Real man, real dad | Craig Wilkinson | TEDxCapeTown
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- čas přidán 4. 09. 2014
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Craig believes that masculinity is a profoundly beautiful gift to humanity, and that it is wounded masculinity that is so often deeply destructive.
He shows us that if we can heal men, we can heal the world.
Craig Wilkinson lives in Cape Town, South Africa with his wife Martinique and his two children Luke and Blythe. For the last 10 years Craig has worked in the Non Profit sector in the areas of experiential education, socio-economic development and the development of men and fathers. Prior to this he made his living as a consultant to the corporate sector in strategy and human resource development. An avid hiker, mountain biker and fitness buff Craig has a passion for the restoration of men to true masculinity and authentic fatherhood. He is the founder of Father A Nation (FAN), an NPO which restores and equips men to be great fathers. He believes that if we can heal men we can heal the world.
Masculinity is a profoundly beautiful gift to humanity. Wounded and distorted masculinity however is a dreadful curse to humanity. Society has rightly responded very negatively to the harm done by wounded men with a misconstrued concept of masculinity. Sadly though much of the response has done more to perpetuate the problem than solve it. We have tried to tame men, re-invent men, feminize men, and vilify men. What we really need though is not to reinvent masculinity but to rediscover it. And enough men living with true masculinity will transform our world into the safe, beautiful and exciting place it was always meant to be.
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Amazing message. Thank you. Billions of viewers need to hear this not thousands.
This is probably the best talk I have listened to that describes what a true man is and isn't. Wow! Lots of good points!
As men have a responsibility to themselves to embrace their masculinity, and what it means to be a man, we also live in a society that consistently seeks to push men to the sidelines, and that views masculinity as something primitive, unnecessary, and actually harmful.
All of society benefits when men are at their best.
Well said 😊
This guy is fantastic
What an inspiring and insightful talk.!
I never want to bring up my children on my own but my husband doesn't step up to the plate. I am a married single mom and he acts like an uncle in the house. He thinks he has done more than enough for bringing home the bacon and doing laundry.
He has never taught our 3 sons sports, riding a bike, swimming, outdoor skills. When he has time, he goes shopping for his hobby items or watch TV in his bedroom. I have to sign my boys up for scouting and take them to church so they can learn from other dads. My husband doesn't upkeep the property in and out. In fact, my nice "military" neighbor volunteered, cut our trees and trimmed our bushes (actually he & I trimmed the bushes together) because our curb appeal might affect their sale of the house. He is the kind of guy who steps up and does whatever needs to be done! When I told my husband that, he said I must complain to the neighbor about it.
A dad from scouting told me that I have a "phantom husband" because he had never seen my husband in 3 years of Boy Scouts. He joked that I imagine I have a husband as I am the only parent who takes our son to meeting and camping as well as volunteering. At home, I am tired of broken things not getting fixed. The shower faucet and refrigerator have been leaking for over a year. He said it's cheaper to pay for the dripping water than hire a plumber. Window, I have to put sticks to keep them open because the springs are broken. He doesn't change the door sweeper so the front door has a gap underneath and bugs/snake crawled in. He hides all the finance from me so I don't know what to do!?!?!
Thank you brother!!! Just what I needed. I have a 4 year old daughter who calls me her hero. I didn’t know what to make of that…. Now , thanks to your talk, I understand. Thank you.
A great & much needed message.☺
God bless you in your endeavor.
True that
I remember telling my dad I wanted to be a fireman like he was, he replied with a 30 minute tirade (the car journey home) at how I will never be able to be a fireman I would never be as strong, fit or as good as him. I never did become a fireman but I am a landlord my own boss ...meanwhile he lives at the age of 60 on his own in a bedsit in a terrible town. Funny how things turn out eh
That is a true shame, sounds like you lived life well regardless!
I mean, that happens with age. You will be in a similar situation when you are older. Also it doesn't sound like he was wrong was he?
@Lochlann the Norse-Gael Going to the army is as easy as going to a recruiters office, so your dad was insane obviously. Anyone with good health can join. Your parents could have easily given you guys up to the state at any time and instead took care of you and cared enough about you to get angry and yell at you. I myself was raised by the state because my parents gave me up and they didn't care enough to even ever visit me. I was moved from place to place till I turned 18 because my parents simply did not care. I would have traded places with you guys in a heartbeat. It's all about perspective.
so sad how true and relevant this topic is :( why ppl why is the world like that
Very good question! I am not smart enough to give you right answer, but only trying.
There can be a mix of several reasons, mainly: the struggle for existence; a lack of true education; excessive faith in authority and lack of curiosity.
A real man is one that pays his child support. A real mother is a mother that has it court ordered. I'm so glad they are finally hunting down all those dead beat fathers and putting them in jail.
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This man is a great speaker. My dad was there is my life until around age 13 when my mom divorced him. He was the most significant person in my life. I remember him A LOT. He taught me how to do life. He LOVED me.
Mostly excellent. However, you attribute fatherlessness to men not stepping up to their responsibilities, but in many cases fatherlessness is caused by the mother wanting to bring the child up on her own. Too often she either fails to involve the father from the start or makes accusations which ends the relationship.
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