My Husband Controls My Life - And I Love It | LOVE DON'T JUDGE
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THIS 'traditional housewife' lets her husband sleep with other women to keep him happy. Monica Huldt, 37, believes that the secret to a happy relationship is for the man to make the decisions and the woman should always aim to please by adopting an old-school ‘traditional wife’ role. They have been together for six years, and she explained to Truly why she knew that she had finally met her perfect match. “I’ve always had a submissive side.” Adding that: “It's not that I’m a hopeless little girl. He’s assertive and I like that in a man.” From an early age, she had the Stepford wife attitudes instilled in her: “My mum told me, ‘be pretty and in good shape because nobody wants a fat and ugly wife'.” Her subservient nature goes beyond the kitchen and into the bedroom, where John is allowed to sleep with other women. This setup works for John’s values too, “I’m the man and I make the rules around the house”, he explained. “Sleeping with other women is a luxury that most guys wish they had. I think that makes me a better husband." Their relationship dynamic works for them, but has caused rifts with loved ones. “I’ve had childhood friends straight out telling me that I’d lost my dignity as a woman," Monica added.
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When he lost control of his hairline he took control of everything else.
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I don't remember the part about traditional marriage meaning that your husband can sleep with whomever he wants.
I agree it’s not a marriage,it’s her desperation.
not everyone can handle or even comprehend being a winner
@landonmodlin5691 You mean a low self esteem doormat. There, fixed it for you!😂
Don’t remember it either!!
This is not being a submissive wife. This is something else. She doesn’t have her own identity.
She’s being used
I agree it doesn't seem right, but it is by her own choice.
Lol😂
Him talking about being an alpha male while the camera shows his toys😭💀
Omg lol
That was a pretty cool bulldozer though.
But... I also have a 6 year old; so my perception might be skewed. 🤣
@@HerculesRockefellerESQ 😂
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Shrunken beetlejuice head. Day-yo 😂
Sorry, can't get over his small head. It isn't proportional to his body. Sorry
Was looking for this comment lol first thing I noticed
Looollll I saw it the moment I read the comment
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😂 same .. looks strange
Fairly sure there are other parts to him that are quite tiny as well.
If she's doing all this, the least he can do is be faithful. She doesn't seem to like that her husband can have sex with others. He says they have an traditional marriage, but a "traditional" marriage consists of both partners being faithful, physically and mentally, to one another.
Actually that’s not true at all, almost all trad marriages in history have been polygamous on the man’s side, and he makes all the money and has done the hard work to make their lives comfortable so he’s doing a lot as well
@@Graciehunter32 You make a fair point.
He got her to go along with his having sex with other women. Almost everyone enjoys sexual variety.
@@Graciehunter32 not true
She doesn't like it that he has sex with others but she willingly goes along with it. He does many things for her but is not the main support of the couple as the wife makes money through her porn modeling.
I’m submissive in a lot of ways as well. I want/like my husband to be dominant. I’m also very grateful that l get to be a stay at home wife/mother. - dominant doesn’t mean controlling. My husband doesn’t sleep with other women because he loves me and is committed to me.
There’s no way that this guy doesn’t know how she actually feels about him sleeping with other women. He just doesn’t care.
Great points, I feel I’m aligned with your view no cheating but it’s nice to have the power balance figured out. Makes life much easier.
Hi, I’m polyamorous and this wouldn’t fly in a healthy polyamorous relationship or ethical nonmonogomy relationship. How she feels matter
I Agree💯💯💯✅
It's fake though
Cope 😂.
This is honestly just an abusive relationship that she seems too scared to leave
@Dinesh Mandal *you're
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So now that we know he sleeps with other woman, we can piece this entire thing together. She doesn’t like being controlled by him, she wants to tell him she doesn’t like him sleeping with other woman but can’t because she’s worried if she speaks up he will leave her. Which he will. She doesn’t want to be alone and she doesn’t want to struggle financially. She hates her life.
according to sources, her net worth is $7 million
She has an OnlyFans
what do you know
That is EXACTLY the vibe I felt. She's so desperate for him & he doesn't love her, takes full advantage of it & it breaks my heart.
@@BellaIsMyBaby how do you know that?
I feel so bad for Monica. Sentenced to a life of hard labor for the benefit of a man who is unfaithful. So sad.
Oh yeah real hard labor those chores are! All that washing you own clothes and making your own food and not living in a disgusting home. Such a slave 🫤
Kevin, if that’s how they like respect that
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@@oso_westside47Are u gay
im not asking to b offensive but i just get vibes and i wanted to know
I don’t think a woman who does all the housework is hard labor. She does not work outside; yes her goal should be to please and serve him the way he deserves. I would not accept him sleeping with other women
It’s not a traditional marriage if he sleeps with other women! I think it hurts her heart that he does that.
Yeah. They always lie and say that it’s an agreement between the two but the truth remains. There was another video where a woman said that she didn’t mind her husband having a girlfriend but she couldn’t even talk about it on camera.🤦🏽♀️
Yeah that part of the deal shouldn't even exist in a marriage.
I watched an interview she made with soft underbelly. She grew up with a narcissistic mum (she said this herself) an alcoholic dad who left at some point and had a difficult childhood and adulthood. Here she describes her mum as a "good mum" but in the interview, it's a totally different story her mum tried to control every move she makes even when she moved to the US. Monica is originally from Poland and at 4 she and her mum moved to Sweden. I wonder why she has this people's pleaser mentality as that all she did growing up trying to please her mum so she does not get berated and beaten. She did say while crying that she is never happy and all she wanted is her mum to love her, she never felt unconditional love and she doesn't even know what that is. This is what she is used to growing up being controlled and trying to please her mum so this is all familiar to her. Very sad really. Monica is actually a qualified teacher.
Scary, imagine he doesn't, only what she is doing for him; sounds selfish of him.
sounds like my mom and parents , alcoholic and BPD dad , narcisstik mom , good combo , But I am opposite her , im selfish and , idgaf type of person , and I recognized that nothing wrong bout me , problem is theirs , and I dont react and dont give an attention , and I do same too , I am assertive and set boundaries from the beginning , but still struggling and trying hard to convince myself that I deserve to be loved while respecting myself , but never did , and I am avoidong do this narcisstik behaviour to my daughter
Oh no. This is where she ended up? I watched the soft white underbelly interview and ended up here from a NY post article and had no idea until this comment. She is such a sweet and loving girl. This makes my soul hurt
Sadly, I know firsthand just how much childhood trauma can affect you as an adult. I saw my first psychiatrist at the age of fourteen because of all the abuse I endured when I was a little girl. And although I still struggle with the past 35yrs later, thankfully it's getting better. The only reason I'm finally starting to heal after all these years is because I opened up my heart to the Lord. ♡ It's the best thing I've ever done and I just pray she finds the Lord too.
Fuck . This is the side that I need to do hard-core therapy before I get involved in a relationship.
My mom passed away and we were so codependent I was 33 but if I was out for too long she would freak out and get really mad at me I made my own money but if I wanted to pay for a cleaner I would have to sneakily get a cleaner And if she found out she will be so mean. I kept telling her to go to the doctor and she kept on saying my body my choice and that I was being paranoid. I think I’m OK with just being alone for now and I know that it’s really bad two be so vulnerable to strangers. I’m not even gonna get into what happened on my birthday but it made me realize how vulnerable and it can’t be desperate I am for love. Like a part of me wonders if this random man I’d like asked me to get plastic surgery and move in with him like what I have said yes I don’t think I would’ve but the people pleasing it’s so bad. I just wanna do what people say and please people.
After listening to her story on a podcast and it made me cry, I just want to hug her and with everything she’s been through I understand why she allows him to do what he wants. It can be hard to set boundaries with people you love when you’ve been starved of love.
I hope he stops sleeping with other women because it’s very obvious it hurts her, or she finds else someone that can be faithful.
You accept the love you think you deserve.
yeah it made me cry too, because she's so stupid it hurts my brain.
I saw that video and it seems like the sleeping around part is balanced out by the fact that she did porn and makes more money than he ever will on Onlyfans. I get the impression that besides the sexual aspect he is kind, loving and protective of her which is something she really needs after her life of parental abuse and missing father and I really hope this is the case.
If u gonna be with an high value men then u have to be ready for him to cheat. If u cant handle it then choose the average guy😂
@@nathanielpettersen2560 I’d rather live in a small house built on trust and honesty than in a mansion of lies.
@@Nosteponsneksss nope u wouldt. U would rather share a rich dude then having an average guy by urself. U gonna change ur mind when ur 40 thats for sure😂
He is so toxic and i feel like She is just scared to lose him this is heart breaking
There is nothing traditional about this marriage. He breaks the commandment by sleeping with other women and controls every aspect of this marriage. I feel sorry for this girl.
All traditional marriages in history were polygamous
@@Graciehunter32 were the people in those “marriages” happy?
she does too. this woman does porn with other men under the name "Nikie"
@@kim6828 are people in todays marriages happy? No the divorce rate is at an all time high , more than half of marriages don’t last and most divorces are initiated by women, because many women will leave you if they think they’ve found something better
@@Graciehunter32 maybe you’re right 🤔 i was thinking to myself maybe that would be beneficial. You and your partner have another partner that actually sounds kinda fun
The sleeping with other women thing is so disrespectful. Like wtaf.
I’m a housewife and SAHM and my husband works. There’s mutual respect between us and we would never sleep with other people outside our marriage. Run girl.
Would you rather your friend have an average life with an average man who she doesn’t really love or be married to a man who Deeply loves her, takes care of her in every single way and the kids, makes sure she is never stressed out about anything and lives in a big house but occasionally sleeps with 1 strange girl a month who he doesn’t love kiss or care about
And that is a genuine question
@@arthurrotter694 men really arent scared of Herpes (1 in 4 ppl have it), stds, BV etc yukkkkkk 🤢
@@arthurrotter694 I would chose “Average” all day over any STD, STI, aids or whatever else my so called “loving” hubby brings home to me from sleeping around! I hold faithfulness and trustworthiness to the highest regard for myself. Vows especially. Don’t marry if you cannot devote yourself to ONE.
@@arthurrotter694In what universe are these the only two options. Just cheat on ur wife n go. Why u looking for approval to do so🤨
Sadly she grew up without a chance of EVER developing any self esteem. Just in the sad way she looks away and downwhen she speaks “I love making him happy “ means she doesn’t. She needs to step away and realize she is worth it and doesn’t have to be in a marriage like this.. she’s only focusing on HIS needs. Especially the part of him being allowed to sleep with other woman , the hurt in her eyes breaks me . Walk away girl you deserve soo much better , THIS is not a “traditional “ marriage
Other than being up front about the “consensual cheating” thing, I don’t see how it differs. I also don’t see why that’s a bad thing either - the traditional relationship part. Not all homemakers have low self esteem bc they never dreamed of going to law school as a little girl. I just can’t with this shit anymore.
maybe. just made. You're projecting
@@msr2566 lol is that the only “argument” you pathetic Libs have? I make way more than my boyfriend, chill bro.
@@msr2566 not everything and every term that you see online is right to be used like an expert in comment section.
@@Shqipez_art8 what???? so me pointing out that you're projecting( which you def are), you say that??? lmao yea take a seat
Just have to say as a husband that (1) shares household responsibilities, (2) views faithfulness as prerequisite, and (3) would never try to micromanage every aspect of my wife’s life, this is extremely sad.
You're a beta male
I as another and a fellow supporter of this mindset man agree with all of your words .
And that's why both of you are great husbands!!!!!!
The dressing her is pretty weird. You could give her a theme. Classy in public. Slutty in private.
Thanks I was looking for this
This marriage is all about HIM. Nowhere does he say that he tries to make her happy or that he wants her to be happy. It's all about HER making HIM happy, and yes, that is extremely lopsided. In the end, if they are both truly happy with it, then that's what counts, but I sure wouldn't want my kids growing up in that kind of atmosphere. And I don't think he'd be able to handle her giving attention to kids because it would mean less fawning all over him.
Other than him sleeping with other chicks I don't get why y'all are so mad
@@kereiltutt5769 I think that is the problem, bc true LOVE, is when u only have eyes for ONE. Also what if he gets a female pregnant or gives his wife an std. It shouldn't be 2 sided, she should have the same ability then, no? No, true love doesn't work like that.
In a real marriage, both people sacrifice and work to make each other happy, and both end up happy as a result.
Does she ever get to go out with her friends or do things by herself?
Nope. This is terrible. But you are right, it’s choice.
A loving husband and provider wouldn't want another woman
the way he describes why he sleeps with other women is disgusting. by the way she asks to cut the camera when asked about it she seems uncomfortable. makes me wonder if he’s forcing her into letting him
I think in this day and age, if you feel forced into something (whatever it may be) by your significant other, then you just part ways. Seems to be what happens easily these days anyway. Plus, she doesn't look unhappy to me.
Ultimately we don't really know their relationship as well as they do. With that being said, let them be the judge of their own situation. If they're happy with it, our opinions don't really matter.
Andrew Tate watcher I’m sure this guy looks up to him 😢
yeah its not a traditional marriage
she can leave if she wants
@@jaimecohen7584 what
When she was asked by the two women and couldn't answer straight out, hesitated and was visibly tense when he came back, you could tell right away that there was something hugely wrong. Toxic, toxic, toxic and in no way traditional.
Personally as a women myself I want to be a house wife submissive to my husband but I don’t want to be cheated on if I’m taking care of everyone and cooking and cleaning but other then that I love me a dominant man 😭
Completely fair. Many compliments to you for being a woman that knows how things SHOULD go, even in today's society.
@@Ralph2023_1A Ofc handsome 🥹
" Can we cut " !!!!
This is undetermined sad one sided love story .
shes full of crap. She loves him, shes just jeolous she cant control him as most women do to men. Im glad he has the life he has and he is in control of his life, and if she doesnt like it, she can leave, but shes not :)
@@jinkazama2555eriously !
U r saying she is jealous because a wife don't want his husband go fuk around !
I don't judge this man , he has complete freedom , same for this woman to leave .
But their is a problem when she got embarrassed on That question when she said " can we cut ".
I dont judge swingers relationship cause I know its Equal mutual understand. But this is different.
She truly lost her self esteem as her friend tells her . And if her friends think that , that means her friendship is just gossip chit-chat club...
The question is why she is doing this .
Is this Definition of love !
Is this being submissive married relationship Definition means !!
No my dear friend this is not marriage , she totally fits in definition of Sugar Baby .
That why he will not get her pregnant .
@@nishantjaikari2484 My thing is, he is the best she can get. There are trade offs to getting a man like that, a man thats in shape, that has his money on point, confident etc. These to work to aquire for a man, he is in his prime. and she has accepted it. She is past her prime bcoz as a women she is older, her prime was in her early 20s and she wasnt settling down for a man.
This mans prime is now in his 30s, mens value is up as they age and he living his best life in his prime.
People should not hate the man. Its rare seeing a man get what he wants in a relationship or marriage, because most of the time, men cave to what the women want. So this is refreshing to see and im for it. Great for him.
@@jinkazama2555 Men have been controlling women and their autonomy for thousands of years all in order to ensure they can have their own private slave which gives them a heir and satisfies their lust and men still try to control so you are naive to think that woman are controlling men .
@@jinkazama2555Let me you trade offs of marring any woman she gives birth to your and her children and provides you with family , she is one tends to do all care work and make sure her family stays in shape and be healthy while cooking healthy food for you and your family which men like your can't cook so don't even dare to put women like her down by saying just because you earn and look good the prize and she should be okay with you cheating on her when in reality it is men who need men more than women need due to all of this things she is earning more money than him and that is why he is should be grateful towards her by being faithful and nice cause because of his behavior he only deserved as golddiggers but found a jewel like her .
I could never submit to a man I had to share. 🤢🤮
My mom is a housewife and loves to care for husband and kids and in return she gets the utmost respect and love from all of her family members who woulf be ready to do anything for her ! This is a traditional normal family not what she is in 😂
She definitely lost her dignity as a women. How can you let your husband continuously sleep with other women? I find that disgusting.
This is abuse. Pure abuse, she is just too traumatised and insecure and afraid to lose him, this is seriously messed up.
Wonder if he’s financially abusive as well? Micromanaging what she spends money on and does he restrict her spending.
Sooo she works so hard to please him and "make him happy" but what happens when he's unhappy? He seems a bit douchey.
He probably has no reason not to be happy to be honest lol
he seems pretty chill...
Some women have a bad taste in men
@@msr2566 He seems to have a lot of anger underneath the surface and it would emerge if Monica attempted to go against the "rules," or decided to leave him!
I believe that they've BOTH experienced trauma in their pasts though and people learn to cope in different ways, then it clearly shows in so-called relationships, which is heartbreaking. 🙁
@@warren010h hahaha, true, he is living the life he wants, he is happy
“Can we cut” says enough. Normally I’m all for not judging other relationships, however it seems she has nothing outside of him, grown adult can’t even pick out her on clothes is kinda really concerning
yeah i was thinking the same thing. you can tell that dynamic is unbalanced.
He is a jerk by cheating, and his wife supporting him cheating is bad.😢 cheating is negative behavior and should not be accurate as love and tolerance.
A husband is supposed to love his wife just as much as he loves himself / his own body. This doesn't meet that requirement, sadly. He's taking advantage of her and they both know it. Their 'arrangement' has nothing to do with submission like she thinks it does...
This, ladies and gentlemen, is the definition of delulu.
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Her: My mom told me how to please a man.
So your mom told you that how to please a man is to let him sleep with other women if he wants? Bad advice mom.
Why is it John can sleep with other women?
Her: Looks down, makes a stupid facial expression then says "Can we cut?"
Camera "cuts" to John and he speaks. Didn't ask John. Asked Monica. Can't express yourself Monica? Tell us how you REALLY feel!
Bottom line, if you like it, I love it. To each their own.
I was in a relationship years ago with a controlling guy, when you’re in it it’s too hard to see it’s wrong, but after I did a lot of work on myself, had counselling and sorted my past trauma out, I’d never put up with that again. I feel sorry for her that she feels the need to be dominated and let’s him sleep with other women, that’s just insane
I was as well! If it wasn't for my best friend saying something and snapping me to reality, I don't know if I could of walked away from that marriage. 🤗
@@Acombhair I’m glad you got out of it 🌈🌈🌈
Someone save this poor woman
shes a strong independent women who dont need no man, if she wants to be saved, she can "save" herself. Right?
@@jinkazama2555 we dont know that, i personally dont understand who would consent to this type of lifestyle.
@@k4woru17 but she did ya dope! lol! the world is much bigger than your personal experience. She made her choice, thats the best she can get and she knows it. And this man is actually pretty good. He is in shape, has money, strong, masculine etc. He worked his way up to get what he wants and he deserves the rewards.
@@jinkazama2555 if you say so
@@jinkazama2555 You're fcked up dude😂😂
In a traditional marriage, the man pays the bills. She is the breadwinner, while he makes almost no money as a music teacher.
Him sleeping with other women makes the relationship more relaxed?? This woman does NOT look completely happy or relaxed. I hope she finds herself and finds the courage to give this guy the finger and walk away.
She should seek medical help, I mean how can a wife can let her husband sleep with other women to keep him happy and that too she loves it !?! Absolutely f*ck !
Y'all, the first time I saw this the look in her eyes made me sad because I knew there was something in her past that made her go along with this bullshit. I just saw her interview on Soft White Underbelly and oh my God I cannot believe she went what she went through. My heart breaks for her and I sincerely hope she heals one day because she's an incredibly strong and lovely woman. I hope she realizes she is worthy of everything life has to offer and can truly see that she matters.
I agree. So sad that she has become so desperate & he takes advantage of her completely. I'm sickened.
I just saw it and was heartbreaking what she's gone through during her entire life. She's a beautiful soul, but she needs a lot of help.
Is she on Soft White Underbelly ? I’ve got to look that up. She’s clearly suffering and Idc what anyone says. This dude is an asshole
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I'm not a creative person I just saw this video and you've verified what I sensed about beautiful Monica!
It seemed to me that she's been through a lot of trauma, including in regard to her mother and I subscribed to Soft White Underbelly a long time ago, so I'll watch her interview when I can.
I don't want to judge her marriage though, because it's her choice and she might change her mind at a later date. ❤
Monica, if you’re reading this, please do something positive to your life for the first time. Go and a therapist, a good one, to heal your traumas, your wounds. Choose the best that you have where you live. You deserve better!! ❤ ❤❤
Same thing with my mom she’s afraid of my dad and I don’t mean that in a drastic way I mean that’s how it actually is
Idiot she is submissive and wants to remain like a slave...it's her sexual desire that comes by doing slavery
“I live to please my husband.”
So you have no goals or personality of your own? What is your purpose in life?
It’s so sad! We have come so far as women only for someone like her to come and set us back to 1950!
To please her husband and be taking care of who are you to determine what her purpose is.
@@tayviasmalls she has NO purpose that’s what’s so sad. She’s with an Andrew tate wanna be lol
Her purpose it to be a help meet for her husband. That is an amazing purpose.
@@LXIVGOLD No her purpose is to be a used slave which exists to obey her husband's every command while being submissive which is so demeaning as a purpose .
Pathological relationship. An abusive husband, an abused woman. Good luck raising a stable family
I’ve been with my husband since 9th grade. We are now 46 n 47 years old. We raised 3 kids. We’ve w married almost 25 years and together 32 years. N nobody had an affair. U don’t have what u think u have with this man cause that romance is a lil one sided. My husband and I from day one worked as a team. We’ve never argued over money, we have never argued over housework and we never argued about the children. We were a team that was always perfectly in sink. We both did it. N no matter what we always always had each other’s back! Always! He still brings me coffee every time he’s, I have heart trouble and any time I’ve been in the hospital that man wouldn’t leave my side. He has cut my food up and served it to me in bed. We can have a conversation without speaking a word. Our parents still to this day as soon as they see one of us they say “ here’s one which means the other isn’t far behind.” I can tell him anything. My sugar shot up today pretty high and I didn’t know what I was doing so our adult kids called him and the next thing I know he’s on the phone. I lost about 20 minutes. That man stopped everything n calmed me
Down so my daughter could give me an insulin shot. U wanna know what a true alpha man does he treats his woman with dignity and respect, he speaks to her with purpose, he the first one to calm down an argument not stoke it, he has ur back at all cost, he makes u feel like the only woman in a room, he doesn’t care what u wear cause to him u would look good in anything, he puts ur needs ahead of his own, he would go without eating just so u can because a real Alpha male wouldn’t be so insecure that he has to be little a woman to stay with him. A real Alpha male has confidence not arrogance and there is a huge difference he doesn’t need to mentally or emotionally beat someone down and rip there confidence to shreds just to keep them a true alpha’s confident enough that he doesn’t have the need to! This man is absolutely abusing u! U are so brainwashed that ur ok with this man screwing ppl behind ur back and then u can see on his face that he gets pleasure out of rubbing her nose in it. Ur in a volatile n abusive relationship u need to safely get the heck outta there.
lol. your a clown.
While I agree with you about their partnership, marriage is nothing to brag about or be proud of. It's just a condition of your life and not an accomplishment.
He has the tiniest head. Pinhead looks and attitude.
“ 8:36 I get everything I want and I think it makes me a better husband”
I wonder if they’re still together?
His tiny head looks likes it will pop off like a little zit
Beetlejuice shrunken head 😂
I had to HUNT for someone else acknowledging his tiny tiny head... Lol
I get being submissive. I get wanting to make your partner happy. All things i can relate to and agree with. It’s nice having someone take over the reigns sometimes. But she’s is relying WAY too heavily on her happiness stemming from making him happy. And her saying “i feel more confident when picks my outfits cause i know i look good for him”. Babe, look good for yourself!! Be confident because you’re you and you chose your clothes!! And for her to be as loving, dutiful and faithful as she is…he still feels the need to essentially cheat on her?? Because of “biology”?? Like bro there is no such thing as an alpha male in nature. And yeah while you see some mammals have multiple partners, there are others that mate with one partner FOR LIFE. I don’t want to be a hater but this relationship seems sick and toxic. I hope she realizes just how much better she deserves sooner than later.
Right she needs to be happy on her own first instead of relying on caregiving to make her happy. At least he gave her an option when he talked about sleeping with other woman. I’m also not seeing a connection the guy has towards her. We all have flaws but this seems like the bare minimum for a healthy relationship
💯🙌 agree!!
lol. just leave them be.
There is such a thing as an alpha male in real life. How do you think the strongest wolf becomes the leader? Bec he doesn't take any crap from the other wolves.
@@tranquility9325 you know the author of this whole alpha thing said it wasn't true?
I feel like he's a complete narcissist. He reminds me of my ex-boyfriend who was very narcissistic and all he did differently from this guy was basically cheating while not telling me because that's how he was like boosting his self-esteem and always pleasing his ego with like different narcissistic supplies. He was also like trying to choose my clothes, telling me what to wear, telling me what to eat, giving me curfews and like being super dominant and making me be a housewife which I disagreed to be but he forced me to. Also he was like always telling me not to speak with any guys but this guy had the real audacity to even like admit that he sleeping with other girls and even saying it in front of his girlfriend! I think that's hella disrespectful! Like even the guy who was my ex was really disrespectful to me was at least better cuz he was not telling me this openly to hurt me like that in TV but this guy oh my god💀💀 I think he told her about cheating on her and sleeping with other girls cuz he knows that she won't leave him and she's a good puppet for him and yeah she just has no value in herself and I'm sorry about that...
So a narcissist has toys, legos and plays guitars in his room.That’s not even close to what that relationship was in the video.The guy is not controlling her.
@@Benzguy109 narcissists can't have toys?! Are you 6 years old or something?! Didn't you hear and see his entitlement? How he even said "all other guys would be envious of what I CAN HAVE". Like wake up! That guy screams red flags all over him! He talks about some shitty things which are far from traditional. If he loved his wife, if she was enough why would he go sleep around?! Isnt he controlling her in what she is wearing? It was shown in video. Who knows what happens behind closed doors, we cannot know. Your comment is very immature, it seems you haven't experienced a real narcissistic abuse luckily.
@@liss8751 The cheating part yeah I don’t like that but that is the only wrong thing in that relationship.But calling him narcissistic and entitled really bro.That’s the problem with society nowadays you guys always want to blame the guy.First off he didn’t even say much in the video.Second of all he’s not entitled.If he was then he would only care about home self.Cleary that’s not the case because he loves that woman.
He's taking advantage of her love....but he is free do so WHATEVER, simply bc she doesn't wanna lose this...loser.
That's a 1 sided love story to me.
@Dinesh Mandal Or it doesn't. You can read from her face cause not every words that came out of the mouth is true.
Nah, when she is also allowed to sleep around then I’ll support this but until then, he got her brainwashed.
But does she want to sleep around tho? Women do not WANT to sleep around like men cuz they are not built for it. Women with high body counts are miserable
@@doccock2115 wtf how you gonna speak for all women? I know plenty of happy & successful women who sleep with as many people as they WANT cause they WANT to do it. BOY BYE with that misogyny
@@burritobaabe If they wanna be hoes thats fine, but the majority of women dont. You dont even know what misoginy means
@@doccock2115 dude, hahaha. Stop. They aren’t hoes because they like sex and b/c they have had multiple partners. How many women do you know? Not much it seems. You’re funny, get off the internet. You’ll never be this dude, I’m sowwy :(((
@@doccock2115 also, it’s misogyny** lmao learn to spell it first.
She did an interview very recently on Soft White Underbelly talking about her childhood trauma and her witch of a mother. Interesting watch
Do you have the link?
Exactly and here she said "her mom taught her....". This is weird to me lol
@@gjvnq Yes, youtube search " Monica Huldt - Soft White Underbelly" where she talks about her childhood.
Oh hell nah. A traditional relationship is great if that's what you both want - that's not the issue. The issue is I feel like he's taking advantage of her submissiveness to try and sleep with other women. I seriously doubt Monica initiated the open relationship on his end. You have to think how they got there - he probably implied or outright told her he wanted to sleep with other women. Wow, that would be really hurtful. And she agreed because she wants to keep her husband happy. That doesn't mean she's happy about it though (3:05). All she does is for him, all he does is for himself. That's why this relationship is not equal. I wish you all the best, Monica.
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I mean he pays for everything and she can leave if she wants! He's not forcing her to stay
@@33Chapter Why do people stay with toxic people? Manipulation
@@aprilrose1440 lol I don't know if this is real to begin with
She literally nearly cried & when asked she said "it just sorta happened." As in, she has No say & is desperate to not lose him. She doesn't value herself.
This is when low self esteem and insecurities (probably dragging from child/young age) meets ego-centered personality. It's a fact that these kind of "Dom" "sub" relationships are more often than not, just a way of one person to satisfy ( and get away with almost anything) his or her desires of control upon somebody clearly insecure and way too self conscious to let anyone down by just saying no. She likes to please him...but really is a way of saying please don't leave me cause i'm not good enough so I'll do whatever You want so you "love" me. It's sad and I'm saying this from personal experience, it's pathetic and it's a mental disorder from extreme low self esteem and child traumas.
Yeah pretty much.
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Exactly!
So happy my parents raised 4 head strong women. You are going to respect me or kick rocks in flip flops. But everyone is different. If she likes it, I love it. Just won't be me.
I don’t like using this word. But this dude is a heavy narcissist.
This is not a healthy dom/sub situation. She should be able to have experiences outside of the marriage as well if he does. That is only fair. It's about both parties getting what they need.
everything scares me here: his tiny head, the empty house, her fake lashes...
He is not even goodlooking. 🤮 bleh
His body is nice!
Alpha male with tonka trucks on the shelves 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
miss ma'am, please free yourself omfg :(
the sleeping with other women is a hell no, the clothes is a meh, but the rest seems alright.
He is basically a cheater.
All of us are
@@l2method Thanks for giving me a written statement on the answer of the question on why a woman should never get married .
My husband wants to control my life but I actually have a brain.
This is why I prefer to remain single. Because people are crazy.
I'm not hating on being a traditional wife; I think that is a good thing, but what part of tradition makes it okay for him to sleep around? You do absolutely everything for him; in return, he cannot even stay faithful. At this point, all you are to him is his live-in maid. If you got sick and suddenly could no longer cook or clean he'd immediately dump you.
Unfortunately Monika is codependent and this is why he is able to control her, this is a living arrangement what he created and she is obeying it. I feel for her.
She is also on Soft White underbelly. Her story is just so sad
Seeing all the comments about her story and her expression makes sense. She didn’t look really happy except with her friends. I felt the heaviness in her eyes especially knowing she didn’t agree or know fully before hand. Her friends knew.
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Ela disse que não sabia antes de namorarem, mas eu notei isso nos olhos dela também.
I'm an Alpha Male (look at all my toy trucks) 😂 This guy honestly....
There is a huge difference between traditional and controlling. Cheating is a whole separate level of disrespect.
Saw this on Snapchat.. The comment section is gold.
He’s the furthest thing from “ Hot “ … for starters his head is waaaaay to small for his body but anyway 😂. I thought it was hilarious when the camera man zoomed in on his toys in his “ room “. When shouted “ Honey “ your pancakes are ready and he says “ yuuuuum I LOOOOOVE Pancakes like he’s 5yrs old. 😂🤷♀️
I also prefer the traditional relationship, but i don't consider sleeping with other women, and controlling your partner, as "traditional".
Yes, I want to make my husband happy, but I'm an adult, I can pick my clothes by myself. Of course can I wear clothes I know he likes, but it should still be my own choice.
I don't see their relationship as traditional. But as long as they're happy..☺️
what do you know about tradition?
@@33Chapter *HE SURELY LIKES MULTIPLE WOMEN BUT HE WON'T TELL US OR HIS GF*
@@blakbhnr9975 he doesn't have to do that
@@33Chapter *DO WHAT?*
@@blakbhnr9975 tell us or his gf anything
Sleeping with other women so basically an open marriage
for him only
Well, yh I don't really care what they do in their private times but I'm pretty sure not everyone wants to do open marriage as in Muslim Marriage a man can marry up to 4 wives so essentially this is polyamorous marriage but just a bit weird one which doesn't really makes sense if he's gonna sleeping around with women that aren't into long term material stuff.
He’s a control freak and a narcissist. He cheats on her and she clearly hates it. This is not a traditional marriage. Its a joke. Jokes on her.
So...he's a lion?
This is such a shame. She needs therapy so she can love herself! So sad 😢 Her mom did a number on her. What about following your own passion?
She is, her passion is being a help meet for her husband.
@@LXIVGOLD yeah cause she sounded so convincing in the video lmao
@@joshwakelin4587 she is a timid person....
why therapy lmao
Homemaking can be a passion.
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Yh people are overreacting as if they never seen Open marriages before and think monogamy marriage are the one to go when you have people cheating everywhere and you wonder why there are high divorce rates more than any other countries.
There's nothing traditional about this marriage. This is another example of people getting traditional sense of marriage twisted
He's going to physically hurt her so bad one day he's so sickening run girl run!
No he isn't
I agree, something is wrong & u can feel something boiling underneath it. She is not happy & it hurts her, yet she is desperate & probably scared. Notice how she said "it just sorta happened." (As in, she had 0 say.) He's breaking her heart & she's already broken. That's NOT love. He scares me personally.
Tbh, I felt that same thing!! As soon as he pulled his chair out to sit down at the table, the way he kinda slammed it down... Idk 😐
Eve Md I picked up on John's underlying anger, or more like rage, right away and I'm so glad some other perceptive people noticed it as well!
Mind you, I'm perceptive from way too much personal experience, including with both of my parents and other adults when I was a child.
I believe that they've BOTH experienced trauma in their pasts though; however, beautiful Monica is in a lot more danger and hope she'll be okay, unless he leaves her for one of his other sex objects, which often happens. 😥
@@BellaIsMyBaby wa wa waaa. Shes an adult, if she doesnt like it, she can leave. But shes not. Shes choosing to be with him.
I feel so bad for her. Like she really needs therapy. She’s in a lot of pain and she’s burying it down
I would have gone mad if my life revolved around cooking and housework.
ok
So then don’t do it be single and lonely in your 50’s
@@Graciehunter32 🤣 it’s XXI century mate, you’ve overslept some major changes in the world.
@@natalias50 what changed
@@Graciehunter32 Not everyone single is lonely. Some married people are.
I could clearly see that the fact that he has other women hurts her.my god this woman shows her husband love and respect.yet it still isn't enough for him to do the same for her. Yet she still goes all out for her man! Really? Your husband doesn't respect or value all that you do for him.please wake up and see that before you start to get to old.you deserve so much more I hope you see and realise that before it's too late! Peace and love 💛
They are such good actors😂
Not actors.
@@tereseday4060 I know. That was the point. 🙄
@@sierranyckole6131 Other people here think they are.
I think she is lol
It's kind of sad. In the first couple of minutes i could tell she's got some trauma that caused her to be this way. I can guess that one or both of her parents were emotionally abusive and she probably could have used a few more hugs as a child.
Where's the "love" part? Because I can't HELP but judge...
What's he on about,they have a traditional marriage?Traditional marriages don't include one partner sleeping with other people.
But... what does he do for her? That's what I want to know.
I'm guessing pays the bills since they say its traditional
She is a pet, and he is the owner
He obviously doesn’t love her as much as thinks he does.
She’s not a wife she’s housekeeper and a personal assistant.
She can’t fulfill her dreams with this guy, she needs to be free. Honestly, that guy is just a straight up hypocrite. Like seriously, why can he cheat on his wife but his wife can’t even go out on a girl’s night? She needs a knight in shining armour, not an Andrew Tate clone.
Men like him are rare, women are common. He gets to cheat because he has earned it. He is in shape & makes alot of money (i safely assume), so he knows his value. He can replace her quicker than she can replace him, AND SHE KNOWS IT.
@@jinkazama2555 She makes triple what he does on Onlyfans. He is a user and abuser. He is a pimp.
@@jinkazama2555 Says you fool she makes more money than him she can leave more quick than him as she should because he does have any ounce of respect or care for her feeling also what is this about a him earing this when he can't afford to care for him and expects his wife to take care of him like the man child he is .
@@jinkazama2555no. She pays for everything and is the main moneymaker in their family. 😊 I’m sure that’s why he has to sleep around. Cause he is ashamed he is not the provider.
@@dorianalexander2730 where did you hear she pays for everything? he is the provider, he owns everything. No women would provide resources & finances for a man long term, and have him sleep with other women while she stays faithful to him. Your clearly high on something and not living in the real world. Your a clown dude. lol
He says that they have a traditional marriage…not true. The fact that he sleeps with other women blows that hypothesis out of the water.
This isn't traditional and is in fact a narcissistic, gaslighting abuser. I hope she realises she can leave and be strong on her own two feet.
I want a man to have this amount of leadership over me but I will not support the cheating, that’s definitely a hard pass for me. If I am giving you that much control, cheating at that point is greedy and you clearly don’t need me.
That's not traditional, he's a narcissist
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THIS IS COMPLETELY FAKE‼The girl in the video MONICA is shown in another YT video of a hair stylist (channel name Guy Tang). There she comes as a friend of Plastic surgery girl Pixee fox and says her name is BELLA and shes from sweden..
She's on Soft White Underbelly.
I agree
I try not to judge love, but this isn't love.
He is just a narcissistic "alpha" male who took advantage of a woman with a very low self-esteem :(
Also, you can tell in his eyes; there is no kindness in it at all :(
Got linked here from the channel Soft White Underbelly.
Her story is messed up.
He’s totally dead in the eyes
Yeah she been through a hard life. I mean to be a very nice looking young lady. I went to the movie that was posted down here to go and see her talk about her life when she was growing up. She been been living a terrible life when she was growing up. Parents was abusive to her. She was a strong woman, because other women would probably took their life. She was strong with it .
This lifestyle is awesome. The only part I’ll never get behind is sleeping with other women. If your wife is the one committed to revolving her every move to result in your continuous happiness, why the hell would you even consider or need to sleep with another woman? His logic is that he gets everything he wants so he doesn’t become a bad husband. What he really means is he’s allowed to be with other woman without it falling under cheating, so he’s a better husband because he can have the freedom to do what other men couldn’t do without being labelled unloyal. If she wasn’t accepting the way she was, he would not be a good husband at all, it’s only her acceptance that is justifying the cheating in his mind. They want a traditional lifestyle but all the extra women he’s sleeping with aren’t traditional… I’ve never heard of a woman sleeping with a married man as “traditional”. This husband wants a traditional wife and non traditional women to suit his non traditional desires on the side and that’s it .
Men and women are different
@@l2method I completely agree with this too.
That’s because women have never slept with other men outside of marriage in traditional marriages
@@Graciehunter32 neither should men. Period.
@@janetmalhotra121 you could make the argument that men shouldn’t today but we used to because women and kids died all the time during birth and life expectancy was very short also women aren’t designed for polygamy biologically
Even those who prefer traditional marriage know that this is messed up
Why be together if he can sleep with other women?? Not into sharing sorry!