A man respects a woman who will not be used, who won't compromise, whe demands respect, who holds fast to her standards, who can walk awake with her morals intact no matter the age.
I just wanted to say THANK YOU for what you do. I've been listening to you for 6 yrs. I've applied the tools you gave me, you helped me be successful in my absence journey, and now I'm married. I got married last month. 🎉 Thank you!!!
When my ex said he was done with the relationship, I asked him why? He said, “ If a person don’t love you the way you want them to love then it’s a problem.” It is a problem if you tell them what your love language is more than once and he doesn’t want to do it. Then that’s not a you problem. That’s a his problem! You’re not ready for a relationship sir! You’re only looking for your needs. A grown boy is looking to be served, a grown man is to be of service! Know your worth Ladies!
That's what i learned. Just a conversation looking him straight in his eyes with no yelling, cursing, hate. Wish him well. Walk out with a smile on your face with your character intact with peace of mind.
6:03 It’s sad that so many men are basically waiting for women to lead. I think a man should already want to grow and be making progress, the woman is just there to help along the way and vice versa. We don’t want to be mama to a grown boy.
What girls were taught in the '50s and '60s by their fathers were to take "mad money" on a date, in case you get mad at the boy and need a cab drive home. That's what you need, women. Have "mad money" in the bank and a plan in case you need to end a relationship and get yourself set up in a new place, and always be dating several men at the same time (options) until you have a proposal and a ring from one. So when a guy does you dirty, you have options AND "Mad money." Then you won't be afraid to walk away if you're not getting the treatment you require.
@@LA-wv7gf Yes, you're right! Don't take yourself off the market. It takes a lot of time to really get to know a person. So don't allow exclusive dating until much later. Don't have sex, which in a woman's mind constitutes a relationship, but not for men. They don't see sex as a big deal. If you DON'T hold off on these things, you're always sorry later that you didn't.
Met a very handsome man at the gym. We went to a coffee shop for a date. I smelled his breath across the table. He wanted a kiss, I gave him hints, he finally caught the hint; instead of taking my advice he got mad and never called me again. Oh well, I don't want a man with bad breath, nasty looking teeth, tongue, gums, or poor body hygiene. Right, we are all a projects, but I personally don't want to deal with too many issues. I have 3 adult daughters, I chose not to raise a grown boy.
So funny, I had one tell me....".well I have other options so I have to do me"....I said I understand that u only have 1 life so dont wait on me. He then asked after silence, "why arent u attracted to me?"....lol...I was so turned off. He ruined it for himself, thankfully.
Your wife was different but you were different as well. You could have moved on from her and found a woman who accepted your grown boy ways...I think a lot of women are holding on to grown boys hoping that they can can grow and evolve like you did for your wife. 😢
I think that we need to remember a few fundamentals. 1) men need to know & love God FIRST - men were never designed to be restrained by women but by God & God has never need a woman’s help. So what Tony is speaking to is the failed state of man - the tendencies towards corner cutting and relational laziness. The further away from God a man is the less likely ANY woman is going to get through to him. I don’t care if she could be The One because he is not and can’t be The One. In this day and age we need to listen to people from a filter of (is this biblical)? 1) a man has to know God & the Holy Spirit be working on him AND AND 2) a woman has to know God and be trying to uphold Godly values … Those two individuals come together + compatibility & you can actually have something.
Taking your son to Europe to watch a fútbol game to help him follow his dreams is so beautiful, I was momentarily emotional ❤ 26:26 best believe I also took out my journal to write my standards down
You are absolutely right and I have said something similar. Even when men sleep around they are trying to in a certain way protect their hearts so that they don't attach to any one girl. It's funny and ironic because men are commanded to love wives as Christ loved the church but many men are so punkish nowadays and have been throughout history where they seek to preserve self, seek to protect self in the wrong ways, when often, there is nothing to protect themselves from except themselves! The one who cares and is invested the most is absolutely the one with the least power and it seems the pursuit of every man is his warped sense of power in everything he does. He wants to have and maintain his idea of power. And yet women have been looking for love with these people? Thank you for giving away the game.
I never heard anyone put life lesson into such a simple understanding… now it’s up to us as gate keepers of the family to walk it out, it’s not to late for us or our children!!!
"Are you gonna just lay down there in fear and let him walk all over you like a doormat, or are you gonna stand on your needs speak up on what you need,deserve and see if he's man enough to grow?"
It’s just a matter of WHEN is a grown Boy Ready to change…sadly, most men choose not to grow because they really are tooooo comfortable. I know this because my Mom is living this life with my dad-unfortunately, and my mom is that woman that didn’t leave. She thinks it’s really “true love” just cuz she’s the ride or die chick. 😿 I am blessed to God my marriage is completely opposite of my mom and dad’s. ❤ God knew, and was looking out for me. 💯‼️ Respect yourself FIRST ☝🏽 and foremost, Ladies. It’s their loss, never yours. Don’t hesitate to leave. Life is too short to be miserable with One person forever 😂🙄 your KING is out there. 👑
youre right about the role playing. I have done this to practice my " i am no longer interested in pursuing this connection" speech to people. I feel better sating it instead of ghosting and being weird because i know how i feel when that happens to me, but there was a time i realized i was actually doing it too to the men i wasnt interested in. thats when i started practicing my communication in this situation
Make it clear! Bring it out! Put it on the table! Truth and understanding is served! You are right Bro. Tony! Healing is never completed and is tested while in a new relationship. You taking us to life school that is a continuous class!
Blessings to you and your family Tony! We appreciate you being a stand-up man, husband, father, and example. It’s not easy, but worth it! My Dad was a stand-up man, husband, father, leader inside of the home, in his career, at church, and in the community rest his soul, and as his daughter seeing and experiencing his great example, I would never disrespect myself or my Dad, by marrying anything less! 💖
Whew!! This just encouraged me because holding standards and dealing with some of these men can be brutal sometimes but I will continue to stand strong 🙌🏽
Thank you, Tony! I really needed this message today. The grown boy I have dealt with for too long ghosted me and I have been so hurt. Thank you for letting me know that I must keep my standards instead of letting him trick me into thinking he won’t wait.
👸congratulations🥳it hurts😭but him ghosting is a gift from God🎁. bc u deserve a man who'll never ever ghost u . metaphorically only: condolences to her...😌
@@queensun6059 Thanks for your reply . I am feeling weak today because I still want him back. Feeling a strong yearning for him during the season. Need help staying strong and not contact him.
Ain’t ⛽️ him up but TG definitely on Mount Rushmore for real leaders of god with a voice in the world. He well known and pushes me to speak out on my platform as well. TG 👊🏾
Wonderful! It’s hard when you go through moments of self doubt for standing your ground. Then you speak about being willing to let go and know something else is for you. My ex did not consider me in his future because he didn’t know my money ie; my 401K retirement or my salary. I stood my ground and lost him, but listening today I didn’t lose.
Tony. You have been on fire the last few uploads. All of your content is valuable and helpful, but your transparency lately is really just opening my eyes.
Really appreciate the honest conversations your wife and you have. Right now my husband and I need some counsel we been married for 4 but need counsel from people that have been through it. Love him to life we just need to communicate better.
Wow. Thank you Tony for yet another important message. We as women really have to play our part as you say. We have power in this, too. To stear things into the right direction. Still healing, still growing. A lot of work to do. But God! This gives us hope that it's possible and worth it.
Whew! Man, I this message right here! Amen! When I think what else Tony could possibly say about relationships. You still got more info! This one and the last one about online dating still learning! Thanks!
Thank you for keeping it real and being blunt. I appreciate you sharing your past mistakes and how you have grown. With the help of the Lord and your beautiful wife, you have the knowledge to teach us. May God continue to bless you and your family!🙏🏽 Safe travels to Europe! Merry Christmas to all!🙏🏽❤️💜
Thank you for being so vulnerable and yelling your story TG! We need more Stand up men like this in the world!! Shout out to you! Thank you for being an obedient servant of God! May God bless you brother ❤️
This was really good! We appreciate your words of wisdom so much! I also appreciate that you love your wife for who she is and you never say anything as a negative when speaking on her personality or her ways of doing things.❤
Yes 🙌🏾 you do ! Please keep speaking ! Because you are definitely helping me! Giving wisdom and knowledge 🙏🏾 and encouragement to stand ! Because I see this in Men GOD Bless you !
Once again your message is very transparent and powerful. I truly learn and respect your message. " You're a project" that's the absolute real deal Truth. You use self reflection to teach and better others. That's a special gift. Keep using your god given gifts .
I appreciate this content💪🏾 praying it fall on good ground. The examples were spot on, working In HR at a time in my life I can tell you for sure a company will do just as you said "Corporate America" for you. I pray the blind stop leading the blind, and individuals get so sick and tired of their decision making that they "Choose" life(Christ) and life(Choices) more abundantly. God Bless All🙏🏽
Hello Dr. Tony, Thank you so much for your wisdom. I've been watching your videos for a couple of years now. I had been in a toxic situation with someone that I was head over heels with. This morning after a lot of prayer and much deep thought, I put myself in the transfer portal in hopes that one of God's Recruiters Discover me. Praise God for the strength and wisdom to bow out gracefully.
"Every grown boy is afraid of a woman with a vision, boundaries and standards!"
A man respects a woman who will not be used, who won't compromise, whe demands respect, who holds fast to her standards, who can walk awake with her morals intact no matter the age.
I just wanted to say THANK YOU for what you do. I've been listening to you for 6 yrs. I've applied the tools you gave me, you helped me be successful in my absence journey, and now I'm married. I got married last month. 🎉 Thank you!!!
Congratulations queen!!!!!! So happy for you 🎉❤
Congratulations God Bless your union 💍 💕
To God Be The Glory!!! Congratulations Sis ❤🎉
Congratulations!!!!
Congratulations!!😊
“You should not be overly reactive to situations” 🔥 Amen! Having emotional intelligence and keeping my peace has been a game changer in my life
Thanks Sister.
Amen
I'm still learning this, why is it so hard 😢. I try the breathing techniques or walking away.
@@really_fun Fasting prayer and reading the Holy word alone with TMHYAH for your deliverance 🛐🙏🏾💓
When my ex said he was done with the relationship, I asked him why? He said, “ If a person don’t love you the way you want them to love then it’s a problem.” It is a problem if you tell them what your love language is more than once and he doesn’t want to do it. Then that’s not a you problem. That’s a his problem! You’re not ready for a relationship sir! You’re only looking for your needs. A grown boy is looking to be served, a grown man is to be of service! Know your worth Ladies!
“When you take shortcuts, you get cut short” whew ! That’s a whole word.
Let me tell you, Tony, I am listening! Don't get weary. Your message is getting through! ❤
Sure is! Thank you Mr. Gaskins! 🤝🏾❤
Amen!
Amen 🙏🏾 💕
I absolutely agree.
Amen !
That's what i learned. Just a conversation looking him straight in his eyes with no yelling, cursing, hate. Wish him well. Walk out with a smile on your face with your character intact with peace of mind.
"You played the fool. You played the dummy" 😂😂😂 He was talking to me, but not NO MORE.
Standards should be based in faith, moral values. Stand strong in them ladies. Don't waver for a man or anyone. Keep God first. 🙏🏾
Amen 🙏🏾
Whew chy, Men are so damn trivial and difficult. Who the hell has the energy to play these games. Whooooo?
Girl!!!!!
Not I!
Right I’m tired grown boys
And they say we play games and are drama.
These grown boys are in denial and aren’t trying to mature and seek self improvement.
😂😂😂😂 I no right
The respect you have for your wife (and the respect she has for herself) is a beautiful thing. 🙏🏾
6:03 It’s sad that so many men are basically waiting for women to lead. I think a man should already want to grow and be making progress, the woman is just there to help along the way and vice versa. We don’t want to be mama to a grown boy.
Factual!!! I cannot raise him, lead him, teach him how to love me and submit to him!!
What girls were taught in the '50s and '60s by their fathers were to take "mad money" on a date, in case you get mad at the boy and need a cab drive home. That's what you need, women. Have "mad money" in the bank and a plan in case you need to end a relationship and get yourself set up in a new place, and always be dating several men at the same time (options) until you have a proposal and a ring from one. So when a guy does you dirty, you have options AND "Mad money." Then you won't be afraid to walk away if you're not getting the treatment you require.
Preach! This is how I live my life, until I’m in a committed relationship I’m going to date multiple men. Also I have my own money. 🔥
@@LA-wv7gf Yes, you're right! Don't take yourself off the market. It takes a lot of time to really get to know a person. So don't allow exclusive dating until much later. Don't have sex, which in a woman's mind constitutes a relationship, but not for men. They don't see sex as a big deal. If you DON'T hold off on these things, you're always sorry later that you didn't.
❤❤❤
Met a very handsome man at the gym. We went to a coffee shop for a date. I smelled his breath across the table. He wanted a kiss, I gave him hints, he finally caught the hint; instead of taking my advice he got mad and never called me again. Oh well, I don't want a man with bad breath, nasty looking teeth, tongue, gums, or poor body hygiene. Right, we are all a projects, but I personally don't want to deal with too many issues. I have 3 adult daughters, I chose not to raise a grown boy.
That is a dang gone shame!!!
I noticed a lot of decent looking men have bad breath!!! I tried to hint this to a guy and he didn’t get it! Uggg just brush your teeth!😂
Protein shakes can do that, a lot of gym dudes don’t know this
@@my2bears Also be mindful some people may have something like halitosis.
😂😂😂😂
I settled cus I wanted a family but never again
So funny, I had one tell me....".well I have other options so I have to do me"....I said I understand that u only have 1 life so dont wait on me. He then asked after silence, "why arent u attracted to me?"....lol...I was so turned off. He ruined it for himself, thankfully.
Im officially addicted to watching Tony Gaskins videos. pls send help! (I know im not the only one!)
Preach
..."God, Life, and my Wife!" - Would make a good title for a future book, Tony.
Tony you saved me from bad relationships thank you sir
Me too!
"Life has shown me that if I take short-cuts...I get cut short." 💯
Your wife was different but you were different as well. You could have moved on from her and found a woman who accepted your grown boy ways...I think a lot of women are holding on to grown boys hoping that they can can grow and evolve like you did for your wife. 😢
Been listening every single day for the last two weeks ! I’m feeding my spirit !
I think that we need to remember a few fundamentals. 1) men need to know & love God FIRST - men were never designed to be restrained by women but by God & God has never need a woman’s help. So what Tony is speaking to is the failed state of man - the tendencies towards corner cutting and relational laziness.
The further away from God a man is the less likely ANY woman is going to get through to him. I don’t care if she could be The One because he is not and can’t be The One.
In this day and age we need to listen to people from a filter of (is this biblical)? 1) a man has to know God & the Holy Spirit be working on him AND AND 2) a woman has to know God and be trying to uphold Godly values …
Those two individuals come together + compatibility & you can actually have something.
Amen!
"I want me some of that PPP fraud" 🤣🤣 Nah I get it! Thanks for the message!
He said I want some of that 😂😂😂😂😂
@@lisasmilez 😂😂😂
Taking your son to Europe to watch a fútbol game to help him follow his dreams is so beautiful, I was momentarily emotional ❤ 26:26 best believe I also took out my journal to write my standards down
You’re like a big brother I never had with this advice.
I agree
So true! Big brother don't be playing about his little sisters.
Most definitely, I'm blessed by his videos 🙏🏼
Tony is on 🔥 fire.
Closing up the year strong. Multiple vids a day with golden, factual wisdom. God bless you and your family Tony🙏
It's the gladly be doing fraud.... I'm screaming Tony!!
This message is for us brothers too!!!
You are absolutely right and I have said something similar. Even when men sleep around they are trying to in a certain way protect their hearts so that they don't attach to any one girl.
It's funny and ironic because men are commanded to love wives as Christ loved the church but many men are so punkish nowadays and have been throughout history where they seek to preserve self,
seek to protect self in the wrong ways, when often, there is nothing to protect themselves from except themselves!
The one who cares and is invested the most is absolutely the one with the least power and it seems the pursuit of every man is his warped sense of power in everything he does. He wants to have and maintain his idea of power.
And yet women have been looking for love with these people? Thank you for giving away the game.
I never heard anyone put life lesson into such a simple understanding… now it’s up to us as gate keepers of the family to walk it out, it’s not to late for us or our children!!!
TG said fraud 😂😂😂😂
Right😂😂😂😂TG is so honest
"Are you gonna just lay down there in fear and let him walk all over you like a doormat, or are you gonna stand on your needs speak up on what you need,deserve and see if he's man enough to grow?"
It’s just a matter of WHEN is a grown Boy Ready to change…sadly, most men choose not to grow because they really are tooooo comfortable. I know this because my Mom is living this life with my dad-unfortunately, and my mom is that woman that didn’t leave. She thinks it’s really “true love” just cuz she’s the ride or die chick. 😿 I am blessed to God my marriage is completely opposite of my mom and dad’s. ❤ God knew, and was looking out for me. 💯‼️ Respect yourself FIRST ☝🏽 and foremost, Ladies. It’s their loss, never yours. Don’t hesitate to leave. Life is too short to be miserable with One person forever 😂🙄 your KING is out there. 👑
youre right about the role playing. I have done this to practice my " i am no longer interested in pursuing this connection" speech to people. I feel better sating it instead of ghosting and being weird because i know how i feel when that happens to me, but there was a time i realized i was actually doing it too to the men i wasnt interested in. thats when i started practicing my communication in this situation
you’re doing great Mr. Gaskins, may God continue to bless you and your family🙏🏾🤍
Make it clear! Bring it out! Put it on the table! Truth and understanding is served! You are right Bro. Tony! Healing is never completed and is tested while in a new relationship. You taking us to life school that is a continuous class!
Kan! Shalawam
Blessings to you and your family Tony! We appreciate you being a stand-up man, husband, father, and example. It’s not easy, but worth it! My Dad was a stand-up man, husband, father, leader inside of the home, in his career, at church, and in the community rest his soul, and as his daughter seeing and experiencing his great example, I would never disrespect myself or my Dad, by marrying anything less! 💖
Amen girl. How blessed you have been❤ Praying for you to stay blessed😊
Great teaching lesson Tony. You always communicate your message so well. Thank you. 🙏🏻 🙏🏻
"Gladly be doing fraud right now"😂😂😂
Whew!! This just encouraged me because holding standards and dealing with some of these men can be brutal sometimes but I will continue to stand strong 🙌🏽
Thank you, Tony! I really needed this message today. The grown boy I have dealt with for too long ghosted me and I have been so hurt. Thank you for letting me know that I must keep my standards instead of letting him trick me into thinking he won’t wait.
👸congratulations🥳it hurts😭but him ghosting is a gift from God🎁. bc u deserve a man who'll never ever ghost u . metaphorically only: condolences to her...😌
@@queensun6059 Thanks for your reply . I am feeling weak today because I still want him back. Feeling a strong yearning for him during the season. Need help staying strong and not contact him.
Ain’t ⛽️ him up but TG definitely on Mount Rushmore for real leaders of god with a voice in the world. He well known and pushes me to speak out on my platform as well. TG 👊🏾
Yep, I’m making a podcast now about staying away from fornication. That was on the video before this.
“The PPP fraud I want me some of that.” 😂😂😂
So real!!!
Thank U for your Obedience 👏🏾
Wonderful! It’s hard when you go through moments of self doubt for standing your ground. Then you speak about being willing to let go and know something else is for you. My ex did not consider me in his future because he didn’t know my money ie; my 401K retirement or my salary. I stood my ground and lost him, but listening today I didn’t lose.
Thank you, Tony for all that you do & all you’ve been teaching…finding you has changed my life on so many levels! God Bless you & your family 🙏🏾
This is golden nuggets. Thank you Tony!
Thank you for these videos! A lottttt of women think that men won’t do any extra for them
He is telling the truth 100% and I'm listening
Tony cracked the code on this one!👏🏽
I needed to hear this. I'm glad I'm standing on business and doing the right thing 🥰
All I can say is thank you and god bless you Tony! 🙏❤️🩹🔥
Exactly what I needed to hear, Coach! God bless you and your family!
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I was the fool, but no more. Many Blessings to you and your family.
Appreciate the message TG , thank you for you’re insight.
Thank you Tony for your wisdom and your messages as God leads you to always bring tha Real 💯💯💚
Thank you for inspiring us!! I struggle in the area of communication been working on it, it’s not easy but I’m sure I’ll get there😅
such a positive message and tone thank you..
Thank you Mr. Tony for sharing this
Yessss this is an on time message 😊
Keep giving us game.
Setting things straight.
Im healing.
The big bro I never had thank you for your all your lessons 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Tony your transparency is so appreciated! 🙏
Keep standing on business Tony!
We need u!
This was right on time. ❤❤❤❤ 🙌🏾
Well said Bro Tony from beginning to the end 💯❤️🎯
Thank you Tony for this I'm actually going through this , I had to walk away fully with no contact
Thanks for another thorough video. Some women need to here this many times
This video was very necessary! Thank you.
Another GREAT Classic 😊
Tony. You have been on fire the last few uploads. All of your content is valuable and helpful, but your transparency lately is really just opening my eyes.
I need to hear this. Thank you so much 😊
Powerful message, thanks TG
Really appreciate the honest conversations your wife and you have. Right now my husband and I need some counsel we been married for 4 but need counsel from people that have been through it. Love him to life we just need to communicate better.
Wow. Thank you Tony for yet another important message. We as women really have to play our part as you say. We have power in this, too. To stear things into the right direction. Still healing, still growing. A lot of work to do. But God! This gives us hope that it's possible and worth it.
I just started listening to your channel at the beginning of 2024. This is a new season for me. Thank you for your knowledge
Thank God for you .don't know what I would do without your videos I'm learning.
13:19 This concept or mentality on potential vs production is the best method I have heard all year! Thank you, Tony! 🎉
you’re such a blessing, thank you for changing my life!!!!
Whew! Man, I this message right here! Amen! When I think what else Tony could possibly say about relationships. You still got more info! This one and the last one about online dating still learning! Thanks!
Thank you for keeping it real and being blunt. I appreciate you sharing your past mistakes and how you have grown. With the help of the Lord and your beautiful wife, you have the knowledge to teach us. May God continue to bless you and your family!🙏🏽 Safe travels to Europe!
Merry Christmas to all!🙏🏽❤️💜
Thank you to You and Sherri! I love the real life stories. You literally spoke life today! I enforce my standards at anytime.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and yelling your story TG! We need more Stand up men like this in the world!! Shout out to you!
Thank you for being an obedient servant of God! May God bless you brother ❤️
This message is so real and raw full of love humility transparency and TRUTH. thank you for caring about us !
This was really good!
We appreciate your words of wisdom so much! I also appreciate that you love your wife for who she is and you never say anything as a negative when speaking on her personality or her ways of doing things.❤
Than you so much for teaching us in a time where the voices of confusion are louder than the voices of righteousness and reason.
Thank you Tony 🙏🏾🙏🏾 it’s beautiful to see a black man humble on a platform and just speaking his truth. God bless you and the family!
Yes 🙌🏾 you do ! Please keep speaking ! Because you are definitely helping me! Giving wisdom and knowledge 🙏🏾 and encouragement to stand !
Because I see this in Men
GOD Bless you !
Once again your message is very transparent and powerful. I truly learn and respect your message. " You're a project" that's the absolute real deal Truth. You use self reflection to teach and better others. That's a special gift. Keep using your god given gifts .
Tony, you ain’t have to look dead in the camera when you said “YOU are a project.” 😂😂😂 We hear you bro! THANK YOU!
Yessah!! Very very well said
THANK YOU ❤
Great message today!
This is the wisdom we always wanted but never got! Truly, in TG’s words, “What daddy never told his little girl.”
I appreciate this content💪🏾 praying it fall on good ground. The examples were spot on, working In HR at a time in my life I can tell you for sure a company will do just as you said "Corporate America" for you.
I pray the blind stop leading the blind, and individuals get so sick and tired of their decision making that they "Choose" life(Christ) and life(Choices) more abundantly. God Bless All🙏🏽
Great job Tony! Love the real-life examples between your wife and yourself. So helpful and insightful.
Clarity is priceless message received
Good word TOny these are true words!
Hello Dr. Tony, Thank you so much for your wisdom. I've been watching your videos for a couple of years now. I had been in a toxic situation with someone that I was head over heels with. This morning after a lot of prayer and much deep thought, I put myself in the transfer portal in hopes that one of God's Recruiters Discover me. Praise God for the strength and wisdom to bow out gracefully.