Preach!!!….i left my ex-husband bc I was miserable. I wanted for NOTHING, but his arrogance and narcissistic attitude was not worth it!! I left and had more peace the first night I left. I slept on the floor of a one bedroom apartment and it was the best sleep I had in years.❤
Forgive me for laughing but the first sentence you wrote was hilarious lol. I can tell you couldn't WAIT to get away from his behind lol. I'm glad you got out of that. You deserve better.
👏👏👏 Like Tony says emotional security over financial security. It’s frustrating how the high earning men claim they want a “good” woman, but it seems like they really don’t. Seems as though they want a doormat that they can treat however they please. Why…because they make money??
@missybelle4644 i was with a broke man 18 years, he worked wasn't consistent tho always those temp jobs for electrical and i think he was lying i feel like he was doing something on those jobs and they didn't want to hire him on so i don't know but it was chump change what he was able to give me after everything was taken out so I carried everything basically smh until i got tired...he wanted the same thing tho, they all want the same thing respect and they don't give it when it's the woman doing it because it goes against the order🤦🏽♀️smh... it's just something wrong with men nowadays I don't know the devil got a hold to em...i just want to be single... God gonna have to put a halo around the man and he gonna have to be falling from the sky with prayer hands 🙏🏽 for me to try again...im good 😂 did u get the visual tho bahahahaha 🤣 cracks me up!
A man with CHARACTER is (1) Ambitious (2) God Fearing (Submissive to God’s Word) (Understands life is bigger than him) (3) Emotionally Intelligent (4) He has a Growth Mindset (He wants to get better) (5) He will not yell at you (6) He will not curse at you (7) He will not call you out of your name (8) He will not cheat on you (9) He will not abuse you (10) He will not lie to you (11) He will not deceive you (12) He will not mislead you (13) He will not control you (14) He will not dominate, dictate or domineer
You are correct. Just like men shouldn't expect a woman to be working, doing all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. Women shouldn't be expecting to contribute nothing or bare minimum. Teamwork is the best way to go!
I used the second quote for my students last month; Mr. Gaskins has a longer quote with this in it. I help men in a correctional facility obtain their GED. They thought 😮I was mocking them. 🤦🏽♀️
@@ericawhitfield7876 🙏🏾. I know what you mean, I have observed women have one word for men who don't listen, follow through, and apply that which can change and save their own life and that is: "men". 🙏🏾 Keep your sanity, trust God for knowledge, wisdom, and understanding for your success and theirs. Trust me, I have always done my best to work hard and apply myself and take the success clues people leave for me. For example, I took the advice of people like Andy Henriquez, Tony Gaskins, Les Brown, Terri Savelle Foy and at least write blogs, self published one book, post monetizable content on CZcams/Instagram/Facebook/TikTok, create products 👕 🍵 on Zazzle - stuff you can't be fired from. Meanwhile, I have cousins and friends who can dance, sing, joke, do sports analysis and won't create the content - they're so good that they would be financially free - but they're too busy shying away, being skeptical, and caring that a future job wouldn't hire them.
Chasing money in men actually ends up putting women last. I used to chase money primarily out of fear of recreating my upbringing. I ended up in a situationship with a man with money, but who was comfortable lying to me and crossing my boundaries. It’s good to desire to life comfortably with your husband, but your character as a woman should be one of warmth, growth and not entitlement. Yes, he can take care of you, but making him feel like it is a choice for him and not something forced upon him is important too. I was forcing him to spend on me to make me feel secure, little did I know that if he genuinely liked me in the first place, he would have done it on his own, and would have advocated more for me being my own boss. A successful relationship cannot be built on money only. Thanks for this video Tony
Broke in spirit is way worse to deal with in a long-term commitment. If you, instead, get with a hardworking man with character, the money will go up. I've experienced it.
Tony Gaskins is a rare voice of wisdom in today’s society. If you truly pay attention to his teachings you will get the message that will truly transform how you live and view life and love. I have so much respect for this man !! may God bless you, Mr. Gaskins
I agree character is more important than money…but why are black women the only ones constantly told we have to take care of ourselves 1st to prove we deserve a provider.
I feel like self-love should be a top priority outside of GOD. Overall health is vital. Although black first. I know tony doesn't single black women out. He speaks in regard to ALL WOMEN. He may bring up scenario as you may already know. This seems more in regard to society standards/trends/pandering. That has been a narrative in our culture and towards our culture for years. But the masses arent conforming in order to change that narrative. We are our own worst enemies and still the most hated by many.
Your problem is you believe what you said. ALL races of women wk before a man comes along. The only difference is other races of women build with the men their with. While you complain about doing that very thing.
Any woman should be able to take care of herself because a man can divorce you, desert you or die on you. If he’s sick, are you going to starve? Worse, what about the children? Come on Sis!
White men are saying the same thing about their women. You need to search CZcams. This is an American issue. Where do you think the MGTOW movement originated? White men.
Its TRUE tho!!! I have a friend that looks absolutely cray. Dry skin all the time, hair hardly ever done(crunchy edges) but makes over 100k and says she can not date a man that makes less than 100k. Mind you she says no men approach her. Ok guryl lol keep waiting for the fairytale
I agree. It's not about 'deserve'. There's wonderful, deserving people who haven't been financially successful, but to have that expectation without working for it usually comes from the wrong place@@blacksongbird100
Hey Tony, you made some very valid points. The dating advice these days is for women to beautify themselves (focus on skin, fitness, beauty) so that men will want to provide for us and that includes a luxurious lifestyle to make women's life easier. That "building" together with men emasculates men or that any men who says they want to "build" with a woman is a feminine man. I have also heard many stories of women who have built together with men, struggled during their lows and worked through everything together only to have the man leave her for another woman ( younger, prettier... like an upgrade). That instilled alot of fear in women these days when it comes to wanting to "build" with men. I mean no malicious intent in my comment, but genuinely want to understand and learn to navigate in this complicated dating world. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you and God bless
That’s when a man’s character comes in to play. It should come before anything else. Who is he when no one is watching? Fear can cause us to make decisions that hinder us. In college I had a mentor tell me fear was False Evidence Appearing Real Fear of a man leaving can’t be the reason for not getting into a relationship. I understand what you’re saying too. ❤ It’s important to involve God in everything we do.
@@taylorspastpresent1014 I appreciate your reply. I do agree that the man's character will come to play but I think a person's character when they are still building vs. when they finally are successful is not something we can easily judge until the time has come. I thought I should add to the original comment that what I meant by this line, "that instilled alot of fear in women these days when it comes to wanting to "build" with men," is that because of this fear, more women then chooses to seek out men who are already able to fully provide or are already successful (without having women to build together with them). So it's not that the fear causes women to not get into relationships, but that this fear causes women to then seek men who are already successful and do not require women to build along with them.
There is a lot of misinformation out there.. Evaluate his character and values first, then money. Ask yourself, is he a genuinely good person who treats people well and is working hard to improve himself? Also reevaluate what you want. Are you seeking a “luxurious lifestyle” because it’s trendy or because it’s what you actually want? I understand not wanting to be poor and struggle but you can live a great , comfortable life without luxury.
This is probably my favorite video of yours… our minds have been so warped by social media .. a real man of character is priceless! Invaluable! And women miss that mark daily …
The man didn’t always have money.. and if he did, you don’t know what she puts up with behind closed doors. It’s women ready to end it all but showing the world a smile.
I have never desired a man to take care of me, but I desire a man that knows his role in a relationship. I believe in working and having my own money. I have witnessed where the man was the bread winner and that woman got dogged out, disrespect, cheated on and beat up. She ended up divorcing her husband yes she got alimony, but it wasn't enough to sustain her lifestyle. So as a 55 year old single mother of 2 adult children and 1 grand daughter I learn to hold my own. And, if a good man comes in my life and help me, I would consider that to be a bonus. One the other hand if he walks out and leave me, I promise anyone I WILL BE OK.
Exactly! I agree. I'm a Mexican-American 51 year old single, childless woman. Growing up and to this day, I have never desired a man to provide for me either. I can't even fathom that. I love holding my own and having my own. However, if a man comes along and wants to sit me down, I will count it a blessing. 😂
I always look at a person character because that is very important in a relationship. A person character speaks volumes. Tony you is on point with this one.
I agree with most of what you are saying Tony. Thank you for sharing truths. However, the only thing I want to caveat is that some women just don't want to build with a man/build him up when they are themselves already very successful because of childhood trauma. They may have grown up in a single-parent household where their father was not only absent but did not financially contribute. So, to them building with a man may be a scary idea, as there is a possibility that they may switch up on the woman even though the woman has stuck by them when they were low/ in the trenches and helped them build. I have seen this happen first-hand. Yes, I know a lot of people will say it is not a guarantee a man will do this and it is true, I believe God has better in store for me and my life. But it is absolutely worth mentioning that underneath SOME of these women's 'demands' on a man (when they are well established themselves) is just them trying to protect themselves - that is it!. They may want to trust but are just apprehensive about it, that's all. I am a 30 year old virgin & sometimes I wonder if after all the trauma I have experienced I be able to give it to my husband. - Anyway, I believe God is a healer and a restorer of all wounds!
@@m3g0miaincorrect, some things need to be worked through within marriage. It is very stupid to walk around and thinking a man/woman can be trusted so let me build them up financially if they are not there yet. In the Bible it actually calls us to LOVE people but NOT trust them. - psalm 118:8 - Micah 7:5-6 - Isaiah 2:22 . Pick up your Bible and read it. Trust is built over time, it is not to be given straightaway, and even then a true character of a person may not be known - only sensible people recognise and understand that.
Honestly, some women feel like this about men & money because of men's shady character. Women now feel like hey, if he's going to cheat, use, abuse, & mistreat me, I at least need to be living comfortably. Most men aren't like you, Tony.
Because they are masculine women. Masculine women attract softer men. Just like a masculine man attracts more softer women. Its just mother nature working.
Great points! I couldn’t imagine having a husband and not seeing him daily. I hope most men/women develop this same mindset and become realistic for once in love & relationship.
Tony I look forward to building with a man. But realistically I know so many black woman that elevated a black man, helped his Buissness , gave him ideas, did so much just to get left or cheated on. Black men have because very treacherous to the point it’s getting dangerous. You have to know who you can build with and don’t do anything too soon. I would love a teaching on WHEN to start helping a man build.
I think we as people are underestimating the dating phase. This is why we have to TAKE OUR TIME to get to know a person. We cannot lead with one single trait and use that one thing as to why we are deserving to be with someone. We aren’t entitled to people and have to stop dating with an entitled spirit. A lot of people simply want to show up with their lead character but don’t want to contribute any actual value to the other person. I think men and women are a lot more alike than we are different. We all want to be seen, loved, respected, and valued. Character and humanity are not gender specific. Thank you Tony for all you do! 🖤🤎
Brother Tony, you are making this so plain and easy to digest for us grown mature women of character & love. Thank You. Appreciate you for this message.
My dear Tony “Religione”.. “Money doesn’t matter it’s their character.” A rational “Thinker” has a remarkable “Character.” It’s within the heart that matters…Love life with honesty and delight!! 💯🎉😊👍🏽🤗
Thank you Mr Gaskins your advice has literally changed my entire life & I believe God is working on my fiance too! God bless you & keep the videos coming!!!!
I glance every so many months at your messages, I'm married and toss my husband out without blinking. He's chasing, improving and praying to Jesus like crazy. I wasn't easy when he mat me, so what was he thinking after-the-facts. You are so correct it's scary. U got to keep those legs locked 🔒....lock legs, less drama. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.💯....I don't care how fine a brotha is, because he's fine don't mean he's KIND.
@@kimberlyturner820yes.... We basically grown up together. Married young and he was rape by a jezebel at 13 years old and she followed through -out our marriage. God directs me to him to get out the grips of her evil grasp. He better now, but it was hard work and affected our marriage greatly. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. He's was a lot younger than. Sometimes it's the things they entertain before you. I hope that answers your question. 🫂 Praying for our Men. He still is my best friend only, but I won't sleep with him. Allowing God to direct even now.
Thank you, thank you and thank you for ALL the lessons you share with us. And you know what, all or most of these stories are in the Bible. We are all made with a Brain that Reasons and Calculates. We have eyes to see and ears to hear!
I enjoyed this message as always…I really do think the Key is to look for good solid character vs money in a man…Men with poor character have boatloads of money too but abysmal crappy characters and the women that seek men of certain means end up with guys like them and they treat them exactly like Tony said…property and transactional …that’s miserable….
I appreciate you spitting all the FACTS Tony but your wasting your breath with these very woman who cares less about character! They value money over it and we see it each and every day!! I’m just happy I care less about money and more about character!! Gods Will I be blessed with a man who has character, compassion and who loves God as I do. 🙏🏽💯💯
Thank you so much for bringing correction cuz these women want the man to bring all this to the table and they can't afford have that crap their self preach teach and tell'em
I just wonder if they know being “sat down” with children and taking care of a man is ALSO a full time job that not everyone is cut out for? Let me tell you, as a mother, I know for a fact I wouldn’t wanna stay at home all day with no kids 🥴 Saying that to say, sometimes the life that you think you want is actually the life you’d least enjoy.
I hear you tony however if women working too ,it does seem like women doing 4 jobs( financial, childcare,house care and support her men)while men doing one(financial) on average. Involved father and men doing doing housework(without being ask) is NEW therefore its not average. However there been massive increase women(in the west) financial aslo provide in the household ( some not by choice as cost super expensive). So thats why many women of today (more educated, more independent, have more rights etc)are not satisfied in reduceing his burden while he doesnt even try to reduce hers.
It says in the Word the wife is to be the husband helpmeet. If the husband is doing his work, it gives the wife to do her part. Lastly, we also have to understand there is a difference between character and personality.
Tony is so right my MedTech job just had a merger. New CEO for a month and he got Terminated the day before Thanksgiving and I'm a little person but still have my job. Character is key this will give you insight on to a good man. Character in yourself and children if you have any. Also if your children Character speaks for it self men will see that as well. It gives representation on who the PARENTS are! Blessings
Many well-off, rich men have periods/years of decline in their lives. Their wealth over their lifetimes can look a bit like a wave formation, similar to markets. I guess the best woman is one that will be by their side through the good and bad times, to the end.
It don't matter if he a earner or broke they both expect the same thing from a woman...character and his morals and God are the only thing gonna set him apart...that broke dude still gonna want to be in control 😂 and u gonna be like shut up 🙄 I pay for both of us dummy 🤣 don't do this ladies 🙏🏽 just be single and wait but don't sit around waiting go on about your life still u know what im saying?
I learned this the hard way. The money will come, my ex made 30,000 when we met and 80,000 4 years later and continued to increase. The lesson is to have that mindset of partnership and helping to build and not have your hand out. If you don’t get it, you’ll feel it. Thanks for the videos, painful truths for sure.
Do you think these dynamics are different for a woman who has her own money wanting a man with just as much or more than she has? Meaning she is self-sufficient and can fund the lifestyle she desires.
I think they are. We women should have our own money, bottom line. A man that doesn't want his woman to work sees her as a threat because she doing what she suppose to do. MEN will tell you that they want to take care of you not knowing you will end up having to quit your job because of his insecurities, get treated cause he's the man now and basically dance to his music. You will be broke but he won't. He'll be out and about like you use to, but you won't. Everything you did for yourself has ended because he lied. He don't give a damn about your feelings or nothing else you got going on cause you're on his time now. His character is what you are left to deal with and he'll say of that's too damn bad.
@@inettawalker9387not all men. In many cases, this is true. But there are plenty of homemaker who are living peaceful, healthy, loved, happy and are successfully unemployed without power struggles and financial abuse.
No I don’t think it’s any different. IMO women who want marriage and a family want to work less at some point. And in order for her to be able to do that and be comfortable, she will need a husband with character and the traits that drive him to make more. So its cool that y’all make the same and you don’t need his help per say but in marriage that’s gonna change and both people need to be able to know how to move if money gets funny. Just my thought
That’s true I want more time then money more of a family man long as he jus not sittn on the couch comfortably while I’m busting my but workn I’ll be there and I’m stick beside him if he wants to move up n company or make his own business as I’m looking to make my own business for something I love as well
I agree with what you’re saying but I also know this goes for men as well who are involved with women who are making more money than them. And to get cursed or called out of your name in either instance should never be accepted just because you don’t agree with the other person’s opinion. If the requirement someone has is not equivalent to the relationship that is best for you, then walk away.
Preach!!!….i left my ex-husband bc I was miserable.
I wanted for NOTHING, but his arrogance and narcissistic attitude was not worth it!!
I left and had more peace the first night I left. I slept on the floor of a one bedroom apartment and it was the best sleep I had in years.❤
Good for you! And I pray Abundance for you as you move forward in peace.
Forgive me for laughing but the first sentence you wrote was hilarious lol. I can tell you couldn't WAIT to get away from his behind lol. I'm glad you got out of that. You deserve better.
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Like Tony says emotional security over financial security. It’s frustrating how the high earning men claim they want a “good” woman, but it seems like they really don’t. Seems as though they want a doormat that they can treat however they please. Why…because they make money??
this is beautiful thank you
@missybelle4644 i was with a broke man 18 years, he worked wasn't consistent tho always those temp jobs for electrical and i think he was lying i feel like he was doing something on those jobs and they didn't want to hire him on so i don't know but it was chump change what he was able to give me after everything was taken out so I carried everything basically smh until i got tired...he wanted the same thing tho, they all want the same thing respect and they don't give it when it's the woman doing it because it goes against the order🤦🏽♀️smh... it's just something wrong with men nowadays I don't know the devil got a hold to em...i just want to be single... God gonna have to put a halo around the man and he gonna have to be falling from the sky with prayer hands 🙏🏽 for me to try again...im good 😂 did u get the visual tho bahahahaha 🤣 cracks me up!
A man with CHARACTER is
(1) Ambitious
(2) God Fearing (Submissive to God’s Word) (Understands life is bigger than him)
(3) Emotionally Intelligent
(4) He has a Growth Mindset (He wants to get better)
(5) He will not yell at you
(6) He will not curse at you
(7) He will not call you out of your name
(8) He will not cheat on you
(9) He will not abuse you
(10) He will not lie to you
(11) He will not deceive you
(12) He will not mislead you
(13) He will not control you
(14) He will not dominate, dictate or domineer
You are correct. Just like men shouldn't expect a woman to be working, doing all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. Women shouldn't be expecting to contribute nothing or bare minimum. Teamwork is the best way to go!
" no man's financial level stays the same forever". - TG
"Let his character be his currency". - TG
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I used the second quote for my students last month; Mr. Gaskins has a longer quote with this in it. I help men in a correctional facility obtain their GED. They thought 😮I was mocking them. 🤦🏽♀️
@@ericawhitfield7876 🙏🏾. I know what you mean, I have observed women have one word for men who don't listen, follow through, and apply that which can change and save their own life and that is: "men". 🙏🏾 Keep your sanity, trust God for knowledge, wisdom, and understanding for your success and theirs.
Trust me, I have always done my best to work hard and apply myself and take the success clues people leave for me. For example, I took the advice of people like Andy Henriquez, Tony Gaskins, Les Brown, Terri Savelle Foy and at least write blogs, self published one book, post monetizable content on CZcams/Instagram/Facebook/TikTok, create products 👕 🍵 on Zazzle - stuff you can't be fired from. Meanwhile, I have cousins and friends who can dance, sing, joke, do sports analysis and won't create the content - they're so good that they would be financially free - but they're too busy shying away, being skeptical, and caring that a future job wouldn't hire them.
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My Mentor in college once told me, “your income will one day match your character” 🌸
I know I'm leaving here with something when Tony on the line 😅😅
Yes!
Chasing money in men actually ends up putting women last. I used to chase money primarily out of fear of recreating my upbringing. I ended up in a situationship with a man with money, but who was comfortable lying to me and crossing my boundaries. It’s good to desire to life comfortably with your husband, but your character as a woman should be one of warmth, growth and not entitlement. Yes, he can take care of you, but making him feel like it is a choice for him and not something forced upon him is important too. I was forcing him to spend on me to make me feel secure, little did I know that if he genuinely liked me in the first place, he would have done it on his own, and would have advocated more for me being my own boss. A successful relationship cannot be built on money only. Thanks for this video Tony
Broke in spirit is way worse to deal with in a long-term commitment. If you, instead, get with a hardworking man with character, the money will go up. I've experienced it.
I love this: “Character brings favor.” I need this quote on something in my office. Thank you Tony. 👏🏾
Tony Gaskins is a rare voice of wisdom in today’s society. If you truly pay attention to his teachings you will get the message that will truly transform how you live and view life and love. I have so much respect for this man !!
may God bless you, Mr. Gaskins
I agree character is more important than money…but why are black women the only ones constantly told we have to take care of ourselves 1st to prove we deserve a provider.
I feel like self-love should be a top priority outside of GOD. Overall health is vital. Although black first. I know tony doesn't single black women out. He speaks in regard to ALL WOMEN. He may bring up scenario as you may already know. This seems more in regard to society standards/trends/pandering. That has been a narrative in our culture and towards our culture for years. But the masses arent conforming in order to change that narrative. We are our own worst enemies and still the most hated by many.
Your problem is you believe what you said. ALL races of women wk before a man comes along. The only difference is other races of women build with the men their with. While you complain about doing that very thing.
Any woman should be able to take care of herself because a man can divorce you, desert you or die on you. If he’s sick, are you going to starve? Worse, what about the children? Come on Sis!
White men are saying the same thing about their women. You need to search CZcams. This is an American issue. Where do you think the MGTOW movement originated? White men.
Nah….us white women get that message too.
“How about your edges?” I almost dropped my phone 😂😂😂. I enjoyed this video so much. TY for offering this much needed perspective.
😂 grl I was on the floor...cuz mine sho snatched...
@@beefaye6861 😂
Ikr I laughed so hard myself when he said that lol 😂😂
Its TRUE tho!!!
I have a friend that looks absolutely cray. Dry skin all the time, hair hardly ever done(crunchy edges) but makes over 100k and says she can not date a man that makes less than 100k.
Mind you she says no men approach her. Ok guryl lol keep waiting for the fairytale
PREACH LOUDER!!!! Delusional!!! Some women must understand that the life you want is different from the life you deserve. FOR YOURSELF 💯❤️
It's not so much about the life you deserve as much as you prolly ain't earned it. It's delusional to think you can get what you haven't earned.
I agree. It's not about 'deserve'. There's wonderful, deserving people who haven't been financially successful, but to have that expectation without working for it usually comes from the wrong place@@blacksongbird100
These men have no character and no money 😅
😂😂😂😂girl. Dats a whole other conversation. Out here is rough
honestly money is not the problem it’s the character 😅
Men with receding hairlines...E.D and a gut...always judge women the hardest....lol
Crazy that this needs to be explained. Tony has soooooooo much patience.
Exactly
Hey Tony, you made some very valid points. The dating advice these days is for women to beautify themselves (focus on skin, fitness, beauty) so that men will want to provide for us and that includes a luxurious lifestyle to make women's life easier. That "building" together with men emasculates men or that any men who says they want to "build" with a woman is a feminine man.
I have also heard many stories of women who have built together with men, struggled during their lows and worked through everything together only to have the man leave her for another woman ( younger, prettier... like an upgrade). That instilled alot of fear in women these days when it comes to wanting to "build" with men. I mean no malicious intent in my comment, but genuinely want to understand and learn to navigate in this complicated dating world. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you and God bless
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This!💯
That’s when a man’s character comes in to play. It should come before anything else. Who is he when no one is watching?
Fear can cause us to make decisions that hinder us. In college I had a mentor tell me fear was
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Fear of a man leaving can’t be the reason for not getting into a relationship. I understand what you’re saying too. ❤
It’s important to involve God in everything we do.
@@taylorspastpresent1014 I appreciate your reply. I do agree that the man's character will come to play but I think a person's character when they are still building vs. when they finally are successful is not something we can easily judge until the time has come.
I thought I should add to the original comment that what I meant by this line, "that instilled alot of fear in women these days when it comes to wanting to "build" with men," is that because of this fear, more women then chooses to seek out men who are already able to fully provide or are already successful (without having women to build together with them). So it's not that the fear causes women to not get into relationships, but that this fear causes women to then seek men who are already successful and do not require women to build along with them.
There is a lot of misinformation out there.. Evaluate his character and values first, then money. Ask yourself, is he a genuinely good person who treats people well and is working hard to improve himself? Also reevaluate what you want. Are you seeking a “luxurious lifestyle” because it’s trendy or because it’s what you actually want? I understand not wanting to be poor and struggle but you can live a great , comfortable life without luxury.
This is probably my favorite video of yours… our minds have been so warped by social media .. a real man of character is priceless! Invaluable! And women miss that mark daily …
Not every person understands these conversations is definitely not for the ignorant.. great content 🙏🏾
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You’re absolutely correct!!! 👍🏽
I love you Tony, but why must we compromise when I know so many women who have character AND money!?!?!
Because some men with money let’s it goes to their head
The man didn’t always have money.. and if he did, you don’t know what she puts up with behind closed doors. It’s women ready to end it all but showing the world a smile.
TG is so blunt and I love it. He don’t sugar coat anything!
I have never desired a man to take care of me, but I desire a man that knows his role in a relationship. I believe in working and having my own money. I have witnessed where the man was the bread winner and that woman got dogged out, disrespect, cheated on and beat up. She ended up divorcing her husband yes she got alimony, but it wasn't enough to sustain her lifestyle. So as a 55 year old single mother of 2 adult children and 1 grand daughter I learn to hold my own. And, if a good man comes in my life and help me, I would consider that to be a bonus. One the other hand if he walks out and leave me, I promise anyone I WILL BE OK.
Exactly! I agree. I'm a Mexican-American 51 year old single, childless woman. Growing up and to this day, I have never desired a man to provide for me either. I can't even fathom that. I love holding my own and having my own. However, if a man comes along and wants to sit me down, I will count it a blessing. 😂
Im praying that God will pour out a blessing on the Gaskins family, that they will have to make more room to receive it!!!
I always look at a person character because that is very important in a relationship. A person character speaks volumes. Tony you is on point with this one.
I agree with most of what you are saying Tony. Thank you for sharing truths. However, the only thing I want to caveat is that some women just don't want to build with a man/build him up when they are themselves already very successful because of childhood trauma. They may have grown up in a single-parent household where their father was not only absent but did not financially contribute. So, to them building with a man may be a scary idea, as there is a possibility that they may switch up on the woman even though the woman has stuck by them when they were low/ in the trenches and helped them build. I have seen this happen first-hand.
Yes, I know a lot of people will say it is not a guarantee a man will do this and it is true, I believe God has better in store for me and my life. But it is absolutely worth mentioning that underneath SOME of these women's 'demands' on a man (when they are well established themselves) is just them trying to protect themselves - that is it!. They may want to trust but are just apprehensive about it, that's all. I am a 30 year old virgin & sometimes I wonder if after all the trauma I have experienced I be able to give it to my husband. - Anyway, I believe God is a healer and a restorer of all wounds!
If they are still suffering from childhood trauma, they should be healing, not looking for any man.
@@m3g0miaincorrect, some things need to be worked through within marriage. It is very stupid to walk around and thinking a man/woman can be trusted so let me build them up financially if they are not there yet. In the Bible it actually calls us to LOVE people but NOT trust them. - psalm 118:8 - Micah 7:5-6 - Isaiah 2:22 . Pick up your Bible and read it. Trust is built over time, it is not to be given straightaway, and even then a true character of a person may not be known - only sensible people recognise and understand that.
Honestly, some women feel like this about men & money because of men's shady character. Women now feel like hey, if he's going to cheat, use, abuse, & mistreat me, I at least need to be living comfortably. Most men aren't like you, Tony.
Tony’s videos have been on 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. On point on point on point!!!!!! Can’t get enough, keep them coming pleaseeeee
Building with a man is risky. Once they level up they will go get what they really want.
Very true
marriage is risky. life is a risk. put up or shut up.
@@sbrooks904 yup a risk I'm not willing to take at my big age with a grown man. Been there. I'm good😊
Plenty of men try to marry women who have money, because they want a certain life style!
Because they are masculine women. Masculine women attract softer men. Just like a masculine man attracts more softer women. Its just mother nature working.
@@Alpha_apex , because they are feminine men! Did you read the comment!
@@theresaevans4517 it seems u didnt read mine. Go back and read
Thanks for this message Tony, there's so many young and beautiful women with this mindset that needs to hear this.
Excellent video. Many of the women that strictly looking for men with lots of money have never had lots of money themselves.
I love how your eyes light up and the smile creeps in when he sees his wife. That is so priceless. That is so amazing.
Speak Tony! Thank you for keeping us on our toes.
Thank you for your wisdom! This is what women need to hear bc most of us don’t even understand what we asking for
Amen Tony I just shared this video with someone who needs it
Great points! I couldn’t imagine having a husband and not seeing him daily. I hope most men/women develop this same mindset and become realistic for once in love & relationship.
Appreciate this message! GOD BLESS !
Tony I look forward to building with a man. But realistically I know so many black woman that elevated a black man, helped his Buissness , gave him ideas, did so much just to get left or cheated on. Black men have because very treacherous to the point it’s getting dangerous. You have to know who you can build with and don’t do anything too soon. I would love a teaching on WHEN to start helping a man build.
Tony, thank you for breaking it down even further. I understand this and agree.
I think we as people are underestimating the dating phase. This is why we have to TAKE OUR TIME to get to know a person.
We cannot lead with one single trait and use that one thing as to why we are deserving to be with someone.
We aren’t entitled to people and have to stop dating with an entitled spirit. A lot of people simply want to show up with their lead character but don’t want to contribute any actual value to the other person.
I think men and women are a lot more alike than we are different. We all want to be seen, loved, respected, and valued. Character and humanity are not gender specific.
Thank you Tony for all you do! 🖤🤎
I agree with this!
Well stated !
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You better make it plain!!! If you want a certain lifestyle; then you should create it 💯.
Brother Tony, you are making this so plain and easy to digest for us grown mature women of character & love.
Thank You. Appreciate you for this message.
My dear Tony “Religione”.. “Money doesn’t matter it’s their character.” A rational “Thinker” has a remarkable “Character.” It’s within the heart that matters…Love life with honesty and delight!! 💯🎉😊👍🏽🤗
Thank you Mr Gaskins your advice has literally changed my entire life & I believe God is working on my fiance too! God bless you & keep the videos coming!!!!
That’s it! You be teaching! Holy Spirit, speak! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I glance every so many months at your messages, I'm married and toss my husband out without blinking. He's chasing, improving and praying to Jesus like crazy. I wasn't easy when he mat me, so what was he thinking after-the-facts. You are so correct it's scary. U got to keep those legs locked 🔒....lock legs, less drama. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.💯....I don't care how fine a brotha is, because he's fine don't mean he's KIND.
Did y'all wait til marriage to experience your first sexual union?
@@kimberlyturner820yes.... We basically grown up together. Married young and he was rape by a jezebel at 13 years old and she followed through -out our marriage. God directs me to him to get out the grips of her evil grasp. He better now, but it was hard work and affected our marriage greatly. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. He's was a lot younger than. Sometimes it's the things they entertain before you. I hope that answers your question. 🫂 Praying for our Men. He still is my best friend only, but I won't sleep with him. Allowing God to direct even now.
Hey Tony. Thank you for clarity on what exactly a man of good character is. Another great video. 👍🏽 🙌🏽
P.S. Not the fupa & edges. 😂
If they didn't know now they know. This was a much needed message. I'm so glad I understand and know this.
Thanks Tony for your wisdom! ❤ with growth and time women will come to understand there’s nothing more valuable than character 💯
Thank you, thank you and thank you for ALL the lessons you share with us.
And you know what, all or most of these stories are in the Bible.
We are all made with a Brain that Reasons and Calculates. We have eyes to see and ears to hear!
Amen !!!! Sad you even have to explain this 🤦🏽♀️real women already know this
Almost broke my thumb clicking to watch this video 😂😂😂 LET ME KNOW TONY!!! 🗣️🤣
This was FANTASTIC. Thanks for sharing.
I enjoyed this message as always…I really do think the Key is to look for good solid character vs money in a man…Men with poor character have boatloads of money too but abysmal crappy characters and the women that seek men of certain means end up with guys like them and they treat them exactly like Tony said…property and transactional …that’s miserable….
Amen. Ive always told myself to not expect what I cant give myself or what I am not.
I appreciate you spitting all the FACTS Tony but your wasting your breath with these very woman who cares less about character! They value money over it and we see it each and every day!! I’m just happy I care less about money and more about character!! Gods Will I be blessed with a man who has character, compassion and who loves God as I do. 🙏🏽💯💯
I needed this message, just wrote something about love in my diary and your message resonates. Thank you Toni ✨
Keep writing and reading… Keep moving forward excellent one…
@@susanhenderson9739 thank you, I will, beautiful soul
This word is 🔥!! # facts Tony
Thank you so much for bringing correction cuz these women want the man to bring all this to the table and they can't afford have that crap their self preach teach and tell'em
Sir!!!! I dun Amened, got mad, & LMAO in this video!!!😜🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🧏🏽♀️Thank You kindly, for Your Sharing Your Knowledge….freely here🫡🎬
That's true Mr Gaskins 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🔥🔥🔥 Amen. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💯💯💯
I just wonder if they know being “sat down” with children and taking care of a man is ALSO a full time job that not everyone is cut out for? Let me tell you, as a mother, I know for a fact I wouldn’t wanna stay at home all day with no kids 🥴 Saying that to say, sometimes the life that you think you want is actually the life you’d least enjoy.
Very powerful brother ✊🏾
Well said... God fearing and good character will always be attractive
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. MONEY iSNT EVERYTHiNG.
Preach sir! Preach Tony 🗣️🙌🏾
This is a word today!
Thanks again Mr.Tony
I hear you tony however if women working too ,it does seem like women doing 4 jobs( financial, childcare,house care and support her men)while men doing one(financial) on average.
Involved father and men doing doing housework(without being ask) is NEW therefore its not average. However there been massive increase women(in the west) financial aslo provide in the household ( some not by choice as cost super expensive).
So thats why many women of today (more educated, more independent, have more rights etc)are not satisfied in reduceing his burden while he doesnt even try to reduce hers.
So true, I learned about losing lifestyles after getting a divorce. My whole world changed 😂😂
My lifestyle improved after I got a divorce!! I was in debt. I’m almost out of debt now. No, no children; I didn’t ask for alimony either. 😂
Thank you, Tony!!
Tonybis 100% correct. Caracter is so so important!!!
It says in the Word the wife is to be the husband helpmeet. If the husband is doing his work, it gives the wife to do her part.
Lastly, we also have to understand there is a difference between character and personality.
This is so true Tony!
When a man get up he gon leave you..
This was real talk💯
Absolutely true Tony !!!!!!!! Preaaaccchhhhh ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Forget these men..I want to make my own money..😉
On point, as usual!
Hopefully I’m married by 50, but I would not want to have that mindset about a man at 50, goodness
Tony is so right my MedTech job just had a merger. New CEO for a month and he got Terminated the day before Thanksgiving and I'm a little person but still have my job. Character is key this will give you insight on to a good man. Character in yourself and children if you have any. Also if your children Character speaks for it self men will see that as well. It gives representation on who the PARENTS are! Blessings
I so appreciate this talk
Straight up gems 💎 ✨️
Thankyou Tony.
OMG !!! You’re talking to me but yes I see your point … I don’t want to be sat down however … I appreciate your knowledge -
😂 I knew tony was gonna follow up.
Gonna be adding some clips into this for one my videos! Thanks for dropping gems 💎
Many well-off, rich men have periods/years of decline in their lives. Their wealth over their lifetimes can look a bit like a wave formation, similar to markets. I guess the best woman is one that will be by their side through the good and bad times, to the end.
Yess!! All of this!🙌🏽♥️🙏🏽
Thanks!
It don't matter if he a earner or broke they both expect the same thing from a woman...character and his morals and God are the only thing gonna set him apart...that broke dude still gonna want to be in control 😂 and u gonna be like shut up 🙄 I pay for both of us dummy 🤣 don't do this ladies 🙏🏽 just be single and wait but don't sit around waiting go on about your life still u know what im saying?
I learned this the hard way. The money will come, my ex made 30,000 when we met and 80,000 4 years later and continued to increase. The lesson is to have that mindset of partnership and helping to build and not have your hand out. If you don’t get it, you’ll feel it.
Thanks for the videos, painful truths for sure.
Thank you!
Thank you for posting ❤
Do you think these dynamics are different for a woman who has her own money wanting a man with just as much or more than she has? Meaning she is self-sufficient and can fund the lifestyle she desires.
I think they are. We women should have our own money, bottom line. A man that doesn't want his woman to work sees her as a threat because she doing what she suppose to do. MEN will tell you that they want to take care of you not knowing you will end up having to quit your job because of his insecurities, get treated cause he's the man now and basically dance to his music. You will be broke but he won't. He'll be out and about like you use to, but you won't. Everything you did for yourself has ended because he lied. He don't give a damn about your feelings or nothing else you got going on cause you're on his time now. His character is what you are left to deal with and he'll say of that's too damn bad.
@@inettawalker9387not all men. In many cases, this is true. But there are plenty of homemaker who are living peaceful, healthy, loved, happy and are successfully unemployed without power struggles and financial abuse.
@@m3g0mia I see. I think I want to be single for a while.
No I don’t think it’s any different. IMO women who want marriage and a family want to work less at some point. And in order for her to be able to do that and be comfortable, she will need a husband with character and the traits that drive him to make more. So its cool that y’all make the same and you don’t need his help per say but in marriage that’s gonna change and both people need to be able to know how to move if money gets funny. Just my thought
Well said great content.
That’s true I want more time then money more of a family man long as he jus not sittn on the couch comfortably while I’m busting my but workn I’ll be there and I’m stick beside him if he wants to move up n company or make his own business as I’m looking to make my own business for something I love as well
Yes & Amen!!!🙌🏾☺️
I agree with what you’re saying but I also know this goes for men as well who are involved with women who are making more money than them. And to get cursed or called out of your name in either instance should never be accepted just because you don’t agree with the other person’s opinion. If the requirement someone has is not equivalent to the relationship that is best for you, then walk away.