That's how learning happens most times. It induces "ah ha moments" and/or moments of silent reflection. We should all strive to be constant students of life.
Most definitely. I don't think your statement is wrong. I agree with it. I guess I'm a little sensitive about that laughing emoji. I really just want all of you to come together, listen, empathize, and learn from each other. I don't include myself because I'm older and I don't think my generation is at war as much as the Millenials and Gen Zers.
And it's not gender specific, I notice how you've seemed to often chime in when you make implications directed at women. Smh, elevate in your thinking sir.🙏 There's plenty of unwise guys who fall for imitations of a real woman, because of being surface focused.👀 She performs well and look the part but is only about performing and pretending.👀
@@toniemontgomery2458and you were right about his comment,it has a cynical tone and it's unfortunate when males think in such a way (a certain category),to take delight in something that's serious and of course, to attempt to cover such immaturity, what I have said will be deemed by him as a " misunderstanding of what he meant." 😅 The emoji exposed him,it was his way of taking delight in the matter.... What a way to show a lack of maturity. I definitely appreciate it because guys like that need to be avoided.... He's showing signs of being a (performer)👀
And be ready to be single for a while lol. When your intuition and discernment are on point AND you have standards, you catch and release real quick and often.
Heavy. But an important lesson to learn. Have your standards for guarding your heart and you’ll have much better outcomes and positive results in love.
I literally just learned this this weekend. Smdh. My heart has always been too open. And it's not gotten me what I've wanted and I couldn't figure out why. Until NOW. A month before 40.
Being able to discern a gesture vs true intentions to build and discover a shared life are vastly different. I hope we are able to truly lean into that.
We could see far more clearly, ladies, if we would discipline ourselves to withhold from the 'benefits' (in and out of the bedroom) and take time to seriously study the man who's bringing them. It's not as hard as we make it; we are just unwilling to risk the potential 'loss' of delayed gratification. The pleasures of the flesh are fleeting and leave a bigger sense of emptiness with each passing experience. This man continues to speak true.
The best way to avoid the gesture is by keeping sex for marriage. Sex complicates alot and makes leaving harder when he laying it down like you want it but gives you nothing else, not even commitment. When you leave sex for marriage, you maintain a relationship where your eyes are open and your brain is functioning to identify who in the heck this is that you are considering for a permanent life choice. You will not and never will you be able to keep a man through sex. Why give it out when he's made zero commitment? And when he tells you that's all his interaction with you is about, ladies... please believe him and know you cannot change his mind. He has to do that on his own without your influence. Because if you manipulate a commitment out of him, you'll have to manipulate the whole relationship afterwards. Don't hate the man because you ignored this advice, decided to force things and find out in future that the relationship is what's weighing you down because you've been carrying it. You forced it because you thought you were the exception. Yes, you're special... just like everybody else.
This is why it’s crucial to remove sex from the equation. It’s a gift within marriage only. Engaging in casual relations can obscure and cloud a woman’s judgment, leading to a loss of discernment and common sense. Women need to safeguard their well-being-mind, body, and spirit. Also to not be allured by money and materialism items. Instead, focus on a man's character and the virtues he exhibits. It’s disheartening hearing this because it's saddening to see some women seek value solely from money and sex because they are leading with their flesh. It's truly heartbreaking. 💔
"...he just performed." *silence* Man, you can hear a pin drop before he started talking again. I'm glad I found this channel since these clips also helps me out a bit in terms of what I could do better in.
Whew! Trip is not LYING‼️💯🙌🏽🔥😫 I always had a habit of falling for the performance & consistent conversation. Not anymore tho; I’ve been working on myself.
Bro! Your the best on these conversations. This is so true and been like this with women for generations. Women still think just because a man has money and could please them well that those are good men. Like you said bro we are just good performers. Then once we start feeling like we are just being used and start pulling back alil that's when the gestures kick in and we start seeing them for who they truly are.
That's why you have to establish a dynamic and give that some degree of time with slow transition. Giving both of you a better chance to see each other without rose tinted glasses. The goal should be a degree of overall decent to great synergy & at least some degree of attraction. No way you can see everything or even most things for that matter but the key is to try and see key things/important things (most comfortable persona) so you can better assess. It's a judgment call at the end of the day. The biggest surprise and gamble in these matters should be how they or yourself might change in the future.
Tripp, I hope this reaches you. I'm a guy who has a girl at work, pushing for something. I thought it was a relationship, but her guy friend suggests she just want me to hit. That don't set right with me. I'm trying to explain to myself why it don't sit right with me, a solid one. You're good with explanations. Maybe you could touch on it more!
the whole dating world is paranoid. everybody so obessed with finding red flags now "gestures" are going to be over looked. I'm starting to think forums like this do more harm than good.
Gestures won’t be overlooked. However, they will be expected to be followed up with good character and good intentions. Men fall for the same thing…pretty face, nice body. We can reel you all quickly with that. But once men realize that a fine woman has ugly characteristics, then they feel like they got used/mistreated.
I say this all the time. There are literally people out here that take notes about “what women want” what people want and okay that role to the T to get sex. If your standards aren’t so shallow you would not be able to fall for the image so much
Bro this right here kills everything and every conversation because those are the only two things women truly value that's it there's nothing else a woman really value in a man and we going out here thinking money and good pleasure going to keep them happy bro you killed everything this is the best one ever 💪🏿
@@Doboe36: All you bitter, defensive, cowardly, incel, manosphere “men” do is spend valuable time on the internet whining, complaining about, putting down, and coming for Black women. You generalize and put all women in the same tiny box. It’s sad. Clearly, you can’t attract or keep an Asian, Latina, or white woman either. If you had one, you’d be too busy being happy with her and wouldn’t have time to worry about what Black women are and are not doing. Seek help and healing. The negativity ain’t it.
I always tell people entertainment can be a stress reliever however they always need to be aware when they are being entertained. Don not bring home the court jester.
Too much. Sometimes, relationships just don't work out. According to them its always because someone (usually the man) has bad intentions or is some kind of manipulator or imitating a good person. It's not that deep, it just doesn't work out sometimes.
I can’t lie I usually bring gesture/performance because I’m romantic but I do that with friends w/benefits too. That’s why I find it hard to commit because I’m seemingly enjoying this paradigm 🤷🏿♂️ I’m 33 . It’s no different that what the bachelor does on tv.
Assuming ulterior motives in others is a good sign you have ulterior motives, yourself. Maybe if YOU weren't always "performing," you wouldn't assume a "performance" in others. Maybe if YOU'D learn how to be authentic, genuine human beings, you wouldn't always assume insincerity in others. It is absurd to me for a group of people to project their own shortcomings onto others, and then accuse others of being the ones to exhibit those shortcomings. Please wake up already.
Every woman has different requirements. For some money and good sex is all they want, right or wrong🤷🏾then there are other women that require something else. You’re not going to find all your wants and needs in one man(Superman maybe)so compromise comes into play. What are you willing to give up? 6 feet, 6 figures, 6 inches oh yeah and no kids with a perfect smile who has his own place and a nice car not to mention loves his mother but not be a mamas boy. A man who can be a great step dad and an excellent provider. Educated and Algha. Can’t be No Sucker! Never been married. My point is, there is someone for everyone but to want thee exceptional man you will have to compete for his attention because all the women want him. What’s for you is for you so be careful in your assessment of the man of your dreams🙏
Thatbis a good warning for men to REFUSE TO START relationship with a woman who seeks after performance before she seeks to bond (in a generous, respectful and considerate way) with _who you actually are._ Her beauty is NOT a substitute for that!!!
Women, please stop looking for a daddy and men stop looking for a Momma. Look for a partner, Bring your 1/2 to the table. We covet what we work for. Please, please dont say sex is your half you can be much more then that. The more you bring the more you can expect.
Anyone on there EVER stop and ask "why am I listening to ppl in their late 20s or early 30s about relationships"? what credentials have they to speak on these topics. like when Steve Harvey or Angela Rae speaks on such topics. what make them "experts"? this is LITERALLY no different than a person explaining to you why the earth is flat. they have no credibility on ANY of this.
The silence is so thick while Tripp inject some truth and accountability. Conviction set in as they took inventory of their choices 😂
That's how learning happens most times. It induces "ah ha moments" and/or moments of silent reflection. We should all strive to be constant students of life.
@toniemontgomery2458 Two things can be true . Both what I said and your response are valid points ✌️
Most definitely. I don't think your statement is wrong. I agree with it. I guess I'm a little sensitive about that laughing emoji. I really just want all of you to come together, listen, empathize, and learn from each other. I don't include myself because I'm older and I don't think my generation is at war as much as the Millenials and Gen Zers.
And it's not gender specific, I notice how you've seemed to often chime in when you make implications directed at women. Smh, elevate in your thinking sir.🙏 There's plenty of unwise guys who fall for imitations of a real woman, because of being surface focused.👀 She performs well and look the part but is only about performing and pretending.👀
@@toniemontgomery2458and you were right about his comment,it has a cynical tone and it's unfortunate when males think in such a way (a certain category),to take delight in something that's serious and of course, to attempt to cover such immaturity, what I have said will be deemed by him as a " misunderstanding of what he meant." 😅 The emoji exposed him,it was his way of taking delight in the matter.... What a way to show a lack of maturity. I definitely appreciate it because guys like that need to be avoided.... He's showing signs of being a (performer)👀
“It’s just an imitation of a good man.” Wow that hit me like a ton of bricks.
Pray for discernment along with having standards 🙏🏽
And be ready to be single for a while lol. When your intuition and discernment are on point AND you have standards, you catch and release real quick and often.
Dang Trip...always spittin the real.
"It's just an imitation of a good man" that part eeeeh it's scary
It’s really not when you have standards beyond financial status and sexual pleasure.
Heavy. But an important lesson to learn. Have your standards for guarding your heart and you’ll have much better outcomes and positive results in love.
True speak the truth Iso many things are overlook with good sex and money.
@@dyzonndyjour7907 great point 💯
Exactly!! 💯
And then 6'3" with a smile walks in the door, and all of that philosophy goes to the waste side. Every time.
I literally just learned this this weekend. Smdh. My heart has always been too open. And it's not gotten me what I've wanted and I couldn't figure out why. Until NOW. A month before 40.
Being able to discern a gesture vs true intentions to build and discover a shared life are vastly different. I hope we are able to truly lean into that.
If you are shallow you will attract shallow. Who you entertain and how they engage with you is merely a reflection of your relationship with yourself.
We could see far more clearly, ladies, if we would discipline ourselves to withhold from the 'benefits' (in and out of the bedroom) and take time to seriously study the man who's bringing them. It's not as hard as we make it; we are just unwilling to risk the potential 'loss' of delayed gratification. The pleasures of the flesh are fleeting and leave a bigger sense of emptiness with each passing experience. This man continues to speak true.
I agree 💯
Well said!
They be droppin"Jewels, We needed this decades ago! That's why we live and learn!
Tripp and Trill are like good cop, bad cop with their respective approaches on these panels
Yo every words he said spoke volumes and it was turned ALL THE WAY UP
The best way to avoid the gesture is by keeping sex for marriage. Sex complicates alot and makes leaving harder when he laying it down like you want it but gives you nothing else, not even commitment. When you leave sex for marriage, you maintain a relationship where your eyes are open and your brain is functioning to identify who in the heck this is that you are considering for a permanent life choice.
You will not and never will you be able to keep a man through sex. Why give it out when he's made zero commitment? And when he tells you that's all his interaction with you is about, ladies... please believe him and know you cannot change his mind. He has to do that on his own without your influence. Because if you manipulate a commitment out of him, you'll have to manipulate the whole relationship afterwards. Don't hate the man because you ignored this advice, decided to force things and find out in future that the relationship is what's weighing you down because you've been carrying it. You forced it because you thought you were the exception. Yes, you're special... just like everybody else.
This is why it’s crucial to remove sex from the equation. It’s a gift within marriage only. Engaging in casual relations can obscure and cloud a woman’s judgment, leading to a loss of discernment and common sense. Women need to safeguard their well-being-mind, body, and spirit. Also to not be allured by money and materialism items. Instead, focus on a man's character and the virtues he exhibits.
It’s disheartening hearing this because it's saddening to see some women seek value solely from money and sex because they are leading with their flesh. It's truly heartbreaking. 💔
That was deep! I never looked at it that way. Having standards is definitely key theses days.
Imitation of a good Man
Well said 🎉
Tripp put that Law in motion... Whew... aight Bruh 💪🏿💯🎯
The silence speaks volumes in those rooms. Lol. Max volumes.
"...he just performed."
*silence*
Man, you can hear a pin drop before he started talking again. I'm glad I found this channel since these clips also helps me out a bit in terms of what I could do better in.
Whew! Trip is not LYING‼️💯🙌🏽🔥😫 I always had a habit of falling for the performance & consistent conversation. Not anymore tho; I’ve been working on myself.
He never miss! 💯🙌🏽
Bro! Your the best on these conversations. This is so true and been like this with women for generations. Women still think just because a man has money and could please them well that those are good men. Like you said bro we are just good performers. Then once we start feeling like we are just being used and start pulling back alil that's when the gestures kick in and we start seeing them for who they truly are.
I think the dark skinned woman name is kitty? I’m not sure but I just want to say she’s to most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen! Idc who disagrees
TRIPP WITH DA TRUTH ONCE AGAIN!!
This man is top tier 👏🏽He speaks the truth ❤️
He's right!💯💯
gestures from a jester! this was so on point. intention means everything
That’s be on point tho
Really needed to hear this. Thank you❤
That's why you have to establish a dynamic and give that some degree of time with slow transition. Giving both of you a better chance to see each other without rose tinted glasses. The goal should be a degree of overall decent to great synergy & at least some degree of attraction. No way you can see everything or even most things for that matter but the key is to try and see key things/important things (most comfortable persona) so you can better assess. It's a judgment call at the end of the day. The biggest surprise and gamble in these matters should be how they or yourself might change in the future.
Tripp definitely has a point.
#TRIPP THANK YOU FOR SCHOOLING US 🎯💯🔥🖤
Preach and Facts Tripp Preach and Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤️
Tripp, I hope this reaches you. I'm a guy who has a girl at work, pushing for something. I thought it was a relationship, but her guy friend suggests she just want me to hit. That don't set right with me. I'm trying to explain to myself why it don't sit right with me, a solid one. You're good with explanations. Maybe you could touch on it more!
Droppin them jewels
the whole dating world is paranoid.
everybody so obessed with finding red flags now "gestures" are going to be over looked.
I'm starting to think forums like this do more harm than good.
Gestures won’t be overlooked. However, they will be expected to be followed up with good character and good intentions. Men fall for the same thing…pretty face, nice body. We can reel you all quickly with that. But once men realize that a fine woman has ugly characteristics, then they feel like they got used/mistreated.
He speaking facts 💯💯
Wow so insightful
I say this all the time. There are literally people out here that take notes about “what women want” what people want and okay that role to the T to get sex. If your standards aren’t so shallow you would not be able to fall for the image so much
Bro this right here kills everything and every conversation because those are the only two things women truly value that's it there's nothing else a woman really value in a man and we going out here thinking money and good pleasure going to keep them happy bro you killed everything this is the best one ever 💪🏿
CAP. 🧢
🤣
@@Doboe36: All you bitter, defensive, cowardly, incel, manosphere “men” do is spend valuable time on the internet whining, complaining about, putting down, and coming for Black women. You generalize and put all women in the same tiny box. It’s sad.
Clearly, you can’t attract or keep an Asian, Latina, or white woman either. If you had one, you’d be too busy being happy with her and wouldn’t have time to worry about what Black women are and are not doing. Seek help and healing. The negativity ain’t it.
Money and good pleasure for SURE keeps them happy. Currently doing it now with my lady friend. Don’t get it twisted,
@@bigde131: So you’re on the internet trying to brag to strangers that you have both. 😂😂😂😂 Yeah, right.
Facts!
So true
I love to hear trip talk
I’ve definitely been guilty of falling for gestures and played in my own damn face
Just havin fun... that's all folks.....
I always tell people entertainment can be a stress reliever however they always need to be aware when they are being entertained. Don not bring home the court jester.
Food for thought
Damn 100% 🔥 🔥 🔥
Too much. Sometimes, relationships just don't work out. According to them its always because someone (usually the man) has bad intentions or is some kind of manipulator or imitating a good person. It's not that deep, it just doesn't work out sometimes.
Facts
I can’t lie I usually bring gesture/performance because I’m romantic but I do that with friends w/benefits too. That’s why I find it hard to commit because I’m seemingly enjoying this paradigm 🤷🏿♂️ I’m 33 . It’s no different that what the bachelor does on tv.
I like him
Deep
2 times on Sunday
True intentions get overlooked b/c chicks are more comcern with gestures🤷🏾♂️
Assuming ulterior motives in others is a good sign you have ulterior motives, yourself.
Maybe if YOU weren't always "performing," you wouldn't assume a "performance" in others.
Maybe if YOU'D learn how to be authentic, genuine human beings, you wouldn't always assume insincerity in others.
It is absurd to me for a group of people to project their own shortcomings onto others, and then accuse others of being the ones to exhibit those shortcomings.
Please wake up already.
What’s her @@
😂😂😂😂
Every woman has different requirements. For some money and good sex is all they want, right or wrong🤷🏾then there are other women that require something else. You’re not going to find all your wants and needs in one man(Superman maybe)so compromise comes into play. What are you willing to give up? 6 feet, 6 figures, 6 inches oh yeah and no kids with a perfect smile who has his own place and a nice car not to mention loves his mother but not be a mamas boy. A man who can be a great step dad and an excellent provider. Educated and Algha. Can’t be No Sucker! Never been married. My point is, there is someone for everyone but to want thee exceptional man you will have to compete for his attention because all the women want him. What’s for you is for you so be careful in your assessment of the man of your dreams🙏
Gotta have intimacy
WO
Thatbis a good warning for men to REFUSE TO START relationship with a woman who seeks after performance before she seeks to bond (in a generous, respectful and considerate way) with _who you actually are._ Her beauty is NOT a substitute for that!!!
Why that intuition dont work all the time🤔🤣
Women, please stop looking for a daddy and men stop looking for a Momma. Look for a partner, Bring your 1/2 to the table. We covet what we work for. Please, please dont say sex is your half you can be much more then that. The more you bring the more you can expect.
WTF? So now you be nice? ya'll are tripping.
Anyone on there EVER stop and ask "why am I listening to ppl in their late 20s or early 30s about relationships"?
what credentials have they to speak on these topics.
like when Steve Harvey or Angela Rae speaks on such topics.
what make them "experts"?
this is LITERALLY no different than a person explaining to you why the earth is flat.
they have no credibility on ANY of this.