The Person That You Knew No Longer Exist

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Komentáře • 172

  • @libbybarrett1268
    @libbybarrett1268 Před 5 měsíci +41

    It's not that they no longer exist, it's really that they never existed.

    • @natlee5879
      @natlee5879 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Yes, but that the person they were with you was tailor made for you, so they will never be that person again if you're out of their life for good

    • @libbybarrett1268
      @libbybarrett1268 Před 5 měsíci +3

      @@natlee5879 Yes, all except for the abuse, which will be the same no matter who the victim is.

  • @sandynogle8147
    @sandynogle8147 Před 5 měsíci +21

    This sucks & it is extremely painful

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +1

      honey yea! PITIFUL is one of my most used comments. PITIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and though my encounter was very brief, THE PAIN was as if i'd known dude for at least months ... but, then, i am very...tender-heart as we said in the south that i grew up in ...

  • @robertataylor5794
    @robertataylor5794 Před 5 měsíci +21

    I Saw behind the MASK! 2 Years no contact, to anyone suffering, it DOES GET BETTER once you go no contact. ONCE YOU KNOW, YOU GO!

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +4

      THAT'S RIGHT!!!!! my motto since i was about 16: "GROW WITH ME OR GO FROM ME!!!"

  • @sassyslsgrl
    @sassyslsgrl Před 5 měsíci +22

    Realizing I never really knew the real person inside, that my ex was in fact a stranger, made it easier to stop caring about them and how they felt and what they were doing as I learned to break that trauma bond thread by thread...one tiny thread remains, and I'm working on it and am happier than I can remember being as I'm focused on me for the first time in my life.

  • @jackiel7726
    @jackiel7726 Před 5 měsíci +24

    So true 💯 I'm married to one There's nobody there Fake as can be Empty shell.

    • @shahnazbi8346
      @shahnazbi8346 Před 5 měsíci +4

      Too true there is no one there 😢.

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +4

      d--n! woooo!!!! .... i was just...saying to God the other day...HOW IS IT THAT I ATTRACTED THE TYPE OF PERSON I'VE ALWAYS HATED--FAKE expletives!!!!!!

  • @goobygoo2
    @goobygoo2 Před 5 měsíci +5

    I saw the mask, but what disturbed me most was when I realized there is nothing behind it. I finally recognized that his eyes, gorgeous as they may be, are vessels of nothingness. Empty. That makes me sad. I like to think that there was some substance there at one time. I now know what I fell in love with was vapor.

  • @amandakropen3273
    @amandakropen3273 Před 5 měsíci +5

    So many flowers when we were dating.... not a single rose after we were married...

  • @eigthhousefallen
    @eigthhousefallen Před 5 měsíci +19

    3:30 thats because they are mirroring you thats why you have so much in common at first. You actually fall in love with yourself.

  • @joy.ttotheworld4713
    @joy.ttotheworld4713 Před 5 měsíci +22

    Not being vindictive, but legally speaking, As narcissistic abuse is massively damaging psychologically, How plausible do you think that the abuser should be punished in the court of law or even registered just like sexual offenders?

    • @Jackie78NJ
      @Jackie78NJ Před 5 měsíci

      NPD is a severe mental illness rooted in delusion. They believe their version of reality and truly feel they are the victim. They don’t know they are disordered. How they process the world occurs at an unconscious level. The left frontal lobe in the brain is the area where emotions / feelings are processed. Scans of people diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, show areas of missing gray matter in this region. Their brains are physically different than a neurotypical (normal) person. They can control their choices and behaviors but not how they perceive reality.

  • @Boymom515
    @Boymom515 Před 5 měsíci +7

    Mine discarded me Feb 19, 2023 so almost a year to the day. In my prayer time when I cry out to God, I tell Him I cannot understand why for months he couldn’t let me go and it took one narc injury for him to want me completely out of his sight and he was disgusted by me. That was the most painful thing and I ask God how I’m not supposed to internalize that sudden change of his feelings toward me, his love and then his hate. Like I did something wrong. It is an internal war.

  • @traceybiles2061
    @traceybiles2061 Před 5 měsíci +13

    They never exixting you fell in love with mask...

  • @natlee5879
    @natlee5879 Před 5 měsíci +12

    Holy fuck this is so accurate. "Raging out at you because you took a wrong turn...". Every. Day.

    • @goobygoo2
      @goobygoo2 Před 5 měsíci

      Every day, every phone call.

  • @rjlacroix3334
    @rjlacroix3334 Před 5 měsíci +51

    The Mask .... When I was away for ten days a few years back and returned home early to surprise my beautiful loving wife , the love of my life . I drove back to my condo at 11 pm only to find her sitting in a strange man's car . I parked in disbelief, sat and waited 5 min. for her to exit his vehicle . They both did and walked towards my car both smiling .What I saw in her face was pure evil ,so smug so happy with herself for emotionally destroying me. Zero remorse, zero empathy .She showed me for the first and last time ( the narcissistic smirk ) . I didn't recognize my own wife of 6 years ,it was so strange and disturbing like she morphed into another personality .After much study I realized it was because my wife was unwell and mirroring this stranger she was with by dressing like him (so very disturbing ) to obtain supply . The narcissist is a chameleon , willfully willing to employ whatever mask is expedient to obtain supply . I've learned so much here and other places . I'm not alone . Thank you for your important work Ben .🙏

    • @marcosiviero494
      @marcosiviero494 Před 5 měsíci +7

      Sorry for your loss…the worst pain possible, in my experience. So hard to bear, ti drives you completely crazy. Hope you’ll get better and better. If you have enough strength to use that pain for your growth, then you can get out a better and stronger version of yourself. Wish u all the best! 😊

    • @eigthhousefallen
      @eigthhousefallen Před 5 měsíci +9

      Normally, I would ask what you did to her first. But with you i feel like you did nothing wrong but try to love the unlovable. Im sorry that happened to you. It happened to me too almost the exact same way.
      Try to remember that you dont have to change the strength of your love, just who gets to experience it.

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 Před 5 měsíci +6

      rjlacroix3334
      My heart goes out to you. Sounds like an episode of The Twilight Zone. Thank God you did come home early, although very painful, it exposed her for what she was.
      It is a truly deranged mind these narcs have to flip personas and perpetrate heinous acts of cruelty.
      Best wishes to you going forward in your narc-free life.

    • @ly5142
      @ly5142 Před 5 měsíci +8

      You find that you don't understand "humans" anymore, its a person that is like a different species.

    • @rjlacroix3334
      @rjlacroix3334 Před 5 měsíci

      Still devastated , but committed to my healing journey . many thanks . ❤@@BeTheLight624

  • @fruitypopwhickle6806
    @fruitypopwhickle6806 Před 5 měsíci +20

    He admitted that he hides himself. That I wouldn't like the real him if I saw him. He was right. 1 year, 9 months free and happy!

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +3

      dude told me "I used to be a bad man." humph!!! HE STILL WAS A BAD MAN the moment he uttered those words. a bad man hiding behind a mask of "humility..."

    • @perpetuaL524
      @perpetuaL524 Před 5 měsíci

      @@ItsSoarTime That's the black and white thinking pattern they have. its due to the oscillation between vulnerable and grandiose states.

  • @user-if2wl7hs6w
    @user-if2wl7hs6w Před 5 měsíci +10

    This very insight was, what finally saved me from my trauma bond with my narcissistic ex. It is so much easier to release a person with the thought: "you are not the person I thought you are." Or even better "I never loved you anyway".
    I loved the illusion. Maybe I even get some inspirations from this story - it really touched my soul at least. But to fulfill these desires and hopes or dreams - the narcissist is definitely the wrong person. Looking in the wrong direction.
    You do not lose anything. You lose sb you never loved anyway, and you can keep the stories and inspirations, your hopes and dreams to yourself. For the next one. Or anything else. The future is yours.

  • @beautyandgrit4640
    @beautyandgrit4640 Před 5 měsíci +25

    “There’s this *conquering* that had happened”… that right there is one of the most degrading, betraying, dehumanizing feelings in these “relationships” (particularly romantic/sexual context). It’s a feeling of being preyed upon, objectified and used solely for a person’s self-gratification and drive for competition in a setting that was supposedly “love”, “intimacy” or “connection”. It is truly disgusting when you realize a narc can’t see you as a human (or your time/life trajectory as something sacred and of value), or protect you in any way from their predatory, opportunistic mindset…no matter how special or close they pretended their connection with you was. Cut your losses. Don’t allow the stronghold of the Sunken Cost Fallacy deceive you out of seeing this reality.

    • @marcosiviero494
      @marcosiviero494 Před 5 měsíci +4

      I completely understand you. It’s something that cannot be believed, even when you see the truth for what it is. So shocking and devastating!

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +5

      WHOAAAAA!!!!! POWERFUL!!!!!!! BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! read twice!!!! going back in for a third reading!!!!!!

    • @BeTheLight624
      @BeTheLight624 Před 5 měsíci +3

      beautyandgrit4640
      Thank you for sharing your comment on this raw debasing experience. A few weeks out after going no contact at the end of June last year, I looked back in hindsight to see just as you described. The internal blow was absolutely devastating. It was bad enough to endure the day to day encounters but to look back and see the depth of abuse and betrayal is beyond comprehension. May we all heal to our optimum health and never be perpetrated on again.

    • @rjlacroix3334
      @rjlacroix3334 Před 5 měsíci +2

  • @mamelskie
    @mamelskie Před 5 měsíci +30

    It hurts so bad. Crying whilst watching this

    • @blueorchid2467
      @blueorchid2467 Před 5 měsíci +4

      It does. We will get through this

    • @Nini7908..
      @Nini7908.. Před 5 měsíci +3

      Mine said I dont think I ever did love u...😢

    • @blueorchid2467
      @blueorchid2467 Před 5 měsíci +2

      @@Nini7908.. people are wicked...im so sorry

  • @shahnazbi8346
    @shahnazbi8346 Před 5 měsíci +7

    I would like to know which mask the narcissist wears on his death bed.
    Who is he fooling then .
    Does the narcissist think he can fool his maker ???

  • @lorimiller7261
    @lorimiller7261 Před 5 měsíci +9

    The facts are the facts. Don’t sugarcoat it ! Radical acceptance will save your life and allow you to break free ❤😊

  • @missporkus
    @missporkus Před 5 měsíci +7

    Hurts so bad😢 I still can't quite believe it😢😢😢

    • @rjlacroix3334
      @rjlacroix3334 Před 5 měsíci

      I completely understand your statement .The toxic individual leaves you dramatically blindsided by their willful ,malevolent ,unemphatic abuse .Sadly its took me almost 3 years to come to terms with the truth of my abusers relentless attempts to create within me cognitive dissonance. I finally came to terms with the truth through much study and radical acceptance of the fact ,that I could in no way love my abuser into becoming emotionally healthy in order to save my marriage . The facts of narcissism and the story of similar personality disordered individuals within our lives is my opinion as someone who has experienced deep pain and trauma is this : It is vital to get a grip on oneself ,see the truth and break free from the abuser . Learn all you can about this very difficult subject ,as we are here .Laser focus on self love ,self care and above all (self preservation ) . Things dramatically changed for the better for me when I employed these tools in my tool box . I shifted my focus to this : I am lovable, I come first , I deserve to be respected and cared for . It is not my fault , It is not my responsibility . I wish you well in your healing journey 🙏

  • @user-or8zf2mh2r
    @user-or8zf2mh2r Před 5 měsíci +6

    I've been down this road & it's so hurtful. I've been single for almost 3 years from that relationship, and the hurt still comes & goes.Going back a 3rd time definitely isn't an option. I would rather hurt here & there being single. Then, I hurt while being in a relationship with him of battling something that ran it course.

    • @caroleminke6116
      @caroleminke6116 Před 5 měsíci +1

      It was just a toxic situation that you have total control over now if you own your power 😉 you chose it & you can choose to let go of the cruel hoax that was perpetrated on you but didn’t succeed in the long run, did it? Leave the conman behind & never engage in a useless shell game again

  • @melissafoster9701
    @melissafoster9701 Před 5 měsíci +7

    He won't admit he has cheated married 9 years

  • @robpz448
    @robpz448 Před 5 měsíci +13

    My ex was diagnosed with personality disorder. I didn't know what that meant when I was with her, but quite frankly, I didn't care up until the discard. She was beautiful. Displayed incredibly intense love and intimacy with me. When I was discarded a year and a half ago, it was out of left field. I was shocked. Insomnia instantly started that lasted for months, and it felt like my life was going to end. I made many calls to nine eight eight. It was bad. The point is, is yes, once the discard happens, it is true, the person you once knew no longer exists. Take my ex. She had long beautiful curly hair. After our "relationship," she shaved her head bald and started to dress different. Think of Britney Spears with the umbrella. That's exactly how she looks still. In-conclusion, it is utterly traumatic dealing with a person you were with completely transform into someone you no longer know when you knew them for years. Thankfully, I am doing much better then a year and a half ago. I am much stronger as a person and this relationship was a very tough life lesson I learned. Thanks for reading.

    • @fredmissman2471
      @fredmissman2471 Před 5 měsíci

      Boy, this is SO true. The discard from out of left field, the lack of ability to sleep, the loss of appetite, the rumination and obsession.. and with these great videos, NOW seeing the total MASK, understanding the problem. NOW it finally makes sense, and I can get to work on it.

  • @magdalenafijalkowska9251
    @magdalenafijalkowska9251 Před 5 měsíci +8

    Another one to put on repeat.

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +3

      that's right! as a reminder of what we either escaped or should be trying to escape, NEVER TO ALLOW AGAIN!!!!

  • @KoreaMojo
    @KoreaMojo Před 5 měsíci +8

    So many times when I confronted him with the truth and he couldn't lie about it he would reason he didn't want the truth out to destroy his image in someone's eyes. When I said he could just be that person he would agree but never did it. He worked against everything he wanted to be seen as except someone who would buy you things. But fidelity, honesty, reciprocity emotionally? Not really. He was surprised and in disbelief when I said he made me fall in love with him. But he enjoyed the power it conveyed. My friend called it, he would repeat things like he was in awe but those times he was feeling in control of my emotions. He punished me for paying attention to him and noting the consistent inconsistency. Once he knew he went to far finally, he just dropped everything, for me. But he continued the same thing with the newER one.

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +3

      KEEP MOVING ON PAST THAT NONSENSE, difficult and VERY PAINFUL though it may be. DO NOT CONCERN YOURSELF WITH ANYONE BUT Y O U!!!! THE newER Y O U!!!!!!!!! take the advice/use the playlists i mentioned in other comments on this page to help you become a newER Y O U!!!!!!!!

  • @user-qw5mk9fx1q
    @user-qw5mk9fx1q Před 5 měsíci +13

    I needed this clear reminder of who she actually is. It’s tough to realize that I fell in love with just a mask, and I still kinda miss that illusion. I know I’m much better off without her, but we have 2 kids together.

  • @TAP-xs4nd
    @TAP-xs4nd Před měsícem +2

    Looking back my narcissistic husband’s mask slipped during what would have been our honeymoon phase. I seen and felt the changes had pit in my stomach, but could never make sense of what was happening. Thanks for opening my eyes.

  • @wallaceleewl9189
    @wallaceleewl9189 Před 5 měsíci +3

    I saw his mask of him fallen off when he had me on his side. So freaking accurate.

  • @caroleminke6116
    @caroleminke6116 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Remember s/he has been pretending since a toddler in order to manipulate mother or other primary caregiver

  • @SaxeK
    @SaxeK Před 5 měsíci +10

    Thank you so much for all that your doing. I wish you would have been around 3o years ago. You see and understand my life so clearly. It's nice to see from your example there are people who want to change and have loving families. Thank you.

    • @danielleroy99
      @danielleroy99 Před 5 měsíci

      Try 40 years ago for me. People can live with this their whole lives. It's indescribably cruel.

  • @jjones4314
    @jjones4314 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Wow! This was brutal but it needed to be said! Trying to wrap your head around the fact that the person never existed is mind boggling but something that MUST be accepted in order to move on & heal! Thank you, Ben, for all you do!

  • @tlynnski80
    @tlynnski80 Před 26 dny +1

    3 1/2 yrs of being with my Narc. Now he’s with his new supply who lives 2 blocks away from my house. The house we shared together with a blended family. Found out they had been talking for a few months before he discarded me. I could only imagine what he’s told her, all while I thought we were doing great. He parks his car out front daily so I see when I drive past. Gut wrenching and heartbreaking.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 26 dny

      It's never too late to begin your healing journey! Join our free masterclass and discover how to break free from toxic relationships here www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass..

  • @MajorieRoyal
    @MajorieRoyal Před 5 měsíci +6

    I hesitated to watch that video because already the title hurts. And I know all of this you are saying, but in my heart he still has a place and there is a slight % that do wanna believe this guy exist.. How amazing he was. He had this innocence at time, this is what I loved. With my dog, nature, animals, many things.. and yet he had this rage and he could just shoot me with his mouth like it was gun and he did care about my vulnerability, about my struggle or to see me cry because of him... Those 2 person cannot co exist in one person. One has to be false Because if innocence is your value, it is everywhere at all time. It is what and who you are. So it didn't make sense, And even if he made me believe it was my fault when he shifted..I knew very well it wasn't.. Dear you, if you ever read me. I did love you dearly.

    • @kerriereid8560
      @kerriereid8560 Před 20 hodinami +1

      This is what I am struggling with. I was with him 5 years. He showed loyalty. Love caring when I was sick. He talked about him been an introvert. That he wears a mask in public

    • @MajorieRoyal
      @MajorieRoyal Před 14 hodinami

      @@kerriereid8560 all the confusion. It really destroyed who I am. I have no desire to fight anymore, I just want peace. I'm with you in this. You are not alone. If you need to talk, im there too.

  • @terrywade3696
    @terrywade3696 Před 4 měsíci +1

    The mask! Finally seeing the mask and that he never really existed is called, RADICAL ACCEPTANCE! It removes all hope of reconciliation. I have reached that point. I can’t unsee it. I finally understand that the person I fell in love with was the mirrored image of me! He’s not a person that can be understood, or explained, or helped. The person that I thought he was, never existed! I’ve wasted 35 years of my life

  • @milagroscaramba2731
    @milagroscaramba2731 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Wow! This is bringing some serious inner healing for a lot of people. This is gonna set so many people free from bondage to toxic people, keep up the good work dude 👏🏿

  • @carahshaffery4270
    @carahshaffery4270 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Masks...completely uninterested by honesty or truth and reaity...and 9years into this ridiculous unreasonable way to live a life I'm still moved to tears when I contemplate accepting that I meant nothing and was never any more 'special' to him than any of the flings he has been carrying along with on the side the whole time...stupid? I know. Pathetic? Trust me, I know. He won't ever love me and never did? OK I know that too. But now I have 3 kids under the age of 4 with this man who is killing me a thousand different ways a thousand times a day. How do I protect my children from the abusive traumatic non-present or unwillingly present parenting style of this man

  • @kerriereid8560
    @kerriereid8560 Před 20 hodinami

    He was honest about his mask. I saw him different in public. He was vunrable and I looked after him, in every way. He explained he was different in public. He said he felt he could take his mask off at home.

  • @user-tm1mj5zl3p
    @user-tm1mj5zl3p Před 5 měsíci +2

    The Mask I’m so glad to have found your videos. Thank you! I have learned so much. It has taken me since 2019 to heal from the narcissistic trauma I experienced with the man I dated.
    I ended it after 7 months. I saved myself and walked away. I never looked back.
    I was shocked when the mask came off.
    How cruel and indifferent he was towards me. Very different from the beginning when we first met.
    You are absolutely right! It was a projection.
    Lesson learned.
    Thank you for your great content.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 5 měsíci

      Thank you! Reach out if you need help to continue forward! www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

  • @ItsSoarTime
    @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +3

    well, this is one narcissist FOR SURE that I will REMAIN IN CONTACT WITH!!!
    i don't even care anymore what he says. i like the video before it even starts and partially watch/listen to the end to support his channel, but also to be reminded of...THE GRACE AND MERCY God showed me in snatching me--a hyper-empath--up out of the tightening grip of the dude i was exposed to for about 2 weeks. THANK GOD FOR MY EMPATHY!!!!!! AND THANK GOD for Mr. R-A-W's RAW delivery of that which i needed to hear to push me more and more back to strength!!!!!!!
    I'M GOOD NOW!!!!!!!!
    funny, the last thing i said to dude in the last conversation we had about a month ago was "where is the guy whom ..." i met in the beginning. wow!

  • @NathanSegal
    @NathanSegal Před 26 dny

    I had wandered for the longest time. Now I know. Permanent, no contact is the only way. I will never allow such a deceitful human being back into my life. If I'm dumb enough to fall for the hoover, she will do it again. Thanks setting me straight. I needed that.

  • @drtasic6469
    @drtasic6469 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Mask!
    I am going through this right now. This is so enlightening. Thank you!

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 5 měsíci

      Im sorry to hear that, once you see it, you can't unsee it. I recommend trying the 7day challenge here escapetoxicity.com/

  • @kimgordon3695
    @kimgordon3695 Před 5 měsíci +6

    The #MASK

  • @ligyasouza755
    @ligyasouza755 Před 3 měsíci

    Its now some time gone but i still cant believe how a lovely person who said cared for me and was very present suddenly started lashing out and gaslighting me calling me names and criricizing all i said
    He hurt me so badly and didn

  • @bdeezy2962
    @bdeezy2962 Před měsícem

    It is most gut wrenching mind blowing freakin twilight zone shit someone can go through..I should have went to therapy after my last narc relationship to heal , not only just to heal and grow but prevent my heart dying yet again by getting into another relationship with a narcissist..only this time I just fell even harder and it hurts way worse..people please be safe out there and don't settle for a man/woman that lies to you and treats you like crap!! No one deserves it!!

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před měsícem

      We're here to support your healing journey. Come join us in this free masterclass to learn about the secret methods on breaking free from the toxic. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass.

  • @kswear
    @kswear Před 5 měsíci

    It’s insane to hear you say things WORD FOR WORD of what I’ve been writing down in a journal the last 8 or 9 months or things I’ve been shouting out loud in disbelief to my dog when my husband carries on with his day directly after word games and karate chopping my train of thought, saying I’m Negative and that nothing will get better with my negative attitude…
    I’ve been married 8 years, we met in an addiction rehab, so I thought many of these things were just the sneaky, selfish addict behavior. I’ve felt defeated from the beginning but there was this WHAT IF that soul mate, best friend, perfect-for-me-dude is still there buried under something. And then 8 or 9 months ago it’s like this evil twin moved in and I didn’t even get to say goodbye to him. That part really hurts - that I didn’t get to say goodbye - to a facade. It’s like meeting someone in your dreams that you must be with but there’s no way because they’re not real. Every day now I’m crying out “THIS IS INSANE” and If it was the him he pretended to be - THAT person would understand that this is insane! The person he presented as would understand how crazy this is. It’s just insane. I need to understand things as much as possible so these videos are really really appreciated. Thank you

  • @prunelle9051
    @prunelle9051 Před 5 měsíci +4

    Lee Hamock is not different. His body language is VERY telling. Going to therapy once a month ( if he's really going) is not sufficient. Yes, he gives the narcs tricks... but... he is who he is, wich is a master manipulator. You can see his partner is looking fed up as well on his videos. Studies shows there is less than 1% success with therapy and therapy is for life. Gray matter does not grow back you are who you are. It's a fact that narcs believes their lies. It does not mean that your work isn't worthy of appreciation.

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +2

      i agree. 1000%. i've been meaning to contact Mr. Lee and RESPECTULLY ask him: Are you using your channel--his minor celebrity status--as a supply? i think he is. it is what it is. but it's fascinating to me!!!! ....

  • @over-comer
    @over-comer Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you for acknowledging that some narcissists can change :)

  • @dumpmail-xz2qp
    @dumpmail-xz2qp Před 5 měsíci

    from my experience, narcissists share two things every single time... they disrespect you and they always are looking for a way to hurt you to make themselves feel better no matter how much love or loyalty you give them. It always ends the same way

  • @Jann.x
    @Jann.x Před 5 měsíci +1

    Life to short to be even playing with this sh!t😩 I know they belong to the devil cus the deception is beyond me and to kno that NUN OF THIS was real minds fucks me I be so blew but I’m learning self compassion and learning to trust my intuition the 1st time around!!!

  • @Joy.1111
    @Joy.1111 Před 5 měsíci

    True. Right. Correct. 💯

  • @CR-jm3zb
    @CR-jm3zb Před 4 měsíci

    You are sooooo right!!! In the end i didn’t even know who he was

  • @gayemurphy3271
    @gayemurphy3271 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Oh soooo sad too ❤

  • @user-hn9bi2xd2n
    @user-hn9bi2xd2n Před 5 měsíci

    I see the masks! What an aye opening!
    He said,” the first 6 months, all he’s thinking is to make me fall in love with you.”
    Yes, it was all a LIE!
    The truth are, i saw who he really is in our friendship and after married , the truth all coming back to me of who he really is!

  • @user-ej4sk8bc2l
    @user-ej4sk8bc2l Před 5 měsíci +1

    Thankyou for your honesty.

  • @beautyandgrit4640
    @beautyandgrit4640 Před 5 měsíci +2

    So I’m curious how this worked for you in repairing your marriage… did you have to like recreate yourself?

  • @vulvaawareness
    @vulvaawareness Před měsícem +1

    I loved the video. Another one I have to watch on repeat.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před měsícem

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  • @annikaspahr9705
    @annikaspahr9705 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Thank You Ben for keeping it real ❤

  • @rebekahjette6304
    @rebekahjette6304 Před měsícem +1

    My ex changed after we got married too💔 He has a two-year cycle⚠️

  • @vulvaawareness
    @vulvaawareness Před měsícem +1

    I see the mask. It hurts a lot. Like the worst pain I've ever felt.

    • @TAP-xs4nd
      @TAP-xs4nd Před měsícem

      I’m sorry, no one deserves to be treated In this way. I to have been deceived. Seeing them for who they truly are makes moving forward so much easier. You deserve better!

  • @Marieke-qq9qf
    @Marieke-qq9qf Před 2 měsíci +2

    I thought he loved me. 6 year with the somatic narc. It was hard

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 2 měsíci

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  • @melissasanders6073
    @melissasanders6073 Před 5 měsíci +6

    The Mask

  • @ligyasouza755
    @ligyasouza755 Před 3 měsíci

    Absolutely

  • @eliza_kai
    @eliza_kai Před 5 měsíci +3

    I appreciate the work you do but I’m confused.
    If narcissists are unable to change why then should any one of us ever stay with one?
    Being a self aware narcissist doesn’t mean you’ve changed, suggesting then that your true identity is still self serving. So are you suggesting that now you just simply mask and push down how you really feel or who you really are? I have learned a lot from you, so much so that I’m never giving the narcissist I’m married to anymore chances.
    All I hear now that he’s “recovering” is how he’s above any consequences for his past, that is sickening. This is especially true if they feel like you’re leaving…their true colors come flying back. I’m genuinely curious if your wife came home tonight and said she’s leaving based on your past, what would you do? To me, that’s the truth and that’s scary. At any point she’d have that right, correct? Perhaps this is me projecting but I’m serious. I want to know what would trigger that narcissistic behavior again because if I have to feel trapped because you’re sober, I’m out.
    I believe a self aware narcissist still keeps their spouse on egg shells, there’s no way to ever trust. And without trust, how can one remain married? You’re married to a lie. Yes, they may stay sober in whatever way but they’re incurable. And they’re capable of literally killing someone. It’s a horrible way to live .
    Sorry, I find all of this intriguing and scary all at the same time. Still learning over here!

  • @user-pw9oh8yo3z
    @user-pw9oh8yo3z Před 5 měsíci +1

    Yes, I can see it serious relationship. I have found out the past 6 months that I started looking at in his phone but we've been together for 6 years, he has it Uber time, and by me getting too upset I appled, a knife cause he was trying to care very close out of my house and my stuffand I got caught. I have 2 severteners in a severed nerve, I've considerablies all over me. He dislocated my jaw. He's deviated my September and my nose I had to have surgery. It's a nightmare and it's all emotional games to emotional abuse. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like i'm losing my mind

    • @robertataylor5794
      @robertataylor5794 Před 5 měsíci +2

      He is VERY DANGEROUS, please leave so you won't end up dead, this is more than emotional abuse. You are clearly describing a malignant narc who has the capacity to kill you without a second thought!

  • @Megoo1
    @Megoo1 Před 5 měsíci

    God bless

  • @antroneb1
    @antroneb1 Před 4 měsíci

    I seen the mask fall, and the told me pretty much that there not who they say they are, it hurts to love or ever befriend someone like that, sad but true

  • @melissaclary9646
    @melissaclary9646 Před 10 dny +1

    I zee the mask😊

  • @ligyasouza755
    @ligyasouza755 Před 3 měsíci

    Its some time now but i stiil cant believe how a person who was so nice so caring so present suddenly started lashing out and calling me names gasligjting me and abusing me verbally .I understood why his ex left and wjy he said she cried a lot if he was that wonderful person.But he wasnt
    He has no accountability he cant say sorry not even to his family and i.understand why

    • @ligyasouza755
      @ligyasouza755 Před 3 měsíci

      They dont like him not even his children and brothers

  • @Prometheuspredator
    @Prometheuspredator Před 5 měsíci +1

    You speak facts. She was changing and you had to change. You wife had arrived at that healthy mindset that she was no longer going to settle and you no longer wanted to settle and stay stuck. You desire hope. You desired change. I applaud you, but especially i applaud your wife.

    • @danielleroy99
      @danielleroy99 Před 5 měsíci

      I don't think you know what you're talking about or you don't want to know. Either way you don't belong on this website.

  • @chilo597
    @chilo597 Před 5 měsíci

    Ive seen the mask and he copied me in words. Other clothing style like me. And ALL the lies he put me on me. Nastier it got worse

  • @kataphasis
    @kataphasis Před 5 měsíci +4

    Mask

  • @clydare
    @clydare Před 5 měsíci

    Yes sadly only a mask

  • @sangar463
    @sangar463 Před 5 měsíci +3

    When you say narcissist and narc behavior, does the narc father destroy kids lives ?

    • @cyndigooch1162
      @cyndigooch1162 Před 5 měsíci +2

      I'm obviously not Ben Taylor but can attest to the fact that highly narcissistic fathers and/or mothers, as well as other family members, can definitely destroy children's lives!
      It's the main reason why children become adults who are narcissistic in the first place anyway, or go too far the other way, and there are a lot of videos on the extremely sad subject.
      I want to add that a positive thing is that people can do healing work on trauma issues, then go on to have more peaceful lives, depending on the circumstances. 🙂

    • @mandymckeown8625
      @mandymckeown8625 Před 5 měsíci +3

      A big fat yes I have a narc mum pure evil

    • @sangar463
      @sangar463 Před 5 měsíci

      @@mandymckeown8625 I have malignant narc father he been abused me all life but I keep telling my brain stay away but my part of body move me towards him and I get angry on my self that this family destroyed you and you still thinking about them , is it trauma bond? we know but don’t believe it .

  • @christmaslady1447
    @christmaslady1447 Před 5 měsíci

    Ok dk

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Mask…thank you for this video

  • @user-fc1cj7yu9t
    @user-fc1cj7yu9t Před 15 dny +2

    It’s a mask, he’s dead

  • @Soliz73
    @Soliz73 Před 5 měsíci

    I saw the mask

  • @melissaloper9192
    @melissaloper9192 Před 2 měsíci

    I see the mask

  • @user-kf3yz7so6q
    @user-kf3yz7so6q Před 9 dny

    Seen the mask eventually.

  • @jessicamarks5577
    @jessicamarks5577 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Mask !

  • @schuylerirons6370
    @schuylerirons6370 Před 3 měsíci

    If narcissists lack empathy, isn't it yet another mask and/or "mirroring" when they "choose to be honest" and change? I feel like the host may be doing some "mirroring" of emotions of his own in these videos.

  • @my04sons1
    @my04sons1 Před 2 měsíci

    See more than 1 mask!!😢

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 2 měsíci

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  • @lauc5453
    @lauc5453 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Mask. The mask fell off when I got pregnant.

  • @D.A.Toaster
    @D.A.Toaster Před 5 měsíci +2

    Mask. Just a ghost of a man.

  • @Despertese1111
    @Despertese1111 Před 4 měsíci

    mask

  • @frankdigiovanni3666
    @frankdigiovanni3666 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Stop saying “he/him” - not all narcissists are MALE!!!

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci

      correct. but the overwhelming majority, from what i've read, are biologically born males. over 70%. he doesn't mean any harm saying he/him. he's just talking about the majority ...

  • @blueorchid2467
    @blueorchid2467 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Mask..

  • @Joy.1111
    @Joy.1111 Před 5 měsíci

    Mask.

  • @schuylerirons6370
    @schuylerirons6370 Před 3 měsíci

    Hmmm...so let me get this straight...this guy is a "self-aware narcissist" who is capitalizing on teaching super vulnerable victims of narcissistic abuse about the ways of a narcissist?🤔 This concept seems a tad self-serving and manipulative...not surprising, being that he is a narcissist. What are his credentials for doing these one on one sessions with people? I wonder how much he charges for a single session. I don't trust the guy.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 3 měsíci

      Then don’t follow or waste time commenting if you don’t trust. Not asking you to trust. If you hear what I am saying that is wrong call it out or don’t agree that’s fine. I am here to help people heal and have seen hundreds get healed and free.

    • @TAP-xs4nd
      @TAP-xs4nd Před měsícem

      I’m so thankful for Ben making these videos and I’m sure I speak for alot of other people in saying this. When you hear him speak about the same exact things that you have experienced in your relationship that made no sense, the lies you bought into thinking you were imagining things, he’s brought clarity and for him to recognize that he has a problem, but is willing to work on those issues to become better person that’s his credentials!

  • @SetFreePodcast
    @SetFreePodcast Před 3 měsíci

    Mask 👺

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před měsícem

      Thank you for your comment, here is the link www.rawmotivations.com/survivor

  • @user-jw1bl4hq9j
    @user-jw1bl4hq9j Před 5 měsíci +13

    MORAL OF THE STORY …….DO NOT EVER TAKE MEN SERIOUSLY OR TRUST ANY MAN EVER .🙏🏻🫵🏻

    • @akanicolerocks711
      @akanicolerocks711 Před 5 měsíci

      Women are narcs too

    • @sassyslsgrl
      @sassyslsgrl Před 5 měsíci +2

      Toxicity is not gender specific, nor is the ability to be emotionally healthy and authentic with others.

    • @marcosiviero494
      @marcosiviero494 Před 5 měsíci +5

      Just happened to me and the narc was a SHE. Moral is: never allow nobody to manipulate you…never justify awful behaviors…never try to save another person if she/he doesn’t put effort first to be a better person.

    • @ItsSoarTime
      @ItsSoarTime Před 5 měsíci +2

      i know some will say that's a "bitter" or whatever comment, BUT it's one i literally REPEATED to myself about an hour before watching this video. AND I'M GOING TO KEEP REPEATING IT TO MYSELF!!!! not out of bitterness, but OUT OF A SELF-LOVE, PREVENTIVE MEASURE ... BECAUSE THIS CRAP WILL NEVEREVEREVEREVER HAPPEN TO ME AGAIN!!!!

  • @samanthajames2032
    @samanthajames2032 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Mask

  • @almazberhe6280
    @almazberhe6280 Před 16 dny

    I saw the mask

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 14 dny

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  • @madison71511
    @madison71511 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Mask

  • @luvhisarms96
    @luvhisarms96 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Mask

  • @gayemurphy3271
    @gayemurphy3271 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Mask

  • @cheetarablige6610
    @cheetarablige6610 Před 5 měsíci

    Mask

  • @nicolewilliams9795
    @nicolewilliams9795 Před 5 měsíci

    Mask

  • @ashtonandthehelms2777
    @ashtonandthehelms2777 Před 4 měsíci

    Mask

  • @daniellestobart-xp8xk
    @daniellestobart-xp8xk Před 5 měsíci

    Mask