How to Respond, Not React
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- čas přidán 12. 07. 2024
- Have you ever reacted in the moment only to regret it later? Our reactions to the unexpected can bring further chaos, but when we slow down and take the time to respond we make room for a constructive way forward. In this episode I dive further into the difference between reacting and responding and how whichever one you choose will set a distinct tone in the room. I hope you will join me for the conversation!
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I love your differentiation: reaction is the thermometer that reads the room, response is thermostat that sets the room. Sets the temperature.
My father taught us that
"Fewer words are more powerful than many words spoken" Thank you for sharing words of wisdom from the Father above 🙏🏿🙌🏾❤
❤ that!
Crystal this video is so good!
It is taking my breath away, I grew up in a home that was reactionary.
I was a teenager who was reactionary, a young mother and wife who was reactionary, and it has taken me to get in my latter 50s to finally make a turn.
My latter will be greater and it is never too late to change for the better.
I thank God for you your ministry and your messages!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
AMEN LINDA🙏🏽 I LITTLE OLDER THEN U !! AND I AM OVER COMING PRAY FOR ME REALLY AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU LINDA 5/3/2022
I too am in my early 50's .... and the words you spoke were a mirror of my life. My mother was a single parent who did her best to care for her children. I know she wasn't aware, and that is ok. it has taken me until now to feel and know that I can actually change my behavior, I have Crystal to thank for that. This message for me was so powerful.
@@Blue77Blue Lord God I pray right now for us both to slow down and change for the better, Hallelujah & Amen!!
AMEN.. I'm on the same road as You. All my life I've Reacted Negatively and Made things Worse.
Now that I'm in my 50's, it's time to Respond in a Way that's Pleasing to GOD...
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Precious Souls..many say they are in their 50's..there are many whi have this immaturity..look at the World ..it does not have favorites...I am in my 70's and still struggle with this..interiorly ..inside when things happen
God is so good..That Jesus brought this truth before us..at the right time
For Me and you...all Praises and all Glory to God..Thank you Lord Father God through Jesus Christ Our Lord Amen
I feel like I react daily and regret it every single time. So, this video was tremendously helpful to me. I am learning how to take my time to respond to things and give ample time to collect my thoughts before speaking. Thank you so very much for this life-giving/life-changing video.
This was a much needed word for me, as I tend to react and be emotionally lead instead of responding after I've given myself time to think first. Thanks Chrystal, I'm a work in progress.
Amen 🙏🏾 The same here. Lord, please work on me.
Glory to God you are so not alone!!! I have been asking God to help me in this very area for a while now all the while God is so very faithful & He has been helping me even when & eventhough I didnt feel it or realize it! But God is so faithful & absolutely good & ever so very very patient with us! & even more the Grace of God takes even our mistakes to be used for our good! So remember that even when it may not seem like for or feel like it God is working in & through us & our circumstances for our good & God is faithful when we seek Him we will find Him & He will lead us Glory to God! TRUST God! Only BELIEVE!!! God bless you all in Jesus Name!!! I love you all & Jesus loves you even more!!!
Same though the cause low blows by toxic passive aggressive behaviour of others unexpectedly that leads to reaction.
Hello Crystal i am from trinidad West indies i dolove your familyi lisen to your dad your sister i do love Priscilla and it is the first time I have heard you i am 75 years of age God bless you as you continue to serve Him
Oooooooooo babyyyyy this was GOODT
This message was for me. I will admit I'm guilty of "retreating" in the form of ghosting because of my own issues and fear of being hurt. In return I hurt someone I care about. Thank God I was able to amend the situation. I was able to leave the situation and uplift someone I respect and have love for. Thank you Lord!🙏🏿
This was excellent! I’ve always had a hard time expressing myself because it’s not something I learned to do throughout my youth. It caused me to sit back and not offer my views, opinions and set boundaries. But then I’d explode when I did try to express myself.
I’ve made a commitment to be more expressive and to do it in a way that is not destructive. I do have a very hard time not giving the same energy I get back though. I went through something recently where I was not gentle with my tone because I felt I was being spoken to unkindly. As you said, I want to own and know who I am. I want to be able to stay in MY element despite the circumstances.
This truly blessed me and let’s know it’s what God wants me to work on. He’s pressing me with these difficult situations so I can overcome them and speak life and encouragement even when I’m not receiving that.
Anyone reading this I pray for your journey and please pray for mine. ❤️
My 1st time listening to you, yes, I’m a reactor and responding right is usually too late. I will take heed and thank you, God Bless your ministry in Christ. We all now know Wisdom is the principal thing, get wisdom that I’ve done today. Thank you so, so much. God knows I need this structure teaching.
Wwwaasazwwa
This is so good! I’m in a very emotional season. The past few weeks have been full of me reacting when I should have been responding. I’m going to rewatch with a few times so that I can carry this message with me moving forward. Thank you for teaching!
Good idea rewatching
AMEN.
You’re not alone. I will be rewatching for myself as well! ❤️🩹🤍
Amen, excellent teaching.
I LOVED the part about responding vs reacting even with good things. Last week my boss sent me an email and it said “thoughts?” With an email chain attached. I immediately reacted - going into overdrive the whole night to find the right answer. The next day, when speaking with an expert on the topic, I realize I missed a critical piece of info & it changed what was needed. If I’d responded with a QUESTION instead of reacting, I could’ve saved myself a night of restlessness.
This was GOOD!!!!
Definitely will listen to this again and again. I need Gods help in this area especially when confronting a situation more than once.
This was a timely message for today. Yesterday I received a text message out of the blue from a friend that I hadn't heard from in months. I love her dearly however conversations always center around getting married and weight. True to form -Keeping she opens with, “ hey girl, you married yet?” I reacted and said hello, I am complete❤️❤️❤️. How have you been?”
To which she replied, “what does that mean?” I have YET to respond. What I wanted to text was: WHY DOES EVERY CONVERSATION BEGIN WITH AN INQUIRY OF MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS??? (btw, she is twice divorced, and single). I don't feel that would have left her whole😔. So grateful that I did not take it further. I appreciate this discussion.🙌🏾
Baby girl don't worry about that question. I'm not marry I don't have children but I have God. Some people think that because I am not married I'm not happy. To be honest I love living alone you don't know the peace it brings. I'm praying to God to please remove those people who are not good and that cause affliction out of my life. Marriage is not for everyone, I had a dream a couple of months ago that God told me I want you to separate for me. I understood what he meant. God bless and get saved 🙏
Affirming word.. this was affirmation for me dealing with the loss of my mother and my response to a troubled situation with my sibling.. Lord thank you.
God bless you! If I didn’t know better I’d think I wrote your comment. My mom recently passed and I’m dealing with siblings and currently in the midst of a situation. Crystal’s message confirmed my stance and thru the scriptures she shared I realized God gave me confirmation that I responded to the situation. I didn’t react.
You have no idea how much this video has helped me. I had a "situation" today where I was very insulted, offended, hurt and angered. My immediate response was to cut some people off, which is what I usually do. I just cut people off and don't look at it from their perspective. But I know God wanted me to hear this because I need to be more mature and less emotional. Thank you so very much. 🙏🏽
Such a great lesson. We let people get the best of us emotionally and react. So good thank you.
This is so good. I needed this currently in the season that I am in. I've asked God to help me in a few areas in my life and I can physically and spiritually recognize when the devil is trying to knock me off my game in those specific areas. I'm learning to respond and not react at work and at home. I try to train my mind to remember that we do not wrestle with flesh and blood but with principalities. So like Ms. Crystal said, a lot of times what you want to react to, has nothing to do with you. And when I take a breath and not react but respond in the correct way, it makes me feel like I have won against the enemy.
Thanks for this ms crystal. I needed this right now.
I had this on my "watch later" list because I KNEW I wanted to watch this with no interruptions. This is soooo good. I'm saving this to listen again. Thank you for your ministry Chrystal ♥️
Remain Blessed😇
Correspond to me on what'sap 📧.
I got something new'.
Thank you for this video on reaction vs response. I really needed this today. That’s been my prayer for myself for sometime. My heart can feel so heavy for the people I love & things of this world, that I can speak before I think or pray.
This was much needed, I had a response to my mom that I regretted. The response and tone was not respectable and honoring. What made it worse was my 12 year old daughter was there. Please pray that my mother and I relationship will be mended, and that I can use wisdom when talking to my daughter abou the incident.
Thank you.
Great reminder! I am wired to act out of emotion. Now in my 60’s I’ve learned to think before responding. Still stretches me. Keeping my mouth shut and listening has helped me much. Those scriptures you noted are perfect. We need to keep them in our thoughts.
Take your time. Be constructive not destructive. Good words!
I know when I see a new video from you, it’s going to be good. Thank you for your ministry. ❤️😊✝️
Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness in creating this video. Those of us who try to respond proactively and not reactively still need encouragement. This information should be taught in schools so that people trying to navigate this world are better equipped with the tools to handle the changes and disruption of life. May God bless you.
5/5/22: This is good stuff!! I love every word, lesson Chrystal, Priscilla and of course Dr. Tony Evans brings to us. What a God centered family.
I love that Crystal includes that fact that she has some of the same experiences as we do , she doesn’t make it appear that she is perfect, like she is learning to make better choices and decisions just as the rest of us are, this is refreshing
This is Greatness Chrystal!!!🙌🏾
Thank you for all you share and give Revelation to for us!!💕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Going back to college to get a career changing certificate in HR before I retire is a response that I'm proud of because I stopped procrastinating and invested in ME!
Oh man. I’m going to have to listen to this over and over. Such truth. I’m such an emotional responder. I love how she said that our emotions don’t have intellect. Very convicting. So much I can improve upon.
Thank you for sharing this insightful tangible ways we can rest and respond. Last week I had a lady in my office space tell me "calm down lil girl"😶😲 in which I reacted by doing absolutely nothing (lawd she Betta thank God for Jesus😁) I responded in awe by saying umm excuse me and walked off. Lord knows I could have went there, but I thank God for his spirit which allowed me not to react and respond as the world 💯
This is such good and relevant content. Thank you! I’m reminded of one of my favorite RightNow Media videos. It’s your daddy’s video: Watch Your Mouth (Understanding the Power of the Tongue)
“When God is in your gums, there is power in your palette.”
“Some people put their foot in their mouth so often you’d think they’re wearing peppermint socks.” I appreciate your videos so much. Blessings 🌿
I need this channel in my life. Thank you so much for your platform. Thank you.
Thank you Chrystal! Yesterday, I was proud of myself for not reacting, but responding when my car was towed for parking just over the white line at my apartment complex. I was on my way to church. I prayed and caught a ride. Got my car back with little money I had! Glory to God! ❤
Thank you Ms Chrystal, may God continue to give you more and more wisdom. I'm blessed by your teaching.
This was great! I’m almost 8 months pregnant and I’ve been reacting A LOT lol definitely needed this refresher
Im 30 weeks pregnant and I’m like you! Hormones are like a rollercoaster!
Chrystal this CZcams video is so rich in wisdom and Godly understanding. I have been praying about how to respond and not react in certain situations and my prayers have been answered through you. I would love a part two. If you have more information to share on this topic and how to react to/confront toxic people that someone might not be able to avoid completely I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks gain for creating this content.
This was meant for me! Lately I’ve been really working towards doing better with my emotions & how I express them, I used to react ALL the time w/o thinking & it always had me feeling bad about the way I went about certain situations, this will be my go-to video as motivation & a coaching on how to properly respond to situations in my life.
This is me every day. I feel like I fail God every day because I always allow my emotions to get me.Dont listen but run off at the mouth because I feel the need to be right. But as God is moving me in a different level in my life, I am trying to be more grounded.
Yes, yes YES! And then yes again! Thank you for the wise words. I've been very intentional about choosing my words and not tearing people down "leave them intact"
Love this! You are right on point. I have been guilty of reacting with my husband instead of retreating and taking the time to consider how I need to respond. Thank you for this wonderful reminder. 💜💜
This was exactly what I needed to hear, Thank you for sharing!
I am so glad I found your channel. I needed to hear this message today.
This is goldennnnnn! Thank you Chrystal!
Another subscriber. First time watching, love your talk.🙏🏾
Thank you Crystal this is really encouraging and uplifting ❤
I will remember James 1:19-20 😁 thank you . 💕😊 I will slow down 😸 Iam the decider of the temperature in the room 😁 I learned something thank you Chrystal ,God bless 🙏
I truly needed this. Thank you
This was wonderful Chrystal!! Thank you!!
Love love love this! Perfect timing
Thank you Crystal, That subject is spot on. I needed to hear that!!
Definitely needed to hear this, thank you x
THANK YOU SO MUCH CHRYSTAL
I can't even begin to tell you how this was so meant for me. So insightful and it hit home in my business and personal life. I NEEDED THIS.
I needed this word at this difficult time in my life. Thank you so much!
This has been edifying. Thank you!
I needed this today. Thank you!
So needed this video! Thank You!
Thank you for taking the time to talk about this!
Thank you for this!! 💗
I needed this,Thanks for sharing
Thank you for your transparency! I lived “The (ERCOT) Freeze” here in Houston. This is so good! This needs to go viral!!! So many of us react when we need to just respond. So many have grew up in homes where all you saw was reaction. Blessings to you and your family.
Lesson applied! Today after hearing this and going to church I reacted getting all fast talking and high pitched about a matter. 😱Holy Spirit right here corrected me. I immediately apologize to my kiddos and said mommy is sorry I reacted instead of responded. The proceeded to responding. Still working on it!♥️😍 Thank you!
The problem with reaction is it ends with regret !!! Whewwwww that part!
It did not take me a minute and I already subscribed. I love the confidence
I've had so many reaction I can't even count. This was very needed today, thank you. God bless you 🙏🏾
Subscribed and liked!!! Good stuff --- I so needed this! Will have this on replay.
Gosh I needed this sooooo very much thank you Chrystal
I needed this word and reminder! Thank you❤️
So needed this tonight. Thank you.
This was very needed today.
This is so beautiful and powerful. Thank you Chrystal for sharing!
I really LOVE THIS!! In September, my daughter ask me in regards to something she received from my mother that had issues. I called my mother and told her about the issue. Because of this, my mother was upset by my daughter's concern and I REACTED-because of my mindframe and mindset. I was so upset, an argument incurred with me and my daughter and I had to go to my mother's to calm down. I looked at the situation as though "it is enough that you, your father, your stepmother and his side of the family don't like me but now you are pinning me and my mother against each other?" Now when she needed help, I was there whereas her father didn't want nothing to do with her for 29 years. I REACTED instead of RESPONDED. Thanksgiving was the last time I've heard from her because she felt she could get the love and respect from her dad and his family and totally blocked all communication with me and my mother. What hurts the most- the argument between me and my daughter was viewed and heard by 5 of my 6 grandchildren. Reaction is quick but carries a heavy weight emotionally and there are regrets. Responses carry a profound impact into the situation.
Thank you Chrystal!
GURLLLLL!! why are you speaking to me right now!!
The Holy Spirit is always right on time. I am in the muddle of the consequences of my REACTION. Oh how I wished I had responded instead of reacting.
You are what I needed today. Thank you for this video ❤
Always feeding my spirit. Thank u so much, i TRULY needed this. My mouth gets me in trouble alot 😬.
Thank you Crystal ❤️ beautifully delivered such great wisdom! God bless you!
Thank you for sharing…for being so real! So transparent!!❤️💕💕
So so good Sis?! I needed this on today.❤
This was excellent Crystal! Thanks so much! 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you so much for this encouraging words. This was definitely meant for me. I reacted the other day to a situation with my aunt that left me with many regrets. I wish I had responded instead but now that I know better I will definitely do better going forward. Thanks again Crystal for these words of wisdom.😊
Whew, great video! This needs to be our reminder when conflict is being handled over text messages. That is so hard to do, especially when once we press the send button.....you can't take it back.
Great broadcast thank you!
First time watching you. Love this nugget of wisdom. It applies in every area of our lives. This is good! Love your family!!❤
❤️ So looking forward
First time listening to your videos and love this!!❤
This message was so on time!! Thank you for breaking it down!! God bless you!!
Excellent word and much needed for me today. Thank you!
Thank you for this! I was a loaded pistol in my house a few days ago. I apologized to everyone, but I am going to start taking more time-outs before I respond even when I know they know better than they act around here. 😄 Love this message you encouraged me with today
This was amazing! I found it just in time. Your voice calmed my spirit!!!
Thank you for this ❤️
Chrystal, I feel like you are my new best friend! You just don't understand how much I needed this message! Thank you :)
My my my. This is so good. So much wisdom and conviction. Thanks for leading, sis!
This is wisdom. Thank you for sharing a much needed message for many including myself.
Thank you reconfirmed what I needed to do. I appreciate your words of encouragement.
Thank you so much for this wise counsel. I appreciate you.
Spot on and oh, so timely! Will have to listen to it multiple times.
So good and necessary! Thank you for sharing! Truly powerful!
This was so necessary. I just had a situation that happened yesterday that I chose to retreat from while I processed what my response would be. It made a huge difference, and no feelings were hurt. Thank you
This is definitely for me, Thank you for sharing.
This was soo needed in my life right now🌟
this was really powerful, thank you Crystal
Thank you, Chrystal!
I need this in this very moment today. Thank you!! I almost reacted to day but I saw this first and was able to stop and process my feelings and thoughts
Wow, great right on time teaching! My last reaction I regret was yesterday. Wish I saw this before it happened, but we got it straight. I pray I never have to do that again! Thanks again for this timely lesson!
This is phenomenal. Thank you so much