HOW TO MASTER SOCIAL CONFIDENCE | talk to anyone, develop extroverted traits and become magnetic!
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I used to be worried about matching people’s vibe at parties too! It was horrible because I was so worried that my energy would bring the mood down. So now rather than trying to match the vibe, I just try to compliment it. If everyone at a party is super hyped and excited but I’m feeling a little more chill, that’s fine! They can be their version of upbeat and I will be MY version of upbeat.
"overcome your fear of being perceived". oh my gosh. there is such quality in every sentence you say istg
I thought I was introverted for ages (thanks trauma) until I realized my energy came from being social with others. This is helpful for continuing to heal from the ways I had limited myself in the past.
I also misidentified as an introvert for the longest time, but later realized it was due to being exposed to a lot of dysfunctional people at a young age and resulting social anxiety. After working on my social anxiety through therapy, I realize I'm an extrovert! There are strengths to being both introverted and extroverted, but it's important to be authentic.
@@360shadowmoonwow this makes me now deeply think if I’m a hidden extrovert😅
Omg same!! And it feels so good when you finally allow yourself to open up to others
Samee!
this!
remember, if u don't want ppl to judge u, don't judge urself. its only judgy if YOU make it judgy
Tam! Once again you’ve come through with the advice!! I’m a huge introvert as well and I find it difficult to socialize and stay present when surrounded by lots of people. This makes me feel proud to be one rather then be someone im not. Thank you 💗💗
You are so welcome!
This girl is healing my inner insecure littlr girl and i love her for that😭
When you are an introvert, are shy, and have social anxiety 😂 the worst of all worlds
This is all me 😂😅😭
Same
My social anxiety is worsening in the past few days and listening to this actually made me cry :(
Just a little thought: For me, to be perceived as a "nerd" is to be seen as intelligent, a unique thinker, and able to pick up on other's cues in ways that may seem overwhelming to the average person. I guess it's all about the matter of perspective. But I do agree if you're not happy with your confidence, take the necessary steps to grow that! You can do it 😄
I was scared to present in front of my class, but I got myself together and after 3 days of working on getting myself together I managed to present. SO PROUD!!!!
Congratulations! You deserve to feel proud.
That's amazing, congrats!!!
That's amazing, congrats!!!
YEAH im proud of u
hi tam,
I’m naturally really introverted but i also love talking with people. today in my emt class I set myself a goal to smile and say hi to someone new, and honestly that was really nerve wracking in itself. However once I got past that initial hurdle I made three new friends today and then starting talking with everyone, and I’m feeling so happy now. I want to keep this up, thank you for everything tam ❤️
as an extrovert that used to be really shy and quiet, this video helped a lot!! during high school what made me the most insecure was the fact that people THOUGHT i was introverted and ‘boring’ - even though i have always been loud, ougoing, up for random impulsive adventures etc. around my friends and around random strangers.
on my self love/healing journey i’ve made it a priority to talk to as many people as possible - ask a random classmate for help, compliment a stranger, talk to the cashier in the store … all these little things help a lot! the most important thing to be confident is to realize how amazing and fun you are, if you know your worth nobody else’s perception can take that from you!
Her new energy for the new year is radiating idk how to explain but there's something more than the last year. Love it tam
I will always be an introvert, I need my time away from people, however I don't have to be shy for the rest of my life and am not going to
This hits home for me, because I used to always see myself this way and therefore it became my new reality. I realized I had to change when my own friends started to limit my potential by saying "You're not the type of person to go out" or "You wouldn't talk to strangers". Essentially, they were deciding who I was based on some situations when I was being reserved. I'm not defined by their perceptions of me.
R you an extrovert now?
Rightt, so that's, why meeting new people = new perceptions to make; which means i am not limited by others' perceptions of who I am! :)
@@11n_n Did you become an extrovert?
One of my favorite thing to do nowadays is trying to meet and talk to new people, i love that, like in public i like approaching people for questions. I realized that these people are actually always willing to help you, they're not scary
As an introvert this video rly comforted me and made me feel seen my main struggle is connecting w ppl as I genuinely look for deeper connections conversations and things that ppl seem to be lacking as a result I get assumptions made abt me and feel misunderstood bc no matter what I js don’t fit in I’ve no problems with talking to strangers on the street I genuinely have more confidence going up to strangers bc they’ve no bad perception of me whereas the ppl ik like home school I’m constantly judged and stuff b long term wise I want deep conversations and a forever type thing thank you for your hardwork as always love you tam !!
Dear Tam, thank you so much for uploading such amazing contents for us. We really appriciate your hardwork from bottom of our heart. Your videos saved me so much in 2023 and hope your videos will do the same for me in 2024. Wishing you all the best and hope you reach 1 million soon. You deserve it. Honestly, MORE than a million. Once again thank you. You are my life saver
girl thank you for talking about the meaning of being an introverted/extroverted person. when i first tried to shift myself into a extrovert one i was kind of a mess because i thought that being extrovert was being so loud and always being on the spotlight, and i did it until i couldn't anymore, i felt so tired and i felt so fake. And i am agree with being confident even if i am quiet while everyone else is loud. the last few weeks i was just being me minding my business in college and combing both "energies" instead of acting like a clown (because i lit was there to entertain my friends to the point of ridiculizing myself so they could be around me, because i thought that was what an extroverted would do) and i felt more confident and more like me, and now i have a better presence around my friends.
idk if my english is good, saludos
Thank you for actually explaining what being an introvert is, and what it ISN’T. I feel like so often online people normalize unhealthy behavior because it’s just “being an introvert”, like no honey you haven’t been outside in 2 weeks and you get a panic attack every time your phone rings. That’s not cute quirky introversion, that’s mental illness
for the past two summers, i’ve been going on service trips to new countries with students i’ve never met, and i always get really anxious and don’t really make friends. this year, im going to make a ton of friends and have an amazing time 💆♀️
Tam you're INFJ too, so that's why I relate so much to you, I am one too. And yeah, we people with this personality can appear extroverted because we are friendly but we are introverted anyways.
Tam, thank you so much! I just recently realized that I'm an introvert and your video really helped me learn more about this aspect of myself. I used to think that introverts were people who were shy and since this didn't describe me, I didn't think that I was introverted and would always be confused as to why I was so drained after spending time with friends. You explained this in a way that made so much sense to me! Your videos have really opened up a whole new world for me and now I finally have the courage to manifest my dream life! Thank you for this
Ty so much for this video! I used to struggle all the time being an introvert, but after learning that your an introvert too and always get out of your comfort zone, you’ve motivated me to try new things! I actually tried out for the basketball team and I made it! I’m scared of doing things like sports and stuff but trying new things is actually so much fun Ty for this amazing video Tam!
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Tam Kaur took the 16 personality test she's an INFJ and I am too :)!!
im so glad i came across your channel , im currently at the lowest ive been because my anxiety has been acting up and you have really opened my eyes .
Tam we need more videos!! ❤❤I can't go a week without missing your videos . I rushed here as soon as I got the notification. The inspiration we get from you is unexplainable. I feel im gonna manifest my dream life this year and the biggest inspiration came from you .Love u always x
omg tam, i was literally hoping you'd make a video like this. i've been battling to overcome my social anxiety and this video was so helpful!
Tam you never cease to amaze me!! You upload on the regular, your intros to videos are just getting better and better, and you’re so wise!! Thank you for all that you do 🥹
eyy sis thank you soo much for this am entirely grateful I have a tiny winy tip that has helped me I always had a hard time when it came to how I can walk around as an emotional person I tend to have broad shoulders and sometimes when am tired they just bend on their own and that ruined my posture when walking coz I would be hunched down so to get over this i forced myself to wear a sunhat and make sure it covered my eyes so that I would have to be upright if I had to see where I was going and this has helped me soo well with my posture that I no longer walk around like a zombie but I fully stand up and damn the confidence it gives is beyond comprehension it gives people am watching you so don't try to do anything stupid kind of vibes and it's working great for me but once again thank you soo much for the wisdom damn you just hit the nail on the head and am super grateful ❤❤❤heart you lots keep doing the great work
oh tam this intro absolutely ATE! so proud of ur journey and grateful for the motivation you give me
Amazing video as always and thanks for debunking stereotypes! On social media it looks like 80% of people are introverts but I think some of them don’t know that they’re actually extroverts. One of my friends is really shy but she’s definitely extrovert.
I was an introvert but suddenly after the lockdown era i was a social butterfly and i don't regret it. All things Tam said are so true
How. Pls tell
Maybe because being introvert or extrovert HAS NOTHING TO DO with social skills.
This was so in need! Queen drops the videos on accurate timings!😩💓💓💓💓💓
thank you so much i’ve always been so self conscious about how i’m perceived but i’m starting to realise it doesn’t even matter about what people think of me
ALWAYS COMING THROUGH AT THE PERFECT TIMING!
I love the way u spread constantly good energy, it's giving girls help the girls and this video truly helped mee
hi tam!
really wanna appreciate you for this video ❤️ I am an introvert and had no friends in my high school in my home country. I moved abroad for uni and today was my first day! I saved this video to watch it one day before and the way it helped me make conversations with a bunch of people today is such a nice feeling! I am so happy I did this and i am getting out of my comfort zone! Love all of your confidence videos❤️
I appreciate the necessary repetitions on certain habits needed to elevate yourself throughout the videos. This is SOLID!
This is all I needed today I swear! I am so grateful
Watching your videos has been a turning point in my life, Tam 💗
tam is such a BLESSING! 😭💝
Thank you so much Tam. I've been watching you since the beginning of your channel and even my peers can say I have changed !!! I struggle with social anxiety and my job requires me to just walk up to people, usually I ask to switch roles, but now I've been asking to put myself there and immerse myself with discomfort like you said, and I'm getting stronger! I love the advice you give
Ty so much. This video is AMAZING. You made me realize things about myself I didn’t even fully understand like how I sit quietly wondering if everyone’s judging me yet I can be quiet comfortably instead. Love this channel sm!❤
The point you made about people getting promoted because they socialise with higher ups is so true so on point. Ive seen it at the place where i work or even people getting favours and getting away with things only because theyre friendly with management
You're so right about the introverts Tam. I myself have been stated as a cold hearted person many times by others just because I don't share a lot with them. I'll try my best to be more confident as an introvert. Your videos have always helped me. Thank you so much ❤
You are changing the way I live my life and carry myself 🌸 thank you Tam
I'm Introvert
#1Always feel yourself (confidence baby , focus on yourself & ur emotions)
#2Don't be insecure (people opinions doesn't matter)
#3fake it till you make it ( imagine what future yourself would do as confident person and do it)
#4 change something(people,style) diff environment
#5change your energy (master detachment)(every one cal feel your energy)(act like royalty)(confidence silence)
#6 u feel being watched or self conscious (exposure therapy)look back smile (no fear/ self love)
Love the fact the people are watching you
#7 missing opportunity ❌
Be familiar with yourself worth
Immersing yourself in discomfort
How can you just interact with the other person
#8 don't define yourself from others
#9 ifthis is gonna be positive thing if not it will be a lesson
#10 how to vibe with extrovert person
U will not get along with many person
People should accept you as u
#11 how can I have meaningful conversation ask questions
#12 how to deal with change
I am gonna meet new part of myself it's winwin
#13 plan make strategy for new something
#14 take class on self esteem social skill , confidence
Book - how to win friends and influence people
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Thank you ❤
She is very straightforward that's the reason i like her ❤
As an introvert, I do agree with all of what she says, and this video was really really helpful. I've been trying to be more outgoing these days and to match my friends' energy, but now I know that's what's been preventing me from feeling more like myself. From now on, let's see what happens, but I truly appreciate people like Tam who have the courage to talk to the camera and let us know all of these wonderful tips. 💞
Tam's helping me so much! Finally someone who isn't afraid to speak, despite her personality 🧡
Thank you so much for this ! I have a "braai" (Afrikaans for barbeque) later today with some of my mates and other people. Been feeling a bit out of it lately and get nervous in social settings, but I just needed a little encouragement and reminder that the energy I put out, is the energy I receive :)
Love from South Africa
THIS VIDEO IS AMAZINGGG!! girlie u changed my whole mindset and ur so sweet, my big sister fr!
Babe thanku so much for doing this. i have so much love and respect for you babe. You've shown me so many new perspectives and literally impacted me in the most positive way ever. More power to youuuu.
Gurllll!!!!! U nailed it. I loveee you very very veryyyy muchhhh. You're my unpaid therapist. I watch your vdos every single day. I am leaving my lazy era, scared of becoming myself era. Thankyouuuu for alwyss being there for us!!! Ily
Thank you so much!!
WHAT A CONFIDENCE BOOSTER. JUST BY WATCHING TAM I FEEL LIKE I CAN DO ANYTHING
starting my day off w your voice >>
so happy you uploaded this morning 😍
OH MY GOD THIS IS THE VIDEO I NEED RN AND I'M CURRENTLY READING HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PPL TOOO!!
I just fumbled across your channel via your video on toxic parent, and i just wanted to say thank you so much for creating this content. These 2 videos have literally hit some many nails on the head for me and made me learn so so much. Immediately subscribed and joined the discord. ❤
I like this, the situation went from self centeredness to genuine care for the other individual.
My fav idea which I learned was when you said ' Dealing with change makes you expose to a new part/version of yourself'. I can relate as an introvert. That's all that I needed to hear.
Oh my gosh, thank you so much! I love your videos, they are all super helpful! I am more of an introvert, but I think that I have some extrovert traits/mannerisms. Another thing is, I truly believe that people can change from one to the other in their lifetime, or at the very least, trade traits from one to the other. Sometimes depending on the situations or environment you have been in, people or things will push someone into being and introvert/extrovert when they truly aren't that way, and then they find out that they are the opposite and gain their energy from being that way. I wish everyone luck on balancing their energy levels no matter where they gather it from ❤
Tam, u honestly have noo idea how many people you are legit helping at this point, thanks to you, my personality and the way my brain is wired now is like soo much better than before and u boost up my confidence SOO much girly, luv ya loadss
I really liked what you said about talking to strangers....try to make them comfortable! Im gonna try that!!
i learned that i am an introvert and that it’s ok to include certain activities such as journaling to help me grow a better connection with myself :) thank you for all that you give
After watching every video you post I get energised and boosted and I get so into my energy that it feels yes I am going to conquer the world and at times I pause the video because I feel this energy in me that makes get things done hence when I am over it I come back and reward myself continuing the video further 💫
Love this! It's so true throughout my career i noticed you have to be extroverted to be promoted or you'll be classed as anti social or not part of the team
This week I'm giving a dance performance for most of my school. I'm so terrified and simultaneously excited at the same time! This video really helped me to be determined to reform. Thanks so much Tam
you've no idea how eagerly i had been waiting for this video since you informed on your broadcast channel that you gonna post a video about going from being introvert to extrovert
lots of love 💕
notess!
6:01 extrovert bias: the world was built for extroverts 🌏
7:28 tips 💡
- 7:32 put effort in ur appearance -> feeling more confident in yourself
- 8:34 let go of ur fear to be perceived.
> happy people dont judge!
- 10:25 "fake it till u make it" as the first step
- 11:18 just do it if u want a change.
- 12:05 create an alter ego
- 12:11 focus on the energy u hold
> detach, detach, detach!
> watch how u think and say to urself.
15:57 be comfortable in taking up space! 🙋♀️
- embrace and LOVE that people are looking at u
17:20 immerse urself in discomfort 🙃
> "the only person that i need approval from is myself."
18:56 portfolio of proof 📂
> its always a positive experience bc it will teach u a lesson
19:55 stop mirroring other people🪞
> lean into your authenticity, your quirk, your weirdness
20:55 to keep a conversation going, focus on how u'll make them feel 💗
> dont interview them, actually converse and talk abt urself bit by bit throughout the conversation!
22:39 "i am going to meet a new part of myself!?" 😻
> a big change is a w
> discomfort -> discipline
23:02 its OKAY to plan out what ur gonna say/do ☝️
25:44 homework 📝
- tailored exposure therapy
- self education
- dress to impress urself!
- solo dates in a public space!
- develop the relationship with urself -> master detachment
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love this so much❤
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this video is so useful i’m constantly writing notes down, it’s the start of 2nd semester tdy n all u hv said in this video r things that hv crossed my mind tdy
This is the only girl that I actually learned self love or confidence from fr. I watched the wizard Liz and some of other CZcamsrs talking abt the same topic and she’s the best.
Your speech hits my heart and really shifts my mind! Thank you
So much revealing information that I couldn't even see it straight away. thank you. I love you.
Thanks for being there for us Tam ❤you are my biggest supporter in 2024 and this year im gonna achieve many things ! ❤❤
i just love her vibe!
Hi Tam!! I just wanted to say that I love your energy :D
I've been watching your videos for an year now and they've helped me become so much more confident in who I am . Thank you so muchh ❤
You changed my life so much😭😭 I'm developing myself 💖 I'm very grateful when first time i found you⚘ Thank you so much you are like my elder sister 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Omg queen has posted 👸hey tam I wanted to say this ... that I liked a video of urs of Sunday reset and you replied with a hug god uk I screamed and showed my sis ... I was jumping literally jumping and bursting with excitement. I was breathless ❤this is the amount of positive energy u hold , the amount of love and respect u have is insane . I pray that u get everything that ur heart desires .. ❤🥰 may God fulfill all of ur wishes stay healthy, happy and safe ❤ lots of love ❤☺
Thank you for such a great video Tam! Your videos have helped me become so much more confident and embrace my inner introvert ❤
Love you videos🫶, I can't believe my own self that I'm being productive and romaricizing my life✨♥️
Girl, I love you. Like mean it, have been watching ur videos and listening to ur podcast since last week. And trust me, not even a single sentence u speak there is less relatable. Have felt so confident and abundant just within a week, wonder what will happen in a month or a year. Keep up the good work, u truly are a definition of royalty
Ok i really must say this that how I've been trying to achieve self love and in order to do that I've been working on myself for myself but all of a sudden idk I just felt confused (which yes I often get at times) but I genuinely think this video has given me hope so I ain't stopping from becoming the person I am desired to be :) thanxx Tam
Before I always used to think that whether people would like me or not, and from this thought I started to become a people pleaser...people also started to use me but I stayed quiet because all I wanted was to please them. I was also very shy at the moment. However after watching your videos I have been focusing on myself and didn't care at all what other people started to think of me. I have been very confident too!! My self love journey has been going so good!!! Thanks a lot Tam, love you
It's my first time watching you and I really like the way you express and the advices you gave, this video really helped me to have another perspective on things and be confident! Thank you so much💗
Thank you so much tam. I have changed my perspective and habits because of you.. you are my true inspiration and motivator.. 😊
I was just thinking about this and then in the exact moment she posted this video!
Thank you so much ❤
i like the change in dressing in this one! it's soothing, the hoodie!
I feel instantly motivated after listening to you. I love you sooo much tamm!!❤❤
as a fellow introvert, i love this video so much! i would say i have a pretty high level of confidence in who i am as a person, but am still learning to overcome my shyness in social/professional settings. this advice really feels like something i can put into practice and grow from, so thank you 💖 glow up incoming!! ✨
also, would love to see a dedicated video on how to sell yourself! i feel like your take on that would be SUPER helpful ✨
But like omg how did you know I needed this?! Also I love the intro! So we’ll put together! I love you gorgeous, inspiring woman❤❤❤
Girl, you're sooo freaking special!
I must write this to you, as I watch more and more of your videos, I find myself falling for you first and foremostת You have such a wonderful personality and you are so wise.
I really connect with everything you say, and I feel like we come from such similar places. I almost identify with everything you've shared about yourself, except that I'm also introverted, and a Libra myself(which could means a lot to those interested in astrology.) Overall, I enjoy watching you so much, your good vibes just make my days and simply change lives.
omg im going to an event this week and i was so scared like im an introvert so talking to other people is soo hard like i really needed this you are such a lifesaver
you uploaded that in the right time excatly when I needed thattt 😢
thankyousmmm ur vids are so to the point, clear and well thought out!!