Taylor Lautner: Fame is a Drug
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- čas přidán 31. 01. 2023
- TW: body dysmorphia
In this episode, Tay Lautner interviews her husband and co-host, actor Taylor Lautner, as the two discuss growing up in the limelight, body image, and men’s mental health. They touch on Taylor’s hiatus from the entertainment industry and explain why, at one point in time, fame felt like a drug to him; one that would be healthier to abstain from, but would be rough before it got better. All of his wife Tay's experiences with mental health struggles prior to her own were with men in her life, so it is important to both of your hosts to destigmatize and openly discuss men’s mental health. In particular, the two touch on body image battles, an issue often attributed to only women, and offer words of encouragement for the men out there struggling. Lastly, Taylor tackles the Lemon 11 segment, during which he opens up about his massive misinterpretation of “that” moment at the 2009 VMAs. When life gives you lemons, what do you do with them? Over here at The Squeeze - we talk about it.
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I love how Taylor still has respect for Taylor Swift. And vice versa. He truly is a great guy who was raised right! 😍
what time is that part ?
@@ambivertsoul 49:30. Towards the end. ❤
He really set the stage for how to treat an ex when you live such a highly public life. We'll never know what went on privately, it's not our business, but BTD and Midnight Rain tell us how good his heart is.
☀️He was sunshine☀️
well he is the most humble and down to earth famous person in the world. Even if Taylor (Swift) was careless in their relationship (I'm just quoting her, don't get mad at me) he didn't hold a grudge on her.
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What a breath of fresh air to see someone so humble and grounded despite fame at such a young age. Congratulations on finding each other as well, she is a catch! 🎉
I'm a few months late here, but I just wanted to pop in and thank Taylor for his honesty and openness about the impact being a "teen idol" had on his mental health. I remember watching the movies and wondering how you had the confidence to put so much of your body on display, and to hear you say that you thought your abs were your most valuable offering is heartbreaking. So glad you've found a partner who is so supportive of you.
I am just starting to watch this on CZcams 5 months after it started. And I have to say this is so refreshing. To see a young couple have such a healthy marriage and see the value in good communication and vulnerability with one another. The Lord can truly bless this marriage is so many ways. Thank you Taylor for being vulnerable about your experiences as an actor and shedding light to the truth of body image and mental health for men and women. It is not spoken of enough. It is nice to see someone you have only known as a celebrity show their humanity and relate to everyone as just a normal person who hurts and feels like everyone else. I think as fans we sometimes get lost in the celebrity of the person and forget they are just like us. The comments made about them hurt the same way as anyone else. I look forward to listening through the rest of these and getting caught up! Blessings to both of you!
Taylor’s insight on how going to a grocery store is fun or how it is going to a movie theatre after being in the spotlight is honestly my favourite example of how out of touch celebrity life is. It’s a likeable version of it, because this really mundane thing that most of us consider a chore, is something he hasn’t experienced in so long that now its almost like a wild, fun adventure to experience. It’s a great example of how the cult of celebrity in our age has spiralled out of control and taken the simple life away from people.
I was married to a man with huge body image issues. It was really taxing for me to constantly reassure him that I loved him no matter how he looked and, at the same time, to receive passive-aggressive comments when my weight shifted. These mental health problems are hard for both people in the relationship.
I'm so happy for this relationship and I really love how the 3 taylors are like the best of friends
It resonated with me so much what Taylor said about body image. He expressed what so many women feel so well.
I like Tay a lot. She seems like such a sweet girl and genuinely cares about Taylor
Rarely do you hear a celebrity discuss the nuance and interior world of fame.
Taylor and Tay you guys will accomplish so much, and I know that this will reach many people and go so far! You both are so loved 🥰. Thank you for sharing parts of your lives! (Plus- Taylor, I also take my time in the grocery store going down every isle lol)
I CAN RELATE A LOT, I FELT BAD FOR TAYLOR LAUTNER STRUGGLED WITH HIS BODY IMAGE. I WANNA HUG HIM.
Thank you both for being so vulnerable in these episodes!! ♥️
I love this! I can relate 100%!! I've listened to both your podcasts on my way home from working at the hospital but I also wanted to come here tonight before bed see you both doing the podcast in the flesh on youtube, plus show the tube support 🙌🏼
I'm really looking forward to the future of your podcasts and the focus being mental health. One thing I will say that It’s sad when it comes to men. Men’s Mental health isn't spoken enough and I applaud you both. Especially for you Taylor because you have been a very private person for year's so to see you step out of your comfort zone and speak about your feelings and mental health is nothing short of inspiring.
Tay thank you! I 100% resonate sister as I am a nurse in Australia who also faced this pandemic that can on be described as a head on collision overnight. It’s been a horrible 3years.
Again I come back around to the cycle of mental health and don't get asked enough how we are doing and are always last to be addressed how we are doing and honestly, NO we aren’t.
Thankyou guys! (from Australia) xx
Love your channel! ❤️ will bingewatch starting from this episode to the latest. Thank you for addressing mental health!
i’m so excited and HAPPY about this!! loved this episode💛🍋
So proud to know you and to be your fan forever. You have helped so many people, including me. This is all so important to talk about, and you make people feel seen. Thank you for doing this. I can’t wait for more episodes. ❤️
I have teared up several times listening. Special tears 😊 it’s so amazing that you both are bringing mental health to light in such a way that anyone can relate to. My mom attempted suicide and thankfully survived only to lose her five years later. My ex boyfriend, father of my son, died of an overdose and then my father passed away last year. The past three years have been tough. But, I have also overcame those obstacles because it’s people like you who bring light to mental health. Knowing that you are not alone and can relate to anyone’s struggles is a huge factor in mental strength. Thank you both for opening up to something so personal and being so selfless to spread the word of healing through mental illness and struggles. Lemons by Tay honestly gets me through the day and from the bottom of my heart Thank you♥️
Dynamic duo with positive energy
It was nice to hear you talk, giving you the respect you deserve
Such a necessary podcast! I'm loving this. Thank you, guys!
I’m seeing this after the I Can See You music video and Eras moment, I’m in tears ❤you are both beautiful humans
I listened to all the podcast but decide to come back to here and watch them again as videos! Everyone is always so kind and real. Plus you guys are so perfect for each other!
His parents did a great job! 👏👏👏
Thank you for addressing mental health. It affects everyone, even if they don't talk about it.
I work in mental health and believe we all need to be talking about it to give those suffering an opening to discuss.
Thanks for putting this out there.
As another guy, thank you for speaking out about mental health and body issues with men.
So good for people to hear about how being adored & well known can bring a massive added psychological burden to take a clear step back and adjust where you feel worth & value from. We all want to be celebrated for our work and personality, and so many kids now want fame thinking it’s the ultimate experience of love and being valued. Smart man Taylor to create his own new definition and boundaries on how he feels valued, and to articulate why it’s something that needs careful handling and a strong mind (and lots of trusted good close ones around you). Loved that this popped up on my view suggestions. Wish you both the best!
Listened to this entire podcast! Loved every second of it! Thank you for the honesty and good advice! ❤
This was super impactful. Thank you for being such an inspiration for me and for many others. 🦈❤️
I’d say this is my favorite episode but all of yours are so good! But this one- some of the things that boy tay, said was honestly really encouraging to hear. So thank you both!
Love the authenticity of the conversation - so refreshing!
Wow I loved this! Definitely subscribed. I was such a huge Taylor Lautner fan when I was younger. I still am. Now I know more of his thoughts and feelings and he really is the wonderful person he seemed like then. Also, great to meet his wife. What an absolutely kind real person. This was awesome!
This was beautifully done, very calming, very human, balanced, grounded, open, honest. Thanks for making it
I just found out you guys were doing the squeeze. I saw you Taylor on an interview talking about how it was a show on mental health. I am so impressed so far! I'm a 46 yr old mom of 4, and know first hand how important this subject is. The way you two are approaching this is amazing! Thank you!!
I love how you talked about body image and the struggle with fighting the obsession that comes with exercise and diet but also went full circle on how changing your relationship with food and exercise can make it a positive part of mental health. So much of body image struggles and fitness struggles talk about embracing your body and not worry about exercise but they skip the talk about getting active and adding healthy foods to your diet can also be a huge positive on mental health! So anyway thank you ❤
Wow. Taylor, once again, I have to thank you again for enriching my life. It is SO refreshing to hear about someone from the “fast lane” seeking normalcy. I also love exploring every aisle in a grocery store…haha. It’s the little things, right? Thank you for letting us into your real life and being SO open about your journey. You definitely have a new listener! 👏🙏💙
This is SO powerful! Wow. I had no idea how much I needed this podcast! Thank you! Honestly, I had never struggled with “body image” until I had a major surgery. All of a sudden, I had to adapt to having scars and embrace my new look. When I got married, I was SO happy and comfortable that I realized how uncomfortable I was beforehand. Growing up, there was a tremendous focus on how I looked, what I ate, being forced to workout, etc. I used to apologize to my husband for not being able to give him my “16 year-old body” with the new confidence that I have gained in my late 20’s…early 30’s. It took me years to realize that I am totally different person now and accept the fact that I will never look how I did in high school/college and that’s okay. This is such a good reminder! Thank you for putting out such a positive and pertinent message into the world! 🤯👏🙏♥️😎
These first 2 episodes were so much better than I could have imagined. Thank you for taking the stigma out of discussing mental health issues. You will help a lot of people. Plus, watching you two together is fricken adorable!
I appreciate the honesty. I believe you both will help a lot of people out there. Congratulations 💜
love this podcast!! you guys seem like such a genuine couple keep the episodes coming :)
Listening to you guys was so nice, peaceful and funny. You’re amazing. 💖
Wow. this is incredibly interesting. thank you so much for sharing!
is it just me or is taylor’s voice so soothing
I am so pleasantly surprised by this podcast! This dialogue is so open and easy. You seem like a great team and wiser and more mature than your years! Cannot wait for the next episode.
Thank you both for being so open & honest.
It's so good to see him settled down with someone who values him the way he values them.
I, also, love spending way too much time in the grocery store. There's something strangely relaxing about just taking it slow and finding new things.
really enjoyed this podcast and i feel so bad for boy Tay about his body image i just want to give him a hug but i am so glad he has his wife Tay and his friend Jason and all the people around him that help him with his metnal health so glaad you two have eachother
Thanks for sharing your stories with us I so can't wait to watch more of this amazing podcast
I loved that you picked "the climb". I remember an interview of you and Kristen and she said you two love this song.
And tbh I always thought you were a really normal down to earth guy, you were always very genuine and kind and looks like an awesome person!
You guys are such a beautiful couple! Honestly, so normal and real.🥰 I love your podcast! It's really fun to listen to. Can't wait for the next episode!
So happy for both of you to have each other and that you're in a good place. Love that you're talking about body image issues and where to find value. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I've struggled with weight my entire adult life because I rebelled against criticism when I was a size 4-6. So, I totally went through waves of getting in shape and letting everything go. Finally, trying to choose to be healthy consistently (now at size 18) because I deserve to feel good...not because of what I will look like.
Thank you for your vulnerability. It is so refreshing and helpful.
Super good podcast. First podcast that held my attention the entire time.
I’m so happy you found a light near the end of the tunnel. My adoration and respect for you is so much. Thanks for talking about men mh and body image awareness.
So excited about this! I've been a fan for years and it is great to get to know and relate more!
Me too❤I have been a fan of boy tay for years for his kind personality and now I become a fan for both tay.
Mr. Lautner, I have followed your career for a little bit and I never saw anything but kind, gentle and polite character from you. Continue to not read the rest of that mess and know that your true fans can see through the bull on the social media.
Tay has a beautiful radio voice. Her voice would be a perfect reading voice for the app Calm.
And as always, I enjoyed, yet another episode. Your channel is my new thing to listen to during my morning routine. 🌻☀️
Taylor always being funny. But I really loved this episode. We saw this difference in your life during your career break. Again: I´m so proud of you, Taylor!
I love the metaphor of “taking out the trash” for maintaining balance. My little brother and I are also 6 years apart and I think it’s one of the reasons why we’re SO close. He’s also considered “famous” now but the way you are raised plays a huge role in who you become as you grow up. Thank you for sharing! 👏🤯😘😎
Love it ❤ good job guys and lovely couple… can’t wait for more episodes
I am loving your podcast! I am so grateful yall touched on males mental wellbeing and males self image. My husband has been struggling with his self image lately due to grey hair and he has gained a little weight. I feel that males self image and males wellness is not touched on as much a female. You both are awesome ❤
He is so human and sweet, I can’t describe it. Didn’t know him at first except for twilight and now I’m sad I missed out!! What a sweet guy
This podcast was really awesome! I am a psychiatrist myself and stumbled upon this podcast while on a walk with my dogs and was pleasantly surprised. You guys sound like such a great, loving and supportive couple.
Mental health is SO important and I think talking about it and being so real and grounded while discussing it is helpful in diminishing the stigma against discussing mental health in general.
A few things I wanted to point out from a medical perspective- Taylor is wise and seems really well versed in mental health! I am a HUGE advocate for exercise and sometimes "prescribe" it as additional treatment for those struggling with mental health issues, and there are tons of studies to back it up. Also I think it is important to note that yes body image issues happen in both men and women, and when Taylor described as "seeing himself" as being way different than others is a real thing- body dysmorphia which is hard to overcome but it sounds like having been able to work on himself and mental health in general has been so beneficial.
PS: My husband is a diehard Taylor Lautner fan and when I tell him about this podcast he is going to be so excited to see what new stuff you guys come up with. Great work!
Going to be completely honest. I think you can work on asking your questions, and be more confident in what you are asking. Be more clear with your questions, pretend like you guys have never talked before and just dive deep and don’t be afraid. We want to hear it all, you two are some amazing people and we want to get to know you on a deeper level.
Kind of hard to pretend like “you’ve never talked before” when you’ve been with someone for 5 years and are now married.
@@hlane1694 I know it is possible. I have seen so many CZcamsrs do this before, from one of their family members or their spouse. I was giving them advice from someone who is a viewer. Criticism is never a bad thing.
@mirandalermy who are you to critique the interviewing skills of THE HOST OF THIS SHOW?!!??!?? It's not your business to give them unsolicited advice. They get so much negative nonsense already from media and the paparazzi... You don't need to add to it. Let's imagine that this podcast is their new baby. Would you walk up to them randomly in the street (face to face) and tell them how to parent? If the answer is yes, you're probably not a parent as most of them hate that and try their best to not do that to other parents. In fact, I've never heard one parent in my life ever who has been like "yes, random person, give me your unsolicited advice on how to raise my child (ie. run their brand new podcast that they've wanted for years and are finally seeing their dreams become reality)!" Let's please just try to remember that both of them are real people too, with real feelings, and they don't deserve negative comments or unsolicited advice on their interviewing skills! Also, she's a nurse, so this is new to her... No need to make her feel judged while she is learning new skills and putting it out there for the world to watch as she learns!
it’s only the 2nd episode. she worded her questions carefully & how she felt her husband would be comfortable.
Its real time not sped up cut off trash!
This podcast is amazing. It also brought me right back! Back in 2011 I became a massive Twilight fan, and in September 2012 I had a presentation on Twilight. (Team Jacob by the way). I'm also a massive Miley fan, and back when I looked at tons of Kristen and Taylor videos I came about a compilation of videos where they talked about Miley Cyrus' the climb. Last week I started watching the Twilight movies again, and today I'm working on a big project (at university) about Twilight. Yesterday I watched the old compilation of interview that took place back in 2010, today you guys mentioned The Climb again. My childhood is complete.
Podcast is awesome. I'm really glad it shed a light on men and their mental health journey, I feel like society often forgets about that and talks about women's mental health (Not that that isn't important, but gender really shouldn't be a factor)
I really hope you both see this but you both are so kind and inspiring. Such lovely people and a couple. I love listening to you both and im so happy for you both ❤❤
Hi Tay Tay, first of all thank you for creating this podcast and sharing with us all your stories, second of all thank you for talking about important matters. It was so relatable on so many levels.
Thirdly, you guys are so damn cute! God bless you both
Thank you both for this. You are doing something really important by discussing body dysmorphia in teens and men.
I so admire Taylor Lautner for choosing to lead with thoughtfulness, gentleness and vulnerability despite being known for physicality and athleticism, and I admire Tay Lautner for taking the mental health of men seriously and platforming his experiences to help others, whether they be men dealing with body image issues or kids being treated less than thoughtfully in Hollywood.
My daughter and I saw the Twilight Saga this month for the very first time, and while we both agreed we were Team Jacob from the moment he appeared on screen, (fully clothed) we did notice how much TL was sexually objectified as a minor by the time we see him in Eclipse. He was still a kid! So I have been wondering how that felt. I can see how that would be complicated and anxiety provoking, and you would have to have a huge ego to absorb all that attention without some ambivalence.
Ironically, TL gave the most natural, believable and committed performances of the three leads. He’s the one who really sold the story, with or without the physical transformation. The character’s emotional transformation was there. We would love to see him in more projects if something appealing comes his way, but it so wonderful that you both are prioritizing building a deeply joyful life with each other.
sweet episode, tays'! I agree, we do focus a lot of women and body dysmorphia and mental health but not men and their mental health! this was a great episode. I like hearing about men supporting men, this is something that should not be dismissed.
Taylor is such a nice guy.. I just love him 🥰
There is simply something that makes me root for this guy. His wife as well of course. But since I haven’t seen her navigating in the public eye since her teen years. I don’t know as much, have as many thoughts of what challanges she might have had. But just the thought of him that early being ”known” for and celebrated for a certain body, looks (let us be honest, more shallow traits). And now fast forward to him as a grown man that has such a humble and kind aura. And is open about what struggle it has been at times to get there. To get to a place of being a kind and whole person past the teen stardom a franchise like that can do to you as a person. Simply put. No matter what he is involved with work vise, I wish him the best. And I hope that he knows that talking this openly and candid in a forum like this. It matters to people just trying to figure their own lives out.
Y’all are so cute and chill, it’s so nice and actually relaxing to listen to y’all’s podcasts unlike others who are just a bit too extra lol
I love this i needed this so bad today❤️
This is almost asmr so good so calming
Beautiful couple, insightful and entertaining podcast!
Love this podcast!
Thanks for sharing your story ❤
Back to September (Taylor Lautner’s Version) ❤️
Hats off to the both of you!
Some people may come for Taylor but they stay for Tay. She’s awesome. Love her so much. I’ve always been a Taylor Lautner fan from a distance bc I was team Jacob as a teen 😅😅 But in time I loved that he seemed like a really grounded guy. That makes me respect him so much, and the fact that he talks about his exes with so much respect, says a lot about him. But Tay just seems like the sweetest human being and I’m almost certain we would have been best friends if we lived anywhere near each other. You guys are just adorable together. Love it.
The way that Taylor yells in the microphone like a supervillain gets me every time!😂 32:44
Taylor, you are absolutely amazing. I am so incredibly proud of the man you have become. Inspiration to so many men out there. I’m sorry you had to struggle with people being rude and nasty but as you said you have no control over others. I personally don’t understand why some people feel the need to be so mean. You are a bright light in this world. Keep shining ❤
Ok, I totally need a hug from you two. You guys are so real here about everything that it feels like I know you two and miss my old friends. Seriously, come to Colorado and give this recent divorcee from a 25 year abusive marriage a hug. Ineed it. You two are awesome. Send me a man who I can have a relationship like this with please!
I remembered the times when twilight posters were in my room. I had it in my room from 2008 up to 2013… my goodness. I love Edward but my love for Jacob too is infinite… i remembered i was also hoping for a story about jacob and renesmee….
Still…. Twilight series is my favorite movies of all time… i always rewatched all of it every year…. Its crazy…Breaking Dawn 2 was the last movie i watched in cinema together with my dad before he passed. He was also my big supporter back then for my craziness in the series… he was the one who bought me books and would asked me how did the story go so that he know what to expect when he watch it in the big screen 😅
The movies had great memories with my dad thats why i will always remember it with my heart.
Watching Taylor Lautner here remind me of those days. Those were the good old times… thanks for this video about sharing mental health awareness. And for bringing back my memories with my dad.
And congratulations to your wedding! So happy for you that you found your partner in life and happy to hear that you are enjoying the simple things in life bec that’s what important the most. ❤
Jacob Black forever ❤ Sending my love and support all the way from the Philippines 🇵🇭 🎉
This guy is golden. The greatest test for human nature is prosperity and fame, and he has had both to a great degree, and he's come out of it a wonderful guy. He's humble, wise, and peaceful. I think this was one of the most incredible interviews I have ever watched, and it is silly how it has such low viewership. Kudos Taylor, and thank you for sharing all that you did; your vulnerability and humility is admirable.
Love this podcast so much ❤❤❤
amazing podcasts
forever team Jacob 🤩🤩
I love this podcast so peaceful 😊
I loved this episode! Thank you for opening up to everyone because it takes a lot to do that! 🖤 also team Jacob 🐺
not one swear word the entire time. respect
Absolutely love yall!
Love this podcast and the real lessons on life that you both have experience and the tools that have helped you get through it. These tools that can also help others as well.
I had a major crush on Taylor Lautner (dude) back in the Twilight days. Happy to see that he is doing well and happily married. He looks even more gorgeous today!
Agreed
I actually think people generally perceive you as a good guy who handled fame better than most.
so cool podcast 💛💛
I love the kiss at the end ❤️❤️
such a loving husband 😍
Love I can watch! I was only listening on my podcast app!
You two are soo amazing❤️
It always comes down to the family indeed!
You guys are the sweetest couple I hope all your future endeavours are successful and you have all the love and happiness in the world ❤