getting out of a negative cycle

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  • čas přidán 21. 03. 2024
  • some words of advice i also need follow myself, hope you’re all doing good ❤️‍🩹 click headspace-web.app.link/e/M24 to try Headspace for free using my code MAWHINNEY
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Komentáře • 175

  • @katharina9098
    @katharina9098 Před 2 měsíci +185

    1. allow yourself to feel
    2. morning meditations
    3. reduce the noise
    4. understand yourself
    5. sourround yourself with good people

  • @alessiaruggiero7074
    @alessiaruggiero7074 Před 2 měsíci +203

    I'm not usually one to comment but this video spoke to me on a lot of levels. I think this is a beautiful, and very necessary, reminder to constantly and consistently check in with yourself. Being self aware is a blessing and a curse. These negative cycles are just a reminder to be gentle to ourselves, to give our mind and bodies grace and to slow down and be still once in awhile. I hope everyone is able to remember that you truly grow through what you go through.
    That being said, I hope the days you are happy are the norm and not the exception. And when you are feeling down I hope you remember there are so many people on this planet that wish you nothing but the best. Sending my love to everyone that needs it.

  • @graysoncamille
    @graysoncamille Před 2 měsíci +13

    i've also been in a negative cycle for a while so thank you for sharing!! we've got this

  • @ranwahbader9395
    @ranwahbader9395 Před měsícem +3

    We do that meditation thing in Islam five times a day and it really helps me out in my recovery

  • @sar.lily0822
    @sar.lily0822 Před 2 měsíci +12

    thank you for your honesty Moya 🤍 self compassion is so important! sending so much love 💕

  • @sabrinasoh826
    @sabrinasoh826 Před 2 měsíci +23

    currently an american senior in high school receiving college decisions and navigating this chapter of my life. your video hits so close to the heart and i wholly appreciate your vulnerability and strength to share something like this. I've been watching your videos for a while (since quarantine) and you are truly one of my greatest inspirations (not only for ur successes but simply for the genuine insight you bring into every video you post). you're doing wonderfully, moya! thank u for sharing :)
    ps. the bangs look amazing

  • @gastronomee_
    @gastronomee_ Před 2 měsíci +9

    this is amazing. I spent 5 years in a job and degreee I hated until finally starting this channel to infuse some more passion and joy into my work. Rooting for you❤

  • @luisacorrea1507
    @luisacorrea1507 Před 2 měsíci +20

    Dear, Moya. I’m sending you hugs and strength. Breakups are one of the most painful experiences to go through and I deeply understand what you are going through. Just today I was thinking that I couldn’t believe five months have passed since I had to say goodbye to a person I cared about . It is crazy not only how fast time passes, also how the pain is almost gone. It still there, but is not as piercing as it was a couple of months ago. You’ll be fine. You’ll find love again.

  • @amalkhan8340
    @amalkhan8340 Před 2 měsíci +120

    also going through a breakup. was with my boyfriend for nine years. being in this phase of my life feels almost unreal and unbelievable. it’s been a month yesterday. some how the days keep passing. trying to throw myself into my hobbies as much as i can and surrounding myself with family and loved ones. just trying to keep faith that things will get better with time ❤ hang in there moya we’re in this together

    • @moyamawhinney
      @moyamawhinney  Před 2 měsíci +13

      wow gahhhh sending the biggest hug my love im so sorry :(

    • @DonGob
      @DonGob Před 2 měsíci +1

      Although it may take time, it will pass. Good luck :)

  • @fkiffen1625
    @fkiffen1625 Před 2 měsíci +6

    I think I’ve unconsciously known all of these things for ages now, but recently I’ve also been working on getting out of a huge negative cycle. And this is such a helpful calm, almost meditative video that only encourages me to keep going with what I’m doing. I’m sending lots of love to you and hope you’ll also get out of the negative cycle, thank you truly ❤❤

  • @ninibtw
    @ninibtw Před 2 měsíci +6

    thank u so much for this video Moya, i send u a big hug in this difficult time. I´ve been feeling so sad this week because of college, so much works to do, presentations to do, i´m so sick of all this stuffs i just want to cry and do nothing. i feel less alone, thank you so much for this video again sweet heart💌.

  • @olivialarsen9922
    @olivialarsen9922 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I wish you healing and love Moya! You and your videos have been such a light in my life and I hope you give yourself grace and find a way to heal. Love you!

  • @delfiorentino
    @delfiorentino Před 2 měsíci +2

    Love seeing this video as I always come to your channel for confort. I dated a guy from Switzerland who was living in Bs As last year and sadly had to say goodbye to him recently when he went back to his country. We had still been talking but he stopped reaching out to me and answering my texts. He was the first person to tell me he loved me, I really felt like he was the one for me but he lives in the other side of the world, and now he doesnt seem to even want any contact with me. It has been way harder than I expected to cope with the whole situation and Ive kind of drowned myself in books to keep going. I started connecting with myself a lot more these days and Im trying to focus on my personal goals and achievements and studying a lot more for uni and it has helped a lot. But reflecting on the relationship has really helped me understand a lot of things about me. Ill definitely be following your advice. Hope you get better and enter a happier headspace

  • @martha-may
    @martha-may Před 2 měsíci +11

    i listened to this whilst journaling myself out of a hard week and it just made everything come together. this video truly spoke to me and you as a person do too. i hope you find everything you need in your healing, sending love and hugs xx

  • @annnajx
    @annnajx Před 2 měsíci

    ❤️‍🩹needed this you’re such a light. you aren’t alone moya, sending u so so much love

  • @stephanielewis1470
    @stephanielewis1470 Před 2 měsíci +4

    Moya, thank you so much for this. I'm going through the worst heart break and I needed this so much. I wish I could give you a hug

  • @rachaelmascarenhas
    @rachaelmascarenhas Před 2 měsíci

    girl you’re doing amazing, you are amazing. love you 💜

  • @missamore6909
    @missamore6909 Před 2 měsíci +5

    you're very wise and calming and so inspiring! lm twice your age, but find comfort and inspiration watching your videos- thank u! keep up the good work!

  • @monaz957
    @monaz957 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for posting this, I’m struggling a lot and crying/spiraling every week since Jan. 22. This video is much helpful and powerful, thank you for sharing this vulnerable moment in your life and you are not alone in this ❤

  • @orinfriedman1715
    @orinfriedman1715 Před 2 měsíci +50

    You have no idea. All day I've been reading on getting out of negative cycles and changing bad habits. I was sitting at Tuileries garden, was about to leave because I was feeling really discouraged and your video popped up. I’m really sorry about your break up. Exactly how you said, let yourself feel. There will come a time when not only it wouldn’t hurt but you will see and feel the reason it was a positive change. Lots of love

    • @moyamawhinney
      @moyamawhinney  Před 2 měsíci +7

      awwwwww !! in the tuileries too :') sending a big hug whereever you are in paris rn

  • @Will-vyMaria
    @Will-vyMaria Před 2 měsíci

    You understand exactly how I feel and bring so much comfort and peace.

  • @joy.fuentes
    @joy.fuentes Před 2 měsíci

    i have a lot of trouble with feeling alone lately, and this video arrived at a really vulnerable time. thank u moya, you're so inspiring ❤️ i hope life treats u gently and softly, love u

  • @kei8075
    @kei8075 Před 4 dny

    Needed this so much. Love you girl!

  • @kamajhia
    @kamajhia Před 2 měsíci

    Moya we’re here for you!!! Thank you for sharing! The timing was perfect as I’m going through a negative cycle at this time

  • @cathelijne02
    @cathelijne02 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for this honest and great video. It's nice to hear someone talk about this important but often (online) ignored part of life. I wish you the best and take whatever time you need ❤.

  • @lakinfowler-lc8rd
    @lakinfowler-lc8rd Před měsícem

    I’m just now getting out of my seasonal depression and I felt that I needed a little kick to fully help me inch out and this WAS that kick. Thank you, this really helped 😘

  • @SuYalcin
    @SuYalcin Před 2 měsíci +14

    Thank you so much for your wonderful, peaceful energy and for being open/vulnerable in front of the camera. I'm in the first year of university, in my early 20s and in a period full of self-reflection. Your video made me feel less lonely, and human. Your video also leading to other people commenting on their feelings, gave me the chance to see I'm not the only one struggling. I hope you feel better soon, sending positive energy, wishes and prayers.

  • @catarina8852
    @catarina8852 Před 2 měsíci +1

    i don`t usually comment, but i`m also going through a similar situation. the break up was a month ago and the one thing i learned is time heals everything if you allow yourself to process. i`m so much better than i was a month ago, but i´m also can see my progress this past week. it`s all in the small wins. last week i stopped using my phone in the mornings, just like you said, and i already feel a little better.
    just wanna add this quick tip for anyone in a similar situation, after a few week try to get the algorithm on your social media back to normal. just after the break up i ended up on breakup tiktok, in the beggining it felt good relating to people and all that. but after a while your just consuming negative stuff, it really doenst help the healing process.
    thank you moya for the video

  • @gemmonayy
    @gemmonayy Před 2 měsíci

    i love the personal self-reflection, journaling, and overall kindness and intention. such great reminders

  • @_dearsharon
    @_dearsharon Před 2 měsíci

    thanks sharing your process! watching this on a gloomy, rainy day in nyc, using the steps has been meditative to look internally 🖤

  • @mariechrismuncal
    @mariechrismuncal Před 2 měsíci +2

    love you MOYA! keep going. love your channel xo

  • @444dlvatnce
    @444dlvatnce Před 2 měsíci

    thank you for being honest, moo. and thank you for this. i need this rn.

  • @ClaraGonzalezSantos
    @ClaraGonzalezSantos Před 2 měsíci

    I loved the advices, by them you can notice how deep work have you been doing lately. It´s like an upgraded an more mature Moya down there! Much support for your breakup path and excited for the new chapter of your life!

  • @kupkomarie
    @kupkomarie Před 2 měsíci

    Moya, I love u so much, thank u for u!
    Your videos always feels like BIG HUGE SUPPORT hug

  • @mairaroses
    @mairaroses Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you Moya, it means a lot to me and comforting me🥺♥️ I’m so proud of you

  • @Monica-st
    @Monica-st Před 2 měsíci

    lots of love!! thanks for shearing your feelings! you're doing great, lots of hugs💘💘💘

  • @storiesbymarah
    @storiesbymarah Před 2 měsíci

    You're a light in this world, Moya! Take all the time you need to heal. Sending love from my side of the world ✨

  • @eli.anadominguez
    @eli.anadominguez Před 2 měsíci

    You are so emotionally mature and wise Moya. I look up to you so much 🤍

  • @kev.1269
    @kev.1269 Před 2 měsíci

    I am so glad you posted this, I've been going through such a negative cycle all month, this was just what I needed ❤️

  • @yesomrich
    @yesomrich Před 2 měsíci

    Thank u for being vulnerable, this video helped me

  • @cxxtqt
    @cxxtqt Před měsícem

    i was (or still is) in a cycle. i was diagnosed with autsim at 23 and its been RUFF. i feel uncapable of many things and then end up rotting most of the time. i also deleted socials so i dont know if others feel the same. ive been watching alot of videos like these and this popped up. this was SO helpful and just what i needed. i really appreciated the "allow yourself to feel" part. i think sometimes we look at sadnnes or any negative emotions has BAD BAD BAD, but we cant be happy all the time. that kinda made me realize alot ngl! that its okay to be down sometimes. today i made a little change and i already feel excited for better things 2 come

  • @Beca7093
    @Beca7093 Před měsícem

    great advice not just for when you're in a negative cycle! those are things that i need to be constantly reminding myself... everything will be alright, moya! xo

  • @taylor-jf7ef
    @taylor-jf7ef Před 6 dny

    dear moya i know this is 2 months after the fact and ur probably feeling a lot better but this video really resonated with me! u are a beautiful girl with a beautiful heart please keep ur head out

  • @elisazouza
    @elisazouza Před 2 měsíci +10

    i went through a depressive episode recently and I'm slowly getting out of it recently so I appreciated this

  • @teyadecember
    @teyadecember Před 2 měsíci

    Sometimes when I’m going through a negative cycle, I feel isolated and this video was a reminder that we’re all sharing such a similar experience and not alone. Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. 🫶🏽 sending positive energy to you!

  • @ellakopponen
    @ellakopponen Před 2 měsíci +1

    moyaa I love the authenticity in this one

  • @mariaalexa7395
    @mariaalexa7395 Před 2 měsíci +1

    This video came right in time! Thank you, Moya

  • @graceparker27
    @graceparker27 Před 2 měsíci

    such a beautiful video Moya - really needed this. Sending so much love and strength your way! xxx

  • @silvanahernandez3568
    @silvanahernandez3568 Před 2 měsíci

    wow I think we all needed this video Moya ❤ thank you!

  • @beeisabelle
    @beeisabelle Před měsícem

    Moya, this was so timely for me. Really appreciate your transparency. Thank you for this 🥺 Sending hugs and love to you! 🤎

  • @izzyreed7146
    @izzyreed7146 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Baby I understand you in a way , I’m going through a friendship struggle with a friend at the moment and I’m not sure where we stand , breakups are so so hard

  • @acaciajoellesamuel8548
    @acaciajoellesamuel8548 Před 2 měsíci

    You have such a beautiful speaking voice homegirl, and this vid came at the perfect time for me 🩷 thank you!

  • @alicethompson197
    @alicethompson197 Před 2 měsíci +5

    you are truly my favourite creator, you seem like such a kind and genuine person. also your videos always come at the right time and really calm me down. i dont really comment on videos much but i hope you are ok and you will get through this xx

    • @moyamawhinney
      @moyamawhinney  Před 2 měsíci

      :') thank you for being here awwww this made my day

  • @siobhanmcelwee6989
    @siobhanmcelwee6989 Před 2 měsíci +39

    Currently also going through a break up and my best advice to anyone is feel every emotion through. Laugh and smile when you feel like it and cry cries when you feel like it and don’t feel guilty for doing so. We got this girlies!!!! Greater days ahead!! ❤❤❤

  • @saradesantis6783
    @saradesantis6783 Před měsícem

    Thank you for sharing this and being true! I really admire you and love all your content ❤️‍🔥

  • @ANamelessLlama-tp5bs
    @ANamelessLlama-tp5bs Před 2 měsíci +2

    Hang in there Moya. In a very similar situation but it's important to allow all the emotions in. I've always believed that time is the best healer. Peace and love from Bahrain!

  • @emszus
    @emszus Před 2 měsíci

    thank you 🤍🤍 I’ve been in a negative cycle with uni assignments, it’s nice to see a different perspective ☀️

  • @nodlls
    @nodlls Před 2 měsíci

    you've got this, take good care of yourself moya 💕

  • @ramdassubba2006
    @ramdassubba2006 Před 2 měsíci

    This was so needed. Thankyou moya,entering a new era of my life so its hard but I'll adapt.

  • @originalcake
    @originalcake Před 2 měsíci +1

    i know I don't know you personally, but I appreciate your warm essence, wishing you well💗

  • @giuliapariz
    @giuliapariz Před 2 měsíci

    thank you moya ❤️‍🩹 sending love

  • @osiaszy
    @osiaszy Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing this & I hope things will start feeling more easy soon ❤ I did the exact same thing when I was living alone - surrounded myself with constant background noise (podcasts, tv shows etc). It ended up making me feel constantly anxious, exhausted and having no mental energy. I’m trying to embrace having more space for my mind now, rather than filling any empty space with an external stimuli.
    P.S. Cal Newport’s Digital Minimalism was a big help making me realise that!

  • @ruth1527
    @ruth1527 Před 2 měsíci +1

    thank you for sharing with us and making us feel less alone

  • @sunshinemindset8497
    @sunshinemindset8497 Před 2 měsíci

    Sending you lots of love and hugs Moya xx I hope you are feeling happier very soon ❤

  • @sophiamorales6290
    @sophiamorales6290 Před 2 měsíci

    your emotional intelligence is really growing moya, and im so happy to be growing with u too!

  • @chloelanematentji3816
    @chloelanematentji3816 Před 2 měsíci

    Ohhh you have no idea how happy i am to know that im not alone in these feelings ❤❤❤❤i was listening to a podcast earlier about how to fet out of negative circles 😢😢we'll be okay guys

  • @ssoulscientist
    @ssoulscientist Před 2 měsíci

    It’s definitely a collective feeling going on. I’m finally starting to feel better these days. Btw Moya you look so beautiful in this video ❤

  • @poppycalliope
    @poppycalliope Před 2 měsíci +5

    Your transparency and honesty helps so many Moya! Sending you much love ❤️💌

  • @kth_brnrd
    @kth_brnrd Před 2 měsíci

    This video is a sign for me. It has been months for me full of cramming, procrastinating, and being unproductive. These habits are affecting my academics so bad😢. I need to get out of this slump

  • @lauracolleen
    @lauracolleen Před 2 měsíci +15

    Thank you for sharing these vulnerable times with us. It shows the reality of life and - I can only speak for myself here, but I imagine others might feel the same way - it makes me feel less alone with the shit that life can throw at you. So cool that you're working with Headspace! I've been using the app for over 5 years now and it has consistently been great. I hope a positive cycle will enter your life soon ❤

  • @lawrencemangoe
    @lawrencemangoe Před 2 měsíci

    it feels selfish to want to see u more and connect to u more but u deserve ur sacred time… sending luvvv moya !!!

  • @user13218
    @user13218 Před měsícem

    Thank you moya. Been such a helpful video. Definitely im gonna watch over and over through my journey in this life
    Thank you darling, and yah it’ll get better.

  • @jiawen3683
    @jiawen3683 Před 2 měsíci +9

    moya!! this is a time to be gentle to yourself so you can tend to your wounds ❣️ in a previous video you mentioned you’ll bloom again in spring - you might not be able to believe that for yourself now, but we will all do it for you 🌷you will bloom again :) sending so much love xoxo

  • @novathunblad1075
    @novathunblad1075 Před 2 měsíci

    thank u, this was a really good reminder ❤️

  • @dinajunhoe4843
    @dinajunhoe4843 Před měsícem

    Sometimes i wish you’d hv a podcast. Your voice is so soothing and your vibe is just so wholesome

  • @bellabolstad
    @bellabolstad Před 2 měsíci

    hey moya, I am also currently going through a breakup, but as you said, allow yourself to feel every emotion you need to. Above all, be kind and patient with yourself, you will get through this. Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest, sending all my love 💌

  • @meliodys
    @meliodys Před 2 měsíci +2

    thank you so much for this 😭♥️

  • @fionafalcone3441
    @fionafalcone3441 Před 6 dny

    Needed this video so much. I just broke up with someone who I know loves me so much, but he has pretty bad anger issues and I knew if I stayed with him, eventually he would turn them on me. It's been really hard for me to stop thinking about him, because unlike with previous breakups, he hadn't actually done anything to me, and I made this decision because I don't want to wind up looking back at obvious red flags and wishing I'd left sooner. But seeing how hard it is for him on social media is painful, and seeing him be happy on social media is equally painful, because I think my ego wants him to keep pining for me, which I know is wrong...anyway, I look forward to answering those questions you posed in my journal so I can finally let myself process this. I'm usually really good at feeling my feelings, but I've definitely been suppressing my pain about this breakup and the only way for me to let go will be to acknowledge that I made a good decision and truly let us both move on. Much love Moya ❤

  • @sannaing4343
    @sannaing4343 Před 2 měsíci

    I recently subscribed to you and I love how your videos helps me ❤

  • @sharlotececilia
    @sharlotececilia Před měsícem

    Love the font you use in your texts, it;s so pretty

  • @adeletara9345
    @adeletara9345 Před 2 měsíci

    your videos help me so much girl

  • @meriem_1m
    @meriem_1m Před 2 měsíci

    That was so comforting 💗

  • @anieko6623
    @anieko6623 Před 2 měsíci

    thank you for sharing your feelings!! sending love 🫶🏼 i really liked the style and editing of the video and that we could read along with the advice 🤍

  • @AbstractIntellectus
    @AbstractIntellectus Před 2 měsíci

    It is a tough thing you are experiencing. But you are clever and brave. You will get through this.💙💙

  • @maitearmstrong1890
    @maitearmstrong1890 Před 2 měsíci

    thank you Moya, this rlly helped

  • @_____liah
    @_____liah Před 2 měsíci

    it's my bday in few days! i'm literallly the happiest for this one 🤍 we miss U angel !!!

  • @isabellamartinis
    @isabellamartinis Před 2 měsíci +4

    Many of us don't even understand the basic emotions, or we often label an emotion as something more general than what it really is. Learning/having an overview of the many emotions we feel will help us better understand ourselves.

  • @AvaReddick
    @AvaReddick Před 2 měsíci

    I am going through a breakup right now too. This post was really helpful, knowing I am not alone. I hope you are doing well❤

  • @VesicaChloeAstrology
    @VesicaChloeAstrology Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing such vulnerable parts of yourself. You inspire and I'm so glad to have found your page. x Chloe

  • @crustybugets
    @crustybugets Před 2 měsíci

    I needed this, thank you

  • @sahahar
    @sahahar Před měsícem

    thank you for this ⭐️

  • @marccolomayt82094
    @marccolomayt82094 Před 2 měsíci

    OMG NEW VLOGGYYY❤❤

  • @meow_lion
    @meow_lion Před 2 měsíci

    you're so amazing! thank you so much for advices. I'm going through rough time and it's so good just to hear these words ❤‍🩹

  • @user-zo5er2hn8m
    @user-zo5er2hn8m Před 2 měsíci

    i loved this, thank you so much

  •  Před 2 měsíci +1

    YAYYY NEW VIDEO!

  • @anle_reads
    @anle_reads Před měsícem

    loved this video and your honesty ❤ sending you a lot of energy and love x Anle

  • @into.sketch
    @into.sketch Před 2 měsíci +1

    You don’t know me but I am proud of you♥️

  • @abbienesbitt
    @abbienesbitt Před 2 měsíci

    Hi Moya, i love your content style! You’re one of my favourite comfort watches💖 it’s amazing to see a fellow Irish girlie do well!!
    what camera/s do you use xxxx

  • @nataliahofmeister
    @nataliahofmeister Před měsícem

    thanks for that, you are truly lovely

  • @leticiaguedesw
    @leticiaguedesw Před 2 měsíci

    te amo pra sempre