Leaving After 18 Years of Marriage With 4 Kids! Dela Shares Lessons and New Beginnings in Ghana
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- čas přidán 30. 06. 2024
- After 18 years of marriage, life took an unexpected turn for More To Dela. In this heartfelt video, More To Dela opens up about her journey of separation and her courageous decision to start anew in Ghana. Join us as she shares her story, the valuable lessons she’s learned, and how she’s finding peace and purpose in her new chapter.
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Thank you for watching and being a part of my journey. Your support means everything!
Jenny your hair is put up so nicely, yet so simple. Very lovely!
@@videostoviews2262 thank you 😊😊
I left mine after 24 years and three kids.
I also believed my life stopped at 16years which is when i met him with , got married at 18 and was together for 24 years.
With 3 kids.
You have to find your happiness no one will love you like you will.
At 42 now my life has just truly begun.
You are amazing and you will do exceedingly well with your new journey in life❤️❤️
@@jennylifestylelounge Thank you queen! God bless you.😊
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Your life as a mother and wife started at 16 and your single life ended at 16 years. That's the choice you made take responsibility for your choices. Now you are starting a new life again with adult children and single. So your married life has ended. That's that
@@nesq4104 first of all I was not not! a mother at 16.
I met him at 16.
So shut up and stay in your lane.
I was a mother at 22.
I was with him from 16 to age 41. That includes dating and marriage.
Hi Dela, I am so sorry to hear this. Wishing you a lot of strength during this challenging time. Big hugs xxx
Well done Dela, more women Need to See n Know dat U can leave a bad relationship, just make sure to have support group, a place to go to, assets! Funds....keep talķing, get it off ur chest, dis also therapy. Succes! ASÈ 👏 👏 👏
Bad for whom? Where was the bad part? I mean, if she chose to leave, fine. But I heard nothing "bad" about her situation... only that she felt "re-invented" and felt she "sacrificed herself for so long" which last I checked, that's what choosing to be a wife and mother entails. So if she didn't want to make such sacrifices, unfortunately, she wasted the man's time too. Well... in the end, she set herself free from "the sacrifice." She should go on to continue living accordingly as she's doing but don't blame a society or community for wanting to preserve core values of marriage and family. No one forced her or other women to marry.
@@lkofie6670you seem very shallow. If you know her story you will know it’s wasn’t for fame or independence such hard judgment for the woman but not for the man.
@staceecoreen6842 ... and where did I say she left her marriage for "fame or independence"? I commented as I did based on this very interview and even included quotes referencing what she herself has said, and per the interview I called out what I heard and did not hear. Now, even if she did leave her marriage for as YOU want to imply I said for "fame and independence," so be it... it's her decision of which I ALSO indicated as such.. she can keep on living her life. I just don't agree with the implications or suggestions that a community or society is "backward" if they would rather preserve marriage and family. No one is forced to marry.
These two women are gorgeous.... Beautiful DOLLS and intelligent black women. The skin and the body is everything 😍 ❤❤
Are you watching a different video?
Beauty lies in the ....
@@nanakwaku7963 I watch what I want to , say what I want and don't what I want. It is my eyes and my opinion. Have a good day.
Thank you for sharing, Dela !!! You are so strong ❤❤❤ keep it up. Don't worry about the past
That's a good choice she made 😊
Well done Dela 👏..
I will be looking forward to reading your book..
Your channel appeared on my feed! I needed to hear this!!! I can relate to Dela!!! I too have felt that my marriage died a long time ago but stayed on to please family and society yet I was dying inside of me!!!
During my marriage I felt that I lost my identity and my passion for life!!! This situation is real for many women and men!!! Most of us stay because it’s a comfort zone and yet no longer a relationship that fulfills us and does not add value to our lives! The final words by Dela were so powerful!!!
I have subscribed and will subscribe to Dela as well!!!
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for subscribing! I'm glad our content resonated with you and helped you feel seen and understood.
Hi sis i used to watch your journey with your family and your building
you are a great example of walking away from an unhappy marriage you look beatutiful and at peace
Well done to you sis it could not have been easy
i hope that you and your ex husband remain on a level for the children.
Mid 40s are you serious? All this time I thought she was in her 30s. Anyways good show.
Thank you 💕
Jennyyyyyyy😍😍
Hi there, how is it going. Great 😊 content very interesting. Must say I am new here
@@lionness_simsima5941 you are welcome 💕
Jenny,I'm late this time around😖😂by the way,y'all are looking gorgeous😍😍😍❤❤❤
Thank you and please I miss you
@@jennylifestylelounge I miss you more my beautiful sister😍😍
Marriage should be seen as a business arrangement with a contract,and both party should have their own lawyers on before and the signing of contract,and that part about until death do us party should be removed fr vows,and the vow should be in the contract too.
All that glitters is not DIAMOND.
2 captains cannot be in one boat. There must be a problem somewhere. Hear the man out too.
This is not news. The divorce rate of Ghanaians in Western countries is close to 70%. Ghana will test your resilience, and the weak in your heart will fall apart, as we can clearly see here. I remember her very well when they (her and the husband) started their CZcams channel. Ghana is not a joke place. I wish her the best, but this is not news.
There are 2 sides to a coin and so with every story. I have watched nearly every video when they were a couple and they both carried themselves as very affectionate. The ex husband, frankly, genuinely always carried himself as a model man, husband and father. I need to hear his side of the story.
You are very intelligent and sensible person. I don't know you personally but your comments make sense.
Don’t mean he wasn’t a cheat
Is called fear women and live longer...
no matter what his side is, she wasn't happy with him, she felt he was holding her life back, she left. So that is it.
@efreeholdings1575 She living is not subject to anyone's permission, acceptance, or opinion and the comment you responded to, of course, is not about or questioning her prerogative to leave.
I would like to hear the ex husband's point of view, it's all just one sided
This woman is selling her book and washing hanging her ex husband out to dry
There are a lot of people like her on you tube crying for sympathy.
People should be circumspect about what they say about their marriages
Fear women and live long
EVEN THOUGH THE TWO OF YOU SEPARATED ⁉️
CREDIT MUST BE GIVEN WERE CREDIT IS DUE⁉️
YOUR HUSBAND WAS AND IS A GOOD MAN ⁉️
Go read my book
Its interesting that a woman would leave a marriage of 18 years with not just one but 3 kids and claim to sacrifice alot . Selfishness to the max. To the kids ... May you survive with half you.
Fear women and live longer...
To all the brotherhood, there's a say, to live long as a man fear women...
Only the deep thinkers can understand..
The animals brains 🧠 will never understand...
You can buy a women the whole moon 🌙 and the whole earth 🌎, but still won't be enough....
For deep thinkers Only...
Uhhhh... I'm sorry but...the way the I interviewer spewed out her credentials and the fact that she's a single mother of 4 like a badge of honor, why does it seem as though that's something to celebrate? Oh Lord please don't destroy a culture of family-oriented traditions and society by bringing in this "modern day feminist" agenda. If there is NO SOUND REASON for divorce and we all know what that entails and "not being happy" just because you're in a rut is NOT it.
Any little achievement is worth celebrating even if it's your freedom to be happy, mind you if I had a man in that position I would equally congratulate him for his good works and impact on his children. This has nothing to do with feminism my dear😊😊😊😊
@@jennylifestylelounge I beg to differ... where's the celebration in this? It's not to knock down her accomplishments but maybe I'm also not on the right platform because I'm not one to champion women who leave a marriage "just because" and the reason surrounding that decision was simply surrounding self-absorbed reasons. Did he not sacrifice his time and resources with her as well for the sake of honoring his role as a husband and father? But how would it sound if he did an interview like this saying "Oh I had to think of me first"? Or "Oh I was reinventing myself"? Why marry in the first place then? We're not talking about circumstances where a woman (or man) go into a marriage and it becomes very genuinely toxic where you're talking adultery, exploitation, abuse, neglect and the like... she just left because she merely changed her mind for her new reinvented life (???) ... yes why would I champion women to break up their homes over reasons like this? Then my fellow women begin to wonder why men no longer want to approach them let alone marry them. Hey... so be it for her and others like her whether I agree or not because it's their personal choice and decision so let them keep it for themselves. Thus, I'm just emphasizing that her reasons for choosing to leave her marriage is nothing to hype up or celebrate. We're not talking about someone who managed to escape a torturous marriage and how she found the will to leave so that other women in her situation can find assistance in getting out of similar situations. I think this brings upon negative influences upon a community and frankly communities aren't built by "independent women."
I deeply respect your perspective and appreciate the constructive way you’ve approached this conversation. It's crucial to foster open and respectful dialogues.
Addressing the matter at hand, I don't recall allowing Dela to share or delve into the specifics behind her decision to leave after 18 years. Neither of us knows if there were any instances of abuse or the severity of the circumstances involved. Speculating or taking sides without complete information isn’t fair to anyone involved.
My intention is never to oversimplify or overlook these experiences. Instead, I aim to celebrate Dela’s accomplishments and the strength she’s demonstrated through her journey. By sharing her story, I hope to inspire others who might be facing their own challenges, showing them that resilience and success are possible, no matter the circumstances.
@jennylifestylelounge Fair enough. In that regard, you've done that well.
😅 l know this type of women very well, am already feeling bad for her ex husband
Is called fear women and live longer
"I've sacrificed myself for a long time..." interesting choice of words for a woman that CHOSE TO MARRY and bare four kids with her husband... what sacrifice? She apparently wanted a family and gained one. How did she figure she couldn't do what she is doing business wise while married? Seems to me social media really has a strong influence on women these days by hyping up the "boss chick" "independent woman" lifestyle. So she breaks the home she built for herself and children for what again? HER OWN HAPPINESS??? How is she speaking for the children? Also, what exactly is the "everything she was going through"? It seems like it was just HER OWN emotions and some sort of mid-life crisis. She's surrounding everything around just her and HER personal needs and suddenly couldn't separate between her personal interests and her role as a wife. That's not her husband's fault. What was stopping her from living her life while having her family? Women can do that too and have done so FOR YEARS. Well... let her keep "living her life."
You are correct. Media now dictates what happiness is, what your feelings are suppose to be. No accountability for choices anymore. Women of color are pushed by media to be single and happy while the men are suppose to be thugs, cheaters, disconnected from their feelings and womanizers in USA at least
Please, did we watch the same interview? You give the impression that you’re trying to defend the ex-husband’s side in this matter.
Nowhere did she glorify being a single mom or trying to be a so called boss chick.
1. She said she’d married at a relatively early age and didn’t understand certain fundamentals of marriage which only dawned on her as time passed.
2. She didn’t just wake up wanting to leave the marriage. She’s been struggling with this decision for at least 2 years. I would want to believe that their issues were known to both parties in the marriage but not enough effort was put in to fix the rift. I assume there were deeper issues that were not openly addressed in the interview.
3. She consulted with the kids on the matter of separation and they supported their mother’s decision. This alone is very telling as children would never want their parents to separate unless they have experienced or seen something toxic or self-destructive.
4. The mom didn’t have life figured out after divorce. Apparently she had to figure out a few options on how to generate income on her own. If a mother of 4 is ready to leave a hopefully stable income home then that should tell you that there’s more to this than just a mood to become an independent “boss chick”.
Overall I think she kept the interview very respectful. She didn’t discredit her ex-husband or his family but rather spoke about life experiences from her point of view while tactfully advertising her businesses.
@divinewest Look... all in all, as I said in the closing, it's HER life... let her keep living it.
It's way deeper than that, I've 4 kids too, and my husband( we have begun divorce proceedings) had an affair and had a child outside wedlock, I forgave, stayed on, but it was never the same. So I filed.
@ibiminaabiye257 Well... to be fair, she didn't make similar references to yours as reasons to file divorce. It primarily comes off as self-centered epiphanies. Thus, so be it. On a side note, I am sorry to read about what happened in your marriage and the subsequent divorce filing.