She can't get pregnant while breastfeeding
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I think Yvette needs a night off away from the home to go hang out with her adult friends.
Without the kids too
duhhh lol she a mother of 4
Men freak out when the wife leaves them with the children
This why Glen don’t want to understand she needs adult female friend time to vent relax or just be childless husbandless for a few hours or day
Agreed!😊
@@piqueny8872 Glen wouldn’t freak out. He has been a stay home dad before so I think they just have really busy schedules so it’s hard to fit everything in. They both need a night off away from the kids to be with their adult children. Hopefully they can prioritize that soon.
Yvette is in a new season. Bold yet chill and confident and still got that Peace. You getting it done Sista. We see you 💕
Right?
Lol Glen you were definitely trying to connect two unrelated things! I’m with Yvette, give my girl her own day off.
As a medical student, I'll help break it down. Prolactin is a hormone that's secreted to help with milk production and is increased as you breastfeed. This same hormone also inhibits your reproductive hormones such as FSH, which helps with ovulation, therefore breastfeeding should stop ovulation from happening. So as you breastfed you're not supposed to get pregnant, HOWEVER, it is not black or white. It is STILL possible to get pregnant while breastfeeding, which people have learned through experience lol. 👩🏾⚕
Exactly!!!! The ONLY method of birth control that is 100% effective is abstinence 🤣
I believe that the conversation about Yvette's cycle was entirely unnecessary. I didn't experience Yvette's responses this episode to be more emotional in nature but pointed. If you notice a difference at a certain time of the month, maybe it is then when she is speaking more freely and adamantly (fluctuating hormones can do that to a person). She's asking for time off in general to do something that feeds her when you, Glen, already have that on your Weds with the men's group. How come yours is a given but she is negotiating hers? She also asked to end the episode multiple times as she was physically uncomfortable and you kept going. Yvette apologised when she was wrong about hockey practice. Glen straight up called her a liar early on when she didn't want to name the friend with the inaccurate advice in the moment. She stated a boundary or at least a preference to not have a public conversation about her cycle and you still did it.
Feels to me like you set the tone, she just met you there.
Perhaps if you could try giving her some time off during her cycle and try not to make her feel bad for the side effects (which she can't control and didn't ask for) she may be willing to give you some time off the following week?
Also talking to a woman about her cycle during her cycle is rarely gonna get you the response you truly want. Fluctuating hormones, folks.
I answer as a frequent listener, supporter, Black woman and mental health professional.
😂 I'm cracking up at the can't get pregnant while breastfeeding. One of the midwives at my practice said something similar. My doula told me that's a lie you can definitely get pregnant!
That's exactly how my mum conceived and birthed all four of us in a record three years, 10 months. After I was born she had her tubes cut out completely just to make sure another one of us would never appear. It worked because I'm still the last born 40 years later. 😅
Wow. A midwife said that? Lol I'd have to find a new midwife. Crazy how these myths are still floating around in 2023.
Yvette deserves a night off just as much as Beleaf. Consider alternating the Wednesdays between each other. Equal partnership.
We wanna keep Brittany! 😊 Can she come on the show virtually until she can be there in person?
Disclaimer: Im a woman using my Husband's YT page LOL.
I too have heard the Tale of not getting pregnant while breastfeeding OR on your period. Both are LIES! But definitely a common theory in the "motherhood" community. She didnt make that up Glen😂
100% a common myth that I also thought was true.
@@trae9909basically sperm can swim through your tubes and survive multiple days, until ovulation aka some days after your period ends, some people ovulate very early on in their cycle like before day 12
Most people won’t get pregnant on their period unless they have an irregular one (meaning they bleed into their ovulation phase). The best way to determine daily fertility is to track your nasal body temp. Check out Natural Cycles if you want to learn more.
100 with Yvette women need time away from children away from the husband and home to experience being a their own person
Single bachelor mode even if it’s for a few hours or days.
A deep needed breath of I am still entitled to me myself and I
I see the parallel Glenn was trying to make but i disagree. Yvette needs her own time away weekly outside of her morning workouts.
I think a doctor or nurse told me. They said it had something to do with hormones not producing a release of an egg during this time. Also, breast feeding helps your uterus to go back. I have to say, every time I breast fed I felt my uterus going back and experienced weight loss.
No Glen!! Just NO!! Don't speak on it at ALL! Men don't have to deal with the monthly occurrence that takes over our bodies. Men get nothing for having to accept everything that comes along with women dealing with an irritating time EVERY SINGLE MONTH. Men will NEVER understand what happens. Don't speak on it. This message is for ALL MEN!!! Please and thank you 😊
I love that you guys can argue and still joke about it.
As a husband who is newly dealing with my wife's cycles, we need to have an honest conversation about this reality.
As a fellow woman, I see that Yvette's hormones are definitely off the charts in this episode. She's right though, we do need a week off to recuperate.
@@Gwaycee yeah I dont think I could speak on another womans hormone levels. haha. I aint that tuned in with folks as a guy.
@@AskIveSolar The way God created a woman's body is just amazing, though sometimes it's hard to be a woman. We try our best though. Just know to avoid conflicts just before and during periods because that's when irritability is highest.😅
I am so sick of people acting like someone, specifically a virgin, can’t have a desire for sex AND for companionship. Someone can want someone inside and beside and as a human, desiring sex is normal-virgin or not, Christian or not. I will be glad when the church begins to embrace not just sexual autonomy, but also desire. It doesn’t turn on when one gets married, and that mindset is destructive specifically to women bc they often don’t know their bodies and sex becomes a thing to be done vs. a thing to be enjoyed.
Lastly, wanting to hang with someone can be “just that”. Marriage doesn’t have to be everyone’s desired outcome and there are other options other than just being single.
I didn't have periods for the 6 months that I was breastfeeding my baby, I wasn't using contraception until I stopped breastfeeding and the periods came back. Luckily I didn't get pregnant during that time. I'm pretty sure I heard that breastfeeding is a natural contraceptive from somewhere 🤷🏾♀️ and probably felt that the absence of periods meant that it was true.
Same, I heard that and I didnt get mine for like 7 months, it came back once I slowed down on breastfeeding as much when he went to daycare. My sisters thought something was wrong but I said nope im doin how its spose to be done 😅
😂😂 that is a myth. You can’’t believe everything you hear tgese days, there is too much info out there. Got to filter everything you hear or else…🤰🏽
Glenn, I will say many times you mention Ivette responding in a certain way that is a little more sensitive; it has been confirmed she is also on her period. So, based on this information, you are correct. I, too, am more sensitive on my period, and I have a little more pause when evaluating how I feel, but I will still feel all my feelings 🫶🏽
Brittany definitely compliments the show well. That was a nice touch.
31:37 yes, we can tell the difference, but I’m also looking in a mirror.😅 It’s the quick sharp responses and I’m the same. Irritable, full body aches, gotta leave top button open for work pants… it’s a mess. It’s also crazy how we all respond in such different ways too. Just pray.
No. I’ve heard the same thing and I am also a breastfeeding mom. You’re not alone Yvette. I got you lady.
I truly LOVED this episode!!!
The transparency is needed and appreciated!!!
Do you want him INside you or BEside you? That’s IT!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I was told the same thing, but I had it on my list of questions to ask postpartum appointment and my doctor laughed so hard. She said she would be retired if she had a dollar every time she ask that question.
Love the singles community for the wedding party idea. Blessings
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I really hear what she was saying at the end. And I agree, in that time I feel the same.
Yes Glen I agree there is a difference.
Whyyyyy is it always a thing about Yvette needing time with other ppl or alone?
❤Loving that rap verse & chocolate baby story time. Great move.🎉
As a Baltimorian yes that is how "dudes" used to "holla" at "chicks"
I don't understand why you all don't grasp the idea of dating just for the experience. Yvette hit it on the head. You're dating so that you can learn the things you do and don't like. Especially in the woman's case, never dating or doing anything before, it's not wise to date with the intention of marriage from the start. A part of dating is also learning yourself, not just your partner. She doesn't have an understanding of who she is as a gf, so she shouldn't try to be a wife out the gate. You can still abstain if you desire, but learn about relationships and what you like and don't, then you can start to look towards marriage. Not everyone will be as lucky as Melissa Fredericks, but I believe even she mentioned having a bf before Kev... Learn life and yourself
Crazy, I’m not a therapist but definitely had this thought.
Just shouldn’t date at all but deepen your friendship. And look into why you don’t feel like getting married as well
This is hilarious, give Yvette her night with the girls (NO KIDS) 😂😂😂😂
That first question is a great one. I was basically the same but started dating at almost 21 years old. And I get that feeling of wanting to save yourself til marriage yet not wanting to date to marry. I'd rather prioritize my career and then get married in my late 20s-early 30s. Heavy on the early 30s lol. It's hard to find someone who is willing to wait but also not tryna wife you up asap lol
There is some truth to the statement about not being able to conceive while nursing, but I think you have to nurse every 2 hours. Many women don’t ovulate while nursing, but it doesn’t hold true for all women.
Dating is for collecting data, courting is for marriage
I love this 😂. I have heard this as well. I also did not have a period while breastfeeding.
I agree with the Yvette. I also thought you could not get pregnant while breast-feeding. I don't know who told me or where I heard it from but I definitely thought it was true.
On the question of 'Why date if not to get married.' Some of us have NO life experience and no idea what we as an adult desire because we were so shelter as girls in the church we draw a blank when we think of a male partner. I mean I was CLUELESS about my body and about men. So dating just to date is the same to me as creating male friendships to figure out what I responded to when I had male relations.
Love you guys
19:12 literal facts
Back in the day and even now in some cultures the woman would gather together without men to just go through their cycle...so you're not off in wanting that sis.
I was just tellin my bests friend the other day we need our own village or resort to go off to and have our periods. Be away from everything and everyone else come back rested and less hormonal 😂
No I’ve heard that from the grapevine too Yvette!! But I can’t say who… I just know I’ve heard it a few times lol
11:51 lmfao that’s so wildddddddd lol I like can’t picture it because I’ve only seen him at this point but I can also picture it cuz the man is swagggyy
The Uriah conception story is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It is def a thing about not beings as fertile while breastfeeding. I never conceived during that time as I did not have a cycle. Yet as you begin to slow down on the feedings and your cycle kicks back in then it's on and poppin. Yet every body responds in it's own way so there are no concrete rules to that game. As a mother of 6 who had to learn myself through trail and error like most of us. I realized whenever I was against the pull out that was a sign right there. Make sure you pull out cause that's them eggs raging and begging....Yup there wanted to be fertilized. lol
Please help us! You are necessary. 😅 I believe Laterras R. Whitfield is also attempting to create a similar community for singles. We want saved spouses that date with intention. I’m tired of aimless dating.
I was told you can’t get pregnant while breast feeding too!
Glen and these questions lol his faces
I was told that too, that you can’t get pregnant while breastfeeding
Yvette, you already know the deal! We hold down the homefront....lol
I have definitely heard the "you can't get pregnant while breastfeeding" lie but I also can't remember who it was from... I think my doc clarified why people say that though. And I will say that I was reacting similarly with Yvette, but zi aint taking sides lol
10:31 following !!
This video bout to be deeeem-netized I am howlinnnnn
Homie there is no possible way you believed that 😂🤣
Glen I was told the same lie about getting pregnant while breastfeeding 😢
14:39 This particular piece is interesting because reasons for dating are very different for men and women esp given their season of life. It sounds like she wants male company that flirts innocently, to feel desired with no expectations (it is what it is).
Storytime: Although we’re now married, my husband and I would hang out In public as friends and get to know each other (context: late 20s/early 30s). There was obvious attraction but we weren’t exclusive; he was just cool to talk to. I knew I didn’t have the capacity to hang out with multiple dudes but we didn’t even call it dating at the time. We would just inquire what each was doing that weekend or if I was going somewhere, I’d invite him; if he had a gig, he’s invite me. It was very casual. Things eventually shifted; he rejected me 🤷🏽♀️lol, we came back together & started dating with the purpose of marriage. I just remember being comfortable and relieved that I could go to a worship night, movie, walk the park, go to a carnival and just have fun with a guy and develop a friendship. It was also a time where he had more time to spare (he was a fulltime musician).
@17:59 Dang!!! Midstroke... truth telling all the way 😂😂😂 y'all don't hold back on the details but ur truth is hilarious
Can I ask a question to the viewers?
If you had to pick one over the other. Reading Letters vs personal experiences from Glen and Yvette?
There's no shade here, I like both but as a listener and content creator, I'm curious what the faithful listeners think.
Personal experiences straight up.
I like what they do
@@Gwaycee Respect. I like the personal stuff, the letters typically can lead there so its all good!
@@Yonnieshields I respect that as well. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Personal experience. The letters work well though, since they always find a way to add their own personal examples.
Also, no there is no way to say that Glen lol. Give her a she-shed!
I can definitely tell the difference! Hahaha 😅😅 and I can relate
Well the breastfeeding worked for me, so. And I had my first two back to back.
Im with the man on this one.
It is true that you can’t get pregnant while breastfeeding however you HAVE to be pumping or nursing every 3-4 hours for it to be effective. That’s the only way, you can not be nursing once a day, it has to be every 3-4 hours.
When were new bf/gf, he brought be roses, and box of chocolate... After married, agreed to disagree, and ladies give those warnings ....pls leave me alone for now, ty. Guys it's tough , so...............Lay low guys, be the butler , maid, taxi driver, ice cream, chocolate, shopper, You got this guys, lol.
I'm you're cheerleader Yvette, but you didn't answer HMAY😮
Yes I can female here.❤
They owe Mel child support. Lol 20:58
My sister's midwife told her that. I was like not true. 13 months later she had her second baby😂
How in the heck can you compare early a.m. workouts even remotely to a night out with your friends? Come on now
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No matter if you’re been called infertile or whatever, after reading Dobbie Nerkstrol's guide, I ended up pleasantly surprised. Within 60 days anyone can get pregnant, feeling the changes in your body the first few weeks. After go’ogling her I understood it's not a miracle kind of thing like the title suggests, but you can bet you'll boost your chances.
Bruh. What you call Theo in there for 🤔
Breastfeeding in the first 6 months of more milk supply but after then yes. Although it’s still possible…
No I do not see any difference in Yvette. The only reason we even know is because you usually bring it up, Or Yvette brings it up.
Please do a Chocolate Baby CZcams!
People have told that lie about breastfeeding and getting pregnant FOR YEARS.
Definitely a lie but I've heard it before from multiple people. You can definitely get pregnant while breastfeeding 😂
I am a woman and i see the difference lolol.
Yvette isn’t right 🤦🏾♀️
Is this same person who was begging for and shaming her husband for children? Now complaining about hanging out with her children.
What?!?! Not cool.. no a man needs to be mindful when speaking about a woman's cycle that they never experienced.
Glen don't got no sense, your clueless 😊
The Bible says that the foolishness of a child is bound around his neck, and the rod of correction will drive it away from him. If Uzi cannot obey your instructions to go to bed and other instructions at his age, how shall he ever obey authority later on? God also designed negative consequences for our disobedience to His Word, and parents have similar authority too. Otherwise you're just raising a jailbird at this rate, as it appears also from previous vlogs that there has not been corrective reaction to his negative actions. Sorry for the seemingly negative comment, but you did tell us that you're open to diverse feedback. 🙂 Written with love.
She gonna kill you
I was going to try to hold my peace but after Mr. Glenn started talking about your private bedroom activity, I had to say something
She's a Christian young lady looking for advice from, christian "elders", you guys just made a little one stumble.
The Bible warns us to flee youthful lust. We must give life, and not death. The wages of sin is death. Her desire for a relationship without the intent of marriage is meaningless.
James 1:15 tells us, “After desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.”
By the power of the Holy Spirit within me, I cancel your ministry (How married are you )Now, I bind it, and I loosen sabbatical, know the Lord and be saved.
When you come together, instead of giving God the glory, you're only bringing judgment to yourselves. Repent. No longer call yourselves Christians if you're not giving that advice, because you're a poor representation.