A Narcissist Cant Love You Because of This
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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.
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Narcs hate being vulnerable
I left him. He is with a new girl. I loved him so much. I knew he didnt love me. I let him go. It hurts so bad.but i wont stay in a relationship where someone doesnt love me.
Smart girl😀
That's been the hardest truth to accept. My narcissist ex (and my narcissist father) are UNABLE to love me.
It's impossible for us Empaths to wrap our brains around.
My husband expressed gratitude, but it was only all about what I did for him
And he'll recant that gratitude and deny you ever did anything for him the SECOND it suits his narrative.
They put themselves first thats it!
After 6 years, I can say I never met him. I never knew him. I only knew his ego. I was in a "relationship" with his ego for 6 years, and that was a horrible and tragic experience. He can keep his ego company now because I'm glad I'm free! Life has never been soooo good. I feel so happy, at peace and ease and good things are happening for me. Life without a narc is such a blessing.
Here here.
Learning to respond instead of reacting in relationships is very important.⚠️ Protect your peace🕊️and remember that reciprocity is paramount! No reciprocity, no real relationship. Above all--Stay safe!!!
BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!! GONNA READ IT AT LEAST 2 MORE TIMES!!!!!!!!
GOTTA QUOTE THAT POWERFULLY STATED LAST PART IN ONE OF MY UPLOADS: "...reciprocity is paramount. no reciprocity. no real relationship." SWEET!!!!!
When you are so honest about yourself, those are the videos that help me the most. Thank you
um-huh! he's R-A-W!!!!!!
Be humble or be humbled, that spirit of pride will be brought down thank God , just do not wait around for it to happen and for their rock bottom
Theres ALWAYS been a huge wall between my husband and i
This is your best video. Thank you for being so honest, putting it out there the way it really is. By accepting them, realizing that it’s their job to heal themselves and our job to heal ourselves. Hope is dope for the brain, we want a different ending for a childhood wound. Turn inward, you are the only one that can get to your inner child and heal them, no one else can get to them, only you. Your inner child only wants you. Debbie
BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!
AND SO TRUE.
that's why i created a playlist NOT to demonize them further, but to encourage them to HEAL THYSELF. AND for others to hopefully share the playlist with those they know with NPD or narcissistic traits. it's titled: HEAL the Narcissist with CPTSD.
Absolutely! Best video yet! Needed it!!
You are a beautiful person. Very wise and courageous to put yourself out there to spread real awareness. Keep up your good work. Do not stop doing what you are doing 🙂. You deserve much respect 👍
Everthing you say made me cry because its the truth. I left after the beatings but it still hurts
This is an absolutely brilliant video Ben. The way you easily explain about the narcissist 'ego' in the way of loving someone, because the narcissist built his own wall, so not to be honest about himself. That the narcissist can't love you while the 'ego' is in the way! That he has this giant barrier 'ego' in the way to loving you. Only he constructed it, only he can tear it down.
Just such a fantastic video, explained beautifully.
Thank you so much Ben 💕
I get all this. What l still have trouble understanding is why they can't just leave me alone. He has made it abundantly clear that he doesn't want to be with me. Repeatedly. For YEARS......yet without fail....every single time he finds a new victima he comes back. It's emotionally exhausting. I don't want him either at this point l just want him to stop calling me and leave me in peace. To stop arriving here at all sorts of ungodly hours etc. He's beyond annoying. A bit like having a psychotic puppy or something. Driving me insane.
Listen to him!
I can think of many things that demonstrate what you say, but one of the earliest and easiest to have detected was how he drove with me in the vehicle with him - recklessly. He rarely ever drove relaxed and carefully, but almost always aggressively, like he didn't care what happened to his passenger (me) as long as he was driving the way HE felt like driving - and lots of times he was adding some extra spice to his driving, I believe, to make the ride even more stressful for me. He would be very angry if I carefully and calmly tried to ask him to slow down, not ride the vehicle in front of him (however, he gets Very angry if another driver does that to him!), use the windshield wipers, etc. In fact, if I dared to try to speak up for my own safety, he would often become worse. He would proclaim his love to me, and claim to want to watch out for me and protect me, then literally put my life on the line when I rode in the vehicle with him. Years and years of this. All the 'I love you' proclamations yet showed up in a way that has likely permanently traumatized my nervous system with his risky behavior. That was never love. I was just something to sit in the vehicle beside him so he wouldn't be alone, not a PERSON he recognized as being an equal human being, and to be treated with care and respect. The cognitive dissonance they create in you is a real mind f-ker. For any of you ladies out there with a man that drives this way when you are in the car with them, this is a HUGE indicator of their lack of love and respect for you no matter what words leave their mouths. 😞
Same!
What a tragedy that those with the greatest capacity to love, empaths, end up with those incapable of loving, narcissists. My narc never had a truly loving relationship growing up so it made no sense to me that he would just throw away the love I offered him.
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I think it might be because they don’t know how to.. they were never shown what love is.
Wonderful job you're doing by being that honest.
Why don't narcs understand that if they would just be honest with themselves, they could become as great as they think they are?
Right
Exactly.
Because they are detached from self. Have to love ❤️ ourselves first. Its not possible...
Yeap, it started from his narcissistic parents!
Holy Crap! Home Run !!!!
This is Your Best Vid. to Date, Ben.
I want to send this to him. Even though I know it wouldn’t change anything.
We all do. And unfortunately I agree. Stay strong.
Nope 🤦♀️ why try 🤷♀️ heal yourself ❤️🩹 go no contact plz ❤
Thats crazy
I told him that it was his ego. And he said "Maby i earned it" he said he earned his ego. He is happy with it.even though it hurts the ones that love him
A content to be showed in every school of the world. Thank you. This one was difficult to record…wasn’t it? I believe you still can’t feel real love (not that’s something easy even for those that don’t have a personality disturb) the way you would like to feel it…still a big transformation, apparently. Well done. Hope Biancamaria could follow such a path as yours sooner or later ❤
This is really powerful, thank you so much for sharing your story and journey, it really gets to the point. I absolutely agree - people have a choice: stay in an abusive r'ship or get out and work on self. Those who are meant to rise with us will do. Those who don't, one day perhaps they will but it's not our battle and we can't wait on potential. Perhaps we will meet them again one day, free of their limiting ego - only the fates know. Self-respect and healing is the most important thing. A r'ship should be a bonus in our life, NOT the reason for our happiness. Light and healing wishes to anyone who has been affected by another's darkness. Run like a mouse in the desert, far, far away!
Just a toxic situation because you can’t have an adult relationship with a toddler mentality
@@caroleminke6116 totally
Thank you for sharing the narc viewpoint side of this, it really helped.
It's just so sad.
This video is raw and real. And deeply sad.
This video is a huge wake up for me😳 THANK YOUU😭❤️❤️
Thanks so much., you are so raw. God bless your soul.
You too!
I needed this talk! Thank you Ben!
Thankyou!
Thanks Ben
Amazing Video!!!
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yeah. as soon as i catch my breath i'm adding this one to my HEAL the Narcissist with CPTSD playlist.
THIS TIME i knew better than to try and get through one of his videos WITHOUT eating something first or eating while watching BECAUSE the RAW delivery is usually too much for me to handle WITHOUT food, THOUGH i NEED it RAW!!
Ur so smart. Thankyou
Gratitude.
What’s awful and I think has shown me that my partner is a narcissist is…..he has actually said he hates me and he can’t stand the sight of me..I then ask why are you still here and the response is well I love and care for you!!so confusing.
He's in love with alcohol
I said that to the ex narc . He could drink a case of beer like it was nothing
It is very common for narcissists to develop addictions.
Or sex or drugs or cash or gambling or…
9:40 to end. Well said sir.
It feels like he occasionally get mean towards me bc he can’t control his love for me. He supports and go over and beyond to do for me….but get irritated for no reason and say I ganster him😢
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All he said was I care for you , never I love you cause he was getting free rent and me helping him build 2 apts for free. He only cared what I could do for him period.
Thank you for explaining this ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon
Most ppl don't think of this aspect... but experts have studied the brain of narcissists and have discovered extensive brain damage. The pre frontal cortex, the amygdala, the hippocampus are damaged in addition to the anterior insular cortex (which is responsible for empathy,) is extremely thin in the narcissistic brain.
I did a video on this topic;
czcams.com/video/1N-UHXfJK2o/video.html
My mother & father both narcs as well as my partners so it’s sad 🤦♀️ what to do? 🤷♀️ I’ve had to give up on just about everyone in my life ❤️🩹
...because of covetousness, because of selfishness which is the opposite of love, and lets call it what it really is shall we! Because of PRIDE
Damm...... yeah my husbands never going to do that shit! You need to leave. Theres nothing to like about them !
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@RawMotivations thank you for SAVING OUR LIVES!!! 🙏 love you ben! My husbands mad because I broke the trama bond now hes ramping up the abuse from afar
I see the mask. I want out so bad but i am terrified bc so much has chnaged since ive been with him. My kids are all grown and are out on their own so i will be completely alone for the first time in my life if i leave him. Its been so long since ive worked that im self conscious about getting a job even if i could without him interfering in some way. Ive lost all of my friends bc he has isolated me from everyone including my family that i talk to over the phone more than i see them. I have no relationship with my oldest 2 children bc they hate him and i have a granddaughter that doesnt even know me bc of it. I never leave the house without him bc i get accused of cheating on him every time i have left the house without him. Now im to the point where i get extreme anxiety whenever i do have to go out alone. And now since i have anxiety about it and dont want to leave the house hes telling me i need to suck it up, youre a big girl you'll be fine. Gets mad at me bc rust collects on the breaks of my car bc i dont go anywhere but then starts a fight whenever i do leave just to pick up groceries. I cant win now matter what i do. Hes cheated on me several times but has had my phone # changed so that i no longer ha e access to my emails or my cloud where all the evidence was. Hacked my emails to change my passwords before he changed my #. Hacked all of my old social media accounts and deleted them. I lost everything that I had left of my brother that passed away the year before. He denies having done any of those things but there is no one else that could have changed my # or hacked into all of my accounts. He went that far with no care of me just to cover his own ass. He blames me grieving my brother for his cheating. Said i wasnt there. He just didnt finish the sentence i wasnt there...for him! I have never in my life felt so much hatred and have so much resentment for someone in my life. But i can't get up the guts to leave bc even after all of that he is still my security my safe place in a sense as sick as that sounds. Ugh! I am so lost and so not the woman i was before i met and fell for his nightmarish lifestyle of lies and his deceitful ways. Ive never posted about this before so sorry for the length as i am not sure how to explain it all in short hand.
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Please help me
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You really, really need to speak more slowly and distinctly.
I have hearing problems and I can still hear him just fine. Maybe it’s your ears or your speakers. It’s definitely not him.
In fact there’s also construction 🚧 outside my window and I can still hear him.
Change the playback speed to suit your individual needs.
@kimberlysweidy2670 That doesn't solve the problem. He needs to enunciate.
@@kathleenstoin671 Respectfully, there is nothing wrong with his enunciation. I have now listened at various speeds, including double speed (which I prefer). Kindly explore other explanations.
@@kimberlysweidy2670 i'm with you!!!! and i only listened at the default speed.
WHY would anyone complain about this valuable, FREE content THAT'S COMING DIRECTLY FROM THE HEART!!!!!!????? and can/will help/is helping MANY to understand...recover...heal!!!! but, then, SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE, ALWAYS FINDS SOMETHING TO COMPLAIN ABOUT INSTEAD OF CHOOSING TO SHOW GRATITUDE INSTEAD!!!
and wouldn't it have been more...decent...to contact him privately with this UNNECESSARY suggestion? smh.
YOU'RE DOING FINE, MR. R-A-W!!!!!! YOU ARE DOING EXCELLENTLY!!!!!!!!