how to stop being insecure | transform your insecurities into unbreakable confidence
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My mission is to help young women everywhere become their BEST SELVES and create their dream life. Self-improvement and self-love transformed my life. It took me from being the shy, insecure, unmotivated girl who was always hurt by men... to being the woman who prioritises herself everyday, achieves the goals on her vision board, takes herself on dates, feels fulfilled when alone, has a newfound confidence AND has power over her dating life. I found my purpose in life after working on myself and I want to help and inspire YOU to do the same.
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If you're reading this I pray something amazing happens for you today.🙏🏼💗
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Aww love this 🙏🏼💗 Right back at you!! 💕❤️
@@JourneywithGigi thanks be-you-tiful soul 💕🌸🎀
Likewise ❤
Thnk you 😭🫂
proof that insecurities are genuinely all in your head is that i didn't even notice tam's breakouts until she began talking about them. PEOPLE AREN'T FIXATING ON YOUR INSECURITIES IN THE WAY YOU ARE!! people see you as a whole person not as just one thing you have!
So true!!
exactly !! the nose thing ? I think it's perfect omg
Even I feel that there's nothing wrong with her nose, it's perfect the way it is.
you're really pretty tho
@@Avniii_ i appreciate that but i'm literally wearing a filter girl 😭
just know that i..
1 love your hair
1 love your forehead
1 love your eyebrows or lack of
I love your eyelashes or lack of
I love your eyes
1 love your ears
I love your nose
I love your cheeks
1 love your mouth
1 love your laugh
I love your teeth or lack of
1 love your chin
I love your neck
1 love your shoulders
1 love your chest
I love your arms
1 love your hands
I love your tummy
1 love your hips
1 love your thighs
I love your knees
I love your shins
1love your feet (not in that way.)
l love your moles/marks
I love your scars
1 love your voice
1 love what you do
1 love your personality
1 love you on your good days
I love you on your bad days
1 love you when you wear makeup
I love you when you don't wear makeup.
I love vour skin
I love you when you're sad
1 love you when you're mad
1 love you when you're happy
I love you when you hate me
I love you when you love me
1 love you when you forget me
I'm proud of you for getting some sleep
I'm proud of you for trying to sleep
I'm proud of you for waking up I'm proud of you for getting up
I'm proud of you for brushing your teeth
I'm proud of you for doing your hair
I'm proud of you for washing your face
I'm proud of you for doing skin care
1 love you for doing your makeup (if you wear it)
I'm proud of you that you got out of your room
I'm proud of you for getting dressed
I'm proud of you TRYING to eat breakfast.
I'm proud of you for being clean
I'm proud of you for trying to be clean
I'm proud of you for being alive
I'm proud of you for being a good friend
I'm proud of you for trying to be a good friend
1 won't judge you for your looks
1 won't judge you from your race
I won't judge you for your life
1 won't judge you for your family
I won't judge you for your past/childhood
I won't judge you for your body
1 won't judge you for your tears
I wont judge you for your age
I won't judge you for your sexual orientation
1 wont judge you for your gender
1 wont judge you for your money
1 won’t judge you for your religion
I won't judge you for where you come from
I won't judge you for your language
You aren't ugly
You aren't too fat
You aren't too skinny
You aren't annoying
You aren't mean
You aren't evil
You aren't crazy
You aren't weird
You aren't worthless
You aren't scary
You aren't selfish
You aren't too feminine
You aren't too masculine
You aren't too young
You aren't too old
You aren't disgusting
You aren't a doormat
You aren't a toy
You aren't a monster
You are beautiful
You are pretty
You are handsome
You are kind
You are cool
You are everything you want to be
You aren't perfect, nobody is, but you are perfect in my eyes
1 wont judge you for anything
Im so proud of you
love you
this took hours, dont be insecure
This made me smile & almost cry this is so pure n cute ! Tysm 🤍
Thank you soo much for this
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Thank you!Just as you said, you too!
mother always knows exactly what we need 😭😭❤️
FRRRR
She is 🥰🩷
Why did u use this word "mother" a333 she still in her 20 u can't say that just say that she's amazing..ect 🤦🏻♀️
@@daliafina gurl chill it aint that serious
@@daliafinacoz of her maturity and not her age
Tbh I think the fact that your nose is NOT the 'perfect upturned skinny nose' makes it more beautiful because it's not the same. You remind me of Princess Jasmine, you're literally so stunning ♥🥰
Oh thank you!
The jasmine girl who has a CZcams channel?
@@BlowYourMindd Nah disney princess
@@SudhaBairagi-yz6rk ohk😂 i thought jazmine
I just spent 30 minutes crying because I made an insecurities Pinterest board, and I realized how many beautiful women that are out there that love their body, so why can't I? Thank you Tam, you have helped me so much in all aspects of my life ❤
Woahhh ur so beautiful btw
I pray every woman that sees this video changes into her best self as soon as possible❤❤
I seriously can't express my deep gratitude, Tam. You're the big sister I never had. You can't even imagine how much your videos have changed me. Stay amazing, queen 💗💗💫
"I think we are given insecurities for a reason"
That is genuinely the most smartest and amazing thing I ever heard. I never thought of it that way! You are seriously a blessing, thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
it's so easy for yt influencers to post "glow up tips" and being confident, and so much nowadays is based on appearance and how to look better. i feel like because tam has genuinely had similar experiences and gone through so much as a young adult, she knows what we needed. she really filled the gap in the market. i've always felt strong in my core mentally and have felt the same things tam mentioned in her video. i'm so glad there's someone popular who's getting this to girls our age. been watching her videos since last summer and they're still so thorough!
My nose is not that big and never in my life I was insecure about it but two girls of my class were talking about big nose and one of the girl said nashra's nose is big and laughed I heard it I went home looked at my nose and felt so insecure about it since then but watching your videos really helped me realised that My nose really fits my face even if it is big it looks good in my face and I am healing because of you as I have more insecurities thank you so much I love you I feel like you are my elder sister ❤
My insecurities (specially the physical appearence ones) have stopped me from doing so many things, have ruined so many experiences and moments of my life, the habit of finding something wrong every time I look in the mirror was so deeply rooted a year ago. But since I discovered your channel last March I've been working on these insecurities, and it has been a really slow process but this video has confirmed to me that I've made so much progress! A year ago this message felt so unnatural to hear, only your sound logic made me listen, but today I hear you and it feels RIGHT.
And with this video I have so much more to learn, so many specific practices to target my insecurities and keep shifting my mindset for the better, I'm so thankfull 😭😭💜
You gave me hope for a better life and your example gave me the bravery to try for real . Thank you Tam, for helping and inspiring so many people 💕
The timing of the video 😭💗💗
EXACTLY HONEYY CUZ THERES THIS GIRL THAT MADE ME FEEL INVALID AT SCHOOL SO THIS WAS DEFINITELY GOOD TIMING 💗
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ig we all are similar and experience this,i am glad these feelings are normal !
It's perfect
Yaaaaa
Tam is literally the older sister I always wished to have. I love you Tam
The concept of the "Portfolio of Proof" has been such a game changer for me. Any time I feel my thoughts and insecurities growing louder, I remind myself I've done scary things before, and this is just another hurdle for me to overcome. Thank you so much for the lesson, Tam! ❤
my new affirmation: “it doesn’t define who you are, it’s such an insignificant part in all of the amazing pieces of what makes you, you.” cried at this cus i’ve been battling my insecurities for years and it’s been especially hard this month and i needed this, absolutely love u and what u do, thank you Tam♥️
everyday I listen to your “self obsessed” podcast before going to college and it makes me feel like a badass 😎
I've been saying this under every video and I'm gonna say it a million times more... You are the most amazing woman and your videos are a comfort to me everytime I feel bad or stressed.
Love from India❤
You are so beautiful
@@Winyoungisisisiwhayeusjsksm thanku and so are you
Sach me inke videos bhot amazing hote h .. she is like my elder sister ❤😊
The mindset shift part made me realised how much i have grown in past year. Like literally last year changed so much in me in such a good way. OMG. And the credit goes to you.
Girl!
I’m 43 I have been watching you & your on point with all your videos and you give me confidence to rebuild me
Keep the videos coming
Love this, Tam! No one is perfect so we have to stop thinking we have to be. Time to be confident in our imperfections!
I HAVE TO SAY THIS!! I'm sure we've all seen those self love gurus, confidence builders, saying "you are beautiful as you are and you don't need to change anything" while looking like an epitome of these days beauty standards [it's like a really fair skinned person saying to a colored person, don't be insecure about your skin, i used to be too but now i'm confident, you could be too. when being white was use to be considered superior and the other colors as inferior obviously the superiors don't get the problem], but my girl tam, i'm not saying she's not pretty cause she is, its just that she shows her insecurities not for the popularity but she actually turned them into her confidence, and i wanna believe her.
Back to back videos, so grateful for the frequent uploads!!
Tam ♡, you have no idea of how much your words have enriched in my life, your words are always comforting, inspiring and full of wisdom. THANK YOU so much, love you 🩷🫂✨️ and I wish you the best of best in life 🫶
Heyyy, i've started my health journey or whatever you want to call it 3 months ago. Since then i have deleted all my social media, read a lot of books and warched/listened a lot of content about self growth, but i must say you are the literal best person i've found. I love all of your videos so much and feel like i can feel your spirit and good energy trough the screen. It's crazy haha.
Keep up the amazing work and thank you so much💕
i was feeling super insecure yesterday and mother delivers at the perfect timee
YOU SLAY GIRL I found out about your existence a month ago after I felt absolutely devastated by the breakup with my ex but since I'm watching all your videos religiously now I'm feeling so much better about myself 10/10💛💛💛
your videos are genuinely changing my life thank you so much Tam
Your videos always brighten my day! Keep up the fantastic work.
It’s actually crazy bc others don’t even see our own insecurities . For ex. You with your nose I think it fits perfectly to your face when you wouldn’t have said anything about it we wouldn’t even recognized and that’s with all our insecurities 🤍❗️❗️
She is the best honestly,she helped me with my social awkwardness
Hands down, the most healing , helpful, authentic, structured, uplifting channel I’ve ever come across ❤❤❤❤❤
This is what I’ve been needing so badly lately omg!!! Tam u rlly changed my life u have no idea 💗💗
This is not just surface level advice, this hits deep. You broke the code of healing girl. 🎉❤ Thank you for all the amazing content !
Girly pop thank you for posting these amazing videos!! And the fact that these videos pop up around the same time I'm dealing with something that's mentioned in the video is A SIGN. A sign to get rid of things/mindsets etc that are hurting me and to start a new journey.
Thanks Tam from the bottom of my heart
Told my friend about this channel 2 days back and now she can't stop watching ur videos while studying and sending me screenshots.... I'm sooo gladddddd I could do that. Also she's that one 'manifested' friend I found in this new city I moved into a week back. Haven't met her yet but ah she's so adorable. Can't wait to see her.😄😄
She posted when I needed her the most. Thank you love. ♥️
Thanks so much for this video Tam because I really really needed it♥️
I'm so thankful every single time I think of something and at the same time "the queen" showed up everytime 🙌 ❤
Thank God I started experimenting with makeup during my internal glow-up phase. My brother would loudly state his opinion about hiding your flaws in makeup or be disappointed by me but I didn't give a damn. Now I'm gaining more skills to enhance my beauty features 💜
Homework:
1. Portfolio of proof.
2. Draw out your confident life.
3. Write list of insecurities.
4. Shadow work insecurity prompts.
5. Be kinder to your self.
i'm 15 and you are the big sister i need. thank u so much tam, i don't think i can ever explain how much you help me ❤
You are the definition of THAT GIRL!!!!
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH TAM❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Omg! Thank you!
I’ve been keeping up with this channel since August and my insecurities were long GONE! But just gaining some new knowledge was very helpful and peaceful for me.
I especially enjoyed the part where you mentioned that we should see every day as our “Day 1”. It’s actually so amazing! I’m all about improving myself and loving myself and I feel like this advice will help me achieve more on my journey, Ty!
Now, I gotta admit, something you pointed out on the lifestyle shifts chapter, about doing what you said you’ll do….I promise you! I do DO the things I plan, all except my studies 🫠.
And a homework that I would need to complete is to set boundaries with myself, have some self respect, and do the damn work at the time that I plan to.
Lmao! Ty for reading my rant. Love you Tam! (Also, ur actual name is SO PRETTY! Tamara is so cute! But I respect your current name and love how you decided to be your own person).
I pray for many blessings to come your way 🧸💕
Tam, I just had a horrible day and this video changed my evening completely. Thanks for everything you do. YOU ARE SPECIAL
Hi Tam!!❤
I just wanted to tell you how much you and your videos mean to me and so many other other women, but not only that, you helped me as a teen who has a big problem with my body image, as well as many other teenage girls. Im at an age where all I see in a mirror are my flaws, things I'm bad at and things I can't change. It's the age where you sometimes have no control over your own thoughts and actions and I want you to know that you are one of the reasons why I was able to be at peace with myself. You're words and actions made me question this time that we live in and made my realise that am not the problem. Now I'm 16 and i quit sugar for good and I take care of what i eat, how i look, who I spend my time with and what i focus on in my day to day life. So thank you from the depth of my soul for breaking this sick and made up picture of self worth that was pushed on us!!!
Love you girll❤🎉
Nika
i have watched this video so many times, you are speaking directly to my soul. whenever i start to feel myself retreat i think about this. you have no idea how much of a big help you’ve been in my life Tam. Thanks for all that you do!!
I learned from you that even the focus on the compliments people are giving I shouldn’t focus on it and it’s a really good lesson from you thankyou
You’re so close to 1million subscribers!! 🎉 I’m rooting for you, you’ve definitely helped me learn so much about myself. You definitely deserve it! ❤
Tam you are one of the bravest soul who can talk about so boldly and fearlessly about all the things you are talking in this video. May god bless you ❤
Thank you for this detailed video tam!!
I like how you mentioned the change of name helps with the change of mindset shift!!
For me I used "the sims" game this year and made another version of myself and it helped me sooo much because I agree on the part where you said "it's just a silly avatar we can customize; try new outfits"; it also helped me so much on the body positivity and the possibilities i could have done and be!!
You are absolutely GORGEOUS so I can't imagine you being not confident.
Thank you for putting these videos out there, they truly make the bad days better.
Who says prayers don't come true!!!! I prayed to God to bring a person in my life who will help me to grow authentically and see Tam is here in my life now 😌💯
I seriously needed to watch this. Thank you so much. Discovering your channel today has been amazing for me.
I like the videos without background music it really emphasizes your message!
THIS WOMAN CHANGED MY LIFE 🙏🏻
your hair looks beautiful i love it!!!!!😩✨💗
you are a life changer and a mindset changer. so impressed by your youtube and podcast. it really changed me for the better.
Within a matter of 2 months, your channel has completely changed my outlook on everything in my life. I wish I found your channel sooner.
This is literally EXACTLY what I needed😭 idk how you always manage to post the perfect videos at the perfect time
I'm so glad you share all this. I feel more enough as I am and content and like I don't have to get somewhere to feel ok but to think I already am and I can always improve a little everyday instead
Thank you soo much Tam!
Your videos were something that I needed and many other people need. I am glad to have found you ❤
thanks god people like you exist, thank u so much Tam
I actually cried to this one. Your videos help me sm, I feel like I’m healing my child self. Thank you
I randomly experienced an existential crisis and felt super insecure afterwards, this video is just right on time! Thank you Tam ❤
The mindset shifts were just so positive and motivating ❤
I was just rewatching how to radiate feminine energy then I see a notification, I love you... thank you for thisss❤
The reason I am confident and secure and this happy is tam I literally adore her so much seeing you talking about things that really a person need it's just ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thanku so much tam for making my life even better ❣️
I randomly came across your channel, and now I am in love with your channel 🥰❤️ thank u so much for guiding me and other girls like me !!!
Thank you so much, Tam. As someone possibly about twice your age, coming out of a divorce, your videos are so, so valuable. You’re teaching me things I should’ve always realized myself. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
Tam you have changed my life!!!! I recently had gotten out of a situationship when I found your channel and I’ve noticed such change in my everyday life. I am THAT GIRL and working towards the best version of me every day 🥰💞❤️✨💕💘🌷 Sending love 💅🏻
Thank You So much Tam💘✨
You are making my life better & brighter, you are my Angel! ✨
I love you so much im so happy to have a role model like you! ♡
Girl.. that's exactly what I needed to hear today. I am such in a phase of questioning everything. You're a bless! Have a wonderful week too 🌠🙏
When this was recommended I was looking at a girl's insta. I lost a role I wanted to her, i convinced my self it didn't matter, but internally, it still hurt bc, well, let's say she wasn't the nicest person. But honestly, this video put into perspective that it TRULY doesn't matter. Thank you for bringing that confidence inward.
You always have the best timing i swear🙏🏻
I just want to say your one of the few CZcamsrs I have ever felt so inspired from , on days that are so hard for me listening to your videos makes me remember who I am and what goals I am trying to reach and achieve . I literally look up to you and you inspire me to keep pushing even on my hardest days thank you❤
I literally wanted to hug her ,as i go through alot with my skinny body and brown skintone by my mom's side relatives who literally are fair coz of so called genetics, gives a whole lecture on how to be fair, so i was criticizing myself now that i got u on right time ,I'm starting my journey of self love, still a teenager and turning 18 this month, I'm gonna subscribe u girl coz i needed someone like you THANKYOU SO MUCH ❤
I am so enjoying your videos
That I just jump back to your videos as a comfort whenever I don’t feel good
Thanks Tam
Such a game changer
😌
SO excited to get your book, Tam!! You’re the best!! 🤩✨🌟
THANKS TAM❤️, i was sooo insecure about my nose my body my eyes my lips after watching your video i have realized that i have literally the most unique nose that nobody have it every model get plastic surgeries to look perfect and most of those model have cosmetics shope and Want us to be perfect while they are perfect with plastic surgeries i used to me insecure about my body but i realize when i was fat everyone said eat less etc etc (like everyone barks) when now i got thin people are like "oh my gosh you have became so skinny do you even eat" this made me realize that peoples aren't happy in anything YOU ARE LIKE BIG SISTER THAT EVERYONE WANTS YOU HAVE HELPED ME TO OVERCOME MY INSECURITIES AND I'M WAYYY MORE CONFIDENT THEN I WAS IN PAST LITERALLY EVERYONE ASK : HOW YOU BECAME SO CONFIDENT I'M SOOOO GRATEFUL THAT YOU EXIST❤❤😂
OMG TAM almost 1 million subscribers I am so happy for you girl 😍💘
Totally in love with your videos, it makes me think about my life and how to make it more happy more comfident and of course how to give less attention to what others think of me, thank you Tam
This video will prove to be a game changer!!
Your are literally saving the mental health of so many women. You have no idea!
Keep your good work up!👍❣️
Girl your advices are so awesome! Especially this one "this is first day of my life". I think that it is very helpful when have problem with let go our past ❣
GIRLLL I LOVE YOU SMMM. Oh my God before watching your videos I would be so insecure because I would let people define how I viewed myself and I had a personal talk with myself after watching your videos and figured out that I do seek validation but now I don’t feel the need to seek and I’m looking to myself and I feel so freaking pretty like I realize my features are harmonious and I’m actually pretty instead of just looking at each individual feature and Criticizing it
THANK YOU LOVE THE ALTER EGO THINGG
'she is more precious than jewls, nothing u desire can compare with her..' this is a verse I learn from a long way of many years of being insecure, and mind u wat attracts is not ur body its ur confidence, authentic self, ur energy, how you love your self, and ur achievements, so who ever insecure person reading this wat we should fix the inside and our souls. after that we look in the mirror and observe if u will see any flaws..no gal u wont since ur more than that... thanks tam for this vid.
Thank you, Tam!! I appreciate you and your videos so much!! You are doing such amazing and impactful things for all girls out there🥰
thank u so much for this, it makes me realize a lot of stuff i should do for myself first before others
At first I didn’t have any high expectations about this video .. but girl you’re amazing your using logic and practical ideas thank you so much ❤️
I know you always say don't put people in a pedestal and yes I need to use that advice more but you are literally healing a part of me that you never broke like a sister thank you tam❤
I feel you are talking to me personally 😢. I have always hated my body type. Thank you for this encouragement ❤.
In the beginning itself I could see the hard truth that we all know about but couldn't insist it... You are just amazing Tam you don't know how much you have helped me boost my confidence love your presentation so much... Keep going, everyone!
Mindset shifts I got from this video:
You think what others think is more important than what you think. Create your own standards, decide what's beautiful.
- When you look at yourself, don't look at your body and see a photoshopped model body or you won't appreciate what you have. See your body or features for what they are. They're here to allow you to move around, smell, share your energy, your thoughts,.. your appearance is the least important thing about yourself you can give to others.
- Shift your focus from you, and how you look while doing a certain thing to what you can give to people around you.
- Forget the past you and move towards your new you, so much that people who knew you before don't know you now and can say anything because you're such a different person. And for this you have to change your life habits.
- Don't criticize yourself, don't ask for reassurance... All the little flaws (personality or physical) we have are tools to learn to love ourselves fiercely.
- Only surround yourself (on internet) and follow and watch inspiring persons, to be positively influenced (better yourself, your life and not change your appearance with botox or slimming tea) and realize your appearance is not the only goal you should have, it should be to love myself more, to be more authentic, to become smarter, stronger emotionally..
- Have a confidence routine (respect what I said I'm going to do for myself, honor my needs on the moment I need them, exposure therapy to embrace self-validation, self-validation diary write things I accomplished)
Homework :
Create a portfolio proof of everything I did and am capable of (self motivation diary)
Imagine my dream life, not my dream appearance (energy shifts, life experiences I could have, places I could go to, people I could meet, ), focus on how I could feel if I were that girl, not how I would look
Write a list of my insecurities (where they come from) and beat them with logic, learn how to use them
thank you for making this! I really needed it 💗
OMG a whole book?! I've been watching you for a while now. Girl it's been so beautiful to see your growth! Proud of you girl. Will be reading it for sure 😃
ALWAYS POSTING JUST IN TIME
I love you so much Tam! I’m here always for your videos ❤ You go girl, I love your energy!