The society is really set up to facilitate the denial - it’s like a society FOR addicts, a collective addiction and a collective denial. The pain and suffering is still there, but it’s like an obscenity to point out the hidden addiction that is everywhere in plain sight.
Ha exactly Daniel. I remember all my childhood years, adults telling me I would be wise like them after I grew up and then I would understand whatever they thought I was naive about. And then, somewhere around age 17 or 18, I looked around at how we were collectively treating the plant and I realized all these supposed adults who supposedly know better than children, were all crazy! They were crazy because they all walked around in denial about what we were doing to the planet and also I intuited all the rest of the emotional denial.
Ha ha. Your Grandma was happy. Yeah I've been thinking about how my mother was always happy, worked hard, played hard and always slept well, Thank you. All the while she neglected and abused me, her only child to the extreme with her covert NEGLECTFUL high functioning NARCASSISM or psychopathy. She was also the exact opposite to all my other relatives for friends and family being the socialite, smearing and slandering me to everyone and getting them to hate me also. All the while I've never done a thing to any of them always thought I had good family especially a "mom" It's disgusting. Makes me throw up sometimes thinking about it.
Empathy is a crucial concept in understanding not only child maltreatment, but its intergenerational transmission. One form of maltreatment, often involving both physical and emotional abuse, targets one child in the family, referred to as the “scapegoat.” Historically, the scapegoat has been regarded as the only abuse victim; clinical experience demonstrates otherwise. In many families, siblings identify with the parent, joining in blaming the victim for the caretaker's abuse of that child. They demonstrate empathy deficits, which may protect them from the effects of witnessing the process. This paper proposes a conceptual model that examines factors contributing to the development of empathy deficits. Ten elements are identified and a unifying model is proposed; the implications are examined.
covert narcissism is such a huge problem and a destroyer of souls, it's so hard for most people to detect and that may be part of why it does so much damage
I think so often about that concept...the fact that parents bring children into the world despite the condition the world is in. As you said, parents knowingly psychologically destroy their children in doing so. So sad.
It's an interesting cycle. Unhealthy parents have kids because of a believe that kids are gonna make them happy. That of course doesn't happen and then parents are mad and they traumatize their children. Then these children grow up and take out their confusion onto the world.
@Myth Tree I dont think so. people who have healthy regulated loving parents attuned to them since birth can handle a lot more difficult situations and enviornments like the world we live in. it's not really about "mental"health but the state of our nervous system and physiology which affects everything. for example the ace study which has been repeated and shows how early childhood trauma affects kids the rest of their life, studies showing a baby with a traumatic first 2 months of life have worse life outcomes than babies with a good first few months but an adverse childhood afterwards. so many examples like some children who had great lives til age 5 when they were locked instead a closet for years.. they have better outcomes because it's all about the foundation. babies or young children who are adopted and have such good parents but they don't feel safe because of that early traumatic loss of their birth parent and anything else they went through. and so many people put their babies in childcare or let all the gadgets entertain the babies and themselves that there is not as much real connection. and the trauma through the generations is adding up and people aren't able to healthily attach to their own children and the cycle continues. czcams.com/video/mAo9ejioaa0/video.html
@@LadyhawksLairDotCom history is a downward spiral. The history of men is one dumpster fire after another. It's almost like that one Jewish carpenter knew what he was talking about.
I think we are doomed to repeat what we do not resolve, one way or the other. Family members that cannot genuinely admit their wrongs will end up with the tables turned on them..
To me it's shocking to see people deny for so long. I can understand a degree of denial as a defense mechanism in childhood and adolescence but by the time you're an adult, at least to me, these things feel undeniable beyond a certain point. I mean what kind of traumatic or abusive event does it take to wake someone up? But maybe some things are so traumatic/abusive that you just can't wake up to face them. I dont know. I don't really think so. I think its incredibly sad
Society does a good job portraying that every human being is happy and content with what they have, but the reality is many of them are as frustrated and confused as I am.
Denial is not a problem. The problem lies in a fact that in order to heal you need someone, who will truly care about you when you're crying. The only people capable of that are those with no unhealed trauma and I believe no one like that currently exists.
Agreed, my advice to new therapists is ‘do Your own work’. I do see a Lot of my clients waking up. Even my own narcissistic mother asked me the other day. How do I stop feeling the pain? Hallelujah ❤️👍🙏
Most WW 2 generation never talked about their feelings. They probably thought you were strange. My late father came up with the horse and buggy until he was in his late teens. No running water, no electricity. Now throw in the great depression. When they came to age most men went to war trying to defeat Nazis Germany and the Japanese ! We have no idea what that lifestyle was like ! College was not a possibility for many of this generation ! My late father would tell me as a child in the 1960s you have no idea what it was like in that era !
Denial will no longer work when the whole planet is almost completely dead. I agree completely. What you're describing - the chaos and destruction leading to evolution - is shared by all major religions to my knowledge, as well as a few minor ones. Beautiful video. I try to have faith in a positive ending for at least some of our species.
I've spoken to the younger half of my Gen Z, and even if they themselves do not have the psychologial tools to improve their poor mental health... I think a decent chunk of them are headed for serious dysfunction, they are already realizing that they carry too much generational baggage to keep up with society's pace. So I think in a few years actually... some of them will have already snapped under the weight of trying to become a functional adult. Here in the west we might see a pandemic scale crisis for gen Z sooner than you imagined Daniel.
I agree, we’re advancing beyond our human limits and the limits of the earth and it’s going to catch up with us in the next few generations in a tragic way. Thank you for your wisdom x
Great vid Daniel. I am somebody who grew up feeling alienated from all those around me, and it is because I would be the one who could see the misery of those around me and I wanted so badly to help them. Any attempt to question the behaviours of others, or to ask uncomfortable questions, led to me being abandoned in someway. My family hated when I questioned things. My parents were both drug addicts, and when I would ask them about it, they would treat me like I was crazy for making a big deal of it. My inquisitive desire to understand people didn't gel so well with others in my early 20's, where I began smoking cannabis on a regular basis. I didn't realise that it was masking up my feelings of self rejection and abandonment. 5 months sober has forced all this to the surface, where I have spent a majority of my time grieving and remembering and feeling both the traumas and the delights of childhood. Watching your videos makes me feel better my experience as a child, and as an adult today. I think cannabis will be the drug that allows society to disengage with their own thoughts and feelings, which in turn creates the potential for people (in groups or individuals) to cause catastrophes. Not only can it remove the individual from their feelings, it also provides a mild psychedelic effect of rationalising abstract concepts, which can be dangerous for someone in a position of power over other human beings. I come from a part of the world where cannabis is seen as benign and medicinal, and I am worried, especially with the U.S. legalizing recreational use. Looking forward to your next video man
I have a couple of friends whose brains were destroyed by cannabis, used over 20 years. It certainly is not a harmless drug. I hate that stuff and what it has done to these once so brilliant people. It has affected their emotions too.
"Brains destroyed by cannabis" lol!! That sounds like my friends that claim I dropped out of college because of cannabis. How about I dropped out of college because of unhealed trauma - the same reason I was using the cannabis for like Nathan said, to mask the feelings. I've been around many pot heads for 20 years and can say I've never seen anything close to destroying brains, lol. Perhaps they were using more serious drugs and didn't share it with you for obvious reasons. Or perhaps they're being destroyed by their underlying issues that they're numbing out with substances.
There are so many substances and activities that people use as escapisms to numb out their feelings and fill the void. Carbs (sugar) being a big one that doesn't get much recognition. Work, alcohol, social media, video games, technology, cigs, knowledge, cable news, spirituality, caffeine, retail therapy. Could easily name 20 more. Weed is just another option for being hooked on copium. If anything, weed can make people more introspective, which they call paranoia.
Especially all the people at work who are obsessed with it. Many people are fine working a ton of hours but by day 5 of a 40 hr work week I need two days off now work 7 days a week. I finally just said I’m done and called out. My life goal is not to go to work and be around a thousand people and hear bs from there mouths and put up with gossip and bad words from co workers about the company or to have to look at passive aggressive people all day. Finally had a break down and yet still can’t stop thinking about work or thinking let’s see what this toxic company will do this time give me way less hours? I just wouldn’t be surprised at this point but I want to be done with them already.
What is the difference between grieving and just crying/being sad/suffering? Both are painful and afterwards you feel better, but how can you know you are grieving in the healthy way and not just feeling the pain of life or traumas? Would like to know more about this process and what is means to do it correctly and not just fooling ourselfs with more denial and illusions.
I worry that it won't be a big change that wakes people up. It will be small erosions that no one notices. It's difficult to combat small slippages. I've heard this is the tactic with taking away women's rights.
I sadly think that your view is optimistic, Daniel. I see a horrible possibility for us to fall to a far deeper state of dissociation, denial and hatered. My friend and I have often talked about the possibility for a collective "end-of-the-mind" or "end-of-the-self". As the systems that are holding up our base-needs break down and fall, I think it's completely possible that the western society (and humanity) falls with them. It's really hard to integrate your trauma if you don't have food to eat, water to drink or fuel to keep you warm. These kinds of conditions historically don't bring out the best in people, but the opposite. I truly hope that you're right, and that I'm wrong.
Very interesting comment! I think similarly. With the pandemic raging on killing and disabling thousands every week and the president of the USA simply declares “it’s over” without any evidence, it seems like “the end of the mind” has already laregly happened. It’s generally not considered a scandal because most people are simply happy to deny everything terrible even if it could lead to their death or disability. Even when presented to them, they simply refuse to accept it! Very bizarre and horrifying!
My two brothers and i never had children cause what happened to us, my brother John took his own life. My other brother is in dental about my mother My parents are in denial Thank you for shaking 💓
I totally regret bringing children into this world. Now I have so much more to grieve. Only childhood pain is so much already to grief. Now I am suffering parental alienation. So also that to unending grief. This is a violent world. And I regret it.
How does someone ''open it up''? I know I get so utterly frustrated watching my mom and people ooh and awe about God and religion although he has not done a damn thing for anyone. And my stepdad who molested my sisters and girlfriend is still part of the family---and my dad who left us with him and my mom and them just keep bringing up ''God is on the throne'' And it is all just f--king insane. So much repression and ''not talking about it''.... Everywhere.
So many great nuggets in this video. It's a shame it only has 5k views in a year and a half while the more popular channels I've had to Unsubscribe from have such a large audience (ex: Morton, Ramani, Grande). They lure me in with pertinent topics but then it becomes obvious how toxic their channel is. I am grateful to have Daniel Mackler's authentic content - someone I've been proud to follow, recommend, and reference for years now.
Don't know if you've ever heard this song by Ten Years After, "I'd love to change the world", but if you haven't please do. It's a song ahead of it' s time. It's too easy just to leave it "up to" somebody else. Who has time for these problems that affect us all?
I think if people lived longer say 200-300 years, they would be much more concerned about the consequences of their actions and how it affects the environment.
“What has their career been?”- a great question which most of us cannot answer in this deluge of PowerPoints and incessant emails. Seriously though, what is the work, exactly?
I love that you have more optimism here! I was just thinking today, humanity has to self-correct, otherwise it will destroy itself, and I think it will happen too! Wish you the best weekend, its almost summer!
There are soo many crazy people in denial with you just cant talk reason and reality. Daniel, you are amazing and I would love to know you. Your authenticity and strength of character sets an example.❤
My sick EGO wants to be around in a few hundred years when this grief happens.my EGO even identifies with the misery I live these days. Cheers Daniel, you've a kind soul.
It's hopeful and therefore soothing. It probably will help me fall asleep in this sleepless night because i was thinking about the traumas someone completely blind has inflicted on me that's similar to what was done to me in childhood which is too painful to deal with when you're completely alone. Thank you.
The ray of light called hope eternally shines upon humanity. But humanity also drowns themselves clinging on to the malaise known as hope. I believe both Ikari and I have clung on to the disease called hope for far too long --------- Commander Fuyutski, Neon Genesis Evangelion
Optimism bias/ addiction to hopium/ addiction to life/ pink balloon addiction/ stubborn denial of the insidiously harmful, painful, harsh, traumatic, mindlessly cruel, malignantly stupid reality of life/ wearing rose-colored glasses/ willful blindness (cf. Plato's Cave), magical thinking and rationalization --- this is the most grave ailment afflicting global human society; and antinatalism, pessimism and depressive realism are the best treatment or cure.
I like this one. I too believe that personal change precedes greater social changes. Anybody interested in these matters should learn about the work of Daniel Quinn. His books were certainly the most eye-opening and important books I’ve ever read. He explained how we, the people of this single culture that's overrun the world, became our crazy selves. Learning about how it all came to be seems a good starting point to me. And I love the grandma imitations! xD
Can't wait for it to happen. Really looking forward to it. That is what I am preaching since years that this is the only way out of suffering: go thru all your emotions. Looking forward to that beautiful Era after the Era of Mass Grieving. Thanks for that video.
We are constituted by nature (i.e. evolution via natural selection) in such a way that denial is our most immediate reaction to unpleasant truth ... The fear of harsh truth is the mechanism through which our primitive, animal makeup expresses itself. Some call this fear the manifestation of the instinct of survival. Whether speaking about an "instinct of survival" is a metaphorical rendition of our fear of truth, or an actual inbuilt mechanism of our primitive psychology, the end result is the same: we are biological machines who involuntarily seems to disavow and avoid the truth with almost any cost. What is interesting - and humorous in a macabre way - to me is how our intellect is mostly an active accomplice in this biological project of truth-denial. I see religions and all forms of idealism, mysticism, occultism, "spirituality" and even beliefs in the grand projects of humanity (like space exploration and wet dreams about technologically conquering death) as merely mental ornaments on the DNA's relentless push to survival: impossible but mandatory projects of immortality. There is no reason/rationality involved in the slavishness of our intellect to its master, the DNA. Whenever with intellectual honesty we persist on the path where reason leads, and realize our true mortality and contingency, the conclusion is flat out rejected by the "will" (the evolutionary drive to keep going and reproducing). Our mind tends to form all sorts of fantastical excuses, builds temples out of speculation, sacrificing reason on the altar of worshiping life, and the character of truth-encounters almost always result in all-encompassing cognitive dissonances. Unpleasant truth is programmed by nature into us as the enemy. The mind's primary function is not reason and its main goal is certainly not truth, but survival; truth seems to be something we readily sacrifice when it conflicts with our survival. Instead of logical conclusions, the mind is primarily a confabulation and rationalization machine, a sycophant for the DNA, and on the next level removed in abstraction, society is yet another confabulatory engine further obfuscating sobering truths with inventing organized religions and through the regimentation of life with cultural rituals and performances, which get reified to a point where these artifacts almost completely replace the raw experiential access to reality. This inbuilt, this nature-programmed aversion towards death is then taken as evidence of the badness of non-existence, hence the irrational, almost defense-mechanism-like reaction of people against antinatalism: they perceive cessation of procreation itself as "murder" as it gets translated to them by the biological script in their heads (especially if they identify with a tribe, nation or humanity). Any kind of abstinence towards furthering the selfish gene is a threat to its continued expansion, thus it is quickly and ad hoc rationalized as an enemy. BTW, I see people with depression, or other so called mental illnesses, as people who are only "defective" in necessary self-deceit mechanisms: the programming to eschew truth is malfunctioning (broken down by objective harms suffered and unforgiving circumstances), thus reality more easily permeates into their consciousness... and since the truth about our existence is clearly disturbing and saddening, so that is how they will feel (with many of them confused as to the source of their feelings, they welcome the objectifying interpretations given to them, and are grateful for the blue pills offered). With impressive haste, society decided to quarantine them into an artificial disease model (previously sin model), so it can handle them and the truths they reveal. Psychotherapy and psychiatric drugs are methods by which society tries not to mend (because it is impossible) but silence, confuse, disrupt, dull, re-confabulate, re-indoctrinate the "malfunctioning" individual. Where "functioning in society" is newspeak for the needed level of delusions and intellectual deceptions in line with our biological imperative to survive, in order to be a productive (exploitable) member of society.
If true, this would support the notion that consciousness is epiphenomenological to life, which is a compelling idea in this age. It's the ultimate passing of the buck. But is it really true in an evolutionary sense that "denial is our most immediate reaction to unpleasant truth"? I agree that this prevails today, but it seems far more likely to me that such a profound form of denial is a necessary perversion of colonial civilization - as some innate evolutionary strategy it is just about the most unfit thing conceivable.
"BTW, I see people with depression, or other so called mental illnesses, as people who are only "defective" in necessary self-deceit mechanisms" . in what kind of world is it NOT defective to be unable to feel pleasure? to hate oneself? to not be able to feel love from your own family or children? to think of oneself as worthy of suffering? to not be able to enjoy music? " Where "functioning in society" is newspeak for the needed level of delusions and intellectual deceptions in line with our biological imperative to survive, in order to be a productive (exploitable) member of society." this is only part of the truth. it's important to reveal, but it's not the entire truth, as per my comment above.
Daniel, it's already starting. We're the outliers, the kindling for this big fire. I feel like I'm doing the grieving for several adults in my family, and have recently come to realise along with my yearning to start a family has also been an unbridled underlying terror of watching my future little boy or little girl have to feel even an atom of the grief and shame I've shouldered. Now, it's already pretty much too late for me, time will tell. But you're right about fewer people having children in future, it 100% makes sense this will get bigger.
I sure hope so, but I'm not sure. I'm trying to think back in history, looking at post WWII for example, a time after horrible terrible pain, mass deaths all over the world, cruel acts of human monstrosities. Erich Maria Remarque did a wonderful job in his writing drawing a straight line between the happenings of WWII and the Holocausts with the Lost Generation and the ending of WWI. maybe it's not in the family parental level that's true, but still what came after the end of the war was a time of (some) accountability at the national level but denial and silencing at the individual level. the main problem with grieving and why it's not being acknowledged in society and being forcibly suppressed if it's by medications or diagnosis and medicalization or any other form, is that you can't function with it, and rn as a society we are more focused on doing than being so any de-functional behavior becomes the enemy, so it leaves me wonder how can human society balance both mass grieving and functioning (and assuming misery and disaster will be the spark for grieving than I'm assuming there's gonna be a need for re-building and surviving despite the lack). I'm modeling a lot of this thought on what happened to Jews who survived the Holocaust, after the war it was a strict taboo to talk about or even show any hint that what happened to you affected you in any way, it was against the social norm, against the message of the strong new Israeli Jew, the need to build a nation, to go against the thought of "walking to the their deaths like sheep to a slaughterhouse". I know it's a very specific situation and has its particular nuances but maybe it can shed a light on deeper behaviors too.
Daniel, I fear there won't be time for a transformed human species to do much on this planet by the time the crisis reaches a level that it brings the kind of suffering and awareness you describe. I think the earth will not sustain us in any numbers by that time. :(
I am at what feels like the tail end of a phase of grieving, a sort of quarter life crisis. Lots of suffering involved, but the kind of suffering that I felt was for the greater good. Not a hopeless suffering of despair, more of a suffering of coming to understand the ways in which the people closest to me have hurt me in the past. I believe I'm in a phase of "alchemy" right now, working to combine the light and dark parts of my soul. It will be interesting to see who stays with me to the end.
Hey Daniel just curious if you have ever read the book goodbye germ theory? It was really eye-opening to me and very much sums up what is currently happening. Not sure if you have looked into that. I’m curious to get your thoughts on what is currently going on with making life more and more difficult for people who don’t go along with whatever the medical “authority“ says.
Daniel 💓 so sadly true. Alas you are not alone! Watching your vids for years now and 5:00-5:33 takes the cake! True!!!
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I very much like your view of how humans are in denyal, and that this surface will start to crack at some time. At least i hope it will, and that everybody will start to live more authentical and real.
"In 100 Years" Outside the gates of heaven Oh, there lives a unicorn I close my eyes to seven Oh, this world is not my home A broken heart in danger And a pillow filled with tears Oh, can you see the strangers? In the pain and in the fears Can you feel my heart? Baby don't give up Can you feel the love tonight? In 100 years Love is illegal In 100 years from now In 100 years Love is illegal in this lonely, heartbreak town In 100 years Love is illegal All your dreams will die In 100 years Love is illegal And your hope will not survive L.O.V.E. Love is illegal in my heart Can you hear my heart is beating L.O.V.E. Love is illegal in my heart Can you hear my heart is beating You're looking through a fire Computers everywhere Oh, you're a shotgun rider Controllers here and there And you read old love letters Drowning in the sea Oh baby it doesn't matter Oh you've lost all what you feel Can you feel my heart? Baby don't give up Can you feel the love tonight? In 100 years Love is illegal In 100 years from now In 100 years Love is illegal in this lonely, heartbreak town In 100 years Love is illegal All your dreams will die In 100 years Love is illegal And your hope will not survive L.O.V.E. Love is illegal in my heart Hear my heart is beating
I've got news for you. We're in Kali Yuga, the worst of the four ages denoted in Hinduism, -- characterized by conflict and ignorance... notably, people's ignorance of their ability to change. "Not only ignorance, but also lack of will power hinders the ability of people to change", - and towards the end of it, there is supposed to be 'a cataclysm' that really shakes things up. Not in Kali Yuga, but in the following age of Satya Yuga will people on a large scale become responsible, conscientious... authentic Who knows what will be left of life on earth by then. 😔
My parents, mostly my father but also my mother, were/are some of the most unhealthy people I’ve ever had the misfortune of being bred from. The emotional and psychological abuse was/is unreal. I try the improve myself every day. I was wondering why when things are going okay, why I couldn’t shake this debilitating depression. It’s because I never felt okay.
This makes me think of grieving and growth in various ways...also connecting with truth I think it can be a relief (not always without going through a metaphorical haunted house) ...i feel grateful for the grieving i’ve done (in moments spread out) over the past several months that did actually make me more insightful long story short...even though i already am an emotional person overall (not to say i can’t also be detached and in denial, definitely have that too in ways ). I think I’ll grieve more at some point directly over this pandemic too...Wonder about the effects (small scale compared to a future mass grieving as described) not even yet seen and experienced Some various thoughts... I hope part of such a mass grieving results in women’s global freedom including full bodily autonomy, free and easy access to all effective methods of birth control, abortion and zero forced pregnancies. As an aside i do also think that born children should be protected with all their own rights etc. There’s a part in a book from Bill Nye on global warming (will find later and quote) and denial... Also...Part of feeling integrated has been connecting with sadness and anger...in new (ie deeper levels) ways than i have already in life (though i’ve always been very emotional and feeling overall, been definitely detached and unaware in certain ways)
Kinda strange how much we think alike, but historically not surprising. I agree with you about the denial thing. I think there's something to be said for the pace of monopolization happening and what its doing to people's lives. Its becoming increasingly difficult to deny reality with social media. It is almost revolutionary what we go through, and I think we're closer to this happening when we think. In some decades, only weeks of progress happen. In some weeks, decades of progress happen. This system can't last much longer, we all know it.
You are very optimistic. But what you describe was with us thousands of years ago, and will still be with us after thousands of years. what is crooked cannot be straightened what is lacking cannot be counted
@@diamondheart11 She's a spiritual teacher who advocates for re-integration of the self as opposed to what we used to call enlightenment. She has her own CZcams channel.
Though it would be cathartic and healing, if the horror and suffering in the world today both personal and worldwide isn't enough to cause mass grieving, what could possibly be the catalyst?
lmao my grandma has been a complete douche my entire life and i cut contact with her like 10 years ago. she still, thru my mother, occasionally tries to talk to me.
Realistically an utopia will create an more destructive war on the soul as an spiritual war is taking place for an long time but few people will truly realise the value of the exploration of the soul.
When would you say that the Era of Denial began? I would guess that it began with the advent of non-naturalistic religions, more than two thousand years ago.
Scapegoating and denial still work well. Empathy is a crucial concept in understanding not only child maltreatment, but its intergenerational transmission. One form of maltreatment, often involving both physical and emotional abuse, targets one child in the family, referred to as the “scapegoat.” Historically, the scapegoat has been regarded as the only abuse victim; clinical experience demonstrates otherwise. In many families, siblings identify with the parent, joining in blaming the victim for the caretaker's abuse of that child. They demonstrate empathy deficits, which may protect them from the effects of witnessing the process. This paper proposes a conceptual model that examines factors contributing to the development of empathy deficits. Ten elements are identified and a unifying model is proposed; the implications are examined.
really awesome truth Daniel (i would rather be dead than stay in denial) i was also persecuted for healing and became a scapegoat for all of my family members yucky stuff
You should check out. r/collapse It's a subreddit full of people who are already grieving. There are some surprisingly young people on there. It's seems like the generation after gen z will be much more mature and aware. I have always felt that the big event you speak of is only about 30 years away.
Hello Daniel, I hope you are doing well! I am writing since I have been wondering, when you say that we are living in an age of immense denial, are you saying that trauma has increased? Would you say that trauma is the worst it has ever been? I ask partly since in your latest video about fathers abusing daughters, you said that in old human history, children were viewed as complete objects. Does this mean that things were worse long ago, or perhaps worse in a different way? I ask since the idea of trauma being worse or better today is something I never really thought of. I always inferred that since humanity has been so against healing, that the amount of trauma around the world has remained roughly the same since the dawn of humanity. Would you say this is not the case? I would really appreciate any info!
Can you make a video on your thoughts of causes and probable solutions to obesity ? And the future of it ? Coz Its sickening how we can even live with such high numbers of obesity and narcissistic traits too to top it off too.
The society is really set up to facilitate the denial - it’s like a society FOR addicts, a collective addiction and a collective denial. The pain and suffering is still there, but it’s like an obscenity to point out the hidden addiction that is everywhere in plain sight.
so true. I think this is a good illustration of it - IN-SHADOW: A Modern Odyssey czcams.com/video/j800SVeiS5I/video.html
Ha exactly Daniel. I remember all my childhood years, adults telling me I would be wise like them after I grew up and then I would understand whatever they thought I was naive about. And then, somewhere around age 17 or 18, I looked around at how we were collectively treating the plant and I realized all these supposed adults who supposedly know better than children, were all crazy! They were crazy because they all walked around in denial about what we were doing to the planet and also I intuited all the rest of the emotional denial.
Ha ha. Your Grandma was happy. Yeah I've been thinking about how my mother was always happy, worked hard, played hard and always slept well, Thank you.
All the while she neglected and abused me, her only child to the extreme with her covert NEGLECTFUL high functioning NARCASSISM or psychopathy.
She was also the exact opposite to all my other relatives for friends and family being the socialite, smearing and slandering me to everyone and getting them to hate me also.
All the while I've never done a thing to any of them always thought I had good family especially a "mom"
It's disgusting. Makes me throw up sometimes thinking about it.
Empathy is a crucial concept in understanding not only child maltreatment, but its intergenerational transmission. One form of maltreatment, often involving both physical and emotional abuse, targets one child in the family, referred to as the “scapegoat.” Historically, the scapegoat has been regarded as the only abuse victim; clinical experience demonstrates otherwise. In many families, siblings identify with the parent, joining in blaming the victim for the caretaker's abuse of that child. They demonstrate empathy deficits, which may protect them from the effects of witnessing the process. This paper proposes a conceptual model that examines factors contributing to the development of empathy deficits. Ten elements are identified and a unifying model is proposed; the implications are examined.
Wow, I’m sos sorry to hear that
covert narcissism is such a huge problem and a destroyer of souls, it's so hard for most people to detect and that may be part of why it does so much damage
I think so often about that concept...the fact that parents bring children into the world despite the condition the world is in. As you said, parents knowingly psychologically destroy their children in doing so. So sad.
It's an interesting cycle. Unhealthy parents have kids because of a believe that kids are gonna make them happy. That of course doesn't happen and then parents are mad and they traumatize their children. Then these children grow up and take out their confusion onto the world.
@Myth Tree I dont think so. people who have healthy regulated loving parents attuned to them since birth can handle a lot more difficult situations and enviornments like the world we live in. it's not really about "mental"health but the state of our nervous system and physiology which affects everything. for example the ace study which has been repeated and shows how early childhood trauma affects kids the rest of their life, studies showing a baby with a traumatic first 2 months of life have worse life outcomes than babies with a good first few months but an adverse childhood afterwards. so many examples like some children who had great lives til age 5 when they were locked instead a closet for years.. they have better outcomes because it's all about the foundation. babies or young children who are adopted and have such good parents but they don't feel safe because of that early traumatic loss of their birth parent and anything else they went through. and so many people put their babies in childcare or let all the gadgets entertain the babies and themselves that there is not as much real connection. and the trauma through the generations is adding up and people aren't able to healthily attach to their own children and the cycle continues. czcams.com/video/mAo9ejioaa0/video.html
I can feel the mass grief coming too, but you seem more optimistic that the grieving will be healthy and growth oriented. I hope youre right. 💚
I think humanity is doomed, frankly. I hope I'm wrong.
@@LadyhawksLairDotCom history is a downward spiral. The history of men is one dumpster fire after another. It's almost like that one Jewish carpenter knew what he was talking about.
I think we are doomed to repeat what we do not resolve, one way or the other. Family members that cannot genuinely admit their wrongs will end up with the tables turned on them..
I 100% agree. Social media demonstrates just how many people out there are in denial.
You're inspiring me to be proud of the path I chose thank you Daniel
💯👏🏽💯
You're smart Daniel. I wish more people were smart. God bless everyone.
Maybe this platform needs a lot more quality content than it currently has. I'm so not volunteering, tho.
@@winkydstanaccount5003 what do you mean?
@@russellm7530 I mean I'm not starting a channel to help increase relative 'smartness' on CZcams :)
To me it's shocking to see people deny for so long. I can understand a degree of denial as a defense mechanism in childhood and adolescence but by the time you're an adult, at least to me, these things feel undeniable beyond a certain point. I mean what kind of traumatic or abusive event does it take to wake someone up? But maybe some things are so traumatic/abusive that you just can't wake up to face them. I dont know. I don't really think so. I think its incredibly sad
Society does a good job portraying that every human being is happy and content with what they have, but the reality is many of them are as frustrated and confused as I am.
The question is also why we are today more in denial than in the seventies...
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Denial is not a problem. The problem lies in a fact that in order to heal you need someone, who will truly care about you when you're crying. The only people capable of that are those with no unhealed trauma and I believe no one like that currently exists.
@@chris4231 if you can really understand that, then you are capable of that, aren’t you?
@@car103d Hopefully I will be when I'm done with all of my traumas. Understanding doesn't matter. Empathy is about emotions not about reason.
Agreed, my advice to new therapists is ‘do Your own work’. I do see a Lot of my clients waking up. Even my own narcissistic mother asked me the other day. How do I stop feeling the pain? Hallelujah ❤️👍🙏
Most WW 2 generation never talked about their feelings. They probably thought you were strange. My late father came up with the horse and buggy until he was in his late teens. No running water, no electricity. Now throw in the great depression. When they came to age most men went to war trying to defeat Nazis Germany and the Japanese ! We have no idea what that lifestyle was like ! College was not a possibility for many of this generation ! My late father would tell me as a child in the 1960s you have no idea what it was like in that era !
The denial I hear from many people around the profound destruction of nature that is and has been underway is heartbreaking
Yes, I experienced that, too. People pulling away from you, when you go within, that they just don't want to.
Denial will no longer work when the whole planet is almost completely dead. I agree completely. What you're describing - the chaos and destruction leading to evolution - is shared by all major religions to my knowledge, as well as a few minor ones. Beautiful video. I try to have faith in a positive ending for at least some of our species.
I've spoken to the younger half of my Gen Z, and even if they themselves do not have the psychologial tools to improve their poor mental health... I think a decent chunk of them are headed for serious dysfunction, they are already realizing that they carry too much generational baggage to keep up with society's pace. So I think in a few years actually... some of them will have already snapped under the weight of trying to become a functional adult. Here in the west we might see a pandemic scale crisis for gen Z sooner than you imagined Daniel.
I agree, we’re advancing beyond our human limits and the limits of the earth and it’s going to catch up with us in the next few generations in a tragic way. Thank you for your wisdom x
yeah, it's called global warming :(
and pollution.
@@asuka_the_void_witch the murder of the planet.
@@asuka_the_void_witch full-scale ecological and social collapse
@@penyarol83 yes
@@sinforoso1974 well it wasn't intended....
Great vid Daniel.
I am somebody who grew up feeling alienated from all those around me, and it is because I would be the one who could see the misery of those around me and I wanted so badly to help them. Any attempt to question the behaviours of others, or to ask uncomfortable questions, led to me being abandoned in someway. My family hated when I questioned things. My parents were both drug addicts, and when I would ask them about it, they would treat me like I was crazy for making a big deal of it. My inquisitive desire to understand people didn't gel so well with others in my early 20's, where I began smoking cannabis on a regular basis. I didn't realise that it was masking up my feelings of self rejection and abandonment. 5 months sober has forced all this to the surface, where I have spent a majority of my time grieving and remembering and feeling both the traumas and the delights of childhood. Watching your videos makes me feel better my experience as a child, and as an adult today.
I think cannabis will be the drug that allows society to disengage with their own thoughts and feelings, which in turn creates the potential for people (in groups or individuals) to cause catastrophes. Not only can it remove the individual from their feelings, it also provides a mild psychedelic effect of rationalising abstract concepts, which can be dangerous for someone in a position of power over other human beings. I come from a part of the world where cannabis is seen as benign and medicinal, and I am worried, especially with the U.S. legalizing recreational use.
Looking forward to your next video man
I have a couple of friends whose brains were destroyed by cannabis, used over 20 years. It certainly is not a harmless drug. I hate that stuff and what it has done to these once so brilliant people. It has affected their emotions too.
"Brains destroyed by cannabis" lol!! That sounds like my friends that claim I dropped out of college because of cannabis. How about I dropped out of college because of unhealed trauma - the same reason I was using the cannabis for like Nathan said, to mask the feelings. I've been around many pot heads for 20 years and can say I've never seen anything close to destroying brains, lol. Perhaps they were using more serious drugs and didn't share it with you for obvious reasons. Or perhaps they're being destroyed by their underlying issues that they're numbing out with substances.
There are so many substances and activities that people use as escapisms to numb out their feelings and fill the void. Carbs (sugar) being a big one that doesn't get much recognition. Work, alcohol, social media, video games, technology, cigs, knowledge, cable news, spirituality, caffeine, retail therapy. Could easily name 20 more. Weed is just another option for being hooked on copium. If anything, weed can make people more introspective, which they call paranoia.
"Soma" in Brave New World.
@@AndyT-np8mm There’s a psychedelic mushroom called Soma
Pain points to grief. Grieving leads to freedom.
Especially all the people at work who are obsessed with it. Many people are fine working a ton of hours but by day 5 of a 40 hr work week I need two days off now work 7 days a week. I finally just said I’m done and called out. My life goal is not to go to work and be around a thousand people and hear bs from there mouths and put up with gossip and bad words from co workers about the company or to have to look at passive aggressive people all day. Finally had a break down and yet still can’t stop thinking about work or thinking let’s see what this toxic company will do this time give me way less hours? I just wouldn’t be surprised at this point but I want to be done with them already.
What is the difference between grieving and just crying/being sad/suffering? Both are painful and afterwards you feel better, but how can you know you are grieving in the healthy way and not just feeling the pain of life or traumas? Would like to know more about this process and what is means to do it correctly and not just fooling ourselfs with more denial and illusions.
I worry that it won't be a big change that wakes people up. It will be small erosions that no one notices. It's difficult to combat small slippages. I've heard this is the tactic with taking away women's rights.
I sadly think that your view is optimistic, Daniel. I see a horrible possibility for us to fall to a far deeper state of dissociation, denial and hatered. My friend and I have often talked about the possibility for a collective "end-of-the-mind" or "end-of-the-self". As the systems that are holding up our base-needs break down and fall, I think it's completely possible that the western society (and humanity) falls with them.
It's really hard to integrate your trauma if you don't have food to eat, water to drink or fuel to keep you warm. These kinds of conditions historically don't bring out the best in people, but the opposite.
I truly hope that you're right, and that I'm wrong.
Very interesting comment!
I think similarly. With the pandemic raging on killing and disabling thousands every week and the president of the USA simply declares “it’s over” without any evidence, it seems like “the end of the mind” has already laregly happened. It’s generally not considered a scandal because most people are simply happy to deny everything terrible even if it could lead to their death or disability. Even when presented to them, they simply refuse to accept it! Very bizarre and horrifying!
Love this one!!! “Put on a happy face and forgive everyone!” Yes!!!
My two brothers and i never had children cause what happened to us, my brother John took his own life.
My other brother is in dental about my mother
My parents are in denial
Thank you for shaking 💓
so sorry about your brother. And what happened to all of you.
I totally regret bringing children into this world. Now I have so much more to grieve. Only childhood pain is so much already to grief. Now I am suffering parental alienation. So also that to unending grief. This is a violent world. And I regret it.
I hope you are right.
How does someone ''open it up''?
I know I get so utterly frustrated watching my mom and people ooh and awe about God and religion although he has not done a damn thing for anyone.
And my stepdad who molested my sisters and girlfriend is still part of the family---and my dad who left us with him and my mom and them just keep bringing up ''God is on the throne''
And it is all just f--king insane. So much repression and ''not talking about it''.... Everywhere.
😂😂 you're so funny when impersonating your grandma
05:25 Living in Denial - The Musical ;)
🎶🎶 :))
So many great nuggets in this video.
It's a shame it only has 5k views in a year and a half while the more popular channels I've had to Unsubscribe from have such a large audience (ex: Morton, Ramani, Grande). They lure me in with pertinent topics but then it becomes obvious how toxic their channel is. I am grateful to have Daniel Mackler's authentic content - someone I've been proud to follow, recommend, and reference for years now.
Don't know if you've ever heard this song by Ten Years After, "I'd love to change the world", but if you haven't please do. It's a song ahead of it' s time. It's too easy just to leave it "up to" somebody else. Who has time for these problems that affect us all?
You remind me of me. Like you, my suffering was unavoidable.
Excellent insights Daniel!
I think if people lived longer say 200-300 years, they would be much more concerned about the consequences of their actions and how it affects the environment.
“What has their career been?”- a great question which most of us cannot answer in this deluge of PowerPoints and incessant emails. Seriously though, what is the work, exactly?
I love that you have more optimism here! I was just thinking today, humanity has to self-correct, otherwise it will destroy itself, and I think it will happen too! Wish you the best weekend, its almost summer!
This message is so refreshing. Thank you.
There are soo many crazy people in denial with you just cant talk reason and reality.
Daniel, you are amazing and I would love to know you.
Your authenticity and strength of character sets an example.❤
My sick EGO wants to be around in a few hundred years when this grief happens.my EGO even identifies with the misery I live these days.
Cheers Daniel, you've a kind soul.
Very interesting insight! Thank you!
5:24 hahaha, this will be my new morning song:D
It's hopeful and therefore soothing. It probably will help me fall asleep in this sleepless night because i was thinking about the traumas someone completely blind has inflicted on me that's similar to what was done to me in childhood which is too painful to deal with when you're completely alone. Thank you.
I feel like I inherited a lot of grief and trauma from my parents and grandparents.
family constellations can help
The ray of light called hope eternally shines upon humanity. But humanity also drowns themselves clinging on to the malaise known as hope. I believe both Ikari and I have clung on to the disease called hope for far too long
--------- Commander Fuyutski, Neon Genesis Evangelion
Optimism bias/ addiction to hopium/ addiction to life/ pink balloon addiction/ stubborn denial of the insidiously harmful, painful, harsh, traumatic, mindlessly cruel, malignantly stupid reality of life/ wearing rose-colored glasses/ willful blindness (cf. Plato's Cave), magical thinking and rationalization --- this is the most grave ailment afflicting global human society; and antinatalism, pessimism and depressive realism are the best treatment or cure.
I like this one. I too believe that personal change precedes greater social changes.
Anybody interested in these matters should learn about the work of Daniel Quinn. His books were certainly the most eye-opening and important books I’ve ever read. He explained how we, the people of this single culture that's overrun the world, became our crazy selves. Learning about how it all came to be seems a good starting point to me.
And I love the grandma imitations! xD
This is the era of denial but also a mass wake up for some
Can't wait for it to happen. Really looking forward to it. That is what I am preaching since years that this is the only way out of suffering: go thru all your emotions. Looking forward to that beautiful Era after the Era of Mass Grieving. Thanks for that video.
We are constituted by nature (i.e. evolution via natural selection) in such a way that denial is our most immediate reaction to unpleasant truth ... The fear of harsh truth is the mechanism through which our primitive, animal makeup expresses itself. Some call this fear the manifestation of the instinct of survival. Whether speaking about an "instinct of survival" is a metaphorical rendition of our fear of truth, or an actual inbuilt mechanism of our primitive psychology, the end result is the same: we are biological machines who involuntarily seems to disavow and avoid the truth with almost any cost.
What is interesting - and humorous in a macabre way - to me is how our intellect is mostly an active accomplice in this biological project of truth-denial. I see religions and all forms of idealism, mysticism, occultism, "spirituality" and even beliefs in the grand projects of humanity (like space exploration and wet dreams about technologically conquering death) as merely mental ornaments on the DNA's relentless push to survival: impossible but mandatory projects of immortality.
There is no reason/rationality involved in the slavishness of our intellect to its master, the DNA. Whenever with intellectual honesty we persist on the path where reason leads, and realize our true mortality and contingency, the conclusion is flat out rejected by the "will" (the evolutionary drive to keep going and reproducing). Our mind tends to form all sorts of fantastical excuses, builds temples out of speculation, sacrificing reason on the altar of worshiping life, and the character of truth-encounters almost always result in all-encompassing cognitive dissonances.
Unpleasant truth is programmed by nature into us as the enemy. The mind's primary function is not reason and its main goal is certainly not truth, but survival; truth seems to be something we readily sacrifice when it conflicts with our survival. Instead of logical conclusions, the mind is primarily a confabulation and rationalization machine, a sycophant for the DNA, and on the next level removed in abstraction, society is yet another confabulatory engine further obfuscating sobering truths with inventing organized religions and through the regimentation of life with cultural rituals and performances, which get reified to a point where these artifacts almost completely replace the raw experiential access to reality.
This inbuilt, this nature-programmed aversion towards death is then taken as evidence of the badness of non-existence, hence the irrational, almost defense-mechanism-like reaction of people against antinatalism: they perceive cessation of procreation itself as "murder" as it gets translated to them by the biological script in their heads (especially if they identify with a tribe, nation or humanity). Any kind of abstinence towards furthering the selfish gene is a threat to its continued expansion, thus it is quickly and ad hoc rationalized as an enemy.
BTW, I see people with depression, or other so called mental illnesses, as people who are only "defective" in necessary self-deceit mechanisms: the programming to eschew truth is malfunctioning (broken down by objective harms suffered and unforgiving circumstances), thus reality more easily permeates into their consciousness... and since the truth about our existence is clearly disturbing and saddening, so that is how they will feel (with many of them confused as to the source of their feelings, they welcome the objectifying interpretations given to them, and are grateful for the blue pills offered).
With impressive haste, society decided to quarantine them into an artificial disease model (previously sin model), so it can handle them and the truths they reveal. Psychotherapy and psychiatric drugs are methods by which society tries not to mend (because it is impossible) but silence, confuse, disrupt, dull, re-confabulate, re-indoctrinate the "malfunctioning" individual. Where "functioning in society" is newspeak for the needed level of delusions and intellectual deceptions in line with our biological imperative to survive, in order to be a productive (exploitable) member of society.
If true, this would support the notion that consciousness is epiphenomenological to life, which is a compelling idea in this age. It's the ultimate passing of the buck. But is it really true in an evolutionary sense that "denial is our most immediate reaction to unpleasant truth"? I agree that this prevails today, but it seems far more likely to me that such a profound form of denial is a necessary perversion of colonial civilization - as some innate evolutionary strategy it is just about the most unfit thing conceivable.
Beautiful cynicism...:)
"BTW, I see people with depression, or other so called mental illnesses, as people who are only "defective" in necessary self-deceit mechanisms"
. in what kind of world is it NOT defective to be unable to feel pleasure? to hate oneself? to not be able to feel love from your own family or children? to think of oneself as worthy of suffering? to not be able to enjoy music?
" Where "functioning in society" is newspeak for the needed level of delusions and intellectual deceptions in line with our biological imperative to survive, in order to be a productive (exploitable) member of society."
this is only part of the truth. it's important to reveal, but it's not the entire truth, as per my comment above.
Daniel, it's already starting. We're the outliers, the kindling for this big fire. I feel like I'm doing the grieving for several adults in my family, and have recently come to realise along with my yearning to start a family has also been an unbridled underlying terror of watching my future little boy or little girl have to feel even an atom of the grief and shame I've shouldered. Now, it's already pretty much too late for me, time will tell. But you're right about fewer people having children in future, it 100% makes sense this will get bigger.
I sure hope so, but I'm not sure. I'm trying to think back in history, looking at post WWII for example, a time after horrible terrible pain, mass deaths all over the world, cruel acts of human monstrosities. Erich Maria Remarque did a wonderful job in his writing drawing a straight line between the happenings of WWII and the Holocausts with the Lost Generation and the ending of WWI. maybe it's not in the family parental level that's true, but still what came after the end of the war was a time of (some) accountability at the national level but denial and silencing at the individual level. the main problem with grieving and why it's not being acknowledged in society and being forcibly suppressed if it's by medications or diagnosis and medicalization or any other form, is that you can't function with it, and rn as a society we are more focused on doing than being so any de-functional behavior becomes the enemy, so it leaves me wonder how can human society balance both mass grieving and functioning (and assuming misery and disaster will be the spark for grieving than I'm assuming there's gonna be a need for re-building and surviving despite the lack). I'm modeling a lot of this thought on what happened to Jews who survived the Holocaust, after the war it was a strict taboo to talk about or even show any hint that what happened to you affected you in any way, it was against the social norm, against the message of the strong new Israeli Jew, the need to build a nation, to go against the thought of "walking to the their deaths like sheep to a slaughterhouse". I know it's a very specific situation and has its particular nuances but maybe it can shed a light on deeper behaviors too.
Daniel, I fear there won't be time for a transformed human species to do much on this planet by the time the crisis reaches a level that it brings the kind of suffering and awareness you describe. I think the earth will not sustain us in any numbers by that time. :(
The best video Daniel has made so far.
IMO of course.
Thank you for this!
You speak many truths over your videos. thank you 🙏
Amazing, really. Food for thought. 💜
2 years later, i think we're about there.
I started grieving for humanity a few days after 911. The first day of the beginning of the end. And we didn't have to go down that path.
My favorite thus far!!
Very nice video!!!
You are wonderful
I am at what feels like the tail end of a phase of grieving, a sort of quarter life crisis. Lots of suffering involved, but the kind of suffering that I felt was for the greater good. Not a hopeless suffering of despair, more of a suffering of coming to understand the ways in which the people closest to me have hurt me in the past. I believe I'm in a phase of "alchemy" right now, working to combine the light and dark parts of my soul. It will be interesting to see who stays with me to the end.
Hey Daniel just curious if you have ever read the book goodbye germ theory?
It was really eye-opening to me and very much sums up what is currently happening.
Not sure if you have looked into that.
I’m curious to get your thoughts on what is currently going on with making life more and more difficult for people who don’t go along with whatever the medical “authority“ says.
Daniel 💓 so sadly true. Alas you are not alone! Watching your vids for years now and 5:00-5:33 takes the cake! True!!!
I very much like your view of how humans are in denyal, and that this surface will start to crack at some time. At least i hope it will, and that everybody will start to live more authentical and real.
"In 100 Years"
Outside the gates of heaven
Oh, there lives a unicorn
I close my eyes to seven
Oh, this world is not my home
A broken heart in danger
And a pillow filled with tears
Oh, can you see the strangers?
In the pain and in the fears
Can you feel my heart?
Baby don't give up
Can you feel the love tonight?
In 100 years
Love is illegal
In 100 years from now
In 100 years
Love is illegal in this lonely, heartbreak town
In 100 years
Love is illegal
All your dreams will die
In 100 years
Love is illegal
And your hope will not survive
L.O.V.E.
Love is illegal in my heart
Can you hear my heart is beating
L.O.V.E.
Love is illegal in my heart
Can you hear my heart is beating
You're looking through a fire
Computers everywhere
Oh, you're a shotgun rider
Controllers here and there
And you read old love letters
Drowning in the sea
Oh baby it doesn't matter
Oh you've lost all what you feel
Can you feel my heart?
Baby don't give up
Can you feel the love tonight?
In 100 years
Love is illegal
In 100 years from now
In 100 years
Love is illegal in this lonely, heartbreak town
In 100 years
Love is illegal
All your dreams will die
In 100 years
Love is illegal
And your hope will not survive
L.O.V.E.
Love is illegal in my heart
Hear my heart is beating
Insightful as always
I've got news for you. We're in Kali Yuga, the worst of the four ages denoted in Hinduism,
-- characterized by conflict and ignorance... notably, people's ignorance of their ability to change. "Not only ignorance, but also lack of will power hinders the ability of people to change", - and towards the end of it, there is supposed to be 'a cataclysm' that really shakes things up.
Not in Kali Yuga, but in the following age of Satya Yuga will people on a large scale become responsible, conscientious... authentic
Who knows what will be left of life on earth by then. 😔
My parents, mostly my father but also my mother, were/are some of the most unhealthy people I’ve ever had the misfortune of being bred from. The emotional and psychological abuse was/is unreal. I try the improve myself every day. I was wondering why when things are going okay, why I couldn’t shake this debilitating depression.
It’s because I never felt okay.
This makes me think of grieving and growth in various ways...also connecting with truth I think it can be a relief (not always without going through a metaphorical haunted house) ...i feel grateful for the grieving i’ve done (in moments spread out) over the past several months that did actually make me more insightful long story short...even though i already am an emotional person overall (not to say i can’t also be detached and in denial, definitely have that too in ways ). I think I’ll grieve more at some point directly over this pandemic too...Wonder about the effects (small scale compared to a future mass grieving as described) not even yet seen and experienced
Some various thoughts...
I hope part of such a mass grieving results in women’s global freedom including full bodily autonomy, free and easy access to all effective methods of birth control, abortion and zero forced pregnancies. As an aside i do also think that born children should be protected with all their own rights etc.
There’s a part in a book from Bill Nye on global warming (will find later and quote) and denial...
Also...Part of feeling integrated has been connecting with sadness and anger...in new (ie deeper levels) ways than i have already in life (though i’ve always been very emotional and feeling overall, been definitely detached and unaware in certain ways)
Kinda strange how much we think alike, but historically not surprising. I agree with you about the denial thing. I think there's something to be said for the pace of monopolization happening and what its doing to people's lives. Its becoming increasingly difficult to deny reality with social media. It is almost revolutionary what we go through, and I think we're closer to this happening when we think. In some decades, only weeks of progress happen. In some weeks, decades of progress happen. This system can't last much longer, we all know it.
i agree 100% with your perspective!
im sure people gonna appreciate you in the future
"I couldn't kill my suffering"
Totally agree
You are very optimistic. But what you describe was with us thousands of years ago, and will still be with us after thousands of years.
what is crooked cannot be straightened
what is lacking cannot be counted
Teal Swan calls our current era the "emotional dark age," which couldn't be more fitting.
Who is Teal Swan?
@@diamondheart11 She's a spiritual teacher who advocates for re-integration of the self as opposed to what we used to call enlightenment. She has her own CZcams channel.
@@diamondheart11 a con artist
"I am a grieving person" - Now that's cool. :D
First ten seconds.. I think this too, I have thought this myself. Hopefully after that will be many, many days of sunshine
Though it would be cathartic and healing, if the horror and suffering in the world today both personal and worldwide isn't enough to cause mass grieving, what could possibly be the catalyst?
I think that mass genocides, starvation, illnesses and nuclear holocaust are possible catalysts. I hope for the best do...
Daniel for president
suffering (creates looking at self more)
beautiful !!!!
I feel this too. People are very primed for this.
Never forgive, never forget
lmao my grandma has been a complete douche my entire life and i cut contact with her like 10 years ago. she still, thru my mother, occasionally tries to talk to me.
Book of revelation. Lamentations. Repentance. You're almost there Daniel, Jesus is waiting for you/your epiphany.
He's fine as it is
Realistically an utopia will create an more destructive war on the soul as an spiritual war is taking place for an long time but few people will truly realise the value of the exploration of the soul.
When would you say that the Era of Denial began? I would guess that it began with the advent of non-naturalistic religions, more than two thousand years ago.
Good question…
It was made worse in Europe by the Black Death in 1346-53.
It’s happening now
Scapegoating and denial still work well.
Empathy is a crucial concept in understanding not only child maltreatment, but its intergenerational transmission. One form of maltreatment, often involving both physical and emotional abuse, targets one child in the family, referred to as the “scapegoat.” Historically, the scapegoat has been regarded as the only abuse victim; clinical experience demonstrates otherwise. In many families, siblings identify with the parent, joining in blaming the victim for the caretaker's abuse of that child. They demonstrate empathy deficits, which may protect them from the effects of witnessing the process. This paper proposes a conceptual model that examines factors contributing to the development of empathy deficits. Ten elements are identified and a unifying model is proposed; the implications are examined.
really awesome truth Daniel
(i would rather be dead than stay in denial)
i was also persecuted for healing and became a scapegoat for all of my family members
yucky stuff
I agree 💯
You should check out.
r/collapse
It's a subreddit full of people who are already grieving. There are some surprisingly young people on there. It's seems like the generation after gen z will be much more mature and aware.
I have always felt that the big event you speak of is only about 30 years away.
Thanks!
Hello Daniel, I hope you are doing well! I am writing since I have been wondering, when you say that we are living in an age of immense denial, are you saying that trauma has increased? Would you say that trauma is the worst it has ever been? I ask partly since in your latest video about fathers abusing daughters, you said that in old human history, children were viewed as complete objects. Does this mean that things were worse long ago, or perhaps worse in a different way? I ask since the idea of trauma being worse or better today is something I never really thought of. I always inferred that since humanity has been so against healing, that the amount of trauma around the world has remained roughly the same since the dawn of humanity. Would you say this is not the case? I would really appreciate any info!
C,mon Daniel. Give him s reply!
You might like the book The Fourth Turning...
Dude, in the future people will be happy. It'll just be genuine happiness, not a coping strategy.
Daniel, do you offer video conversations?
Can you make a video on your thoughts of causes and probable solutions to obesity ? And the future of it ? Coz Its sickening how we can even live with such high numbers of obesity and narcissistic traits too to top it off too.
5:25 😂 you are great