how i process big feelings like an ADULT!!!
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- čas přidán 15. 05. 2024
- hi friends. this is the aftermath of the cape town vlog ❤️🩹 also the first 500 people to use my link will receive a one month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/unjadedjade03241 (ad) the best place for journalling guidance!!
it's been a heavy few weeks, but i've never felt more human. thank you for holding me in all my states with such love. 🦋
Timestamps:
00:00 intro: why it's so hard to process our emotions
00:43 society only welcomes our joy, motivation and 'positive' emotions
3:07 how to re-parent your inner child
5:50 meditate with me
6:31 morning sunlight!!!
7:01 walk, laundry and shop with me!!
7:23 journal with me ✨
12:20 therapy
13:12 my housemate is a corporate lawyer
15:05 all the greatest growth lies in facing your emotions
16:56 yoga!! move your body!!
17:36 process sadness with me in real time
Hi friends!! As someone who used to distract away my feelings with work and productivity, I’m so proud to now show you how I move through big emotions in a mindful way. 🦋 we live in a world that makes it so difficult to make time and space for any emotions we label as “negative”. Society wants us to smile, radiate our joy and motivation and ignore the less productive darkness. BUT I’m continually learning how much wisdom comes from leaning into our shadow selves. I hope this video inspires you to *feel* your feelings, no matter how heavy. I love you all!! Thank you for making me feel held 💐🌷✨
Holy snap Jade, these vids are just 👌👌👌. Seriously, this is such a unique corner of the internet (:
Sometimes I wonder if there would be a way to make this corner be more present in our day to day lives? Of course you won't upload every single day, heck, you have a life outside CZcams. Think I'd enjoy maybe a Discord server or something where people talk about... life stuff? Ever thought about something like that?
I find that meditation and yoga, even if it's just following one of Adriene's vids for 20min or so really helps me just "clean" my mind - I also love this expression I heard once that I find very relatable: "Life can be an extreme sport" because hell, sometimes it does feel like one! And yet, it's so beautiful. 😀
It's great what you're sharing in these videos
I am so happy I get to live in a world where you are alive and express yourself with 0 filters I am so grateful that I know I’m not alone . Thank you for teaching me so much through your videos
Thank you for all your help and kindness!! Very useful ideas!!!
Jade I am infinitely grateful for you. Thank you for trusting us and sharing your raw vulnerable self. This video helped me so so so much. Sharing with all my heart and spirit friends who need to hear this.
One of the worst things about depression or just feeling very low is that it makes you not want to do all the things that help with depression or feeling very low. Thank you for sharing and the gentle encouragement to look after ourselves ❤️
The worst thing about hearing people with depression is. They 100% chose to be depressed. Its the easiest thing to come out of yet people love self pity darkness attention seeking depression
I am a decade older than you and only now experiencing this huge shift in self awareness and big, difficult feelings. My anxiety had always taught me not to listen to my body in order to protect my brain. The undoing is hard, but I’m doing it. Cannot tell you how much your videos make me feel held and validated in this journey. Thank you for sharing yours 🦋
The last few videos, Jade, have been *chefs kiss*
so true
Thank you for creating this kind of content; it is precisely what you said: 'Internet needs more realness.'
I usually work remotely, but I just returned from a workshop week in the office of the company I work for, and I could see this 'rush' lifestyle of the people working there. I'm still not sure if some people like this lifestyle, but to me, this feels wrong, perhaps for them too, but again, in this environment, you are not allowed to say it.
I read a book this year that soon became one of my favorites, 'Dopamine Nation'; they have a little section that fits this topic well, 'Honesty promotes intimate human connection,' and I do believe that the world would be a much better place if we were all a bit more vulnerable with each other ✨
"Healing your inner child by also being your inner parent" 🫶
I've also been experiencing big emotions lately (that I don't particularly love) and I've been struggling to accept them or even feel them... thank you so much for this video and for showing me (and all of us) that it's all okay to take small steps and to care for ourselves ❤ your sense of realness is really empowering
Sending you love 🌿🌹🌻
Gahh I’m sorry to hear you’ve been experiencing heaviness. Big feelings can be SO overwhelming, especially when we’re not taught how to move through them in a way that serves us. Sending you so so much love and strength to access all the wisdom on the other side 💐🌷🌱🌞✨🦋
i was told by a therapist recently that i am going through the hard times right now because of my suppressed emotions. and i’ve been feeling guilty for a long time because i thought that my problems aren’t so big to be low. and the last minutes of the video just hit differently. these are the words i needed to hear. thank you so much ❤
12:32 wow, this was so affirming to hear. As someone with complex ptsd, and multiple diagnosed chornic illnesses, and late discovered neurodivergent - I have spent the best part of a decade working on my healing. It is only now I am 27 and have found the right therapy for me (IFS, meditation/buddism and somatic work) that I am finally feeling proud of myself and at a stage where I genuinely love my life. Every day still requires immense work to stay grounded and most of the time I experience ptsd symptoms in a day, or a full blown episode, but I can see the progress I have made and it is phenomenal. All of this feels wonderful, and I’m so proud of myself, but there is a part of me that is shameful and sad and angry that I cannot use my energy to be “productive” in ways that would develop a career, or at least an income. Hearing you say that you feel true self development and the most important work is working on your true SELF, is just wonderful. I have watched your videos on and off for years because I find them comforting or interesting, but I’ve always looked up to your dedication to work. It’s really beautiful to see you flourish in spite of difficult times, and acknowledge that it is in fact this work that is most important. Thanks Jade, for making this video ☺️
Wow, I commend your commitment to self-understanding and healing. Contrary to society's pressures to flourish in more tangible ways (career, monetary accomplishments, recognition), I believe true self development is internal and I think it's incredible that you feel increasingly content with yourself !! 🦋
@@UnJadedJade Thank you Jade, this is really sweet. I hope you have found some restful relaxation during the long weekend :)
I've been non stop listening to "break the shell" thank you Jade ❤
It’s so healing!!! 😭😭😭
Im going through a breakup and I woke up desperately crying today so this video really came in the perfect time for me 💔 the healing journey is tough but we’ll make it and we’ll be much stronger and wiser
i really understand why statistics show single childless women are the happiest and healthiest demographic. i feel so much happier and at peace when i depend none of my happiness on anyone else, even in a relationship, if someone else is a source of my happiness, it leads to some suffering and worry that this happiness will be taken away and replaced by suffering. since changing my mindset and not allowing any of my happiness to be dependent on anyone else or anything i feel 100x happier and at peace, this is true happiness. happiness that comes only from within
I love the whole 'inner child parenting' thing haha, I love these types of videos you do, you always bring up such interesting concepts and help me a lot. I have an awful time accepting I need rest (and as an undiagnosed autistic at the edges of burnout I need it desperately) thank u for sharing! I am slowly realising that hustle culture and career ambition might not be what's best for me, and I appreciate these videos that make me accept this a bit more and mourn what I thought I would be but from an 'it's okay' perspective
Jade, I empathise with your situation of experiencing big change and can resonate with so much of what you have said in this vlog. In particular, not honouring my feelings. Me not honouring my feelings and instead choosing to distract myself with work or otherwise has resulted in years of uncertainty in my life path, feeling unfulfilled in my study and career, and underlying resentment towards myself. Now that I had started to acknowledge my emotions, however big and scary they can be, I have found peace with myself and it has opened new opportunities and new people to come into my life. I am beginning to connect more with past hobbies I lost to the grind of the corporate world and a renewed desire to learn. I am hoping that soon, little by little, I can discover myself, my purpose and a way of life that fills me with inspiration
I messed up a huge exam this week that likely determines my entire semester, which determines if I will be able to continue work on campus or have financial aid and it has been incredibly difficult to sit with. Particularly because I am already very behind on many milestones due to a sort of stagnant/monitored upbringing that I'm trying to overcome. Very easy to let guilt and an almost envy of others to overcome me, I am so thankful for this video. It made me turn on a meditation for the first-time in many months
all the honesty you’ve been pouring into your videos lately is so refreshing to see❤️ thanks for being so genuine 🫶🫶🫶
Hi jade I love ur video it gives comfort to me, I just wanted to say don't stop because , there are people in the corner of the world who like whatever u are doing!
this video came at such the right time and resonates so much. I ended up journaling a full 2 pages of takeaways - thank you for this 💕 love your sentiment that the real self development is all the inner work rather than productivity. it’s so true. I fell into the same “productively” trap too and am currently on a different emotional healing journey now. it’s scary and uncomfortable but I know so much growth and better wellbeing will come from it. thank you for being so vulnerable with this video. it helps immensely to actually see how people process things, feel their emotions, and take care of themselves at the same time. a nice change from people always showing their “best side” as well. wishing you all the best on your journey 💕
This video honestly made me cry. We all are dealing with hard situations sometimes, we aren't perfect, the world isn't perfect and it can be overwhelming but it doesn't mean that we cannot overcome those feelings. Your video gave me a huge boost of motivation to keep going🤍
Stumbled across this while feeling super shit, and have been feeling off since the year began really. It's so nice to see other people showing their low moments (as odd as that sounds) in a world where we normally only see people's highlights in life. This video made me feel seen and validated in my sadness and reminded me that there's always other people going through shitty things too, and that I will come out the other side. Like you said at the end, you have to feel the depths of the negative emotions to appreciate the happy ones too
Man up Darling
One of the big messages for me from untamed was that we are not broken because broken means doesnt work as intended and we are made to listen to the messengers that are our emotions. I still feel broken a lot and trying to find my roots to reinvent myself from who i am is hard but that fact feels so true and i try to remind myself of it often
Thankyou Jade for making people feel a little less alone . you have such a gentle and kind heart like everytime I listen to you , it makes my heart melt ♡
A video from Jade is enough for making me smile
i recently received a ton of rejections from prestigious unis while people I knew (academic rivals/frenemies lol) ended up landing some brilliant acceptances. i felt, no, i still feel, crushed. spent hours just crying, feeling like a mediocre disappointment, like i'll never achieve my dreams. and i have lots of dreams, but my ambition is only hurting me right now, because i dont have the confidence or faith in myself right now to execute. i'm shaken. i don't know to think myself out of this mind-space, i can't rationalise anymore, because my thoughts keep spiralling. i never thought i'd end up like this and it just really, really sucks. i'm too embarrassed and ashamed to confide in everyone, so i'm just spiralling and spiralling and spiralling.
Jade's videos have helped me think differently about setbacks in the past, so here I am again, looking for hope.
so thank you so much for these videos you post, Jade, you're an amazing person.
Hello gorgeous person, I am sorry to hear you didn't get accepted to these unis, but I am sure things will get better for you! ❤ (btw ranting is ok, it is like expressing your emotions instead of cropping them up, just like Jade said in this video)
hey lovely person, you're much more stronger and capable than you feel you are right now, that's totally okay you don't feel your best at the moment though! I promise you'll find the resilience to keep going, but it's not just going to come to you, you've got to look for it. A friend once told me: "things will all come together as long as you keep trying! working towards your goals is the only way to achieve them! (even though it SUCKS)". I carry that with me & I hope you can, too. take care lovely stranger.
Look honey, things sometimes look better for others and worse for yourself in the moment, but life is a crazy journey. You don't know what's to come in your life (both amazing and hard) and similar to your frenemies (also amazing and hard). I know this is coming from a 26 year old and hindsight is 20/20, but you will get to wherever you want to go if that's where you're meant to go. It will work out and in the meantime you should also work towards cultivating a joyful life worth living because things like this are always going to happen. You got this!!
Hey , It's okay to express your feelings. I am in a similar situation where I have gotten rejections from universities. Must say everything you wrote is my current situation. Therefore, I am sending you lots of love.
Thank you for sharing your story. I hope this remains a safe space for you. I admire your bravery & I hold hope for your healing.
From somewhere in South Africa, I offer you gestures of empathetic listening, I. E. full attention, or soothing rubs, or a big hug.
PS Your writing is descriptive, eloquent & immersive. I enjoy reading it.
you're simply light, Jade. Thank you.
Thank you for being so raw, Jade. You don't know how much you validate a lot of our emotions.
I always feel so comforted by this corner of the internet. Much love Jade 💙
This video is everything, you’re amazing Jade 🌟
Can’t tell you how much I needed this right now
i love these videos so much thank you jade for creating them
I have always watched your videos here and there as they pop up, but recently I’m loving your content even more. So vulnerable and pure. You are doing amazing❤
I can't put into words how grateful I am that you exist 🥺❤
Jade idk what I would be without you, you are the world, so much thanks for being out here ♥️
Your so right. I spend my day saying I am good but most of the time its not true. I suffer from extreme anxiety.
Hi, things will get better for you, stay positive!❤
Your random rumblings make my day.
Love you Jade❤❤❤
I honestly felt what you said, this is so real it hurts but it heals at the same time. Thank you Jade, wish each of us all the light we need to grow, all the best. 🍀✨️
So much wisdom in this video. Thank you, Jade!🌻
Jade you're such a beautiful soul. In today's day we need more influencers like you who are brave enough to show their vulnerable, real side on the internet. Everything on the internet, following trends and all is so fake and makes and fall into the loop of comparison which is draining. Those are the times we need people like you to show us what is real and what is not. To show that these emotions, being human and plainly existing can be beautiful too. I needed your video today, thank you and please keep making more of these. ❤️
I love how much you are evolving as a person. You just let your authentic side come through and it is delightful. Please never stop being yourself. ❤
Thank u for sharing Jade, your videos are casual magic and they heal our hearts❤️✨
I loved this jade. it honestly makes me feel better somehow about living a simple life bc I can be more in tune with myself. i’m just not built for hustle culture and i’m learning that’s okay
Thank you Jade for the realness. I love your insights so much!
Thank you for also sharing the hard parts! Social Media needs more of that! Sending you a virtual hug! ❤️
I love your videos, Jade. You’re so real and honest and your voice is so beautiful.
Love this video so much, Jade! I feel seen for not being the only one learning to FEEL my feelings instead of bottling up inside. Always love learning from you. Sending you all my love 🤍
Wow. The vulnerability is so heartwarming. I’m on a journey of learning how to be 100% myself and not try to fit into what others think I should be and you inspire that so much for me ❤️
Love this video! The amount of comfort and guidance it brought me was lovely 💓
Thanks you for making this kind of videos jade! They are wonderful. And thank you for sharing your life even when it's not thst shinny. You are amazing💙
thank you so much for this video, you're making the world a better place ❤
Thank you for this beautiful video Jade, really appreciate it! 😊 Sending big love to you! 💗
Hi Jade
Binge watching jade and crying is my casual magic for the day ❤. Allowing myself to feel all the emotions (good and bad) is what aids growth. 😊
thank you so so much for sharing this, jade!
This was so validating, thank you so much jade 🙏❤
Ι love growing with you. You give such amazing perspectives and new things to consider in every video❤
Thank you so much for this real video💗 Feels very brave!
Your videos bring me comfort ❤
You’re amazing, Jade! Always reminding me of the life that is outside of the hustle and that that’s really living not just surviving!
never commented before but i've been watching your videos since i was in high school and always felt so similar to how you processed emotions and saw the world, cut to i'm also 24 now and feeling these EXACT same huge scary feelings and when i tell you its almost been a comfort to know i'm not alone and we are just human, i'm so grateful for this corner of the internet. thank you jade, for always being your authentic true self and please keep these style of videos going - you are helping me grow and change and process with your perspectives so keep going, and thank you 💗
Thank you so much for this video Jade I have watched your videos for years and feel like I resonate with you a lot so it is like a breath of fresh air when your videos come up! Sending lots of love and strength and I hope to adopt a similar mindset of processing emotions moving forward! 💕💗
Thank you so much for this jade
Yes please keep uploading videos of this format. I can feel my emotions moving around my body when I hear your words about self love, energy and healing. You inspire me to work on my inner self. So so glad I found your channel. ❤
Jade, I cant tell you how much I appreciate this video nor how much it helped me right now as I go through a painful breakup. Thank you so much, sending you lots of love❤️
This video came at the perfect time for me today. I needed to see this, thank u Jade
going through a really tough time mentally and this couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been watching for years and never commented (sorry😢) but i am so grateful for this thank you
Hi Jade! I just wanted to thank you for creating this little corner and spreading so much light. Your videos feel like getting advice from a older sister that i never had✨!! I hope you keep making these videos 💗
I’m going through a lot of self development and having to make some really difficult choices recently and I have to say that your videos have helped me so much. I struggle with really intense anxiety and hearing you speak on your experience and what helps for you makes me feel less alone and has given me new ways to think about mental health and coping. Thank you.
Thank you for opening up and showing this part of life too! You (and yoga-videos;)) are literally the only reason I open yt
this came at the PERFECT time. I just keep getting both extremely anxious and excited about the fact that I have received 5 unconditionals and haven't a single clue what I'm going to pick. I know that I'm so lucky to have the offers but the idea of leaving school, and moving out is freaking me right out!! your videos help me understand that I will have SO much fun at uni no matter what I pick but GAHHH 🫶🫶🫶 Sending you so much love. I really didn't think I'd get here, especially since I've been watching for about 6 years now xx
Jade I cannot express how beautiful and necessary this video is, especially to me right now. I often turn to distractions so its refreshing to find encouragement to sit with the hard feelings. So so healing :)
I’m so impressed with the openness and honesty of this video. It was exactly what I needed to see today. You have such a clear way of expressing yourself 💖
Jade this is SUCH a great video!!!
Hi Jade!
I just wanted to say how grateful I am to be able to watch your videos and learn from you. Your personal growth and healing inspires me so much and I love how connected you are to yourself, your intuition and the world around you. I know I don't know you so it's a little weird to comment on your character, but you seem like such a beautiful soul and I feel like the world would be so much better with more people like you in it. I am 17 at the moment and I'm currently in a period where I have lost the intention of allowing space for my emotions to be felt, and constantly distracting myself from the uncomfortable present. However, this has inspired me to put more effort into encouraging my inner parent to hold my inner child and let her feel safe enough to show up with all the messy and uncomfortable feelings. I can really relate to how you view the world, your personality traits and your journey to becoming your higher self, so it is so comforting to see how you process things and move through life. Anyway, keep being you and thank you so much 😊😊
You help me see the value in nourishing myself Jade. It's easy to get caught up in the stress, but what I learned is that it's harder to keep treating myself with the love I deserve, like my mom would always do. ilysm 🦋💗
Just one of the best videos I've seen in forever. Thank you very much for sharing your vulnerability and teach us. ❤❤
Thank you Jade, just thank you so much🌻
This is so relatable. Thank you for this video
Jade thank you for being vulnerable. It's difficult opening up to yourself but to open up to millions of people online is much scarier. So thank you for your courage. It feels refreshing to see this online when everyone else seems to be having the best time of their life 24/7. You're teaching me new ways to be there for myself and I think that's one of the most valuable skill sets. You will not feel these feelings as intensely one day but it's only natural for now that you do. ❤
I am so so grateful that I was raised in a way that thought me how to experience my emotions from a young age. And that from that I could help my friends time and time again sit with their emotions and not punch down on themselfes because of them. But I would never have the currage that you have to let the internet in on such vaulnrability. So I just want to thank you for doing that and helping people by it, and you are really brave and strong for charing it. Just thank you
Thank you soooo much for this video! It helped a lot
Why am I here watching this and tears are rolling down my face...I was finally able to acknowledge my feelings and emotions and process them with you. Thank you for this video ❤
You’re amazing I’m so proud
Thank you for this video I needed it ❤️
Your high level of self-awareness 👏🏻 I can definitely tell you have been working so hard in your mental health journey and I am so proud of you, Jade for doing the very best to choose yourself and be there for you despite the resistance sometimes (or oftentimes at least in my journey...!) arises inside of our body. Sitting with big feelings is so hard, indeed! It is so great seeing you pulling several things to cope with big feelings from your tool box and practicing, like journaling, meditation, body movement, and somatic exercises! Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and wisdom you have gotten through your journey 🌸
The power this video holds❤ Thank you for this, I have been anxious and struggling to deal with feelings and friendships and balancing my own needs and school but you released so much fog from my brain with this and gave me motivation and hope and validation to continue working hard to process my feelings and not feel weird for being a very introspective person. Just loved this sm!
I absolutely loved this video, and it feels like it arrived in such a perfect time in my life. I've started meditating daily recently and it has become a crucial tool to process, understand and connect with my emotions better. thank you for your vulnerability and honesty 🤍🤍
loved this video!! it's so nice to see this type of content, and I find it really great that you share the thing about not going on social media when you are sad. it's really an act of self-love to stay off it on those moments. I personally like processing emotions through dance , listening to music, walking , breathwork, shaking, or making sound (like with anger e.g.) I really love your vibe, and I admire that you are so yourself 🥰
Thank you for this video Jade. I am in awe of you and how you handle your feelings and grateful for you sharing them. I’m going through a very similar transition in life at the moment and am grateful that I have your videos to guide me through the feelings I am feeling. It’s making everything that little bit easier so thank you 💛
Jade..🥺🥺 wish I could find proper words to express how thankful I’m for sharing this with us. You literally saved me. ❤️ I’ve been going through the exact same experience and I didn’t know how to face it. felt bad after crying. Felt like I’m not supposed to cry like that and I have to be productive.
You completely changed the perspective. Than you. Thank you so so much ❤️🥺. Wishing you all the courage in the world.
Every time I watch your videos I wish we were best friends. You go girl🎉
You're so brave and true Jade ❤️🥹..thank you for inspiring even when you're at a "bad day" and we're here for you through your journey 🫂🩷✨️
Hi Jade, I've been going through something similar to you and your recent two videos have been a lifeline to me. Surrounded by friends who aren't in similar situations and can't relate, your honesty and vulnerability has allowed me to realise that I'm not alone. Your videos and words have been like therapy for me and for that, I thank you. I hope you're doing well. 💚
Hey jade thank you so much for making this video! I have recently been rejected by someone who I hold close to my heart and I’ve been having so many heavy emotions about it and this video has felt like such a comfort to me! I’d love you to do more videos like this!
I love you so much Jade ❤
You're so strong and just AMAZING 🥰
Thank you so much! It was so wonderful watching you act as your inner parent. I found it very inspirational.
Sweet Jade, you must be in so much pain, sending a lot of love and healing energy💌
Hi Jade! First of all thank you for showing this part of your journey. I turn 20 in a few days and I'm also finding balance in adult life.
Five years ago I went though 3 loses, 2 family deaths and one breakup all in 5 months. It was huge. And still I was expected to keep up with my schoolwork and (obviously) say nothing about it cause "big feelings scare others away" as we are not taught how to deal with them or allow space for them to exist. Everyone wanted me to be happy and so I tried. I even went into a relationship 5 months into the breakup.
I'm just now, as I grow older, taking care of all the pain that sinked that little girl who needed the world to stop spinning.
You're such an inspiration and a huge part of my journey. I follow you since your GCSEs videos and It has been an honour to grow up by your side. I'm in awe! Thank you for being the big sister I never had and a little friend in the vast internet world ❤
PS: Kisses and hugs from Spain 💗
Thankyou Jade for sharing.
I feel related to this video a lot; as I am processing and feeling a lot lately. I let certain overwhelming feelings just be there, not judging them but it can just be present with me. Thanks for letting me feel not all alone, although I know I'm not, it's nice to see this journey to be shared with a big audience. 💛
You make me want to feel again, thank you Jade❤
I really love that video, it really resonates with me 🌸 thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings ❤️