My Husband Punishes Me When I Break The Rules | LOVE DON’T JUDGE
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Brandi and Laz Robinson look like a pretty conventional couple: Laz, 38, works in solar engineering, Brandi, 36, is a stay at home mum who (pre-Covid19) homeschools their three kids and has a penchant for coupon shopping. But behind closed doors they practice domestic discipline, a type of relationship which sees Laz dole out punishments to Brandi, from line writing to spanking. Domestic discipline is where one partner takes on the dominant rule maker (and enforcer) role, while the other partner is the submissive. In the case of the Robinsons, Laz is the ‘head of house’, or HOH, while Brandi is the ‘taken in hand’ or TIH. It also adheres to traditional gender roles with Brandi doing the cooking and housework, while Laz looks after the garden and related manual chores. The pair, from Columbus, Ohio, claim that being in a domestic discipline relationship has made them closer as a couple.
Videographer: Max Rodriguez
Producer: Nathalie Bonney, Ruby Coote, James Thorne, Kim Nguyen
Editor: Beth Angus
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Who punishes the husband when he breaks the rules or is he perfectly above the law
I wonder oo
She says it wouldn't work because they're roles are completely different, which makes no sense to me. Why should he be able to do anything he wants to with impunity? It sounds like they both have self-esteem issues. I didn't get married to have another daddy; I got married to have a partner. He's not in charge of me, and I'm not in charge of him.
( God )
1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the HEAD of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the MAN ; and the head of Christ is God.
This is her idea 😂😂
@@Chris-dv5sc Absolutely which means he should be submitting to the Lord. the Bible also calls Husbands to love their wife like Christ loves the church. That command is to avoid possible abuse of power.
I showed this to my friend and she said, "Love Don't Judge but I sure dam do"
To this I do
Haaaa😂
No fr 😭
The truth is not judgments
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I wanna know what part of her childhood made her want to go this route
It's start from primal time. And that's normal.
@heyyoooooo exactly what I was going to say.
@@heyyoooooo820 could have been the mother tho
@@redlights7397 most likely the father
@@micahstealyogirlbell8010 how so
How does the 13 year old have more sense than the mother? I’m dead
Fr .. Her daughter comments had me dead. 😂☠️ She don't that 💩 in her relationship.
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So the kids have more sense than their parents, and they even black too.😔😔😔
She’s very intelligent
It's not uncommon for children, even small children, to have better sense than their parents. I recall my mother bathing me and I begged her, "Don't mention HIM anymore!" I referred to a boyfriend she had years prior to her meeting my Dad but whom I was being told about on a regular basis. As a child, I knew it was harming me to be dragged into a romance that ended prior to my birth. For about 10 years, Mom and I fought The Battle of the Dirty Kleenexes. Facial tissues were sold: "Why keep a cold in yr pocket?" Used once and the snot, together with germs, were to be discarded. My mother held onto dirty tissues and I got in trouble for discarding them. Yes, children can have more sense than parents.
I'm worried for the children the most 😭 they're growing up thinking this is normal and right
Edit : I’m aware that the 13 year old doesn’t want that type of the relationship but still the other kids are there . It’s fine doing whatever in a relationship as long as both people are happy and no one is harmed , but I think the children shouldn’t have to witness this
it is right but you are brainwashed sadly. Before 100 years this was it
Their 13 yo daughter said hell no! "I will not have a similar relationship like my parents. I'm not this type of person." So go on with THAT bs 😤🤣🤣🤣
@@WowYouReallyPostedThat doesn’t matter how much you say you won’t be like your parents but look into how our minds and actions are form by watching our parents and what happens when you’re abused or raised by parents who aren’t there all the time. It does affect us and our growing minds.
all these quotes hanging around the house😟
@@love.wildly.live.fearlessly but there is a clear diference here... they are not abused (at least it didnt seem so). Knowing your dad spanks your mother in the bedroom with a wooden spoon is not the same as getting your ass wooped cronically by your drunk dad while your mother does nothing.
"I don't think people consent to be abused". oh girl, you have no idea of how this world works.
My thoughts exactly 😢
What is BDSM then?
@@viewsonichomie BdSm isn’t abuse lmao
True but when you stay you are saying I know you beat women so keep doing it no excuse exspecially when you have kids leave that it's toxic and not right.
@@relentero8547 bdsm is abuse, its just consented abuse.
This belongs in the bedroom and not in the living room where your kids are.
THIS^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Right
This isn't a kink. People confuse this with BDSM but this is literally a relationship style. It shouldn't be shielded from children.My husband and I practice domestic discipline too and all three of my daughters know
Should children also be shielded from the Bible? This is based on their interpretation of the Bible.
@@GaiaEarthGoddess3 if u say it isnt a kink when what do u call it
What’s ironic is that despite being the ‘sub’ she’s actually the one who defined and created this current dynamic. She’s actually the one in charge.
That’s very true I’m a sub I don’t people understand the lifestyle
That doesn’t make it any better
power bottom
That's exactly how submission works. True submission is not taken. Its given freely. And the sub sets the boundaries and limits. Its so completely different than What the average person perceives.
It’s called switch
No one is wondering why they have so much toilet paper chillin in the middle of the living room 🤷♀️
🤣🤣🤣 It looks like she coupons. They have an unusual amount of laundry soap as well
@@lilmsbhaven that's what I thought 😆
The excessive couponing, the dynamic b/w her and her husband...there is no doubt this woman has some issues lol.
Y’all don’t coupon? 😳. I was raised on couponing I can even do it myself when I put forth an effort.
@@angelacooper8973 I used to extreme coupon but it got too hard to get good deals in my area 😫 I had a lot of a stockpile that lasted years. Miss couponing!
So it was her idea????! What in the Fifty Shades of black is this??!😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂 I just watched that movie. 😂😂😂😂 this is really it
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ain't no way LOL
Mom is an airhead the daughter is so well spoken, at least she knows better and doesn't want to be like Mom.
Good for her ❤
Do what you want in your relationship if it makes you happy, but it becomes real concerning when the kids are privy to the power dynamics here. Yikes.
They better hope no one from their local CPS has seen this video.
My parents have a kink of arguing and fighting. Now I have terrible anxiety and hate them.
I have no issues with people living their kink lifestyle because they are 2 consenting adults, but children do not ask or need to be brought into yall lives, nor did they consent to it.
Why not be childfree?
They don't shield the kids from it because it comes out of religious principles based on certain interpretations of St. Paul's letters.
The fact that they’re from Ohio explains everything 😂 but on a serious note, this is so sad. Imagine the kids growing up thinking this is normal
What’s wrong with it? There’s a mom, dad, kids. They have a family. This works for them. Hey happy spouse happy house
@@angelacooper8973 what’s wrong with it? What isn’t wrong with spanking your partner, or acting like you’re the overlord of the house and the people inside of it?
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Sad should be if the dude really beat the shit out of her, and also more common.
I’m from Ohio dang this foolishness no man has EVER discipline ME not even my Daddy! I wish a man would he be laid up in icu somewhere 😀😀
This isn't making sense. If neither of them like doing things that hurt each other why the hell are they doing it? Why is she making him do things to her she doesn't like? If it hurts her and she doesn't like it, isn't that simply abuse, even if she asked for it? Because corporal punishment (on children) has always been abuse, and this is the same thing. People can certainly "consent" to abuse without realizing it. Do they realize they don't have to do things in their relationship that they don't like? I just wanna know what happened to this woman in her childhood that makes her feel the need to do this. If she wants an unconventional relationship, that's fine, but she doesn't have to do things in the relationship that she doesn't like. Make it make sense.
She seems to like the controlling part.
Discipline
I would be disgusted and embarrassed if these were my parents exposing this on the internet ew lmfaooo 😂
The min the man put hands on me baby he’s dead. The fact that it was her idea knowing womens out there actually getting abused is wild
Good girl. Don’t tolerate abuse
It's not abuse when a person takes pleasure. Different things.
I don’t think I can watch this. I’m clicking off for my mental health. Praying for this woman and her family.
She literally wanted it😊
You're over reacting. She wanted it and consented. She asked for it, literally. It was HER idea.
@@tysonchambliss1584 Nah, it's still sick. Lots of people consent to abuse. That doesn't mean they are normal. It means they are not mentally stable.
They seem to keep a lovely home that's all I got 😂
taunna you are stunning 😍
Right
I will divorce my husband if he hit me
I know this is not the point of the video but like, are they prepping for the apocalypse?? There so much stuff everywhere 😮😅 (also props to the daughter for knowing she doesn’t wanna live that lifestyle)
Many people stock up for fear of running out of things.
they were more than prepared for covid with this much toilet paper
@@ihavenoidea2805 Yes. Many people stock up on necessities.
I mean I'm not judging, just psychoanalyzing more than anything at this point. A lot of these kinks are often rooted in trauma and attachment styles. Makes me wonder what kind of childhood this young woman had to desire being punished. Perhaps, it's all she knew and therefore is most familiar.
That has been disproven. A LOT. There are numerous studies that show that kinksters are no more traumatized than non-kinksters.
"not judging but..." yes you are bruh. 😂
Oh this is bullshit. I love submissive and dominant dynamic (not to their extent but still). There is no child trauma to want a strong man to show how much he desires you by taking control by loosing control. To show he can protect you with his strong body. Worships you with his dominance. All of these things outside of sex are basic things women look at when searching for a life partner.
@@leatherminion5013 As someone into kinks I highly doubt that. What studies say this
The fact this is her idea!!!!!!!! Is crazy!!!!! And it’s not abuse because it’s their for-play🤦🏻♀️
If a guy truly loves you he would not beat you even if you beg him to so I don't believe that it is her idea
@@rosettekalombo3072 I believe it’s her idea kinda and I kinda don’t believe it. She seems happy about it, maybe a little too happy. But then he looks uncomfortable, maybe he’s acting that way to make us think he doesn’t want this? Idk what to believe
@@kim6828 but she said she does not enjoy it. Plus if a man really loved you he would not truly hit you even if you ask him plus she expressed that she does not enjoy it
@@rosettekalombo3072 that’s what I’m saying! I’m saying I think she is being abused but I’m not completely sure
No, it's not. Some people take certain Bible verses to heart that are translated as counseling wifely "submission."
I don't think they have enough laundry soap or toilet paper 😂
“Domestic discipline” lost me 😮
Immediately 😂
It's a fetish they just won't admit it
@@RR-us1lt It CAN be a fetish but not always. She gets no sexual arousal from the spankings so it's not a fetish. I can't imagine being sexually turned on by writing lines.
well they stayed together for 15 years unlike you modern girls. You always cheat in social media and only fans and you dont get punished for cheating thats why you do it. You.girls have no dicpline
@@only1anime89 been in mine 13 years! My husband has never “disciplined” me. 😂 and your words of choice tells me you’re very “manly” but how manly can you really be? Hiding behind a fake profile picture and fake name. Keep your dictatorship opinion to yourself. THANK YOU!!!!
I'm a very open minded person, but this relationship seriously pisses me off. Abuse is never okay.
Clearly not abuse, it's consentual
@@simonwilliamnoelmurray9179 Did the kids consent to seeing their mom get beaten? 👂🏾
@@TamESQ she wants it
@@edward4817 You didn’t answer my question. Do the kids consent to their mother being beaten by their father?
@@TamESQyou right this guy is crazy
Not Lazarus 😂😂😂
Who would name a baby that
Why would you want this to happen if you don’t enjoy it 😭 it’s not making sense
EXACTLY. Why is she making him hurt her?
She likes it! 👍🏼
@@smoothtalka6204 exactly but says she doesn’t
It's part of the submissive thing. She takes pleasure from it but she wouldn't admit to it. Hence, submission. But, with boundaries since she was the one who created it in the first place. She is really in control but she wants the illusion that she is not.
@@valvihk3649I agree
So glad the daughter isn’t gonna go down this path.
I couldn’t pay attention cause of all the stuff that was stocked up in the house. They are stocked for years! I love it!
Me neither! I had an adult ADD moment when I saw the stockpile of toilet paper.😮
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Did her daughter just say that, wow I love that girl she’s like not me for me but watching her mother go through that could seriously damage her either way
So what about when the husband disobeys the rules or is dishonest?
Go ask her.
She pegs him
The rules are ONLY for the Wives, this is Patriarchy, Not equality. Only God punishes the Husband in marriage.
1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the HEAD of every MAN is CHRIST; and the HEAD of the woman is the MAN; and the head of Christ is God
@@Chris-dv5scare you a sexist or something surely seems like it with all that bs you are writing
Wonder what type of psychopaths their children will grow to be seeing this dynamic between man/woman.. could be bad..
Their kids are definitely gonna become messed up mentally 😬
@@xxcryssmarie224 babygirl seems very intelligent but this is still her reality and her upbringing.. and that could affect her and her relationships still 💔😢
Perhaps televangelists.
@@QUEEN_323 im more scared for the boy. He is being trained to believe this is how you treat a woman.
@@sigmasiren777 true.. a young woman can meet the right man to submit to and dump some of those ridiculous beliefs.. the little boy will grow to be the head of the household and the one being submitted to.. very scary
Couldnt be me. A ninja hit me im hitting back, scratching back, biting back. I would never "never" consent to this because i know i would be quick to hit back out of reflex.🤷🏾♀️
Why are we accepting unhealthy relationships and promoting them online.
“Babe, do you think we need to stock up on toilet paper and laundry detergent?”
This is unbelievable, I pray for those kids. They are the ones that are going to be abusers. They should be turned in. This is a prime example why some people do not need kids!
Agreed! Also, the son wearing a shirt that says "superior". Hes basically being trained to become a household tyrant.
When that kid gets older, he’s never gonna talk to that dad again
This would be fine if it was some kinda secret kink, it just get really weird when they let kids/ friends see it.
If none of them enjoy it, why are they doing it?
Exactly wtf
The wife feels she needs someone to lead her. She may have trouble doing her housework and meeting other domestic duties without punishment to motivate her.
They crazy as hell
@denisenoe3702, I think you hit it right on the nose.
I think she just has a fear of divorce and used this as a way to cope of the chances that they could divorce
It’s only problematic when you expose your kid to this, like this would traumatize me if I’m the child
She crazy ain’t no way I will let a man control me like that smh she like a little child
If you need someone to punish you for not doing chores..and you are an adult it just sounds like you have some issues with self-discipline. Why do you need someone to spank you for that? Learn to hold yourself accountable for the things you need to do. Or learn to communicate your displeasure with your partner like an adult. This seems like a method for immature adults.
Stop judging their lifestyle just because you don't understand it. The only issue I really see is exposing young kids to it
😂 you summed it! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
It's a sexual fetish not moral logic you are putting into it. She probably breaks the rules on purpose to get spanked. It's a turn on for some people and has nothing to do with anything you said.
Fr
He better be paying all them bills too smh
Love don’t judge…but I certainly do.
10 pages for what??!!! For who?!! 😂
We're happier than we've ever been -THAT'S WHAT THEY ALL SAY
Lol we found the couple that took all the toilet paper during the pandemic !
This is psychological
Daddy issues?
Poster child for daddy issues! The daughter got more sense than her why the lil boy cussing in front of mom she cool with that? I’m grown I don’t curse in front of my parents or elders!
I fell so bad for your kids
What is WRONG with women like this?
You need domestic discipline for your ignorance.😐
childhood trauma
Makes me wonder if all of this may stem from her mom being abused or something? And her thinking it is OK
Honestly they should have kept the kids out of grown folks business , they shouldn’t know what’s going on in the bedroom … but overall, I fw the “domestic discipline” , me and my boyfriend do it often 😂🫶🏽
Right
Just made this comment
Pray for these children 🙏🏾
She's lying.... she enjoys it otherwise she wouldnt do it. It was her idea💯
1:04 now thats why we don't have any toilet paper #RIP2020
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Why tf do their kids know about their gross dynamic? Nasty
I married a rooster and we both live in a penthouse
Love don't judge
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OMG LMAO so accurate
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I was way more disturbed by their laundry room than their lifestyle 😆
Are they normal?
Their body language is off.
Punish me in the bedroom only .. put your hands on me use any object I swear God I'm going be on the FIRST 48
You see all that toilet paper!
I tought just me i noticed 😂😂 Must left from lockdown when was the crieses of toilet papers 😂
This is really no different from a BDSM relationship. She craves to be controlled. Nothing wrong with it as long as both parties consent.
It’s wrong bc their bringing their kink into the whole house. Your kinks need to stay in the room.
@@sydneyellis2141 says who.
@@sydneyellis2141 its lifestyle not just sex thing
yes and no. I feel like this is different than BDSM. The point of BDSM is that its fun and fufilling for both parties. If neither of them likes it, what is the point. Also hell yes to the people who said your children should never be exposed to your kinks, or any of whatever this is.
@@Mampleasewhat some bdsm relationships are also a lifestyle. The world of Kink is a very vast place these days, and theres a lot to know about it.
Beyond the obvious, does he not allow her to leave the house because they are stocked up like we’re headed into Y2K
Im more curious about her extreme couponing habbits
Corner time… I am too grown for someone to put me in a corner for a time out
forget the corner, lost me at the lines cause what 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂this is just super crazy I can’t handle such nonsense
You cant scream abuse, she wanted this lifestyle. Its really a fetish/preference. You cant judge someone for something they like. Lots of people enjoy being spanked as an adult. Hell I like it yet I dont spank my children. Yall be taking things too seriously! Let them live their happy life, they made this video to share it with people because they thought maybe somebody out there might would like this lifestyle too and they could connect with them.
the main problem is neither of them seem to like it or get off on it. I guess thats the main thing that separates this from a sort of ddlg dom/sub dynamic. and thats why its so weird.
First of all why do their kids need to know about this BS that’s the real issue obviously she wants to sit in her trauma that’s OK if you make that decision as an adult but don’t bring innocent children into it that’s weird
Misery loves company... they're happy and a lot of other people are not. So they in turn try to push their insecurities on to other people..
Abuse is abuse
This is literally not even abusive imo this is like just a kink they both are into the idea of being dom n sub
This is giving fucking roll play vibes this is crazy shit fr
see my only questions are; where are these "benefits" to the relationship they mention, and why would you even involve your kids?
Lazarus admitted he was hesitant to even try it, and Brandi says she hates the punishments and the tedium of some of them. so where are these ends that "justify the means"? neither of them get anything positive out of this, so how does it contribute to the relationship in any positive sense? it just seems to be a miserable aspect of the relationship that neither of them like to be part of.
and the kids being taught about it, like why involve them in any way?
Damn, if sis eyes aren't saying "help"... 😮😅
She said they don’t enjoy it. So…
And she has nice TihTz!
Why do their kids know about this?
Girl to each is own but go awwfff😂✊🏾
This is a red flag here
Who? You?
@@voiceofreason1829 because when the wife breaks rules his husband punishes her, and she doesn't tend to like it
To each their own, but I just feel like this could escalate into a danger zone. I don't think anyone should ever let another person get comfortable with hitting them.
I just want the spankings 😜
Writing lines is unlikely to be a turn-on.
@@denisenoe3702 MMMM, LINES
Since she brought it into their relationship she must know herself well and what she needs to thrive in it. And she probably wants her marriage to last and not end due to out of control anger issues and volatility. Many do well when they know where the boundaries are and respect them. If it works for them, and is consensual, it's far better than seeing a broken home, with children struggling to live.
Many do well...Many..what? Couples? Wives? Husbands? And why shouldn't husbands have boundaries as well. Why does it work for her to have rules when their roles are completely different but not for him? That makes no sense at all.
I’m actually worried about the husband. He doesn’t seem all that comfortable with it. More like he is just accustomed to it at this point. But while it’s not for me, the fact that the daughter speaks so eloquently and clearly states her thoughts makes me think they aren’t forcing it on their children and I really really hope my opinion is correct.
I’m judging I don’t care. This is sad smh.
🤯awesome! Ima tell my wife to read this book. So long dishes for me!!😂
wonder if theyre still married
I'm sure they are. She allows him to control her.
Man hell nah 🤣🤣 at 1:38 he was finna spazz out if she ain’t remember those 4 D’s. his face says it all
She forget on purpose. How you been doing this for 2 years and can’t remember 4 words 😂😂😂. She probably does thing on purpose to get discipline
Huh if you're not enjoying it than why do it at least have fun with it and don't share it with your kids
Did anyone not see how much toilet paper they have in the beginning 💀👀
What are all the paper rolls for?
Honestly I feel like she is forcing him to do this he doesn’t seem 100 % comfortable about this from what I see, he is being abused too!
I don’t mind the dynamic. From my perspective it is bdsm. I’m here for it, but my issue is why do the kids have to know about it or be around it? It is possible to do this without them knowing.
This is not normal
every time I watch love not judge I am tempted to judge not love
Sick..its just not normal.
Only in Ohio💀💀
That’s a LIE! I promise you stepford Brandi rum & coke lives somewhere in westbumblef@#% she not from the Land h 2. H.. Naw!!!
The man simply control this woman,a responsible man will never treat his woman like this ...This is simply domestic violence..
This is a responsible man. A real Husband at that. And She is a real Wife. This is a Traditional Marriage. This is not Domestic Violence. This is called Domestic Chastisement. A Duty granted by God for a Husband to Rule and Train his wife whom he love. You have Pagan/Feminist Ideological beliefs regarding marriage, that Religious people do NOT adhere to
She must coupon all that extra stuff piled up.
Kudos to them, Im glad that it works for them and so glad that they are open enough about it with their children, to the point that their daughter knows that she does not want this type of relationship.
That’s one smart 13 yr old and I’m going to just leave it at that.
Is this another version of “FIFTY SHADES OF GREY”
OG a true player 😂
if that was my dad. My grandma would've got in his sh*t about that ngl.
An actual wall of toilet paper???
I had a relationship but he forced me to it and wouldn´t unlock the doors so in my eyes this is crazy