breaking the shell.
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- čas přidán 5. 06. 2024
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timestamps:
00:00 this trip changed my life...
1:21 fly to cape town with me: reunion
3:08 life-changing friends
9:00 opening
10:50 distraction
12:48 finally being honest
16:15 the relationship i never shared with u
18:30 pouring my heart out to u: courage, intuition and growth.
24:54 break the shell
28:46 new chapters
music:
i sacrificed all the monetisation to use good copyrighted sound hehe so enjoyyyy:
i have been a thousand different women by emory hall
break the shell by india arie
you can't rush your healing by trevor hall
easy on me by adele
music by Breathing Piano - The Quiet Creek - thmatc.co/?l=F2FC63E4
music by Hai Ku - Cavewoman - thmatc.co/?l=2D17DB4A
Music by Prath - Another Syndrome - thmatc.co/?l=AF3A3DB4
p.s he knows i’m posting this and is comfortable with it. i care a lot about the people in my life and aim to always share my lil stories with necessary sensitivity. - Jak na to + styl
"The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off."
You don't even understand how true this is to my life😂
“I hate growth- it’s not sparkly, shiny”
I can’t thank you enough for being so real by being yourself and spreading an openness for truth. ❤
When you said „why can’t I be happy“ I felt this so deeply… not wanting things to change because you’ve grown so used to them and then realising that this doesn’t make you happy is so so hard
"Growth makes you invent every possible reason why you don't have to grow."
🙂yeah. but still every reason that the rational mind comes up with, and all of them even collectively badly fail to shadow the heart's reason.🙂 Guess, just gotta bow down to it, and follow it, coz it ain't going away.🙂 heck you, growth🙂.
exactly, it never goes away, which is what makes us the strongest most resilient version of ourselves when we say no to it, we are not our hearts, nor our brains, those are there to keep us alive, not happy
I don't understand how one finds friends like these in adulthood. So precious!
Putting yourself out there and like Jade said, talking to strangers, will greatly improve that possibility. You can't stay in your own little world and expect things to change. And ofcourse being lucky enough to find strangers that you end up clicking with.
"I'm going to have to face myself in so many uncomfortable ways" urgh I'm right there with with too. I know the pain. It's so damn hard.
"You can love someone, but they're still not the right person for you". Oh how true. At around 23 I got out of a three years long relationship that was the core of my life and we both still deeply loved each other at that point, but we knew we weren't the right person for the other anymore. It probably took me two or three more years to completely "forget" him and stop missing him (the pain was extreme) but ten years later I'm married with the best man I've ever known, that's exactly the person I need to thrive and be the best version of myself, and who's been sharing the most incredible adventures and growing with me for the past seven years ♥ you're so brave, Jade 💖
This is beautiful, thank you
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I think this is also so true for relationships during that time of your life. You're growing into the person you're meant to be. And even though you might have fit together when you met, these new versions of yourselfs don't mesh anymore. You both grew up and it sounds like you were both really mature in your decision.
@@plumdutchess That's true, I actually thought the same :) we were very young and still trying to understand who we were (well, I'm still in the process but that's another thing XD), but when you are in the midst of it it's so hard to be objective and see things clearly... that's why I'm so proud of Jade ❤️ thanks for this comment though, you made your point without invalidating what I was feeling at the time with a "yeah, you're young, you'll understand later" :)
Thanks for your comment and giving me hope :) I got out of a 8 year relationship 1,5 years ago when I was 23 and it was soul crushing because we loved each other but also knew that we weren’t the right people for each other anymore. I still miss him/us at times but time definitely heals. So again, thanks again for your comment!
Also, beautiful video Jade, growth is not easy but I guess necessary..💓
Walking away was the kindest thing you could do for him and yourself ❤
You’re right, even though it hurts SO MUCH 😭
I couldn't agree more
@@UnJadedJade I know girl ;( But I promise it will get better!
I’ve been in exactly this position and perhaps I will be here again… even when you’re making the right choice for yourself and your loved one, it will never be easy
@@UnJadedJade I walked away from my childhoood sweetheart after 4 years. We were both heartbroken but I knew deep down in my soul that it was the right decsision. He met the love of his life within a couple of years and has two beautiful children and a marriage of over 33 years. I have a wonderful son who is in hiis second year at university. Sending you much love and best wishees from a fan in her 50's Xx
Gosh Jade I can't imagine the amount of vulnerability it took to post this (especially as you haven't shared anything about it over the past 3 years!) - thank you for trusting us with your experience, I'm sure it will help a lot of people going through similar situations💗
Also thank you for sharing Break the Shell - what a great song!
usually a silent viewer but this is like listening to myself a year ago. i’m a year out of a 5 year relationship where we lived together and had our life planned. this last year has been the most full and whole of my whole life. the highest highs and lowest lows. you are SO brave and should be so proud for choosing you. can’t wait to see you flourish and realise how many doors this opens despite the fact that a special one is closing. remember, you can do hard things!!! sending squeezes x
couldn’t help but notice your butterfly necklace throughout the video. before my first heartbreak/big move/life change, i found a butterfly necklace that called to me and i had this inner ~knowing~ that this would be my “butterfly era”, an era of growth, authenticity and transformation. i had no idea what was coming for me, but through it all i have most definately become the closest to myself ive ever been. give yourself time and care as you break out of your cocoon, but know your butterfly awaits 🦋
I love how loving and kind the comments are. You made this corner of the internet a safe space, Jade. We're just happy it's here.
Wishing you strength for all the new chapters.
Not me crying at how relatable this video is…Lots of love for you Jade Xx
Omg I’m sending you all the courage and love ❤️🩹
@@UnJadedJade Keep listening to Adele 🥹💕
Literally watching SOBBING
@@UnJadedJade thank u thank u thank u for being brave and vulnerable on the internet 🥺🥺 this genuinely felt so moving and impactful
@@UnJadedJade jade I m in love with you. Please visit nepal for vipasana meditation. We can meet there. ❤❤
Crying along with you, I ended a 4 year relationship last year, it was the most difficult thing I’ve ever gone through and I thought things would never get better. But this last year has honestly been one of the happiest of my life. These decisions are hard but you’re so brave and true to yourself for making them ❤️
Hi, i ended a 4 year relationship too (5 actually) last year. It gave me the worst panic attack ive ever had because he didnt take it well and gave me the silent treatment. We never spoke again.
Funny thing is, that attitude was the exact reason why I was so scared to break up, despite his constant behavior leading me to hate myself. But despite everything, I don’t regret it one bit. I'm finally starting to love myself again, and even in my saddest days, I'm doing a thousand times better than I ever could back then.
I hope we all have beautiful lives. I wish you the best truly
Having been on the other side of this kind of breakup, I hope you take the time to discuss and explain everything. Nothing in my life has felt worse than my long term partner breaking up with me for no other reason but because “it didn’t feel right anymore”, leaving me with no better explanation, forcing me to wonder what went wrong and deal with the consequences all alone
I can imagine that being so difficult to face, hope you’re all better now
I can imagine :(
Sometimes it is better to not know, because most likely it was nothing with you at all, but that persons perception of you. But I know it is very hard, I have been through that too.
It’s so crazy to me that we all live through such similar experiences and still feel anxious to talk about certain things. Opening up is always hard, but also always worth it :)
'growth is messy, growth is turbulent' - this is so true!!! i think a lot of us expect growth to feel like a comfortable, natural, calming journey - like a rowboat gliding over tranquil waters towards your destination. but most of the time it feels like a like a speedboat trying to stay afloat in a tragic storm! we forget how difficult it is when we reflect and are suddenly forced to face the harsh truths about ourselves....especially when we realise how much more growth/pain awaits us. it's easy to then get trapped into a pessimistic mindset and prevent your own growth. but i really do think that a large part of growth is in the pain!! and remember, the speedboat will arrive at the same destination in the end! thank u for posting this video jade, love you!
I have friends right now who don’t treat me correctly, who don’t give me what I need and whose company I don’t really enjoy anymore. I want to stop being friends with them, but I’m afraid to be alone. Your video didn’t give me the answer and I’m still not really sure what to do, but it confirmed that I had to trust my gut, and care for myself above all.
Yes it’s true to take care of yourself but also becoming the friend that you would want to have ❤ if you only focus on yourself that may isolate you because you won’t be able to see the need of others. A friendship is a work of two 🎉
Choose you, always
I’ve experienced the exact same thing and I can wholeheartedly tell you, that choose yourself ALWAYS. There is something better waiting for you and you are ALWAYS worth it!
Xx 💗
Let me tell you from someone who’s experienced friendship drifting apart recently … even when you try to be in those friendships if it doesn’t feel right somehow those friendships will eventually leave like energetically
This is one of the most vulnerable videos I have seen on CZcams and I have so much respect for your process Jade. Thank you for making me feel seen without ever seeing me. So few people post the growth that is hard and unsightly and it’s what so many of need and experience.
"I hope and I pray, with every inch of me, that one day I watch back this clip and I think 'Jade that was just the start'..." Beautiful Jade, I cried with you at your fear of doing what felt right. As someone a little older that you, I can assure you with great confidence, that you will reflect on this in the years to come and be grateful for your courage in this moment. Life is full of complexity, that is what makes it so wonderful. One door closes so another can open, to continue writing the story of your life
I recently walked away from a friendship that was not serving my highest good. My friend was not a bad friend, let alone a bad human, but the dynamic we had just wasn’t for me. Although you’re not talking about a friendship in this video, I deeply resonated with everything you said. Ignoring your intuition for the longest time possible in the belief that it’s not right. That’s exactly what I did too. And I felt horrible for my friend. But it was scary to be so disconnected from myself as I was, when I was with her.
Wishing you all the best Jade. It was very courageous to make this video and you should know it touched many hearts.
same thing happened with me too ...i cut off a relationship with my best friend ...she was like a sister of mine...we spent everyday together studying in the same class sitting together to going to dates with each other doing all sorts of stuff and playing games ...we loved each other so much ...but then i noticed a little bit of jealousy started happening and she started to ignore me when we were in a group of friends...then i noticed that i am always the one who calls her to go on dates with each other...i was very sad and i cried a lot because i finally realized that the amount of care and love i gave her didn't match with the care and love she gave me ..i was always the one giving but not receiving...it was so hard and painful to walk off of the relationship with my best friend..but it was worth it to give myself the respect i needed. years later i found my people and they care so much for me ..i'm so happy i found them
Jade, when I tell you I went through your EXACT emotions a few months ago with a 5-year situationship that I didn’t want to let go of, it’s crazy. It hasn’t been easy, and I went through a rollercoaster as I struggled with the feeling of contentment but something not being quite right and needing something more. And it was the start of a new version of life I couldn’t see when I was weeping my eyes out. 4 months on, I’m about to graduate, got jobs lined up, I’m happy and the self growth is immense. You’ve got this! It may not seem like it at the time but that little voice in your head isn’t wrong
yess we can't be complacent and stay.. where it doesn't feel right, we are betraying ourselves (20:44)
Do you have any idea how ridiculous "5 year situationship" sounds?? Just call it a relationship
@@bishbosh4815 I wish I was joking. But he never wanted to make it official
This video had me bawling my eyes out. I’m also going through such a huge period of change in my life at the age of 22, nearly 23, deconstructing so many things so that I can re-build my life, and it is so scary. Everything you said about your relationship was almost exactly the same as what I have been going through in the past month, it blows my mind. I went to Europe for the first time, and that was the catalyst for me to make the same decision you did. I was right there crying with you. Thank you for sharing ❤
(Also I’m from Cape Town, just insane synchronicity in the universe)
I normally don't comment but thankyou for showing everyone that with feelings like this you are not alone and sometimes people, even though it don't seem like it, can have the same experience. Went through these same exact emotions a while ago and thought i was crazy bc why would i break up with my longterm (ex) boyfriend. But i did it and listened to that voice in my head which i ignored for a very long time, found the best version of myself, met the most amazing people and suddenly found the man of my dreams who just really makes the best version of me and helps me grow but still besides him i can grow by myself, suddenly everything felt in place. Thankyou
I, and many others, are so grateful for your vulnerability. Thank YOU for making this channel a safe space for us ❤️
“I have to do it, I have to do it… but I don’t want to..” 😢 oh Jade that broke my heart because you might have just summarised the most universal feeling of all in heartbreak. This growth is painful and uncomfortable but when you break out of that cocoon it will be the most beautiful change of all. Love from an ex member of the heartbroken girls club, I ended things with my ‘life partner’ 6 months ago, we had been together 3 years too. It gets better, and then even better than better. ❤
thank you for sharing this with us Jade. I’m going through a similar situation, so know you’re not alone. It’s incredible how the universe knows when to provide reassurance and give us that little push to move us more towards living as our true selfs when we try to ignore it! ♥️
sending you all the love and courage to continue listening to your intuition. our love lives hit us HARD!!! but yes yes yes we have to listen to the nudges pointing us to our true selves :’)
jade, i wonder if you're truly cognizant of what it means to see videos like these. i made the same decision last summer for nearly identical reasons-- i was only showing up for one person in that beautiful relationship and that person was not me. 10 months later, i remain a ball of anxiety and stewing in regret of making that decision. i've been feeling like no one understands what a DILEMMA it has been to end things with someone you love and who loves you so deeply. but, though i don't wish this type of decision on anyone, it feels so relieving to know that this isn't a rare experience, and that it's okay. And that it's healthy. thank you, jade, for this vulnerable video and the reminder that growth is absolutely hideous! thank you for showing that you understand.
I made a decision to break up with someone and I also remained ball of anxiety and regret for around 2 years after...i thought it was the right decision and it would help things but it didnt for a LONG time
I recognize this feeling so much from when I was younger and what I learned when being a little older was that all those feelings of having to let go in order to be able to follow my true path was to actually not be in a healthy relationship in the first place. No one could have convinced me so when I made the difficult decision.... I had this happen more than once and now I'm able to very quickly see if someone is the the one who will crack the shell with me or not (because we have many)... it hurts so much because it's so easy to stay and it's even more easy to blame it on yourself forever. When I listen to sad songs nowadays I no longer feel sad for the person who left I feel for the person who entered those relations in the first place. Many felt so amazing and kept feeling so grateful to these men instead of seeing how much I had been giving them to change their life and to support them in a way that changed their life's forever. If I'm ever melancholic about it today I know that true love lasts forever but sometimes forever is a memory and a very beautiful one. ❤
This is crazy - I feel like we’ve all been through some sort of life changing event when it comes to breakups over the last six months or so. I just made a video myself about this topic.
Sometimes your intuition is just right- and sometimes there is no obvious option your body and soul just knows. Your transparency here is so incredibly inspiring and I am so so glad I stumbled across this video and your channel.
You seem like such a beautiful soul. I felt it when you cried- I cried with you. I just know you’re on the right path because you trusted yourself and chose growth
Oh Jade, I empathize with you so much. My first love and I recently made the decision to break up but it was such a difficult choice to make it took almost a year for us to come to terms with everything. I grew up in an unhealthy household and she was the first person who ever showed me genuine, consistent love and care. We loved and still love each other so much. Over the course of our 2.5 year relationship our sexual orientations and attractions changed so we were no longer compatible. But even still, it was so hard to let go. I can’t tell you how many times I cried over it. But on the other side of the decision, I feel lighter and more myself. We’ve decided to stay best friends, and after we made the change our relationship regained so much of the light and joy it had been missing while we had been stifling our authentic selves. I promise you, it will be okay. It will hurt, but your future self will thank you.
sending love, its going to be okay. this is a really common experience for people our age. the important thing is in future to try and tap into this intuition earlier and to voice concerns with your partner as soon as you can, because really that's where the pain comes in the hardest is the slow concealing.
This was the last thing I expected from this video.
I was just making a photo album for my boyfriend for our 7th anniversary while watching this video.
The second you told us what your thoughts are about, my shell cracked open aswell and made me cry very hard.
I feel the same about my relationship since about 5 years. Hearing about your feelings brought up all my suppressed feelings.
It´s a constant back and forth between my head, my heart and my intuition. So far, I've always managed to successfully suppress my intuition to the point where I didn't know any other solution than to convince myself that intuition is bullshit.
Deep down I still know that it would be the right decision. But the fear always outweighed.
Right now I feel like your video is my strongest card in the deck.
I hope you´re doing fine and I admire you very much for your bravery.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Jade. I never felt understood until now.
Love to you.
wow I didnt know there were so many people out there that feel the same
@@juliam2049 guess we are all on the same journey🙂. isn't it, bud🙂.
Wow thank you for sharing. I recommend you to listen to the song “Waterfall of wisdom” by Fia. It might create a waterfall of tears as well but it would be a great one to support you on this journey of starting to listen to your intuition 💜
@@roosb.967 thank you so much. I actually know the song and love Fia's music. I will relisten to this song especially!
I feel like i’m in the same boat. I’m also at the 7 year mark. We’ve been together since we were 16. I feel like i’ve done so much growing and changing and there are times ahead that I see doing on my own. We have started to have the conversation but i’m trying to talk myself down and make it work. I’m terrified. At the end of the day, he’s my best friend. We’re all each other has ever known.
You know this is the most therapeutic video I’ve ever watched to be honest and relatable. I literally cried while watching this. Thank you very much for taking up that courage and walking away. You don’t know how much that inner voice is now thanking you. I hope you grow in a way that you become even better than this version of yourself. You know I’m going through emotions so similar to yours (with a friendship breakup instead). I feel alone, unable to feel happy but also, someone said to me that this is how growth looks like and then this video was therapeutic and made me realise that I’m going through the same process. Thank you again so so much for your vulnerability.
Jade, in 2020, one of your videos convinced me to end a long term relationship that I intrinsically knew wasn’t right for me. Now, 4 years later, I know that was absolutely the right decision for me. It’s better to be single than to constantly feel inauthentic to yourself and the other person ❤ there is healing on the other side of this xx
Jade, you have already learned the hardest lesson, just because you love someone does not mean you should be with them for your life journey. That takes bravery and pain too. Know that heartache never hurts less. But with time the most important lesson is that you realize the pain of heartache does not last forever, you recover, and open the next chapter. Hang in there... what waits on the other side is always better than what you left behind...
I am so unbelievably proud of you jade, thank you for sharing your raw vulnerability with us, not turning away and looking directly at an emotion can be unbelievably agonizing and unbearable. I’m glad that you where able to do so with such support, thank you for sharing this with us. Sending you lots of love, but the kind that unconditionally accepts you exactly as you are
Jade your videos are the definition of romanticising life. To see the beauty in friendships, travel, nature and all the things in between we sometimes take for granted. Thank you for this reminder. Can’t wait for many more meaningful videos ❤
I cried with you the entire video… this hit home. Jade, it’s odd how synchronicity works but I feel so connected to you and just want to protect and hug you. I’m in a similar situation and don’t know what’s wrong, what’s right anymore. I just have faith in my angels and spirit guides, and I’m sure yours were guiding you through this process and are holding your hand. You’re so brave ❤️
This video deeply touched me because I’m also grappling with big changes in my life which have been so so hard to process emotionally-I have cried, journaled, reflected, and sometimes it feels like no matter what I do, I’m still doing it “wrong” because I haven’t overcome my sadness and grief for my old self and my old life. But I want to change my mindset because I know sadness isn’t something to fear or overcome; it sings inside my heart; it is sweet and also shattering. I will try some of the strategies you used in this video to set intentions for the unknown that lays ahead of me, to remind myself that good things are abundant and that the fear I feel for this next step is reflective of the growth that will come from following this path that I know is mine, but feel scared to take.
I was here two years ago jade and the pain is something else. I’m so proud of you for doing what you need to do, it’s so hard and so difficult to explain. I was crying right along with you remembering. But it will get so much better. Take this time to be by yourself again it’s so nice and peaceful! Xxx
omg this is ART. the editing, the emotions --incredible
Jade, your vulnerability is invaluable & a necessary example of courage & our potential to face & embrace change. THANK YOU!
☀️ The SAn sunshine was the best universal companion for you during your turning point. 🇿🇦 I'm SAn & I think I'm a plant. 🌿 If the sun goes MIA for 3 days, I am LOW energy. I can't imagine going week(s) without seeing blue sky or sunshine. 😇
Jade I don't know if you'll read this, but some months ago, you encouraged us in your ig stories to come up with a sentence to manifest whatever we felt deeply that we needed to manifest into our lives. In that moment, a sentece poured out of my heart: "i am open to receive what i need and not necessarily what i want". You replied to it in your stories and, somehow, I felt that you really understood. Some part of me felt that that sentence also spoke to you because we were navigating similar oceans.
That was months ago, but my intuition was already telling me what my brain and my heart weren't ready to hear. It was only last month when I took my decision and left a relationship with the person I consider to be the love of my life. Because if I didn't choose that, I wasn't choosing myself.
In short, I opened this video expecting to watch someone else's life changing news and instead I sat here crying with you for 15mins straight.
You are seen and you are appreciated Jade. Thanks for making this video.
Wow. Thank you Miriam. I see you and I appreciate you ❤️🩹
Dear Jade, I've also been there. My last relationship/heartbreak ended on bad terms. Very bad. But it passed, and to my surprise, a lot sooner than I thought! And after about 2 years, when I was just living my life peacefully, I met someone else, and I can assure you, when it is the right person, you WILL know it. I always feared about it before, but I didn't have any doubts that he was the one. You'll end up with someone who makes you realize why it didn't work out with anyone else
Just hang in there for a little while, you'll be so grateful to yourself later❤❤
"You'll end up with someone who makes you realize why it didn't work out with anyone else" this is sooo true and so beautiful. It happened to me and it's amazing to realize ❤
statistics show single childless women are the healthiest and happoest demographic. not everyone wants or needs a partner
went through something really similar last year and it sucks. you are so brave and so strong and i'm so proud of you for trusting your gut!!!!!! it will get better. sending you much love.
Dear Jade, I can't quite find the words to express how deeply your rawness and vulnerability is felt. It's so incredibly heartbreaking to watch you have to go through this, and I deeply admire your commitment and loyalty to yourself - you are such a powerful light Jade!!!✨
Actually LISTENING to your own intuition is so so difficult - having to stare some of your worst fears right in the face (fears that you try to ignore, but which eventually find their way through your entire body and make you sick, and then the universe has to personally get involved and send you signs - lol been there myself!), and knowing you have to go through all this thick muddy mess, making yourself so vulnerable to life and the universe. I love what you said to yourself in your prayer - that this will be a beginning to a life beyond your imagination, that great things lie ahead - and I really think the universe is guiding you to see to that💗 I’ve recently been listening to Brené Brown’s ‘Daring Greatly’ (not sure if you’ve read it or not) and it’s been a real source of courage for me personally, so I’m passing it on in case you might find it helpful too - she says that growth comes with courage, and there is no courage without vulnerability. I like (and need) to remind myself of that daily. Sending lots of love, healing and virtual hugs your way!!! 💗🌻🌱
I cried with you the whole video as I’m going through a breakup as well with a similar story. I felt you very close and my emotions felt so seen, thank you Jade you’re so beautiful ❤
incredible of you to share such vulnerable parts of your soul. thank you❤
It's so crazy, this was me in September 2022. I still remember those moments. It was 5 years of my life. I felt broken for quite a while. But now it's March 2024, and I'm married to someone I have known for only about 8 months, and it was the best decision I ever made, he is everything I wanted, and what I needed. Now I'm 3 months pregnant. Life is weird
That’s called honeymoon phase. You don’t know his full past at all or how he will behave in tougher situations….. don’t marry too soon out of desperation for old age. Many people like you divorce one day, whether it be in 30 years or 10. Hopefully you can work the marriage out, hopefully you are the exception
Thank you for sharing this! It's so hard to realise that a relationship can feel so good and yet hurt in such an unknown way. Sometimes you just don't understand what's going on but there's something wrong. Something similar happened to me earlier this year and it's painful but we all grow through every relationship we get into and we learn so much about ourselves leaving it.
I hope your journey of healing goes well ❤❤❤❤
For me, a situation like this was the start of acknowledging my intuition and putting myself first. Within an hour since posting, there are already so many comments in which people share similar feelings.. This truly shows that you're never alone.
Lots of love for you as you move through these changes
I started crying from the moment you opened up onwards. Thank you Jade for being an example of courage, vulnerability, softness and honestly. Struggling with loyalty towards oneself really speaks to me and I truly appreciate you showing and sharing yourself in this way to us. You can be proud of yourself, so are we ❤️
Holy crap Jade, seriously - only watched this now at night but... I reached the end of the video feeling... some sort of sadness? Discomfort?
You got this girl, it'll be hard as most things in life are but... this is what we "signed up for". Beauty, happiness, but also sadness, despair, grief - this is all that life is. And I'm pretty sure you know that, and of course it's hard in the moment but I'd totally say keep doing what you're doing. Cry, listen to sad songs, feel it all, this quite unique feeling that some never had the chance to experience.
Love you much 💓 and these sort of genuine vulnerable videos are just so 👌👌 - you really don't see this pretty much anywhere. Someone being sooo vulnerable, so truthful with their community. I think I speak from all of us but we'll always be here to support you in any way possible - even if that is to watch videos and comment 😛
Sending lots of love to you Jade!! I can understand how scary it feels having gone through something similar myself. You deserve JOY! PEACE! GROWTH! When things are scariest that is when we can grow to our full potential and discover strengths within ourselves we never thought we had. I believe in you and I am proud of you for facing this challenge head-on. You are not alone. You are loved. Wishing you all the best!!
Thank you for this video Jade ❤ This came at exactly the right time. The part about growth and breaking the shell really resonated. Long story but I feel like sharing something vulnerable as well;
For yearsss I've been studying hard, doing theatre, having a great social life while going to therapy to figure out what's 'wrong' with me (Been doing that since im 10, I am 25 now.). But still, after all the therapy years there still was the stress /burnout/panic/anxiety etc. I've collected quite some labels from the DSM lol. I even developed a functional neurological disorder (FND) from the stress. The past 1.5 year I've done a lot of trauma- and bodywork. Many big feelings surficed and I felt and processed them all. The bond with my parents became stronger than ever, and I could close the trauma chapter. Still, I wasn't done. Last month I was reminded that at one time a therapist mentioned autism. I started researching and my whole life made sense; everything fell into place.
Last week my study advisor told me to stop studying for this academic year and to rest. It frigthened me. But, the next day I felt the calmest I've ever been: acceptance. A few days later my back popped in a place that was stuck for years. I'm literally standing tall and straight again! A BIG emotional release and a kind of spiritual near death experience followed. It was bizarre.
I am not scared anymore, I have the connection with my body back, I have myself back.
It is the biggest rollercoaster of everything ever. And now I am exhausted (that's even an understatement) plus my body is not really working anymore. I've broken the shell and in the upcoming months I am solely going to rest and learn how to move again ❤ its going to be difficult but I know from within that I will come out stronger than ever, with the help of my partner, friends and family.
You've got this!
Love from Amsterdam :)
Such a lovely story, thanks for sharing!! I'm a late diagnosed autistic+adhd too (33, diagnosed few months ago) and chronically depressed, anxious, with a lot of health issues. I honestly wish I took the time to properly stop, process everything and learn who I am earlier but doing it now it's still extremely valuable and life-changing! I'm so impressed by you taking some time off to rest while still at uni, but it sounds like an amazing idea, it's actually a good time to stop, heal and start again stronger and with a clearer vision of who you are and what you want/need. Wish you all the luck and the strength for your journey! 💖
First time I've ever commented on a youtube video ever but I just wanted to say you are so so brave. I was having these feelings 6 months ago and was absolutely terrified of what taking that action would mean. It was by far the hardest thing I've ever had to do, as you said, forget exams and solo travelling! But I did it, and although it still hurts sometimes, just in those few months I have already achieved things and had more experiences that I would not have had if I had stayed on the ground, and they have given me the stepping stones to reach for more. I feel so much more like myself again. The time will come when you look back at this video and are thinking the same. You are a very brave and strong woman for doing this ❤️❤️❤️
Darling Jade. My tears are falling, it feels so close to home. I understand, completely understand what you’re going through. I went through the same thing last year when I realised I wasn’t loyal to who I wanted to be and being with him hindered my self-expression and what I wanted my future life to look like. We were 19-23 and those are years when it’s so important to grow into who you want to be authentically within yourself. I knew it would someday end anyways and avoided the thought for maybe a year, that I had to end things after a total 4 years of relationship. Better doing it late than waiting even longer to take action. It hurted to wait, but it was better to get it over with and start the process to feel and heal. It took its time with a lot of avoiding the issue within myself, but finally I built up the courage after realising I started catching feelings for other people… then I couldn’t hide it for myself anymore.
Alas, I’m a completely different person today after a year of letting me express myself the way I’ve been wanting to for years and looking forward to new beginnings, experiences and people to make memories with. It’s gonna become beautifully better babe, I’m proud of you for making such a difficult decision for your own well being and growth in this new chapter of life❤️ Channeling lots of love to you!🫶🏻
Jade i'm absolutely in awe of you! The courage to be vulnerable and the love you have for yourself to chose what is right for you is so inspring.
maybe it helps to look at the fact that he was the right person for you, but at that stage of life. and that it is also because of that relationship that you have been able to grow into this new phase of life where you have to move on yourself. but that doesn't change that he was the perfect partner in your previous phase of life and that will always remain the case❤
Oh dear Jade 🥹
I share so much empathy for what you're going through...
I recently went through a breakup with a person that I love. But I had to do it... For me, and for what I still wanted to figure out about myself.
You're doing what is right for you, and no one could ever judge you for it. It will be tough, as you're already realizing, but that only proves how meaningful those 3 years were. And how lucky you are for feeling such a deep connection with someone.
It will get better - it can still be tough, as it still is for me - but you'll feel stronger and stronger with every step 🫂💙
We don't know what the future holds, but I have NO doubts that great and positive things are coming for, and from, you.
You've got this.
And if things are right for you, they come (either for the first time or back) when they're right as well.
Love you! 🦋
I already started crying at the beginning of the video when I saw your mum cry during the facetime call and you were talking about how hard this decision was for you, I already felt your pain. At the same time the nature was so beautiful and the friendship was so raw and beautiful as well. And then when you talked about the pain of leaving someone you love when there‘s no distinct reason I really felt it ❤ I went through this pain as well a few months ago, but then decided to stay in the relationship. And it‘s funny how I had the same thoughts that you were talking about.
I was so excited for this video... The scenes are so beautiful, it looked like I was watching a movie. Everything looks so magical and honest, I was inspired, laughing... And then I was crying with you. Thank you for sharing such an intimate experience with us, it must have been so hard going through all of this feelings, I'm glad you chose to open up and not face them on your own. I hope this new chapter is as beautiful as the one you had to let go in order to be loyal to yourself, your feelings, your heart. You are so brave for listening to them, Jade. It made me think of a This Is Us quote I really like and I'll share it with you: "The way I see it, if something makes you sad when it ends, it must have been pretty wonderful when it was happening. Truth be told, I always felt a bit lazy to just think of the world as sad, because so much of it is. Because everything ends. Everything dies. But if you step back… If you step back and look at the whole picture… If you are brave enough to allow yourself the gift of a really wide perspective… If you do that, you’ll see that the end is not sad. It’s just the start of the next incredibly beautiful thing".
This video has come at the right time for me - I'm going through something very similar with my boyfriend of 3.5 years and BOY is it hard. I haven't made my decision yet, but maybe I do just need to listen to my heart. Thank you Jade
It's okay, Jade. Everything about this is SO okay
I went through this exact situation last summer, Jade, and as someone who is now looking at my past self from eight months in the future, I can honestly say I am so very grateful and proud of her. I have flourished so much and I know you will too. ❤
I knew the second you uploaded this video I had to watch it there and then, and the whole thing at once… nothing less. And I am SO happy I did. You teach me so much Jade. How to be courageous and relate my weaknesses to what you say and your strength in speaking it out, out into this vast space that is this world. And your strength is SO so sooo strong
It’s so powerful, ESPECIALLY when spoken out like this… I am so glad for you, that you had this realisation in Cape Town, and all the puzzles fell into place for you to SPEAK IT OUT. ❤❤❤❤❤
Jade, I felt every little thing you said about the struggles of making a decision like this. I just went through a similar experience and broke of up with my partner of 6 and a half years, with whom I had moved halfway across the world with and strongly envisioned the rest of my life with. I ended up moving alone from Germany to the US more than a month ago, and this process of growth is so uncomfortable and challenging I still find myself searching for reasons to take a step back. Not knowing other people who have experienced something like this makes it even harder --decisions like this come from deep feelings in our guts rather than rational explanations, which makes it impossible for most people from the outside to understand. It has made me question my intuition over and over, and witnessing your experience has been incredibly reassuring. Sometimes we've got to just trust that feeling and take a giant leap of faith. Thank you for giving me the strength to continue pushing forward in this moment.
Having left my partner of 15 years because he wasn't interested in my experience of our relationship, to then risk trusting another person for 2.5 years which taught me so much about myself and I thought was so right and yet, they then realised we weren't the right fit but we still love each other -- I hear this. I see you. I feel this. Thank you for sharing, and if you need a random strange brit to connect with who's navigating that decision of leaving something good, do reach out.
Growth hurts. Growing pains are real. Emotional. Spiritual. reshaping what you thought would be and what can be. *hugs tight*
this video is going to help so so many people. sending all the love, support and respect xx
This video hit me hard. I did something similar back in January, and I resonated with all of your feelings. There's nothing scarier than feeling like you have to tear down all of the things you thought you wanted in order to move forward with something you can't even imagine yet.
Oh Jade, I deeply feel with you. Once you've realized something like this, there is no going back to the life where all those scary things weren't part of your reality. I’ve had a very similar situation where both of us thought we would be each other's forever person. But once I realized I didn't feel myself anymore and I never could unless I would cut off certain parts of myself, I knew no shared future with this amazing person would be worth it. It took me a year to truly come back to who I wanted to be, but life is better and brighter than ever. I never would trade all the growth and the path I am now on. There's still small things I miss from our years together and there might always be. But I never miss how I ended up feeling in that relationship and I could not be more proud of who I am today. Take time to be broken, take time to grief, accept all the love and support you can get and as always, the best is yet to come and the future will be bright again with time.
Wow, thank you so much for these words.
Thank you for posting this. I can feel your heartbreak and I’m so sorry. You are so incredibly brave and I look up to it.
ohhhh jade, dear sweet deeply feeling wonderful jade, this is the most beautiful video you have ever made, what a joy to see you crack your heart wide open and have courage to show your most vulnerable self, you are making space for all of us to be our most authentic self, that’s is the most precious gift you can give anyone 💓 thank you
Sending you so much love Jade as you go through this huge ending. I did exactly the same thing in my very early twenties - gave up the 'perfect' man, and relationship, complete with engagement ring, house and 2 kittens! Like you, I knew in my gut that I was destined for something more; I longed for something I couldn't describe. And in that moment where everything changed, it set me up for a future I could never have imagined at that point, in a different country, in a new career and eventually having two beautiful daughters and living a life entirely different from my 'imagined' life path as a child and teenager. The way you're feeling now is terribly hard, but I promise you one day you'll look back and see why it had to be this way. #hugs xx ps. I'm going to see Liz Gilbert at an event in the south of England in April, maybe there's a 'way in' for you to talk to her about your podcast! #bigmagic 🌠
I've been at this point of my life last year. God, it was tough. But '23 became the best year of my life so far because I listened to my intuition. I had the most fun, made incredible friendships and so much more. I'm so so happy I had the strength to do this!
Oh Jade, why is it that always when i click on a video of you it turns out it is exactly what i needed.. it resonates with me so much. i am in a similar situation as yours. i am almost done with my studies and for a few months i've had a gut feeling i couldn't explain. turns out i can lead it back to the beginning of my three year relationship. i have envisioned a future with my boyfriend but suddenly i don't know what that future holds anymore. i have been craving peace, quiet and calm, which i cannot find within myself anymore. so i am at a standstill with my personal life too. i hope to grow and learn from this but it is so freaking hard. thank you for creating a safe space, love you
at first i didn't wanted to watch this video (without knowing what it was about), and somehow it keept finding me, now i think i was meant to watch it. i'm going through such a rough patch in life rigth now and i keep feeling i need to change somenthing big in my life, some big ass truths i need to unwrap, something that keeps me from being me and finding me, but fear of what can happen next is so big i can't even beggin to think about making that change; but i think this is giving me the courage to start "i know i have to but i don't want to yet".
a thausand thank you Jade, for making such a vulnerable and honest video and create a space for us all, i really hope you're stepping into that new era you were talking about and i really hope i can find that courage you showed to finally break my own shell.
I can only say Thank You Jade! Thank you for opening to us with so much vulnerability. I felt so related to your video. I've been struggling to make a decision too and this past week I made the decision. It feels as if the sadness lingers inside my heart while my heart is starting to feel content and at peace that I made the decision to follow its path. Tough decisions, long processes, lots of crying but I'm certain that we'll look back and thank ourselves for being brave. I believe that your video is validating processes of so many of us.
Jade, I can’t express my gratitude enough for you filming yourself while processing such difficult emotions. You’re immensely loved 🫶🏻
Oh Jade, you are such a gem in this world. I started crying because my heart is right there next to yours, I sympathize so deeply with you!! Such hard things to do and such sadness and fear to do the right thing but oh wow am I excited for the “after” ✨🌞
Hi Jade. I've been following you and your journey for about 5-6 years now. You're like an elder sister to me. I love your energy and the absolute positivity you radiate. Ngl when I first saw the title of this video and started watching it I thought it would be about you quitting CZcams, I'm both mildly glad and absolutely shattered that it wasn't. I wish you all the strength to overcome this heartbreak, I'm sure there are so many new opportunities for growth and love waiting at your doorstep in London✨. This video was so vulnerable and it must've taken a lot of courage to put up but I'm so glad you did. I cried with you. Felt every word you said. I'm in a similar situation, having been in a relationship of 2+ years where I've recently had this gut feeling that maybe we aren't right for each other, maybe there are greater things out there for us, but at the same time, I don't know. I want all of that to be wrong and I want us to have the future we envisioned. We're happy and I don't want to ruin that over nothing. It absolutely crushes me to think about it and I don't think I have the strength to act upon it right now, especially because I feel so stuck in life but hopefully I am able to figure things out soon. You've definitely motivated me to once again self-reflect and try to become the best possible version of myself. Leaving this here feels so raw and vulnerable, I've never been so open on the internet but who cares, maybe I will revisit this once I figure things out and give you a small update :) Thank you for being you and thank you for sharing this with us 💌. Much love🌻
All the best to you Jade! Your video shook me up and made me cry. I've never been in this situation, but I can still empathise with what it's like to have your expectations, wishes and views turned completely upside down. Growth is most painful when other people are involved. When your own decision inevitably changes the lives of others..
We don't have to know where life will take us. We just have to take the next step and our path will gradually shape itself 💛
This is so relatable. I think it is very common for people pleasers / empaths to experience this. Being afraid to hurt people. When your body says no, but your head doesn’t want to make sense of it. And it doesn’t even have to be in relationships. But listening to your intuition will make you feel better afterwards, even if it hurts at first. So brave💕
So excited for you and your future Jade. And such lovely friends who where there for you, but also gave you space.
jade you have no idea how grateful i am for this video. found this video right after having a big cry since breaking up with my partner of two years this week and had the same feelings like you did that I was scared to address or say out loud for a long time but it was time. im glad to have accepted that and made the decision i did. still sad and mourning all the beautiful things from that relationship, but it’s onwards and upwards and time to blossom outside of that. very excited for your new chapter in life and thank you for all the insight and love you have to offer
Du sprichst mir aus der Seele, Jade.
I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago and I, too, was terrified of it. Even though there were tangible reasons why we weren’t working it was still so very hard. I asked myself „why can’t i be happy?“ so many times.
Until now, I couldn’t put it into words but loyalty and that feeling of betraying this person were the last things holding me back.
Your videos give me so much happiness, hope for the future and have shown me to embrace my feelings. Thank you so much. ❤
I wish you a lot of strength and great people, like your friends in the video, around you to help you in this hard time. I am so proud of you for listening to your heart even though it’s painful. ❤
Hab dich lieb und viele liebe Grüße aus Süddeutschland
Jade, thank you for sharing this! Thanks for showing to us that sometimes love isn't everything. Right now I am on the other end of the story. My long term gf ended our relationship for the same reason. Seeing your struggle made me understand her reasons even more and above all, respect the courage it took. And who knows, if the universe brings you guys back together? Being honest with yourself also means being fair to him, wich is the most respecful thing you could do! Its all about you now. Wishing you the best of luck in your journey! Thanks thanks thanks
I’m truly so sorry that you’re on the receiving end and I’m in awe of your ability to have empathy for her position. I agree - honouring oneself is also honouring the other person and wanting them to be with someone who is 10000% certain about their future. Wishing you all the luck right back. We’ve got this 🤍🙏
This is quite possibly one of the best videos on the internet, sending lots of love and strength to you Jade for posting something this beautiful, you don’t even realize how many people’s heart you’ve touched with this particular video. I recently got through something similar and it made me realize i’ve healed a lot because i was able to understand that sometimes even tho things don’t go as we planned it’s ok to keep going and to let go of the dreams you made with someone so dear to us. I’ve watched this twice already today, i will come back to this every time i will want to feel less alone dealing with my emotions. Thank u so much for being such a kind, inspirational person like u are and showing us that vulnerability is one of our biggest strengths.
This is a beautiful, beautiful video. I started watching it comparing my sense of self and then felt so deeply moved to realise we’re all on our own journeys, growing in different ways. Letting go of another person is a time for deep grieving ❤ Thank you for sharing this
Wow Jade. Thank you for deciding to share this with us. This is what the world needs more of: vulnerability, honesty, intuition, softness, courage, reflection, kindness...
Thank you for using your stage and wide range to sow these seeds!
Praying for peace within both of you.
Jade, thank you so much for doing one of the scariest things in this world that is sharing your lowest moments online. While we're all so used to editing all the ugly stuff from our online life and social media platforms, you are brave enough to share what is going on in your life no matter how much you're bleeding, and that's what true courage looks like.
Also thank you for reminding us that it's okay not to have everything figured out and that is okay to follow intuition over plans, because we change through every chapter of our lives and we can't know when an old chapter will end and a new one will start.
I wish you the best of luck for this new chapter of your life and hope yo find peace with whathever you may be feeling.
Big hugs from Argentina!💜
Genuinely thank you so much. I was terrified to post this, but I know how much my life has changed from watching other CZcamsrs sharing their truest vulnerability. Lots of love 🦋🤍
I love everything that this channel is, such a wholesome and refreshing corner
okay but why is your crying so beautiful and extremely heartbreaking at the same time
Jade... I don't even know where to start... thank you for this video thank you for your honesty and vulnerability thank you for your courage and authenticity thank you for opening up and sharing this part of your life with us thank you for reminding us what growth looks like❤️❤️ I know big changes are terrifying and gut wrenching but I have so much faith in you to make this decision that is the most authentic to yourself and I trust that whatever comes you can handle it❤️✨ You are such an inspiration for me to grow as my most authentic self and again I am so so thankful that you're sharing your life with us. Sending virtual hugs🫂🫂❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so so so so much! You have no idea how much this means to me and how big of an inspiration you are to me!
I NEEDED THIS. THANK YOU JADE for your courage in the vulnerability. I’m 2.5 months post breakup, and whilst I knew there was quite literally no other option other than to end the relationship, it’s torn me limb from limb in every possible way. It gets a tiny bit easier everyday but also it remains a very unpredictable and unstable in terms of emotions. This video made me feel less alone in the vastness of all these feelings that seem to take their sweeeeet time going away. I hope my comment and others help you feel less alone too ❤
this made me feel so seen. I just went through the exact same situation (and felt everything you felt) and am still in the depths of the pain. Growth is messy and painful and a lot of times we can’t see the light while we’re in it. Clinging onto the hope that the light will come soon ❤️
'Remember that you asked for growth. Don't be suprised when life challenges the fck out of you.' is the quote that has helped me through some of my recent rough times, i hope it can help you too.
And pls remember to always stay true to yourself and embrace and accept all your feelings. ilysm and ty for sharing this part of your journey with us
there should've been a heart or hug reaction option specifically for this video ❤ so real and raw, and just crying along with all the emotions 🤧
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Sending lots of love to you! A break up can be such a change of direction to the extent that we feel ourselves and the reality that we thought was destined for us shattered. I've witnessed myself rising like a phoenix through such ashes in the past and I truly believe that this moment is there, coming for you, too. Listening to your intuition is the bravest thing you can do to love yourself and the other person. Thank you for sharing your experience with us! 🦋
Jade ❤ Life is all about following that voice, that deep intuition. You’re doing it!
I’ve had to take the same decision after a five year relationship with the best partner -on paper. I honestly thought I would die if I would break up with him. That was four years ago. Ever since, I have never been happier and more myself. It marked the start of so many more transformations, as I learned how it really feels to follow my heart. And you know now too ❤. It will hurt for a while, but you will grow from the pain.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us, you are one special human being and have a gift for portraying life.