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Spot On! A lot of women whether they realize it or not are trying to buy a man when they brag about their degrees their jobs and their property ownerships. That’s why I don’t brag about my accomplishments because these men are looking for the bag.
@@girl-gx2ls Right because whether you know it or not if you sound like a good candidate then he is sizing you up to another good candidate! Ladies Beware of the Dog
When you stop abandoning yourself, no one can abandon you. When you see yourself with clarity, you will be able to see others clearly. When you let go of fantasies, you won't traffic in fantasy. When you talk straight and talk true, you won't go sideways. Other people cannot be the template or the standard of your full experience. Find a better blue print for yourself and remember, you are in a universe of choice.
I appreciate this Guy! I've Been following him since I was 25 years old. I'M 28 years old Now, but I just Met my wife 1 month ago and. I will be getting some coaching from him before i propose . I HAVE NO MORE TIME TO WASTE !
Earlier this year I was seeing a guy that I liked a lot, he worked a good job, he was good at complimenting me, and he was an all out gentleman at first glance. About 2 months into dealing with him I noticed he wasn’t putting in the right kind of effort. He wouldn’t plan dates, canceling dates, but was always available last minute. So I told him it wasn’t working for me and decided to walk away even though I really liked him. Just recently I found out he started seeing someone else and completely broke her heart with the games he was playing, I feel like I dodged a huge bullet but I also feel bad for the new girl. Ladies it’s imperative that we recognize the signs of grown boy syndrome and cut ties IMMEDIATELY!
Facts brother... I was dumped by a grown boy for someone who didn't necessarily have more but she was willing to give more! I did my praise dance... GOT TA GO!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
@Dr. Elaine, remember the saying "when you know better, you do better?" When a person chooses a "grown boy " it's either a result of: 1) needing healing, without which you will reach for, give into, SETTLE for the boy. Just to fill the void. Or 2) when you're not WHOLE as an individual, you have low self-esteem, low energy, and insecurities. Then you feel that anything (grown-boy) will do. You Dr. Elaine are able to present that question because you know, it's best for you to take a stance and not waver. Which tells us that you are healed and you are whole and you KNOW both your value and your worth. And I salute you!!!
“The grown boy chooses everybody so the real question is why did you chose the grown boy?” Here are your options: you don’t know your worth, you don’t know the traits of a grown boy, you forgot you have options regardless of what you look like because beauty is in the eye of the beholder 💞💞💞💞
I used to have a strong need to be in relationship but after meeting so many losers, now i am wary. It's really better to be alone than with a loser who insults and degrades you. Loneliness is better than fake horrible relationship.
Grown boys usually have swag and they know what to say to make you feel good.. the problem is they say the same thing to everyone but it only works if you don’t know who you are and he preys on that insecurity
I think some women grow into recognizing what a grown boy is after they've been taken through some immature drama and some never are able to decipher between a grown boy vs a man! I can detect it at my age now by conversation or how he's carrying himself. Like you Tony, I read people too well, it's almost scary.
Exactly I had one always saying these women be after him and he would say she had long wavy black hair lol probably weave wide hips and light skinned look I’m brown short curly natural hair and 5’9 boy bye I’m too much woman for sponge bob😂😂😂
I used to ask and actively try to figure out “whY aRE mEn LiKe ThIS” . The spirit of DUMB. It’s not to understand WHY a man is a grown boy , it’s all about recognizing the signs and RUNNING
It’s crazy because im dark skin and men expect me to have low self esteem and get mad when I have standards. The bad thing is I keep running into these types and not any others
I'm light skin and believe it or not i hate the stigma. I didn't see it as a privilege at all. This social standard was set to divide snd conquer ...so i get disgusted by these pseudo standards. .stigma comes with being light skinned too bc people assume we are stuck up and blah blah when I dont even see things like that . So your voice, character and perception is invalidated before you present yourself to the world. Youre already put in a box before you speak or act!This is what society does to divide snd conquer . I also hate it when men choose me bc of that one trait . It's like they dont see me they see what looks good , or at least to certain people ..this happens in other cultures too not just in the black community ...I'm multiracial and in my culture its similar. it hasnt been easy growing up in the US especially around all these stupid labels. So I'm commenting to let you know how the other side feels as well. I know there are others like me that feel the same way and we feel how u feel just the other side of the coin. You're beautiful however God made you. Nobody can take that away from you ..god made you ..there is no higher authority !God doesnt make mistakes. God bless
@@smbensli Hi touta, and I appreciate that you wanted to reply to my comment but no where in my original comment did i say i didnt think i was beautiful or that God made any mistakes when he made me.. this comes off as though you are doing the same thing that i mentioned men do.. expecting me to have no standards and low self esteem when in fact i dont. Also, when you are trying to relate to someone It is best to first acknowledge them and their struggle or their story before just stating your own. This does not come off as though you are being supportive understanding or caring. It does come off as being self centered when you do that. I do agree that We do all have a struggle as black women. It didnt come from us, it has been passed down to us. God Bless
@@NinaBlow I am sorry if I offended you. I must have interpreted your message in the wrong way. Never once did I think or do I believe that because of dark complexion one must feel inadequate. I think you misunderstood me as well. But if that's what you got out of my message then I apologize, I cant control your perception . I am.not like those men ...I never assumed anything i simply interpreted your message as if you were saying the men you come across think you feel insecure bc of that..I never said or believe you actually feel that way. And that's what I was conveying in my message. I think to call me self centered is a bit harsh as you don't even know me, and you interpreted my message wrong. But that's your opinion. .i am here to support people with similar experiences , and share my experience and relate... Everyone has their story... God bless
It reminds me of my realtor agent. My realtor agent is a Chinese guy from Canada. He's a very good looking guy 7 to 8 on a scale. When we first met last year in January. He didn't think I was attractive because I had my head shave. Whenever he shows me houses, he looks like he was bored and he didn't say nothing much to me. As my hair grows back he's see me in a different light. My hair grows fast so last year April he's try to paint a picture in my head about marriage and started asking about my family background ( btw I'm Asian and I love listening to you and a few of the other dating coaches) I was like ok...whatever because I remember what you and the other dating coaches were saying that don't believe his words if his actions doesn't match. And this is when my hair is down to my neck. Then in September I caught him looking under my shorts when we were in the basement at a house he was showing. When I try to walk away he blocks me and tells me about his morning. I was like "that's cool" and leave there. Now whenever I goes house hunting I would bring a friend, my brother or my parents. In November he tell me that he likes me with long hair. I was like "thanks" and didn't say anything else. Now he realize that I'm not falling for his tricks, two weeks ago he finally revealed that he has an fiancee. I was like this guy has red flags. He's a cheater, womanizer and perhaps a liar too. Thank you for you and your channel.
Wow that reminds me of a former colleague/ friend that was pretending to get a divorce from his wife but never did. Mixed signals, flirts & mind games. You dodged a bullet.
Be very careful of men that are too happy to tell you what they like. Had one like that, once they have you, that's how they control you without laying a hand down. Glad you dodged that bullet
@@blueseptember2174 I fired him in the beginning of 2021 because I realized that I'm never going to find my house if I'm stuck with him. The last time I saw him was in November 2020. I put in a offer for a house and I think he forgot to do his job because I waited till midnight to heard back from him to see if I got the house or not. There were no response so the next day I texted him and 2 hours later he texted back saying that the seller decided to go with the other offer. (The back of my head was like "Dude, you could of tell me this last night!"😡) I think he forgot to do his job and trys to cover it up.
Tony you being able to see people clearly without even knowing them is discernment and it’s because you have the wisdom of God and because you are close to God. That’s the Holy Spirit giving you insight.
Tony is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! A grown boy chooses a woman based on society’s standards and then have the nerve to say “I want a good woman.” Don’t care nothing about the heart, just looks.
Whew!! Tony you are silly!!! I am crying........ "Lion with a squirrel", "full set of nostrils", "Nosetradamus"!!!! CRRRRYYYYING!!! Lord, y'all I can't take it!!!
Not to mention the pretty broke girls with the jalopy and his leg climbing out the window. And poor Lil Ricky who never stood a chance back in the day. LOL!!
So basically he chooses you depending upon where he considers your self-esteem/self-worth barometer to be at according to "societal norms". In other words, he thinks it's LOW.
I have seen ppl who were looking good young and age caught up with them and those looks faded in late 20s and early 30s, then I seen some who never looked good young but they r like wine...getting better with age. When I was just 12/13 ppl thought I was 18/19 and now ppl think I'm at least 10 years younger than what I really am, sometimes even younger depending on my clothes and hairstyle. But what Tony said, is 9 times out of 10 the way it really is.
Glad I’m the exception to that lol But there are others from my high school that were popular now has a bunch of kids by different men and not looking as pretty as they used to.
I find they have a lot of trauma, because so many men tried to use them for their own purposes (to floss), but the men would be manipulative to keep a pretty girl. The games they have had to play is a lot.
It is definitely a BLESSING & a CURSE to read people 😞. I’ve realized it’s because we are chosen and have the spirit of discernment. I can read weak males and females, insecurities, hurt , etc. . You want to save people and guide them , but sadly they can only find God and save themselves .😕
That's my oldest sister to the T. Her spirit and smile is comforting and warm but once you get on her bad side or she senses poor intent... It's a wrap. No second chances
This video struck a wound that I didn’t even know existed in me, and it makes sense to me why I also have low self esteem. When I think back to middle school I was always the girl that was overlooked by guys in my middle school. It was a few guys that like me, but not many. I had really bad acne and I used to wear goodwill clothes and cheap tennis shoes lol. That did make me feel bad about myself. When I got to high school more guys liked me than in middle school but I still was really insecure about myself. When I would hang with my friends at the skating rings the guys would always approach them and not me. I always felt overlooked by guys now that I think about it. Now I’m 25 and when a guy seems interested in me I can’t believe it and even take him serious. The guys that I liked never liked me back and that was hurtful as well. I noticed the damage that it caused me along with other childhood trauma that I experienced and I realized that I need to learn to learn myself for who I am but to be honest it’s been a struggle.
LOL! A lot of guys choose somebody they sense won’t cuss them out and jack them up. They don’t want a woman to be blunt and brutal to them. But what these guys don’t see is that they are not suitable for a nice woman who won’t be like that. Like with me, guys tell me how terrible another woman did them. Threw bottles at him or whatever. But that doesn’t make him suitable for someone nice and mild tempered. So how I see it is this: Don’t look at me just bcuz I’m nice. I have no sympathy for you. I’m not gonna be with you just bcuz somebody else jacked you up. Bcuz I know that the brutal ones he is most suitable for. Just bcuz he don’t want that treatment doesn’t mean that it’s not what he’s suited for. So when I see a man, I don’t look at the plights he’s telling me about, I look at how he is and the kind of behavior he’s into. As for instance, if he has no respect and just want to use and smash and think that women should be fast and have no sense, then why should he have a nice woman who would be nice and good to a man? He don’t deserve that. The ones who will cuss him out and jack him up are the ones he deserves. I don’t criticize women like that. I respect them. Bcuz they have sense enough to treat a man the way he deserves to be treated. It bothers me to see nice women walking on eggshells with a guy who don’t deserve a nice woman. It’s wrong to respect a man who can’t show respect in return. So nice decent ladies, you know who you are. When you see a man whose not ready for a nice lady like you, stay out of it and leave guys like that to their kind. Never mind their whining. Turn your emotions off to that.
Kurtis Miller True. But a lot of guys who think they are living life right are not. That’s all in their mind. For example, about 2 months ago a married man thought he was gonna have me as a side chick and found out that he’s not bcuz I don’t go with married men. Now to him, he sees himself as a good man who respects his wife. But that’s not how I see him at all. To me, men like that are unscrupulous to put it as nicely as possible. I have more consideration for his family than he does and I don’t even know them. My sympathy goes out to his wife. Not him.
@@bc1248 Its messed up, but you should report him to his wife. He is deserving of anything she choose to do to make him pay. He apparently has done that before. I don't understand why people get into relationships knowing that thst can't be faithful.
Kurtis Miller You may be right. Maybe she does know. Though I doubt that she does, or else he wouldn’t be keeping his side chicks away from his house. It’s none of my business though. I just cut him off. It’s not something I’m getting involved in.
Just dated a grown boy and ran for the hills after 6 weeks. His compliments were always about my physique, complexion, skin, hair, nails but it did seem like he was going down a checklist it was so scary.. not as scary as the textbook narcissistic qualities that he didn’t wait very long to show me… to this day I consider Gods deliverance from that man as a major win in 2023
Yes... I agree there’s different degrees of attraction or looks not every woman is beautiful to all men. Certain women will leave immediately. Most women that I’ve spoken to won’t even stay with a guy after he’s cheated the first time
Ya, I need to remember I’m beautiful. Remember you’re beautiful! Otherwise you will settle for less than you deserve. Take care of u not a grown boy. Oh, and thanks... I’ve been dealing with a grown boy... he don’t see me, he sees himself. Times up! Take care Tony.
I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Take me as I am, or leave me alone. Either way, I'm good. Once you truly learn to value yourself, you will not allow anyone to devalue you.
Tony needs his own dictionary😂 Always making up new words. Looks aren’t everything. Some men that know they look good, are worse than women. Looking in the mirror constantly. What we have to think about , deal with and dodge, is something else. Thank you for this message, Tony. Be blessed.
Me too hun...TRUST me...l was checking EVERYDAY...lol...lve been watching past videos which sacrificed me...smile...glad to see you back Mr Coach TG...
Yes!! Define “who am I” - know yourself, stay strong when they try their nonsense & you’ll find that these Grown Boys WILL be on their way out the door - quick 🙌🏽💯
Not “What’s cooking next Wednesday?” 🤣🤣 On a serious note, thank you for your time, Tony. We definitely missed your content even if it was just a few days. You bring that truth and crack us UP while you at it. God bless you and the fam in Jesus name! 🙏🏽
I have alway loved me BBW and Brown SKIN!!!! I don’t and have nerve taking care of a man. Always had a boyfriend so I agree you do have to be Secure with your own self and happy about your own self. Married for 10yrs (HAPPY)
It’s so sad that some men pick out women just to treat them like s***. Just because a woman looks a certain way, it doesn’t mean that she’s deserving of disrespect and mistreatment. Nothing good will come to a grown boy who does that to a woman.
I may be looks challenge to society, but I like what God did when he made me. I may not be skinny or not voluptuous enough, but I like that my body allows me to be athletic. I may be too brown/dark for society but I love how my skin glows cauz I'm a health freak 😁.
@Anon Person the modern society HATES a true God fearing man that seeks to or is following the TRUE laws, instructions or commandments of The true Creator God of the bible …
I stay fighting off grown boys because I'm fluffy, I guess they assume I'm going to go for the okie doke but not!! Lol it's so annoying fighting off assumptions smh. This video is once again on point 👏👏💖
I was called Oreo in elementary because of my pink lips and dark complexion. A gay man in high school told me he loved my skin it’s like mocha chocolate.
I'm not sure how anyone can ever argue or get upset by anything you ever have to say! Nothing but True, genuine facts come from your soul. Forever keeping it real! For the women that do argue or get offended, please keep watching. God Bless 🙏🏻
I've learned so so much from listening to your videos. The one titled "What women don't want to hear", I listened to it honestly about 15 times. This video in particular helped me begin to heal after my grown boy boyfriend broke up with me. You have so much wisdom and insight and it has drastically sharpened my outlook on myself, men and relationships. I appreciate you sharing your gift with the world. And..you are too funny which also helps because laughter is just good for the soul. Thank you and God bless you.
Anyone else thrilled to see tony post a video?! I was like where is Tony?!!! I need to hear some wisdom TODAY. Glad to see you’re well Mr. Gaskins, your adoring fans can’t go one day without hearing from you....
The truth he and his wife give - are painful, truthful, sprinkled with humor and all wrapped into one big blessing of life love. Thank you - stay strong and keep it pushing!
Every time he says he’s just “popping in” 😂😂😂 I know the video about to be long and good!!!
😂😂😂 right lol
Haha
🤣🤣 Right!
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Yes :)
LOSE BOOTY 901 takes me out EVERY TIME lol
I literally say this in my head now all the time 😅
And they could have that 19.😅
What does LOSE BOOTY 901 mean?
People in Memphis need to know! That’s our area code🥴
Sam Ikr....why she gotta be from Memphis😂🤣😂🤦🏾♀️
Spot On! A lot of women whether they realize it or not are trying to buy a man when they brag about their degrees their jobs and their property ownerships. That’s why I don’t brag about my accomplishments because these men are looking for the bag.
No lies here...
Facts
At 27 years old I thank God that I didnt learn this at an older age! 🙌
Exactly! I learned to not lead with that because the only guys that care about that are dusties
@@girl-gx2ls Right because whether you know it or not if you sound like a good candidate then he is sizing you up to another good candidate! Ladies Beware of the Dog
When you stop abandoning yourself, no one can abandon you. When you see yourself with clarity, you will be able to see others clearly. When you let go of fantasies, you won't traffic in fantasy. When you talk straight and talk true, you won't go sideways. Other people cannot be the template or the standard of your full experience. Find a better blue print for yourself and remember, you are in a universe of choice.
Truth 💯🙌🏽
Best comment!
BRILLIANTLY and ACCURATELY said... Thank you Queen!
I learned that this year 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yessssssssss!!!! Yessssssss!!!! 💯
I appreciate this Guy! I've Been following him since I was 25 years old. I'M 28 years old Now, but I just Met my wife 1 month ago and. I will be getting some coaching from him before i propose . I HAVE NO MORE TIME TO WASTE !
More men like you. 👑
God bless you.
Congratulations!
Congratulations
congrats all the best
Earlier this year I was seeing a guy that I liked a lot, he worked a good job, he was good at complimenting me, and he was an all out gentleman at first glance. About 2 months into dealing with him I noticed he wasn’t putting in the right kind of effort. He wouldn’t plan dates, canceling dates, but was always available last minute. So I told him it wasn’t working for me and decided to walk away even though I really liked him. Just recently I found out he started seeing someone else and completely broke her heart with the games he was playing, I feel like I dodged a huge bullet but I also feel bad for the new girl. Ladies it’s imperative that we recognize the signs of grown boy syndrome and cut ties IMMEDIATELY!
You dodged a bullet, always follow your intuition.
amen sis! I'm learning this as we speak sadly
@@candidlycamille Just take it as a lesson, stay fabulous and move on!
@@dolcesweet5173 amen sis
This comment really spoke to me. Thank you.
Facts brother... I was dumped by a grown boy for someone who didn't necessarily have more but she was willing to give more! I did my praise dance... GOT TA GO!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
BrittanyCaprice86 TRACK SHOES 👞 👟s Hahahah yassssss
Praise dance lol l m following
I know that feeling. Been there
not the praise dance lol
Got ta go 🤣🤣🤣
“The more important question, which you might not be asking is, Why did I choose the grown boy?” TG
@Dr. Elaine, remember the saying "when you know better, you do better?" When a person chooses a "grown boy " it's either a result of: 1) needing healing, without which you will reach for, give into, SETTLE for the boy. Just to fill the void. Or 2) when you're not WHOLE as an individual, you have low self-esteem, low energy, and insecurities. Then you feel that anything (grown-boy) will do. You Dr. Elaine are able to present that question because you know, it's best for you to take a stance and not waver. Which tells us that you are healed and you are whole and you KNOW both your value and your worth. And I salute you!!!
“The grown boy chooses everybody so the real question is why did you chose the grown boy?” Here are your options: you don’t know your worth, you don’t know the traits of a grown boy, you forgot you have options regardless of what you look like because beauty is in the eye of the beholder 💞💞💞💞
I used to have a strong need to be in relationship but after meeting so many losers, now i am wary. It's really better to be alone than with a loser who insults and degrades you. Loneliness is better than fake horrible relationship.
Right. I just desire financial independence however and whatever it takes
@@RichelleRichieRockstarr That's my mindset as well
word.
I can tell a person just by looking at them
"Your the smart girl, your the church girl, you're loose booty 901"
That killed me 😅
I second u
Grown boys usually have swag and they know what to say to make you feel good.. the problem is they say the same thing to everyone but it only works if you don’t know who you are and he preys on that insecurity
A grownboy wanna choose everybody.-TG
EXCELLENT
I think some women grow into recognizing what a grown boy is after they've been taken through some immature drama and some never are able to decipher between a grown boy vs a man! I can detect it at my age now by conversation or how he's carrying himself. Like you Tony, I read people too well, it's almost scary.
I hate when people wish me or they just want to hook up. Block 😂
Yeah me too.
Exactly I had one always saying these women be after him and he would say she had long wavy black hair lol probably weave wide hips and light skinned look I’m brown short curly natural hair and 5’9 boy bye I’m too much woman for sponge bob😂😂😂
I used to ask and actively try to figure out “whY aRE mEn LiKe ThIS” . The spirit of DUMB. It’s not to understand WHY a man is a grown boy , it’s all about recognizing the signs and RUNNING
It’s crazy because im dark skin and men expect me to have low self esteem and get mad when I have standards. The bad thing is I keep running into these types and not any others
I’m in the same boat
Same
I'm light skin and believe it or not i hate the stigma. I didn't see it as a privilege at all. This social standard was set to divide snd conquer ...so i get disgusted by these pseudo standards. .stigma comes with being light skinned too bc people assume we are stuck up and blah blah when I dont even see things like that . So your voice, character and perception is invalidated before you present yourself to the world. Youre already put in a box before you speak or act!This is what society does to divide snd conquer . I also hate it when men choose me bc of that one trait . It's like they dont see me they see what looks good , or at least to certain people ..this happens in other cultures too not just in the black community ...I'm multiracial and in my culture its similar. it hasnt been easy growing up in the US especially around all these stupid labels. So I'm commenting to let you know how the other side feels as well. I know there are others like me that feel the same way and we feel how u feel just the other side of the coin. You're beautiful however God made you. Nobody can take that away from you ..god made you ..there is no higher authority !God doesnt make mistakes. God bless
@@smbensli Hi touta, and I appreciate that you wanted to reply to my comment but no where in my original comment did i say i didnt think i was beautiful or that God made any mistakes when he made me.. this comes off as though you are doing the same thing that i mentioned men do.. expecting me to have no standards and low self esteem when in fact i dont. Also, when you are trying to relate to someone It is best to first acknowledge them and their struggle or their story before just stating your own. This does not come off as though you are being supportive understanding or caring. It does come off as being self centered when you do that. I do agree that We do all have a struggle as black women. It didnt come from us, it has been passed down to us. God Bless
@@NinaBlow I am sorry if I offended you. I must have interpreted your message in the wrong way. Never once did I think or do I believe that because of dark complexion one must feel inadequate. I think you misunderstood me as well. But if that's what you got out of my message then I apologize, I cant control your perception . I am.not like those men ...I never assumed anything i simply interpreted your message as if you were saying the men you come across think you feel insecure bc of that..I never said or believe you actually feel that way. And that's what I was conveying in my message. I think to call me self centered is a bit harsh as you don't even know me, and you interpreted my message wrong. But that's your opinion. .i am here to support people with similar experiences , and share my experience and relate... Everyone has their story... God bless
“I don’t have much time” makes a 45 minute video 😹
While car running..lol
@@iasiagregory4558 hollering 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@iasiagregory4558 I am hisssssssing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
It reminds me of my realtor agent. My realtor agent is a Chinese guy from Canada. He's a very good looking guy 7 to 8 on a scale. When we first met last year in January. He didn't think I was attractive because I had my head shave. Whenever he shows me houses, he looks like he was bored and he didn't say nothing much to me. As my hair grows back he's see me in a different light. My hair grows fast so last year April he's try to paint a picture in my head about marriage and started asking about my family background ( btw I'm Asian and I love listening to you and a few of the other dating coaches) I was like ok...whatever because I remember what you and the other dating coaches were saying that don't believe his words if his actions doesn't match. And this is when my hair is down to my neck. Then in September I caught him looking under my shorts when we were in the basement at a house he was showing. When I try to walk away he blocks me and tells me about his morning. I was like "that's cool" and leave there. Now whenever I goes house hunting I would bring a friend, my brother or my parents. In November he tell me that he likes me with long hair. I was like "thanks" and didn't say anything else. Now he realize that I'm not falling for his tricks, two weeks ago he finally revealed that he has an fiancee. I was like this guy has red flags. He's a cheater, womanizer and perhaps a liar too. Thank you for you and your channel.
Wow that reminds me of a former colleague/ friend that was pretending to get a divorce from his wife but never did. Mixed signals, flirts & mind games. You dodged a bullet.
Be very careful of men that are too happy to tell you what they like. Had one like that, once they have you, that's how they control you without laying a hand down. Glad you dodged that bullet
😃😂🤣😅
@@blueseptember2174 I fired him in the beginning of 2021 because I realized that I'm never going to find my house if I'm stuck with him.
The last time I saw him was in November 2020. I put in a offer for a house and I think he forgot to do his job because I waited till midnight to heard back from him to see if I got the house or not. There were no response so the next day I texted him and 2 hours later he texted back saying that the seller decided to go with the other offer. (The back of my head was like "Dude, you could of tell me this last night!"😡) I think he forgot to do his job and trys to cover it up.
@@blueseptember2174 Thank you
Tony you being able to see people clearly without even knowing them is discernment and it’s because you have the wisdom of God and because you are close to God. That’s the Holy Spirit giving you insight.
Ditto
Tony is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!
A grown boy chooses a woman based on society’s standards and then have the nerve to say “I want a good woman.” Don’t care nothing about the heart, just looks.
"The women that are being overlooked are on their grid because they are not distracted ".....true that TG
"You got the wrong one baby...I'm not what you thought."
Whew!! Tony you are silly!!! I am crying........ "Lion with a squirrel", "full set of nostrils", "Nosetradamus"!!!! CRRRRYYYYING!!! Lord, y'all I can't take it!!!
😆😆 I’m wheezing. Where are the lies?
Too funny!🤣🤣🤣
T J hahaahhaahhahaha
Not to mention the pretty broke girls with the jalopy and his leg climbing out the window. And poor Lil Ricky who never stood a chance back in the day. LOL!!
“I ain’t gon say nuthin cuz some of these rappers like to shoot” 🤣🤣🤣
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Tears 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭
So basically he chooses you depending upon where he considers your self-esteem/self-worth barometer to be at according to "societal norms". In other words, he thinks it's LOW.
A lot of the girls in 8th grade and high school that were considered pretty and popular turned out to be a '5' once they reached adulthood.
Ellie1 I agree... that analogy doesn’t work for some...
I have seen ppl who were looking good young and age caught up with them and those looks faded in late 20s and early 30s, then I seen some who never looked good young but they r like wine...getting better with age. When I was just 12/13 ppl thought I was 18/19 and now ppl think I'm at least 10 years younger than what I really am, sometimes even younger depending on my clothes and hairstyle.
But what Tony said, is 9 times out of 10 the way it really is.
Glad I’m the exception to that lol But there are others from my high school that were popular now has a bunch of kids by different men and not looking as pretty as they used to.
I find they have a lot of trauma, because so many men tried to use them for their own purposes (to floss), but the men would be manipulative to keep a pretty girl. The games they have had to play is a lot.
I don't think that was the point.
It is definitely a BLESSING & a CURSE to read people 😞. I’ve realized it’s because we are chosen and have the spirit of discernment. I can read weak males and females, insecurities, hurt , etc. . You want to save people and guide them , but sadly they can only find God and save themselves .😕
That part.
Yes
"Alotta women tryin' to get picked by a grown boy..." ~TG
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Survivorship 🦋 FACTSSSSSSSS ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
@@earthreign7128 🔥🔥🔥🔥 You said something there!
Gullible, easily fooled, naive..I've gotten all of those until they get to know me and then they like " Whoa, ok!"
They always seem to equate "nice" with "naive", until you have to check them. Lol.
That's my oldest sister to the T. Her spirit and smile is comforting and warm but once you get on her bad side or she senses poor intent... It's a wrap. No second chances
This video struck a wound that I didn’t even know existed in me, and it makes sense to me why I also have low self esteem. When I think back to middle school I was always the girl that was overlooked by guys in my middle school. It was a few guys that like me, but not many. I had really bad acne and I used to wear goodwill clothes and cheap tennis shoes lol. That did make me feel bad about myself. When I got to high school more guys liked me than in middle school but I still was really insecure about myself. When I would hang with my friends at the skating rings the guys would always approach them and not me. I always felt overlooked by guys now that I think about it. Now I’m 25 and when a guy seems interested in me I can’t believe it and even take him serious. The guys that I liked never liked me back and that was hurtful as well. I noticed the damage that it caused me along with other childhood trauma that I experienced and I realized that I need to learn to learn myself for who I am but to be honest it’s been a struggle.
Man i can relate
the best is yet to come cos u on your way now that u have realized all this. This results in healing and then confidence.
This is my story almost to a T lol
Love yourself. You're worth it. My counselor is teaching me to love myself. It's hard. But we've gotta tell ourselves we're worth it.
LOL! A lot of guys choose somebody they sense won’t cuss them out and jack them up. They don’t want a woman to be blunt and brutal to them. But what these guys don’t see is that they are not suitable for a nice woman who won’t be like that. Like with me, guys tell me how terrible another woman did them. Threw bottles at him or whatever. But that doesn’t make him suitable for someone nice and mild tempered.
So how I see it is this: Don’t look at me just bcuz I’m nice. I have no sympathy for you. I’m not gonna be with you just bcuz somebody else jacked you up. Bcuz I know that the brutal ones he is most suitable for. Just bcuz he don’t want that treatment doesn’t mean that it’s not what he’s suited for. So when I see a man, I don’t look at the plights he’s telling me about, I look at how he is and the kind of behavior he’s into.
As for instance, if he has no respect and just want to use and smash and think that women should be fast and have no sense, then why should he have a nice woman who would be nice and good to a man? He don’t deserve that. The ones who will cuss him out and jack him up are the ones he deserves. I don’t criticize women like that. I respect them. Bcuz they have sense enough to treat a man the way he deserves to be treated.
It bothers me to see nice women walking on eggshells with a guy who don’t deserve a nice woman. It’s wrong to respect a man who can’t show respect in return. So nice decent ladies, you know who you are. When you see a man whose not ready for a nice lady like you, stay out of it and leave guys like that to their kind. Never mind their whining. Turn your emotions off to that.
If a man or woman does not want to be accountable for their actions, then they are not suitable for anyone who is living life right.
Kurtis Miller True. But a lot of guys who think they are living life right are not. That’s all in their mind. For example, about 2 months ago a married man thought he was gonna have me as a side chick and found out that he’s not bcuz I don’t go with married men. Now to him, he sees himself as a good man who respects his wife. But that’s not how I see him at all. To me, men like that are unscrupulous to put it as nicely as possible. I have more consideration for his family than he does and I don’t even know them. My sympathy goes out to his wife. Not him.
@@bc1248 Its messed up, but you should report him to his wife. He is deserving of anything she choose to do to make him pay. He apparently has done that before. I don't understand why people get into relationships knowing that thst can't be faithful.
Thank you for this!!!
Kurtis Miller You may be right. Maybe she does know. Though I doubt that she does, or else he wouldn’t be keeping his side chicks away from his house. It’s none of my business though. I just cut him off. It’s not something I’m getting involved in.
Just dated a grown boy and ran for the hills after 6 weeks. His compliments were always about my physique, complexion, skin, hair, nails but it did seem like he was going down a checklist it was so scary.. not as scary as the textbook narcissistic qualities that he didn’t wait very long to show me… to this day I consider Gods deliverance from that man as a major win in 2023
Im happy you had such high self respect and class to leave him. You go, pretty Queen ❤
“The grown boy chooses everybody but only gets so far with certain people.”
Yes... I agree there’s different degrees of attraction or looks not every woman is beautiful to all men.
Certain women will leave immediately. Most women that I’ve spoken to won’t even stay with a guy after he’s cheated the first time
"What matters is who you say you are."
Ya, I need to remember I’m beautiful. Remember you’re beautiful! Otherwise you will settle for less than you deserve. Take care of u not a grown boy. Oh, and thanks... I’ve been dealing with a grown boy... he don’t see me, he sees himself. Times up! Take care Tony.
"Pickmisha" 😂😂
I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Take me as I am, or leave me alone. Either way, I'm good.
Once you truly learn to value yourself, you will not allow anyone to devalue you.
"I gotta turn off the comments cause y'all gonna be sensitive" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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tony - smacks lips * “🙄OOOHHHH”
Haha. I can hear that in my head right now. Lol!
Literally my fav part 😂
I can’t even finish the video I’m still stuck on the nose story. I am in tearrrssss!! 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hey Hey, missed your wisdom pass couple of days! Know you busy and family comes first! Thank you for your time!
Yes, thank u
God bless you my brother seek the Lord women fall in love with Jesus
@@justme1195 God bless you God 🙏💓💓 🙏 bless
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Tony needs his own dictionary😂 Always making up new words. Looks aren’t everything. Some men that know they look good, are worse than women. Looking in the mirror constantly. What we have to think about , deal with and dodge, is something else. Thank you for this message, Tony. Be blessed.
He prettier. than you. Look out for pretty tony! No pun intended tony😂
I'm healing and laughing at the same time lol
Tony 🤣😂when you smack your lips & say,”Oooooh!”
It’s freaking hilarious 😆
I can see spirits on people too now.
YOU ARE BLESSED
It's a gift and a curse, ain lying 😩
Talicia Stringer Yup. I agree.
Same here
Talicia Stringer yes that part .. it really is
I dang near almost lost it not seeing a video for a couple days 😅
Me too lol I kept checking to see 🤣🤣 where Tony at 🥴
Same
Lol me too
Me too hun...TRUST me...l was checking EVERYDAY...lol...lve been watching past videos which sacrificed me...smile...glad to see you back Mr Coach TG...
Me too😂
“You know Sonics the one with the flavorful dranks “ 🤣🤣😭
Yes!! Define “who am I” - know yourself, stay strong when they try their nonsense & you’ll find that these Grown Boys WILL be on their way out the door - quick 🙌🏽💯
"Do she eat"....😂😂 You was real about the types in high school. You have to know who you are 💯
yeah what u said, “that spirit on ‘em” like thats discernment STRAIGHT UP
“Oh I smell spaghetti for dinner next Wednesday” nose so big he know what’s for dinner next week 😂
I’m dead lol
Happy Birthday Queen Gaskins!!🎶🎈🎈🎈🎉🎉
Not “What’s cooking next Wednesday?” 🤣🤣
On a serious note, thank you for your time, Tony. We definitely missed your content even if it was just a few days. You bring that truth and crack us UP while you at it. God bless you and the fam in Jesus name! 🙏🏽
I was going to say something similar. He's SO FUNNY with a GREAT message and lesson, always.
I have alway loved me BBW and Brown SKIN!!!! I don’t and have nerve taking care of a man. Always had a boyfriend so I agree you do have to be Secure with your own self and happy about your own self. Married for 10yrs (HAPPY)
I need to sharpen my intuitions when it comes to men. I'm getting better because of you Tony! You've been a godsend. God Bless you abundantly. ❤
It’s so sad that some men pick out women just to treat them like s***. Just because a woman looks a certain way, it doesn’t mean that she’s deserving of disrespect and mistreatment. Nothing good will come to a grown boy who does that to a woman.
I may be looks challenge to society, but I like what God did when he made me. I may not be skinny or not voluptuous enough, but I like that my body allows me to be athletic. I may be too brown/dark for society but I love how my skin glows cauz I'm a health freak 😁.
Jehanne Dufresne girl same, Ik I’m not favored by society but I’m definitely favored by God and myself.
I’m dyinggggggggg laughing when Tony impersonates a woman he always say Ohhhhhh”🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤔🤣
Welp!
The pickings are slim ladies.
Be safe!
Disappointing but a very necessary conversation.
😀😀😂🤣 "Looks like Penny Proud" Tony, you're truly a smart man!
"I ain't saying no names because some of these rappers like to shoot." 🤣🤣🤣
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I'm done with Tony! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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This is complicated --i'm stayin single!!!!!!!!
@Anon Person the modern society HATES a true God fearing man that seeks to or is following the TRUE laws, instructions or commandments of The true Creator God of the bible …
Behest is a word..."a person's orders or commands".
I’m a history major who did a paper over how they used to judge criminals based on their bone structure 😝 kinda cool you mentioned that haha!!
Not “a thick ole tongue” 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
I stay fighting off grown boys because I'm fluffy, I guess they assume I'm going to go for the okie doke but not!! Lol it's so annoying fighting off assumptions smh. This video is once again on point 👏👏💖
I love the 8th grade reference!! My goodness! It opened my eyes for sure! Thanks Tony
I was called Oreo in elementary because of my pink lips and dark complexion. A gay man in high school told me he loved my skin it’s like mocha chocolate.
YOU ARE VERY BEAUTIFUL💃🏽
And believe if he's gay and told you that ITS TRUE
Steven Brown Lol
Andrian Taylor Thank you
YASS my bank teller has mocha skin and I’m like wow she’s so gorgeous!! I think that’s such a pretty tone
“All of us is ugly” uugghhh🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I cant!
I'm not sure how anyone can ever argue or get upset by anything you ever have to say! Nothing but True, genuine facts come from your soul.
Forever keeping it real!
For the women that do argue or get offended, please keep watching.
God Bless 🙏🏻
I can’t wait to listen to this in the morning.
He gon make you laugh
I love the sense of humor from a real man telling the truth I been single 8 years so I can hear you the ladies demonstrations 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I've learned so so much from listening to your videos. The one titled "What women don't want to hear", I listened to it honestly about 15 times. This video in particular helped me begin to heal after my grown boy boyfriend broke up with me. You have so much wisdom and insight and it has drastically sharpened my outlook on myself, men and relationships. I appreciate you sharing your gift with the world. And..you are too funny which also helps because laughter is just good for the soul. Thank you and God bless you.
🤣🤣🤣 I could not help myself laughing at your examples that you used. Great video, Thank you Tony!
Tony, you crack me up every time! It's nice to hear our story told in your way! Whew boy! The truth be told!! Lmbo!!
When Tony does the woman's voice, it kills me every time. 😁😂🤣
I swear I checked my notifications earlier today to see if I missed a notification from this here wisdom. I was thinking " where is uncle Tony " Whew!
The line down the back 😭🤣🤣, " I thought it was a long back".
This is good!
Anyone else thrilled to see tony post a video?! I was like where is Tony?!!! I need to hear some wisdom TODAY. Glad to see you’re well Mr. Gaskins, your adoring fans can’t go one day without hearing from you....
Lord help me not to be naive, insecure, or gullible. I have confidence in myself
This is hilarious! You just telling the truth and putting us up on game. I'm not mad. I'm grateful.
Tony! This is hilarious! This all makes sense! Thank you! 🙏🏻🙌
Excellent! Thank you very much, Tony. Be blessed and enjoy your classic car times!
This video is on point and funny as all get out!!!!
Thank you, sir!
This was 🔥 as always!! "You got the wrong one". Love it. Be blessed
It’s always good to hear from you Tony. Appreciate the messages🙏🏽
I honestly can’t stop laughing while watching any of your videos. It feels great to learn a lot while having a laugh - thank you!
When he’s trying not to say the words 🤣🤣🤣 scrias...escors...onlyhands!🤣🤣🤣
You get down to the nitty gritty and we need the truth!!!!!!!! You keep it 💯🙏🙏🏼
The truth he and his wife give - are painful, truthful, sprinkled with humor and all wrapped into one big blessing of life love. Thank you - stay strong and keep it pushing!
Happy ur back brotha! I missed ya these past 3 days! Keep teaching bc I feel my growth!
Well spoken my brother true facts definetly!!Preach
I’ve watched this 3 times now. This type of wisdom is difficult to break down. Hats off to Coach for taking the time to put this out there for us. 💫✨💫
Greetings! Thank you for your wisdom and time in assisting with uplifting so many of us.
Uncle Tony we ain’t worried about them holes under your shirt!! Lol 😂 Glad to have you back! Missed these videos past few days
You gotta know who you are! the best message to live by each day as a woman.. thank you Tony!
😂🤣😅 Maaan, Tony! Man, I'm dying 😭 laughing in tears listening to you. Tony you are comical and wise. I enjoy your channel.
I never had a real father figure in my life. So thank you for your content. Teaching girls like me something new everyday.
Oh Tony you were in another element on this video. I am learning a lot from you, but this time you cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣
Bro Tony am so glad to hear from you tonight 😊 been waiting for this anointed message.God bless you