INFP-T and Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Struggle with Overwhelm
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- INFP-T HSP Overwhelm // How do you handle feeling overwhelmed as an INFP and/or HSP personality? What do you do when you’re feeling overwhelmed as an HSP? In this video, I explore different angles that you may not have thought about when it comes to sensory processing sensitivity and how it is experienced by these two personality types.
Be sure to watch all the way to the end, as I’m sharing some ideas that you’ll find very useful.
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Hello, I think the "5 subscribers in 5 months" video is an excellent idea :)
I thought so too, so I made the video
I ONLY Gained 6 Subscribers in 6 Months! INFP HSP CZcamsr True Story!!
czcams.com/video/Bj1hLaFkXr0/video.html
@@MsDoryLinda Thank you :)
All my life i felt like i couldn't keep up with others, from work scheduling to going out in "fun" activities. I've always been described (and described myself) as lazy, too perfectionist or boring. But with time i've come to realize that i really need a slower pace of life. I enjoy to do things with time and passion and without that i feel like a puppet with my energy sucked. I'm now trying to fit my personality into my professional life, which has been really hard and revealing. Thank you for this content, i feel seen
Ina, you and me both 🤗 What you've described is what I felt for so long. We definitely a slower pace of life. Fitting professional life with our disposition can definitely be a challenge. What is your profession?
@@MsDoryLinda i'm a freelancer artist/tattoo artist. I'm very lucky that i have my parents support but there's always comments on how i should hurry to get lots of money and clients, they don't really understand that my career is not focused on money but on creating connections through expression. I know none of those comments are meant to hurt me but i feel overwelmed with that expectation and purpose. They don't understand that i need to go slow and steady, like you said, so that i don't drain myself to the point i hate everything i'm doing and myself. Ty for the reply and for asking 😊
I think you've become my favourite. you talk with such care and empathy, it just feels like you're talking to me in person, telling me that I'm fine and it's okay to be the way I am. as an INFP, i haven't really gotten such empathy from anyone, but my own cup has run dry from giving and giving and giving.
thank you for doing what you're doing. thank you so much.
Oh 🤗🧡 I'm so touched by your comment, and your journey. Yes you're seen and are of value as you're. I'm so glad you've come to finally experience that. I celebrate with you friend 🤗
You are so encouraging. I'm an INFP and I suspect I'm HSP too..I'm sensitive to heat, noise, smells..But when I watch one of your videos, I feel so encouraged and better!
Valerie I'm so happy to hear that!! Have you done the HSP test? I'm so glad I can be of encouragement to you 😊
Same
Me too
Cant believe I have only just found this channel. I am both a HSP and an INFP-T. It is nice to hear that it isn't just me. And that in fact a lot of the things I do are for a reason. This was great to hear as recently I have begun being more irritable and I think it is because I am burning myself out from early morning shifts and then straight to college with no day off. I have now asked for mondays off. As it is far too overwhelming. Thank you. This channel is a god send.
It's so encouraging to hear that you're asking for what you need. Hope the day off will allow you to rest and recover.
im a INFP-T and HSP (and introverted), this video was made for me. i identified so much and it helped me a lot to accept myself and alluding myself to be me without feeling guilty, so thank you 💓
Yes, without guilt. I like that 👌
I'm 43 and learned I was an INFP about 6 years ago, before that I didn't understand what the heck was going on with me and why my life wasn't as successful as those around me. I'm definitely an INFP-T and an HSP and I'd be interested in watching your video on growing to 5 subscribers:). I've often thought of starting a YT channel but get overwhelmed because I don't know where or how to start. I've watched many of your videos and have been a subscriber for quite a while and I have to say I you are one of my favorites. I can relate to almost everything you reference and appreciate the thought and minutia of daily experiences put into them. You've helped me recognize that all the craziness going on internally -mentally and physically, the need for continued stimulation, growth and exploration of myself and the world is not only unique to me (like many in my life seems to think) and a bit of a relief that there are others out there that experience the world is a similar fashion as myself. Thank you for taking the time to create videos of tremendous value for us INFP's out here, you are really making a difference in the lives of many❣️
Thank you for such kind and encouraging words. It means a lot. You are definitely not alone and you will feel right at home here in this community. I did that video, it's this one czcams.com/video/Bj1hLaFkXr0/video.html
Definitely go ahead and start. Start imperfectly and you'll learn along the way.
I'm also an INFP person and it's great to hear these things and I am learning more about this personality. Thanks for sharing.
You are so welcome Seah! I'm so glad to hear that 😀
You should really have a podcast your voice is really calming ❤️
Oh thank you!
I think this is the first time I felt like there's another person who will understand me. I am also an INFP-T and HSP and its hard. To hear all your life, the question "why do you take everything to heart?" even from your family and not understanding why I am this way and not be able to make others understand. I lost all my spontaineity and positivity as I grew up and lost my confidence in 4 years of corporate research. I am transitioning right now to be a PhD scholar while doubting if I should even continue a career in this subject. My whole life is overwhelm to the point where I don't want to get up in the morning because I feel I won't achieve anything. BTW your tone of voice is very soothing and thank you so much.
We definitely need to redefine our own way of showing up in the world. For us, we have to factor in how we manage our energy and how that aligns with the requirements of the field or industry we are going into. So although it may be tempting to just bury our heads in the sand and hope for the best, while doubts and what ifs are taking residency in our minds, you'd be better off working out the practicalities of what you want and how you are best positioned to get them.
You have such a soothing voice❤ As an INFP overwhelm is something I face daily. For me visualizations techniques of where I am and where I want to be really help. Great video!
Thank you Olympia 😊 Yes having a realistic look at what is, is a great approach to help ground us in the here and now and hopefully appreciate what we already being that's working. I'm glad you enjoyed the video 🤗
I had to keep restarting the video due to overwhelm. I'm just now, finally, getting through it. A lot of this makes sense.
Any time people start talking in another room, I have to pause anything I'm listening to, or get lost in the conversation I myself am in, for example.
Having honest conversations about overwhelm and even the positive aspects of high sensitivity, is something I've been doing on and off for years. Some people seem to understand, if explained well, while many don't. One thing that might be helpful is differentiating the everyday amplification of sensitivity from traumatic sensitivity because they're both brain-based and emotionally complex but very disparate in their outcomes. As someone with both, I know that there are times when I have to really disentangle what is being caused by traumatic recall and what's not. (Other times, I don't attempt to analyze it, but just get onto the other side of the situation.)
I think your restaurant example is a really great one for discussing high sensitivity with people unfamiliar with the topic. For me, the biggest challenges are sound, temperature, and texture, but scents and flavors are not far behind. Texture is bad enough that some people in my family refuse to get me clothing gifts unless I'm with them, because of the combination of the texture sensitivity itself and allergic responses to certain types of fabric, plastics, etc.
I'm the same way, I always restarting books 😒 I can't read, digest, and still take in other activities around me. I can never be one of those people that work and watch tv or listen to music. Way too much stimulation.
Thank you for the suggestion of distinguishing types of sensitivity, I'll make a note of that and hopefully cover it in future videos.
It's so good that you've been able to identify what areas are the most challenging for you. That's half the battle. I know for me, the temperature is my number one challenge. Fabrics and textures can either make or break my day. Some days I don't want to wear anything that clings to my skin, some days I can tolerate fitted clothing, provided the temperature isn't getting to me.
I'm so glad you're here and we can have these types of conversations 🤗
Yes temperature is definitely my biggest thing as well. Also noises I used to get sooo infuriated by any little noise that may seem insignificant to others but was obnoxiously loud to my ears, like whistling, someone chewing gum, popping gum, the popping of bubble wrap, clicking of pens, sound of someone heavily breathing, just to name a few. And I have a very strong olfactory, sometimes certain smells make me want to vomit. Food textures are also big for me. I just realized that this year, I may enjoy the flavor of something but the texture itself will make me absolutely hate it.
The complexities of our disposition are so amazing. I'm the same with so many of the things you've mentioned, especially when I'm already overstimulated and then hear someone chewing something 🤨😒🥴
I want to cry! You know me! It feels really good! Thank you!
You're welcome 😊
This explains so much! As long as I can remember, the external world was so overwhelming that I went to extreme lengths to avoid it. I never had the vocabulary to explain this to anyone, or even to myself. My primary coping mechanism for most of my adult life was found in heroin and other narcotics. Although my addiction was a faustian bargain I didn't fully understand at first, it was such a miraculous relief when I discovered it that I probably would have done it again even if I'd known the full cost. Heroin provided a necessary armor that enabled me to do anything and everything that seemed impossible without it. For over 30 years, it allowed me to live and function as other people did (without the added expense and effort I had to expend). I always felt deeply ashamed that the simplest tasks or interactions felt so dangerous that I had to take such extreme measures to protect myself, and this shame made it even less likely that I would ever understand why my existence seemed so insurmountably hard. I had heard this "INFP" designation from countless psychiatrists and rehab counselors over the years but never investigated its meaning. I only recently decided to look into it because CZcams kept suggesting I watch some INFJ videos and I didn't know why. Yesterday it finally became the focus of my procrastination when I looked at old files to see if CZcams actually knew more about me than I knew about myself (it didn't).
When I saw that I had the INFP designation instead, a quick search brought me to this channel where I have since been avoiding my life and responsibilities by researching INFP and its connection to procrastination (the irony is not lost on me...).
Anyway, I don't know whether or not this insight will help, or if I've done so much damage that it's too late to change. Nonetheless, it does bring some comfort to realize that I am perhaps a bit less awful than I usually tend to believe. Thank you for these videos. I am truly grateful, even if it is still quite awkward for me to find the right words.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Please know it's never too late to change. There's a brighter future if you're willing to put in the work.
I am binge watching your content. It is helpful. Your voice is very soothing and calm. Great videos ❤️😃
Yay!! I'm so glad to hear that Jasbir 🤗
Well, this explains a lot...
Also, I would love a video on steady growth. I've been thinking about it lately, and I've realized that the pressure I constantly put on myself and that other people put on me, is simply not worth it. I'm starting high school next year and I'm honestly so scared to go back. With quarantine and all, it's been nice. For the first time, I could finally go my speed and not feel guilty for not going everyone else's pace. I've been able to look at myself differently, and become more calm and quiet and confident. Where I live it's been starting to open up a little bit, so I got to see some friends. I love my friends, but I saw that when I was around them, I literally had to push myself out the door and try to hold my breath or close my eyes or something because of sensory overload. Anyway, your videos have helped a lot and I really enjoy watching them so thanks!! Hope you have a great day!
Stephen, thank you for the video suggestion and for letting me know that my videos have been of value to you. I'm sorry you are going through a challenging time, which, reading from your comment, seems to have also brought some positives as well. For the first time, you've realized what speed and pace works for you, and in doing so you've realized that when you can be calm and quiet, you are able to better see your strengths and that has given you confidence you hadn't recognized before. That is huge!! Take hold of that and make a note of what activities are taking you away from that and after how long of performing them/or being in certain environment. That will help you to start to accept and say no to what no longer serves you. I'd love to hear how you get on with that, so do let me know if you can how it all works out for you. 🙂
@@MsDoryLinda I will definitely try to keep up with you, and thank you for the interest and advice! Although life isn't always easy, I really have grown and learned from everything that's happened. And recently I have found some more hobbies and just things I enjoy in general, which is nice since I didn't really have that before. Thank you for the encouragement, and once again thank you for you videos. You are doing so much good in the world, always remember that!
Also, I think it's amazing that you're a therapist. I want to be one too when I'm older.
Love you and your videos!! ♥️
And good things certainly come out of hard times!
Thanks for sharing how to handle overshelm as an INFP and / or HSP! Wonderful advice as always! :)
Thank you Marina, I'm glad you found value in the advice shared 😊
You are so refreshing & inspiring. You've just inspired me to be more relaxed about being authentic and steady growth whilst enjoying the journey. Thank you for sharing this great video & the 'real' you😍😍!
I'm so glad Becca! Yes, being ourselves and allowing the results of that to unfold as they do is so freeing. Thank you so much for being here and joining the conversation 🤗
i'm an INFP-T and HSP and i wanted to know your thoughts about ADHD. I feel like sometimes everything is connected together
What specifically would you like to know?
I definitely agree with this. I'm an INFP who was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD as an adult, and I'm also certain I'm an INFP. I imagine if I did a ven diagram with all these things, there would be a lot of overlap and taking care of myself for one thing would impact all the others. All in all, I know all of this is telling me I need to slow down.
I didn't know HSP is connected to INFP. It makes sense to me now. Life is a struggle. I feel a lot but I keep it all inside. I always end up getting overwhelmed. I used to express myself better through poems and writing. Idk what happened to me over the years but I can't express my feelings into writing anymore.
I look at it as a correlation rather than causation. Hope that clarifies things.
What an important topic! I've been thinking of how HSPs and INFPs, especially the combination make it in a success-driven fast-paced society and not be totally consumed. I love this video! Thanks for your support and insight on this journey! 😀
I think we definitely need to redefine what that would look like for us individually and as a collective and community. I don't think we're fully there yet 😔
But I'm determined to keep pushing the envelope a little and see how as a collective can at least start having that conversation, you know!!
Ms Dory Linda Exactly, thanks for pushing the envelope!
I'm starting to wonder whether the mind, body, personality aspect comprising our identity is directly related to and forged from whatever emotional or psychological abuse and traumas we were subjected to from infancy.
The misunderstanding of love visited upon us through our parents and our personalities developed through this lens of who, what and why we are the way we are.
It's interesting how some introverts personalities develop and change in expression and understanding depending on their self ownership and the interchangeable shifts between being turbulent or assertive as they navigate the external world defining themselves through experience.
I used to be INTP but take the tests now and and my result comes back as INFP which personally feels like growth.
Dean I understand where you're coming from. Our childhood definitely shape our personalities and even more extensively for those with sensitive dispositions. If it's a nourishing environment those individuals become very well adjusted and thriving individuals and it's not, those individuals will need support later on to adjust accordingly.
I could really relate to your point of struggling to overcome the thought of not making as much money.
I am a trained Engineer but was constantly overwhelmed in the Automotive Industry and struggled a lot with the lack of morality in it. It drained my soul.
Part of me knows that I need a decelerated life, a life more in tune with the seasons, following my interests, being more in nature. But our society runs on money. I want to buy a property that I can shape into something special and partially live off. I feel stuck as it seems that my goals, interests and needs are not compatible.
Doesn't help that my interests change all the time and I can't stick with one thing for a long time.
I'm finding that the changing interests are natural parts of our cycles. We just have to learn to harness them. I'll be covering how to do that in my up coming free mini workshop. You can register for it here if it would be of help to you us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/2316032088576/WN_3oqQO0LWScCrOwLfUlj-JA
This thing you said about there being a different way of measuring our success is such a good point and probably explains why, as an INFP-T and HSP, I and many others lose interest in working for companies whose idea of an employee doing well is reaching a KPI that's constantly increasing or selling the most of something. Let's celebrate our own successes based on who WE are and what we consider successes as individuals and not put a standard in place and then holding everyone to the same standard. We are all so different and success is different depending on the person you talk to.
omg, it's one of the best things I've ever seen. It's about me.
I'm so glad this resonated with you 💗
Watching your videos has been giving me such a sense of validation and understanding of myself. Overwhelm has been such a frustrating and inescapable part of my daily life, and you just gave me a whole different perspective on it. Thank you!
You are so welcome!
i just discovered your channel and i love you so much!! thank you youtube for recommending me top tier content. i have watched a few of your vids, your voice calms me and you're such a sweet person. as an infp-t i find myself being constantly overwhelmed and later discovered i'm in fact an hsp person. at first i couldn't bring myself to believe that i am one i thought it was just my attitude i get irrtated easily i can't stand certain smells etc etc. i'm so glad i found you
I'm so glad you're here 💗 ☺
I think you should definitely make that viedo about gaining 5 subscribers in 5 months!!! How did you stay motivated to keep going?
I think a lot of us get discouraged when we don't see quantifiable effects of our actions. For me, I guess I never really "give up" on projects, but I definitely shame myself for not completing them fast enough, or having to take long breaks from them. (even though at some level I realize that I need the breaks to recharge my creative energy) !!
Thanks for all your help
Thanks for the input. Personally, I focus on mastering new skills to keep me focused on what I can control, vs outcome, which I can't control.
The personal growth in those areas is what keeps me motivated. I did do that video, it's this one:
I Grew to 6 Subscribers in 6 Months!! INFP HSP True Story
czcams.com/video/Bj1hLaFkXr0/video.html
I definitely move at a much slower pace, in execution that is, because in my mind I can have 100 ideas that I can't seem to get to fast enough. I'm getting better with only assigning small chunks of work and I find satisfaction completing little bits at a time.
Sometimes things fall apart, refuse to work, and if 2020 has taught me anything is to just breathe and let them be. A good example is the video I'd prepared for this week that refused to cooperate and I just had to pivot and share something else.
Like you've rightly put it, we don't give up, sometimes we just let go and allow things to fall where they're supposed to 😊
Cheers to quality over quantity! Thank u for the work u do and all the priceless insightful and useful content u put out 🕉☯️
Awwww thank you Stefanie 😊 🙏
Infps define success very differently from most other people.
Most definitely
Hi Miss Dory Linda, I just came upon your channel two days ago after I've found out that I'm an INFP-T trait. This trait speaks to me on so many levels as compared to the previous trait I've gotten (the adventurer type). You're right in the sense that typically no one would be interested in watching a video that says 'how I gained 5 subscribers in 5 months'. I believe it's because we live in such a result oriented world. The result justifies it all. I answered two times on the 16 personalities test and both times I'm given the same traits even with slightly different answers (I do not memorise my own answers to ensure I got the same trait). I too want to see results but I don't feel like I'm up to the task. Yes I want to earn money too but have always felt that my attitude isn't up to the task. I've been stressed over this for a very long time. I wish I was as good as my peers. I always pick out the stuff I'm not good at (which is a lot like driving, no confidence, low self esteem, can't do marketing for life). I'm very self aware especially in the sense that I'm not good in many things. Even when people tell me I'm good , I still don't feel it. There will always be something that I lack. I'm always worried that it's my problem that I'm not running fast enough but there's nothing I can do about that. I don't wanna do something I don't like. I like to be free, I like to do things my own way. I don't want to do things I don't believe in. I'm only 24, fresh out of college. I don't hold a steady job, I've formed a company with an acquaintance. It's not really going anywhere especially with the ongoing pandemic. I'm always afraid of missing opportunities that's why I rush into things not knowing full well what the conseuqneces are (I'm keeping my options open, I didn't want to lose out just in case). However, I find myself second guessing a lot on many decisions and I just have to give myself some time to get used to it before I quit. I have so many things on my mind and I don't know how to address them all.
Being open to experiences and willing to experiment is a good approach. I personally don't see it as a weakness. Doing so out of fear rather than intention, however, might need more examination on your part. I'd say, continue exploring, be a sponge, throw yourself into things that will allow you to discover what you like and what you don't like. I know all that sounds cliche but it's how it works for all of us. Even for those who look like they got it together and "have a plan."
Infp-t & Hsp. Chronically depressed, anxiety ridden, & suffering from insomnia. Mental health has always been such a struggle for me. As hopeful as I try to be... hopeless is the more constant feeling, which has impacted my life in countless ways. But, this. This video, all of your videos, you. You have sparked some hope in me. Please, keep doing this if it’s something you love. You are making such a difference, so much more than I can admit. Thank you for putting yourself & your knowledge/ ideas out here.
I have been having such a hard time in my personal life lately. It feels like so much of what I'm building someone is determined to tear down. Your comment has encouraged me to keep going because it has reminded me that what I do DOES make a difference in somebody else's life. I appreciate you and thank you for sharing this with me. It has really uplifted me today.
Hi I listened to this a few times today while going on a long skateboard ride. Wasn't sure I got it all the first time. I'm an hsp infpt. I was just learning more about the t part. I'm learning how it has made my life so hard and has caused physical harm. I'm learning ways to cope.
I'm glad you've remained open to learning and finding ways to make the most of how you're wired
@@MsDoryLinda My life has been very painful, still l enjoy plants and animals.
Good that you're finding joy in what you can 🤗
You have the loveliest, most soothing voice. Just listening to you is therapeutic! ♥
I feel like my idealism and expectations can be somewhat subconscious - and when I feel I am failing, or am overwhelmed or distressed, it comes flooding over me. - INFP
I’ve wondered if I am an HSP sometimes, it’s interesting.
I love your voice btw! :) And the way you edit your videos is engaging with the subtle changes.
Thank you. I'm glad you're enjoying the videos. You can take the test to see if you're HSP for sure.
How nice it is to find someone like you! I’d appreciate if you can talk about bipolar 2 + INFP-t, + HSP, + narcissistic father + 2 ex-husbands. I know that’s a lot & overwhelming. If you feel it’s too much to cover, I totally get it. Thank you for all your work here. Your videos are helpful & encouraging.
Carol I'm so glad you're finding the content helpful. I did a video explaining the focus of my channel and videos going forward here czcams.com/video/a1iuzHJ_fqM/video.html
Hope that helps to clarify what I do and don't focus on on this channel.
I absolutely!!!! hear you. You're truly on to something. Thank you, beautiful!!
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Such a brilliantly independent thinker. Wow. Your journey and exploration has brought peace to so many other INFPs. Thanks so much, Dory.
🤗 we are all in this together. Thank you for such a kind comment.
I'm commenting on allllll your videos. Sorry! 😂😂😂 I previously mentioned about psychosomatic illnesses under a different video. I'm sooo glad you're talking about this!
I get jolts of energy and try to take advantage of it by getting as much done as possible. Trying to build a brand via social media has made me resentful and bitter. Everything is too fast and too competitive and I've been battling within about whether to completely withdraw or push myself harder. And yes, for years I've called myself lazy (actually my mother first called me lazy and I believed her).
It's become so bad in my life, to where I've been wanting to just abandon all of my dreams of success (going back to school, etc) in order to live a simple, off-grid lifestyle. I'm currently not working (two years unemployed) and I'm still burned out. I think that's where my resent comes from because deep down inside I wish I could just get it together and work hard like everyone else and not be so sensitive.
I love that you are commenting Elle. I hope the livestream earlier today answered these questions for you.
Measurements. For an INFP. Yes, we definitely need our own standards. We could measure how happy I am today or this month. Isn't happiness the most important thing? How much happy have I been having. How high has my vibration has been? Can I step forward from frustration to contentment, or from contentment to hopefulness? So I have a relationship? Do I have passions? How many days this week have I engaged for some time in my passions? Yes, we want a stable life, we want a rewarding life, perhaps some prestige, we want some money. But I agree, let's be realistic with being or having those things compatible with whom we honestly are.
This video literally is like a warm hug. I was just super sad about being slower paced than my peers and friends today, and this video really helped me understand myself better and understand this frustrating situation that I have been having for so long- thank you so much.
You are very welcome 😊
As an INFP-T, I honestly wish I could turn off the voice in my head more often, it makes me emotionally, physically and mentally exhausted almost on the daily. Just these past 2 weeks I had several breakdowns because I am not getting enough done during the day. It's never enough.
What you said about being a doctor really made sense I never understood why I am fond of the work of a Doctor, the concept of healing and helping people, yet really dislike it now after the way you explained it I can see why. I was wondering if obsession is an INFP-T trait?? I noticed after time and time again that whenever I like something or somebody I become sooo obsessed with them/it, the feeling entirely consumes me, else I go all in or I don't care at all which is not convenient in the long run I wish I could balance things but I am never able to do so 😩😞
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us 💞
I don't personally believe we need to quiet the voices in our head, I think we need to create space where what's trying to be communicated is actually heard. Voices only shout when they don't feel heard. We are definitely passionate people , feel deeply and attend to things 100% in. If however that feels out of tune for you, perhaps you might need to look at the motivation behind the act. What's driving the action?
@@MsDoryLinda I understand and you're right about this. But how do we create this safe space for our inner voice? and the thing about the motivation that drives the act can you please elaborate more about that? Maybe you have a video about this already I would love to watch it if you could link me please 🥺
Creating space is a practice we learn. I teach this in the program that's starting this coming week, which is this one here dorylinda.samcart.com/products/program
Motivation and what drives our actions are usually determined by underlying factors which I talked about in this livestream. So usually what we think is going on isn't the motivation or the driving force behind our actions czcams.com/video/CU_sRXnUokk/video.html
Hope that helps you dig deeper.
I love hearing about all the different types and the way you deliver the information! OMG, the smell thing! I get it! Slow and steady builds your true tribe! I have been on CZcams for years and I believe in the slow and steady.
You are so right Elizabeth, the slow and steady process is what we should focus on for sure. We can't control outcomes anyway and we shouldn't burn ourselves out trying to meet some vain metric, you know!! We can definitely live by our own rules 💪
I relate to soooooooo much of this. It's why I thought (in part) I was INFJ for years...
*INFP-T, HSP, 497 Sx. Fibromyalgia, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Mast Cell Activation (amongst other things), and CPTSD.
Armonia, I'm so glad this video was a mirror for you to see and understand yourself better. Thank you for sharing that. The journey deep into knowing and understanding ourselves can sometimes take interesting turns for sure.
This is amazing, I totally agree with you.
Thank you for this. I finally feel understood by another creator and I struggle so often to keep up with this fast paced world where nowadays (especially as a content creator/streamer, whatever) things seem to always revolve around numbers and growing fast, fast- FAST. It's so draining, both mentally and physically. Even if you don't really care about it, as soon as every other person around you cares about it you suddenly catch yourself with those thoughts, too. And because of this i couldn't enjoy the past few months doing what I do and love, because for ME I was suddenly doing it for the wrong reasons. I'm slowly but steady connecting back to why I even started my journey and I feel connected to my passion again.
And listening to your eloquent yet empathic way of talking about INFPs and especially HSP (which I both am) helps out a lot because it's nice to know I'm not the only one getting overwhelmed by sociaties standards of a "good or successful" life.
Keep doing what you do! I love listening to it! 😊 💓
Goodness yes!! I get triggered a lot and have to check in with myself so I don't get lost in it all. It can be so hard in our circles and I'm finding I'm having to make a lot of unpopular decisions. But if we don't do that, we'll disconnect from the very essence that makes us, us!! So we must!! So let's keep the main thing the main thing and keep crushing it on our terms and in our own pace ✨ 😅
@@MsDoryLinda wonderfully said 💟
Bless you for your channel. It is so helpful, for now i'm just taking in all the perspective and wisdom, from so many great videos, and letting it simmer it bit. You present such insightful questions that push or reframe thinking in just a way... Im an INFP, and ADHD🙄 ... so much of the INFP HSP tendencies, (strengths and struggles) are just so intensified. On top of that, I went back to school after 20 yrs, part time, and realized imposter syndrome was happening. This channel is so uniquely helpful, and I just really appreciate it so much.
I'm so glad you're finding the content insightful. Impostor syndrome is a beast and I was definitely feeling it myself a few weeks ago. So long as we recognize it and it's not an automatic thing that hijacks our reactions and responses then we should be okay.
I just subscribed and you were totally right about wanting an unconventional lifestyle but to still fit in with everyone else. I also like to imagine myself living my desired lifestyle in the future when I get overwhelmed or start doubting myself.
We have to forge our own paths for sure!!
Hello! I just discovered your channel and I just wanted to say, thank you. Thank you so much for the insight. I am learning so much. I am an INFP-t and probably HSP, since my level of how much sensations and informations I can intake, is very limited. But I can appreciate it to an extent. Though it's really hard to deal with this inner thrive, of things never being enough.
But knowing it's something not only me is dealing with and it's a topic that can be understood and discussed gives me so much.
Thank you. Again.
Awesome, I'm so glad to hear that.
I love your message, Dory. Thank you
You are welcome, dear one 💞
Wow I wish these were concerns I was able to talk about when I attended college years ago. I think I would have been much further ahead. I definitely identify with INFP A/T. It was suggested by a friend to take the Meyer Briggs questionnaire and my results turned out to be the mediator. This information is so helpful in helping me to answer all of the questions I struggled with most my life. Thank you so much. I really appreciate your contents.
Oh I'm so glad you found it helpful ☺
Thank you! I'm more motivated to change jobs this year. My current job is too fast paced for me. Truly grateful for the learning and experience but I'm ready to move on 🙏
I am an INFP who is a medical doctor. Its hard to explain why its not a good idea. Had I known myself earlier I would have chosen not to be a doctor. Let me make it simpler. Being a doctor means you have to make a lot of decisions day in and day out. All of the decisions must be made logically. Logical does not mean ideal all the time. A hospital and health insurance requires efficiency to serve more people and to be cost effective. As an INFP, we want to use empathy all the damn time but its not always practical. Time must be managed efficiently in the medical practice and you know how INFPs feel about taking our sweet time to experience quality life. But I feel that Psychiatry or Geriatrics could be an area for INFPs.
Those .ay be good alternatives, provided the working conditions are ideal.
I have never commented on anything ever on yt and this is my third comment on different videos of yours hahha this video made me smile and I love ur idea of making our own measurement of achievements. It s amazing to see that there are literally ppl out there like me and who feel and think like me. I always thought I was a bit bananas hahha
I know exactly what you mean. Starting this channel has been transformational for me seeing that there are so many of us out here.
How can I like a video before even watching it?!
I mean, I know I'm hard to satisfy but you got me hooked since the first sentence in this one, thanks for the great content 🙏
Aww thank you 😊 🙏🏾
I love your comment to adjust your enviorment.
Deborah, I'm glad. Thank you for letting me know that.
Your voice is soothing. Your tips are helpful. and Your method is very new to me. I understand how showing up can have more than one meaning. My channel is slowly growing, however I fill so good inside that I just started and I get the opportunity to help others. As I help others, I help myself to slow down and learn and celebrate the moments.
Shanda welcome 😊 I'm glad you found the tips helpful. I'm glad you're showing up in a way that feels right for you, and you're able to celebrate the moment ✨ 💖
whenever i try to tell people how i feel diffrently about diffrent things as an infp and hsp all i hear is that i am being dramatic and think to highly of myself and these are my family and close friends i am talking about
Most people can't understand because it isn't something they've experienced.
I thought it was only me. I’ve always thought I was weird. I’m highly affected by color. The wrong shade, hue, tone, color can put me in a mood. So many things affect me. I will spend ungodly amounts of time getting a wrinkle out a rug, perfectly making a bed, or some other random thing no one else would care about. It’s overwhelming!
Yes!! The amount of time I'd fuss with a graphic or anything visual I create is just crazy. That's why IG became unhealthy for me. It helps to be aware of these things and then restructure our lives in a way that serves us best, you know!
Yes make that video! You are an angel! 🌬💛
Thank you. I did make the video. It's this one 👉🏾I ONLY Gained 6 Subscribers in 6 Months! INFP HSP CZcamsr True Story!!
czcams.com/video/Bj1hLaFkXr0/video.html
Thank you for being so honest. I really liked your video.
I'm glad you did.
Maybe the "a" can stand for Acceptance,, and the "t" can stand for Trauma.
I would watch that video! Thank you so much for all the wisdom you’re sharing, Dory ❤️ I’m also growing a CZcams channel and I get excited if I gain 3 subscribers in a month 😄
I know right 😅 Growth takes time and patience for sure. Congratulations on your channel. What type of content do you create?
I did do that video. It's this one here👉🏾 I ONLY Gained 6 Subscribers in 6 Months! INFP HSP CZcamsr True Story!! czcams.com/video/Bj1hLaFkXr0/video.html
@@MsDoryLinda Thank you! Yes, consistency is key ❤️ It’s a yoga channel where I post 10-30min classes every week called Yoga with Z, I’m thinking to start posting some shorter videos as well ☺️
I definitey agree that we need to find our pace and place and by now I keep meeting people who are now taking an example in my slow pace regardless of job success being currently outside of the frame. Just as we need equity between women and men, old and young and any types of minorities and majorities: We need more balance between the extroverted and introverted styles as well.
Well said!!
Thank you for this, I totally felt seen and your video was very soothing with all that you did visually as well as your beautiful voice and way of speaking.
I too have been thinking about the connection of the infp with the hsp as well as what does a balanced empowered thriving person with these qualities look like. What is the norm for this way of living for us. Too easy is it to get caught up in being like the rest of the 80% of others but what is it the hsp is here to be in this world as a perfect piece of the whole?
I often try to imagine what it would look like as a thriving tribe setting but have a hard time seeing it just yet.
I am a new mom of a 1.5 year old boy at the time of writing this and find it quite overwhelming as I havent even found a career yet (picking just one thing seems daunting and to spend money and not get it back seems unfair for information that could possibly be manipulated? Maybe just overthinking) I want to give my partner the house he intensely desires and my son a good life with out becoming a burden to him or anyone else in the future but need more information, I think, to create it and quick. I want to show others and my self that you can thrive while also taking care of your self and you can fit authentically with out the hustle and constant productivity. Thats not where the value lies.
Any way, I may have ranted a bit and dont usually share but I will leave this here anyway. Thank you for the space and thank you for anyone reading this with compassion. ♡
Thanks so much for your insight , I needed this :)
First of all thank you sooo much for doing what you do!!!!!!! I thought I was crazy being the type of person I am. I want to ask you a quick question🤗 I am very into all of my creative endeavors and probably have overwhelmed myself with them, but I have a serious problem with improving my skills because if I even go a day without practicing my mind starts telling me "Oh-there's no point in doing it anymore because you won't be any good!" I am an INFP-T and I think you are the only person who would have answers for me😂 Sorry this is so long!
I'm glad you're finding the content helpful. What was your question?
I think I got sidetracked-sorry!! I don't tend to stick with my project long enough to improve or get anywhere because the negative self talk begins and I don't know how to stop it and end up just sitting around depressed. I guess how do I stop the negative self talk?!?!
What I teach in the mindset program is that we don't need to "stop" negative self talk. From what you're saying and what I've found over the years is, the problem lies in the fact that you have the talk and the talk automatically affects your behavior (you listen to negative self talk and end up depressed). So I normally help my students by teaching them to create space between thoughts and action. They then learn to be observers of their thoughts and are able to hear and analyze and still choose action that are in accordance with the outcome they want. So their negative self talk still exists (it always will in some form) it just doesn't affect their lives negatively anymore.
Does that answer your question?
I don't think we can live without overwhelm, like you said its a part of us and we can't really change the world so we can't escape from it (As much as I'd like to escape to a little cottage in the country side and garden and work on my art all day long my responsibilities won't allow me to make such a decision right now...and probably not for many years to come.) I guess its about becoming familiar with your feelings of overwhelm, figure out how they work and find the balance that works for you. Experiment. But the process of learning that would be long and painful.
Yes, the best way to deal with overwhelm is finding ways to design how your life and work functions so you can reduce the overstimulation and weave in time to recover when you feel overloaded. I personally see that as the escape I need from being in a situation where I can't dictate any of that. Do you know what I mean? The freedom to choose how things run and the pace they're run is the escape from the madness.
I am laughing! Love!
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Thank you for this dory🥺💖
You are most welcome Fars 🙏 ☺
and about the questions, i dont know if you already made the video, but i wish you talked a little bit more about how to be sure if you are a HSP and situations that HSPs go through 💓
and also related to the second question, can HSPs be more sensitive to noises?
I talk about those in this video
3 Clues an INFP is also a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
czcams.com/video/XR3vngRTZhw/video.html
i’m infp-t & hsp too💟
this video resonated so much, thank you!
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11:01 Yea, that realization makes my heart ache a bit. If the thing you struggle with isn't obvious enough, or just nobody cares about your struggle, you are treated as defective, lazy and dumb.
Sure takes some thick skin to be an INFP.
Given we're in the minority means we have to show up, take space, and not wait for others to "get it" and "care" or we'll be waiting for a long time!
@@MsDoryLinda You are right, no use lamenting the fact, we need to put in the work first to show our good will. Sorry about that. Making the "other" responsible through thinking, seems to be my biggest problem. There I go again using my superior feeling and rationalize it by using my inferior thinking. I try to become more aware of that.
Omg now I understand why I just CAN'T stand limes. I hate them so much and my family doesn't understand why (even I don't)
Our senses can react so strongly to certain things, don't they? I'm glad this video allowed you more insight into your life experiences 😊
Thank you Thank you!
I think I love you.
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Thankyou relates!
Thanks for tips
Great video
You're welcome Zeinab 😊 🙏
iNFP 😷💯🌻 t, HSP , enneagram 9 thanks for the teachings,🕉️
I'm glad you're finding them helpful.
I am def an INFP T and HSP and somehow make it through things successfully but feel like I went through the fire to get there. Being both I picked the worse career choice for overwhelm, I became an elementary school teacher. It tore me down and I cried and just gained extremely high blood pressure. I still don’t understand it because I’m the only one I know who’s like this.... how can we be overwhelmed and overachievers? Is it better to put more energy into something by balancing it out by putting almost zero energy into others? I would like strategies on effective ways to celebrate achievements and to realize when too much is just too much... like you transitioning your own career.
The way that I have found works well for most of my overachiever clients is having the autonomy to call the shorts on their schedule. So they're able to pour in when they feel full or pull back when they're running on empty. This is of course a lot easier if you can dictate your own schedule through self-employment. Does that answer your question?
Here’s an embarrassing but real thing for me: the smell mainly and texture of celery IRRITATES me to the max! 😬
Eek! I've never understood celery and wings combo! I've tried but it feels like I'm eating soap 🧼 😏
@@MsDoryLinda exactly! It’s hard to explain but it’s a trigger! Thank you for your wonderful work! 🙌🏻♥️
Btw, I took your test and I scored 22 on the level of sensitivity. Maybe mom and dad hoped for me to have “Dr” or “MD” attached to my name but instead is “INFP-A HSP ADHD”! Sounds like a big and fancy screen tv 😂
😅 I think you have a future in comedy 🤣
@@MsDoryLinda Thank you! 🙌🏻
amazing content
Thank you. I'm glad it resonated with you 🙂
I am an INFP, but idk if I'm an INFP T or A. I do know I am a HSP and empath
I'm glad you're here, I'm sure you'll feel right at home 🏡 😊
Can you please make a video about discipline for INFP's?
Thank you for the suggestion Alika 😊 Can you tell me a bit more about what you mean by discipline for INFPs? What would you hope the video would help you be/do? I want to make sure I understand where you're coming from.
@@MsDoryLinda At some point you've even mentioned it in the video. I really struggle with discipline when it comes to daily activities like exercise, meditation or just sticking to one goal and accomplishing that goal. I usually start something and after a while my attention gets carried away to another thing and then another thing... Discipline is just a huge struggle for me and I don't know what to do about it.
Gotcha!! I'll make a note of that. That would be a great topic for discussion.
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Hi, I wonder how you find out what personality you are? Can you share the link, please?. Thank you
This would be a good place to start
czcams.com/users/PersonalityHackerPodcast
i am an infp-t type, very very high on the turbulence scale, and i don't know if i can ever be content.
What would you need to feel content?
Came for the self help, stayed for the accidental asmr.
😂🙌🏾 might have to tap into that at some point
Yeah at the moment death feels like the easiest option. I just want to disappear. I'm so lost. How long can i deal with overwhelm because life is too long. Imagine living for 80 years with overwhelm and always in tension. 😳
Please talk to someone if you're feeling feelings of despair or ideation.
I'm an INFP-T
You're definitely in the right community ☺ You'll feel at home here 🏡
Ms Dory Linda. I love your videos. Especially this one because almost everyone I meet has never heard of Myers Briggs and they definitely don't know what an HSP is. So it's so refreshing to hear from an INFP-T who is also an HSP like myself AND understands the struggle very well. You articulate things so eloquently and you are well educated. Thank you.
Tamia it can certainly feel like a lonely journey 😞 I'm thankful for the connections I'm making here and for your comment. It helps to uplift and encourage each other along. We all need that. I'm glad you found some comfort being here 🤗
Hi Ms Dory, just a comment. Zooming In and out of during the video. Making it difficult to concentrate and hard to watch.
Thank you for letting me know 😊
Same same same lol
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