This Is Why Men Are Done With Dating....
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- čas přidán 12. 06. 2024
- In this video, I talk about why men are done with dating… feel free to share your personal experience in the comments and get a conversation going!
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As someone who was falsely accused of sexual assault, being alone is just being smart at this point.
Yep, and there’s this too. Women can make your life hell. And in this world it’s the male thats guilty until he’s able to prove his innocence.
That's scary ass shit
Been there done that. It’s regular behavior today by women and they can’t figure out why men are opting out of relationships.
My ex drained me of 6 figs. Never again
@@solice8844 Yeah feel you there man. I spent about 20k in legal fees and a gruelling dark cloud of misery was over me and my families head for almost two years. She didn’t lose anything, all she had to do was go on stand and play victim for two hours... Evil.
The fact that we can even ask the question “why are men done dating” should scare everyone. Men are supposed to be Gung ho about dating and attracting women. Women have made themselves so repulsive that men are now uninterested is terrifying.
Feminism has kicked into high gear at precisely the WORST possible time. For most men, porn is a viable short-term alternative, and most men have concluded that the benefits of being in a relationship with a woman are greatly exceeded by the costs.
@@marcmays48 porn isn’t a viable solution. Just find a good woman with similar values as you, not too much mileage and a job. It seems like there aren’t good women out there. They exist, just not on social media. Social media makes them all look bad.
I think it’s a mixture of the rude/demanding/entitled personalities exacerbated by social media and what society has evolved into, the obesity epidemic (not to fat shame but it does kill attraction - and this affects both genders too), the rise in single motherhood and all the baggage that brings, and high body counts to the point that many men are so turned off.
@@jaysibiri That's funny-- I am not on any social media (unless you count CZcams). Even assuming that you can find a woman with similar values, a low body count, and who is gainfully employed, that's no guarantee of anything.
Marriage has become like an unholy combination of an at-will employment agreement, and a personal warranty that the woman will remain happy, for what-- the next 30, 40... or even 80 years? Too often, women have given up on Mr. Right... and only want Mr. Right Now. Marriage has become a set of cash and prizes women win when they divorce men, on the way to "something bigger and better." That's a foolish proposition when women have repeatedly shown that they're neither accountable, nor responsible, nor reasonable, all too often.
If dating and attracting women were a temporary pain which men had to endure on the way to winning the grand prize of marrying a woman, that would be one thing. Yet, since 50% of marriages fail, and women file for divorce 80% of the time, it's the men who desperately need the protection. Too bad the family courts have been slanted by the feminists, and severely punish men who are dumb enough to get married.
Good way to put it repulsive.
The worst thing about today's dating advice is its always men who need to change and adapt. Rarely do I see what women need to do to change to help out. And what I see, one of the big problems is how women treat men.
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Agree very hard to find a woman who's not a player
yeah as what Dave Chappelle's skits said in the following context, "they talk about a man should do but never talk about what a woman should do"
Women treat men like they aren't even human. To think they are surprised men are leaving the West and marrying local women abroad, never to return.
Women cannot be accountable. A mans life is all abt accountability and responsability. And if you are unlucky enough(probable) to connect with a wounded woman, she will make you pay hell for your life, it is narcissistic abuse, the same as men are always accused of.
To all young, single men - Think very, very, very hard about your choices in your romantic lives ahead. Do not ignore red flags, no matter how insignificant. Trust your instincts. Never, EVER settle. If you have family members pressuring you to settle down and start producing offspring, ignore them. Love yourself before you love someone else. And for god's sake, do NOT have children with someone you aren't 10000% sure is a decent human being. Stay out there. Stay available. Be selfish. Be critical. Your happiness comes first. Forget the Hollywood ending. It doesn't exist.
Better yet, go it totally alone. Pursue your career, live very modestly, invest >FIFTY % of your income, study economics, & get that first million by age 40. Buy time, not skirts. Avoid women, avoid family court, avoid destitution when you are near 50. A skirt just isn*t worth destroying your life and making a fool of yourself.
Black pill. How can you ever be 10,000% sure?
I am 27 and the first women i have ever had sexaul experience with is a dominatrix. This is going on for 6 month now and even when paying her to be intimite with me i never felt so happy in my life.
Just don't get involved in the first place. These modern bitches will accuse you of things you never did and the court is on their side. You don't need them!
@@beatlesiracundos even if you're 1000% sure, she still reserves the option to change her mind
To all the young guys, don't bother trying to date modern women it's a criminal waste of your time and money. Instead concentrate on yourself and improve your own life with hobbies, friends. No modern day woman will ever appreciate what you will do for them.
This a great advice for all genres actually
You’ve got to leave the United States my dude. South American women are the most sincere valuable people I’ve ever met.
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@@willylowman99 South American women act like that because you(American) have the $$$, dude! In the land of the blind, who has only one eye is king, imagine who has both. You Americans "have both eyes" (you have money they desire so much)
@@terence.j I've experienced some serious connections in Brazil, Argentina, and Columbia. I've met some pretty affectionate people.
This is where I am at this point. I'd rather be alone and content compared to being in a bad relationship. If a relationship happens for me, great...if not, I'm fine with being alone.
Good quote is that “women already are and men have to become” if you make something of yourself by the time you are 30 there will be no shortage of women. Men peak much later than women
Same here man
@@causalloop2825 Thanks I needed a laugh today.
@@causalloop2825 Your welcome
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Yep, I gave women 13 years, and 4 relationships. I'm tired of being the one making the first move, spending the money, and having to walk on eggshells so I don't offend her. A 9 month relationship ended and I said that's enough for me. That was when I was 23, and I'll be 49 in a few week. 90% of women aren't worthy of a McDonalds Happy Meal.
If you're walking on eggshells to avoid offending them then that's half your problem. Be blunt and be honest, a lot of girls won't like it, but they will respect it and once they accept it your going to have way less issues in the future.
At 49 you're still at an age where you could get a lot of girls, certainly your options at that age are now far better than women in that age group. The balance of power in relationships moves heavily to the males favour towards the late 30's. It's sad, but young guys are at a huge disadvantage in relationships, but older women (especially post 50) have it even worse than young men.
100% arn*t worth the left over garbage of a fast food meal.
@Heyjose if you mean in relationships, no women or at the advantage initially, and then men get the advantage after you get laid if you don’t get a relationship with her but that’s basically the only advantage and then you get in a relationship and then you get married and she has this massive advantage for the rest of your relationship or she can ruin you as a man just for getting married
@@brianmolstad1255 I guess you know all the women on the planet.
@@saynotohookups Only about half.
My mom ruined my family, including abusing my sister till she killed herself, and she faced no repercussions at all. Women these days have too much freedom to abuse others.
yes, we need more lawyers seeing women as guilty as men by statistics.
I'm only 23 and I'm so done with dating, the last girl I dated went with me to a bar only to point out two guys at the bar she said she had sex with, to then go talk with them and leave me at the table. What a joke women are these days.
At 23, you should not be concerned with dating. You should be concerned with growing and adding value to yourself as a man, and this oftentimes takes years to achieve.
I guarantee you that, provided you've invested in yourself, the tables will turn for you. One book that really changed my perspective is "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi. Understand the game that you are in, and adjust accordingly.
You got this, my dude. Wishing you the best!
@@jamesfraracci7987 I appreciate that, but I have garnered the value I have been wanting in my life, I am ahead of the curve on most things, I have 2 degrees and 7 certifications in my fields as well as am well off money wise. A wife should be next, but I almost was married once only for her to say we're too young, then get married to the man she cheated on me with a year later.
@@jamesfraracci7987 I feel as though adding value to attract a woman eventually just is a wrong way to look at it bc you should just wanna better yourself who gives a shit if these modern women want to be with you all they are is drama
@@awaiting_YHWH_return Very ignorant and simple-minded of you to assume everyone wants a family or "legacy." Dude who gives a shit about legacy? You aren't making that money for your future kids its for you, its not like you'd be a millionaire.
@@awaiting_YHWH_return because YOU THE MAN enjoy and not HER.
It's not even just the "I hate men" movement, it's the "men are responsible for all of society's ills" concept as well. Even if someone goes out of their way to say "but you're one of the good ones" or something, when men generally are blamed for everything it doesn't matter if I'm currently the exception to the rule - I'm placed in a position where I'm one mistake away from also being "the worst", which puts me constantly on edge. It's a ridiculous position to put anyone in.
It's like walking on egg shells
in 8th grade. my class had to be teached about sexual concent towards girls/woman. but the funny thing is. these classes was only for guys. girls didnt had to nor was encouraged to attend these classes- top of that the slogan that all men are potential rapist was wery popular back than, probably still. that was about 16 years ago.
My guy spittin facts!
For the longest time men have been in charge. So...who would you consider responsible if not the people in charge?
I hear you though. Blaming gets us nowhere but owning up to responsibilities can help us do better. Gender, age, etc aside
As a man in his early 50's being financially stable and physically fit during an
incoming economic recession, I know my value and have come to the complete
conclusion that at the end of the day, I enjoy my peace and quiet much more than
trying to endlessly get the approval of a woman that has no worth in my books.
I value my peace more than I value someone else's selfish company.
@Heyjose They won't be chosen. My peace of mind is not for sale.
@@theharshtruth8563 we get it, you're gay.
🤔 facts! I'm 50 and tired of the heart breaks after being a widower last four years have been hell
When you get to be with a girlfriend, your financial stable become financial unstable easily.
@@dennisray8904 same bro. I’ve been a widower for 8 yrs and gave up dating a couple of yrs ago. At this point in life, I’m done; just focusing on making art no matter how crappy; just create to keep the mind occupied.
It's near impossible for an 8+ woman to empathize with the difficulties modern men face with dating and relationships
Yeah I don’t give a shit what this broad has to say. I’m here for the comments 🤣
Spoken by a 3.
@@sharonberry410 He’s at least got a pfp, what do *you* look like though? You’re clearly too insecure to show the world who you are. The utter hypocrisy. Belittling a man for his appearance just because he pointed out a truth. Shame on you and those who raised you.
@@sharonberry410 Moral consistency means you shouldn't insult someone just because they disagree with you, unless you like and accept when it happens to you.
Chuck it, invest and get rich.
This is purely a modern woman problem not wanting to take responsibility for not bringing anything to the table except their looks.
There are plenty of educated women with hobbies and fun life experiences out there. What are you expecting to see brought to the table? And what are you brining?
Elmer Granados..That statement is so bloody true..
@@erincarr9411 take it you are a woman?What would you bring to the table!My experience of women,me being 67 is exactly as above??They are not prepared,in every way,to not be able to bring anything to the table!Most women have not experience of working either!??
@@erincarr9411 I Bring a six figure income, great career, I’m in great shape and have a very decent amount of money in the bank and can travel wherever and whenever I feel the urge. Modern women bring a push up bra credit debt and an entitled attitude. We are not the same.
@@brandonjpj1 did you forget? Men don’t care about your 6 figure income. Other things maybe. Because we know you don’t spend your hard earned 6 figures on men.
Honestly, I’m 30, the dating game literally changed through my twenties. It’s a disaster, And women are delusional. Social media destroyed society. I wish I could go back to flip phones. It was a lot easier ten years ago. It’s not even fun anymore. Feels like a job interview, where back ten years ago it was actually fun
I feel the same. I'm 31. If I'd been the same man 10 years ago that I am now, dating would be fun and I'd have likely been married relatively quickly. If I went back 20 years, I'd probably be married accidentally, several times over! Social media and online dating have warped women's expectations to such a degree that an average woman feels like she's settling if she "only" has a slightly above-average man. A female 6 genuinely believes she's too good for a male 7.5 these days
@@tdaye6978 it’s their loss man. Women age like milk. Their fifteen minutes of fame is short lived. Men if you don’t believe me, make a bumble account.
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This is beyond accurate and feel exactly the same way! It’s actually tragic now and insanely unrealistic!
That’s why so many of these women hit their late 20s and early 30s, and cant find a ‘good’ man after riding the CC throughout their 20s
If anyone that tells you *"Anything worth having requires a lot of hard work"* then they have no idea what they are talking about. If you have to wake up and work harder everyday for the same results, then you are doing it wrong. If she requires more from you everyday, her demands will only increase in future. That is a fact you can take to the grave.
Divorced man here. You are correct. You will NEVER meet the expectations and they will ALWAYS demand more
What about learning a new skill or doing or job, losing weight? With no hard work you will achieve nothing
@@sweetbunnybun Again, it does not take "A lot of hard work" to learn something new, lose weight, or learn a new skill. All the above can be done with very little effort. All you need is a little discipline..
Most people that tell you it takes "hard work" never shoveled pig poop, worked in a coal mine, or fished a commercial boat!
@ E M - If I understand it correctly, the men believe that they HAVE worked hard already, as you suggest . . .but have not achieved good results . . .
I think that is supposed to be interpreted in a more abstract sense, basically that you should dedicate yourself to what you care about and put in the effort needed to master it, be it an advanced subject, training, sport or whatever rocks your boat.
And about applying this to women: A woman that demands more and more without adding value herself to compensate for this would be automatically disqualified from this saying because she would in fact not be worth having.
I am retired military and alone. There was a time I wanted to get married, but it never happened. I was deployed a lot and I had relationships during my enlistments, but long distance ones never work, women will cheat and lie, and that did happen too me. I get my pension and disability pay now. It’s more than enough for me. I go where I want, do what I want, spend my money on me. I don’t want to be that instant step dad, cause my money would be gone in a heart beat. Life is good being alone. My family wants to to get married, I already told them, fuck that.
Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Just my two cents. If you are an ambitious guy, focus on becoming the very best version of yourself. Stay single. Go live your best life. Do the things that bring you joy. Travel solo. You can still have terrific intimate relationships with beautiful women without bringing in state divorce laws to dictate what happens to your finances in the likely event your marriage becomes non-functioning. Stay safe, Stay single!
Thank you. You are a hero to all single men!
thanks, someone has to tell the bitter truth. agree totally.
Technically you should never need a lawyer.....but American women are the worst. They all lie and cheat. And they have the emotional maturity of a 5 year old to boot.
Wow! Coming from a divorce lawyer this means alot to us guys. I’ve been married for 27 years, grown kids. If I leave half my retirement goes with her. Not happening, I didn’t work 20 years to give it to some women. She even cheated on me while I was deployed and still I would have to give her half my retirement if I divorce her. Also, My marriage is sexless, omg this is terrible. Oh but she wants me to be faithful, yeah ok😏 your 100% correct, stay single.
Now, my Son? Yeah I tell him not to get married. Especially since he’s in the Air Force, nope!
I see alot of lawyers coming out and saying what your saying and this is good for young men out there that are thinking about marriage. You are protecting men out here and we appreciate it more than you know, keep up the good work. Marriage is just a trap for men. The female can just leave and take half his stuff, which is some BS. Thanks for coming out and saying this. ✊🏽👊🏽👍🏽
@@anthonyperkins5856 you are welcome!
The reason why men stop dating, women want that "Perfect" guy. Good looking, Tons of money, and with no flaws whatsoever. They fail to realize that such a man doesn't exist.
Sometimes the opposite is true. There are also men who look for the "perfect" lady and she is either gay or doesn't live up to his expectations or standards of her. That kind of woman also doesn't exist.
@@grahamdamberger7130 our standards are much lower majority of the time tho
@@awaiting_YHWH_return I was watching some videos by anotheryoutuber who said that there are more males on dating apps than females, and according to most members on both sides based on research, looks are the main thing people look for. That being said, it's probably different when looking for a partner through a social club, a class in school, or hanging around one of your favourite spots. And I don't have a lot of standards either, unlike most single men.
@@grahamdamberger7130 dating apps are filled with 3rd world countries where their women look ugly
The hilarious part is these chick's are far from perfect lmao
It’s really sad as a teen girl seeing things like accusations towards men, women treating men like trash and saying they hate men. For example some guy approaches a woman and she makes a disgusted face, she’s impolite. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS, but it’s still concerning. I adore men and I’m grateful for my boyfriend when a lot of guys my age are realistically immature. You men are precious, don’t let any bad woman step on you :)
My mother said this current disaster between men and women is because women have been oppressed for so long. It's like a payback.
I am now starting to understand why women were "oppressed" as today they are totally out of control
Your mom is full of sh!t. Even if they were oppressed they sure as hell aren't now. The constant propaganda that the US is so sexist has put a big chip on their shoulder. That and pop culture telling them they are goddesses who deserve this or that. Ask your mom when in history has it ever been easier for women. You would think they would be grateful and happy, but they are resentful and full of themselves.
Lol fr
Women were always protected. Humanity is gynocentric.
It sounds like women don't want relationships at all.
If thats the case then I say men should also go their own way.
I've had this thought before as well. Well said.
The answer for me is: “pretty much, yeah.”
I’ve got a lot of female friends, some of who may find me attractive, but I’m done trying for more than that. My last date was almost 4 years ago and my last girlfriend was almost 15 years ago. It’s not worth the effort to me.
The issue nowadays is that social media, dating apps, and Tik Tok have made people want the next best thing. They like someone and see someone better and instantly ditch the other person. They have an unrealistic expectation and no long term ambitions
Yes I agree, modern relationship are about temporary highs now.
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Hit the nail right on the head...
Your comment has "i only date online" written all over it, do you guys even talk to chicks in person ?? it's time for all men that are wasting their time on the internet to finally do some self reflecting and have the balls to admit that the advice online and wasting time on the internet is doing absolutely nothing for you, then i promise, that you will all do better, please guys, y'all men need to learn to just cut the shit!!!
very good assessment. Before you had limits visually to what you can choose from. but social media gives you the impression of access to something globally desirable. leading to discontent and lost time
Two weeks ago. I went out with my crush. I can say without a doubt, that was the best date that i had in my life. Two days ago she told that she just want to be my friend. I’m done with dating
Remember if she knows you want her she will not want you. She will choose option 2 for you a friend zone spare. Don’t get down you had a fun night drop it from there. If your still a bit interested ghost her so she knows you will not sit around waiting for her while she bangs other guys. Another thing to remember she did show you a major red flag so even if you did get together she would probably cheat or use you as a steppingstone.
She will keep you hanging and will select you once she is done with her young years and gone through multiple Chad harems.
I would not ghost her. I would not ever seek her attention and then let her see the fun things you are doing and such. People like her love to check on the friend zoned people just to make sure they are still in their place. If things look too good she will probably give you another look. I have had this happen a few times. The only problem is that even when I was still single I rejected them when they came back around. I refuse to be #2 or #25.
Should have adked her..well, what about just being fck buddies?
I've noticed that a lot of men were raised to think that their goal should be to find a woman, get married, and have children. They feel they are incomplete without a woman. Men, you need to realize that you are not incomplete without someone else. You are a whole person. When you realize this in your soul you will start being happy with who you are, living your best life, and find contentment. Your dignity, self=esteem, self-worth, and confidence will go way up. You won't feel the need to seek women nor approach women. You will meet them naturally. When you feel no pressure to be with anyone you will Confidently hold to your standards that make a woman acceptable for you and walk away from the questionable ones
Don’t be mistaken, ladies. No woman is worth the risk of losing his children, and half of his assets, despite the fact that she cheated. No woman should even expect to be worth this level of risk. Get the laws changed, or let things be as they are.
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All men need to go on Strike and DON'T HELP, SAVE,DATE, Pay any Attention and Validation also TOO any woman until the Fea-male SUPREMACISTS aka F3minists pulled into line and the Laws with divorce and family law courts bias against men are stopped NOW..
As a senior citizen who has seen my Baby Boom generation devastated financially by divorce and child support, as well as the unjust criticism of third wave feminism, I advise young men to avoid dating and marriage altogether.
And for those of us who want love, kids and a family?
@@Tiogar60 best of luck to you just know that the table your sitting at has a stacked deck.
@@Tiogar60 I suggest you consider some harsh but realistic statistics. Over 48 percent of marriages end in divorce and 80 percent of divorces are initiated by women. Do you believe that men are responsible for 80 percent of divorces? In today's dollars, it will cost an average of $200,000 to raise a child to the age of eighteen. This doesn't include the cost of post high school job training or college. Given I work as a financial analyst and statistical analyst for a federal financial institution regulator I assure you these statements are reasonable. Young men and women face far greater challenges establishing themselves than was the case in my generation, given outsourcing of well paying blue collar jobs to low wage areas of the world, sharp reductions in state and federal subsidies for tuition-leading to a four fold increase in the cost of a bachelor's degree (adjusted for inflation), and a decline in the average per Capita yearly earnings (adjusted for inflation) over the past forty years for at least half of working people.
Do not for a minute believe that I believe in traditional gender relations or that I am sexist. I was a teenager when women were still denied access to credit and faced challenges attempting to enter previously male dominated fields. This approach represents an irrational waste of intellectual resources. Indeed, during the 2020 presidential campaign, I contributed substantially to the Elizabeth Warren campaign.
However, in a world where women expect-equality they have no right or reason to expect a traditional approach to dating. Please consider the posts from this young woman, advising men how they should project themselves or how to recognize subtle signs of interest from women.Why should men have to conform to any particular image or make the first approach? Why should men have to pay for dates? Why should men have to spend an average of three to four months salary on an engagement ring? It is time for men to insist women abandon these demands or remain single.
@@Tiogar60 My advise to my three sons (a Forest Engineer, a West Point Army Officer, and a med school student) is to keep grinding and improving until their young 30s, then look for a woman between 22 and 25 years old who actually wants to be a husband-serving wife, has a pleasing personality, comes from a good family background and has a low body count so she can actually "bond" to a man. It's the best formula for relationship success in today's world.
@@big-daddy-o8576 My Three Sons? Ernie, Chip, and Robbie?
I'm tired of having to find the perfect specific balance of caring/not caring that I seem interested enough but not desperate.
The thing is that giving up on dating IS the solution, not the problem. Sometimes, the only way to win the game is to not play.
I'm 6'2", make 100k, have an infectious personality, and have no issue finding no strings sex. However when I attempt dating the whole dynamic changes and women become entitled, demanding, ungrateful, and just are not enjoyable to be around. It's like a relationship completely changes their expectations and suddenly I'm expected to chase them while they pretend to run and then get angry when I don't. They get very vanilla in bed, stop experimenting, and try to leverage effort there to gain control. When I tell them it's not working out they freak out and play the victim. It's annoying and generally a miserable experience whereas hookups are fun and I'm treated better which is insanity.
@Jason Walter it's not bait. They are great girls and lots of fun but as soon as a relationship becomes a possibility they go from friendly to full on enemy combatants. The expectations completely change and that completely changes the behavior. It's like they sense blood in the water if you show any interest in anything remotely serious. I'm not even talking about inside a relationship just attempting to see if a relationship is on the table.
And they demonize us for cycling through them. I'm not stopping anytime soon either and I ain't gonna have a drop of shame. Might just find me a diamond in that junk pile one day. Call it optimism.
@@anisenkrill6179 I get taking the path of least resistance. I match effort with effort.
@@williambontrager2349 It's actually the biologically correct strategy for male humans and it's never been easier to do so than now. In past times we would have had to be kings or chieftains. Now you just have to be above average and have a cell phone and some basic game skills LOL.
@@anisenkrill6179 yup I keep saying it's the best time in all of history to be a single man. Yay feminism! Enjoy it while you can bc articles are coming out about "radical monogamy" which is quite hilarious.
I'm not done, but I certainly am not active. 1) I want someone to match my energy. 2) I don't want someone constantly needing attention from multiple people. 3) I want a woman who takes care of herself. 4) I want a woman who has some traditional values, but that I can support in pursuing a career. Problem? That eliminates 99% of woman
Part of the problem is likely the age group we're working in. A lot of women these days don't mature and get serious about finding a life partner until late 20's to early 30's. Same with a lot of men, who sometimes take even longer.
@@BlargeMan I agree. I actually know a few women who are wonderful and they're in their early 30s. The problem is that they all have children from previous relationships. I don't want that. I've been making the right choices my entire life and I never once thought that the girl of my dreams would be a single mom. Young girls are too immature and mature women have too much baggage.
@@JJman00 children may not necessarily be bad baggage, I dated a girl who had a kid at 20 (with her husband, who she married way too young and then divorced) and I loved that little girl, she was adorable. Of course, she ended up being too immature and neurotic and she broke things off with me when something "better" came along, so it's a good thing I didn't become a step dad. And I got my revenge, the "better" guy ended up being a narcissistic, lying, and cheating asshole.
dude you all that 4 things in romania , here there is no such thing as chad, most of them are married with 5-6s beta dudes out of shape, usually guys are like 175-180cm average height. The US dating is doomed. A lot of girls are getting mariied before 30. Some of them even way before 25, which for me is honestly too early. I know a lot of girls being in relationship with dudes, not all of them are 190cm ,none of them have 6 figures or 6 cars. Maybe some of them have 6 pack because romanians likes to go to the gym. American culture and put on this stuff into the all european countries that soon there will be no longer any good or decent girls, now with all this social media stuff , tik tok, new generations will believe that they are entitled and deserve the best, so they will reject more dudes in the future. The problem in romania is that a lot of people that didnt even graduate the high school have children nowadays in early 20s, and the people with bigger income and studies which will be better parents dont have kids yet. And then no wonder why the population will be dumber ,because kids will be raised by dumb parents. I wish i can meet a girl that looks like Lisa Mancini
@@BlargeMan age group is one thing. but we live in a hookup culture. and whats widely proven is if youre a person with mulitple partners you'll be less likely being able to settle if even at all. goes for both men and woman. the thing is woman are encourage to both manipulative and treat any man as a mere object. why you think woman today has such an inflated egoes? also standars that is not only non sensical but highly contradictory. nor does it change woman by majority are attracted and choose a partner based on income, or security as they call it. when it comes to kids. lone woman expect you as a man to financially support her and the child despite not being yours. lone fathers dont carry that expectation, ironically. also more than 80% divorces are filed by woman and number 1 reasoning is financial. its not about maturity is simply that woman dont settle for less and todays generation being a blue-collar worker is a turnoff for most woman.
I'm done with it. Life's a lot easier, less stressful, and I'd rather be able to live my life without hearing about it. I just want to be able to live, and enjoy life without a weight dragging behind me, belittling me the whole time.
From my experience I’ve always been bullied by women. And also taken advantage of hard. Even now as an a adult I’ve developed this fear more of women and being around them. I don’t hate them. I don’t wish Ill on them. But it made me very petrified.
Men: Ask a girl out
Women: That's sexual harassment
So true
JJ, you're correct.
Unless you are RICH! Then, you're hot and they're ready to hook up.
@@maxcactus7 I swear bro it’s basically all about money and status😔
😂
4 year relationship, i was working paying the bills, she was going to school full time. She cheated and left for someone else. After that i was rejected by multiple women and now I'm done. Been working out for a while, trying to upgrade myself but even so, I'll always remember what it was like to love, lose, try again and be defeated over and over. Big love to all the dudes who loved and lost, and to everyone who knows how rejection and mental warfare feels 🔥
@Autumn Leaves its good to know that no one cares. Thanks ill remember that Autumn
Dock, are you familiar with "hypergamy"? It describes women's ages-old practice of "monkey branching" up to men with more money, given the opportunity.
No woman will settle for a man financially below her, and I'm guessing your girlfriend might have felt more attractive and seen more options as she was progressing through school.
Regardless, you've learned from your experience. Good luck.
Feel you bro. Keep on brother
I'm happy you woke up man. Good for you.
Bro, many of us like this...that's why i do not tolerate bitchy behavior
I’m part of a CEO networking group. A couple weeks ago, the question “on a scale of zero - 10, how is your relationship?” The average reply was 6. The ones “dating” had miserable feedback. My answer was zero. Why? Because I have no relationship and the last thing I want is a miserable dating experience leading to a barely decent relationship. No thanks. More than one guy in the group was visibly envious.
The envious guys were the guys who knew that if they tried to divorce their wives it would ruin them financially: spousal support of around 40% of their income for many years (if not life time), their house would be lost etc, you know what I mean.
So, in reality their relationships were in deep negative zone and they envied you having it 0.
Its not that relationships require work, relationships are hell on earth. It's not just hard work, it's pure hell. It is the worst kind of pain, anxiety, torture and stress. Guys aren't that complicated. we need very little to be happy. Being an emotional punching bag all day every day is not a relationship requiring work, it's a society in decline.
Honestly I've had it with the games, and especially with the ghostings. I'm checking out and focusing on myself. Not permanently because I want to have a family, but for the foreseeable future anyway. Dating as an average man is pure cancer, even if you're offering a commitment.
They don't want honesty, they love lies and bad boys.
I was like you when I was younger, now I'm thirty-seven and have been single for about seven years except for a few girls that stayed around for a few weeks and then they turned out to be completely insane. I'm happy enough being alone, a few one-night-stands with younger crazy girls, but apart from that I'm not actively looking for a girlfriend. Too many fourth-wave radical Feminists out there now.
Yeah I've been working on myself for the last 2 years Troy. Just recently I was seeing someone but they didn't want to commit to me. So I'm going to continue working on myself. It's hard in the dating world when it shouldn't be. Keep your head up man, work on yourself, and watch the value grow for yourself
Very well said. You summed it up perfectly my man!
I’m with you bro 🔥
There's a fourth reason, and it's time. That whole 'hook-ups in your 20s, find the guy you're actually interested in at 35' strategy. Well that doesn't offer...anything...for that guy. Particularly if he didn't participate in the hookups. The possibility of kids is dwindling if not gone, the sex isn't as good, the looks aren't as good, his hormones are down so he doesn't want as much sex any more anyway, and you don't have any shared experience together. And you're not spending your lives together, just the second half of it.
It's not love and isn't even transactional at that point. It's her basically believing she's entitled to a slave because she's a woman and he's a man, and it's his job to pay her mortgage off. And his opinion is going to be 'over my dead body'.
Indeed.
Silence is golden, the less said the better in philosophy, with police, bureaucrats, on a navy ship at war, in poker, in chess, in cheap car sales man talk, and for women wanting to "seduce" or enchant. Noise and endless chatter distract a man from focus and trying to savor a woman like a fine wine for your beauty and personal enchantment. Talk, talk, talk, men are just tired of all the barista style talk combined with the mean girl theatrics and drama that seem to erupt behind the lava of endless chatter. Cleopatra did quite well with a more subtle charm, a calming relaxed vibe instead of the endless cream puff drama and sordid personalities that have developed from women mimicking the crude antics and low level talk of the demented tattoed on their brains celebrities aka high end pyschotics, capuchin monkies with mascara masks on stage thinking they are Cleopatra. Less is more, and silence is golden. Contemplate that for any lady interested, raise the quality and character of your talk, learn the quiet art of seduction, the cuteness and eye roll encantment factor of puppies, and then romance and true harmony can develop between men and women, a meeting of the minds and lips on a higher plane with only the sounds of birds making noise as palm trees caress the wind.
@@ronmexico8383 facts. 👌👍👏👏👏
@@ronmexico8383 Is your wifes name Jada Pinkett by any chance?
😆 this shit happened last year....she's sending in flying monkeys...but..i just read and laugh it off....no respect , no love...don't play yourself twice...
I asked one women on a dating site to meet me for coffee since I have been catfished too many times by women who didn’t look any like their profile pictures.
So when I met her at the coffee shop, she said I was a controlling person because I asked her for coffee and not asked her where she wanted to go. And if I did ask her what she wanted to do, she probably would complain that I didn’t make the effort to set up a date.
Luckily you only had to pay for coffee so it seems like it was a good move on your part that saved both time and money.
There are still good women out there, but the most likely girls you will find on dating sites will be on a similar line to this one. Not saying you won't find someone decent on a dating site, just that there are better places to be looking.
The easiest in if you're up for it is to take up dance classes. There are almost always more girls than guys and a lot of the guys are probably going to be gay anyway, so its a target rich environment, a lot of the girls should be pretty fit and physical contact is part of the activity which breaks down a lot of barriers and tension.
@@Jake12220 I have been on and off dating sites for 5 years and I have no problems getting dates but most are in there because in real life these girls couldn’t get a guy to give them any attention. The only thing good about it is that it makes me appreciate being single.
I took ball room dancing and there were a few nice ladies in the class
I’m not done with dating but I’m done with the amount of bs I’m willing to put up with before I walk out the door. There is always a better option out there.
I left dating when I was 29 after my last gf of 3 years cheated on me. We were about to get engaged, her reason was.... she got bored. I didn't give her a second chance although she begged a lot, she ended up stalking me for the next 2 years.
Serves her right.
Do you think after 3 years it was the first time she cheated on you ? Or it was the one time you understand it ?
Nothing happens once . But if you don't know it ,it never happened right ?
@@user-nw8be4dl3o she did cheat on me during those years.
But if you as a man were to give "boredom" as your reason for cheating on her, you'd be labeled a misogynistic POS. Good on you for staying strong and not taking the 304 back.
Literally what happened to me! But mine was after a 9 year relationship. She also felt the need to cheat in my own fucking bed 3 months after our engagement
Dating past 30 is especially exhausting. Everyone you meet has something from their past that presently effects them. In my age group (I'm 35), you might find one woman out of a million that doesn't have some baggage, and I'm not talking about kids, I can handle kids. I'm talking about a long term relationship (even if it was a healthy relationship) she can never fully get over, abuse, sexual abuse, or emotional attachments to ex partners. Whatever it is, 90% of women at this age, if they are single, they have in some way been through something that has harmed her ability to handle a long-term relationship.
Not to mention the single girls that have never had a ltr because they were too busy wracking up bodies. That behavior has wrecked their ability to pair bond so they can't maintain a relationship if even if the could secure one. Men with similar body counts suffer the same fate but the difference is vast majority of men participating in this behavior like their shallow sex lives & actively shun relationships whereas women invariably want relationships but are actively participating in behavior that makes it impossible for them to have one.
You're correct. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. If a woman has not had a long term relationship at my age, red flag, unless it's because she's focused her entire adulthood on her career and is now realizing her bio clock is ticking and wants to shift some of her energy from her career to settle down.
Wait until you're 55, it only gets worse.
@@whatever3749 Oh boy! I can't wait.
36 here and yes, I have found this to be accurate.
Meanwhile, I was married (have 2 kids) to an individual with NPD and I was completely, utterly, fucked over. Bad times. But... I picked myself up, dusted myself down, and just got on with it.
It isn't true of all women I know, but there does seem to be a pronounced inability to let go / move on, and almost an enjoyment derived from being the eternal victim. Even when they massively came out on top.
Meh.
I have no interest in being someone's sugar daddy, or their next #metoo story. It's not worth it to approach someone and be labelled a "predator" by my neighborhood, getting doxxed, and fired for saying "hello" to someone.
The next time I approach will be with "what are your hourly rates".
Yes. Lost everything I had after a 15 year marriage with children. Nameless to say she had custody. Finished paying the child support and it's freedom.
I think it's good that men are walking away from dating. This should be encouraged and not looked at as a problem.
I don’t think it’s good. I think it’s going to lead to a rise in single mothers and men raised by women with no male father figure. And that’s a big problem
I don’t necessarily think that a majority of women all have this “I hate men” mindset because I have met and talked to plenty of women that don’t relay that sentiment, but one thing I have found is that they are quite often averse to being in committed relationships. It just seems like they always want to keep their options open and are looking for “the next best thing”, ultimately trying to string you along as a friend or just as something casual until they find who they “really” want. Like unless you have some sort of fame, notoriety or are very attractive they probably will make you an option rather than a choice and I think a lot of men are just fed up with basically being told “you are not good enough”.
DING DING DING! You just described the last girl I dated.
Yup, when a girls says she wants to take things slow or start off as friends it’s probably a bad sign. If she was getting to know DiCaprio she wouldn’t tell him “I want to take things slow” or “friends”. Not saying there is anything wrong with doing these things but what she says and how her actions follow help gauge her interest level.
That’s called Hypergamy for you bud.
@@tkleo2006 omg Ive lways gotten that line and agree with you 100 percent
you kinda have to be able to decide if your ok being friend zone. i know part of social circle game is partly making friends with certain girls to get access to their circle of girls. their is also networking and just at times its ok being freinds with them in certain circumstances. at same time you also need to be willing to tell them if you dont want this that you have "enough freinds"
Cause I’m happier by myself! 😂 Also looking how I want, doing what I want whenever instead of making myself different to match women’s tastes is bliss. Enough hypocrisy, enough brainwashing from society, your happiness will always come from within 👍
This girl gave me all the signs that she wanted to get with me. Then, when I came by to ask her out she rejected me and stated that she had a lot of guys looking to get with her.
She needed confirmation that you find her attractive, it's ego thing.
I overheard a girl in my class make one of those “all men are trash” type statements only minutes before you uploaded this. Any interest that I might’ve had in her instantly evaporated. I Refuse to indulge this type of mindset and it has to stop. There’s plenty of great guys out there that get passed up for the type of guys that incur such statements. Great job as always Courtney
Because women have dual mating strategy. The only thing that matters to women is looks until she’s had her fun and rode the carousel. Then she looks for a financially stable and good hearted man. They like to have their cake and eat it too.
agree...from the guys I know...I def know some guys who have a lot of action with women who are total a-holes...and not really even that charming either.....they just have the look and "confidence"....but they are constantly going through different women and sleeping with many of them.....knowing them as well as I do, it really makes me question how women judge men...and, in turn, how they must be judging me as well....
What i find hilarious about the "all men are trash" is that the same women says that women are equal to men...... If you see what i mean. ;)
@@Stop.At.Nothing truth
She had a bad experience
The comment on how dating is like a part time job is spot on. I’m already a very busy person so if a woman were to join my life, she’d have to not only be understanding, but mature enough to not take things personal if we can’t text 24/7.
If she plays any games leave
A woman should bring peace to a Man, not add stress, chaos and conflict.
Fuck dating antinatalism all the way
Yeah I hate it, dating shouldn't be a part time job, a long term relationship should be. Dating should be easy, but it seems like everyone has too high expectations and don't take dating seriously. The attitude now days is that dating is 'casual fun'.
@@Aubatron yea thats why i dont feel bad for the decline of our society its all womens fault, they all cry and say there are now good guys left when they all rejected them
I have a three date rule. If after 3 dates she doesn’t offer to pay the tab I am out. One woman asked me why I didn’t get back to her. When I told her she grew furious like I was trash.
I gave up after being cheated on yet again 7 years ago, and now I LOVE being alone. The thought of dating is literally nauseating now. No thank you!
I quit 20 years ago. 😏😎😇
I spent 10 years working on myself, trying to make myself as attractive as possible, watching and reading dating advice videos and books, and I have nothing to show for it. I’m 6 foot 1, blonde hair blues, athletic, served in the military and am working on getting a 4 year degree, on paper women should be all over me (at least that’s what others have told me) yet it’s an uphill climb to even get a woman to even respond. I can only imagine how bad it is for the guys that are under 6 feet tall. Dating market is rigged, the costs outweigh the benefits.
Under 6 feet here. It's like being invisible.
@Karl Strauss - Similar bio. I’m 6’3”, veteran, great shape, about to start med school.
The problem I’m having is that women seem way more open to hookups than actual dating. Like god forbid I want something more than to just sleep with them
You sound terribly bitter my man it has nothing to do with height i am five foot 6 and my partner of 8 years is taller than me, stop reading dumb books and worrying about your looks and go out and talk to real women dude you will be much happier
Rory Gallagher you might benefit in actually taking the realities and issues of modern dating seriously instead of blowing off my concerns with ad homenims
@@rory644
Height does matter to women...
This woman is totally off. Why would I work so hard for something, when she can up and leave at any moment? Even if I am the perfect man, she can still do it. She completely ignores the fact that the system incentives women to divorce their husband's. No logical thinking person would sign that marriage contract.
The situation with men walking away has become so ubiquitous that women have finally noticed and are scrambling to implement damage control ops.
What you’re seeing now from women is nothing less than thinly veiled panic.
@@seneca1932 yeah if I marry a chic I'm supposed to go work and she is supposed to raise the kids and we made a commitment. we may only go out twice a month and that's enough. if she is feeling lonely that's her problem. we're adults we have shit to do. women don't understand that adults don't matter it's about the next generation
I agree. She says "oh just be in the moment and be in the present" as an answer to the reality that a woman with a dating app will, in all likelihood, eventually find someone or something more exciting and just up and leave you. If you're lucky you're not ghosted, but this is the reality we're facing and no amount of "mindfulness of the moment" is going to fix that. May as well just be whistling in the dark.
My last gf literally told me I was the most perfect man she's ever dated, to the point that she also told me she's surprised a guy as good as me even exists. HER words, NOT mine! A week later she suddenly broke up with me and idk the reason because she's changed her story 3 times. But if being damn-near perfect in a woman's eyes isn't good enough for her to stick around, I'm not sure that it's worth it to keep dating anymore
@@tdaye6978 my ex's tend to call me horse cock or something of the nature
It was very frustrating for me spending a week trying to find a date, get someone to commit to a date come the weekend and then have a good date only to find out the next day they didn't feel anything. Wash, rinse, repeat. The thing was, hearing they weren't interested was a relief over those that left me guessing for several days. Women are looking so hard for a reason to disqualify guys. My app clearly said I was looking for something slow and serious disqualifying half the girls, yet those left seemed to think this was a new player strategy to get in their pants. As a guy, you have to put a woman at ease without that killing the chemistry as they want a thrill. A guy almost has to be a game player to navigate the plethora of imaginary landmines culture has created to keep us single. I got very lucky to find someone that had limited dating before a terrible long-term marriage that could appreciate the contrast with an honest, traditional man.
I’ve noticed a significant decline in the dating world in the last 10 years. It’s just not the same anymore. People just aren’t interested in pursuing a second or third date half the time.
I also find that this behaviour is evident in girls who honestly don’t have much to offer.
I am still going to date but I’m going to be very selective with whom I date, meaning, I want to see effort from them and a respectable level of interest shown.
In the meantime, I refuse to hate on an entire sex, I’m just going to build my investments and business and a great person will come along
Been single for 15 years. Done for life. I am very content with it being by myself. I stay busy with hobbies and friends. Don't miss dating at all!
I’m done dealing with “playing hard to get” immaturity. If you don’t show interest then you’re not interested, if you don’t make an effort to make things happen then you don’t want things to happen
Silence is golden, the less said the better in philosophy, with police, bureaucrats, on a navy ship at war, in poker, in chess, in cheap car sales man talk, and for women wanting to "seduce" or enchant. Noise and endless chatter distract a man from focus and trying to savor a woman like a fine wine for your beauty and personal enchantment. Talk, talk, talk, men are just tired of all the barista style talk combined with the mean girl theatrics and drama that seem to erupt behind the lava of endless chatter. Cleopatra did quite well with a more subtle charm, a calming relaxed vibe instead of the endless cream puff drama and sordid personalities that have developed from women mimicking the crude antics and low level talk of the demented tattoed on their brains celebrities aka high end pyschotics, capuchin monkies with mascara masks on stage thinking they are Cleopatra. Less is more, and silence is golden. Contemplate that for any lady interested, raise the quality and character of your talk, learn the quiet art of seduction, the cuteness and eye roll encantment factor of puppies, and then romance and true harmony can develop between men and women, a meeting of the minds and lips on a higher plane with only the sounds of birds making noise as palm trees caress the wind.
@steve I use to think that way too, but every woman will say. "Well, there are women that do that, but if the man isn't going to make the effort then I'll wait for another man who will."
The best method to beat "playing hard to get" is getting super friendly with another girl
its sad even women in the 40s still play games. if you like someone just make it known instead of jerking someone around for your own amusement while to match with 50 other men every day
The moment a women plays hard to get, the best strategy is to find another women. Next!
@@miamitrancemissions6425 well sometimes you have to play the game a bit too. i dont like to give up so quickly
I’m a 48M and I haven’t given up on dating, but it sure gave up on me. Can’t find any single women IRL, and the apps are nothing but OF ads and bots. I know I don’t have a lot going for me in terms of looks or wealth, but I am a good person who can provide some comfortable companionship for someone who wants it. I feel that I come off as desperate because coping with loneliness is exhausting and it’s getting harder to not let it affect me. More and more I find myself wishing I could just turn that part of my brain off so I can focus on other things.
Spend the least amount of money and emotions are the key
Done with the drama and unpredictable nonsense from many women. Put that on your list Courtney.
When I told a friend how immature women are out there, how outlandish their expectations are and how they are into hookup culture, she said I should date older women. I am 38. I told her I was dating older women and she seemed shocked...most women now grow up around 50...no joke.
That's the road I'm about to travel. Either an older woman or a foreign one.
@@johnnyboy2411 foreign one is a way to go bro. Specially a family oriented one. 👌👍
I don't think it takes them until 50 to grow up, I think that the older women grew up in different times, I don't think women under 50 will ever grow up. I think that the only reason why the divorce rate isn't 100% is because of the women over 50 who know how to be wives.
Dont forget no woman is an option too. Happiness is from within. The idea that a woman is what you need may very well be an illusion. Don't chase rainbows for the pot of gold.
If then.
I've been out this afternoon and saw the way a couple of women were treating their partners. Aggressive, confrontational, rude and totally disrespectful over what seemed to be very trivial issues. If that is how women treat their partners after a while, I'd rather be single forever.
I've been married for 29 years and my wife has rarely done that. I'm not easily offended but I don't accept rude and disrespectful and will quickly "nip that in the bud" as the expression goes. You really can't take your observation and apply it to all relationships. Honestly as odd as it sounds, while I won't accept rude and disrespectful, I do wish my wife attempted to hold me a little more accountable than she does, be a little more confrontational. Just like anybody else, I am not always on my 'A' game and I think relationships and sharing your life together work better when you are both holding each other accountable, without being disrespectful. She's a bit too passive.
part of me wonders if those women are more disagreeable than their men, which men are typically on average more disagreeable than their men. like if you get an agreeable guy with a disagreeable girl that guy needs to learn to hold his own. and we need to teach men how to handle distrespect and have boundries like that. like one way my agreeable freaind learned to do with his wife was if she got nasty to say "would you like to say that better?" or for me, if i feel disrespected ive told them if they act like that regularrly i will just leave but i also have to add that i will always listen to them. you dont say this upfront, you express this the first time they get nasty or bitchy to you. it eventually happens. and if you set the tone their right, it helps. at same time their can be things you screw up that can send a girl into a sort of amygdla hijack and they freak out, thats a little different, you got to let them vent and listen, but the "can you say that better" or "i'll listen, but be more respectful" helps. then you need to figrue out how to fix that issue to get back to normal.
Guys who allow that are going to get it handed to them in spades. Women are the oldest teenagers in the room, they'll shit test from the jump and then constantly if you let them. Got to nip that in the bud early on and demonstrate high value by laughing and withdrawing attention the first time she tries it on.
@@DaveE99 I am currently dating a guy .....and I told him so many times that there are plenty of things which is making me uncomfortable, so plz don't do that.....but I don't think most of the guys are considerate to woman's issue....because he keep repeating it and saying sorry....so most of the women don't freak out at first instance but guys only act when their women overreact(I am not supporting over reaction) , so if man woman considerate enough of each other's issues....i don't think this will happen......my father is like that too...he only act when I was over reacting....but I stopped it , because it wasn't good for my well being.
@@avasinha9764 to be fair, im not even sure what the exact issue(s) your having are. i explained this perhaps in a bit more depth to a therapist once and she told me i was spot on. their also certainly are things that a women can deal with that men just cant fix. perhaps we could tip toe on eggs shells around, but thats not my style. the only real thing that can help is having some understanding of how to coach them through their emotions. which takes some learning. im not saying we cant screw up and have stuff we need to fix or do better on. Im curious what these things this guy does are that make you uncomfortable?
Last three online dates, one woman was pregnant thought I wouldn't notice, one woman look like the mother of the person I was supposed to meet, and one woman ordered king crab at lunch, many just ghosts you many have expectations that are ridiculous. Now I hang out with my buddies much more satisfying. They don't ghost me, we always split the check, we always have fun. When you think about it primary thing that a woman has to offer is just sex. If there was no sex we would have no need for women we could Outsource everything else. As a matter of fact, you can Outsource sex.
I agreed with all your reasons. One that I also have is that Women are truly never Single. They always have a guy on the side that they are talking to. They may cal them friends or be honest about talking to them. They don't count this as Dating because they call it Talking. Another Reason that I think men have checked out is the Overinflated sense of ego that women have now. Instagraham has Ruined Dating for many men also. Women get 100 messages a day asking them out. This has also brought on competition from around the world. No longer do we compete locally. Men from all over the World now have access to these women.
If you are a man and you are reading this here is my advice to you: don't listen to women giving dating advice. If any of the women giving dating advice had to date other women as an average man they would end up with serious depression and anxiety after a month. If you want to improve your situation look at what other men who already have what you want are doing, and do the same. If you can, try to become friends with a few men like that, that way it will be easier to observe and adapt to a similar lifestyle (if you want a wife and family try to become friends with young guys who are married with kids or at least in stable relationships, and watch how they behave, how they look, and their lifestyle). Don't listen to male gurus on the internet who make a living telling other men how to get women. And especially don't listen to women, they can't tell you how to be a successful man.
U r telling me this Courtney gal here is a fraud?
@@joshua50101 not necessarily
@@joshua50101 She is kind of hand waving a lot of the issues and low key just saying "man up", because she's not in the trenches on the other side.
@@MastaOfMonkeyDisasta exactly! she genuinely can’t relate to guys at all
@@MastaOfMonkeyDisasta I couldn't have put it better myself. I found her "Just keep putting in the work" commentary around the 3:14 mark to be particularly callous and dismissive to the work men *do* put in for women that are generally taught to expect it all as the "Bare Minimum". To be fair: She's not wrong, per se, but Its easy to tell others to just keep climbing the stairs when you have access to the elevator.
4:00 No Courtney. It's WOMEN who "let themselves go" when they finally get that ring or relationship. You've probably heard the saying "women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they WON'T change". Men are the ones who have to do all the work. All women have to do is MAINTAIN. And most of them are even willing to make the effort do THAT.
Remember Tom Leykis. The first thing they do is cut their hair short and gain 40 pounds.
True
Truth!
It’s a bit of both. When you’re happy, it’s normal to let yourself go a bit.
And they have the laws on their side...
I’m not young anymore ( I’m 47) and I don’t need the hassle,stress,and added expense that comes with dating, I’m happy to be single for the rest of my life, and I already have a number 1 priority in my life( my daughter) impossible to take on a second priority
I wish I just could spawn a child without having a woman...
I’m so discouraged with the modern dating game I just am mentally and emotionally drained. There is no hope, only loneliness and despair.
Women: focus on the moment. Live in the moment.
Also women: I hope you have a plan for our future.
Men are the backup plan for their future. They can do whatever they want and then worst case scenario settle for a guy who can bail then out. This dynamic is being taken advantage of to the point it's starting to fail.
Women: I want a guy who's all about me and only me!
Also women: If no other girl wanted him why should I?
"where have all the chads gone"
You diagrammed that well... That's because in her mind, it's a man's job to secure her future for her, and it's her job to just live it up in the current moment.
Also women: record breaking amount of childless women over the age of 30 as a percentage of the population
As someone who stopped dating: 1) too many women with mental health problems in dating pool, 2) women were pushing for sex when we were still essentially strangers who had only met a few times, and 3) the person I was most enjoying spending time w/ on dates was myself. Overall dating was too expensive timewise without a valuable return on investment.
Times are a changing when women want sex too fast
@@lukeludwig1055 Actually they want to get to the next level when the man is supposed to help them financially. It is more about money than sex.
@@dmitriikurilov3662 that may be true in a lot of cases. But no doubt theres also a lot of women that just want fun, no commitment
Pursue common interests..... in a GD social environment! Introduce yourself and carry on w/o staring at their behinds! How stupid are you guys?
Glad to hear. Never really dated anyone and I exclusively see hookers. I found a good one and I do fantasy drawings of her. Go figure.
Haven't even started and I'm done. Bunch of bs. Focus on yourself and the person you want to be. At the end of the day, love yourself and know you are good enough.
I quit dating completely since 2019. I dont try actively but if something happens and its vibing right I will not turn it down.
I'm in the older gentleman category single after 18 yrs of marriage. I work in a female dominated Industry, I'm a physician, and blessed with my mothers good looks. I find that the battle ground of dating has changed much. Younger women and especially the older ones are really wired different from back in the days of my single years. Needless to say, older is wiser from a mans perspective. I get lots of offers for dates but I turn them down to " I'm just busy"...... but I'm being polite. I'm sure I will meet another girl that will hit the mark, but to be the guy I was back in the single years seems like way too much work today. I find myself Looking at old photos from the era of the 50's and I start to feel envious of the men back then The women were so feminine, wearing their Dior dresses and all that...I find that woman today rely way to much on the social media world and not in the real one. For in the real one...you have to put yourself out there and take a chance...they seem like they rather just pretend to be cool then get out there and show a guy they really are cool. The saddest part I see, as a DR. is seeing elderly people separate in their senior years...seems they believed the hype that being alone near the end of life is way better than being with one you loved for decades....I never had a patient tell me near death they wished they had more money or worked harder..but I have had numerous ones tell me to contact someone they used to love and tell them they loved them.
If they couldn't exit marriages with cash and prizes, it would solve most of the problems. More marriages would take their options off the table as men were taken of the market permanently. They would start seeing their options dwindling in real time and it would force them to make a choice or miss out forever. The next best thing can only exist if its an option.
Sir well said. I too am an "older gentleman". Most often connecting with women 1/2 my age verse the bitter self entitled ones around my age. E.g. I would rather jump on my sport-bike then spend the afternoon gardening!?!? At a more experienced age group one looks for that connection who is fit, feminine and cooperative. One who you can share the fruits of your hard work and experience over the years and enjoy life. Unfortunately in the environment today the risks and wasted energies do not make it worthwhile hence many good / accomplished men have checked out. I often get asked why I don't have a girlfriend, my answer is either "just lucky I guess" or "I am currently between disappointments" depending on the audience.
The whole thing becomes as challenging as trying to bottle the tears of a unicorn.
Good luck on your quest. I am off hiking today and golf tomorrow and will keep my eye out for two unicorns.
@@oneronin6186 best to you...I really do have a social life but for American woman its very hard to get excited...I myself enjoy travel, the opera, concerts on the lawn, polo matches more to my taste. My wife was Eastern European and we had a home there...I believe women there still have a different view of life and relationships then western women. Its not that they are ignorant to what is going on..but they seem to see the dead end of life in the western woman's style of living. The dumbest of all things I see and hear is that women talk about being strong and doing it for themselves and being independent and dont need a man..and the very next thing they all say is they want to feel safe. wtf. I have a Black Belt In BJJ. I travel everywhere at times by myself I never felt afraid, ever....So the reality obviously is you are not strong and you know it.
@@dojocho1894 Same thinking here brother! I too have a black belt in Taekwondo and kick boxing prior to that. Funny thing is I feel safer around the wrong type of men than I do around a difficult woman. All they have to do is point and state something false and your life is upside-down.
Be well
@@oneronin6186 : "Just lucky I guess" or "I am currently between disappointments" depending on the audience.
Out of the seven women I've been with, five of them cheated. In this day and age, its like I'm the only one with any morals anymore, women simply don't seem like they do. And even if she is, her super feminist friends will encourage her to explore and cheat. And if you call them out, they won't admit their mistake, its always my fault, even though they are ones who cheat.
So, I'm done with dating. Marriage is pointless. Been single for over a year now, I'm actually doing well alone. I'd rather be alone and chill than go through another relationship. Whatever it is that women want, I don't have it. And I'm actually okay with that.
Chase 💰 and success
@@adamscott7492: I am actually. Working for a possible promotion at work.
Bro why are you getting with them without qualifying them and putting them through a vetting process, dude i just came from Ringo's channel, there are 40 year old men there who don't have these problems, Courtney's entire comment section just aint it, i hope that you become the most positive and best version of yourself
@@blizzard5287: The seven women are from my teen years to date, so I made my fair share of mistakes.
@@johnnk3256 You have to learn to live without them, then when you're doing that, the next thing you'll learn is how to deal with them whenever it's just time to talk to a woman whenever you run into one if that makes sense, but it all starts with learning how to live without them, you're probably already picking up on it in your actual life, i have faith in your bro
“A guy told me one time, don’t let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in thirty seconds flat, if you feel the heat around the corner.”
Maintaining a fit body takes way less work than maintaining a relationship, especially one where the other person thinks they're the prize
Courtney touched up on something I've always thought about. A woman can talk about hating men on social media, and it would get likes by the thousands. Let a man badmouth a woman though, and women will make it their mission in life to destroy him. I think I may find a nice woman to spend my life with, but with so many man-hating women out there, I can't justify feeling any shame in being single. If a woman is happy being single, she's praised for it. If a guy is happy being single, people are like "how could you say such a thing?!".
It comes down to entitlement. Feminism has taught generations of women that they deserve everything without having to work for any of it & if they do wrong they don't deserve to be held accountable cuz if you do then you're a misogynist. If you don't automatically agree with every single point you're automatically labelled misogynist or pick-me if you're a woman. It's biting them in the ass now though as women are starting to realize the lies feminism is selling & slowly turning away while men walk away from dating & relationships & society in general, participating in only the most basic of ways.
The difference is that women are never actually single lmao.
the double standard in terms of gender nowadays is so strong....i went to a recent womens day rally (march 8) the anger was palpable.....but when I look at my daily life....I see a lot of advantages women have and struggle to see how they are being abused...I literally cannot come up with examples of how any woman i know is being mistreated!.especially not becasue of her gender.....I just cant buy the narrative that women as a whole are victims etc....all of the intelligent women i went to school with have nice high paying jobs, for example....I have never heard a single woman i know complain about the job market or dating etc (because it is either fair or tilted in their advantage).....someone please convince me that womens rights are so horrible in 2022....and that men are indeed the enemy of the world.....imo the pendulum has just swung waaay too far against men...and the toxicity of the environment is def impacting the dating prospects for a lot of men
@@adamtash2891 Why would you go to a women's day rally?
On this channel, you're preaching to the choir my friend.
Yes, I am done. Stacking money, building my career, and growing as a person; I’ve actually been doing this for a few years.
All we ever wanted, and if women would work with us and be less demanding and needy, then they could join us in our journeys to success
Good. One less man to compete with.
@@Nxrcotics Riight. Like either of you have something fantastic going on over there beyond internet whining and Cheetos.
Yea I quit wanting to have a relationship at probably 32 years old. I’m 46 now and I retired from women over two years ago. I actually never really did the relationship thing because even back in the late 90’s I saw all my friends miserable in relationships so I just had a whole lot of one night , well I just had a whole lot of “stands.” Lol As with any sport, it comes a time to retire.
One of the last woman I dated broke up with me because 'I was to good to her'. After she broke up with me she started dating guys who would use her for sex and then dump her a week later.
The two hardest days of dating: The day you know it's your last day with her and the other is the day you don't know it's your last day with her. To quote wargames: "strange game - the only winning move is not to play."
I haven't been in a relationship in 8 years, at a certain point the entire idea of a relationship just gave me anxiety and actually made me physically ill. I honestly wish it wasn't this way but life is hard enough without all the drama.
The main issue I find is that it's always been me putting in 100% and them putting in like...7%. I don't have the time to do that anymore between work, classes, excercise, friends, and making sure I don't want to eat lead. I'm done for now even though I'm a little lonely. Not to mention being crushed by an abusive narcissist for 6 years fucked me up. Better to be alone than a with a sadistic confidence vampire.
It used to be much easier to approach women with joy and spontaneity. That was before the internet.
Social media has also inflated women's sense of self-worth. There's constant validation and affirmation posts, there's constant posts that feed women's egos and gas up narcissists. I see women being full-time stay at home daughters, having no goals & no direction in life, yet they still believe they're the diamond in the rough in terms of what they bring into a relationship...
as someone who lived before smart phones, social media and the massive adoption of the internet I totally agree with this opinion. The women in the 90's and the women we have today are not even comparable.
Because a woman can go on her phone and have sex with a chad at any time she wants. Sex with the hottest, richest etc men is readily available and accessible for all women. So when women have sex with these guys, they think that’s the quality of man they deserve and refuse to settle for less.
@@renegade2325 bingo lol as an involuntary Chad I can unfortunately attest. They’re so easy, and then laugh at the men they reject, complaining about the “simps” and thinking it’s truly funny. Just so sad. I try to tell them nicely that they’re eventually going to have to settle, but they’re idealistic as hell…
Women can make big money on Only Fans and Pateron along with CZcams.. I met a lot of women especially Gothic women who act like bitches on social media
I'm not even talking about hookup culture, i'm talking about how women who literally only have a pu$$y & a car, no job, no goals, no direction in life, and they still think they're the greatest thing that's walked the Earth. Like they still believe their value is so much more than the nice men who are interested in them and other women who may not be as physically attractive but have their lives together... There's just an influx of these kinds of women ever since social media has taken over society.
Worked as a family law attorney for a minute and my take is that there are structural incentives within the legal system for women to find the next thing when things get tough in a marriage (and things get tough in every relationship). There is also societal pressure for women to ditch men. It's a rare woman who will go through the hard times, so the question is really: is the juice of a relationship worth the squeeze. Increasingly, it isn't. So you either take our current hookup culture for what it is or you do your own thing.
Thank you for sharing, unfortunately the majority of women don't care about the injustices done to men as long as women overall benefit from the extra privileges. The hive mind set is distorted, corrupted by the Jezebel spirit.
One of my goals in life is to never be in a family court, except maybe as an observer. At least with non-family courts in the Western world, there is usually some adherence to the rules of evidence, legislation, the Constitution (or similar document), and general fairness. In family courts, accusations are generally regarded as facts, feelings are considered facts (e.g. "I am scared of him"), and there is no concept of fairness. Family courts just seem to be a quasi-official way to transfer assets from men to women and take men's children away from them.
@@RusselBode thats is correct. heres the interesting thing, if women really wanted equality, why are they protesting in the streets on behalf of men about teh unfair was in which men are treated by the judiciary.or how about the workplace injustices. one innocent oh you look nice can destroy your career. like you said women really dont care about men at all. women are worth my time in any way beyond sex. i really dont care abour em anymore
I can't do hook up culture. I do my own thing. Appreciate the facts.
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Every stock market investor knows you have to consider both risk and reward before investing.
I'm divorced couple times. Some stuff my fault for sure. But I have money but have made poor choices with partners. So I decided to check out. I worked hard for 30 years and In some what decent shape. Just not worth the further risk.
This stuff literally pains me every single day. I just turned 25, and I still have yet to find an actual girlfriend. Been on plenty of dates, but they never lead to anything more than just girls wanting to be just friends with me. If anything, it almost seems like women just don't wanna date men anymore. They post all the time about how men suck, then they get so many other women supporting them with comments like "I know that's right girl" or "Yesssss queen" and anymore, me being a good guy, working a good job, making good money, and overall being a respectful, friendly, humble man, just don't get any appreciation from women. Then it's always being made to look like it's my fault, "oh you need to work on yourself" at this point, JUST NO. "WOMEN NEED TO WORK ON THEMSELVES" Because while they're out here trying to say men are horrible people, they have their issues and faults too, whether they want to admit it or not.
1) A lot of women have extremely unrealistic expectations
2) They love to have high expectation but they never look at themselves in the mirror. I've seen girl pretending this or that when, to be totally honest, they would be terrible partners and almost nobody would want to stay with them.
3) Modern feminism
4) I am a very busy person, full of ambitions and hobbies and this is where I want to invest my energy and time.
5) I have been in several relationships and even though a bunch of them have left me great memories, so far all the best moments of my life happened while I was single.
6) I don't want kids so I have no rush or urgency to find a partner.
You've just described my life, sir.
RE: 4
Back in the day, marriage just happened as a natural consequence of early adulthood. Dating was always intended to be a short stint before a marriage. It wasn't this current sophisticated gauntlet of BS a man has to perform to suit the momentary tastes of a hedonist who thinks dating is merely recreation until they spend their youth away and then decide they want someone to pick up the tab as they enter steep decline. They don't even see marriage as something a younger person is supposed to aspire to.
That being the case, the men most capable of supporting a family can no longer see dating as an option -- because becoming the best version of yourself and outcompeting yourself on a day-to-day basis requires time and thought investments which dating in the modern style would destroy. I know this personally because my married or dating competitors in my field don't hold a candle to my knowledge and experience. Not only do I learn more than them, I've learned how to learn more efficiently. I acquire knowledge much faster, more completely, and I integrate it with other knowledge more effectively. I also adapt to non-deterministic problems faster.
Being truly ambitious means that you don't allow anything to get in they way of your life goals -- least of all investing gargantuan amounts of time for some outcome which is, at best, a huge cost in time and money.
My friends who valued whammen more than a career fell behind very fast -- back in my late 20s. One of them was a legit narcissist. He was spending all his free time getting dates -- successfully. He liked to fancy himself intelligent and we often debated -- but by the time we were late 20s, there was nothing worth discussing that he could win with me -- I had read more and done more in all fields than he had. Heck, the one LTR I ever had was longer than any he ever had so even at that, I had more experience.
Now in my most productive years, I can't even find peers that can match me. Recently, there's a guy at my company I respected as a coder initially -- and he's good... but he takes shortcuts which are obviously amateur choices. Choices that would've gotten me reprimanded in other jobs I had over the years. Choices which other coders have to go behind and clean up because he can't be bothered. Choices which mark a coder as a totally self-destructive to a company because nobody else can easily decipher (maintain) what they've written. This coder has made himself a single point of failure for the entire organization because his actions obfuscate his work product -- code.
And so, yet another person I'd like to respect loses most of that respect. Others believe he's a genius because they aren't smart enough to fully understand what he's doing and he cultivates that aloof genius personality.
I've worked at several places over the years and very few people have earned my respect in my domain. Invariably, the ones who are dating a lot or married can't hold a candle to me. Not unless their marriage is on the rocks and they're a workaholic who seems to have lost the will to live. Either that, or the rare man who met a woman early in his life who actually contributed to his life instead of being a net time-sink and/or money-pit.
Hey r u on Reddit? I recently made a post about all my flaws and I want to get better if you interested would you take a look and tell me if I’m a modern women
This. This is what it all comes down to. Women overvaluing themselves and waiting for that high value prince charming man from their mental esteem painting to come swoop them up. Never even coming to the mental thought process of if that man will even want her. Like, what do you offer him? If pussy is it, you in a world of trouble and wasting time. Time to start having realistic expectations and get with a common decent man.
I was always taught to respect ✊ women but they do the complete opposite.. They seem shallow, bitchy and stuck up
These days getting ghosted and flaked on is the norm. I'm so used to it I expect it to happen. Nothing surprises me. I've had amazing dates that she ghosted me afterward without texting or saying a single word, and had terrible dates where she wanted to see me again. I often wonder how we all got here in the first place if dating is like this.
Right? Having a positive mindset is not going to do anything but confuse you when they will eventually leave for whatever reason.
@@iamaronman I think it's important to have thick skin for whatever happens. Say you develop some feelings for a girl and she ghosts you, you get over it quickly. You find another date. Having feelings doesn't seem to ever help me with women at all. Whenever I do, she ghosts.
This. I’ve planned dates and have had gals say “oh I completely forgot!” Yeah right. We talked about it for a week. Don’t say “you completely forgot”
Amen to that. I’ve grown to accept it and appreciate everything that I have already. At this point, maybe men should invest in sexbots or AI girlfriends. 🤣🤣🤣
@@ATLBraves1992 I think she kept you as her Plan B.
If she did not get a date with her next Chad she would go out with you 😉
So, it is for the better: you have NOT wasted your time and money.
14:07 not being "fat phobic" and "doing the work in a relationship" nearly cost me my life, cultivated an abusive environment for my daughter, cost me thousands of dollars, wasted over a decade of my life, and taught me that women are the privileged ones. Keep walking away men, offer to warn others. Keep doing it and working in yourself and don't listen to this woman's advice, she's got a lot to learn. Oh yeah, anxiety is no excuse to be treated bad either. Stay safe and be smart(er) my friends.
I don't date anymore. Haven't done that for twelve years. I only have FWB deals with women who don't live in my hometown. Works good for me so far.
There is a double standard that when relationships don’t work out, it’s the man’s fault. If women are terrible it’s because men haven’t upheld their responsibility to keep women from being terrible. She cheats, then she wasn’t getting the right things from you. It’s always the man’s fault according pop culture. This made some sense when society had real standards for women in relationships but now they can just ditch a relationship anytime for any reason, and in marriages they get to keep the guys cash flow, sometimes house, etc. And yet women are still claiming victim hood in America.
More people need to learn that the message being sent by social media and pop culture is a work of fiction. It's like being told the tooth fairy exists and they want to believe it no matter what. They'd rather offer simple answers and slogans for idiots to get behind and chant than offer real solutions that are actually constructive, though less convenient. Stop believing in the pop culture fairy, people!!! lol
Women are cheating like it's the new trend these days. And the media still tries to push this narrative that men are all bad, men are fooling around and cheating, men are deceitful, etc. When the statistics prove that at least 50% of women in long term relationships are cheating. 80% of divorces are filed by women. "Where have all the loyal men gone?" They were the ones you were cheating on and now you're alone.
It’s so common and such bullshit. I have an exgf who is the eternal victim, plays it off that I’m this terrifying maniac who won’t leave her be. The truth is she manipulates everyone, I was deceived from day one, and to this she is always scheming something to cause me harm. She interferes with my life any way she can, it’s pathetic.
I know it’s you Bern, and it’s totally cool. I love you.
It’s ALWAYS the man’s fault. That’s how it was during my marriage so I left her. Someone else can be made to feel that way
Dating and sex is no longer worth the time, money and energy anymore. I am far more content being by myself then be with someone that, in this day and age, I cannot trust and everything that goes wrong will always be my fault.
Preach. Once upon a time a women's 🐱 was highly praised and desirable. Now a days there are multiple gateways and accesses to 🐱 Men, as do all humans will always seek the path of least resistance when it comes to pleasure and comfort. The modern American women is a synonym for resistance in all aspects of the word. Why would someone spend mental and monetary energy and resources to try and please that which cannot be pleased? I hope all who are hurting find the love and peace we all so gravely yearn for.
So, my dating history has been quite interesting over the past 14 years. I am a relationship virgin, someone who is never transitioned into a committed/romantic relationship with a woman even though I still continue to date. I want treated online dating as a social tool and opportunity to meet women, but later became a dependency. There has been numerous moments where I have taking long-term breaks from online dating while focusing on other things. I turn 38 this month, I recently excepted a job offer from company in a different job field that I’m looking forward to. It also allows me to balance other things in my life such as prioritizing health/fitness, turning my hobbies/interests Into professional careers, while strengthening my spirituality. As far as the world of dating, I try to rely less on dating apps to meet women and make time to attend social gatherings, networking Mixers, and taking a variety of classes (Such as acting and dancing) To meet women. I love your CZcams content. It’s very insightful
I’m 40 had a break from dating for 7 yrs, just got back into it and the first two people I met just put me off again…both emotionally unstable
I'm 30. I have developed serious anxiety and I honestly think i'm depressed but I'm not even sure anymore, I just take it day by day. The amount of rejection I've had to deal with from women in my life is astronomical, it has honestly left be scarred for life. Listen, this isn't going to be a sob story but please if you're a woman just listen. I moved from Europe to America to persue a different degree and I can honestly say, American woman are IMPOSSIBLE to satisfy. They reject you in a heartbeat and especially if you're foreign (I'm from Norway). I've been on dates, i've had experiences and I don't feel like I have missed out on anything important except having a serious relationship. I've been single my entire life, and part of that is because of me. I've always put my education, my work and my interest before anything else. But at the end of the day, the amount of work, patience, money and competition it goes into getting a woman to show interest in you is honestly exhausting. I'm so unbelievably fucking exhasted from the modern woman that I feel like just giving up. No matter how hard I try, or don't try, it's the same result. I keep getting rejected, ignored and friendzoned that there's literally nothing left for me to do. And as I mentioned, American women especially make it so much harder than it should be. I honestly just don't understand what goes on inside a womans head when they have lines of guys constantly stimulating them to feel good and worthy and they reject all of them. I have gotten anxiety from getting ignored, rejected and friendzoned. The behavior is really damaging.
I've gotten depression and rejected alot. I got tired of it.
Give it up, mate. Forget women and focus on yourself.
I'm in the same boat as you brother I'm 40 been through the meat grinder of rejection ,being used , flaky women ( very common) over and over and over I'm just tired.
Start on a new hobby and enjoy it. The right woman will follow along someday. She’ll respect and appreciate your talents and goods.
I'm 56 and have been going through the same thing all my life. I've been living by myself since 1989.
I’m a 62 year old man who is fit and dating is brutal for me as well. Here are some tips that I have learned over the years.
If you are not willing to constantly work on a relationship maybe you shouldn’t be in one. In order to stay fit you have to constantly go to the gym and the same is true for a relationship. You have to continually work on it to keep it fit!
If you are texting someone and they answer your questions but never ask questions after about 4 times of this move on she isn’t interested. Move on after a week if they never want to meet.
If they break a date with you more than twice and/or ghost you move on. Courtney has given some good advice on this!
If all of their pictures are selfies where they are looking up at the camera in most cases they are overweight.
Go do things where the women are. For instance take a cooking or dance class. This gets you face to face with people and when you find the one you are a better cook and dancer! Win win!
On a first date make it simple and pick a place that isn’t noisy.
I'm 77 years young very fit and lost both wives to Cancer over the years I have been dating now many many fine gals but most lost their way and are without a home and renting in the basement of a big house or the kids are in jail !!.My girlfriend for 2 years now is 56 years old and has tried her age group finding most men are damage by divorce, child support ,metal issues ,drug problems ,and aggression power control . She works I cook we both own our own homes But Grand kids are a big part of her life . We very happy Ola ! When you move up in age Loneliness is the worlds BIGGEST problem I see so many Homeless older guys wondering around but fewer women .
Wait- you've actually seen women taking cooking classes?!?
@@gregkillick4261 thanks I wish men and women my generation 30 yrs and above knew this . We have one life and majority will regret this
I dont agree with not seeing each other for a week..we are all very busy with our own life's and moving forward..I also need my space and my time to get to know someone..if a man doesn't setup a meeting within a week I will not move on but I will take my time to get to know him .
@@gregkillick4261 Those older guys mainly became homeless for one of 2 reasons: mental illness or divorce.
The thing that always bugged me was not knowing if some of the dates I went out with were there just for the hell of it to get out of the house for a bit and get a free meal. It's pretty rare to find dates that are legitimately excited to be with you. Most are at best on the fence and only become more attracted to you after spending time together when she can see you're fun to hang out with.
I started working on myself and writing about it. Something I've never done. I got some great experiences...
If I asked her on a date then I was having fun in the first place... and if the date goes well it means I was having fun. As long as your having the best time in the room she'll be there. And that's where it ends. Girls are attracted to the quality of your lifestyle, fun level, and social grace which goes hand in hand w status and agreeableness. The projection of your future. Dating requires money, time, and skills and unless you have your ducks in a row there's going to be more interpersonal stress. As you say the juice isn't worth the squeeze-unless your set. When you are set you can pick and choose rather than commit most of your time to maintenance. That's what settling is.
I feel really sorry for guys who've developed somatic anxieties in social or interpersonal settings. They are screwed. Their voice, posture, emotions will feedback off of women in socially painful to watch ways, which will just snowball for them internally. Women find them creepy even when they're just not socialized well but otherwise normal. The focus of their perceptions are being overridden by anxieties of the Sympathetic Nervous System from past experiences that conditioned their survival instincts in social settings. Like I said your vibes feedback to women and they are like CPUs. Input data goes in and output data (behavior) comes out. This sets off a girls Enteric Nervous System (vibes) and her Sympathetic NS feeding back bad vibes and it's the guys fault. He's supposed to be a rock. He'll cement deeper anxiety with women after these experiences. I think that's one potential source of gender inequality in the workplace. Guys don't get creeped out by other dudes much and if 1 in 7 men are regularly selected by women then the other 6 are going to socialize elsewhere. I guarantee many of the others aren't making social headway with women but they can engineer, or do something else well. Some are conditioned with anxiety, and others know that women are attracted to power-like when your 20 and the girls you went with are in love w the bouncer, But then your inside and their in love with the bartender, then she's in love with the owner even tho she said 40 yr olds are unattractive and old.. its really environmentally subjective. So that def affects male hiring processes if they have a sexual mindset.
To avoid settling be like a bird. Males show the attractive colours of their feathers w a dance. Hold onto your passions that build feelings of fulfillment which permeate other areas of your life and make you behave in alluring ways. Women pick up on those vibes through subtle cues like posture, tone, eye expression, acuity, etc. And if the girl your with tells you to forfeit your fav hobby then your settling. You'll lose your passions, social life, to ultimately drink herbal tea at 730PM before falling asleep to Grey's Anatomy. 🤮