MY WIFE WANTS A DIVORCE! - David Goggins Advice
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- čas přidán 18. 11. 2023
- David Goggins gives advice to this man about what he should do about his wife who wants a divorce. His answer will suprise the hell out of you.
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Women never do anything spontaneously. By the time she talks to you about it, whether it's good or bad, she has talked to 5 friends and 200 strangers about it.
If it's bad then cut and run.
If it's good then cut and run
There is no intimacy with women. Everything you say and do will be told to her friends so she can get help on how to control and manipulate you.
After 7 years my wife told me she wanted to get an apartment where we could work things out. I didn’t know that we were having any real problems. I filed for divorce the next day, she was floored that I filed so quickly. Anyway 4 weeks later we were divorced. Then to find out she was seeing a guy already which is why she wanted to leave. Best thing I ever did. 6 years later she called me crying and said she wanted to come home, I laughed and told her she was never coming home. Haven’t heard from her since, good riddance.
Smart man being preemptive
You must have great intuition that you trust, and amazing healthy boundaries
Wow
Way to go, brother-man!
You do relaise he is Divorced , he has nothing of what you mentioned
@@user-ig4xw6wd1rThat makes no sense.
I'm of the opinion that no woman will ever leave a man without having at least one lined up, or with whom she's already cheating. Glad you cut your losses, like a real man. Best to you
@@user-ig4xw6wd1r So someone who's been through a divorce can't have good intuition or healthy boundaries? How did you even come to that conclusion?
Goggins just saved him 10 grand in therapy. 💯👏🏾👏🏾
wont matter.. the Ex, her attorney and the law will suck the 10 grand and more out of him for the foreseeable future... more if kids are involved. women win "financially" 95% of the time in divorces.
and 10 months of unnecessary grief 💯
Hope his wife doesn't find out about that 10k though!😅
men go to therapists? i've never heard of that....outside of some bad childhood trauma and legal reasons of course.
@@skinnyhairybadger6048Men are obsessed with talking about money they dont even have
Married my high school sweetheart. I loved this woman with everything I had. After 19 years of marriage, she wanted a divorce. I had never cried so much. After I asked myself, “Why do you want to be with a person who doesn’t want to be with you?” it suddenly got a whole lot easier. Once she decides she doesn’t want to be with you anymore, brothers, she’s another person. She not who you thought she was. Don’t try to negotiate it, reason with it, figure it out, compromise, etc…. Let it die and move on.
Sorry man
Dam. Got told today after 14 yrs
wthatttt , after 19 years of marriage !!!!!!!! how can any person do that after 19 years of emotional roller coaster withh a partner
@@deadraider420 sorry for you boss
@@shashwatmali3640 She didn't deserve that man bro .
For those out there that are grieving for the partnership they thought they had, I'm sending you hugs through the internet. I'm grieving with you ❤
🙏
❤️🙏🥺
That's what happens when you marry hoes who have tasted different dicks you guys deserve divorces for accepting characterless behaviour it's your responsibility to choose a right person don't blame the other person lol
Thank you brother ❤
@@Massenko this too shall pass, my friend.
The guy who asked Goggins doesn't give himself credit he deserves... to be asking such question in front of everyone comes from a place of strength
He's the strongest guy ever.
absolutely man, 100% agree.
Exactly. Our dude needs to know this.
So true
Feel for that man. Took some guts to ask those things in front of other people.
I was thinking the same! The dude is very strong and he doesn't realize it! The girl who wants to break up must be very dumb!
When he said "I can do better", I immediately recognized his situation. He's in that self-sacrificial place where he's willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, and he doesn't understand he's chasing a ghost. As soon as she's the one calling the shots, shes loses respect for you by the day and nothing you do will ever be enough. I had to let mine go the same way. Perhaps the hardest thing I've ever done and best decision I've ever made. You think your life is over but you're really getting your life back. Living a bullshit lie is the worst.
You're not wrong. I've been in that place as well. But he's also not wrong. Many of us aren't the partners we could have been.
@@scottverge938 agreed, we can always do better and should always be seeking to improve. I'm just inclined to argue that when the growth and improvement is all one-sided and you're constantly just trying to improve yourself with little if any reciprocation, no amount of bettering yourself will ever be enough. There's a profound difference between constantly pushing to improve and sacrificing yourself. No relationship is worth sacrificing yourself.
@@ct00001
Sorry about the long text, but could you give me your honest opinion? It's gonna help me a lot
That's my history:
We weren't actually dating, but we had something, so to speak. In the beginning, she wanted to date me, but I refused because of my financial problems, thinking it wouldn't work out. Despite that, I always wished to have a real relationship with her and expressed that to her. However, the result was that she ended up distancing herself from me.
One day, we argued because I felt jealous of her talking to a guy. At the end of the night, I called him and said some things to him. She didn't like it because I acted like I was her boyfriend when I wasn't. She asked for a break, and I gave it to her. During this time, I believe her desire for me diminished. I tried several times to meet with her, but she always had something that wouldn't allow it.
I consistently sent her messages, and she replied in a very cold tone, which didn't happen initially. She mentioned that we needed to get closer again, and I genuinely tried, but she didn't put in the effort like I did. When I wanted to give her a present, she said it wasn't necessary, and for me, that was very hurtful.
When it was time to give her my gift, she couldn't show up, and I got angry because of that. Yesterday, we ended things, and I returned some books she had lent me.
I made a mistake when I said "no" to her due to my financial problems, considering she was willing to help, and she was in love with me. I made a mistake speaking nonsense to the guy, as if she were my girlfriend, when she wasn't. In the end, I got upset over trivial things.
She hurt me by distancing herself without saying anything, avoiding physical and digital contact, and not showing affection in the same way I did.
I was already intending to end this, and it happened yesterday. When I returned the books, she acted as if I were a total stranger, with immense indifference. And that hurt.
I know the obvious conclusion to draw from this story is that she doesn't want me anymore, and I made mistakes, desiring a phantom. I am aware of that.
However, I am still in love with her, still thinking about the good times we had. I dwell on what I could have done differently, revisiting moments when I felt sadness due to certain actions of hers. At the same time, I believe there is still an opportunity to reverse this, which I will share with you.
She bought me a book, and I haven't returned it to her. I plan to return it after a considerable time when I am financially better. My hope is that during this time, she changes her mind about me. I understand that she may also forget about me during this period. I will ask someone else to return it, leaving the book in front of her door with a letter stating my address and an invitation for her to visit.
What do you think about all of this? About this last attempt to fix things with the help of time? Keep in mind, man, I'm still in love and desire her despite everything. I feel that if I don't make this last attempt, I will regret it and be in doubt. The plan to return the book is at least 1 year from now, so I have hope that things will change. I hope you can help me with your opinion; thank you in advance.
I'm in this place right now. Found out she's cheating on me and is no longer "in love with me anymore". And you're right. As I read your words, I realize that all of my changes that I'm doing (self-sacrifice to make it work) are just serving her ego because she's already moved on and nothing I do will be enough anymore. I'm grieving, but I have to stop letting her use me and hurt me.
She's "slumming" with a lower quality, lower-tier guy. She deserves him. I've got to move on. Going to be hard to do after 18 years, but I have to accept this and become a better version of myself.
@Kriegsbeil5577 that's brutal man. It's though to give up all that history but for your own mental health you need to walk away, she's gone. Just work on yourself and take the experience as a learned lesson.
I know I'll never look at women quite the same way ever again.
Great advice. Ain’t no woman worth fighting to keep if she doesn’t want you anymore. Especially if you’ve been good to her. If you’ve been bad to her and she’s warned you, suck it up and move on anyway.
I’m going through a divorce I’m the third husband. Why did I short myself and think that things would be different with me.
@@VirginiaBoy703took my ex back after she dumped me. Then she dumped me again 3 years later.
Tell that to Steven Crowder! His wife says she hates him and is scared of him and wants to leave and his response was "the law should be changed to force couples to stay together". That really means he thinks women are property and shouldn't be allowed to divorce men, it's actually a weak, gutless way to handle rejection?? It's sad how many guys think that way in 2024!
@@DangOleBoomhauerMan: He is not a real men. He don't know his self worth. He has no self respect.
I was going through the same thing. I made the changes she wanted, and they still weren't enough. She moved out one day and said she needed time and space. I served her with divorce papers a few days later. I can tell it stung her ego because she sent me a drunk email at 2 in the morning saying she was surprised that I was serving her with papers. I realized that she no longer brought any value to my life and she was just going to be a liability in the future. It was not an easy decision, but I know I'm going to be better off without her BS in my life.
You didn't bring any value to her life. That's why she filed for divorce 😂
never do all she wants the number one way to be not respected, women need to respect men to have sexual attraction, if she can form you as she wants you are a boy, women dont like boys... When they move out etc. it means they already play someones fiddle, never react to their bullshit after a break up it fucks your healing process.
@@Lex-jv9zn He was the one that filed for divorce and it was her who didn't bring any value to HIS life, that's why she moved out like the rat she is.
Good job King. You'll get so much better in life than her.
@@Lex-jv9zna tape worm does the same as most women and is generally as valuable as a woman.
First wife cheated on me with my 'friend' when I was on deployment. I had already sacrificed so much to keep her and I knew (deep down inside) that she wasn't worth it. My mom counciled me at the time - her advice: let go because if it was meant to be it wouldn't be one-sided. She also told me, take some time off from dating after this and spend time knowing yourself. Both of these pieces of advice were golden. A year and a half later I met the one I was meant to be with - my mom talked to her once on the phone and said she is the one. We've been married now for 24 years and this woman has stuck by me through everything.
How long did you take off. My time off seems like it may last forever.
Thank you kindly for your patriotism and your service sir ....America thanks you 🫡🇺🇲
So sad. Whilst you was on deployment. Damn.. And how come with your friend.. Damn.
Man I'm so happy for you! What a legend!
I'm just gonna ask one thing, how did you know she was the one?
Goggins is the kind of friend you want to have. Wounds of a friend are always better than kisses from an enemy.
💯%
Where'd you get this line from? I like it
@peppadsniper9920 Proverbs 27:6
Or it’ll just hurt more.
Love the quote!
Its not about finding someone else but moving on from that situation, dont let finding someone be your focal point but find happiness in yourself
Extremely hard doing this, but there's no choice. I got told that my partner is no longer sexually attracted to me anymore. Neither does she find me physically attractive. Relationship is gone right in front of my eyes. I'm broken, grief stricken. I've been nothing but good to her, and just like this man said, I can do better. It hurts like hell but I'm going to take Goggins' advice. Will take the punch on my face and move on. Life's hard for everyone, but especially for us men. Nobody gives a crap about us. Baby steps at a time but I hope the journey of life becomes easier a few months down the line. Thank you for the video. Needed it more than I think I did.
Brother, when I went through it I thought that feeling was never go away. And once I decided to let go I started feeling better started sleeping better and feeling better overall, you are going to surpass this trust me.
@@oscarcastaneda6126 I hope so too brother. There will be light on the end of this dark tunnel and i pray that every man who was wrongly done like us comes out stronger than ever! 🙏
You were lucky. Mine feels the same way but doesn't say it. At least yours was honest. I can take that over the constant games over intimacy. When we all know what the truth is. Trust me, sometimes the blunt truth always is so much better. Mine still plays games to keep the marriage (using the kids as a weapon) because I provide a certain lifestyle. I asked to be done no matter what it costs. My peace and self worth is more important to me than this bullshit. Good luck brother.
I feel ya brotha... mine left me 5 months ago met someone in November and already says she loves him... it's painful but I'm gonna take the advice too and just get it moving.
@@Potdar087 Brother that is absolutely horrible to hear. And you are right, these games that your wife/partner is playing are way worse than the actual truth. As a brother, I do pray that you find some peace and love soon. You deserve better 🙏
When someone say they leaving you they already left you 8 months ago....
Big talk
Someone or woman particularly?
Word
@@daMoonSonExactly
@@daMoonSon Women. When they say that they are already cheating on you. They are cold and calculating and wait to tell you because they are all about extracting the maximum amount of resources out of a man.
Divorced 4 years now, and I’m still struggling to move on. She wanted out, left me with really bad depression. Became lazy, overweight, completely unmotivated and apathetic toward everything.
For some weird reason, this 2 minute clip just sparked something. It will take awhile, but I’m hoping that spark can continue to burn. I need to move on, this is no way to live life.
Thanks for the video! ❤
Stay strong. Sometimes it takes a bad experience to know what a good one is.
She divorced you for a reason, and that reason is still lingering, ruining your life. Focus on your physical health and the rest will fall into place.
Stop being a lil bitch boy man
Good luck man. You can do it.
Right on man! Live your life. You deserve to squeeze as much fuckin happiness out of this shit as you possibly can. Live your life with vigor and enjoy the fruits of your labor!
I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd.
Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
This man is so brave ..
I hope he found his happiness ! He seems sweet and genuine ..
IKR...He probably moved on already with someone much better...kudos to him!
The gym will never leave you, you are welcome bro.
Wdym dude. There are more important stuff than gym.
@@Kbax3614it start there trust me ! 👍
@@Kbax3614some
@@Kbax3614you clearly haven’t been going to the gym
@@Kbax3614 like what?
It’s easier said than done, but Goggins is 💯 right.
It’s gets easier when it’s done.
Only if you're a simp..or if she ends up with the house and kids 😂😂...marriage is a scarry thing man
Whenever you make moves, whether it’s a monumental simp scheme or not, you live with it, learn from it at best and move on. Every men made a simp play at one point. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be as many RP channels and spaces in the first place.
Absolutely
@@T.Harry79good advice ima keep that one
If a woman tells you its over, than she has decided this weeks if not months in advance. She just waited for the right moment for herself to go on as comfortable as possible. She has it all planned out already. Including were to live, work and has probably already a new guy by her side. So drop her like a hot iron, agree to her decision with no hard feelings or any drama to validate her and for gods sake dont take her back when she comes back because her plans didnt work out. Delete her number, her socials and never ever waist a thought to that woman again. Bless you brother!
100% Facts 🙌😎
My wife of 11 years up and left with our 9 & 7 yr old daughters. After a series of lies and court dates ( so I could have half custody ), she admitted to her new lesbian lifestyle. This self absorbed person now misses her eldest daughter because she is home where she belongs full time. In her home. Our youngest daughter is still shared and it takes an obvious toll on her. The eldest girl won't spend any time with her mother despite five years of myself trying to get them to reconcile. The whole situation is saddening. Life goes on.
Lesbians don't last longer, they'll certainly end their relationship within 5 years at most
Why would you promote reconciliation of your daughter with a sexually devious, compromised/reprobate individual? Your daughter needs to be around decent influences. A lesbian mother certainly isn't a decent influence. I'd focus on raising your children with everything you've got to give. Hanging around their mother will only reaffirm that what she did is OK in your mind if you support reconciliation. Their mother caused a lot of destruction in your family and the children need to know that you do not condone what your ex wife did or the devious style she subscribed to.
I almost marry my ex, we’ve been planning the wedding suddenly she chose her new career over me. I didn’t try to stop her or beg her to stay, she already made up her mind that I wasn’t good enough for her. I said my goodbye moved on. I never wanted to know what happened to her afterwards. For the next 6 months I focused on myself. She tried reaching out but every phone call & text messages I reject & not reply. I’m now happily married to an incredible woman & we support each other.
That's what happens when you marry hoes who have tasted different dicks you guys deserve divorces for accepting characterless behaviour it's your responsibility to choose a right person don't blame the other person lol
You dodged a bullet
Very nice, brother!
What happened to her though just curious
Beautiful story. Well done.
Well to be fair, Goggins did ask the man if he’s been good to her. He also said that if they’re not currently undergoing an intense issue that would be different, but we’re going with the FACTS that the wife already said she’s GOING to divorce him. So then let her! And move on. You can’t beg someone to stay with you who already made their decision! It’ll only hurt you more, and it’ll also hold you back from growing into an even greater man!
Begging makes it worse, but the moment you say "alright" she's all the sudden second guessing. It's a wild game
A man doesn’t beg anything from anyone. If you do, she will never respect you.
Yeah, untill she takes half of your assets and money
Do any of you people understand what a marriage is? A solemn vow before God? Richer or poorer? Health and sickness? For better or for worse? Until death? Anything ringing a bell??????? Goggins just told this man to throw out his solemn vow to God. That’s called weakness.
@@ETAisNOWNo, Goggins just told this man that if his wife is throwing out their solem vow to God, then, fuck her.
To my brothers of undying loyalty and hard work who will never be recognized truly. Know that your struggle is shared by so many men, specifically men, cherish the burden you get to carry and the strength that it must bring as you pass through stages of life.
This alone is a gift among us.
My wife of 6 years just left me; and is trying the take custody of our baby , he’s only 3 but is already having a rough time adjusting … half the pain I feel stems from her the other half is me feeling like I’ve failed my son …. Talk about heartache
10 years ago my wife cheated on me and I found out. I packed her S*&t in bags and threw it in the garbage. I took care of our 3 kids while she ran off with the loser. Of course that failed and months later she wanted to come back. NOPE. I've dated several women after that and worked on myself. Now I've met an amazing woman and she treats me better than any woman has ever treated me in my life to include my Mother. Keep on keeping on and the world will turn.
My wife treats me better than my mother too! 👍
Thank you man. Coming from a breakup which happened 2 weeks ago. I was very faithful to her and provided her with everything, was paying rent, food, bills. All this while she enjoyed conversations with boys who were clearly interested in her and she never listened to my request to block them or stop talking to them.
Once I read a chat with this guy she used to play online games with, I understood that she was not faithful. He asked her to go on a vacation with him and her reply was 'I don't know you, we'll see' while she was living with me.
After I saw that and considering the past of her talking to boys (I came to know from her old friend that even when she was 18 she was living with her boyfriend while also seeing other men), It was very hard, but I told her to go the fuck away from me and my house. It was hard. I had moments where I almost was going to forgive her because she kept crying, and I'm a very very kind and patient person. But I couldn't let all my friends and family down for her. I took a decision and told her I don't feel love anymore to a woman who behaves like this and since I already forgave her twice for this behavior, I couldn't forgive a third time. Now she left, she insulted me and offended me, kept doing that after we broke up, calling me childish, until I blocked her everywhere. I am recovering for sure, but damn it just hit me hard. I thought I could finally have a good relationship but I was TERRIBLY wrong. It was toxic, manipulative and self-deteriorating. I couldn't swallow that shit anymore. Now I'm back at my parents, but fucking hell I feel much better.
@@JakeStewart1343My mother beats me so anything is a plus! 👍🏿
You mean, "while the two losers ran off".
"keep on keeping on...the world will turn" Woo! Man! Man man 🦾
"Your feelings are the one thing in life that will hurt you from moving forward" - David Goggins. Remember that quote, folks!
Such a powerful statement. Love Goggins.
If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
FACTS
Exactly, I’m a wife who ask for a divorce and thankfully he said OK. He was not a horrible man, however we did not work together I wanted kids and he did not. Both of us did not let our feelings affect our decision and we move forward. I find a great person to be with and have kids with. I truly hope he also found someone and is happy. Thank god he did not try to beg me to stay with him and give me the liberty I wanted.
What if you aren't good at remembering feelings?
“I can be better” that’s a good man right there she doesn’t know what she’s missing out on
Marriage vows typically say something to the effect of “for better or worse.” Well, as soon as mine hit “for the worse” (miscarriage, coupled with a few other simultaneous stressful events), mine wanted out. I fought it for months and torn myself apart over it. Then, it got to a point where I realized it was done for. So I made sure to be the one to get the separation agreement drafted to make sure I got to keep my house, investments, and not pay alimony. Got out better than most, just 8 years of life/heart wasted it feels like.
You know hes a good man when he says “I can do better”. His ONLY chance is to quit showing desperation and bring confidence. But walk. Then you have the power.
He probably does a great job and she just makes him think he needs to do more
Well, everyone can do better. You're never 100%. We're human. The problem is that society have told women that they are perfect, no accountability is needed, and it's always the men fault. Just imagine if women start saying that they need to do better in their marriage.
@@TheArcturusProject A known pattern
@@disguiseddv8ant486 Yes I agree we can ALL do better but to admit that on the spot shows true humility and helped David realize the man truly was in the right. It was a King Solomon moment of discernment. Most would say well I believe Ive been a good husband. Then who knows. But to admit you could do better shows maturity.
@@TheArcturusProjectNo worse feeling than giving your all and people don't appreciate it.
Goggins pretty much summed up my first marriage. Didn’t want me anymore, f-ing around, clubbing, while I’m at home miserable being faithful and waiting. Wow this guy is on point and so right. Once a woman makes up her mind on a relationship there’s nearly nothing you can do but let it go. Don’t give up, but be prepared to let go because she already has. Harsh but love hurts. Fake love hurts as well.
Often if you double down and shrug her off- work at success years later she will want your attention. At that point you won’t care and it does feel good. I know from my life experience this happened twice. I’m physically stronger, mentally more clear, I have more money. I made a list of everyone that doubted me and it gave me that edge, but I do it all for myself
That's why...and I always get hell for this by women....if your wife cheats on you divorce her immediately. Cheating is a process for a woman which happens by breaking boundary after boundary voluntarily. Once it has gotten to the point she's banged another dude, in her mind she knows that if the marriage dies it's fine...in other words she has already left the relationship (or is willing to). Sure, she can "come back" but chances are she will either leave you soon anyway or continue to have side D and make your life a living hell.
When women cheat it's different it's over. There are few that is a drunken mistake. But men cheat differently by percentage but cheating is not ok in any gender.
@@jasonmaruszak812Brother I’m curious…how did that occur? Like how many years later did these girls hit you up and what did they say? The love of my life left me and I just want to hear your story bc it will help me. Thank you sm
@@Thugliferider007well- it definitely took time but it was what I did during that time. I couldn’t sleep right? And what happened to me was brutal- I will tell you because I really do shrug it off…I acknowledge it but it doesn’t define me how I let it in the past. She hit me with an abortion, gloated about cheating (on Xmas eve) to me, slapped me with a restraining order and took over my favorite pub and spread the rumors. Wow right? I lost my job and even though my friends were with me they were losing respect since I kept myself down. I focused on myself. I took accountability. A woman that can do that is awful but the signs were there, I played my part and needed to worry about myself. For months I secretly wished she’d see my success and worked to show her and myself. But I had to go away for about a year. I worked some low pay jobs but it did have a fast expiration date since I was going for my ship captains license. Even on that path I was taken advantage of and passed over due to nepotism. Bringing it up got me fired from that too. But I eventually achieved it and stayed single. I rented out a child’s room in Chicago while I started to pay off debt. I kept looking myself in the face and working out. Health, Money, and working on non romantic relationships. Time. Time. I moved across the country, and got another job that a paired up with my side hustle. I got kicked out of two houses I rented because I have moderate views and they were very leftist. Such obstacles. But I found good people to work with- mostly people that can work in groups and aren’t offended by everything. I still make more enemies than friends, but work for many neutral clients and my friends are true. That restraining order girl moved near me and proposed we got back together. I humbly laughed but at the same time I felt sorry for her. And I was actually dating hotter nicer women. She was the same as I knew, but the thing is we all have our flaws and it’s very important to check ourselves and be around people that might give us annoying jabs if we’re being off. I think that is when my life changed. Looking inward as much as I can. Admitting I don’t know things. Apologizing yet standing up for my beliefs without shoving them in someone’s face. I don’t live so others can see me. I do things for me because life is precious, time is ticking and look at all these crazy endless things we can do. Women love when you are direct, have worked on yourself to be a provider, and don’t do things for ego. Ego hurts all of us men so much no matter how successful we get it can destroy us. Turn the tables and make sure your woman checks every box- and dominant / entitled women are just no good
My girlfriend of 6 years wanted a break. I immediately made it permanent.
That's my boy if someone want a break they already break it 😂 I mean they already find someone
I will never try to convince someone to stay that wants to leave. Happened with my ex and I. Trying to (save) us and she closed the door in my face. Swallowed that pill and it hurt bad but it changed me and I needed that because I didn’t respect myself. 10 years later… guess who came crawling back in my DM’s with a child In tow and trauma. I heard her out because I wanted to just see what had happened. Basically getting used up by people that didn’t have her best interest and she missed that about me. And my response… well I’ll say a prayer for things to get better for you, and really root for you to get in a safe space, but you can’t have me, you bet against me and chose to move on. Take care!
If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
@suavej2.035 "you can’t have me, you bet against me" SOLID GOLD.
Somebody protect this man at all cost...well said and handle like man's man.
You're the man dude.
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Its hard when the only person you trust betrays you!! ITS THE WORST FEELING
It is, but it is usually a blessing in disguise. It hurt my ego more than anything.
If your woman is the only person you trust, you’ve been captive to a lot of bad beliefs about yourself and other people.
This happened to me, too, until I realized I was worth far more then being treated like the garbage I was allowing myself to be treated as.
Work on your core beliefs about yourself and build mutually beneficial relationships, especially with other dudes.
That's why marriage is a scam. Relationships will always...ALWAYS fail and its never in a good way
While going through my divorce 4 years ago, my friend ( thought he was my friend ) of 25 years contacted her for a hook up. She texted me and told me about it right away. Me and that fridge haven’t spoken since. Lost my wife and a friend. Life isn’t easy
Friend not fridge
Nice to see all the positivity in the comments here. So much negativity revolves around subjects like this. It's nice to see a community lifting each other up. Cheers!
If your wife wants a divorce - she never loved you. Be grateful.
My ex pulled the same crap. So I said okay and moved on. Today I’m remarried to the best sweetest girl you could imagine living our best lives. And she’s a train wreck. Being happy and healthy is the best revenge bro.
Yeah these "best sweetest girls" u just married like a fool are just a fucking lie. U learned shit
I applaud you, my bro. 👏
Thanks for that message of hope for the rest of us that are still slogging through all that mud.
Did you remarry a single mother? If yes then that's an L
@@zeusx6479 Nope. While my heart goes out to single moms (my mother was one) I avoided that situation.
It's only 'the best revenge' in your head. Otherwise, it's just damage control.
*David is right. If someone presents an idea, they have already thought about it. If it is something disloyal, dishonest, greedy/selfish, or detrimental in ANY WAY, leave. It is not worth your time or yourself. You are better than that behavior and mentality.*
Asmongold is always right, his mouth could not be wrong.
You really know women. 😂
I'm done with wasting time,, I'm 32 now,, next thing u know I'll look up in a few months & I'm 40
That's right old man. I'm 42, and it coming quick. Date to find a good women and put looks aside. You are out of time if you want to continue your bloodline. @@king-ghost1027
Make your bed the way you want to lay in it.
I’m 34 and I’m in the middle of divorce right now..(after 10 years being together ) luckily no children, but still hard..try to find myself once again, got back to gym, running..sometimes it’s feels a little empty, but I think this is the
first step
More power to you...feelings are temporary, as the time passes, u will heal...All the best
I feel you bro , just got my divorce this mouth(after 10 years relationship and 2 years of marriage) , i feel very good(it's not the end of the world) , try reading some books(Marcus Aurelius: Meditations, this one helped me).
Think to the fact that they are some strangers that enters into our lives and leaves the way they entered.
Sorry for my english.
I feel you bro, i'm 34 too , i got my divorce this mouth after 12 years of relationship and 2 years of marriage , sometimes i felt very lost and lost my self confidence. What helped me was: running , meditate, walking in the forest and reading books. God removed that person from our lives with a reason, stay strong and have faith.(sorry for my english).
Wife of 13 years stepped on me convinced me that moving to a whole new state and town will help us and it’ll be better for us all. Turns out she had been seeing a guy behind my back making a plan of getting her and the kids out to him turns out he is a broke fool pretending to be rich so I paid to get us all out there not even two months later she left homeless took everything but worst part of all is losing my two beautiful kids. I have multiple panic attacks daily now and it feels like I was never loved. I just wanted my family and to be loved and to love someone
you can do it brother, DON'T GIVE UP!
I got divorced and once I accepted it in my heart… I started getting back to me. 8 years later… I am happier as a hateful woman no longer emasculating me and telling me how horrible.
Happy to hear you are feeling like yourself more than before. Some people just suck everything out of you.
Should’ve been a man and put her in her place. How could a woman respect you when you act like a bitch?
I dated a single mom one time. Didn’t know she was in the middle of an ugly divorce. Her ex husband wasn’t a good guy, he treated his kids like pawns in a divorce game. But the mom was not innocent either. She was manipulative, cruel, and a nympho freak. I slowly realized I was her new boy toy, and she was using me to get back at her husband. The husband was bitter and wanted his wife and kids back. But was going the wrong way about it. At times I felt bad for him, cause he reeked of desperation…. I guess the point I’m trying to make is, you’re making the right moves by forcing on yourself and getting away from that resentful ex wife. She ain’t worth the time or energy.
@@chakenbacon Holy crap! I could've easily wrote this myself as it sounds exactly like a situation I was in.
When I got divorced, I never was broke again because she always spent way too much money... to the point I was going through couch cushions at the end of the month to hopefully get a burger from McDonalds. Kids were involved, I sacrificed she never did. She went right to the next sucker. I was free, but the kids were victims of her hate campaign. People probably think she's great, but she's evil.
Been there done that Brother. My ex-wife was making shit difficult, acting like we could work things out but not really. I finally said, I will fight for this marriage if there is anything left to fight for, she said "there is nothing". Filed for divorced that week. 13 years later I have 3 daughters and a wife who respects me and works WITH me to make our life and marriage work. Its tough to swallow that pill, but once it goes down life gets so good.
"Wasting time while she's living", damn I needed to hear that. My ex-wife cheated on my right after we had a baby together, and pushed me into being homeless for several years. It took me around 5 years to fight back and get to where I am today, but I'm still struggling with the loneliness.
In the meantime she's just living the happy family life like nothing ever happened.....
Get yourself a passport and book a 3 week trip to the Philippines. You'll be amazed at the beautiful women hitting on you as you walk around
@scotttracy9333 Prior to seeing your comment, I came here to say pretty much the same thing. My life finally changed when I began working on myself, getting my finances in order, then going to Brazil every 3 months. Now, I date beautiful girls who appreciate me, and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my 57 years of life! Take our advice, brother.👊🏾😉
be strong brother!
@@andrewlate5348 Luckily I found this comment again. Brother, you don't know what you have prevented 8 days ago.
Lets just say I was in a very, very, very dark place, but then "ding" on my phone: "be strong brother!".
I hope you ever read this and know you saved a strangers life with those 3 words. Thank you, I'm in a better place again.
I wasn't financial free until my 40’s and I’m still in my 40’s, bought my third house already, earn on a monthly through passive income, and got 4 out of 5 goals, just hope it encourages someone's that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing in the financial market is a grand choice I made.
wanted to trade, but I got discouraged with the market price fluctuations
Can you recommend a guide for me?
I knew someone would mention Chrissy Barymoer, he is perfect in helping beginners grow. I would not recommend anyone else.
I keep seeing good recommendation about
Chrissy Barymoer . He must be really good.
Being able to withdraw 80,000$ after 2weeks was just unbelievable
“Your feelings are the one thing in life that will hurt you from moving forward”
That hit me so hard.
Yep that quote hit me hard too 😔💯
If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
FACTS
That's real right there!
As soon as this video popped up on my thread, I dreaded it. As in, "I'm gonna click on this MF, & he's gonna tell me some shit I DON'T want to hear, but NEED to hear." And, of course, I was right.
So many men need to hear this. Men you are worthy. Men learn to go where you’re live. Men learn to not sit in a relationship that is void of love and respect. Peace.
I dont get it, my brother is like that and he just bows down. You have to live YOUR life not the life someone else wants you to have.
@@UndersackitchFungalbollock well if they chose to marry someone like that, they should honor that choice and stay married. He could stand up for himself without getting a divorce, make the other person file the divorce if they don't like it. But no one should condone divorce unless there is abuse or adultry or something that breaks that pact. Most marriages can be fixed, it's just people don't try anymore. If you are married, it's not YOUR life in the sense that you can live for yourself, because you have a family. If you want to live for yourself, you're probably the person who is going to get divorced and weren't ready to be married in the first place. Both parties need to take marriage seriously or stay away from the idea of getting married, period.
If you can't make that relationship full of that, you never will with anyone.
*_Real life is always more complex than presented._* I have 5 children. Wife literally _'lost her mind'._ Government STOPPED any form of reconciliation for over 5 years. The court(s) discovered later, _the husband did _*_no_*_ wrong._ *Too late now!* *There is no moving on, our kids are a constant reminder of the attack on our family by the government! **_Just slavery to a system hell bent on taking everything!_* The only 'bright' point is the continued love of all my children.
@@otallono Hes not married
Very real answer and credit to the man for asking such a personal question in front of a crowd
I been there. When they say they want to leave, let their ass go. Trying to hang on is not pretty.
Getting divorced sucks. Being divorced is pretty sweet! Youll have your day when she can no longer obtain the man youve become in her absence. Good luck to anyone going through it.
Happened to my mother. She wasn't happy anymore! Took my father many years... but at 72 he married a 47 year old and now he's finally happy again.
She's got a boyfriend that (thankfully) tolerates and houses her. He's impotent and it drives her crazy. TMI I know, but it's sweet justice IMO.
@@Cree_Moneysounds like you're ignorant why wouldn't you want your mom to be happy sorry if you're dad sucks it's not her fault.
@@Cree_Money LMFAOOO so she basically got her a penguin and she LONGS for her male great white shark. She got what she wanted and now she'll be unhappy for the rest of her life with a 5imp like him instead of a (i assume) a male great white shark like your dad.
Have fun with those alimony payments m80.
Legit
I believe he's a good dude for saying "I could have treated her better"
Exactly. She’s probably been trying to tell him for weeks and months that she’s not happy and she wants to try to fix things and he’s been ignoring her. That’s why Goggins advice is just so simplistic.
@@latsnojokelee6434 Also who gets marriage advice from someone divorced? That’s like going to a fire bug (arsonist), and asking them to put out the fire on your home. I had mad respect for Goggins, until I saw this clip. Christ is for everybody, but not everyone is for Christ.
The way that guy said that tells me is a pleaser....He is the type that over thinks. HE doesn't have confidence and doesn't believe in himself. The way he said "I could have treated her better" was not stern and sure of himself. She probably made him feel like crap. And gaslighted him.
@@latsnojokelee6434 Or nothing he will do will ever measure up and she'll keep telling him that until the day she leaves him. He could break his back 50,000 times over trying to make her happy and she will just treat him worse. The more he gives the more she will despise him and worse things will be. Unfortunately some people are just like that.
"I could do better" is actually just the nonsense she was feeding him, manipulating him. He's probably a good guy and actually couldn't be better, but reality is, there's someone else for sure. Men have to stop being simps, and this modern womanism needs to die.
Brotherhood support always wins!! Staty strong gents and keep moving forward always.
Yes sir! Goggins is a real 1 for that! Always keeping it solid and never sugar coating shit! 💯
If you find yourself in a one-sided marriage and she wants a divorce, let her go. I went through this years ago. It was the best thing that could of happened to me. She did not appreciate anything. Life is too short to spend your life with a toxic creature.
No one said it was a one-sided marriage. There was no context whatsoever in this video. For all we know, he may be a crappy husband
Ya, If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
@@mayasl1339 a crappy husband wouldn’t have enough humility to put himself in the limelight asking that question. Guarantee your a feminist or some
I love this guy for being brutally honest and sincere.
If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
Had he been honest he would have said something like: 'not my area of expertise man. I don't know, I've been a loner all my life feeling angry with people and the world and trying to compensate with training really hard. I haven't a clue about relationships.' That would probably be an honest answer.
@@GraduadoFigohe said in the video he has several mfers not want him anymore. Didn’t you listen to the video?
@@andrewcruz3837 That applies to anyone who has ever been rejected, probably everyone. Really anyone could admit that and it's also way easier when you're only saying it to make someone feel better. It's something we all do.
@@otallono i see your one of those people who like to make excuses
he is so true!! i was in the same position my Ex wife wanted a Divorce after 2 years of being married, i haven't heard of this David Goggin's before, but his words are 100% true, what i did in the pass, as of today, I'm happy married for 8 years now, Never been so happy.. and we just got a house this year as well, Don't live in the moment, fast forward and move on.. no point fking about life to short
david goggins is a type of person whom you need at a time when you are clueless about life and teaches to take decision which are harder , the decisions in which you confront your biggest fear ,and when you overcome all the challenges you become the person you never dreamt of
I'm SO sorry for your loss. Divorce is like death. It's ok to grieve. When you're ready, let the grief go, and find peace.
death is like going on a long vacation without someone, this is worse. Finding out your wife is no longer the same person and realizing you wasted X amount of years caring for that person. I can handle someone dying but being abandoned is something else.
@@otallono you're delusional. You have too big of an ego if you think being abandoned is worse than someone dying.
A divorce is never a loss but a relief. You will be very happy after some time that the divorce happened. A woman who wants to divorce aint worthy so again its not a loss but a win. And most divorced men luckily also start to realize that after a while. A divorce is absolutely not like death. Death you actualy lost some that is close to you and loved and cared for you. Smh.
@@dvb8637 That only works when the relationship already is in the tank. Not when you are blindsided by it. That makes one bitter
If my wife told me that, I would break down in tears. Tears of MF joy! She won't leave. She has it made.
LMAO!
😂
lol. My boss just went through that - 3 years and literally everything he had to get out of the marriage. He has a company vehicle and now rents - on top of supplying her lazy ass with a comfortable income for the rest of his life.
It’s absolutely terrible how the courts favor women. Even today. Not very “equal”
They are always looking for the bigger better deal bruh since you’ve been silly enough to marry.. no man is safe from the divorce machine
Only narcisists
Completely on point. ❤ The severance hurts, because it destroys the life you (even mentally) built upon that foundation of the relationship. You have to feel yout way out. This guy saved this man a year of torment and a year of rebuilding.
This made me cry😭💔For real, stop wasting time on people who don’t want you. There million people out there would dream about being with you! 🙏🔥🔥🔥
My ex wife presented me with papers in 2016 and I signed them. Made it clear I did not want to be divorced but it wasn’t my job to convince her to stay. It was her job to honor her vows.
She is still angry at me for not “fighting” for her. Again, not my job to convince someone to stay. You should because YOU want to stay.
Ya, but we gotta follow Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
I remember the morning we arrived home from Afghanistan in 2011; it was about 5am when the bus rolled into Camp Atterbury, Indiana. They herded us in an auditorium, and this Sergeant Major was thanking us and giving us advice on how to re-adjust. I never forgot what he said: “If the wife wants a divorce, have a pity party for 24 hours, then f her, go find someone else”.
I was there in Afghanistan in 2011!! Good advice for sure
If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
That's very telling about the US military. The Sergeant actually makes a whole-group announcement about "if your wife wants a divorce". Must not happen that often, huh.
For such hardened man become so kind when he needs to be, inspires me to push through lifes suffering so I can become stronger.
After 9 years, my best friend of 15 years told me she wanted something else. I had been pushing through depression, worked myself to the bone to keep giving her what I thought she was worth (not less than the whole world, in my head at least), gave her nothing less than my life. Man, the "when she calls the shots she looses respect for you by the day" bit hit directly home. When she said that she didn’t want me anymore, I broke. Litteraly. Punched a wall and broke both my hands. Tried to make it so we would still be able to speak to each others in a friendly manner……. She chose otherwise.
I’m doing better now. I realized everything everyone here realized after a couple of months. Still hurting, but at least I have my life back.
The same happened to me and Dave was right. It hurt I cried I wanted to kill myself. I drank I did drugs and when I was done feeling sorry for myself. I started working out and trying to get as much money as I could. And guess what happened? I met someone better and now my ex is alone and miserable. I wasn’t the problem it was her but I’m glad she left me because my new wife is ten times the women she is. It does get better guys.
Good for you man... All the best bro...
Good for you but be careful. Any good woman can turn bad on you if you are a weak bluepilled simp. Be strong and be redpilled as f*ck.
@@senthilramalingam9500 Ty
Needed to hear this…👊👊
people leaving your life always means theyre making room for something better. Im typing that, but i almost dont believe myself. It took so much fucking pain to really understand this, eventhough this is a go to sentence for situations like this, its spot on.
Also im happy to hear that youve found your way out of that miserable place and became a real man for yourself and your new girl. Good luck sir
My wife after eight years knew each other for 11 years and a kid about to buy a house etc told me she wanted a divorce. I moved out the next day even though she wanted me to stay for a bit but I just took a bag of clothes with me and was gone. Gotta realize you cant control what someone else wants, just have to clean up the spilled milk and move on.
sounds like you werent happy either
You have a kid. You probably shouldn’t have left the kid.
@@mystdragon8530 Collateral Damage.
Told my ex of 12 years and 4 kids togther that i wasnt happy with her behaviour and contributing to the family. She basically started want to do nothing at all but go out. Instead of fixing the issue she carried on and 12 months later she told me she was leaving. I was gutted but soon realised i was only gutted the family had feel apart and the women i thought she was she was actually never that person. Within a week of leave she was with another man living together. 3 months, 5 months later and 9 months she tried to come back. Told her no every time. No she stuck reliant on a man she doesnt want to be with and 2 years on im back happier then ever before. If they want to go, let them go. No fussing or fighting just let them walk.
Rejection is the reality check we desperately need.
Women take half your crap, including half your sanity upon divorce . They have been given the ultimate split deal...
U ain’t kidding dude. Fkn unreal
Pre……..nup.. 🤷🏼♂️
That’s why you gotta prepare for that instead of sitting there having a woman who doesn’t care about you living in your head rent free
@@thespons076 prenups hardly ever have any merit. All the woman has to do is say her husband pressured her to sign it and then the judge wipes his ass with it
As long as you don’t lose your morals you’re good.
That fact he said “I can do better” is what hit me the most.
Shows he really is a good person because he's putting it on himself even if he probably shouldn't
and he will.. with a better wife.
Very true. We can all do better. The thing is that in a marriage there should be give and take. I support her in times and she supports me. When it comes to no balance then its time to move on.
And if a woman said that, would yall be happy for her the.same or make that the reason her marriage is failing. Hypocrites.
@@Maggiebenjee alright,dude!!!!!
Damn 😢 The tears came out for that interaction.
Hope he gets through it, time heals all!
I listen to this every day every time. It has been five month. I am more tough and I thank Goggins beside my own father who whips me every morning to let me improve daily. Thank him to allow more men to become tough and desipline.
you dont understand the amount of strength it took for him to bring that up in front of soo many people respect bro
What I've learn over time is that sometimes theres absolutely nothing you can do to make a woman happy sometimes there just miserable because there a miserable person, move on and stay strong !
Exactly, my recent ex was beautiful and would post lewd photos on her Instagram for validation. She was the most insecure woman I’ve ever met and miserable on all types of anti depressants.
Wish my dad could have seen this. He did everything under the sun to try to please my mom & would never accept she'd ever do anything bad to him, no matter how much we tried to make him understand. She killed him 2yrs ago.
Learn a lesson, dudes. If it doesn't feel right from the get go, get out right then and there! Don't try to "work it out" "for the children" or some other BS. You never know what's around the corner with a chick who's not right in her head.
Women live to be unsatisfied…
@@v-campsportsleague6263 Some. Not all. Straight talk--If that's all you meet, you're looking in the wrong places or you're not appealing to decent women.
Love how honest Dave is, brutal honesty is what the world needs. Hope the man in the clip got his life back on track for the better.
This was helpful. I'm not going through a divorce but it's a break up that I don't think should have happened and it hurts. Needed this pick me up, thank you.
Honestly, I applied for divorce and for child support. People at the OAG were surprised, I, the male, was the one applying for child support but all I really wanted was to get out of that toxic relationship and start living a better, beautiful life. After that day, I started eating better, sleeping better and my sense of humor was also exponentially better. My kids got to enjoy a new phase in my life, that, incidentally, gave them a better life.
Note: Apparently my words may indicate that I am receiving child support but, what I meant to say was that i applied TO PAY child support. that's why they were surprised because men, usually, run away or try to evade that responsibility. I apologize if it sounds like I needed/wanted to get money from the mom.
Moocher
@@us12m21Who's the moocher?
@@SaucySteel whatever party is (him in this case) asking for child support.
@@us12m21He won't get child support unless she earns better and he has the children at least 50%. It's how it works both ways
You should’ve never gotten married in the first place!!
needed that. Im almost 3 months into our divorce. Im still fighting myself daily, struggling to wake up in the morning and do anything. I need this guy as my neighbor.
If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
Bro just went through 2 years separation. Go to the gym. Become a beast, she will regret it. Never let her return. She did that to you once, she's rotten, she'll do it again. Become the best version of yourself, eat healthy, get sleep, workout, work. Period. You'll find one that appreciates you abd your ex will never be happy and live with regret forever.
@@mr.sherrill9137 thanks man. I hate to admit it but I'm just so weak minded... Like even if I did get a gym membership I would wake up that morning and be like nah. I'll go tomorrow. I need a trainer or a buddy to go with someone to let down.
@@BrandonWilliamsonwhen I was going through the same one of my friends said to me one day you'll wake up and you won't care (about it) and true enough it happened just like that.
It's a tough time but you'll get there. Better things await.
One of my favorite quotes. "If I could do it all again, I wouldn't care so much"
Well put together and straight to the point, brother. I needed to hear this after getting the hurtful news this morning.
If you’re wife tells you she wants a divorce give her one and never get married again, because we should be learning from our mistakes and the biggest mistake you made was thinking someone loves you as much as you love should love yourself then getting married.
Couldn’t agree more, marriage is a scam
Ex-wife left home in 2018 after 11 years together. After years of me providing for her, she got a fancy job, earning well. She started acting as a real bitch to me and everybody else around her, except at work. Felt like it was the end of my life. Only the death of my grandmother, a second mother to me, was comparable to a trauma in my life. I got sick all the time due to being really sad. I moved on, found a nice Filipina girl, and we got married. She gave birth to my first child at the beginning of December 2023, and we are happy, simple people living a peaceful life. I also knew a few months ago that the ex acted really crazy at her job and had to resign so that she wouldn't be fired.
Now I know the crazy ex wanting the divorce was the best thing that has ever happened to me! It feels like a nightmare, but after some time, you shall realize that the person who doesn't like you is leaving, which can only be good for you. Just keep floating, and things will get calmer over time.
She proved she was just plain crazy and it had nothing to do with you. Sounds like you got out with your sanity in tact.
I came here looking for answers. I found a real good one, TY
Stumbled across this and thoughly enjoyed it. Great advice. Subscribed!
The divorce happened long ago. She was just hanging in there and securing things up before kicking you out.
That's what wahmens do. It's their nature. Loyalty is not. They don't know what that is.
Man I'm telling you all from living this man's pain myself, I went through hell with my wife for 12 years of being good to her, i lost sleep, cried all the time,lost crackhead looking weight,couldn't eat, asking myself why im not good enough after providing for her and being faithful while she cheated and i took her back like a chump repeatedly, which further made me lose self respect..THEN, one day I just snapped out of it and I took a long hard look in the mirror, it wasn't pretty what I saw but i knew who the strong man was inside and with a confident voice I said the exact same words.."FUCK HER!" "It's not me, it's her who is the problem"
I walked away from that mirror, ate some food, put on my best clothes, held my chest out and my head up high and hung out with some good friends.
Now, I'm with the woman of my dreams, she's beautiful inside and out, as faithful as I am, and she adores me with all her heart, and she is as strong if not stronger than me in so many ways. Men, you have one short life to live, do not waste time forcing yourself to adapt to shitty people no matter how invested you are. Drop that shit like it's hot and move the fuck on! Do not talk to the friends who are a crying shoulder in these times, talk to the friends who tell you to suck it the fuck up because those are your real heros I promise!
Much love, cause I've been there done that and got over that shit.
Good man
"Now, I'm with the woman of my dreams, she's beautiful inside and out, as faithful as I am, and she adores me with all her heart, and she is as strong if not stronger than me in so many ways."
I see you've learned nothing.
Just dont make the same stupid mistake of marrying her cus then ull really feel stupid when she does the same thing to u
They're never happy. Always looking for greener pastures. Keep your guard up.
Fuck. Same situation 13 years. Child of 5 years. Your story about brought a tear to my eye. Good stuff brother. Keep up that chin. Life is good again. Ty for sharing, btw. I needed that.
I'm not done with my divorce yet, but I still needed to hear that.
Never heard it told so upfront and right! Dave the man of reality!
Man, that part about sitting there wasting time being miserable while the one who left you is out having fun and living life...that's so true it hurts.
As a man whose recently divorced, Thank you for that message! I tried almost everything you save a dead marriage while she was talking to other guys all the time I was miserable.
God removes people from our lives because He sees and hears the conversations we do not. It's tough Love. But it's real Love. All the best, Daniel.
What are you going to do next time to prevent your relationship from dying?
@@HypnoticHollywood well I won't take my wife for granted. I become somewhat complacent on my marriage.
@@danielrush5929dude the same exact situation as me. Learn from your mistakes and never forget. Let your trial by fire mold you and strengthen you as a man. Life isn't over for us! Carry on sir
Hey brother, I hope things even out for you and you get better with time. Stay strong 💪
Real talk....Thank you!! Some of us needed that.
David gave him the truth in a way he needed it at that time. In an uplifting way that can help all men battling with this pain💪🏿
As soon as the word Divorce is mentioned in a marriage, it's over....period. That word alone will drive a wedge in between the two in a relationship and only go deeper, because once the trust is lost, it cannot be recovered.
I agree. If you are that point, you can hang on a little longer (years even) but if it is that fundamental of an issue, it won't go away. It will end up with divorce, or you living dead inside.
It's a definite and difficult rock in the road but we have to stay committed, edifying ourselves in love following Christ. If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
Depends. I’ve seen people work through it. It has a lot to do with how honest and how badly both want it to work. If one side doesn’t want to work it out it won’t.
My buddy married 28 years and as soon as he retired his wife served him with divorce papers and is trying to take him to the cleaners. He's a good man and to my knowledge hasn't done anything wrong. She is already apparently done moved in with some other guys. He's so devastated they built two homes together three kids two of which out the college and grandkids now. Nuts how women just one day wake up and is done especially after that long
She didn’t just wake up and leave man. She was planning that one for a while. Like waiting for your super to hit the right point to retire, she picked her moment for maximum financial benefit and bailed when she had to spend a full day with him.
You can't trust these hoes.. let that sink in.. Western woman are terrible partners
Crazy how much I can relate to this and how much I needed to hear it.
I love his advice. He tells the truth and doesn’t waste time 😊😢 I need his advice
It's 100 times tougher when she's the mother of your children
Suck it up. She obviously don't care that you're the FATHER of the kids...or maybe u not?
You're absolutely right. And if you're not a father or a mother in this specific case you are a VIRGIN, the hurt is monumental. I went through it. It felt like I was dying and part of me did until my last breath on earth. But, if they want to leave FUDGE HER! They don't want you anymore. Move on, you are worthwhile and have value.
Idc, if she got custody
Adios kids.😂
Can't play father in a place where I have 0 say over anything
@@Christian-yq2un left out the new husband
@@zuibeckpulezon4626 It's not her or me I would (hypothetical scenario) care about. It's the children's wellbeing. Bad and absent fathers and crazed unbalanced mothers have destroyed an entire generation and Western society by extension.
The Greater The Suffering.
The Greater The Peace.
The Greater The Madness.
Its like hitting the gym
Nice
We need to follow Jesus. If there's separation it should be for a short time like the apostle mentions to avoid sin. But When it comes to a person leaving the relationship we have to let them leave, like the Bible says, but they aren't on the path to life following Jesus.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:15-16 NKJV
People have to repent and turn from immorality to enter the kingdom of God. If they are unfaithful we can find someone else, but forgive them, don't hold to bitterness. If we are single it's a wonderful time to grow closer with the Lord, the apostle actually mentions to people who are wed to behave as if they weren't, as two companions in light of God. We can find someone else but we follow God and have a good committed, loving relationship. But we seek God first. God Bless you 🕊️♥️
David Goggins for the win. Perfect advice and told EXACTLY in the manner that man needed to hear in order to snap his butt back into reality.
Nice to see a bunch of comments here about this kind of stuff that are positive and uplifting. So much negative $hit out there on this. Nice to see a community lifting each other up. Cheers!