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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2014
- A discussion about why are you still depressed ( due to a breakup or divorce.... ). In this segment, (Still Depressed? Why ? Understand how and why you can be perfectly fine again .) we discuss what is it that we are missing and why is it that we seem to think we cannot find another relationship with the same or similar level of comfort and happiness with someone else ...or can we? :)
#Breakup #heartbreak #lifecoach
Mehran Dadbeh (Author)
Break-Ups, Life & Your Psyche
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Im not even joking when Im saying this but I wish you were my father. You always make me feel good. God bless your beautiful soul sir!
Thank you for the kind words Alpito. I am delighted that you enjoy the channel and find the videos helpful and I certainly appreciate your warm gesture. :)
Thought the same thing man, lots of gratitudine.
What an incredible wonderful man. He pours his heart and soul and sincerity into helping us all going through broken relationships and the nightmares and sudden pangs of memory during the day crashing in on our minds to steal our peace. I read a quote once that says " Love often comes in like a dream but LEAVES as a nightmare".
you are a great friend! I pray that you live long for continuing this service!
Thank you dear, I am glad the videos are helpful to you.
Mehran Dadbeh You sir are a wonderful man.
Cd D Thank you dear I am glad that the videos are helpful to you. :)
You are a blessing to the CZcams Community! I listen to you virtually every night at bed time. Other people sometimes try to say what you say, but you say it with grace and compassion and are very effective at changing stubborn mindsets! Keep it going and God Bless!
Delighted to hear that Francesco. I hear this from hundreds of people and I receive hundreds of emails telling me that the contents of the channel have had life-changing effects on their lives and I am ecstatic about this. What I can not figure out is that why then those channel's that you and many many of others say cannot deliver what we deliver and discuss in depth and in detail here on this channel, have hundreds of thousands more subscribers!!! :) If you can help shed some light on this I would be elated Francesco. :) Don't forget to share the videos you find interesting on your social media which can help us get more exposure and grow. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
This has helped me so much. Such wise words. Thank you!
Thank you mehran, I needed this. For some reason I kept going back to thinking about my ex girlfriend, I felt so down today. Deeply saddened about what happen and how I should of done things definitely..
I wish I have you around to talk to all the time. This is some very good information. Thank you so much
Been watching and listening to many of these types of vids(seperated 5 months, married for 11, 4 kids, 4 months pregnant with co workers kid. said she wasnt happy anymore was her reason 4 cheating although we made love had swx frequnelrty) YOUR THE BEST IVE EVER HEARD MAN.. YOUR VIDS MAKE SEOO MUCH SENSE!! THANKS
Thank you Rah, I am glad you find them helpful. You will be fine, there are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
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Thank you for your videos. You deserve a lot more subscribers. Appreciate the efforts you put in
I am glad you find them helpful . Thank you for the kind words Foad. In regards to subscribers yes I have heard that from many people but somehow I am not visible! :). Promote the channel and help make it happen! :).
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Hello kind sir. Merci for this great video. I have been depressed for two weeks now and this video really helped and I am going to watch it over and over to make sure it sinks into my head :-)
Oh my fucking god, this idea of time not spent with another person is just groundbreaking for me. It seems so obvious, but I was somehow blind to it. Thank you.
Delighted you see the light and the great open path to your continuous future possibilities and happiness.
Thank you for the life lesson sir .... it meant a lot for me...
I am going thr a breakup and You are magical , I will remember your teaching for my children in the future.
Thank you sir...love the videos
Your videos helps me alot sir! Thank you soo much!🙏🏻💕
I am glad you find them helpful, "Ayushman ". You will be fine, there are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
Hope you have subscribed and clicked on the bell so you will be notified when I go live.
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First, how does this video have any dislikes? This is a great video that has a uplifting message in it to try to get past the excruciating pain a break-up (divorce) brings into your life. I am brand new to this channel, I am trying my best to soak up in my state of mind this knowledgeable therapeutic information given so freely to get past my own situation. Sir, thank you so much for using your platform to help a stranger your videos are helping me more than you'll ever know!
I am delighted dear that the videos are helpful to you. This seems to be the majority of my subscribers and that makes me happy. do not worry about the 2 or3 dislikes :) I only see the 70 likes:) If you like you can share the ones you enjoy along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media so others will also get to know about my work. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age group you are in. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
+Mehran Dadbeh United States of America. Tennessee. Age 33. Sir, I am trying to be good to myself (work in progress). Your videos are therapeutic for me, you give me hope (your words of wisdom). Thank you once again!
you're the best . thank you
hi sir mehran, I was reading some of your feedback and it helps me ..thank you so much.
+Jenny Togonon You are very welcomed dear :) Please post my site on your social media so others will get to know about my work and have an opportunity to read a sample chapter of each of the the books I just got published. www.mindthatseekstruth.com Please let me know from where you are watching the videos and in which age category are you in. With thanks, Mehran
+Mehran Dadbeh at CZcams sir. am 30 yrs old
Thank you Thank You
thank you for your videos, it is helping me realizing things, i hope i will get better and better as i continue watching your videos.God bless
you are welcomed Tony. You are welcomed to visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and share it and the videos you like on yr social media so others will get to know of my work as well. Be good to yourself always, Mehran
I meant Toni not Tony , this auto correct is sometimes annoying! :)
Thank you
Thank you for your teaching
My pleasure, glad you find the videos helpful Christopher.
doctor I seriously would like to say big thank you in your face
thanks a lot, sir!
Ferry Hadiwijaya you are welcomed Ferry.
Thanks a lot about your kind answer on the other post :) I have a question, i get that the girl you are with is not special and can get replaced by any other. But what if your goal in life is to have a life long relationship. Why , because you want to share your life for a lifetime with someone and grow together and grow deeper together. That's the most richful experience, and knowing yourself throught and with someone is going more deeper, and is more joyful. Starting again break the process and is exhausting, it makes you feel too that people consume relationship like they consume products..that what is really make you sad. There was love too, not only ego, not only needs that wanted to be meet...Not only looking for happiness, there was something deeper that is love. That as well is what really hurts. To see that love is so small, that if your need are not met, you just leave, that vision of love as need being met,or not is what hurts, and that's why too it's hurting. It gives you a vision of life less beautiful, more as a big shopping mall where you shouldn't even feel hurt when someone left you, cause there are other products to replace...
+annaelle2492 Yes it is wonderful to be in one relationship and as you said to get deeper and deeper.....This is a desirable goal for any suitable, quality relationship but just because a relationship does start that does not mean that it is the quality one, or it is the suitable one, or it is the one in which all the ingredients to make it last long and experience that deep connection and learning experience is there . What you say is all good but not every relationship could meet what is the ideal . It takes the ideal quality of both side to make such thing happen and when it does not happen then what would you prefer to do? to give up what this beautiful life can offer? to give ip on that others who have or may have the necessary quality to create such relationship as you described to happen ? to give up what you hope for? Does it mean that if it does not work with this relationship then it is not possible? or that this relationship with this combination can not result with what you expect, and that is why one must look for another to make what is the lovely relationship to be created. You can not make a tasty stew or a fish dish but using no fish or not the right vegetables and instead to use beef or some different things than what the correct ingredients should be. If you do then you can not say that it is not possible to make a good stew or the good fish dish, because you are using the wrong ingredients but the good stew is possible, the good fish dish is possible but you have to use a good fish , good vegetables, good ingredients.... and don't say you are disappointed and it is not what you expected, yes it is not, but we are not living in the absolute universe, in a perfect world, disappointments and mistakes are part of this life experiences and that includes relationships too. So go on and find a better ingredients then build what you expect, the quality of the relationship that you expect . Every time that it does not work is because the ingredients are not correct , but there is nothing wrong with the possibility of making that dish. You don't find the Island's quality of soil suitable to farm pineapple or coconut tree, does that mean that it is impossible to grow pine apple or the coconut tree? no the Island's quality of land/ the soil is not suitable for this kind of fruits, plantation, agriculture and you need to grow them on a different Island, different soil. So go and find the right soil and cultivate what you love to cultivate. :) It is possible. Remember my saying I have always shared with my friends, students and family :
It's not important how difficult it is, it's important that it is possible ! :)
+Mehran Dadbeh if it's possible it's so great , and that totally heals me straight away, but i have a hard time believing a life long relationship can exist, all around us is break up after break up , divorce after divorce, so it looks impossible today to find that . And yes what's important is that it's possible, but i do believe that the hurt of a lot of the commentators here, comes too from the fact that they don't believe it's possible..
+annaelle2492 Yes, but they must. Otherwise we will not be an experienced or expert in the art of living. You can never expect the sea to be calm for you to navigate your ship in it , instead you must become an experienced and skilful captain to negotiate the waves of the ocean and you can never become a good and experienced captain in a calm sea. ! :) As long as we do our best , we will have a life with possibilities but if we live on the premiss that a good life is not possible then we are cheating ourselves from possibilities and that would be unreasonable.We must strive, make efforts and do the best we can and that is life . Nothing is guaranteed but we must make continuos efforts , that is why we are here to learn, experience and become wiser and a better captains. How many times in the history of mankind disasters, tsunami, earthquakes ...have hit our planet, should the nature had given up growing and continued life, should we have left orbit and disappeared ? We would have not been here and humanity would have never developed more and none of us would have been here. Is a relationship bigger than life and all it offers, all is less important than some relationship with one woman or man because it did not turn out the way one may have wanted it to be or last ? Once we focus on the value of life and why we are here and all else that is here to learn and enjoy and experience then we see that what we are so bothered with is just a fragment of life and not the whole of it to disappoint us that much if it did not work as it was planned. There is lot more possibilities in our lives than one relationship and we must make efforts and build another if one did not meet our expectations and never to stop building and creating as long as we are here :)
thank you again and agian
Hi there. I know this channel is all about relationships and how to deal with breakups and all that. I have also learned so much about emotional intelligence on this channel during the last couple of days.
But I have another questions about depression and this is something in an entirely different category.
I have been diagnosed with Bronchiectasis and the doctors say that it is incurable. I have to live with this condition for the rest of my life. It has changed my lifestyle significantly.
I became majorly depressed and hopelessness has clouded my mind. It feels like my body is broken and cannot be repaired. I also feel that this chronic disease has crippled me physically and emotionally.
What can I do to feel better emotionally about this specific situation?
+Viljoen vd Merwe Dear Viljoen, Thank you for your kind words and I am delighted that the videos have been helpful to you for what you were looking for. In regards to the other question that you asked I thank you for sharing this with me and thank you for having limited this question to how to emotionally deal with it so the depression will be helped. As you know I am not a medical doctor while I wish I had extra ordinary powers to help and cure every one with their health challenges as that is my ultimate wish in this journey of life. Now lets see if we could discuss this a bit here. I do have a bit more elaboration about the role of each human being in this life and in this world in my book, but here perhaps a bit of it could be well placed. You see I personally think that we ( each one of us ) are the humanity, we collectively are life as it is meant to be experienced here on this earth while every one thinks that we are an individual and separate human and have nothing to do with the big picture . To me it is as if we are part of a puzzle of life, the whole of humanity, experience of living and that means without any one of these pieces of the puzzle this experience of life will never be as complete as it can be for any one. Each one of us ( the pieces of the puzzle ) is necessary and has a role in this life, in completing the picture this puzzle is suppose to represent, look like and unless all pieces are activated and are extending their energy into the puzzle then the life as we know it or better said as it is and most of us do not know it will not be complete. Without any one of these puzzle pieces, the puzzle as a whole will not function for any one as it would have when all pieces are placed and fit into each other. So while we may think that physically we are not the way we used to be or that we are now old and are no longer young or that we have been challenged with some health condition....., but the presence of our energy is what helps the universal life to stay on it's proper orbit and continue with it's proper order and sequence. So what I am trying to say is while you or many of us may be physically limited in activity at one time or another, for one reason or another, our role as one of the navigator of this life, this journey is not diminished in any way shape or form and the affect we have on the whole is as important as when we were before the physical life style change. The effects we have on every one else and they have on every one else and each have on every one else is what makes life to be as it is for all of us as this puzzle is never fully functional without any one of the pieces of the puzzle. So if our effect , our contribution, our energy is as important as it ever was or could have been, then there is no devaluation of our worth and so we must not think as if it has which is why we feel depressed . Realizing that our value to life itself is not in any way diminished by our physical or health challenge then our worth and value is and will always be the same as when we did not have any such physical challenges . It's effects is limited to our own thinking and perception of personal value as we think of life only physical and physical image but in reality there is nothing physical when we contribute to making the universe whole, making the puzzle form as it should . In the puzzle example the pieces are physical to make the puzzle complete but in reality of life there is nothing physical that life needs from us to make it work as a whole and all it is is in our energy and contribution to the whole by simply being in the mix regardless of if we have legs, hands or whatever as just to be where we are is why the universe is as it is and that is perfect. Without any of the "so called imperfections we may think of about ourselves or others" this universe would not have been as perfect as it is. every piece is and has the same importance as any other piece as it is not because of how we look or what we do to make the universe perfect, it is because of just being the piece that makes the universe to be what it is designed to be and have included us to make the picture as it must be.Is our being , our energy , our existence is part of the existence of the universe then we are in reality as we have always been contributing to the universal existence as what we are capable of and designed to contribute is not done through our physical presence hence nothing has been devaluated us in the eyes of the truth of the existence of the energy which forms and moves the universe. I believe meditating will bring and promote more energy flow of the universe through our being which may in fact help with the challenges that each one of us are going through and dealing with. I personally think bringing more energy by learning meditation which could bring more Ki into our physical and spiritual being may very well help with our goals and improvement in our physical or mental challenges. :)
+Mehran Dadbeh Thanks a lot Mehran for your insightful comment. I am very greatful for what I still do have. I have the privilege to see, hear and smell and I am glad that I do not have any life threatening diseases of some sort.
It took me a while to understand the whole puzzle piece effect that we as individuals have in this universe and if one piece is missing, the whole picture will not be complete.
And its not our physical being, but our energy that we contribute to the universe that are important. One major thing that is bothering me is that it was my own fault that my left lung is the way it is. I was a college student at that time and I really did not look after myself physically (My diet was poor and I went to the doctor too late). You know how college students are LOL.
I spoke to licensed doctor here in South Africa who recommended that I go on a water fast for a couple of weeks under his supervision at a health spa. I also did some research on stem cell therapy and they say that they are going to do human trials in 4 years time.
I will do my best to look for a cure because I know that I am not the only one and if I found one that really works, then I will spread the message to all of those that are suffering with the same lung disease.
Maybe this "disease" is my opportunity to contribute to the world. Thanks again for your reply and I can see that you really care about the people her on your channel and that means a lot.
I have little knowledge on meditation and KI, but would like to know more about it.
excellent!
Thank you, glad you enjoyed it. :)
great....sir,
I am glad you find them helpful Atul. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life.
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Yes we could have another person of course. However, we spent years & the person we were with is familiar to us. You hear his voice see him coming in see how he interacted with the dog watched football with him etc etc.. hard to go & find a new person right away. Need time to heal first correct.
Yes need time for getting used to the new order of things, but the decision to get used to it and intend to move on can be immediate! Be good to yourself always, Mehran
Thank you Mehran your wonderful! You know this ; ). I'm in America & am taking good care of myself exercise & a good therapist are helping me. My puppy too & gardening. Mindfulness. Thanks so much best wishes, Therese- will go to Facebook page too
Hello could you help me please, I really need help. I'm 17 and I dated this girl for a year. She was my first girlfriend, first love, first everything. We gave each other everything and had so many great memories together. She kept talking to a boy that I felt was not just trying to be friends. We would fight about this often and in her defense i couldn't pick her friends. Well in the last month of our relationship we fought a lot and I felt like I was falling out of love, and I thought I was too young to be tied down, I even lost attraction for her and I even stopped showing affection to her. Well we eventually broke up in that month because of that boy, and how I felt. She begged for me back for 2 weeks but I just let her go. A month later she starts dating that boy. That's when my heartbreak started. I asked for her back and she said she couldn't dump him like that and she still loves me and saw us in the future. It's been 5 months and I'm still suffering everyday.
OrangeRam my first heartbreak happened when I was 16. I’m 22 now and it doesn’t really get better at least for me
Hello Mehran - In The Breakup Pain Handbook, at Chapter 4 - 'When you say, “I just broke up with my girlfriend, I feel terrible”: Part 1', you say in the first paragraph that the chapter is geared toward boys age 19-25. I'm a 48-year-old man going through the pain of a recent breakup. Will the advice in this chapter help me also, or is there different advice you may have for men my age?
Same would be for almost any age if they have operated on the same wave length or emotions infatuated like a young inexperienced men but should you feel your case needs more interactive dialogue and pondering, exchange then please go on my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make an appointment for us to chat on Skype and explore your concerns one on one on Skype. For new clients I usually add at least extra 30 minutes to their one hour appointment so we will have ample time to discuss all might be concerning you.
@@MehranDadbeh I'll do that as soon as possible, thank you Mehran. 😊
And definitely try NOT to drink as much coffee as me. Yep Coffee makes you anxious & angry it seems or least it does me!! LOL!!!!
So where does love come in to play? does this mean we can fall in love with anyone ? What about chemistry?
Good question!!
It’s been one week for me since a devastating break up I have not been able to eat anything. Is this normal? When will I be able to eat? I have lost so much weight I have no appetite or desire to put anything in my mouth
Yes, this is normal, but start eating as nothing is worth depriving yourself of the experience of life while remaining/ staying healthy. Why stop eating ? for what? for whom? for someone who has decided not to be with you? whats to sacrifice for such a person who is not loyal to you? are you praising her decision? then why would you not take good care of yourself? you think if you keep yourself hungry then you will feel better or is it that you want the one who is no longer qualified to be your girlfriend, to feel sorry for you? You think when you become weak then the girls will think you are a strong man? You think that when you get them to feel sorry for you then they will see the value in you as a man? Stop treating yourself carelessly and start taking the best care of yourself so you can be a great boyfriend to another girl who will be even much more qualified than her.
there is nothing special about her, you have made her be all that in your mind. If you did not like to be in a relationship with this woman then she would not seem so amazing and you would not miss her. So what is it that you think she is all that while so many other women are more beautiful than her and have more qualifications in terms of manners, education, unselfishness, willingness to be with you and be loyal and prefer you. So why would you ever think someone who does not choose to be with you is in any way qualify to be with you? It is because you have exchanged energy with her and you identify her with the memories and the pleasure that you know you can feel by being with her, but that pleasure is available and possible through millions of other women and even better than this one because they would choose you as well as you chose them and that makes it even better. You must understand the role of desire and pleasure in your thinking and feelings about her, it is your desire to feel pleasure that makes he something to pursue otherwise if you do not like apples then you will not think Apple is great so your ability to be hungry is what makes Apple so desirable, so great, but even if you do like apples but if you just come out of a restaurant with full stomach you will not think Apple is that important because you are full. Same thing here because you like pleasure, therefore, you desire her and you desire her more than others because you have memory of pleasure with her and that is why you want more of what you know how it feels while other wonderful choices out there do even feel more wonderful if you get to know them and build memory with them and exchange energy with them. So go get busy with life build your life and then you get to know a woman who qualifies to be your girlfriend and you will see that life can be far happier than you ever imagined and you will no longer want to have anything to do with the ex especially if you focus on the things that were wrong with your relationship with her and how many other women could be superior to her in many ways.
Break-Ups, Life & Your Psyche, Mehran Dadbeh thank you for taking the time to write all this. Out of everyone I have listened to (I listened to many) you are the one who makes the most sense to me and makes me feel better. Maybe it’s because you care.. Please keep caring my friend!
You are welcomed, be good to yourself, always.
My son, he should be happy. He is going to the Navy and has a big future. He currently is making money and has a car. He is in good health. Yet he is depressed and 18 yrs old. I think , maybe he is holding onto his child hood with easy life. Now life becomes real. He lacks for nothing but takes care of nothing. Any ideas how we can bring up his spirts ? I dont want to see him turn to drugs or drink to feel better.
Check with his doctor to make sure he is not having any chemical imbalance in his blood. If all is good then we need to find out what concerns him which seems to be robbing him of psychological security. That is when I could have a Skype consultation with him to explore it with him together. But first, take him for a blood test at your doctor and ask for his assessment after the blood test.
Thank you for the good start !
I get depressed because my husband of 25 yrs died and I am alone most of the time. Sure I have family and friends but they are only around for short periods of time. Death separation is not the same as boyfriend leaving.
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