You're such a great person. As a cis person I really appreciate you because you teach me to be a better ally to trans folk. I never want to pry into one of my trans friend's sensitive subjects but want to make sure I don't say anything dumb because of my own ignorance.
I'm hard of hearing and there were no captions but I could still hear thanks to the fact you euniciate words clearly so I can lipread. Thanks! It was an interesting video x
kittykitty beachbox you can do it on youtube. i’ve done it for a few things. its a lot harder than it seems lol. but i think the creator has to turn that option on when they upload
I really love how you brought up "no one wants to be reduced to one part of their body, when people have multiple attributes and many things to bring to the table" I think that hit the nail on the head. I think that tends to be one of those "unspoken truths" but even if it might seem obvious, it's really important to be said out loud. You're one of my favorite youtubers and I'm so glad that I can learn from your life experience when it's something that is so unique from my own 💜
You explained your point of view eloquently and accurately. I hope the folks who needed this explanation got something out of it. I just found your channel this week and I’m beyond impressed with your humor, your composure, your intelligence, and your compassion. Big ups for your shout out to Contrapoints! Love y’all both 😘
You are very beautiful, and this video is well made. I believe you should sign up with a modeling agency, become a supermodel, and broaden your platform, while continue doing what you do!😊
this video is so articulate, so well made, so beautifully described, i want to sent it to every insensitive/ignorant person i've ever met. really great stuff victoria. everything you said completely seems like common sense to me, but i suppose not everyone is exposed to the information we have, and so this will serve as a great source of education to those less aware and informed about trans people in my opinion
That part where you explained why people ask trans people rude questions , only because of it being a huge mystery to then and it being so fascinating, daaamn. So well explained! 💛
Great video Victoria, very well said. Just want you to know you're not the only girl out there with these struggles. Many of us share the same experiences when interacting with people. Much love and thanks for cheering me up whenever I see your videos
❤️You are 100% right. I am so sorry this is something you have to deal with. I can’t even imagine that being a question that would come out of my mouth. No one should be judged based on their genitalia, that is insane.
Even though sexuality and romantic attraction are different things, for most people they are the same (hetero/hetero). so when someone is romantically attracted to someone who presents ,for example female, that persons brain would automatically register them as having a vag, which the person would be sexually aroused by. If one person in the relationship isn’t attracted to the other persons genitals, I wouldn’t blame them on wanting to have the relationship platonic.🤷🏼♀️
I'm a transwoman too, and I've been asked this question so often. And you are right, cis people are very interested in me and how it is to be trans because it's new and different for them. But they only ask me that question, if I told them that I'm trans. Or they had heard of it. But most of the time, the people are seeing me as a normal woman in public.
I just don't know why people care about my (trans) genitals. Like...are you gonna treat me different the day before and after surgery? Do you wanna fantasize about me properly later? Like what happens after that?? "Oh okay you have that body part...yep...okay"
The make up, the lighting, the script which was more serious than your usual but with just enough of your unique humor to keep it poppin...just SUCH a great video Victoria! Brava! :)
Honestly this is a good take, but I personally still find the science part important and very empowering. I think when I first realised that I'm trans it came with a lot of doubts, because I was scared I was making it up or doing something wrong, and I actually spent a lot of time researching the science and biology of being trans. It really put it into perspective for me and made me feel a lot more validated. At the end of the day my feelings were the first thing to pop up, they re the most important, and if someone knows they re a woman or a man or neither, that should be the end of discussion and should be respected. But personally it helped me understand myself better, and I now think it can really help people understand that it is a real thing and that trans men are genuinely, very biologically male and that trans women are women in same respects. Goin back to your point, in the situation you gave above again this is not something that would be immediately applicable, but spreading and having that knowledge can help make the whole problem not applicable in the future
Ive tried filming this for about an hour today for my channel and you stole all the words right out of my mouth, so thank God I deleted all the footage lol. This has got to be one of my favorite videos you have ever made and you made some really amazing, valid points. Would love to watch more videos of this style from you. Keep up the great work BB and hope to meet you some day!
Yaaaas 👏👏 This really helped me understand the trans community even more. You really broke everything down in a way that I could understand as a cis woman. More info to be a better alli ! Love you and your channel so much!!!!
1000% agree with everything you said, I can't for the life of me understand how someone could even ask some of the ? they do, like wtf did your parents not teach you respect.
Love you so much girl omg. I watch all your videos ALL the way thru btw 😂 also I think Sons of Anarchy did a pretty good season that alluded to one of the men being attracted to a trans women and they didn’t judge him or or her. Sure there were jokes but they were light hearted and overall they wanted to keep her safe and loved her like family. That’s one of the only times I’ve seen it being represented at least OKAY. side note idk why people wanna worry about what’s in between ANYONES legs when they have no right to ask and it affects them in no way.
I have only had 2 experiences with a transgender woman. both times with the same lady. 1st was out of curiosity and 2nd x was even better. I am now 2 old too even attempt to start a new relationship. there was a lot of romance involved but no demands. I love your vids as they are informative and honest. hope you the best life ever.
11:35 - the tragedy of transsexualism is that the essence, the “aura” of female or male is present in the person, but the reproductive function is misdeveloped to the opposite side, which can be... traumatic. It is “missexualization”. Once again, it’s so specific & blatantly sexual that its science is really, really hard to discuss. It’s hard, and yet so directly simple. It’s a male or female sense of self with gonads that have over- or underdeveloped, and whose body has misdeveloped as a result of their endocrines. The mask withdraws the self. Until hormonal redistribution through HRT, it is hard to deal, because something is missing, and something is replaced.
My most frequent question is “Are your boobs real?” To which I reply “100% homegrown with no artificial sweeteners.” Then the second question is about surgery. This is only when talking to cis men though. Trans men are really chill and cis women are really chill.
you finally said it. when i was 18 i realized if i get surgery i could still be read as ... trans, male, whatever... if i want to be read as female, i have to LOOK cis!!!!!!!! which is insane!!!! ummm u really articulated yourself and us very well here and i will use this to communicate arguments with future people i meet and want to ask me about my genitals at inappropriate times
You started to talk about science at one point...and my opinion is that the "modern trans community" is sooooo lucky to have some scientists working on their behalf...imagine back in ancient Greece when effeminate boys had no such choices...Curiously those boys were MUCH more accepted by that ancient society than they are here in 2021 :( :( Today, a trans person has options galore to help them along the path to become their true self. From chemical helpers to facial surgery, to breast augs, and even highly successful "bottom" procedures... And it is in fact a MUCH larger community than many realize...one only has to spend a day or 2 on a site like Reddit to see that there are millions of trans individuals all over the planet...in every single culture :) NOW...if we could only get more of the general population to understand :) :)
Wow girl word for word being trans and also being the third person of the trinity( not bragging no big deal to me im humble) the message you just said would be my message in the podium as a preached word. Well said love. Thank you. Discovering myself being trans at 50 years old has been an awakening. Ha+/- llelujah and the spirit having male and female positive and negative qualities is very challenging and i guess for 50 years i was duhhh up until now. So my gender within is female and your message is the best message ive heard in a very long time. Well said victoria😊
You crack me up Victoria. “Some people might think oh my god dicks and pussies” “do you have a dick with balls?” 😂😂😂 the way you explain and word things is so perfect. I feel like we have the same sense of humor. Love it 💕💕💕
@@Luna-um4zk I'm just trying to be respectful the last time someone in the transgender community called me out for being a straight Male. I'm actually a big time advocate and supporter for the transgender community i am not afraid to stand up for the rights to trans people
This has nothing to do with the subject at hand, but could you do a DITL as Christian Vlogger Mom? I just cant get enough of her--she is seriously #momgoals!
Preach sis like if you have been living as a woman for 7 years but the 6 th year you get bottom surgery that doesn’t mean the 5 years before you weren’t a woman.
hope you you did so with men in mind. whole think has become an echo chamber. stuff like this ain't too helpful: czcams.com/video/KQgrfTFxnIg/video.html . you need to encourage it. the mainstream narrative has to change.
People EVERYDAY assume what someone’s gender is based on one thing and that is, does that individual have tits or not.....tits=girl / no tits=boy. As an assigned female at birth I lived with that my entire life whether or not I looked 100% male or not! The only way around that process was to illuminate my tits. Once that was achieved now I am assumed 100% of the time male without changing a single thing about how I look other than removing my tits. So no, men or women don’t look at your aura or your vibe to determine whether you are female or not they look directly at your chest and if it’s there you’re female. If it’s not you’re a guy. Plain and simple.
I'm a trans woman. And I can tell you that the negative attention of someone trying to figure out if weather or not if you are a man or a woman, is not a wonderful feeling at all.
Maybe it is a cultural difference but here I was not asked about surgery, or at least not until we got to talk for a bit and they feel I feel comfortable talking about it. I don't have a problem with it. I live in Austria, Europe btw. Many people I meet know and understand about transgender people and and most accept me as a woman.
Join USssss Victoria! You agree that gender is not determined by your sex. This is true! No one of any sex should be expected to act in any which gendered way. You get to be you. And I freakin wish people didn’t treat us based on our feminity/masculinity performance, im sick of it. Sex however is observed and you don’t get to choose what sex you are, you’re just born that way. I think you might be one of the transwomen who stands with females, and for that I sincerely appreciate you. Our sex based experience is different, but our gender experience is similar
You are very introspective, thoughtful and articulate. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and knowledge with the world. I enjoy this side of you a lot! You are good ‘VIBES’ lol ❤️
i just binge watched like 20 of your videos and you're just adorable, i once watched one like a year ago and it gave me a very wrong impression of you, am glad that changed :D subscribed!
I think the idea of transition as a process with a clear end goal/form is really ingrained in people's minds. Trans awareness in the collective conscious has been, and in many demographics continues to be, the 'full' binary transition and ideas about what it means to be 'tolerant' or 'accepting' come from that. The majority of cis people still think that to be a good ally is to cheer the trans person over the 'finish line'. I think the idea of anything beyond the binary and its 1:1 relation of anatomy to expression still disorients people because they are unable to see genitalia without an inherent gender of the person it belongs to. Sexuality is mostly thought of as being intrinsically tied to the sex act itself and by extension to the genitals (which is where both the fascination and the demonization of LGBT sex stems from). The genitals are then placed on a pedestal above all other anatomy and become inseparable to sexuality causing people to feel the need to contextualize themselves in relation to it at all times. In a way, and I mean this purely theoretically, if trans people were to lead with their 'down there' information then it would allow cis people to conceptualize them fully from the outset, it would normalize and reinforce the idea that the anatomy doesn't negate the gender. Of course, I understand that there is a plethora of reasons why trans people don't do that, and I am in no way invalidating that. But that is why I think trans representation on youtube is quite game-changing because it provides both the personal familiarity and the appropriate distance to truly learn without overstepping in real life.
Responding to your comment about trans men and questions about genitals, Ive gotten the question mainly from men in my personal experience. I wonder why that may be? 🤔
great talking points. hopefully your reasonable presentation of this is persuasive to some people who need to have a mindset and behavior change in regards to their respect for people who are trans
Honestly I have a hard time relating to this need to know this kind of stuff. I’m cis and very sexual, but I’m pan and gender never been a criteria. I really try to get it to be more compassionate and to understand the discuss, but in my subjective consciousness it is so absurd
Honestly I love learning about things & hearing what people have to say. I’m especially interested in people who are in the LGBT community (like myself) so if I get the chance to ask someone about themselves I will. I wouldn’t straight up ask dick or pussy *ever* but I would love to know about their experiences with surgery’s etc. I’m mostly interested in learning about trans people, because I hadn’t even heard what trans people really were until I was like 19-20 (I’m 22 now).
See I'd only ask if I was dating the person. Just so there's no surprise in the bedroom if there's any sexual conduct that happens. I'd like to make sure I'm ready if I did end up dating a transgender person. If that's wrong of me I'm sorry let me know if that is wrong because I genuinely don't know.
11:00 - Gender is biological though, as anything of life & the body is. The genitals manifest into a feminized (mild-developed) or masculinized (super-developed) form in utero and the bodies are near identical during childhood, but the body develops informed by the way the genitals developed in utero, *down to the genitals* and voice and chest & everything else, during puberty. Ever notice how everyone has the same parts in different proportions? Same goes for the labia & its male equivalent. How do you bring this up to a sexually insecure population?
I'm so glad you're back! I'm gonna give you a shoutout in my next video, and get my tiny little audience of 94 people to check you out! I just feel you are so special and unique and more people need to see you! Love love love you so much ❤❤❤❤
Cis people definitely tend to feel entitled to trans people's experiences. There's a lot of stigma that leads to that. The thumb rule is simple: if you wouldn't do it to a cis person, don't do it to trans people just because they're trans. It's basic decency. Just ask yourself that before you do or say something
Honey yanno what I feel like people need to just take their heads out they own ass and just focus on the heart of the person not whats in their pants, just because were of trans experience doesn't mean that that's all we are, there's more us than just our bodies than being trans your a human being, a friend, a sister, a daughter, your an artist etc Damn
This might be the most articulate and unique way of presenting gender as not just genitals. I think other ppl touch on this but didnt quit put it in this way. Do you watch Blair White; because she does say there are only 2 genders. Just curious.
Love you. I'm a trans woman as well.. and every time I see one of tour videos I feel so understood and you sure give me a laugh here and there 😋😋 you are amazing have a good one and yess girl I agree with you so much on the topics you spoke about
❤ I enjoyed what you had to say in this video. It's not what's between the legs that counts. What's between our ears is far more important. You're articulate and intelligent. You are visually attractive as well. 🙆🙂 Love the way you present yourself. 💙 If I didn't know better (first time hearing you and seeing you) I would never have suspected that you might be transgender.
Stef Sanjati also touched on this a bit in her video here: czcams.com/video/EomMR-MuBgo/video.html She brought up some good points as well like saying ..if you for example, are a cis guy and you get into a wreck and your dick is destroyed, are you still a male? Of course ..same with if you're a female and get into a wreck and your vagina (god forbid) is destroyed, are you any less a female. No. Your gender is your gender and is not determined by genitals. You should go watch it, it's awesome
Why would you get upset if you are not naturally a women. It's your duty to tell a guy, you are interested or/and interested in you, that you are trans. Once you start kissing and feelings start to get involved then it will become a nightmare of a situation. The way the world is, you cannot get upset if a guy feels some type of way if he thought you were a natural women. However, he has no right to physically and verbally act on it. No one deserves physical harm.
I have a trans child and that is the first question people ask me to which I reply is “ That is none of mine or you’re business. All that matters is that my child is happy and finally living life they’ve always wanted. “
Strap in, here's a novel for you. I don't think anyone should be embarrassed or offended by talking about their genitals, cis or trans, but that's just me. Here's the way I see it: I've said before in your comments that I've had a breast reduction surgery. I went down three cup sizes, lost ten pounds, and went from p3 sagging (the most severe) to p0 (no sagging at all). Since it was such an extensive surgery, I had to have the most extensive scarring pattern. My scars circle my nipples, then there's a straight line down and a half-circle in the fold under each breast. The final result resembles an anchor. On rare occasion people ask to see my scars. I've even had one guy, red as a beet, stammer through an embarrassed explanation that it wasn't sexual, he was just curious. While these questions can be embarrassing for some (not me because I have no shame) I also understand that they come from a place of curiosity, because my breasts are different that other people's. I think with the crazy diversity that exists even amongst typical genitalia, we could end a lot of harmful misinformation floating around out there if these subjects weren't so taboo. All of that being said, I ONLY think it's OK if it comes from a place of curiosity. When people are different, their lives are made hard enough by ignorant people who think they have a right to tell other people what to do, especially transgender people. In many states it's still legal to discriminate against them for any number of things including employment and housing, they don't need it from Joe Blow That I Don't Know on a city sidewalk.
How do you handle a stranger...usually a man..asking if your trans...I find it rude and degrading too but I never know how to react and I have to justify my self rather than dening it out right or just not giving my self away..
Okay so here me out, I’m in no way against trans people and what they stand for and I am not transphobic at all. I guess you could say I’m skeptical but it’s more confusion based and I admit I’m probably very ignorant to the subject at hand. Whenever I watch a video with a trans person explaining why they are trans or how the found out they were trans it’s always either A.) A trans woman saying she knew when she was little because all she wanted to do was wear her mother’s makeup, put on dresses, and she loved all Things feminine OR B.) A trans man saying he never fit in with the girls growing up he always wanted to play in the mud play sports do masculine things etc. So on the surface those seem like valid points “ Oh you enjoyed female things as a male you must be trans” but doesn’t that defy the fact that gender roles are not a thing ? Us liberals we push the fact that Pink doesn’t mean girl and blue doesn’t mean boy, but and correct me if I’m wrong the whole logic behind “Transgenderism” sorta defies that I mean the whole when I was a man I had to put on pants and for me to live my true self and be feminine I changed my gender... ? I would love to hear your answer to this Victoria and this is in no way me trying to be transphobic I would never misgender someone, make them feel like they aren’t their preferred gender or anything of that sort just genuinely confused I guess with the idea. Loved the video and hope you reply !♥️
I think the genitalia obsession is going to always be there. People, guys in particular, are socially-motivated so much by sex. Casual conversation, so many times, would not even happen if in the background "would I smash?" cannot be answered. It is uncomfortable, and even hurtful to be reduced to this, but it has always been a very big part of the male/female social interaction, and being transsexual is going to bring this to the front very quickly. As for ladies asking, well, they are information-gathering socialites, and will always probe everything. I offer no solutions, only "Yeah...."'s.
www.patreon.com/victoriawiggins if you would like to join my group chat, have access to my private Instagram, and be in the video credits 🧡💙🐱
@Mike Tonon idiot
Yes! Just signed up for patreon but I couldn't find you there
🤷 I would love to see more of you
I still wanna see your vid on trans-attracted men! thanks for the shout-out tho :D
Yes ma’am ❤️
Two queens in the same place! The universe is doing something right for once
Hey contra big fan :))
You're such a great person. As a cis person I really appreciate you because you teach me to be a better ally to trans folk. I never want to pry into one of my trans friend's sensitive subjects but want to make sure I don't say anything dumb because of my own ignorance.
okay, but that skin be glowin ✨
I'm hard of hearing and there were no captions but I could still hear thanks to the fact you euniciate words clearly so I can lipread. Thanks! It was an interesting video x
illyyang i think when you upload a vid you can say you want auto generated captions (although ik they suck)
i know there is a website where creators can upload their videos and people can basically type up the captions! i would so love to do that tbh
kittykitty beachbox you can do it on youtube. i’ve done it for a few things. its a lot harder than it seems lol. but i think the creator has to turn that option on when they upload
I really love how you brought up "no one wants to be reduced to one part of their body, when people have multiple attributes and many things to bring to the table" I think that hit the nail on the head. I think that tends to be one of those "unspoken truths" but even if it might seem obvious, it's really important to be said out loud.
You're one of my favorite youtubers and I'm so glad that I can learn from your life experience when it's something that is so unique from my own 💜
You explained your point of view eloquently and accurately. I hope the folks who needed this explanation got something out of it. I just found your channel this week and I’m beyond impressed with your humor, your composure, your intelligence, and your compassion. Big ups for your shout out to Contrapoints! Love y’all both 😘
*in a breathy voice* My name is Victoria and Welcome to my Ted Talk.
Also loved this video. 💖💖💖
I love that you are a Contrapoints fan, you two are my favourite content creators. Please collab!
Bethany L yes! i love them both so much!
Damn. Layton is such a lucky guy. You’re so intelligent, it’s beyond me.
Just wanna note that actually the scientific consensus is that gender and sex are both on spectrums and that trans and non binary people exist.
You are very beautiful, and this video is well made. I believe you should sign up with a modeling agency, become a supermodel, and broaden your platform, while continue doing what you do!😊
this video is so articulate, so well made, so beautifully described, i want to sent it to every insensitive/ignorant person i've ever met. really great stuff victoria. everything you said completely seems like common sense to me, but i suppose not everyone is exposed to the information we have, and so this will serve as a great source of education to those less aware and informed about trans people in my opinion
That part where you explained why people ask trans people rude questions , only because of it being a huge mystery to then and it being so fascinating, daaamn. So well explained! 💛
Great video Victoria, very well said. Just want you to know you're not the only girl out there with these struggles. Many of us share the same experiences when interacting with people. Much love and thanks for cheering me up whenever I see your videos
This is a very well made video. Your statements were very to the point.
I agree. Well-organized talk, with statements to-the-point, but without the points fragmented all over the place.
❤️You are 100% right. I am so sorry this is something you have to deal with. I can’t even imagine that being a question that would come out of my mouth. No one should be judged based on their genitalia, that is insane.
I am transtioning to female and I am also intersex. I am glad I just found you :)
Even though sexuality and romantic attraction are different things, for most people they are the same (hetero/hetero). so when someone is romantically attracted to someone who presents ,for example female, that persons brain would automatically register them as having a vag, which the person would be sexually aroused by. If one person in the relationship isn’t attracted to the other persons genitals, I wouldn’t blame them on wanting to have the relationship platonic.🤷🏼♀️
I'm a transwoman too, and I've been asked this question so often.
And you are right, cis people are very interested in me and how it is to be trans because it's new and different for them. But they only ask me that question, if I told them that I'm trans. Or they had heard of it.
But most of the time, the people are seeing me as a normal woman in public.
Girl I swear you are sooo freakin smart, your like my therapist! Thanks for helping me get through my days 💕 love you and your channel
I just don't know why people care about my (trans) genitals. Like...are you gonna treat me different the day before and after surgery? Do you wanna fantasize about me properly later? Like what happens after that?? "Oh okay you have that body part...yep...okay"
You're an icon.
feral PERIOD
Yeah..She becoming.Nd Funnier in her New videos.
The make up, the lighting, the script which was more serious than your usual but with just enough of your unique humor to keep it poppin...just SUCH a great video Victoria! Brava! :)
Honestly this is a good take, but I personally still find the science part important and very empowering. I think when I first realised that I'm trans it came with a lot of doubts, because I was scared I was making it up or doing something wrong, and I actually spent a lot of time researching the science and biology of being trans. It really put it into perspective for me and made me feel a lot more validated. At the end of the day my feelings were the first thing to pop up, they re the most important, and if someone knows they re a woman or a man or neither, that should be the end of discussion and should be respected. But personally it helped me understand myself better, and I now think it can really help people understand that it is a real thing and that trans men are genuinely, very biologically male and that trans women are women in same respects.
Goin back to your point, in the situation you gave above again this is not something that would be immediately applicable, but spreading and having that knowledge can help make the whole problem not applicable in the future
Ive tried filming this for about an hour today for my channel and you stole all the words right out of my mouth, so thank God I deleted all the footage lol. This has got to be one of my favorite videos you have ever made and you made some really amazing, valid points. Would love to watch more videos of this style from you. Keep up the great work BB and hope to meet you some day!
Yaaaas 👏👏 This really helped me understand the trans community even more. You really broke everything down in a way that I could understand as a cis woman. More info to be a better alli ! Love you and your channel so much!!!!
1000% agree with everything you said, I can't for the life of me understand how someone could even ask some of the ? they do, like wtf did your parents not teach you respect.
Love you so much girl omg. I watch all your videos ALL the way thru btw 😂 also I think Sons of Anarchy did a pretty good season that alluded to one of the men being attracted to a trans women and they didn’t judge him or or her. Sure there were jokes but they were light hearted and overall they wanted to keep her safe and loved her like family. That’s one of the only times I’ve seen it being represented at least OKAY. side note idk why people wanna worry about what’s in between ANYONES legs when they have no right to ask and it affects them in no way.
I have only had 2 experiences with a transgender woman. both times with the same lady. 1st was out of curiosity and 2nd x was even better. I am now 2 old too even attempt to start a new relationship. there was a lot of romance involved but no demands. I love your vids as they are informative and honest. hope you the best life ever.
Went to a transgender job fair today in Los angeles and got so many stares and compliments , felt amazing :D
11:35 - the tragedy of transsexualism is that the essence, the “aura” of female or male is present in the person, but the reproductive function is misdeveloped to the opposite side, which can be... traumatic. It is “missexualization”.
Once again, it’s so specific & blatantly sexual that its science is really, really hard to discuss. It’s hard, and yet so directly simple. It’s a male or female sense of self with gonads that have over- or underdeveloped, and whose body has misdeveloped as a result of their endocrines. The mask withdraws the self. Until hormonal redistribution through HRT, it is hard to deal, because something is missing, and something is replaced.
My most frequent question is “Are your boobs real?” To which I reply “100% homegrown with no artificial sweeteners.” Then the second question is about surgery. This is only when talking to cis men though. Trans men are really chill and cis women are really chill.
you finally said it. when i was 18 i realized if i get surgery i could still be read as ... trans, male, whatever... if i want to be read as female, i have to LOOK cis!!!!!!!! which is insane!!!! ummm u really articulated yourself and us very well here and i will use this to communicate arguments with future people i meet and want to ask me about my genitals at inappropriate times
As a trans person I knew these things but I've never been able to verbalize them like you did here, thank you!
You started to talk about science at one point...and my opinion is that the "modern trans community" is sooooo lucky to have some scientists working on their behalf...imagine back in ancient Greece when effeminate boys had no such choices...Curiously those boys were MUCH more accepted by that ancient society than they are here in 2021 :( :(
Today, a trans person has options galore to help them along the path to become their true self.
From chemical helpers to facial surgery, to breast augs, and even highly successful "bottom" procedures...
And it is in fact a MUCH larger community than many realize...one only has to spend a day or 2 on
a site like Reddit to see that there are millions of trans individuals all over the planet...in every single culture :)
NOW...if we could only get more of the general population to understand :) :)
I appreciate this discussion and I have no argument. Wish I had more useful feedback but girl, you made some really good points
Wow girl word for word being trans and also being the third person of the trinity( not bragging no big deal to me im humble) the message you just said would be my message in the podium as a preached word. Well said love. Thank you. Discovering myself being trans at 50 years old has been an awakening. Ha+/- llelujah and the spirit having male and female positive and negative qualities is very challenging and i guess for 50 years i was duhhh up until now. So my gender within is female and your message is the best message ive heard in a very long time. Well said victoria😊
Your odd sense of humor is why I watch, you crack me up.not bad to look at either lol.
Wonderfully spoken as always girl
You are very intelligent!! Keep up the good work. Your comments keep people like me educated and is appreciated.
You crack me up Victoria. “Some people might think oh my god dicks and pussies” “do you have a dick with balls?” 😂😂😂 the way you explain and word things is so perfect. I feel like we have the same sense of humor. Love it 💕💕💕
those t6hings are important to know.
I'm a straight Male who is attracted to MTF transgender women
U dont have to specify that likening a transwoman is automatically straight
@@Luna-um4zk I'm just trying to be respectful the last time someone in the transgender community called me out for being a straight Male. I'm actually a big time advocate and supporter for the transgender community i am not afraid to stand up for the rights to trans people
@@Luna-um4zk ok cool that's good to know I'm a good guy
PSE Mentalist Grats??
@@KataMoon Thank you very much
This has nothing to do with the subject at hand, but could you do a DITL as Christian Vlogger Mom? I just cant get enough of her--she is seriously #momgoals!
Chromosomical queen ended clocking
I needed this!!! Been a rough day girl!!!!!
Preach sis like if you have been living as a woman for 7 years but the 6 th year you get bottom surgery that doesn’t mean the 5 years before you weren’t a woman.
very well spoken! speak your truth girl, i loved it, very mature way to approach this topic!
I love that you love Contra too. Her videos are so so so good, she really puts so much effort into them
I believe you are attracted to the person before you know anything about what is below their belt line. At least it should be this way.
I think we're all at least a little afraid of being mean mugged by 14 year olds at the mall.
I love you so much V, and honestly way more people need to see this!! I agree 100% with you ❤️
You brought up really good points Victoria ❤️🌸 I’m gonna be doing a video on people who are attracted to trans people as well.
hope you you did so with men in mind. whole think has become an echo chamber. stuff like this ain't too helpful: czcams.com/video/KQgrfTFxnIg/video.html . you need to encourage it. the mainstream narrative has to change.
Go follow victoria on Instagram and give this bish the swipe up feature she deserves it!!!! Thank you for coming to my ted talk.🍑😻
Your skin is so perfect sis
People EVERYDAY assume what someone’s gender is based on one thing and that is, does that individual have tits or not.....tits=girl / no tits=boy. As an assigned female at birth I lived with that my entire life whether or not I looked 100% male or not! The only way around that process was to illuminate my tits. Once that was achieved now I am assumed 100% of the time male without changing a single thing about how I look other than removing my tits. So no, men or women don’t look at your aura or your vibe to determine whether you are female or not they look directly at your chest and if it’s there you’re female. If it’s not you’re a guy. Plain and simple.
I'm a trans woman. And I can tell you that the negative attention of someone trying to figure out if weather or not if you are a man or a woman, is not a wonderful feeling at all.
Maybe it is a cultural difference but here I was not asked about surgery, or at least not until we got to talk for a bit and they feel I feel comfortable talking about it. I don't have a problem with it.
I live in Austria, Europe btw.
Many people I meet know and understand about transgender people and and most accept me as a woman.
explorative is in fact a word
Join USssss Victoria! You agree that gender is not determined by your sex. This is true! No one of any sex should be expected to act in any which gendered way. You get to be you. And I freakin wish people didn’t treat us based on our feminity/masculinity performance, im sick of it.
Sex however is observed and you don’t get to choose what sex you are, you’re just born that way. I think you might be one of the transwomen who stands with females, and for that I sincerely appreciate you. Our sex based experience is different, but our gender experience is similar
You are very introspective, thoughtful and articulate. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and knowledge with the world. I enjoy this side of you a lot! You are good ‘VIBES’ lol ❤️
i just binge watched like 20 of your videos and you're just adorable, i once watched one like a year ago and it gave me a very wrong impression of you, am glad that changed :D subscribed!
Victoria you make a very good point. You’re a brilliant person and I’m so glad you’re spreading your positive ideals to others 💞
I Don't judge just be a good person and have a good attitude
I think the idea of transition as a process with a clear end goal/form is really ingrained in people's minds. Trans awareness in the collective conscious has been, and in many demographics continues to be, the 'full' binary transition and ideas about what it means to be 'tolerant' or 'accepting' come from that. The majority of cis people still think that to be a good ally is to cheer the trans person over the 'finish line'. I think the idea of anything beyond the binary and its 1:1 relation of anatomy to expression still disorients people because they are unable to see genitalia without an inherent gender of the person it belongs to. Sexuality is mostly thought of as being intrinsically tied to the sex act itself and by extension to the genitals (which is where both the fascination and the demonization of LGBT sex stems from). The genitals are then placed on a pedestal above all other anatomy and become inseparable to sexuality causing people to feel the need to contextualize themselves in relation to it at all times. In a way, and I mean this purely theoretically, if trans people were to lead with their 'down there' information then it would allow cis people to conceptualize them fully from the outset, it would normalize and reinforce the idea that the anatomy doesn't negate the gender. Of course, I understand that there is a plethora of reasons why trans people don't do that, and I am in no way invalidating that. But that is why I think trans representation on youtube is quite game-changing because it provides both the personal familiarity and the appropriate distance to truly learn without overstepping in real life.
Responding to your comment about trans men and questions about genitals, Ive gotten the question mainly from men in my personal experience. I wonder why that may be? 🤔
Honey that glow tho ❤️
I just recently found your channel and now I'm literally obsessed ❤❤
great talking points.
hopefully your reasonable presentation of this is persuasive to some people who need to have a mindset and behavior change in regards to their respect for people who are trans
You are absolutely stunning girl. And I appreciate you and what you have to say. You are one of the realest, funniest youtubers I've ever watched.
Honestly I have a hard time relating to this need to know this kind of stuff. I’m cis and very sexual, but I’m pan and gender never been a criteria. I really try to get it to be more compassionate and to understand the discuss, but in my subjective consciousness it is so absurd
I'm so happy this hasn't been demonetized!
Girl you are glowing! Skin goals
Honestly I love learning about things & hearing what people have to say. I’m especially interested in people who are in the LGBT community (like myself) so if I get the chance to ask someone about themselves I will. I wouldn’t straight up ask dick or pussy *ever* but I would love to know about their experiences with surgery’s etc. I’m mostly interested in learning about trans people, because I hadn’t even heard what trans people really were until I was like 19-20 (I’m 22 now).
See I'd only ask if I was dating the person. Just so there's no surprise in the bedroom if there's any sexual conduct that happens. I'd like to make sure I'm ready if I did end up dating a transgender person. If that's wrong of me I'm sorry let me know if that is wrong because I genuinely don't know.
11:00 - Gender is biological though, as anything of life & the body is. The genitals manifest into a feminized (mild-developed) or masculinized (super-developed) form in utero and the bodies are near identical during childhood, but the body develops informed by the way the genitals developed in utero, *down to the genitals* and voice and chest & everything else, during puberty. Ever notice how everyone has the same parts in different proportions? Same goes for the labia & its male equivalent.
How do you bring this up to a sexually insecure population?
I'm so glad you're back! I'm gonna give you a shoutout in my next video, and get my tiny little audience of 94 people to check you out! I just feel you are so special and unique and more people need to see you! Love love love you so much ❤❤❤❤
Thanks for your insights, I am a much older guy in Australia and wish you all blessings
U said all that so perfect. It's so true. ..I think straight people r afraid. Of us gals I'm a MTf trans gal. Myself. ..yeah we live in a cis world .
I love this video and your insight in the teme and in humanity. Love from Argentina.
Cis people definitely tend to feel entitled to trans people's experiences. There's a lot of stigma that leads to that.
The thumb rule is simple: if you wouldn't do it to a cis person, don't do it to trans people just because they're trans. It's basic decency. Just ask yourself that before you do or say something
Honey yanno what I feel like people need to just take their heads out they own ass and just focus on the heart of the person not whats in their pants, just because were of trans experience doesn't mean that that's all we are, there's more us than just our bodies than being trans your a human being, a friend, a sister, a daughter, your an artist etc
Damn
There are two sexes Male and female this nonsense will fade away as time goes on
This might be the most articulate and unique way of presenting gender as not just genitals. I think other ppl touch on this but didnt quit put it in this way. Do you watch Blair White; because she does say there are only 2 genders. Just curious.
You are awesome, Victoria. Very interesting video. ❤️
Love you. I'm a trans woman as well.. and every time I see one of tour videos I feel so understood and you sure give me a laugh here and there 😋😋 you are amazing have a good one and yess girl I agree with you so much on the topics you spoke about
❤ I enjoyed what you had to say in this video. It's not what's between the legs that counts. What's between our ears is far more important. You're articulate and intelligent. You are visually attractive as well. 🙆🙂 Love the way you present yourself. 💙 If I didn't know better (first time hearing you and seeing you) I would never have suspected that you might be transgender.
Stef Sanjati also touched on this a bit in her video here: czcams.com/video/EomMR-MuBgo/video.html
She brought up some good points as well like saying ..if you for example, are a cis guy and you get into a wreck and your dick is destroyed, are you still a male? Of course ..same with if you're a female and get into a wreck and your vagina (god forbid) is destroyed, are you any less a female. No. Your gender is your gender and is not determined by genitals. You should go watch it, it's awesome
she said gender theory today. Judith butler is shaking.
Femine penis
*The mouth feel*
15:10 - too few people know that, and too many will struggle to.
Why would you get upset if you are not naturally a women. It's your duty to tell a guy, you are interested or/and interested in you, that you are trans. Once you start kissing and feelings start to get involved then it will become a nightmare of a situation. The way the world is, you cannot get upset if a guy feels some type of way if he thought you were a natural women. However, he has no right to physically and verbally act on it. No one deserves physical harm.
I couldn't read the whole title at first and I thought the video was called "Why is mankind so fascist?" lol
I have a trans child and that is the first question people ask me to which I reply is “ That is none of mine or you’re business. All that matters is that my child is happy and finally living life they’ve always wanted. “
Strap in, here's a novel for you.
I don't think anyone should be embarrassed or offended by talking about their genitals, cis or trans, but that's just me. Here's the way I see it: I've said before in your comments that I've had a breast reduction surgery. I went down three cup sizes, lost ten pounds, and went from p3 sagging (the most severe) to p0 (no sagging at all). Since it was such an extensive surgery, I had to have the most extensive scarring pattern. My scars circle my nipples, then there's a straight line down and a half-circle in the fold under each breast. The final result resembles an anchor.
On rare occasion people ask to see my scars. I've even had one guy, red as a beet, stammer through an embarrassed explanation that it wasn't sexual, he was just curious. While these questions can be embarrassing for some (not me because I have no shame) I also understand that they come from a place of curiosity, because my breasts are different that other people's. I think with the crazy diversity that exists even amongst typical genitalia, we could end a lot of harmful misinformation floating around out there if these subjects weren't so taboo.
All of that being said, I ONLY think it's OK if it comes from a place of curiosity. When people are different, their lives are made hard enough by ignorant people who think they have a right to tell other people what to do, especially transgender people. In many states it's still legal to discriminate against them for any number of things including employment and housing, they don't need it from Joe Blow That I Don't Know on a city sidewalk.
I love everything about this
this is so spot on
How do you handle a stranger...usually a man..asking if your trans...I find it rude and degrading too but I never know how to react and I have to justify my self rather than dening it out right or just not giving my self away..
Okay so here me out, I’m in no way against trans people and what they stand for and I am not transphobic at all. I guess you could say I’m skeptical but it’s more confusion based and I admit I’m probably very ignorant to the subject at hand. Whenever I watch a video with a trans person explaining why they are trans or how the found out they were trans it’s always either A.) A trans woman saying she knew when she was little because all she wanted to do was wear her mother’s makeup, put on dresses, and she loved all
Things feminine OR B.) A trans man saying he never fit in with the girls growing up he always wanted to play in the mud play sports do masculine things etc. So on the surface those seem like valid points “ Oh you enjoyed female things as a male you must be trans” but doesn’t that defy the fact that gender roles are not a thing ? Us liberals we push the fact that Pink doesn’t mean girl and blue doesn’t mean boy, but and correct me if I’m wrong the whole logic behind “Transgenderism” sorta defies that I mean the whole when I was a man I had to put on pants and for me to live my true self and be feminine I changed my gender... ? I would love to hear your answer to this Victoria and this is in no way me trying to be transphobic I would never misgender someone, make them feel like they aren’t their preferred gender or anything of that sort just genuinely confused I guess with the idea. Loved the video and hope you reply !♥️
Lacy, I'd recommend you searching for i formation on gender dyshoria. It should clear your confusion quite a bit.
I think the genitalia obsession is going to always be there. People, guys in particular, are socially-motivated so much by sex. Casual conversation, so many times, would not even happen if in the background "would I smash?" cannot be answered. It is uncomfortable, and even hurtful to be reduced to this, but it has always been a very big part of the male/female social interaction, and being transsexual is going to bring this to the front very quickly. As for ladies asking, well, they are information-gathering socialites, and will always probe everything. I offer no solutions, only "Yeah...."'s.
About chromosomes, intersex people can have differing sex organs and chromosomes. And what about People with extra x or Y chromosomes?