How to Manage Multiple Interests
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- čas přidán 9. 05. 2024
- How can you deal with too many interests?
How can you juggle many hobbies at once?
This was one of my worst struggles.
I'd jump from skill to skill, hobby to hobby, business plan to business plan.. all for little success in anything.
But over years of experimentation, I've settled at a fine balance.
You CAN pursue many interests AND make progress in each.
With some careful decisions, sacrifices and time-management techniques, it's possible for you to become a well-rounded person.
One who satisfied every aspect of their curiosity and achieves success in many faculties of life.
If you see the 'Renaissance Man' or 'Polymath' as an ideal worth labouring towards, then you'll benefit from this balance.
This video is everything I've learned in my own journey, for staying focused enough to progress all while branching out to build a diverse skill stack.
Enjoy!
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00-00:30 We Are Generalists
00:30-1:20 The Danger of Many Interests
1:20-2:45 My Testimony
2:45-4:13 Choosing What Matters
4:13-5:15 Time Management
5:15-7:20 Design Your Plan
7:20-8:35 Defer to the Future
8:35-10:28 Reframe, Don't Replace
10:28-12:30 Avoiding Creative Jealousy
12:30-14:25 Can You Push Through the Struggle?
14:25-14:29 What's Your Best Advice?
The full quote is : “Jack of all trades master of none, but still better than a master of one” so I think the author agrees with you
Some interpretations leave the last part off, but yeah I prefer that one
this feels like enlightenment
This was a quote by Shakespeare. The whole point was to say the opposite of whatever everyone takes from only half of a quote. now we’re at the point where we do not know who said it why they said it or even how we are supposed to use it.
@@Jakerbryantlmao
It’s like your stat sheet being an even spread instead of solely relying on one skill but that being said you’re the marker of your own talents and hobbies and you can be the master of All. It’s good quote to help guide you but things like that can never define you.
I've never felt so understood by a stranger in my life
Thanks, it's an issue not discussed enough
@odysseas__ glad to have been recommended you and hear your perspective
this comment is relatable.
Same, I’ve struggled with this my whole life and most elders see it as something bad bc they think I should only focus on getting a job and make money but that’s what makes me feel trapped and I hate it!
@@odysseas__ Hi
Love the quote
“You can have it all, just not at once.”
A great quote, also the one that goes "you can only eat what you have on your plate" (or something like that).
wait that hit lmaooaoa
I like how CZcams decided I need to get this recommendation based on the stuff I watch.
My yt algorithm is like "yo chill down, i dunno what you're on about anymore"
My yt feed right now:
Violin stuff, engineering, space time, micro biology, programming, drum and bass, bread and baking, atla, ...
And the list goes on
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Bro you can't be literally me more than this 😂
@@BC-bn7xdlol true. yt is now confused which topic to feed me
Could not be more true lol. 🖐️
True 💯
Avoiding Creative Jealousy is big. I can relate.
Yes, same. I'm glad the video pointed it out, because it can really crank up the anxiety and feeling of lower self worth. I need to be more conscious of this.
Agreed. And it seems like if more people heard this nugget of truth, we could cure a lot of anxiety and depression that is rampant in some parts 👀 🌎
Yesss i hate it, and social media exacerbates it
It indeed is, specially for people who already suffer from low self-esteem. So glad this video pointed it out. I very often have to limit my time on socials because of this.
Same my mother is a cellist and my father played the violin and I get really sad because I never really learned an instrument, but on the other hand I know they will never paint as good as I do and thats okay everyone has different skills, the world would be pretty boring otherwise
As the saying goes, “The master has failed more times than the student has tried.” - Somebody
❤.
"I'd rather be kicked once than kicked 10,000 times" - Bruce Li
Pretty sure it was
“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks 1 time but the man who has practiced 1 kick 10,000 times.”
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@@eshanahmed2483it’s funny how distorted quotes like that get, thanks for clarifying
This guy casually provided the answers to my life in 15 minutes
I feel like I'm seen through the phone it scares me a little, like these are the thoughts I never shared with the world
I second you two. Just can’t emphasise enough how badly I needed someone to explain me this and take me through this dilemma.
Haha cheers, wish I had my own answers..
@@odysseas__what is the most pressing question you’d liked to be answered?
exactly
"If I can't avoid it, I may as well get good at it."-knocked me off.
This isnt just advice for chronic hobbyism, this is advice for life.
Chronic hobbyism sounds pessimistic lol
@@CrisOnTheInternet it definitely can feel that way sometimes! Lately I feel like balancing all my hobbies is more of a burden. I'm in a position where I have to give some stuff up for now
You’re not exaggerating at all, i feel like these interests are exciting me and, at the same time, overwhelming me. I envy people who can consistently focus on something they’re good at 😅
hobbyism?
@@g00blecksave some hobbies for later! I’m saving learning the guitar for when I’m an old lady because I already know how to knit lol
1. Write down hierarchy of interests.
Write down skill hobbys. Ask whats most important
2. Time management.
3. What can i defer to the future.
4. Everyday tasks you could find enjoyable
5. Following interest is not always fun.
Also consider that your interests are never alone. They are not simply your interests, sometimes the interests you have are for interactive purposes, or simply to 'know' stuff, so that you have some basic 'minimum'. Sometimes it is to improve yourself, or improve those around you, or to make someone else proud. Same with friends. Sometimes a friend in school is just to protect yourself, to not be alone, sometimes.. it it to make an actual friend, once you two prove trustworthy. Mathematics is a basic minimum to me, I do not love it.. However.. Knowing Complex Analysis, Algebra, and other topics is a good minimum baseline, It is true I could have picked other baselines, but I considered that a good one to pick.
Do people that make these lists take into consideration that they’re taking away views (possibly income) from these creators, and disregarding the efforts they put into the videos?
@@ccwwbb We all adapt ourselves to what our loved ones and the world demands of us.
I would add “What is important to me now?” Also “Why is this important?”
@@ccwwbbI felt the same way before but the creator liked it so I think he’s cool with it. Also some people will still watch to either verify the information or get more of the details they came for from the creator who they came for. I read this comment before watching and Im still going to watch the whole thing cuz I want more context.
the desire to do many things and just wanna rest all the time is where im dangling!
I’ve been there, too. For me, it was rooted in perfectionism. Knowing I can’t do it perfectly, will keep me from starting. I’ve had to learn, it can’t be all or none. Some, is better than none. 💛
I think you can rationalize your way out of that: 1. Ensure youretake care of balanced diet and good sleep. 2. Remind urself there's only 24 hrs in a day and that point of memento mori. 3. The most important moment you can change is now. 4. Fatigue is often a stress/avoidance response. 5. If u just get started u will be further along toward ur goal than avoiding it altogether. Make the checkbox item "get started" instead of "start and finish the thing". Just by getting off the couch and winning that mental battle is an achievement. It's the hardest part!
I’m going to watch this again it was so good, thank you ❤
exactly lmao
"In a span of 10 minutes youve been exposed to the results of years maybe decades of practice and experience in 50 different crafts and hobbies" That sums it up perfectly
Yep. I want to be a marathon runner, a painter, a fiction writer, a comic artist, a picture book author, a prolific reader, an audiobook narrator, a publisher of multiple podcasts, a songwriter who records and releases albums, and much more. For now I find that writing down tasks I want to do everyday to chip away at these goals helps me continue to always make forward progress instead of watching CZcams all the time. Great video. Nice tips. This topic has been on my mind a lot lately.
Absolutely. It's the mundane everyday that gives you the results you look for. Thanks too
I feel like modern society has conditioned us to think of all of those things in strictly a professional sense. So when you say your want to do and be all of those things, people think it is arrogant to work at being them all.
@@Sayntario yeah, you dont need be a professional in every skill, but u still can get good with time in multiple things in life, just dont take it so seriously and just progress slow, but still, its how i deal with the life and enjoy this.
That's so weird I do all of these apart from the publisher stuff. I have the blessing of not having to be enslaved by a job so I have all the day to do all these. It's a choice I made once I realised that I'm gonna die one day so I'm making the most of it. I just took up snorkelling last week and its awesome soon I'm doing scuba tonight I'm playing music at a vodka distillery.
@noompsieOG How do you manage to do all of that, are you rich or on welfare?
As generalist, I learned that we can achieve anything, but not at once
Valid
not all at once but you can do it all
I’m over 50. I became disabled sooner than I expected. I am acutely aware that I don’t have too many decades ahead of me… And I still found a lot of value in this video.
Been struggling with skill addiction my entire life. Gymnastics, martial arts, magic, painting, woodwork, music, fishing, jewlery making and plenty others.
Never seen it phrased like that, interesting. Cool selection though
magic?????
edit: i realize you are talking about sleight of hand and not literal wizardry
@theRonbert haha yes. Believe it or not, out of any skills I may have, it's probably magic that I've found the most useful and, in many ways, has helped me with other skills. I think it's due to the way you have to practice it and the understanding of the nuances. The subtle ways you use your hands and how you can direct people's attention. There's just little understandings you pick up from it.
@@odysseas__ thank you
Hello there, violin teacher here! Your practice habits are actually great! Replace one 30-minute practice session with a 30-minute lesson with an in-person teacher and you’ll probably unlock more progress than you expect. Three half-hour practice sessions a week won’t get you into a major symphony, but it will definitely get you to a satisfying place where you can express yourself through your instrument. But yes, thank you for this video. Like many of us here, I need this reminder from time to time.
Beautiful way to look at idea of practicing anything. 🤌🏾
Thanks, I'm relieved to hear it from authority! Will definitely do that once I can
acknowledging this is so huge, you can enjoy something without being a master in it, hard to grasp for me but it is so important!
100% this! I started teaching violin to kids for a year and since then I can see the tremendous progress they make from never touching the violin to playing a concert for their family. It really is rewarding. You can practice at home, but without a guide you’ll eventually get stuck somewhere
Yeah, as a piano teacher I was actually impressed at the volume of practice he mentioned doing!
The issue is knowing WHAT and HOW to practice efficiently, and a teacher could really help with that 👌
Another important point is that when you get good enough at something it becomes more automated and it takes less space in your brain and easier for you to do.
Facts and then u can keep on finding more things u want to be good at
This is so true
For sure, that's a great point
great point mate!! i found that in playing guitar, practicing gets easier and easier, and it's easier to allocate more time to it too when you advance. also a good training program is something that eases practicing very much
yess I absolutely can vouch for this....great point!!
I'm watching this video while having other 30 browser tabs opened
Haha same
Just 30?
This is exactly what I needed to hear.
As someone who wants to do cinematography, cooking, language learning (currently Japanese), drawing, content creation, travel, dancing, soccer, and so much more yet struggles to even get up in the morning and having to battle my mind always saying "you're so lazy, start doing something, you're not doing enough," it sucks. I'm always met with the "I'm too young" or "I cant afford this" and then I'm left waiting for when I can start and constantly keep on seeing these videos of "start now. the second best option is today" and everything is contradicting itself.
This is exactly the reality check I needed. Thank you stranger!
you have no idea how specific this video is to me, i saw the title and i immediately clicked. there is nothing more beautiful than the feeling of being understood :)
Glad to hear it!
Same, nice to catch some good ideas to avoid endless possibilities and aspirations
That profile picture is somehow beautiful.
Same, but I was expecting some detailed plan and more strategy oriented that was more practical, but I am really glad it went in this unexpected way, focusing on the more overall important thing.
I immediately did your journaling prompt, but with a twist: I made an x-y plot where x is "how sad I'd be if I never explored this deeply" and y is "how excited I feel about this right now." I helped me identify dangerous disctactions (high excitement, low sadness if I never did it) and also my priorities. Thanks for this useful video!
Omg, I love this and I'm absolutely going to steal this practice.
I'd love to see a picture of how this looks like. Seems like a great idea, but I'm a bit confused haha
That sounds fantastic
Well thought out!
@@Oscar12640what are you confused about? Draw a horizontal line (x) vertical line (y) that are touching on one end to form a half-square. Then plot your points based on the criteria. The higher up a point is, the more excited you are. The farther right it is, the more sad you would be if you never did it. Ideally, you want your goals to be as far up-right as possible, and realistically, they probably arent
I'm a piano teacher, a Maths teacher, an English teacher and a Martial Arts teacher. I've learned a lot about many things, and being this way makes me both proud and sad about myself. I'd love to be a master of one thing, and really know it as many people know. For example with piano, having studied for 20 years I can play very complicated pieces, but not as well as a Concert Pianist. Same with martial arts, I'm not bad, but definitely people who have dedicated their life exclusively to this training can beat me. So in the end I feel like I know nothing and that I can't do anything, but some days where faced with certain situations I realize how much I actually know and can do, how weird I am, and how worthy it was leading a life as a learner. So I could probably say I'm good at one thing, and I do consider this, one thing: Learning-Teaching.
This was an awesome video. Thank you so much.
00:00 🌱 Embrace curiosity and exploration, but manage it effectively to avoid diluting your focus across too many activities.
03:19 📝 Prioritize your interests by ranking them based on importance to create a realistic plan for improvement.
04:27 ⏰ Implement effective time management techniques such as scheduling on Google Calendar to align with your priorities.
05:23 🗓 Allocate time according to your priorities, giving more time to what matters most while still making room for less important activities.
07:30 🚫 Temporarily defer less important interests to focus on the ones that matter most in the present.
08:53 🔄 Reframe existing daily activities to improve skills without adding extra time to your schedule.
10:42 📱 Be mindful of shiny object syndrome triggered by social media, and focus on your own valuable skills rather than feeling inadequate.
13:01 🎢 Understand and navigate the emotional stages of skill development, pushing through challenges to achieve mastery.
When you're watching hundreds of youtube videos to get and feel better about what you're doing and how you're living. And then you watch this one. And you finally turn off the device. Thank you.
I appreciate it, hope it can inspire you into action
Beautifully said
The clarification on why I feel bad watching TikTok was so enlightening. Thank you!
Yeah it hit me hard too when I first realised it. Much appreciated!
Tiktok is for the weak
Aww! And feel bad watching Instagram 😔
Funny food for thought friend: I joined tik tok a few years ago and the beginning when it asked for my interests, I decided to put things I enjoy, but not things I creatively strive for (ex: I’m a photographer, I did NOT follow photographers). Instead I followed mostly comedy and maybe sometimes I would search ‘makeup trends’ if I had a day I wanted that. But I ONLY followed if the creator themselves seemed genuinely sweet cool smart or funny.
I potentially only got lucky.. but Tik Tok is so weirdly enjoyable for me and somehow I’m not addicted to it (especially weird because of how terrible Instagram made me feel vs how much I still get SUCKED in if I ‘visit’ IG world).
It’s just a thought. An experiment. Next time you open a new social media account.. follow people and topics you LIKE but don’t aspire to 🤷🏼♀️
The renaissance did not end, it continues in many of us, pure gold video , thanks.
This is one of the last things my grandpa sent me before he died, thank you
That's a nice connection to have because I think this video has quite a lot of value for our lives. Your grandpa must have cared about you and your life path.
We should embrace polymathy! It’s more humane than excessive specialisation.
Definitely!
Uh huh huh first world views. There's a reason people wanted to be specialist. It's less work and stress.
@SimEon-jt3sr It's a fair observation.
I am from Mexico. I am in the process of documenting and analyzing how excessive specialization, in controlled contexts, is harmful to innovation and the economy and the development of institutions for the long term, especially for a new era of automation and AI.
Of course, polymathy needs to be implemented and promoted from all areas of a society. I am aware that a working person cannot allocate time to other activities because of inequality issues.
My proposal for public policy in Mexico is aimed at addressing socioeconomic problems and changing the paradigm in education to ensure that future generations can develop and consolidate their intrinsic human characteristics, which are polymaths.
The polymathic vision must be democratized and for this there must be multisectoral collaboration. In one way or another, many times we are already polymaths, but we do not continue with this development because of many institutions.
@@miguelmojica8485 Yes!~This is real diversity and tolerance. Not the crap we had in the 2010's. Fuck that woke shit.
Well I think both approaches are fair. It's a rather complex topic, but it has no moral bearing on a person, the path they follow.
I am an author, a reader, a musician, I love making clothes, and I'm a BookTuber... I do all these things after work. Sometimes it's so overwhelming (especially keeping up with my CZcams channel), but I can't let go of any of these things. I love them all. They give me energy, but sometimes I forget they also take a lot of energy.
I feel better now that I began to divide my time into blocks, like you suggest, but I find it hard to keep to it :) I can't believe there are so many people that don't have a hobby, while I'm here trying to make the most out of every single second! 😂 I feel like I barely waste time - even while listening to youtube I'm busy. I need to get better at making a schedule :) going to work on improving that!
Thank you for the interesting video. Great topic!
Well said, that's exactly how it feels. Thanks and good luck!
Clothes? Really? That is AWESOME!! Something we use every single day of our lives and yet, we walk around off a shelf from some same story, looking like oatmeal shaped in Glad trash bags.
@@espartaco2028 I like the Victorian style, which is very hard to find in the stores, or even online! :)
@@odysseas__ Yeah I want to do this but I feel that I can't able do this. Any advise?
An author, musician AND a seamstress? Literally all of my goals 😭 how long did it take for you to get decent at sewing may I ask?
He went from Logo design to icon design, that man is wild!
"If I can't avoid it, I may as well get good at it"
'Defer to the future' makes me think of Derek Sivers quote: don't be a donkey. A donkey can't choose between food or water and then dies from a lack of both. Pick one, pursue it, then do the other in the future.
Crazy how strangers can understand your struggle better than family.
Too right!!! My mum is always saying oh you haven't finished that yet or you havnt started that or this yet ..I have just been diagnosed with ADHD and I'm 44 I still feel like she tries to control me . This guy 👆has just literally unlocked my brain
crazy how people in similar circumstances with similar problems, which families and children don't actually share, are similar
see lindybeige's "never trust your agent"
this is probably one of the hardest things to do. im glad people are willing to tell others what they can do to succeed
I wanted to spend my time trying different things to keep myself occupied but I failed to realize that I was out of focus while thinking of multiple stuff at once. This video came as a true life changer. Thanks mate 🙌
I don’t know HOW CZcams recommended me this but I have been struggling with this thought so much! There is a million things I want to do but I also wanna rest and chill and just smell the flowers but just feel like there is not enough time for it all!
Smelling the flowers is just as important!
Same here
OK... some advice from a multi-interested, multi-talented dude with a 28-year career in design and product development and art and teaching... The multiple-interests-dilemma has been an issue for me since art school. After reading all the books on "scanner-personalities" and "refuse to choose advice" I came across Emily Wapnik's book - and then it dawned on me: most "Multi-Talentism" is just a layman's term for ADD/ADHD.
Last year, I finally bit the bullet and got tested for ADHD (and Aspergers)... BINGO! After experimenting with a few different medications I now can pursue multiple interests with much greater success AND don't feel restless and like a failure all the time! My output has increased, my motivation is improving and finally can fully enjoy being a multi-interested person, now that I know the neurological reason for it. So, if you are multi-interested but can never finish a task, consider looking into the ADHD/ADD thing.
I've heard about this link often, glad to see it turned around for you
Exactly my thought😊
I'm really glad you've figured out the neurological reason for being a multi-interested person! I had a similar journey in finding a biological reason, although I don't have ADHD. I learned about the three doshas according to Ayurvedic medicine - Vata, Pitta and Kapha. Basically everyone has either one, two or rarely three dominant doshas. People with a Vata constitution are similar to people with ADHD in the sense that we get bored more easily, that we need to have multiple activities we can switch between, otherwise we are actually unhappy. Having too much Vata can actually lead to ADHD. Learning about the doshas has been super valuable for me in accepting that it's okay to have many interests and not being "a master of one", because I don't actually want that and I wouldn't be happy with it. Dr. K from HealthyGamerGG has some great videos in explaining the doshas for anyone interested!
I don't have ADHD, but I do have obsessive compulsive personality disorder (ocpd, not ocd), and I also manage multiple interests at a time. After some therapy, I've learned how to keep them hobbies (because they were almost like a full time job in the past). I'm very serious at studying my passions hahahaha but I'm now comfortable with taking a break from them.
@@isadurikaI like your approach: getting some professional to look into your behavioral patterns so you can find the neurological / psychological reasons for said patterns. That's a solid foundation for lasting progress!
Thank you dude.
This is Perfect Timing for me.
I've been going thru this lately.
A lot of changes happening in my life.
And with my multi interests, I've been struggling in this "specialized" society making me so damn overwhelmed.
As someone who has put so much pressure on myself that I burn out and feel shame for not practicing, I can also speak to a few things I've learned that may sound counterintuitive to your video, but I think they could compliment your ideas, they just have their time and place:
1) It's okay to only practice for two minutes sometimes.
2) It's okay to let a hobby go for a while, even if it feels important to you.
3) It's okay to chase the joy in a hobby until you feel curious enough to take on the more challenging parts.
4) Having constant contact with someone who also does that hobby can make a WORLD of a difference in your motivation.
These are great points
This is totally me. I dive deeply into different hobbies and personal development. I manage this by diving as deep as I can, as quickly as I can, so that I can get a sense of how much time I will need to commit to the task in order to achieve a high skill at it. This helps me narrow down my true interests but gives me the chance to explore more hobbies or options.
I did something similar, it worked a treat. Focused hard into one skill for a few months, then left with clarity and.. an extra skill, with the decision to pursue it further
I really enjoyed this video. I’m almost 60 and have struggled with having a ton of interests all my life. My best advice is to take advantage of where you are and utilize the resources that are available. He’s absolutely right that you don’t have to do everything now and to realize your life will change as time goes on and will be full of transitions.
For example, I lived in a major city for 20 years. During that time I took full advantage of living there: exploring the city, going to concerts, theater, enjoying restaurants, going out with friends, attending lectures, enjoying parks, meeting people, going to meetups, etc. Now, I’m retired and living somewhere else and in the middle of a transition. It’s been a bit of a challenge but now I’m trying to set up a schedule where I don’t burn myself out with all the things I want to do. 😊
well done
Love that story, it's a perfect example. Thanks too!
I have always thought that this world is so beautiful, vast and precious that my biggest regret is not being able to live 1.000 years so I can learn all the things that my mind marvels all. You name it, music, painting, astronomy, biology, physics, math, history, etc. Sometimes I feel weird because nobody else is marveling at the world the way I do, I thought those humans were long dead.
But this video is refreshing, to learn human curiosity is alive and many can relate to this.
another tip that I have for people like me that get excited a lot about learning different things:
ask yourself, do you actually wanna put all the time into learning that skill? think through the process and decide if you wanna go through all of that.
at least that's what helped me list my priorities :)
This has been bothering me since I was 16. Glad to meet someone similar.
Yep, it's a lifelong annoyance. Hope it goes well for you
same here brother. gave up playing an instrument as a teenager, and now that i’m older i realize i just needed better time management lmao.
I want to be a singer-songwriter. I want to be a a published fiction writer. I want to be an actress. I want to be a cinematographic youtuber. I want to do all this professionally. I also want to keep participating in my various side hobbies - crocheting, photography, skateboarding, reading, language learning (currently learning french which is my 4th language), clay art work, sketching & painting, Morse code, cooking & baking, instruments (piano, guitar), becoming ambidextrous, etc. I'm also only 15 and I'm glad I watched this video. I'm slowly realizing the truths of what i truly want and how to achieve it, and also what to let go and what to postpone. It feels like I'm always in a vicious cycle of tackling everything all at once, spending every moment of my time not taken up by school or sleep in my various interests, burning out spectacularly, picking myself up, and repeat. Every tip in this video really resonated with me. It'll be a struggle but I hope to implement true time & stress management in my life from now on, and also prioritizing what I love the most while not relegating the main reason I love my life - spending time doing "nothing" with my friends & family.
Amazing to see such a range. Hope all goes well for you
Very wise for a 15 years old. Wish I had that mindset at your age. Keep going ✨
I'm also like this. I think prioritizing the best out of these that can secure you financially is the first thing to start with. Then slowly incorporate new stuff. Rotating hobbies are also nice way to keep life less boring.
You're so similar to me, I literally want to do so much as if explore everything this world has to offer from study about marine to becoming an actress it's weird how I simultaneously want to explore individual aspects of everything and this infinite curiosity never ends
you sound like a clone of me oh my gosh
Good video. I’m currently finishing up medical school and all throughout school I have had to find a balance between studies, writing music, reading, cooking, meditating, and working out. Balancing everything brings me the most joy in life, although it is a significant challenge. Others act like it’s impossible, but if you’re intentional, as you laid out, it is worthwhile.
Absolutely, it's tough but worth every drop of sweat. Good luck!
Bro your video was the best one I've watched over the past 15 years of seeing Yt vids and im not your classic meme watching guy. Keep getting better !
Thank you so much for your work !
I really needed this. Because of me having the desire to do many things, I have never grown. I'm almost 30, and yet I have achieved nothing. Thank you for this video. I believe that God must have caused me to come across it.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Sounds like you've achieved some level of awareness. Consider yourself lucky. Some people never get there. It's all uphill from here buddy :)
I feel the same way - I focus on the things I want to do that I haven't yet and that's makes me feel like I haven't done anything... A fun exercise is to write down your life's story as if you're telling a complete stranger - you start to realize all the things you did that you don't count because you already did them!
I feel the same, I'm 26
Just to note, the quote ALWAYS gets cut short, and therefore the meaning is completely changed. The full quote is actually:
“A Jack of all trades is a master of none, but still always better than a master of one”.
Fantastic video as always!
This is also wrong lol (quite obviously, considering that a master surgeon is sometimes exactly what you need).
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_of_all_trades
Thanks! And yeah a great way to spin it on its head. Of course there's moments where you want a master, but in general, its true
It's a mixed interpretation but both are right depending on the context, as you say
This made my morning! Thank you!
It’s “oftentimes better than a master of one”, and not “always”, which is much more applicable to real life. Sometimes, you do need to be or need a person to be specialized in one thing
Glad to see someone else is doing what I'm doing when it comes to hobbies and managing time.
Dude, everyday I scroll youtube looking for self improvement videos, and I've been watching tons of them every week for years, this video was so far the BEST video I've seen in a long time, I'll watch this everyday because I'm this kind of person, master in graphic designer and working as it for 17 years, professional DJ for 9 years, event producer for 9 years, actress for 12 years, percussionist and singer for 10 years, in a serious relationship with cook for 7 years and everyday I came up with a new interest to learn. The only thing I have to say is THANK YOU, your video gave me hope and a method to follow
I have a 50 item list of things that I want to do but because it’s so long I don’t do any of them. I browse CZcams. Fortunately, I landed on this video which is just what I needed. I have whittled my list down to 4 primary items and 3 secondary ones. Your suggestion has perfectly fitted my needs. Thank you so much. Now I just have to take action.
Much appreciated, and I'm glad to see you jump on it immediately. Good luck!
Taking action is the hardest step, and continuous action is even harder. The happiness over time chart explains this very well.
The best thing one can do is to never use any social media without it being an intent of yours, instead of using it out of opportunity and boredom. Don't be a slave to it. Assign hours or appropriate moments where you allow yourself to use it and disallow when there was no planned intent beforehand.
The avoid creative jealousy almost made me cry. So real! Thank you for those words!
This might be my favorite video of all time. Not only did it touch on every anxiety I’ve had for years, but it’s reassuring, knowing that someone achieved something that I thought was possible. a while ago I wrote out every single one of my hobbies, and then highlighted the ones that meant the most to me. in the moment, he brought me comfort I was able to settle down a little bit. But hearing you talk about your hierarchy makes me want to go back and actually focus on that same practice I started a few years ago.
This is probably the most important video I've ever watched/will ever watch. Thank you for your insight.
I am 65 and I am going through this now. You are a great teacher. New sub.
Thanks, and good luck in all your pursuits!
I also teach at a college here in Massachusetts. Our students can benefit from your thoughts/ideas as well. I will make them aware and show this in class.
Glad someone is here with the same feeling of not wanting to be boxed in
Just discovered your channel and wanted to tell you, you seem like such a genuinely nice person, your speaking skills are very good, and you obviously think a lot about the way you write your videos, great job!
Haven’t started the video yet, but I cannot express how quickly I clicked this video when I saw the title.
Edit: Watched the video. This is the most valuable piece of media I’ve watched in a long, long time. Thank you!!
It's so comforting to know that so many of us feel this excited overwhelm. I've had to learn so many of these tips through experience along the way. What has worked best for me is what you mentioned, choosing the ones that are most relevant for the time of my life that I am in. Deferring to the future the other hobbies, but in a hopeful way, something to look forward to when the time is right rather than a procrastination.
I just started college and I developed a few side interests such as drawing, game development and music producing, but I was really struggling with making solid improvements to each individual hobby, since I struggled with allocating time to them, this video was really helpful, especially the calendar part and the last tip. Thank you so much, keep up the good work!
Nice diverse range there, hope you can achieve all you want!
I didn't knew THIS WAS THE EXACT VIDEO I NEEDED in my current situation surrounded by all my multiple hobbies.
Really thanks a lot!
Such a thoughtful video; cannot really express how grateful I am for having come across it!! Thank you for your time, all clarity, effort and words 🖤
I always thought why am I like this? I have certificates in Music, dance and recitation, art, Ceramics, graphic design, 3D animation. I am happy that I explored all the things that I liked by my early 30s, that now I'm more clear about what matters the most, what I like the most to do and what I will be able to maintain as my hobby. Though yet I have some more interests to explore that I couldn’t in the past.
Managing time is the hardest part here that I still struggle with. I can't manage more than two different focused works. So my mom alwayas told me, you are going to be jack of all and master of none. But I mastered one thing that I put my most focus in. So finding out one major interest is very important I realized.
Btw, thank you for this video! Relieved that I'm not the only one like this in this era. 😄
This channel has quickly become my personal favourite, keep that going
same
Grateful to hear that, thanks!
In such a hyper-stimulating age it’s nice to see other people struggling with managing their time. I was starting to think I was the only one! Thanks very much for this!!
Thank you for making this video, as someone with more interests and hobbies than could be explored in a lifetime it seems, it’s encouraging to hear your techniques for focusing and prioritizing interests. I’m excited to see how far I can go after deferring some interests to the future. there is time, there’s no rush
I feel so GUILTY when I don’t work on a particular craft. Oh and don’t let it be a Saturday afternoon when I truly don’t have anything else to do. Sometimes the only thing I want to do is make something but in that moment I have no ounce of motivation to get up and do anything. And later I feel awful for wasting another day. The bizarre part is, I have plenty of ideas and plenty of unfinished projects I could work on. So there is no block. However, when I am in the mood it’s beautiful and I can kill 3 hours and it feels like 1. I just wish I had that drive every day. 😞
This is so spot on. I used to woodwork for about 6 years when I lived in a house. And i played guitar and ukulele. Now I live in an apartment and now I sew which I used to do in high school, and do sculpture. My mind doesn’t care what the craft is. It just needs to make stuff or I get what I call creatively frustrated and now I’m anxious. Happened to me when I was deployed. I resorted to designing furniture in google sketchup that i never built. lol but it felt good 😅
All relatable, especially the drifting motivation. Wishing you well in each pursuit
Honestly I really needed this. I feel bad when I don’t get to a hobby, especially if it’s been over a month since the last time I did it. Basic chores (cooking, cleaning, hygiene practices, etc) take up so much time some days that I can only focus on work and school.
It's tough with the energy and time they take up. It's all a careful game of balancing those two factors. Hope it goes well for you
I especially agree with the point that we can defer some hobbies to later.
I remember reading some quote that said people greatly OVERestimate how much they can accomplish in 1 year, but UNDERestimate how much they will accomplish in 5 years, or 10 years.
Just going hard into one hobby a year, and changing every year - by 5 years you'll have done so much, and hopefully still practicing enough to retain what you learned.
You have no idea how much I needed exactly this. Thank you!
This right here is the video I always needed but never searched for
You need a good schedule. Freedom to ignore schedule on schedule. Leave options. You have them.
As someone who is confused about all my interest taking me away from my focused academic goals time after time. I am really glad for your advice. I knew most of them from other youtubers but it felt so rash... It just didn't make my mind feel the intention or actual reliability because they never explained it in a reasonable way. They were all like do this do that make a routine and schedule. All of that felt so robotic and unnatural. Your way of explaining kinda have my two brains to actually reasonably accept these facts and the actual influence of them in our life. Thanks pal!!
I wish I could put more than a single like to this video. I have struggled with wanting to learn and know everything. Hardest part is to leave some things go, sacrifices. Thanks for this! I send you a hug, a big one, I know what you've been through.
The thing that helped me the most with this is learning how much TIME you have to put in to get good at something. Everything has a TIME cost.
If you want to play piano the way you see it on CZcams it’s gonna cost you five years of 3 hour daily practice. Same for drawing. Same for dancing. Same for just about any skill.
These are simply too expensive. A problem people have is that they see specialists doing cool stuff on CZcams and then they want to do it to. But once you internalize the cost your brain will determine it’s not worth it.
You have to run a proper cost benefit analysis and lots of people fail to understand the cost. Sometimes you have to try things to realize how hard they are and how much time you have to pay to achieve them. Then you’ll lose interest.
After doing this for 40 years you eventually get the point. A lot of people who let thier interest run away with them are kinda assuming they will be able to achieve what they want with reasonable time and effort. They don’t understand that the people who are inspiring you got that good by neglecting everything else in thier life. They specialized. So unless you want to specialize you have to put such nonsense aside.
There’s effort indeed, but there are cases where some people are able to get really good in a very short timespan. For example, I follow a fingerstyle guitarist who learned how to play guitar and started posting videos of his performances the very same year and he was very good at it from early on. Now, I also play fingerstyle guitar, and have done for 20 years, and yet I can’t compete with what this guy managed to achieve in just a few years.
I shock by how pin point accurate this video is, had to sub immediately
Organizing thoughts through writing is huge. I love your “informed optimism” chart!! Super helpful and ultra relatable!!!
Not being able to properly write down the path I've walked in the past year felt like it was sabotaging the progress I'd made on my journey to efficiency. I knew exactly why I needed to master various areas simultaneously, but failing to make the thought processes and pivotal moments that would make me efficient a permanent part of my life was consuming me. For the last month, instead of sitting and crying, I decided I needed to establish a proper note-taking + journaling system and started doing so. Beginning to note down thoughts that I felt would take me to the next level in my life, along with new learnings in my work and hobbies, changed everything. Until I watched your video, I WASN'T EVEN AWARE that I thought the progress I made in the last year was lost. Every point you mentioned in your video seemed to bring back this entire year I thought I had lost. I've never felt so understood in my life. You've made an unimaginably significant contribution to me. I will never forget you and this video. My deepest thanks to you. You've gained a new follower, supporter, and friend. May all the best be with you.
(And a little advice to those who've read this far, START A JOURNAL!)
Dude perfectly timed, yesterday I commented asking you about this in your video.
Thanks for uploading dude ! I’ve been loving your channel so far.
I'm grateful to hear it! And yeah haha I was happy to see your comment
Thank you so much, i really needed this
i’ve been struggling finding a balance between my interests and i’ve had a constant feeling of “im not doing good enough” and “im falling behind”, i progress slower than my friends that i started with at the same time because i try to fit in too much
To see someone go through basically the exact same thought process as me to try and overcome this feeling is incredibly comforting. A part of me feels like I am going insane sometimes with the amount of things that I want to do, and one day when I finally decided to write down them down, it was the best decision I ever made. Being able to have a physical representation of what's actually important to me and what I should be focused on saved me in a sense. Thank you for a beautiful video, glad to know that I am not alone, and there is other people out there that can understand what I'm feeling.
the fact i was doing a little bit of research regarding this topic just a moment ago and u just uploaded felt nice and well timed
That's great
Es lo que me ha pasado toda la vida, fue triste para mi ver que en la universidad sólo se hablaba de un solo tema y ahora con 32 años trato de hacer todo lo que me gusta pero a veces no alcanzo y termino frustrada... Definitivamente priorizar y diferir es excelente, en mi caso escribir en un diario mi actividad de manera retrospectiva me ha ayudado mucho.
Thanks for putting this together. I love nuggets of truth along the journey. I've been struggling with feeling these same things where I've spent so much time chasing after new interests only to realize I've mostly been learning and not producing much. I have dozens of unfinished projects and I'm trying to push through the sometimes darker middle to get to the light at the end of completing each of them. Now it's time to go work on your first exercise!
You have no idea how much I needed this video. Thank you so much.
I was sent a notebook with marking pens to get me into note-taking and organising my interests. Due to my many interests I got too overwhelmed to even open the book. I've now opened it for the first time and dedicated the first page to my interests and which ones I want to focus on. My goodness there were SO MANY!! Like around 50!! I obviously don't have the time to dedicate to all those
This video has been the first step to me seeing some progress. Thank you so much, I'm truly grateful. I'll try time management and see if it works for me. Thank you again 🙏
I appreciate it, and hope it goes well!
This is one of my most asked question that hasn't been answered enough, thank you so much for this video!!!
I'm real glad to hear that -much appreciated!
I love how you are perfectly able to articulate what is going on with young people struggling to decide and I cannot thank you enough for uploading this video❤
Such a relief to know that there are other people out there going through the same struggle as mine. Thank you for this video
Really refreshing to hear that some break and balance from constant grind that internet promotes
Yep, too common nowadays. Many liars too. Thanks.
You are very well spoken, this video speaks to me on a lot of levels. I've always attributed my countless hobbies and barely any finished products to un-diagnosed ADD/ADHD. I've been a "space-cadet" my whole life. In my early 30's now, I see more value in my skills these days even though they aren't always apparent.
The bit about scrolling tiktok or youtube and seeing such great creations, yet feeling inadequate is undeniable. I suspect its because throughout history humans would contribute to their community, no matter the task. So its like when we see stuff like this, we are left empty because we see the finished result and weren't gaining skills through participation. This is only my suspicion, and I think it bleeds over into many other facets of the internet as well(looking at you, social media).
Thank you for sharing your experience, all the best.
Thanks, and that's a great point. We're born to be useful members of our group, and if the internet makes that group the entire world, it's easy to feel behind
Seeing this video brings me peace of mind because I identify with this issue a lot, an endless list of things to do that only seems different ways for me to do absolutely nothing. "Wasted potential", that's all I could hear late at night w/ just me and my thoughts.
Gladly, I'm at a point in my life where I've gained enough maturity so I can do some of the things that I love and have self-fullfilment because of it. Personally, professionally, socially, etc. Also, I thought (as anyone does normally) that my struggles where self-contained and no one understands my obstacles. Generalists, renaissance man. Before this video I didn't knew the existence of those concepts and how could that apply to me (or anyone that feels the same).
As weird as it sounds thanks a lot, CZcams algorithm. You just won a new suscriber. Thanks for the video, keep it up!
God bless you bro! I struggle a Ton with balancing personal projects with work and School, It really did feel for most of my life that I was the only one who enjoyed working on projects unrelated to school or work just for the fun of it, and never properly learned a good way to balance these things. Thank you so much again for this video, super helpful!
this video stumbled across right on time! i'm a musician, artist, tarot reader, social media manager (which consist multiple skills aside from just managing s.m. for example, video prod, copywriting and more), wants to do career in psychology. i always felt lost due to distributed attention span which only paralyzed my action. i'm glad to see in comments, i'm not the only one going through this.
Real glad to hear that, hope it helps
I've always been this kind of person. Over my lifetime, I've learned to play the guitar, ride horseback, raise and train horses, become a registered vet technician, taken up kickboxing and weight training, have been a bellydancer for 16 years, have amassed a collection of well loved books, become a CZcams content creator and recently become a fountain pen enthusiast. I've always thought that if I could have settled on ONE thing, I'd have been more successful.
You sound like a role model and successful person to me!
@@Luxamore oh thank you!
Wow, I was hanging on your EVERY word in this video! Writing out my passion priorities now. Thank you for this!
Your video has just summed up the last 30 years of my life. Wanting to dabble in everything has left me feeling inept at everything. I like your advice of focusing on those things that are most important... right now, and all the rest can wait. A brillant piece of advice. Kudos to you.
Great video as always!
Am currently in my own valley of despair regarding work, so this hits just right. Just have to keep in mind that it will get better.
Also, you are genuinely so funny in this one; love your sense of humour. Laughed out loud at the mystical powers of CZcams analytics comment!
It always gets better, trust me. Thanks too!