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Energy vampire is when they push you to react and than they are happy for succeding. They are happy to spoil your mood.
And they blame you and act like you're the one trying to provoke them! It's a game of emotions and the one who displays them first is the loser and the bad person. Why else is it that we get blamed for reacting but they are justified if they react or well restrained if they stay calm?
@irinamladenoska7539, It’s when you interact with them and you feel afterwards that you’re drained of some of your energy or you physically feel you have no energy in your body. You will notice the difference. You might not understand what just took place but you will somehow get to know the truth at sometime in your life.
When ever you are aware of this, please cut off all contact whatsoever with this person or persons. You’re their target or victim and you have now become a resource for them. They drain you of your energy and afterwards you won’t feel the healthy way you were feeling before you met that demon in the flesh. It’s the demon or demons dwelling in them that drains you of your energy.
Pray and explain everything to God and go into nature where there are trees with greenery. Water, the beach, river etc also incudes nature. Stay there for a while and it will recharge you.
You can recharge yourself by being in nature. Stay close to The Lord Jesus Christ because He protects us from these demons in narcissists and He restores us.
The Holy Spirit is also your Healer and He heals us.
@@StopSmearCampaigns ohhh, because they are perfect and entitled, and we are not, haha.
@@irinamladenoska7539
My Narcissistic brother got me TDO’d through family gossip and I still don’t accept the fact I don’t have my rights.
Yes. And when they are so clingy and hyper, and you are not. So they sap your energy and time, so that you have no time for even yourself.
Energy vampires from hell. Don't be around them. Don't speak with them. Don't share with them. Disconnect permanently and Enjoy your peace
So true! One vamp said " Why cant I have some of your energy, dont be mean" .. They feel entitled to stealing your energy!
Lamas and priests know them and can help victims of psycopaths.
Once you recognize them
I think they can only transfer something to you through your attention and empathy. From the moment you don't pay attention to anything they do and forcefully turn off your empathy, they can't transfer their shit to you.
EXACTLY.
🎯
You are severely mistaken.
it's not as if they don't give off the bad and negative energy in the environment you are both in.
But not empathizing makes me feel like I am being false. I am very empathetic to people 😢
A narcissist doesn’t have an identity. They want to steal yours any way they can. They will steal Your style, your behaviors, the way you act, your money and everything else they can take. They dont know who they are. Just good at mimicking
Yes. I didn't know my ex-friend was a narc until watching videos like these. Her copying me didn't flatter me. It annoyed and creeped me out.
Yes, but they don't simply want a copy of your identity, they want to assume to be the only person in the universe with your identity in public, while destroying your sense of self in private as a plan to provoke you into reacting negatively in public, so they can accuse you of being the "bad" one.
@@oceanelf2512 , it was so very creepy. It was uncomplimentary.
@@danielkaiser8971be strong and do not let them push your buttons. Let it turn around on them
Yes they do transfer bad energy and are major copy cats. They are basic AF and have no creativity or imagination. Other than being monsters, everyone can see it and can feel it. My family who met him (at the time) said they saw it and felt it at every family gathering we had. So ye, their demonic vibes do radiate and NO ONE wants anything to do with it. As far as mimicking, that became so annoying because, why the frick is this grown ass man trying to act like me and sound like me? So embarrassing I was with someone who looked like a man but I ended up being a very large little boy with no friends. Lol! 🤣
Remember who made you, who loves you , who has a calling for you ,God himself.
Correct.
"I have knitted you together in your mother's womb."
The Old Testament.
It's God that makes every human being in the womb not the mother.
God bless you.
That’s all fine and dandy until standing up for yourself triggers narcissist rage and various forms of abuse. Leaving is the only answer.
I tried standing up for myself and it led to gaslighting, manipulation, goading, and even stalking by flying monkeys. And still I am the bad person
@GaslightingIsEvil these people are something else. Standing up for yourself or calling them out makes them go into a RAGE or the Typical gaslighting.
@@jshelley4592 unfortunately people thought I was the one angry so it fuelled their smear campaign. I was actually confused and distressed. But the gaslighting started and worsened the confusion and disorientation, by their design.
I agree, leaving really is the only answer. I was reviewing healthy ways people in relationships can get through conflict and work together, and it occurred to me that a narcissist would never agree to do any such work as it would threaten their narcissistic supply and require they behave themselves better.
❤
While detaching from these folks, remember this quote as it helps me, "don't announce your plans, announce your achievements."
Freakin’ love this.
Gonna put it on a sticky note, on my mirror.
Thanks.
And at end, don't see them at all!
Don't even announce your achievements to a narcissist.🎉 They'll try to destroy it. Tell them nothing ❤
Narcissists (energy vampires) are much like the vampires in the movies: they they manipulate you into giving them your life force, they are repelled by the light (truth), and they require your permission to enter into your life.
Does this include children?
Yes@@singingandy
My narcissistic wife drove me to work overseas. Had to get away from her. She drove me to drink and i nearly runied my life. I stopped, focused on self improvement, focused on my own repentance before God. Stopped being pushed by her bizarre behavior . Walk away and she has gotten worse. Meaner than hell.
A kickass Korean therapist said to me 30 years ago, "Don't hate her, think about how much you've learned from her."
Amen!!! This is how we grow
this is what i told my ex. its true. because i live by what she only talks about now...she told me to eff off if I "did accept her as the person she is now"....that was an enlightening convo for sure.....
I did learn a lot from mine.. never thought I’d say that. But it’s actually helped me identify other narcs/ toxic ppl
@@dixiewaller1379 same, my best tutor and worst neighbour
Bra! I learnt so much it’s insane. Grateful
I can relate to the term “identity theft.” This female “ friend “ of mine heard all of my likes, dislikes , wishes, dreams , aspirations and actually went ahead and realized them !
One of my highest dreams was/ is to move back home to the Caribbean and she went ahead purchased two homes , created Airbnbs , became friend with my friends , etc.
None of that filled her , she is still a hungry ghost ! She couldn’t take my essence , nor find it out there. I love your message Kevin. I think it brings out hope. We are creatures of addition. We haven’t lost. We have gained !
They are ravenous wolves! And counterfeits.
Going through this now, SMH.
How is one supposed to feel full chasing someone else's dreams.
Isn't and doesn't that sound CRAZYYY?!!
This is scary. My ‘best friend’ also started copying me without me realising. When I put all the pieces together after 2 years I realised she ‘became’ me -> getting a job in my field while she did something totally different, when I wanted to move abroad she tried to move abroad, she started saying the things I said, ‘wished’ the things I wished, copying my appearance, trying to date the type of men I date, and in the meantime she was slowly criticizing me. It all went very slow but now after 2 years I see it. It’s really scary. I broke all contact with her.
Most of the people commenting have completely missed the point of this video. His advice is actually encouraging, extremely helpful, and wise.
He's saying that there's a beneficial tradeoff to being around narcissists which all of us need: learning how to stand up for ourselves w/out the fear of becoming like the narcissist.
We cannot afford to stay ignorant, fearful, and victims for the rest of our lives.
Avoiding all narcissists isn't realistic -- we live in this world, and therefore we must learn how to navigate it shrewdly and with wisdom.
"Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.'' Matthew 10:16
You've got it, and they want it.
This is a fact! The way you dress, act, all your talents, hobbies and interests they mimic it perfectly while you are unbelievably low and empty like them.
Narcissists take on your traits, they do become you. If with someone else they become them too. Multi layers , multi masks. You only think you are becoming like them because you start to toughen up and become more selfish. Or else be a doormat forever by this breed of human.
it's about you becoming stronger and self realisation that you matter , the scale was tipped more loving them than yourself . Although you know you would not hurt others intentionally ,scheme ,plot to destroy a person like they do. That's not the vibration we're you belong.❤
Of course they do! My narcissistic dad & enabler mom taught me that "loving myself" was stuck-up & selfish. How dare I have any regard for myself whatsoever!??
Narcissists will say you're selfish for not risking getting fired from your job all so you can attend some event with them you weren't told about until the last minute. My narcissist father called me 'selfish'. It was pure projection. He's the one who's selfish. He wanted me to be his slave at his construction business. I was getting paid $10 an hour under the table without medical, dental or any other insurance to cover me if I got injured. When I quit and got a better job he said I was selfish.
Totally
They steal our blessings and they try to steal our salvation....they ain't fooling Abba!
When you know who you are you gain a Freedom that cannot be taken away from you.
My in-laws are same whole family of narcissists. Mom Dad his brother and 2 sisters are clueless to what is happening in our world. They all got the jab my husband didn’t. We have to learn to control our emotions cause that is what they feed off. The reaction from their bulls… game. I have 2 kids so not losing my kids in this but protecting my kids. Cause they are like me they have empathy. I can’t lose my empathy. They teach us to find our true self. Not to let people run over us. Love is everything to me. I always felt something was wrong with them cause they think they are always right. None of us are perfect but we can amend it they can’t. Everything in life has a purpose. Narcissists don’t like change at all. I am open minded to any thing. My heart has been broken so many times but made me stronger. Thank you for sharing the truth. ❤to all. Just adding more light and clarity with ❤
I’ve also not had nor do I plan on being forced to get the J?b and got judged by a few narcissistic friends, but I’m much better after healing for almost 2yrs. These videos have saved me! Hang in there, and things will get better than you can imagine. 🙏💪😁
"Do narcissists give their demons to you?"
Yes.
Absolutely spot on as usual Andrew, thank you. The reason we feel that the narc has stolen our energy is likely because they exist on the purely self centred lower frequencies, which also involve the need for attention and drama. By making you function on this level too, you feel like they have stolen your energy, and inadvertently they have, but not literally. Empaths are generally higher vibrating energetical beings, where being forced to operate on a lower level is totally alien and draining.
Andrew?
@@TanjaT-od4nw Whoops, sorry Kevin 😐
Draining is the key word here they will suck good energy out of you and pull in negativitt
Kevin...I enjoy your channel.....standing up for ourselves...called SELF RESPECT....
NARCISSIST HAVE NO BOUNDARIES AND DON'T MIND CROSSING YOURS!!!
I HAVE NOT LOST WHO I AM AS AN EMPATH...I AM STILL A LOVING PERSON WHO CARES ABOUT OTHERS...WHY? BECAUSE LIGHT AND LOVE LIVE IN ME!!!✝️
I felt so sick when I was dating him. It was only six months, but stalked me for three years.
Now after , 47 years , he hunting me on facebook!
They are demons.
They force themselves on u and they dont move or leave unless with force/cleansing.
Yes! Fight Fight Fights but never leave u alone or break up peacefully
This narc did pick up some of my figures of speech, and overused them, sometimes in the wrong context. This drove me up the wall.
Ditto….i would sometimes think.. wtf ?!!!
Just sitting quietly around a narc is enough to get your energy drained. They are the eternal drain!
The demon of a hyper-narcissist with whom I was obsessively in love actually "hopped over" to me! However, only for a few minutes; these attacks occurred three times! It was one of the worst things I have ever experienced, extremely traumatizing, I will never forget it. Not a nightmare, not an imagination or a state of intoxication, as “real” as a TV movie is “real”. This means a living, visionary appearance that also has a very concrete physical impact. The demon had her face, but it was croteically diabolical, huge, like a movie character, with a devilish look like you know from "Luciferian" comics. However, this “spiritual being” did not speak and was voiceless during the “apparition”. This happened every time I wanted to radically separate from this woman! She herself wasn't aware of this (I had asked her about it directly), which made the matter even more puzzling to me. In fact, I had gradually adopted all of her behaviors and negative preferences that I was most annoyed by and suffered from. And that even though I tried to defend myself against it internally! She became more and more like me, I like she was before. After the third demonic attack, I broke off contact relatively abruptly because I was panicking about completely losing control of myself.
To this day I'm still puzzling over whether it's possible for someone to unconsciously be a "host" for demons, so to speak, without realizing it themselves? But it can probably only work like this, a demon only has control over a person as long as it remains undetected and can control the person indirectly via the subconscious. Interestingly, this woman literally freaked out as soon as I brought up the topic of religion and faith, which should have been a warning to me from the start.
It is awful isn’t it. You’ve been through hell-on-earth because you are a chosen one. As you heal, that blissful enlightening feeling will strengthen your soul. Trust me on that. All the best.
@@Groundwater24 Merci😉
This recently happened to me too. I could feel it taking over my mind and all thoughts. Truly scary. Fortunately I received some help to remove it. Yes demons can possess people. That's why Jesus removed demons from people and why exorcism is performed.
I have learned that what he says "I am" is who "he really is". I always rebuke his negative words that he tries to project onto me. I now know it's really how he feels about himself. He'll say things like you're evil, you're negative, etc. He loves to engage with me to feed off my positive energy. When I did engage with him (I don't now) I literally noticed how he would mimic me, my actions, how I talk and even wore his glasses because I wore mine ... Lol. All due respect, I kill him with kindness and say what I mean!! I'm definitely a stronger person because I know who I'm dealing with👊🏼 ... Thank you ❤
Get away from him. Do whatever it takes. It does NOT get better. It gets worse. Your health will suffer, your finances will suffer and you will shrivel up as time passes. Please hear me.
@@dswilliams2686I hear you 100 percent!! I am working on that right now. Moving in silence. Thank you!!!
Same here did that to me whenever the meeting shit fucked up my life in my life in the moment like a bug or any insect
I now hate that soulmate and twin flame concept
@@vlog-hz1ouME TOO !!!
Dating a narcissist was a never ending cycle of me trying to prove I was a good person.
I felt like the only way to get rid of him was rip off my skin and scrub my soul clean with a wire brush.
When I think about him now, i feel so free and happy i never have to deal with him again.
Invasion of the Body Snatchers: “This town ain’t big enough for the 2 (versions) of us!” Petrifying!!
You are right on that!!! As an empath that is my biggest issue with them. Sometimes I have to collect myself and put a "wall" up. That's the draining part for me.
Can I just say this luxurious set and cigar with fur jacket etc. Is pretty great?!
firmness is somtimes nessicary when you need to tell somone to take a hike & go elsewhere. toxic people arent good to be around.
This is sooo true. I had to learn boundaries.
I would call it parasitic ... Because some of the symptoms are the same. But I am awesome so I don't blame them for trying. I just don't appreciate physical violence or degrading.
Omg that made so much sense. Really explains what happened to me. I’m happier being away from my narcissistic in laws. What a crazy toxic bunch. So grateful I found the permission I needed to give myself to walk away and now I no longer feel guilty. 😁
Exactly my experience with my Ex. He would mirror me. He used the same words I would use. And When I started having panic attacks, so did he. It became so frustrating.
The gaslighting was also crazy-making.
Peace and blessings. I hope and pray toxic behaviors that impair our physical health will cease. We must remember to care for our bodies spiritually, emotionally and physically. May the Lord help us in those areas.
Kevin so very well said and.. SO SPOT ON !
We walk away Empowered and STRONGER..
Yes we do
When speaking with a wise other about the narcissist family I grew up in, and I said it felt like they consistently were trying to stomp out my inner good, the other asked me "Did they stomp it out?" I said "No". The other said "Then what's the problem?" That immediately straightened out my thinking.
I just, 5 days ago, was forced into saying "No" and "Good bye", to someone I had not seen was a narcissist. With no further words. Plenty to say, what nasty person. But thanks partially to this series, I recognized that THESE ARE THE ONLY WORDS THAT WOULD WORK.
He will NOT understand. He will NOT agree. He will NOT be fair or reasonable. He's only going to use any of my efforts to get more of his way. As he'd been doing all along, as I can see now.
This is SO unreasonable, so against all that I value, against my core values, that I hold for myself and others, that it's very difficult.
Kevin, I believe in The Golden Rule, in treating others as we'd want to be treated. But simply would not work with him. I get it, I did it. Treating him at his level not mine got rid of him.
Now, can you please speak to forgiving myself for having to go so far from how I like to treat people?
This is so encouraging….thanks Kevin💚🍀💚🍀
This really resonates with me! I know how I have been changing and how uncomfortable it felt at first, but I'm getting stronger each day at standing up for myself and I will be working on getting the right balance.
This. Is. Brilliant!!
When this first started making itself known in my life, my reaction was to resist it out of fear I was becoming like them. Gradually, though, I realized that I was too naive, too open, too compliant -- and I began to adopt some of their narcissistic traits BUT with purpose and direction.
Now, I can, if I want to: end a negative conversation or not take that phone call or let someone figure out their own mess -- calmly, purposefully, AND without guilt!!
Still haven't managed to confront when necessary-- I see a little progress in that area, but it still makes me feel uncomfortable.
I will say, though, that it's been very interesting to hear things come out of my mouth I never would've been able to say before. It's quite liberating, actually, and I'm discovering a new-found appreciation and respect for how God has made my personality!
This makes so much sense
Another awesome video! 🙌 💙
My mom and bro use to make me feel crazier then I already felt. Down to my fav song since 1997. My bro bought me the cd for my bday...in Aug. 1997 he is 8 years younger then me and I 100% know this happened. Last time I ever saw my bro there was a discussion about his fav song and he said mine. I almost fell out of my chair. Lol I know I'm not that crazy. Thats when I really realized whoa. I need out of this mess.
I also have it from my inlaw side. You described the drama perfectly. Mil and a sil hated me from the word go yet my sil started to make her hubby do alot of things my hubby was, like career and interests and she was doing it with me. It was all very weird. I have been in therapy for a very long time and I still say why all these ppl mess with me? I am nothing special, I'm just trying to love my life and be a good person, mom and wife. But man...these ppl I was surrounded by were scary. I always called them all emotional vampires. They will suck the life right outta you if you let them.
I am that one!! I told them I was done. It has been the most peaceful, calm, ENJOYABLE 444 days I've had since 2009...when I broke NC. Dont be me guys, dont break NC.
Too bad it doesn’t stick what the narc picks up. But we will keep the boundaries and push back in the right way. Not reactive but responsive
Joseph, I'm a Christian....and I can certainly say that is easier said than done...when you are dealing with demonic forces!!! I like to call it righteous indignation!
@@sylviacaldwell2139 what are you saying? Everything is possible with the Lord of Hosts!
It doesn’t stick because the narc needs your constant supply. I’ve realised when I pull away they try to creep back because they’ve lost the ability to do what you do or how you do it. The gift I call it fades.
Don't let these narcs trigger your life traps.
Learn from me and do not react. I wish Id unalived myself or never met them
@@StopSmearCampaigns
I completely understand where your coming from. I want to tell you one thing though, the people that do this kind of terrible stuff are not good people and they get reactions on purpose out of people often to make others feel bad.
My Narcissist Sibling actually admitted he just didn’t want anything to do with me at all, he got so mad at me over the phone and the best thing is like you said(don’t react to the narcissist) it is tough when they try to get a reaction from people they know and play on the emotions of people.
Our contractor is a narc. Every single issue is my fault. He lies. He brings the worst energy into my home WHEN he finally shows up. This 3+ month bathroom demo has been a nightmare. I don’t drink but am considering it. 😣😩
Some contractors will purposely delay or half-ass the work. They'll say they're going to show up then don't or there is an issue with equipment or supplies etc... etc... A job that should be done within a small amount of time will drag on for months and months. They'll take your money and then it's game on. It's strategic mind games in the hopes that you will become hostile or lose your temper and fire them. Then they can legally claim you're so hostile they feel unsafe to return or that you told them to not come back. It's a game. Mine did this for well over eight months and every trick he tried didn't work so he eventually abandoned the job. Now I can legally sue him for job abandonment and hopefully get my money that he basically stole from me. Good luck to you and don't play the game!
@@SM-qc3zx it took 7 months to complete the bathroom. At 6 we didn’t care anymore, drew up legal release gave him the last 2k and kicked his a$$ as far as we could. The stress was unbearable. Hired contractor #2 and he had to remove the tub and found a DIY drain that had to be fixed, took care of tasteless mistakes and was done in….drum roll…3 days! Another 7K and we finally have our home back. Everything you said is 💯! Another customer of #1 also hired contractor #2 and was suing original guy #1 and had to call the sheriff bc #1 threatened her…he did the same to me…brought gifts to both of us…typical narc. He’ll get what he deserves. As seniors we just couldn’t take any more. Yeah, he came out ahead but we preserved our sanity. The Lord does not reward thievery! His biz will not prosper.
Oh yes and they'll be shaking their crazy onto you which is how they get by looking normal, they perish without anyone to abuse thus can't stand being alone, enjoying hearing the sound of their own voice and in a good day getting to criticize to their heart's content, keeps it beating!
Great topic! I was so easy going and always thought I've become like he is..... harsh, critical. Bothered me. So many aspects of this type of abuse that are not really addressed. I do pick
Up on "red flags" or wrong behavior now which I immediately say Nope! Ive come to realize it's not harsh, critical but survival and protection! And that is okay. Thank you!
I used to struggle thinking if I am a narcissist .and then I watch vedios say8ng ,if you worry about it ,you are not
I'm so happy someone understands what I'm going through
This is so true about what has been added to my Life, & what I added to the Narcs life, & So right about how this encounter has now given me a Voice to speak back to people who speak or act inappropriately towards me that I can Speak up & Say Shut up Or "Theres the door"" Close it on your way out "" The Love I poured out on this Narc was unconditional Love time & time again over 5yrs, So glad Ive finally realized Ive learnt to be when I have to with some people not to tolerate disrespect anymore.Thankyou Kevin for explaning this transfering called addition
Misery loves company and they want you to be exactly like them so yes they aim to transfer their energy to you. Its up to you to choose if you want to exchange their energies.
It's so true. When watching the miserable relationship of my best friend with her husband I sometimes thought that she was exactly like him. I thought it was her mechanism to survive. I think that this is why for so many years psychologists couldn't figure out what was going on and they blamed the empaths for the faults of the relationship.
You got it. They do "Soul Theft." Well-known by native people.
wow you must have in my head yesterday! you are right on.
Another slam dunk with invaluable info. Thank you Sir!👌🏻
Hi Kevin
I also have had this happen he used my jokes, my way of talking standing ect like copy cat stuff creepy like I didn't know why he was emulating my good characteristics ........Thank you for this message
Humans are like magnets, when one of them changes so does the other opposite poles
My Ex Husband hated kids when we met. After our daughter was born he slowly became me mirroring my parenting style and making me out to be the bad, ineffective parent. It really came to the surface when visiting with his family.
I highly recommend the book MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology
Just a minor adjustment ; AA is not a pull out , its a pullin plan, spiritual moovement . Thank you for your good work ❤
What another great take! Watching you grow Kevin, is really inspiring
I just watched dangerous liaisons last night, old movie, but wow! Narcism on steroids! A great watch!
This is spot on! I was always mellow. Had a hard time standing up for myself. But I have developed the ability to push back.
Interesting concept Kevin ! Like having your clothes in your wardrobe, theirs in their wardrobe. Sometimes the clothes are accidentally or deliberately placed in yours while some of your clothes end up in theirs . If you're not careful you may go to work and get queer looks " why are you wearing a skirt today John? The ' not careful " being when you've become worn down and losing your sense of Authenticity and clear judgement. Taking back your power is taking back your trousers from their wardrobe and saying keep your skirts in yours . Narcissism whilst always around does seem to be pandemic these days. Transhumanism and AI , brave new world etc Good video! Thanks ❤
Thank you for this message ❤
Sooo TRUE!! BEEN THERE and couldn't understand what's going on with me that I couldn't figure them out!!!
Thank you again! This is helping my world make sense ❤
Definitely feel this it's true , I usually feel exhausted and kind of fuzzy and not good after I've had an interaction with these types ! It can be online without even meeting them just watching their videos there is Energy transference in sure.
Then messaging them online ,just leaves my energy feeling not good !
Going no contact completely now after watching ! Thanks , God Bless 🙏they are possesed by dark forces 100% ✨🙏✨
Love the way you frame this, makes so much sense, thanks!
Yes we've strengthened our backbone not to be abusd again..thank you Kevin..much love ❤
Unequivocally, there is an Engergy Transfer, I have a Covert Narcissist Mother, my spiritual-defense is to have gospel music playing whenever im in her presence, and I make sure to reference God in some form or another when interacting with her, it works.
I know I definitely wasn't becoming her. But she did make me feel like I was wasting away. Used, drained, sapped, until I was becoming a nothing.
Sounds like my ex. I almost killed myself over it, maimed my dominant hand, but he eventually left when I went after his mother. Verbally, she laughed about calling the cops on me. That and telling his boss about him having drugs sent to Iraq while he holds a top secret security clearance. Evil man and an evil mother and step-father. I hope karma is real.
Thank you Kevin, beautiful message..
Just watched this again to ponder the concept of addition over subtraction. Thinking about attachment theory and trauma ( often reasons why people get attracted into narcissistic/codependant relationships) Authenticity is one thing we lose, both in childhood when it may be dangerous being authentic in neglectful or overbearing fear inducing parenting. Also in a relationship with narcissistic partners you inevitably stop being authentic to keep the peace. I found myself ( more after therapy) standing up for myself and challenging behaviours not consistent with a true caring, mutually supportive relationship. I questioned myself was I becoming a narcissist now by stating what I want and will or won't accept. Exposure to narcissistic people can have benefits in bringing out some shirts you'd forgotten you had in your wardrobe.
Wow! Ty now it makes sense! Bravo! I would’ve never said in the past how dare you talk to me like that and I will not have you talk to me like that, but now I say it easily! I never knew the word no and now no is a complete sentence
Omg! I feel so drained all the time when I have to engage with my *suspected narcissistic ex); even when I am in his presence - we don't speak but have a chuld together. I've noticed how hyper vigilant I am. I either feel the onset of a panic attack or completely shut down. I always realised how much of my cognitive abilities have diminished (I'm approaching 40 soon). I find myself being extremely forgetful and as have become an extremely impatient person. I recently told my therapist that I feel my soul is slowly dying. I'm in constant physical pain even though I am active.
Love this analogy. Addition not subtraction….Thankyou
You are excused Kevin ! 🤩 They will never understand me ! 5:23
Very enlightening
When ever I questioned my husband's behavior or didn't agree with certain things, he would say " you said (yes) " I would tell him "that
doesn't give you carte blanche "
I had similar statement made to me. They said I’ve been okay with their behaviour (when I decided to leave) I said it’s never been okay. I guess I never called it out or took definitive action. That was my last contact with that person.
Kevin, you are awesome sauce. I know someone who starts to look like the narcissistcwhen he spends a lot of time dealing with her. I agree that we are creatures of addition and I also see the exchange. Can it be that the negativity does in fact stick like glue for a while to the normal person. I have heard it said the the clear glass of water can be muddied by contact with the malignant narcissist and then needs to be cleaned or emptied. Dealing with these people really sucks. Enjoy your cigar. You rock.-❤✨️Laurie
A big YES! And they take our good energy too... There is a link created and it's a part which explains how much it is hard to leave them...
Yes, I have experienced this. I know what it's like, my ex husband sucked all the goodness out of me.
& I ended up with reactive depression.
I needed to hear this message. Thankyou😊
After I met my narcissistic neighbor, I would hear tapping on my door! My friend and dog heard it too! This went on for several months. At one point, I thought I saw an apparition walking in front of my window. I finally had the local pastor come and bless my home. I have not heard any tapping since then.
Was it 3 taps at a time?
@meowkity1 yes. As if someone was knocking on the door
@@michellewebb6493 there’s a connection with demonic activity and the number three. Exactly a year after leaving the narc a spirit or something woke me up by tapping on my shoulder 3 times
that's what happened to me. When he killed my cat and then felt superior and no longer hid his pleasure in causing pain, at that moment I was lying on the ground and I cannot clearly explain what happened. inside me. It was so powerful, it was as if I was going to burst into pieces, dissociate and lose my mind....and then....as if I was coming out of a grave , I stood up, armed to the teeth, and the pervert got scared, he felt like the shit he is , and I fed him to the crowd
Now he's obsessed with knowing that the crowd knows. He's even crazier than before and I don't care. I don't care, as one day he said to me with joy "the problem, you see, is that I don't care about you >>"
Perfect) could not be said better🎉 we can use some of their tricks
Omg ty so much for thos it helped me so much. I currently am going through all these things and didn't know what it was that I was going through but used all the words to describe my feelings that you used in this video. Now I know exactly what it is that I am experiencing and how to navigate it. I also now know I'm not going crazy. My feelings are legit!!!!!!
Stay Strong ! You can do it . I'm doing the silent treatment right now , it's crazy how they get us addicted to them so it's hard to break away , when you realise how being with them destroys all our Joy ! That's a good enough incentive to stay silent . ✨🕊✨
Thank you for your encouraging side of things and I am just joining ur channel I am looking forward to some more insight on this topic thank you 🙏
I love this perspective! Thank you!
Nice, "person of addition" I like it.😊
Remember this, their demons infect their kids and if one has to coparent its hell
I haven’t watch this channel in a while… dang Kevin’s all dripped out!
Hi Kevin, I just came across your channel and this title resonated with me.
I’ve had these types of energy vampires leeching off my energy my entire life. Early years I didn’t realise what it was as I likely wasn’t so I tuned into who I was fully. It’s clear people knew who o was but chose to siphon key aspects of my character, dress sense (quirky), spiritual practice even wearing crystals that I’d have and going to the places I dreamed of going to one day … before me because they had the means to fulfil my dreams but for them. It’s been a weird realisation that so many people in my life have done this. Usually the ones I’ve spent a lot of time with. Somethings I’ve seen as a compliment and others I’ve seen as down right creepy. One female friend I thought was a good friend started to send jibe comments towards me randomly about my dress sense and the way I am generally. I actually told her off the last time she said it, conscious not to overreact but called her on it by stating what really matters is that I’m good with who i am thank you and if anyone wants to judge me then that’s on them. That stunned her as I’d never spoken back at her comments before. Likely that was my addition to in the moment call it out and not let hurtful projections affect me or fester. Thank you for your content.
No narcissists cannot give their demons to us. They have the demons. Not us. Reactive abuse only makes us wonder if that would be possible. Takes 2 years with treatment to recover from that sort of thing.
Thank you, Kevin I really needed to hear this as I am going through this with every word you are saying.. GOD BLESS YOU 🙌
Positive way to look at getting past difficulties, things we need to do for ourselves. Thanks Kevin!