can’t people just be normal!
Story 5: those type of people are always not worth it, they deliberately be late and get mad when anyone calls them out on it. I’d say just tell everyone the truth and divorce her.
Second story hit me hard because my mom broke her back in a similar situation as Vicky, which ruined my mom's life
After snapping myself yesterday, I am so proud when i see other victims finally snap at their abusers. How much are we expected to take before we snap and how are we always the bad guys when we finally give back what we constantly receive? I'm sick being expected to take it and made to be a villain when I can't or when my best is never enough. I'm at a point where I have started matching how people treat me, thats why nobody can call me an asshole, because if i am, what's that make them?
For the first story, i wonder if the younger brother is secretly wearing her lingerie. Like he's at a point in his life where he may be questioning things and is too scared to share yet
That is exactly what I thought, theres a good chance everyone sucks here
The last story sounds familiar. I remember reading a Reddit post where 0P was venting that his wife was always late. He left his wife in a clothing store because he didn’t want to miss the start of the movie and his wife was really upset. I think this is the same guy.
That lady whose husband slapped her needs to make an exit plan stat. She should never have told her husband she was leaving, she ABSOLUTELY should have just disappeared. He in no way merited the respectful approach she took. And there's no way this all started with the promotion he didn't get.
She's in the habit of placating him. His response was not heartbreak but offense, not seeing his own mistakes but taking her actions as a personal attack, not trying to apologize but demanding more control over her. He is a man who has had his head up his butt his whole life, convinced he always is right and deserves good things, and is now blaming the world around him for not providing those things. There is no awareness that his actions could be to blame. He slapped his own wife and instead of being shocked at himself for hurting her, he followed up by threatening her because he believes he has the right to do it. Dude's a narcissist and his wife is too used to it to recognize it. I was all but screaming at the screen for her to leave WELL before she got to the slap.
I think it's very possible that the wife in the last story has undiagnosed ADHD, and is showing symptoms of executive dysfunction and time-blindness.
Anytime I hear a story where one person consistently struggles to be on time, for anything and everything, I pay close attention for other signs of ADHD (I've been diagnosed with combined-type ADHD and have done personal research on the ways it manifests.) It IS possible for a person with ADHD to temporarily work thru/around their symptoms and be early/on-time for something if they have really strong positive emotions associated with it, because those really strong positive emotions allow the person to circumnavigate all the emotional roadblocks in their brain that normally stop them from functioning well. So it's entirely possible for the wife to have ADHD, which is a form of disability, and on rare occasions be able to "overcome" her disability for something that's really important to her.
It's also really important to acknowledge the incident where the wife started vacuuming when she was supposed to be leaving to go somewhere with her husband and son. This sounds like an example of not being able to transition between activities, which is one fo the ways executive dysfunction manifests in people with ADHD.
The wife may indeed have a nasty personality and be a butthole. But it's also highly likely that she has ADHD. In which case she'd be a disabled butthole who needs specialized support and intervention. I think R/slash messed up by giving the wife in the last story a simple "YTA" judgement, either because he's ignorant to how ADHD works or because he just wasn't paying attention/thinking critically.
Okay. Duck 🦆 “boys will be boys” buuuuut … I’m a 36 year old lesbian, grew up with very respectable guy friends and they used bras to learn to open them and stuff, when we were 14-15. It doesn’t have to be anything about the sister.
But stop using the sister’s bra tho, yuk.
kid *could* also just be trans and afraid to talk about it
the definitely bad guy in this story is the mother. if any of these speculations is true, kid is a perv, kid wants to practice opening bras or kid is trans, her "boys will be boys" is just the sign of an absent and uncaring parent.
Edit to clarify: Since this seems to be a single-parent household, if the father abandoned them, he gets an even higher bad-guy score than the mother, ofc.
@@insu_na Yeah, that’s also a possibility.
Nah, he's definitely using his sister's underwear as masturbatory aids and possibly to facilitate cleanup after.
Out of the 4 things mentioned why the daughter in the 2nd story is unlucky only 4 are actual "bad luck" or rather random chance. Her going back to work knowing she still need healing AND her lifting a patient incorrectly is her own fault, its drilled in your head in nursing school to do anything but that.
Story 1:
It's either
A) Puberty feelings in general. Give him the mum's underwear if she doesn't see anything wrong with him stealing underwear to pleasure himself over
B) Puberty feelings towards his sister specifically. In which case EWWWWWW NOOO
C) He's exploring his gender identity/expression. Buy him his own nice underwear instead
B is worst case scenario
And the mum is still so wrong saying "boys will be boys", he's not a "boy" in that sense anymore but a teenager and needs to learn boundaries, respect, consent. Attitudes like that breed predators. The mum then suggesting the SISTER buy him naughty magazines is beyond bad parenting, and now enabling him sexually harassing/abusing his sister. (Sexual harassment/abuse doesn't require any touching btw)
The mum is taking zero responsibility here and that's truly disgusting tbh
Story 1 nta that is all kinds of creepy.
Eww. That kid is probably going to end up in a cell
Last story: there are conditions that make it really difficult to be on time. (adhd i my case)
But, that's no excuse, just an additional challenge. You don't just have to get ready, have everything you need, you have to do all that while keeping in mind that you can't sense time so you need an additional tool and additional strategies others can do without. Compare those strategies to glasses, some people just need additional tools to see clearly.
In my case it's
my phone going off every 10 min, starting 30-50 min before I need to leave the house (depending on how much things I need to get ready),
strategies to get things done faster if I slip up and lose a 10 min span, and
trying to arrive everywhere at least an hour early. (usually translates to 5-15 min early)
3rd story: I am a survivor of domestic violence. This story is how it started with myself, except I was pregnant with our firstborn when he punched me.
It got so much worse...I was treated like a non person.
It has taken me over 25 years to heal.
This woman needs to go now.
The "late" partner: This is a control issue. Leave her.
FINALLY! Ive watched every single Rslash Video! Ive caught up!😭
To be absolutely clear on the slap story;
At this point if op chooses to do nothing and put her _child_ in this psychopaths way she is equally to blame for doing nothing. It's bad enough he hurt op but he is also hurting their child, complicity is NOT an option, call the police, file a restraining order, keep EVERYTHING and RECORD everything and run as far and as fast as you can even if it means walking out of that house with the child in your arms never EVER to look back because I've seen enough of these kinds of stories to know how they end
_Under the ground_
With a third story: that OP needs to get her and her son out, get a restraining order and then take out half of what is in there shared finances and start divorce proceedings. There is no coming back from striking your partner. There is no coming back for being verbally abusive to your partner. That man is a man child and does not deserve the op’s kindness.
Day 2 of asking rSlash to read the Better Hoagie Down story.
Sincerely though - that last story, the wife has undiagnosed adhd. This story hit me hard, as i used to struggle with this too and would get so frustrated with myself wondering why i couldnt just get my shit together and be on time for anything. Once i realized what it was, i was so relieved and everything made sense, and now im rarely late :) regardless though, she is being very disrespectful to the husband for making him late as well, idk how she doesnt feel bad about it enough to make any effort to change. Would love an update to this story!
I immediately thought of ADHD as well. Probably ADHD and narcissism though. Unintentionally losing all concept of time is one thing. But having no remorse for it is really off.
@@Cyannas some people are just assholes and don't take any responsibility
I think I have some ADHD too, I've been chronically late my whole life. So many detentions in school for being late in my teens for example. I had my nurse who administers my testosterone tell me if I was late to the appointment one more time she'd not see me at all
I did find a trick though and have started being early even for appointments. Don't write down the actual appointment time, write down when you should leave or even get ready as the real appointment time. I have poor memory too so I forget how much I changed the time by too lol. I end up getting ready to leave at that last minute but forget the difference so that rush energy for last minute still works and I end up getting there early even. Sometimes the time gets moved earlier multiple times too, say 30 min then another 15min earlier
I realised that I can't physically make my body get ready until the last minute, so I plan around that, and don't beat myself up for not acting earlier too. I know either way it's not gonna happen until last minute so I work with that, not against. And lil tricks like above really help too
@@WolfgangDoW omg i do this too! It is so nice when you arrive all apologetic about being late and they are like oh no you're early haha. Excellent trick!
My Mexican brain immediately screamed “pásenle un huevo” to the girl in the second story (that means you should go get her cleansed, as in getting rid of the bad energy surrounding her) because omg she’s truly unlucky man, hopefully she’ll be better from now on and won’t get injured anymore
To the first story, I had a very similar situation. I was in my late teens/ early 20s and my brother around the same age would steal my underwear and bras. My parent wouldn't do anything about it and even tho I talked to him, he didn't stop. He also had other behavioral health issues and it didn't feel safe to live there especially with my son (I was a single teen mom hence why I hadn't moved out sooner). I'm finally out with my son now thanks to my boyfriend, but it makes me feel a little better that I'm not alone in that situation.
First story, I would almost want to ask the brother if he’s trans because it would make me feel better about him stealing my underwear. 😬
Even so, he should get his own underwear not steal his sister's
@@WolfgangDoW true but it would make the story significantly less bad. I’d rather have a younger sibling who’s a transgender thief then a younger sibling who’s a thief and a creep
These are some depressing stories. I really hope the third story was fake. :/
The last story is an oldie but goldie. The way it starts hits home. The older generations seem to think anything outside of a few reasons, like an affair, illegal activity (incl. domestic violence), gambling addiction, is not a good enough reason to get divorced. Constantly disrespected? Not enough. Partner is annoying as hell? Not enough.
I’ve had to deal with people who are chronically late - OP’s sanity will thank him for the divorce. It’s disrespectful and frustrating. Just wait until she needs to be on time for anything involving the courts.
God monster men in this episode. I really hope that woman leaves her abusive husband as soon as possible because it’s just gonna get worse. It’s gonna get worse and worse and he might 💀 her. She needs to get out now.
And the lady who’s grieving her grandma just dump the horrible man just get rid of these men. Oh my God we don’t need them they are useless I wish they could be like put into Soylent Green to be recycled. What a waste of water they are.
The younger brother maybe curious about his own sexuality, I think the best thing to do is have a talk with him about it. He seems to be embarrassed about it, try being gentle about it.
Not by stealing his sisters underwear!! That shit ain’t normal who tf does this
@@immasnakeee6460 In most instances it isn't really about WHO owns the clothing they stole. A sibling's clothing is usually the closest by... (and he might've done the same thing with his moms clothing if he didn't have an older sister around).
The proper thing to do here is explain that you shouldn't steal someone else's belongings & ask if there's anything else he wants to talk about.
The “no luck” story is unfortunate she really has terrible luck she really needs a lot of four leafed clovers
That last story... Has OP's wife been checked for ADHD? My fiancée knows she has ADHD and I've had to come up with ways to assist in making her remove distractions from her focus and do what she needs to do and basically be her reminder/alarm for scheduling. The focus on the phone/computer is something my fiancée does quite often, along with the snappiness if you push her to get going or "nag" her about things. The point of "If it is something *she* wants to do, she'll be early but, anything else, she's late or needs to be kicked in the ass to get going" is EXACTLY what my fiancée does. I have to continuously remind her that "We should be LEAVING at X time for Y thing" and repeat it a couple times beforehand and it seems to help. I'd heavily recommend her getting checked for ADHD as women tend to get diagnosed later in life. Sounds like classic Inattentive ADHD (as opposed to hyperactive ADHD).
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