My Honest Advice to 'Dark Skinned' Girls - KaamnaLive
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- čas přidán 31. 10. 2019
- Growing up in a world obsessed with fair skin can be rough if you're more dark chocolate than white.
Beauty standards are changing, but not fast enough. So where do you go when you're looking for validation?
This is the conversation I wish someone had had with me when I was younger.
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I mean it's not our fault, we didn't get to choose our skin colour, and i still don't get why fair skin is so superior to all..
Me neither ;)
I think Yellow skin is preferred by all. Yellow is like the perfectly baked cake. That is why white people tan and dark people bleach
There is no "fault" in it. it is just a color. People like making something out of nothing at all.
You have lovely hue from black man America its really about who you in deep inside ok please know this ok too the rest of the world you beautiful sis
White skin resembles youth, innocence etc and dark skin is more masculine, feared etc i think one of the reasons by black man get the ladies but black women don't get mans
This video is about resilience, not skin colour. Very good
thank you - you're totally right. it applies to many situations.
I wish it wasnt even a topic for discussion, it hurts to be compared more than anything and growing up i was always happy to get a tan and see how dark my skin would go loved the glow that it had, until i became a teen and having lighter brothers and mother they and other people would remark on how dark i got like it was a REALLY bad thing even though white people often boast about how dark they can get, and i wished Asians and black people anyone with melanin could truly enjoy it! There was so much shame and i felt i could never compare to anyone lighter, so i wore lighter makeup and lightened my skin, fortunately i never used anything too harsh like hydroquinone, i gradually overcame that then started to love my skin until today, i had a moment where i hated my reflection thinking if only i was only a little lighter 😣 it truly is an ongoing battle and 10000% social media makes it worse. Family also needs to be supportive, as skin color is so unimportant. Thankyou so much for this video!
Thank you for sharing your experience. I agree that it’s such a shame that the beauty definitions we grow up with are so narrow ! I’m glad you’ve come around to loving your skin and I’ll bet it does glow :). Fortunately there are more and more diverse models of beauty for us all to engage with!
Our creator makes NO mistakes. Our color is deliberate. It is up to people to recognize the beauty in it. If they don't....too bad for them.
I agree with that. It just takes most adults a while to get to that understanding. Kids get damaged along the way I feel.
It is just skin colour. Some people are fair,wheatish,dusky and dark. It is like how you present yourself to others, how beautifully you maintain your inside and outside. It is important to maintain basic hygiene, wear nice and clean clothes, be updated and love yourself. Thank you 😊😊
i agree that it should be an additive thing - like how interesting it is that we all have different skin colors. sadly it's the judgment that one is better than the other that gets us all down.
Idk!!! I guess its who you surrounding yourself with. 😅I come from a long line of dark skinned physicians! Now that’s sexy! Good thing I was always told I was a beautiful…..African princess! ❤️❤️❤️❤️that’s superior💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Thank u for inspiring because in family relative compared beauty and fairness they don't compare talent of girl u gave a beautiful msg .
I needed this! I have naturally brown skin as a Filipina girl. Unfortunately, Filipina girls want whiter skin. 🙃
All around the world 🤦🏽♀️
Even though I still have moments of self-doubt, I finally could reach the acceptance and embrace of my skin colour. What made me do it (regardless of what people say) is learning how skin works, particularly melanin, and let me tell you the benefits, ike looking way younger than my age,less wrinkles, less prone to certain types of skin cancer.
Do research on which colours suit you better and you'll see magic happen.
Please do not use whitening products, the chemicals in those creams/treatments are really damaging to skin cells,and can lead to serious health issues.
Rise up melanin queens and kings,we got this!!
Tho I hv come so far in my life loving myself, embracing my body toxic people still want to feel sorry for my skintone... needed to hear this...Thanks
Hang in there. Things are changing. Maybe not fast enough to undo all the hurt but there are definitely more role models of different skin tones for us to see. ❤️
I really needed this words thank you
You're actually gorgeous
Very good advice about the importance of loving yourself. I thank you for sharing this info.
Awesome video with a great message. Will share
thank you! it's a conversation i'm very passionate about and we 'dusky' girls need to stick together ;)
Your beautiful..periodt! Thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing!!! I have found in your video, more words of wisdom to share with my daughter. I struggled with these insincerities brought on by my family as a young girl. I had to struggle through and build character myself. Now, my 7 year old daugher who is just as dark as me, is now showing sutle signs and dropping small hints about her very dark-skin tone. Nothing major yet, but I can see that maybe she is having thoughts that her skin is not the best.
You’ve got this mama. A big part of the pain for us is that the adults around us were part of the problem - either from their ignorance or inaction, if not actively passing on this message. You know what to do - show her all the shapes and forms Beauty comes in and teach her how to love herself first and primarily. I’m here for you!
Here is a 20 year old Indian guy. You told everything so calmly, I have tears when I recall my childhood. I got weird names (like kala, kalua), my family is fair, i m dark, they always talk about color and etc every time. When going in a marriage, talk about skin volors of the partners. They say "you are a boy so being kala dosent matter" , i mean i hate them. Though I came out of all this bullshits a couple of years ago, and now I feel its good that I am dark. (My skintone is kinda like Rihanna for reff)..Dsaling with all this shitty prople and turning into spirituality I feel so much better now..To mention I am good with women as well now..but acc to me, India is one of the worst places to live in, no shittalk, its reality and fact..
You raise a really good point that women are not the only one subjected to this crap. Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it takes each of us to change the mentality. In our words, in our actions. I’m glad you found some solace in your spirituality. 🙏
That's true until you visit Korea
Just wowwww!! ❤️
I love this ❤️
It was helpful, thank you. ❤
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Thank you for sharing🙏
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Besides lots of whiter skin people that are always looking for the ultimate sun tan and there are even store products now that make it appear as if you have that tanned or "dusky" look.
I know right ? The irony 🤦🏽♀️
True... Love from india 🥰🥰🥰
Thanks for making this video
You are so welcome 🙏
This is so interesting to me. I'm a very white guy in the UK (I have universal vitilligo), lots of people remark how pale I am, particularly in summer, as if it's a problem. I find it unbelievable this happens in India. I guess it says more about human nature than anything else. And btw, you are far from unpleasant looking! x
i am sorry for your experience. i know vitiligo is common and that people still react to it with shades of experience. In my experience there is a large part of the world (definitely Asia, North America and Europe) in which fairer skin is favored although it is changing some. More representation and more open conversations are helping with some of that. (and thank you!)
Maybe it’s my personal. I am a man of mixed race. I actually love your skin color and I think you’re very beautiful woman and I really enjoy your advice and your page.
thanks for your kind words Jeff, and thanks for being here. poke around, there's a lot of content here!
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I am like making a tuff face when people compare me with my fair sister , and i hide it from inside as if I don't care but I do. Ik black is lovely but you can't say to the aunties who visit ,the reason I don't welcome guests 😶
Ya it’s hard I grew up with the same issue. I think fundamentally you have to love your own skin. Then people start mattering less and you can interact with them without them
Breaking your spirit.
Hello ❤️ I just wanted to say that you are very, very beautiful. You helped me feel confident in myself. I am a dark-skinned girl and all my family and friends are white. The most cruel moments are when my friends say that they do not want to appear in the sun so that their skin does not tan, and I literally stand in front of them with my skin. Dark! I felt insulted and began to feel that there is no beautiful brown girl because I am the only brown girl I know. Seeing your beauty and confidence makes me feel happy ❤️ Here she is, a beautiful dark-skinned girl! I really wish I could start loving myself because no matter what color you are, the opinion of others doesn't matter, the important thing is to love yourself ❤️ I also want to be an example for young dark-skinned girls so they know that dark skin is beautiful ❤️ just like you
I love your Beauty✨❤
Dusky skin is beautiful.U r beautiful.❤❤❤❤
Hey Here! A new Subscriber ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really needed this 😭😭😭
U look fabulous... Love ya 😘😘
Thanks, I was so ashamed because my skin tone, in my country it's easier to get a job if you have a lighter skin
i am sorry to hear that but it's true that beauty standards have influence beyond just whether people are found attractive. take heart though, things are changing.
Thank you for making this video ❤
You are so welcome ❤️
@@KaamnaLive Would love to hear more on topics related to building self-esteem and sense of self-worth irrespective of the noise outside. Thanks again.
@@pravidha come to my Instagram @kaamnalive. I talk a lot about self love and acceptance there.
@@KaamnaLive sure. Thank u
Fair skin is not beuty it is ugly it is not lovely every one tell how it can be lovely the fair skin look like tubelight which irritate our eyes at long term we can see the muscles and red blood flowing inside this skin tone but beutiful brown skin look has naturally cooling effect to every eye sight at first look little melanin in this dusky skin tone will hide blood flow in lips and also hide the green veins running inside our body which has cooler look to our eyes fair skin look like doll but dusky skin look like original humans when we have conversation with fair skin person we can't able to talk to them freely after half an hour really our eyes get tears because of over brightness in their look but to dusky skin we can able to talk freely in so many hours because of their cool skin nature dusky won't get that much fine lines and crow feet in face at old age compare to fair skin so don't get self esteem in your heart by comparing your skin tone be happy with what you have by birth fair skin person don't want to tan to get brown skin and dusky don't want to be fair don't worry about your rejection be cool be happy
Ur are most racist person fair is also beautiful .
U r beautiful mam,inside out.😊
Your skin color is beautiful anyways
Brown is the new sexy colour! Be proud of it
I am now! Took me a minute :)
Ok your not ugly sis
Wow outstanding personality I quickly subscribed just becz your speaking skills ❤️❤️
thanks prerna!
You're beautiful you look like a Brazilian 🇧🇷
Also dark skin age slowly compared to fair skin... My father has two sisters elder one has really dark skin with green+brown mixed eyes she looks really unique now her age is 60 but looks like hardly 35-37 but younger sister who is 50 years old already looks like 70... I am not trying to be dramatic but it's true I haven't seen them for 5-7 years... this year only I have got a chance to meet with them in a wedding and it made speach less because I never thought my father's younger sister going to ended up look like this because she used to be considered prettier compared to other girls in our family 🙂
Definitely true. Darker skin holds up much better with time. :)
I have heard extremely harsh comments growing up for the same reason from my classmates, teachers and even strangers just walking past by me. I have even been rejected by hell no of people because of my skin tone as for marriage ladki toh gori hi chahiye. I love my color and consider myself beautiful as well. I am also successful if having a good job is considered to be successful in someone's dictionary. But till date I am being rejected for the very same reason. A guy will list out all the qualities they want in women and will also realize that I possess all those but will still not choose me and will keep complaining that it is so difficult to find good girls these days.. my point is you can accept and love yourself but the society still needs to learn to accept you..else you have to fight this battle every single day to remind yourself that u r no less like bathing which is obviously not natural as we are already struggling to just be happy even if it is for few minutes everyday..so i agree about resilience but that still feels like a never ending process to me
Thanks
Some people always make fun of me because I have dark skin
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I found you soo beautiful😘😘like honeslty!!!!
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I think. You are very Beautiful. Very Beautiful Indeed
Thank you 🙏
Actually she's beautiful ❤️
Kaamna, I am a single man and I am extremely attached to tall dark skinned women in India. I am planning a trip to India. However, I have no idea how to first start my journey, and which places in India to search. Any advice at all?
Indian women ain't tall lmao
India is a huge and varied country. I’d suggest doing a bit of research online based on what you’re interested in experiencing. If you’re looking to date, online sites will help you narrow your search as well.
My classmates bullied me for being a dark skinned girl... because they were all fair skinned.. All teachers loved me... Bcz i was the topper of my class but those students kept descriminating me... I would say they were probably jealous but at that time i was so depressed and insecured about my skintone.. i just stopped going to the school and tuitions... My self confidence was broken down completely... I used to saw myself as a piece of shit literally i started to hate myself... Why do i look like this... Why i born with the dark skin... God could've gave me fair skin... I might've done something wrong and maybe its the karma .... Ik these thoughts are pretty shallow but i was 14y kid... I won't say that im not insecure today... Im still insecure about my skintone.... But started to accept that but
6 months ago i got into a relationship ... My bf has fair skintone.. and he kept flexing that having a fair skintone is kinda plus point girls always look at you... It made me feel more insecure... Somehow my insecurities gotten worse... After hearing those words... He was kept blabbing.. Like fair skin tone makes your pic enhanced when you're standing with someone darker person... I love him so much but i don't think he is the one for me...
He did motivated me not to be insecure about my skintone.. but why saying these shits to me...
I'm slowly loosing my self esteem...🥲
I dunno what to do
Those old feelings are slowly coming back 🥲
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and that you’ve had to endure this for so long. My advice is to try to find the beauty in your own skin color and don’t depend on other people to do it for you. And if your boyfriend knows this is something you are insecure about perhaps he could be a little more sensitive ? Hang in there my friend - times are changing. There’s a lot more representation of different skin colors in the media these days. Find someone that looks like you :)
I'm Indian American , i have that North Indian tone .
these white people absolutely simp for my skin tone lmao .
they want my skin tone so bad .
Lol what's North indian tone??
Luv the ring where did u have it made
instagram.com/sapnabjewellery/
You should apply fair&lovely on your face
you should watch the video again because you've missed the point.
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I find you beautiful 😍 ❤
Dark skin girls are beautiful
I agree :)
So I'm a man of Northern European ancestry. I've always been attracted to my opposite, darker skinned women, but to be frank find beauty in all women. I don't get it; guys discriminating by color are stupid and missing out!
Sadly it’s not just men. It’s a while culture and economic system. Glad to say it’s changing slowly.
@@KaamnaLive Agree. My comments are personal and frivolous in the spectrum.
@@dantimber no worries. There’s a whole spectrum on YT :)
Don’t give any positive message to a dark skin girl rather tell them not to be a colourist and chase fair skin guy. If you have a colour bias then how can you point out colourist. First change your thought process .
You've only stated what she said and you spoke from a place of pain. Please heal and make sure you follow your advice and not mistreat people based on skin tone.
Theyre not dark tho
Do light pink or pastel shade look good on dusky skin ?
I think so! If you like it, try it!
For me i say go for a purple blush it might be scary to think but there's no harm in experimenting is there?? Just try it, it would look pinkish if u have wheatish tone
India is still stuck with the colonial relic
Indeed.
Someone told me to use fair & lovely
🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Damn thing should be thrown off the shelves.
You think you’re dark?!
Abdelkarim Karim I didn’t really think about it at all. Everyone else around me did.
She is!! Do you think she is fair? She isn't!
@@dreamerachiever2718 if she's dark,im night 😂😂😂😂
@@ASBL199 in her race she’s probably considered dark but compared to dark skin blk ppl she would be light skin lol
@@bibinthomas5282 if your night I’m midnight
Pale fair is the best because I got it from the krishna
whatever you get from Krishna is the best for you
Jai shree krishna
And krishna himself is black oh the irony ( but i guess u aren't smart enough to understand what I am saying)
Btw you don't look dark 😅
I LOVE dark skinned, dark haired ,dark eyed mysterious women. I find them extremely BEAUTIFUL and quite enchanting ❤.
Ya we are 🤣
@@KaamnaLive More enchanting than any other ❤