What's the tipping point that makes men walk away from dating?
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- čas přidán 25. 08. 2024
- A few examples of guys getting burned, a great article about a man realizing he will be alone for life and my personal experience in marriage.
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Any woman that turns you down because "you're not exciting" is a woman you don't need in your life.
The people watching this BS are "bachelors" or "fuckboys." They aren't here to build a genuine relationship, they just want casual sex.
Exactly, they dodged a bullet.
Yeah, a woman that fancies a drug dealer would be a woman i would exclude from the get go.
@@leotard2536 if a "relationship" means wasting thousands of dollars "dating" different women who just want free meals and drinks, no, fuck that, I have not done that for years The women use men for free meals, and then they fuck Chad for free after that. No thanks!
@@leotard2536 nope. Just being on the bitter side of the coin too often.
Not there yet. Not giving up.
I was married for 23 years. I'm hoping that when I die my marriage counts as time served in Hell.
omg--was it that bad?
@Leslie Starck 23 years of marriage was an eternity to him. He will likely enjoy Hell more
I think it’s pronounced “De loit.” It’s an accounting firm.
Nope.
Its hell...so nope. 😈
I was married for 30 years... the last 12 is was (post-menopause-no-sex) she wanted nothing to do with being sexual. I was a "provider".... After I moved out, I was so happy to be alone. Yea it was hard, but I'm not hassled by "Karen" for taking a nap. I left all possessions behind, she kept the Tundra truck, the Kia optima, all the furniture, the dog, everything. I walked away with my Honda motorcycle, my pc, and my FREEDOM. At one point after being moved out for 5 months point she said "you are nothing to me but a handyman and source on income" after I dumped my cycle, standing there with a broken shoulder blade and a few broken ribs. At that moment I made the decision and filed for divorce. BEST DECISION EVER. Now I moved to Boulder Colorado, living the dream going mountain biking and road biking when I want. I eat healthier, I live better. I have FREEDOM....
Join the club. Being a handyman and source of income is All women think of men.
Live the dream hell yah 😁
I am so happy for you ❤😊
FREEDOM IS EVERYTHING!
My income was enough to provide but not get her all the things she wants. When she tried to tell me that "all" women spend X amount on themselves a month and she doesn't and therefore I should be saving all that imaginary money, I calmly told her thats not how saving money works and no "all" women don't have this budget for non essential items. This enraged her, she completely lost it and started yelling and said she lost all respect for me, she accused me of being financially abusive and of not wanting her to have a nice life.
Well it’s been 17 years of bliss being divorced. After 25 years of marriage the kids weren’t a factor, they were 16 and up. She told me she was going to take it all; so I fought like a devil to not get railroaded in the courts and managed to come out unscathed. Long story short; I’m happy and she is miserable.
I love hearing happy endings.
And how is your relationship with your children now? Were they unscathed or are you paying for their uni bills and therapy now?
@@LSSYLondon lol what how was this his fault you imbecile
The best revenge you can get, is living well. Good to know a man can win in court while dealing with the vedma, or witch he was duped into marrying.
Well done (other than the 25 years).
Remember, gentlemen: "Why aren't you married, you're such a good guy?" is a question that answers itself.
Mi Ke It’s really weird how acting indifferent and treating women like shit has them nipping at your heels.
I got asked this question by all the married women at work. I just said I don't see it happening. They just left it at that respectfully.
Don't ask women why they don't have kids. Don't ask a man why he isn't married. Simple.
scary thing: that is one of the most brilliant statements I ever heard, and I never thought of it that way before; perhaps it explains a lot more about those I was always envious of....
The time I realised I’m not food for some manipulative sponger, who leverages access to her body, to make me work for 30 years, whilst she is out cheating.🤷♂️🤦♂️🙄🤣🤣🤣♥️
I get asked all the time : “You’re 45, never married and no children. What’s wrong with you?“ I tell them them: “I’m smart.” (Update for 2024. I’m now 49 years old.)
Right on, man! When they try to shame you, shame them back.
I had dinner with my father and several of his friends recently. I had never met them. So, they ask..."You married?" No. "Divorced?" No. "Kids?" No. A few seconds of silence. "How old are you? 45. Raised eyebrows. Glances exchanged. One reached for his glass and the others followed suit. Held them up and and he says, "Smaaaaaart motherfucker. Cheers, man."
and lonely
Lauren .. Nice try with the shaming tactic. No loneliness over here. No one said they didn’t deal with women at all.
E.L. Norton ... I love that, brother! Cheers! 🍻
True story: went to a 1st date dinner last night to a 4 star restaurant. Once she found out I don't have a private jet, she wasn't interested. She knew I made mid six figures but it wasn't enough. Mind you, she's 36, 3.5yr daughter, is done having kids, works part time as a caregiver, drives a Honda, and has a 2 year degree. Classic.
lol I bet her girlfriends tell her that she deserves better. Time to invest in boxed wine and cat food ;)
get better at lying amigo! women expect/want that these days..
Maybe she is extremely beautiful thats why you were interested as well
I am sorry but this story just seems like pur bs. Sorry man if she gave you that excuse she just did it to blow you off it was something else that turned her off.
@@15xgg80 she's a gold digger. Not sure if you've encountered them before but she's caught in a pattern and is too old to keep the same system and have it work for her. She's still out there though as I've seen her on the same ol websites. You can ask her out if you'd like and see what it's all about. Bear in mind, she expects a chauffer to and from the venue - not by you of course. You get to pay for it. She'll order the most expensive items on the menu, of course. She'll wear one of her Ukrainian outfits which aren't flattering but that isn't the point. As for it being an excuse instead of it being something else, go out with any Soviet block girls and you'll see they don't mix words or are passive aggressive, they just say their blunt truth.
15 years with my wife and 2 kids. She kicked me to the streets. Said I was “Toxic” but couldn’t tell me why. Said I was “controlling” but couldn’t say how. I asked her “What my rules in the home?” She couldn’t answer. Yes, I’m the Toxic one? Really, she kick the father out and our children are suffering. Who’s is really the toxic person…
Women in their 30's: where are the good men?
Women in their 20's: ew, why would I date you?
Women in their 40's & 50's... Please, please, PLEASE ask me out!
@@Nerodz Actually, I'd say its:
Women in their 40's and 50's: "Please PLEASE somebody support me and my 3 kids!"
@@ArcaneWorkshop Yes, the bulls-eye.
They’ll turn into Karen’s once they realise it’s too late and all the good men have gone their own way.
Women in their 40's: If he's breathing?!?! He's a good man!!!
To bad it's too late by then
Men no need to stress yourself out trying to get a women. build your career and focus on yourself.
Yes just get into the NFL and you'll be swimming in bitches
@@sergiorocha76 what
@@sergiorocha76
Emphasis on "bitches"
Something that, coincidentally, increases a guy's attractiveness. Counts as ignoring them and being a bad boi but with good social status/a good pay I guess.
"Woman should be a compliment to your life, not the focus" - Entrepreneurs in cars.
To get women you have to not care, but the problem is that you don't care anymore.
Yeah and there's really no in between. Guys are either deluded simps who value women because they haven't learned the truth yet, or they know better and just look at women and sigh at how useless they are
I was on dating apps for 6 years and did not get one single date out of it. Every single girl I matched with ghosted me. After 6 years, that was my tipping point. I decided I'm just going to try and be happy on my own, and I deleted the apps and it felt like a weight off my shoulders. I've been way happier ever since giving up on dating. I've just been focusing on myself and investing in my hobbies. I figure if a girl happens to come along, great, but if not, I'm content. I'm done putting in the effort with women.
Same here, I got ghosted on every dating site
I'm so pleased men get rejected a lot. It satisfies me. 😂
Most these days are useless anyway due to modern propaganda and bad breeding.
It really is a weight off your shoulders. Be free.
@@cheekymonkeygirl3378 I was going to leave a long response to your comment but you're not worth the time or effort.
I’m 48 and retired. I’m financially independent. My house is paid for as are my two cars. When I meet a woman now and they ask “What do you do”, they always ask, I tell them “I’m unemployed. Tough to find work these days, etc” The smile on their face they had meeting what they thought was a good looking single guy, turns into a diss appointed sneer. Then they make an excuse to walk away. It’s quite entertaining. Some of my close friends asks why I do that, she was cute, into me or whatever. I then point out if they were into me, they wouldn’t have walked away.
Even if they stayed, you would still be better off single than in a relationship.
Wonderful, good sir.
After that I'll take my brand new Porsche Cayenne for a ride and drive right by her with the windows down smiling. Lol
brianmcg321 the red dress, by Rollo, this is a clear example, bravo!
@@sirwizalot7164 You do that in the metoo generation and your personal wealth is bound to go down.
The tipping point for me, was when after a string of bad relationships and interactions with girls, my best friend of many years decided to let me know that she wants more than a friendship. We had an amazing beginning, a little rocky in the middle, and we emerged stronger together after some hiccups. Then she cheated on me, moved away, and 6mo later immediately got engaged to someone else and threw everything out with me on a whim including the friendship. Then I realized how shitty the typical girl is, even those that pretend they are your best friend. They don't care about anyone except themselves. Over a decade later, not having spoken to each other in all of that time, she called me crying telling me how sorry she was. To this day, I without a doubt know she is not sorry....she is just unhappy in her current situation
Medic311
You nailed that 'spot on' - She is not sorry for you - she is sorry that she is unhappy in her
current situation and expects you to bail her out - only to repeat what she did earlier.
She is not 'Platinum' - She is 'Plutonium'
lol my ex did something similar. She left me for another guy who was twice our age and married. He pretended to be wealthy. Turns out he wasnt wealthy but was maxing out his credit to impress her. When she figured it out she tried to get back with me. I acted casual and indifferent about it because i didnt want to boost her ego but truthfully, afterwards i felt really sad and humiliated by the whole thing. Like she was blatantly telling me im not good enough but good enough for now until something better comes. Its really insultimg.
I think that's the scariest thing of all - knowing how incredibly deceitful and unstable women are. In every experience I've had, it went from her being obsessed and in love to not even caring less if I even existed. And no, I didn't change or do anything wrong. It even happened with a long time friend like you said. For me, women have proven themselves time and time again to be far too untrustworthy so I've just decided it's not worth the risk and will likely live the rest of my life alone. I mean, it's crazy because you can't even predict it - she may be the most kind and Godly woman and swear she'd never leave but when it comes down to it, she will still betray you in time.
She’s for the streets
Bruh my tipping point is similar, after that I gave up on even trying to date or even go out to the bar scene even looking to get involved with females.
Here is a secret to happiness. Stay single until you're happy being single (yep, overcome your addiction to the V they use to hold power over you). Don't waste any time or emotions on women who love social media and constant posts/pics about herself. When the great V is off the table, what else do they bring to it. Nothing? Tell them to kick bricks. Stop following them around like a puppy with your nose shoved up there. All you do is encourage their narcissistic magic princess complex. Show garbage the door. You're the great temple they wish they could worship at. Always stand with your shoulders back and tell them to "F" off with authority.
Well said.
I work in the bar industry. The girls I work with post pics of themselves on social media looking incredibly sexy. Always a party.. real life is a different story.. working with these chicks made me realize how miserable they are with relationships/ life in general. It's all a lie.
I agree, after years of let downs by women I treat them like 💩
I was in a 15 year marriage when my wife left me and my son's to pursue her real love in life (being a drunk and drug addict). I don't think I'm undatable I think overall I have everything a woman can offer me. I have my own house, I have my sons, and we have cars, dirt bikes, 4 wheelers... My boys and I spend plenty of time together playing video games, we eat dinner together every night. I have teachers of theirs hitting on me and after what I went through with my ex I just would rather not.
Dating apps are filled with the leftovers. I am a good looking guy, late 40s, tall, earn 6 figures, big house, great cook, classic car,..... I can't find a decent woman to save my life. You guys aren't alone. These women are train wrecks.
Lol there’s no way you can find a women that can add to your life. Women in 30s and 40s do not offer anything period. End of story.
@Wayne Adams: Yes . . . 40s is way, way too late. The (small percentage of) good Women are all snapped up by early 20s. It's lottery odds after that . . .
I don't find all of that attractive. Humility, simplicity are the attractive to me. I'm 55 and don't look it. I stay in shape. Funny thing is, the same complaints I hear from men here I hear from successful women. I make high 6 figures but I'm frugal, and also a geek. I can fix almost anything that breaks in my home. If it's beyond me I call three places to get the best deal
The stereo types that are floating around here show that dating apps aren't the way to go. I like meeting and getting to know someone in person. Endless texting is also a turnoff. Too many preconceived notions here.. I'll pass.
@@DaughterofOurLady How many years did you spend chasing chads in your youth though? You're 55. Of course you find humility and simplicity 'attractive'. But I bet you never took one glance at a humble, simply, 'nice' guy when you were in your 20s and your priorities were on finding a hot, exciting man who can take you on an emotional rollercoaster.
@@QED_ I'm 40 in 3 months. Unless I can find a non-crazy girl under 30 (I know, I know, stop laughing...) then I'm pretty screwed. It hurts as I really wanted to be a dad.
Guys, remember this, 90% of women these day only want the top 10% of guys...
False. 100% of women only want the top 10% of wallets.
Top 1%
And those 10% of guys are always subjecting themselves to possible false accusations or threats of them if they don't comply with what a woman wants. Sex is used as bait to set the hook and reel them in. The devouring comes later.
99.999% of women these days only want the top 1% of guys.
There. I corrected it for you.
They want to make as much money as men but only want to hook up with men who make more money than they do. Nothing contradictory about any of this, right?
When I was in my 30's, I changed careers which involved my going back to school and moving back into my mom's house to save money. This rendered me undateable, at least to women I was attracted to. I would lie in bed at night thinking about the day I would finish school, the day I would be working in my chosen field and achieved my goals. I studied, joined networking groups related to my profession, went to the gym and eventually got the job I wanted.
Several years later, I'm married with two young kids. I didn't realize it back then, but I had it good. I only had myself to worry about. I love my wife and kids, but sometimes I miss those days when I alone. I was living the dream and I didn't even know it. I see now that the dream is in the journey, not the destination.
No worries, you'll be divorced and single in no time : )
Thats only if you actually succeed. Think about it again if you get divorced, and loose everything.
good on you!
You will lose a lot of money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.
why even date? what a waste of time
Yeas but what does chasing money accomplish? 🤔 It won't be worth anything once the apocalypse starts.
@@doomsdayking4843 If you want to prepare yourself for the apocalipse, money will give you plenty of tools to do that before that happens. From a brazillian here, where the reality here is brutal and maaaany crisis: If you have money and want to get ready, get your shit right and get ready, if you want to get ready but you are broke, you are fucked. Money give you tools, what you are going to do with that is up to you, to help other, do good, help yourself, whatever, it is up to you.
@@marciobranco6192 Invest in assets not liabilities.👍
@@ross_ulbright7779 Hell yeah !
I don't consider myself "undateable"...
I consider myself uninterested.
You nailed it!
Amen to that brother.
Well there's enough porn around to keep you interested.
Precisely!
Many of us out there. Nothing wrong with it.
The moment I realized women do not find virtue and morality attractive like men do was one of the most enlightening moments of my life.
I find virtue and morality attractive.....
@@JinxD247 sure you do, just not as attractive as the bad boys huh?
@@sunkillsmoon it's a quality that I find rare. Bad boys... Whatcha gonna do? 🤣
Faithfulness and honesty are high up on my list😘
If men find virtue and morality attractive why are they throwing money at strippers and only fans models and s3x workers literally every day? 🤔
@@effyutubeagain1099 desperation
As a female I feel sorry for men… I’m on the inside and the woman are brutal.. 44 years married and I am grateful for every single day that I have with my super hero husband and dad to are children 😊
Im happy for you. there are less and less men and women who want to work on the relationship.
too much selfishness and broken society today
1. Don't answer at all.
2. Don't be on Tinder in the first place.
Boom
alot of simps don't want to hear this.
leave all these apps and social media to the chicks.
True. If you are a bloke not in the top 20%, you are going to find Tinder a soul-destroying experience.
Tinder’s awful
If you can't see it, touch it, or feel it, it's NOT REAL! :)
Stay the hell off dating apps guys...let them starve..
Amen. I never have been on one and obviously never will at this point
I feel like missing out though.
@@Zaluskowsky Your not missing anything.
All the weirdos are on dating apps
Amen. I find better stuff left outside the goodwill.
To the younger guys who feel devastated when their crush doesn't even notice them, I want to say this: nothing is more satisfying to meet them twenty years or more later when their outer beauty has faded away and they are bitter, while their husbands are looking after younger women all day long.
I once was at a reunion party of a club that had closed down for 20 years or so. A woman that never even saw me standing back in the days came up to me that night.
She said: "Wow, you didn't get older." and this kind of bs.
I replied: "Well, you did."
I had a lot of this kind of encounters that night and it was tons of fun.
Burn! I like it. I never went to a reunion because I figured it would be boring.
Lmao well you did. Burn.
I looked up my old school guy friends this past week. Funny thing is that they didn't have any interest in dating me. Now that I'm considered a real head turner, wealthy and educated with no debts and a successful marriage and no kids I wouldn't consider them dateable. They are all balding, with beer bellies and baby mamas and working bad hours and low wages and look a decade older than me at least. The 30's are a great time to be a woman like me!
Savage 😂
@@LSSYLondon lol 😂 give us a break youre probably 5/10.
There was a time when I was sad and depressed at the knowledge of being undatable, unwanted, undesired. But now, I see those three things as what ultimately saved me in the end.
When I look back at my life, those times when I was sad and depressed led to times of being happy and content.
I realized that it wasn't actually that, it was a mix of going outside, excercise, noise and stress reduction and not living paycheck to paycheck. Having 1 friend who's well connected helps too. I talk (actual talk in person, not just hello) to a fam member or friend once a week, that's more than enough. Anything beyond that is a hassle and requires a reward. Texting is a different story.
I’m sure dozens of women told the boring nice guy to “just be yourself”
Because they're a great guy and they just want to see their FRIEND find the right girl.
@@MrCoincash Yup, they want him to be just how he is so they can have someone provide for them after she ran through 100 Chads.
@@jimjohnson394 it’s a way of brainwashing men to make things easier. If the simp decides to “just be himself” women will avoid him. An attractive man who is well off just being himself? Attracts women like flies to honey.
I'm not exactly boring, but I *am* Autistic; most gals prefer the *boring* ;)
Women never say what they mean, they speak in parables where the true meaning is between the lines.
Now whenever I hear a woman say "He's a nice guy." "He's too nice." "He's boring." Let's be honest. She is not looking for a relationship. She is a junkie looking for her next fix.
Looking for Chad and Tyrone. The rest of us are ATMs
@@justinacase2623 the Chad is an LOL but cringe at the tyrone... sent my wife of 10yrs (and our daughter) to Fla. for a vaca, shes a high 8or 9 in looks and figure etc..she sent pics and called daily, she sent one GROUP pic of her w/(trip) friends etc. AND staff from the tiki bar in the resort they'd been to for a few yrs. now & next to her in a group of 10ish was- you guessed it>>> a tyrone standing a bit too close!!! i was beside myself livid. I immidiatly called her screaming...informed her to not come home if she valued life, and that i was burning her stuff,(almost).. reason being is she would text me (I'm FB free) the pics that she also posted on social media!! she's a rather G rated woman of integrity, i do trust her, and shes actually a sheltered prued by comparison but her FB is viewed by hundreds including my family and friends... made her pull that pic...not gonna be that guy that other dudes assume about. makes me sick to this day
@@daleaustin1969 I hear ya! Never understood that messed up thinking, whoamans!
@@justinacase2623 say it an't so. I have heard and read such shenanigans. There is so much competition and not enough to go around. I've recently been on the prowl and never thought of the chase, that way. You may have a point to consider.
@@daleaustin1969 bro, you gotta go with her next time. If she is a high 8 or 9, you gotta protect her like a Picasso. You may trust her, but one too many margaritas and....
The moment I realized I was undatable was just after high school and I turned 18 and started going to clubs and bars and saw the huge disparity between the number of women and men in my town. I was 27 before I had my first serious relationship with a Thai girl who I met on a dating site and married. Two kids and 15 years later the only thing I wish was different is that I met her earlier.
Yes. International women are better. I am married to an Indian.
that's a great story. glad to see an actual happy marriage. those seem rare. (maybe people are terrible at choosing partners on qualities that matter)
@@lurklingX most men don't choose. It's not as though they have options lining up the street. For most they just get committed to any girl that shows any interest in them and think It's love. The one who can afford to choose are the physically attractive guys.
@@rosihantu1 100%.
Worse still, some of us never even get the scraps.
My lady is from Okinawa, Japan and granted 10 years my senior but she makes me happy and we spend time together and takes care of me while I win the bread for us.
It happened at 19 for me. 25 now and still have days where I feel pretty damn lonely but I generally just try to do something physical and that takes my mind off it
You've had it easy, trust me. I 30M have dated and it's just not pleasant. It's incredibly hard to find someone not obese even if you're tall and working out.
Also, we haven't been divorce-graped.
@@alexvig2369It’s hard to find someone not obese and someone who doesn’t have children. LOTS of single mom’s out there.
@@timothyswauger3984 not in my country (not yet, at least). Maybe in America. I'm looking for a virgin anyway, so even if she doesn't have children that's not enough for me - which disqualifies 98% of women already even in my somewhat conservative country.
@@timothyswauger3984that's what killed it for me In my 20s I was always willing and ready but always found hogs and single moms "I was saving this cookie for you" gtfo!
@@alexvig2369its almost funny at this point. I'm conventionally attractive or at least so I'm told. 6ft, physically fit and approaching beach lean 31M and while I can typically do alright in the casual sex department, anything that resembles something longer than a fling is just a pipe dream. Women are awful people in my experience. I've been used, cheated on, treated poorly. I recently (this week) deleted all the apps, unfollowed about 200 Instagram accounts and decided I was opting out.
It's a shame, my parents had an amazing strong perfect marriage of 30 years. But I don't think that reflects reality these days. Young women are too immature to date seriously, older women are either ahead of me financially so it would never work, or I don't find them attractive. Or they cant bear children, so what's the point?
I am in "Monk Mode". I simply gave up. I want nothing to do with dating and romance. It isn't depression. It is despair. Love is impossible in a Neoliberal narcissistic world of materialism, status and greed.
Let us meditate together, brother.
That's me right there
It was me a long time ago then I got married and feel ok. Though I totally think this thing with women is primarily western women or women from 1st world countries that put too much value in the next Gucci bag bullshit or other designer crap that can easily be counterfeited.
@@mikuios i woud love to but my mind cant be silenced thougts just never stop on and on and on
I have tried so many times the only times i could keep my thoughts in line ia whit loud music musing that makes any sane person ask how can you think in this
Thats the point i cant but i love it
Adhd is horible
I gave girls up 10 years ago... First it was because I'm not really desirable to them so it wasn't worth it, but now I truly don't care, I'm over it!
Paid off house, paid off car, kick ass watch collection. Haven't chased women in a while.
same
Finished building my new house (paid for). Only 3 payments left before my truck is paid off. Own my boat outright and have for 15 years. Not dating.
Paradise!
Absolutely, My money is for ME, not the whims of pleasing someone else. Life is very good.
That is why you have money. Good job!
Seems like you got no 'time' for time wasted hehe
I have finally accepted that I'm not going to ever meet the unrealistic expectations of today's women and I'm ok with that. While I miss the companionship I don't miss the bs. Thanks for your videos
All I got was games, lies and rejection..
@@stevo6891 same here! The juice isn't worth the squeeze.....
@@davidward9487 I figured I’d be married in my 20’s boy I was wrong.. This one nurse that was into me I really thought she liked me but now she is just a stranger.. They sure change on a dime!!
@@stevo6891 that they do. I thought the same thing too..... now i can't see entering a contract that the other party is incentivized to break. Time for men to go their own way
@@davidward9487 I agree, I’m sorry but I’m rude to women now can’t stand them!!
The tipping point for me was when my "Dream Girl" tried to manipulate and project her faults on me, and then feel sorry for herself when I wanted nothing more to do with her. She was a wise and virtuous young woman once, but then she became proud and lewd. My dreams of an eternity with her died; I chose her, I chose wrong, and I cannot offer my best to any other woman. I'm content to live the rest of my life making the best of it, contributing where I can, and avoiding unnecessary drama and stress.
The moment I realized that I'm only 5' 9" tall, and that every vvoman here in Southern Ontario is seeking out a man who is at least 6 feet tall = I realized that I'm 'Undateable'.
But then again, half of the guys over 6 feet are divorced and paying crushing alimony payments each month, so in that respect, I am lucky that I never got selected for the 'Divorce Lottery' by a female.
Fellow southern ontario resident here .
Any woman that considers the height of a partner being a requirement isn’t worth dating anyway.
I'm 5'8, so ive been turned down for that as well. Went on a date with a girl that was 5'7 and she told me to my face that she was disappointed that i was only an inch taller. Sorry about your luck, i hope it gets better.
@@darkhymnsfromthecoldnorth I'm 5ft8 as well but I don't give a rats Ricky about my height cause there is nothing I can do about it but my physique that I can do something about ..
@@TheHiker24 You are right. I dont care about my height either.
'the game' is rigged, the only winning move is to not play.
Man I hate my fucking girl..she doesnt care lying on my face swearing shes telling the truth. Bitches are just bitches
It’s your life. But your inherently negative perspective on dating and women means you’re probably not properly oriented. You have trauma or issues you need to work on.
Rossoblupersempre A lot to untangle here. But if you hate her then why are you with her? Why not go to couples therapy if you value the relationship?
@@BadMannerKorea im hating her because of her behaviour and not because of the actions.. examp. If I catch u doing something wrong u dont apologize but u keep lying..i cant respect that.
@@Elbomberdelvernal get rid of her bro. Time is a non-renewable resource. If she doesn't add to your life she subtracts and you should move on.
The tipping point for me happened last summer. I was dating a beautiful younger woman. We'd had a lot of great times together; went to Aruba together, had all sorts of adventures, really in love and the whole shebang. I was contemplating getting serious with her. She came to stay with me for a few weeks in the summer (it was long distance). Once she got to my house, she started treating me like shit: complaining about how I managed my household, about the clothes I wore, about where I put my furniture in the house--she even complained about the way I write on my wall calendar! We had fights almost every day. So one evening I was laying there beside her, we both were silent as we'd had a fight that day, and I was thinking, "Man, SCREW THIS. Why do I even want a relationship? Why do I even want someone in my house at all? It's way more peaceful when I don't have anyone around." And I started thinking about all the opportunities I could have if I was just perpetually single--travel, savings, hobbies and personal fulfillment, other relationships I could cultivate, etc. And something snapped inside me. After she went home, I sent her a terse message saying I felt like she treated me awful and I was done, but I also told her part of this was me--I'd realized I just wanted to be solitary. Now I am working hard, enjoying my personal life immensely, doing my hobbies, and saving up for that dream retirement property up north. Couldn't be happier.
Same here man, I been the best version of me towards women but all I gots was games, led on, and rejected.. Anymore I just save money and take care of me and my hobbies..
@@stevo6891 An average man am I, of no eccentric whim,
Who likes to live his life, free of strife,
doing whatever he thinks is best, for him,
Well... just an ordinary man...
BUT, Let a woman in your life and your serenity is through,
she'll redecorate your home, from the cellar to the dome,
and then go on to the enthralling fun of overhauling you...
Wow, sounds like quite the change. Perhaps she had some hormonal issues, maybe? Sucks. But if you're in a better head space now, that's the best thing. Life's too short for fighting all the time.
@@chriscampbell9191 hormonal issues ? do i get to use this excuse too when i'm acting like a pile of shit ?
@@endlessthoughtspartitionma1349 When women 'snap' like the OP describes, it's possible there are hormonal issues involved. Then again, it may be that she was merely hiding her control freak nature until she moved in -- hiding your negatives is easy to do if it's a long distance relationship. As for it being an excuse, no -- it is not an excuse for shitty, control-freak behavior. There are no excuses for treating someone else like shit.
My tipping point was when my first girlfriend introduced me to the world of dating by cheating on me after 2 months. She was incredibly guilty afterwards, but in the meantime she made no attempt to get us back together. She just wanted us to talk as "friends", because she had the emotional attachment, but apparently I wasn't goodlooking enough to continue in a relationship. Sums up the whole thing how no amount of emotion or intelligence or partnership a guy can offer is enough for women, if the dude is not handsome.
Yeah, modern day 'dating' depends so much on the superficial, with looks being 90% of it probably.
so... you get into one serious relationship, get yourself burned a bit. then, you act as if you've lived trough, half a lifetime of relationships and hardships?
listen here man. you will get hurt every now and then, but you need to get out there and go get some more... do you really wanna sit around as a old stud and wonder? what it could have been like to get some love and affection ?
@@wayofthewicked Yeah I tried many times, and all of them ultimately failed but for different reasons, however I was never guilty.
Yeah, Tom Brady wasn’t handsome enough or Brad Pitt? Nope, women leave when their narcissistic neurotic needs aren’t met.
Years ago I was on one of of the first dating sites. I had just put up my listing a couple days before and woke up sick one day and left for work at about 10 am. Before I did I sent a short introductory message to a woman that was sort of nearby and looked kind of interesting. I basically wrote that I liked what she had written in her description of herself. When I got home from work (no smart phone back then), I had three messages from her. The first one thanked me for my message. The second one said she was not sure she was comfortable interacting since I had not posted a photo of myself (I was waiting to get a good one). The third one said "Obviously this does not mean anything to you!". We had gone through an entire relationship and broke up and I wasn't even there! I thanked my lucky stars.
"I'm not looking for a relationship."
Translation: "I find you about as attractive as a lugfish, but when you get super-rich, try again."
I'm 28, I have a good job, just by my job title alone there's all the hotties I knew back in high school that keep contacting me for you know what. Like clockwork. Of course I cut the conversation short immediately.
once had a classmate say to me "I'm not interested in a relationship right now, but there's this one guy I'm kinda looking into". I'm dead serious.
@@KingRandor82 I can well believe it, Your Majesty. Might I assume this classmate was of the female persuasion?
@@richardlbowles that she was! Interestingly enough, we still kinda became buddies to a degree after...but I also notice she's a bit on the weak-willed side anyway. I feel like I dodged a bullet there.
That just about sums up women now, they just want a meal ticket.
"My ex was a legit criminal without any loyalty"
Sounds like a catch...
But she chose him anyway xD
I was just about to say. Maybe he IS her ex because he got busted dealing pills and is now serving a couple of years in the county lockup........ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
But he drove a GTR you see.
Operator X Not everybody drives. GTR. He must be a catch🤷🏾♂️
Would likely stand up, walk over to pay the check - and walk out of the door without another word.
Worked as a RN for close to 30 years and retired at 56 in 2019. Had multiple relationships, two marriages and raised two step sons to adulthood before their Mom had an affair and left me. During my entire medical career it always seemed like money was tight whenever I became involved with a woman.
Vacations, eating out, in-law financial dramas, hospital visits, new wardrobes and a fresh car every 5+ years. Then the 2nd divorce happened and a year later I retired with a pension roughly 50% of my annual gross. But here is the kicker.
Everything is paid off, no debts, finally finished off the 65 Galaxie restoration, get up when I want, go wherever I want, rarely eat out, will talk to anybody, anytime without being chided and give back to my community via various volunteers organizations.
With all this going on and making 50% less income, I am STILL able to bank $2000+ a month? No interest in searching for the next female at this point and will now enjoy playing the role of prey instead of being a predator on the hunt. Life is awesome.
Women are like teenagers with credit cards. They don’t know how to stop spending
Undateable almost sounds like an advantage in the west here
it becomes a super-power. Wahmen are less likely to seduce and manipulate...
Seriously
Its been my aim for years & glad to say it's finally working :)
@COOL NAME BRO! anything can be a word for incel. Husbands in r/deadbedrooms are all incels. Hell husbands in a relationships where she portions sex to once a month a basically incels. And how many guys can straight up go and get laid without paying for an escort on a daily basis? The term is practically meaningless.
Imagine spending all that money, all that time, all those efforts...
on yourself!
Modern feminism made me walk away from ever getting involved with a woman. When I was younger it was kind of fun dating and meeting women but something changed. The rise of twitter and 'social media' by the 2010s people I'd meet were insanely toxic. I was brought up to keep sensitive topics to yourself when with a group of people you knew casually but now people had to spew their crazy thoughts all over the place and they HAD to know my stance on everything so they could judge me. It's crazy. I want no part of the modern world and modern feminism.
Mid 90s when they could say "he hit me" and send you to jail. Watched it happen to a few friends and after one tried to pull that game on me I just stepped back and started ghosting them. I've dated since then but it's always the same crap that they're bored or want to spend more money. I don't even talk to them if I can help it. My hobbies is watching them hit the wall and gripe that there's no good men around. Always single moms with three kids by different dad's, it's so clique but stunningly accurate.
I noticed that, I thought it was just me.
So your gay now?
@@Steve-yu6pq we respect your decision but please stop pushing it on us we just aren't into you that way
Amen Brother
Words of wisdom from an old family friend (the guy you grow up calling uncle even though he isn't) I've never forgotten: "If it floats, fucks or flies it's going to be trouble long term and you're better off renting"
Wow so true
Always had a hard time with the ladies. Always tried to be nice. After several highly disappointing relationships I decided to work on myself, improve my SMV. Fast forward a couple years and I realized how much I appreciate being the sole arbiter of my destiny.
But what really sealed the deal was when I noticed a sudden increase in female attention. NOT when I massively improved my mental wellbeing and monetary situation, but when I started treating them as though I had better things to do with my time. Isn't that a revealing observation...
Did you get in great shape? Weight loss etc?
@@bedadays1763 I never had a problem with that anyway since I've had very physical jobs.
You're basically rolling out the red carpet for someone who hates you, what's the point?
Took me way to long to see it that way!
Women are gonna have to approach men and they don't like it. Not 95% of mens' problem anymore.
Lol you let her do her thing, she thinks you’re too soft. “His weak”.
You decide to lead and set her straight while maintaining boundaries... she thinks you’re controlling.
You say F it, I’m done with dating. Got no time for this nonsense. They think you’re gay.
Moral of the story is Just do you. People will always have their own opinion of you. Focus on yourself
@Focused on the Future I met Male narcissists and they are horrible persons. But yes, it seems narcissism is a rather female defect.
...self hatred?
The tipping point is that when you realize that the person you're with already has a few men waiting for her at her beckon call. As well as almost every w0men has a ridiculously high body count at the age of 20. Don't get me started on divorce courts cause that's a whole other problem on its own.
You simply can not trust them. EVER.
@@ConstantChinner That's the sad reality of it all
@Perverted Alchemist haha truth !! Approach a girl and one of the first things shes asking "are you single " , meanwhile shes already thinking about her next hit of attention from chad after you leave
Russian Bot kinda makes you envious though doesn't it? Not so hard to understand them. I'd love my own harem as well.
Guess the pendulum did swing. Idk how it will look like when it swings back again though... kinda curious now.
I hate it when things are expected of me, but I can't expect anything from her.
That's when I realized I couldn't date anymore.
5’2, shy, awkward, and introverted. I’ve had a few dates from online dating but didn’t particularly find my dates attractive. None of them really embraced their femininity but nonetheless, I dated them because they were the only ones to actually respond to my messages etc. Realized I’m quite unattractive since those type of girls were all I could get. Would rather be alone than with someone I’m not fully attracted to which will only cause resentment. Cue The Car’s 1981 song: I’m Not The One 🎶
I’m 5’3” bro. It was over for us from the get go.
I'm in a similar situation, except I'm 6ft. Don't feel shy at all but yeah I'm an introvert and whilst I've been on dates and wouldn't mind more it's also hard to imagine actually being with someone all the time. I think I'd feel imprisoned. I don't want to justify hobbies, where I spend my free time on, etc. I don't want a woman who invites her female friends gang over etc. Just not interested at all in any of that as an introvert. So I ask myself, is it really worth it? I'm not sure, I think us introverted men are perhaps better of focussing on hobbies and tranquillity.
same 😂😂😂 @@Josh-fp2qn
As a divorced man myself, I can definitely say It's hard to put a price on freedom. No pointless drama, but sweet peace.
Same here
@@JBS2018
Amen! When I was married I had no fear of death. After ten years of freedom, it terrifies me!
dont you miss having sex with women?
Loooong lasting peace if we're smart.
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Joker: "If you're the guy that gets turned down on dating apps..."
Me: "So, 80% of guys on the apps?"
Even if they look really good at this point if the texts aren't new or interesting they are gone.
It's really like 10% of guys getting action. I get high marks with my photos on photofeeler, and I get matches but when I ask them out *silence*
@@jimraynor7788 I have gone a few dates and used photofeeler myself. It's all a big game. Gotta take photos that look interesting, good angles and poses or sometimes that look "natural". Then get them rated. Pic the best ones (whether it's from photofeeler or female friends). Then get the matches. Then be interesting or unique. Then take them to a good venue or offer an interesting experience. Rarely but sometimes you can get them to come straight over or go to their place. Every once and a while need new photos. It's a ton of effort for little roi. If it works out it's usually just a one night stand. All while women can take a selfie, and make no effort and get mad when men use selfies lol. It's getting harder and harder to get matches. Barely get any now that work out. Like maybe one a month that works out to an actually date.
I am being a little joking with the women taking just selfies as most now clearly have makeup and or filters and are trying to be "models"
Dating apps and websites are literally made for the top 1% Chads, you're insanely blue-pilled or masochistic if you go on there as an average guy. Real life isn't much better.
My lies are not even good enough for these broads on tinder anymore lol.
There is a scene from the movie "Marty" when his mom tries to get him out of the house to go dancing and meet girls, Marty says to his mom, "Ma, sooner or later there comes a point in a man's life when he has to face facts. One fact I gotta face is whatever it is woman like, I ain't got it". So true for many of us guys. Oh well 🤷♂️
Fantastic movie!!
Is that a new movie? I looked at Google and its not listed.
@@westwonic it's like 50 years old
@@consciousgentile5141Thanks. I found it eventually, it was made in 1955 (the year I was born and I am 67 in less than a fortnight). I will watch it this week.
@@westwonic hope you like it!
I'm 6'2, 25 years old, and a vet, I earn a decent income, and still, after all of that, not a single woman has ever even glanced in my direction or given me a chance. They have condemned us to a lifetime of loneliness and shame us when we move on with our lives alone. I've practically given up on trying. I realized a few years back that I would be happier single forever than with a good-looking girl who turned out to be a feminist. Keep your wits up guys, if they don't want you when you're at your best, then they don't even deserve you at your worst. These ran-through whores will come crawling back to us in their late 30s and we will return the treatment they gave us. Purity is the value of a woman and I would rather die alone without kids than take someone's leftovers.
Thank you for sharing your experience!
If you still think that having a child is good, because raising someone is great I'd say (don't have experience)
you can consider adopt a child.
Good day to you
@@IgorPachmelnikZakuskov Adopt one yourself!
You sound like you have a similar story to me. Prior vet as well. Trying to figure out why it’s difficult to be with women. Stack your coins, buy a house, stay fit and it’ll come. You’ll eventually have choice of women.
Purity is the value.? No
I'm a woman and my wisdom and confidence is the gift I give myself . I'll share my space with those who respect that. Honesty and loyalty is fair trade .
@@heidiclayton8706 Nothing wrong with honesty and loyalty, thats sought after by both sexes. However, the purity of a woman is what men value over all characteristics. A woman may see a man whos experienced as sexy but a man sees an experienced woman as a slut. Not trying to be mean, that's just how it is to us men. Adultery was punishable by death in the majority of human history, it applies to both men and women, but because you couldn't/can't tell who the father is when it comes to birth, men value purity above everything else in a woman. This was not me trying to come off as rude, this is just the perspective of a man, and obviously, alot of people agree with me on this.
Being told your undateable in this climate is a medal of honour.
That was great! I needed a laugh!
Wow, I have a crapload of those then
I got 3 up and 3 down, with a medal v for valor
"I've got a boyfriend."
"I didn't ask about your personal problems."
😆
That line was the best
I saw this in the first minute of the video and I was just dying to know the context of it
😆👍
My buddy had his wife help him out up a lift in his garage one Valentine's Day. I asked her about it and she said she enjoyed doing it. She was sincere. There are good women out there.
Destructively brutal line :- ))))))))))
BlackManOps yes but it’s getting more and more rare.
I'm 5'10 shredded 6 pack above average earner in my early 30s and i havent had a date in over 6 years, i don't even think im that ugly (my nose is a little big). It's just a bad time in history to be a responsible person
As bad as it sounds, im glad to hear that its not just me lol, same height, 29yrs old, decent shape and improving, successful business/home owner and i get nada online, scoffed at in public... Times have changed in the last couple years for sure
I'm not ready to give up on dating as I am only 20 years old and I'm decent looking, but the dating scene is just insane these days. I've learned some lessons the hard way by going through heartbreak and mistakes. I've learned that women are initially attracted to guys who barely give a shit about them. I learned that women don't want a "good man", they want a bastard that has good manners. The overall lesson I've been learning is to act as if all these women are the dirt beneath your feet and that they are not worthy of you. That seems to me to be the best way to be successful with women.
Iv just turned 30 my advice is forget about women and pursue a career of some sort instead keep occupied.
Better to just forget about them. Embrace your life fully without women.
i don't know why men go on dating apps, it's like going into a snake pit hoping to find compassion
same for women. Snake pit all the way....
Is compassion located in the back of her throat? Not sure thats why people go on tindrr
@@fallacy4348 i think you need to pay for compassion nowadays
... and being expected to pay for the privilege. The dating apps are a money pit for guys who want to communicate and are designed that way.
@@britishbulldogsvsthehartfo5677 yea, it's called paying for therapy. Sometimes it's payment to a therapist or psychologist, sometimes it's payment to an escort, but it all ends up costing.
The woman who sent that message on tinder in 10 years:
I can't find men who want to date men ,and it's MENS fault.
The irony is she'll still have 100s of thirsty dudes hitting her up on social media.
But for now she is having loads of fun. That is all that matters.
@@RoopaDudleyPaintings Oh, she's having loads, alright...
@@neilpeartspurplenose8739 That is right. Deal with it.
@@RoopaDudleyPaintings Deal with what? Std's? That's alright honey, I'll pass. Nasty ass skanks, yeesh.
Never dated, never been out on a date. I'm not ugly I'm not over weight I work out and even train BJJ and mua thai. I have been trying online dating its gone poorly every girl I've talked to never was interested in me so at this point (I'm 24) I've decided not to try anymore focus on me and what I want. I've fought off depression and after a while of struggling I realized I will live for my family be their for my brother and his family if they need me.
I met my wife the same day or week I told myself would be single for a year. A lot of what kept her interested was my lack of interest and probably more so the confidence to be myself not caring what she thought about it. I wasn’t playing a game, but it worked out in my favor.
Hope it continues to work out. Being honest, no sarcasm.
400 matches, yet she's probably still single and swiping... that's what I would call pathetic.
I bet she hasn't dated them all
Exactly. I would have followed up with that.
"400 matches and you're still on here? Maybe you're the problem"
Worst part is 400 matches proves nothing. Most girls have that many or more cause supply and demand.
She’s been pumped and dumped 400 times. What a “prize” lol
They act like their puss is a national treasure 😅
Grandma here. You're not going to find anything nice in a trashcan. tinder is a trashcan.
Haven’t found much better outside of that trash can. So... 🤷🏻♂️
@@Outlaw8908 give up
You never heard "one man's trash is another man's treasure"
@@crimsonghost2449 😆😆 lol!! I'm not sure if that philosophy is valid in the dating world but you make a good point!
You tell them Oma.
A while ago, I was texting this girl my friend set me up with.
A short while after, she called me telling me "Your a nice guy, but I'm not interested." The funny thing is she was interested in my best friend after seeing that he was more attractive while my friend was in a relationship. She was pretty much ostracized for it.
She should have just told me outright that she wasn't interested, would have hurt less.
The next one was always fighting with me over the phone because "I wasn't talking enough." She was on and off with the attitude to the point I just drove the stakes home about her arguments.
I had an awakening after that last one. I told myself that "I'm not the problem, it's the women's problem with me".
After that, I just don't try. In the past, I couldn't gather the courage to ask any girl out since I fell under the shy, quiet, and reserved category.
I would rather stay home than go clubbing. I enjoy a woman's presence than to be forced to talk about anything.
I'm a simple guy, it doesn't take much to make me happy. Video games, creating content, some music, and a good movie is enough for me.
I'm 38 and realized this in my early 30s.🥃
😏✌
Perfect 👍
This video is great. I moved to LA around 1.5 years ago and was beating myself up because I haven't been getting dates. I kept on thinking that "I wasn't good enough", or that I was was too introverted to "play the game". I had a phone call with one girl, and she called me a "beta", which was really discouraging. I felt ashamed that my cousins were getting more attention and dates than me. At 40, I thought that I need to work harder if I want family and kids.
With therapy, I'm remembering that I have a lot of attributes. I would also consider myself to be more dorky than the other "dateable" guys, but thats okay. I'm not a slacker, considering that I'm slim and cook for myself. I put a lot of energy into my hobbies and career. I would like to meet a woman who would really enjoy hanging out with me. With this dating climate, it will be challenging, but not impossible.
👏👏👏
You're wasting your time.
It always amuses me how women always look to other people to bring them excitement. They are so damn boring.
No kidding man, probably the top 2 in my top 5 reasons why I dont date, the absolute madness that comes after engaging with a women. My brain cells start to die, and any hard on I had for the women slowly recedes into the abyss of my body. Having to constantly talk and talk, just to keep things going while, she sits there on her phone clearly wanting to be somewhere else. And you ask them so what you do, oh not much, nothing, I like to travel, I like to eat..🤦♂️
@@keanowhitmore8009 Of all the women I've dated, no matter how fun they were, they were never nearly as much fun as hanging out with my real homies.
Definitely! if a girl says I'm bored that's a huge red flag 🚩
Opening on dating app im bored swipe the fuck away from that
@@keanowhitmore8009 yeah, it's always shit like that with them. I like traveling, shopping, eating out. NONE of these are hobbies or interests. They all revolve around spending money, usually men's money. There is no skill or creativity involved with anything they are interested in.
@Andrew Battersby "because they have no imagination" someone should study why women lack imagination
Never ever get married guys. If you want compassion, companionship, loyalty, love...buy a dog. There's a reason there called man's best friend.
Yes! Adopt a dog! It's a great thing to share love and care for a canine!
AND you can teach them the "Peanut Butter" trick......😂
Why are people saying this? I've been advised by a lot of women to never get married... Is love really dead? I've been waiting for true love my whole life. I don't care if it sounds silly, it's the truth. So why is this failing... and how to avoid it? It's so... well... heartbreaking.
@@catstrawford don't give up. A lot of the people here are a collection of hurting people in wrong relationships. This is not a place to look for hope, but just for those who need to vent their bad experiences with dating and marrying bad people. I feel bad for the men who were wrong by idiot women, and the reverse is true too. But at some point you need to stop blaming others and be accountable for your own behavior and move on with forgiveness. That way you don't carry a burden that you put on another person. I was single my whole life until I met my husband at 29, and so was he at 31. Maybe because we don't have emotional baggage and a laundry list of people we slept with and dated it made for a healthy marriage.
@@lisamendis5886 i appreciate where your coming from. but for the vast majority of men your situation is unattainable. you and your husband got lucky remember that.
I went out on a series of dates with this girl from Oregon before the Covid pandemic. Should've figured it was going to be especially awful based on where she was from. I quit trying to date when the pandemic hit because the lockdowns made it difficult. I had extra time to think and my habits changed. I started cutting my own hair, reading more, running more - and I started getting used to not trying to date. I felt better that way. Decided to continue doing these things despite lockdowns lifting in my area.
Same here.
I used to consider myself the greatest matchmaker in MA. Every woman I dated, within a month, she’d break up with me and meet her soulmate! It happened 4 times!! Lol!
Just love vvomens soulmate horse sh-t. You dodged multiple bullets brother- amen.
Sounds like a Rodney Dangerfield line.
I swear there's a movie with that exact premise.
You need to start your own "soul mate" business.
The irony is that women want a financially responsible man but when he has actual good financial habits like buying a reasonable car, not eating at expensive restaurants, etc; it dries them right up!
@VINCENT C it would if someone was rich enough to do that without affecting their finances much
That is absolutely true. I am financially well off, pay for all dinners, all vacations, all drinks, etc.; the women I dated never paid for a thing. But I was constantly criticized for not buying an expensive car (I like practical cars that I can throw my training gear and mountain bike in; cars that can take fire roads and dirt roads where all the fun things are....) or buying a bigger house for myself (It is just me....one person.... I don't need a 4,000 square foot home that has unused furniture and echos when I get home at night after work.) If I were to get married and we needed more space, I would buy a bigger place, but to just do so for the sake of spending money is insane.
@@BurtonSKnowles Yea, I think it boils down to biological instincts and if a man comes across as cheap, it means he is less likely to be willing to share/spend resources on her. You can sort of get away with it by telling them that I save where I can so I can spend where I want. I may take you out to dinner with coupons but that is so I can go on my 5 cruises I have booked next year.
Basically what that kind of women wants is some sucker to fund their expensive lifestyle without any of the goodies in the bedroom. That is all it boils down to.
Yup, lol. I actually enjoy cooking (many women "apparently" find a man that cooks is hot- not sure if that is a reliable vector, though.)
For me, it was realizing that no matter how much I tried to improve myself, there will always be someone who will be better than me and she will eventually leave me for them. So I decided that It's better to test drive rather than paying full price.
You got it. They are ALWAYS looking for the better, bigger deal. NO MAN is safe.
@@ConstantChinner If Steph Curry and Will Smith aren't safe, no mere average man is.
@@rippedreaper7279 You got it my ripped friend! And same with Channing Tatum, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp etc
@@zestrokeshehe You are sad at the fact that I figured out how women operate 😂
@Mr. Green it's okay to be jealous.
I got confirmation this past week that I'm undateable. My buddy and his wife offered me 2 tickets to see Paul McCartney on Saturday night. It was kinda last minute and I had only 2 days to line up a date. But it was Paul McCartney. So I asked around. I even explained we would be hanging and riding together with this couple, with our seats rowed together, as the show was an hour and a half drive away. Though I didn't say the words double date, I was trying to convey a safety net of me not drinking and driving, and all of us having a good time together instead of 2 of us trying to find something to talk about through the trip there and back. At the end of the day, while they would have loved to see the show, they just didn't want to see the show with me. So I backed out of it altogether. I spent my money on paying off a bill I was going to pay on next week. I'm about to be a little more financially freer next week paying off a major loan, effectively giving myself a $500 a month raise, and nobody will know about it or care. So I'm simply out of it now.
...nobody will know but YOU will know and that's all that matters.
I think it’s really difficult for a young man starting out in the world. Women tend to be very picky and very critical. There are great guys out there that get stuck in the friend zone because someone else is more attractive to these ladies. Rejection sucks, being told over and over again that you aren’t good enough no matter how hard you try. Men are learning to expend that energy that they used to spend wooing a woman elsewhere and that your self worth shouldn’t be wrapped up in what they think of you. Think for yourself, do for yourself young men because living well independently is the best revenge
But, let a woman in your life, and your sabbatical is through,
in a line that never ends comes an army of her friends,
come to jabber and to chatter
and to tell her what the matter is with YOU!,
I went from “I hope they like me” to “I hope I like them” and that’s when I realized how few dateable people there really are.
Same here. I'm 35 and have realized that in this past year. It's a better mindset for sure. I feel less neurotic when I view myself as a prize vs worrying about what women think
this comment is underrated
how about I hope I like her AND she likes me too.
@@ScottH7651 let her worry about that.
@@treepocolypse what’s funny is, you don’t realize She worries about exactly the same, till She gives up on Men and stops dating.
I know a guy who committed suicide due to experiences like this.
RIP Jeremy 😞
Bloody hell thats rough sorry to hear that.
Sorry to hear. Peace.
My first thought when Joker showed the screenshot in which this "girl" attacks him, was: "Damn, that would have hurt me so much, I would immediately quit this f***ing app.
Grow up
@@pinkgal206 What?
Australian POV:- Yep, just like many MGTOW's I am out of the dating scene, given up completely 18 months ago.
Disagree - men DO know how to date but most guys are fed up with trying to be exciting, fed up with jumping through hoops and fed up with trying to fire up her tingles even if he has the help from the state emergency service search party. Women today are boring, self righteous, self-centred and can't even brush their hair or put on a necklace or stockings when they go out. But sheet, he better be in his Calvin Klein suit.💙
Yeah, plus the dating process just wasn't really designed to be a ~15 year process. My grandfather for example was married at 22 because people back then dated for the purpose of marriage and having a family together, not for free dinners and fun. I tried being the good guy and taking women on proper dates and stuff when I was younger and dumber and heard more than once "I've never been on a real date like this." Once I smartened up a bit though I just realized I was an idiot because what they were really saying was they'd still put out even if I put in far less effort. The whole traditional dating game was based around men treating women like prizes and you "won" when you got married but these days it seems like more guys are hitting a point where they realize women aren't a prize long before they "win" a wife.
I've never had a problem getting women. I've had all types. Having said that, some of the worst decisions I've ever made were because of women. I was too dateable and suffered the consequences. Do you fellas.
"A girl would be so lucky to have you for a boyfriend!"
"Oh yeah....Well, you want to go out?"
"Oh god, no."
@Matt Pizzano Haha foreal. I passed by this chick one time, a little older, but very attractive, and I can tell she was feeling me, so I stopped and approached her, and we go to talking things went smooth little bit of flirting then I ask he out she goes well your very sweet and attractive but you remind me of my son..ugh my dick shriveled into my stomach
@rose I cant tell if your being genuine or sarcastic..
Keano Whitmore that last sentence got me 😂
She: You're such a great guy, why aren't you married?
Me: Well?
She: Well not with me!
Then she disappeared into the crowd. True story.
@Rick O'Shay I can't remember exactly. Outside at a fair or such.
I gave up on dating a long time ago. Dates and relationships are just not worth it.
you arent missing much. its not worth it anymore. just live life for you man. better to remain single
It's overrated. Just like most other things in society
Just back fron Tijuana, sex cost only $20/15min .
@@Bekssss it is not real sex experience though. Bareback sex is real sex. The rest is just cheap masturbation wearing a condom inside a human hole experience. Sorry for breaking it up to you.
@@joshua50101 😂😂😂
Holy shit.....I realised this recently about myself too. I'm just undatable. And I'm just delighted about that. No noise, no debt, no headaches, no emotional bullshit, more money, more free time, more serenity, more peace! Women want drama. That is all. They want the dark, brooding, broke, emotionally ambivalent, financially inept, argumentative, abusive and socially useless guy! He provides plenty of drama. The opposite guy is a bore. Well....the girls can have want they want. Enjoy the rest of your lives, ladies. So will I!
God, I don't miss being married. I'm perfectly capable of making myself miserable, I don't need help.....
Your name is so nearly Ted!
Preach
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ouch, me too.
Hope ur doing better but that def gave me a laugh. Cheers
if a girl is looking for excitement , she is not looking for a relationship shes looking for an emotion - stay away.
Every woman looking for emotion in relationship other than gold diggers
Depends on what you mean by excitement? Believe it or not, there are women out there who don't ask for much. A simple date night planned or a surprise night out together every once in awhile will do for some. Or simply show interest in taking her out and showing her off is nice. Don't expect women to get all "excited" for you when all you do is play video games all day and spend your money on pot every week. Talk about a romance killer. Keeping the romance alive is important in a relationship. Especially, long term relationships. And you wonder why she went off and cheated.. Boohoo.
@@MB-wx2jp romance is not love
@nick biller. Love and romance are both feelings that can be experienced in the same setting.
@@MB-wx2jp romance is an ideal, love is an emotion
The moment I realized I was undatable and also hardly anyone cared was during the fourth/fifth grade and also at home. Being ignored most of the time, until it was a special occasion. I realized now at 19 that old saying "keep your friends close and your enemies closer". There's no worst feeling then walking into your own funeral. However, the tranquility, peacefulness and relaxation you feel afterwards is a rewarding satisfaction.
being divorced and in my 50s, I have given up even trying. I tried all of the dating sites and friends' suggestions and such. I managed to get about a half dozen dates over the last 3 years. They were all one-and-done. We go out and have a nice dinner, then I never hear from them again. The only women who ever respond to me online are fakes. They are scammers trying to get money. Not exactly difficult to spot. It's not even worth trying to play the game anymore. I'm done.
All I got was led on, games or ghosted..
I am dateable! Its the women that are undateable.
That made me laugh
david your soo fucking right
All of them ? lol yeah keep telling yourself that lol
Pretty much it, isn't it ? I've had a whole number of discussions and fights with many of my girlfriends. Some get it, some don't. Their number One enemy is their own inflated ego, unrealistic idea about themselves and the world around them. They live, breathe and preach the feminist narrative. Reality shows them otherwise, but they keep going. Until it's too late.
@TheyCallMe Doug It's called let them think they're in charge and be fake until you reverse the situation. Keeping women in check, what a disturbing way to describe a holy unit between two people that should be based on love and respect.
I’m married. Been married for 3 years. Never wanted to be married. Still don’t want to be married. Don’t get married.
Why did u get married? 😲
@@v205 bobs and vagene
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It’s simple for those that wonder. I was worried I’d want marriage later in life and married a woman worth my time to build a relationship with. Too many women are unfaithful, or dependent on a man. She on the other hand is both faithful and independent. Faithful being of importance due to a previous relationship and independence was important as I won’t always be around to help. This served as a way for me to know if marriage was for me or not. Because if it works out, I’ll be in a happy marriage until death, and can build a loving family on that. But if it doesn’t work out, I at least know I tried. I’ve been with her 7 years now. Married 3. I say don’t get married because I still desire to be immature and young. Marriage takes that away from you and sometimes I still desire that “im alone and free” feeling. But just because I don’t want to be married. Doesn’t mean I treat her like shit or don’t love her. We both love one another very much. But my statement isn’t saying “I want a divorce”. It’s more along the lines of saying, I wish I could be young and alone forever. My desire to be “alone”, stems from my anxiety of letting others down. I’m a type C personality. So naturally I prefer making people happy. But that also means I’m unable to be happy if others aren’t pleased with me. Maybe this wasn’t the answer some of you were looking for, but I didn’t want to leave you misunderstanding the care I have for my wife.
@@kipp1755 It's a very important experience. I know, I was married for 2 decades :- )))))))
However, only thanks to that awful experience, you will be able to truly appreciate being alone with your dog.
Such a high level of appreciation only comes through fighting through the trenches.
Every time you go shopping, make a meal or do laundry you realize that these things are somewhere between 2 or 3 orders of magnitude simpler than your wife made them to be :- )
The totality of a peace and quiet is simply orgasmic.
Just GTFO ASAP.
The tipping point for me was when I realized I didn't want to keep trying to fix something (my life) that wasn't broken. As a happily divorced guy, I appreciate how sweet my freedom really is.
Being falsely accuse, did it for me, I was 19 on duty at the company commander’s, desk, in front of at least 7 other people, never talk to her, and still got accused of harassment! I promised to never do anything, or ever help for any of the fefails! They lie as if it were the only way live life!
Shit, brother. Hope things got better for you.
relatable brother, had my career almost destroyed by them.
Had a guy from my ship get accused of r--- it took the 6 of us saying that he was ashore at the bar with us, a credit card receipt of his for that night and security camera footage from the bar and testimony from the bar staff to get him out of the brig. Then she started complaining that all of us avoided dealing with her afterwards. When she transferred, no one said good bye to her.
@@eds946 horror story. Horrible. Pence rule.
It did not help that the company commander was a female too, I swear she believed that broad, she said it was because she was pregnant, it was the reason she accused me, At the time I was having a conversation with a Staff Sargent sitting on the edge of the desk, at the very moment and yes their was cameras too!
To this day I keep cameras running around me, in my car, in and around my home, and at work too!
For those who made it to the end, let me add one thing: NOTHING you take into your body by eating, drinking, smoking, snorting, or injecting is capable of making you happy. It is a waste of your life to chase after a rush. Happiness comes from satisfaction that pours OUT of you, not INTO you.
That is 90% true👍
Thanks Cumdumpster
Good and best acknowledment
I dont know, donuts make me pretty darn happy 😀
@@danielsnyder2288 That's true. I love a nice Boston Cream donut, but it doesn't last. That's my point. Everything you can take in to your body is only good for a short term feeling.
F**k yeah. I ended my last relationship three years ago. I did everything to make it work out. Afterwards I realized all my creative energies were going towards that terrible relationship and that God awful woman. I always wanted to be an author, so I decided I would write a book and not waste any more of my creative energy on dating. I'm happier now than I've ever been and I'm an author. I think if you're a dude, just focus on what you want to do. Focus on making sh*t, cause that's what guys do. We make and we build sh*t. Hopefully along the way someone recognizes what a bad a** you are and comes knocking on your door, but it's better than wasting our time on a bunch of whiny entitled prima donnas on Tinder.
It is also about protecting yourself from hostile women that will accuse you of sexual harassment for anything.
When she’s upset you didn’t break the law you know she’s destructive
Sooo boring not killing people in traffic lol.
He dodged a bullet
if she needs the excitement of breaking the speed limit and dealing drugs then she probably doesn't have a lot going on in her life.
@@firehandszarb
He is driving a Mazda not a Ferrari. That is her problem
@@leesullivan8532 The guy she liked was going fast but going nowhere. If that guy was so great why is she no longer with him?
"Please tell your mom to stop calling me." Made me smile.
Hahaha,... made me laugh
Lmao
@@lloydkeith3061 Same.
That was so unexpected =)
@@dulabu3304 Yep. That is why it was so funny in my opinion.
I'm 5'7. Enough said.
If she friendzones you, go away.
First red flag: Shes on tinder or has been on tinder
When I first heard of tinder, it was said to basically be a "hookup" site.
I was shocked to hear that anyone was actually trying to use it in hopes of finding "the one".
A friend of mine tried using it that way a couple years ago. He met a gal, thought she was wonderful, married her... and then divorced 3 months later.
I could call him a fool... but, I'm just happy for him that his eyes were opened that quickly.
I under no circumstances go on dating sites... I honestly don't go after them, if she really wants me, she can come after me... haven't been in a relationship since 1998. That one in itself was illicit, putting it mildly. As far as these tinder girls and their hot boobs/backside, whatever. Women built like this are all over. A woman who is someone who really wants to be with you and doesn't think that having a great whatever on the outside, makes you unobtainable. Don't care how you look, that will change... Question is what kind of person is she/he going to become?🤔😏
I was married for 7 years; that has made me realize that I am so lucky to be unwanted and 'undatable'. I used to walk on eggshells, just waiting for the next 'explosion' to go off in my face. The marriage was hell because she was unhappy and blaming it all on me. I was never so happy to be divorced! Why would I want to go back to Hell again by getting into a new relationship?
once your walking on eggshells you know its over. The woman has to respect you or it's not going to work.
You start to make it sound like I'm married to my mom - I get the same experience with her xD
Sounds familiar. Walked on shells for 20 years. Wish I'd remained a despised incel. Human relationships are trash.
Hey did you marry my ex girlfriend ha ha sounds the same. Once she cheated I was so happy cuz I kicked her to the curb you can fuck me she says sorry it's not special if you let everyone have a turn you doorknob. An I was just happy she left everything was always all my fault and the constant nagging. You never listen to me why so you can claim everyone abuses you and your actually the abuser. No thanks never again agreed.
Sounds like a former girlfriend who was diagnosed as Bipolar and refused to take her meds.
When women started looking at me as only Friend material or with disgust or revulsion is when I said fuck it and walked away…….got sick of laying my heart out there and only got it stabbed or crushed only to be disregarded and ignored.