How to know a man isn’t interested?

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  • @priscillapie
    @priscillapie Před 4 lety +3541

    Why can’t men leave the women they’re not interested in alone !

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 Před 4 lety +498

      YES! That is what I'm saying. I think it's stupid to reach out to her in the first place.

    • @angeladrain5088
      @angeladrain5088 Před 4 lety +111

      Priscilla Pie You’d think. I’ve been saying this for years. It’s not numbers, it’s more of us so for every no they get, there are maybe 50 women that will say yes.

    • @selinamk3233
      @selinamk3233 Před 4 lety +96

      Bro Tony, can you answer this question in a video please?

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 Před 4 lety +51

      PERIOAAAD

    • @michellelucius7973
      @michellelucius7973 Před 4 lety +181

      Okay like why do you keep coming back !!! I’m not calling you

  • @roxceismith8547
    @roxceismith8547 Před 4 lety +2852

    Loving someone who does not love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport.....Trust your instincts

  • @geieffect6698
    @geieffect6698 Před rokem +117

    If he's not into you.... It's God's protection 🙏

  • @nicolebakoussis6852
    @nicolebakoussis6852 Před 4 lety +231

    If a man disappear he don't want you

  • @AD_2314
    @AD_2314 Před 4 lety +1191

    When he’s interested he MAKES IT KNOWN.

  • @staceythorpe7938
    @staceythorpe7938 Před 4 lety +1629

    Never make someone a priority if you are an option to them.

    • @preciousluv3922
      @preciousluv3922 Před 4 lety +22

      Periodt

    • @natashaboggs4332
      @natashaboggs4332 Před 4 lety +8

      Right.

    • @rdot8869
      @rdot8869 Před 4 lety +34

      I told a woman that too many of them are going after that small select group and ignoring the many who are available and she denied it. I also explained that the man they are all going after have no need to settle down because women are constantly throwing it after them, and she got insulted. The truth hurts.

    • @dipmeingloss
      @dipmeingloss Před 4 lety +8

      💯

    • @consuelastewart5331
      @consuelastewart5331 Před 4 lety +8

      Exactly

  • @kimberlyanderson3301
    @kimberlyanderson3301 Před 3 lety +326

    Every women knows in her heart if a man wants her or not. She just has to love herself enough to be honest with herself,and then do something about it. That means move on.

  • @DG-on9dz
    @DG-on9dz Před 3 lety +362

    “He wants the woman he can’t have, and you want the man you can’t have.” This world is messed up. 😂

    • @adlihkristopher7324
      @adlihkristopher7324 Před 3 lety +32

      it's not the world🌍that's mess up it's the people in the world🌍

    • @vickie6662
      @vickie6662 Před 3 lety +5

      Facts

    • @Angel-dd6nz
      @Angel-dd6nz Před 3 lety +9

      I laughed so hard

    • @kondrasnell7542
      @kondrasnell7542 Před 2 lety +6

      Yep it’s always that way I tell people that all the time I said y’all need to stop wanting people outside y’all league if your considered a 5 why you want a man that is in the 10 league he is only going to mistreat you because he knows you ain’t his type

    • @umummiii4759
      @umummiii4759 Před 2 lety +1

      🤣

  • @Weneed2talk
    @Weneed2talk Před 4 lety +2068

    Just stay single and work on self until the right person comes along

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 Před 4 lety +872

    He don't call. If he don't call he ain't thinking bout you.

    • @georgiemoran4442
      @georgiemoran4442 Před 3 lety +22

      So true

    • @sguillory5923
      @sguillory5923 Před 3 lety +24

      As simple as that sounds, it's very true!

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e Před 3 lety +9

      @@sguillory5923 ..But isn't it pretty smothering to call someone every day as if there's nothing else to do

    • @QueenOfPrinciple
      @QueenOfPrinciple Před 3 lety +28

      @@user-zx5xw4yw2e it's some men that must hear his lady voice once a day.

    • @jackieadele11
      @jackieadele11 Před 3 lety +1

      That too

  • @leahr9038
    @leahr9038 Před 3 lety +344

    Dating is depressing. I just want to be myself and not have to worry about everything.

    • @lionessontherise2403
      @lionessontherise2403 Před 2 lety +18

      Girl yes new to this mess after a decade I'm already done ✅

    • @malenyusay3892
      @malenyusay3892 Před 2 lety +12

      Same, girl. Being alone is better sometimes.

    • @RS33381
      @RS33381 Před 2 lety +17

      I been going through hell…even the talking stage so painful. Trying to figure the man out.

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 Před rokem +2

      @@malenyusay3892 it's so ridiculous and sad .

    • @ebonyeverything2751
      @ebonyeverything2751 Před rokem +6

      @@RS33381 damn, that's the fun part. Maybe that's a sign that you're talking to the wrong people to begin with.

  • @percyastronautstatus.8780
    @percyastronautstatus.8780 Před 3 lety +106

    If a man WANT you ..you will KNOW it ..it won't be a mystery

  • @swayze2403
    @swayze2403 Před 4 lety +2410

    People MAKE TIME for WHO and WHAT they want. PERIOD!

  • @laj4186
    @laj4186 Před 4 lety +1489

    When a man is interested in you, it's UNDENIABLE. There is no uncertainty or question if he's interested. If you have to ask the answer is NO! Learn this early on and never waste your own time.

  • @cyndiet4960
    @cyndiet4960 Před 3 lety +105

    I completely agree if a man wants u, he will make time for u but don't chase him. If he wants u, he will come and get u. Make him work for it

  • @Proudmuslimah123
    @Proudmuslimah123 Před 3 lety +63

    I'm literally in tears because I know for sure that i've wasted sooooooooooo much of my time 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @skyfall1481
      @skyfall1481 Před 2 lety +9

      You have to hurt and be uncomfortable to learn and grow. That’s life. Next time will be better, you’re not alone.

    • @MelindaMary-jy5ms
      @MelindaMary-jy5ms Před 3 měsíci +1

      It is ok. It’s only a lesson learned. Grateful that we won’t waste our time EVER again!! ❤

  • @maplebucket74
    @maplebucket74 Před 4 lety +1430

    Thats why its good to mirror their behavior and dont catch feelings.

  • @goddesswarrioress6123
    @goddesswarrioress6123 Před 4 lety +826

    What a waste of life waiting and focusing on just getting a man

  • @234forte
    @234forte Před 4 lety +51

    Whenever you call a man complicated, he's not into you.

  • @everyroseenterprises2226
    @everyroseenterprises2226 Před 3 lety +69

    Well single men in their 60 s out here trying to be players. I'm not marrying no old used up player. I deserve better.

    • @keylablacc561
      @keylablacc561 Před 3 lety +6

      Yup now da old heads want a younger woman to settle dwn with after dey all used up & worn out uughhh nope I’m not ready for it

    • @nyarifitnesstherapy5195
      @nyarifitnesstherapy5195 Před 2 měsíci +1

      😂

  • @Itchpls
    @Itchpls Před 4 lety +708

    When a man not into you he will disappear quick.. he’s not consistent, always making excuses, brief text/ conversation, you are not one of his priorities..

    • @pamelaclarkson6001
      @pamelaclarkson6001 Před 4 lety +31

      Shawn J I’ve experienced this lately after about three weeks of this on and off vagueness I just messaged that I couldn’t be arsed with it and blocked him xx

    • @lykke7970
      @lykke7970 Před 4 lety +19

      @@pamelaclarkson6001 Pamela block him all the way!! BLOCK!

    • @katrinataylor600
      @katrinataylor600 Před 4 lety +2

      😭

    • @kgabomolele3346
      @kgabomolele3346 Před 3 lety +3

      Damn. I really am losing him.

    • @tanyahudson6272
      @tanyahudson6272 Před 3 lety

      That's right

  • @phillyflytee9849
    @phillyflytee9849 Před 4 lety +873

    Seriously when I don’t hear from a man. I keep it moving. I’ve learned from my brothers teachings.

  • @NAJErEa91
    @NAJErEa91 Před 3 lety +102

    "DONT TRUST NO TEXTS FROM A MAN." I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT SMH THANKS TONY :)

    • @zen_mindset1
      @zen_mindset1 Před 6 měsíci

      Facts and avoids talking on the phone....smh

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 Před měsícem

      Some men prefer in person interactions

  • @LittleMissSunshine721
    @LittleMissSunshine721 Před 2 lety +37

    “When a man’s not that into you, he’s not gonna call you everyday. He’s gonna call every OTHER day.” Woooooow. I literally met a guy recently that’s doing this. Dang. My lil feelings are hurt. 😭😔

  • @jamakadavis5748
    @jamakadavis5748 Před 4 lety +542

    He on social media ALL day he got time..

    • @girlnextdoor5153
      @girlnextdoor5153 Před 3 lety +12

      💯

    • @geneinnewade1278
      @geneinnewade1278 Před 3 lety +6

      Girl

    • @lashellanderson7773
      @lashellanderson7773 Před 3 lety +36

      Sure do can't text good morning or nothing doesn't want to invite you no where but wants u run to him when wants you too. I just cut this guy off completely today fuckem I can do without a selfish ass man at this point in my 30s I've given up on men completely

    • @NerdyWhatup
      @NerdyWhatup Před 3 lety +2

      okaaay!!!!

    • @summerdior459
      @summerdior459 Před 3 lety +1

      CTFU🥴😂🤣😂🤣😂😂

  • @saiyansnake
    @saiyansnake Před 4 lety +730

    When a man is interested in a woman, he *WILL* find time to get on a video call or at least a phone call with her... even if he's the busiest man on earth.
    He *WILL* find money to take her on a date, or get her a birthday/X-mas gifts even if he is the brokest man on earth.

  • @lovetinker6
    @lovetinker6 Před 3 lety +135

    He hooked me and pretended like he was interested now he don’t even call or text anymore smh .. your videos have been helping me so much

    • @missg7012
      @missg7012 Před 3 lety +17

      I'm in the same boat too....what a waste of time!! Telling me what he felt l wanted to hear. Not impressed. Now l need to keep it moving - for my own peace of mind.

    • @lovetinker6
      @lovetinker6 Před 3 lety +2

      @@missg7012 exactly

    • @quettalogan3295
      @quettalogan3295 Před 3 lety +16

      Sound Like He Manipulated And Love Bombed You

    • @lovetinker6
      @lovetinker6 Před 3 lety +3

      @@quettalogan3295 basically

    • @tashaequeen8935
      @tashaequeen8935 Před 3 lety +8

      All I can do is smh because this exactly what I'm going through. I hate games these so called men play it's sad..💔🙆🏽

  • @terrybrown7510
    @terrybrown7510 Před 3 lety +80

    We should not confuse interest with desire. When a guy desires you he also will pursue, , for a time. Weed them out by not giving up the cookies. True intentions and interest are not based on sexual interaction.

  • @llanneg.v.c545
    @llanneg.v.c545 Před 4 lety +698

    1. If he doesn’t mind leaving you hanging or leaving opportunity for someone else to catch you
    2. If he’ll allow you to pay for your half; not too chivalrous; go w/the flow energy
    3. If he is too busy or claims to be
    4. If has time to give but doesn’t give it ie...doesn’t call
    5. If he isn’t trying “to make love to your mind,” (trying to get to know you)
    6. If he doesn’t mind you hanging out with other men

    • @cindycinn2724
      @cindycinn2724 Před 3 lety +48

      7. He will let another man hit you shove you and insult you and spit on you and he don't care...he will say I didn't see that

    • @QueenOfPrinciple
      @QueenOfPrinciple Před 2 lety +9

      @@cindycinn2724 definitely, not interested. ...smh

    • @natashaconover2536
      @natashaconover2536 Před 2 lety +5

      @@arbitrarylib right 😩😩🤣🤣 I said shit let me pretend I didn’t see that list lol

    • @furyisuponu
      @furyisuponu Před rokem +6

      #2 is debatable because some men want to know their woman/partners aint just cheap/using them for freebies etc. Also with the chivalrous argument, ive met some woman that actually didnt like the car opening stuff and flower bringing etc. Said it was cheesy lol.

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 Před 9 měsíci +1

      💯💯🔥🙌🏽

  • @DynamicallyDC
    @DynamicallyDC Před 4 lety +488

    You want me but what do you want me for!? A man thats interested should be bringing the table to the table!! 📢🔝

  • @crystalcleardestiny8604
    @crystalcleardestiny8604 Před 3 lety +69

    Before I even watch the video I'm going to give my choices:
    1. He doesn't call you.
    2. He doesn't make you a priority. He fits you in when he can.
    3. He shows no interest in you as a person/your hobbies/your goals/your favorite foods/favorite movies/favorite color, etc.
    4. He doesn't include you in his plans.
    5. He's only interested in sex/your body/how you look. His interests is only physical.
    Ummm, I can't think of nothing else. Now let's watch the video. *click play*

  • @rareroseglosses1554
    @rareroseglosses1554 Před 2 lety +12

    Men look for convenience and a place holder until the one he really wants comes

  • @tomikacox360
    @tomikacox360 Před 4 lety +237

    His actions simply show it. He doesn't pursue! He isn't investing!

    • @lmusima3275
      @lmusima3275 Před 2 lety +12

      He’s giving bread crumbs or excuses

  • @ypayne9871
    @ypayne9871 Před 4 lety +453

    I once was a victim of a " man who wasn't interested in me" But, will never be in that place again. Thanks Tony.

    • @divinelyblessedkb
      @divinelyblessedkb Před 4 lety +13

      Me too! Put me through the wilderness.

    • @ypayne9871
      @ypayne9871 Před 4 lety +22

      @@divinelyblessedkb lol the wilderness is where we find the Lord.

    • @divinelyblessedkb
      @divinelyblessedkb Před 4 lety +20

      @@ypayne9871 And you are right! Because it brought me even closer to God! 🙋🙌💃✨

    • @tanyahudson6272
      @tanyahudson6272 Před 3 lety +10

      We mostly all have been and it's ok. We learn from our mistakes.

    • @shatariholmes6063
      @shatariholmes6063 Před 3 lety +2

      I know the feeling

  • @lovelylove6193
    @lovelylove6193 Před 3 lety +30

    The first sign that I learned is, they won't text or call you first. If you are the one who is constantly getting ahold of him first to hang out or to just talk, then he is clearly not interested, PERIOD!!!. If he was, then he would be doing all of the initiaitng and pursuing.

  • @Sweetheartkethy305
    @Sweetheartkethy305 Před 4 lety +55

    You know the ones that get me are the men who actually think you're sitting around waiting for him. It truly blows my mind when they assume that they have you secured and focused on just them. Chile listen....

  • @vchild
    @vchild Před 4 lety +610

    I lied on God plenty of times.. Talking bout we are annointed. The devil is a liar!! God don't send no mess and confusion. The God I serve operates in ORDER not out of ORDER... Amen? Good message Tony. Thank you.

  • @louwil67
    @louwil67 Před 4 lety +563

    Tony said “All of a sudden he’s more busy than Barack Obama.” I’m hollering 💀💀💀💀😩😩😩😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯💯

  • @AndieAllDay
    @AndieAllDay Před 2 lety +135

    AMEN! That's why the Bible says to guard your heart! Actions speaks louder than words and words confirm how you feel. If a man doesn't express that he wants you never assume that he does. Women have to learn to guard their hearts and compartmentalize the men that are interested in them. Character supersedes everything! GREAT VIDEO!

    • @tlc6756
      @tlc6756 Před 11 měsíci

      That's true wisdom, thanks.

  • @DELIVERANCE-TODAY
    @DELIVERANCE-TODAY Před 3 lety +107

    "It's determined by the time he gives you." Powerful! Thanks.

  • @TuBella14
    @TuBella14 Před 4 lety +367

    I absolutely hate it when men act as if they are prime ministers of somebody’s country 😒. Sir if you don’t go clock in & clock out & get on this phone, you are NOT that busy.💀

    • @ellee.444
      @ellee.444 Před 4 lety +6

      Tu Bella 🤣🤣🤣 honestly!

    • @Channyb89
      @Channyb89 Před 4 lety +26

      “Prime ministers of somebody’s country.” I’m done 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @angelicaangel2624
      @angelicaangel2624 Před 4 lety +6

      Love this 😂

    • @TuBella14
      @TuBella14 Před 4 lety +16

      Chantal Brown Sis I’m so serious 😒 just fake busy 😂💀

    • @irenealex1600
      @irenealex1600 Před 4 lety +3

      @@TuBella14 your talking to me, he's busy like oxygen

  •  Před 4 lety +637

    My daddy used to say a man who opens his wallet has opened his heart. My mom told me that a man that likes/ loves you will trot the circumference of the earth to get to you.
    This advice has been true my whole life

    • @cecea665
      @cecea665 Před 4 lety +10

      Facts

    • @pallana3701
      @pallana3701 Před 4 lety +40

      My mama told me Never buy a man shoes
      Or else he gonna use them same shoes to walk out on you🤷🏽‍♀️
      But that’s My Mama

    • @ST5RZ_
      @ST5RZ_ Před 3 lety +5

      H&B V. Facts your mama was right.

    • @genj6630
      @genj6630 Před 3 lety +17

      Your dad gave great advice. Sadly have never met a guy that was really in to me.

    •  Před 3 lety +2

      Gen J I highly doubt that!! There are many people for everyone. I bet you have just overlooked those and go for a “type”.

  • @roses4me451
    @roses4me451 Před 3 lety +60

    I saw this online: "The love that you're WAITING to receive from someone else; you should already be giving it to yourself FIRST!" Now that was a word!

  • @002Zully
    @002Zully Před 9 měsíci +8

    “You’re no longer just thirsty, now you’re dehydrated” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’ve been there 😩

  • @Beautifullybyg
    @Beautifullybyg Před 4 lety +556

    So true! Basically a man knows straight out the gate what he really wants. It's up to the woman to determine what she wants and carry herself accordingly.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +2

      Amen

    • @purpleflowers149
      @purpleflowers149 Před rokem +11

      I'm looking at some of these comments a man knows what he wants from the jump , it's up to you to decide if you should continue to talk to this person or just leave this person alone, the red flags be in the conversation sometimes pay attention

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 Před měsícem

      Wrong wrong wrong

  • @maseengmasitha6212
    @maseengmasitha6212 Před 4 lety +487

    It was so painful to listen to this, but it is empowering. I just got played, and it hurts because I think I'm smart, but someone managed to do this to me. I let him do this to me.

    • @shelial.341
      @shelial.341 Před 3 lety +74

      Same here. . .I thought I was smart enough to detect the bs, but got TOTALLY played!

    • @mizzgudlyfe1418
      @mizzgudlyfe1418 Před 3 lety +24

      Me too 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ericaallen5216
      @ericaallen5216 Před 3 lety +39

      Me too, it hurt like hell.

    • @clarityroseb6136
      @clarityroseb6136 Před 3 lety +18

      Me too 😩

    • @themimster88
      @themimster88 Před 3 lety +44

      Me too. But I removed myself immediately upon understanding I was an option. He can't get a returned call, returned text, nada ...

  • @mandia469
    @mandia469 Před 4 lety +198

    He look like a tall, glass of chocolate milk in the Sahara Dessert! You went from thirsty to dehydrated!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @drusillacole3270
    @drusillacole3270 Před 2 lety +34

    This makes being single the greatest thing I have ever done for myself ❤️

  • @lcjones4682
    @lcjones4682 Před 4 lety +347

    I think women just need to trust themselves. I can look back and I KNEW when a man wasn’t truly interested...I just didn’t want to accept it because I liked him. But God gave us instinct and we need to pay attention to that nudging. And men do think if you’re a certain age and still single you must be desperate. But you have to get to the place where you trust God and willing to wait for the man who goes over and beyond to show you he wants you and only you.

    • @tanyahudson6272
      @tanyahudson6272 Před 3 lety +1

      Amen

    • @imanirhodes3180
      @imanirhodes3180 Před 3 lety +1

      So true

    • @PriyankaGupta-ew1li
      @PriyankaGupta-ew1li Před 3 lety +15

      You know what Us women know right from the first second that he is not into us.. But somehow (Y'all know how us women can be somehow🙄🤦‍♀️😂) we don't accept it or Take it at face value and end up playing ourselves!
      YESSS! I SAID IT..
      Men don't play us,
      We play ourselves! 😭😭😂😏
      We KNOW but again we are hard-headed🤣🙄😭🤦‍♀️

  • @lalarodgers3141
    @lalarodgers3141 Před 4 lety +283

    Its crazy because I use too be that "girl" that use to say "girl he is too nice", "I need somebody that's not always on me" etc etc but now that I know better and I'm much wiser, I have a "Man" that calls me everyday, plan dates, plan trips have his own car, house, a good job and just like to be around me and guess what I'm enjoying every bit of it. Thank God for Growth(on my part) Note: He has a busy schedule but he makes time for me

    • @ayessacamara3995
      @ayessacamara3995 Před 4 lety +11

      We praise the Lord!

    • @bosslady9108
      @bosslady9108 Před 3 lety +12

      Congratulations.....💏

    • @dinnipinni4810
      @dinnipinni4810 Před 3 lety +6

      So nice 🥰

    • @thinishot
      @thinishot Před 2 lety +1

      Then why are you watching this video?
      Because you know something or you looking for something.

    • @lalarodgers3141
      @lalarodgers3141 Před 2 lety +1

      @@thinishot No not at all..I'm subscribed to Toni, so its comes on my feed.

  • @stephanie3506
    @stephanie3506 Před 4 lety +70

    I gotta be honest, I really don't want to talk on the phone for an hour myself with most men. The conversations just aren't that stimulating most of the time.

    • @PriyankaGupta-ew1li
      @PriyankaGupta-ew1li Před 3 lety +2

      True🙄

    • @PriyankaGupta-ew1li
      @PriyankaGupta-ew1li Před 3 lety +8

      When I know he dumb. I just play bored😂 one hour on the phone.. Nigga's be boring us to death🙄🤦‍♀️😂😂

    • @lanac7974
      @lanac7974 Před 3 lety +5

      Lmaooo so true...be carrying the whole conversation

    • @anissa2361
      @anissa2361 Před 2 lety

      @@PriyankaGupta-ew1li Lol, yes! 😂

    • @Ashley-oi2uw
      @Ashley-oi2uw Před 2 lety +1

      So true

  • @laylap7963
    @laylap7963 Před 4 lety +14

    That’s why I like the 90 day rule. Get to know him in ONLY those days. If he doesn’t show his full interest in that time frame, wish him well and send him on.

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 Před měsícem

      Fuck 90 days you out of your mind you get 3 days max after that it's over

  • @indriadrayton1132
    @indriadrayton1132 Před 4 lety +417

    No! He's texting because his wife doesn't hear him talking cause, he's texting you instead. It's easier that way.... Pour the glass of milk down the sink, it's spoiled.

    • @ClowneryAtItsFinest
      @ClowneryAtItsFinest Před 4 lety +13

      Months back I had this very same theory. My ex friend swore up and down that I was thinking too much into it. I've dropped her ass since then!
      It's good to know that great minds think alike 😉.

    • @kelamo7067
      @kelamo7067 Před 4 lety

      indria drayton Chiiiiiiiiiiiiiile...

    • @ST5RZ_
      @ST5RZ_ Před 3 lety +20

      Oh yeah if he hardly calls and always texts he fasho has a woman.

    • @georgiemoran4442
      @georgiemoran4442 Před 3 lety +10

      So true lay right by side u n think ur 😴 a sleep n there he is texting her

    • @georgiemoran4442
      @georgiemoran4442 Před 3 lety +1

      @@ClowneryAtItsFinest good for u n u deserve better n I do to

  • @NurseNotRatched
    @NurseNotRatched Před 4 lety +352

    Good info Mr. Gaskins 👌🏽
    I’m a nurse practitioner & I’ll never ever ever disclose my salary to a man who’s not going to be my husband again. Learned the hard way 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ggabri07
      @ggabri07 Před 4 lety +44

      I am an NP too! I just tell men I am a health coach!

    • @itsme3k
      @itsme3k Před 4 lety +89

      Never disclose your salary, these men will use and abuse you.

    • @NurseNotRatched
      @NurseNotRatched Před 4 lety +12

      Gina B Good idea! I’ll have to use that!

    • @queenofthesouth4205
      @queenofthesouth4205 Před 4 lety +7

      Never ever ever!!!

    • @gorgeouslymade1754
      @gorgeouslymade1754 Před 4 lety +32

      These opportunists are googling salaries ...lol I normally say I’m in Accounting.. never mention that I have a MBA 🤣

  • @gwill3097
    @gwill3097 Před 4 lety +73

    I NEEDED to hear this! I was.on the fence about whether someone was "into" me and you hit on EVERY ONE of my uncertainties.... I now know he's not into me 🤷🏽‍♀️ thanks for helping me to walk away

  • @imanirhodes3180
    @imanirhodes3180 Před 3 lety +56

    It has been so hard for me to finish this specific video.. I’ve had to come back multiple times because the words hurt so much. I’m realizing that the person I was in a relationship with for 3 1/2 years was no longer interested in me. Whew thanks again Tony!

    • @Gstarp
      @Gstarp Před 2 lety +5

      Sorry ❤️

    • @katkos2750
      @katkos2750 Před 2 lety +7

      It must have been a blessing in disguise because God's rejection is our protection !

  • @linnaewillis619
    @linnaewillis619 Před 4 lety +180

    When you ask a man what do you want me for, they get mad

    • @PriyankaGupta-ew1li
      @PriyankaGupta-ew1li Před 3 lety +11

      😂

    • @sg5720
      @sg5720 Před 3 lety +7

      True. , just mine got mad cause he could not understand why I don’t see that he is the lucky one to have me😉

    • @laina1976
      @laina1976 Před 2 lety +1

      I just asked a man that lol. He chased me for 2 years. I finally gave him chance hanging out spending time and stuff. This fool is pulling away now. So i ask him why you do all that chasing now i give you a chance and you acting stupid. Smh.

  • @theslaygoddessperfect9995
    @theslaygoddessperfect9995 Před 4 lety +330

    I’m getting sick of man .I still believe in love tho

    • @liztaylor456
      @liztaylor456 Před 3 lety +23

      Don’t be sick of men.. just expand your horizons. It’s a whole World out here, explore ❤️

    • @dreamteam8667
      @dreamteam8667 Před 3 lety +3

      @@liztaylor456 YESSSSSS

    • @cathymcdonaldfemale820
      @cathymcdonaldfemale820 Před 3 lety +22

      I am sick of a man too. Can't deal with them anymore. Toxic.

    • @inthecloudswithskye7036
      @inthecloudswithskye7036 Před 3 lety +4

      @@cathymcdonaldfemale820 me too..

    • @jujumama
      @jujumama Před 3 lety +3

      Love can exist but not when people act the way that they do most of the time

  • @jodynanci
    @jodynanci Před 4 lety +25

    Facts. That was me 3 years ago, so in love with a playa. I've been single for 3 years now because I needed to work on myself and so far I see through the bullshit and won't even entertain any of these guys. Well said sir

  • @aomfnm
    @aomfnm Před 4 lety +32

    Wow you are so right. I would fantasize about him all day and give him much more credit than he deserved! I made him look and sound so good to me, that he could do no wrong 😑

  • @simplysimone7174
    @simplysimone7174 Před 4 lety +247

    If only I could go back 10 years and apply all of this new knowledge. I was definitely falling for the one who did NOT want me and running away from the good man aka “the creep” smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @diva-nicole9089
      @diva-nicole9089 Před 4 lety +8

      You and me both(smh) every time I hear Tony's messages I think just that.

    • @kenishalperkins
      @kenishalperkins Před 4 lety +18

      Amen !! I need the last 20 years back

    •  Před 4 lety +3

      Damn that's sad

    • @patty8945
      @patty8945 Před 4 lety +4

      I wish I knew it years ago as well.

  • @ericalevene3125
    @ericalevene3125 Před 4 lety +165

    I am glad I have enough discernment to rid men who are a waste of space. There was this one, who only texted me back for a few days and told him if he cant call me then stop text8ng me.
    So he stopped all together and I saved my time and not waste it with.......a waste man.

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 Před 4 lety +13

      Goodnite and good riddance boo❤❤❤🤣🤣🤣

  • @jroyal2229
    @jroyal2229 Před 4 lety +14

    I try to give a man a chance but, it’s just not working out. They turn out to be just what you said Tony. I rather stay single & wait for the right man that know my worth than to waste my time wondering if he’s really into me. I refuse to be treated like a piece of celery on a side plate of chicken wings.

  • @sunnyday3117
    @sunnyday3117 Před 3 lety +13

    Sometimes a man can be interested and do all the things you’ve spoke on but in an unhealthy manner due to previous trust issues and ruins something that could’ve been powerful and beautiful. I call it “The Over-thinker”

  • @ShyXoxo1920
    @ShyXoxo1920 Před 4 lety +285

    Your imitation of the woman’s voice “ohhh” and smacking of the lips/rolling eyes be having me DEAD 💀🤣🤣

  • @bre_s9164
    @bre_s9164 Před 4 lety +142

    When you get the notification that Tony made a video. 🏃🏽‍♀️💨

    • @TuBella14
      @TuBella14 Před 4 lety +5

      Flawless Imperfection be bout to break my finger 😂

    • @bre_s9164
      @bre_s9164 Před 4 lety +3

      I’m tryna tell you sis! 😂

    • @jayleeh9459
      @jayleeh9459 Před 4 lety +2

      Yes! Lol👀👃👂

    • @viewly390
      @viewly390 Před 4 lety +2

      Flawless Imperfection with the quickness

    • @bre_s9164
      @bre_s9164 Před 4 lety +1

      Sashisroyal One right!!! 😂😂

  • @rhut579
    @rhut579 Před rokem +5

    Based on this video, I don’t think anyone I have every dated was into me.☹️It’s good to understand the differences.

  • @Koukouna154
    @Koukouna154 Před 4 lety +26

    When he said “not LPN, keep working” Lawwwd I spit out my food 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @harrietcarlock2986
    @harrietcarlock2986 Před 4 lety +192

    He's building his time with other women

    • @marycurlee2163
      @marycurlee2163 Před 4 lety +3

      Each women thinks she got the ring on the finger too and will display the fake ring too to make sure you know they got him in the bag exspecially when we use to have church. Seen it happen alot just to let you know to back off l am pulling this fish for dinner.

  • @mirandasmith8501
    @mirandasmith8501 Před 4 lety +201

    Make sure he don't need you for a green card, a place to stay, a ride to work, and for financial reasons. Ask what he want you for, look at his character.

    • @Afrocreolebombshell
      @Afrocreolebombshell Před 4 lety +3

      Miranda Moore they may not be honest

    • @susamgray2483
      @susamgray2483 Před 4 lety +39

      @@Afrocreolebombshell They may not be honest but you as a woman..You gotta be Smart...When a man tries to come on too strong and too fast just do a background check on him as if he applying for a job..Do a criminal check and credit check and domestic violence check and STD check and check to see how long he can hold a job and how many kids he has and do he take care of them and how many times he been married...Did I cover everything

    • @kikikiki3216
      @kikikiki3216 Před 3 lety +5

      @@susamgray2483 home truth...

    • @lmusima3275
      @lmusima3275 Před 2 lety +1

      He shouldn’t be looking for a place holder

    • @lmusima3275
      @lmusima3275 Před 2 lety +3

      In the past I used to meet these Nigerian guys who used to pander me with cheesy lines saying “I think I’ve seen you somewhere before. You’re so beautiful.” I’d simply ignore them. Next thing you know they’re getting married to a British woman

  • @crystalmahogani5857
    @crystalmahogani5857 Před 4 lety +12

    If you have to ask a man to call you instead of texting...even suggest it...he's not into you like that. You dont need to ask, hint, suggest, wait or play games when he is truly interested. You'll know from the START.

    • @kikikiki3216
      @kikikiki3216 Před 2 lety +1

      You know what am taking this on board.

    • @zen_mindset1
      @zen_mindset1 Před 6 měsíci

      Yeah he not interested....I was blind.

  • @tesswakefield1420
    @tesswakefield1420 Před 3 lety +45

    I’m turning into a nun guys are too complicated 😂

  • @BlkMagickGaia3
    @BlkMagickGaia3 Před 4 lety +190

    If he let's you pay/go Dutch, he's not that into you.

    • @runningcloud1751
      @runningcloud1751 Před 4 lety +3

      This is an original dance to the music nuance " be a man about it; not a boy with it" ,my saying to put a male in his place ( make him think) kinda a put down and make him rethink the behavior /situation . So Tony this is a gift to you apply it , as you will. Please feel free to ad it to your brand... Virgin married, first born, Nana, all round single, good girl, chased contemporary single, qualified, old fashion girl, modern woman and cosmopolitan lady.

    • @ajura8926
      @ajura8926 Před 3 lety +1

      Uh not sure about this my husband and I have been together for 16years and on our first date I actually paid for it.

    • @adrianarenee3331
      @adrianarenee3331 Před 2 lety +5

      @@ajura8926 that’s because he knew you could be used to pay for everything. That’s not a good thing.

  • @chrisparker6249
    @chrisparker6249 Před 4 lety +320

    Success is a process and time ALWAYS tells the TRUTH. The urge to rush into anything is not of God but our own spirit. We can't assume that God has his hand on every relationship because it looks and feel right....pray for discernment.

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 4 lety +18

      @@PreciousForReal It's important to support, motivate, and uplift each other. And women must know that all makes don't operate or move the same.

    • @AE-106
      @AE-106 Před 4 lety +5

      @@chrisparker6249 Blessings my brothah

    • @chrisparker6249
      @chrisparker6249 Před 4 lety +3

      @@AE-106 🙏

    • @Gfamily4
      @Gfamily4 Před 4 lety +2

      Amen🙌

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +2

      💯💯💯

  • @ToyaNYC81
    @ToyaNYC81 Před 3 lety +19

    If a man is not interested then just say your not interested. It’s gets messy when he continues to pursue a woman for his own needs but could really care less about her. Be real and leave space needed for the right man to intercept your intentions. This goes for females too. This is such an old subject that never seems to get old.

    • @BapeGangMember
      @BapeGangMember Před 8 měsíci +1

      Why would he tell you that if he’s trying to use you?

  • @Letsbuildabetterworld23
    @Letsbuildabetterworld23 Před 2 lety +5

    So many coaches on CZcams... what he says, makes more sense to me than others.

  • @jewelsafire6844
    @jewelsafire6844 Před 4 lety +383

    If you have to ask if he's interested, then that in and of itself is problematic. Let's be interested in our own health, wealth, and happiness. I'm going to be over here minding my own business in 2020 & forward.💪🏽🧘🏽‍♀️☯

  • @luulips
    @luulips Před 4 lety +339

    I have to tell you Tony, when you said talk everyday for an hour I thought you were crazy and that was impossible. Well this man I’m talking to our first phone conversation was for 6 hours. Yes 6 hours! I couldn’t believe it. Didn’t think it was possible. We’re both in our early 60s, retired partially disabled so we have lots of time. We talk everyday. Its been a couple months since exchanging numbers and we still can talk for hours. He talks 3 times more than I but I don’t get tired of listening to him so far at least lol. We both want the same things for our future. We’ll see as things progress.

  • @1funkateer847
    @1funkateer847 Před 4 lety +11

    I'm an older lady and a widow, just getting back out there. A lot of this is common sense, but we lose all that when our emotions get involved. Good information here, and you are laugh out loud funny!

  • @chrissyisok
    @chrissyisok Před 4 lety +17

    Thank you! Sometimes we are so busy reacting to each instance, we forget to look at the whole picture. I didn't see until this video was playing in the background and the facts were clicking. Suddenly im sitting down and hanging on to every word! God worked through you today. That message was my answer. Thank you.

  • @dswannbeautyartist
    @dswannbeautyartist Před 4 lety +101

    “You want me but what do you want me for”. I hear that as some people ain’t looking for love their looking for help

  • @lizalbert8650
    @lizalbert8650 Před 4 lety +170

    Lol Tony, true, I am an RN and married to an Accountant before then, too many dusty and grown boys eyes lit up when they found out I was an RN. I never told men I was an RN. When a man is interested in you, you will know. He will bring his own table to your table... Ladies please listen to Tony ❤

    • @louwil67
      @louwil67 Před 4 lety +32

      Liz Albert Thank you. Red flags when they’re too Interested in your job, rank, salary, car, or 401K. I now know that’s a sign that they’re struggling and looking to use you.

    • @lizalbert8650
      @lizalbert8650 Před 4 lety +8

      @@louwil67 Yes, exactly...

    •  Před 4 lety +13

      Yes I always used to tell men I was just taken care of by my dad or had an entry level job. Lol

    • @sarahq3962
      @sarahq3962 Před 4 lety +9

      @@louwil67 - I got rid of a grown boy, in the beginning he would ask what my job title is and how much I made and proceed to guessing how much i made.. I would never give him any clue on the amount. I eventually ghosted his opportunistic bum self and changed my number so he could never reach me again😉lol

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 Před 3 lety +5

      RN's attract duties that want to use them because they know she will have steady income ..I do what you do I never tell men that I am a nurse because these men will try to get money from you and want to get married asap to secure her ..marriage is the goal but some of these nurses that I have encountered their men are doing nothing so yes they have the title of married but they at work while they man cheating smh but they not leaving ..I met a philipinouber drive that drives three days a week married to a RN she works so much to and he living his best life

  • @vchild
    @vchild Před 3 lety +5

    I had to go back and listen to this again. This is good stuff. Ladies you need to put this on repeat

  • @RachelMaegrace
    @RachelMaegrace Před 2 lety +11

    I needed this, I have a guy im really interested in we talk often and have long, deep conversations and he acts real interested but then he vanishes for a few days to a week it sucks. I know he's not right for me and I deserve better.

  • @Itchpls
    @Itchpls Před 4 lety +86

    Car chronicles, hotel chronicles... Love them all 😂😂

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 Před rokem

      Bedroom chronicles, office chronicles

  • @sharicebryant8149
    @sharicebryant8149 Před 4 lety +229

    Be blessed tony! You’re so right abt us women thinking half effort is sexy and mysterious. We love men that are vague bc we can dream up our own versions of how things will go in the relationship. It’s sad. Wise up, ladies. The man that puts in effort actually likes you and that’s okay lol.

  • @chumasitali7803
    @chumasitali7803 Před 3 lety +8

    Everytime he does that voice i be rolling on the floor🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @godsgirl3175
    @godsgirl3175 Před rokem +4

    Some people talk just to talk so called dating coaches....this man here is doing God's Light ✨ work!!!! Bringing about and clarity to God's children...All praises to The Most High 🙏🏽

  • @lionelluva
    @lionelluva Před 4 lety +319

    Tony and his female mannerisms - “OHHHHHHHH” 😂😂😂😂, but he’s telling NO lies

    • @tanitrarobinson7477
      @tanitrarobinson7477 Před 4 lety +25

      What gets me...laying on ya byke(back) lol lol

    • @lionelluva
      @lionelluva Před 4 lety +2

      @@tanitrarobinson7477 LMBOOOOOO yes!

    • @lisathomas2171
      @lisathomas2171 Před 4 lety +2

      Yes he kills me I always laugh when I hear him start lol 😂😭

    • @BluDrop5
      @BluDrop5 Před 4 lety +1

      @@tanitrarobinson7477 I love his accent!

    • @Mantoa_R91
      @Mantoa_R91 Před 4 lety

      A.G. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @irishbenton9194
    @irishbenton9194 Před 4 lety +150

    I have laughed so hard on these female gestures " girlllll" this is so brutally honest. Thank God for men standing up telling the truth

  • @javon8082
    @javon8082 Před 4 lety +30

    Thk u Brother Tony. Another great video. To help women see signs. And also for us men to realize what were doing if we really aren't into someone. It holds me accountable and check myself!👍

  • @ingridabasto7934
    @ingridabasto7934 Před 3 lety +13

    Is he bringing a table to my table so we can feast together? I love that.

  • @lucilleduncan5187
    @lucilleduncan5187 Před 4 lety +116

    Been there done that..I fell in love with a man that was ALWAYS TOO BUSY.he would get mad and what to argue when i would mention the lack of time.
    It ain't that much busy in the world.

    • @missj5564
      @missj5564 Před 4 lety +21

      Too busy means he is not interested.

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 Před 4 lety

      Aint🤦🙄

    • @brieze1233
      @brieze1233 Před 4 lety +9

      Been there.. now blocked

    • @k.s.alexander9427
      @k.s.alexander9427 Před 3 lety +3

      You were something to pass the time for him, and he was probably a narcissist too

    • @PriyankaGupta-ew1li
      @PriyankaGupta-ew1li Před 3 lety +1

      You know what Us women know right from the first second that he is not into us.. But somehow (Y'all know how us women can be somehow🙄🤦‍♀️😂) we don't accept it or Take it at face value and end up playing ourselves!
      YESSS! I SAID IT..
      Men don't play us,
      We play ourselves! 😭😭😂😏
      We KNOW but again we are hard-headed!!🤣🙄😭😭😭🤦‍♀️

  • @wbabe2012
    @wbabe2012 Před 4 lety +125

    I feel bad because I can’t even get a phone call 😔

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 Před 4 lety +22

      He won't the one ....hes coming🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @findingdori442
      @findingdori442 Před 4 lety +13

      wbabe2012 it will get better. Gods timing ❤️🙏

    • @angelbasham6631
      @angelbasham6631 Před 4 lety +9

      You will

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Před 4 lety +25

      The right person wont do you like that so take courage in that fact.

    • @shevettejackson.
      @shevettejackson. Před 4 lety

      Sad

  • @latonyawrenn1435
    @latonyawrenn1435 Před rokem

    Brother Tony is dropping pure truth in this video! Thank you so much. This is really helping me right now.

  • @pattersonlucille31
    @pattersonlucille31 Před 3 lety +4

    I really appreciate your videos Mr. Gaskins. They are useful, needed, and effective. God bless you brother.

  • @rachelbeck8307
    @rachelbeck8307 Před 4 lety +104

    Woooo chile i be ignoring the signs🤦🏿😫

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 Před 4 lety +1

      Me too!!

    • @lerhondajones-bates3324
      @lerhondajones-bates3324 Před 4 lety +3

      Me 3...smh 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 Před 4 lety +11

      Yes we all do from time to time if we are being honest. Prayerfully this time we have learned, and we will wait for the one God have for us.

    • @greengoddessof75
      @greengoddessof75 Před 4 lety +1

      @@ladennayoung2939 Yes we all do!!🤣

    • @iishalanae
      @iishalanae Před 4 lety +9

      Well let's all make this the last time we all ignore signs. It's time for us women to get it together. I know I'm too old to still be getting played

  • @loriclark1000
    @loriclark1000 Před 4 lety +76

    I had a guy acting iffy and when I asked him what was going on he told me he still had feelings for his ex and wasn't emotionally available. He also said he shouldn't have been so iffy and felt bad for it.

    • @brick_housedee6711
      @brick_housedee6711 Před 4 lety +44

      At least he's honest

    • @mayasheartdesiire
      @mayasheartdesiire Před 4 lety +42

      Good thing he still was honest. Cause some men will just continue to be fake and act like it’s nothing...Honesty will take you a long way.

    • @marymwinga1255
      @marymwinga1255 Před 4 lety +11

      At least he told you the truth. One i been dealing with he just went mute.. he'd read my whatsapp message but no replies.. and never say anything if he doesnt want anything to do with me.. it hasnt been easy really. Trying to move on but i love him

    • @remiem-iw7uk
      @remiem-iw7uk Před 4 lety +8

      @@marymwinga1255 You love an *idea!* Get yourself a fresh set of energy and take yourself off his shelf! I have the same issue of not being the priority
      and Tony's vids helping me move on.

    • @marymwinga1255
      @marymwinga1255 Před 4 lety +5

      @@remiem-iw7uk yes thanks. Im definately doing that.. I let go and let God

  • @orionapollo1613
    @orionapollo1613 Před 4 lety +7

    Thank you so much, Tony. I needed to hear this from You, today. Wow! I appreciate your enlightenment. Amen.

  • @lashondatalbert4185
    @lashondatalbert4185 Před 4 lety +3

    It's 11:15 pm I'm suppose to be sleeping but I ran across your videos and I'm hooked!!! OMG 😂...I'm over here taking notes and everything!!!