Knowing When to Let Go and How to Find Freedom
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- čas přidán 6. 08. 2024
- Have you ever felt like you were in too deep?
Like maybe certain situations in your life were causing you to go to greater lengths than you ever thought possible, to spend more time than you realized you had, and to cost you more than you could ever afford?
Situations that cause us to lose our way often begin with a desire. There is something within our grasp that we desperately long for and relentlessly seek after. An opportunity. An experience. An outcome. A relationship. A means to an end. Something that derails us from the path we know we should pursue or the ability to release the matter altogether.
Truth is, we all have desires. And while desires are not wrong in and of themselves, they can be misleading.
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Thank you so much! I’ve been holding onto a toxic relationship. Typical 😅 but this is the thing I need to let go of. I’ve been posting subliminal messages via social media and trying to reason with myself on how maybe I’m wrong and I should go back and fix things or finding all the good things about the relationship to make it not so bad so I can talk myself into calling or text the person I so desperately wanted in my life. And especially being in my med thirties that played into my insecurities so I felt that I may never have another love interest…. Etc I could literally go on and on but I receive this message and I’m letting go fully now! It still hurts but I know this pain won’t last always. So I choose to trust God because I know he knows best for me.
Gurl!! 😂 The relationship is gone, but its the toxic hope that's been having me keep some memories. I am clearing them out as we speak ❤
This message is a MUST-LISTEN. It speaks to the core of our being. "We are forever changed by the things that happen in the dark." Lord, help us. Chrystal, thank you for being obedient to speak this message.
Thanks for letting God use you with this. I am always trying to fix things for my 22 year old son and then I start getting sick behind it. I just want to be a good mother and I have to realize I am, I just have to let him grow up and learn from his own mistakes. I don't want to kill myself trying to help someone that does the same things over and over. It's hard 😢 but I have to let God handle what I cannot!
This has blessed and strength me as a Pastor's wife. I'm Grateful to you 🙏
I finished waiting a letter to release someone today. Then I saw this video... praise God for confirmation
A marriage that has been over for a long time... help me Jesus to know when to let go
This blessed me! I need to stop holding onto who I thought is my husband. I need te release control and be open to another solution
It's sometimes the holding on to the old man that prevent the new man from coming!
@@ChrystalHurst whewww🙌🏽🙌🏽
This is SO GOOD! I was like! No! Chrystal knows better! I don't want to hear that she did this...But I also was like...Wow, I completely relate. Chrystal is a human, just like me. Sometimes we know better, but fear and despair and pride take over.
I just recently let go of trying to control my daughter's path now that she's graduated high school. I was too worried about what things looked like, what I expected and what other people thought. I was suffocating myself and my baby girl. I confessed to God and to her. Now we can move forward as she figures out what's going to work for HER. I can guide and support her properly now that it's coming completely from love and not fear.
Wow, thank you for sharing, it has come at the right time. I've been going through a tough season in my marriage and I've been asking myself all the 'what if' questions. Fear and doubt has gripped me, and for a while I've been trying to fix things...but like you've rightly put it,"There are some things you can not fix". I have to let go and leave the outcome to God. Thank you, this has blessed and strengthened me.🙏
Thank you Chrystal! Used to hold on to the fear of not becoming a mom, but I'm learning to release that fear and focus on what God wants me to do for his kingdom. BTW...Great job directing this morning 😊
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Chystal I personally Strongly Agree!! " Yesssssss!! the enemy will do the same thing!!" I had to let things Go!!" I'm Thankful and Grateful I did!!😂 Yesssssss!! We need to pay attention!! I call it now my journey, and share it with others. I truly enjoyed listening to this. I call it living and learning!!❤❤❤((Hugs))
Thanks for watching Tiffany! I had fun directing :)
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This video along with other things God has put in my path recently has been a great inspiration for me to release myself from the stronghold that marijuana and being the perfect single mom has on me. Thank you for following your feelings to help others. 💯🙌🏾🙏🏽💖
Woke up at 2:30 am and asked God to speak to me about my divorce hearing at 10 am today. I didn’t want the divorce and was holding on to hope that it there could be a different outcome. I have more peace now after listening to this message and am letting go of the outcome. God knows what is around the bend…I can’t see it now but I’m making room for better. Thank you Chrystal for this timely message
Prayers sister . I too didn’t want my divorce. I sometimes think If God could have turned my ex heart but that isn’t the case and I have to be at peace
Dear sister may you not only have peace but comfort as you grieve unmet expectation
@@Meepsavage Thank you for your prayers. I appreciate your words and understanding. I have peace and realize that I planted my heart in the garden of someone who did not water things.
@@chelle8156 Thank you Chelle.
I have had way more success with women in ministry by sharing my mistakes and the lessons I learned from them, especially how God can use my mess to make a message) than teaching from a place of pride and self-righteousness. Battling depression, Getting fired from a job, bankruptcy, making people my "projects" instead of loving them where they were at and trusting the Lord to bring healing and the list goes on. God bless your courageous heart (as a pastor's daughter, a wife and mother adulting) for being vulnerable today! You just set millions of women free from the hidden closet of shame with 1 video. Totally sharing this with my daughters and friends. :) You shall know the TRUTH and the truth will set you free!! Blessings!
Thank you, Big Sister Crystal. Just what I needed to hear. I actually made a decisión to resign from a gathering that was more harmful than good and this is another confirmation that I made the right choice. I feel the freedom and relief. Thank you for showing me that I'm not crazy. Many people think I am and because I took too long to make the move things wasn't so smooth but hey, I'm out and that's what matters the most now. Soon or later there will be an opportunity to dialogue. Blessings ❤
Thank you for this video! You are so right about confessing what brings you shame. It’s how the enemy keeps you trapped in negative distortions about yourself. I have been scammed as well in life and it is very traumatic. Thank you for your vulnerability.
Good timing Chrystal. The Lord is telling me to let go and trust Him!
I wrote a long story then I went to pull up this Bible verse and my message to you disappeared so I thought maybe it's not meant to share all that. This is the short and simple part. I let go and God took control. I still love him but I love my relationship with God more. Here's the scripture God spoke to me when I felt lonely! Now I'm okay.
Isaiah 54:5-8 NKJV
For your Maker is your husband, The LORD of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. For the LORD has called you Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, Like a youthful wife when you were refused,” Says your God. “For a mere moment I have forsaken you, But with great mercies I will gather you. With a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment; But with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you,” Says the LORD, your Redeemer.
Thank you and God bless you!
This is blessing me tremendously!!!!!! When I was single until age 32, this was a bedrock verse for me but now 10 years later into marriage I almost forgot. I needed to hear this exact verse right now about who God is. I’m in the midst of so many conflicts( legal, health, marriage, church, feeling forsaken career wise) but Jesus knows
We have to be careful with our desperation because desperation leads us to try anything. We are only to be desperate for Jesus. He will never scam us! So take it to Jesus and let it go. Only He can protect in ALL situation! Good Word, Crystal!!!
Thank you! I almost succumbed to seeking out someone to ask for a position thats equal to what I have now just in my mind a needed change. But I was hesitant and debating. I didn’t make the move- instead said Lord you have him seek me out if you want this for me. Then I turn on youtube and here is this message totally validating what just happened. So glad I let go! Now, to let go of other things!! Eeeeek!🥰
This is BEYOND timely. Sigh... Help me Jesus. The conviction on this end of the screen is SO REAL.
What many people don’t understand is that the ones claiming to want to “help” you are most likely the ones who hacked you in the first place and know that you’ll pay to get your account back only for it to get hacked again. Hacking and stealing people’s social media is like the quickest of get rich schemes out there now.
God woke up up at 4:30am to speak to me through you.
I’m holding onto trying to control the narrative of our adult children’s lives. I must let it go and FULLY trust God with this. I want to live in that freedom and peace.
I have been fighting to overcome pornography. I thought the battle was over & I finally won. Today I yielded to that old sinful behavior again…today I also confessed & resumed therapy. There WILL Be victory. In Jesus name, Amen 🙏🏽
I’ve been holding on to let go of people God’s told to let go off. I’ve been through many things. And one of the things is toxic relationships. So now for me it’s hard to let people into my life. I try in many ways to controle this. Even my relationship with God. Trying to take the lead instead of letting go. It’s because I felt like He wasn’t keeping me from all these bad things and without realizing I started taking control of everything in my life. And it has been for years now. But I’m glad He’s revealed this to me so that I can allow Him to work on me. Need your prayers🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this message. God bless you.
This was excellent thank you so much for sharing! It’s crazy how intimidating people on social media can be!!!
This was a message straight from God. Thank you for letting God use you!! ❤
Excellent conversation. Very intentional and helpful!🎉
Thank you. I'm scared that if my father finds out the truth that I knew about smth but chose otherwise it will hurt him and he will reject me forever.
Love you Chrystal! I have learned a lot from you. You once said "write it down" remember that lesson? Well I wrote it down. Now I'm writing a book. I also am getting more organized in my home. Love your broadcast keep being a light for the Lord! God bless your ministry, Priscilla's and your dad. Love you all! ❤ thank you
A rhema word indeed! This was soooooo good Chrystal! I have been there, done that, so no shame at all! U were in a vulnerable position and an unsavory individual took advantage. Simple as that. Thank you for being vulnerable ❤
I LET GO & I AM LETTING GOD
My husband's relationship with the Lord, my value to others.
Thank you so much, chrystal. Your timing is perfect, I thank God.
Thank you, Chystal, for this. This is just a confirmation of the healing journey I started a few weeks back. For the longest time, I held onto shame for failing in school and having to repeat my A'levels. It held me bound for over 10 years, manifesting as pride and fear. For over a decade, i have been stuck, constantly comparing myself to others, thus paralysing my potential and dreams. Never working at my dreams because of the thought of failure and that shame that I'm very familiar with. When you said the antidote of shame is vulnerability, that struck me. I have made a commitment to be more vulnerable. May God help me as I walk this journey.
Thank you, Chrystal for this on time word. I've kept hold of shame for never finishing my degree in music, stopped playing piano (I heard you mention the Bach Inventions the other day!), allowing food to be a "comforter", when I know the REAL Comforter, holding on to an old "love" in my heart that I knew wasn't good for me, stopped writing my books.. I'm in my 60's, but I'm still here and God will help me to be and do all that He wants. Blessings to you for snapping me out of this trap!❤
This really blessed me. Thank you. You are so transparent and authentic. Keep humbling us! :)
Amen
Thank you @Chrystal this was meant for me and needed. God allowed me to watch this and it resonated with me and what he is calling me to do.
Holding to the Shane of being divorced a second time this time less then a year, Shane of falling for a a person that wasn’t right for me not sent by God but used by God, fear of staying over again and making with my kids, fear of what people will think and say, fear of letting people go. Fear of walking out on faith and doing what God is calling me to do.
Girl, this was on time and on point, I have been trying to be there for my oldest daughter to help her and yes control the outcome of her life. Because of my guilt for not seeing sometimes that happened to her before. But alas I cannot, not because of what you said but because it's God's to determine. She's his and He is the author of her life nit me. Thank you for your vulnerability and being the light that we need.
Thank you so much for your honesty, and this has made me take a look even further at a lot of things I need to confess and take my hands off of. Because it feels foolish for a reason. Thank you God bless you🙏🏽❤
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry that happened Chrystal 😢.
It did happen to me because I didn't know where to take my desperation. Thank God now I do!😊
Needed this. It’s amazing how much fear is wrapped up in releasing something you can’t fix, you know He is able to fix, but wondering if He actually will (even if you believe He’s already given you a promise that He would).
And now we’ve moved on to trust issues… 😅
Thank you for the reminder @Chrystal.
I’ve been holding on to a relationship that I know isn’t good for me . I release them and the relationship
This was a good word today. During this past 5 years I’ve had to let go of some adult family..... totally surrendered them to the Lord. I have shed many tears, but now have to sit back and playfully trust God with them.
Really needed to hear this right now.
Thank you so much for this! ❤
Thank you for this !
Thank you!
Timely,I really need this.
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for sharing youre story
You are always a blessing. Thank you for this word.
This was sooo timely! Thank you ❤
Appreciate you sharing this, Chrystal. Yes, confession and vulnerability, accountability and community so necessary if we want to stay on the right path. I do wish I would have learned this long ago considering all the stress and strain I put on myself and still do at times trying to control a situation at work, home or with a loved one and all the time just making things more difficult for them and me😕 God so often telling me, “Let It Go! It’s not for you to decide what’s best. Your not that knowledgeable. Be still and let Me be God.” I know He’s right or whoever is offering me wise counsel but my pride and strong will too often gets in the way. So thankful for His and others’ patience and grace💙 Hate to think where I’d be without them.🙏🏼
Thanks Crystal. 😊😅😊😅
What a brilliant video. I am blessed by this perspective.
Thank you for your transparency! Hallelujah for freedom.
Thanks for sharing this blessing of a message Chrystal❤ God bless you❤
Wow thank you for sharing… I was also scammed for what looked like a business opportunity, so much Shane and guilt came upon me.. this affected me 2 months behind on a lot of payments.. it was hard to let the experience go but I had to let it go and I was able to share the pain with other people
Hello Chrystal.....I am holding on to my marriage that I been in for 13 years which three of them we have been separated we share two children together and it has not always been easy and I want to let go so that I can be the best version of myself.....I really enjoyed watching it has been an eye-opener!
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability
Crystal you spoke right to my situation I have left it alone and not control my outcome 😊
Good morning, thank you, stay Bless & safe 🙏🤗
Thank you! ❤Perfect timing and confirmation for what I need to do in letting go of a dysfunctional relationship. Thank you for your wisdom and transparency.
Thank. You. Sis. For. This. Prophetic Word God bless you
Thanks, Sis.
I truly have much respect for you for sharing this story. Kudos!! This is just good stuff here on so many levels. How many times have we known not to continue but did so anyway. This is so rich on so many levels!! Thank you!
Thank you...thank you for bringing this to the light. Your doing so shined the light on what I'm holding on to. This took great courage to share!
So glad this was helpful to you @yielah1!
This was good . Please keep sharing .. 😊
THANK YOU…my heart is literally at peace 🥰🥰🥰
So glad to hear that @renecabenn3590!
Whew!!! Chrystal, I am thankful for God leading you to share this with us. As you told your story of what happened, my "fight or flight" was kicking in. I struggle with my "reactive" emotions and discernment. At times I am battling for what to focus on, and your video today reminded me of how I need to "let go" and how there are steps to relinquish control and move in step with God. Your testimony was a Godly caution for me. 🙏🏾Praying over your life and those who are listening and seeking guidance. 🤗🙏🏾❤
Editing to provide my answer: More of the when, Future job, husband, and family. What I need to let go. 🙏🏾❤( everything)🙏🏾
Ooooh, so good! I can't seem to get over how things ended with my apartment lease turned eviction. A mold/mildew/mushrooms scenario spiraled, the landlord wouldn't budge, and I had to leave...and it's been an emotional hell! Can't seem to get past the negative emotions tied to the situation, as it still impacts me today.
Blessed again! The second time was even more enlightening! “There is nothing that feels as good as freedom!” Thank God for setting me free!
Thanks for this... I've been holding on to the life that I had before I was laid off six years ago. I don't feel as valuable anymore. The words of others pierce me. I keep replaying the tape of what I "should" have done or "should" be doing but no matter how many steps I take I feel stuck in my current circumstances. I want to move past this feeling towards freedom.
I let him go but had after thoughts of what if. This was very needed, gotta move forward and accept it. Especially with being vulnerable and honest with myself and to others
Lord lord lord …wow❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much Aunty Chrystal for this timely message. It hit home. God bless you really good for this in Jesus mighty name. Amen🙏 🙏 🙏
Wow 😮this was so good and so freeing. Thank you for being so transparent. You’re helping us.
So glad this was helpful to you @realsweet111!
This was so good
This was so powerful! I had this very conversation with my daughter two days ago...but hearing you today I was able to receive it for myself. 🔥🔥
Yes thank you sister Crystal 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼 for sharing and yes I have been there too🥴 and yes releasing it to the Lord🙌🏻 is the only solution
Hallelujah 🙌🏻 thank you Jesus 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
God’s perfect timing, Crystal!! The Lord Jesus is telling me to let go and trust in Him more!!!! 🙏✝️🙏
This was an on-time word, for sure. Thank you, Chrystal. I can relate to this message because I'm currently attempting to manage my husband's schedule since he recently began a new career. We've prayed for this change and are so grateful God blessed him with this opportunity. However, this answered prayer has (naturally) caused much change in our household.
I am accustomed to a routine, and this period of change is proving to be more difficult than anticipated. After watching this, I immediately cried out to the Lord, seeking forgiveness and praying for the strength to surrender control and have complete trust in Him. I also intend to confess this to my husband and (further) discuss/pray with him to navigate this season together.
I realize that the enemy can sometimes cause us to make our blessings a burden, but I won't allow that to be the case here. We've prayed for this moment, and I believe God will not abandon us now that we have come this far.
Thanks again, Chrystal.
That's a great topic. I have a truckload of things to let go, mostly bad. When I think about all the bad things I did in the past, I have troubles letting go of my shame of them. When my ex-boyfriend and I broke up four weeks ago (due to long-distance issues), I have troubles letting it go because we have a lot in common, but different views. Though he's still a sweet guy, my break-up was unexpected and painful. I want God to help me let go of everything bad that is happening to me.
To the people who are saying you're stupid I'm stupid the people who have made a mistakes or stupid I will pray for them
because
only God knows when it's their time like Pastor keion Said
don't let my mistakes ruin your future God bless all of us brothers and Sisters
Thank you Jesus 🙏🏼
I really appreciate this message I've been dealing with letting go of the idea of reconciling with my child's father. After 8 years of him being absent he came back and we were working on building a relationship again. 3 months later everything was brought to an end. He decided it was best we just coparent. I am a fixer and I rather be in control than not. Lately, I've been consumed with thoughts of him, questioning if our story really ends here, should I fight for my daughter to have a whole family or just let go. Fear has sat in. Can I handle seeing him date other people, what do I do with these feelings he seems to be fine and I'm going crazy. I literally couldn't sleep last night because he was on my mind. Idk what God's plan is for us, if there is a plan but tonight I'm choosing to let it go and confess. I hate not knowing, it's scary. I hate uncertainty but I have to trust God more than I want him to answer my prayer of whether or not we belong together.
Trust God, first and foremost. Lean not to your own understanding. Then guard your heart. Let it go, because God knows how to open doors and close doors. He is also the great healer and will keep your heart if this person is not who He has for you. Be free, let it go, live your life to the fullest until God makes your path clear. Like Chrystal said, if you hold on to what is not, you can block your answer and what is rightfully yours. Be willing to wait for God's best - it may or may not be him, but know God sees you and your daughter, and knows the desire of your heart...take it from one who has been there ❤ 🙏🏽
@@patbrowne8549 Thank you so much for taking the time to encourage me! I've read this about three times already. 🙏🏾♥️
Thank you for this, Ms Crystal! I would say I have been trying to control the outcome of my entire life. I fear being abandoned eternally so I have been afraid to trust God with where I will spend my eternity if that makes sense. I fear death and have since I was a little girl. I’m really tired of being bound by fear and I know it’s connected to my pride and control. Please pray for me that I would not be like the person in 2 Tim 3, bc I know we have a choice to want God and I’m embarrassed and angry that this is me at times… and then have the nerve to think God will want to have something to do with me when I’m ready… this is the honest truth of my heart (I left some of the ugly out) please pray God would have mercy on my mind, body, heart, and soul and that I would love Him with all of me bc He first loved me!
I have been holding on to anxiety and fear of being harmed
Trying to control my husband, my adult children, and my desire to have an occasional drink of wine when I don’t have peace about it.
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i was there last week oh my goodness
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Good evening
@CEH- NEEDED THIS! I was in the live recording of this msg. And here I am again today having held onto the same thing and WORSE off for doing so.
Awoke at 3 this morning with the deepened LAYERS of shame.
Bringing to the light that I have squandered my own financial windfall plus someone else’s (in essence: a thief) in less than a year.
HELP ME HOLY GHOST!
Gotta confess as hindsight is revealing that I “thought” I was in control. The fallout proves that I was deceived.
Well then... It's time to release now isn't it? You can do it my friend!
@@ChrystalHurst wooooo saaaa. Yes.
@@ChrystalHurst it’s been a WHOLE thing for a week!!
it’s the SHAME that I needed to let go! 🤯🤯
Was in a shame-filled downward spiral until Friday.
Regaining ground…
The struggle is Real.
My Redeemer is REALer!!
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Letting go of my control of the outcome of my marriage .
Relationships and business
My job.
my first love.
I am holding on to a crush I had every since I was 10 years old...I am almost 40. Every few years I see him we talk for a little then nothing happens. Every time he turns away its like another bullet wound to my heart and I think something is wrong with me. Trying my best to let him go.
Maybe you should express Interest as a friend first and see what happens...if he shows no romantic Interest, move on but if he does, then there you go ❤
Letting go of a toxic marriage.