i want to be positive but i also want to be sad
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- čas přidán 12. 06. 2024
- hi sweet friends! 🦋 i was feeling very low and anxious this week.... 🫠 which inspired this very rambly spontaneous lil video!! today i'm talking podcast-style about the idea of positivity; how to embrace the difficulties of life's suffering (no matter what form it takes), how to be kind to ourselves as we navigate all the wonders of the human experience, and how to consciously foster optimism in our daily lives. I also discuss toxic positivity and how it helps no one to ignore your true emotions. I hope this inspires you to embrace your beautiful self and find a heart-rooted positivity to guide you in this life 💛
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: The Myth that Some People are Positive and Others Aren't
2:04 I felt very negative the last few days
4:42 Why We Feel We "Should" Be Happy (but expectations are the killer of joy lol)
6:30 All Suffering is Valid!!! Suffering is Part of the Human Experience
8:03 Why It's Hard to Stay Positive: Self-Comparison
9:20 Hormonal Fluctuations
10:46 Positivity is Effort
11:58 How Can You Train Your Brain to be more Positive? (LTP)
15:54 Casual Magic and Finding Joy in the Mundane ✨
17:47 Toxic Positivity !!
19:55 Positivity is so much work lol
21:25 ily guys so much 💌 pls remember that you're always enough.
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if no one has told you today, you are enough. 💛
hiiii friends!! welcome to this cosy, spontaneous lil video 🦋 let me know if you like the casual chatty style! lots of love
Hi Jade your channel helps me out a lot thanks.❤
Hi Jade, yes, I like it :)
Yesss❤❤ spontaneous is my vibe :)
Thank you so much for posting this! And I would love to hear more of those rambles in a podcast :)
Something like this on a long commute to school would definitely add some casual magic to my day
You're literally THE PERSON I would want a podcast from.
Same. I wonder if she has a podcast
Yeeaaaaasss sameee❤❤❤❤
Frrr
omg stop this is so cute
YES TO THIS!!!!
YES JADE, WE NEED TO HAVE A PODCAST DONE BY YOU🥺… I think I could listen to your voice and your way to see the world for hours and hours without never getting tired, I love you jade😭❤️
Casual chatty style is awesome. Feels like sitting together with bestie and talking. All vibes.
Trueee
yesss
I was surprised when you called this video a bit rambley, because I was so engaged and felt so seen though it all. I started taking notes!
It gave me a real life example of how we can be unnecessarily critical of ourselves when others are seeing only beauty and perfection.. immensely grateful for your content. ❤️
I LOVE the casual chatty videos!!🫶 ABSOLUTELY YES to the podcast✨
I’m going through similar emotions right now, and this video is exactly the reminder I needed 😭 thank you Jade!! 🩷
oh my god i just started crying. that video touched me so deeply. i've been pushing down some intense self worth struggles lately and hearing you talk about how you've been feeling validated my experience soo much. i think i didn't really dare to sit with the feelings and i kinda turned to toxic positivity. watching that video rn inspired me to take a step back and be more honest with myself. i got this. you got this. we all got this. 🦋✨
wait woahhhh this is so incredible to hear 🥹 i feel you DEEPLY with pushing down self-worth struggles, but sitting with them is the first step to embracing your full self!! all my love
Awwn Jade doing podcasts is a dream come true to me. I love you Jade and thank you for the inspiration 🫶
Yess same!
aaaaah thank you so much!!! noted 🤝🥹
Really needed this jade! I decided to take a gap year while my friends are all getting ready for uni, so i was starting to feel behind in life but this is already making me feel better!
oh wow, i'm so proud of you for following your gut and choosing the less trodden path 🦋 remember that everyone's on their own journey and you're never behind!! I'm sure you'll learn SO many skills in your gap year
Something very special about this energy. Your ramblings are appreciated.
this means a lot, thank you friend!
I can't even say how often I have thought to myself 'I wish Jade had a podcast', so YES, PLEASE MAKE A PODCAST. We all need it
love how this video felt so spontaneous and not heavily edited, simple and genuine for this kind of topic!
awhh thank you so much!! 🦋
Same it feels very raw and real, like it's something genuine and authentic!
Just watching the first 30seconds of this has made me happy!
gahhh this made ME smile !!
PLEASE pour your heart in rambly thoughts to your mic more often!! It’s calming and relatable - much needed. Thanks for that!
The video being all over the place and randomly is perfect. It shows just how our mind is and how it jumps from one thought to the other. I really liked this video and the format of it because it felt like talking to a good old friend. I really appreciate the fact that you can talk not just about the positive things that happen in your life, but also talk about the negative aspects of life. Thank you Jade for a new perspective about positivity and life in general!
And for all watching this video, don't forget you are not alone and all the bad things that you're going through right now will pass❤❤❤
I love this perspective, thank you so much for sharing!! 💐
So well put! 🌟
You can just tell Jade's such a genuinely kind person and cares for us all 💗💗
Thank you for being a friend out there somewhere. You are a really wonderful presence in my life, even if its virtually. I really appreciate your perspective, advice, and work. ❤
This video is so important for the older generation to see, I think all the stuff about trying to rewire your brain to think positively and be grateful is something I wish my parents could understand so that they can be happy and stop taking out their frustrations on my younger siblings. There is nothing anyone can do to help them be happy, they need to better understand their own minds to be happy with themselves.
Heyyy! This is my first ever comment on youtube, but I really wanted to say, that your little absolute cute video has comforted me so much right now!!
absolutely love this chatty style from you! we've found it so helpful and healing to reframe positivity as "loving presence", which touches on the acceptance you mention. like we can be completely sobbing our guts out, and start hugging and rocking ourselves, simultaneously feeling grief and love towards ourselves.
oh wow, 'loving presence' is such a gorgeous way to frame it 🦋 thank you for sharing
It’s all great and at the same time I think it’s important to not confuse finding positivity in things with devaluing your experience when it’s negative
jade!! Thanks to you encouraging me to revise i got my gcse results a few days ago and i never expected to score as highly as i did
AAAAAAH I'M SO PROUD OF YOU CONGRATS!!!!!! 👏 well done for all the hard work you put in, you absolutely deserve your high grades!! good luck with all your endeavours beyond
same ! :D i found jade's videos this year in march and I really think it gave me confidence to get good grades and change my attitude towards them!
@@oliviamae8807 That's amazing! You deserve so much goodness in your life including having an ambition and excitement! It's ok to feel insignificant and have self esteem issues but know that you are definitely significant and worthy and that you're more great than you might know! Best wishes :)
omg jade this is what i needed. in the last 2 years i always felt a little down and pressured to be grateful at family vacations and i was so mad at myself for some reason
so thank u so much for this video it helps a lot!
jade your videos always make me feel so seen!
I love the casual nature of this video. I love your room too so minimalist
Thank you for this video Jade!!!! It's helped me lotsss. I love this styleof video and feel like we 're friends too!😘
BIG BIG YES to a poadcast. It is wonderful to hear you. It helps me to organize my thoughts! Thank you Jade 🥰
A podcast made by you would be the best podcast 🥹
Jade this video is perfect ! one of the best videos you ever made I believe, you sound so authentic and real, and everything you said made sense! plz, make a podcast!
JADE THAT WAS AMAZINGG, PLEASE DO A PODCAST!!!!!!! so down for it/ literally a therapeutic talk!
thank you for this video jade it was just what i needed to hear atm
I really needed this before the beginning of my semester! I tend to speak negatively about myself and current times I also often felt guilty about my behaviour towards my friends as I started building up boundaries. I haven’t met my mentioned uni friends this summer but I really tried to change my mindset. You seem to have so many deep friendships, I’d enjoy you making a video about how you communicate your needs towards people close to you. I’m such a people pleaser so the conflicts mostly come from there. I want to please everyone at the same time but the only thing I gained is disappointment.
I feel you so much with negative self-talk and how it affects your relationships!! I really recommend finding a few people you feel safe enough to be vulnerable with and daring yourself to show them your full self. It's SO scary as a people pleaser to let people see less desirable sides of yourself, but I believe it's part of the path to deep friendship. You've got this
YES YES YES. We want this. Speaking from the heart, not structured and scripted 🦋🥰
it's the first time I ever hear somebody talk about the pressure of being grateful and I could not relate more to your words. I have been angry at myself for years for not being happy enough given all the opportunities I have and hearing your words just made me feel seen. so thank you
You are one of the most positive people I've come across. So, hearing you say that you are not positive all the time but you put in the effort to be just comforts me in a way and makes me believe I can learn that too. Thank you so much 😌✨
awhhh YESS we're all just messy and human and wonderfully trying to figure out this life
Jade, this is absolutely one of my favourite videos of yours!! There's so much gold and value in what you've shared and it's so incredibly uplifting and inspirational! I love how you touched on a variety of topics that can relate to feelings and the human experience. You're right that positivity does take time and practice to cultivate but I think it's worth acknowledging that when it does happen naturally, it feels amazing because you probably don't even realise how happy and positive you are! Still, working on positivity and happiness as habits is valid and worthwhile. You can end up feeling more positive in the long run and more often! Anyway, I feel like this is a video I would love to revisit again and again because of how touching and authentic it is. Thanks very much for pouring your heart out like this because it is special and so valuable! With that said, I very much support you doing a podcast and I hope you can benefit from it! :)
Just when I needed while drowning in my exams, feels like a miracle tbh thank you so much Jade
Best of luck! 🎉🎉
@@hucklebucklin aww thank you so much! you have luck in whatever u set your mind to
PLEASE do more of these Jade. This video really truly helped me gain perspective on my behaviours recently. Thank u so much I really appreciate it
oh wow, i'm so glad to hear!! thank you
Staying positive and motivated all the time comes with its own challenges. We appreciate your insights on this. Keep working hard.
I was listening to this and wishing it would never end. This was so relevant for what I'm going through today. Please, do the podcast. I would love to listen to it. ❤
I love you for talking about “a man’s search for meaning”. That book is life changing.
Needed this right now. Thank you!❤
And please do a podcast! I will definitely listen to it!!!
Eeeeep noted, thank you!! 🤝🌟
Jade, a podcast by you is gonna be a dream! I feel like you have such a soothing voice and such wonderful ideas to share with the world. Looking forward to listening to you while cooking.
hell yeah , i love cooking spaghetti while listening to podcasts
Thank you so much Jade! This video really made so many points more clearer for me. I love how you naturally and precisely speak about this topic.
I love tou Jade❤️! You have inspired me so much
I can’t explain to you what a hug it feels to watch your videos ❤️. Your content is a gift for this world Queen ✨
🥹 brb just crying in the corner at your lovely words, thank youuu!! ✨
Your voice gives me positivity ❤️
So we need podcast ❤
The new hair looks sooo gooddd on youu❤. It makes you look more youthful.✨
Regarding feeling negative/toxic positivity, I think we are taught to dismiss our negative emotions because "other people have it worse" and we feel like we're not allowed to be upset. But only letting ourselves to experience our feelings without judgement and knowing they will pass, allows us to feel spontaneously. Blocking "bad" emotions will block the "good" ones too. About positive affirmations, they do work. It feels strange at first, but once I started, after a few weeks and months I could see the change in how I view myself and set my boundaries 😊 Love listening to you Jade 🦋
I also very much like the casual chatty style and would love to listen to your podcast!!
We all need podcast from you jade 💗 ! This kind of videos are just the best ✨
Just what I needed now! I’m at the beach with my family and I was truly struggling to focusing on the moment. Instead I was focusing on how I should feel and I should behave. Maybe that’s because I’m going to leave home in about one month for University, and I kinda feel like I should be grateful for every moment that I now spend with my family. I think I’m going to try to meditate these weeks 💕
Thank you for sharing!! Good luck heading to university 🦋 soak up all the beautiful moments in between
Thank you for posting it!! :) I’m so grateful to find your videos and get so much help from them ❤️
Dear Jade,
Thank you very much for all these beautiful and interesting thoughts. Sometimes I feel bad and seek the reason for it. And when I think that I found it, I try everything to eliminate the reason. But it doesn't help to feel better, I only focus on the negative experience. It is difficult to know when you actually have to get active an do something against your pain, and when you better accept it.
loved this as ever jade, your videos always give me things to think about in my day and practices to use going forward, so thank you for your vulnerability and honesty in sharing how you feel! you're not alone in the shoulding!!
Thank you Jade for this video, I feel this so much. It's my birthday and watching this feels like a gift to me. The idea of you having a podcast seems amazing, keep going ❤
Hi Jade, this is your second video I see, after your vipassana one 🙏🦋 I agree with the other comments that this indeed felt so validating! Not rambly and instructured at all 🙏 Thanks so much for this, especially on the last day of the year, the ultimate oposite of toxic postivity 🙏❤❤❤
Lots of love xx
I’m watching this the first night in a new city I’m moving into for the next 12 months so your remark about the chill, rambly vibe of this video and that it feels like chatting with friends really touched me. I hope I will continuously find back the energy to put myself out there to make new friends, but I’m honestly suspecting that I’ll struggle with a bit of weird self consciousness and social anxiety.
Youre literally the most perfect person to create this kind of podcast, absolutely do this!!❤️❤️
oh my, Jade, your videos always come just in time ;-; thanks for everything you say and do!!! absolutely love this spontaneous (and genuin) vid, and yeah id love a podcast from you too
Thank you Jade for being so honest and open. I could relate so much with feeling pressure to feel good and grateful and not being able to accept a negative state of mind and fighting ist so much. And thank you for all the inspirational thoughts that you have given us! Btw I would love to listen to a podcast by you! 🦋
i just needed this sooo much, lots of love
I just love everything you say here and yes 100% a podcast by you would be awesome. this video was exactly what I needed today. i haven't slept for two nights :( but thank you so much for making this video.
I'm so glad u posted this!!! I resonated with literally everything you said
Jade, thank You so so much for this video! SO useful for me today, you remembered me about the things once I practiced in my life but as You've said: positivity requires constant practice. I'd love to listen to the podcast and watch more of Your videos just like this one. Spontaneous ideas are usually once that can change the world ;)
I don't usually comment but had to because this is just such a beautiful video; it made my day so much better by putting things in perspective! It really felt like speaking to a friend and it is so kind of you to speak so openly from the heart. Thank you Jade and enjoy your holiday! (Also, a podcast would be amazing)!
I would 100% listen to your podcast! You bring so much light to my life with your videos, the podcast would be such an incredible addition!
Bless the structural chaos of this video! Needed to hear this! Thanks for new insights and beautiful quotes x love alwayssss
Jade, this is exactly what I need right now. Thank you so much. Thank you
this video was so cathartic and healing for me , thank you jade 😭💟
Thank you Jade! This video is such a gift for me today. I had a really horrible day and couldn't be positive at all. This video really helped me to embrace my self a little more and just how the day went and what I am feeling. You really made me feel loved and accepted so thank you so much! ❤
you´re videos are so wholesome and I always feel a magical boost when watching them
You have no idea how much ive been struggling and you posted this video😢 i thank you for this podcast-like video❤
I'm so so sorry to hear you've been struggling. Sending you the biggest virtual hug and the strength to get through whatever is causing you difficulty. All the love 🦋
I loved the video, Jade. I think I was feeling like you did, a bit down, but I hadn't recognized it to myself. You helped me do that and also taught me an important lesson about being optimistic, thank you a lot💜
I've been watching your videos for a very long time but its the first time I'm commenting on one... This video -in my belief- was by far the best I've seen you make. It felt so honest and true and beautiful and knowing that the beauty of it comes from the brutal honesty that not everything is great not that not even someone as positive as you is always happy was so wholesome and touching to watch. My tears came down my eyes at the end of your video. And my casual magic of the day is this video. Thank you..💚🤍
I enjoyed the casual chat, it’s good to have different types of video and this one is special too. I was not feeling well in the morning after a very hectic and exhausting weekend, so I took the day off and this video felt just right for this rainy day in Prague. Thank you ❤
Also, podcast is a great idea 🦋
no I'd love love love a podcast from you!✨something definitely to brighten up any day :D
DEAR JADE, WE NEED A PODCAST FROM YOU. I was listening to your episode on Deep Dive again and again, and I wished you had your own podcast so much! Love you!
wait really tHIS IS SO SO SWEET THANK YOU!!!!! noted 🤝🥹
8 mins in the video, thank you so much, exactly what I needed. I relate to challenges you discussed about in the start so much, it is amazing to hear that I’m not the only one with these thoughts.
This video was like im talking to a friend! Thanks jade, stay safe n happy
hi friend, big love
@@UnJadedJade oh and i am really willing to listen a podcast from you!!
thank you so much for making this video I really needed it 🫶 I loved the chatty style, it felt so real and honest! also you should absolutely make a podcast!!
thank you so so much!! 🥹💌
i verrry rarely leave comments but i had to this time as this video was somehow EXACTLY what i needed right now. thank you jade. you are magic :) xxx
this kind of spontaneous chatty video is so comforting and inspiring!! I love listening to you talk and would absolutely looove it if you did a podcast!
I'm so glad you decided to post this! I really needed this today. Thank you :)))
omg PERFECT timing i needed this so much today!!
Absolute YES to a podcast!!!
Hi Jade! It would be so useful if you could expand some more on that ‘lack of deep amazement’ feeling you mentioned. I’ve experienced it a lot this summer and haven’t been able to figure out why, so it would be so helpful to hear it coming from another person, as I thought I was the only one who felt this way! Also, a podcast coming from you would absolutely make my year - you’re the perfect person for it! 🤍☺️
Please make podcasts. I love your voice so much, it's really calming.
needed the reminders in this video Jade
I would love a podcast by you Jade! You are so thoughtful and inspiring and you explain things in a very clear and easy to understand way. I think you would be able to discuss a lot of interesting ideas in a podcast and I would love to listen to it!
awhhh noted, thank you so much!! 🤝💌
thank you Jade, i needed this
We NEED a podcast from you, I could listen to you talk for hours, you inspire me so much ❤
hi! i just found your account a few days ago and this is the first video of yours i’ve watched! your voice and presence is so comforting and calm. i already know that if you were to create a podcast, i would TOTALLY listen!
Hormonal fluctuations are the worst for me this year. I know they're responsible for most of my sadness and I want to feel better, but they come with this greater force that always pull me further down.
Thank you for this calming video ❤️❤️💜
Rambly videos are the best! And absolutely yes to the podcast 😍
Omg, yes! A podcast would be AMAZING!! 🦋
Jade this video is gorgeous ♥️🫶🏻 thanks
Thank you so much Jade 🥰 . Recent years I experienced a lot of heartbreak and it's been easy to spiral down in negativity. I want to rewire my mind, cause it shapes our lifes.
You’re so incredible wow sending my love right back ❣️
I'd love an unjaded jade podcast! your video about your experience at the silence retreat I listened to 2 times because I loved your voice and loved listening to the experience.