Yes, a certain male you tuber - KS, advises men to quickly get married. It is scary because most of men who support him are misogynists and hate women.
Facts. I just cut a dude off for this. I mean, we just met and he’s saying God told him we should get married. Trying to kiss and touch on the first date. Wanting to meet my kid. I dipped on him quick.
I’m not going to lie.. I always thought you were man bashing. As I watched your video today I started to cut it off. My relationship with my girl haven’t been the best at all.. A lot is because of my doing. We break up and make up. It has a lot to do with my ego. I felt as though, since I came from nothing to something. I can beat on my chest. But today I actually looked a little deeper. Truth be told I’m flawed! I have been in a few bad relationships, I grew up seeing a lot of bad stuff. Everything you said in this video was a eye opener. I have to check myself for real. I have to pray a little harder. I have to care a lot more. I’m going to do the work, so that way I can be ready for myself and my woman. I appreciate you for this video.. from this day forth I’m going to change for the better and embrace being a king.
Girls, let’s join together and say a little prayer thanking God for this mans wisdom. We are better, safer, Christ minded women because of this channel. When I listen to him I think of all of you and how happy it makes me knowing you are safer than yesterday. Sisters in Christ, I love you 🙏🏽 Stay safe & Stay strong
When you treat a woman like a Queen, almost every single woman on this earth will return that back to the man 150%.. that’s how women are. If only men truly understood that.
This is so true, as an empath I noticed I would attract guys who would open up to me, cry about their past and clearly was not fully healed. No matter how understanding I was and thought I could help “fix” this man. I finally realized it’s not my responsibility to fix a man. And as a woman I am not a mans rehabilitation center. Society has taught woman that we have to endure pain in order to receive a mans love. Such a lie from the pit of hell. The thing that will counteract these behaviors from men is having standards, setting boundaries and knowing what it is you will/will not tolerate!
Yep seen that happen many times and I’ve done that to in the past. Definitely does not make matters better. If two people need space for a while then they need space but if they don’t talk about the issue at hand and figure out how to compromise well then the relationship won’t work. Both men and woman can shut down.
Ladies please adhere to what Tony Gaskins is talking about. I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage. I saw the red flags of his anger when we were dating but ignored it because he wasn't projecting it towards me. But eventually he started to project it towards me. The last incident was my head being put in a wall. By the grace of God I didn't die. I am now divorced and free from violence. Blessings to you all.
I endured everything similar if not the SAME! I wasn’t married, however, we have a daughter together. And I decided to leave once my daughter was 4 months! I never looked back. She’s 2 now. I commend you for being so strong and divorcing for your own self love and safety! It was not easy for me to leave, but I did it. We did it! Blessing to you. ❤️
To be honest I am a man. And I did watch this video to the end. And I agree with what Mr. Gaskins is saying. All of it. This is the kind of message that should edify any man who WANTS to change. No if’s no buts nor any maybe’s. And he’s right that this ain’t gonna resonate with everybody as he said what written in Ephesians 5. Much respect and appreciation.
Thank you for your response. A majority of women comment on Tony's videos but I always try to find any comments I can that are from men. Your response holds a ton of weight and helps to confirm what is being said in this video.
No amount of love, sex, & sacrifices a woman makes can change a man (when he isn't willing). As a man, he has to discover that for himself. Love yourself enough to let him go. I know it hurts, but you can heal from a broken heart💔. If you lose yourself, you may never come back from that. And if he kills you, it's OVER. This video has been invaluable.🙏🏽♥
Y’all make sure to check out that thread when did you realize he hated you.. These men are capable of being heartless to the ones they claim to love ..
These issues of the heart should be Addressed as such, because of the actions that are out here going on so , the actions are speaking loud! and it shows . also the third parties and the competitors or posing or bad distraction takes away from having a great Relationship, make the best of a great one when have that time keep a good Relationship.
@TobiFaluyi - so good to see more men coming here supporting our beloved Brother T❤️NY 🙏🏾💯🙏🏾 (there's an urgency our society need more men to truly start HEALING & lead righteously - at homes, in families, social spaces & at work places too)
I had a guy ask me once " If you called your dad would he come"? That was a odd question but for me it was very telling. I basically took that as if I did something to you would you have someone to call on. Some men are very calculating, don't worry though I have 16 reasons why I wouldn't need to call my dad.
oh yes! My mother says never let a man know if you don't have a great relationship with your father because they know that they can get away with mistreating you. My dad had a high speed chase with my sons father behind me. He plays no games
@@julianacheriza1575 @Juliana Cheriza HI Juliana! Well, I would say (if you are a christian) to ask the Lord in prayer to guide you on how to answer if you aren't sure about the guy at first. If he just wants to know if your dad is living you can say that he is alive and don't go into any other detail. If he keeps asking questions, you could say that your dad is a private person and you just don't discuss his personal life. But God will give you the best answer for the situation :))
Wow, all of this is so true. I was engaged to a man who: 1. Was constantly insecure and telling me that I was looking at other men. Or, that I must like other men sexually. All of which wasn’t the case, I was “in love”; I only wanted to be with him while we were together. 2. He had major anger issues. I frequently was cursed at for no reason. Just because he was having a bad day, or because I said something “stupid.” He and his sister didn’t get along. He would yell at her too. 3. He bragged about being from Chi-raq ( had a tattoo about it too). I later found out, he was from the suburbs of Chicago, and would lie to people to sound “hard.” 4. He had Daddy issues galore. Always said that his dad didn’t play with him when he was little. And that his dad was always disappointed in him. They even got into physical alterations. Tony is right. If you meet a man like this RUN.
Wasting your breath?! Tony you are literally saving someone's life with this message! And even besides that you are saving so many lives and hearts on a daily. Please do not give up on us because we need you and all of the wisdom and truth that God places upon your heart to share. God Bless you.
I’m only 20 years old and I am so grateful to have found this channel! It’s a blessing to acquire all this wisdom about men at such a young age!! Thank you Mr. Gaskins , your doing a great deed☺️
Listen ladies. The unaddressed trauma is REAL! don't entertain a broken man it will break you as you try to help him. This is the realest video I've seen. You see and approach dating and relationships in a whole new way.
I was interested in a guy recently that’s emotionally immature. Listening to these signs is eye opening! I’m glad he acted up early, cuz it could’ve gotten ugly. This is life saving stuff, ladies take heed 🙏🏾
Yes i went thru that recently too and he is very immature and not husband material- a grown boy who is marrying his fiancee - good luck to her- she doesn’t know what she’s getting
My husband was a heroin addict for 17 years until the day he gave his life to Jesus. He did a 💯 180. And he went on to become a Home director of a Christian rehab and dedicated his life to reaching out to men and women with vices, chemical addictions. I’ll never forget his God given wisdom that he would speak into my life daily. He told me once, “If I were to ever go back to heroin and I come knocking at the door, do not open it no matter what I say because that’s not me. Call the police.” He never went back to that life but those were gold nuggets he was giving me; insight of what man is capable of doing without God.
My son father was on cocaine and molly after we buried our first child …. I opened the door every time he knocked and every time I wished I had thought twice … this was the truest statement I’ve ever heard from a man …..
Just like mother’s will commit a crime against anyone who messes with their children , men are more than capable of committing a crime if you mess with his ego…
Yes Ladies that is very True. My Ex Narc broke my wind shield with his fists. Because he could not handle the truth about him self and tried to bully me to take him home.
Ladies please listen!! Everything he's saying is true. I left a 8 year relationship / marriage that was physically, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I was young and inexperienced, did not know the red flags.. I thought his trauma was cute.. I was his punching bag, I was the one who paid the price for everything he experienced. I survived, I made it out with not one scar but a powerful testimony. Whew this was heavy... but so needed. I really enjoy listening to you Tony. Thank you for all your insight and wisdom!
I experienced abuse too from narcissist. It is mentally exhausting and draining to be with someone who tells you what to do and treats you like a child and never does nothing for the relationship. And when he has money he goes spend it with other friends. They abused m emotionally and psychologically making me feel that something was wrong with me. That's what I call abuse. Ladies see the red flags please and get the hell out !!! Amen !!!!
@@bridgetteteapp thank you. It helps for learning. I remember it and bank it, and when it counts it's somewhere in my mental bank. Glad to drop a note for the greater good of those watching, if it helps them as well.
This is a very important lesson to teach women. I used to have 2 friends in my 20s whose men sent them to their eternal resting place. If they had fully understood WHO AND WHAT they were dealing with, they might still be here today. Another example of this, my son’s friend lost both parents to mur*** sui**** by the dad. It’s my understanding that the husband had a history of cheating, but when the wife finally decided to leave, the husband wouldn’t let it be. Teach on brother Tony! Teach on!
I called my ex narc out about him cheating while driving on the highway he started screaming at me and threatened to put me out. Our children were crying and upset so I shut my mouth. The ride was quiet going home. I could not keep quiet I wanted answers. I could not stand him being in my presence or the sound of his voice. My children started acting out and I had to stop the insanity. It took 10 months but, while he was at work I changed the locks and my cell phone#. It was the smartest and best thing I could do. Our lives have changed and we are happy now.
I moved in with a male buddy for 3 days ..which was yesterday , go figure ( I left the third day ) I bought groceries.. and I fixed some chicken tenders.. but I fixed 3 more than I could eat .. I leave them on the stove because I was told to ! I’m later called out of the room I was staying in and told to eat the food. Him : eat that food. Me: oh I’m full. Him: eat that food 😡. Me : I’m not going to eat that food ... and i threw it away. The look of satisfaction that came upon his face when I raised my voice was demonic 😖 But he was very serious! After returning from work the next day : I went straight to the room that I was staying in and began and finished getting all of my things out ! He talked smack “ I’ll never let a woman stay with me again “ . He later texted me “ you’ve got some growing up to do , we could’ve worked it out , when can we go out for coffee again “ I said “ never, your a misogynist pig “. Blocke.....d !
Just screen shotted ur post, I’m going to show it to my 15 yr old daughter. Men and women aren’t meant to be FRIENDS. don’t be fooled! Thanks for sharing. Take care
i’m 22 years old and this channel has changed my life in the matter of months! expanded my knowledge and broadened my understanding in the most positive ways❤️! Glory be to God he knew what i needed when i found this channel. thank you Tony!!!!!
An important lesson my mum taught me recently is when someone hurt you! You do not have to return the hurt back! A kind gesture to your oppressor is confusing but powerful! Ensures you retain your control over your enotions instead of letting them override you emotions and control you! Never feed the fire of hate or hurt!
Your not wasting your time or breathe. Im a 42 year old woman who has made so many mistakes in life with men. Your a life line for women like me. I’m a woman who has never had any real male guidance. Keep going, keep talking , and keep teaching. Believe me your saving lives. We woman have a tendency to get so desperate for a man so desperate that it clouds our better judgment. Its been my experience that men prey on women who does not have male figures in their lives. Tony , you have become that male figure in a lot of us women lives. God Bless and thank you 🙏🏾
I got to this point. This is one of the most powerful messages you have served. I watch your videos like everyday until the end. I got two of your books. The guy code, and how to make it work. I haven't finished yet, but I'm on it. You have opened my eyes up to a lot of things. I salute your messages brother gaskins. I'm trying to become a better man bro. Your messages keep me going.
I'm divorced this makes me want to stay single. This is why I stay close to God, the holy spirit will tell you about who you are dealing with. Not dealing with no foolishness, it's not worth it.
I am the same. My former husband put his hands around my neck and people couldn't believe it. Men are raised from birth by society to have the spirit of destruction. He didn't have major anger issues but he was insecure all through our relationship and marriage. I didn't understand because I am insecure myself but I work on it. I'm constantly doing things to work on my security, esteem and self-worth and self-confidence.
@@chickwitthagoodies the scary bit was that he went to church with me, had Christian pre-marrital counselling and was vetted by five priests from different churches and none of them told me to run. That's when I realised that churches have no idea how to handle abuse.
Yessss, very true omg. I dealt with a man with all four 🚩 (due to my own insecurities at the time) I loved him and ignored the red 🚩. He told me he would kill me a few times but I ignored it… he put his hands on me earlier this year and you would’ve thought he was fighting a man on the street. I was terrified!! I’m so glad God removed me from that toxic situation. Thank you for helping us, TG. You are God sent 🙏🏾
@@TonyGaskins God Bless, big brother TG 🙌! I appreciate what you do! Your work is a one of a kind and is needed. It's an honor to have this space to know what to do.
I’ve addressed a man or two for his insecurity before..just how you explained..and they always claim they’ll work on it. And they don’t repeat that exact behavior but because they don’t deeply understand what insecurity looks like, they eventually do a different insecure behavior. The root needs to be dug up and I’ve learned they can only do that alone with therapy..and that’s IF they desire it. Now my rule is to RUN at the first sight of insecurity. More power to those who can deal with it but it’s a hard pass for me. I’ve learned.
Some men are too egotistical and angry to change themselves! I notice there’s a lot of men that blame women (insecurities) and can only point the finger at us, too stuck to change alone. They out here hurting women. Tony, your not wasting your time…smart women are starting to see that what men are showing them is not healthy, it’s toxic! We have to heal us too. If you can’t hear…you will feel. Thank you for all your hard work 😓! I can see the frustration in you in some of your videos. God help us all🙏🏾and we have to help ourselves. Bless you and your beautiful family 🥰🤩
No indeed, your describing women. Women are always blaming men for their insecurities and pain, heres a good one, "He's a narcissist". Women never say how they started the abuse by putting their hands on a man first feeling that the man shouldn't respond back physically or how they curse and disrespect their man constantly
I remember when I used to lie to myself and think that a man could never be so selfish until I found your videos and it crushed my spirits a bit but then I had to ask myself why would I want to be with someone who didn’t want to see me happy. Thank you for your videos Tony if it wasn’t for you I would be lost
Thanks for calling out a certain popular CZcams host without saying the name. My ex used to love walking in the room watching his videos when he would make certain statements to make sure I heard it (comments suggesting I should be glad he's with me instead of the other way around). Needless to say, he's my ex for a reason.
@@Sarablueunicorn K.S. I would say the name if it were my post but I try to respect others posts. But if you Google "popular black male relationship podcast host" I'm sure he will come up
I had childhood friend in Mexico She got married, after yrs she separated from her husband He was abusing her Months went by He meet up with her Trying to get her back She did And wks later he killed her She had 2 children This happens 10 yrs ago She was 30 yrs old 😪 He runaway from the country It tooked couple yrs But finally the police caught him And he is life a prison
Maaaaaaannnn....everything Tony touched pertaining to sign # 3 happened to me!!!! My ex of 3 years masked his childhood trauma (abuse, neglect, rough neighborhood)and anger with YEARS of staying high. He called himself peaceful, calm, level-headed, and patient, and he was all of these things because he was always high! Well, he quit smoking marijuana 2 months ago so that he could level up when it came to his career and started drinking instead to "take the edge off". He had an angry outburst (not directed toward me) last Friday, then he became so enraged during a regular argument that he ran up on me with a gun the following day. I would have NEVER imagined that he would do something like that but looking back, he had/has soooooo many demons that he's trying to avoid by staying high, that once he was sober and those demons began to surface, I became collateral damage. Luckily, he caught himself before he raised his gun and pointed it at me, but ladies....your life is not worth the risk!
Watched this 5 times and sent it to the grown boy I had to cut off because of his anger issues. He courted me for a year, no sex, but it took that long to show his real colors. He follows the man who sits behind a desk, in the dark talking about Alpha males when he himself is a 3trash bag struggle bandit. Tony was so right too about what a year will show! No more dating a man's potential! Thanks TG
You hit the nail on the head. I have always believed that insecurity is at the root of misogyny. I am against and alarmed at the term "high value males and females" that has worked it's way into our society. A categorization that is based on material worth with no attention to character, and I actively campaign against this dangerous belief. Even more distressing is the amount of young people who are feeding into this. Thank you for speaking on this subject.
Tony Gaskins Ministry!! You have saved me from the dangers of low self esteem and from being a victim. A victim of what most men have mastered and most women are sucked in! I cannot tell you how many times your training comes to mind. I met a man and boom, "match a man, if he goes at 100% you go 80%, when he drops to 60% you drop to 40%." "If a man is interested, but you feel like something is off.. keep it moving." Thank you so much and your dear wife Sheri!! Love you guys! :)
I’m not finished watching the video, but I can’t do nothing but agree within the first 15 min. I tried watching that guy CZcams channel. I listened and I thought he made some valid points, but the more I listened I was like no… he’s basically teaching women that she’s need to put up with anything just to have a spouse. I just couldn’t continue to listen to him didn’t sit right in my spirit.
Yeah.. I’ve listened to that guy too. I’ve been listening to red pill content for the past 8 years or so just to get a male perspective on relationships.. I feel the same way you do.. a lot of it makes sense, but then there’s a very dark side too.. I was watching so much that it really did start to affect me negatively after all the work I had done on myself.. Thank God that I was strong enough to pull away from that material.. Stay in prayer 😊
Yes just like what the society is teaching, to not speak up and open your legs..and not ask for anything But dont put with anything..I dont .. If you speak up as a woman..men will ghost you..they ll sense your energy..today some man discussed a bit with me..for 2 seconds and left ..I did nothing just giving an opinion and being serious and knowledgeable..and maybe 'judgemental' having an opinion is the start of judging people.he was talking to an older woman who is nice but wouldn't have my opinion..she told me the man met a woman and after 2 weeks slept with her with no condom..ill never ever sleep with a man without a condom and without a marriage first..he sensed my energy..I told her I have no respect for such men..and she agreed but at first said she didnt like to judge people..So these men talk/go with women who have no opinion really..no standards etc
At the 56 mark he had me speaking in tongues. Totally in agreement. I was like women are putting in all this work to address our issues and trauma, we don't want to connect with a broken and/or toxic 45+ man.
I’m 15 minutes in & I have to leave a comment! I ended things with a guy I was dating. He was very insecure & it showed up weeks 4-8. Once he pointed out women that “looked” at him while we were out on a date saying “she wants me, she’s all in my face” & I said she isn’t paying you any mind (she wasn’t!) or when he would go out with his friends & we’d talk on the phone after he’d tell me all the ladies at the bar were trying to talk to him but he told them he has a lady (me 😳). I honestly didn’t believe him..I felt like he was trying to make me feel insecure but it just showed me how insecure he was. He didn’t like that it didn’t get a rise out of me. He also didn’t believe in the vaccine! Lol Tony is so right! Be smart & safe ladies. Your intuition will tell you all you need to know! My intuition had been telling me that I wasn’t safe with him & that coupled with the signs of his insecurity is what made me end things.
I've experienced dealing with a toxic man but thank God I walked away almost two years ago and have not looked back. Tony is absolutely 💯 on this topic. Preach Tony!
I know you only touched on 4, as you said this could be a week long series but for the people in the comments, if a man does something nice for you, or gives you money without you asking… then later brings it up as if to throw it in your face… red flag!
They are cowards. That dude (KS) reminds me of my youngest daughter’s father and that’s exactly why I went on about my business. I wish I would sit up there and tolerate that type of spirit. I’ll rather be single than to have a grown boy. This is why we need to stop being desperate because being desperate you will tolerate a man talking down to you, cus he has money smh when you don’t know who you are you accept anything just to go out to eat or him buying you a bag/ purse. Amen pay attention to his background Thanks Tony I wish I could get my baby sister to listen to your videos. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Priceless
Hands down...this is one of the most thought-provoking messages that I have heard in YEARS!!! From beginning to end he was right on point. It is impossible to listen to this with an open mind, and not be moved. At a minimum, it causes you to do some self-reflection.
I usually never comment but I’m literally left in tears because the mistakes I’ve made as a woman but thought I was being a good women and nothing in return but never had a man do anything like this for me all I ever hear is how women should look left feeling insecure about myself but I’m learning it’s not me it’s who I’m dating and giving my time to I just pray I find someone for me thank you so much for your videos
I wish Tony was my brother , or a father because I would definitely make better choices about men. He's a good men .I have learned alot and will continue to follow him on you tube.
I wish I could have received this wisdom when I was a young woman. I nearly loss my life because I didn't understand these things. Please share his message.
Tony as a mature woman who never understood men. You have helped me tremendously. I grew up in toxicity. I accepted it as the norm. The last relationship I was in could’ve cost me my life or life changing disability. You helped me to move on and out. My blessings have overtaken me. Thank you
The men who are the most capable of this, are the ones denying they could ever be that way- is the truth. It sent a chill down my spine. I just recently left an abusive marriage. He literally had split personalities, and is still portraying himself to be the most innocent, caring person to people when he was extremely hateful and abusive behind closed doors. Nothing scares me more than this… He threatened to baker act me and kill me and my children and we left with the clothes on our backs… I heard someone else say the parents who say they could never take their anger out on their children are exactly the type of parents who ARE doing that… so, so true!!
@@LA-wv7gf I have lots of texts and emails too. I’m hoping they will help me in court come December. I filed a restraining order against him the day after we left and he filed for divorce the next day saying I was suicidal and took off with the kids and requesting to have sole custody. Thankfully the restraining order was approved and he sees them every other weekend supervised. This is only temporary but I’ll be fighting to keep it this way, where as he wants 50/50 of course. And he’s telling everyone he just wants me to come home, yet he filed for divorce! He absolutely terrifies me.
These men out here wanna “woof woof” at a woman they meet expecting respect where they haven’t earned it. Yes, I am single and over 50. You will not walk into my space expecting me to submit to you because you are a man. You have to earn it just as I have to earn respect. It works both ways. I am not responsible for your past and you will not pass your shortcomings onto me. I have my own stuff to work on too. Why can’t we learn and grow together?
Tony been cuttin up in the best way with his vids 💖 I literally listened to your video to men and women about 10 times! I have NEVER done that. Your videos are God Blessed!
Men can be very dangerous. I never really thought about this because I was never a victim to a man’s ways. Maybe we need more women leading and making worldly decisions to balance the playing field. Ladies please be safe and listen to your intuition, and Tony! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Chris Watts stays in my memory. The man that killed his pregnant wife and 2 toddler daughters 3 years ago. Horrific.
@@Am-mm6iz what he did cannot be understood! Thats the devil for real. I know there are women too who snap and do things like that to their children, but its way more men. God bless you. Just pay attention and listen to your spirit. We shouldn’t have to live in fear. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@Shanice1 oh i saw it too. One of the things that was stated is that there were no signs of the wife fighting back because she thought he was going to stop choking her and let her go. She didn’t believe he would kill her. Ugh this is heartbreaking and scary as heck. We all need to be very very cautious. 🙏🏻
You can love a man like this but sometimes its not enough. We as women often make the mistake of thinking that we can change a man like this. Most men won't admit that they are broken cause they don't want to look and feel vulnerable.
I've been following you off and on for a while. I just wanted to say that I appreciate that you talk to men as well as women. I feel like a lot of these relationship "gurus" just capitalize on women's pain and loneliness and don't hold men accountable for anything. I appreciate you content.
Listen ladies, first of all stop being afraid to loose a man if you see red flags. Men come dime a dozen they need you. Be patient you will meet the one for you. You know what you want nothing wrong with being direct. Let that devil flee if you don't it will cost you in the long run.
This is so true, every single red flag is extremely dangerous. My ex-husband had all of them, i wish i knew about this earlier so i could avoid all the drama and pain i've been through. Thank you Tony!
It might be cute at the beginning when you start the relationship to be basically his therapist or counselor but then it becomes very tiresome and one can become resentful. Great video Tony.
If a man isn't thinking about Jesus and does not let the Holy Spirit operate in his life, RUN! (Don't even think about it) That is not negotiable. Either he is or he isn't.....That's the most important red flag to pay attention to. Only what you do for Christ will last. A man that cannot be led by God cannot lead you....You have to be careful because the enemy (Satan) is more covert and in these times people are only going to get worse. The love of many will wax cold. God intended for us (men and women) to have Him in order to understand each other and to make it work. But nowadays everyone is going their own way and doing their own thing and wondering why it's not working....because it was never intended to be done without God. The world is gradually pushing Him away... Haven't you noticed that the climate is getting hotter, nations against nations, earthquakes, volcanoes erupting, relationships falling apart, selfishness is at an all time high. I had a vision the other day. The Holy Spirit showed me back to back (Coming soon, Now, and Instant). It's time to get READY...JESUS is coming soon
EXACT-FRICKIN-LY! AINT NO BODY GOT TIME FOR THAT. WE DON'T WANT A FEW GOOD YEARS WE WANT THE REST OF OUR LIVES. EVERYTHING THE WORLD SAYS IS OK ISN'T. EVEN PEOPLE WHO AREN'T GOD FEARING STILL END UP PROVING THAT GOD'S WAY IS THE RIGHT WAY. WAIT. GROW WITH GOD AND DO YOU. LET HIM KNOW WHAT YOU DESIRE. HE PROMIS D TO DO ABOVE AND BEYOND ALL WE COULD EVER ASK OR THINK. HE IS NOT A MAN THAT HE SHOULD LIE ONCE AGAIN. AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT
@@heatsann4456 that's the thing. Religious. That doesn't mean anything. I don't even like the term Christianity. That's a Catholic term and I'm not bashing them but I'm the bible they were referred to as saints or followers of Christ. So many "christians"pick and choose what they want from the bible. They are hypocrites. Etc etc
After a busy week I finally was able to watch this video. I literally had tears falling from my eyes at the 1 hour mark. Thanks Tony for another God inspired message.
Good evening, Tony and everyone. This is not the first time that I am listening to this video. It's as if I never heard you say this. I am a 73 year old woman. When I read the young man's comment about how flawed he has come to realize he is, I cried. Why? For all thanks to you Tony, for keeping up the task of doing what you do. That is to change foolish minds of men for the betterment of mankind. Again, thank for being the man that you are and not only a great leader of your family but one who loves them unconditionally ❤️.
Thank you, Tony! Louisiana here ⚜ A woman lost her life this morning a block from me from domestic violence 💔 We need to recognize the signs early on 💯 God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤
Another red flag is a man that rushes the relationship. Getting serious too fast.
Gaslighting...he's insecure
Yes, a certain male you tuber - KS, advises men to quickly get married. It is scary because most of men who support him are misogynists and hate women.
@@Wonderwoman79G facts!! He vexes my spirit. He needs to sit down and address his trauma and his toxicity.
Facts. I just cut a dude off for this. I mean, we just met and he’s saying God told him we should get married. Trying to kiss and touch on the first date. Wanting to meet my kid. I dipped on him quick.
@@ameliabeneby2981 good for you sis
I’m not going to lie.. I always thought you were man bashing. As I watched your video today I started to cut it off. My relationship with my girl haven’t been the best at all.. A lot is because of my doing. We break up and make up. It has a lot to do with my ego. I felt as though, since I came from nothing to something. I can beat on my chest. But today I actually looked a little deeper. Truth be told I’m flawed! I have been in a few bad relationships, I grew up seeing a lot of bad stuff. Everything you said in this video was a eye opener. I have to check myself for real. I have to pray a little harder. I have to care a lot more. I’m going to do the work, so that way I can be ready for myself and my woman. I appreciate you for this video.. from this day forth I’m going to change for the better and embrace being a king.
awesome, takes and shows growth just to acknowledge that. now put into action and be the best you
Praise God for changing Amen
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾Beey well put Mr Gaskins. This was the Word broken down. Thank you for your work in making the families look like what God intended
Praise God!!!! This made my heart smile. You can do it King!
🙏🏻🙏🏻thank you. stay on this path and you will do great.
Girls, let’s join together and say a little prayer thanking God for this mans wisdom. We are better, safer, Christ minded women because of this channel. When I listen to him I think of all of you and how happy it makes me knowing you are safer than yesterday. Sisters in Christ, I love you 🙏🏽 Stay safe & Stay strong
Amen 🙏🏿
😭Girl who u tellin 😩👏need these messages so bad👏 earlier this yr and even more now
Amen sister!
Amen
No weapons used against us shall prosper 🙏🏻
When you treat a woman like a Queen, almost every single woman on this earth will return that back to the man 150%.. that’s how women are. If only men truly understood that.
Well of they don't who cares. Single is the way😎
Lol...where?
@@bigdreamer31WERE YOU PAYING ALL THE BILLS ?IF NOT MAYBE THAT’S WHY! WHY WERE YOU LIVING WITH SOMEONE WHO WASN’T YOUR WIFE?
"1. Insecurity 2. Anger Issues 3. Background 4. Control. " TG
Thank you.
Thank you for this summary..I always scroll down to look for it..🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
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Very helpful.
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This is so true, as an empath I noticed I would attract guys who would open up to me, cry about their past and clearly was not fully healed. No matter how understanding I was and thought I could help “fix” this man. I finally realized it’s not my responsibility to fix a man. And as a woman I am not a mans rehabilitation center. Society has taught woman that we have to endure pain in order to receive a mans love. Such a lie from the pit of hell. The thing that will counteract these behaviors from men is having standards, setting boundaries and knowing what it is you will/will not tolerate!
Yes ma'am!
Excellent post, Miss Leatrice. Thank you!!!
💯 facts
I agree. I have stated out loud that I am done being a healer and I deserve to be a partner for once.
Well said
I would like to add to number 2...if he shuts completely down during a disagreement such as silent treatment...just gone head and dip
Yep seen that happen many times and I’ve done that to in the past. Definitely does not make matters better. If two people need space for a while then they need space but if they don’t talk about the issue at hand and figure out how to compromise well then the relationship won’t work. Both men and woman can shut down.
My aunt was shot 5 times in front of my cousin because he refuse to leave her alone! Please listen to Tony! Save your life!!!!
Ladies please adhere to what Tony Gaskins is talking about. I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage. I saw the red flags of his anger when we were dating but ignored it because he wasn't projecting it towards me. But eventually he started to project it towards me. The last incident was my head being put in a wall. By the grace of God I didn't die. I am now divorced and free from violence. Blessings to you all.
Omg!!!! That’s scary. I’m sorry to hear that
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I endured everything similar if not the SAME! I wasn’t married, however, we have a daughter together. And I decided to leave once my daughter was 4 months! I never looked back. She’s 2 now. I commend you for being so strong and divorcing for your own self love and safety! It was not easy for me to leave, but I did it. We did it! Blessing to you. ❤️
God bless you Leticia. Thank you for your testimony. You are a strong and diligent woman.
I’m so glad that you’re okay now.
"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."
~ Margaret Atwood
Whoo that’s a thought provoking statement!
Wow!!!!!
Whew!
Damnnnnnn
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To be honest I am a man. And I did watch this video to the end. And I agree with what Mr. Gaskins is saying. All of it. This is the kind of message that should edify any man who WANTS to change. No if’s no buts nor any maybe’s.
And he’s right that this ain’t gonna resonate with everybody as he said what written in Ephesians 5.
Much respect and appreciation.
Amen General Rebel!! Indeed
Thank you for your response. A majority of women comment on Tony's videos but I always try to find any comments I can that are from men. Your response holds a ton of weight and helps to confirm what is being said in this video.
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I question whether you legit
Tony I’ve made it this far and I’ve watched a lot of your video and it helps me grow into the man I am today
@Positive Aura thank you
Good to hear
No amount of love, sex, & sacrifices a woman makes can change a man (when he isn't willing). As a man, he has to discover that for himself. Love yourself enough to let him go. I know it hurts, but you can heal from a broken heart💔. If you lose yourself, you may never come back from that. And if he kills you, it's OVER. This video has been invaluable.🙏🏽♥
Amen 🙏🏾
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@@codyfletcher9729 what does that mean?
I'm sorry I did not mean to reply to anyone's message
@@codyfletcher9729 NP 😌
Y’all make sure to check out that thread when did you realize he hated you.. These men are capable of being heartless to the ones they claim to love ..
Much appreciated !!
@Positive Aura just type in when did you realize he hated you....
These issues of the heart should be Addressed as such, because of the actions that are out here going on so , the actions are speaking loud! and it shows . also the third parties and the competitors or posing or bad distraction takes away from having a great Relationship, make the best of a great one when have that time
keep a good Relationship.
Hey Tony … I got there! 🙌🏾 keep on preaching, we out here … watching you spread the message! We are listening!
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Respect 🙏
@TobiFaluyi - so good to see more men coming here supporting our beloved Brother T❤️NY 🙏🏾💯🙏🏾 (there's an urgency our society need more men to truly start HEALING & lead righteously - at homes, in families, social spaces & at work places too)
Yes!!
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I had a guy ask me once " If you called your dad would he come"? That was a odd question but for me it was very telling. I basically took that as if I did something to you would you have someone to call on. Some men are very calculating, don't worry though I have 16 reasons why I wouldn't need to call my dad.
That’s such a creepy question. Oh my goodness
Red flag
oh yes! My mother says never let a man know if you don't have a great relationship with your father because they know that they can get away with mistreating you. My dad had a high speed chase with my sons father behind me. He plays no games
@@ashleylee651 what if you really don’t have a relationship with your dad what do you say
@@julianacheriza1575 @Juliana Cheriza HI Juliana! Well, I would say (if you are a christian) to ask the Lord in prayer to guide you on how to answer if you aren't sure about the guy at first. If he just wants to know if your dad is living you can say that he is alive and don't go into any other detail. If he keeps asking questions, you could say that your dad is a private person and you just don't discuss his personal life. But God will give you the best answer for the situation :))
This message is worth watching a million times. A man will hurt you, if he’s insecure.
These are facts
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Wow, all of this is so true. I was engaged to a man who:
1. Was constantly insecure and telling me that I was looking at other men. Or, that I must like other men sexually. All of which wasn’t the case, I was “in love”; I only wanted to be with him while we were together.
2. He had major anger issues. I frequently was cursed at for no reason. Just because he was having a bad day, or because I said something “stupid.” He and his sister didn’t get along. He would yell at her too.
3. He bragged about being from Chi-raq ( had a tattoo about it too). I later found out, he was from the suburbs of Chicago, and would lie to people to sound “hard.”
4. He had Daddy issues galore. Always said that his dad didn’t play with him when he was little. And that his dad was always disappointed in him. They even got into physical alterations.
Tony is right. If you meet a man like this RUN.
I’m sorry but the lying from being from Chi-Raq got me hollering 😂😂
What’s chi-raq? China/Iraq??
@@schokococoa575 Southside Chicago
@@alyssagurdon251 thanks lol, idk any of the lingo 💀
Same here and the key word was he had daddy issues!
Wasting your breath?! Tony you are literally saving someone's life with this message! And even besides that you are saving so many lives and hearts on a daily. Please do not give up on us because we need you and all of the wisdom and truth that God places upon your heart to share. God Bless you.
Honest man right here doing the work. God be the glory!
I’m only 20 years old and I am so grateful to have found this channel! It’s a blessing to acquire all this wisdom about men at such a young age!! Thank you Mr. Gaskins , your doing a great deed☺️
Same girl
Bless you, you'll be ahead of the game🙌🏾
Same!
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@@user-eo9to7wd2t yes girl! Love to see it🥰
Tony you are 100% correct, when a man show a woman love and treat her right, she will return it 10 times over...
So true
And these Podcasters who say otherwise have BEEN being exposed since. ❤❤❤
Listen ladies. The unaddressed trauma is REAL! don't entertain a broken man it will break you as you try to help him. This is the realest video I've seen. You see and approach dating and relationships in a whole new way.
23:45 - 25:00 Turn up! Yessss Tony go awf!! I love it! Big brother said he’s tired of these toxic men! 👏🏾👏🏾😄
Tony U are always on point, but u got some women no matter shat u say...they cannot be c alone & they tolerate the BS then they write u.....go figure
A toxic man can't survive if black women come together
That’s Kevin samuels :::toxic masculinity propaganda… I detest him
I was interested in a guy recently that’s emotionally immature. Listening to these signs is eye opening! I’m glad he acted up early, cuz it could’ve gotten ugly. This is life saving stuff, ladies take heed 🙏🏾
Your lucky he acted up early! Look at God!
Life saving stuff right here
Praise God!
Yes i went thru that recently too and he is very immature and not husband material- a grown boy who is marrying his fiancee - good luck to her- she doesn’t know what she’s getting
@@munix9351 yes I’m trusting in God’s understanding and not leaning on my own. It’s a protection!
My husband was a heroin addict for 17 years until the day he gave his life to Jesus. He did a 💯 180. And he went on to become a Home director of a Christian rehab and dedicated his life to reaching out to men and women with vices, chemical addictions.
I’ll never forget his God given wisdom that he would speak into my life daily. He told me once, “If I were to ever go back to heroin and I come knocking at the door, do not open it no matter what I say because that’s not me. Call the police.” He never went back to that life but those were gold nuggets he was giving me; insight of what man is capable of doing without God.
My son father was on cocaine and molly after we buried our first child …. I opened the door every time he knocked and every time I wished I had thought twice … this was the truest statement I’ve ever heard from a man …..
What a Waste of Your life! If Only You knew YOU SHOULD OF LEFT HIM!
Just like mother’s will commit a crime against anyone who messes with their children , men are more than capable of committing a crime if you mess with his ego…
Yes Ladies that is very True. My Ex Narc broke my wind shield with his fists. Because he could not handle the truth about him self and tried to bully me to take him home.
Which crime? Your own Lfe? Good
@@deborahburrell4231 Glad he is now your ex
So men are egoistic? Bhahahaahha aka narcissistic?
Ladies please listen!! Everything he's saying is true. I left a 8 year relationship / marriage that was physically, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I was young and inexperienced, did not know the red flags.. I thought his trauma was cute.. I was his punching bag, I was the one who paid the price for everything he experienced.
I survived, I made it out with not one scar but a powerful testimony.
Whew this was heavy... but so needed. I really enjoy listening to you Tony. Thank you for all your insight and wisdom!
This was amazing 👏 🙌🏽
Amen Thankyou for sharing 💕I appreciate your candidness 💖
I experienced abuse too from narcissist. It is mentally exhausting and draining to be with someone who tells you what to do and treats you like a child and never does nothing for the relationship. And when he has money he goes spend it with other friends. They abused m emotionally and psychologically making me feel that something was wrong with me. That's what I call abuse. Ladies see the red flags please and get the hell out !!! Amen !!!!
If this wasn't a sermon, I don't know what is!! 🙌💪🏾💪🏾
I know that's right!
Mm! Mm! Mm!
Minute 18: very true, us as a man may show insecurity between week 4 and 8. 🗝️ Remember TG's point: address it in decency away from the public.
love seeing other men commenting and confirming tonys words! 🤍
@@bridgetteteapp thank you. It helps for learning. I remember it and bank it, and when it counts it's somewhere in my mental bank. Glad to drop a note for the greater good of those watching, if it helps them as well.
Wake up call ! Thank you .
This is a very important lesson to teach women. I used to have 2 friends in my 20s whose men sent them to their eternal resting place. If they had fully understood WHO AND WHAT they were dealing with, they might still be here today. Another example of this, my son’s friend lost both parents to mur*** sui**** by the dad. It’s my understanding that the husband had a history of cheating, but when the wife finally decided to leave, the husband wouldn’t let it be.
Teach on brother Tony! Teach on!
Idk why men kill you when you want to leave
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@@julianacheriza1575 their selfish. They cheat cuz they selfish they don’t want you to be with someone else cuz they’re selfish.
I wish ALL men were as evolved as you Tony. You are truly a gift👑
Sadly most grow grey hair before they grow up
When you walk with God, he gives wisdom and knowledge that is not common to all people
THIS PROGRAM WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY THE HOLY SPIRIT!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
He said he need boosie to sing it for him lmao i-n-s-e-c-u-r-i-t-y 😂😂
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I called my ex narc out about him cheating while driving on the highway he started screaming at me and threatened to put me out. Our children were crying and upset so I shut my mouth. The ride was quiet going home. I could not keep quiet I wanted answers. I could not stand him being in my presence or the sound of his voice. My children started acting out and I had to stop the insanity. It took 10 months but, while he was at work I changed the locks and my cell phone#. It was the smartest and best thing I could do. Our lives have changed and we are happy now.
I moved in with a male buddy for 3 days ..which was yesterday , go figure ( I left the third day ) I bought groceries.. and I fixed some chicken tenders.. but I fixed 3 more than I could eat .. I leave them on the stove because I was told to ! I’m later called out of the room I was staying in and told to eat the food.
Him : eat that food.
Me: oh I’m full.
Him: eat that food 😡.
Me : I’m not going to eat that food ... and i threw it away. The look of satisfaction that came upon his face when I raised my voice was demonic 😖
But he was very serious! After returning from work the next day : I went straight to the room that I was staying in and began and finished getting all of my things out ! He talked smack “ I’ll never let a woman stay with me again “ . He later texted me “ you’ve got some growing up to do , we could’ve worked it out , when can we go out for coffee again “ I said “ never, your a misogynist pig “.
Blocke.....d !
Whoaaaa--this literally just happened to me!! I stayed a week, though. Then was kicked out. Oof.
Just screen shotted ur post, I’m going to show it to my 15 yr old daughter. Men and women aren’t meant to be FRIENDS. don’t be fooled! Thanks for sharing. Take care
No prob ... it’s good that we share , we overcome by our testimony right ❣️
“God made woman beautiful and foolish; beautiful, that man might love her; and foolish, that she might love him.” - William Shakespeare
I’m kinda slow--may you reinterpret this, please?
@@klickingkayasmr7585 don’t love him back 🤣
@@planetChristie True. Haha thank you, love.
Funny on stage bitter in life
i’m 22 years old and this channel has changed my life in the matter of months! expanded my knowledge and broadened my understanding in the most positive ways❤️! Glory be to God he knew what i needed when i found this channel. thank you Tony!!!!!
I'm 22 too and I've been watching him for several months now.
I really wish I had this channel when I was your age. God bless you for feeding yourself with wisdom.
@@anissa2361 I’m 25 😊
When Tony Gaskins fixes his hat… it’s about to go down! I love this man.
😂😂😂o yh
An important lesson my mum taught me recently is when someone hurt you! You do not have to return the hurt back! A kind gesture to your oppressor is confusing but powerful! Ensures you retain your control over your enotions instead of letting them override you emotions and control you! Never feed the fire of hate or hurt!
You have to pick your battles!!!!you have to know when to react or hold back!!!!!
@@Queen-ConsciousYa I think that's the best thing, you were goin add more flame to the fire!!!!!
@@Queen-ConsciousYa did you cut him off
And leave!
This is powerful advice!
A “like” before the video even starts 😊 always 100% Tony 😃
Same😃 I can tell by the title when it’s gonna be a good one
Yep, always hit like before I play the video. 🤗
That's my M.O cos I know its gon be gooooood
Errrrrytime lol
Your not wasting your time or breathe. Im a 42 year old woman who has made so many mistakes in life with men. Your a life line for women like me. I’m a woman who has never had any real male guidance. Keep going, keep talking , and keep teaching. Believe me your saving lives. We woman have a tendency to get so desperate for a man so desperate that it clouds our better judgment. Its been my experience that men prey on women who does not have male figures in their lives. Tony , you have become that male figure in a lot of us women lives. God Bless and thank you 🙏🏾
Tony needs his own TV show! He’s the only decent and truth telling man out here in these streets and on You Tube! This is all straight facts💯🔥
Theres about 2 more. Hes very thorugh though.
Networks would definitely sensor him and not allow his messages to reach the masses!!
Him & Pastor RC Blakes Jr. Thank God for them both.🙏🏽
Tonytube is coming
When you both answering to GOD, it’s NOT a competition. 💪🏾🙏🏾❤️
I got to this point. This is one of the most powerful messages you have served. I watch your videos like everyday until the end. I got two of your books. The guy code, and how to make it work. I haven't finished yet, but I'm on it. You have opened my eyes up to a lot of things. I salute your messages brother gaskins. I'm trying to become a better man bro. Your messages keep me going.
You actually watched it! 👏🏾
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🙏🙏👍👍 God bless you
😢😢❤❤❤❤TEARS OF JOY. ❤❤❤❤
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"Do the healing" 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
We're all worth it🤙🏾💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I'm divorced this makes me want to stay single. This is why I stay close to God, the holy spirit will tell you about who you are dealing with. Not dealing with no foolishness, it's not worth it.
I agree. The only way is through God. God knows the person he wants you to be with at his appointed time.
Yes the holy spirit works 🙌🙌🙌
I am the same. My former husband put his hands around my neck and people couldn't believe it. Men are raised from birth by society to have the spirit of destruction. He didn't have major anger issues but he was insecure all through our relationship and marriage. I didn't understand because I am insecure myself but I work on it. I'm constantly doing things to work on my security, esteem and self-worth and self-confidence.
@@marleyhill34 wow that's scary sis
@@chickwitthagoodies the scary bit was that he went to church with me, had Christian pre-marrital counselling and was vetted by five priests from different churches and none of them told me to run. That's when I realised that churches have no idea how to handle abuse.
Yessss, very true omg. I dealt with a man with all four 🚩 (due to my own insecurities at the time) I loved him and ignored the red 🚩. He told me he would kill me a few times but I ignored it… he put his hands on me earlier this year and you would’ve thought he was fighting a man on the street. I was terrified!! I’m so glad God removed me from that toxic situation. Thank you for helping us, TG. You are God sent 🙏🏾
Wow sorry 😞😞😞 my dear.
WEAK MEN HATE WOMEN!
Hey Tony, I got there.
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Bless you brother 🙏💕
My brotha!! You’re the one brother I always see! Bless you!
@@TonyGaskins God Bless, big brother TG 🙌! I appreciate what you do! Your work is a one of a kind and is needed. It's an honor to have this space to know what to do.
@@sharonkeggins290 God Bless 🙌!
I’ve addressed a man or two for his insecurity before..just how you explained..and they always claim they’ll work on it. And they don’t repeat that exact behavior but because they don’t deeply understand what insecurity looks like, they eventually do a different insecure behavior. The root needs to be dug up and I’ve learned they can only do that alone with therapy..and that’s IF they desire it. Now my rule is to RUN at the first sight of insecurity. More power to those who can deal with it but it’s a hard pass for me. I’ve learned.
There are a good amount of men in the comments saying they got to that point in the video,,,,Yayyy! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Some men are too egotistical and angry to change themselves! I notice there’s a lot of men that blame women (insecurities) and can only point the finger at us, too stuck to change alone. They out here hurting women. Tony, your not wasting your time…smart women are starting to see that what men are showing them is not healthy, it’s toxic! We have to heal us too. If you can’t hear…you will feel. Thank you for all your hard work 😓! I can see the frustration in you in some of your videos. God help us all🙏🏾and we have to help ourselves. Bless you and your beautiful family 🥰🤩
No indeed, your describing women. Women are always blaming men for their insecurities and pain, heres a good one, "He's a narcissist". Women never say how they started the abuse by putting their hands on a man first feeling that the man shouldn't respond back physically or how they curse and disrespect their man constantly
I remember when I used to lie to myself and think that a man could never be so selfish until I found your videos and it crushed my spirits a bit but then I had to ask myself why would I want to be with someone who didn’t want to see me happy. Thank you for your videos Tony if it wasn’t for you I would be lost
A real man calls out the devil in other men. They don't coddle their friends for theircown benefit. Thanks Mr.T🙏❤🙏
Hey Tony I got here thank t you for all your doing Jesus has really blessed you with a gift I appreciate it
You know what, people should consider being SINGLE!
Thanks for calling out a certain popular CZcams host without saying the name. My ex used to love walking in the room watching his videos when he would make certain statements to make sure I heard it (comments suggesting I should be glad he's with me instead of the other way around). Needless to say, he's my ex for a reason.
@@LA-wv7gf thank you. Can you believe he would rewind it a couple of times to be SURE I heard it? 🤣
@Fires And Flowers Their thinking is as twisted as the podcast host.
Who? Can you just mention the initials?
Who!?!?
@@Sarablueunicorn K.S. I would say the name if it were my post but I try to respect others posts. But if you Google "popular black male relationship podcast host" I'm sure he will come up
I had childhood friend in Mexico
She got married, after yrs she separated from her husband
He was abusing her
Months went by
He meet up with her
Trying to get her back
She did
And wks later he killed her
She had 2 children
This happens 10 yrs ago
She was 30 yrs old 😪
He runaway from the country
It tooked couple yrs
But finally the police caught him
And he is life a prison
"Feeding your depression." Feeding yourself emotions through what you entertain. I really appreciate that! I like that!
A Tone I got there, real message!
Amen 🙏🏼 the insecurity of a man can literally ruin not only his life, but everyone that surrounds him.
Maaaaaaannnn....everything Tony touched pertaining to sign # 3 happened to me!!!! My ex of 3 years masked his childhood trauma (abuse, neglect, rough neighborhood)and anger with YEARS of staying high. He called himself peaceful, calm, level-headed, and patient, and he was all of these things because he was always high! Well, he quit smoking marijuana 2 months ago so that he could level up when it came to his career and started drinking instead to "take the edge off". He had an angry outburst (not directed toward me) last Friday, then he became so enraged during a regular argument that he ran up on me with a gun the following day. I would have NEVER imagined that he would do something like that but looking back, he had/has soooooo many demons that he's trying to avoid by staying high, that once he was sober and those demons began to surface, I became collateral damage. Luckily, he caught himself before he raised his gun and pointed it at me, but ladies....your life is not worth the risk!
an insecure man will ruin your life. RUN!!!!
The way you talk about your wife is so refreshing! I hope one day to have someone think and value me the way u do your wife!
Watched this 5 times and sent it to the grown boy I had to cut off because of his anger issues. He courted me for a year, no sex, but it took that long to show his real colors. He follows the man who sits behind a desk, in the dark talking about Alpha males when he himself is a 3trash bag struggle bandit. Tony was so right too about what a year will show! No more dating a man's potential! Thanks TG
You hit the nail on the head. I have always believed that insecurity is at the root of misogyny. I am against and alarmed at the term "high value males and females" that has worked it's way into our society. A categorization that is based on material worth with no attention to character, and I actively campaign against this dangerous belief. Even more distressing is the amount of young people who are feeding into this. Thank you for speaking on this subject.
Absolutely 😎
👏👏👏, Amen, I don't understand why and where are these New Day terms are coming from. "High Value", so crazy!!
Tony Gaskins Ministry!! You have saved me from the dangers of low self esteem and from being a victim. A victim of what most men have mastered and most women are sucked in! I cannot tell you how many times your training comes to mind. I met a man and boom, "match a man, if he goes at 100% you go 80%, when he drops to 60% you drop to 40%." "If a man is interested, but you feel like something is off.. keep it moving." Thank you so much and your dear wife Sheri!! Love you guys! :)
I’m not finished watching the video, but I can’t do nothing but agree within the first 15 min. I tried watching that guy CZcams channel. I listened and I thought he made some valid points, but the more I listened I was like no… he’s basically teaching women that she’s need to put up with anything just to have a spouse. I just couldn’t continue to listen to him didn’t sit right in my spirit.
Yeah.. I’ve listened to that guy too. I’ve been listening to red pill content for the past 8 years or so just to get a male perspective on relationships.. I feel the same way you do.. a lot of it makes sense, but then there’s a very dark side too.. I was watching so much that it really did start to affect me negatively after all the work I had done on myself.. Thank God that I was strong enough to pull away from that material.. Stay in prayer 😊
Absolutely! Any validity or logic in his statements are poisoned with his so very obvious HATRED for women which he’s perpetuating non-stop!😟😟
Yes just like what the society is teaching, to not speak up and open your legs..and not ask for anything But dont put with anything..I dont ..
If you speak up as a woman..men will ghost you..they ll sense your energy..today some man discussed a bit with me..for 2 seconds and left ..I did nothing just giving an opinion and being serious and knowledgeable..and maybe 'judgemental' having an opinion is the start of judging people.he was talking to an older woman who is nice but wouldn't have my opinion..she told me the man met a woman and after 2 weeks slept with her with no condom..ill never ever sleep with a man without a condom and without a marriage first..he sensed my energy..I told her I have no respect for such men..and she agreed but at first said she didnt like to judge people..So these men talk/go with women who have no opinion really..no standards etc
wait who is he talking about in the beginning?
At the 56 mark he had me speaking in tongues. Totally in agreement. I was like women are putting in all this work to address our issues and trauma, we don't want to connect with a broken and/or toxic 45+ man.
I’m 15 minutes in & I have to leave a comment! I ended things with a guy I was dating. He was very insecure & it showed up weeks 4-8. Once he pointed out women that “looked” at him while we were out on a date saying “she wants me, she’s all in my face” & I said she isn’t paying you any mind (she wasn’t!) or when he would go out with his friends & we’d talk on the phone after he’d tell me all the ladies at the bar were trying to talk to him but he told them he has a lady (me 😳). I honestly didn’t believe him..I felt like he was trying to make me feel insecure but it just showed me how insecure he was. He didn’t like that it didn’t get a rise out of me. He also didn’t believe in the vaccine! Lol Tony is so right! Be smart & safe ladies. Your intuition will tell you all you need to know! My intuition had been telling me that I wasn’t safe with him & that coupled with the signs of his insecurity is what made me end things.
I feel like your body reacts also to them. This gave me a flashback to a guy I dated. Total nightmare omg did the exact same things you said.
lOL I Love how you call out these dudes pretending to do the work and watching leaving comments lol
You have no idea how much your message has changed my life. NOBODY is talking about this. We are living in a sea of confusion.
I've experienced dealing with a toxic man but thank God I walked away almost two years ago and have not looked back. Tony is absolutely 💯 on this topic. Preach Tony!
I know you only touched on 4, as you said this could be a week long series but for the people in the comments, if a man does something nice for you, or gives you money without you asking… then later brings it up as if to throw it in your face… red flag!
They are cowards. That dude (KS) reminds me of my youngest daughter’s father and that’s exactly why I went on about my business. I wish I would sit up there and tolerate that type of spirit. I’ll rather be single than to have a grown boy. This is why we need to stop being desperate because being desperate you will tolerate a man talking down to you, cus he has money smh when you don’t know who you are you accept anything just to go out to eat or him buying you a bag/ purse. Amen pay attention to his background
Thanks Tony
I wish I could get my baby sister to listen to your videos.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Priceless
I felt the “Spirit” on this one! Thanks Tony!
In Jesus name 🙏🏻❤️🔥
Hands down...this is one of the most thought-provoking messages that I have heard in YEARS!!! From beginning to end he was right on point. It is impossible to listen to this with an open mind, and not be moved. At a minimum, it causes you to do some self-reflection.
I usually never comment but I’m literally left in tears because the mistakes I’ve made as a woman but thought I was being a good women and nothing in return but never had a man do anything like this for me all I ever hear is how women should look left feeling insecure about myself but I’m learning it’s not me it’s who I’m dating and giving my time to I just pray I find someone for me thank you so much for your videos
Because of a lack of humility, EGOand Pride, Men will not admit their weakness!
Archaic fear to lose their position in the gang
I wish Tony was my brother , or a father because I would definitely make better choices about men. He's a good men .I have learned alot and will continue to follow him on you tube.
I wish I could have received this wisdom when I was a young woman. I nearly loss my life because I didn't understand these things. Please share his message.
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Tony as a mature woman who never understood men. You have helped me tremendously. I grew up in toxicity. I accepted it as the norm. The last relationship I was in could’ve cost me my life or life changing disability. You helped me to move on and out. My blessings have overtaken me. Thank you
The men who are the most capable of this, are the ones denying they could ever be that way- is the truth. It sent a chill down my spine. I just recently left an abusive marriage. He literally had split personalities, and is still portraying himself to be the most innocent, caring person to people when he was extremely hateful and abusive behind closed doors. Nothing scares me more than this… He threatened to baker act me and kill me and my children and we left with the clothes on our backs…
I heard someone else say the parents who say they could never take their anger out on their children are exactly the type of parents who ARE doing that… so, so true!!
@@LA-wv7gf I have lots of texts and emails too. I’m hoping they will help me in court come December. I filed a restraining order against him the day after we left and he filed for divorce the next day saying I was suicidal and took off with the kids and requesting to have sole custody. Thankfully the restraining order was approved and he sees them every other weekend supervised. This is only temporary but I’ll be fighting to keep it this way, where as he wants 50/50 of course. And he’s telling everyone he just wants me to come home, yet he filed for divorce! He absolutely terrifies me.
These men out here wanna “woof woof” at a woman they meet expecting respect where they haven’t earned it. Yes, I am single and over 50. You will not walk into my space expecting me to submit to you because you are a man. You have to earn it just as I have to earn respect. It works both ways. I am not responsible for your past and you will not pass your shortcomings onto me. I have my own stuff to work on too. Why can’t we learn and grow together?
I am happy you are enjoying your single life and know your worth😊❤️
@@LA-wv7gf yeah manipulators and they wonder why they get rejected lol
Tony been cuttin up in the best way with his vids 💖 I literally listened to your video to men and women about 10 times! I have NEVER done that. Your videos are God Blessed!
Men can be very dangerous. I never really thought about this because I was never a victim to a man’s ways. Maybe we need more women leading and making worldly decisions to balance the playing field. Ladies please be safe and listen to your intuition, and Tony! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Chris Watts stays in my memory. The man that killed his pregnant wife and 2 toddler daughters 3 years ago. Horrific.
@@Am-mm6iz what he did cannot be understood! Thats the devil for real. I know there are women too who snap and do things like that to their children, but its way more men. God bless you. Just pay attention and listen to your spirit. We shouldn’t have to live in fear. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
That's what's. missing! The balance of the feminine energy.
Yes I've seen the movie and documentary and it hit me hard. 😭 So hard to watch honestly. 🙏🏾
@@Shanice1 oh i saw it too. One of the things that was stated is that there were no signs of the wife fighting back because she thought he was going to stop choking her and let her go. She didn’t believe he would kill her. Ugh this is heartbreaking and scary as heck. We all need to be very very cautious. 🙏🏻
@@peaceful_and_blessed definitely I could not stop crying 😥, She loved him and it showed but trusted him too much. He had no remorse smh.
Gunshine State! HOLLERIN!!!!!😂
You can love a man like this but sometimes its not enough. We as women often make the mistake of thinking that we can change a man like this. Most men won't admit that they are broken cause they don't want to look and feel vulnerable.
I've been following you off and on for a while. I just wanted to say that I appreciate that you talk to men as well as women. I feel like a lot of these relationship "gurus" just capitalize on women's pain and loneliness and don't hold men accountable for anything. I appreciate you content.
I got there Tony. Keep talking that real💯
Listen ladies, first of all stop being afraid to loose a man if you see red flags. Men come dime a dozen they need you. Be patient you will meet the one for you. You know what you want nothing wrong with being direct. Let that devil flee if you don't it will cost you in the long run.
This is so true, every single red flag is extremely dangerous. My ex-husband had all of them, i wish i knew about this earlier so i could avoid all the drama and pain i've been through. Thank you Tony!
40:40 Florida Tony came out for real 😳😂😅 thank God for growth!
It might be cute at the beginning when you start the relationship to be basically his therapist or counselor but then it becomes very tiresome and one can become resentful. Great video Tony.
If a man isn't thinking about Jesus and does not let the Holy Spirit operate in his life, RUN! (Don't even think about it) That is not negotiable. Either he is or he isn't.....That's the most important red flag to pay attention to. Only what you do for Christ will last. A man that cannot be led by God cannot lead you....You have to be careful because the enemy (Satan) is more covert and in these times people are only going to get worse. The love of many will wax cold. God intended for us (men and women) to have Him in order to understand each other and to make it work. But nowadays everyone is going their own way and doing their own thing and wondering why it's not working....because it was never intended to be done without God. The world is gradually pushing Him away... Haven't you noticed that the climate is getting hotter, nations against nations, earthquakes, volcanoes erupting, relationships falling apart, selfishness is at an all time high. I had a vision the other day. The Holy Spirit showed me back to back (Coming soon, Now, and Instant). It's time to get READY...JESUS is coming soon
True yet some religious guys are manipuli
EXACT-FRICKIN-LY! AINT NO BODY GOT TIME FOR THAT. WE DON'T WANT A FEW GOOD YEARS WE WANT THE REST OF OUR LIVES. EVERYTHING THE WORLD SAYS IS OK ISN'T. EVEN PEOPLE WHO AREN'T GOD FEARING STILL END UP PROVING THAT GOD'S WAY IS THE RIGHT WAY. WAIT. GROW WITH GOD AND DO YOU. LET HIM KNOW WHAT YOU DESIRE. HE PROMIS D TO DO ABOVE AND BEYOND ALL WE COULD EVER ASK OR THINK. HE IS NOT A MAN THAT HE SHOULD LIE
ONCE AGAIN. AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT
@@heatsann4456 that's the thing. Religious. That doesn't mean anything. I don't even like the term Christianity. That's a Catholic term and I'm not bashing them but I'm the bible they were referred to as saints or followers of Christ. So many "christians"pick and choose what they want from the bible. They are hypocrites. Etc etc
@@heatsann4456 we need to do what is right according to God. That is the way. If we do our best He'll meet us half way and fill in the gaps.
Real 💯 talk! Revelation is real.
So happy Tony is saying. When women say it we our gaslit. Looking forward to men taking accountability. It’s going to create a better world.
After a busy week I finally was able to watch this video. I literally had tears falling from my eyes at the 1 hour mark. Thanks Tony for another God inspired message.
Aye Tony I got there King ✊🏽 I appreciate you brother.
Good evening, Tony and everyone. This is not the first time that I am listening to this video. It's as if I never heard you say this. I am a 73 year old woman. When I read the young man's comment about how flawed he has come to realize he is, I cried. Why? For all thanks to you Tony, for keeping up the task of doing what you do. That is to change foolish minds of men for the betterment of mankind. Again, thank for being the man that you are and not only a great leader of your family but one who loves them unconditionally ❤️.
Thank you, Tony! Louisiana here ⚜ A woman lost her life this morning a block from me from domestic violence 💔 We need to recognize the signs early on 💯 God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤
Lord. God! Help us.