Growing up I had emotionally distant parents which really messed up my relationships in all areas. But this video has changed my whole perspective of attachment and will definitely make my life better. Thank you I love your videos.
You Really Changed my life and you gave me a new thought for my life✨️ I really appreciate that I found your CZcams channel 💛 You are queen for a reason and you deserve soo much♥️ I loveee youuu lotsssss🤌
I so much loved this video.. "if anyone talks bad about us being detached then they are not the right tribe for us" was such an eye opener. At this 'now' watching ur video resonates with me a lot and aids my inner-growth 🎉❤ Thank you And congrats on ur own jewellery brand.. must be a new amazing milestone of ur life 🎉🎉🎉
this is my favorite affirmation when it comes to detachment: "im not afraid to lose people who dont want me, who dont respect me, and who didnt bring any value to my life"
LAW OF DETTACHED 1.-Stop trying to change people, force connections 2.-Allow yourself to be autentic 3.-Don't force situations 4.-Uncertainly = Reality 5.-Everything that happens it's for my bigger benefit 6.-Embrace the mistakes, lost, pain, as it comes it goes
Tam is really a great sister for us...she is kinda helper for any girl who is suffering from certain things and can transform herself into unbothered and peaceful hot women❤ Love you Tam
"Love without attachment is the purest kind of love, because you understand that your bond with another person can end at any given moment, and that they could betray you and break your heart at any given moment, but you still decide to take the jump and open your heart to them and care for them, and invest your time and energy into your relationship with them, knowing that you might not get anything in return because they are fully in their right to turn around and leave you, and and you are fully in your right tor turn around and leave them, when they're no longer serving you or aligning with you, but you still stay in the moment, cause you value their energy and their character that much, that is LOVE"
"self love us really important because when things don't work out, we are happy to comeback home to ourselves, nothing in life is ours but ourselves, but actually we lose everything, but we are meant to experience it anyways to get the lesson that it came with, so we can grow to the people that we were always meant to be"
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
affirmations: i have everything i need in this moment what’s meant to be will always find a way my desires are always seeking me out, it is safe for me to let them go and trust the process i am okay with any way the situation goes because everything always work out in my best interest i am aware of my feelings without letting them control me i am not strict on my idea of how everything should be other people and myself can flow freely and i let go of all expectations i focus on my own energy and my own life i choose to be free from the good and bad ideas of others i release the need to judge or criticize
A great tip that my therapist gave in regards to feelings of anxiety and fear of abandonment is this: push through the feeling and don’t fall into obsessive and controlling behavioral patterns because they are only going to make the anxiety worse and keep it alive.
Summary - You can not control anything except for yourself. You can’t control how people think of you, what will happen in the future, how things will turn out, so stop trying to control it. If its not something you have control of let it go. Accept that bad things will happen and instead of being sad about something change it into something to be happy about. Change the narrative to something sad to something happy. Plus life is so fucking short. All you have is the present life, not the past, not the future. You can only control what happens in the present moment, so make that you best few seconds of your life. Instead of worrying about shit try to do everything in your power to enjoy that time you have rn. A way to stop attaching to people is to be whole by yourself and if you think you are attaching find out what you are using that person for to fill up a hole in yourself and find a way to help yourself.
I think detachment happens naturally when you process the trauma. It takes looking at your wounded inner child, understanding that the original trauma is NOT your fault, feeling his/her pain. and you will find you are released. Trying to channel being healed only works for so long, believe me. I am the queen of looking the other way and suppressing. This video is an excellent tool to start seeing one's patterns and building trust that its safe to cut the cord and go on faith
agree! I just learned this in trauma healing with my life coach. detachment strategies are tools...you have to fix original trauma, and it takes serious work. The trauma shapes our behaviors and psyche, which we are trying fix and improve...relearning behaviors, habits, and routines is a conscious and focused effort. so grateful for these resources❤.
Trust woman, your comment is far too deeper than the actual Video . Saying this, with no intention of dissolving the content of the speaker! Concept itself is great! Detachment in love
Found this video at the RIGHT moment. I’ve realized a few months ago that everytime SP left, I cried, let it allllll go, didn’t care, and literally the next day told me he loves Me, wrote me a letter expressing everything, asked my ring size and everything. DETACHMENT is the key. Now I just need to learn to be consistent with it. Because I’ll get detached for a good bit but then for some reason I start giving in and can tell the shift in energy on both ends.
I’ve also realized that’s why random fleeting thoughts Manifest SOOOO fast, because there’s no negative or positive attachment to it. 🖤 everyone has their own experiences in realizing the patterns and where they’re going a little wrong.
@@Michealjacksonlikestoeatkids I’ve gotten to the point of manifesting where my mind and body are occupied with better things in life. Anytime something “negative” happens, I just think to myself “it’s okay, this is suppose to happen for me to be able to get my manifestation”. And it ALWAYS happens like that. There’s been a chain of events for EVERYTHING I’ve manifested. I don’t have to obsessively affirm or anything. There were times when it’s ALL I did ALL day long every single second. I would keep my mind FILLED, but it was coming from a place of lack. I realized with self concept that I can be happy with myself and love myself. It took a WHILE because I had such a shitty story with my self concept. But it was worth it. I’m completely aware of my thoughts, but when I want something, I have to actually remind myself to randomly (maybe 2 or 3 times) a day “I’m going to get” whatever I want. They start becoming fleeting thoughts and then manifest (my experience though, everyone is different)
I'm finally learning to set boundaries. Literally texted my friend that I was looking forward to the end our friendship because it was too dramatic and draining....this video was much needed sis. Thank you 😭😭😭
@@enkaylovespizza Hey, Communicating directly to that person about how you feel ( how they crossed your boundaries)is the first step. Try to avoid getting angry. And tell them you want to respectfully end the relationship. This is what I did. Maybe it helps 🫂
Affirmations~ -I have everything I need in this moment. -whats meant to be will always find a way. -my desires are always seeking me out so it's safe to let them go and trust the process. -I am okay with whichever the situation goes because everything always happens in my best interest. -I am aware of my feelings without letting them control me. -I am not strict on my idea of how everything should be. -Other people and myself can flow freely and I let go of all expectations. -I focus on my own energy and my own life. -I choose to be free from good and bad opinions of others. -I release the need to judge or criticize.
Recently went through a heartbreak as someone who is anxiously preoccupied attached. I have been watching your videos and I am making progress in becoming secure, detached, and not caring about the opinions of others. I never thought it was this possible for me to feel comfortable in my own skin. Thank you for these videos. 💕💕
The books "Insecure in love" has been really helpful for me with understanding my anxious attachment style and how to heal it. Same goes for the book "Attached". Highly recommend you guys read it!
Something like this happened the other day. I "lost" someone in late January and I felt really bad the entire month of February, which obviously hurt my perfomance at work. Long story short, I got fired and I knew it was my fault. It was REALLY hard, but at the end of the day I accepted my responsibility. I learned from the experience and started to apply to new jobs. Next thing you know, my manager contacts me the following day and he told me that they thought about it and hired me again. I think it had to do a lot with the fact that I let it go and I didn't attached to the situation and the what ifs.
One thing needs to be made clear here - we all need HEALTHY attachments. Humans need stability including in other people and that is normal. The focus should be healthy attachment, which ACCEPTS that things aren’t always forever. But we need to be very careful because there is a real issue with toxic individualism in our modern society.
Thank you for saying it, detachment can also be a trauma response even if you feel emotionally less bothered by it, doesn't mean it's the healthiest option. A healthy attachment/stability can bring a lot of happiness and peace not only for yourself, but for your partner as well. From a guy's perspective, imagine if your boyfriend was taking his shitty ex out to the Maldives, Italy, Paris, the most expensive places, most romantic dinners and giving the most thoughtful gifts, but you? Nothing... You barely get any of your love and effort reciprocated or even appreciated not matter what you do, the abusive Ex got 100 and 10 % but they hold back with you. I don't think the solution to dating is to detach and close of your full effort/love forever, as a Man I love providing, supporting, being romantic and making her feel loved, but if I'm not fully appreciated in return it stops feeling fulfilling and starts becoming draining, I can't give all my love indefinitely without receiving 100% back, you can give 100% in the moments we're together but also 100% to yourself in the moments we are not. (still being thoughtful of your partners feelings and not doing something you wouldn't do if you were with them) Over all it's a double edged sword, you detach and yes. It will be easier to get over them and move on, but it also will never be as deep and profound as giving 100%.
I'm crying because I missed someone who's"so much busy" to have time for me and it started to effect my life and I hope I'll detache myself from that-live u tam
I cannot stress this enough to be attached from others in order to love yourself more. I can be with someone, love them, maybe even be married to them, and I still will be detached to them out of love. I’m trying to protect my peace
I’m 31 and only just found your videos. May I just say how incredibly thought out and mature your videos are. I’m like 10 years older than you but you have much more wisdom than me and I’m actually learning a lot from you. I’m single for the first time in almost a decade and I’ve never been single for longer than six months since I was 17. I’m learning to not seek male validation and have more self confidence. Your channel is a god send.
I hope you are well! I’m 20 and going through a break up right now. Thank you for sharing! You got this. Hope your journey since this comment has been prosperous :)
@@kaseygrace1396 hello! Yes it has been an incredible journey. In 2023 I’ve planned to visit 9 countries, I’m always out with friends and my job is amazing too. It’s been an upgrade
Timestamps if anyone wants to use it! 1:22 (law of detachment) 11:16 (detached while dating) 17:46 (detached while manifesting) 20:25 (detached on a daily basis)
I really needed to hear this right now. My ex broke up with me and lost feelings for me and isn’t hurting at all. While I’m here bawling my eyes out, being anxious 24x7. I realised that I need to practice self control and live in the present moment. I was in love with his potential and wasn’t actually in love with who he was. I need to keep reminding myself that I need to love myself and prioritise me over anyone. Thanks a lot!! ❤❤
Tam Tam Tam… I can’t thank you enough. 4 years of anxiety & two paid courses. This free video made me feel like the glacier in me is melting. I watched & re-watched it 4 times. Don’t even want to cry to release. It’s okay! ❤
Girl you are my therapist for real. Your video drops are all aligned with the situations going on with me. Exactly when I need validation, your video of validating yourself comes up. Now I’m struggling with emotional detachment and I’ve been discouraged because of some negative events, and here you are reminding me that “ I should embrace the mistakes, the negative situations because they are lessons and without learning we can’t grow. I appreciate your content more than you know. I hope you know you’re changing the world for real. I have so much love and gratitude for you and what you’re doing. You’ve helped me so much ❤✨🌈 thank you !!
I got out of my very first relationship almost 2 months ago. This video helped me a lot. I'm really just trying to get back to normal and not be so emotional all the time. Thank you for helping me see things differently.
@@tamkaur what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
@@tamkaur what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
My confidence has dropped completely all of a sudden and I am trying to hard to bring it back up. I was never like this before and I attract everyone to make me feel awkward so definitely need to manifest better things. Your videos have been helping me so much, thank you.
No matter what you going through don’t feel depressed and don’t let anyone or anything make you feel less of yourself because in every problem there’s a solution and in relationships you can also get the specific person you want to love you ! You can get help in everything you want, only if you ask for help.
This video is so important. Although deep inside we „know“ all of this, I feel like we’re often not aware of/forget these basics. Thanks for this beautiful reminder.
I hated it so much when you said to leave the people be how they are. Don’t try to change them. Embrace the pain and the fear. Felt that immer conflict. I’m gonna cry in my room haha. But you’re right of course. And the sooner you accept the situation and let go of the perfect fantasy, the more grounded you will feel. Wow, the girl I am dating could really hurt me, abandon me and betray my trust and I’m going to embrace that cuz I’ve got me…. That hurts so much. But now I know why
Girl, holy guacamoly. The way you explained all of this - especially how we form and why we maintain attachments - was so clear! Told with ease and from an experienced heart! I now realise that my anxious attachment is pretty much selfish in that regard that I don't dare to tap into my own resources. The complexes run deep, but man, there's no need to use another person for that! There's so much I have yet to learn...Thank you for your video! And for putting it out there so simply and clear to understand. ✨🧿🙏
This is literally the only video that actually helped me understand and apply detachment ,all the stereotypes,all the examples,you explain it so well.Thank you!
Man, I have been going through so much, your videos are helping me immensely right now. U r super attractive and feminine and I used to think I wouldn't understand your content but the words that come out of your mouth are making the most sense to me. Nothing else has for quite some time. Thank you, really. Keep doing good work and I hope u stay happy
you know it's so inspiring to see a brown woman you can look up to and feel motivated by, giving you advice. You don't see many of us putting ourselves out there
Why is that important? Im looking at a beautiful human with a strong message, and until it it got pointed out, I wasn't even thinking about it. Thoughts like these are what create division in today's world
@@evasabet1018 it’s very uncommon to see brown women speaking about topics like these, the culture is very different than the western world/western women. it’s just a fact. no division.
1. Permita que as pessoas sejam quem são e não tente muda-las. E não force conexões que não existem. 2. Não force situações 3. Separar dos momentos tristes esperando que sempre haverá uma solução para você
TAM OMG U ALWAYS POST EVERYTHING I NEED AT THE RIGHT TIME, LITERALLY WHAT IM STRUGGLING WITH RIGHT NOW IS BOUNDARIES W FRIENDS AND SELF-RESPECT, AND ONE OF MY GOALS FOR A LONG TIME WAS TO BECOME DETACHED AND BE AN UNBOTHERED QUEEN, LATELY IVE BEEN ASKING MYSELF "how do i become detached from the outcomes of my reality and stop reacting to everything and letting outcomes control my emotions?" AND THEN U POST THIS!!! I FEEL LIKE THIS IS THE UNIVERSE HELPING ME OUT LOL SO THANKS
going through a similar thing so in my case, what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
wow this was really comforting haha i'm only in my first year of college and i've already lost three friends, a "situationship" came to an end and i have mixed feelings about it everyday. I really love your vibe sister! thank you^^
I loved this video! I have been struggling with unhealthy attachemts all my life. But at the same time I have managed to manifest myself the best life possible. Well, at least quite close.. Only now did I discover the world of detachment and how liberating it is. True power! Your video helped me so much! Your points are good and your explanations make perfect sense. I will bookmark it and watch again. THANK YOU!!
You are the elder sister every elder daughter needs in their life... You have helped me a lot in the past and I am sure you will help me get through my life in the future too😊
detachment is so hard because it's essentially giving to things that serve you, walking away when things don't, and living without expectation and entitlement to anything
The amount of videos I’ve watched before this one is crazy and they left me hurt and confused about things. But this gave me peace and gave me something I can do to help my mind relax. Thank you.
This is amazing content, the only trap here is to missinterpret the mean of just "flowing", you can flow but you still have the right to ask or call out on someone that playes you, lies to you, or hurt you, accountability still exists and you cant go around hurting people just asking them to take charge of their feelings, this is just to leave more stress free withouth being worried or obsessed when things dont go the way you wanted.
thank u so much tam for this video, this helped me a lot. i watched it two times - last year and now and i realized a big difference in my perspective. i am so grateful for my younger self who consistently understand and master detachment💗
My thing is that i get attached to the idea of someone wanting to be with me romantically. It's like the idea of me being special to them is more important than the person themselves to me. Because personally i like to make people happy so if someone is happy because of me being there it will make me feel like I'm doing something for that person, therefore I'll be happy. On the other hand if they aren't replying or they seem distant it makes me feel like i might have done something wrong and it makes me feel insecure in a "oh my god they're gonna leave me" kinda way and it makes me feel like I'm on a rollercoaster of emotions until they reply to reassure me that they were just busy doing something else. So i guess you can say i get attached to the idea of someone being attached to me
Noooo cuz it was just yesterday when I cried for like hours for the people that don't deserve me and now the first thing I woke up to is this 💕 idk how to thank you for this , I REALLY REALLY REALLY NEEDED THIS
I feel the same way, in my case, I feel like they don’t deserve me and I also then get the self doubt thoughts and in my case, what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
@@RB-ok9ss about your situation... I did go through the same way few years back and trust me it wa so painful like you have the sweet memories of them but then again they did you dirty and all you wanna do is just go away and make your separate path but that's kinda not possible at some point... But what I did was I tried to completely cut everything off with them , I told myself that if I let it slide one more time I'll lose it all over again and there's no sure that they won't repeat the same thing they did , the best I did was I focused more on my studies , I found a new music genre and got into it , I kept myself busy so that I don't have the time to think about them . And it worked so well that I finally am happy without them and the toxicity isn't there anymore. I think you should do that too . Ignore them , action speak louder than words so make them realise that you're not someone who need them instead you're someone who they need ❤️ I hope this helped
literally, all of your content just amazing and its always pop up on right time, whenever i need a helping hand. You just so kind and openness ,fully sharing everything authentically with your own experiences and THAT SAVED ME these day when i have some problems of creating boundaries🥺 also i found that your accessories in all videos just so beautiful and attractive, i usually look at them every 10sec 🤣
literally cried listening to this. a combination of many thoughts that i have encountered before and actually helping and positive not toxic. i will try to love myself first and give up on wanting to controlling on situations cuz everything is already in it's best place
Detachment is such a journey, honestly. I need to periodically remind myself when i go into an overthinking loop. Watching the video for the 3rd time now, definitely helps give my thoughts a direction. So grateful ❤
I’m glad this video came up on my recommendations as I was feeling bittersweet about my best friend judging my career choices, while working on giving up on the need to please others for so long! I’m fully aware of how I shouldn’t let her opinion or anyone else’s have an impact but I can’t really fight it, it’s frustrating
You don't know but You Helped me in so many ways to open my eyes and gain clarity of the situations of my life...i even wrote the things that i need and would need in my copy ❤ Thank You 😊 Stay Blessed 🙌
You're so healthy and give off such good vibes! I know you don't know me and we'll probably never meet but I'm so glad to have you in my life for the time I see you in your videos. (And not in a creepy way I just watch them once when they come out.) Could you do a video on healing and personal growth? Sometimes I get phases where I try to grow too much and stress myself with becoming better to the point it gives me anxiety and other times I'm just too frustrated to do the work and confront myself with stuff all over again because it didn't magically heal after one sprint. Like I don't know how can I do this in a healthy way? And do you have some advice on detaching from the need of success? I thought I was over it but it just keeps coming back sometimes from the inside but often from the outside too. And how to set big goals and not freeze with anxiety every time you attempt to take action on them? That was so much and I literally just wanted to write that first sentence. Anyways have a nice day everyone☀️
"I have everything I need in this moment, What's meant to be will always find a way, My desires are always seeking out so it's safe for me to let them go and trust the process, I am okay with whichever way the situation goes because everything always happens in my best interest, I am aware of my feelings without letting them control me, I am not strict on my idea of how everything should be other people and myself can flow freely and let go of all expectations, I focus on my own energy and my own life, I choose to be free from the good and bad opinions of others, I release the need to judge or criticize, I let go of chasing" Love these affirmations! Thankyou Tam❤️❤️❤️
I love that you acknowledge that love and attachment are two different things I had to end things with my past exes because I knew they didnt love me, they just felt like they needed me and it didn't make me feel loved at all. I felt like a caregiver and they could attach to anyone who gives them positive attention.
Love your video...makes a lot of sense. I have been so attached to one person for over 1 year n honestly im the only one hurting myself. Thank you for making me realize how much easier life can be. ❤❤❤
Everything I used to feel but could never put into words. You took me back to how I felt before my beliefs and life were shaken. You made me feel so understood and loved to the point of crying.Thank you so much.
As a 22y old Surinamese-Indian, it makes me so happy to see a brown girl being the best version of herself and helping others to archieve this as well. Thank you for being my inspiration! 💖💖
I was literally thinking of this yday cuz i find it difficult to detach when it comes to manifesting ... GENUINELY THANKYOU SO MUCH i love listening to you cuz ur advice makes so much sense PLUSSS YOURE SO BEAUTIFUL I JUST HAD TO SAY THIS
I just heard this advice a while ago and I'll leave it here for those that are need of it, just like i was. 'treat them like a celebrity, and they'll treat you like a fan'
Omg thank you so much for this video. You articulated so many things I've been feeling lately, but didn't know how to express!! I have been feeling a bit guilty lately because I just don't really feel like spending much time with a lot of a my friends. But I don't feel sad or depressed. On the contrary, I've been feeling extremely creative lately and just enjoying staying at home alone and making art. Sometimes I wonder if it's normal that even though I have lots of people in my life who I care about deeply, there's really no one who I could lose who would drastically change me, my life or my perception of myself. Ultimately I connect with other people because I like to do so, not because I NEED it.
I really have a very serious attachment issue... May it be friends or lovers.. would really have to practice this detachment style. Thank you, Tam ❤ As long as i know and they know that I Love them with all my heart 💕
Just found out this channel and loved it! As a philosophy teacher I appreciate the dept of your thoughts!! Great work, keep sharing your wisdom, let's get stronger together girls!!
omg you just changed my mindset ive always thought that me being detached was inconsiderate and that i was just emotionally numb and couldnt make a strong enough connection and i felt so guilty for feeling this way but i am just so protecting my peace. thank you Tam❤️
Just got ghosted by someone I was seeing and talking to for 1month. He was so loving and expressed interest and care many times, but now he suddenly ghosted me. I feel really abandoned and confused and have no idea why this happened. I actually felt him pulling away on the last week after we hung out, but still this came as a shock to me. Trying to detach now.
I sincerely hope you are satisfied with your life right now. Your contents are huge help for a lot of people struggling to settle with their emotions and thoughts.
Did this video make you look at detachment differently? 👀 reply and let me know!
yes definitely!
Growing up I had emotionally distant parents which really messed up my relationships in all areas.
But this video has changed my whole perspective of attachment and will definitely make my life better.
Thank you I love your videos.
You Really Changed my life and you gave me a new thought for my life✨️ I really appreciate that I found your CZcams channel 💛 You are queen for a reason and you deserve soo much♥️ I loveee youuu lotsssss🤌
I so much loved this video.. "if anyone talks bad about us being detached then they are not the right tribe for us" was such an eye opener. At this 'now' watching ur video resonates with me a lot and aids my inner-growth 🎉❤
Thank you
And congrats on ur own jewellery brand.. must be a new amazing milestone of ur life 🎉🎉🎉
I loved the affirmations! Definitely a bonus!
this is my favorite affirmation when it comes to detachment: "im not afraid to lose people who dont want me, who dont respect me, and who didnt bring any value to my life"
Well I'm so afraid of losing my friend group bc I feel like I'm such a bad friend if I lose them
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@@Jesusssss132 its normal to feel that way, but you cant always please everyone, especially when they are bad for you
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thankyou for this affirmation, I added this to my affirmation list and gonna use it 😊
as a man watching this.. i am ready to enter my unbothered girl era
I patted myself on the back
Go sis
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LAW OF DETTACHED
1.-Stop trying to change people, force connections
2.-Allow yourself to be autentic
3.-Don't force situations
4.-Uncertainly = Reality
5.-Everything that happens it's for my bigger benefit
6.-Embrace the mistakes, lost, pain, as it comes it goes
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@@Anna-vz2fn my pleasure 💋
Tam is really a great sister for us...she is kinda helper for any girl who is suffering from certain things and can transform herself into unbothered and peaceful hot women❤ Love you Tam
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"Love without attachment is the purest kind of love, because you understand that your bond with another person can end at any given moment, and that they could betray you and break your heart at any given moment, but you still decide to take the jump and open your heart to them and care for them, and invest your time and energy into your relationship with them, knowing that you might not get anything in return because they are fully in their right to turn around and leave you, and and you are fully in your right tor turn around and leave them, when they're no longer serving you or aligning with you, but you still stay in the moment, cause you value their energy and their character that much, that is LOVE"
Damn , it isn't said "LOVE = living on valued energy" for nothing 🦢
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but that sounds horrible to me 🫣
I'm exactly in this situation. Don't know what to do😢
@@LoveTheVoid-lg4ss that's cuz you dont value and love yourself
"Everything in life is temporary."
"Be okay with the loss."
"Detach from the outcome."
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“It was nice, but i don’t need him” 🥺💗
"self love us really important because when things don't work out, we are happy to comeback home to ourselves, nothing in life is ours but ourselves, but actually we lose everything, but we are meant to experience it anyways to get the lesson that it came with, so we can grow to the people that we were always meant to be"
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@@tamkaur What are the magical affirmations to get rid of debt?
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
affirmations:
i have everything i need in this moment
what’s meant to be will always find a way
my desires are always seeking me out, it is safe for me to let them go and trust the process
i am okay with any way the situation goes because everything always work out in my best interest
i am aware of my feelings without letting them control me
i am not strict on my idea of how everything should be
other people and myself can flow freely and i let go of all expectations
i focus on my own energy and my own life
i choose to be free from the good and bad ideas of others
i release the need to judge or criticize
Is that you on your pfp because you’re literally so damn pretty I am in awe
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I love these !!
@@kiiikaaaaaaaaaa7099 yes omg tysm 🥹
pure gold, thank you
I come back to this video when I need a pep talk 💀💀
And I'm back here again 🤌🏻🤌🏻
A great tip that my therapist gave in regards to feelings of anxiety and fear of abandonment is this: push through the feeling and don’t fall into obsessive and controlling behavioral patterns because they are only going to make the anxiety worse and keep it alive.
thank you for this, for sharing it
Video notes/sparknotes
Summary
- You can not control anything except for yourself. You can’t control how people think of you, what will happen in the future, how things will turn out, so stop trying to control it. If its not something you have control of let it go. Accept that bad things will happen and instead of being sad about something change it into something to be happy about. Change the narrative to something sad to something happy. Plus life is so fucking short. All you have is the present life, not the past, not the future. You can only control what happens in the present moment, so make that you best few seconds of your life. Instead of worrying about shit try to do everything in your power to enjoy that time you have rn. A way to stop attaching to people is to be whole by yourself and if you think you are attaching find out what you are using that person for to fill up a hole in yourself and find a way to help yourself.
Thank you!
Thank you
THANK YOU SO MUCHHH!!!!!
THANKYOU
Tam and Liz are the girls sent by god/universe to save other girls .... So grateful to have found you out tam
Sameeeee girl. They're both my absolute favorite. Tam and Liz supremacy ✨💖
facts!!!!
Who is Liz?
I'm boy but I need to learn this too. Ruined good friendships coz of it😭
@@Fireflies2202 Thewizardliz :)
I think detachment happens naturally when you process the trauma. It takes looking at your wounded inner child, understanding that the original trauma is NOT your fault, feeling his/her pain. and you will find you are released. Trying to channel being healed only works for so long, believe me. I am the queen of looking the other way and suppressing. This video is an excellent tool to start seeing one's patterns and building trust that its safe to cut the cord and go on faith
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agree! I just learned this in trauma healing with my life coach. detachment strategies are tools...you have to fix original trauma, and it takes serious work. The trauma shapes our behaviors and psyche, which we are trying fix and improve...relearning behaviors, habits, and routines is a conscious and focused effort. so grateful for these resources❤.
Trust woman, your comment is far too deeper than the actual
Video . Saying this, with no intention of dissolving the content of the speaker! Concept itself is great! Detachment in love
Found this video at the RIGHT moment. I’ve realized a few months ago that everytime SP left, I cried, let it allllll go, didn’t care, and literally the next day told me he loves Me, wrote me a letter expressing everything, asked my ring size and everything. DETACHMENT is the key. Now I just need to learn to be consistent with it. Because I’ll get detached for a good bit but then for some reason I start giving in and can tell the shift in energy on both ends.
I’ve also realized that’s why random fleeting thoughts Manifest SOOOO fast, because there’s no negative or positive attachment to it. 🖤 everyone has their own experiences in realizing the patterns and where they’re going a little wrong.
Slay sis
So do you just stop thinking about it?
@@Michealjacksonlikestoeatkids I’ve gotten to the point of manifesting where my mind and body are occupied with better things in life. Anytime something “negative” happens, I just think to myself “it’s okay, this is suppose to happen for me to be able to get my manifestation”. And it ALWAYS happens like that. There’s been a chain of events for EVERYTHING I’ve manifested. I don’t have to obsessively affirm or anything. There were times when it’s ALL I did ALL day long every single second. I would keep my mind FILLED, but it was coming from a place of lack. I realized with self concept that I can be happy with myself and love myself. It took a WHILE because I had such a shitty story with my self concept. But it was worth it. I’m completely aware of my thoughts, but when I want something, I have to actually remind myself to randomly (maybe 2 or 3 times) a day “I’m going to get” whatever I want. They start becoming fleeting thoughts and then manifest (my experience though, everyone is different)
@@theoneonly8916 oh ok thank you so much thats really helpful
I'm finally learning to set boundaries. Literally texted my friend that I was looking forward to the end our friendship because it was too dramatic and draining....this video was much needed sis.
Thank you 😭😭😭
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How did you tell her that? Please give me tips!
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Hey,
Communicating directly to that person about how you feel ( how they crossed your boundaries)is the first step. Try to avoid getting angry. And tell them you want to respectfully end the relationship.
This is what I did.
Maybe it helps 🫂
@@riashaiju8715 thank you so much 😊
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU 🤍
Affirmations~
-I have everything I need in this moment.
-whats meant to be will always find a way.
-my desires are always seeking me out so it's safe to let them go and trust the process.
-I am okay with whichever the situation goes because everything always happens in my best interest.
-I am aware of my feelings without letting them control me.
-I am not strict on my idea of how everything should be.
-Other people and myself can flow freely and I let go of all expectations.
-I focus on my own energy and my own life.
-I choose to be free from good and bad opinions of others.
-I release the need to judge or criticize.
Detachment is healthy for the mind , body and soul. Everyone must practice this. 💗💗
Detachment is creating strongest boundaries to yourself and with other people around you for your highest good and highest manifestation 🙆🏻♀️💜
Recently went through a heartbreak as someone who is anxiously preoccupied attached. I have been watching your videos and I am making progress in becoming secure, detached, and not caring about the opinions of others. I never thought it was this possible for me to feel comfortable in my own skin. Thank you for these videos. 💕💕
omg we have the same attachment style and currently going through a separation 😭
going through the same right now, wishing the best of luck for both of us, we've got this
Me too ! ❤️🩹
The books "Insecure in love" has been really helpful for me with understanding my anxious attachment style and how to heal it. Same goes for the book "Attached". Highly recommend you guys read it!
@@ortegajulzzz thank you !!
Something like this happened the other day. I "lost" someone in late January and I felt really bad the entire month of February, which obviously hurt my perfomance at work. Long story short, I got fired and I knew it was my fault. It was REALLY hard, but at the end of the day I accepted my responsibility. I learned from the experience and started to apply to new jobs. Next thing you know, my manager contacts me the following day and he told me that they thought about it and hired me again. I think it had to do a lot with the fact that I let it go and I didn't attached to the situation and the what ifs.
One thing needs to be made clear here - we all need HEALTHY attachments. Humans need stability including in other people and that is normal. The focus should be healthy attachment, which ACCEPTS that things aren’t always forever. But we need to be very careful because there is a real issue with toxic individualism in our modern society.
Thank you for saying it, detachment can also be a trauma response even if you feel emotionally less bothered by it, doesn't mean it's the healthiest option.
A healthy attachment/stability can bring a lot of happiness and peace not only for yourself, but for your partner as well.
From a guy's perspective, imagine if your boyfriend was taking his shitty ex out to the Maldives, Italy, Paris, the most expensive places, most romantic dinners and giving the most thoughtful gifts, but you?
Nothing...
You barely get any of your love and effort reciprocated or even appreciated not matter what you do, the abusive Ex got 100 and 10 % but they hold back with you.
I don't think the solution to dating is to detach and close of your full effort/love forever, as a Man I love providing, supporting, being romantic and making her feel loved, but if I'm not fully appreciated in return it stops feeling fulfilling and starts becoming draining, I can't give all my love indefinitely without receiving 100% back, you can give 100% in the moments we're together but also 100% to yourself in the moments we are not. (still being thoughtful of your partners feelings and not doing something you wouldn't do if you were with them)
Over all it's a double edged sword, you detach and yes. It will be easier to get over them and move on, but it also will never be as deep and profound as giving 100%.
I'm crying because I missed someone who's"so much busy" to have time for me and it started to effect my life and I hope I'll detache myself from that-live u tam
I cannot stress this enough to be attached from others in order to love yourself more. I can be with someone, love them, maybe even be married to them, and I still will be detached to them out of love. I’m trying to protect my peace
I’m 31 and only just found your videos. May I just say how incredibly thought out and mature your videos are. I’m like 10 years older than you but you have much more wisdom than me and I’m actually learning a lot from you. I’m single for the first time in almost a decade and I’ve never been single for longer than six months since I was 17. I’m learning to not seek male validation and have more self confidence. Your channel is a god send.
I hope you are well! I’m 20 and going through a break up right now. Thank you for sharing! You got this. Hope your journey since this comment has been prosperous :)
@@kaseygrace1396 hello! Yes it has been an incredible journey. In 2023 I’ve planned to visit 9 countries, I’m always out with friends and my job is amazing too. It’s been an upgrade
HOW DID YOU KNOW- this is just what I needed. So ready to enter my unbothered girl era ❤
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“It’s your want, not your need” felt that.
Timestamps if anyone wants to use it!
1:22 (law of detachment)
11:16 (detached while dating)
17:46 (detached while manifesting)
20:25 (detached on a daily basis)
thank u so much❤
tysm:) youre such a lifesaver
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bless you!
I really needed to hear this right now. My ex broke up with me and lost feelings for me and isn’t hurting at all. While I’m here bawling my eyes out, being anxious 24x7.
I realised that I need to practice self control and live in the present moment. I was in love with his potential and wasn’t actually in love with who he was.
I need to keep reminding myself that I need to love myself and prioritise me over anyone.
Thanks a lot!! ❤❤
Falling in love with the potential of others is such a trap...im going through it too. Good luck, I hope you are better.
I think this video should be watched every Sunday, before the week starts, so we can remember what matters
I have to admit. I have watched this vid 3 times in the last few days. It's like comfort while I go thru this phase of my life.thank you
Tam Tam Tam… I can’t thank you enough. 4 years of anxiety & two paid courses. This free video made me feel like the glacier in me is melting. I watched & re-watched it 4 times. Don’t even want to cry to release. It’s okay! ❤
Girl you are my therapist for real. Your video drops are all aligned with the situations going on with me. Exactly when I need validation, your video of validating yourself comes up. Now I’m struggling with emotional detachment and I’ve been discouraged because of some negative events, and here you are reminding me that “ I should embrace the mistakes, the negative situations because they are lessons and without learning we can’t grow. I appreciate your content more than you know. I hope you know you’re changing the world for real. I have so much love and gratitude for you and what you’re doing. You’ve helped me so much ❤✨🌈 thank you !!
synchronicity! love it
NOT EVEN HALF WAY THROUGH THE VIDEO BUT GOT GOOSEBUMPS, NOT EVEN LYING bcs she is spitting facts..
Somebody made me feel bad about being detached and made me feel guilty about it. This video really helped me realise that I am not wrong. Thank you 💜
i needed this so badly bc i'm trying my best to detach from my ex.
YOU GOT THIS!!
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I got out of my very first relationship almost 2 months ago. This video helped me a lot. I'm really just trying to get back to normal and not be so emotional all the time. Thank you for helping me see things differently.
You are a Big Sister every girl needs 🥺
Thank you so much 💕
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@@tamkaur what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
@@tamkaur what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
My confidence has dropped completely all of a sudden and I am trying to hard to bring it back up. I was never like this before and I attract everyone to make me feel awkward so definitely need to manifest better things. Your videos have been helping me so much, thank you.
I found the solutions of all my problems in these 30 minutes.
No matter what you going through don’t feel depressed and don’t let anyone or anything make you feel less of yourself because in every problem there’s a solution and in relationships you can also get the specific person you want to love you !
You can get help in everything you want, only if you ask for help.
This video is so important. Although deep inside we „know“ all of this, I feel like we’re often not aware of/forget these basics. Thanks for this beautiful reminder.
I've actually taken your advice and I've started going places by myself without feeling lonely or needing someone with me all the time.
“don’t worry about where it’s gonna go”
WOW. this. i always think ab outcomes, but i get it now
I hated it so much when you said to leave the people be how they are. Don’t try to change them. Embrace the pain and the fear.
Felt that immer conflict. I’m gonna cry in my room haha. But you’re right of course. And the sooner you accept the situation and let go of the perfect fantasy, the more grounded you will feel.
Wow, the girl I am dating could really hurt me, abandon me and betray my trust and I’m going to embrace that cuz I’ve got me…. That hurts so much. But now I know why
Girl, holy guacamoly. The way you explained all of this - especially how we form and why we maintain attachments - was so clear! Told with ease and from an experienced heart! I now realise that my anxious attachment is pretty much selfish in that regard that I don't dare to tap into my own resources. The complexes run deep, but man, there's no need to use another person for that! There's so much I have yet to learn...Thank you for your video! And for putting it out there so simply and clear to understand. ✨🧿🙏
This is literally the only video that actually helped me understand and apply detachment ,all the stereotypes,all the examples,you explain it so well.Thank you!
I'm so glad!❤️❤️
Man, I have been going through so much, your videos are helping me immensely right now. U r super attractive and feminine and I used to think I wouldn't understand your content but the words that come out of your mouth are making the most sense to me. Nothing else has for quite some time. Thank you, really. Keep doing good work and I hope u stay happy
you know it's so inspiring to see a brown woman you can look up to and feel motivated by, giving you advice. You don't see many of us putting ourselves out there
Why is that important? Im looking at a beautiful human with a strong message, and until it it got pointed out, I wasn't even thinking about it. Thoughts like these are what create division in today's world
@@evasabet1018 it’s very uncommon to see brown women speaking about topics like these, the culture is very different than the western world/western women. it’s just a fact. no division.
1. Permita que as pessoas sejam quem são e não tente muda-las. E não force conexões que não existem.
2. Não force situações
3. Separar dos momentos tristes esperando que sempre haverá uma solução para você
TAM OMG U ALWAYS POST EVERYTHING I NEED AT THE RIGHT TIME, LITERALLY WHAT IM STRUGGLING WITH RIGHT NOW IS BOUNDARIES W FRIENDS AND SELF-RESPECT, AND ONE OF MY GOALS FOR A LONG TIME WAS TO BECOME DETACHED AND BE AN UNBOTHERED QUEEN, LATELY IVE BEEN ASKING MYSELF "how do i become detached from the outcomes of my reality and stop reacting to everything and letting outcomes control my emotions?" AND THEN U POST THIS!!! I FEEL LIKE THIS IS THE UNIVERSE HELPING ME OUT LOL SO THANKS
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@@tamkaur 💓💓
going through a similar thing so in my case, what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
wow this was really comforting haha i'm only in my first year of college and i've already lost three friends, a "situationship" came to an end and i have mixed feelings about it everyday. I really love your vibe sister! thank you^^
Sitting down, reflecting and writing your triggers and actually taking time to schedule yourself to change your mindset is the key! Thanks for that ❤
She literally knows what we need to improve our lives....love ur content..💕
Everything is always working out in my favor no matter how it looks now, You changed my mindset Tam, I love you❤
Love that!🥰
I loved this video! I have been struggling with unhealthy attachemts all my life. But at the same time I have managed to manifest myself the best life possible. Well, at least quite close..
Only now did I discover the world of detachment and how liberating it is. True power!
Your video helped me so much! Your points are good and your explanations make perfect sense.
I will bookmark it and watch again. THANK YOU!!
You are the elder sister every elder daughter needs in their life... You have helped me a lot in the past and I am sure you will help me get through my life in the future too😊
I didn't know how badly I needed to hear this video this morning. Thank you so much!
detachment is so hard because it's essentially giving to things that serve you, walking away when things don't, and living without expectation and entitlement to anything
Thank you need to detach more!! Have to listen to this video on repeat until the message sinks in!!!!
YOU'RE THE BEST! I needed this and here you are! You're A Saviour! ❤
Wow! I’m 47 and you’ve taught me so much!! Tons of gems in this video, I had to take notes! Thank you so much Tam ❤
The amount of videos I’ve watched before this one is crazy and they left me hurt and confused about things. But this gave me peace and gave me something I can do to help my mind relax. Thank you.
This is amazing content, the only trap here is to missinterpret the mean of just "flowing", you can flow but you still have the right to ask or call out on someone that playes you, lies to you, or hurt you, accountability still exists and you cant go around hurting people just asking them to take charge of their feelings, this is just to leave more stress free withouth being worried or obsessed when things dont go the way you wanted.
thank u so much tam for this video, this helped me a lot. i watched it two times - last year and now and i realized a big difference in my perspective. i am so grateful for my younger self who consistently understand and master detachment💗
My thing is that i get attached to the idea of someone wanting to be with me romantically. It's like the idea of me being special to them is more important than the person themselves to me. Because personally i like to make people happy so if someone is happy because of me being there it will make me feel like I'm doing something for that person, therefore I'll be happy. On the other hand if they aren't replying or they seem distant it makes me feel like i might have done something wrong and it makes me feel insecure in a "oh my god they're gonna leave me" kinda way and it makes me feel like I'm on a rollercoaster of emotions until they reply to reassure me that they were just busy doing something else. So i guess you can say i get attached to the idea of someone being attached to me
This is exactly me rn
This changed the way I view relationships forever. Thank you
Noooo cuz it was just yesterday when I cried for like hours for the people that don't deserve me and now the first thing I woke up to is this 💕 idk how to thank you for this , I REALLY REALLY REALLY NEEDED THIS
I feel the same way, in my case, I feel like they don’t deserve me and I also then get the self doubt thoughts and in my case, what about your trying to protect your peace and detach but you live in the same town and go to the same college, how am I supposed to grow but then get reminded whenever I see them (I get reminded of some of the little good memories but more of the bad ones and how they did me wrong and still are at a distance).I want to be unbothered but I feel bothered whenever I see them again. I’m not sure if I should say hello when passing or smile or do nothing n ignore. But it’s hard for me to do any option because I overthink it. Any advice? Please❤
@@RB-ok9ss about your situation... I did go through the same way few years back and trust me it wa so painful like you have the sweet memories of them but then again they did you dirty and all you wanna do is just go away and make your separate path but that's kinda not possible at some point... But what I did was I tried to completely cut everything off with them , I told myself that if I let it slide one more time I'll lose it all over again and there's no sure that they won't repeat the same thing they did , the best I did was I focused more on my studies , I found a new music genre and got into it , I kept myself busy so that I don't have the time to think about them . And it worked so well that I finally am happy without them and the toxicity isn't there anymore. I think you should do that too . Ignore them , action speak louder than words so make them realise that you're not someone who need them instead you're someone who they need ❤️ I hope this helped
literally, all of your content just amazing and its always pop up on right time, whenever i need a helping hand. You just so kind and openness ,fully sharing everything authentically with your own experiences and THAT SAVED ME these day when i have some problems of creating boundaries🥺
also i found that your accessories in all videos just so beautiful and attractive, i usually look at them every 10sec 🤣
literally cried listening to this. a combination of many thoughts that i have encountered before and actually helping and positive not toxic. i will try to love myself first and give up on wanting to controlling on situations cuz everything is already in it's best place
I watched an earlier video of yours and made my mind that I’m in my unbothered girl era 🎉. And I’m loving how stress free I am
Detachment is such a journey, honestly. I need to periodically remind myself when i go into an overthinking loop. Watching the video for the 3rd time now, definitely helps give my thoughts a direction. So grateful ❤
I’m glad this video came up on my recommendations as I was feeling bittersweet about my best friend judging my career choices, while working on giving up on the need to please others for so long! I’m fully aware of how I shouldn’t let her opinion or anyone else’s have an impact but I can’t really fight it, it’s frustrating
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!!!! Darn yeah babe whatever looking like the worst it is always a redirection in the right way for us xxx
You don't know but You Helped me in so many ways to open my eyes and gain clarity of the situations of my life...i even wrote the things that i need and would need in my copy ❤
Thank You 😊 Stay Blessed 🙌
omg, you changed my mindset you have such a rich experience in just a so young age. thank you soo muchhh
You're so healthy and give off such good vibes! I know you don't know me and we'll probably never meet but I'm so glad to have you in my life for the time I see you in your videos. (And not in a creepy way I just watch them once when they come out.) Could you do a video on healing and personal growth? Sometimes I get phases where I try to grow too much and stress myself with becoming better to the point it gives me anxiety and other times I'm just too frustrated to do the work and confront myself with stuff all over again because it didn't magically heal after one sprint. Like I don't know how can I do this in a healthy way? And do you have some advice on detaching from the need of success? I thought I was over it but it just keeps coming back sometimes from the inside but often from the outside too. And how to set big goals and not freeze with anxiety every time you attempt to take action on them? That was so much and I literally just wanted to write that first sentence. Anyways have a nice day everyone☀️
"I have everything I need in this moment,
What's meant to be will always find a way,
My desires are always seeking out so it's safe for me to let them go and trust the process,
I am okay with whichever way the situation goes because everything always happens in my best interest,
I am aware of my feelings without letting them control me,
I am not strict on my idea of how everything should be other people and myself can flow freely and let go of all expectations,
I focus on my own energy and my own life,
I choose to be free from the good and bad opinions of others,
I release the need to judge or criticize,
I let go of chasing"
Love these affirmations!
Thankyou Tam❤️❤️❤️
you're my free therapist :)
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I love that you acknowledge that love and attachment are two different things
I had to end things with my past exes because I knew they didnt love me, they just felt like they needed me and it didn't make me feel loved at all. I felt like a caregiver and they could attach to anyone who gives them positive attention.
Literally taking notes on this vid cause this is such an important mindset I need to work on and I am relying only on myself to improve
Y'all Tam Kaur is my self development guide now❤
Love your video...makes a lot of sense. I have been so attached to one person for over 1 year n honestly im the only one hurting myself. Thank you for making me realize how much easier life can be. ❤❤❤
Everything I used to feel but could never put into words. You took me back to how I felt before my beliefs and life were shaken.
You made me feel so understood and loved to the point of crying.Thank you so much.
As a 22y old Surinamese-Indian, it makes me so happy to see a brown girl being the best version of herself and helping others to archieve this as well. Thank you for being my inspiration! 💖💖
I was literally thinking of this yday cuz i find it difficult to detach when it comes to manifesting ... GENUINELY THANKYOU SO MUCH i love listening to you cuz ur advice makes so much sense PLUSSS YOURE SO BEAUTIFUL I JUST HAD TO SAY THIS
Tam I think you need to become a life coach or a counselor/psychologist. You nail it on the head every-single-time! ❤ ⚒️
I just heard this advice a while ago and I'll leave it here for those that are need of it, just like i was. 'treat them like a celebrity, and they'll treat you like a fan'
Omg thank you so much for this video. You articulated so many things I've been feeling lately, but didn't know how to express!! I have been feeling a bit guilty lately because I just don't really feel like spending much time with a lot of a my friends. But I don't feel sad or depressed. On the contrary, I've been feeling extremely creative lately and just enjoying staying at home alone and making art. Sometimes I wonder if it's normal that even though I have lots of people in my life who I care about deeply, there's really no one who I could lose who would drastically change me, my life or my perception of myself. Ultimately I connect with other people because I like to do so, not because I NEED it.
Attaching to yourself…. Think you might’ve just changed the game for me with this. ❤
I really have a very serious attachment issue... May it be friends or lovers.. would really have to practice this detachment style. Thank you, Tam ❤
As long as i know and they know that I Love them with all my heart 💕
the way this video came at the absolutely, i mean ABSOLUTELY, perfect time
Just found out this channel and loved it! As a philosophy teacher I appreciate the dept of your thoughts!! Great work, keep sharing your wisdom, let's get stronger together girls!!
omg you just changed my mindset ive always thought that me being detached was inconsiderate and that i was just emotionally numb and couldnt make a strong enough connection and i felt so guilty for feeling this way but i am just so protecting my peace. thank you Tam❤️
Just got ghosted by someone I was seeing and talking to for 1month. He was so loving and expressed interest and care many times, but now he suddenly ghosted me. I feel really abandoned and confused and have no idea why this happened. I actually felt him pulling away on the last week after we hung out, but still this came as a shock to me. Trying to detach now.
me too hun, we got this🫶🏽
I sincerely hope you are satisfied with your life right now. Your contents are huge help for a lot of people struggling to settle with their emotions and thoughts.
bro shes so pretty i love this girl and her videos ong
After this video im gonna come out as a happy and content and detached soul! Amen 🙏🏻
WOMAN I FREAKING LOVE U FROM THE BOTOM OF MY HEART
I’m so glad I came across your videos this is helping me so much with my current situation and my attachment issues