Embracing the wisdom cancer brought
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- čas přidán 16. 04. 2022
- In this video, I'm sharing some of the lessons I've learned about life after cancer. These lessons have helped me to embrace the wisdom cancer has brought into my life.
Cancer has taught me the importance of authenticity, resilience, and forgiveness. Through these lessons, I've been able to grow and become the person I know I can be. I hope you'll find these cancer lessons as helpful as I have.
I value your words. It's real. Most can't do that. This is your journey because you can effect the lives of others who value themselves. One of the hardest lessons & jobs in live is practicing true self love in life. This is a man made system and cannot be your purpose. Most people don't know how to live. Life is about moments & being of service. The saddest lie ever told " life is random & meaningless & you are powerless" " someone told you your story & you believed it" JennaV. Have strength that you are divinely protected. This isn't a fight but yet a journey of elevating your soul
Thank you very much Jennie!
Amen brother. We are identical in what we learned. I will add, be kind to your care givers, Medical personnel, family and friends. The fight to survive and the will to live is yours, they possess the tools and the knowledge to help you achieve it. So when someone says how you doing? Paste a smile on your face and say because of them, better than you deserve.
You Sir are absolutely correct! I feel fortunate that my caregivers and family all had a sense of humor and were able to put up with me. My wife was the true hero through the whole thing, without a doubt.
Lee
I'm a different (read: BETTER) person coming out the backside of throat cancer & therapy! Thanks for vid's!
Glad that they helped and that you got something positive out of cancer!
Lee
Your an inspiration and help people know they are not alone! You have been through so much it’s unreal, and your videos help people to know what to expect! I’m advocating for myself, as I’m getting sicker and my throat is still burning and it’s middle April. I managed to send my doctor a photo of the back of my throat. My CT is May 17, and I have to drink some stuff for the test. I’m in a lot of pain
I saw your comment on another video and I'm glad to hear that you are FINALLY getting to an ENT. Keep us informed!
Lee
Wise tips Lee. I was shocked when I heard I had cancer too. Not only that but where my cancer was ie in my adenoids
I was starting to fall over and thought hey what the hell it took me being booked in for an MRI at my local hospital to find out that yeah
It's always a shock for sure. It happens to other people, not to me was my initial reaction.
Lee
BTW - I had heard of adenoids, but I had to look up where the were, lol.
Did they do an ultrasound on you?
Lee, thank you for giving a realistic picture of what to expect if someone is dealing with this type of cancer. It helps in mentally preparing for the challenges ahead.
That’s been my goal, to share my experience. Not from a doctor or a health care professional’s point of view, but that of a regular person wh happened to get throat cancer. Thank you for the nice comment! I hope the other videos were helpful as well.
All your videos have been helpful. I see my ENT today. I know I’m in the LORD’s hands either way but hoping, obviously, for a benign report. @@theregularguy141
@@monicawilson896 Fingers crossed and awaiting your results!
@@theregularguy141 Thank you
Recovering right now form surgery to remove cancerous tonsil. Almost two weeks later, I can eat without severe pain. Swallowing food was very painful, so could only eat a few bites before I had to quit. Cancer is some type of lymphoma. Never did I think I would get cancer, a heart attack, yeah, but cancer, never. It is interesting that CZcams should be suggesting these videos to me at this time.
I had the exact same feeling, other people get cancer, not me. It was definitely a cold shot when that happened. I'm glad you are recovering getting better with the swallowing. I NEVER thought that would be an issue, even though all of the doctors and technicians said that it would be an issue. I'm hard headed. Please keep us informed on your progress!
Lee
Hi, was your kindey function affected by the chemo and radiation, I am going in soon and really worried about renal failure as my kidney function is lower than where it should be for my age.
Hey Buddy,
No, no side effects from chemo and radiation therapy. My chemo was cisplatin 40mg once per week. The radiation was rapid arc IMRT 70Gy, 35 doses, 5 times a week for 7 weeks. Hope that helps?
Lee
@@theregularguy141 That is very consoling champ! You're the best :)
Im 23 and my doctor didnt tell me what was wrong he said yeah your throat is red and sent me home with anti biotics but i still feel like there is something in my throat bro im scared man and idk what to do the “doctor” didnt say anything man
Hey Man,
My advice is to listen to your doctor and complete the course of antibiotics. I had a lot of sore throats, ear aches and swollen lymph nodes over the years that were not throat cancer related. However, if you still feel like something is not right, then ask for a referral to an Ear Nose and Throat (ENT) specialist and let the specialist check you out. Here is a link to the National Institute of Health regarding throat cancer and your chances of getting it in your 20's. I hope this helps! Keep us informed about how you are getting along. You will definitely be in our thoughts.
Lee
www.nidcr.nih.gov/research/data-statistics/oral-cancer/incidence
@@theregularguy141 ima recovering meth addict and have been smoking cigs and weed and heroin since 15
@@theregularguy141 i will listen to u and finish antibiotics
My guy said he learned, after 2 weeks of treatment...that he's full of sh*t...LOL. I said you figured that out finally huh??? I'm scared to death, I can't lose him. And it's hard trying to be continually strong and positive for him while inside I'm falling completely apart.
Winds,
It's amazing how quickly 10 mins / day in an IMRT machine and a fluid drip can humble you... I was definitely humbled. From what I understand, you guys are probably in the roughest patch right now, that 2-3 weeks post treatment when everything has really peaked. It does get better, for sure, slowly, but it does improve. If your guy wants to reach out, my email address is in the bio. You guys stay strong, your starting your way out of the hole now.
Lee
@@theregularguy141 Oh thank God. He does seem to be perking a little more in the last several days. Yeah Friday will be 3 weeks on the nose.
I’m fixing to start treatment and I’m not very happy with the way my oncologist is handling me. I requested to see a different doctor at the hospital and was told by her nurse that they couldn’t do that and it would be a conflict of interest. They were going to dismiss me and send me to another treatment facility. I couldn’t believe it. Can they do that? Can they just send me out the door to somewhere else just cause I requested another doctor? I’m trying to advocate for myself but I don’t seem to be getting anywhere with them. What do I do?
Wow, I really don't understand why that would be a conflict of interest. In my experience any time I have asked to get a second opinion, the doctors were never offended or concerned. The only issue was whether or not insurance would cover a second consultation. If you are truly not happy, maybe address the doctor directly and see if it is a simple misunderstanding. Without knowing your details it is hard to say what you should do. But if you are not happy with your oncologist or the staff then a meeting with the facility patient advocate or administrator may be in order. If it doesn't improve then a new facility may be the best for you and your health. Please let me know how this plays out.
Lee
@@theregularguy141 here’s a little background information. I was diagnosed back in November of 2023. I was told by the doctors that I would have to remove all silver fillings in my mouth before proceeding with radiation. That became a $9000 dental bill as well as having to have all four of my wisdom teeth cut out. As you know that’s a lot of money and takes time to get all that done. I live by myself, and I’m the only provider of my home. During all this, I am trying to work, go to doctors appointments, and earn a living. I had to push off a couple of appointments.(the swallow evaluation, and the chemo class) as well as my radiation appts due to not having all the dental work done yet. The doctor is making it seem like I’m not cooperating with them and delaying my treatment. That is not the case! I also has the flu and Covid during that time that prevented some of this as well. I spoke with the doctor on Friday and her statement to me well at this point, I just don’t think that we can treat you. You have delayed your treatment this far and I’m not sure what we can do. It made me cry, it made me nervous, and it left me with no hope. I found myself begging her to please work with me she said, I don’t know, I really think you need to see somebody in behavioral health due to your anxiety and fear of treatment. It left a very bad taste in my mouth for this doctor and I wish I had somebody with a little bit more compassion and understanding. I’m not sure what to do, as I don’t want to rock the boat and have her dismiss me from the hospital. I have already asked once to be transferred to a different oncologist and she was ready to send me off to another facility and I had to beg to stay. The other doctors that I asked to be transferred to are in her same practice. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.
Should I get another opinion from another oncologist before starting my treatments
Hey Michael,
That is a tough question. I think it really depends on your relationship with your oncologist and how far along you are in the process. Due to some other research that I have ongoing, I discovered this second opinion program at Univ. of Colorado Cancer Center. Basically it is a remote consultation that does not require travel etc. Take a look at the link and see if this is for you if you still have questions. If you do opt for the remote second opinion, let me know what you think and how it went.
Good Luck!
Lee
@@theregularguy141 Thxs for the reply my problem is my ENT who performed my tonsillectomy and the tonsil was biopsied came back squamous cell carcinoma HPV 16 positive, he said radiation therapy is the only treatment for head and neck cancer there is no chemotherapy treatment for head neck cancer from all my research that doesn't seem to be accurate I guess we're going to have to have a long talk and he's going to have to explain to me what he means even if he is busy
Wise words buddy,just finished round 6/6 chemo,I also thought I was impenetrable,now time for immunotherapy,oncologist doesnt sound optimistic at all,feel like a mouse on a flywheel but trying to hang on in there,hate my family to see me this way.
Hey Scambodia,
I understand where you are coming from. Cancer happened to others, not me, until it happened to me. And I also hated for my wife and daughter to see me as sickly looking as I was. They hid it very well, but my daughter was terribly worried. I'm currently studying up on immunotherapy since i don't know a lot about it. Good luck to you buddy ! Keep us informed about your progress.
Lee
@@theregularguy141 Thank you Lee,I try to remain positive,but of course as you would know that’s a lot easier said than done,I’m lucky to have a caring family who quite literally would do anything for me,will keep you posted on any progress and thanks again,by the way LFC great club mate.
You are right, a positive attitude while helpful, is sometimes really hard to keep with everything that's going on. I usually ended up watching cooking shows. (Weird, I know) and keeping track of recipes I wanted to make when I could enjoy them. Absolutely blew my wife's mind that I was always watching these shows while I couldn't eat or drink.
Lee
@@theregularguy141 doing just the same. I enjoy watching how people cook things,I used to love eating, and dreaming of those simple things which we usually don't value when we have them.
@@user-dp8kk6lv9k Hopefully you will quickly get back to enjoying those things!
Lee