I would add in the common violation employers inflict on employees. As a freelancer, I imagine Daniel is fairly separated from this, but its extremely common for bosses/managers to violate employee's boundaries & threaten to fire them if they don't comply. Sometimes its very overt and obvious like sexual harassment, which thankfully is becoming less and less socially acceptable. But there's still expectations for people to answer emails late into the night, work extra hours, etc when it isn't really necessary for the business to continue to function.
I quit the corporate world in 2015, partly because the default mode of every workplace I was ever at was to violate the boundaries of employees. It encouraged and rewarded psychopathic behaviour.
What happens on the outside is a reflection of the inside of the human species, we suffer in silence but destroy our biosphere out loud 💔... thank you for your videos Daniel I think they facilitate clarity and understanding to people searching what is really like to be human ❤
Yeah Daniel my mother apparently stole my grandfather's home and property and southwestern Washington from me when he passed away. Temperate Rainforest Their was about 70 acre's of second generation trees and 5 acres of pasture. I still can't believe she's stolen all of it from me along with all the vehicles and tools and heavy equipment for building roads that my grandfather had. One thing I just can't believe is she's apparently had all the trees CLEARCUT! OH God I loved that place and it all easily could have been mine if I had had any idea about mom being a psychopath or narcissist at the time when he passed away. I asked her not to sell it and that I would live there later on and she told me she would hold on to it and rent it or lease it out then. It's a long story but the last several years I have been learning almost all of my relatives especially my mom we're very bad to me my whole life, psychopathic. All those beautiful trees, Maples, Alders, Oak but mostly large Douglas Firs were over a hundred years old at least. Grounded used to call it having money in the bank having that land there. And that didn't include any money he did have in the bank or anywhere else. You know he lived right in the area where old DB Cooper jumped out of a commercial airliner. To this day I'm still not been able to talk with mom about any of it she put a no contact order on me the moment I even began to question her about her behavior. In fact I got thrown in jail last week for accidentally texting her or breaking the no contact order. She is EVIL I think and most of my relatives also. It makes me throw up sometimes just thinking about it not just for my huge loss but also all those irreplaceable wonderful trees that my granddad spent many decades taking great care of.
@@lisanaturels5075 I've been trying but being broke and with few resources it's been no luck. I'm a veteran and have been on a tiny disability pension for many years now living in a low income apartment while mom and her husband live in a Giant new home with a 4 car garage as big as an average size home. Most all of my other relatives mom's smeared and slandered me to making all of them hate me. I think think they're most all very narcissistic themselves anyways. Yeah I wish I could find a lawyer that could help me though. I still can't believe what she's done to me. I can't really just leave and forget about all this or just go on to greener pastures, I've been to broken and destroyed by them. I need to at least get some monetary material reparation from them to have any kind of life or even to survive. God bless anyone affected by these kind of people.
You need a lot of therapy. You need to focus on what you can do something about. She sounds evil. You need to get a lawyer. Read up on statute of limitations on contesting the will. If it's too late you need to move on.
Thank you so much Daniel Mackler for doing these videos! You really CARE about people and what happens to people. Grieving is so scary when you were punished for simply wanting to be allowed to feel what you are feeling, instead of what the adults around you wanted to see.
We have to have a much higher bar for raising children then as you say the current bars against sexually abusing or excessive violence against your child.We have to start talking more about what it means to raise health happy children who needs for love,safety,attention and whose developmental needs and creativity and growth is to be centred and considered of upmost importance. The right of the child has to be considered their emotional and material needs.We live in asociety that unless you are hitting your kids or sexually abusing them or not feeding them then almost anything goes. The amount of neglect children suffer is horrendous and the way I see children spoken to in the street would leave me concerned at what happens behind closed doors but no one says anything or thinks it is even unacceptable. I accept that many parents are simply trying to do their best,there maybe work pressures or money issues or mental health/addiction issues,unhappy marriages etc but so much of it is normalised parenting which ignores basic needs of children and no one would even consider it abuse or neglect or anything to be too concerned about. These are huge societal issues about how we bring up children and what is reasonable to expect as a child whose attachment needs and love needs are often often not met even if their material ones are.In fact now so many parents out materialism before those emotional needs and think they can substitute care with material things. Society has to deal with this issue as whole,schools and places where children and parents can go to feel supported and talk or be educated about how to relate better or meet the needs of their child. Maybe there needs to be some charter or Rights of the Child which i have heard Sinead O'Connor talk about which includes things such as not only the right to not be terrorised or hit or any physical abuse but also the right to be heard and listened to and express themselves and have connection needs met. We need to talk more about what it is to bring up healthy children and whats rights and responsibilities parents have and also how best to support parents who have nothing but the best intentions and not to marginalise or criminalise those who are often at the lower end of the socioeconomic status who are more lightly to have kids taken into acre whilst middle class parents get away with all sorts because they more easily hide behind money or status or "middle class respectability". All i know is I have not wanted to bring children up in this western culture..maybe if I had of had great support networks,extended family etc and a good community but I do not think it suits kids to grow up in nuclear families with very little contact or connections with other people and input from others who care and nurture them.It does take a village to raise a child and a village of course which is healthy and loving village.We were not meant to be raising children in this way,we evolved to be part of smaller tribes or communities where many people would take part in the child rearing and children were not outsourced to strangers or apart form their caregivers for long periods of time. We need massive cultural and structural shifts in the way we live if we are to raise children who are healthy and happy and who have respect for the earth and the environment around them.Obviously some young people..the likes of Greta Thunberg are only too aware of the disconnect and the dire straits we are in and there are others as well but I do despair when I see so many who are still completely unaware of anything other than buying more material things.I think covid has changed some views on this but by no means enough. Children deserve to be born into a world where worrying about survival of their species is not the one preocupation and too many people having kids without any kind of awareness of the catastrophe ahead if things do not change around fast.
Very well said. It seems so many people are having children automatically, without seriously thinking or reflecting much about it. We need to shift from being automatons to people who are able to think freely and be in touch with our guts and our true selves. We need to help wake up the true self and intuition in each person because that is what gives them the best advice. The problem is in so many children it’s squashed from birth,and so they live alienated from it, ignoring it, not even hearing it.
Thank you Daniel, I always appreciate very much your videos and what you share. Concerning this video I feel doctors are also people who are allowed by law to violate... I was at the dentist recently and I felt so violated how this doctor was touching me, like for ex. drying her hands on the paper I was wearing as protection, telling me what to do how to move without never checking if for me it was fine, or even... asking me to raise my left arm if she was hurting me, and when I did it, she was like: its impossible! I just put some cotton on your gums, its impossible! And the more I insisted that no matter what she did I felt pain, the more she was negating, refusing my truth... It was crazy!! It was somehow as if I was a baby, when you would like to rebel and knock this person out, or just run away, and you're not in the position to do it, you're powerless, and this person has somehow some power over you... SO I thought about all the doctors around the world who very rarely are questioned in their authority, about how patients are like babies and doctors (because of their studies and social position and skills) are the abusive parents who don't give a damn about the rights of the baby... Of course, doctors like that are themselves also traumatized, and the trauma wheel just keep rolling, over and over.... I SO APPRECIATE ALL THE PEOPLE WHO ARE WORKING ON TRAUMA, WHO ARE INFORMING/EDUCATING OTHERS ABOUT TRAUMA, WHO ARE MAKING THIS WORLD AND OUR TRAUMATIZED HUMANITY MORE AWARE...MORE "TRAUMA INFORMED", IN EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE.
Treating others with disrespect is more common than treating people with respect. Treating others with disrespect is considered normal. I completely and utterly agree. It is so shocking and perverse.
Hi Daniel! The toxic family enviroment is one aspect you cover. How about the same toxicity in the workplace replicated between coworkers?You can quit your family and friends painful but necesssery.But one needs a job and income every workplace seems to cater to these behaviour. I tried changing jobs but it seems like it is the same set up everywhere. Could you do a video about this?Or maybe anyone has suggestions?
I was also left with a nanny who took care of me by hitting me and insulting me and terrorising me, while my mother was in the family business where she didn't need to go. I felt violation was the norm since I was 2 years old, unfortunately. Thank you for your video, Daniel.
My heart goes out to you Laura. Your nanny was a witch! I cannot imagine how you endured that without hating the world, or how your mother could fail to notice she wasn't as decent a person as a nanny should be.
The prison "justice" system. Exploits victims both who perpetrate and don't. The conditions of prison. The exploitation of the "bad" and deeply wounded to make people who consider themselves "good" feel right and better about themselves in comparison. The use of empathizing with one person, to dehumanize and harm others. Not being understanding, allowing people to grow, and take genuine accountability for what they are accountable for. They just snatch it away, all chance to improve, making it hard even if you want to get better. It's like a war in and of itself.
@Olivia Cadena Thanks for appreciating it. I want to spread awareness that darkness isn't all we are and can be. Terrible things have happened to us and we have suffered greatly from them, but there is always possibility to become a better person, to live a better life, and to be that positive example for everyone lost in the dark. I could've just went on to hurt people, I would've if I didn't acknowledge the darkness in me and accept that I was responsible for who I become based on that. I'm deciding to be a monster that saves people. We all have that potential within us.
can you make a video about the subject of growing old and realizing you might die alone? do you think life is worth living even when you dont have other people around you?
Everyone should **dream** of dying alone, no "family", friends or enemies; then, none of your **perceived** loved ones will have anything to mourn, and no enemies will joyfully learn you're dead. Whom could want more? Those people you so claim to love, do you desire for them to grieve your loss 📉 Do you want them to depend on you, for anything? Are you sure you love them? Imagine, you live in a World where you're not obsessed with feckless relationships? No one adds **or** **takes** **away** from your potential as a human being; what could you focus on, if relationships were never there to hold you back #justcurious 🤔 Really tho I'm looking for ideas 🙃
Living a lonely life seems far more punishing than the end of a life. Death is relatively discrete compared to the length of most lives. When I had to have a surgery years ago I needed to find someone who could pick me up and take me home. I scrolled through my phone and noticed how it felt to think of each friend, whether or not they would feel put out, or would make me feel like I was imposing. I am lucky. I had many people I felt completely comfortable calling. I decided on that day that I wanted to be that person in other people's contact list, that person they don't have to think twice about and just know I'll show up and help. In 2019, at 55, I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. My large group of friends is, to a one, wonderfully present and supportive. Conversely, both my narc parents have found themselves isolated at the last years of life because they LIVED those lives trying to figure what they could extract from everyone they ever interacted with.
it's funny; if you'd speak like this outside the context of your concept you'll be labelled as judgemental; society itself is a social contract meant to steal your inner growth and what we percieve as time; either by being with a partner we don't love just out of fear of not being alone in this mass quantity human farm lacking of quality; or by being a sheepling not having developed any sense of critical thought within you that can guide and give you insight and vision over what happens on all levels
I love this video. A seriously important part of the work you do Daniel is to make people notice the wallpaper in our society. These terrible, horrific things that we just accept because culture works so hard at such an early age to adapt us to the grotesque. It's the most important thing we can do to help ourselves wake up. I will also suggest that the coming generation of adults may well represent the first wave of humans in which a significant number were raised without people putting them down, screaming at them, beating them and in every way trying to make sure they knew they were unwelcome, worthless and unacceptable. They speak honestly to one another. They have self-respect and they require others to treat them with dignity. Of course it's not a majority yet, but enough of them are that it's noticeable. I sincerely believe that more young adults today were raised in less trauma than any generation before them. It gives me a spark, something to help me see the pattern of good, the flash of gold in the world.
When parents complain children are too disrespectful these days and need to be slapped more, I'm just like, "Are you any more respectful (or resqctable) than your child for slapping them? I think not." If you hit a child or preach such things, you don't deserve your child's respect. I'm frankly shocked it's socially acceptible to whoop a child and call that "necessary." Parents get away with violence all the time, and children have no help getting out of it. There's hardly any information about how to save a child from being emotionally abused byheir parents (or your partner if you two raise the child together) because it's "not your business." I can't take it.
All employment is a violation. Contracts cannot cover the feelings of any person from day to day and are not made on even close to equal footing. Consent cannot be withdrawn safely. One person holds the survival of the other in their hand while the other holds a bit of marginal "passive income" for the employer.
@@SandhillCrane42 What an original thought. What could go wrong with taking away the threat of deprivation and vastly simplifying the global market and its evolution so we can cater to known needs?
Great video Daniel. Thanks. Same thing here. My mother did not need to work. My father made quite alot of money being truck driver. Ive seen other families where father was working as a driver and mother stayed home. They had big houses and looked healtier. But my father drinking and losing on games and their both inability to compromise for me and my siblings made my mother to work. And I was put to nannys and dysfunctional family....
If people realised how much peace in world would take place if they’d excavate their own debris instead of dumping it on others maybe then sanity would overrule unnecessary destruction.
Hey Daniel, I was thinking about this on my second listen, but why don't you make a series of videos which are "Advice for healing from X". You could focus on the most helpful bits of advice that you've learned from working with clients with all types of disorders. Like "Advice for Healing from Social Anxiety" or "Advice for Healing from Narcisisim"
Daniel, why didnt we figure it out a thousand years ago!? What the fuck, why do we eat? We're so stupid, were still acting out behavior of dinosaurs! Suffering feels so good! Trauma!!!!
Manipulation in sales, management, media, etc. could go here to. Really violation gets to the center of humanity, and unwillingness to violate is usually a barrier to money and power. The people at the top are so often the people who can simultaneously maximize their politeness and presentation when it matters while using people with no moral boundaries towards their own gain.
It is much harder to damage nature if it is located on someone’s private property, which is being protected by the owner. It’s the public or unclaimed land that’s easy to violate.
When I left NYC it was no longer okay to know myself and acknowledge my real history/experience. People are worshipping a new religion called "family values."
I actually stopped my hygienist half way through the cleaning procedure, because she was just starting to do whatever she wanted without informing me beforehand. 'Bedside manner' is a thing.
Daniel, this is not the history of humanity. It’s the history of civilization. This is a very important distinction. Do hunter-gatherers destroy ecosystems to build large permanent human structures? They don’t. They empathize & live in harmony with nature. You need to come to see this distinction, because it clarifies what has happened to (much of) humanity and where we are going wrong. I suggest reading articles about this like “How Hunter Gatherers Maintained Their Egalitarian Ways” by Dr. Peter Gray and “Allowing Human Nature to Work Successfully” by Jean Liedloff. Then compare the behavior they discuss with how civilized humans always tend to act, and observe the differences. (Another good one is the book In the Absence of the Sacred: The Failure of Technology and the Survival of the Indian Nations by Jerry Mander)
I had a BB gun and it felt empowering but just in a sense of being able to project myself into the outside world, I felt bad about killing animals and stopped doing that (but enjoyed target-shooting).
5:13 yes have land to develop like the man in your story who sold it to the supermarket. The bible would be in favor of that farmer he did it correctly of which you recognize yourself. it's the modern world that continually strips the world of resources in unnatural ways to build unnatural cities of which God knows is not beneficial for man, our needs and needs of our heart are met in nature with animals and with family. You're being cognitively distant when it comes to the bible, you just proved what the bible says was true with the farmer. The bible is against greed laziness and gluttony etc of which a supermarket represents
No he isn't vegan. He pays everyday for animals to be bred, exploited, tortured, raped and slaughtered. He is yet another virtue-signalling hypocrite. He never even acknowledges the existence of veganism, just as he never acknowledges the existence of antinatalism.
I would add in the common violation employers inflict on employees. As a freelancer, I imagine Daniel is fairly separated from this, but its extremely common for bosses/managers to violate employee's boundaries & threaten to fire them if they don't comply. Sometimes its very overt and obvious like sexual harassment, which thankfully is becoming less and less socially acceptable. But there's still expectations for people to answer emails late into the night, work extra hours, etc when it isn't really necessary for the business to continue to function.
I quit the corporate world in 2015, partly because the default mode of every workplace I was ever at was to violate the boundaries of employees.
It encouraged and rewarded psychopathic behaviour.
Absolutely true.
Yes, true!!!! Good point to bring up!! It's awful!! Tyfs 👍👍👍👍👍 here!
If it was neccesary for the business to fonction, I'd say let it go bankrupt. Society'll be better off without that business
Sexual harassment is not the end all be all of abuse and I am sick of idiots like you crying wolf about it.
What happens on the outside is a reflection of the inside of the human species, we suffer in silence but destroy our biosphere out loud 💔... thank you for your videos Daniel I think they facilitate clarity and understanding to people searching what is really like to be human ❤
So well articulated
Yeah Daniel my mother apparently stole my grandfather's home and property and southwestern Washington from me when he passed away. Temperate Rainforest
Their was about 70 acre's of second generation trees and 5 acres of pasture.
I still can't believe she's stolen all of it from me along with all the vehicles and tools and heavy equipment for building roads that my grandfather had.
One thing I just can't believe is she's apparently had all the trees CLEARCUT!
OH God I loved that place and it all easily could have been mine if I had had any idea about mom being a psychopath or narcissist at the time when he passed away.
I asked her not to sell it and that I would live there later on and she told me she would hold on to it and rent it or lease it out then.
It's a long story but the last several years I have been learning almost all of my relatives especially my mom we're very bad to me my whole life, psychopathic.
All those beautiful trees, Maples, Alders, Oak but mostly large Douglas Firs were over a hundred years old at least.
Grounded used to call it having money in the bank having that land there.
And that didn't include any money he did have in the bank or anywhere else.
You know he lived right in the area where old DB Cooper jumped out of a commercial airliner.
To this day I'm still not been able to talk with mom about any of it she put a no contact order on me the moment I even began to question her about her behavior.
In fact I got thrown in jail last week for accidentally texting her or breaking the no contact order.
She is EVIL I think and most of my relatives also.
It makes me throw up sometimes just thinking about it not just for my huge loss but also all those irreplaceable wonderful trees that my granddad spent many decades taking great care of.
Thats so sad. I wouldnt ever want to see her again if i were you. And all those glorious trees... 😥
@@lisanaturels5075 I've been trying but being broke and with few resources it's been no luck.
I'm a veteran and have been on a tiny disability pension for many years now living in a low income apartment while mom and her husband live in a Giant new home with a 4 car garage as big as an average size home.
Most all of my other relatives mom's smeared and slandered me to making all of them hate me.
I think think they're most all very narcissistic themselves anyways.
Yeah I wish I could find a lawyer that could help me though.
I still can't believe what she's done to me.
I can't really just leave and forget about all this or just go on to greener pastures, I've been to broken and destroyed by them.
I need to at least get some monetary material reparation from them to have any kind of life or even to survive.
God bless anyone affected by these kind of people.
You need a lot of therapy. You need to focus on what you can do something about. She sounds evil. You need to get a lawyer. Read up on statute of limitations on contesting the will. If it's too late you need to move on.
Thank you so much Daniel Mackler for doing these videos! You really CARE about people and what happens to people. Grieving is so scary when you were punished for simply wanting to be allowed to feel what you are feeling, instead of what the adults around you wanted to see.
Thank you!
We have to have a much higher bar for raising children then as you say the current bars against sexually abusing or excessive violence against your child.We have to start talking more about what it means to raise health happy children who needs for love,safety,attention and whose developmental needs and creativity and growth is to be centred and considered of upmost importance.
The right of the child has to be considered their emotional and material needs.We live in asociety that unless you are hitting your kids or sexually abusing them or not feeding them then almost anything goes.
The amount of neglect children suffer is horrendous and the way I see children spoken to in the street would leave me concerned at what happens behind closed doors but no one says anything or thinks it is even unacceptable.
I accept that many parents are simply trying to do their best,there maybe work pressures or money issues or mental health/addiction issues,unhappy marriages etc but so much of it is normalised parenting which ignores basic needs of children and no one would even consider it abuse or neglect or anything to be too concerned about.
These are huge societal issues about how we bring up children and what is reasonable to expect as a child whose attachment needs and love needs are often often not met even if their material ones are.In fact now so many parents out materialism before those emotional needs and think they can substitute care with material things.
Society has to deal with this issue as whole,schools and places where children and parents can go to feel supported and talk or be educated about how to relate better or meet the needs of their child.
Maybe there needs to be some charter or Rights of the Child which i have heard Sinead O'Connor talk about which includes things such as not only the right to not be terrorised or hit or any physical abuse but also the right to be heard and listened to and express themselves and have connection needs met.
We need to talk more about what it is to bring up healthy children and whats rights and responsibilities parents have and also how best to support parents who have nothing but the best intentions and not to marginalise or criminalise those who are often at the lower end of the socioeconomic status who are more lightly to have kids taken into acre whilst middle class parents get away with all sorts because they more easily hide behind money or status or "middle class respectability".
All i know is I have not wanted to bring children up in this western culture..maybe if I had of had great support networks,extended family etc and a good community but I do not think it suits kids to grow up in nuclear families with very little contact or connections with other people and input from others who care and nurture them.It does take a village to raise a child and a village of course which is healthy and loving village.We were not meant to be raising children in this way,we evolved to be part of smaller tribes or communities where many people would take part in the child rearing and children were not outsourced to strangers or apart form their caregivers for long periods of time.
We need massive cultural and structural shifts in the way we live if we are to raise children who are healthy and happy and who have respect for the earth and the environment around them.Obviously some young people..the likes of Greta Thunberg are only too aware of the disconnect and the dire straits we are in and there are others as well but I do despair when I see so many who are still completely unaware of anything other than buying more material things.I think covid has changed some views on this but by no means enough.
Children deserve to be born into a world where worrying about survival of their species is not the one preocupation and too many people having kids without any kind of awareness of the catastrophe ahead if things do not change around fast.
Very well said. It seems so many people are having children automatically, without seriously thinking or reflecting much about it. We need to shift from being automatons to people who are able to think freely and be in touch with our guts and our true selves. We need to help wake up the true self and intuition in each person because that is what gives them the best advice. The problem is in so many children it’s squashed from birth,and so they live alienated from it, ignoring it, not even hearing it.
Damn......busting it wide open.....I thought of these issues for many years.....first to ever hear someone put into words.......thanks Daniel.....
There were NO CHILD ABUSE LAWS UNTIL 1974. Unbelievable.
Thank you Daniel, I always appreciate very much your videos and what you share. Concerning this video I feel doctors are also people who are allowed by law to violate... I was at the dentist recently and I felt so violated how this doctor was touching me, like for ex. drying her hands on the paper I was wearing as protection, telling me what to do how to move without never checking if for me it was fine, or even... asking me to raise my left arm if she was hurting me, and when I did it, she was like: its impossible! I just put some cotton on your gums, its impossible! And the more I insisted that no matter what she did I felt pain, the more she was negating, refusing my truth... It was crazy!! It was somehow as if I was a baby, when you would like to rebel and knock this person out, or just run away, and you're not in the position to do it, you're powerless, and this person has somehow some power over you... SO I thought about all the doctors around the world who very rarely are questioned in their authority, about how patients are like babies and doctors (because of their studies and social position and skills) are the abusive parents who don't give a damn about the rights of the baby... Of course, doctors like that are themselves also traumatized, and the trauma wheel just keep rolling, over and over.... I SO APPRECIATE ALL THE PEOPLE WHO ARE WORKING ON TRAUMA, WHO ARE INFORMING/EDUCATING OTHERS ABOUT TRAUMA, WHO ARE MAKING THIS WORLD AND OUR TRAUMATIZED HUMANITY MORE AWARE...MORE "TRAUMA INFORMED", IN EVERY ASPECT OF LIFE.
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Treating others with disrespect is more common than treating people with respect. Treating others with disrespect is considered normal.
I completely and utterly agree. It is so shocking and perverse.
Hi Daniel!
The toxic family enviroment is one aspect you cover. How about the same toxicity in the workplace replicated between coworkers?You can quit your family and friends painful but necesssery.But one needs a job and income every workplace seems to cater to these behaviour. I tried changing jobs but it seems like it is the same set up everywhere. Could you do a video about this?Or maybe anyone has suggestions?
I was also left with a nanny who took care of me by hitting me and insulting me and terrorising me, while my mother was in the family business where she didn't need to go. I felt violation was the norm since I was 2 years old, unfortunately. Thank you for your video, Daniel.
Sorry, Laura.
🙏🏼❤❤❤❤❤'s for your sweet self.
@@bernadettebockis4120 Thank you, Bernadette 😘😘
My heart goes out to you Laura. Your nanny was a witch! I cannot imagine how you endured that without hating the world, or how your mother could fail to notice she wasn't as decent a person as a nanny should be.
@@MainelyLove Thank you so much! My mother knew but she left me with her anyway. 😑
@@laurar.2866
Much to unpack with this.
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The prison "justice" system. Exploits victims both who perpetrate and don't. The conditions of prison. The exploitation of the "bad" and deeply wounded to make people who consider themselves "good" feel right and better about themselves in comparison. The use of empathizing with one person, to dehumanize and harm others. Not being understanding, allowing people to grow, and take genuine accountability for what they are accountable for. They just snatch it away, all chance to improve, making it hard even if you want to get better. It's like a war in and of itself.
Thanks soooo much for saying this here!!!! Really true! 😢😢😢
@Olivia Cadena Thanks for appreciating it. I want to spread awareness that darkness isn't all we are and can be. Terrible things have happened to us and we have suffered greatly from them, but there is always possibility to become a better person, to live a better life, and to be that positive example for everyone lost in the dark. I could've just went on to hurt people, I would've if I didn't acknowledge the darkness in me and accept that I was responsible for who I become based on that. I'm deciding to be a monster that saves people. We all have that potential within us.
@@pastelpanda7309 Well good for you!!!!!! Blessings to you 😊🙏😊!! 💛🧡❤️💚💙
@Olivia Cadena Thanks, blessings to you too!😊💛❤️
U might be the person i would most want to do a long style podcast with.
can you make a video about the subject of growing old and realizing you might die alone? do you think life is worth living even when you dont have other people around you?
Better to be alone than a toxic miserable relationship
He did do a video about that.
@@Melissa0774 i was sure that he might have already done a video about that XD.. but i want mooooaaarr :)))
Everyone should **dream** of dying alone, no "family", friends or enemies; then, none of your **perceived** loved ones will have anything to mourn, and no enemies will joyfully learn you're dead. Whom could want more?
Those people you so claim to love, do you desire for them to grieve your loss 📉 Do you want them to depend on you, for anything? Are you sure you love them? Imagine, you live in a World where you're not obsessed with feckless relationships? No one adds **or** **takes** **away** from your potential as a human being; what could you focus on, if relationships were never there to hold you back #justcurious 🤔
Really tho I'm looking for ideas 🙃
Living a lonely life seems far more punishing than the end of a life. Death is relatively discrete compared to the length of most lives.
When I had to have a surgery years ago I needed to find someone who could pick me up and take me home. I scrolled through my phone and noticed how it felt to think of each friend, whether or not they would feel put out, or would make me feel like I was imposing. I am lucky. I had many people I felt completely comfortable calling. I decided on that day that I wanted to be that person in other people's contact list, that person they don't have to think twice about and just know I'll show up and help.
In 2019, at 55, I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. My large group of friends is, to a one, wonderfully present and supportive. Conversely, both my narc parents have found themselves isolated at the last years of life because they LIVED those lives trying to figure what they could extract from everyone they ever interacted with.
it's funny; if you'd speak like this outside the context of your concept you'll be labelled as judgemental; society itself is a social contract meant to steal your inner growth and what we percieve as time; either by being with a partner we don't love just out of fear of not being alone in this mass quantity human farm lacking of quality; or by being a sheepling not having developed any sense of critical thought within you that can guide and give you insight and vision over what happens on all levels
I love this video. A seriously important part of the work you do Daniel is to make people notice the wallpaper in our society. These terrible, horrific things that we just accept because culture works so hard at such an early age to adapt us to the grotesque. It's the most important thing we can do to help ourselves wake up.
I will also suggest that the coming generation of adults may well represent the first wave of humans in which a significant number were raised without people putting them down, screaming at them, beating them and in every way trying to make sure they knew they were unwelcome, worthless and unacceptable. They speak honestly to one another. They have self-respect and they require others to treat them with dignity. Of course it's not a majority yet, but enough of them are that it's noticeable. I sincerely believe that more young adults today were raised in less trauma than any generation before them. It gives me a spark, something to help me see the pattern of good, the flash of gold in the world.
When parents complain children are too disrespectful these days and need to be slapped more, I'm just like, "Are you any more respectful (or resqctable) than your child for slapping them? I think not." If you hit a child or preach such things, you don't deserve your child's respect. I'm frankly shocked it's socially acceptible to whoop a child and call that "necessary." Parents get away with violence all the time, and children have no help getting out of it. There's hardly any information about how to save a child from being emotionally abused byheir parents (or your partner if you two raise the child together) because it's "not your business." I can't take it.
Thank you for your videos, Daniel! ☀️
All employment is a violation. Contracts cannot cover the feelings of any person from day to day and are not made on even close to equal footing. Consent cannot be withdrawn safely. One person holds the survival of the other in their hand while the other holds a bit of marginal "passive income" for the employer.
Note: not saying (here) that I have better ideas, but it is undeniably a violation.
@@thoughtful1233I have an idea: what about from each according to his ability to each according to his needs?🤔
@@SandhillCrane42 What an original thought. What could go wrong with taking away the threat of deprivation and vastly simplifying the global market and its evolution so we can cater to known needs?
I just watched the video by the way... It was another great video of yours 👍👍👍
You are so right, Daniel. Have been noticing these things myself.
Great video Daniel. Thanks.
Same thing here. My mother did not need to work. My father made quite alot of money being truck driver. Ive seen other families where father was working as a driver and mother stayed home. They had big houses and looked healtier. But my father drinking and losing on games and their both inability to compromise for me and my siblings made my mother to work. And I was put to nannys and dysfunctional family....
If people realised how much peace in world would take place if they’d excavate their own debris instead of dumping it on others maybe then sanity would overrule unnecessary destruction.
Thank you Daniel, you are amazing. ❤
BINGING ON UR VIDS DANIEL this Memorial Day weekend. 5/26/23
You're soooo good Daniel!
Families can be like Little cults...
So powerful Daniel, thank you!
Thank you for this., it’s happening today ..! Sadly ..!
Hey Daniel, I was thinking about this on my second listen, but why don't you make a series of videos which are "Advice for healing from X". You could focus on the most helpful bits of advice that you've learned from working with clients with all types of disorders. Like "Advice for Healing from Social Anxiety" or "Advice for Healing from Narcisisim"
Our world is a culture of SECRECY. Sick sick society.
"Taming the lands" might've been ok like 2600 years ago, when Genesis was written. they didn't have cars or electricity or stuff like that back then.
Daniel, why didnt we figure it out a thousand years ago!? What the fuck, why do we eat? We're so stupid, were still acting out behavior of dinosaurs! Suffering feels so good! Trauma!!!!
Manipulation in sales, management, media, etc. could go here to. Really violation gets to the center of humanity, and unwillingness to violate is usually a barrier to money and power. The people at the top are so often the people who can simultaneously maximize their politeness and presentation when it matters while using people with no moral boundaries towards their own gain.
It is much harder to damage nature if it is located on someone’s private property, which is being protected by the owner. It’s the public or unclaimed land that’s easy to violate.
When I left NYC it was no longer okay to know myself and acknowledge my real history/experience. People are worshipping a new religion called "family values."
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Sad but true. I'm having trouble with Internet/WiFi. Trying to take care of it...
I must have missed one too many chapters in feminist evolution because now I see the loudest proudest feminists are on OnlyFans.. Wait.. What?
I felt hella violated at my last dentist appointment, the dentist all in my mouth like that.
I actually stopped my hygienist half way through the cleaning procedure, because she was just starting to do whatever she wanted without informing me beforehand.
'Bedside manner' is a thing.
You too?! I felt particularly so when I saw the insides of my mouth up there on the big screen...
Daniel, this is not the history of humanity. It’s the history of civilization. This is a very important distinction. Do hunter-gatherers destroy ecosystems to build large permanent human structures? They don’t. They empathize & live in harmony with nature. You need to come to see this distinction, because it clarifies what has happened to (much of) humanity and where we are going wrong. I suggest reading articles about this like “How Hunter Gatherers Maintained Their Egalitarian Ways” by Dr. Peter Gray and “Allowing Human Nature to Work Successfully” by Jean Liedloff. Then compare the behavior they discuss with how civilized humans always tend to act, and observe the differences. (Another good one is the book In the Absence of the Sacred: The Failure of Technology and the Survival of the Indian Nations by Jerry Mander)
the pond situation....wonder about the psyche of tornado chasers...meteorologists,etc.
I had a BB gun and it felt empowering but just in a sense of being able to project myself into the outside world, I felt bad about killing animals and stopped doing that (but enjoyed target-shooting).
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The abuse of war, and hunting is a violation. Not the thing itself. You are playing at naivety when you suggest otherwise.
Youd think somebody would have at least mentioned it, earnest significance my ass.
5:13 yes have land to develop like the man in your story who sold it to the supermarket. The bible would be in favor of that farmer he did it correctly of which you recognize yourself. it's the modern world that continually strips the world of resources in unnatural ways to build unnatural cities of which God knows is not beneficial for man, our needs and needs of our heart are met in nature with animals and with family.
You're being cognitively distant when it comes to the bible, you just proved what the bible says was true with the farmer.
The bible is against greed laziness and gluttony etc of which a supermarket represents
Daniel. Do you have children?
God never said Tame the land. He said to be good stewards of nature. Jesus taught in parables of nature. Nature is the second book of God.
Are you a vegan Daniel? I'd like to hear your thoughts either way.
No he isn't vegan. He pays everyday for animals to be bred, exploited, tortured, raped and slaughtered. He is yet another virtue-signalling hypocrite. He never even acknowledges the existence of veganism, just as he never acknowledges the existence of antinatalism.
@@dfordiligence2398 You are insufferable
@@dfordiligence2398 As a vegan myself I'd ask you to not do that please.
@@pod9363 Do what? What on earth are you talking about, and why on earth are you expecting me and other readers to know what you are talking about?
@@fusion772 Please explain why.