Adjusting to Grief
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- čas přidán 28. 09. 2021
- Losing a loved one is hard. I’m just processing aloud so that if by chance someone out there has a similar experience (I hope not) they know that its normal to still have this much pain removed from an event. My sister died on August 14th from stage 4 breast cancer.
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My sister died on August 14th from stage 4 breast cancer.
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Thank you for sharing Glen. Brittany is now with Jesus Christ who was resurrected. We, God's children, will all meet up there in Heaven. All my sincerest condolences to you and your family. Much Love and Support. We may not understand everything but because she is in Christ we know she's alive in Heaven. Take your time and look to Jesus for strength. Declaring Psalm 91 (Protection) over you and your family.
Losing a love one is rough. There will be moments you will completely breakdown. There will be moments where you will just have a couple of tears. There will be moments when you will laugh from a wild memory. Sorry for your lost
Sending prayers I lost my father last year to cancer 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I didn't go see my dad but when my son was shot and killed four years ago I went n omg I lost it he was only 14 years old I feel your pain 😢😢🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿 wow I didn't know u die two times when my son was shot he did the same thing from what I heard he said call the police his eyes got big then that was it wow
Take your time it's all a process I'm still n the process the first step is talk about it
“YOU NEVER KNOW HOW STRONG YOU ARE UNTIL BEING STRONG IS THE ONLY CHOICE YOU HAVE!” -Bob Marley 💪
So true.
Love this🌸
Strength is in love.. Since covid hit. .we lost so many members of our family. We had so many funerals since 2020 into 2021. I'm sorry for your loss. I know it's hard but she is in a good place with no suffering. Remember the good times with her. Every smile she gave you. It is a struggle but time will heal the pain. I loss my Mom in 2004. She was our rock.
@@specialredd8031 always a reason to bring up some stupid covid bullshit smh
True that!!
THE BLACK COMMUNITY NEEDS MORE MEN LIKE YOU TO SPEAK OUT FOR FATHERHOOD AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH!!!
Every community needs more men like him that’s for sure.
@@lilfr4nkie Please don't "all lives matter" my post 🙄🤦🏽♀️
@@blaquehippie ummmm okay! Mad because we really matter.
All communities need more men like him.
Yes we do.
When the doctors told me they couldn’t save my daughter. I said the same exact thing ” god I can not live without her” it’s been four years in feb 2022 and god is showing me -yes, you can survive this. We are created with unimaginable strength. God bless you and my prayers for peace and strength are with you
Thank you for this
Gods blessings to u xxx
God bless you.
This is powerful. Thank you for your words.
Wow, the love of YHWH is so deep. It can fill the deepest wounds with peace and comfort if you let it in to a broken heart.
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Grief feels like a mega-dose of maturity. Each time you deal with it again is like getting a booster shot of getting older.
This is so well said.
I have been a grief counselor for over 14 years, and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart!!! You probably have no idea what a blessing it is that you have done this video. As an African American Christian man you have spoken important truths that others need to hear! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
I'd love to hear more admit this process
I agree 1000% I have seen therapists for years and this video has done more for me than many years combined. I recently lost my son and many therapists never address the loneliness that occurs. They don't address the fact that I don't want to hear that I'm "so strong". I hate that, I'm not strong. I'm on autopilot and the God in me, HE'S strong and He's seeing me through. I don't make it easy on Him but He is God and I am not. I thank Him for keeping me as I have family who needs me.
It’s absolutely horrendous to experience but grief lives where there is Love. When you were talking about the wave, it really was like wow yes your love is so powerful and deep that it completely takes over. Shout out to you for crying - haaaate it but it’s so necessary. Thinking of you and your family 💕
Thank you friend! Miss you for real! Hope all is well with you! 😌
@@BeleafInFatherhood I lost my father it's hard. I'll be praying for your family.
The only comfort is absent from the body present with the Lord.
It still is a daily challenge losing a loved it's a terrible experience.
"... grief lives where there is Love."-I FELT THAT!
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending so much love to your family!
I can completely relate with you when you were talking about speaking to God and telling him “ I TOLD YOU I couldn’t do this” I had a very similar experience… it’s really sobering to lose someone so close to you… you don’t even realize the level of pain you’re able to have until it happens and it truly can change you and mess with you. I’ll be praying for you to maintain peace of mind and strength in the hard times to come.
This hit home. My mother passed when i was 19 and I'm now 31 and just being able to think about her and laugh at the great times instead of losing my mind. It took me 12 years so please anyone dealing with grief, allow yourself some grace and don't let ANYONE tell you how you should feel. Be blessed everyone.
Thank you. I'm 21, and I lost my older brother when I turned 15. It's been 6 years and I wonder when this pain will stop :( thank you for your advice
#CiaraB Thank u so much for the share... I thgt I was the only one tht grieved in tht way. I also bury tht moment for fear tht I would lose my mind if I gave into the reality of tht loss. It takes me time also to process... again, thanx for the share.
I'm so sorry
Your therapist was correct, ride the wave but remember to ride it with the Word of God, and no condemnation for your emotions. Love your family near and far. I am thankful to God that you are working on getting well for you and your family. Great job Dad!
This crossed my recommend. I lost my only sibling, my big brother, a couple of days ago. I’m crushed. The pain is so intense it’s is overtaking every fiber of my soul. I needed this video. 🙏🏽
May God bless and keep you.
🙏 I pray that God will give you a peace that passes all understanding and that HE will wrap HIS loving arms around you. My faith is the only thing that's keeping me going. I totally relate. My fiancee died August 6th unexpectedly...i walked into the bedroom and he was gone. 💔😭
You can only handle this to hold on to God.
He will make sure the right people cross your path to help you through this. Don't put away the feelings but experience them. And remember that billions of people have been allowed to experience this..... and they have made it. So you too will learn how to bear this very great heartache. Stay in touch with God every day. Bless you 💜✝
May the Prince of peace give His shalom. I pray in Jesus name for this sister Lord for her and her family to be filled with your healing of there broken hearts. You are the restorer Lord and I pray for your love to overwhelm her with joy and peace and mend her heart in Jesus name. Amen
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That ‘I can’t’ feeling. Oh boy how I relate. I lost my 16 year-old daughter three months ago. I’m in tears. I’m also learning to be ok with being sad.
Thank you for sharing this Glenn.
I'm so sorry
Omg I’m so sorry
Sending you love and my deepest condolences sis 🙏🏽🤲🏾💙🦋
I was so excited to have kids but now I have 4 this is an everyday fear of mine. I'm so sorry for your loss my love xx
Pole sana
Your sister was absolutely beautiful, and rocked her bald head like it was intentional. And your family photo was a beautiful memory to capture and you could see the genuine happiness in all of your smiles. 💕
Be kind to yourself as you navigate this process. 🙏🏾
When I was 6 I saw my great grandmother’s spirit leave her body, float up, and disappear. I was the youngest in the room and the only one who saw it. I feel so honored now that I reflect upon that rainy evening so long ago.
That is so beautiful.🙏🏾
She smiled because she was being greeted by God Himself. He literally took her hand when you let go. So to be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord. There’s absolutely no Words that could ever be enough, but there is a name that will. Dive deep into Him. There you will find peace, comfort, healing, and love.
I know Im only one of many strangers to you but the tears we both shed for Brittany makes us family. You have sisters and brothers in all of us. I cannot express how sincere and serious I am about that. You will always have a hand to hold, brother. 🤍
God is so good, he will never leave you ❤ 😔 🙏
Such beautiful words...May your heartfelt sentiments be a blessing to him and his family 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I was lookimg for a comment like this. And then the rain just like God really did something to try to make you feel better. Maybe God was crying with him
My momma has told me for years that tears are a language that God understands. He understands for He wept also.
@@kuttfam0191 This is such a beautiful & true sentiment..thank you for sharing ❤
Dear Glenn and the Family, I am truly truly sorry for your loss. I pray that God comforts and strengthens you through these difficult days. Much Love.
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The pain will hit you when you least expect it, a song, a smell, a familiar voice, that feeling of grief never goes away, it just get a little easier over time to breathe, it's hard to see it now but she's the lucky one, she smiled at the end for a reason, she knows how loved she is, and is walking with Jesus hand in hand, you will see her again in time, but until then she will be with you in the air, the sunshine, in the rain, inside your hearts, until you meet again. God bless you and your family, I'll be praying for everyone of you. 🙏
My dear brother in Christ. Her smile was her letting you know that she's alright. I can only imagine the beauty of it all when we transition to the other side! No more doctors, no more pain, no more chemo, no more meds! I'm praying for your comfort and peace. I lost both of my parents to cancer. Everyday won't be easy, but I can promise you that it does get better. Thank you for your transparency. New subbie here!😊
I paused at the wave of grief. If you have ever doubted your presence on you tube, let me tell you, this has helped me immensely. I nursed my mother through stage 4 colon n liver cancer through August she passed on August24th, I have no family or friends near me. I was so busy "doing" and being strong. Three days ago I broke. Thank you for sharing, because now I see I did not go through this alone. Blessings and love from my heart to yours. 🇬🇧 ❤💫🙏
I'm praying for you, Angi.
@@klynnthomp Thank you.❤💫🙏
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I am so sorry, hugs
@@tino6229 hugs back at you thank you.
Your Sistah ROCKED that bald head and was GORGEOUS bald!!! The miracle was performed and God promoted Britney and she graduated!!! Breast cancer is more than just October and pink doesn't do it justice. When we say, "I can't", God says, "We can!!!" 🎓💥🙌🏾💗
Your words are so Amazing!!!
Cool. She went straight to heaven.
@Karen Sherman Amen! 🙏🏽
She sure did
Beautifully said amen!
Thank you for letting our black males know it’s okay to grieve and most important is okay to cry. It doesn’t weaken you as a man yet it solidifies your emotions and feelings as a grieving human.
There are no rules to grief. Just breathe... just flow... allowing yourself to just feel. ❤❤❤ My condolences to you and your entire family.
There is no recipe for grief. There’s no intellectualizing grief. There’s no roadmap for grief. There’s no timeline for grief. You just have to feel the feelings (the anger, the sadness, the loneliness, the despair) when you feel them. Sit with them and accept them. Incorporate grief into what is now your “new normal” without your beloved sister. For as long as YOU need to. You’ll know when you’re on the other side. But right now, you have to go through it. We’re all rooting for you.
This is the best explanation and oh so true! Very beautiful words! I’m sending him and his family prayers 🙏🏿
Yes- grief is a process, it’s different for everyone- but it’s so painful. It seems unfair (even if true) that you have to really feel that pain and acknowledge that loss to comes to terms with it.
I also think sometimes grief never ends. But that’s OK, as long as you feel a little bit better each day. You aren’t going to feel the same way you did before, or be the same person you were before. But- you shouldn’t be. If you really love someone, their passing is going to affect you, deeply.
I'll love this!
Love this so much. God bless you.
Spoken like a real one. God bless you ❤️
On the 18th of September, I lost the woman who I considered to be like a mother to me. This video is so timely. Thank you. Praying for you & your family!
So sorry for your loss and blessings to you and your family.
My condolences to you and your Family 😢🙏🏽
May God's comfort be with you and your family.
Praying for you🙏I just lost my dad and I know what your going through. They say your heart heals with time , but when you loved and cared for someone so deeply you will never forget. I hope you have great memories you can always go back to laugh , and sometimes cry we are human. God knows whats best for us all, and our loved ones are borrowed for a short time to be with us. Be blessed and continue to stay positive🙏
Hey Eboni 😍 sending you love and from strength from us to you 💙
Thank you. Your sharing has brought some comfort to me. Just diagnosed with Cancer and haven’t shared what’s going on with my kids or family yet. Its tough on both sides. Your sister was an absolutely beautiful person, and she comes through you sharing your soul to us. So little time and so much to love. Blessed.
Please share with your family. They need to know and you guys can have each other to lien on. Praying for you and your family.
I said a special prayer for you Jody. I pray you continue to live your life for your children and family and mostly yourself and be cancer free. Please take care and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending hugs, love and light to you Jody 🙏❤🙏
Jodi, I had stage 4 breast cancer also. I had bilateral mastectomy chemo then radiation. 13 years later and I am still here. My family / my sister was my support and still is. TELL THEM NOW! Your emotional needs are so important now and later.
Sending prayers, love, and my very best wishes to you and your family at this time ❤️
"I need to make time for these feelings" - this is the biggest lesson I've learned through grief and being able to apply this learning to every day life makes the hard things much easier. A genuine thank you for sharing this video, it's so important to be able to express grief and hear others talk about their journey because it's something that all of us face but it can feel so incredibly lonely. I'm sorry for your loss 🙏
Love how many times you say "I don't know" and "I'm not sure".. I think that's appropriate and it's actually super encouraging to hear because it's honest and real.
Sorry for your loss. Continued blessings to your family and you.
My Mom is in ICU at this moment, if anyone is reading this, please say a prayer of healing for my Mom’s lungs. Her name is Jerolyn.
Praying for you all as well.
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Praying for your mom 🙏💕
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I just prayed for your mom 30 seconds ago .
The smile was confirmation that she was safe! It was also a deep understanding that she was whole before sleeping. The smile was relief due to the release of pain as she entered another realm! This is the peace beyond all understanding that we pray to experience one day. Jesus thank you for your mercy. We will never comprehend being left behind in a different realm. However, it’s understanding that there is expectation for everlasting joy! It doesn’t denounce the pain of that long wait until your next meet, nor the cruelty of seconds turning into days! You are STRONG and I pray God gives me your strength. Brittany was HERE! She LIVED, she LOVED, and experienced LOVE. My prayer is that we all leave in a way that allows us to release with a smile! You gained a new subscriber. I love how you’re allowing God to use you. Continue to use your platform to touch people on many levels. I give you my sincere condolences! Much love from your imperfect Sister in Christ!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for your strength and transparency.
This was so beautifully and eloquently said. Thank you so much for this ❤️
@@LynetteMcLeod Thank you Queen Sister!❤️👑
Jesus!!! I’m crying like a fool right now. 😭😭😭 You and your family are in my prayers.
My father left this world on Sept. 11th, 2019, a month after my wedding. I was abroad, I arrived 28 hrs before. We had no idea he was sick. Dealing with grief can be 'hard'... sending warm regards. Editing to tell you how important this video is... i cried watching this... its a process.
Thank you for sharing this.
I pray 🙏🏾 you are doing well!
Tears are just love with no place to go. You will grow through this. Remember she lives within you every single day. Thanks for sharing this 😊
that's beautiful. thank u
@@Sammysam44Thank you 😊 It helps me tremendously!
Such a beautiful thought! I love this!!! Thank you sister.
After my son passed, tears would just flow, for a year! I became so use to it that I could talk through it, explaining that I was ok, it was just the loss of him, with me, that I was mourning. I knew where he was and that he was good. My soul just missed his presence.
@@jessicadjonne2687 For sure! I lost my mom at 13 and I'm 40 now and the tears just flow and sometimes are never ending. I read that somewhere and it stuck. When my mom was suddenly taken from us my dad said she lives within you everyday and that stuck and really help me through the tough times. I know your son and my mom are looking down at us with great fondness. 😊
That's such a beautiful way to look at tears!
Its definitely a process. My father smiled as well when he transitioned and soon after a rainbow appeared. Thanks for this
How beautiful
My dad passed away 3 weeks ago. I needed to hear this more than I knew. Thank you. Bless you and your family.
Praying for you and your family. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I'm so sorry for your loss. We never forget our lives one, but i hope in time you are able to grieve and heal
I was blessed. I had a dad and a bonus dad. 16 yrs ago my stepdad went to work and he never came home he died in the line of duty. Losing him changed me and I haven’t been able to recover. My dad the man responsible for my existence died September 2 2020 which is my birthday. My dad made mistakes but he was making up for but I was so didn’t see that. I Didn’t talk to my dad for 6 months he got sick and two weeks later he was gone. Every day my feet hit the floor I have so much guilt. I will carry that until forever. We don’t have long so forgive and love
“I’m not okay I’m just being productive” 10/10 quote
When my sister passed away, it was sunset and raining as well. There was the most beautiful rainbow over the hospital.
I’m so sorry you and your family are dealing with this. I was praying she would make it through this as well.
But I thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable piece of you. I know it was hard to film and even harder to publish, but I appreciate hearing your story. 💕
It is odd the day your loved one passes, the day is so beautiful. Everything seems so hopeful actually; then you get hit with reality.
I am so sorry.
I think the beauty we see when someone passes can be interpreted as a parting gesture, an acknowledgement by God (or nature) that yes, this beloved person is gone, but she’s OK, and somehow we will be OK.
I’m so sorry you lost your sister🙏🏼what a good person you are to say such kind words after going through the same. Best wishes to you and loved ones🌸💕
Grieving is a normal process. Don’t feel pushed into “getting over it”. There is no time frame on grieving. Some grieve different and longer than others. Blessings to you and your family. Only God can mend a broken heart. Trust Him!
It’s a blessing that all the family was there to help her transition in peace
Your sister's smile, the gentle rain, and that brilliant sunset were elements of GOD'S comfort. I'm sorry for your loss. You can do this. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. HE'S going to see you through this time. Be patient with yourself. Grief is a process. The Bible says, "Blessed are those that mourn, they shall be comforted." Allow your self to mourn and allow yourself to be comforted. GOD Bless you.
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Amen🙏🏽
This was so raw, vulnerable and beautiful...your sister sounds like such a beautiful soul! Prayers for you and your family...🙏🏾🙏🏾
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You explained the emotions and experience so well. I just lost my fiance a month ago and have not been able to explain the experience but you told it exactly. That comforts me
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My cousin, who was like a sister, died in June of an overdose. She was my ride or die and I miss her more than everything. I had to stop streaming for a long time and had to realize it’s okay to not feel like you’re letting people down and to take all the time you need. I heal a little every day but it still of course hurts. Idk where I was going with this lol But I understand the feelings you’re going through. You are not alone ❤️
the weight, the heaviness, the darkness…all can be so much. losing my Dad last January, 10 days after even finding out that he was sick, 30days after losing his own mother - 2 generations wiped out over me in 30days. I nearly couldn’t breathe, I found myself afraid to live and be alive. It was so. dang. heavy. But pressing on is so worth it. What grief makes of you, on the other side is priceless. Your compassion for your fellow man greatly increases, and little by little, you get your joy back 🙂
So sorry for your loss. I pray that God comforts you and give you strength during this difficult time. I have felt the pain of a mother, a brother, and 2 sisters who passed away. It’s hard, very hard. But God showed me to celebrate the life of my loved one, don’t mourn their death. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. Your sister is healed. Our loved ones whose mortal body died, their spiritual body is alive and well. Rejoice, because they are well and praising God. Hallelujah!!
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️
Your sister smiling was a sign that everything is going to be ok, that she was at peace knowing that she was surrounded by her loved ones. I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing such a private moment with us. lMay your sister rest in paradise 💜💜💜
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Speaking about your sister’s death in this video is a part of your healing process. I took a course in Death and Dying and it was stated that the closer you were to the deceased the longer the grieving. So don’t think it strange when you still feel the hurt years from now. I pray that you have a proper grieving process. Don’t bury yourself with the dead. I feel your sadness. God give him a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. In Jesus Christ name I pray. Amen!
Thank you! My father transitioned in 2012. He was my best friend. I broke down sobbing watching. I truly didn't expect to respond this way.
I refused to be sad for SO long. I didn't know how to let God walk me through sadness and anger so therefore I refused to allow myself to feel. As a result I had a mental crisis in March. God pulled me through. It's just that I had gone numb to some things unknowing. Once I had my daughter I saw things differently and realized I had to heal.
Amen!!!
My mother just died July 9th and I’m an only child! She was only 61!! This helped me feel like I’m not alone! I thought I was loosing my mind til I found this video
So I watched my mother pass away from cancer (pancreatic), after hours of ragged breathing and a struggle with pain, she too smiled as her last facial expression during this second death phase. And that expression stayed on her face along with a complete look of calm and peace.
At the time I too interpreted it as creepy until I thought about what it might possibly mean. My mom also knows Jesus. She was a believer and follower of Christ (in fact, all of our immediate family are believers). I truly think she was ushered into the presence of Jesus and was able to react with the pure joy she was facing before she left this earth. I only told a few people because I didn't want to freak them out, however now hearing you say the same thing with your sister, it confirms my thought on this. Wow.
Praying for you bro. Thank you for sharing. You didn't have to, but we're honored to have the opportunity to support and encourage you. I'm sorry for your loss, grateful for her reward of eternal life.
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We do know what you are saying….and we are feeling your grief. We share it as we are all a part of the Body of Christ. We all share in the sufferings of one another, as we are all connected as one in Christ. But we also share in His Resurrection! We mourn, but not as the world morns, not as those mourn who have no hope! We Have the Hope of Resurrection! You will see your sister again! Let this hope comfort you now in you time of grieving. Praise God in whom all blessings flow! We grieve, but not as those who have no hope! Bless you brother! May God’s Holy Spirit comfort your heart at this time as you receive the revelation of where your sister truly is!
"Healing involves discomfort, but so does refusing to heal. And, over timr, refusing to heal is always more painful." I read this as I grieved and grieve the loss of my daughter. Go towards the pain to get through the pain. Sending love and light.
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Thank you for saying this. I never thought about the fact that both involve discomfort. I wish you well and hope you find comfort and healing.
I’m so sorry for your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️
Honestly, seeing this now is definitely gonna help with me processing the lost of my dad. He passed in January but his birthday is tomorrow. I asked him to send me a sign that he’s ok and this is it. Thank you🙏🏾
It took me a month to reconcile you dealing with you sister’s death. We lost my son in April this year. Death is always hard. Even for us who believe that there will come a time when we see them again on the other side. It’s still surreal. Praying for your healing and comfort during these difficult days.
I’m so sorry for your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️
It’s okay not to be okay. Tears cleanse the soul. It’s perfectly okay to cry, it’s human nature not a weakness. Expressing emotions is spiritual weight lifting. You’ll grow stronger. I’m joining you and your family in prayer for strength, protection, and to be encapsulated by God’s grace, mercy and favor. Amen! It’s gone be alright.
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This is the kind of video you have to watch twice. Once to cry, once to absorb.
Thank you for sharing a piece of your grief with us. I hope it made you feel even the tiniest bit lighter.
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️
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Loosing a sibling is the hardest because of the relationship that you develop. But take 5 min everyday and reflect, cry and talk to your sister. Trust me I'm 40 years in this grief and it still seems like yesterday. You go through times you don't want to forget their voice or face, how they made you feel. Make a day for your sister so that you and your family can talk and tell stories. Also they can develop the same relationship with one another. For my sister it's Christmas cause she loved that day, for my mom its her bday. I'm praying for you and welcome to the life of living the lives our sisters couldn't because we are still here. That will also be your motivation. 🙏🏾
Your sister is peacefully resting in heaven!!!!!! No more pain or suffering!!!!!! I have to thank YOU for this video!!!!!! I lost my 7 month old baby on September 22, 2017 and it’s like it’s just now really hitting me because I put off grieving!!!!!!!! The pain and hurt is the absolute worse but watching your video gave me some tools to get myself together because not getting it out will hurt you in the long run!!!!!! Soooo I been crying!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you
She smiled because she knew she could rest.! She knew that her family would be taken care of. She KNOWS that’s it’s okay to leave. I’ve lost many family members during this pandemic that i wish i could’ve been there. I’m so sorry for your loss. But know that she felt like it was okay to go.
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I cried with you when you cried! Only 19 years old, & I can't imagine what I'll do when an event like this happens to me. This is so heartbreaking, and I'm praying for you & your family.
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Yes. That smile represents a Heavenly destination and the outside atmosphere is with the rain and sunset....is angelic escort into Heavenly journey. Rejoice and again I say Rejoice. Praise God.
I needed this today the 26th is 1 year from my dad passing. The pain lives with me everyday and I miss him so much. It’s okay to make time for the tears. To me grief is like a song you always hear sometimes it’s light and in the background and other days it’s loud and in your face and you can’t get away from it. Make time to listen to it and how you are feeling. Sending lots of love and prayers to you and your family. I still cry and this first year I have learned to listen to the music and take a moment and hear the music that ties me to him. Grief is a journey, take care!
I’m so sorry for your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️
@@Tracytheace288 thank you so much
“You know I’m not going to be able to survive this right. I won’t be able to take that” sent chills down my spine. I’ve been saying that a lot lately about my mom’s current condition. And I mean every word😔. I don’t think anyone fully understand me when I say it though.
So sorry for your loss. Sending love and positive energy your way.
I lost my mom to cancer in 2012 and it still feels like it happened yesterday. I was so lost I am just coming out of my darkness
@@Makeyouinfamous1 I’m sorry to hear that, but I’m glad that you are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
SAME!!!! Those words!!!! Ugh. I lost mine last November and I just…. CANT TAKE THIS!!!
Big Hugs and know we cry with you. Thank you for sharing this. Big hugs and tons of love to you and your family. I'm so relieved they were there to support you. Blessed you are. Love you Man.
I don't know what I'm going to do when she's gone, but after over a year and a half, I'm coming to terms with eventually letting her go. It used to seem like I would die without my mother, but now I know that life goes on. Also, like I wrote in a poem, and it's a scripture from the Bible, "to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord, our God". Edit: she has throat cancer that has spread to her lungs.
The world needs more men like you. What a beautiful soul you have. Thank you for sharing your heart, vulnerability can be tough in our society. Thank you for your bravery brother, your words are helpful and healing.
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Your vulnerability, candor and openness is admirable and greatly appreciated. Like many people that have lost loved ones, I can relate to how you’re feeling. My brother (unexpected in 2016) and sister (cancer in 2017) transitioned a year a part, my step grandfather (maternal grandmother’s husband in 2016), my auntie (father’s sister in 2018), my grandmother (father’s mother in 2018) transitioned two weeks a part, my biological grandfather (mother’s father in 2019), my cousin (prostate cancer in 2019), my uncle (father’s brother in 2020). My great grandmother lived to see a 105 and was of sound mind but transitioned in February (mother’s grandmother in 2021), my father (sudden massive heart attack in April (2021), and my maternal grandmother transitioned suddenly in August (2021). Needless to say, it’s been a helluva time adjusting to a painful but inevitable part of life for me and my family for the past five years not to mention everything else that’s going on in the world… What comforts me the most is believing and knowing that the spirit is infinite and that this life as we know it is temporary, we’re just briefly passing through… Therefore we should make it our business to walk in love and make the best of it! 🙏🏿
I cannot with this video. This video took me to that moment and I cannot stop crying. My brother was hospitalized in three months increments for a year and the thought of losing him was so painfully overwhelming. My brother was the first man to show me kindness and that healthy masculine energy is both protective and healing. He is fine now, 95% himself. His condition is quite rare and his doctors are amazed at his bounce back because of the 3 others cases they had, his turnaround is not the norm. My condolences to you and your family. And Rest In Peace to your beautiful sister.
Thankful to God that your brother is still here. My love, prayers and best wishes to your family ❤️
@@Tracytheace288 Thank you so much, Tracy!
It sounds like your sister had a very blessed transition, to be surrounded by her loved ones and you at her side. Thank you so much for sharing such a beautifully sacred, yet painful moment for you and your family. My journey with grief has been to understand it as wild and not a thing to be tamed. It something we learn to exist with it changes our shape and eventually grows us in the most unimaginable ways.
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Exactly because my Mom has been quarantined in the hospital for 3 weeks. It shatters me to know she's alone. Shouldn't covid patients get this basic kindness? Hugz to all who grieve. May we all survive it and be better for it!
"It feels like torture." I can relate; I've lost a number of loved ones in my 40+ years--recently a cousin to lung cancer. Praying for comfort for you and your loved ones. Hold each other tight. Happy to see that you all are bonding and spending the time that we so easily take for granted. 🙏🏾
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I needed this video so much. My dad lost his long battle with cancer 10/20/21. Even though I knew it was coming, it still feels unreal. Praying for all of us who are grieving losses.
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Praying for you and your family. Grief is so real and so serious. It will attack your body so bad if you don't deal with it. Its ok to cry and express your feelings. God is truly working and doing things we never could have imagined.
The Word says, Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted. My condolences for your loss. Prayers for you, your family, her husband & children and all who loved her. God is the God of ALL comfort. I’m so sorry.
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So sorry Glenn. My brother died too young. He was everybodys friend. He was like a child but loved by everyone. My mom wasn't alive but my dad completely changed. It was sad for all of us. God bless you and your whole family. Sad to hear this. My brother passed 9 years ago and I still miss him.
He was a very sweet and central figure in our lives. We're never ready but thank God for the support and love. Some people don't have that.
I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.
@@crystalphillips696 Thank you for your kindness.
I shouldn't have watched this.💔 It's 2am, and now I'm crying. Rest, Dad. I miss you. I miss you so much.😪 I wish I got a chance to say goodbye...
When she smiled she met Jesus and the pain was over....May she rest in peace.
Grief comes in waves yes, and your healing is your surfboard. You must step onto it regularly and consistently to master surfing (the different stages of grief that arrive sporadically). Thankfully you already have a therapist, but prioritise time with just yourself. Sitting in silence with only your thoughts & emotions trains yourself to release what is needed at that chosen time and not randomly. It’s not an easy journey but it certainly becomes manageable as long as you surrender to it and flow with every thing you feel. But you’ve got this! I lost my younger brother 4yrs ago and it was just last week he visited me in a dream, and it’s because I’ve finally faced my grief in full. Sending you warm hugs and love on this journey, you will get through it in time 💛
The waves... The waves!
Aren’t the dreams such an unexpected but wonderful surprise. My grandmother visited me in a dream and gave me the biggest hug. It was everything that I needed.
@@jeaninegriffin1196 oh yes they are! I too had my grandmother visit me months ago. It certainly happened when I wasn’t so desperate to hear from there it’s an odd balance of wanting to hear from them but being okay with whenever they choose
God is so real.
Smiles are soothing.
Gods Grace.
And the way God shows up.
Yes.
Thank you.
@Krystal czcams.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/video.html
I was having a nightmare a few minutes before watching this video. Literally, someone (or something) was chasing me and I was running as fast as I could to escape whatever it was behind me. I woke up scared and paranoid as hell! I decided to get on CZcams to get my mind off the dream I just had, and this video popped up. (Granted, yesterday I saw a video of your grandmother cooking oxtails and I remember seeing your sister in that video too.) Anyways, after watching this video I realize that I have not truly process the lost of my father back in 2019 and I think it is still affecting me now. This video did something to me. I’m not exactly sure what is it, but I’m a strong believer in everything happening for a reason. It was meant for me to wake up from that horrendous nightmare and watch this video. So, I thank you!
I’m in a river of tears! Hugs and more hugs to you and your family. I wish more of us were open about our feelings as it relates to grief. Virtual hugs!
…Yeah though I walk THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art WITH me…Cry as much as you need to cry, God is WITH you, every step of the way!!!!
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What is the one thing we ask from the people in our lives that we love? "Be there for me when I need you." Glen, you were their for you sister. God brought you and your family home to be with your sister. What a blessing. Please take time for yourself to heal.
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This was what I needed....I just lost my Grammy whom lived 98 beautiful years. God needed her more....thank you for sharing this. This week has truly been hard...grief is very real
I lost my dad back in December and stayed by his bedside deep into the night until he passed 3:33am. I was there alone and prayed and cried in his final moments. He passed in the hospital during an emergency stay and we never would've saw it coming. The moment you hear from palliative care to when they pass are the hardest to me and you were so blessed to have so much support! I was my dad's only child and I'm traversing grief largely on my own, but let me say of all the books ive read and videos I've watched during this hard 1st year, yours has been the most relatable. You touched on things people usually shy away from and I am ever grateful for your honesty and strength in sharing your experience. Grief this close can be so isolating but no troubled soul should face it alone..
I’m so sorry for your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️
@@Tracytheace288 thank you so much !
This reminds me of when my grandmother passed. The clouds literally opened and shined directly on the house.
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I love that y’all were with her in her last moments. Bless you all.
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15:37 thank you for including moments like these. True hard to talk about moments of grief. There are thoughts and actions I took that I personally regret or feel shame for, bc out of context I would have never thought that would be my response. But you really dont know how you will feel or react until you are actually in the situation. I fooled myself into thinking I was prepared for my mom's death bc she was a cancer patient who had been sick for years, and we had a heads up on the terminal diagnosis, but hypothetical and reality are different no matter how much you mentally prep. I went to work when my mum came home for hospice, and I will regret it forever, but you are processing things in such a weird way that it is so hard to know which way is up when it's life and death. She could've died when I was home just as easily. I still needed to make money.. the cold reality of loss and the process therein is so over looked. Thank you so much for sharing.
I’m so sorry for your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️
I wish I could have come across a video like this one when I lost my dad in January 2018. This video made me feel warm inside. Thank you for sharing.
*SENDING PRAYERS!* 🙏🏾♥️
*I am also dealing with the loss of my husband of 25yrs two months ago. Yes, grief comes in waves and I’m learning to just ride with it. Thank you for sharing your story. I can feel the love through my screen that you have for your beloved sister. Keep pressing forward and know that love never dies!* ♥️
I love your journey of life and growth. As a Black male, I’m glad to see you emote freely and realize you have to make time to take care of you.
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I can relate to how you feel about losing a sibling. I lost my brother in 2011 suddenly and without warning. It was harder to lose him than losing my mom and granny. To this day I cry for him and miss him terribly. I don't think there is any way to prepare your mind for things like this. Sending you lots of love.
It gives me peace knowing she was able to pass around all her loved ones. When my mum passed my brother didn’t make it in time & it still makes me breakdown till this day 5 years later
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May God heal you and your family through these difficult times… I’m so sorry 😞
@quela czcams.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/video.html
I'm so sorry for your loss. She seemed to be beautiful inside and out. You all are in my prayers!
@AJ czcams.com/video/bn_WVOHNKYs/video.html
Losing your loved ones is so terribly bad. Yet somehow we learn to live afterwards, we learn to laugh again, and our people help us. And your people are beautiful, you are beautiful. And healing is important
Shoutout to that disclaimer and saying “mental health is important” without saying it.
I lost my dad on the 3rd of August. It was sudden, it’s been difficult, but I feel this. Like you say, I’m productive but I’m not okay. It takes time and I have to “make time for these tears.” Thanks for the video and sharing. Reminds me that it’s okay to not be okay and still be a good parent, still be working productively, all while still healing.
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I believe that smile is when she saw your love ones who had passed before her and they came to greet her so that she wouldn't be scared nor lost. Look at God and his Son in that beautiful sunshine... 🌞
The feeling he explains when he said God i can't do this is almost like the most serious stop playin of your life
A family member that has passed come to get you when you leave her. That is why she smiled.
I’m really glad you’re feeling your feelings and pursuing what you know is right for you
@Andina czcams.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/video.html
I just lost my uncle a day ago bc we found him not breathing in his apartment but this just means they already served their purpose and that heaven is getting a lil too lonely 😊
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“I need some real healing“. Realist words ever
The way she smiled must mean she knew everyone was there and was at peace going off to be in paradise
And this....my friend, is where ONLY the peace of God can bring real glory comfort to you. My prayer is for your peace and strength. "She smiles", praise God!
@Regina czcams.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/video.html
Just lost a young cousin few days ago. So well timed. Good to share our experiences
Bless you.... My mom and I cared for my grandmother for 5 excruciating months.. she was diagnosed abruptly with stage 4 pancreatic, liver, and lung cancer..I worked full time then helped my mom full time...busy, busy, busy.. pushing through the whole time... We definitely do what we have to at that moment and block some things out... I've been dealing with the grief now for the past year and can't seem to get over the hump... I needed this..Thank you Sir.
I’m so sorry for your loss, please accept my deepest condolences. Sending you all my love and prayers ❤️