I tried to run a tax business and those closest to me didn’t let me do their taxes but called me with tax problems (wanting free tax service)then I ignored their butts around a funeral by not showing up got chewed out. I just blocked and gray rock their tails. Not ruining my winning vibe !!
Narc friends are very transactional/ one-sided and they want ppl to kiss their asses. I had to cut a few ppl off once I realized the dynamics of the friendship.
Exactly! They sneak it in on you by pretending to be an equal or a so-called inferior. Only to later sneak up their deluded "I'm superior" attitude. Only to get mad when you do not go along with the script. See, they want you to only be merely the supporting actor in your own life where you supposed to be the main actor because well, if we could call everyone's life a movie, that's where we should be. But AT LEAST us WEs want to be interacting with other main actors of their own lives and a collaborative script that is not to say script in a derogatory way like us in these anti-NPD comment areas
Please let the slow ones know channel. What your friends did is very common of toxic girls! They want you to chase and beg so they feel bigger than you. Too bad the scapegoat is naturally SUPER INDEPENDENT! WE ORGANIZE, NETWORK, ACHIEVE AND DO EVERYTHING ON OUR OWN. Cut them off abd keep moving. They are really jealous you're growing and moving past them. This happened to me and I quietly cut them off. 🤗💯🙌🏾
Why they can’t reach out to you? I’m so sick of people! A true friend will help you know matter what you do. Real friends don’t get jealous! That’s why I’m done with parents, and family. Keep doing you. You’ve help me with your platform.
Couldn't agree more. That's why I don't explain anything to toxic people, unless I feel like expressing myself no matter what they say or don't say. It just merry go round of endless nonsense.
You're 100% right in cutting them off. The key like you said is the self entitlement when it's convenient for them and after you've done all the work alone. People want to celebrate the championship with you but don't want to come to the season games. No thank you lol.
Toxic people are also those who HELP narcs gaslight you!! SWB, you're a blessing. I look forward to your videos. I learn and share. Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. (Proverbs 9:8)
I called out my ex narc “bestie” bc i was distancing myself and instead of being concerned in a empathetic way she sent me a random text saying “is there a problem?” When I responded with honesty and told her how she made me feel she resorted to playing victim and throwing it back on me. These narcs refuse to see the error in their ways and will paint you to be the problem. Just cut them off cold Turkey!
its bluffing, they pretend that they were going to assist you all along when they see you going ahead and pursuing your course and succeeding without them, you wouldn't have to ask them if they really wanted to.
@@SpiritualWhistleblower one of the oldest tricks, to keep oneself relevant and keep their place in your life without having to be consistent, sometimes life happens and people get distracted, but sometimes that is what it is.
I had another thought, sometimes, "friends", real and fake, see you succeeding, and feel like they are going to be left behind, and feel threatened, and so they want to see whether or not you are going to reach out to them, and this is were the talk of "she's changed" comes in, or "the money/attention has changed her", they wait to see whether you feel that you still need them, and if you do not do what they hope you will, then they address it with the evidence that you did not reach out, even though they could have reached out also, because another's success touches a sensitive or sore point within them, where they feel they cannot have what you might be attaining, and some are of the disposition, that if they can see that you will succeed, they will try to assassinate your chances of taking of, and then they will feel comfortable to move on because you pose no threat to their ego. Some people stand off because you are succeeding, but they don't want to lose you, but they do not know how to express this... Some people may love you, but do not know how to handle your changing circumstances, and some its a different story, sometimes you have to run silent and run deep, and keep your cards to your chest.
It seems these strange types are not just on my ass. I’m so sick of people starting drama with me Chanel. STRAIGHT GATEKEEPING! They want me to kiss ass and beg when they never had to do that with me. It’s always straight crickets when it’s anything to do with me. DONE. I’m so glad you discussed this. This is my confirmation. Thank you I really needed this.
You’re correct don’t explain I left my fam without saying anything 🤷🏾♂️ I don’t wanna deal with any of my family because they try creep back in through flying mon… and they act like victims I received an email stating they don’t know why I still don’t know why I stopped associating with them 😂😂😂😂😂😂 these f never changed and I’m only 21 stress ‼️🙄
Excellent video! Truth! I've experienced this too. Then they play the victim, putting the attention on themselves, as usual 🙄 You did the right thing. They make EVERYTHING about them. That entitlement, transactional, methodical behavior is toxic and exhausting! Keep doing what God has told you to do Sis. Blessings
Thank you for this. I needed to hear it. Handling the situation maturely is such an important aspect of it because it’s one thing to actually try and approach a miscommunication/disagreement maturely vs the people who demand you talk when you’re not ready to and then they play into that victim mentality. This is why I stopped liking the term “best friend” because I’ve had “best friends” that start making big deals about nothing and expect way tooo much but the narcissistic behavior always shows itself sooner or later. I don’t expect much from my friends and they shouldn’t be expecting much from me, or rather, if they have these expectations shouldn’t blow it up and make it a victim mentality type of thing. I’m finding my friendships where not much is expected and understanding is there are the best healthy ones vs the ones I’ve had where it seems all hell breaks loose if I don’t live up to a narcissistic “friend’s” standards. Starting to realize these people aren’t really my friends.
I go through the same. I know someone who I will not call a friend but I tried. I tried to be open about who I am. I'm not highly sociable. I am introverted and I don't like to talk on the phone a lot. This person proceeds to ask me to call them. I say ok let me try this. I call she doesn't answer then says call me back later I'm busy. After playing cat and mouse I told her to call me. Do you think she called? No!. It seems she wanted some control. Even the last time she had news to tell me she texted me to call her. I was like if you have something to tell me why can't you call me. Did I call her, no..... She did all this after I explained clearly I don't like talking on the phone especially if I don't have anything to talk about.
My sister does the same crap. I worked jobs where all I've done is talk on the phone, I tell people to plz text me cus I'm not a phone talker. She told me I'm rude cus she video chatted me & I did not answer. She thinks I'm obligated to pacify her.
My Queen 👑👑👑, "Pay attention to the little things.." Thank you for this word. Trust my gut-- if someone makes me upset and uncomfortable, make some space. Even if I don't see the tell-tale signs, I know when something is off, and I know to avoid some people. Trust myself 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
Honey, I would not let the past mess with my peace. Stalker syndrome is low vibe in the first place. Harassment is a crime as well. God bless you. Keep your head up always
Spot on. Narcissistic entitlement is real and you were good to get those scissors out. Cut these toxic people out of your life, no need to explain why. They can’t hear any criticism so why bother. Just go no contact and let them figure it out. One day they will push the wrong person and they will get checked.
You were working! They knew your tour dates! They saw everything. They could have said, “hey sis when will you have free time so we can see you before you leave Chicago?” They didn’t. Narcissist will love to ruin your parade when you’re having fun or it’s your special day. I started a business and was talking about the name for a while put the link in my bio and a “friend” saw everybody promoting and weeks later asked me for the correct spelling of my business name to post on instagram 😒 that’s not even all of the weird shit she has done
Found out a so called best friend is covert narcissist…she has literally been an op/ hater in my life for decades. I cut off all contact with her without explanation.
Great video sis! Yeah girl I pretty much agree period. Dealt with something like this in terms of toxicity. My thing is move on and keep striving forward. The audacity........a bunch of low-key envious folk if you ask me. You put in a lot of effort doing what you do. Girl keep up the amazing work!!! Stay safe. Love. ♥️🙏👑🌺🔥
Can’t pls these folks sis, they will always try to find fault in us, cuz u didn’t reach out but they didn’t even before or while happening! Keep doing yu. God jus showing u, u are doing the right thing, Set apart ❤️
Ppl like to do favours for you to hold it over your head. I had a friend like that, she would do something small but expect something big like asking for my car to drive for 2 weeks etc
Thank you for your videos there so educational in this type of abuse I had no idea what was happening and what happened to me my whole life until I found you a couple of years ago I’ve learned so much and now I can cut people off with out feeling bad I love you swb
I’m so sad I couldn’t come. My babies, holidays and school obligations, hair appointments ran hectic!! Still supporting from afar! You’re the realest CJ!! 🥰 Keep it up Queen!! 👑
I totally agree with you !!! Keep elevating and allow god to set a table for you in front of your fake friends and haters😘….It’s my Birthday Today S.W.🥳🥳🥳lol. Enjoy ur day!!
Good morning 🙏, my friend 🙏 😊 I wish I was in Detroit with you. We would have a blast. My point is this a SHIP 🚢 is designed 2 take u places, so if ur friendSHIP, partnerSHIP, companionSHIP or relationSHIP isn't taking u anywhere. .. abandon SHIP 🚢 💖. Keep doing you my sista and keep Speaking Truth To Power! Love 💘 you ❤
Keep talking about these experiences bc ppl think we’re the crazy ones. So sick of the passive aggressive behavior it’s sickening and nobody has time to deal with them.
Aka they have a motive, that’s the great character reveal. Your silence is their answer, they know what they are doing. It’s a waste of energy. Narcissist pretend to be helpful so you will intern help them. It’s a set up, they invest so they can take advantage.
As soon as they knew you were coming, a friend that's truly happy for you are excited and welcoming. Come on you can't even repost your friends event. And then they turn it around as if its all about them.
I'm in several situations/people that I just walked away from like that. Thing is I used to explain over and over again, making the same points and then having the same behavior thrown up again shortly or longly down the line. At the end of 2021 I finally had an AHA moment when I realized I was being USED as an emotional and psychic jerk off. They were getting supply from the drama, explaining, re explaining, talks etc. They DO NOT want resolution. Never did. It was just pull him into the game, get reactions and supply, invalidate and discard. Wash, rinse and repeat. I washed and rinsed the toxicity out and cancelled the repeat. Knowledge is power and I took mySelf back by cutting most of my birth family off in silence and most "friends as well. I'm not explaining 💩to anyone anymore and if one is an adult and does not already understand and embody basic human respect and give and take in life then we have NO relationship. I learned in the last 20 years to put my faith and trust in the most high and have been rewarded very well. The other side to that is the more you rise higher in consciousness the fewer people can really be WITH you. Many of these dramas and "issues are people eliminating themselves because they KNOW they are not going to put in the work but you are. But most are not going to come out and say that. Had two people pick fights and scream at me about nothing. I quickly realized they were saying good bye but didn't have the courage to do so rationally. I was levelling up and doing the work. They weren't. I quietly walked away, blocked them and did a cord cutting meditation. Good videos.😊👳♂️
I so get u I cut off so many fake friendenemies I like peace and keep my circle small becuz ppl are wicked and snakes these days love ur vids mama 🙏🙏🙏💜💜
A lot of personal grieving I am going through. I could've used your event...wrapping up funeral arrangements. What is meant for you will not pass you by
You are so correct I have a sister and if I confront her on her awful behavior she literally loses it. She is a convert narcissist. Everything you saying about them is so true.
They will try to act like they need to backfire on you. Move away in silence honey. You owe your future everything, including you. You past you owe nothing to. As a matter of fact, good friends are happy for you and proud of you. To even have an opinion about gay people and every gay gets on the offense then they need to understand the saying of, If it don't apply let it fly. " I have had good and bad experiences with gay even straight people. Happy you got real love in all the places you go. May God keep being good to you always dear. My ex family is the worst. I got new family who isn't blood had old friends that was better than blood and would never do me the way my ex blood family and old friends did to me. Cherish what is good and coming towards you and out of mind and out of sight with those who have drama. Narc friends and family have a jezbel spirit
I'm glad you spoke up about this. Both of my parents are narcs and hardly helped me with anything, no matter how small and insignificant it was. Then the minute that they did help they held it over my head and would broadcast it all over the city that they had to help me, or shame me for needing help to begin with. It's because of this that I have an extremely hard time asking for help from anybody for anything. I feel intense guilt and embarrassment even though I would help anyone without batting an eye. People mistake it for pride that I don't ask for help but it's trauma. I can't bring myself to ask for much of anything. I just figure it out on my own. Realistically though, no one was meant to be out here fending for themselves, we require community. There is nothing wrong with people who genuinely love and care for you to support you in any capacity.
I didn't listen to this video, but I was wondering if why I always feel alone and when I do reach out to friends...they say to talk to my counselor. I'm going through a lot of family stuff...including a divorce. This is why a lot of times I don't feel safe to reach out to people. Wasn't asking for a place to stay, money, just all listening ear, maybe a hug. WTF....as a grown adult...apparently I'm supposed to lift myself up ALL the time and people only reach out to me when they want something. Am I toxic or they?
Omg this is it I would have still been a friend because my life doesn't depend on what a single person that God has not asked to support doesn't support me...it's the petty things that folks do that ax themselves... this is when u heal and can sit alone without a single person but God. People don't need people u need God, God job #swb
Yeah...I've had this happen so many times. In 2017, I was having minor surgery but it was still a big deal because I was going to another city for it. Several people knew I was having this surgery and could have helped but chose not to. After the fact they were like, "Oh, I would have helped you...you should have asked me." Honestly, I think this was a straight up lie. They knew my situation and they could have volunteered ahead of time. It's so easy to volunteer things after the fact, which basically does nothing. There was a coworker who barely knew me who helped me a lot through that surgery. God definitely provided for me through this coworker, who became a friend of mine. My actual "friends" did not. This has happened several times in different situations. I've just accepted that this is the way the United States operates. We have a lot of selfish people in our society. All this to say that if your friends from Chicago truly wanted to help you or see you while you were there, they could have reached out ahead of time. It doesn't take much to do that. But it's easier for them to make a big deal of it after the fact instead of actually helping you.
You were there 1-2 days for work which was unrelated to them. They’re being toxic. They could just wish you luck w the new venture and catch you another time.
You need to be a good friend to yourself, first. You are doing the right thing. Your so-called friends would rather put it on you, instead of owning up to their own shortcomings. Trying to ruin your vacation so they feel powerful is not what a good friend does. They always want to have the upper hand, but that belongs to you, Girl!
Usually, when I travel back home from college break I would only let my close friends know I will be back in town so we can catch up. However, your case is different because you have been advertising this program on social media for months. It's not like they didn't know you were coming. They could have easily reached out to offer help or to make plans on seeing you. Heck, they could have attended the program if the really wanted to! And if it was such a big deal that you didn't reach out why couldn't they have said that while you were in Chicago? It was a coward move for them to wait until you were in Jamaica.
First of all, THIS is your calling, your purpose. Ecclesiastes 2:19 we are ALL created for a SPECIFIC purpose. You are walking in your purpose. It sounds like you OUTGREW your so-called friends. Just remember, the devil will use those closest to you to try to distract you from your calling. They say once you know what your purpose is you no longer have friends. You have PURPOSE PARTNERS!! People supporting you as you WALK in your purpose. MANY are called, the chosen are FEW💯
I tried to run a tax business and those closest to me didn’t let me do their taxes but called me with tax problems (wanting free tax service)then I ignored their butts around a funeral by not showing up got chewed out. I just blocked and gray rock their tails. Not ruining my winning vibe !!
Exactly!!!
AMEN!
Once you've experienced the abuse and know the signs you can never go back to not knowing all the signs of narcissistic people
Right making that much easier to stay pushing
It's your business who you cut off and who you reach out to. I use to give ppl way to many chances then what they deserve.
So TRUE!!!
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Narc friends are very transactional/ one-sided and they want ppl to kiss their asses. I had to cut a few ppl off once I realized the dynamics of the friendship.
Exactly! They sneak it in on you by pretending to be an equal or a so-called inferior. Only to later sneak up their deluded "I'm superior" attitude. Only to get mad when you do not go along with the script. See, they want you to only be merely the supporting actor in your own life where you supposed to be the main actor because well, if we could call everyone's life a movie, that's where we should be.
But AT LEAST us WEs want to be interacting with other main actors of their own lives and a collaborative script that is not to say script in a derogatory way like us in these anti-NPD comment areas
Exactly!
It's exhausting!
AMEN!
Please let the slow ones know channel. What your friends did is very common of toxic girls! They want you to chase and beg so they feel bigger than you. Too bad the scapegoat is naturally SUPER INDEPENDENT! WE ORGANIZE, NETWORK, ACHIEVE AND DO EVERYTHING ON OUR OWN. Cut them off abd keep moving. They are really jealous you're growing and moving past them. This happened to me and I quietly cut them off. 🤗💯🙌🏾
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Why they can’t reach out to you? I’m so sick of people! A true friend will help you know matter what you do. Real friends don’t get jealous!
That’s why I’m done with parents, and family.
Keep doing you. You’ve help me with your platform.
I love how people like to get "angry" with people for the things that they themselves are doing TO that person. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
I know. A recent Narc friend told me I "verbally assaulted him" after I told him how much he hurt me with his words and actions by pushing me away.
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It's pointless to confront them.. they're going to deny, lie and argue about the b.s they've done
Couldn't agree more. That's why I don't explain anything to toxic people, unless I feel like expressing myself no matter what they say or don't say. It just merry go round of endless nonsense.
My half-sister is this way. She thinks we were raised to compete with each other. I stopped calling and talking to her.
You're 100% right in cutting them off. The key like you said is the self entitlement when it's convenient for them and after you've done all the work alone. People want to celebrate the championship with you but don't want to come to the season games. No thank you lol.
Toxic people are also those who HELP narcs gaslight you!!
SWB, you're a blessing. I look forward to your videos. I learn and share.
Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. (Proverbs 9:8)
I called out my ex narc “bestie” bc i was distancing myself and instead of being concerned in a empathetic way she sent me a random text saying “is there a problem?” When I responded with honesty and told her how she made me feel she resorted to playing victim and throwing it back on me. These narcs refuse to see the error in their ways and will paint you to be the problem. Just cut them off cold Turkey!
Omg I recently went thru the exact same scenario! Wow.
@@spiritgurl1111 me too. Word for word!
its bluffing, they pretend that they were going to assist you all along when they see you going ahead and pursuing your course and succeeding without them,
you wouldn't have to ask them if they really wanted to.
This is accurate 🎯
@@SpiritualWhistleblower one of the oldest tricks, to keep oneself relevant and keep their place in your life without having to be consistent, sometimes life happens and people get distracted, but sometimes that is what it is.
I had another thought, sometimes, "friends", real and fake, see you succeeding, and feel like they are going to be left behind, and feel threatened, and so they want to see whether or not you are going to reach out to them, and this is were the talk of "she's changed" comes in, or "the money/attention has changed her", they wait to see whether you feel that you still need them, and if you do not do what they hope you will, then they address it with the evidence that you did not reach out, even though they could have reached out also, because another's success touches a sensitive or sore point within them, where they feel they cannot have what you might be attaining, and some are of the disposition, that if they can see that you will succeed, they will try to assassinate your chances of taking of, and then they will feel comfortable to move on because you pose no threat to their ego. Some people stand off because you are succeeding, but they don't want to lose you, but they do not know how to express this... Some people may love you, but do not know how to handle your changing circumstances, and some its a different story, sometimes you have to run silent and run deep, and keep your cards to your chest.
It seems these strange types are not just on my ass. I’m so sick of people starting drama with me Chanel. STRAIGHT GATEKEEPING! They want me to kiss ass and beg when they never had to do that with me. It’s always straight crickets when it’s anything to do with me. DONE. I’m so glad you discussed this. This is my confirmation. Thank you I really needed this.
You’re correct don’t explain I left my fam without saying anything 🤷🏾♂️ I don’t wanna deal with any of my family because they try creep back in through flying mon… and they act like victims I received an email stating they don’t know why I still don’t know why I stopped associating with them 😂😂😂😂😂😂 these f never changed and I’m only 21 stress ‼️🙄
U did the best thing for u! Dont stress forget them and enjoy lifeeeee
@@janaeclarke136 fr 🤣🤣stay Blessed madam Happy Sunday God bless ☔️🙋🏾♂️
Excellent video! Truth! I've experienced this too. Then they play the victim, putting the attention on themselves, as usual 🙄 You did the right thing. They make EVERYTHING about them. That entitlement, transactional, methodical behavior is toxic and exhausting! Keep doing what God has told you to do Sis. Blessings
These folks are delusional..
Its superficial they call you to gossip, drink or smoke ..no talk about enhancing yourselves
Thank you for this. I needed to hear it. Handling the situation maturely is such an important aspect of it because it’s one thing to actually try and approach a miscommunication/disagreement maturely vs the people who demand you talk when you’re not ready to and then they play into that victim mentality. This is why I stopped liking the term “best friend” because I’ve had “best friends” that start making big deals about nothing and expect way tooo much but the narcissistic behavior always shows itself sooner or later. I don’t expect much from my friends and they shouldn’t be expecting much from me, or rather, if they have these expectations shouldn’t blow it up and make it a victim mentality type of thing. I’m finding my friendships where not much is expected and understanding is there are the best healthy ones vs the ones I’ve had where it seems all hell breaks loose if I don’t live up to a narcissistic “friend’s” standards. Starting to realize these people aren’t really my friends.
This was right on time!
Iron sharpenth Iron ,So a man's sharpenth the countenance of his friends.....Proverbs 27::17
AMEN
💯💜 This platform also attracts dark empaths and narcs.
Jealous fake friends. Keep doing what u do. Ty spiritual
I go through the same. I know someone who I will not call a friend but I tried. I tried to be open about who I am. I'm not highly sociable. I am introverted and I don't like to talk on the phone a lot. This person proceeds to ask me to call them. I say ok let me try this. I call she doesn't answer then says call me back later I'm busy. After playing cat and mouse I told her to call me. Do you think she called? No!. It seems she wanted some control. Even the last time she had news to tell me she texted me to call her. I was like if you have something to tell me why can't you call me. Did I call her, no..... She did all this after I explained clearly I don't like talking on the phone especially if I don't have anything to talk about.
Yes that's manipulative behavior. 🚩
My sister does the same crap. I worked jobs where all I've done is talk on the phone, I tell people to plz text me cus I'm not a phone talker. She told me I'm rude cus she video chatted me & I did not answer. She thinks I'm obligated to pacify her.
Excellent video SWB and I love Dr Ramani! Thank you for everything you do to put out these messages! Peace, love and safe travels!
My Queen 👑👑👑,
"Pay attention to the little things.."
Thank you for this word.
Trust my gut-- if someone makes me upset and uncomfortable, make some space. Even if I don't see the tell-tale signs, I know when something is off, and I know to avoid some people. Trust myself
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Honey, I would not let the past mess with my peace. Stalker syndrome is low vibe in the first place. Harassment is a crime as well. God bless you. Keep your head up always
Spot on. Narcissistic entitlement is real and you were good to get those scissors out. Cut these toxic people out of your life, no need to explain why. They can’t hear any criticism so why bother. Just go no contact and let them figure it out. One day they will push the wrong person and they will get checked.
You were working! They knew your tour dates! They saw everything. They could have said, “hey sis when will you have free time so we can see you before you leave Chicago?” They didn’t. Narcissist will love to ruin your parade when you’re having fun or it’s your special day. I started a business and was talking about the name for a while put the link in my bio and a “friend” saw everybody promoting and weeks later asked me for the correct spelling of my business name to post on instagram 😒 that’s not even all of the weird shit she has done
Found out a so called best friend is covert narcissist…she has literally been an op/ hater in my life for decades. I cut off all contact with her without explanation.
Great video SWB! I cannot stand passive-aggressive people.
I don't even wait to identify whether is narc, if I see toxic traits in general, that's enough for me to cut them off...
Amen sis! God is our gatekeeping! I don't kiss azz either! Forget these folks. They wanted to ruin your vacation.
Great video sis! Yeah girl I pretty much agree period. Dealt with something like this in terms of toxicity. My thing is move on and keep striving forward. The audacity........a bunch of low-key envious folk if you ask me. You put in a lot of effort doing what you do. Girl keep up the amazing work!!! Stay safe. Love. ♥️🙏👑🌺🔥
Can’t pls these folks sis, they will always try to find fault in us, cuz u didn’t reach out but they didn’t even before or while happening! Keep doing yu. God jus showing u, u are doing the right thing, Set apart ❤️
Ppl like to do favours for you to hold it over your head. I had a friend like that, she would do something small but expect something big like asking for my car to drive for 2 weeks etc
Sis, I FEEL your story. I don't ask ppl for sh¡+.
Right again! I am loving your videos❤
Thank you for your videos there so educational in this type of abuse I had no idea what was happening and what happened to me my whole life until I found you a couple of years ago I’ve learned so much and now I can cut people off with out feeling bad I love you swb
I’m from Chicago live in NYC I can relate. I call Chicago haterville.
NM...You answered my question...God will provide. It does get lonely though.
God WILL provide.
I’m so sad I couldn’t come. My babies, holidays and school obligations, hair appointments ran hectic!! Still supporting from afar! You’re the realest CJ!! 🥰 Keep it up Queen!! 👑
This is brilliant truth Chanel! I am with you 💯 I love your content and your example. God bless you sister🙏
I totally agree with you !!! Keep elevating and allow god to set a table for you in front of your fake friends and haters😘….It’s my Birthday Today S.W.🥳🥳🥳lol. Enjoy ur day!!
Happy birthday 🎁🎊🎂
@@SpiritualWhistleblower Thank you so much Mama’s I appreciate it😘🥰💯
You are a national treasure
Heyyyy you in my city! You are a vessel to help people. Jealousy is dangerous I stay away from vampires.
Protect your peace at all costs.
Good morning 🙏, my friend 🙏 😊 I wish I was in Detroit with you. We would have a blast. My point is this a SHIP 🚢 is designed 2 take u places, so if ur friendSHIP, partnerSHIP, companionSHIP or relationSHIP isn't taking u anywhere. .. abandon SHIP 🚢 💖. Keep doing you my sista and keep Speaking Truth To Power! Love 💘 you ❤
Yes we would be going to the night club having fun right now if you was here 😂
Oooooo, I loooove THAT!! Well, well said. :) :)
Absolutely Chanel!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
We Celebrate You!!! and We Love You SWB!!❤
Cut off all Covert Narcs!!!❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️
Thank you for sharing this well said
Keep talking about these experiences bc ppl think we’re the crazy ones. So sick of the passive aggressive behavior it’s sickening and nobody has time to deal with them.
I so happy u made this I swear I’m At the point of faking my death just so I can have some peace
Exactly, narcissistic move, was going to cash in and cash up at a later date
It's just that simple.
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Houston ready!!
Proverbs 9:8
King James Version
8 Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.
Reposting your events is that simple. I’m sorry you had friends like this.
The strangers probably treated u better than ur friends ur friends r JEALOUS stay away from their negative energy!! Blessings to you 💙💙💙💙💙
Yes. Confirmation and alignment in my life with these recent videos you made on Narc friends.
Aka they have a motive, that’s the great character reveal. Your silence is their answer, they know what they are doing. It’s a waste of energy. Narcissist pretend to be helpful so you will intern help them. It’s a set up, they invest so they can take advantage.
As soon as they knew you were coming, a friend that's truly happy for you are excited and welcoming. Come on you can't even repost your friends event. And then they turn it around as if its all about them.
I'm in several situations/people that I just walked away from like that.
Thing is I used to explain over and over again, making the same points and then having the same behavior thrown up again shortly or longly down the line.
At the end of 2021 I finally had an AHA moment when I realized I was being USED as an emotional and psychic jerk off.
They were getting supply from the drama, explaining, re explaining, talks etc. They DO NOT want resolution. Never did. It was just pull him into the game, get reactions and supply, invalidate and discard. Wash, rinse and repeat. I washed and rinsed the toxicity out and cancelled the repeat.
Knowledge is power and I took mySelf back by cutting most of my birth family off in silence and most "friends as well.
I'm not explaining 💩to anyone anymore and if one is an adult and does not already understand and embody basic human respect and give and take in life then we have NO relationship.
I learned in the last 20 years to put my faith and trust in the most high and have been rewarded very well.
The other side to that is the more you rise higher in consciousness the fewer people can really be WITH you.
Many of these dramas and "issues are people eliminating themselves because they KNOW they are not going to put in the work but you are. But most are not going to come out and say that.
Had two people pick fights and scream at me about nothing. I quickly realized they were saying good bye but didn't have the courage to do so rationally. I was levelling up and doing the work. They weren't. I quietly walked away, blocked them and did a cord cutting meditation.
Good videos.😊👳♂️
This resonated with me. Thank you!!!
I so get u I cut off so many fake friendenemies I like peace and keep my circle small becuz ppl are wicked and snakes these days love ur vids mama 🙏🙏🙏💜💜
Yet again, I needed this ❤️ Thank you
A lot of personal grieving I am going through. I could've used your event...wrapping up funeral arrangements. What is meant for you will not pass you by
Don’t explain yourself. If he did not do anything and u just decided he was not for you, that’s your right.
Personality disorder all types
You are so correct I have a sister and if I confront her on her awful behavior she literally loses it. She is a convert narcissist. Everything you saying about them is so true.
Nice message thank beautiful
Thank you for this message.
This is what I needed to hear.
You're amazing❣
They will try to act like they need to backfire on you. Move away in silence honey. You owe your future everything, including you. You past you owe nothing to. As a matter of fact, good friends are happy for you and proud of you. To even have an opinion about gay people and every gay gets on the offense then they need to understand the saying of, If it don't apply let it fly. " I have had good and bad experiences with gay even straight people. Happy you got real love in all the places you go. May God keep being good to you always dear. My ex family is the worst. I got new family who isn't blood had old friends that was better than blood and would never do me the way my ex blood family and old friends did to me. Cherish what is good and coming towards you and out of mind and out of sight with those who have drama. Narc friends and family have a jezbel spirit
I'm glad you spoke up about this. Both of my parents are narcs and hardly helped me with anything, no matter how small and insignificant it was. Then the minute that they did help they held it over my head and would broadcast it all over the city that they had to help me, or shame me for needing help to begin with. It's because of this that I have an extremely hard time asking for help from anybody for anything. I feel intense guilt and embarrassment even though I would help anyone without batting an eye. People mistake it for pride that I don't ask for help but it's trauma. I can't bring myself to ask for much of anything. I just figure it out on my own. Realistically though, no one was meant to be out here fending for themselves, we require community. There is nothing wrong with people who genuinely love and care for you to support you in any capacity.
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I didn't listen to this video, but I was wondering if why I always feel alone and when I do reach out to friends...they say to talk to my counselor. I'm going through a lot of family stuff...including a divorce. This is why a lot of times I don't feel safe to reach out to people. Wasn't asking for a place to stay, money, just all listening ear, maybe a hug. WTF....as a grown adult...apparently I'm supposed to lift myself up ALL the time and people only reach out to me when they want something. Am I toxic or they?
Omg this is it I would have still been a friend because my life doesn't depend on what a single person that God has not asked to support doesn't support me...it's the petty things that folks do that ax themselves... this is when u heal and can sit alone without a single person but God. People don't need people u need God, God job #swb
And it ok to get fucking angry . Don't have t8 take shit. Also want to thank you for that NY attitude. Teach us please. I love it.
Oh my goodness you’re my city I’m 10 minutes away. I’m in Oak Park
Come out tonight!
@@SpiritualWhistleblower I sent you an email to get ticket information
You help from the heart ❤💙💜 or don't give
Oooh sis was exposing people and set the record straight. Love this video ❤
Amen! God will bring the resources… trust Him!!!
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Don’t take it personal keep it moving. God removes people from your life sometimes when they remove themselves. Count it a blessing.
This sounds so much like my sister
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Chanel welcome to Detroit ❤️
Yeah...I've had this happen so many times. In 2017, I was having minor surgery but it was still a big deal because I was going to another city for it. Several people knew I was having this surgery and could have helped but chose not to. After the fact they were like, "Oh, I would have helped you...you should have asked me." Honestly, I think this was a straight up lie. They knew my situation and they could have volunteered ahead of time. It's so easy to volunteer things after the fact, which basically does nothing. There was a coworker who barely knew me who helped me a lot through that surgery. God definitely provided for me through this coworker, who became a friend of mine. My actual "friends" did not. This has happened several times in different situations. I've just accepted that this is the way the United States operates. We have a lot of selfish people in our society. All this to say that if your friends from Chicago truly wanted to help you or see you while you were there, they could have reached out ahead of time. It doesn't take much to do that. But it's easier for them to make a big deal of it after the fact instead of actually helping you.
You were there 1-2 days for work which was unrelated to them. They’re being toxic. They could just wish you luck w the new venture and catch you another time.
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You need to be a good friend to yourself, first. You are doing the right thing. Your so-called friends would rather put it on you, instead of owning up to their own shortcomings. Trying to ruin your vacation so they feel powerful is not what a good friend does. They always want to have the upper hand, but that belongs to you, Girl!
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Welcome to Detroit😇😇
If u out them, then what? Please help!!!
Usually, when I travel back home from college break I would only let my close friends know I will be back in town so we can catch up. However, your case is different because you have been advertising this program on social media for months. It's not like they didn't know you were coming. They could have easily reached out to offer help or to make plans on seeing you. Heck, they could have attended the program if the really wanted to! And if it was such a big deal that you didn't reach out why couldn't they have said that while you were in Chicago? It was a coward move for them to wait until you were in Jamaica.
Welcome welcome to Detroit and hope you like R. City God bless you
You are a beautiful lady but Gurl when you get dolled up, u are model ready! Looking fresh and gorgeous 😍
They are Evil
🥜🥜🥜STOP EATING PEANUTS! WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? AN ELEPHANT!?!🐘 Only kidding... 😂i hope you have a Great time in Detroit!
First of all, THIS is your calling, your purpose. Ecclesiastes 2:19 we are ALL created for a SPECIFIC purpose. You are walking in your purpose. It sounds like you OUTGREW your so-called friends. Just remember, the devil will use those closest to you to try to distract you from your calling. They say once you know what your purpose is you no longer have friends. You have PURPOSE PARTNERS!! People supporting you as you WALK in your purpose. MANY are called, the chosen are FEW💯
You probably the prettiest skin I’ve ever seen!! I know genetics plays a part, but you should drop your skincare routine cause it is giving!!
You Don't Got To Kiss They Butt
Jealous abusive love that frisky behavior
😈 mad sis your protected God almighty Good work
Want you to fell yep but watching your light God the best friend you could ever have. Praise Good ty ty ty 💓 nope no expectations nothing but love
Are you ever coming back to St. Louis Mo?