How to Love Yourself

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  • čas přidán 13. 02. 2021
  • Real talk about self-love, feeling the feels, setting the stage, and the truth about intimacy with you.
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Komentáře • 140

  • @purplegal05
    @purplegal05 Před 3 lety +84

    I am 33 and I literally have felt my whole life like I was just here to pass the time until I die one day. It sounds so morbid to even say that, but I have lived such an isolated, joyless life. Surely this is not what Jesus died for me to live like. This video has inspired me to take another look and infuse some joy into my life. I have no idea how I stumbled across your channel, but I am glad that I did

    • @Dd-po2ij
      @Dd-po2ij Před 3 lety +4

      Bless you so much ❤️

    • @staylor12
      @staylor12 Před 3 lety +3

      Praying for you!🙏🏾

    • @RhemaJerry
      @RhemaJerry Před 3 lety +2

      Same story here. Thank you so much for the video

    • @junebugmama1
      @junebugmama1 Před 3 lety +4

      Praying for more joy filled days ahead for you!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

    • @Annamelese
      @Annamelese Před 3 lety +3

      I have been thinking the same too🙏🙏 But going forward I will intentionally do one thing that will bring some joy in to my day.

  • @AlmondJoie
    @AlmondJoie Před 3 lety +33

    I cried while listening to you. Years of abandonment and abuse has made it so hard for me to love myself. But through your words, I'm reminded that the Lord knows my struggle and He sees my pain. Thank you Chrystal for reminding us of God's love for all of us. This was just the pick-me-up I needed.💕

  • @christinabradleybattle1977
    @christinabradleybattle1977 Před 3 lety +11

    This is so amazing. I got to a point where I realized I needed to take care of myself. Yes this mom of 4 young boys booked a resort for ME! So happy to finally take care of me. Thank You Jesus.

  • @Binaishere
    @Binaishere Před 3 lety +11

    I purchased A Year of Self-Care (by Dr. Zoe Shaw) yesterday, and on my way home from a doctor’s appointment, your video popped up on my phone, which was timely. I want to devote this year loving myself so I can love others just as Christ does. Thank you!

  • @Refreshing_Words
    @Refreshing_Words Před 3 lety +21

    This is SOOOOOO good! I had to unlearn this. I lived most of my life in a sacrificial state. Completely depleted and running on empty for so many years. So unhealthy. I am grateful for your teaching and the practical wisdom that. you share.

  • @jenniferwilliams4832
    @jenniferwilliams4832 Před 3 lety +13

    "You have one life to live. Take care of you." Thank you Chrystal. Lord knows we ladies take care of everyone else. "Love as you love yourself." It's time to love ourselves too. It would be nice to have friends like you and Priscilla. God bless you for encouraging your sisters in Christ.

  • @ramonamckinnely4432
    @ramonamckinnely4432 Před 3 lety +16

    Self-care makes room for you and others

  • @marceneogawa7617
    @marceneogawa7617 Před rokem

    An epiphany!! The seasons of our lives isn’t taught enough, and it’s so easy to forget that hard moments/experiences are seasonal. I needed to remember I’m in Spring right now 🌦️🌈 I am looking forward to a Summer harvest 🌿🌾🌺🌷ANEN 🙏🏾 ✝️

  • @paulagonzales9262
    @paulagonzales9262 Před 8 měsíci

    I know this message was around Valentines Day…however I am setting the stage for this Christmas 2023❣️Thank you Crystal 🌹

  • @Claudia-ur7hq
    @Claudia-ur7hq Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you very much. At age 50, I'm only now loving me in a practical and intentional way and I'm loving it. Thank you for reiterating it.

  • @nancyl9563
    @nancyl9563 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for this timely word of advice. My heart has been heavy for too long and I know now I have not allowed myself to care about myself as I should. I will set the stage ❤

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Před 3 lety +2

    At 38 I’m learning to love myself. From my parents, neighbors, siblings, relatives, friends, and foster families I’ve been hurt/abused in every way. I’m struggling today because my Mother doesn’t love or want me around. She almost killed. She said she wish she never had me. No matter how bad my parents abused me I still love them. I have only JESUS and my therapist.
    If I never received love how do I love me! I’m not living! I don’t know how to live! I NEED HELP!😭JESUS🙏🏽🙌🏽

  • @shirleybrewer4210
    @shirleybrewer4210 Před 3 lety +1

    Chrystal, you are so right. You can't love anyone unless you love self first .God first then me.

  • @cherylhayes3105
    @cherylhayes3105 Před 2 lety +1

    This message may be a year old BUT it was soooooooo soooooooo incredible !!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @mkatekondove5736
    @mkatekondove5736 Před 2 lety

    Oh Chrystal, your videos has become my daily therapist session. The Lord is using you amazingly. Love you big sesi🤗🤗

  • @elizabethosomo9999
    @elizabethosomo9999 Před 3 lety +1

    You are absolutely right, Chrystal.

  • @dfholland88
    @dfholland88 Před 9 měsíci

    I know I am late seeing this but it was right on time! Lord help me to cry and then laugh 😇🙏🏻

  • @PriyaSharma-ly2up
    @PriyaSharma-ly2up Před 2 lety

    My my my Chrystal. New listener here in California and I am blown away by your words today. God bless you abundantly!

  • @justmemelissa314
    @justmemelissa314 Před 3 lety +8

    Hello from Baltimore!
    Thank you for the words, learning to love myself!!!

  • @DianaHarper
    @DianaHarper Před 3 lety +2

    When in college, I had a cassette tape with slow sad songs such as Prince's "How Come You Don't Call Me." If it was a bad day, I put a blue light bulb in my lamp turned on the cassette player. When the tape was done, I replaced the bulb and kept it moving.

  • @skajs426
    @skajs426 Před 3 lety +1

    I want to gift you a hug! You deserve so many hugs!! 🤗❤️😍

  • @lauren4610
    @lauren4610 Před rokem

    I love his becase lol recent Liston to an Audio book call
    “ Love Yourself as if Your Life Depends on it.
    ThisCrystal, affirmed that it’s okay to learn to love me.
    I spend a lot of times in the hospital.. I also have been caretaker for my husband who had a double lung transplant in April. I struggle with taking the time or money to even buy my favorite candle , ifd rather spend any little extra money treating my grandchildren to a Dollar Store run” but I’m learning and I thank you so much for this

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Před 3 lety

    There are many of us that need one on one to learn what need. I need a mentor!🙏🏽

  • @missmlb3842
    @missmlb3842 Před 3 lety +3

    This is so needed. Sometimes the pride of not wanting to appear weak keeps me all pinned up. I am realizing I dont have a lot of safe people to be vulnerable with...to cry with. Everyone has their own life.
    I appreciate you bring so candid and real. There will always be needs to be met...but what about church leaders and their needs? I have no family, I am 47 with no husband...and that's ok
    Thank you for this because its giving me permission to exhale and start paying attention to my own emotional needs. I wont be able to serve effectively until I do.
    Thank you for sharing 💕💞😿🙏

  • @anacarr4795
    @anacarr4795 Před rokem +1

    I can’t remember last time I was happy. But I have a “good cry “ everyday. I lost myself years ago and can’t see myself connecting with my husband anymore. I need to learn to love myself and others 😢

  • @ms.deborahlewis4554
    @ms.deborahlewis4554 Před 3 lety +3

    I have two words to share with you: THANK YOU. You are a huge blessing. :) I needed this.

  • @lindafaye2255
    @lindafaye2255 Před 3 lety +4

    "Happy happy and sad sad"
    "This is who I am and this is what I need"
    Thank you for this!!
    I needed all of this.
    Thank you 😘💕

  • @marianbruce-tagoe1885
    @marianbruce-tagoe1885 Před 3 lety +9

    I definitely needed it. It was perfect timing.

  • @KrysP325
    @KrysP325 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you Chrystal. You spoke right to me. I was ashamed for not knowing what brings me joy; now I’m excited to try different things to know myself and love me.

  • @marvitasteward4814
    @marvitasteward4814 Před rokem

    Take a personal day for your personal life. ✨️ I love this

  • @marjorymsuku9312
    @marjorymsuku9312 Před 3 lety +1

    Getting ready to sit and take in another video of 'Coffee with Christal' makes me bubble up with exuberant joy! I Know it is going to be GOOD!
    Has been feeding part of me that I didn't know was starving. Some deep, real, honest, godly truth/insight, excellently articulated! Thank you, Aunty Christal!😘😘🙏

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Před 3 lety +1

    At 38 I’m learning to love myself! It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done! Please pray for me.🙏🏽

  • @pamelaknuckles8723
    @pamelaknuckles8723 Před 3 lety +4

    Thanks Chrystal. I'm learning to be honest about my feelings again. I have had my feeling use to abuse me by other ppl. I was told I'm sharing to much so I stop. CHRIST guides me to love myself.

    • @mramirez5239
      @mramirez5239 Před 2 lety +1

      Boundaries are a part of self love. ❤️

  • @jjmac5712
    @jjmac5712 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing Chrystal! I definitely needed to hear this!

  • @nggriffin4670
    @nggriffin4670 Před 3 lety

    So good! Thank you for addressing topics that tug on the heart!

  • @ladygce6560
    @ladygce6560 Před 3 lety +1

    Oh my! This was an awesome and much needed chat, thanks Chrystal!

  • @denise3432
    @denise3432 Před 3 lety +2

    I really needed to hear this. Thank you soo very much 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @shekinahgoode7123
    @shekinahgoode7123 Před 3 lety +4

    I so needed to hear that tonight! Thank you!

  • @sonyasimon166
    @sonyasimon166 Před 3 lety +2

    So Good! Thank you Chrystal!!🥰

  • @elishacreekmur5747
    @elishacreekmur5747 Před 3 lety +1

    I LOVE you! Thank you for this word

  • @TiyeScott
    @TiyeScott Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you SO much for this.

  • @rebeccahayhurst442
    @rebeccahayhurst442 Před 3 lety

    Listening to your needs as things go along. Such great wisdom in loving ourselves. Thank you Crystal.

  • @ShondaHector
    @ShondaHector Před 2 lety

    So good Chrystal! I needed this. I will be watching over and over again! Thank you.

  • @paulettajohnson972
    @paulettajohnson972 Před 3 lety

    I needed this so very much! Thank you Chrystal

  • @theresaj8630
    @theresaj8630 Před rokem

    Thank you so very much. This is truly a blessing to me.

  • @Regina-76112
    @Regina-76112 Před 3 lety

    Thanks Chrystal ! True and Inspirational. 💝

  • @deeamos
    @deeamos Před 3 lety

    I love you and am so thankful I came across your channel. You’re my coffee In the morning. You’re so refreshing.

  • @bbienaime
    @bbienaime Před 3 lety

    This is soooooo awesome and practical! God bless you for this goooodddd word! Blessings to you!

  • @jackiebell4388
    @jackiebell4388 Před 3 lety

    I love that you let us in on the call from your son! So Sweet!

  • @joyh.729
    @joyh.729 Před rokem

    Wonderfully powerful message! Thank you!❤️❤️

  • @Claudia-ur7hq
    @Claudia-ur7hq Před 3 lety

    I really love this video. Will watch again and again. Thanks for sharing.

  • @latosha4603
    @latosha4603 Před 3 lety

    Wow. This is so good. I NEEDED this!!!! This is an area I struggle in. Never picked up on "as you love yourself".

  • @dianamorales6541
    @dianamorales6541 Před 3 lety +1

    I cannot even begin to express my gratitude for this message! You are a beautiful vessel!

  • @angelaiamwinning6570
    @angelaiamwinning6570 Před 3 lety

    Wow thankyou chrystal I needed this because I need to learn to love myself like I love others. I get tired of always being the one who is always concerned about others but neglecting myself at the same time. This was a breath of fresh air

  • @jeanwatson74
    @jeanwatson74 Před 3 lety

    Thanks Chrytal great words we only have one life and we need to live it to the full ness but most importantly love yourself

  • @lindseyhussey6450
    @lindseyhussey6450 Před 3 lety

    This is so freeing! I think there needs to be even more discussion on how to love your neighbor AS yourself. Thank God for this!

  • @priscillawilliams5487
    @priscillawilliams5487 Před 3 lety

    Wow this was truly a great session it is as if she was right here with me asking those deep questions , the questions and thoughts i keep burying deep.....looks like i got some work to do.....

  • @noemisalgado7130
    @noemisalgado7130 Před 2 lety

    Thank you Chrystal you always know what to say and it makes sense, thank you. You've been a blessing in my life...God bless you sister 🙏

  • @dwaycardinals
    @dwaycardinals Před 3 lety

    This is so good! Thank you so much for sharing!!

  • @rosynatural
    @rosynatural Před 3 lety

    I’ve been listening to the wisdom you offer the last few days and have been blessed. God bless you and give you more for His people.

  • @rebeccahayhurst442
    @rebeccahayhurst442 Před 3 lety +2

    This is so healing and powerful! Thank you Crystal. It’s very freeing as I struggle to love and care for myself in those ways and letting myself grieve in a difficult time or feel joy and be aware of my needs as a single mom. Something I will
    Listen to again! Blessings

  • @stephiekashosi866
    @stephiekashosi866 Před 3 lety

    Happy new year to me as i learn to love myself🤗

  • @junebugmama1
    @junebugmama1 Před 3 lety

    Oh & hello from Port St.Lucie, Florida.... I just moved from Detroit to a coastal town and I love it!!! But no family here yet except my family of 5....trying to make friends here best I can... I love advice of setting the stage and making room to express my emotions from happy to sad.... to not suppress but to acknowledge them.... to make a list of what makes me happy and to do more of that & also make a list of the things I need to grieve and have a time to grieve those things.... THANKYOU CHYRSTAL!!!!!!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

  • @Mrsvictory62
    @Mrsvictory62 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Chrystal this was really good‼️♥️🙌🏽
    I will definitely share

  • @livingmyadventure.
    @livingmyadventure. Před 3 lety

    Chrystal I just want to say thank you for taking the time to share these beautiful, God inspired words. I’ve listened to this 4 times over and have taken notes, that’s how impactful it has been for me! Thank you! I’m on a journey of understanding emotions, and the important role they play in helping me know and be my authentic self. God bless you!

  • @angelamoody5867
    @angelamoody5867 Před 3 lety

    Chrystal, I needed this today!🙏🏽💕🙏🏽
    Thank you 💛💝💛🙌🏽🙏🏽

  • @daphnemccallum2639
    @daphnemccallum2639 Před 3 lety +1

    Beautiful!! This is what I needed to hear.🙂🙂

  • @VivienneJu
    @VivienneJu Před 3 lety

    Thanks Chrystal, I appreciate it greatly

  • @marianbruce-tagoe1885
    @marianbruce-tagoe1885 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you, Chyrstal! I needed to listen to this thrice. I really appreciate the ear you have, listening to the Holy Spirit is essential. Thank you.

  • @monetdavis3378
    @monetdavis3378 Před 2 lety

    I don't know how I missed this when it first aired! Chrystal, your words of wisdom concerning the need take care of me are so powerful. Thank you for the reference to the scripture! How many times have I read that and not internalized a need to love myself well so that I can love others well. So impactful as always!

  • @hadassahmunyiva6136
    @hadassahmunyiva6136 Před 3 lety

    Wow wow wow...... great inspiration right there chrystal. From Kenya you impact me alot, keep on keeping on gal

  • @asiajana4314
    @asiajana4314 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for sharing. I needed this.

  • @lindseyhussey6450
    @lindseyhussey6450 Před 3 lety

    This is so in point! Thank you Jesus!

  • @kristinebinag-thomas0205

    Thank you for this 💛

  • @RhondaR4
    @RhondaR4 Před 3 lety

    I needed this!🙌🏽
    GOD BLESS YOUR HEART!🙏🏽❤️

  • @sharynnpacay3210
    @sharynnpacay3210 Před 3 lety +1

    Very well said
    I love the message
    God bless

  • @junebugmama1
    @junebugmama1 Před 3 lety

    Taking caring of myself so I can take care of others!!! That is one of my hugest takeaways from this!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

  • @giftikiyya
    @giftikiyya Před 2 lety

    So good!! Thank you for the tips!! God bless you!!’

  • @paulagrant5118
    @paulagrant5118 Před 3 lety

    Thanks, I really needed to hear this! Love on me!

  • @MadeWellByFaith
    @MadeWellByFaith Před rokem

    Your so gifted Krystal in speaking live and practicality. Such a big sister in Christ. God Bless you this post and all the post you provide to us. It indeed helps so much. Next time your in LA, Cali please let us know. Maybe you can host an event in your favorite city to take trips. Lord knows we need it 🙏♥️ Texas is definitely my dream go to town so we can definitely switch haha jk

  • @lenitastevenson7961
    @lenitastevenson7961 Před 3 lety

    Yes laughter is good like a medicine. Years ago we had to ask God to give us a spirit of laughter because my spirit was always grieving for my loved ones. We learned how to pray for them and still enjoying my life no matter how they choose to live their lives.

  • @Mrsvictory62
    @Mrsvictory62 Před 3 lety

    Hello Chrystal & ladies listening from Indiana ,
    This is so needed♥️🙏🏼

  • @simplyme7711
    @simplyme7711 Před 3 lety

    I TRULY believe God sent this message to you for ME! You have touched on so much of the pain, the disappointment, the lack of joy - and excitement - in my life. I need to celebrate and almost selfishly minister to ME.

  • @nadinea.6165
    @nadinea.6165 Před 3 lety

    Thank you🙏🏾

  • @sweettoothmarie7304
    @sweettoothmarie7304 Před rokem

    I needed this 🙌 💛

  • @albar67
    @albar67 Před 3 lety

    This is so good

  • @kodwat2134
    @kodwat2134 Před rokem +1

    Thanks for this Chrystal ❤️

  • @TheGodsladykmf
    @TheGodsladykmf Před 2 lety

    Thank you for allowing God to use you to help free us from the lies that Satan wanted us to believe that we’re not important or we’re not enough just because others didn’t appreciate who God created us to be! You help me to move on in my journey of Loving who God Created me to be. Love & Peace!

  • @jutinalatsoncole
    @jutinalatsoncole Před 3 lety +6

    Hello ladies from Shreveport, Louisiana

  • @dianewashington505
    @dianewashington505 Před 3 lety +1

    Awesome Advice

  • @mramirez5239
    @mramirez5239 Před 2 lety

    Just listening to this, and recovering from legalism growing up and domestic abuses as an adult, my insides just cringe and want to turn away but still "listen in over my shoulder"...that is a hard thing to unteach my body-to not respond to loving words concerning myself as selfish/bad/wrong/et cet. I'm listening, though. I'm mentally "making" myself "sit, face the speaker" and consider this for myself.

  • @TheRiality
    @TheRiality Před rokem

    This was beautiful

  • @karenkay8972
    @karenkay8972 Před 3 lety

    Thank you ma’am

  • @arlenetatum9511
    @arlenetatum9511 Před 3 lety

    Sooooo Awesome Sis. I thoroughly enjoyed You and the care for me that You displayed from the Heart regarding my Self CARE and Self LOVE. I truly Thank You for caring in such a GODLY WAY!!!!!!!! 🥰💕💞💖💝☺👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏

  • @fitsumredwan3730
    @fitsumredwan3730 Před 2 lety

    ohhhhhhh you are funny. In all of my live in church and ministry, I've never heard of anyone telling me feel the sad thoughts and cry. I find that freeing. love it. It make me laugh. when did we unlearn this basic truth that an infant instinctively knows. love it.

  • @cherlewis327
    @cherlewis327 Před 3 lety

    This is very good.

  • @genevebernard3713
    @genevebernard3713 Před 3 lety

    Thanks always

  • @kimberlyhampton5332
    @kimberlyhampton5332 Před 3 lety

    Greetings from Michigan. This is great!

  • @cuentosenespanol3158
    @cuentosenespanol3158 Před 3 lety

    so good!

  • @miyoshimccree8309
    @miyoshimccree8309 Před 3 lety +4

    Hello from Shreveport, La.