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To be better than 99% of people, all you have to do is commit to three rules. It's actually a progression, so really, it's just one rule and it only takes five minutes a day. How much easier do you want it to be?
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The weird part is, the more you level up, the more you end up being around people who have also leveled up. So you never really feel “ahead” but your life does get better.
Samsara! That crazy merry-go-round.
Yea and then in that competitive environment, you should believe in winning over them to be the first one to move onto the next level
The more you level up the more lonelier you become if you think about the creative minds in our history.
So i disagree with this comment if you take the same path as others and succeed then you get those people around you but the more creative your mind is more lonelier you always are.
@@HockeyTube1 that can be true if you are a very uniquely talented person, for most of us I think that when we push ourselves we are more likely to end up in circles with other like minds. I was very lonely and thought that no one thought like me, then I enrolled in a physics program and was surrounded by people as curios about the world as I was.
@@zornslemon now when i think it that way there is also truth in that but what is giftedness or intelligence in general is it result of hard work, genetics or both what do you think?
Watched this at 2x, so I'm gonna get ahead of 99% people faster
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LOL give this man all the things! WE GOT A WINNER!
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SOLID GOLD, Sir.
kid i installed custom speed plugin. im on that x4 type shit can't tell what the hell he's saying but I think I'm still winnin 😤
This video can be summed up in one statement: “you know what you have to do, get it done.”
Bro i Just printed that in my wall
I don't know what to do though. How do you figure that part out?
@@FrogMan888 that’s a tough question start with what you like. (Hobbies/passions) then take some time each day to interact with them, then invest more time. Reading, studying something, don’t limit yourself. You gotta find a passion, that’s something that no one on the internet can teach, cuz it’s yours.
Exactly. Fucking hell. A lot of these videos are the same ideas repeated over and over again. The only major difference is the editing, delivery, and references.
There is no “secret” to success. There’s no 5 minute bs that will make you better. Do what you need to do to make your life better.
But people would rather watch this shit than do it. “Productivity” and “self-help” videos like this are only helpful to a certain extent.
These videos are a drug in themselves.
@@FrogMan888 You shouldn't look at it like that. Look at it as a line of logic for EVERYTHING in your life, not just your career or personal goals.
You know that you have to exercise while you are still able to increase your odds of a healthy 2nd half of your life. You know that you have to eat good food. You know you have to have good hygiene and grooming. You know you have to earn money. You know you have to do your laundry or take out the trash.
Take this line of thinking and apply it to every crappy or hard part of life, and you will grow stronger.
I know this is way easier said than done. I'm still in the same aimless boat as you. But that's what I've gathered from this line of wisdom. It's the same principle as "pick yourself up by the bootstraps" but much less condescending and it's not particularly about becoming a hustler, but rather becoming a doer.
Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time .
The rich Invest in alternative income streams that are independent of the government should be the top priority for everyone right now. especially given the global economic crisis we are currently experiencing. Stocks, gold, silver, and virtual currencies are still attractive investments at the moment...
I was advised to diversify my portfolio among several assets such as stocks and bonds since this can protect my portfolio for retirement. I'm seeking to invest $200K across markets but don't know where to start.
I began my investment journey at the age of 38, primarily through hard work and dedication. Now at the age of 40, I am thrilled to share that my passive income exceeded $100k in a single year for the first time. This success reinforces the importance of the advicmonth e mentioned earlier. It is not about achieving quick wealth, but rather ensuring long-term financial prosperity.
Fantastic! Can you share more details?
"You choose the pain you face or life ends up choosing for you"
Best thing I have ever heard this year.
As CG Jung said “untill you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”
Another variation of "pick your poison. Only good thing is u get to choose."
Now you have double pain! What you choosed and what life gave you, amazing
Life still chooses for you sometimes, regardless of how much you're improving yourself, and it often makes choices that rob you of your agency.
@@morguenmorguen6862people can’t accept this, but it’s true
I deleted instagram bc I spent so much time on it. With all my free time I realized I could learn the violin. Now been playing violin for a year and a half.
I had a similar experience when I deleted tiktok in september of 2022 and only 3 months later started learning piano because I was bored. Now I am in love with music and that was honestly one of the best decisions I've made in my life
Honestly deleting tiktok and instagram is the best thing one can do
I did the exact same and now I spend this time learning japanese and how to code.
Use it in moderation
@@IIIISaithat is how it becomes addicted
Parents give child to use phone to use in moderation and guess what will happen either quit or be addicted nothing in between
99% of people are never going to be in top 1%.
Fax
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were* never going to be in the top 1% obviously
were* never going to be in the top 1% obviously
I think you might be on to something here. Hmmm 🤔
After 14 years I quit smoking 2 months ago, joined the gym & eating healthy fruit & veg salads in the daytime, and trimmed down my sugar intake... feels amazing...
It takes mental strength not the physical.
This Sunday I'm joining Toastmasters for better communication & Arabic language program... I think after a year if I stick to this path, I'll change my future for good. Let's go 💪💪💪
Toastmasters!?! You are amazing!!! Good at ya!
I support you brother, keep learning, keep your willpower and keep feeling proud cuz your doing something right
@soulcake76 yea I'm really bad at presentations & I'm in sales... so that's the reason to join, to overcome my fear of addressing large groups of people. I'm not there to win any speech contest, just, to not hesitate in front of a large gathering when speaking my mind.
@@remisan7214 I feel really good after quitting smoking... 😌
well done bruh
its simple, not easy. A lot of this comes down to emotional stability to be consistent with goals/plans.
Yah, consistency is really key and you're right - I should probably change it to simple instead.
I concur. Too many distractions nowadays that get in the way. Nothing in life is 'easy' when suffering is associated with growth. Luck is the only variable in life we can't control, but gives us an edge over others. The discipline to remain consistent is the only way to foster any form of real progression and to retain it.
@@spoonfedstudy Well, the first step is easy at least.
Emotional stability? Ya.. I’m f*cked…
Emotional stability is a vague term. What are u even supposed to do? Making up your own imaginary obstacles to complain about them.
Unlike most “self-improvement” youtubers, this guy actually gives usable and actionable advice which actually works.
Thank you! Really appreciate it! Will always try my best to do so :)
I think it's because he learned these things to be productive, rather than someone without a career giving career advice. Some many CZcams "experts" haven't really done anything
@@AnomieDominemost motivational people on youtube does not know what they are talking about
Yes!!!
Spoonfed. Appropriate name.
David Goggins once said he deliberately finds suffering in his life because that gives him more joy than any material things can offer.
I love how realistic this is, pain will eventually come even if u do nothing, so at least I will be in control to choose what type of pain I will suffer.
“Digital fentanyl.” Exactly!
=D
Did you come from Rian Doris?
@@joshVcastro Sorry-are you asking me? I don’t know who that is.
@@auntiethetical A guy who talks about Flow state
@@seaweedbrain2933 Thank you!
I drive past a cemetery everyday on my way to the gym. It reminds me to keep improving and live life to the fullest because tomorrow isn't promised. hell I could have a heart attack at the gym for all I know.
Gyms are designed for people to have heart attacks. Consider doing natural hard work instead of going to the gym. Gyms are overwhelming for our delicate bodies and heart muscles.
@@ILoveMaths07that’s absolutely not true
@@samjordon2150 Explain why perfectly healthy people die of heart attacks in gyms, then.
I sleep in a cemetery to prepare me for eternal slumber.
@@ILoveMaths07calling the human body delicate is absolutely delusional. Our minds and bodies can overcome tremendous feats, if you truly believe the gym is dangerous you need to go study math a little bit harder and use it to deduce why you are false by utilizing relevant statistics to the benefits of gyms and the equipment provided in them!
The biggest thing I’ve done for myself is find pleasure/gratitude in discipline. Simply being happy to overcome that daily challenge is invigorating for myself.
As a person with serious ADHD, who was in professional cognitive training for two years and is now a student with good grades in the academy, I want to clarify: people like me got used to relying on pain and effort too much, before treatment this was my only way to keep up with the norm. Today one of the things I try to instill in myself is "self-compassion". Because the subconscious mind sometimes stops listening to you if you impose too much pain and discomfort on it as if it's "not even a problem"
How does one get into a cognitive training
@@mahmoudpathan1473 In my country there is a special program developed here called Cogfan. Probably for people in other countries the most similar is cognitive behavioral therapy, or dialectical behavioral therapy. And in any case, it is recommended to look for an expert therapist for the specific difficulty you are dealing with (adhd in my case)
What's cognitive training? Never heard of it
Curious about the same things as above ^
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@Am_Bush_2048
@Mahmoud_pathan1473
In my country there is a special program developed here called Cogfan. Probably for people in other countries the most similar is cognitive behavioral therapy, or dialectical behavioral therapy. And in any case, it is recommended to look for an expert therapist for the specific difficulty you are dealing with
I love how he goes on this rant of "Get out of your comfort zone, get out of the instant gratification rut" straight into "You can make custom made study plans with one click" without missing a beat.
I was looking for this comment lmfao
😂ahahahahah
Aye hes getting his hustle on 😆
Exactly! And speaking about technology which involves every bit of our lifes :D BUT allright it can be quite usefull tho. And episode is generally valuable:)
@@jakubkowalczyk5869bro is just selling his shit
The question is how many people watched this and didn’t click on another video and actually got to living.
hm- i was gonna- but im gonna stop now and stfu and get back to working on my shit instead of another mindless binge spree. alr! annnd im gonna go try smth new
Me af
I want to improve but I easily get demotivated
I read some comments but I’m gonna get to work rn
But tbf I already do these things
@mhdzlazalkani3000 ain't about motivation, it's about discipline.
borlest forbidden money books (thank me later)
Obv scam
Tf
@@Medjed-pi5pw Obv not if you read abt it.
Scam
This is undoubtedly a scam of some sort
Im just throwing this out there. Im all about self improvement. But if your goal is to get ahead of other people, youre being conceited and youre going to feel fake when you start trying to do better. How about improving yourself for YOU. Be a better version for you. Get ahead of yesterdays you. And for the love of god dont try to change yourself. Its quite the opposite. Embrace yourself. Love yourself. The only true improvement youll have comes after you tell yourself that you love yourself genuinely.
I honestly disagree with you here, I think once you accept yourself as perfect the way you are, you inhibit yourself from growth. I always say,”I am always happy with myself, but I’m never content with myself.” I think you should be happy confronting your mistakes and failures, and to not let those failures break you down, but they should still bug you. Sometimes there are things you don’t like about yourself that make sense, sometimes you are overweight, sometimes you are a dick, and sometimes you are stupid, and it should be your goal to change them, not embrace them.
@gamerguy6544 you can set your goal to be whatever, but you ain't changing who you are bro. Only what you do. You better learn to embrace who that person is before you just end up hating that person so much you wish they didn't exist. Cause I was that person for a long time.
If you see other people as inspiration or levels to aspire to you can use them respectfully as stepping stones towards that wish you wish to be.
Let’s not been black and white about using others for motivation. The saying stay in your lane and focus only on you, works…sometimes. There are days where that mindset moves the needle and there are days where it doesn’t. We are complex, flawed and imperfect beings and concepts like the Bannister effect exist on the very premise that you not only aim to be better than the 99%, but you also take inspiration from others who have succeeded.
I'm stuck in a dilemma. For all my life, I basically did everything to "not disappoint others", with this habit coming from academics and my parents. Never wanted to disappoint them, so I studied to make them proud. Yet, as time passes by they seem to care less and less about my current grades (since they're already so used to seeing it), and expect more from me in other things (like math competitions and whatnot). So now that one of the main reasons I've been constantly studying and keeping my grades up is gone, what the hell do I do? I'm not proud of myself for achieving those grades. I know my parents have worked hard in their childhood to get where they are now, and I know they just want the best for me, but with all this newfound"freedom" they've just handed to me (and the fact that they handed my life and all its responsibilities back to me), there's still a little creature on my shoulder telling me to do x to be more productive and y to be better than person A even when I try to relax. Do I get out of my normal zone, and be one to disappoint my parents and basically destroy their past image of me, all for the sake of some peace of mind? Or do I keep continuing the same path I'm on, knowing it brings me tiredness and fatigue trying to keep on going, and hardly ever having time for myself and my wants?
This is almost the exact same thing the book "Atomic habits" is about, just do one small thing everyday, to improve at it or whatever, but you have to stay doing it one time a day, every day
Yep.. same stuff explained in a different way
Good habits is fundamental for success so it makes sense many who are would say the same thing
Another book that has the same idea is Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg. The idea is to keep the habit alive even if you only do one push-up or read one page. Just keep going and you'll eventually internalize the habit.
that 1%improvement in atomic habits etch to my brain .
Yup 💯
One of my today's small win is watching this instead of funny cat videos.
Oh man, a funny cat video is pretty awesome too though...
But did you create? Watching and never creating, is not a big benefit.
@@victoriaslife true, action creates results. Personally, the small wins strategy had been very helpful as previously I used to get demotivated if I am unable to complete my to-do list, but now every night I write down my daily small wins which helps me to appreciate my progress and build momentum.
@@Dhr_vGood luck man
U just explained me..
Wow. It feels like I've always known this intrinsically, but I couldn't quite put it into a system. I've always struggled with this, watching tons of self-help gurus and still not figuring out the best system that works for my style and personality. I thought there was something wrong with how I saw things, until I found your channel, for some reason. You were able to articulate and share a system that finally resonates with me. Thank you, thank you for real. Your videos are exactly what I needed to hear at the moment.
Sometimes you just need an assurance that the method will work. He just gives you the assurance.
I think just focusing on good food , sleep and exercise apart from work will have the best impact
Why is the person who is ahead of 99% of people in the dead middle of the bell curve
Lol you are too smart for this thumbnail. Obviously not statistically accurate but visually easier to convey when the little golden dude is sitting on top of everyone. Maybe think of it as a pyramid/mountain instead 😅
@@spoonfedstudy u lose friends as u level up but u cant save everyone
Thought the same thing LOL
Doctors don’t really get math, forgive him
Lmaooo
"One uncomfortable thing at a time."
I'm trying to stop complaining. My husband is great, but housework is not his strong suit. It's easy for me to complain about what didn't get done or how much I have to do. It's easy for me to get upset with him over every little mess. It's not easy for me to swallow my feelings and tell him at a more appropriate time how I'm feeling. I started doing dishes and he came over and offered to take over. I don't like when he only offers to do something just because I start doing it. If he wanted to help, he could've already started them. So I insist on doing dishes. In the past I would do it to be passive aggressive. This time, I had no intent on being manipulative. I finished the dishes. I calmly said I wanted time to myself. I sat with him and admitted I was really frustrated. I talked through my feelings instead of exploding and saying a bunch of things I don't mean. It took a lot of willpower. My body wanted the release of yelling at my husband. I had to resist. I'm done being a nag. I'm done being critical.
He was the one being manipulative, not you. In your example, he asked to help after you already started a task just so you would refuse his help. It doesn't matter why you refused his help. At the end he got what he wanted since he didn't have to do the dishes twice. How did your discussion go?
@JinMeowsoon I disagree, and think this is a very simplistic way of looking at it. Often I forget to do something until I see someone else doing it. Or it was something I was procrastinating and now I feel bad about not doing it. But saying that is manipulative is going too far.
@harvestmoon it sound like you want your husband to want to help out around the house, otherwise you would have been fine with him taking over.
That's not a wrong thing to want, but its a bit different than just wanting him to help. That's something it might help to communicate to him clearly about. Sorry if that's not helpful.
@@totallyjerd1751 That’s fine, I was talking specifically about OP’s situation, I’m not saying this is the case for everyone.
Sounds like your husband isn't great at getting the ball rolling or likes doing things as part of a team rather than by himself. Try doing housework together. You wash the dishes while he dries them and puts them away. Vacuum together so he moves the furniture out of the way while you vacuum.
You have a really clear structure to your explanation. On top of that your voice is nice to listen to and you emphasize the important words with your pronunciation.
You have a new follower now🤗
I remember u bro, From TikTok in 2020 talking funily about ERs ... Man I'm realllllyyy proud of u. And how far you've come
“Like everything, this too shall pass but before it does thank it for the gratitude it deserves” love this quote
This will be the last video I’ll watch before I start entering pain zone. Bless everybody who takes his words to heart and bless those who don’t. I wish you many highs and few lows and for you to come out on top of it all stronger than ever. Just gotta get out there
Gaslight, Gatekeep, Girlboss
Learned a lot from your articulate delivery of the 3 levels of comfort.
No one is better than 99%. We all have our own lives with our own goals, and everyone will end up in the 1% by some measurement. Trying to measure people's success in life with arbitrary things like money is like trying to measure waves with a ruler. Yes, money is necessary for modern day life, but after a certain point it becomes excessive and loses value. The same is for other metrics, you only need a baseline to succeed. Anyone who says you're inferior or worthless is already beneath you as a person, as they see you as above them in status, whether that be in skill or money or something else. Don't obsess over details and don't let addictions consume you, insanity is only ever found in overthinking and overdoing
So true
Exactly my tboughts
I am so glad someone else said this, it is so true and exactly what I was thinking and feeling watching this video and reading most of these comments. Thank you for saying this! 👏❤️
The one comment on here that isn’t completely full of shit…
He didn’t once mention money? Personally I took this as levelling up mentally and physically
Unfortunate that the paradigm provided is getting ahead of others when really this experience is you against yourself.
Truth
True but I feel like that’s most peoples struggle. Winning the fight against yourself. The way I see it this video isn’t going to get you ahead of anyone else, it’s just going to improve your life and your mentality. It probably will result in the material benefits most ppl want though because you will b more productive
You're missing the point. It's not to be better than others for the sake of being better than others. The others are representative of what you would become if you didn't challenge yourself. In the end, it IS you vs. yourself
It is you against you, yes. But illustrating it as he does in the video is helpful because it makes clear to realize that this is a competition. The things you want, many others want them also. So in order to be competent you have to get better results in the competence by definition, and this lead us to trying to getting ahead of the competitors.
This just applies if you want to win the prize, if you don't all this maybe just could seem meaningless
It is 100% a game against yourself
Phenomenal video.
Your ability to communicate, illustrate and break down conceptual ideas is such a joy to watch. Thank you 🙏🏻
it's been a while since I have a problem neglecting all the opportunities to level myself up, thank you for reminding me again to actively live my life and not only going with the flow
minor pet peeve: illustrating "getting ahead of 99% of people" as a person being on top of the bell curve.
Also, I'd love to have an empty gym. Does anybody really live in that beautiful utopia where you get gyms or pools to yourself?
I just answered another dude who had the same comment. Just think of it as a mountain 🏔️ that just so happens to look like a bell curve 🙂
Literal 🤓
Mountains are just normal distributions of dirt
The past 4 or 5 times I’ve gone to my apartment complex gym, I have had it all to myself 😁
No because the gym/pool would be bankrupt in one or two months
This is fascinating. I recently delved into an audiobook "To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth about Moving Others" by Daniel H. Pink and, no kidding, he actually sets up a study where, in a class where kids are learning how to better negotiate, one group is told to aim for improvement, and the other group? Is told to aim for discomfort. The second group *way* outmatched the first in improving their skills, so I think there is a lot of credit to discomfort leading to improvement... otherwise known as the age-old adage "pain is gain".
But the way this is laid out in three concise and easy to understand levels has really expanded my understanding of this topic. I have been rigorously chasing discomfort for awhile, but I feel like chasing PAIN is galaxy-brain level compared to what I was doing. Incredibly exciting and inspiring stuff. Honestly, now that you've laid it out, I can't believe I didn't make the connection myself, but it's so clear in hindsight.
Thank you. It's time for me to go get my butt kicked some more!
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This advice is probably the most helpful and useful of all I've heard in my life. It makes me think I still have so much to learn about. Truly amazing. Thank You Mr Doctor.
This video made me feel a lot better.ive been struggling mentally for a while now. Thinking I'm a failure,looser, ect.
I haven't had the easiest life and as such, I started off "low of the totem" so to speak.
This video, and another video I stumbled on by chance has really opened my eyes to my own processes. I do all three of these steps almost everyday without even realising it. And thinking back on my life in the last 9 years, I've done a lot and am projecting to do a lot more!
Didn't finish the video yet, but I urgently want to share a thought on the chapter "the Gift":
It's not good for me, that the people around me are becoming zombies.
I don't care about outperforming everyone around me.
I want to thrive with them.
If they suffer, I suffer.
That's understandable, but you can't hold yourself responsible for lives, you've got to try your best regardless, in hopes it will inspire them to do the same (relates to the saying: you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink)
there's definitely a pretentious tone to the concept of it being "to get ahead [of others]" when comparison isn't the actual point, and we must disregard those airs to absorb the message intended for ALL of us 💫
be ahead of them in order to protect them
Part of your "pain seeking" might be to .. get new friends.
I personally don’t care about others. I want to push myself to being the best that I can be.
If everyone had this mentality, we wouldn’t have to worry about the collective.
Best video I've ever seen on this. It's not overloaded with 'I feel your pain' type emotion. The guy keeps it light and simple with a touch of humour. A sign of a great doctor. I feel better already 😊
Watching this daily! This is AMAZING and finally helped me when nothing else did. THANK YOU!!!
The subject of this vid is soooo on point! I randomly asked 5 of my co-workers what they do when their not at work.
Sleep, alcohol, weed, TV, social media. I'm going to ask 5 more...I don't expect anything different.
Good advice vid👍 Subscribed
I'm currently transitioning from a career as a Software Engineer to pursuing medical school. I'm so fortunate to have discovered this channel during this journey🙏
Wow best of luck on the career change! You got this!
Can you tell me your reason for transitioning into medical field from your software engineer job, the reason I want to know this is because I am in a dilemma between choosing software engineer or MBA as a carrer path ?
How old are you kind sir?
@@Aryanverma-nx3kh WTF just go with software. Everyone and their mother is an MBA. I guess if you want freedom to go into a lot of fields at a whim MBA is great but they make like 55k a year normally. Not even a survivable income unless you want your apouseto be miserable at work having to help you pay bills.
lol what a terrible decision
“Do one uncomfortable thing a day” 😂😂😂 laughs in working class
Perhaps your, “one uncomfortable thing” to do everyday is resist the temptation to this as an excuse.
yeah i was thinking the same thing haha. i love being a tradie for this exact reason. every day im faced with uncomfortable situations that require problem solving and difficulty physically implementing the solution
It doesn’t have to be big. It can be having a conversation with a random person on the way home at the bus stop
But what do you do after you leave that job? That's the point.
It could be as simple as going for a short walk every day.
This is the first time in a long time that I've felt motivated. Thank you!
I clicked in this randomly, and had to get a notebook to write, i just took a jab in the face, and i needed it.
Yes! I recently went through a lot of “losses” that I decided to treat as learning experiences. In the span of a month, I went through a breakup with my best friend, got in a car accident which totaled my car, stopped talking to my mother, and lost my grandmother to Alzheimer’s. All of those things taught me something about myself and life. Instead of going out and buying a new car right away, I decided to start taking the bus. Now I’ve just bought my own bike and I take that to work instead of a car. I’m getting so much more exercise in with that alone. This year is my year of self improvement!
Top man.
Not if you stop talking to your mum
The most important person on this planet to you
Who bore you in her womb for 9 months
Stayed awake at night to feed you
No matter what happens, you cannot break your relationship with your mother
Paradise lies under the feet of your mother's respect and love them care for them.
@@Yoyoyo224we dont know the exact situation of his/hers. Too early to give such advice
These few months I've been in a loop, I try and try and try and try. I finally see myself getting out of it slowly but surely. I want to be my best, I want to have no regrets, I want to soar the skies. I want it all but I don't know how to start, this gave me some clarity, thanks
You are a smart guy🤞 It is really feelable that you ACTUALLY understand and FEEL this part with pain🖐️
This has become my favourite video of all time and I prob gonna use it forever, probably share this with my kids when I grow up
I went from being a video game, porn addicted overweight bum who sat in a dark room all day drinking soda and eating Chinese food and ice cream. Now I’m fit, exercise daily, eat the carnivore diet and only drink water. It took years but all the temporary pleasures don’t compare to being healthy and feeling good every day. It all started with me quitting soda, then I stopped playing video games so much, then I tried keto and fasting. Each decision built on the next and before I knew it, it all compounded into a full on healthy habit lifestyle
Can I have your stash?
If the only thing you eat is meat, I guarantee that you are still anything but healthy.
congrats mate
If you only eat meat you should definitely get tested for some vitamin deficiencies, you can't get everything you need just from meat alone
Lost me at "carnivore diet"
Instead of listening to music at the gym I watch videos on history, news(multiple sources to filter out the bs😂)technology news etc. I have learned so much. Its good to be aware of whats happening in the world around you. Knowledge is power and knowing feels good. Feeling good is dopamine. A slow pull is good like read a book, hard draw will have you chasing ie. staring at a monitor. You want to feel good while youre alive because we're going to die.
"Do what makes you happy and healthy so you dont die sad." -Ream
This is actually really solid advise, better than most self-improvement youtubers I've seen.
The most stressful thought that was spinning in my head and that always made me feel anxious was the lack of a structure of thoughts. And in my humble opinion it’s much worse when you have all the cards of trumps In your hand but don’t know how to use them rather than lack of information. It gives a deepest feeling of helplessness which slowly devours all life energy when you realize that with every second that passing by you losing time.
This video literally explained me why i have everything in my life in that way how it is. And now I’m ready to get everything changed. Slowly, step by step to the bright future.
Thank you, doctor.
When u realise 1percent left people = 80mill people
Just realized there aren't even 80 millions in competition 😂😂😂😂😂
There a lot of wealth to go round!
Still better than 8-9 billion 😅
I thought you might say sonething like that.
Hi, chronic pain survivor here. This is decent advice, but I think it's equally important to be mindful of not seeking pain for pain's sake. Pain at the gym can be a sign of pushing the edges of your limits a little farther out, but it's just as likely to be a sign you left those limits in the dust and you're actively doing harm. The same is true for any other realm, the ER emotional pain can be a great way to stay motivated and feel connected with others but it's just as likely to create severe burnout and more serious mental health problems. Pain doesn't equal pain, so be careful with it and always seek the help of a professional even if just to check in. There's a reason professional dancers never really stop taking classes, we need our teachers to keep us from destroying ourselves. ❤
this is a good point clarifying that the discomfort, anxiety, and pain that he advises are the kinds that come with rejecting what's bad for us + when seeking, reaching for what's good. besides keeping it simple, we should definitely be mindful to not over-extend our energy/body despite good intentions. it's a concept meant for personally adjusted application for sure :)
no that’s a weak mindset. Don’t think about the pain
I felt a huge difference in the kind of pain at the gym at age 20 vs age 40. At age 20 you usually can do reps until failure so it's easy to get that good burn. At age 40 you feel like if you do too many reps you'll snap a tendon or wreck a shoulder or something. Some pain is constructive and some is definitely destructive. Aging really forces you to swallow your pride and accept humility.
@@turolretar Say that to people injured, sometimes permanently, from trying to push past pain at the gym.
@@NuniaBiznazPeople are just nuts these days to be honest. Our ancestors used to be much healthier without a gym.
U sir here are preaching pride that is giving a sense of feeling that the viewer should be better than others and look down on them
I really liked the idea of there being different tiers to stepping outside your comfort zone and am glad to see that being elaborated on. Thanks for the video! I’ll definitely apply this to my day to day life.
I'm screaming 😱😱
I knew this all along my life yet in the last two years I lost control over my life. Got me into the dustbin of collective comfort zone.
Not so late yet, I'm gearing up. I'm going towards life.
You earning a subscriber doc 😊😊😊
I think unlike all the videos I v watched about self improvement this one will actually change my life, I l keep u updated guys!
Wasn't doing it intentionally but every time I go out of my confortzone ande experience pain, I take it head on and never complain.. It actually made me better. after watching this video I wonder how much I could improve after doing it intentionally.
Great advice. Thank you
Thank you for making this video, it helps give me the extra push
My key takeaway from this video is to change my perspective on what pain is. I already knew this but now thinking about it, it's more serious than I thought. Whenever something bad happens, I say it's a bad day and I'll make the most of it. That's not quite good enough, I should be thinking: "This sucks, I'll learn everything I can from it"
Thank you for this beautiful video
This man needs more views and exposure. The amount of comprehensive and quality information that goes into each video is commendable. Keep up the great work, SpoonFedStudy.
Agreed!
❤️ Lots of love and time goes into each video. It’s like a kid I release into the wild, hoping they have a good time. With that said, I'm glad you enjoyed this one too!
I agreed 100% this is probably the best advice ive had on how to actually improve
If he gets more exposure it'll be harder to be top
Like he said he graduated 3 Ivy League universities. That’s not a joke
This is one of the best videos I have seen in years. The cinematography and the sound is just insane. I felt so much emotion going over my own dreams and future while watching this.
I haven’t automatically smiled at something quite like this video made me, thank you, really.
I’m 9 mins into this video and it’s already one of the best video essays on self-progress I’ve ever seen.
The “controllable pains” are up to you.
I find that a person’s relationship with suffering is directly correlated to their relationship with progress/success in life.
Great video, man!
The concept, script, and edit were phenomenal. An impressive effort went into this one
I LOVE YOU, I already posted on another video asking about nutrition and time management with the hitt workout, I recently unlocked the mangekyu sharingan and saw fully through the matrices and in the process never stopped thinking about your content as the best anyone could possibly encouter on this plateform, thank you for this work of yours, one of a kind ❤
I love this. A fantastic mix of comedy and excellent practical advice.
The dad talk everyone needs to hear in their lives.
he has the everyone is an npc except me mentality
What? I didn't get that impression
I am better than 99% of people, all of the NPCs glued to their TVs instead of going to Harvard and getting 3 degrees like me. Really anyone can get into Harvard, if you could just try hard, and stop running from discomfort, you need to seek out pain and be stronger than everyone else like me. If u just do what I do, you'll be better than everyone else around you, trust me, I know from experience.
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Yeah that is exactly what I don't like about this video. Like the advice itself is fine, but he makes it seem like you are the only person in the world who is trying to improve themselves, and that everyone else is just a mindless zombie with zero goals or accomplishments. Occasionally listening to an educational podcast or going to the gym doesn't automatically make you better than everyone just because you are following this very specific plan.
@@JustinMummaactually anyone can get into Harvard if you try hard enough, obviously it takes years of effort though
Also I can tell ur one of the ppl in the vids who sits on their phone all day
Really good points and connections. Better than a lot of the self improvement videos . Thanks!
Best advice I have heard in a long time. Thank you! 🌟
Wow, great video. Pain is gonna happen either way, and being able to face the pain head-on, instead of trying to avoid it, might be the best way to not only gain inner strength, but also to succeed anyway. Seek out doing the challenging thing. It's painful to wake up on time, it's painful to clean your room, it's painful to go through rejection, but you need that to get ahead. Your either in control over where you're going, or you lose control and just have things happen to you randomly.
The other stuff you said were good. Lately, I've approached challenges with hesitance, but maybe this video is a great way to get me to be more headstrong and eager to fix the challenges that come my way. The difference between walking in trepidatiously and standing at attention, ready to accept and solve the challenges. Thanks SpoonFedStudy
LMAO, "I chose to be an ER doctor because I hate it". We got david goggins over here.
Thanks for helping me visual my Conceptualization.
Thank you sir.
I went out and exercised with my family before watching the end.
I'll seek out that pain I can choose.
Nice video. Your videos get better and better. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
This 11 mins video made me feel that I'm actually on the right path. Cause I'm doing everything and also increasing the frequency of this day by day, knowingly and unknowingly.
I don't care about 99% i just wanna be better than me.
This is so true. Also, exposing myself to anxiety and pain seems to reset my dopamine, so I feel more motivated to do everything.
And interestingly, at the end of the day, I feel happier and more life satisfaction on the days of exposure, than on the days I just spent endulging in things.
Remember consistency is more important than anything else
You give real solid advice. Most times I watch improvement videos I feel kinda bad because I feel judged for being human. Here you embraced aspects of human nature, treated our daily choices with respect for it's motivations, and suggested alternatives that don't feel out of reach. I would be happy to see improvement discourse leaning more into this
Honestly you should stop watching improvement videos at all
@@yokedss Theres nothing wrong with self improvement videos unless you never actually implement them into your life
@@yokedss sure, whatever
@@Sierrabravo150 also, there's nothing wrong with them if you take them with a grain of salt. Due to content creation culture, they may resort to negative language to catch attention. "You are doing (normal human thing, like idk, breathing) WRONG" or "STOP SLEEPING, become a winner". It's extremely important to have a filter for actual implementable advice and to listen to speakers with empathetic language. If anyone agrees with me, try to nope out of any speaker that pretends to know you to criticize you. Only you know you.
@@Sierrabravo150 Yeah. thats the problem, most people never implement them, also most of what they tell you to "improve" is garbage, the whole point of these channels is to milk naive, young men for everything they are worth.
I'm not lazy, I'm fucking exhausted. How do you work to improve yourself if you barely have the energy to make dinner.
Yet here I am in my evening trying to put a powerpoint presentation together to get a better position, but some days I'm too burnt to even craft an email.
Maybe if work wasn't mandated to be 40+ hours a week, more people would find the energy to better themselves.
for real.
I understand where you’re coming from as I’m burnt out too (only difference is I’m a pregnant stay at home mum with a 3 year old and little help). If you’re burnt out, you’re already doing too much, grasping still for many large wins and still not feeling progress because your resources are too scattered. You have to simplify your life even further and then “start exactly where you are”. It’s possible to go backwards if you try to do too much. But sometimes it feels impossible to do less than you alresdy are. Probably due to modern day segregation and disconnection in our society: one individual trying to do the job of an entire village.
A small win probably looks like taking steps to learn to ask for help, or slowly take steps to minimise expenses drastically so you can take a job with less pressure, or whatever it is in your situation, then build up from there. Feels like going backwards to go truly forwards sometimes.
I know it sucks to have burn out, because I deal with it too. Honestly, the only way I have found through it is to dig deep for some type of strong incentive to get you to do the work you need to do, even though you're exhausted. You have to have some "why" that's strong enough to force you to do it even when you're exhausted to hell. It can be anything. It can be for money, or women or fame or status. It can be a superficial goal if you want, just as long as it provides the motivation needed to make you do it, even though you don't feel like it.
For example, I was single for the last 6 years or so, and I became so lonely and depressed that the thought of going the rest of my life without having an intimate relationship with someone was so dreadful. So I forced myself to download a dating app and go through rejection after rejection (and feel very discouraged most days) until I met someone who matches me and now we're in a relationship. I can't imagine how much more depressed I would be had I not forced myself to risk the fear of rejection in order to find her.
Same with your job. If your job is making you miserable or not affording you the lifestyle you want, you have to ask yourself "Am I willing to put up with this for the rest of my life"? And if the answer is no, then you HAVE to use that as fuel to push you to send out those job applications or learn a new skill that will bring you a better income, because the alternative is staying right where you are until you die, and that's far more dreadful than the effort it will take you to put yourself in a better position in life.
@@kirstywragg6308 I appreciate the thoughtful words.
But, there is no one to ask for help, it would be nice. But no one is going to redo my resume for me.
No one is going to look through job listings for me.
And the only one who is going to free me from a job that I loathe is me.
I've already waited for a job lead to slowly mature over the course of a month, only for it to burn out. So now I have to get back on the horse... again.
@@smkattoula45 Utilizing loathing to push through is not a new lesson for me. It's literally the only thing keeping me going.
Your third paragraph is something someone might realize at the beginning of their working life, not 30 years into it.
I'm waaay past that.
Good advice for a 20 year-old though.
Now I'm dealing with... "If I actually eat dinner, I'll probably crash, which happens, so I better keep working, finish redoing and then sending my resume, then eat.
But I'm so f'ing hungry.
I‘ve watched this video 2-weeks ago and my discipline has skyrocketed- I have never been this disciplined in my life- so thanks for inspiring me
Dude that’s so awesome! So happy to hear that 🎊
Honestly this is like the most juiciest best video out there that perfectly explains the 3 levels, great video!
Does studying count as pain? I’d rather work out than study.
Says the 99%
@@user-vt9ce4cv8w in this time period being able to memorize information is key I’ll give you that. But most of them that can don’t have original thought. Chew on that
Why did my reply get deleted? Hmm sensitive.
Thats exactly why you should study, because its what will pay the most for the least input.
@@stevena8719 Agreed. I’m currently studying to be a Network Administrator. It’s annoying to not be able to learn on the job within a company.
I really liked your editing and the way you have written this video
Thank you so much 🙂. Appreciate your kind words!
Wow! Your video is concisely packed with so many insightful nuggets!👏🏼 Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with the world! 🙏🏼🫶🏼
One thing I’ve learned and it’s small is even with these informative videos to train my mind to understand them on 2X speed. Doing this speeds up the way you process information and saves you time in your day!
I have so much respect for this man.
Life is not a competition between other people creativity never shines in competitive enviroment it's a skill that our education system doesn't teach.
Every day I make my bed, every day I journal, every day I modify my environment. I feel better than yesterday. Thank you for this video.
Thank you so much for this video it’s stuff I already know but the way you explained helped me understand so much better ❤ much love
I got a sales job cold calling. In order to get successful at it, I had to do everything that made me uncomfortable. It helped me level up a lot.
100%. Being able to just speak even if you're not sure you want to be heard and being able to accept rejection but persisting regardless are great life skills for life
Thanks for the great reminder to help me stay consistent, I've been trying to use such tiny habits and thought process to get myself to do a little bit every now and then, being more thoughtful and well the reason to start doing so was to actually stop doing the things I didn't want to, sort of "Unlearning the habits" while trying to consume more of thoughtfulness, gentleness, calmness, stoicism etc... Okay that's enough for a comment.
Here for you! Tiny wins every day is all it takes! You are so true - a lot of the times it's unlearning habits and reflexive associations that give you the biggest wins
Summing up very well the path I'm on since Parkinson's diagnosis hit me 6 months ago at sge 36, parent of two. I actually do cultivate this mindset and borrow from Sayajin role models like you gave hints to in the video. I won't let it take me down, but use it to make me endure, make me and those around me stronger, aiming to overcome it.
Keep up the great work! These videos are both informative and well delivered. Thanks for the effort in your content, I hope you go far! 😊
Thank you so much Erin! Your words of support are incredibly kind. Super grateful to have you here. I’ll do my best to deliver :)
There are 2 types of pain: the pain of descipline or the pain of regret choose whisely