@marcusar99 If you repeat a lie often enough, some people will believe it is the truth. I think a lot of people have accepted the reality of the "BLACK" experience in America as Truth. Im glad to see some people are starting to see through the lie of their reality.
The depth of her delusion makes me sad. How deep is her conviction that lying is the remedy? Do you think she believes what she's saying? Is living a lie better than knowing the truth? " Delusion Firm and fixed belief based on inadequate grounding. A delusion is a false fixed belief that is not amenable to change in light of conflicting evidence. As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, confabulation, dogma, illusion, hallucination, or some other misleading effects of perception, as individuals with those beliefs are able to change or readjust their beliefs upon reviewing the evidence. However: "The distinction between a delusion and a strongly held idea is sometimes difficult to make and depends in part on the degree of conviction with which the belief is held despite clear or reasonable contradictory evidence regarding its veracity." Delusions have been found to occur in the context of many pathological states and are of particular diagnostic importance in psychotic disorders including schizophrenia, paraphrenia, manic episodes of bipolar disorder, and psychotic depression. " I
The depth of her Delusion makes me sad. How deep is her conviction that lying is the answer? Do you think she believes what she's saying? Or just that living a lie is what "our" lives have come to? DELUSION: "Firm and fixed belief based on inadequate grounding. "As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, confabulation, dogma, illusion, hallucination, or some other misleading effects of perception, as individuals with those beliefs are able to change or readjust their beliefs upon reviewing the evidence." However: "The distinction between a delusion and a strongly held idea is sometimes difficult to make and depends in part on the degree of conviction with which the belief is held despite clear or reasonable contradictory evidence regarding its veracity."
@@anotherpointofview222 if youre a child or "significant other" who has been neglected & starved of love, you become more aware of how people around you treat each other. and if you see that the one who should be loving you is paying more care and concern for respect to the condescending and abusive figures of authorities in their life, you begin to poke holes in those dishonesties. and you realize, no, my lying loved ones are indeed capable of light heartedness, of warmth, of affection - even despite the daily lack of it. giovanni is not advocating for delusion, but is asking to confront our lies; to embrace our love and authenticity for those who truly matter.
"Because I love you, I get least of you. I get the very minimum. Fake it with me. Is that too much of the black woman to ask of the black man?" 🥺 ...Damn
@BIGDREAMHEEM Based on the etymology. "profound, from Latin profundus "deep, bottomless, ... used of DEEP lakes or WOUNDS." Sister sounds hurt. Understandably. But that's not profound to me. But settling for living a lie as a remedy. Temporay relief... sounds like a "Sunken Place" to me. Curious as to what you...others see.
Obviously you missed the point she was trying to make. The situation you describe here in no way relate to what's going on here. They're talking about a well established couple, married perhaps, making life together. Her stance is, rather than giving me the worst of you, lie to me and put on a pretty face even when you're not in a good mood, just like you do on the job. And he is saying, I can't lie to you because I love you. She said, sure you can lie to me and love me. Whenever you're going to another woman, you lie to me, so you can lie to me and love me. What she's saying is this, when you're in a bad mood, open up and let me in, because if you do, I'll make you feel better but I can if you don't let me in.
@@TheSplifydadz Ok, However I believe in many ways we never really speak the truth. We say good day when it’s raining and cold out side. Men for as long as I can remember, come home from work everyday, Hungry, tired and sometimes barely able to keep our eyes open and smile; and say it was a good day; just hoping they have a job the next day. ( I would say they try to give their best ) Furthermore of all people Black men, are stressed because they are the ones who are first to be fired, and last to be rewarded; and they come home and lie to their wives and themselves that every thing is peachy. I can’t speak for all men, but I am over 70; and I know how hard my father worked; as a garbage man. In the days when garbage was dumped on burlap tarps and garbage men grabbed the four corners of the tarp and carried the garbage on their back to the truck. While my mother worked cleaning peoples houses, while she was pregnant. They both put on best faces; but that was a different time and they difficult times too. I think Nikki is a just a bit older than I am, so I can relate to social norms during those time,s but relationships varied with social , economical and financial levels and opportunities. Those times have passed and this generation is delusional. But I honestly believe that all young men try to give their best, until another reality alters their perceptions. I think I lost my train of thought, but I will take a second look at what she was trying to say; but I have a feeling that she may be referring to a individual or experience.
@@twt9623as a 22 year old man, i personally believe that many men are afraid of change, of speaking of their feelings, even to each other. and the longer you go living that way, resisting vulnerability and resisting learning of new or other "realities", the harder it is to unlearn your conditioning. it then is no surprise that someone would shut themselves out from new generations, and from empathizing with the diverse experiences that people naturally have...
We’re still here and invisible to all the BBL’s, weaves and wigs., or Becky’s with good hair. Those are the women that have been uplifted while those who are plain and modest sit on the side lines. Good and wholesome, modest women still exist. We are just not seen.
@@rosewithhope Don’t lose heart, sis! Trust me, there’s still a pool of men who aren’t blinded by that garbage… me being one of them. It’s very disheartening that the ratios have been flipped, but we’re still here and I hope that one of us finds you if that’s your desire 🤍
@@870mac Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And findeth favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22. Whenever the Lord wills he will find me. Blessings to you brother for your comment and encouragement. I am glad that there are men that admire simplicity and wholesome modesty in a woman. This is true beauty.
The point is don't be nice to everyone else and come home to take your anger out on your woman. We deserve to be treated as well as you would anyone else...Scratch that. We deserve to be treated better than strangers. We can't be your peace when you're not ours.
This quote expresses the speaker's sense of receiving less from a loved one because of their love and devotion. The speaker feels they are only getting the minimum effort or affection from their partner. They question whether asking for their partner to at least pretend to care more is too much, highlighting a feeling of neglect or unfulfilled expectations in the relationship. The specific mention of "the black woman" and "the black man" suggests that the speaker may be addressing broader issues of love and support within the context of their racial identity and experiences. ~ChatGPT
Again, I love this conversation. I remember seeing the entirety of this interview. There were folks who said that Mr. Baldwin was being sexist and misogynistic. That couldn't be further from the truth. The conversation was beautiful, to say the least. This conversation showed me that intelligence is a powerful aphrodisiac.
How can someone play a fake role 24/7? Do you know how much energy it takes to fake it 24/7? There is a reason the people we hurt the most are those closest to us. Since they are the only one who actually see a glimpse of our true self, not what we present to the outside world, Unfortunately they get to see our good, bad and our ugly. When you fake it all to just to make it home, you don't have the energy to keep faking it to the people who you've been told you have to be vulnerable with. I understand the sentiment but it means that the BM can never be himself anywhere. Not outside the house, not at home. He needs to be an avatar of himself.
Exactly !!!!!! what’s amazing is , as man you can lie and if she’s fined out you lied , she’ll cry out (why can’t you just be honest with me) humbly speaking there’s no winning with this type of thinking from a woman
You are missing the point. The point is to keep the same energy at work and at home. Don’t treat your bosses like queens and kings but treat your wife and kids like shit! Understand? You know exactly what she’s saying but her truth hurts because it’s a reflection of you.
@@unityaboriginelove6595 you are forgetting he’s a human being. How can someone live a lie everyday. His anger, discontent... will overflow at some point or he’ll go crazy. After a long day of faking at work, every small thing at home will make a man lose his shit. He’s a melting pot and he can’t erupt at work coz he has no control over there. Am not saying it is okay to do that but I can understand why.
@@yareddejene462 - so what you are saying is that men who fake it at work and treat their wives like shit are human beings but women who are receiving their anger are not human beings? Sir- you have a strawman argument. Treat your wife better.
So when am I ever real if I lie in the work place and then lie at home? This causes neurosis. But I get her point. She wants me to smile at her but I have no joy in my heart. Nothing to smile about - so she gets the unhappy me. Maybe I should lie to her sometimes....just to make her happy.... sometimes. Though I'm dead inside
Fake it with me? Sorry I had to say this, but that is pick me behavior. If a partner has to fake it with you like they do their boss at work is red flag. If they can't treat you right as a person now, well, they're never going to treat well at all
She's saying to give her the same energy that you give the man that oppresses you.. you love me, but I get the worst end of the stick.. you despise him, but you give him your best..
@@deandrealmc nah what she is saying is I don't care if you cheat!!!!!! just come home to me and lie!!! I don't want to know, don't show me your true self. Lie lie to me!
@@deandrealmc How can someone play a fake role 24/7? Do you know how much energy it takes to fake it 24/7? There is a reason the people we hurt the most are those closest to us. Since they are the only one who actually see a glimpse of our true self, not what we present to the outside world, Unfortunately they get to see our good, bad and our ugly. When you fake it all to just to make it home, you don't have the energy to keep faking it to the people who you've been told you have to be vulnerable with. I understand the sentiment but it means that the BM can never be himself anywhere. Not outside the house, not at home. He needs to be an avatar of himself.
@Navy Tanutrof be the version of yourself that the individual you are interacting with deserves. Don't smile in yT's face and come home and beat your wife about it. Had you listened to the entire interview, you would understand that she's speaking on domestic violence against black women as a result of the frustrations that black men experience in the outside world with white America. There is no justification for smiling in a white man's face (the true source of your frustration) and then coming home to beat on your wife (the woman that loves you) about it.. if the person you love the most gets the bulk of your frustrations pounded into them, then that is a YOU problem that YOU may want to seek help about..
This shit is so deep in so many way … it’s not just on the surface of what she is talking bout . The mind set of woman back then was fierce and beautiful and mature beyond measure … ps when she said cracker 😊
She's Asking Him Too Lie To Her And Say Things To Make Her Happy And Spare Her Feelings. She Loves Him And Wants To Feel And Hear Him Say, "I Love You." Even If It Is A Lie, She Will Not Know Unless The Way He Treats Her Changes Drastically. I Understand Completely What She Means. He Isn't Going To Say Anything Malicious To Hurt Her. Just Like She Says About Him Going Off To Spend Time With Mattie. He's Lying About His Whereabouts Then. In Essence She Is Saying What She Doesn't Know, Will Not Hurt Her...And To A Certain Degree She Is Absolutely Right!
No, women are way more intuitive and smarter than that. They can feel when something is fake, no matter how much the act is kept up. Women always know when something is off, no matter how "kind" someone pretends to be.
If a man cant be himself around his woman, she is not his woman. If she wants the same treatment his oppressor receives, she doesn't want to be his wife, she wants to be the boss. -black feminism
@junkboxxxxxx She is refusing his reactions towards his circumstances. Not allowing him to go through self actualization. It's a different brand of the same thing. Just in a 😍 package. You can't function as a man with a woman who is willing, to attempt, to blind you, for her personal comfort. At the end. The compromise is the destruction of you both. Isaiah 47:8-10 [8]Therefore hear now this, thou that art given to pleasures, that dwellest carelessly, that sayest in thine heart, I am, and none else beside me; I shall not sit as a widow, neither shall I know the loss of children: [9]But these two things shall come to thee in a moment in one day, the loss of children, and widowhood: they shall come upon thee in their perfection for the multitude of thy sorceries, and for the great abundance of thine enchantments. [10]For thou hast trusted in thy wickedness: thou hast said, None seeth me. Thy wisdom and thy knowledge, it hath perverted thee; and thou hast said in thine heart, I am, and none else beside me.
Is easy for the side chick because she doesn't have to deal with his bad humor all the time, once again men find another person he will treat better than his wife
Any adult human being that allowed another human to treat them as less than a human being what they say about the person that gets... mistreated if they're not in prison or kidnapped. .. please someone please revise the definition of love because these people do not know the meaning of the word love. Love is a physical presence pleasure and desire ❤️ and why would someone be searching for that we are here to serve as humanitarian on this Earth 🌍 I make this world a better place than when we arrived there is never Love without humanity. And just a side note because I'm a widow most you women have a problem with your man holding the door open for another woman where's the humanity in that. Confused by delusional people, especially people of color want to own another human being. The Creator of all MANKIND PERSONALLY ONLY ASK FOR HUMANITY FOR ALL BEINGS.
They both are trapped in the delusion. Stop playing roles and interact authentically with everyone. Stop harming yourself by living in the past or in the future. Stop denying yourself the present.
Have you ever heard a more convincing case for a lie? A conversation for generations. I can only imagine how convincing Eve the first Sistah, and Mother of all living, must have been. Brother and first man Adam, looking and listening... "Brown Skin" czcams.com/users/clipUgkxlrxsfcf95u_0ESfkWwHmn_63qk2X0BbU?feature=shared .... knowing her to be bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh...all in ❤. Yes this is a conversation for generations.
What kinda logic is, "lie to me to give me proof that you truly love me"? All due respect ladies, that isn't love. She was unfortunate to experience whatever experience(s) that pushed her into that thought process...but, that's just not an intellectual way to go about relationship/marriage. And I recently saw a clip from this interview where she mentioned that she'd like to try things in the relationship, her way...then, it cuts to little black girls being filmed by the mother twerking to some song that had them repeatedly screaming, "hands on ya knees!". The black community in America has failed under matriarchy.
She is asking how come black men can be friendly and pleasant to strangers and the moment they get home his wife has to deal with the worst part of him, why doesn't he find motivation to be nice to his wife as he is with strangers
@@que-si-que-si you're overcomplicating she basically saying she wants to be treated nicely by her husband, the man makes efforts to treat other people well and the moment he arrives at home he stops making this effort
@@que-si-que-si you think being treated well and with kindness is unreasonable expectations? Even here on this comment instead of trying to understand women's perspective and experience you're trying to judge them. You think that women should just get frowns and bad humor otherwise they're selfish. Make an effort for your loved ones, they deserve the best part of you
@@sau2949 I think that wanting your man to treat you as if you're in a fairytale is unreasonable expectations. Right now, black America is under the rulership of the women's perspective. It's so bad, that other black women speak up to check y'all (with respect), and get pure DISRESPECT in return. A black woman on CZcams who goes by the name of Daphne Sutton, told black women they were generally wrong. They responded saying awful things about her deceased mother. I can name drop examples of black women who represent femininity in a way that makes the ancestors proud. These same black women aren't afraid to hold women accountable. Marriage isn't about the wife's happiness (selfish). I think women should involve elderly men in the family (that they love, admire, and respect), in their dating process... because, y'all pick poorly. Y'all pick men y'all "feel like", you can fix... based off emotions, not logic. Recipe for disastrous dating experience.
Soooo... when women pick the bad boys, Thugs, gangstas, street guys.... women don't care if these guys lie to y'all, as long as he's keeping you emotionally comfortable? Sounds about right! Y'all have been living engulfed in this type of chaos for a long time. Tell you the fairytale to protect your emotions, but he could actually be a terrible person away from y'all. Y'all don't care enough FOR OUR PEOPLE, as a feminine collective. Women of today will argue with men, that they themselves, are half a man. These women have no issue disrespecting their own femininity. Did you not recently see how many black women embarrassed themselves recently over a fake post saying that white billionaires prefer black wives?! This "keep me mentally stimulated in fairytale land" is a chaotic mindset for a woman to have, especially women who (in modern day times) push for single motherhood.
Irony is amazing 😂😂😂 you can never truly love and honest with someone without telling them about your (good, bad and ugly days). In my humble opinion , the statement she made is a delusional one. She’s and he is supposed represent light at the end of the dark tunnel , if you’re down he or she brings you up, that can’t happen without honesty. Peace and love
I can’t say how many times I’ve heard and watch this message. It is so true for so many.
Same here countless times
A sad reality.
For a lack of love she'll desire a lie.
One of the biggest realities of the black experience in America.
@marcusar99
If you repeat a lie often enough, some people will believe it is the truth. I think a lot of people have accepted the reality of the "BLACK" experience in America as Truth.
Im glad to see some people are starting to see through the lie of their reality.
The look of confusion on James Baldwin face makes me laugh
Bewilderment? Maybe he can't believe what he's hearing. Most people dont ask to be lied to.
I love how expensive his face was.
The depth of her delusion makes me sad.
How deep is her conviction that lying is the remedy?
Do you think she believes what she's saying? Is living a lie better than knowing the truth?
"
Delusion
Firm and fixed belief based on inadequate grounding.
A delusion is a false fixed belief that is not amenable to change in light of conflicting evidence. As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, confabulation, dogma, illusion, hallucination, or some other misleading effects of perception, as individuals with those beliefs are able to change or readjust their beliefs upon reviewing the evidence. However: "The distinction between a delusion and a strongly held idea is sometimes difficult to make and depends in part on the degree of conviction with which the belief is held despite clear or reasonable contradictory evidence regarding its veracity." Delusions have been found to occur in the context of many pathological states and are of particular diagnostic importance in psychotic disorders including schizophrenia, paraphrenia, manic episodes of bipolar disorder, and psychotic depression. "
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The depth of her Delusion makes me sad.
How deep is her conviction that lying is the answer?
Do you think she believes what she's saying? Or just that living a lie is what "our" lives have come to?
DELUSION:
"Firm and fixed belief based on inadequate grounding.
"As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, confabulation, dogma, illusion, hallucination, or some other misleading effects of perception, as individuals with those beliefs are able to change or readjust their beliefs upon reviewing the evidence."
However: "The distinction between a delusion and a strongly held idea is sometimes difficult to make and depends in part on the degree of conviction with which the belief is held despite clear or reasonable contradictory evidence regarding its veracity."
@@anotherpointofview222 if youre a child or "significant other" who has been neglected & starved of love, you become more aware of how people around you treat each other. and if you see that the one who should be loving you is paying more care and concern for respect to the condescending and abusive figures of authorities in their life, you begin to poke holes in those dishonesties. and you realize, no, my lying loved ones are indeed capable of light heartedness, of warmth, of affection - even despite the daily lack of it.
giovanni is not advocating for delusion, but is asking to confront our lies; to embrace our love and authenticity for those who truly matter.
Amen. Keep the same energy with me as you have with your oppressors. Don’t treat them like kings and queens but treat your wife and kids like shit.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yeah
"Because I love you, I get least of you. I get the very minimum. Fake it with me. Is that too much of the black woman to ask of the black man?" 🥺 ...Damn
Completely Profound ❤
The black women has to be willing to “fake it” as well
@Skyview4me
Please share. What profoundity do you see?
@@anotherpointofview222 lmao it wasn’t profound at all
@BIGDREAMHEEM
Based on the etymology. "profound, from
Latin profundus "deep, bottomless, ...
used of DEEP lakes or WOUNDS."
Sister sounds hurt. Understandably. But that's not profound to me.
But settling for living a lie as a remedy. Temporay relief... sounds like a "Sunken Place" to me.
Curious as to what you...others see.
She's speaking FACT. What all women know is true but is afraid to verbalize. She's say, give me your best and I'll do the rest.
Obviously you missed the point she was trying to make. The situation you describe here in no way relate to what's going on here. They're talking about a well established couple, married perhaps, making life together. Her stance is, rather than giving me the worst of you, lie to me and put on a pretty face even when you're not in a good mood, just like you do on the job. And he is saying, I can't lie to you because I love you. She said, sure you can lie to me and love me. Whenever you're going to another woman, you lie to me, so you can lie to me and love me. What she's saying is this, when you're in a bad mood, open up and let me in, because if you do, I'll make you feel better but I can if you don't let me in.
@@TheSplifydadz Ok, However I believe in many ways we never really speak the truth.
We say good day when it’s raining and cold out side. Men for as long as I can remember, come home from work everyday, Hungry, tired and sometimes barely able to keep our eyes open and smile; and say it was a good day; just hoping they have a job the next day.
( I would say they try to give their best )
Furthermore of all people Black men, are stressed because they are the ones who are first to be fired, and last to be rewarded; and they come home and lie to their wives and themselves that every thing is peachy.
I can’t speak for all men, but I am over 70; and I know how hard my father worked; as a garbage man. In the days when garbage was dumped on burlap tarps and garbage men grabbed the four corners of the tarp and carried the garbage on their back to the truck. While my mother worked
cleaning peoples houses, while she was pregnant. They both put on best faces; but that was a different time and they difficult times too.
I think Nikki is a just a bit older than I am, so I can relate to social norms during those time,s but relationships varied with social , economical and financial levels and opportunities.
Those times have passed and this generation is delusional. But I honestly believe that all young men try to give their best, until another reality alters their perceptions.
I think I lost my train of thought, but I will take a second look at what she was trying to say; but I have a feeling that she may be referring to a individual or experience.
@@twt9623as a 22 year old man, i personally believe that many men are afraid of change, of speaking of their feelings, even to each other. and the longer you go living that way, resisting vulnerability and resisting learning of new or other "realities", the harder it is to unlearn your conditioning. it then is no surprise that someone would shut themselves out from new generations, and from empathizing with the diverse experiences that people naturally have...
I felt this preach Queen❤️
Yeah this hit hard. I feel like I may have done that in every relationship I’ve been in. That’s terrible.
Different perspective and thought provoking
Where did these kinds of sisters Go 🖤
We pretend when we feel must. And are honest when we feel we’re allowed to. And we are usually exactly backwards about it
This is profound, true, and is indicative of the coping mechanisms of our people. Mental slavery…
Definitely
She’s referring to Love which can’t be bound
She does have a point
Lie to me when you come home, just as you lie to the white man when you go to work….I know it’s difficult, but I got you baby❤️
Wow.. i love her
so many men are like that. You go girl u put it stright!!!
I love this!!! Every time I hear it !!
Im here after Unc phrased this 😂
I wish I’d learned this lesson a decade earlier.
Independent thoughts 💭
Do they exist anymore?
She was DEEP….. and has a beautiful soul. Where did all the real women go??????!!!!!!!!
We’re still here and invisible to all the BBL’s, weaves and wigs., or Becky’s with good hair. Those are the women that have been uplifted while those who are plain and modest sit on the side lines. Good and wholesome, modest women still exist. We are just not seen.
@@rosewithhope Don’t lose heart, sis! Trust me, there’s still a pool of men who aren’t blinded by that garbage… me being one of them. It’s very disheartening that the ratios have been flipped, but we’re still here and I hope that one of us finds you if that’s your desire 🤍
@@870mac Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And findeth favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22. Whenever the Lord wills he will find me. Blessings to you brother for your comment and encouragement. I am glad that there are men that admire simplicity and wholesome modesty in a woman. This is true beauty.
They raised their standards and stopped accepting lies lol
All women are real women.
"I have to be nice at work, at home I can let my feelings out."
Lucky us.
Fake at work and fake at home too? So were can he be himself and catch a breath atleast. He will go nuts
I love love love this REAL SHIT!!!
I overstood every single word that came out of her mouth ❤
In other words: I can never be myself.
No. Well give your boss at work that bad energy and talk slick. If you can play the game with your boss play it with your woman
This Sistha was dropping KNOWLEDGE 🔥💥💰😎
That's the most beautiful thing a woman can say to a man.
We can’t come home and be fake. Opposite of peace. There is a better way.
Missed the whole point😮
She sound like Eve
The better way is finding your inner peace and coming to a place where you can genuinely be loving
The point is don't be nice to everyone else and come home to take your anger out on your woman. We deserve to be treated as well as you would anyone else...Scratch that. We deserve to be treated better than strangers. We can't be your peace when you're not ours.
@@demethiaodom6837most women can’t even bring peace to themselves so no one can bring them peace either
Her eyes though👀......eerily gorgeous. Deep thought.
Love it…Truth
People are missing the point of this. She’s not speaking sincerely, she’s using irony.
Does she? Based on a lot of her comments in the whole interview, I think she was dead serious.
This quote expresses the speaker's sense of receiving less from a loved one because of their love and devotion. The speaker feels they are only getting the minimum effort or affection from their partner. They question whether asking for their partner to at least pretend to care more is too much, highlighting a feeling of neglect or unfulfilled expectations in the relationship. The specific mention of "the black woman" and "the black man" suggests that the speaker may be addressing broader issues of love and support within the context of their racial identity and experiences. ~ChatGPT
I just want to know how to hold my brown man and protect him and his lies he holds for the life he's living😔👑
Damn Sista......shit rough
Stay up
That's not your job. You're not his momma. You can't change anyone but YOU.
He should be protecting you..
@@josiecedeno2057 see this why shit is so divisive.
Deep
Profound!
So deep
She's intelligent and fine. / And that'
Is no lie Nikki 🎉❤😂
She is so beautiful ❤
✊🏾
Facts
I love him and her
Vince Staples brought me here
A beautiful sista'...
I would have no need to lie to her!😅😅😅
❤
Wow🎉
Again, I love this conversation. I remember seeing the entirety of this interview. There were folks who said that Mr. Baldwin was being sexist and misogynistic. That couldn't be further from the truth. The conversation was beautiful, to say the least. This conversation showed me that intelligence is a powerful aphrodisiac.
Damn..
Women will hear this and disagree even though deep down they know it’s the truth
The irony is that she’s getting even less if he lies to her, but black women wont see it that way
In today's age. The Ladies get to join the fake it club #lietome #smile #grin #selfcontrol #workingwoman
How can someone play a fake role 24/7? Do you know how much energy it takes to fake it 24/7? There is a reason the people we hurt the most are those closest to us. Since they are the only one who actually see a glimpse of our true self, not what we present to the outside world, Unfortunately they get to see our good, bad and our ugly. When you fake it all to just to make it home, you don't have the energy to keep faking it to the people who you've been told you have to be vulnerable with. I understand the sentiment but it means that the BM can never be himself anywhere. Not outside the house, not at home. He needs to be an avatar of himself.
Exactly !!!!!! what’s amazing is , as man you can lie and if she’s fined out you lied , she’ll cry out (why can’t you just be honest with me) humbly speaking there’s no winning with this type of thinking from a woman
You are missing the point. The point is to keep the same energy at work and at home. Don’t treat your bosses like queens and kings but treat your wife and kids like shit! Understand? You know exactly what she’s saying but her truth hurts because it’s a reflection of you.
@@unityaboriginelove6595you are lost
@@unityaboriginelove6595 you are forgetting he’s a human being. How can someone live a lie everyday. His anger, discontent... will overflow at some point or he’ll go crazy. After a long day of faking at work, every small thing at home will make a man lose his shit. He’s a melting pot and he can’t erupt at work coz he has no control over there. Am not saying it is okay to do that but I can understand why.
@@yareddejene462 - so what you are saying is that men who fake it at work and treat their wives like shit are human beings but women who are receiving their anger are not human beings? Sir- you have a strawman argument. Treat your wife better.
So when am I ever real if I lie in the work place and then lie at home? This causes neurosis. But I get her point. She wants me to smile at her but I have no joy in my heart. Nothing to smile about - so she gets the unhappy me. Maybe I should lie to her sometimes....just to make her happy.... sometimes. Though I'm dead inside
Tell the truth at work
If you're like that, maybe you shouldn't be with anyone. Do you think is so much easier for her? Be kind. Or be alone.
We don't have these type of black women anymore
Now it’s the other way around … times changed and women working
Fake it with me?
Sorry I had to say this, but that is pick me behavior. If a partner has to fake it with you like they do their boss at work is red flag. If they can't treat you right as a person now, well, they're never going to treat well at all
You have to hear this facetiously
Dude. Was that deep or shallow? I’m caught in a paradox
This is deep.
LOVE THIS!!
Punch UP, not down
Nikki is piercing
Women: Don't lie to me or pretend, be open and honest.
Also women: Lie to me, pretend to be happy if you're not.
She's saying to give her the same energy that you give the man that oppresses you.. you love me, but I get the worst end of the stick.. you despise him, but you give him your best..
@@deandrealmc nah what she is saying is I don't care if you cheat!!!!!! just come home to me and lie!!! I don't want to know, don't show me your true self. Lie lie to me!
@@navytanutrof1823 no she's saying exactly what I said but go off
@@deandrealmc How can someone play a fake role 24/7? Do you know how much energy it takes to fake it 24/7? There is a reason the people we hurt the most are those closest to us. Since they are the only one who actually see a glimpse of our true self, not what we present to the outside world, Unfortunately they get to see our good, bad and our ugly. When you fake it all to just to make it home, you don't have the energy to keep faking it to the people who you've been told you have to be vulnerable with. I understand the sentiment but it means that the BM can never be himself anywhere. Not outside the house, not at home. He needs to be an avatar of himself.
@Navy Tanutrof be the version of yourself that the individual you are interacting with deserves. Don't smile in yT's face and come home and beat your wife about it. Had you listened to the entire interview, you would understand that she's speaking on domestic violence against black women as a result of the frustrations that black men experience in the outside world with white America. There is no justification for smiling in a white man's face (the true source of your frustration) and then coming home to beat on your wife (the woman that loves you) about it.. if the person you love the most gets the bulk of your frustrations pounded into them, then that is a YOU problem that YOU may want to seek help about..
This shit is so deep in so many way … it’s not just on the surface of what she is talking bout . The mind set of woman back then was fierce and beautiful and mature beyond measure … ps when she said cracker 😊
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Darn Ms Nikki,that was something profound that pass from your lips
She's Asking Him Too Lie To Her And Say Things To Make Her Happy And Spare Her Feelings. She Loves Him And Wants To Feel And Hear Him Say, "I Love You." Even If It Is A Lie, She Will Not Know Unless The Way He Treats Her Changes Drastically. I Understand Completely What She Means. He Isn't Going To Say Anything Malicious To Hurt Her. Just Like She Says About Him Going Off To Spend Time With Mattie. He's Lying About His Whereabouts Then. In Essence She Is Saying What She Doesn't Know, Will Not Hurt Her...And To A Certain Degree She Is Absolutely Right!
No, women are way more intuitive and smarter than that. They can feel when something is fake, no matter how much the act is kept up. Women always know when something is off, no matter how "kind" someone pretends to be.
If a man cant be himself around his woman, she is not his woman. If she wants the same treatment his oppressor receives, she doesn't want to be his wife, she wants to be the boss. -black feminism
If a man can’t be himself everywhere he goes, he ain’t really a man- black manhood
Watch the rest of the interview. Lie to me -- be nice to me -- show our children a family that doesn't fight each other every night.
@junkboxxxxxx She is refusing his reactions towards his circumstances. Not allowing him to go through self actualization. It's a different brand of the same thing. Just in a 😍 package. You can't function as a man with a woman who is willing, to attempt, to blind you, for her personal comfort. At the end. The compromise is the destruction of you both.
Isaiah 47:8-10
[8]Therefore hear now this, thou that art given to pleasures, that dwellest carelessly, that sayest in thine heart, I am, and none else beside me; I shall not sit as a widow, neither shall I know the loss of children:
[9]But these two things shall come to thee in a moment in one day, the loss of children, and widowhood: they shall come upon thee in their perfection for the multitude of thy sorceries, and for the great abundance of thine enchantments.
[10]For thou hast trusted in thy wickedness: thou hast said, None seeth me. Thy wisdom and thy knowledge, it hath perverted thee; and thou hast said in thine heart, I am, and none else beside me.
When you have a family put that into action and see how fast you're alone.
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Purpose of life are children's I hope these two have children's to carry there legacy
And this is why men have side chick's lol 😂
Is easy for the side chick because she doesn't have to deal with his bad humor all the time, once again men find another person he will treat better than his wife
She is so beautiful
they don't make em like dat no more smh
So the truth is treating you like shit. We’re finished as a people & human beings
Any adult human being that allowed another human to treat them as less than a human being what they say about the person that gets... mistreated if they're not in prison or kidnapped. .. please someone please revise the definition of love because these people do not know the meaning of the word love. Love is a physical presence pleasure and desire ❤️ and why would someone be searching for that we are here to serve as humanitarian on this Earth 🌍 I make this world a better place than when we arrived there is never Love without humanity. And just a side note because I'm a widow most you women have a problem with your man holding the door open for another woman where's the humanity in that. Confused by delusional people, especially people of color want to own another human being. The Creator of all MANKIND PERSONALLY ONLY ASK FOR HUMANITY FOR ALL BEINGS.
It’s called boundaries ❤
This sincere or propaganda?
The fact so many people thought and think she was being deep is the reasn our community is in the shape its in.
Why does she look like doja cat?
I don't see it
They both are trapped in the delusion.
Stop playing roles and interact authentically with everyone.
Stop harming yourself by living in the past or in the future.
Stop denying yourself the present.
Have you ever heard a more convincing case for a lie?
A conversation for generations.
I can only imagine how convincing Eve the first Sistah, and Mother of all living, must have been.
Brother and first man Adam, looking and listening...
"Brown Skin" czcams.com/users/clipUgkxlrxsfcf95u_0ESfkWwHmn_63qk2X0BbU?feature=shared
.... knowing her to be bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh...all in ❤.
Yes this is a conversation for generations.
What kinda logic is, "lie to me to give me proof that you truly love me"? All due respect ladies, that isn't love. She was unfortunate to experience whatever experience(s) that pushed her into that thought process...but, that's just not an intellectual way to go about relationship/marriage. And I recently saw a clip from this interview where she mentioned that she'd like to try things in the relationship, her way...then, it cuts to little black girls being filmed by the mother twerking to some song that had them repeatedly screaming, "hands on ya knees!". The black community in America has failed under matriarchy.
She is asking how come black men can be friendly and pleasant to strangers and the moment they get home his wife has to deal with the worst part of him, why doesn't he find motivation to be nice to his wife as he is with strangers
@@que-si-que-si you're overcomplicating she basically saying she wants to be treated nicely by her husband, the man makes efforts to treat other people well and the moment he arrives at home he stops making this effort
@@que-si-que-si you think being treated well and with kindness is unreasonable expectations? Even here on this comment instead of trying to understand women's perspective and experience you're trying to judge them. You think that women should just get frowns and bad humor otherwise they're selfish. Make an effort for your loved ones, they deserve the best part of you
@@sau2949 I think that wanting your man to treat you as if you're in a fairytale is unreasonable expectations. Right now, black America is under the rulership of the women's perspective. It's so bad, that other black women speak up to check y'all (with respect), and get pure DISRESPECT in return. A black woman on CZcams who goes by the name of Daphne Sutton, told black women they were generally wrong. They responded saying awful things about her deceased mother. I can name drop examples of black women who represent femininity in a way that makes the ancestors proud. These same black women aren't afraid to hold women accountable. Marriage isn't about the wife's happiness (selfish). I think women should involve elderly men in the family (that they love, admire, and respect), in their dating process... because, y'all pick poorly. Y'all pick men y'all "feel like", you can fix... based off emotions, not logic. Recipe for disastrous dating experience.
Soooo... when women pick the bad boys, Thugs, gangstas, street guys.... women don't care if these guys lie to y'all, as long as he's keeping you emotionally comfortable? Sounds about right! Y'all have been living engulfed in this type of chaos for a long time. Tell you the fairytale to protect your emotions, but he could actually be a terrible person away from y'all. Y'all don't care enough FOR OUR PEOPLE, as a feminine collective. Women of today will argue with men, that they themselves, are half a man. These women have no issue disrespecting their own femininity. Did you not recently see how many black women embarrassed themselves recently over a fake post saying that white billionaires prefer black wives?! This "keep me mentally stimulated in fairytale land" is a chaotic mindset for a woman to have, especially women who (in modern day times) push for single motherhood.
She’s a agent. Weee are wayyy too naive and too stiff-necked to recognize the shepherd for the devil
Irony is amazing 😂😂😂 you can never truly love and honest with someone without telling them about your (good, bad and ugly days). In my humble opinion , the statement she made is a delusional one. She’s and he is supposed represent light at the end of the dark tunnel , if you’re down he or she brings you up, that can’t happen without honesty. Peace and love
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