THIS IS WHAT CAUSED THE RELATIONSHIP BREAKDOWN
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- čas přidán 5. 07. 2024
- This is something that I've been silent about for a very long time. I wanted to make sure that I had time to process my feelings properly before I began to speak. A wise person doesn't speak out of emotion.
I've done a lot of self relation and I've had time to process my true thoughts. Now is the right time to talk about why the relationship broke down and what I have learned.
I speak on some of these things in todays video but if you want the specific details I have put it in a book for you to read.
Why did I put it in a book?
Because this needs to be talked about properly and it's not something that you can do in a 20 minute CZcams video.
The book goes into very clear details, and some parts of the book are very hard to read, so consider yourself warned.
You can purchase a copy of the book here.
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It's on presale at the moment and will actually be released on Saturday 13th July 2024 but you can buy it ahead of time.
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Hi there!
My name is Dela and I moved to Ghana from the UK in 2014. I have been living here with my 4 and trying to build a house in Ghana while establishing the lifestyle that we have craved for years.
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Dela Xx
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Congratulations on this milestone Dela.😘
I THINK You may have possibly been had Boderline personality disorder or narcicism... You got jelous his value got higher in ghana... (i am just a comedian and i am not a pyshoclogist) i am just giving my opinion and i hope you heal
Ridiculous
Thank you
@@moretodela I'm trying to purchased the audio with my mastercard
Some of these comments are so disappointing. Shows that when it comes to women exercising their right to leave a bad marriage, people will always find a way to invalidate her experience or convince her it wasn’t that bad. Nobody runs from home if home isn’t on fire. No woman leaves a happy home with 4 kids unless she feels she HAS to.
“Feels “ is the critical word…I wonder how many men don’t act on their feelings in marriage
well said!!
@@geniusinvestorGHThey do all the time
Nobody? We've heard women leave cos their husband was "too nice"
@@eastpak2g6 of all the divorces how many of them do you think are included. There will always be outliers, they are not the majority or the rule. Please try and read between the lines, when I used the word “nobody”, of course I didn’t mean nobody, it’s a way to convert a point.
When the interviewer doesn’t understand nor never been thru trauma this is what you get. A based interviewer.
Preach!
It's as if the EX husband sent him!
@@nanaobben5166 I know right. He tried so hard to gaslight her but she’s not your average person. She’s a walking example of “find that strength and leave before something worse happens”
@@Adebuea I couldn't agree with you more. And not only his words but his tone as well...was a problem.
@@nanaobben5166We've only ever heard her speak,so of course he'll ask questions a certain way
Deep, marriage is not a joke, my married friends never ask me when I’m getting married, only the single unmarried ones. I just want to be sure enough
imagine
It always breaks my heart to see a marriage break. Your union was one I admired. I even commented once complementing both of you. Your teamwork on camera seemed bliss to me. But I also understand it's better to leave than to suffer.
To any single reading this comment. No marriage isn't hard; it's easy and joyous with the right one. Life in general isn't easy. But i believe God elevates couples that work together in love.
I pray this book brings value to both the author and the reader.
Congratulations Dela. May God bless your hustle.
I do not like the interviewers interviewing style. It felt like the interviewer wanted Dela to say it was because of her why the marriage failed. Instead of asking what caused the relationship breakdown.
His tone was harsh like he was re-enacting a bitter memory from his own past.
Well Done Dela for being your true self despite the interviewers poor questioning.
Don’t forget Dela chose the INTERVIEWER AND MOST CERTAINLY, knew the what questions was coming her way. So I don’t what all this fuss and drama in your comments is about. We only know a bit about one side of the story- why don’t you ask about the other side of the story. As I man, we also have to respect his SILENCE. SHE IS SELLING A BOOK RIGHT???
"His tone was harsh like he was re-enacting a bitter memory from his own past".
If the interviewer had gone soft on her with his questions it’s the same people who would have accused both the interviewer & interviewee of maligning the ex- who was not in the recording
Perhaps his role was to play "devil's advocate", "negative You Tube commenters" and "those accusing her of abandoning her marriage" in order to answer the many questions and negative comments that she got. She talks about this in another podcast where she was a guest.
I didn’t know the questions that were going to be asked. I told him to go hard on me deliberately so that no one would accuse me of always being treated favourably
Can I just comment on how great and lovely you look here.. hair very nice makeup very nice and simple I love the white top ❤ everything will be okay my dear 😊May God give u strength n guide your path…give u inner peace n happiness 🙏🏾
Thank you 🙏🏾 😊
It's been some time, but I still hear the pain in your voice during the interview you were candid but chose your words wisely. Even reading the synopsis was obviously painful. Well done! Keep carrying on!
Thank you for sharing, Dela, a courageous step.
Oh I’m not in pain lol
When you read “infidelity , I skipped a heart beat. I’ve always felt connected to you somehow because I see myself in you. However you are stronger. I can’t get that mental clarity because deep down I’m not courageous enough or have to the guts . Glad you are sharing your truth.
It’s not for everyone to be as outspoken as I have been because it comes with its own issues. One day at a time. I didn’t get here overnight that’s for sure.
@@moretodelaBless you. You are free. KEEP soaring.
Sad to see people care more about the institute of marriage than the well-being of the human beings in the marriage.
Hun lve been in London just got back. You grown now. Stand your ground speak your truth . As a people we are not trauma informed.especiallly the black community. I don't care whether you African West Indian. This interviewer is as a man pushing you as men do. He is not trauma informed at all. Such a difference when the interviewer is female. I for one , so proud of you. I've gone through such trauma in relationships it was not recognised then trauma is not something our community accepts. It's just go on, keep silent and bear it. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who is not my protector, provider. I for one thank you. I hope this book will open people,'s eyes. The naysayers wish they had the testicular fortitude you can. Big up yourself ❤❤❤
@@divadiva588 Typical gas lighting tactics from women. Speak your truth until the man starts speaking his truth and they would turn round and be like why is he talking.
I am gonna be honest, I used to watch how her ex husband spoke to her at times and I used to think huh, How can you be so rude.
Or he would make ‘jokes’ which was really not funny.
I think living in a toxic relationship can have a detrimental effect on the children so its better to leave, despite what people say about staying in the marriage for the kids.
They will thank you for it later Dela 🥰
Absolutely
Couldn't agree more! I used to watch with unease sometimes when he hid his patronising behind 'jokes' and Dela would brave it by laughing it off. Always struck me so wrong. So glad you found the strength to put the toxicity behind you for your children's sake. Much love!
Consider selling your book in a PDF format for a few dollars less. It can be read on tablets for those overseas that want to save on shipping costs. Thanks
Yes, I have an audio and ebook version. The link is in the description box
For people to judge her the way they did in the comments. Africans digust me. I kept quiet, never commented, i knew one day she may open up and if she doesn't I respect that too. Thank you for sharing. May the Lord lead to connect with a man who is your equal in spirit.
Africans disgust you, really?
"Africans disgust me"...?
A handful of bad comments from people we couldn't positively identify, and you've generalised it to all Africans. What about the majority of Africans that didn't comment?
In today's world, where the 'me too movement' has often prejudged men before they have a chance to speak, the husband's silence is particularly noteworthy. Despite this challenging environment, he puts the needs of his children first, ensuring they are protected from any potential harm that might arise from his words.
Africans can disgust you all you want, we don't live by your rules
😂😂😂. Where did you get the knowledge that he puts his kids first please?
I have to read your book, Dela. I went through something similar to the things you mentioned in your relationship. The only difference is that I was in my marriage for 30 years. Left the marriage at 50. I had to children.. I know you mentioned that you will never marry again.. 8 to 10 years' time, i think you will...The pain does go away.
Some of us are as sure as anything can be. 2yrs out of a very bad marriage, I know for sure I will never ever ever get married again. I love solitude, the peace that comes with it is amazing, never will I compromise that for anyone.
Well done for sharing your story. I'm sure it will bless a lot of people in many ways.
You all do this social media things and expect the next guy to be what exactly?
I'm proud of you, Dela! You have come such a long way. You always have to do what is best for your soul. Life is so short, and you have to strive for your best life. Bravo!!!
Thanks for sharing, Dela..
Well done Dela! More strength and blessings to you and your kids on your journey.
Wow! I can’t wait to purchase.
🚨Never look back, you did the right thing - take your time and find the next big thing ✊🏿. Financial infidelity and infidelity are red flags that should never be accepted as norm.
You will have to create your own spouse because what you want in life is not real and you will live to truly understands it or be ready to live alone for life.
What next big “thing”? Dela is a woman in her mid forties with 4 children. Quit the western ideas. Face is aging, doggy ears for tit$. Kids are all still pretty young. Her Daddy’s gone. Ya cmon, she needs her husband back. They can work it out …
@@LoveLove-bc9npblah blah blah … we all need boundaries… you clearly will sacrifice your mental health in the name of marriage… that’s misery
@@LoveLove-bc9npIt’s better to be alone than to settle. Like the other commenter said, everyone should have boundaries. If you’re available to be a doormat then just say that.
@@84tahlia in Love there is no boundaries, loads of you are already failures in relationship/marriages before the problems present themselves. Love/marriage is commitment and toss your happiness through the roof
Girl!! You’re glowing!!!
May God keep you strong Dela. This is sad. I have followed your journey since the Covid and it was a source of entertainment to me not knowing behind was pain and sorrow . Virtual hugs 🤗
You go sis 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️
Quite a difficult interview. Sounded like you were being blamed for leaving. Am sure the levelling of disrespecting "him" or " did you ever love him" questions could have been framed more sensitively.
Divorce is always difficult for all and the impact on the children is almost always underestimated. Be strong and do your best for them. In time we pray he will come round to engaging with the children and co parent with you amicably.
By the way, what is the name of the book? Well done❤
I wasn’t being blamed at all. The book is called Eighteen Years from “I do” to “what did I do” the link is on the comments
The interviewer couldn’t get past his own personal views-UGHH! Very biased questions!
@@T-Richrich I completely agree with you!
Dela, you're an amazingly strong and inspirational woman and my admiration for you has just gone through the roof. The first time I saw you on CZcams, years ago, I knew you were special and you've never made me think otherwise. Thank you for your courage in sharing your story and helping to give clarity and courage to some of us about our own situations. I can't wait to read your book!
Thank you 🥹🤎
Thank you Dela.
Continue to shine brightly Dela. Have watched your videos for quite sometime now, and can see just how much you are blossoming from then until now..😍🙌🙌
Thank you
Well done ❤ 🙏🏽
Dela I feel you girl. Life is a journey and as such the journey continues. We pray for health; strength, wealth and long life ❤
Tough questions but you handled it so well. Well done Dela ❤
Thank you
Well done, can't wait for the book. Please get it on audible asap.
Yes it will be ready on release day 13th July
Great life story and interview.
My days this social media life boy I couldn’t have my life on blast lake this. Good for you for having the discussion. Thanks for sharing your story.
Gosh you had ‘a love’, after 18 years. That does sound tragic. Love is a choice so if it’s difficult to word that what does that even mean wow.
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Sister Dela I first saw your home videos, fell in love with the family and have immense respect for you and the journey you are now on, because you are still standing. You’ll be ok Dela, your cup runner over!
Surely goodness and mercy 😅😅😅
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Pretty hair
Men you get no hand claps of praise for staying in relationships where yr not happy. Men will stay in a relationship and not be happy but will get their needs fulfilled on the side whereas if women can't get what they need, they eventually leave.
I can’t wait to read your book DELA God bless you and your kids🙏
Thank you 🙏🏾. The audio version is available right now. The link is in the description box
You look great... thank you for being courageous !
Thank you
Marriage is not an easy task. I am 41, I met my husband when i was 20 and we got married in 2012 when i was 30 years old. I have know him for a total of 22 years and being married officially for 12 years and 10 years into our marriage I began questioning myself. Not that i didn't love him but i felt i needed more especially growth. It seemed like our ideas drifted apart, he was contented where he was but i was looking for more. It made me bitter and i started asking who i was was. Marriage is not easy, both parties have to accept change and most especially communication at every step of the way. Yeah i am still in my marriage taking 1 day at a time and loving myself more. My husband has promised to be better and I have decided to give give him that chance because i believe in chances. What most men do not understand is that a woman cannot just walk out of her marriage overnight, she has thought about it for years and she has poured out her heart to husband in many different ways but they don't seem to see it
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@@gerried1218 The answer is right there in your comment, you married potential, he married you not expecting to change, you married him with fairytales in your head.
@Neddie2k you see your comment, this is an example of judging a book by its cover. You don't know my struggles and you don't what I bring to the table in this marriage. If I married expecting fairy tales, there is nothing wrong with it as long as that fairy tale was to be with the person I cherished and was also willing to share the bills with in order to reduce the burden and make life easy for all of us. Do you know how tiring it is to be with someone who does not want to grow? I am not asking to change my husband because you cannot change a person but I am asking him to adapt to the changes in life. I support my husband in everything even without him asking because I feel we are one, I bring business ideas and he does not want to engage in, always saying he will think about it. I don't ask him for anything but I do give him gifts and it will take me to talk to him to appreciate me before he will do it. My father passed away, my husband did not give me any money as his contribution towards the funeral and recently he wanted to travel for his mother's Thanksgiving ceremony, I gave him my money as my contribution. Your comment is so blank and I bet you are a man. A woman who has spent years with a man does not just wake up and walk out of her marriage. She has observed, given you chances and has also talked to you about it
No Guarantees In Any Marriage. It Is Also Ok To Be Single If Your Marriage Is Becoming Toxic Or Causing You Stress. I Walked Away From A Depressing Marriage With Joy, Happiness And Freedom And Peace Of Mind. I Am Now Happily Single With Pride. Focusing On My Teenager Daughter's Future And Her Education In Nursing Until She Graduate. I Am Not Looking For Any Relationship And I Will Never Bring Any Man Inside My House That Are Not Families. Don't Bring Any Man That You Are Sleeping With Home To Your Daughters. Always Protect Them. Don't Leave Your Man Alone With Your Daughters
May God continue to light your path ❤
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 wow, wow, wow. I can’t applaud you enough for being so candid, open and honest. I can’t wait to read the book. I knew something happened with your relationship and wondered what happened but the spark in your eye and fullness I heard in your voice in these recent videos made me not care to be “nosey”. I was more happy to see you appear to be whole. 🙏🏽👍🏾👏🏾
Thank you. I’m definitely very happy and living life…finally
@@moretodela I spent yesterday listening to the audio book and when I tell you, you made me and women everywhere PROUD. I can’t say thank you enough. You will help change may lives by sharing your experiences, wisdom and words of encouragement.
🥹🥹🥹. Thank you so much. I really put my everything into it. I’m so happy you liked it. 🤎🤎🤎
Dela I admire your courage. Its Sista Keachia. I was on your sure. Keep on shining.
Thank you!!!
Dela a strong powerful Queen.
Marriage is not easy because two imperfect and often unaware of their own traumas get together and when you bring kids and extended family into the mix things can get pretty difficult.
My husband and I met when we both moved to Ghana years ago and made the decision to move back to Europe when we had our first child. We both knew that adding the financial stress of living in Ghana to our fresh marriage wouldn’t have been smart.
There are two roles that society has failed to prepare us for and the first one is the role of a spouse.
The second one is that of a parent.
You did the best you could with the tools you were given.
I know that this might sound crazy to some, but I've always liked Dela but in a strange way, this short interview made me love this beautiful, strong soul. You make me proud to spell my name WOMAN. I'm so looking forward to reading this book❤
Awwwwwwww 🥹 thank you
@@moretodela 💕
Okay, now I really want to buy your book!!!!!
Hahaha it’s out on audio. The link is in the description box 😉
So proud of you Sister Dela, I have always known you are going to do great things and my hope as you walk through this journey of life it will bring you. back on another level with Jesus and your relationship with Jehovah our Precious Father. He is the only one who can fill that void you spoke about. We should be His bride first before we can be a bride to any man that has a true progressive reflection of who our Lord Jesus Christ is. Your doing Well Sis, keep going, staying true to yourself. Your test will be a testimony and your mess a message that many will learn from and take courage to walk in their own truth and make decisions that may be difficult but will strengthen their resolve to take that step to be heard,...... to be counted. I say this as I have a story too, maybe not like yours, but it is a story nevertheless that needs to be told in Gods perfect timing. I am praying that at the end of all this, there will many joyous and victorious years ahead. God bless you and your familly. Many of us are rooting for your successes. Amen 🙏🙏❤
Yes, great testimony indeed. I didn't know divorce stories would be a great and sweet to the Lord Jesus and good examples for others to follow
@@gb6041 for the very fact that Dela is willing to put herself out there and tell her story is a testimony in itself. Many do not have the courage to do so. Many shroud their pain in secrecy. Divorce is not a testimony but how your position yourself and rise above the pain of divorce because the testimony. When I referred to Dela doing great things, I talking about her divorce but more so her approach to trauma of divorce. I am a product of divorced parents and it was horrific for me and watching mother become a shadow of her former self within the marriage then coming out and rushing into a second one that was worse than the first. So I know what I am talking about. I wish my mother had taken the step to find herself and discover herself before even thinking of remarriage. Now she is sad elderly lady who failed at both marriages due to poor choices and giving herself time to find herself grow and evolve. This is what I applaud Dela for. Once you know thyself, you able to make wiser more informed choice. You will be able to know what will work for you and with you and even more so when Jesus is at the centre of all that you do. God bless you
Hmm, I need to get a copy
This has me in tears. I am so sorry. xxx
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sometimes we have to make hard choices for our own mental wellbeing especially when we have children depending on us. Stay strong my sister.
Wishing you wellness and continued healing Dela. Would love the book on AUDIO when it's available. ❤💛🖤💚 18 years is an accomplishment!
Make sure you hop on the live today 7pm Ghana time 😉
@@moretodela oh no, just seeing this message now. I'm 13mins into your audiobook. At 5m36secs - already a best seller pick💥! I hope I can catch a live one day ❤💛🖤💚
So proud of you my greatly beloved sister ❤
Thank you
For Dela to call it Quits, I definitely know it was really BAD. Cheers to strong women 🥂🥂.
Cheers to a strong woman who's being haunted by the ghost and hangover of divorce and can't get over it. Wish her luck 😂
@@gb6041 the man cause her trauma..Trauma takes time to heal from
@@eileenwatt8283 there are two sides to every story and men are always the demons
@@eileenwatt8283 what stupid assumptions and drama as usual , from you. Please tell me the other side before concluding. Give me a balance story. HIS STORY AS WELL!!!.
@@eileenwatt8283have you heard his side of the story?
1:14 - Dela is being vulnerable sharing her experience and the interviewer is asking her to list 20 good things the man did??
It's clear that the trauma is deep. Why not empathize rather than try to turn her into finding good in the man that hurt her.
This is an example of men not listening to women when they experience pain.
Why is he saying she is focusing on 1 or 2 bad things.
I am already annoyed by this interviewer.
@@IvyProsper a typical "me too mentality". What did you expect, that he sympathizes with her and shy from asking the hard questions. Women are not as innocent and vulnerable as babies as the likes if you want us to believe. It was his job to scrutinize her statements and he did a great job.
As a man, I wonder how many times the guy felt like quitting but didn’t…definitely going to the grave with his side of the story..I know my gender
Right on a lot of women here blaming the man sad
Men will stay in a relationship and not be happy but will get their needs fulfilled on the side whereas if women can't get what they need they eventually leave.
Men always come at last.. nobody gives a f*k about us.. this guy was even holding the camera at the beginning, he was the filmer and supporter of her foundation on her channels. Listen if he was so horrible, she wouldn't have stayed 18 Years, NEVER! He did his best, may God bless him and strengthen him... maybe there were some harassment here and there, or some sidechicks as usual😅... but why is a man a man?.. we do what we have to do. Is as simple as that.
This is why I find some things d
she said intriguing. Why have 4 kids and stay in that relationship for 18 years. It doesn't make sense
@kowazzuri3146 sometimes this happens. I was going to leave after my second child, then I found out I was expecting baby number 3, then couldn't leave. The marriage eventually ended, but this does happen...people go on to have many children in a marriage that is not serving them
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 bravo D. Always proud 🎉
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
The interviewer needs to understand that yes a person can do a million good things but one bad thing erases the million things because the bad thing is so destructive to the person it's done to.
A person who has been an upstanding citizen suddenly commits a crime. He's going to jail regardless if he was an upstanding citizen.
That's how the world works.
A woman with 4 children building s house in a country where she's been away from.is not easy..if it was a good marriage she wouldn't have left.
Some woman left that interviewer and he's projecting his hurt unto Dela.
He's like most men who don't understand why women leave them.
Agreed!
Thank you I listened to you and cried
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Interviewer seems very bias. Not good journalism skills
He’s just asking a question
Nearly every question he asked her placed her husband as the Victim and Dela as the assailant under interrogation. Dela, why did you subject yourself to this?
@@HoneyBunches100 Agree. I didn't like his interviewing style at all. Completely unbalanced in the favour of one party. Dela was generous to answer, because I've have told him where to go after a while! 🤣🤣🤣
Maybe she wanted a more aggressive interviewer to push her and get more out of her.But I think she would have done better maybe being interviewed by someone like Tim Who is she seems to have built up a great rapport with when they have done interviews before or when he has appeared on her panel show.
@@HoneyBunches100as she said there two sides to every story
Dela, yes marriage is hard at times and believe me when I say from experience the 43 years of marriage. Men and Women are complete opposites and the good Lord make it that war for a purpose. It takes two very, very strong people to make the commitment into marriage. But, with that being said, I wasn't able to stay in the marriage anymore and in 2015 ran off to Ghana and found my next love. Thanks! for sharing your story.
It's painful, but a beautiful book
Hope you both do well and possibly reconcile. Going public about someone else’s private life is sad development.
How do we learn if everyone keeps their story hidden?
Dela respect to you!!! Thank you for being so brave and for empowering me to finally leave my marriage so that I can be who I was meant to be! My marriage died a long time ago but have stayed because it’s the easier option and my comfort zone but knowing that I am not the only one walking this path leaves me feeling stronger and confident enough to walk away from a relationship that has not worked for me!!! My marriage was the biggest mistake!!!
Do what is right for you and no one else! Only you know what is for the best. I’m always here 🤎
@@moretodela Oh yes indeed. Thank you.
Proud of you.
Thank you
Marriage is HARRDDDD!!! You got to be consistent with each other.
Also, Dela- you are believed! We believe you. We ultimately all make mistakes, but usually in these things, divorce happens not because of the mistakes but because one person refuses to change or grow.
You have shown that you were looking to grow, I want to give you a medal for that! You have done the work! We are so proud of you for making it this far!
🥹🥹🥹. Thank you! 🥹🥹🥹
What Medal? Best divorcee award? Rather, pray for her to overcome a decision that's torturing her life and causing her to talk too much online. I bet Kwame has become a king to another woman, and her heart is still beating so fast 😂. 2024, and you divorced a guy in his 40s, Good Luck!
@@gb6041if you don’t go back to the hole that you crawled from, and stop leaving these revolting comments?
@@gb6041 if you don’t quickly find nyansa instead of commenting bola on this thread?
Nipa ben kraa will comment something like this? Someone who is not correct, that’s who!
Sis, if u can, go back and build up your relationship if the damage is not severe. Much love to u! This is a really deep story.
What relationship? She’s out for a reason, your kind are the same reason why most die in loveless abusive relationship!!! Build what🙄🙄🙄🙄
ernestoparis STOP IT! This kinda talk is very annoying.
@estherAgbe yea sis, I realized at the end of the clip she's seeing someone, so there is no need for to go back.
Did he say list TWENTY things you liked about your husband!? 20??? What does he want you to do Dela, write a poem about him. Jesus that was an unreasonable excessive question to ask.
Yeah, I thought that! 20!!!! 🤣🤣
😂😂😂 write a poem 🤣
Like a punishment for a misbehaving child. Having to write 20 times on the board. 😂😂
Lots of mistakes happen in all marriages.
I am claiming a best seller for you sis.
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The one who decides to leave is the one that was loving so much that they got exploited. As soon as I see a couple i can quickly see the underdog that is loving too much and most likely being exploited/dominated. They will be the one to go/initiate the split.
hello hello girl we back again ❤❤❤❤looking beautiful.
Thank you 😊
Respect is earned it’s not just given. It not the easiest thing for a mother and or to leave a marriage with children. Women generally sacrifice a lot just to keep a marriage and family together.
Marriage is not a fairy tale. It's hard work.
Another one bites the dust - his loss! Such an irresistible personality and beauty you are ...! But I guessed right on this one!
Thank you ☺️
As a man myself I have to get his side cause u know men and women view things different
Men don't understand that their behavior cause a woman to leave them. They will behave badly and expects the woman to over look it and go along while being disrespectful.
I think the interviewer is the husband giving his side of the story.
@@Suziecat Indeed!
Sometimes I say a lot or say nothing. My nothing usually means I have a lot to say or have some instincts, but decides to say nothing.
You look so beautiful ❤😊
Thank you
when i first saw your vids, he was very patronizing the way he spoke to you. I remember saying to myself "ah so of all the ghanaian guys she chose this arrogant one?"
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There is always two sides to a story.
Every man is a potential father.
But there is a father and there is a FATHER.
I sympathize with you Dela.
As a victim of a system, I wasn't in it for long like you did to the extent that I nearly committed suicide.
Yeah, 3 kids 😢.
Wondering why I stayed and still MAKING BABIES with her if it was that bad.
FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS.
IF YOU ARE IN SUCH A SITUATION PLEASE SEEK HELP. I DID NOT SEEK AND I REGRET IT.
Stay blessed
Wow I’m sorry to hear that. I’m so glad you were able to get out. 🤎
Will this be available in an audiobook too?
Soon but not yet
This has defo made me want to buy the book
I just went to the site, sis the shipping cost! Is there no other way please
Yes, there is. I’ll be going live today 7pm Ghana time to explain
She said there is an ebook
On what was their marriage based? What precepts, what principles....did they undergo counseling before marriage to make sure they were compatible and understood and accepted each other's strengths, weaknesses, pet peeves, love language, and were clear on what they needed from each other to feel safe, protected, heard, and respected. Finally, did they understand that marriage is a sacred covenant which shouldn't be entered into lightly? Couples should do the work prior to marriage so they understand what they need to do in order to maintain the relationship.
Some women/men should never have anything to do with marriage because they don’t understand what commitment means. Single people goes into relationship behaving as single, divorce is inevitable. Understand relationship and understand your happiness is not part of your relationship.
Marriages abroad are %10000⁰0000⁰% different than our motherland Ghana. We display every attitude in different ways. Trust me, both genders show their hidden side. But in all. No physical Soul should live in an abusive relationship. TankQ u.
Will there be a kindle version on amazon
There is an audio version available, yes. The link is in the description box 😊
The comments I see here are shocking. Are discerning people on break or on a holiday?
This interview was trying to make you look like your to blame.
Some of these comments are also very horribly insensitive.
Is the book available on kindle please
The audiobook will be out on Saturday. The book is not officially released yet.
@@moretodela to be honest I think this book would have a wider reach if there was a digital copy, kindle or otherwise.
It must have been extremely difficult for her for this break up to happen because Ghanaian wives are known to fight very hard to keep their marriages strong.
My dad was going on about your mum this, she's done that, that.. so I asked him. "Did you know that she was like this and that? He said yes. So I asked him, why didn't you stop making babies with her if you think she's that bad, why didn't you stop when you had your first child with her? He couldn't believe what I asked him. He 🤐🤐🤐till date.
Lol, funny but it’s true
Because it’s a marriage and people don’t give up easily like that. They genuinely hope it will change or get better
@@brownbabygirl you haven't been traumatised before I guess, but bear in mind that there isn't any marriage in heaven. And one more thing, ppl don't change. It's either you cope and adjust but for how long?
@@everymanisyourteacher9951 you don’t know me. Please don’t assume or make this personal. We are all just commenting our thoughts
@@brownbabygirl sorry oo it wasn't personal, the "you" isn't you as a person. It's kinda open to interpretation 😁😁😁
There r 2 sides to every story, I like U Dela. But I want to hear his side.
I wish he would share to be honest. I’ve always said that. I’m an open book, I have nothing to hide.
No, real men solve their problems and don't talk about it for sympathy. I suspect some other woman wants him. The time is 2024. All he needs to do is take care of his kids
Your choice, no one else but you.
Marriage is hard, divorce is hard,
Choose your hard.
No Thanks to the interviewer, only you! 😆😁
Thank you so much! Thats incredibly kind of you 🙏🏾🤎
The person who is hurt the most is the person who talk abt it .
I disagree
Its actually the opposite, people who are hurt the most avoid talking about it because of the genuine pain.
People who talk about it, are usually the ones who are more concerned about their image, and doing everything possible to get people on their side.
Who interviewed you?is it abaitey?
I told him to go hard on me. To ask all the uncomfortable questions.
I liked it
Life happens