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Calling “real” goths TERFS is like calling Rocky Horror Picture show anti-queer.
Frank N Furter: "Did _none_ of them listen to me outright singing about being transsexual? It's my showstopper! My theme song! Bloody hell!"
Real goth is when you sniff the bottled farts of JKR
being a real goth is when you obsessively hate minorities
@@yaboye3791i mean goths have an appreciation of decay
It's like calling Click Norwegian.
Calling "real" goths terfs is like calling "real" punks pro-establishment, I can't even-
there was a terf on xitter insisting that being a terf was "punk"...
I still remember seeing a bunch of middle aged conservatives on twitter absolutely freaking out and saying that bands like Pink Floyd and Rage Against the Machine were "catering to the woke mob" and "supporting communism to avoid getting canceled.'
Like bro, what machine did you think they were raging against? A fax machine?
@@ClockworkAngeland then when someone told them to PLEASE go to a punk concert, they said they didn't like punk music
@@Cecilpediawow, the person who lacks an understanding of punk culture doesn't like punk music? WHAT A SHOCKING TURN OF EVENTS.
Of course, transgenderism is the pro establishment position now because it's supported by the main stream establishment, so if punk is pro trans then it's also pro establishment in that regard.
On terf goths: One thing I absolutely Do Not Get is how so many of them latch onto the Addams Family. The entire AF vibe is about being a loving family of weirdos who openly welcome people who don’t fit into societal norms and accepts people at face value. Love is literally a core element to their dynamic. Yet people insist that the Addamses are filled with hate
1) The goth scene, like from the beginning has been super inclusive & rejecting of general social norms, like the gender binary. 2) Witch house is Nu Goth, yeah? Don't Nu Goths also tend to listen to a lot of the classics & borrow from Trad Goth aesthetics. Like, I was under the impression Nu had the most trad goth acceptance of any newer goth subset in *a while* 🤨
EXACTLY!!! Like....
Anytime I see anyone who claims to be from an alt culture background and then also claims to be a TERF, I instantly know they aren't truly from an alternative culture background. Alt culture is super inclusive and loving, because these cultures break free from what is considered "the norm". Being queer is inherently Goth; inherently Punk; inherently Alt. And all of these groups have at least one value in common: being your true authentic self.
YEA FR
I’m an OLD goth, & the entire scene has *always* been very Queer!
For example: my wife & I - she’s a lesbian, cis woman, I’m a Queer, Agender person!
Now, I stand against gatekeeping, but I will toss a terf outta club if they start bringing that nonsense in because, no - that was always the safe space for gender/sexual identity 🖤🌈🏳️⚧️
@@CryptidCritter "Me? Oh i am punk! That's why i only listen to the most authentic punk band ever: The Sex Pistols
You probably haven't heard of them"
In defense of the “goth girl” meme, I think it’s more poking fun at guys who want women to display the most fetishized (but not actually alternative) parts of alternative cultures, but have no interest in any other aspect.
yeah, they want uwU Big TiTty MomMY goTh GFs🥺👉👈
Could be... Its the same with "gamer girl" stereotype
I am goth and my clothing goes with both sides. If youre shitting on other ppl or other goths, then your not goth, you're a poser. The music, the mentality, the society and political views makes you goth. You can literally clothe yourself basic or in sports wear and still be goth. Clothing doesnt matter. Its an internet phenomenon and I fucking hate that. Fetish goths are part of the culture too if it alligns with all of the above mentioned. And its fine to find those things attraktive or fetishise fetish goth. Its an own cathegory in kink communities and goes along with the goth cummuity. Just don't shit on others. Gateceeping is fucking cringe.
Honestly I and a lot of guys just think the astetic looks attractive, some are into it for the astetic, others fully for the other aspects that they may like about a “goth girl”. I find that any “____ girl” is attractive to many dudes.
The fact that ANYONE feels comfortable saying that they'll manipulate younger women is really disturbing.
Would you feel better if they kept silent and just do it anyway?
People are selfish beings and if you have to manipulate a cute young girl to be with you, well most people would do it. Of course no one wants to admit it but we are scumbags and there are no saints on this world.
@@xxXXRAPXXxx???? I’d never do that wtf… you’re projecting lol
@@xxXXRAPXXxxUm,Just No.
@@xxXXRAPXXxxperson who would manipulate young girls and pretends like everyone is the same to justify themself spotted
@@xxXXRAPXXxx no… normal people don’t do that. Why are you telling on yourself? That’s not normal. Normal people don’t manipulate other people
Bringing "aromatherapy" on a plane where the air keeps being recycled is bad. I have asthma attacks from peoples perfume in stores, let alone in a tiny, airless airplane. That jumps from "Quirky" to "no consideration for others" really fast for me.
Aromatherapy on an airplane is ok if you only dab a little bit under your nose or something similar before boarding.
I can imagine that it might help someone with anxiety or nervousness being able to concentrate on familiar smells and stuff. But just bring a little perfumed pillow so only you smell it....
I am very sensitive to perfume and such. I remember one time when I took the night train home after visiting family. I had to share compartment with a woman that smelled like she had bathed in perfume. I thought I was going to die.
One of my teachers in trade school would have some gnarly asthma attacks if she was even in the same room as somebody wearing perfume. It was bad enough that the offender was made to go home and shower to wash it off.
I believe it's called 'terrorism' real fast.
Perfumes and strong smells like that give me headaches and sometimes nausea and that sucks. I can’t imagine what having an asthma attack must be like. I hope you don’t run into someone like this.
My favorite pipeline of "im not like other girls im just like a guy" is them finding out theyre just trans😭
45% of not like other girls end up being gay. 45% end up being transmasc. The last 10% are the weirdos who never grew up & appear in Click's videos
😂😂 🙋🏻♀ enby, but yeah. 😂
You made that up in the shower didn't you
@@C-SDclose enough
I'm not like other girls. I'm a boy
As a woman, it honestly makes me feel sick that OTHER WOMEN seem to genuinely believe that if you’re successful and happy in all avenues of life that are important to you as an individual but don’t have kids, you’re secretly unhappy just pretending you’re enjoying your life. It screams projection. They hate the fact that other women are enjoying life and they were tricked into believing that producing babies is all they’re good for. Different things fulfill different people with different personalities. Who knew? 🤷🏻♀️
The whole “debate“ over children vs. childfree is about as dumb as arguing over coffee preferences and trying to convince the other side why one coffee is better than another. And both sides of the “debate“ are guilty of judging the other sides preferences.
As a goth person, the "fake and real goth" thing is terrifying. Like there's no way they just said you had to be transphobic to be a "real goth". If anything, you're not even goth if you have that mindset.
Edit: Guys don't fight in the comments please, make love not war😭
Cries in goth transfem 😭
Gatekeeping is messed up.
In any community... SOME level of gatekeeping is necessary... however, in the goth community, I feel like the "real goth" 100% would've been gatekept OUT of the community just on the TERF shit alone. And yes... the level of gatekeeping is necessary to keep out Nazis like that. Because they literally ruin ANY community they become a part of. The DIY and cheap clothes? Fine, that's totally acceptable... but the TERF shit 100% would've likely gotten her thrown out of any but like... the REALLY old school goth communities, which are, quite literally, dying out because they gatekeep so stringently.
@@sammyvictors2603In almost all contexts
You’re just an incel in goth dressing.
I like to think the “fake goth” and “real goth” are a lesbian couple.
Absolutely!
They actually are :3
this is actually true i saw them on a picnic date on my way to the local park in my area
There's a subreddit deticated to this general idea.
r/GatkeepingYuri.
(disclaimer, i have a bad memory)
@@kasanenecan confirm, I was the park bench
“I’m not like other girls” because I’m a primordial deity that transcends reality and isn’t affected by norms or concepts
*sigh* Master C’thulu, you CAN’T constantly be outing yourself to the mortals like this. We’ve talked about this. 😑
yup
@@shosho089 Let him enjoy the cringe with the rest of us.
I'm not like other girls I am a fictional male inspector invented by victor hugo in 1862 and I devoted my entire life to searching for an old man who stole a loaf of bread 40 years ago because justice
So true, my primordial deity...
"not like other girls" getting taken over by tradwife types is both wild and seems fitting somehow...
'im not like other girls!!' bro you're literally the default woman for most of society before the 2000s
Women talking sh*t about feminists as if feminists aren't the reason they're able to talk sh*t to begin with and do a majority of what they do to put them down is always going to be peak irony to me.
Like, yes, please continue to speak poorly about the people who made it possible for you to get a job to support yourself and/or leave your spouse if they start beating you.
That’s the irony of having freedom, people take it for grant it. Other commodities too. We’ve gone a full circle people are so separated from being sick they’re anti-vax. People are so separated from food sources they ask for vegan chicken eggs or “organic grass fed chicken” etc
People want to buy unpasteurized milk to drink because… IDK they think being sick is good somehow?
Yeah they aint talking about the equal rights feminists. They talk about "I have an OF you must respect me. Also kill all men" type of feminists
As a woman, I can say that of all the women I have met, only a handful went to an extreme route of "feminism". Most of us just want an equal paycheck and the right to vote. We want to be able to speak out when someone assaults us and be taken seriously. We want to have our work at home, and our jobs, and our education, to be recognized as just as good and just as needed to keep our village going. These extreme "feminists" aren't any different than holy-rollers from any group of people who demand better. We dont claim them any more than you do. Most of us think they are batshit and making it worse. Most of us think they need to stop attacking men, women, and family values. Most of us think they belong in asylums because they are crazy and they have not been helping anything by being the only ones given a public voice.
I like feminism, but I do not like most feminists, if that makes sense. Feminism as a concept is great, but so many feminists have started using it as an excuse to be sexist that I don't think any of the women I know would call themselves feminists, even the ones that support feminism itself.
Absolutely agreed. But I will talk shit about the ones who put down women who do want to be traditional or the ones who treat men like shit (there are some extreme ones who do and it's very fucking sad)
"women are in the kitchen and men go out" makes it sound like women are being held captive. Sis is literally arguing for her own subjugation.
Tbf that just sounds like a fetish. She's just looking for a dom.
There is a subculture for that. It's BDSM.
Yup she is
@@trishapellis oh god, those people are just scared to admit their preferences, huh?
@@arandomkobold8403 It's what I keep on thinking when I see these women say stuff like this. A percentage of them are brainwashed, we shouldn't ignore that, but I'm sure a part of them are just subs.
Im a 35yo Male and married for close to 10 years....if my Wife was like that "submissive" crowd, id have never married her. Then again, I wanted a Partner, not a Slave ffs
.... okay? and i'd never marry a guy who wasn't dominant, so what? everyone has different taste.
@@Anonymous-54545 Define "Dominant". Like in he tells you what to do and what to think? Or he beats up People that just talk to you? In what way has the Guy to be "Dominant" for him to be a "Man" in your Worldview?
Im not saying you are wrong, im saying you support a system that teaches little Girls to shut up and bow to the "Man" in order to be part of Soceity and that the system is wrong
@@Anonymous-54545means a different thing in that respect bro.
There really isn't anything wrong with being sub or Dom in any part of the relationship or being middle. It's personal preference and that's okay 😊 it can be in the entire relationship or just sexually or full on slave which is cool if all parties are happy.
@@get.sassyxd Submissive is quoted, so they don't literally mean it here. They mean more of the toxic submission like women just submitting to their husbands and doing whatever they ask, etc.
people who say "im not like other girls im not gonna watch the barbie movie" ironically could learn a lot from the barbie movie about the entire desire to be unlike other girls in the first place
That's why they're not going to watch it, it would shatter their worldview and they don't want that.
Exactly. There’s even an “I’m not like other girls” type character who’s an asshole for a good chunk of the movie until she sees the kind of insight her Barbie loving mother has.
Women saying they like the past because the divorce rate was smaller must not realize it was smaller because women couldn't initiate divorce, no matter how badly they were abused and beaten by their husbands.
It's higher now because people won't stand for being mistreated but people are still terrible to each other.
Also, women were definitely bothered and harrassed, a lot. They just usually wouldn't complain out loud because everyone told them that either it was nothing and harmless or that it was their own fault and that they were the actual problem, that telling people about what happened would bring shame unto them and their families...
I'd really like to see those 40ies cosplayers try and make it through a month in the exact environment they so love to romanticise the shit out of.
@@KRStephen You know what's the worst part, the thing you said about harassment, assault and r@p3 is still happening. It's still a huge load of victim shaming 💀
@@KRStephen Yes! The "it was safe to walk down a street" thing is more fantasy than reality, especially if you were not a white adult male. Men had no problem thinking that a woman walking alone at night, even if she was just walking home from work, was "just asking for trouble." And a woman or a group of women could be verbally harassed by men in broad daylight and it was dismissed as "men being men." People are still awful today, but that doesn't mean it was better 80 years ago. People are just awful in different ways and in different spaces than back then.
Women also didn't have rights to open a bank account, buy a car, or house without a man either. Where were they supposed to go?
what a lot of these women (and men) also don't realize is that spouse mortality rates (for all genders) were higher before thanks to no divorce. because sometimes, that's the only way that they can actually be separated from their unwanted partners.
I'm such a quirky girl that I'm not even a girl. I'm non-binary.
Same.
Same
We're sooo quirky 🎉
So what you're saying is I can't use you to build a computer.
Same lol.
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"Never seen a tasteful tattoo on a woman"
One day while I had lost a close friend to me, my mother had told me something I never knew about her, she's had these strange dot tattoos on her right hand, one on the pointer finger, one on the middle, and one on the ring, and I never really knew why, apparently they're to resemble each one of her friends who removed themselves from this mortal plane, sometimes tattoos aren't for taste, but rather for meaning
I have a string of pawprints on my left shoulder that most people would assume is just a basic tattoo, but it is actually meant to represent my favorite book series I've been reading since 3rd grade that was my support system during years of abuse and neglect
also, tattoos don't have to have meaning to be tasteful
I've got 3 dots on my finger for this reason x
My mom has 3 rings around her wrist which resemble her and her two best friends and a butterfly on her arm with my name in it and my grandma has four stickmen holding hands which represent me and my siblings, each a little smaller than the other to make them look younger. I find that really cute how sometimes you just get really simple tattoos to remind you of family and friends
Usually they have meaning if person have only few... If person has a lot of them its usually about meaning and art...
I hate when people make fun of breaking nails. If you break an acrylic or gel nail, there’s a real chance of your actual nail breaking off with it. Shit hurts like hell.
Fun fact: back when women couldn't vote, women got the right to vote by men voting for it. So a woman saying women shouldn't vote is a woman saying she thinks she would vote better than men, haha.
lmao good point
Uh yeah sure if you don't include the literal 100 to 200 years women spent fighting for their rights.
Unfortunately the original point still stands.
@@LGBTQLegendThe joke was that the anti-suffragists are hypocritically attacking the voting decisions of the men who voted to grant women the right to vote.
The fact that women had been fighting for that right is historically important, but not really relevant to this particular punchline.
The deciding vote to determine if woman could vote or not was on the shoulders of a guy who was told to vote against suffrage. However, the guy’s mom had told him beforehand that if he voted to not allow women to vote, she would no longer see him as her son and never forgive him.
He really loved his mom.
5 kids before the age of 25, homeschooling and SAHM.
This woman is living my nightmare.
I also bet that she didn't start at 18 like he assumed ;-)
@@Tokru86not so sure, she seems like the "hand holding before marriage is a sin" types. But hey, rules for thee and not for me I guess.
Honestly, mine too. FIVE of those monsters?!? I'd rather meet a spider the size of Shelob in a dark alley I couldn't escape from.
By her clothing, I would imagine membership of a fundamentalist group.
There's nothing wrong with homeschooling or being a SAHP, but in this specific context in this specific combination...
fun fact: being goth is about the music NOT how you dress! sometimes it can influence how you dress but thats not just the whole thing, its a lifestyle smh
so many people online tell me im not goth like it offends me that im not constantly dressing up. im in PJS 90 percent of the time since i work from home lolll
Someone told me once that being goth is also a life style... I had once a group of Goth friends that told me Im one of the most goth people they met, I just don't have typical clothes... And we all thought its funny as my fav colour is black and I love Addams Family...
...and it did turn out I listen to same music too and all...
But I think the most goth thing is that idea that its okay to be different...
My “not like other girls phase” turned out to be just dysphoria.
I remember seeing a post about someone's take on the "not like other girls" attitude. This is it: I used to cringe so hard at my "I'm not like other girls" phase until I realized that most girls have this phase and what we actually mean is, "I'm not a thoughtless one-dimensional caricature of makeup and boobs which is all I've been taught to believe women are." How can women be viewed so poorly that little girls everywhere all think they're unique for having independent thoughts and interests? - the-radical-buzzard-of-discourse
I think it brings up a very interesting point. What makes this subreddit so cringe is that it is full grown women who haven't realized that they aren't special when most of us realized around middle school or the start of high school.
Are you talking about Sarah Z??
Yeah, also another add on is that the whole "not like other girls" can be a response to smaller scale environments (like family issues, abuse/neglect, mental health, ect.) than the just over all societal as well (although those are influenced by societal structures) and also sometimes an inability to truly accept yourself (which is often because of what others and society says) so rather "own" who you are in a sort of self-flaggulation yet superiority complex way. Like it wasn't that that you rejected was society thought of woman, its that you *needed* to feel that you must be special because otherwise you couldn't make it in that environment.
Like I went through a "not like other girls" phase, not as a rejection of the social objectification of woman but because of what else was happening/happened in my life. I stopped liking girly things because my neglectful/abusive mom didn't support and participate in my childhood and interest in girly things and often actively hindered them
like she said I couldn't play with a dollhouse my grandfather got me until I *proved* I valued dolls enough so I would every day not play with anything else I wanted to play with at the time in order to play dolls to prove myself but after almost a year playing dolls began to be painful to me and I realised she had never once played with me or looked at me playing so it was impossible to get her approval so I gave up. I stopped liking girly clothes because my mom wouldn't pay for goodwill skirts I had to get money from my dad and even then I would be criticized for wasting my money on impractical stuff. It was dozens of stuff like that that made me begin to reject it in childhood.
That rejection was furthered by having mental health issues, and then being put in a school where I didn't fit in at all, I was the only nerd, only emo, only queer kid, only poor kid, only nonreligious kid, only kid with a bad family life, in a school of Rich Christian kids who hated and isolated me.
I *needed* to feel that not fitting in made me special and that being isolated and not like them actually made me better then them and being an outsider was empowering because if I wasn't better then the people who hated me for being not like them then that means they are right and that my suffering is for nothing and I would be better dead.
Edit: just realised this can be summed up with the bojack horsemen quote of "I need to make this book because otherwise all that trauma I went through wasnt good damage it was just damage" or something like that.
@@randomwhatever5403 The fact, that this full self diagnose is in past tense makes me assume, that some fortunate way, you ar all right now. I'm honestly not sure if I'm jealous, you have something to blame, like your mothers bad parenting, and lack of support towards you, or I should be thankfull that I dont'.
@@NerdGlasses256 everyone's situation is different, wither you where directly affected by other or by society you where still effected and harmed, trauma is valid and trying to compare or diminish your or others trauma based on others experiences doesn't help anyone heal.
I am past my "not like other girls" as a needed coping, and am past much of what harmed me (like I got disowned by my mother so not current thing anymore), but I am still experiencing effects from what I went through growing up, it still hurts me and I missed so much of childhood and formative years for being able to just understand *how to just peacefully exist* as myself and with others because I was just trying to get by, and still face some of the isolating situations I faced when I was young.
Trauma happens in many ways and coping and healing are complicated 🤷
You make a great point, it’s misogyny to the max and it affects how young boys treat girls too and how they feel. It’s a real mind fuck to think anyone of any kind is a thoughtless bimbo.
The "fake goth girl" twist should be that they're actually the same person, she just varies her outfits and hair depending on how she feels like dressing on any given day.
I mean yeah, I don't have a lot of experience with that stuff but I'd imagine it's A LOT of work to dress up like the "real goth girl" consistently?
@@arandomkobold8403yeah, it is. goths wear just "normal cloths" but black 99% of the time. At least as soon as the leave school. These super elaborate outfits and face paintings (let's face it, it often is not make up... its a painting on your face) are for special events. sometimes you can reckognize the goth by little more then a bracelet or an earring that is a dead give away for those "who know"
imo the style looks kinda like nu-goth
Nah the twist is both of th is lesbian goth couple
I was the "real goth" in middle school and the fake goth in HS till now cause Im LAZY. So much easier.
Edit: i meant the drawing with split dyed hajr NOT the psycho TERF WTF
When i was younger (before I knew I was trans) i used to think id absolutely NEVER wear dresses, skirts or things sometimes seen as "feminine clothing" and now I love dressing feminine, as a guy 😭
It's really fascinating how the freedo to be who you are without fear really frees a person to do things they wanted t do without being stereotyped for it.
The anti-pink phase was absolutely me, for nearly 20 years. Then 2 years ago I decided to dye my hair pink. I love black/pink as a colour combo.
It's a very cute combo that fits a variety of styles!
I always hated pink and wore only black... I kinda like pink flowers on mint dresses now xd
I hated pink with a burning passion, refused to wear it, or own anything coloured pink.
Now everything I have has to have SOME form of pink on it, any form!! The more pink, the better!! It's such a wonderful colour. I absolutely love it so much.
As a woman who never wants kids. The "you can only win when you have kids" really gets on my tits lol.
I kinda think that a lot of these women are just so disappointed in their life choices that they have to make them seem like they're most desired option. I don't get it. I have a kid. I like being a mom. I wouldn't mind winning awards, either. But that's me. Success is success and it's subjective. Why they have to validate themselves with hate is beyond me.
@@sineculpaexactly my thought. Why not having both?
@@sineculpa exactly, everyone has a different goal and the definition of success is different for everyone
The thing is, if the mom in the comic _also_ said, “I won!” Then it would just be a cute comic about how different people desire different things, and no one would mind (except conservatives but they always mind)
But the mom specifically _had_ to say “no you didn’t”. Because the comic ain’t about how motherhood is good, it’s about how careers are bad. That’s the artist’s point. Fuck that point.
@@awkwardukulele6077Mhm and people don't relize feminism is definitely for gender equality, but also women independence and there choices. If you want to be a independent person doing you're own things dont want kids thats completely okay! If you wanna be a stay at home Mom, with kids and stuff that's also completely fine! If you want both be both!!
It completely fine as long as it be you're choices and will, no one should be forced to do anything they don't want too
as a goth it makes me sad when goths try to gate keep what is "real goth" when the only requirement it to like the music. it honestly took forever to feel that i belonged in the community bc I couldn't afford to buy a whole wardrobe. It’s about identity, how you feel and wether that culture is something that appeals to you. It’s a cultural about exceptence that’s one of the reason why LGBTQ+ often over lap with the goth sphere.
diy until i die fr.
Wait, so when I was hanging out with my goth friends but wasn't Goth, I was actually still Goth? Neat.
i think the meme is more about the fact that men say they like goth girls but only bc they find them “exotic” and dont actually like it when they are actually goth (participate in goth culture, enjoy goth music/literature), or when theyre goth in a way they arent sexually attracted to. it feels like fetishizing and infantilizing.
What also is funny about the people trying to make everything black and white and gatekeep is they can't even keep it consistent. A person dresses goth, has the political and world view, and is really into spooky stuff, but just isn't that into music in general, they go "how dare you you poser! your not goth. Goth is only about music!!" To, but then a person who isn't dressed trad goth style but is goth in all the other ways including liking music says they're goth and suddenly "your not goth because you don't look goth at all!!" like ooh suddenly there's more complexity to it then music then? But I thought it was *only* about music yet your judging by style?
Bonus "oh yeah the song bella legosi is dead, love that one! he was the best dracula" "yeah Bella Lugosi is a goth icon" "oh you mean the actor with zero ties to goth music?? Huh I thought you said that style and population stuff like gothic literature and spooky shit was "totally irrelevant to gothness" how could he be an icon of goth stuff then?"
@@rat3138its both. Its both talking about how men fetisize goth woman but don't really like most of goth culture *and* putting down women for their self expression and being elitist gatekeepery and acting like you can tell who is and isn't goth (which they say is only about music but then gatekeep on apearance) often acting like woman they deem not truely goth have no genuine interest and self expression in it and are just trying to appeal to men and be "not like other girls", when its actually almost all woman just doing whats authentic to themselves
"You're not like other girls" is so many red flags.
The moment you stop being exceptional and keeping him entertained and being a mother for his fragile kid ego you'll be "just like other girls" and get blamed for his every insecurity that he blames women for in general.
And I wouldn't expect someone like that not to betray their partner's trust when they find "the one"who is the TRUE "not like other girls" when having a real partner is work and the fantasy of someone new is more appealing.
A statement like that betrays a lack of awareness and of humanization of their partner and ultimately a lack of maturity and willingness to take responsibility.
So true. I can't count how many times I've seen that happen.
Here, i speak fluent pick me girl, have a transation for 5:00.
"Most people call me old-fashioned, because i believe my man should be fed non-fast food and only home-cooked food. Go ahead and hate me for this. Female and male stereotypes are true."
Other translations: "I want validation of tiktok alpha males so bad, that I'll say the stereotype they believe in. Mainly to get someone to even think of looking my way."
Hope this helps :)
It's weird to describe yourself as goth AND transphobic because the gothic community tends to be be pretty effeminate leaning androgenous. There is a lot of overlap in gothic men's and women's wear. We often wear each other's clothes.
Also like all alternate backgrounds come from not fitting in and breaking social norms and accepting the people who society doesn't accept... Like terf and any alternate culture just doesn't mix
@@CreepypastaarcadeUnless you live in a bubble like these people
Fetish and goth are distinct, with overlap. Not the same.
@@seabreeze4559please elaborate because otherwise it sounds pretty transphobic
As a non binary alt person leaning toward goth but also hippie aesthetic, I completely agree, I feel comfortable in my clothes and they can be made more feminine, masculine or a cool mix of both!
The problem with the boys vs girls memes is that they assume that girls, by default, never have any fun, jokes, or silly things they do. The vision of most if not all girls, to these people, is a boring stick in the mud that gets hung up on vapid, meaningless things. It's not only just plain stupid, it enforces an actively harmful narrative.
Thank you for making this comment so I didn't have to. Yes, men, or people in general, making fun of women based on stereotypes is how we get girls trying to distance themselves from said stereotypes and mocking other girls that do fit them. And then we have another group of women making fun of the "original not-like-other-girls" girls and then a third group making fun of the second and so on... And that's why now we have 50 shades of not-like-other-girls. It's ridiculous.
Yeah. I’m a girl and watching too many of boy vs girl memes put me in a pick me girl mindset.
So media portrayal. People are saying that they're not like other people, because the only people they've seen are the ones in media. Thank goodness the media portrayals have started to get a bit better.
As a guy I hate these memes. I've never had any close female friends (because I get way too awkward to speak even if I just want to be friends), but even just being around women they're so blatantly untrue. There's no humor to them because there's no joke, and the 'observation' is just wrong.
@hmnhntr Yeah, seriously. I'm a guy too, and one of my woman friends is one of the funniest people I know.
6:10
I remember in secondary school (like 11-16 years old) I had a friend who was genuinely feared by the older boys at the school, because she wasn't afraid to just kick them full force in the groin, consequences be damned. She full on went prison tactics of just "beat up the toughest guy there, instant respect"
I had a friend in middle school that was really feminine and loved fashion and beauty (she was like the 'beauty guru' of our class) BUT her solid reputation around the school was of a 'thug' bc she would fistfight bullies and specially boys harrasing girls without second thought, she even sent one to the hospital bc the mf was spreading his ex nudes to everyone, most of the girls adored her! (luckily she never got spelled bc she never fought inside the school but everyone still knew, she was my hero ngl)
Thats what me and my friend used to do... First just to avoid bullying... Later to keep our friends from being bullied - but it is true that boys are SCARED AF from girls who will fight for themselves and friends and are not afraid of consequences
As a goth, there are no „real“ goths. You don’t have to dress like one, it‘s also okay to just listen to the music.
Yeh but a requirement for being a goth should be knowing what goth mean. Or it’s culture
@@baltzermisje619 yep.
What if you are not into the music just the athtatic?
@@middleeasternforhire8985 well, then youre still a goth.
@@No.1.sigmastanwell no goth is a music based subculture it’s not about any aesthetic you can’t be goth if you don’t like goth music..
I'm not gonna lie I had my "I'm not like other girls" phase, I wore super masculine clothes, pretended to be a boy and got the ick from anything slightly feminine. Now I'm wearing whatever I want, feminine masculine or in the middle, I love cooking and boxing. I realised that I tried to "not be like other girls" because I was told that being a girl and liking anything is bad. Little girls are made fun of any interest they might have and I think the "other girl" we try to not look like isn't a real person, but something that was created for us to turn against each other. I'm not like other girls, because I'm my own person and they are too, don't compare yourself, people live different lives and like different things, so why spend it bitter when you can enjoy it.
This is well put. I had a similar experience too and came to very similar conclusions as you. I had demonized anything feminine which was the silent way I had rebelled against my religion that I felt I was devout to, that required my self subjugation as well as anything "feminine" was like... referenced as the "weaker" gender things to like.
Currently I don't care anymore. I like what I like and I feel empowered by that. As a side note I rather enjoy the color pink and wearing dresses.
Just here to agree with this sentiment x
I had this too, even if I was never openly misogynistic to others. Tomboy and dad’s little angel, to the disappointment of my mum who wanted a girl to play with dolls with.
Turns out I’m not a girl, in the end, so I was on to something? My non-binary awakening helped me gain more respect for girly stuff and sometimes i like being REALLY femme. Knowing I don’t have to be one.
(My mum still has dolls and I still don’t like them… they creep me out)
Exactly, everything teenage girls are interested in is ridiculed and looked-down upon by society. Teenage girls are often viewed and portrayed as shallow, one-dimensional, 'catty', etc. so we internalise that teenage girl = bad, and try to distance ourselves from it through the 'im not like other girls' phases.
I feel like this perfectly summarises my High school experience :D The only difference is that I have realised that but I still feel uncomfortable in feminine clothes. But I stopped trying to fit into any cathegory and just exist as "me" if it makes sense. I know I'm unique but so are others. I used to think I hated "too feminine girls" but I just hated a type of a person, not entire gender. Anyway, it was extremely toxic to try to be different all the time and it stopped me from growth :D
11:00 The whole notion that a wife should choose to “let” her husband lead is so unintentionally funny. It reveals that even they realize women always have the power to lead, but believe they shouldn’t because their husbands are fragile and threatened by a competent, strong woman. But they call me snowflake because I don’t think people should be discriminated against because of their gender or se*ual orientation?
Their logic is all illogical when you think about it. Insulting to all genders as they paint them in stereotypes and unintentional implications.
You're overthinking it. They're just brainwashed mostly by religious views to believe that.
I am sick of trad roles and stereotypes. I just wanna be a homemaker. I need to get a sugar mama.
@@wyattjohnson5181 real
This is the true sigma grindset right here 🗣🔥 Its awesome u know what u want out if life, Never let ppl try to talk down to u because of it! ❤️
I'm a welder and a girl, everyone who I work with is incredibly respectful and kind, if I ever am having very obvious trouble with something the boys will help out without making a big show or anything... as they- and I, do with anyone else in the shop. For example a week ago a tig machine broke and I disassembled it and helped repair it, but couldn't quite push 2 parts together because I'm a trans gal on HRT so strength is drained, someone helped me fit the part together and asked what I was doing and I helped them learn how to fix the tig machine part.
There should be an app for "not like other girls" and "im a nice guy" to meet as they will definitely be great matches for each other.
As someone who’s friends are mostly men, I AM like other girls. I like gaming, I like “spilling tea”. I don’t get why some women have to bring other women down. Nobody cares that you’re different, everyone is lol. Nobody is ever the same, get over yourself
Why do you like spilling tea?
@@stevenclark1662 She means gossip. Anyone can like that.
@@stevenclark1662 I just wanna feel the burn (this is a joke)
It's probably internalized mysogyny. Was definitely part of the problem in my youth/not-like-other-girls phase.
Me too I love girls women are hot
You know the whole thing about ,,women can only be happy when they get a baby" is aside from whether or not she wants it: not every woman can even get a baby, some are infertile or had other things that prevents them from that. Are those doomed to be unhappy? No!
As someone Who works with kids I would say some women are very happy when their kids go camping for a few weeks without them
One of my aunty says shit like if a woman doesn't have babies after then there is no meaning in their life.
@pathetic-traveller06 she sounds lovely I'm never having kids the state of the world is in not worth the struggle.
If someone requires a baby to be happy they likely have underlying psychological issues.
No. Life is how you make it. No one else can do that for you. If you want to live the tradlife go for it. If you want to live another way go for it. Just dont hurt others.
5:17 “My boyfriend should be well-fed and eat little to no fast food. Home cooked Southern meals only! Go ahead and hate me for this! Women belong in the kitchen while men go out” is what I THINK this crazy person was trying to say.
There is nothing wrong with being married, or being a stay at home mom, or having a career as long as you are happy
Goth should be a spectrum. There should be no such thing as too much goth or not enough goth.
I think there is such a thing as "not enough goth", but it's just me because I'm still a somewhat closeted transfem who desperately wants to be able to wear black lipstick and fishnets.
@@MarfansGoth girl same. I’m a closeted transfem as well and I’m waiting for the day when I can go pastel goth mode. Or regular goth mode.
Gothic is an appearance mostly that was taken from old Gothic Architecture. People just try to ascribe shit to it that doesn't actually belong to the term.
goth already is :) it's a music based genre! as long as you listen to goth music (not lil peep or something like him afaik, THOUGH NOTE, you can still listen to other music besides goth music), you are goth! doesn't matter what you look like. the goth subculture does also have a certain style of clothes, but it's not about the clothes at all
@@felixt808 A lot of self described "Gothic music" is just death metal.
And as an older women, this trend really bothers me. I'm from the generation of women who has other women's backs. I don't understand the need to put other women down. As they say " Be the woman who straightens another woman's crown without telling the world it was crooked." Thanks for doing this one. And you all smell amazing today! 🥰
There are still women that have each other's back just like there were women that did not, it's just easier to coral the negatives over the positives.
@dayokamaria6802 Definitely! I didn't mean to say there aren't. I know so many young women who Definitely have other women's backs. I meant this trend in particular. Sorry if my words were clumsy 🩷
Most women have each other's back, the ones that don't are just loud
@@JustM2024 these are mostly OF girls who wants insecure men to subscribe to them
It still happens all the time, but you never hear about it.
32:20 Ringpops are candy shaped like gemstones that you can wear like a ring on your finger.
I haven’t seen them in stores for a while, but they’re really cheap and pure sugar.
My problem when I was younger (think 10 ish) was that I genuinely didn't feel like other girls always gossiping about crushes and who they thought were cute, and would rather hang out with guys because they didn't do that. Turns out I'm just aro/ace and straight up didn't get what the girls were going on about
Honestly, putting glitter in a hoodie is far more evil than the other stuff, that garbage is impossible to remove.
Glitter is evil!!!
Once i was near someone using glitter and 2 months later i found glitter near my eyes
Yes glitter is evil and most of the other stuff mentioned is most likely going to get the person arrested. So why do something that's going to self harm you? There's acting crazy and then there's acting stupid.
@@Mojo_3.14 do I have to add /s to all of my comments?
Glitter is the definition of evil.
I'm not like other girls. I'm literally allergic to makeup
This actually sucks. I want to try makeup trends too
Ouch! Hopefully, you can find something that works for you!
Allergic to make-up? Are you allergic to some really common ingredients, or do you just have super sensitive skin or something?
Anyway, that sucks.
That suck! Hope there are some alternative products you can use, but I bet they're expensive.
Hopefully hypoallergenic makeup becomes available for you.
Omg me too!!! It makes a lot of the “trendy” shorts and memes about “UGH ALL WOMEN WEAR MAKEUP AND ITS STUPID-“ really kinda hurt. Cuz like…I can’t even try and I love seeing all the crazy artistic things people can do with makeup!
"This seems like a very non-issue" is my new favourite response to these pointless distinctions.
I don't like when people make such of a big deal when someone doesn't want or can't drink a coffee (or alcohol or something else common). My brother has been both coffee and alcohol abstinent due to his schizophrenia, and I stay from regularly drinking coffee because every time I drink it daily I become both physically and emotionally tired, almost depressed (I also similarly avoid alcohol). And every time I have to explain a coffee lover why I don't drink coffee they react like they never heard about health complications due to caffeine.
as a former "not like the other girls" person, I can confirm. I wasn't like the other girls. Because I wasn't one to begin with
same
Same except i felt bad about not relating to other girls
you werent a girl to begin with? 😭
Based and same
@@Sheel443 OP is likely trans and/or non-binary.
Real goths leave their home to pillage Rome.
I laughed so hard when "I'm a straight girl and I eat steak" when literally almost all of my lesbian dates were vegan or at least vegetarian. It's the lesbians that eat salads lmao
Also it's always the straight girls who have the urge to prove to everyone they're the "different" one, and as a goth I feel like the "real vs fake goth" memes are always done by someone who is very new to the scene and is in the mindset of "wow I'm so different now" and try to gatekeep the hell out of literally the most welcoming and diverse community... just let people like what the like xD
Also, the "goth gf they want" and "real goth" are girlfriends. Won't change my mind.
As a goth myself, rest assured: Wear whatever tf you want, as long as you listen to the genre, you're a goth.
Also, goth and gothic have two different meanings.
I think the two goth gfs should date each other, actually
Could work. I get switch energy from both, so...
Tumblr webcomic material right here.
I hope r/gatekeepingyuri finds them fr
EXACTLY. as soon as i saw the thumbnail i immediately thought "i think they should kiss actually"
Same
Remember, the evolved form of a Goth Girlfriend is a Witch Wife. Until we meet again.
Not really
Yes! :D
Wiccans and Gothic are different things. Wiccan is a belief in Witchcraft. Gothic is mostly just a style of appearance based on old Gothic architecture.
@@LGBTQLegend
They didn't say wiccan they said witch. If you're going to be pedantic you should at least be pedantic about the right word
My fiance asked me earlier, "wich soup are you eating?" And I cackled evilly and said, "yeeeees, Witch Soup!"
22:04 If you listen to goth music you can be a goth It doesn't matter how you dress
44:10 I absolutely love this woman (Stanzi) and her videos, seeing her here with Cliccy, whom I also absolutely adore, is amazing. They're like my 2 top favourite youtubers.
Just wanted to say that since it made me really happy lol.
Stanzi Potenza is even funnier than Ryan George.
I was once a quirky girl, then i found it was because i was a guy
Also GLOW IN THE DARK DEMON LESSS GOOOO
LMAOOAOOA SAMEEEE
REAL
True
SAMEEEE
good for you (:
The fake goth and real goth makes me laugh so hard.
We dress in a rubber, leather etc for fun. pretty sure my BF used to wear shorter skirts then me back in the day. Please tell me more about how homophobic and transphobic we must be to be a "true goth." xD
Omg you just hit me with so much nostalgia. Id totally forgotten Vampirefreaks!
Latex is so gooooood as well, best cuddle material
@@stevenclark1662just don't check it out these days. Last I heard it was bad.
@36:23 - That woman doesn't appear to realize how many parasite eggs live in the soil, laying in wait for a new host...
I've collected different colors of dirt to make my own paints, and for safety/sanitation I have to bake the soil in the oven at 400 degrees and up, for at least a half hour if I'm only sterilizing small amounts. Edit to add - some soils contain small amounts of arsenic....
00:29:09 I think everyone is misunderstanding this. She didn't say anything to suggest or imply that she is a fan of Andrew Tate or supports him in any way. She is warning young women about this behavior and calling out Andrew Tate for doing it.
I think that the confusion is coming in because when she says his name, she emphasizes it in a way that sounds similar to how many of his fans say it. The difference is that she is emphasizing his name to call him out while they emphasize it to idolize him.
If you want to see this more clearly, just read the transcript in a robotic voice in your head. She says the behavior is "sad" and that Andrew Tate does it, but she never implies that there is one single positive thing about Andrew Tate.
Saying that Andrew Tate is using a tactic that you describe as "sad" and that he has said that he said "it himself that's the reason he goes for young girls because they are that much easier to control and manipulate" doesn't mean you support Andrew Tate. It means that you think Andrew Tate is manipulative, controlling, and sad.
Which, well, fair enough.
Maybe not as a fan but she sure seems to be endorsing it either way. I will say as far as I can see since I don't have the context of the rest of her content
These kinds of videos are always wild as a lesbian because so many of the things they're shitting on women for I find genuinely attractive or possess myself. I melt over women with tattoos. I die for conversations with educated women. I'm 6'2" and I genuinely think its really cute when a woman asks me to help her reach something and then smiles and says thank you. Like, you're not special and also these traits aren't abhorrent like you're making them out to be!
You're a foot taller than me. Need a roommate? XD
If I didn't have a partner...
I'm a farmer girl, I fall off horses, I muck stables and I have to wrestle a pig every now and again. But that doesn't mean i DONT do makeup, get sad when I break a nail or don't care about fashion, being a girl isn't about being a stereotype, it's legit just being a human and HAVING HOBBIES AND THINGS YOU LIKE.
As a girly girly... PLEASE TEACH ME HOW TO RIDE A HORSE, CAUSE LIKE IF THE ZOMBIE APOCALYPSE HAPPENS I NEED TO FIND A RIDE OUTTA THERE
@fern_aka_that_idiot9090 ILL TEACH YOU DW. (Being a girly girl AND a farmer is the best combo ever so you will be the ultimate combo)
Who else went from being traditionally feminine, to “not like other girls”, to not even being a girl?
Ah! Did you also shed your mortal body and assume your true primordial form? Cuz same! ❤
Oh God, the wedding ring thing. I think I'd honestly be mad at my partner if they spend $4000 on a ring for me, wasting that much money on literally nothing. First, they clearly don't know me very well, and second, why use that much money on the rock when we could pay for a phenomenal honeymoon!? What are you doing!? Or instead, pay a few months ahead on rent or something--THAT would definitely get me to say yes. Seriously, can you imagine not worrying about rent for a few months? Omg.
Edit: just to be clear, I do not think there is anything wrong with someone wanting a beautiful, expensive ring for themselves (with the exception of those people who say their partner doesn't love them because they can't afford to burn 2k on a rock)--this is just for me, if it was done to me specifically.
4:40 important to mention - Goth is a music based subculture, person marked as "the real goth" is an example of a Trad Goth, which is one of groups of Goth fashion. Even though the person on the left doesn't really fit into any group of the Goth fashion, however they'd still could be Goth, if they'd listen to the music.
BUT (!) this particular meme adresses a thing in popular media, where "the boys" want to have a "big booba goth gf", but in fact they are sexualizing the subculture and also not even wanting a person that is dressing in the Goth fashion. Most of the time the reaction of seing a Trad Goth would be something like "eww what a monster," which is even worse. Yet still, the meme is making this stereotype and a false idea that Goths HAVE to dress Goth (which they don't, most Trad Goths or Vampire Goths, or any other genre, don't look like that 90% of the time). And unfortunately that also makes many people scared to join any subculture, because they think that they need to get clothes that match the "aesthetic," which isn't true at all!
Wear what you want. A true Goth is just someone who listens to the Goth music and also symphatizes with this subculture.
this this this this this this this
This!!
THIS.
The only music I hear from any of you people is, "Blah, blah, blah...." It's called the "No True Scotsman" ballad. Check it out sometime.
@@wwaitkustry Siouxie next time
17:13 people mock girls who cry when they break a nail, but have you ever broken a nail? There's a reason the needles-under-nails torture exists, it fucking hurts
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Mhm. I know it hurts but I've never broken one (on accident at least)
The most sensitive part of the human body are the finger tips and the tongue
16:59 breaking a acrylic nail or a nail in general can definitely hurt- im not saying falling off a horse can compare since i have no experience in that, but i have experienced breaking a acrylic nail that ripped my actual nail off from underneath. Not too fun to laugh off, and not really something to make fun of or compare when both sides can hurt in certain circumstances equally.
1:36 NOT THE GAME OF THRONES REFERENCE HELP
The "two types of short girls" is pretty accurate. There are the ones who ask for help, the ones who will climb a store shelf like a spider monkey, and the ones who will grab a random object and try to knock what they need off of the shelf.
Excited for the glow-in-the-dark emotional support demon!
As a short person, yeah. I do all three
I am the type to ask tall people for help and curse my short arms.
I’m not a girl (AFAB non-binary) but I do all 3 depending on the situation xd that’s quite normal I don’t get why it’s supposed to be a ‘haha quirky’ thing
I'm barely over 5ft. I'm either asking random tall people for help or doing a bad impression of a spider monkey .
Being a short person in a wheelchair makes tall shelves so annoying lol
12:45 It is funny that a woman looking for marriage is specifically asking fans of ANDREW TATE to date her. A man and fanbase that have severe comittment issues.
She better not be surprised when he cheats on her😹💀
22:07 the funniest part is that almost any "real goth" you meet will tell you "Goth is whatever you want it to be", and the real meaning of being goth is finding beauty in what most people would find to be dark or spooky. doesn't really have anything to do with how you dress, it's generally about the belief of the community
Well that is wrong… but positive so you go person
As a French person, Cliick’s barbarous attempt to read the part of the caption written in French (which was visibly directly translated by google from English) made me laugh way too hard 😂
Also, I’d like to point out that, as the True Pun King, he made, I think without realizing it, a Dad level pun between the two languages : « D’ongles… Nailed it ! »
In French, « ongles » means « nails ».
THIS. I love that I wasn't the only one corny enough to think this. I may not be a dad, but dadjokes are LIFE.
French “people” are not accepted here
Ikr it was absolutely hilarious as a french learning person
Oh I think you mean “d’glongs” mate
Fucking hilarious
As a person who speaks French fluently(I'm Canadian.) I loved it as well
With that "Women shouldn't vote" lady, I feel I have a very convincing argument for voting!
"Okay, let's pretend for a moment that women aren't allowed to vote, and we are voting on if women should be allowed to. If the vote stalemates, women won't be allowed to vote, otherwise, we go with what the majority voted for. I vote for Women to be able to vote, how do you vote?"
When she likely voices that she will vote for not having a vote, this is how it concludes.
"Okay so that's 1 vote for women being able to vote, and since you're a woman, your vote doesn't count, so women are allowed to vote! See how important being able to give your opinion on things isn't something that should be restricted? You will feel cheated in the long run, because you might be very passionate about a topic, but just because of your gender, you shouldn't be excluded from being able to present your opinion."
Will this change her mind? Probably not. It'll at least give her something to think about though, which could sway her into some critical thinking in the future.
She’s Pearl Davis. She’s a massive pick me and she herself has admitted it’s due to insecurity.
@@MinecraftIsLoveMinecraftIsLifeshe really just said underlying reason out loud, huh?
would she vote to not vote?
Not letting everyone vote is a gateway to oppression. This is why in Switzerland, where everything is done by referendums, some women gained a right to vote as late as in 1990 when the Swiss Supreme Court forced every canton to comply with a federal Equal Rights Amendment (in some cantons, women had the right to vote since 1971). Because of course, in the referendums, it was only the men voting, and in one of the cantons, they had to be forced by the court to let women vote.
You don't HAVE TO vote if you don't want to, but you should have the right to do so.
TBH I think it's a violation of human rights that in the US and some other countries, prisoners are not allowed to vote.
Your opinion is invalidated by your opinion.
“You’re not like other girls” it’s true I have raging ADHD and anxiety… I just want a break from life :)
I absolutely LOVE how you cover everyone
Like it’s not all - All men are pervy
Or- All women are annoying
You let everyone laugh
I always thought I was quirky and not like other girls. I just never fit in and people told me I was 'special' and weird... Then I found out it was autism and being non-binairy all along. I do fit in a box in the end whoo
This is really familiar.
You may also secretly be a cat if fitting in a box was your goal all along.
@@stevenclark1662 I wanna be a cat. People feed you, they clean up your poop, you can sit on the counter, and nobody tells you to get a job.
Same. Like it turns out I'm not like other girls because I'm not a girl.
I feel this so hard.
Was always told I wasn't "like other girls" in the negative context, as people saying I was weird and I should try to be more "normal", and all my trouble with people bullying me was because I wasn't trying hard enough to be like other people.
Welp, turns out I have autism, ADHD, and I'm non-binary trans-masculin.
So I guess they were right, I wasn't like "other" girls because I wasn't one to begin with.
But I did eventually find my people to fit in with (even if it's only been a few so far), and I'm happy to be accepted for me.
I might not fit into the boxes people originally had in mind for me, and the boxes might morph and change a bit over time, but as long as the boxes I fit into are MY boxes, I think it turned out alright in the end. ^_^
OP, I hope you also have found some great people who share your boxes, or at least who accept you for them, and that you feel at home and happy now. ^_^
It’s called Grooming. 18-19 is technically an adult and you can groom adults, especially in age gap relationships and in situations where money and power is at play.
My ex husband groomed me. I was 18 when we met, 19 when we started dating and he lovebombed me. It was a narcissistic mess of a marriage that gave me PTSD. My children and I are in counseling because of their father’s behavior.
I am so sorry for everything that has happened to you and I wish you well
I’m sure you smell amazing today
The irony in 37:15 reminded me a lot of You Belong With Me by Taylor Swift
“Cause she wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts”
4:33 my sibling is goth and they like to talk about how much more there is to goth culture than dressing in black. Idk people can dress how they want it’s just that goth is a lot more than that
The divorce rate may be lower back then, because it was harder for women to file for divorce, but if I recall correctly the death rate of abusive husbands was higher. Just because they couldn't divorce them doesn't mean they couldn't get rid of them. Although that might be even earlier than 1940s.
23:09 it's so stupid it goes all the way to being funny. The goth scene is one of the most queer inclusive as it normalises men in skirts/fishnets/eyeliner and women in trenchcoats/boots/leatherwear, allowing for many eggs to crack
I never really thought about it before, but you're absolutely right. Lol
someone PLEASE hook up the people from r/NotLikeOtherGirls with the people from r/NotHowGirlsWork, i think they would get along pretty well 💀
Comment about 3:45
As a person with claustophobia... yeah... meditating the entire plane ride is how I get through the many hours without the significant issues, and can actually function when I deplane.
The "letting my husband lead so i don't have to think about politics" is tradwife bs, it's the worst kind of pickme shit. Trying to force all women to go back to being their husband's property.
Which is still them talking about politics! And probably making a good buck off their social media.
Some real Phyllis Schlafly type shit
Right? It's okay to live a full-on B & D lifestyle, it's okay to be open about it, it's not okay to force other people into your fetish with the threat of legal consequences.
I think most if them know they're being ridiculous, they just also know that rage bait gets those sweet clicks 😔
As a goth, i wish people would stop caring about the fashion and focus more on the music and history. The reason that goths have a certain "look" is just to connect and find other goths. (Also to go against the norm and celebrate the diy aspect from goth's punk roots ect ect.) Like "hey you tease your hair and wear a lot of ripped clothes, do you like this band too?" But since its the age of the Internet its not really a huge reason to dress that way anymore. If you like Bauhaus and London After Midnight there's already a bunch of people that are talking about in in some videos or blogs.
I think the reason why a lot of trad goths have become such elitist when it comes to "what dress is goth" is because of the comericaisation of the subculture. (Mall goths and later nu goths) instead of anyone who liked the music and philosophy of a gothic life, it became "how much money does it take till people think i look weird" to be goth.
This subculture was birthed from the working class rejecting the willful ignorance of the complete morbidity of what was going on in the 80s what with the demonization of everything different, environmental distruction, rejection of the culter of queer people and poc, and the taboo of everything from death to nudity.
Dispite the Internet and the availability of everything, i want other goths to remember that the roots of this culture are important. If you like the music, support your local scene. If you like the philosophy, write and lurk about how society accepts tragedy and death. If you like the history, share and educate about what you know and love. It doesn't matter what you dress or look like, dancing in darkness is for anyone that wants to keep the lights off.
28:08 Your vote against women voting has been ignored, your welcome
24:00 they really said that tattoos on girls have no meaning… my wife has a tattoo above her heart honoring her late cat
I love r/GatekeepingYuri, they make all these cringy/gatekeepy memes into wholesome queer art
The award vs having children thing always gets me. You can have both. You don't have to choose. Think about Beyonce, one of the most-awarded singers in the world, she has a husband and kids and seems pretty happy to me. Not to mention the women who dedicated their lives to scientific research who have saved the world. Not only are they celebrated by millions of people but they also have kids and families. That's wonderful. It is also fine if a woman doesn't have kids or a husband but just lives her life for herself. All women are useful and deserve to be loved.
They don't even have to be 'useful' to others. They can live for themselves and it's totally fine!
Jack Black's Mom helped finish a bunch of the math involved in saving the astronauts of the Apollo 13 _durng Jack Black's birth._ (not literally between contractions or anything like that, but she brought her work to the delivery room and worked on it there, which is still indescribably kickass of her)
If you can be the Dragon Warrior's mom AND be a literal rocket scientist, you officially win life.
10:25 This woman needs to realize that (1) A uterus is not a clown car; (2) SHE'D most likely be dead now without the technology derived from the biological sciences that her homeschooling "textbooks" attack. Specifically, she'd have died in childbirth.
I really, really wish that technology would Just Stop Working for people who deny the science that it's based on.
"Time is a social concept"
ad w/ music: "Keep walking."
Feels like the ad is telling you to ignore these ppl and keep walking. Wow, I agree w/ an ad for once.
4:00 She sounds like she took her socks and shoes off on the plane, sat cross legged so her knees were on the laps of the people on either side of her (cause you just know she had a middle seat), sprayed her "aromatherapy" into the air making everyone gag, and then loudly went Ohmmmmmm, Ohmmmmm through the whole flight. It wasn't Witch people were calling her...
Lmfao I just made a similar comment when i heard the 'aromatherapy' thing, they definitely weren't saying "witch"
I think it rhymes with witch.
I feel bad for the actual witchs who mind their own business and just wanna collect pretty stones and write affirmations in their spell journals.
"I'd rather do sports than get my nails done"
There used to be a girl in my class who had her nails done and was pretty good at volleyball. I was wondering how she did that. You go girl
I do my nails exactly because I want to do sport (climbing) AND have pretty hands. Otherwise I would break them every time I go to the climbing hall (of course, I keep them not too long).
To my other women: We ARE the same. We're all living humans with a beating heart who deserve to be happy
Speak for yourself, my heart isn't beating
@@Tisbilly I'm sorry my comment wasn't inclusive to zombies. Thank you for educating me, I'll do better I'm the future 🩷
@32:15 - Moissanite! Higher refraction (more reflected light) than a diamond! And lab-created diamonds! I have a pair of lab-created diamond earrings - perfect for anyone who's a science nerd. Then there's the 'dig your own diamonds' (or amethyst, garnet, clear quartz) "Crater of Diamonds" in Arkansas, for the eager rockhounds out there.
I thought I was a quirky girl. Turns out I'm just autistic and also not a girl
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Congratulations on the transition 🎉
Congratulations!
@@greenstarlover1 I'm in country where now it's illegal to transition so I'm afraid there's nothing to celebrate yet x)