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This is the most intelligently vulgarisation and in depth explanation that I ever hear sorry for S, V , that I immensely appreciate but this here is even enlightening, thank you very much.

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See Prof Sam Vaknin CZcams amazing insights comparing DSM 6 & ICD 11 positing one "personality disorder" with unique overlays as a sliding continuum...

He seems to be delivering this in classic pressured speech mode making it unintelligible to me...why no use of actual terminology? "ACE" etc

A borderline looks to know the details of his problem and also how to overcome but seems unable to implement mitigation strategies.

So basically it will not recover? Is it a personality disorder really? Or personality type?

Success is not a word we use to describe completing suicide.

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I have lived with anti social personality disorder for years. Once again you are adding a sociopathic persona to this dis order, they are separate things. If I hadn't broke from my sociopathic persona I would not be typing this I would be in prison or dead. Always combining these two diseases in your definition is not helpful for someone suffering with this affection. You have no fucking idea how much harm you are doing by doing this. If you want to know, just watch a clip about the latest serial killer or mass murderer. STOP DOING THIS!!!!

You are amazing I too have had BPD for many years 36 to be exact. I had the 6 sessions that you have to have prior to starting the actual DBT therapy. This was only offered to me 28 years into my illness after waking up on the Life Support after yet another off the scale determined Suicide attempt. For some reason Jesus keeps saving me time after time when I do a thorough attempt. Intensive Care Unit Life Support being given the last rights several times. Police sitting next to my hospital bed waiting to tell there Sergeant time of death. The only thing I can think of is fulfilling my ambitions of writing my unbelievable life story so that it can show others to surviving against the odds on any circumstance is possible and to encourage people to keep fighting and never to lose hope. Also I would love to raise funds to open a sanctuary for Lost Souls misunderstood unwanted people who have lost everything and have nothing and nobody. A place staffed that damaged people will find kindred spirits. People who they can feel like family and a place they feel loved and welcome...a place they can call home. Love to you. Jessica Bell xxx

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So really its as ive said to m y psychatrist it shouldn't be called disorder cos it mini mises this condition its really a change in personality ok somes depression snd anxiety as well 1 prior to mum dying in 2014 i was her carer i was reasonably happy on some days got e xcited doing so mething in itresting two motning a werk we set thing aside to do crafts together,to chat, to laugh snd at weeke to snuggle toether to watch strictly, dancing on ice olympics when it was on, wed cuddle and say goodnight and kiss do gardening together before mum became as b ad go on walksc together till on 2014 mjm died i was sort of gettingby 2015 things detiorated i wen t on sick come 2017 i cracked up completdly had a sucide attemptc was in a mental health unit 8 month moved into sheltered housing was diagnosed with severe depression BPD and paronia some pdychosis type episodes ptobls autism i want the old me back im into vomputers but no intrest n watching tv at all im in sheltered housi g so tv licrnse is only 90p a week, since 2015 not watched strictly cant focus no longer intrested, i do art work, listen to mudic on you tube, have my computers but i really miss the old me

NPD is actually roughly around as common in women as in men - but it is massively under diagnosed because of the sexual stereotypes demonstrated here - that NPD and ASPD are men's conditions and BPD and HPD are women's. In fact men and women are quite capable of having any of them. They often just manifest slightly differently in men and women, in ways that are missed by people who are preoccupied with the gender stereotypes.

This is silly. No way would any of this would work on high conflict people. This would trigger them to become even more aggressive and abusive. Mickey Mousing this, will get people hurt who are tormented and controlled by high conflict people.

And don't you understand that we use overcontrol as a defense mechanism for our bpd and ourselves??

You talk about us BPD people as if we were idiots who can't understand what emotions and so on is okay to show in public. As if we just all splash out with our emotions to everyone all the time, when in reality we hide our emotions and try to press them down and be like everyone else as much as possible and often succeed with this very well. We try to act normal as much as possible always and we're not exploding with emotions everywhere we go all the time because we know it's not gonna lead to anything good. So how can you say that we're always undercontrolled in public when it's actually the opposite? We try our hardest to be in control and then end up being overcontrolled all the time in public and don't let anyone into our lives really because we're so stuck up and tight and do everything we can to hide all our emotions.

You are wrong about the over control thing. Almost all BPD people struggle with overcontrol, to fit in and repress our emotions and try to not have any of them because they cause so much destruction in our lives.

But I do have BPD and I use overcontrolloing behaviour to hide my bpd from everyone. So I don't understand why you say you can't be bpd and have overcontrol. Overcontrol is the only way for me to function in society as a normal contributing member of society. Overcontrolling is my tool to survive as a bpd patient. So I don't understand what you are talking about

Starting to think I might qualify for this. Or cptsd. As a child I was mainly treated with contempt if I expressed my emotions and it was brushed off when I ever got angry. No one ever took me seriously about anything. I was easy to dismiss because I was the youngest child, a girl and my parents and brother were all first borns and quite highly narcissistic. I try to be respectful of my own children now and take their emotions seriously in a way mine never were. My main issues are getting excessively angry when I feel anxious and tired at the same time. Or waking up feeling angry and depressed. It’s worse if I don’t get any time alone to process my emotions and think of solutions to problems and ways to calm myself down. I need to be alone to do that or possibly talk with an empathetic supportive person, its v hard to get either. My husband is a dismissive avoidant so I need time away from him as he is not able or willing to provide emotional support although he is good with practical support.

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Can a professional mental health practitioner reach out to Dr Ladia, child psychiatrist at the San Diegos Douglas Young and Family Services regarding these symptoms and need for appropriate DBT skills for Clinicians to learn. My son was taken to Mesa Vista Hospital instead of Children's Hospital where he could have been under 30 days of observation. He took his life away only a few weeks after second hospital suicidal attempt. I'm tired of hearing and seeing 988 commercials, the communication is flawed between psychiatrists, clinicians and school psychologists and counselors. Our kids are intelligent and caring. If everyone turns a blind eye so will their willingness to live.

I am looking for an agency in the Dayton, Tx area. I have a family member with the beginnings of dementia that needs help with taking medications and home health. Even if they are in Baytown that would work. Please let me know if we can get help.

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What a great presentation.

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What scares me is that I have traits in all three Classes A B C. I’m extremely to myself barely talk to a Soul haven’t worked in a year and have bouts of Anxiety fear depressive symptoms and no impulse control. Damn the mind can be a scary thing. Exercise and Sun are vital though and can help minimize symptoms

27:50 When I had meltdowns as a child I was met with anger That’s why I’m so defensive and shut down now

Amazing video I love the demon boat analogy!

This lady is just like the man who lived with the bears. They killed and ate him. Having been married to a person with BPD I saw first hand that they (BPD person) can control some things, such as, They know there are people that will NOT stand for their temper and tantrums and must behave around. They seem to control their emotions just fine when they are love bombing. The second they succeed in their end game of getting you to want THEM , they Will discard you. If/when they gain power over another person they are sadistic. Malevolent creatures.

THANK YOU for this!

Love is all, the other person needs.

this is what is going on with Trump except he inherited millions

This is excellent. I have watched easily around 1,000 videos on BPD in the last months (audhd and infj ;) ) and this was just perfectly and compassionately explained with perfect visuals. The most devastating thing about BPD was the love of my life and her family not believing i had no idea what i did or what happened.. i sent 20,000 word apologies while still in the dissociative hangover. Thank you. Maybe one day I’ll be able to fix this situation, but i have to be healed first.

Let’s be honest, individuals with BPD are easily slighted and they go to attack. They are emotionally rigid and inflexible. In other words, they can be insufferable and stressful to live with. BPD sometimes seems like a justification for bad behaviors. It should be described as the asshole disorder, because that’s exactly how they act. After 20 years of living with a person like this I’m DONE. My patience and tolerance has run dry.

It’s mainly disabling for people around the person with the disorder. Most of the time these individuals lack the ability to self-reflect and take accountability for their actions. People who encourage others to be patient and supportive of someone who repeatedly treats others like crap probably haven’t lived with someone with BPD. Call it a disorder and blame it on trauma, but that doesn’t make their behaviors any less hurtful and destructive. I don’t agree that people with BPD can tune into other people’s emotions - that makes zero sense. Someone who doesn’t understand their own emotions isn’t going to read others accurately. This is partly why they overreact to others. It’s a very strange claim to make since it’s completely inaccurate.

I have lived with a person with borderline personality for over 20 years and it’s been hell on earth. Sometimes I wonder if we are simply labeling a manipulative, angry and narcissistic individual with a disorder? After years of being patient and tolerant of their abusive behaviors I have a very hard time feeling ANY kind of empathy for them. The relationship has ruined my life and our family. Encouraging people to support someone who often treats others like crap and lacks the ability to take ownership is a lot to ask.

BPD can be officially diagnosed before age 18. I was officially diagnosed at age 16 in a hospital, and many others I know have been diagnosed even younger. It's the one exception in the DSM-5. The information in this video is outdated and stigmatizing.

There are just too many inaccuracies in this video.

Please someone answer me that how can I deal with my son that has BPD and before I suffered with my ex and my sister in law for many many years and I’m so tired and sick!!💔

The people I know that are narcissist are very successful.

I used to nanny for a teenager who had RAD, ADHD, learning difficulties, FASD and ASPD, probably ODD. She had been abused and then she was adopted and I worked for her adopted family. I was close to the family and I'd known her since she'd been adopted into the family, so I watched her go from a toddler into an adult. In my time spent with her, I rarely experienced her 'bad' behaviours. She liked me because I was adopted too and for some reason still unknown to me she was always brilliant in my care and I really enjoyed caring for her. However, outside of that, she stabbed her teaches, assaulted other kids, teens or adults, she would run away and legitimately go insane distance and end up in the most crazy dangerous situations, the police were at the house almost every night. As she entered adulthood she spent a short time living in the community but due to her behaviour that became immediately unsafe. She was dangerously promiscuous (I mean that as literally and as clinically as possible), she threatened local gangs and ended up with threats on her life, she best up random people and got beat up, and throughout all of this, she did not ever understand what she was doing wrong. She did not have any remorse, ever because her brain was not at all wired to have it. She didn't understand danger or consequence. She was known to all local police stations and ended up being put out of each area she lived in. Her behaviour became so violent and unmanageable that her family had to send her to live in a residential psychiatric hospital, where she is medicated and kept safe from herself and everyone else. The family were never given support and during her childhood the schools had no idea how to deal with her. I believe if those 2 things were different back then, in childhood, that things could have ended up better, as ASPD or the precursing symptoms are certainly aggravated by the further social trauma or negativity experienced by the person. There are ways to intervene and at least steer a child or teenager in a more productive direction regardless of the disorder. I think past childhood there's very little that can be done to help those with Aspd, unless they present and ask for help themselves, which Is going to be a rare occurrence as they don't necessarily see themselves as being disordered.

Dear All, I need some help. I have been diagnosed with BPD 4 months ago and started on therapy. I live in the UK but my partner needs help. I was wondering if there was a support group for partners of those with BPD. She needs someone she can talk to, who can understand and help explain or make sense of our situation. Does anyone know of anybody who offers this service?

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This is an unfortunately misguided and poor representation of the disorder. It adds to stigma. NPD is a debilitating condition, but people can get better. The key things that people with NPD need are empathy and compassion. I am not finding either of these in this presentation.

Did anyone call you a narcissist. Because that is what has happened to me.